Flip Your Lid with Kim Honeycutt (Kim Honeycutt, MSW, LCSW, CCFC, LCAS)

In this episode, Kim, Crystal, and Yenting will Flip Your Lid as they discuss Crystal's powerful story of healing from sexual abuse. If you or someone you know has suffered from sexual abuse or assault, please contact Brave Step. www.bravestep.org

Crystal Emerick is the founder and executive director of Brave Step. As a survivor of sexual abuse and assault, Emerick found hope and healing through her own experience in therapy. After a long and healing journey, a passion for helping adult survivors find relief was born in June 2011.

At that time, the Eastern North Carolina native made a commitment to help survivors and their loved ones identify and receive quality trauma care and find connection with those who understand. Brave Step was officially incorporated in 2014 with a mission of strengthening adults impacted by sexual abuse by providing meaningful steps on their healing journey. A University of North Carolina graduate with a Bachelor of Arts degree in history and political science, Emerick resides in Concord, N.C., with her husband, son, and dog.

Yenting Liu is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with significant experience in case management. She has worked with several nonprofits in Boston, Los Angeles, and D.C., including working directly with survivors of trauma such as domestic violence, sexual assault, and human trafficking. Yenting is drawn to helping others to navigate hardships and obstacles in order to reach their goals and potential. She utilizes individualized strengths-based approach when working with clients. Yenting has a Masters in Social Work from the University of Southern California with a concentration in community organizing, planning, and administration. She also has B.A in Psychology and B.S. in Elementary Education from Boston University.

Kim and Stuart have an informative and humorous conversation about Stuart’s life, trauma, and recovery. Stuart shares openly about how his abandonment may have resulted in his dismissive nature towards women. Today he is intentional about listening to women, including having a podcast dedicated to him being a listener!

-Trauma & Beauty of Adoption

-Sobriety & Recovery

-God as Big Mama

-Stuart gets free therapy from Kim

-Cults & Churches

-Loving everyone, including ourselves

Stuart's Bio

Stuart Watson is the Founder of VoiceLocket - custom-made films saving the life stories of precious family…while there’s still time.

In a television career spanning four decades, Stuart interviewed more than 7,000 people on camera, winning 10 Emmys, three Peabody awards, and a fellowship in journalism at Harvard.

He’s written two books, a memoir, and a children’s book, SOFIA LOVES TORTILLAS, and produced 135 continuous weekly episodes for his podcast IN HER WORDS, listening to the stories of strong women who bounce back.

Stuart was placed in the foster care system at birth and adopted as an infant. As an investigative reporter, he discovered his biological father died of acute alcoholism.

He has 29 years of continuous recovery thanks to a loving God and a host of friends who choose to remain anonymous.

Connect with Stuart

You can connect with Stuart on FB, IG, and Twitter @ManListening and his website ManListening.com

You can also check out his fantastic podcast called: In Her Words

DR. PETE ENNS!!!!

Harvard Scholar and all-around good guy, Dr. Pete Enns took the time to share with Kim about his podcast The Bible for Normal People and discuss the Bible through accurate history and the lens of psychology.

• Narcissism and the structure of the Church
• Which Biblical person needed therapy
• For the Love of God
• For the love of Wordle

About Dr. Pete Enns:

Dr. Enns is a biblical scholar who teaches and writes on Old Testament, New Testament, Second Temple Judaism, and the intersection of biblical studies and contemporary Christian faith. He has taught extensively at the seminary and doctoral levels (Westminster Theological Seminary, Princeton Theological Seminary, Harvard Divinity School, Fuller Theological Seminary, Lutheran Theological Seminary in Philadelphia, Biblical Theological Seminary) and on the undergraduate level (Temple University and Messiah College). He speaks actively in academic and ecclesiastical venues on topics pertaining to the Bible and Christian faith. He has written or edited over a dozen books and many articles and essays.

Dr. Enns resides in Lansdale, PA with his wife Sue, and has three adult children.

You can listen to his podcast: The Bible For Normal People, and you can stay connected with him on his website: www.peteenns.com

Sandra Weber is a wellness mentor empowering her clients to rebuild a mind/body connection.

 Sandra has over a decade of experience in hands-on clinical bodywork and is now using that experience to assist her clients in reducing or preventing chronic pain through mind/body awareness. 

Sandra owns and operates Integrative Bodywork in Charlotte, North Carolina. 

When she is not working with clients in the treatment room, she hosts trainings for corporate and private groups providing ACTIONABLE steps to rebuild the mind-body connection. Elevating clients’ physical, mental, and emotional well-being is the foundation of the #RELENTLESS mindset.

Read more at kimhoneycutt.com

Larissa and I had the absolute honor of interviewing David Hayward, who you probably know as the NakedPastor! David is known for his expansive artwork that depicts the unfortunate experience of many people in parts of the Christian world, and he does it in a way that is incredibly healing. David lives in Canada with his wife and grown children. His experience in the church and in the world as the NakedPastor is intriguing and inspiring. And a side note, David will be here in Charlotte, NC April 2023 to speak on our icuTalks stage!

What we discuss:

• The dream that flipped David's lid
• The story behind The NakedPastor
• Being our most authentic selves
• David's theological journey
• Diverse communities make our lives fuller
• Feeling safe in connection
• Potluck community
• Healing happens when we are safely seen and heard
• Being heard without being hurt

David's Bio:

David Hayward was ordained to the ministry in 1987 and left in 2010. He's been running the NakedPastor blog since 2005, where he posts his provocative cartoons and articles. He launched an online community called The Lasting Supper, a place for people to change without being judged or instructed, and where they can learn to become spiritually independent. He's been cartooning, making art, writing, speaking, and coaching around his core passions: personal authentic freedom, the power to change our own lives, and the creative spirit to make our world a better place. He and his wife live in eastern Canada. They have three adult children.

Connect with David Hayward on IG and FB @nakedpastor and on his website: NakedPastor.com

For David's new book, Flip It Like This: NakedPastor.com/FlipItLikeThis

In light of the events in Washington, DC on January 6, 2021, we decided to change up Lucretia’s interview topic and bump this episode to the soonest possible drop date.

Dr. Lucretia Carter Berry is the founder and President of Brownicity, an agency committed to making important, scholarly-informed, antiracism education accessible. A former college professor, Lucretia designed the popular ‘beginners’ course and authored its study guide, What LIES Between Us: Fostering First Steps Toward Racial Healing. She is the director of Brownicity’s Learning Community, an online membership platform that currently hosts over 10k enrollments. Lucretia is the Anti-race/ism Curriculum Specialist for Community School of Davidson (NC), a contributor for (In)courage.me, and a TEDx and Q Ideas speaker. She is married to Nathan; they have three daughters.

Lucretia earned her Ph.D. in Curriculum and Instruction and MA in English from Iowa State University, and her BA from South Carolina State University.

Read or watch this episode at flipyourlidpodcast.com

Dr. Kerri Moseley-Hobbs provides us with intriguing information and insight about More Than a Fraction: From Separation to Reunification. Her research and presentations about Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome and generational trauma.

As Founder and Executive Director of the More Than A Fraction Foundation, Dr. Kerri Moseley-Hobbs continues an almost 20-year career in education. This includes work in postsecondary (higher education) policy, regulation, and administration, as well as experiential learning, educational presentation and exposure, and historical research. Along with her extensive work with prestigious projects, she is a research author of a creative non-fiction book “More Than a Fraction: Based on a True Story” and is one of the voices in the history of Africans in America/African Americans of Virginia, the Southeast region, and beyond. Current major projects under the More Than A Fraction Foundation includes work with Virginia Polytechnic Institute and State University, the Virginia Governor’s Executive Mansion descendants committee, and a case study on the feasibility of reconciliation for the unfinished business of American slavery. 

Dr. Moseley-Hobbs holds a doctorate degree in Educational Leadership and three degrees from the University of Maryland: a bachelor’s degree in Criminal Justice, a master’s degree in Interdisciplinary Management, and a master’s degree in Business Administration (MBA).

She is a descendant of John Fraction, and his son Thomas Fraction - the subject of her first Creative Nonfiction book “More Than A Fraction: Based on A True Story”.

Connect with Dr. Kerri Moseley-Hobbs: www.morethanafraction.org

Dr. Roseann is a mental health trailblazer, founder of The Global Institute of Children’s Mental Health and Dr. Roseann & Associates, who is, “Changing the way we view and treat children’s mental health”. FORBES magazine called her, “A thought leader in children’s mental health”.

Her work has helped thousands reverse the most challenging conditions, such as ADHD, anxiety, mood, autism, learning disability, Lyme, and PANS/PANDAS using PROVEN holistic therapies such as neurofeedback, biofeedback, and psychotherapy. She is the author of the first-ever book on teletherapy activities for child and adolescent therapists, “Teletherapy Toolkit™” and It’s Gonna be OK!™ book and The Get Unstuck Program™, which are resources for parents to reverse their child’s symptoms.

She is often featured on dozens of media outlets: Fox, CBS, NBC, FORBES, PARENTS, and New York Times.

Find video and show notes at flipyourlidpodcast.com

Thomas Floyd, LPC, and Kim Honeycutt, LCAS, are interviewed by Producer/Director (who just happens to be Kim’s wife) Larissa Miller about spiral dynamics, McLaren’s 4 Stages of Church, and how our view of authority can indicate where we are on our growth path. Brian McLaren’s 4 church stages and spiral dynamics give all of us a barometer to see where we are and where our church of choice may be in our quest to be good leaders and inclusive humans. How big our EGO is can be an excellent resource to measure how big or small we make God. Join in as Thomas, Kim, and Larissa explore and expose their own struggles and progress to being an aware human.

You can connect with Thomas on Twitter @thomasfloyd23 and on Tik Tok @heyfam22

And you can connect with Kim Honeycutt on IG and FB @kbhoneycutt and Larissa Miller on IG @larissa.miller

Resources:

Brian D. McLaren: https://brianmclaren.net/

Spiral Dynamics: https://cac.org/daily-meditations/spiral-dynamics-2015-12-11/

Join Kim Honeycutt as she engages in a heartfelt conversation with special guest and friend Alex Reegan. Together, they explore Alex's transformative journey from sobriety to self-discovery, navigating the complexities of identity and healing.

Alex opens up about his experience as a trans man, overcoming societal and familial expectations rooted in conservative religious upbringing. Alex shares insights into emotional processing, chronic pain, and the pursuit of healing. Themes of resilience, self-acceptance, and forgiveness resonate throughout, with Alex's transition serving as a powerful testament to the ongoing journey of growth and authenticity.

Themes they discuss:

• Personal Struggles and Identity
• Gender Identity and Societal Expectations
• Navigating Family Relationships
• Emotional Processing and Grief
• Spiritual Practices and Self-Discovery
• Self-Compassion and Healing

About Alex Reegan:

Alex Reegan is the author of What Needs To Be Said, as well as an interfaith minister, speaker, and transformative spiritual coach who uses his intuitive wisdom to help guide people towards their own inner knowing. Born into an evangelical Christian family that prevented his true identity as a trans man from emerging, he spent years in depression, anxiety, and addiction trying to break free of the oppressive beliefs that bound him. His journey at last led him to sobriety, shamanism and then seminary, which helped him reclaim his faith and trust in the Divine. Through speaking engagements, workshops, one-on-one and group sessions with clients, Alex is profoundly dedicated to helping others speak their truth, release shame, and find oneness. 

Connect with Alex:

Website: www.alexreegan.com

IG: @revreegs

Alanna is a Licensed Clinical Addictions Specialist, Registered Yoga Instructor, and Certified Heartmath Trainer. Alanna has over 20 years of experience working in the addictions field. She spent 12 years working for Carolinas Healthcare alongside Dr. George Raad in their medical detoxification program and then transitioned to the Intensive Outpatient program. 

​Alanna takes a holistic approach when working with clients combining the mind, body, and spirit in counseling. She specializes in working with addiction and trauma. In addition, Alanna facilitates a men’s group working on gender-specific issues, trauma, and 12 step recovery issues. Alanna works with families of chemically dependent individuals to facilitate interventions. Lastly, Alanna provides clinical supervision for those seeking their certification in substance abuse counseling.

Visit flipyourlidpodcast.com for full show notes and to watch the interview.

In this episode, Adam shares with Kim about his life of transformation and how he became a psychotherapist.

Adam is devoted to walking alongside clients with compassion, confidence, and purpose. His goal is to help others experience the fullness of being emotionally and relationally strong. He believes therapy provides the best opportunity to develop personal insight and confidence as well as to develop honest and joyful relationships with others.

Adam is the Clinical Director for The Corner; Institute for Transformation. Our team is trained and committed to your breakthrough emotionally and relationally. We want you to be strong, for yourself and for others. We use evidence-based treatments and transformational coaching to assist you in moving forward. Your life matters, go after it!

In the inaugrual episode of Flip Your Lid, Kim talks with Sanchez Fair.

SANCHEZ’S DESIRE IS FOR ALL GENERATIONS TO ENCOUNTER GOD THROUGH AUTHENTIC WORSHIP.  

Sanchez grew up in Greenville, South Carolina attended Southern Wesley University and majored in Music Performance. Following college, he traveled nationally as the drummer for The Advice, a billboard charting Christian pop/rock band. Sanchez has shared the stage with many artist including Toby Mac, Mercy Me, Building 428, Jamie Grace, Newsong, Travis Greene, KJ Scriven, The Marcus King Band, and many more. Sanchez moved to Charlotte, North Carolina and has served in many roles at various churches.

In 2015, he attended 10,000 Fathers worship school that focused on worship, community, liturgy, discipleship. During this cohort, Sanchez also enrolled in Seminary at Gordon Conwell Theological Seminary, completing his cohort in 2017, and master’s degree in 2019. Sanchez is currently working on his doctorate degree in Redemptive Ministry, that focuses on the redemptive aspect of ministry, organization leadership, cultural intelligence, and multiethnic ministry.

Sanchez is co-host the Token Confessions podcast, a resource sharing the experience of two black men within a white evangelical world. Sanchez is married to Megan Grace Fair and they have two children: Micah Emmanuel Fair and Julian Carter Fair.

Website: http://www.sanchezfair.com

Twitter: @sanchezfair

Instagram: @sanchezfair

In this episode of "Flip Your Lid," Kim Honeycutt welcomes Dr. Lucretia Berry, founder of Brownicity, to explore the nuances of racial education and the importance of fostering understanding and growth. Dr. Berry shares her journey, highlighting the importance of empathy, grace, and sustainable personal transformation in fostering a more inclusive and loving world. They address issues such as racial profiling, the significance of diverse media representation, and the misconceptions around "reverse racism." Through personal anecdotes and insightful dialogue, they emphasize the necessity of confronting biases, questioning long-held beliefs, and embracing uncertainty as pathways to deeper faith and a more inclusive society. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of the challenges faced by marginalized communities and the importance of empathy, representation, and systemic change in achieving equity.

What They Discuss:

• The Importance of Empathy, Grace, and Sustainable Personal Transformation
• Racial Profiling and Discrimination
• Diverse Media Representation
• Misconceptions Around "Reverse Racism"
• Questioning Long-Held Beliefs and Embracing Uncertainty

About Dr. Lucretia Berry:

Brownicity’s President & Learning Community Director, Lucretia Carter Berry, PhD is an antiracism curriculum specialist, course designer, and author of What LIES Between Us - Fostering First Steps Toward Racial Healing, a TEDx speaker, and a writer for in(courage).me. She earned her Ph.D. in Curriculum and Instruction from Iowa State University and her BA from South Carolina State University.

Connect:

Webiste: Brownicity.com

IG: @brownicity

Trigger Warning: This episode contains sexual violence.

In this episode, Kim Honeycutt interviews Madeleine Black, who was violently assaulted. They discuss the behavior that happens after trauma, how to have fulfilled relationships moving forward, and more about her powerful story of healing. 

Madeleine Black's Bio:

I have an unusual personal story which I use to inspire and motivate others. I chose to forgive the two men who gang-raped me when I was thirteen years old, and I share my story for many reasons.

I want to end the shame, stigma, and silence surrounding sexual violence, enabling others to find their voice, whatever their story is. I want people to know that it's not what happens to us that is important but what we do with it. I will show how changing my mindset tapped into my resilience and transformed my life, making people question their own thinking and encouraging them to see that there are always choices to make, and if we choose to, we can get past anything that happens to us in life both professionally and in our personal life. I want to encourage others to live their lives courageously, too, but ultimately, I want to inspire hope and show people that we are all so much stronger than we think we are.

The sharing of my story publicly on The Forgiveness Project's website in September 2014 opened many doors for me in ways I never imagined, and the invitations started to pour in. Many women and men got in contact and explained how reading my story gave them strength, hope, and a different perspective of what's possible in their lives. I have taken part in both TV and radio interviews and has been invited to share my story of being gang-raped as a teenager at conferences, book events, schools, etc. I recognize that I was a victim of a crime that left me silent for many years but has now found my voice and intends to use it. Not just for me, but for so many who can't find theirs yet.

Kim had the privilege of interviewing Noelle Toscano about her life in and out of the church as a woman. Noelle boldly explains how she was limited from using her God-given gifts within the church and how she rose above the discrimination. Noelle is the Director of Ezer Rising.

Noelle Toscano is an author, speaker, and the Director of Ezer Rising, a nonprofit organization that focuses on women's roles and rights within church, society, and marriage. Noelle lives in Wilmington, Delaware with her husband, four sons, and two parakeets. 

Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. are co-creators of Imago Relationship Therapy and a social movement called Safe Conversations. Internationally-respected as couple's therapists, educators, speakers, activists, and New York Times bestselling authors, their 10 books, including the timeless classic, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, have sold more than 4 million copies. Harville appeared on the Oprah Winfrey television program 17 times! Helen was installed in the Women’s Hall of Fame and the Smithsonian Institute.

Watch and read more at flipyourlidpodcast.com

Join Kim as she talks with Tim Whitaker, the brilliant mind behind the New Evangelicals. Tim shares his experience within the Church and how he has used his deconstruction and reconstruction to assist and comfort many with religious trauma. Tim shares about his visit to the Asbury revival and does a deep dive into why he does what he does for those marginalized within the Church. This is an intense and necessary conversation!

About Tim:

Growing up, Tim always felt at home in evangelical spaces – until years later, when his studying and questions caused him to no longer be welcomed at in his church community. Brokenhearted, but undeterred, Tim continued to pursue a deeper understanding of faith, history, theology, and the evangelical church. The more he uncovers, the more he realizes the importance of advocating for the marginalized in the church, exploring the full depth and breadth of Christian faith traditions, and holding toxic churches and leaders accountable.

Connect:

Tim: www.thenewevangelicals.com and IG @thenewevangelicals

Kim: IG @kbhoneycutt

Join Kim and Larissa as they explore the core fear of each enneagram type and provide spiritual practices to assist each of us in connecting more to our true essence. The Enneagram is a system of personality typing that describes patterns in how people interpret the world and manage their emotions. It is a spiritual rooted system that allows us to see how we interact with ourselves and to identify defensive mechanisms that cause us to subconsciously keep people at a distance. 

• Kim (8) explains how transpersonal psychology (ego) and the Enneagram work together 
• How and why Larissa (4) learned about the Enneagram
• Core fears and spiritual practices for each enneagram number (8, 9, 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7)
• How these spiritual practices can assist each of us in connecting more to our true essence

You can connect with Kim Honeycutt on IG and FB @kbhoneycutt and Larissa Miller on IG @larissa.miller

Resources mentioned in this podcast episode:

The Road Back to You Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile

Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life by Byron Katie

Spiritual Practices and the Enneagram with Rev. Joseph and Suzanne Stabile

Typology Podcast - Ian Morgan Cron

The Enneagram Journey Podcast - Suzanne Stable

Christian, Gay, Rejected, & Repurposed with Mike Maeshiro

Kim Honeycutt interviews the amazing Mike Maeshiro. In this episode, they discuss Mike's involvement with Bethel Church and how he's been treated since he came out. Mike discusses each of the clobber passages and declobbers them! Mike shares very openly about how much he didn't want to be marginalized and mistreated by people for simply being who he is and how he continues to resolve the pain of being rejected by Christians.

• Mike's Flip Your Lid Moment: Coming Out
• How Bethel Church Responded
• Declobbering The Clobber Passages
• Relationships Since Coming Out
• Non-Affirming Friends
• The Irony of What's Taking Place In The Church
• The Hot Seat

Mike Maeshiro is the founder and CEO of Numa, a spiritual intelligence organization that equips people in theology, spirituality, and faith. Mike is gay, an advocate for the LGBTQ+ community, and a queer theology enthusiast. He is the author of the book #themikeboard and also travels the world teaching on spiritual intelligence, supernatural discernment, queer theology, emotional health, and redemptive deconstruction.

Connect with Mike on his website www.mikemaeshiro.com and on IG @mikemaeshiro

We (Larissa and Kim) had the absolute privilege of interviewing Brian McLaren. As many of you know, Brian is a well-known spiritual influencer who has made significant contributions to the world of faith and spirituality. In this episode, we had the privilege of sitting down with him to discuss his life's work, including his four stages of faith development.

We dive deep into who Brian is as a person, his books, and his passion for creating a new kind of Christianity that is inclusive, compassionate, and committed to social justice.

If you're interested in exploring new ideas and perspectives on faith and spirituality, this is an episode you don't want to miss. Tune in now and join us in the conversation!

What We Discuss: 

-Faith vs. Certainty 

-Theology of Change 

-Criticism

-The Four Stages of Faith Development

-How Brian Played a Role in Larissa and Kim's Coming Out Story

-Shaping the Future of Church 

-Mental Health in the Church 

The Four Stages of Faith Development:

The Four Stages of Faith Development that Brian described (after briefly talking about a few of the other models/descriptions that other theologians, psychologists, etc., have put forth) are:

Simplicity — You're either for us or against us.  It's all or nothing.

Complexity — There's more than one way to do things.

Perplexity — Everyone has an opinion.  Who knows who is right?

Harmony/Humility — Seek first God's Kingdom… love God, love neighbors… in essentials unity… focus on a few grand essentials.

About Brian:

Brian D. McLaren is an author, speaker, activist, and public theologian. A former college English teacher and pastor, he is a passionate advocate for "a new kind of Christianity" - just, generous, and working with people of all faiths for the common good. He is a core faculty member of The Living School and podcaster with Learning How to See, which are part of the Center for Action and Contemplation. He is also an Auburn Senior Fellow and is a co-host of Southern Lights. His newest books are  Faith After Doubt (January 2021), and Do I Stay Christian? (May 2022).

Connect With Brian:

www.brianmclaren.net

kimhoneycutt.com

Inspired by deep compassion for others and informed from a Christian perspective, psychiatrist Curt Thompson shares fresh insights and practical applications for developing more authentic relationships and fully experiencing our deepest longing: to be known.

With a considerable dose of warmth (and surprising measure of humor), Curt weaves together an understanding of interpersonal neurobiology (IPNB) and a Christian view of what it means to be human — to educate and encourage others as they seek to fulfill their intrinsic desire to feel known, valued and connected. He understands that deep, authentic relationships are essential to experiencing a healthier, more purposeful life — but the only way to realize this is to begin telling our stories more truly.

Curt’s unique insights about how the brain affects and processes relationships help people discover a fresh perspective and practical applications to foster healthy and vibrant lives, allowing them to get unstuck and move toward the next beautiful thing they’re being called to make.

Through his workshops, speaking engagements, books, organizational consulting, private clinical practice and other platforms, he helps people process their longings, grief, identity, purpose, perspective of God and perspective of humanity, inviting them to engage more authentically with their own stories and their relationships. Only then can they feel truly known and connected and live into the meaningful reality they desire 
to create.

Curt and his wife, Phyllis, live outside of Washington DC and have two adult children.

LINKS

www.curtthompsonmd.com 

www.curtthompsonassociates.com 

BOOKS

The Soul of Shame

Anatomy of the Soul

Kim and John talk about the difference between rage and anger, grief and self-pity, fear and anxiety, boundaries and limits, and so much more.

John Lee is a pioneer in the fields of self-help, anger, codependency, creativity, recovery, relationships, and men’s issues. In the mental health field, he is considered the therapist’s therapist and regularly trains and mentors therapists on how to work with clients and how to work on themselves. He has taught his techniques and theories to thousands of individuals, couples, families, groups, corporations, and therapists all over the world.

After 35 years of touring nationally and internationally, bestselling author, John Lee, calls Austin, TX his home.

In this podcast, Kim Honeycutt reconnects with Ana Del Castillo, a Women’s Rightness Expert and Certified Empowerment Coach with over 20 years of experience galvanizing women to embrace authenticity in their lives. This episode delves into pivotal moments in Ana's life that have contributed to her journey of self-discovery. The conversation navigates challenges within therapeutic communities, shedding light on the continuous process of self-awareness. Ana's wealth of experiences emphasizes the importance of compassion and interrupts patterns of self-flagellation. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of personal growth and authenticity.

What They Discuss:

• Reconnecting and discussing pivotal moments in Ana Del Castillo's life
• Focus on self-discovery and authenticity
• Exploration of challenges within therapeutic communities
• Highlighting compassion and interrupting self-flagellation
• Stressing gentleness in returning to oneself and promoting self-kindness for growth
• Exploration of therapeutic modalities such as peer therapy, gestalt therapy, and internal family systems (IFS)
• The transformative power of modalities like Mindlight, incorporating IFS and tapping techniques
• Emphasis on comparing oneself backward and celebrating progress
• Examination of psychological aspects of self-awareness, consciousness, and breaking patterns

About Ana:

Ana Del Castillo is a Women’s Rightness Expert and Certified Empowerment Coach with over 20 years of experience galvanizing women to stop trying to ‘do life right’ and instead be right, in their skin and lives. Through transformative experiences she helps them to discover the freedom of their inherent rightness, no matter the circumstances or events of their lives, and regain their vitality and happiness.

Ana has spoken to audiences all over the country and has coached women rock stars, entrepreneurs and house wives on the power and freedom of authentic rightness.  She’s been featured on NPR, The NY Post, People Magazine, and The Moth. She coaches, speaks, and leads courses on Rightness and she is married and lives in Austin with her husband, her dog and two cats.

Connect

Ana: https://linktr.ee/anadelcastillo

Kim: IG @kbhoneycutt

Attorney Lori “Mouth of the South” Murray and Kim sit down and explore Lori’s firsthand experience with the Alex Murdaugh trial. Lori has been on CourtTv and many other media outlets, helping us understand the many facets of this notorious S.C. trial! Lori was in the courtroom during the Murdaugh trial, giving us an idea of the climate. Join them as they discuss the legal and psychological aspects of the Murdaugh family and trial! This powerful podcast combines the two professional worlds that Kim absolutely loves: legal and psychology!

They Discuss:

• TikTok and Attention
• Details of the trial
• Post-psychological impact for all directly involved
• Diagnosis of Alex Murdaugh
• Psychopathy vs. Sociopath
• Narcissism
• Drug addiction & Drug cartel
• Empathy
• Small town mentality

About Lori:

Lori is an aggressive litigator and negotiator focusing on criminal defense and personal injury matters. As a former prosecutor, she has the experience needed to navigate the unknowns of the legal process.

Connect with Lori:

www.lorimurraylaw.com

TikTok: @lawyerlori and IG: @lorimurraylaw

In this episode, Kim and Benjamin talk openly about Roe v. Wade and what we are doing as Christ-followers that is repelling people more than repairing. Be ready to hear how Ben remains authentic instead of fitting in.

*Roe v. Wade

*The Church

*What is Sin?

*Jesus and His Sermon on The Mount

*People Pleasing and Preoccupied Attachment

*The Bible in Our Culture and Benjamin's Favorite Passage - Philippians 2

*Connection to Self and Shame

*Rejection, Fear, and Love

*The Ego and The Samaritan

*Marginalized People and Community

*Structures of Control

Benjamin Cremer: a Pastor. Wesleyan. Writer. BA in Religion. MA in Spiritual Formation. MA in Theological Studies. Chronic student. Idahoan.

You can follow Benjamin on Twitter and IG @Brcremer and can subscribe to his newsletter here: https://benjamin-cremer.ck.page

Roxanne has over twenty-three years of experience working with clients suffering from high-risk substance use disorders, many with dual diagnoses. Additionally, she has sixteen years of experience helping family members who love them. Her disarming authenticity and decades of recovery experience have given her the ability to build a strong rapport with her clients. Her passion for seeing others recover drives her to support and help clients achieve their goals using evidence-based practices, motivational interviewing, reflective listening, compassion, and using positive reinforcements.

Hear Roaxanne's incredible story of recovery and self-forgiveness in today's episode. Watch this interview and read the full show notes at flipyourlidpodcast.com

After Kim heard Dr. Christine Cocchiola on the world-famous leading narcissistic expert Dr. Ramani's podcast, she had to talk to Dr. Cocchiola, and you'll understand once you listen to the podcast.

Their conversation goes deep into understanding coercive control, narcissism, and how it affects individuals, especially in the challenging landscape of family court battles. Dr. Cocchiola shares her advocacy journey, drawing from personal and professional experiences.

Throughout the podcast, they shed light on the subtle signs of abuse, delve into topics like schema theory, and discuss the long-lasting effects of trauma. Plus, they tackle misconceptions about parental alienation syndrome, which is so crucial in family court settings.

Here's a sneak peek into what they discuss:

• Exploring the impact of coercive control and narcissism
• Debunking myths surrounding parental alienation syndrome
• Advocating for a broader understanding of abuse dynamics
• Navigating legal challenges in cases of abuse
• Finding paths to healing and empowerment

About Dr. Cocchiola: 

Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW, a Board Member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and a Founding Member of the International Coercive Control Conference. She has actively supported codifying coercive control as the foundation of domestic abuse, writing policy briefs supporting these efforts and providing expert testimony at legislative hearings. Most importantly, through her own experiences as a protective parent, her clinical expertise as a trauma trained therapist, a researcher and educator, Dr. Cocchiola understands the impact that coercive control has on both adult and child victims. A college professor teaching in social work for over 20 years, she has created various programs to educate protective parents and court professionals on best practices to support these vulnerable populations.

Connect:

https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/

IG: @dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol

Just when you thought you knew everything about the Enneagram, therapist, and Enneagram expert Michael Shahan sheds new light. Join us for an insider look at "Flip Your Lid" host Kim Honeycutt and her wife, Larissa Miller, as Michael dives into the Enneagram with them. He navigates the complexities of Kim and Larissa's individual Enneagram numbers, uncovering how they shape their personal growth and relationship dynamics.

Michael delves into the nuances of stress and growth numbers within the Enneagram, shedding light on how understanding these aspects can profoundly deepen self-awareness and compassion. This episode invites reflection on how understanding ourselves and our loved ones can transform relationships and personal development.

What they discuss:

• Michael Shahan explores the significance of stress and growth numbers within the Enneagram.
• Kim Honeycutt (8) and Larissa Miller (4) are used as case studies to illustrate Enneagram stress and growth numbers.
• An in-depth examination of Type Eight, Type Four, and Type Six personalities reveals their unique challenges and developmental paths.
• Michael provides insights into the Essential Qualities within the Enneagram.
• The episode emphasizes the Enneagram's role in understanding human behavior and emotional patterns.

About Michael:

Michael Shahan is a licensed Marriage and Family therapist best known for utilizing the Enneagram in his practice and training other therapists and mental health professionals to do the same. His courses, “Enneagram for Therapists” and “Polyvagal Theory and the Enneagram,” are certified by the National Board for Certified Counselors for continuing education. Michael is the father of two, lives in Kansas City, and has a semi-secret watercolor hobby that he practices regularly. 

Michael Shahan's Meditation Series:

The Embodied Enneagram: A Guided Meditation Series

https://mailchi.mp/7fe156ca8a9f/embodied-enneagram-meditations

Resources Mentioned:

Growth and Stress Levels For Each Number:

https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions/

"Personality Types: Using the Enneagram for Self-Discovery" by Riso and Hudson:

https://a.co/d/0hSdd1rR

Contact:

Micheal Shahan: MichaelShahan.com and IG @michaelshahan_therapy

Kim Honeycutt: KimHoneycutt.com and IG @kbhoneycutt

Larissa Miller: 21.Media and IG @larissa.miller

This episode was published on 4/20, a day that is glamorized as marijuana day in the culture of substance abuse and addiction — as a day to get high. We want to remind all of you that THC really stands for The Higher Calling and that’s why we asked Josh Bone to join me on Flip Your Lid today. He represents what it looks like to move from addict to catalyst and live out a Higher calling. Check it out!

Josh Bone was born and raised in Dallas, NC.  He attended college at UNC-Chapel Hill where he began to struggle with alcoholism. After years of active addiction, he will be celebrating four years of sobriety this month.

Josh works as a therapist with Carolina Center for Recovery located in the Charlotte area.  In 2019, he created Anchor of Hope Sober Living through a GoFundMe account  The non-profit, Anchor of Hope Sober Living now consists of seven sober living homes across the Charlotte and Matthews area serving over 45 residents.  

Josh currently resides in Charlotte with his wife, Jennifer, and two children. He and his family are a part of the Pritchard at South End church community as he and his wife serve on a weekly basis. Sharing God’s amazing grace and helping others has become a passion in his life illustrated by his willingness to walk by faith.

Listen to the full episode to hear how Josh went from addict to catalyst and the events in his life that flipped his lid.

Full show notes at flipyourlidpodcast.com

Join Kim Honeycutt as she interviews Kevin Sweeney, host of The Church Needs Therapy podcast and author of "The Making of a Mystic: My Journey with Mushrooms," "My Life as a Pastor," and "Why It's Okay for Everyone to Relax" and "The Joy of Letting Go" as they discuss Ego vs. Self; Translative Spirituality vs. Transformative Spirituality; Cheerleading Preaching vs. Soul Feeding Talks, and so much more. 

Quote: ". . . the ego does not need encouragement, it needs a eulogy."

KEVIN SWEENEY is co-founder and lead pastor of Imagine Church—an urban church in Honolulu that is welcoming of all people, sees imagination as the key to the future, chooses authenticity over performance, substance over hype, and quality over quantity.

He is the host of podcast "The Church Needs Therapy" and is the author of the forthcoming books, "The Making of a Mystic: My Journey with Mushrooms, My Life as a Pastor, and Why It's Okay For Everyone to Relax," out on May 31st, and "The Joy of Letting Go" which will be out in January 2023. Both on Quoir Publishing.

He lives In Honolulu with his wife and co-founder of Imagine, Christine, and their two kids, True and Mikayla.

You can follow Kevin on IG @kevinsweeney1

We flipped the script for this episode of Flip Your Lid. Larissa, Kim's wife, interviews her about being gay, married, and Christian. They discuss what really flipped Kim's lid, how to "rupture and repair" in relationships, how the enneagram helps us understand ourselves and how other people experience the world, and so much more.

Resources that are discussed in this episode:

Enneagram

 "The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery" by Suzanne Stabile & Ian Morgan Cron

Attachment Theory:

www.dianepooleheller.com

Attached by Dr. Amir Levine

Window Of Tolerance:

Flip My Lid & Window of Tolerance

Dr. Daniel Siegel

Imago Relationship Therapy:

Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen Hunt

https://harvilleandhelen.com/

John & Julie Gottman "Bids For Connection":

https://www.gottman.com/

Emotional Regression:

"Growing Yourself Back Up" by John Lee

Kim Honeycutt. MSW, LCSW, CCFC,LCAS:

 "But Your Mother Loves You" by Kim Honeycutt

icuTalks.org

You can connect with Kim Honeycutt on IG and FB @kbhoneycutt and Larissa Miller on IG @larissa.miller

Shamyra Parker Evans is a motivational speaker, mental health advocate, and self-care enthusiast. She shares in our podcast how toxic relationships tried but were unsuccessful in derailing her ministry of helping others receive love.

Shamyra Parker is the Founder and Chief Well-Being Officer (CWO) of Born Boundless International.

More importantly, she is just like you. A High-Impact woman. A phenomenal mother. And someone who needs powerful self-care.

As a self-care advocate, educator and healing ally who creates safe spaces for Black women and W.O.C. (Women of Color) in High-Impact leadership roles (and that includes women in ministry or CEO's of their homes), Shamyra knows all too well how easy it is for powerful women with competing priorities to allow themselves to be pulled in a million directions.

Shamyra comes from a fast-paced, high stress corporate environment, where she managed a territory of three states that often involved overnight travel, all while being a mom of two small children the last 5 years of her corporate career. This was all possible because she was uncompromising in taking care of herself. Self-care not only sustained her. It nourished her. As Shamyra transitioned to having a greater impact, she realized the typical advice that 'the more you do, the more self-care you need' is not a one-size-fits-all solution. When the things that used to work stopped working, Shamyra realized that for High-Impact women only is more not feasible, it simply is NOT enough.

Get ready for Shamyra to show you how to cultivate a self-care lifestyle, not just a casual one-off activity.

She is a community leader, serving as a Commissioner for the Reimagining America Project: The Truth, Reconciliation, and Atonement Commission of Charlotte, NC (RAP-TRACC) — a project of the George Mason University Center for World Religions, Diplomacy, & Conflict Resolution. Shamyra is also a community partner for SEE HER LEAD, an organization created to meet all girls (grades 5-12) right where they are and prepare them to lead in every area of their lives through ongoing personal development training that can be tapped into in and around life's transitions.

Join Kevin Sweeney, host of The Church Needs Therapy podcast and author of The Making of a Mystic: My Journey with Mushrooms, My Life as a Pastor, and Why It's Okay for Everyone to Relax" and "The Joy of Letting Go" as he and Kim discuss the ingredients of surrender and how it might not be what we think it is. Kevin is a calm, compassionate man whose perspective on his relationship with God is refreshing and very encouraging. His new book is fire! Check out our podcast and grab his new book, "The Joy of Letting Go."

• Love
• Surrender
• Learning from the mystics
• Letting go of what you created
• Being in self not being obsessed with SELF

Ether Perel quote, “Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness. One does not exist without the other.”

In this episode, Kim Interviews therapist Elsie Howell and discusses different types of therapy for Eating Disorders and Codependency. This episode will help all of us to reconnect with ourselves so that we can become whole.

Elise collaborates with adults and teen girls (11+) in their journeys with anxiety, trauma, disordered eating, grief and loss, identity development, life transitions, body dissatisfaction, self-esteem, relationship difficulties, and chronic health concerns.

She is passionate about helping teen girls and their families navigate the unpredictable years of adolescence and supporting women to cultivate healthy relationships with their authentic selves. Elise also enjoys working with individuals seeking to understand painful relational patterns and establish peace and boundaries in the present. She supports parents of teens/pre-teens in building skills to coach and connect with their children in tough emotional moments and to foster confidence and independence in their child.

Elise’s approach to therapy is holistic and relational, informed by Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Cognitive Behavior Therapy, and Dialectical Behavior Therapy. She uses Internal Family Systems Therapy and EMDR to support clients to heal from acute and chronic trauma. Elise also provides ERP for clients seeking to overcome anxiety, OCD, and disordered eating patterns. She incorporates creative activities and spirituality into therapy when desired by the client.

In this episode, Kim Honeycutt welcomes Amy Polacko and returning guest Dr. Christine Cocchiola, co-authors of FRAMED: Women in the Family Court Underworld. Amy and Dr. Cocchiola bring their combined expertise to shed light on the complex and often hidden struggles within the family court system. Together, they explore the profound impact of these systemic issues on individuals and communities, emphasizing the importance of resilience, healing, and advocacy. This episode delves into the interconnectedness of trauma, systemic injustice, and the vital role of support systems and grassroots movements in driving meaningful change.

What They Discuss:

• Amy Polacco's journey from TV reporter to domestic abuse advocate.
• Dr. Christine Cocchiola on trauma and systemic failures.
• Exposing injustices women face in family courts.
• Importance of protecting children in abusive situations.
• Power of community support and grassroots movements.

About:

Dr. Christine M. Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW

Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW, has been a social justice advocate since the age of 19 as a domestic abuse/sexual assault crisis counselor and a child welfare advocate. She served as a Board Member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and has actively supported codifying coercive control as the foundation of domestic abuse, writing policy briefs supporting these efforts and providing expert testimony at legislative hearings. Most importantly, through her own experiences as a protective parent, and her clinical expertise as a trauma-trained therapist, researcher, and educator, Dr. Cocchiola understands the impact that coercive control has on both adult and child victims. A college professor teaching social work for over 20 years, she is the creator of The Protective Parenting Program, a program to support protective parents navigating parenting children harmed by a coercive controller. Her other educational programming supports creating a greater awareness for attorneys, mental health clinicians, divorce coaches, and other allies to understand the often insidious nuanced nature of coercive control.

Amy Polacko

Amy Polacko is an award-winning journalist, investigative reporter, and divorce coach who survived a narcissist nightmare. After her own experience, she formed Freedom Warrior Coaching to become the guide she wished she had. Amy earned a Master’s degree from Columbia University’s School of Journalism and was part of the Pulitzer Prize-winning reporting team covering the TWA Flight 800 crash for Newsday. She has coached hundreds of women going through divorce, runs a support group, and writes for national news outlets about coercive control, domestic abuse, divorce, online dating, and singlehood. Her work has been featured in HuffPost, Ms. Magazine, The Washington Post, Newsweek, NBC News, The Independent, and Observer. Amy helps women take their power back before, during, and after divorce. She created a digital course “Divorce Decoded” to educate divorcing women about the process, warnings about family court, how to divorce a narcissist, and tips for avoiding devastating mistakes.

A few things you can do: 

Join our FB FRAMED Book Launch Team: FRAMED Facebook Book Launch Team

Add yourself to our FRAMED email list and check for updates:  www.narcfreepress.org 

Write a review. 

Like our social media posts and share them. 

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Dr. Benjamin Perkus is a Licensed Psychologist who has combined 25 years of Private Practice experience with 19 years of using Essential Oils to create a unique modality for dissolving negative thoughts, feelings, and memories called “The Aroma Freedom Technique.” This integrative modality incorporates elements of EMDR, NET, Polyvagal Theory, Somatic Psychology, Meditative Awareness, Trauma Therapy, and Aromatherapy in a unique yet simple way. He found the process to be so successful that he left his private practice to teach and certify people worldwide in this modality. There are currently over 800 certified practitioners in 39 states and 19 countries, and this approach continues to spread worldwide due to its universal effectiveness in so many areas of life.

Dr. Perkus is the author of “The Aroma Freedom Technique” and has lectured widely about this process through his online portal at www.aromafreedom.com. His mission is to spread this modality throughout the world in order to empower individuals to be free of past burdens and actualize their dreams and goals.

Listen as we learn what flipped Ben's lid. You can read the full show notes and watch the video interview at flipyourlidpodcast.com

Learn more about Kim at kimhoneycutt.com

In this episode, Kim interviews former evangelical pastor Brian Recker and discusses his journey of self-discovery amid political shifts during Donald Trump's rise. Brian reflects on leaving his pastoral role during the COVID-19 pandemic, reevaluating his beliefs, and advocating for LGBTQ+ rights within Christianity. This episode emphasizes authenticity and embracing diversity in religious contexts. 

Here's a sneak peek into what they discuss:

• Brian's transformation and self-discovery journey 
• Advocacy for LGBTQ+ rights within Christianity and efforts to foster inclusivity
• Importance of creating inclusive spiritual environments where individuals can authentically express themselves without judgment or exclusion
• Challenges faced by Brian after leaving the pastorate 
• Evaluating beliefs and their impact with Byron Katie's four questions 
• Emphasis on authenticity and uncertainty in spirituality over theological rigidity

About Brian Recker:

About Brian:

Brian Recker, a former evangelical pastor for over eight years, transitioned from fundamentalism after growing up in a Baptist home and attending Bob Jones University. Moving into mainstream evangelicalism felt progressive compared to his upbringing. Brian later pastored a multi-site church on the North Carolina coast but never felt fully comfortable in the evangelical movement. It took almost a decade for him to realize that his evolution was not complete, and leaving fundamentalism was only the beginning of his spiritual journey.

After spending several years quietly wrestling with where his faith would land, he began speaking publicly on Instagram, where he found out that many people were thinking the same thoughts he was. After quickly gaining 1000,000 followers from his unique, compassionate, yet down-to-earth communication style, he started a podcast, "Sacred Counsel," offering pastoral wisdom to people in their journeys of evolving spirituality. Brian has a Master of Arts in Ministry from Lancaster Bible College and has four children.

Connect:

www.brianrecker.com 

IG: @berecker

Andrew J. Bauman is the Co-Founder & Director of the Christian Counseling Center: For Sexual Health & Trauma (CCC), Andrew J. Bauman is a licensed mental health counselor with a Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology from The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology. Andrew is the author of 5 books, The Sexually Healthy Man, Floating Away, Stumbling Toward Wholeness, The Psychology of Porn, and (with Christy) A Brave Lament.

When Andrew was a young child, he started developing some mental health issues as his parent’s marriage was falling apart. He began to internalize all that trauma in his body all that was going on in his head. His father was a pastor and Vice President of a Christian college. Being a part of a Christian community that had no language to articulate what was going on he just kept moving as if everything was fine, yet his body told him something different.

Andrew hit adolescence right when the internet was becoming readily available and began to self-soothe with pornography. In his words, he found a cheap substitute for God. After thirteen years of addiction to pornography and objectifying and harming women, he found himself on a psychiatric ward nearly killing himself, literally being stripped naked in a padded room.

Through a quote he read on the psych ward, he became determined to find out what makes him come alive because that's what the world needs. He found the courage to hope. He then got his degree and started using his story to reach others who are suffering in similar ways

Andrew wants everyone to understand that much of his harm was not the actual trauma that he suffered whether that was sexual abuse or the destruction of his parents’ marriage. His decision to soothe and his behavior was actually much more complex and harder to undo in the trauma itself.

Listen to the full episode to hear more about what flipped Andrew's lid and how he reconnected with who God says he really is.

Kim and Tasha Hunter dive into a comparison of the trauma system between the church and the military. Tasha provides her personal account as a Black lesbian who is former military and someone who was deeply entrenched in the church system.

They Discuss:  

• Surviving and Thriving 
• Psychedelic Assisted Therapy 
• Importance of Community 
• Recognizing trauma within authority figures
• Don’t ask, don’t tell psychological damage

Also, please note there is some discussion of sexual assault within the military. Please take care of yourself around this difficult trigger. 

Tasha's Bio:

Tasha Hunter, MSW, LCSW is Black, queer Internal Family Systems therapist and consultant. She is the owner of Ascension Growth Center, PLLC which is located in North Carolina. As a United States Air Force veteran, she primarily serves Black and BIPOC women and the LGBTQ+ community. She is the author of her memoir, "What Children Remember," contributing author in the anthology " She Lives Her Truth", and host of the podcast " When We Speak". She is passionate about speaking about adult child trauma, suicide, and collective healing and liberation.

Connect with Tasha:

www.tashahunterlcsw.com

IG @tashahunterlcsw

In this episode, Kim Honeycutt interviews Molly Barker and gets the inside story of how Molly founded Girls On The Run, Molly's personal struggle with alcohol, and how she incorporates everything she's learned into her life today. 

From Molly:

I am Molly Barker, best known as the Founder of Girls on the Run International. (www.girlsontherun.org) My two children know me as Mom. To some, I am a recovering alcoholic; to others, a former Ironman triathlete and competitive cyclist. To my friends, I am an adventurer, seeker, and realistic peace-bringer.

Molly's Bio:

"The founder of Girls on the Run and a globally recognized role model for positive change, Molly Barker inspires all people to embrace their individual strengths, ask the hard questions of themselves, and realize their potential to change the world.

Molly Barker is the founder of Girls on the Run International, the program that uses running to empower girls. A four-time Hawaii Ironman triathlete, Molly, used her background in social work, counseling, and teaching to develop the program. Since Barker founded it in 1996, it has served two million girls and earned her numerous accolades, including the Daily Point of Light Award, given by President Obama and Former President Bush in a ceremony at the White House.

After retiring from the organization in 2013, she was asked to join the Bipartisan Policy Center's Commission on Political Reform, a Washington group seeking ways to bridge the political divide in Congress. By the time its 29 members of the commission made recommendations, however, Barker had decided the real problem was bigger than Congress. It was all of us.

That was when she began formulating an idea for The Red Boot Way, a new organization whose name was inspired by the gift of a pair of red boots from her daughter Helen.

Red Boot Way groups have now popped up in cities all across America and serve as a great tool/method to resolve conflict and bring greater understanding between people, whether in the workplace, communities and/or in personal relationships. www.theredbootway.org

Molly is the mother of two children: James and Helen. When asked recently what her mom does for a living, Helen responded, "My mom listens and loves people for her living."

Connect With Molly:

https://mollybarker.com/

LaTosha, or Tosh as she’s called by her friends, accepted Christ as her Lord and Savior at the age of 13, a few shorts months after the death of her mother.

She is a widow and mom to five energetic, unapologetic children—    some with severe and some with mild special needs. Her husband, George, who she affectionately called Mr. Jenkins, passed away unexpectedly due to kidney complications in 2018. On the face of it, her life has been a blemished record marked by grief.  But a deeper, discerning eye would see the hand of God in shaping her faith to count it all joy.

A graduate of Davidson College, LaTosha works professionally as a realtor.  Entirely, she is a devoted Christian who is beginning the seminary journey as she answers the call to ministry. She is a member of Huntersville United Methodist Church where she currently serves as a Christian Formation and Communications Intern.

Read more and view the video of this interview at flipyourlidpodcast.com.

Michael Shahan is the real deal. His vulnerability, combined with his vast insight into the world of psychology, including the Enneagram, allowed for a fun and informative conversation. Join Kim and Michael as they nerd out on Polyvagal Theory with the Enneagram, couples therapy, and how to be an approachable psychotherapist. Basically, this is free therapy! Enjoy!

About Michael:

Michael Shahan is a licensed Marriage and Family therapist best known for utilizing the Enneagram in his practice and training other therapists and mental health professionals to do the same. His courses, “Enneagram for Therapists” and “Polyvagal Theory and the Enneagram,” are certified by the National Board for Certified Counselors for continuing education. He will also be presenting this year at the 2023 International Enneagram Association Global Conference. Michael is the father of two, lives in Kansas City, and has a semi-secret watercolor hobby that he practices regularly. 

Michael's Enneagram For Therapists Course is a 6-week training that begins April 25th.

You can use code FLIPYOURLID for $50 off at michaelshahan.com 

(direct link with code- https://michaelshahan.com/discount/FLIPYOURLID?redirect=%2Fproducts%2Fenneagram-for-therapists-an-enneagram-course-for-therapists-and-mental-health-professionals)

And here's a link to his retreat in Costa Rica: https://trovatrip.com/trip//central-america/costa-rica/costa-rica-with-michael--shahan--oct-2023

In this episode, Kim interviews the amazing Danté Stewart as they discuss what it means to be Shoutin’ in the Fire, his upcoming book, and so much more.

• Loss and Grief
• Learning to Love Yourself
• Reconciling our Past and Present
• Effects of Racism on Metal Health
• Taking Control of The Narrative
• Grief That Expands Us
• Injustice and Indifference
• Assimilation
• Dismantling The Idea of White Jesus
• Marginalized Communities Being Free
• DOG - Discipline, Originality, and Grit

Danté Stewart is a minister, essayist, and cultural critic. He is the author of Shoutin’ In The Fire: An American Epistle. Named by Religion News Service as one of “Ten Up-And-Coming Faith Influencers,” his work has appeared on CNN, The New York Times, The Washington Post, ESPN’s The Undefeated, Sojourners, and more.

He received his B.A. in Sociology from Clemson University. He is currently studying at the Candler School of Theology at Emory University in Atlanta, Ga.

In Shoutin’ in the Fire, Danté Stewart gives breathtaking language to his reckoning with the legacy of white supremacy—both the kind that hangs over our country and the kind that is internalized on a molecular level. Stewart uses his personal experiences as a vehicle to reclaim and reimagine spiritual virtues like rage, resilience, and remembrance—and explores how these virtues might function as a work of love against an unjust, unloving world.

You can connect with Danté Stewart on his website https://www.dantecstewart.com/ and on IG @stewartdantec

You can purchase Danté Stewart's book here Shoutin’ In The Fire

Kim had the absolute privilege to sit and speak with K.J. Ramsey. K.J. is a highly skilled counselor who is also the author of many books. Her most recent one is The Lord is My Courage.

Kim and K.J. discuss: 

• Prayer vs. Autonomic Nervous System
• Dismissive vs. Safe People
• Chronic pain & Trauma
• Resiliency & Mentalization
• Modalities of Therapy & Grounding Techniques 
• And much more! Basically, it is free therapy!

K.J.'s Bio:

K.J. Ramsey is a trauma-informed licensed professional counselor and writer whose work offers space to see every part of our souls and stories as sacred. She holds degrees from Covenant College and Denver Seminary and is the author of This Too Shall Last. Her writing has been published in Christianity Today, RELEVANT, The Huffington Post, Health Central, Catalyst, and Fathom Magazine on the integration of theology, psychology, and spiritual formation. She and her husband, Ryan, live near Denver, Colorado.

Connect with K.J. online at kjramsey.com and across social media @kjramseywrites.

Meghan Tschanz is a writer, speaker, and former missionary who is passionate about empowering women and reclaiming feminism for the Christian faith. A 2010 graduate of the University of Colorado, she's the author of the forthcoming book "Women Rising: Learning to Listen, Reclaiming Our Voice" and host of the Faith and Feminism podcast. She and her husband, Dustin, live in northeast Georgia.

LINKS

Podcast:

podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/faith-and-feminism/id1438368947

Website:

meghantschanz.com

Instagram:

instagram.com/meghantschanz

Book:

ivpress.com/women-rising

In this episode, Kim Honeycutt interviews Liz Cooledge Jenkins as they explore religious trauma within the church, stressing the need for inclusive leadership and challenging the dominance of an all-white male perspective in theological discussions. It emphasizes diverse interpretations, values scripture in deconstruction/reconstruction, and addresses the pervasive issue of abuse in religious communities. Guest Liz Cooledge Jenkins discusses her book, "Nice Churchy Patriarchy: Reclaiming Women's Humanity from Evangelicalism," available on platforms like Amazon, Bookshop.org, and Barnes & Noble.

About Liz:

Liz Cooledge Jenkins is a Seattle-based writer, preacher, former college campus minister, and the author of Nice Churchy Patriarchy: Reclaiming Women’s Humanity from Evangelicalism. Her work has appeared in places like Sojourners, The Christian Century, and Red Letter Christians.

Liz blogs regularly at lizcooledgejenkins.com and can be found on IG @lizcoolj and @postevangelicalprayers. When not

writing or reading, she enjoys swimming, hiking, attempting to grow vegetables, and drinking a lot of tea. 

Flip Your Lid podcast is dedicated to exploring different therapeutic modalities. In this episode, Kim has the privilege of interviewing Amanda Ferrat who is an advanced Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) practitioner. EFT is an alternative therapeutic method to treat physical pain and emotional distress. Amanda Ferrat is the founder of Value Yourself Counseling. Amanda took the time to share with us about her personal journey to wellness and how EFT tapping allowed her to sail to a whole new level of emotional health which she now professionally offers to her clients. Kim has been curious about EFT tapping for some time and this interview may be just want you need to satisfy your own curiosity about this amazing modality. 

Amanda is the founder of Value Yourself Counseling, a certified Advanced EFT Practitioner, emotional wellness counselor, and international speaker. She works hard to create safer and braver containers for others to break through barriers and limitations to build new thought patterns and beliefs that allow them to embody their inner Badass and obtain emotional freedom.  Amanda has a Bachelor of Science in Family Science from Montana State University. She worked in a variety of mental health and social services settings over her professional career. Amanda pursued a Masters of Social Work from Portland State University. Unfortunately, she experienced a great number of losses in a short span of time and grad school was no longer the right fit. She honored her grief and emotional needs instead and began a deep healing journey. She tried talk therapy, EMDR, hypnosis, grief groups, and much more. Yet EFT unlocked the magic for Amanda. She knew that she not only needed to learn EFT for her own healing and well-being, but that it was what she was meant to do in the world moving forward. Amanda combines her knowledge, lived experience, and professional skills in her practice. Amanda works with anyone who identifies as a woman or is non-binary, and adolescents and teens.

In this episode, Kim and Dr. Tate-Scruse discuss intimacy partner violence and therapeutic approaches.

Who is Dr. Melissa E. Tate-Scruse:

I am a thriving mental health professional with a multitude of practical 

experiences within both public and private domains of behavioral health 

over 15 years. Before relocating to North Carolina, I had been 

instrumental in the delivery of therapeutic services to some of the most

clinically complicated cases in the State of Maryland. My practical 

experiences in working with emotionally unhealthy children, adolescents,

 adults and disrupted families for over 6 years allowed me to flourish 

as a clinician and professional counselor. I now carry that expertise 

into private mental health care and into the academic arena for 

Counselor Education at the Masters and Doctorate level. Whether your 

interest in my services is for personal change, professional growth, 

cooperative networking, or coaching/consultation, you should know that I

 pride myself on being able to establish a purposeful interpersonal 

working relationship as a platform for personal goal attainment and 

life/career satisfaction. 

Julie Owens survived a domestic violence (DV) kidnapping and stabbing in 1988, then developed DV programs including hospital and counselor training programs, an ER crisis team, and a faith-based shelter. Her story is in the documentary “Broken Vows: Religious Perspectives on Domestic Violence”. She has directed DV trauma research at the National Center for PTSD, coordinated DV efforts in a mental health authority, counseled substance-using survivors, and overseen victim service agencies. Julie works nationally and globally to train employees of governments and businesses, including the Bank of America. She’s an Expert Consultant who has consulted for the U.S. Dept of Justice Office for Victims of Crime, the U.S. DHHS National Human Trafficking, the U.S. Dept. of State, and Bank of America. Julie’s focus is on survivor-centered and trauma-informed victim advocacy in secular and faith-based settings. 

Watch and read this episode at flipyourlidpodcast.com

Nicole Madonna received her master’s in Social Work from Fordham University. She has an extensive background in college mental health, program development, training and therapy with adults for the past 20 years.

Her clinical focus has been in treating complex trauma including survivors of sexual and interpersonal violence, grief and loss, intersectional identities and the trauma associated with this, work with the LGBT community, (specifically transgender and gender non-conforming individuals), and crisis intervention and assessment.

She is bilingual in Spanish and has spent much of her professional life working and living in communities of predominantly Spanish speaking individuals and families. Nicole has an eclectic approach to treating individuals. She incorporates feminist theory, relational cultural theory, and existential and narrative therapy.

She is trained in ACT, CBT, and various crisis and trauma response and intervention techniques. She utilizes an intersectional social justice lens to help work with all aspects of the client’s experiences.

In this episode, Nicole shares how she came to a point of burnout and compassion fatigue in her professional life, leading to a transition into running her own practice serving other clinicians. Her own therapy process revealed raging imposter syndrome, a concept she educates us on in this interview. Check it out!

This week, my friend Dr. LaTonya Summers is sharing her story of victory, healing, and championing the black mental health community. You'll be fascinated to find that Dr. Summers spend time in foster care, was kidnapped twice, overcame trauma, and sought an education in counseling in order to find healing. Join us as we find out what flipped her lid and where God has taken her since then!

Dr. LaTonya Summers is an award-winning assistant professor of clinical mental health counseling at Jacksonville University. There, she brings 24 years of clinical mental health and addiction counseling experience and conducts research on multicultural issues in counseling and supervision.

Her work is featured in scholarly journals and at international and national professional conferences.

Summers founded the national annual Black Mental Health Symposium, a conference aimed to equip mental health professionals with culturally-specific skills to improve mental wellness in Black communities.

She serves as the president of the Florida Association for Multicultural Counseling and Development and has been featured in O Magazine.

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In this "Flip Your Lid with Kim Honeycutt" episode, join us as Kim interviews Dr. Carol George, a pioneer and expert in attachment theory, as she unravels the depths of attachment patterns and the interplay of trauma. They explore each attachment pattern: secure, ambivalent, and avoidant alongside lesser-known dismissive failed blocked mourning and preoccupied with suffering. Gain insights into adult manifestations and the interplay of biology, trauma, and defense mechanisms. They also discuss The Adult Attachment Projective Picture System © (AAP) as the best assessment for determining your attachment pattern.

• Attachment patterns, including secure, ambivalent, avoidant, and lesser-known patterns, such as dismissive failed blocked mourning and preoccupied with suffering.
• Adult manifestations of attachment patterns and how they shape relationships and behaviors.
• The interplay of biology, trauma, and defense mechanisms in the context of attachment.
• Understanding and recognizing one's attachment pattern for personal growth and relationship dynamics is important.
• Introduction and discussion of The Adult Attachment Projective Picture System © (AAP) as a comprehensive assessment tool for determining one's attachment pattern.
• How the AAP can provide valuable insights into the complexities of attachment and contribute to self-awareness.

About Dr. Carol George:

Carol George, Ph.D., is Professor Emerita of Psychology at Mills College in Oakland, California, and has been a pioneer in developing attachment assessments for children and adults. George is an internationally renowned attachment expert who was a co-director of the Mills College Infant Mental Health program for 21 years. Working alongside Dr. Main and Dr. Kaplan, her dissertation helped develop the Adult Attachment Interview. She is praised for her work as an author and editor, and is known for her contributions to attachment-based representative assessments like the Caregiving Interview, the Attachment Doll Play Projective Assessment, and “Disorganized Attachment and Caregiving,” alongside Judith Soloman. Her other contributions include “The Adult Attachment Projective Picture System” with Malcolm West. Although retired from being a professor, George is still incredibly active and stays busy being an assistant editor on the editorial board of Attachment and Human Development, as well as the Director of the AAP Training Consortium. Her dedication to education is still prevalent as she often hosts extensive clinical consultations with practicing therapists, graduate students, and other students of attachment.

Contact Information & Resources:

AAPInfo@Comcast.net – Contact information if you're interested in AAP

Adult Attachment Publications – List of credible publications and learning materials

Attachment Projective – Official website with training opportunities and resources

Kelli Underwood, LCSW is a seasoned speaker, consultant, and psychotherapist, specializing in the field of trauma since 1996.  Kelli inspires the changes her clients desire personally, professionally, or organizationally. She cultivates dynamic trainings and speaking experiences with her charisma, contagious energy, and skillfulness in teaching you HOW to create sustainable change. Kelli facilitates training with organizations, various groups, schools, school systems, and individuals on a wide range of topics.  Kelli was the Director of Child and Family Programs at Chicago at the Center For Contextual Change for fifteen years and an adjunct faculty member at the University of Chicago’s Master’s in Social Work Program for seven years, prior to launching her own business in 2013.  Kelli has specialized in facilitating healing from all forms of traumatic experiences for children, adolescents, adults, couples, and families. Kelli strives to help those affected by trauma to be able to have the tools they need to live healthy and fulfilling lives. She provides powerful healing retreats and trainings in Transformative Insight Imagery, a holistic healing technique. Her techniques and unique ability to connect with people at all stages on their healing journey have earned her praise from her peers and clients alike.

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Bridget Zoltek is the founder of Unlimited Learning. She is an Educational Therapist and Christian Life Coach in private practice since 2003. While operating Unlimited Learning, Bridget has written five books. Her “SMART Study Skills” Student Edition and teachers guide have been used as a study skill curriculum in two of the top Christian private schools in Central Florida since they were published in 2012. Before devoting herself to Unlimited Learning, Bridget was the Director of a private Cognitive Development Clinic. During her time there, she was trained in and used over 30 different research-based programs, headed the research department, trained and supervised clinicians, and provided professional development. In addition to being an industry leader in learning, Bridget is a mother. She is also both a fine artist and a licensed commercial artist. Her art features imagery of hope, healing, and joy.

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Interviewee: Meg Carber, RD LDN CNSC (she/her)

Meg Carber is a Registered Dietitian, but more importantly, she is a compassionate and trauma-informed woman who cares deeply about her profession and all humans. Meg shares her journey of transformation from a cognitive behavioral practitioner to being an embodied recovery practitioner.

Meg and Kim discuss:

• Polyvagal and Eating Disorders
• Trauma and new ways to view eating disorders
• Maladaptive behavior and trauma
• Top Down & Bottom Up Therapeutic Approaches
• How to not teach our kids how to disconnect from self
• How to not use food in destructive ways with self and our children
• Co-regulation and neuroception
• Defining personal safety

Bio: Meg Carber is a sports and eating disorder Dietitian and founder of Nourished + Strong nutrition counseling located in Huntersville, NC. Meg and her team blend a “top down” and “bottom up” approach to help clients reconnect with, understand, and trust their bodies to fuel recovery, health, and sport.

Connect with Meg:

@megcarberrdn on Instagram, TikTok, Pinterest

Website: www.nourished-strong.com

In this episode, Kim chats with Chris Kratzer, a former conservative evangelical pastor who shares his powerful story of transformation. Chris discusses his shift from a strict, judgmental faith to a more compassionate and inclusive spirituality.

He recalls his early days in ministry, driven by ego and rigid beliefs against women in ministry and LGBTQ+ individuals. A major turning point came when he faced severe anxiety, depression, and a near-suicidal moment, which changed his understanding of God and faith.

Chris emphasizes honesty and the struggle against the control in evangelical circles. He talks about the loneliness he experienced while deconstructing his faith. Despite the challenges, Chris's story is one of hope and renewal, finding a more genuine and compassionate faith.

Join us for an inspiring and thought-provoking conversation on faith, honesty, and the power of compassion.

About Chris:

Chris Kratzer is a pastor and author of 25 years. His transition away from conservative Evangelicalism has served thousands around the world in discovering a faith that doesn’t require one to lose their mind, heart, and self in the process. Chris purposes his writing on being a voice for the spiritually oppressed that they may know they are loved, affirmed, and not alone, while also calling the evils of modern, conservative Christianity out of the shadows. Chris is married with four children.

Connect with Chris:

Website: ChrisKratzer.com

IG: @eckratzer

Mako and Kim discuss his expansive knowledge about abortion, including his book Abortion Policy and Christian Social Ethics in the United States. Mako shares about his Asian-American culture and his love for Jesus. Mako gives a refreshing and thought-provoking description of restorative versus retributive justice. Mako is the Director of the Anastasis Center and schools Kim about its meaning.

Mako Nagasawa (BA/BS Stanford University; MTS Holy Cross Greek Orthodox Seminary) is the Director of The Anástasis Center for Christian Education and Ministry. He and his team write curriculum, and teach, on how early Christian restorative justice and healing atonement are relevant for today’s racial and political issues, for emotional development, and ministry today. Mako has contributed to NIV God’s Justice Bible (2016) and Honor, Shame, and the Gospel (2020). He has lived in Christian intentional communities since 1995 and lives with his wife Ming in Dorchester, MA.

Connect with Mako on his website AnastasisCenter.org

In this episode, Kim Honeycutt interviews Dr. Chuck DeGroat, a therapist and spiritual director, about navigating profound personal transformation and reconnecting with one’s true self. They discuss the impact of life-changing moments, Dr. DeGroat's journey through emotional neglect and health crises, and the role of self-awareness and boundaries. The conversation covers the Enneagram, compassion fatigue, and how to stay grounded amid polarized social and political landscapes. Tune in for insights on personal growth, vulnerability, and spiritual healing.

What They Discuss:

• Personal Transformation: Moments that dramatically alter one's life path and the journey to reconnect with the true self.
• Dr. Chuck DeGroat’s Story: His personal experiences with emotional neglect and a health crisis.
• "Flipping Your Lid": How life-changing disruptions can impact personal growth and self-discovery.
• Enneagram Insights: The role of the Enneagram in understanding oneself and facilitating growth.
• Self-Awareness and Boundaries: The significance of setting boundaries and cultivating self-awareness for healing.
• Navigating Polarization: Approaches to maintaining emotional resilience and groundedness in a divided world.
• Contemplative Practices: The impact of solitude and prayer on personal and spiritual development.

About Chuck DeGroat, PhD, LPC

"I’m a follower of Jesus, a husband to Sara for 30 years, and father to two amazing daughters. I serve as Professor of Counseling and Christian Spirituality and Executive Director of the Clinical Mental Health Counseling Program at Western Theological Seminary Holland MI. I’m also a faculty member for the Soul Care Institute.

I’m a licensed therapist, a spiritual director, author of five books, and retreat leader/speaker. As a therapist, I’ve specialized in issues of abuse and trauma, pastoral (and leadership) health, and navigating issues of doubt and dark nights on the faith journey. I’m also a Minister of Word and Sacrament in the Reformed Church in America. I pastored in Orlando and San Francisco before transitioning to training and forming pastors. I also train clergy in issues of abuse and trauma, conduct pastor and planter assessments, facilitate church consultations and investigations of abuse among pastors and within congregations.

My newest book is coming in early October and is available for pre-order now. It’s called Healing What’s Within: Coming Home to Yourself and to God When You’re Weary, Wounded, and Wandering. "

Connect:

ChuckDegroat.net

IG: @chuckdegroat

Resources Mentioned:

Elizabeth O'Connor - Author of "Our Many Selves"

Barbara Holmes - Author of "The Spirit of Revelation: Visionary Experiences in the Black Church."

Dr. Richard Schwartz – Noted for his work on Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy.

Susan David – Author of "Emotional Agility."

Charles Eisenstein – Mentioned for his work on the sacred nature of the world and the concept of interconnectedness.

Tara Brach – Author of "Radical Acceptance" and "Radical Compassion."

Ruth King – Author of "Mindful of...

Liz Burkholder is an integrative nurse practitioner, hypnotherapist, and trauma specialist. She is also a childhood trauma survivor herself. Her mission is to help others actually heal from trauma and reclaim their lives. Trauma Focused Hypnotherapy is one of the main therapies she uses with her clients. Liz is currently pursuing a Ph.D. in Mind-Body Medicine from Saybrook University.

Connect with Liz:

burkholderwellness.com 

facebook.com/BurkholderWellness

instagram.com/burkholderwellness

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Jason Clark is a pastor, writer, producer, and many more titles. He is also a cisgender, white male who was removed from a church because he had different ideas about the Bible. This is his story about leaving and rediscovering Jesus.

Jason Clark is the lead communicator at A Family Story. Jason has written 5 books including, Prone To Love, and, God Is (Not) In Control. He has written and produced films in several genres including documentaries, faith-based discipleship, and entertainment.

A natural storyteller, Jason writes and speaks with authenticity. His stories inspire awe and wonder in the goodness of God. Jason’s mission is to reveal that God is love and His love is always good. He and his wife, Karen, live in Charlotte, North Carolina, with their three children.

Josh Scott shares his personal story about what inspired him to dig deeper into the Bible and his own belief system to be able to truly love ALL God’s people. Josh is the lead pastor of GracePointe Church, a progressive Christian community in Nashville, TN. 

In this episode Kim and friend Thomas Floyd will flip your lid as they discuss topics such as narcissim in the church, the myth of separation and failing upward.

Thomas Floyd, MA, LCMHC is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor with an MA in Mental Health Counseling from Grace College and Seminary in Winona Lake, Indiana. His expertise includes pre-marital counseling, couples counseling, family reconciliation, conflict resolution, trauma, grief, anxiety, depression, and spiritual growth and development. Thomas is originally from Santiago, Chile and is happy to provide counseling services in Spanish. In his counseling practice, Thomas passionately pursues individual emotional and mental health to improve relationships, achieve personal goals, and live a whole-hearted life. Thomas enjoys using tools like the Enneagram and integrating spirituality in order to achieve greater personal awareness.

Email: thomasfloyd@inwardcounselingpllc.com

Web: www.inwardcounselingpllc.com

Instagram: @thomasffloyd