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Foster Parent Well Trailer
00:01:37
Welcome to the Foster Parent Well Podcast Trailer with host, Nicole T Barlow– your gateway to a journey of endurance, resilience, and faith-filled parenting for foster and adoptive moms. Nicole invites you to delve into a series dedicated to empowering you to become the best version of yourself, enabling you to provide a loving and stable environment for children with trauma.
In this trailer, Nicole introduces the themes and heart behind 'Foster Parent Well,' offering a glimpse into how each episode will support you through the unique challenges of foster care and adoption. Learn how to enhance your well-being, cultivate a positive mindset, and draw strength from your faith, all crucial elements in caring for children who have experienced trauma and serving as their steady support.
Discover practical advice and heartfelt encouragement tailored for foster and adoptive parents. Whether you're looking for ways to build resilience in adoptive parenting, seeking self-care for foster parents, or needing faith and fostering inspiration, this podcast is your resource.
Tune into the Foster Parent Well Podcast Trailer today and join a community of moms on a mission to parent well with endurance and joy. Subscribe now and embark on a transformative journey of caring for yourself so that you can care for others.
Nicole T Barlow- My Foster Care and Adoption Story
00:12:40
Hey there, welcome to "Foster Parent Well," the podcast where I dive deep into the real, raw, and rewarding world of foster care and adoption and talk about taking care of ourselves as we go. This isn't just any show; it's a personal journey, a collection of stories, and a community for anyone who's navigated or is curious about the maze of fostering and adopting.
In our kick-off episode, I'm opening up about my own experiences and the rollercoaster ride that comes with it. We're talking all things foster care and adoption - the highs, the lows, and everything in between. I'll share stories that are close to my heart, insights I've gained along the way, and I'll also bring in voices from across the spectrum - from people who've been there, done that, and are willing to get real about what this journey truly entails.
Whether you're deep in the trenches of foster parenting, thinking about adopting, or just here to listen and learn, this podcast is your new go-to spot. We'll laugh, we might cry, but most importantly, we'll get honest about what it means to open your home and heart to a child in need. So, grab your headphones, and let's get this conversation started. Welcome to "Foster Parent Well."
Opening Doors, Opening Hearts- The need for more foster homes affects us all
00:21:57
Hey there, Foster Parent Well family! It's Nicole T Barlow here, and in this heart-to-heart episode, we're diving into a topic that's close to my heart and, I believe, crucial for our community: the need for more Christian foster and adoptive homes. It's just you and me today, and I'm eager to share some thoughts, stories, and maybe a little bit of inspiration along the way.
We all know the journey of foster care and adoption is filled with its ups and downs. It’s a path of incredible love, sometimes heartbreak, but always profound impact. Today, I want to talk about why we need more amazing families to step into the world of fostering and adoption, and equally important, how we can stand alongside and support the incredible families already doing this vital work.
I'll share some of my own experiences and the lessons learned along the way. We'll also delve into how our faith can inspire and sustain us through the challenges and blessings of fostering and adoption. From the little moments of joy to the tough days that test our strength, every part of this journey can be a reflection of God's love and purpose for us and the children we welcome into our homes.
But this episode isn't just for those who've already opened their doors. It's also for anyone who's ever thought, "Maybe I could do that too," or wondered how they can support foster and adoptive families in their community. There's a role for everyone to play, and sometimes, it starts with simply understanding the journey.
So, grab your favorite cup of coffee, get comfy, and let's chat. It's about opening our doors, yes, but even more so, it's about opening our hearts to the possibilities and the children who need us. Together, we can make a world of difference, one child, one family at a time. Let's dive in and explore how we can all foster parent well.
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The Unseen Journey: Shifting the Hero Narrative in Foster and Adoption
00:27:28
Welcome to another episode of Foster Parent Well with Nicole T. Barlow. Today, we're diving deep with our special guest, Jennifer Haines, into the often-misunderstood narrative of foster and adoptive parenting. This episode, titled "The Unseen Journey: Shifting the Hero Narrative in Foster and Adoption," challenges the notion that foster and adoptive parents need to be heroes in their children's stories.
Jennifer and Nicole share personal anecdotes and insights, unraveling the pressure and unrealistic expectations that society places on foster and adoptive parents. They discuss the importance of humility, vulnerability, and the collective effort it takes to support children in the foster care system. Our conversation explores the idea that being a parent—foster or adoptive—is not about standing on a pedestal but walking alongside children as they navigate their own stories.
This episode is not just a discussion; it's a call to embrace the beauty in the everyday moments of parenting, acknowledging our limitations, and the strength found in community support. We delve into the significance of letting go of the hero complex and focusing on being present, supportive, and loving figures in our children's lives.
If this conversation resonates with you, we'd love for you to share it with others who might find comfort and solidarity in our words. Your shares and reviews not only mean the world to us but also help spread this important message to more foster and adoptive parents out there.
Don't forget to leave us a review on your favorite podcast platform. Your feedback helps us grow and continue to bring meaningful content your way.
And for those looking to connect, share, and find a supportive community, join us over at the Foster Parent Well Community on Facebook. It's a space filled with like-minded individuals who understand the journey you're on. Let's continue the conversation and support each other in this beautiful, challenging, and rewarding path of foster and adoptive parenting.
Embracing the Call: Faith's Role in Transforming Foster and Adoptive Parenthood
00:33:01
Embark on an extraordinary exploration of faith, resilience, and the transformative power of fostering and adoption with our special guest Mandie Summers. As a full-time missionary with the Jesus Film Project and a seasoned foster and adoptive parent, Mandie illuminates her journey and the pivotal role spirituality plays in navigating the complexities of caring for children with traumatic histories. Guided by her experience and the support of a private Christian foster agency, this episode unravels the threads of divine strength that bind together a family walking this path.
With each child welcomed into her home, Mandie has discovered the profound impact of incorporating spiritual practices into the daily grind. She shares the lifelines that have sustained her family—from enveloping their home in worship music to fusing scripture with physical activity. Our conversation does not shy away from the real struggles and doubts that can surface amidst systemic injustices, yet we also celebrate the profound moments of trust in God's timing and providence, drawing inspiration from biblical narratives that resonate with our experiences as foster and adoptive parents.
This episode is more than a sharing of stories; it's an outstretched hand to those in the foster and adoptive community seeking solidarity and understanding. I open up about my own fostering and adoption experiences, affirming their unparalleled richness and the indelible impact on our lives. We leave you with a message of courage and an invitation to join a supportive community that cherishes the sanctity of this divine calling. Together, we offer a prayer for the strength that only faith can foster, sealing our shared commitment to nurture and guide the lives entrusted to us.
For more information on Mandie and Jason's missionary journey and how to support them: https://give.cru.org/0578940
Foster Parent Well Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1VeRn4AaDHThddXx/
Tackling Stress in Foster Care & Adoption and Finding Time for Self Care
00:30:04
Struggling with stress is a familiar battle for many of us, but when you add the unique pressures of foster care and adoption into the mix, the weight can feel unbearable. That's why it's critical to prioritize self-care, not as an indulgence but as a vital necessity. Join me, Nicole T Barlow, as we unpack the reality of stress in the lives of foster and adoptive parents and explore practical strategies to manage it effectively. I open up about my personal experiences with stress-induced health issues and offer insights into the biochemical nature of stress, emphasizing why it's essential to be proactive about our well-being for the sake of ourselves and the children in our care.
Embarking on each day with intentionality can transform our mindset and our ability to cope with the challenges that come our way. This episode dives into the heart of spiritual practices and daily routines that have personally grounded me, such as scripture and prayer, and how they can offer peace and perspective in the midst of chaos. We'll discuss the benefits of physical activity, the power of nutritious food, and the art of setting boundaries to safeguard our emotional space. Through these strategies, we can fortify ourselves, becoming the stable, loving parents our children need while honoring the divine appointment of our parenting role.
In our journey as parents, it's easy to overlook the subtle stressors that infiltrate our lives, from household products to food choices. This episode shines a light on making intentional adjustments in these areas, the positive influence of less toxic living, and the significance of nurturing supportive communities. I also guide you through a prayer for strength and balance, inviting divine assistance to help us navigate parenting's challenges. As we wrap up, I hope you'll feel empowered to make self-care a priority and experience the divine support that comes from managing stress with grace and wisdom.
Strong Marriages for Parents in Foster Care and Adoption
00:33:00
Have you ever wondered how the strength of a marriage can be the bedrock for a nurturing family environment? Join me, Nicole T. Barlow, as I convene with the remarkable Jennifer Haines, who brings to the table a wealth of experience in blending biological and adoptive children into a harmonious family unit. We navigate the complexities of marriage and parenting, shedding light on how faith and understanding of one another's strengths are instrumental in creating a joyful home, especially for children who have faced adversity.
In our heartfelt discussion, Jennifer and I unpack the value of carving out time for your partner amidst the whirlwind of parenting. It's not just about the occasional date night; it's about fostering that deep connection that keeps a marriage vibrant and strong. We dissect the practice of speaking your spouse's love language and how this can elevate the sense of appreciation and love in a relationship. This isn't merely about the romance; it's about forming an unwavering alliance that becomes the backbone for supporting children through the traumas they may carry with them.
This episode culminates with a look into the profound impact of gratitude and open lines of communication on a couple's journey through fostering and adoption. We emphasize the delicate dance of balancing each other's strengths and weaknesses and how this dynamic can stabilize a family. As a final note, we touch upon the support systems and communities vital for foster care, and we wrap our conversation with a prayer inspired by Jesus's love—a prayer that underlines the essence of our dialogue: the aspiration for strength and love in all our marital and familial bonds. Join us in this enlightening exploration with Jennifer Haines that promises to resonate deeply with parents navigating the beautiful, yet challenging path of raising a family.
When We Face Trauma as Caregivers: Working on Wellness with Stefanie Armstrong
00:39:58
Discover the transformative power of nurturing both mind and body as Stefanie Armstrong, a respected mental health therapist and health coach, joins us to unravel the complex tapestry of parenting within the foster care and adoption. Together, we explore the profound ways in which wellness practices can anchor parents amidst the turbulent waters of raising children with traumatic histories. Stefanie reveals how prioritizing self-care isn't a luxury, but a necessity for those seeking to create a stable and loving environment for these vulnerable young souls. Our discussion underscores the essential role of nutrition and self-awareness, providing a beacon of hope and strategy for those navigating this noble journey.
Feel the strength of solidarity as we shed light on the critical role a supportive community plays in the lives of foster and adoptive parents. Gone are the days of facing adversity in isolation; we share the importance of forging connections that uplift and empower through the toughest of times. Parenting a child affected by trauma is not a path you should walk alone, and we're here to tell you how finding your tribe can transform both your experience and the healing process of your child. From integrating parents into therapy sessions to cherishing the shared experiences that only a community can provide, we lay out the blueprint for a network of support that's robust and ready to rally when you need it most.
Cap off your listening experience with a conversation on the art of patience and healthy habit formation. Stefanie and I break down the journey to wellness into bite-sized, achievable milestones, focusing on the beauty of self-compassion and the acknowledgment of every small victory. By shaping a balanced lifestyle tailored to your unique needs, we emphasize the importance of celebrating progress without comparison, nurturing your nervous system, and cultivating sustainable practices that foster long-term well-being. This episode is your invitation to embrace patience and joy in your great work, fortified by the understanding that true health is a personal and incremental triumph.
The Art of Attachment with Trauma-Impacted Foster and Adopted Children
00:20:41
Every heart has the capacity for deep connections, but what happens when a child's early experiences have tarnished their ability to bond?
Join me, Nicole T Barlow, as we navigate the tender journey of building bridges to attachment with foster children. In an exploration, we delve into the attachment cycle and how it paves the way for trust, safety, and the vital development of young minds and hearts. But it's not just about understanding the cycle; it's about rewriting the stories for children whose histories are marked by too many 'no's.
We share real-life, practical methods for affirming their worth, meeting their needs, and fostering the secure attachments they deserve, even when the starting point is a history of negative attachment.
I discuss the challenges that our own protective instincts can sometimes present, making it difficult to reach out to our children with the openness they need. So lend an ear, and together, let's learn to foster trust and understanding, ensuring that each child in our care can thrive in the warmth of connection.
Letting Go of Control: Finding Strength and Security in Foster Care and Adoption
00:14:46
Struggling to steer through the unpredictable journey of foster care and adoption, I've often grappled with the need to keep a tight grip on every turn and decision. It's a road marked by both yearning and anxiety, where the desire for control often feels like the only seatbelt we have. Throughout our deeply personal conversation, I open up about how this quest for control mirrors the behavior of our children, who seek their own sense of power in response to fear. Yet, as we navigate these high-speed twists and turns, we're reminded that true safety and security come from the hands of a trusted parent. This episode is an invitation to embrace the passenger seat, to lean into the trust we must place in a higher plan—a theme underscored by the poignant lessons of 1 Peter 5:7 and the book of Habakkuk.
For those who walk the path of foster care and adoption, I offer a heartfelt prayer in this episode, asking for the strength and peace that come from surrendering to a plan beyond our own. It's a moment of connection, where I call for guidance and solace under God's watchful presence. We explore the significance of prayer in providing a sense of reassurance and safety amidst the tumultuous care for these precious lives. Listeners are encouraged to join in this communal reflection, to find solace, and to parent with unwavering faith, patience, and joy. This episode is not just a discussion, it is a shared journey toward trusting in a plan greater than our own, and it's an honor to have you along for the ride.
As we observe National Foster Care Month, I delve deep into the heart of foster parenting and adoption, confronting the misconception that this path is a means to fill our voids, and instead, frame it as an opportunity to pour out our love for children in need, a true embodiment of selfless service.
Throughout our conversation, the contours of foster care and adoption take shape as a transformative experience that molds us into the likeness of Jesus, through the trials we face and the sacrifices we make.
I invite you to reflect on what fuels your commitment to this ministry and to connect with me, sharing your tales of triumph and tribulation. Together, let's seek solace and strength in a prayer for resilience, as we honor our sacred duty to our children and affirm our resolve to give, not just to receive, in this profound act of servitude.
Calm in the Eye of the Storm: Strategies for Foster and Adoptive Parents
00:23:02
Navigating the stormy waters of foster and adoptive parenting with grace and strength is no small feat. Join me, Nicole T Barlow, as I share experience as a mother of six, the transformative power of maintaining calm and regulation in the face of our children's trauma-induced turmoil. I will give you seven key strategies to a way to keep a sense of calm that is essential for guiding our children towards emotional balance and healing.
The landscape of parenting is dotted with unpredictable challenges, and it's essential to have an arsenal of tools to stay anchored. In this episode, I reveal the unsuspected efficacy of sensory techniques and small indulgences, like cold water splashes and dark chocolate almonds, to redirect our stressed minds and soothe our anxious hearts. Through personal stories and relatable insights, I'll show you how to embrace the detective role in understanding your child's needs and not take their emotional eruptions personally. With a special emphasis on the support of therapy and the embrace of community, we'll recognize the indispensable role of faith in weathering the storms within our homes, and the profound beauty in modeling repair and forgiveness for the little ones we hold dear.
Transforming Challenges into Blessings in Foster Care
00:14:43
How does one nurture hope and resilience in children who have faced profound trauma? Join me on this heartfelt episode of the Foster Parent Well podcast as I share intimate and candid reflections on the emotional complexities of fostering and adopting traumatized children. Through personal stories from my own family, we confront the lingering effects of trauma, especially during life's critical transitions. Yet, amid these honest discussions, we anchor ourselves in the comforting promises of faith, drawing inspiration from Isaiah 61 to embrace joy and gratitude even in the most challenging times.
In a special focus on gratitude, we shift our perspective to appreciate the blessings within the foster care journey. I convey my deep thankfulness for the tough seasons, the unique joys my children bring, and the unwavering support from other foster families. Together, we explore the transformative power of keeping a gratitude journal and encourage each other to recognize the abundance in our lives. Your stories are invaluable, so connect with me on Instagram at Nicole T Barlow or via the link in our show notes. Let's uplift one another with our shared experiences as we close with a prayer for guidance, wisdom, and an outpouring of love and joy in our communities.
Equipping Foster and Adoptive Parents: The Power of Ongoing Training
00:36:32
Ever wondered how continuous training can transform your journey as a foster or adoptive parent? Join us as we sit down with Katrina Campbell, the Director of Training at FaithBridgeU, to uncover the complexities of children's suffering and its profound impact on their behavior and emotional development. Katrina opens up about her personal journey into foster care and emphasizes the role of divine guidance in parenting. Together, we tackle the unique challenges parents face, the essential role faith plays in navigating these trials, and how these experiences have deepened our empathy and understanding of generational oppression.
We chat about the power of training and learning as Katrina and I share how approaching training with an open mindset can alleviate fear and anxiety, leading to meaningful intersections between spiritual and professional growth. We recount personal anecdotes that highlight the rewards of attending training sessions and how they provide essential tools for managing challenging behaviors. Explore the value of impactful training from those who've lived the experience and learn about the benefits of FaithBridgeU's online learning platform, offering tailored resources for foster and adoptive families. This episode promises to equip you with insights and inspiration to help you foster parent well.
Join me, Nicole T. Barlow, as I share some exciting news and give you a sneak peek into what to expect from the next season. Season 1 has been a rollercoaster of incredible stories and invaluable lessons on foster care, adoption, and dealing with trauma—thank you for being a part of it. As we gear up for Season 2, which kicks off on Tuesday, August 6th, I’m thrilled to share that we’ve lined up an inspiring roster of guests who will continue to educate and challenge us as we navigate the complexities of foster parenting.
While we take a much-needed summer break, I encourage you to catch up on any episodes you may have missed or revisit your favorites. Your feedback is incredibly valuable to us, so feel free to leave a review or reach out to me on Instagram at Nicole T. Barlow. This is more than just a podcast; it's a community of support and faith. We are praying for you and your families and are excited to come back rejuvenated and energized. Get ready for more transformative conversations and heartwarming stories in August. Until then, take care and enjoy your summer!
Fostering Hope: Melissa Smallwood on Navigating Burnout in Foster Care and Adoption
00:34:13
Can fostering hope transform your life? Join us as we welcome the incredible Melissa Smallwood, a counselor, family coach, and former foster youth, who opens up about her powerful journey from middle school foster care to becoming a foster and adoptive mother.
Discover essential strategies to combat and prevent burnout in foster and adoptive parenting. Melissa stresses the importance of honesty about feeling overwhelmed, finding a supportive community, and accepting help. She discusses the necessity of adjusting expectations and the significance of self-care through nervous system care, prayer, meditation, and trauma-informed therapy. We wrap up with a sincere prayer, expressing gratitude for Melissa’s unwavering dedication and the invaluable resources she offers. Tune in for a conversation brimming with insights and practical advice aimed at renewing hearts and sustaining joy in the foster care journey.
What if recognizing when you're living in survival mode could transform your parenting journey? Join us as we welcome Tatiana Szulc, LMHC a licensed trauma and somatic therapist, who shares how the body-oriented approach of somatic experiencing changed her life. Tatiana's personal story of overcoming burnout in 2020 serves as a powerful parallel to the high-stress lives of foster and adoptive parents. Together, we delve into the importance of self-healing to better support our children and the critical need to address an overactive nervous system.
Through our discussion, we explore the profound impact that an unregulated nervous system can have on both physical and emotional well-being. From chronic illness to the fight, flight, and freeze responses, we uncover the hidden costs of living in persistent stress. Tatiana guides us through holistic healing methods that include creating safe environments, fostering healthy relationships, and setting boundaries. We emphasize the significance of somatic practices to not only manage stress but also to maintain strong, nurturing connections with our children.
Foster Care Will Change You: A Journey of Restoration
00:12:42
What if the very challenges you face in foster care and adoption could transform you into a stronger, more compassionate person? This week, join me, Nicole T. Barlow, on the Foster Parent Well podcast. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of how upheavals in our routines can open up new paths for self-care and growth. Drawing on insights from a recent marriage retreat and the biblical story of Job, I delve into the loss of self-identity many foster and adoptive parents feel and how God can use our struggles to restore us in unexpected, beautiful ways.
To wrap things up, we discuss the importance of shedding pride and self-reliance to deepen our relationship with God and embody Christ-like qualities. I share how these experiences have shifted my worldview and faith. Your support means the world to us; please like, review, and share the podcast to help us connect with more foster and adoptive families. Tune in next Tuesday for our regular episode, and join us in a heartfelt prayer that seeks divine guidance for restored health, energy, and the patience to lead and serve our children well.
Building Healthy Relationships with Birth Families in Foster Care and Adoption
00:14:34
This episode uncovers the profound importance of fostering healthy relationships with birth families in foster and adoptive care. Through stories of my own struggles and experiences, we highlight the need for trust, genuine intentions, and respect in building positive dynamics. Inspired by Jonah's story, we explore how offering hope and love to birth parents, irrespective of their past, can significantly impact the children in our care.
Navigating the complexities of biological family relationships is crucial, and every child's preferences in communication must be respected. From children wanting ongoing contact to those needing distance, I discuss how understanding these unique needs can help them feel safe and supported. Sharing insights from my own life, I talk about maintaining open lines of communication with my children's biological parents, ensuring their well-being and helping them process their emotions. Engage with the conversation on Instagram and share your own stories. We end with a heartfelt prayer, seeking divine guidance to nurture loving and hopeful relationships in our lives. Tune in for an episode rich in faith, hope, and practical advice for foster and adoptive families.
Supporting Biological Children in the Foster Care Journey
00:38:41
Have you ever wondered how fostering can transform a family's dynamics and individual lives? Join us on today's Foster Parent Well podcast as we welcome Daniela Coates, a licensed master social worker from Texas with a profoundly personal connection to the world of foster care. Daniela's unique upbringing in a foster family, inspired by her father's volunteer work, offers rare, emotional insights into the integral role of birth children in fostering decisions. Hear how her childhood experiences shaped her understanding of family and care, and discover why it's crucial to include birth kids in the foster care journey.
Communication is key within foster families, and Daniela's story underscores this beautifully. She shares candid anecdotes about how her parents navigated the highs and lows of fostering, keeping the family mission alive while ensuring every child's voice was heard. Learn the significance of open dialogues, involving children in decisions, and maintaining individual connections to strengthen family bonds. Daniela’s reflections will resonate with anyone looking to balance family dynamics while embracing the rewarding, yet challenging, path of foster care.
We'll also explore the intricacies of birth order and sibling dynamics in foster care. Using relatable metaphors and strategies, Daniela guides us through integrating new children into existing family structures without causing disruption. From ensuring one-on-one time with birth kids to employing the "three R's"—rest, reconnect, and reassess—this episode is packed with practical advice for maintaining family stability.
Social Media: Instagram - @with_siblings and @daniela.coats
Building Resilience: Raquel McCloud’s Journey in Kinship Care and Adoption
01:02:04
Have you ever wondered what it takes to build resilience and hope amidst the complexities of the foster care and adoption system? Join us as we sit down with the inspiring Raquel McCloud, who opens up about her incredible journey from a child in kinship care to a kinship adoptive mom. Raquel’s story is a testament to the power of perseverance, healing, and hope, and she shares invaluable insights on the importance of stable and supportive caregivers. From her emotional reunion with her 21-year-old daughter to the transformation of her Instagram account into a platform for sharing family adventures, Raquel's narrative is both poignant and empowering.
What if you could transform your sleep quality and wake up feeling truly refreshed? Discover the secrets to healthy sleep habits and routines that can make this a reality. Nicole dives into the importance of sleep for foster and adoptive parents by creating routine like morning activities like walking outside and getting sunlight, as well as evening habits such as limiting food intake after certain hours and using blue light glasses. Personal tips, like listening to a sleep time devotion and tracking sleep patterns, are shared to help you create a restful environment. Plus, join the conversation on Instagram at Nicole T Barlow and share your sleep tips, as Nicole reveals her favorite sleep items throughout the week. Let's achieve better sleep and well-being for our entire families together.
Music/Storytime for kids: https://music.apple.com/us/album/the-word-and-song-listening-bible-genesis-exodus/594001132
Navigating Ambiguous Loss: Grief as a Foster Parent
00:21:56
What happens when welcoming a new child into your home brings both immeasurable joy and profound heartbreak? Journey with me, Nicole T Barlow, as I recount my personal experience with the unpredictable waves of fostering and adoption. I open up about the bittersweet reality of forming new bonds and routines, only to face the heart-wrenching process of reunification. This episode uncovers the unique struggle of ambiguous loss—a type of grief that offers no closure or societal recognition, leaving many foster parents feeling isolated and misunderstood. Together, we explore how leaning into faith and the grace of God can be a beacon of hope during such trying transitions, reminding us of the strength found in community support.
Throughout the conversation, I highlight the often-overlooked emotional complexities that foster parents endure, drawing parallels with biblical figures like Job who faced immense loss and suffering. By sharing candid stories and reflections, this episode aims to foster empathy and understanding not just for the children who endure these separations, but also for the parents who care for them. It's a call to embrace the messy and unresolved nature of these losses, without reservation, to transform our grief into compassion and deeper faith. My heartfelt prayer is for each listener to find solace and strength within our community, preparing us all for the important work ahead.
What if the key to thriving as a foster or adoptive parent lies in how you care for yourself? Join me, Nicole T Barlow, as we shift the focus to self-care and wellness, an often overlooked yet crucial component of trauma-informed parenting. In our latest episode of Foster Parent Well, we explore how nurturing your body and spirit can empower you to better navigate the unique challenges of parenting. Learn about the nourishing benefits of a gentle 12-12 intermittent fasting schedule, and why regular meals throughout the day can fortify your nervous system against the chaos of survival mode. Discover how simple activities like walking can transform both your stress levels and your spiritual wellbeing, offering a moment of tranquility and reflection amidst the hustle of daily life.
But wellness isn't just about the physical—it's about becoming the parent you were called to be. Together, we can illuminate the dark corners of our communities with hope and love, standing ready for the work we are destined to do. If you're ready to embrace a journey of holistic growth, visit NicoleTBarlow.com or connect with me on Instagram for more inspiration and support.
Imagine embarking on a journey that challenges every preconceived notion you had about family and faith. That's exactly the path Bruce and I found ourselves on, navigating the landscape of foster care and adoption. In this episode, we share our story of overcoming initial fears and uncertainties, and how our unique personalities helped us find a harmonious balance.
Marriage plays a pivotal role in this demanding journey, and we emphasize its importance in the fostering and adoption process. Bruce and I reflect on how serving each other and maintaining open communication has strengthened our relationship in the face of adversity. Through prayer and mutual support, we’ve learned when to speak, when to listen, and how to uphold each other as we walk this path together. Join us for an open and faith-filled discussion, as we aim to offer insight and encouragement to those walking a similar path.
Lying is more than just a fib; it’s a complex dance of cognitive development and survival instincts, especially in children who have faced trauma. Join me, Nicole T Barlow, on Foster Parent Well as we unravel the nuanced reality of lying in children who have experienced trauma. This episode is a heartfelt exploration into how lying can be a natural developmental milestone rooted in cognitive growth, involving skills like theory of mind and executive function. But when trauma enters the picture, it can twist these behaviors into survival mechanisms, creating a challenge for both children and their caregivers. With stories from a supportive network in Tampa, we'll uncover how community support plays a vital role in navigating these complexities.
As we guide our children through this intricate journey, it’s crucial to understand how lying affects not just them, but also us as parents. Discover effective strategies for managing this behavior, such as avoiding traps that provoke dishonesty and encouraging honest redo's. Our reactions, often ignited by the brain's protective drive, can sometimes do more harm than good. This episode offers insights into responding with grace and resilience, backed by neuroscience. Finally, reflect on the transformative power of parenting with love, grace, and unconditional support, ensuring our children feel truly safe, valued, and cherished. Join me for a thought-provoking session inspired by faith and the profound strength we draw from God.
Uniting Communities for Foster Care with Guest Rebecca Radicchi
00:45:53
Rebecca Radicchi joins us from Georgia Kids Belong to share her incredible journey and the transformative power of community in supporting foster care and adoption. As an adoptive mom and passionate advocate, Rebecca offers an inside look at Georgia Kids Belong, a chapter of America's Kids Belong, and their innovative I Belong project. This initiative crafts advocacy videos for children in foster care, particularly for those whose parental rights have been terminated. These heartwarming video creation days not only amplify the children's voices, focusing on teenagers, sibling sets, and children with special needs, but also aim to leave a lasting positive impact on their lives.
Foster families dedicate themselves to providing a safe and nurturing environment for vulnerable children, yet many face overwhelming pressures, leading them to quit within a year. We explore the importance of community support and how initiatives like the "Foster Friendly" program are stepping in to alleviate these challenges. By encouraging businesses to offer discounts and special offers, and utilizing the Foster Friendly app, foster parents gain access to crucial support, allowing them to thrive in their essential roles. From coffee shops to car repair services, these partnerships pave the way for a more supportive network, offering foster families respite and practical help.
As we delve into the expansion of foster-friendly communities across the nation, the conversation highlights the vital role of businesses, faith communities, and city governments in this mission. By fostering a sense of pride and unity, and bridging gaps between different organizations, we aim to create a sustainable and impactful environment for foster care. We emphasize the significance of the Foster Friendly app as a key resource for connecting foster families with mentors, tutors, and local support networks, while celebrating the efforts of businesses that have become community hubs.
Embracing Gratitude: Seeing the Blessings in Foster Care and Adoption
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Could gratitude truly be the key to transforming the chaos of foster and adoptive parenting into moments of peace and resilience? Join me, Nicole T Barlow, as we challenge the conventional approach to parenting stress by embracing gratitude as a divine stress reliever. This episode explores how consciously choosing gratitude, even in the toughest seasons, can not only rewire our brains but also strengthen our spiritual resilience. Through personal stories and reflections, we journey through the sacred, albeit challenging, path of foster and adoptive parenting, where every obstacle is an opportunity for growth, and every moment of connection with our children is a gift.
As we navigate the blessings and lessons inherent in the foster care and adoption journey, we find ourselves celebrating grace, patience, and unconditional love. These transformative experiences teach us to focus on the beauty within brokenness, acknowledging God's faithfulness and the small victories that enrich our lives. Together, we'll explore how gratitude shifts our perspectives, deepens our faith, and forges a stronger bond with our community and children. Let's commit to cultivating a spirit of gratitude daily, recognizing the unique privilege of guiding our children as they grow into the individuals they're meant to be.
Every holiday season as a foster or adoptive parent is a rollercoaster of joy and chaos. I've been there, feeling the duality of laughter and meltdowns, and I'm here to share how embracing these mixed emotions can actually enrich our lives and families. In this episode, I reflect on the past year, celebrating the laughter, acknowledging the meltdowns, and setting intentions for a more balanced 2025. Let's talk about the power of saying yes to ourselves so we can better say yes to our children, teaching them the value of self-care by living it out ourselves.
Together, we'll explore practical ways to incorporate movement and strength training into hectic lives, and the importance of nutrition in maintaining energy and preventing burnout. From the simplicity of a daily walk to the impact of choosing whole foods, every small decision counts. As we step into the new year, we'll also focus on spiritual growth, setting priorities that align with wisdom and nurture our families with love and grace. Join me in a prayer of strength and guidance, and let’s enter 2025 with renewed faith, purpose, and a commitment to self-care that supports our parenting journeys.
Fostering Connections: Using Food to Bridge Gaps and Empower Children with Chef Kibby
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Chef Kibby shares how he uses food and hunger as a language of connection, drawing from 25 years of culinary expertise and 16 years as a foster and adoptive dad. Discover his unique perspective on how the simple act of cooking can bridge gaps and build lasting relationships. With personal anecdotes and biblical insights, we explore how food has been historically used as a relational tool and how you can implement these practices in your own home.
The conversation uncovers the hidden emotional needs that surface at the dinner table, where food becomes more than just nourishment. We address the emotional and physiological hunger that children from challenging backgrounds experience and how parents can recognize and fulfill these needs. By focusing on inclusion rather than perfection, we can transform everyday kitchen interactions into powerful bonding moments that go beyond just eating.
Empowering children by giving them a voice in everyday decisions, like choosing pizza toppings, can significantly enhance their sense of agency and emotional well-being. We discuss practical ways parents can create environments where children feel heard and valued. As we close, we invite you to explore additional resources, including our Hunger for Connection podcast, and offer a heartfelt prayer for guidance and peace in fostering meaningful connections through the universal language of food.
Jonna Stein's "Untangling Hope" beautifully captures the intricate emotions of a foster child navigating trauma and the longing for belonging. In our discussion, we explore themes of empathy, understanding trauma, and the importance of fostering conversations about these experiences among parents, children, and their communities.
• Exploring the journey of a foster child in "Untangling Hope" • Understanding the difference between fitting in and belonging • Importance of compassion in caregiving • Insights into a child's perspective on trauma and resilience • Facilitation of dialogue about foster care in families and communities • Call for empathy and education about experiences of children in care
The episode dives deep into the challenges foster parents face, emphasizing the necessity of grace for both parents and children. It explores the importance of self-care amidst stress and the transformative power of faith through the story of the Prodigal Son.
• Sharing personal struggles with stress and parenting • The vital need for self-care among caregivers • Insights from the Prodigal Son story and its relevance • Encouragement to embrace God’s unconditional love • Strategies for managing stress and health as a parent • Invitation for community support and prayer interactions
Verses to read over: Psalm 107:8-9 Romans 5:8 1 John 4:16 Psalm 86:15 1 John 3:1 1 Chronicles 16:34 Zephaniah 3:17 1 John 4:19
Overwhelming exhaustion is a challenge that many foster and adoptive parents experience, often without acknowledgment. This episode discusses burnout's signs, neurological impact, and practical steps toward healing and renewal. • Exploring the definition of burnout what it looks like in parents • Recognizing signs indicating a move in that direction • Addressing emotional detachment and the inclination to check out • Discussing diminished desire to connect with children • Identifying physical symptoms of burnout and health concerns • Offering practical steps to combat burnout
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This episode explores the spiritual warfare that foster parents face as they navigate their unique challenges. By emphasizing the importance of guarding our minds, nurturing relationships, prioritizing self-care, and cultivating gratitude, we equip ourselves to combat discouragement and support each other through this journey.
• Understanding spiritual warfare in the context of foster care • The significance of filling our minds with God's truth • Importance of nurturing marital and community relationships • Necessity of self-care for spiritual and emotional resilience • Strategies for guarding our hearts against negativity and despair
The Things We Don't Say Out Loud in Foster Care and Adoption
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The latest episode explores the multifaceted challenges of foster care and adoption, inviting listeners to engage with the often unspoken truths of this journey. By addressing hard topics with compassion, the episode emphasizes the importance of validating the experiences of caregivers and children alike while encouraging open conversations.
• Validating the difficulty of foster care without diminishing its beauty • Acknowledging the impact of trauma on children in care • Recognizing the complexities of bonding with foster children • Balancing the goals of reunification with concerns for child safety • Navigating conflicting feelings during goodbyes • Identifying the difference between primary and secondary trauma in caregivers
Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it, and if you haven't yet, leave a review so we can keep having these important conversations.
When We Aren't Enough- Navigating Out of Home Care with Anna Bernacki
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We explore the complexities of foster care and adoption and the emotional toll trauma takes on families, emphasizing the importance of candid conversations about these challenges. Anna Bernacki shares her personal journey through adoption and how faith has guided her family.
• The importance of discussing difficult topics within foster care • Differences between crisis hospitalization and residential treatment • Navigating shame and guilt in parenting from hard places • The role of faith in coping with challenges • How to support other family members when one child is absent • Encouragement for parents feeling overwhelmed or isolated
If you know somebody that is facing similar challenges, would you send them this episode?
Can You Really Help a Child If You Haven't Healed?
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We explore the critical importance of healing for foster and adoptive parents, emphasizing how past experiences shape our parenting. Understanding ourselves allows us to nurture our children effectively while providing the love they need.
• Exploring the concept of healing and being a steady presence • The impact of past traumas on parenting styles • The significance of understanding how childhood shapes our view of God • Strategies for prioritizing health and emotional well-being • Insights on creating a nurturing environment for children with trauma • Encouragement for listeners to start their healing journey
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What happens in that critical moment when your child's behavior pushes your buttons? That split second before you respond determines whether your correction will actually work or simply bounce off ineffectively.
Foster and adoptive parents know the struggle all too well—the same behaviors repeating despite countless corrections. But what if the key isn't what you say during correction, but what you've established beforehand?
Drawing from neuroscience and trauma-informed approaches, this episode reveals the four non-negotiable steps required before any effective correction: regulation, trust, connection, and instruction. I break down why your nervous system must calm before you can help regulate your child's, and how co-regulation creates the biological foundation for receptive listening.
You'll discover practical techniques like "Yes Jars" that build attachment cycles with resistant children, and understand why connection feels so difficult when a child pushes away (hint: it's your brain's reciprocity response protecting you from rejection). Most importantly, you'll learn why teaching expected behaviors during calm moments is essential—because correction without instruction is just punishment.
Whether you're struggling with a child who seems to resist every boundary or simply want to make your guidance more effective, these foundational principles will transform your approach to discipline. Your patience and consistency in these four areas creates the safety necessary for lasting behavioral change.
Ready to see correction that actually sticks? Start with just one of these principles this week and watch what happens. Share this episode with another foster or adoptive parent who needs this encouragement—because even when change isn't visible yet, your impact is real.
Beyond Behavior Management: The Parent's Journey to Felt Safety
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The tension between fostering deep relationships and managing difficult behaviors sits at the heart of every foster and adoptive parent's journey. In this deeply personal exploration, we uncover why our focus often shifts from connection to control—and the surprising neurological reasons behind it.
When behaviors are under control and there's order in our homes, we feel safe. But what happens when our peace becomes dependent on our children's compliance? We end up parenting from exhaustion rather than connection, creating a cycle that works against the very healing we're trying to facilitate.
Your nervous system responds to stress just like your child's does. When you don't feel safe, you move into fight-flight-freeze-fawn mode, making it neurologically impossible to parent with patience and wisdom. Even when you know better, your survival brain takes over—leading to burnout, anxiety, and disconnection.
Building felt safety from within changes everything. Through spiritual practices, predictable routines, environmental comfort, supportive relationships, appropriate boundaries, and essential wellness habits, you can create internal regulation that doesn't depend on external circumstances. Each practice—from morning prayer to consistent hydration, from soft lighting to meaningful conversations with understanding friends—sends powerful signals to your brain that you are safe.
This isn't about luxury or self-indulgence. It's about creating the neurological foundation you need to show up as the regulated, connected parent your children need. When you build felt safety from the inside out, you can finally address behavior while strengthening connection rather than damaging it.
If you're ready to break free from survival mode parenting, join our six-week wellness challenge starting March 24th, where we'll take small, doable steps toward creating lasting felt safety—for you and your whole family.
God shows up in extraordinary ways for foster parents when we embrace the truth that we're participating in His holy work of restoration and redemption.
• His grace is sufficient for our weakness, covering our doubts, fears, and mistakes • New mercies arrive each morning—only when we need them, not a moment sooner • Hard things are exactly what Jesus calls us to, equipped with His strength and comfort • We are not invisible—God sees every midnight cry, pantry prayer, and moment of faithfulness • Our service is bigger than we realize—we're friends of God helping bring His plans to life
Keep saying yes, keep pressing into Him, even when your voice is shaking. This is holy ground you're walking on, and God is not finished with your story.
Breaking the Cycle: Parenting with Trauma Awareness with April Ficklin
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What happens when the romanticized dream of adoption crashes into the complex realities of parenting children from trauma? April Ficklin knows this collision intimately. From a teenage mission trip where she first felt called to adoption, to the Good Friday when her family doubled overnight with the addition of two siblings from foster care, April's journey has been one of profound transformation.
The chaos was immediate. Despite years of successful parenting with her biological children, April found herself utterly unprepared for the behaviors that emerged from her adopted children's fear responses. "I'm not the parent I used to be. I'm not the parent I thought I would be. I'm definitely not the mom I want to be," she remembers thinking during those early days.
This raw conversation peels back the layers of what trauma-aware parenting truly demands. April shares how she discovered that traditional parenting methods focused on compliance and behavior correction were failing both her children and herself. The breakthrough came when she shifted her entire approach from changing behaviors to building trust - recognizing that she needed to prove her trustworthiness before expecting her children to trust her.
Now working as an adoption professional and raising four teenagers, April offers a message of hope grounded in reality. Healing happens, but it's measured in moments like when her once fiercely independent child said, "Mama made me a peanut butter sandwich. That's what mamas do." Those small victories reveal the power of connection-based parenting that values relationship over compliance.
Whether you're considering adoption, in the trenches of foster parenting, or simply want to understand trauma-responsive approaches better, this conversation offers both practical wisdom and heartfelt encouragement. The journey may not be what you expected, but the healing – for both you and your children – is worth every step.
Please connect with April by following her growing Instagram account where she shares encouragement for stressed out moms, tips for trust-based parenting, and stories to help create hope in the overwhelm. https://www.instagram.com/april_ficklin/
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