Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast (Ali Jackson)

With Thanksgiving right around the corner, Ali & Roark are here this week to discuss a very timely topic: meeting the family. When’s the “right time” to meet someone’s family? Should you bring a gift? What if your relationship to your family isn’t exactly stellar? They answer these questions along with many more and share horror and success stories of their own. In the updates section, Ali gets vulnerable and lets the listeners in on some of her anxious feelings, and Roark recaps her New York visit. Also, this episode has a particularly fun feel as most of it was recorded when Ali & Roark were together in person!

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 23:20

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Do men really love bitches? What IS a bitch, anyway? And can we take anything away from a book that was written over 20 years ago?? Ali & Erica debate a list of “attraction principles” from the recently-resurged bestseller book, “Why Men Love Bitches” by Sherry Argov to find out.

In Updates, Erica channels vacation energy with some IRL encounters and Ali prepares to channel Erica.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 29.

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Don’t think you can relate to non-monogamy? Psychotherapist Rachel Wright just might change your mind. We talk about how relationship frameworks are changing, her personal journey from monogamy to non-monogamy, the difference between rules and agreements (and how to determine them), plus much more from listener questions!

In updates, Erica channels vacation energy to meet a man in the wild and also introduces Ali to a new guy!

Where to find Rachel: On Instagram @thewright_rachel, her website rachelwrightnyc.com, and her podcast The Wright Conversations.

Timestamps: Rachel joins us at around minute 23.

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This week, we’re talking plus-sized dating with Alex Stewart & Nicci Nunez of the Swipe Fat podcast!! We take listener questions about tips for your dating app profile, achieving self confidence while dating, red flags to look for, and so much more. Note: Erica’s wifi gave her major issues this week and so Ali interviews Alex & Nicci on her own.

In updates, Ali continues her romance with The Publicist and Erica has her first date as an LA resident.

Where to find Alex & Nicci: On Instagram @swipefat, on TikTok @swipefat, at www.swipefatpodcast.com.

Timestamps: Alex & Nicci joins us at around minute 47.

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This week, Ali & Roark chat with Kendra Allen aka Your Break Up Bestie! They talk all about actionable steps to recover from a break up, and they dive into Kendra’s new book, “The Break-Up Workbook.” For example – how to deal with getting your stuff back, cleansing your social media, and whether the no-contact rule is the way to go. Before Kendra joins the pod, Roark shares her great third date, and Ali’s life has taken a real Disney princess turn as birds are literally flocking to her.

Timestamps: Kendra joins the show at around minute 25.

Where to find Kendra: at her website www.breakupbestie.com, and on Instagram @yourbreakupbestie. And of course, buy her book “The Break-Up Workbook.”

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Are you trying to go on more dates this year? How about 200? Talia Koren, otherwise known as @dating.intentionally, joins FMH this week to tell Ali & Erica all about her journey from a breakup to a healthy relationship. She went on 200 dates in less than a year and shares the most important things she learned along the way!

But first, Erica has a Hot Chocolate update (or lack thereof) and Ali is seeing a troubling pattern from dating app matches.

Where to find Talia: On Instagram @dating.intentionally and on her podcast, Dating Intentionally.

Timestamps: Talia joins us at around minute 21.

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Ali & Roark welcome Alyssa Dineen, stylist and author of the book The Art of Online Dating, onto the podcast this week to discuss discovering your personal style, being confident in your clothes, and what to never wear on a first date. It’s a super fun conversation and don’t blame us if it results in either a closet clean out or a trip to your favorite store! But first, Ali reveals that phone-throwing moments are back in earnest including a Bumble match who is familiar with Ali’s alter ego… Timestamps: Alyssa joins the podcast for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 30:40 Where to find Alyssa: her website - https://stylemyprofilenyc.com/ and her Instagram - @alyssadineen. Take the style quiz at https://content.leadquizzes.com/lp/O3mVbZQcoQ If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

*CW: This episode centers on body image and mentions intentional weight loss & disordered eating. We continue our Storytime series highlighting listener stories with Heather Boddy, a plus-size fitness professional who shares her journey with body image. The three of us dive into what fitness means to her (and what it does not), her best tips for hyping up our friends in their own journeys, and much more.

In updates, Ali had QUITE the week with four dating-related activities (including back-to-back first dates) and Erica has found a treasure trove of NYC men.

Where to find Heather: On Instagram @heatherboddy

Timestamps: Heather joins us at around minute 37.

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Ali & Roark are joined by Jillian Richardson to talk about a different type of relationship – friendships! They discuss navigating conflict with friends, how to make new friends, friend “break ups,” and overall celebrate the complexity of female friendships! During Updates, Roark and Ali both have matchmaker dates to recap!

Timestamps: Jillian joins the show for a Myth Buster and Topic Talk at around 25:40

Where to find Jillian: at her website www.thatjillian.com and on Instagram @thatjillian

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Ali & Erica have a first date guide for you this week! We’re breaking down everything you need to know: getting from dating app convo to date, pre-date texting guidelines, first date arrival logistics, conversation tips to avoid and awkwardness, and so much more.

In Updates, Erica finds out why people call LA “Flake City” as she prepares for multiple first dates. Meanwhile, Ali is back from Costa Rica and reflects on her communication with Mr. Worldwide.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 25.

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How much in common do you have to have with the person you’re dating? Do opposites attract, or do birds of a feather flock together? Ali & Roark discuss a HuffPost article “8 Things You *Don’t* Need To Have In Common With Your Future Spouse” and answer a few listener questions as they parse through what important commonalities are, and which ones matter less. As always, they share their personal updates first. Ali had a very promising fist date, which included a controversial gift (at least Roark thinks so), and Roark’s mom meets the Classmate! Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 32:20 This episode starts out with a preview of our Patreon episode. There, you’ll hear us get a little deeper about what we’re going through, and you’ll get our personal updates much earlier and more in real time. Join us at www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

Erica & Ali could not HELP but let this interview with ShrinkChicks (aka Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT & Emmalee Bierly, LMFT) run a bit long because, y’all, it is incredible. The foursome starts off discussing how difficult it can be to find a therapist and offer some advice for navigating that journey. Then, we move into our most popular listener submission: boundaries and conflict. What is a boundary, anyway? How best to set one to invite closeness (because it turns out that’s what boundaries are for!)? Is there a right way to handle conflict in any type of relationship? And so much more.

In Updates, Erica gets film back from a recent taping while Ali reunites with Skyline after 3 weeks apart.

Where to find Jennifer & Emmalee: On Instagram @shrinkchicks, on TikTok @shrinkchicks, at www.shrinkchicks.com and on the ShrinkChicks Podcast.

Timestamps: Jennifer & Emmalee join us at around minute 24.

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This bonus episode features an exclusive Patreon preview to stay on track with Ali and Erica’s dating updates. Ali recaps an awkward first date that never seems to end, while Erica finds herself in a scenario where she’s fighting her instincts. 

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Do you have updated information on your fertility? This week, we share our journeys discovering our own and Ali details her egg freezing process. We discuss seeking fertility testing, administering egg freezing shots by yourself, and navigating dating while going through any of this.

In updates, Ali bites the bullet on HingeX and has the stats on her experience thus far. Erica completes a key part of her move to L.A. and shares some family news.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 55.

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We Met At Acme host Lindsey Metselaar joins Finding Mr. Height this week! We debate a slew of Weird or Nah and Mythbusters submissions, then dive into what Lindsey’s learned from marriage and her journey with being sober. We wrap things up with some stellar dating app banter suggestions, pulled straight from your Hinge submissions.

But first, Erica gets a blast from the (recent) past on Valentine’s Day and Ali laments the current dating app landscape.

Where to find Lindsey: On Instagram @wemetatacme and @lindsmetz or on her podcast, We Met At Acme.

Timestamps: Lindsey joins us at around minute 29.

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It’s a longgg awaited topic on FMH - plastic surgery and cosmetic procedures. We dive into the shift in recent statistics in these areas and how the last few years have shifted all of our perceptions of ourselves. Then, we get personal, both sharing our own experiences with plastic surgery and how we feel about it years later.

In updates, Erica has a fun facetime and a promising mini golf adventure. Meanwhile, Ali has her first first date of 2023.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 31.

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It’s Erica’s first official episode as Finding Mr. Height’s new cohost! We’re kicking things off with an introduction for the listeners using questions *from* the listeners. But first, Ali recaps her second date with The Padre and encounters a Weird or Nah idea, while Erica has an unsettling experience trying to meet a man “in the wild.” Then, the two dive into Erica’s two most significant exes, Eggs Benedict and The Relationship Guy. 

Timestamps: Erica’s interview begins at around minute 28. 

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Jared Freid is fresh off his hilarious Netflix special, 37 & Single, and answering your listener questions! What’s the right way to set two people up? Are there certain dating app answers he hates seeing? And many more, followed by what might be our new favorite game: Pick The Ick.

In Updates, Erica hears back from The Accountant and embarks on an NYC dating challenge. Meanwhile, Ali is feeling optimistic about her IRL dating prospects and has a date on the calendar.

Where to find Jared: On Instagram @jaredfreid, on TikTok @wizardofha, at www.jaredfreid.com.

Timestamps: Jared joins us at around minute 40.

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Have you ever considered picking up and moving to a new city? Julia Mazur, host of the Pretty Much Done podcast, did just that. Having spent her whole life in Los Angeles, she moved to Austin after a break up and has never been happier. And, in addition, to her move, we get into a great discussion about hyper-independence and how it can affect relationships. It’s a conversation you don’t want to miss!

In Updates, Ali & Erica are fresh off their D.C. show and Erica has some very exciting news for our listeners in the area. Meanwhile, Ali has her third date with Mr. Worldwide and reflects on what she appreciates about him while also enjoying a fantastic birthday party.

Where to find Julia: On Instagram @pmdpod, on TikTok @pmdpod, at www.prettymuchdonepod.com.

Timestamps: Julia joins us at around minute 31.

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Thoughts and prayers to Ali & Roark this week as they wade into the murky waters of dating and finances. Money can be quite the taboo topic and they hope to start breaking that down by discussing sensitive questions like how to split finances, financial power dynamics and insecurities, and of course, they couldn’t not discuss the classic – who pays on a first date? Ali tells Roark about a first date and another one set up for next week; and for once, Roark is the one on another continent!

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around minute 29.

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We always hear, “it will happen when you least expect it,” but letting go of societal timelines and expectations isn’t as easy as a catchy phrase. Enter Beth Gulotta, therapist and host of Quiet The Clock podcast. We chat with Beth about quieting the noise surrounding what you “should” be doing (hint: stop using that word!) and getting more in touch with your inner voice. She gives incredible advice on dealing with social pressure, the urge to compare yourself to others, feeling present in the now while working towards the future, and more.

In Updates, Ali introduces Skyline to one of her oldest friends and looks forward to a surprise celebration he’s planning. Erica is preparing for a month-long trip and looking forward to some much-needed family time. Plus, with their moms trip coming up, the gals chat about a TikTok trend about being close with your mom.

Where to find Beth: On Instagram @quiettheclockpod, on TikTok @quiettheclockpod, at www.quiettheclock.com.

Timestamps: Beth joins us at around minute 34.

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It’s a Finding Mr. Height first – someone we have dated is on the pod! Ali & Roark welcome the next “30-something man,” who happens to be Mr. Nobody. He answers questions about being friends with exes, date prep, feeling ready for exclusivity, and picking someone up IRL. First, during updates, Roark tells a story about a man from the past who slid into the DMs recently, and Ali shares a story about how the Disco Ball showed up for her.

Timestamps: Mr. Nobody joins the pod for a MythBusters and Topic Talk begins at around 38:40

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Ali & Erica are answering your questions in a Hot Topics episode this week! First, a listener has a crush on a friend of a friend…does he like her back? Second, a listener wonders how to know if she’s experiencing the slow burn or just a lack of attraction. Lastly, a listener runs into an ex while on a date. Should she reach out?

In Updates, Erica goes on a date (maybe??) and has a prediction for the future. We chat about our new years’ resolutions and debate a rising trend: AI girlfriends.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 37.

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Dating Definitions is back for round two! We continue last week’s discussion, starting with the wiiiiiild number of ghosting-adjacent terminologies. Who knew haunting and orbiting were different? And what is a sneaky link? Or a groundhog?

But first, Erica has some HUGE career news, Ali gets more info on her new matchmaker date, and we both feel burned out by swiping. 

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at minute 34.

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Psychotherapist Charisse Cooke is back on the pod this week and Erica & Ali could have talked to her for hours! Our conversation focuses on attachment theory, answering listener questions such as how to self soothe an anxious attachment, best strategies for navigating an anxious/avoidant dynamic, and why avoidant attachment gets such a bad rap.

In Updates, Ali reflects on project management in a relationship while Erica plans her third date with Tony Soprano.

Where to find Charisse: On Instagram @charissecooke, on TikTok @charissecookeofficial, and grab her book at www.charissecooke.com.

Timestamps: Charisse joins us at around minute 26.

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Have you ever thought about marrying for money? Ali & Erica can’t help you with that, but we’re breaking down some financial stats that may surprise you when it comes to getting married vs not. And spoiler alert, there’s way more on the topic where this came from. Let us know what else you want to hear!

In Updates, Ali & Erica are back from Greece! The two talk through Ali’s post-vacation communication with The Publicist and what this might mean for the future.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 27.

Articles mentioned in the episode:

Does Getting Married Really Help You Financially? (Mic)

Yes, Marry For Money (CNBC)

Financial Risks of Divorce (Above The Law)

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It’s our fourth Ask A Man interview, featuring Erica’s close friend, the hilarious Jourdain Fisher. This one starts out spicy with some O-related listener polls and then we move on to peppering Jourdain with questions. And our producer Mike gets involved too! It’s a fun one all around.

In updates, Erica has several blasts from the past - and even has a date scheduled with one of them! Ali recaps last week’s first date and we are both frustrated by people who don’t understand boundaries.

Where to find Jourdain: On Instagram @jourdainfisher and get his comedy show schedule at jourdainfisher.com.

Timestamps: Jourdain joins us at around minute 36.

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Ali & Erica are back with questions submitted by you, the listeners! We start with the age-old question: should you give a ghost a second chance? Then, a listener has a crush at work - how can she get this man on a date? Or should she give up? And lastly, we advise a listener who is about to visit a long-distance situationship.

But first, Ali has quite the day of updates starting with a Montana Boy flirtation and ending with a second date with Mr. Worldwide. Erica shares some amazing career news!

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 40.

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Erica & Ali are diving into the apps with dating coach & app expert Erika Ettin of @alittlenudge. We talk about whether it really matters what opener you send (hint: YES), how to deal with dating app burnout, and why Erika recommends dating NATO (not attached to outcome).

But first, Erica is back from a rejuvenating Bachelorette weekend while Ali had quite the week of first dates (with 2 new nicknames!).

Where to find Erika: On Instagram @alittlenudge, on TikTok @alittlenudge, at www.alittlenudge.com.

Timestamps: Erika joins us at around minute 22.

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Ali & Roark are joined by special guest Kirstie Taylor this week to dive more deeply into attachment theory and answer listener questions. Kirstie, a dating and relationship writer who authored the book What I Wish I Knew About Love, drops about 83 insightful bombs this episode as the three women discuss their own attachment journey, and answer questions about anxious-avoidant couples, how to move towards being more secure, and many more! In the updates portion, Roark is dealing with the Classmate’s social double-booking, and in a weird or nah and update crossover, Ali reveals a conundrum she’s had with the Threepeat and gets Kirstie’s advice on the matter.

Timestamps: Kirstie joins the show for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 24:45

Here are all the ways to find Kirstie! Her website: https://www.kirstietaylor.com. Her TikTok: @kirstietaylorr. Her Instagram: @wordswithkirstie

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Ali & Erica welcome an OG of dating advice to the pod this week - Damona Hoffman, author of the new book “F The Fairytale” and host of the Dates & Mates podcast. We get into topics such as Damona’s best tips for dating mindset, how the online dating landscape has changed in her 15 years of coaching, and how race has played a role in her own dating life (and Ali weighs in too!).

In Updates, Erica has a date that was set up by a listener - but will the long distance be too much? Meanwhile, Ali has a few giddy moments after her second date with Dr. Laundry (previously Pie Guy).

Where to find Damona: On Instagram @damonahoffman, at www.damonahoffman.com

Timestamps: Damona joins us at around minute 35.

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Ali & Roark discuss conflict this week. First, they discuss when they think it’s worth bringing up a topic that could cause conflict. Then, they focus on how to handle hard conversations like when you feel like you might shut down, what happens if you cry through it, and do you re-open the conversation if you think of something else to say later. They couldn’t cover it all, so more conflict-related topics will be on later episodes. Mention “conflict” in your questions on www.findingmrheight.com/podcast so we can answer them all! In the updates section, Roark recaps her work retreat, and Ali talks how she’s handling communication with the Disco Ball.

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 32:10

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Ali records with author and financial expert Nicole Lapin this week. They talk about how finances can affect relationships and cover topics ranging from pre-nups, developing “FQ” (aka financial intelligence), and how to discuss your credit score, debt, and financial goals with your partner. During Updates, Roark describes her horse-girl adventure and Ali has to back-burner some dates due to illness. 

Timestamps: Nicole joins the show at around minute 28.

Where to find Nicole: at her website www.nicolelapin.com, and on Instagram @nicolelapin. Listen to her podcast “Money Rehab,” and of course, buy her books on Amazon and anywhere books are sold.

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This week, Ali & Roark have the pleasure of welcoming comedian and podcaster Erica Spera on the podcast. Erica brings her vulnerability and humor to the pod to share her experience dating with herpes, bust herpes myths, and answer listener questions like when and how to disclose with a new partner. Also, Ali has updates galore this week after a weekend in DC and a new (well sorta) guy on the scene.

Timestamps: Erica joins the show for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 27:35

Where to find Erica: her website www.ericaspera.com; her podcast Shooters Gotta Shoot; and Instagram @spericaa

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Why are STIs so stigmatized despite being so common? Ella Dawson, whose TEDx talk on the subject has been viewed over 800,000 times, is here to talk about about it. We discuss disclosing herpes (or any STI) to your partner, supporting a partner who’s been diagnosed, advocating for yourself at doctor’s appointments, and so much more.

But first, Ali & Erica are together in Greece! Ali works through vacation communication with The Publicist while Erica dips her toe into Greek Bumble.

Where to find Ella: On Instagram @brosandprose, on Patreon at broseandprose, and at elladawson.com.

Timestamps: Ella joins us at around minute 32.

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Ever feel like you're having a great back and forth with a match over text, but it just never seems to end with a date? Sounds like you're in a pen pal situation, and both Ali and Roark have been there, too! They read listener questions and discuss how to nudge a match into making a date without being "pushy." Also, they open up their own text archives and read through their experiences with pen pals. Want to find and use the pen pal text scripts in this episode? Have a question for Ali & Roark? Want to send in a screenshot for them to decode? General feedback? Find it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

How’s your dating app prompt game? Ali & Erica are here to help you step it up as they brainstorm their best answers to popular prompts! You’ll be starting better conversations in no time.

But first, Ali has a very loud first date and Erica shoots her shot with a mutual friend.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 19.

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Have a question? Erica & Ali are here to answer it! This week, we answer three listener questions. First, a woman has been setting her friend up on dates and wonders if she should share “exit interview” feedback with her. Second, when should you share potential dealbreaker like pet allergies with a date? Lastly, a listener considers canceling a date when she notices something has changed on his profile.

But first, the gals are together in Portugal with their moms! Erica reveals a side mission she started with the single ladies on the trip while Ali reflects on Skyline meeting Mama J.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 23.

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It’s our very first Dating Diaries episode, a new segment following listeners along their dating journeys. We’re kicking things off with two listeners, and our first Diary Dater is Caeli, a 32-year-old living in the Chicago suburbs who is ready to start dating intentionally. In this intro episode, you’ll learn more about Caeli’s story including her dating history (and some nicknames), what she’s looking for, her current dating goals/challenges, and more. Stay tuned in future episodes as we follow along with Caeli’s dates and help her get some outside guidance.

But first, in Updates, Ali is having an emotional day (okay, week) while recording and shares her release from that. But the week kicked off celebrating her best friend’s birthday starting with a group trip to New Orleans and wrapping with a relaxing day at a bath house!

Timestamps: Caeli joins at around minute 19.

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Ali & Erica are answering your rapid-fire questions in another grab bag episode! Including: filtering out ghosters, dating in other cities besides your own, handling breakups, and managing expectations for a second date.

In Updates, Ali is back from her travels and recounts some special & emotional memories from introducing Skyline to her San Diego people. Erica looks forward to the roommate date when she returns to LA.

Don’t forget we’d love to meet you live in NYC on Saturday, February 22nd! Tickets at findingmrheight.com/live.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 46.

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Ali & Roark are back this week with another career podcast. This week they’re talking about skills that make someone a good manager, how to be intentional in your career, and navigating imposter syndrome. During the Updates section, Roark had a quick catch-up with the Ranger, but also has a new guy which is the most excited she’s been about someone in a while. Ali is back on Bumble with a viral opener with some unintended consequences.

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 26:55

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We’re back with the second installment of our fertility series, interviewing a very special guest - Erica’s doctor at Spring Fertility, Dr. Peter Klatsky! We start out by busting a few fertility myths and then get into questions from our listeners! Dr. Klatsky advises us on selecting a fertility provider, pulls back the curtain on egg freezing statistics, and so much more.

In Updates, Erica has a second date with The Folly…but does she want to go on a third? Ali gets a date with Speed Racer on the books, has a new guy on the scene, and resets her Hinge (featuring a special guest call-in!).

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Where to find Dr. Klatsky On Instagram @springfertility, on TikTok @springfertility, at www.springfertility.com.

Timestamps: Dr. Klatsky joins us at around minute 37.

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Let’s talk about text, baby…this week, we welcome Dr. Mimi Winsberg to the pod, a board-certified psychiatrist with over 25 years of clinical experience and author of Speaking in Thumbs. We dive into research on text communication and practical ways you can apply it to your dating life.

But first, Erica is adjusting to full-time life in LA and relaxing in Palm Springs for her birthday. Meanwhile, Ali has a second AND a third date with The Publicist.

Learn more about Speaking In Thumbs at https://www.drwinsberg.com/book

Timestamps: Dr. Mimi Winsberg joins us at around minute 38.

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Should firstborns always date lastborns? Are lastborn-lastborn relationships doomed? Or does it even matter? We’re finding out in this week’s episode, using research from around the web plus listener experiences (and our own!). Plus, a listener calls in with a PSA about gift card scams.

In Updates, Ali & Erica both swung for the fences on Dating App Sunday and parse through the results. One of us already has a first date scheduled that we’ll be debriefing live at our show in NYC on January 20th! Snag tickets at findingmrheight.com/live.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 28.

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This week, Ali & Roark are seeing red! Flags, that is. They start by defining a red flag: how is it different from a dealbreaker, and is a yellow flag even a thing? Then they go through how to spot common red flags in dating app profiles, in early messaging or texting, and once you've started dating. In the process, Roark reads Ali two listener emails. One wants to know how to recognize a red flag for what it is rather than thinking the issue will work itself out, whereas the other describes herself as hyper vigilant about red flags and wonders if she's reading too much into a new partner's behavior. Ali & Roark quickly realize that this is a massive topic worthy of multiple episodes, but want to hear from you about what topics to dive deeper into...

If you want to suggest other red flags for them to discuss, send in your own phone throwing moment, submit a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

Also, this episode mentions DJ Khaled's Proust Questionnaire (yes, that is a sign of how chaotic this episode gets). Linked here: https://www.vanityfair.com/culture/2016/11/dj-khaled-proust-questionnaire

Do you experience anxiety in dating and relationships? Worrying that you’ll say the wrong thing, be in the wrong relationship, or ruin things with the right one? Sarah Yudkin, relationship anxiety coach and host of You Love and You Learn podcast, has some soothing words for you (and us!). Sarah shares how her own experience with her now fiance shaped her relationship anxiety work and we discuss issues such as: knowing if it’s your gut or anxiety, how to bring up anxiety with your partner, and dealing with outside opinions about your relationship.

But first, Erica & Ali are back from Chicago and reminiscing about the show and their time in the city (which joins NYC for one of the worst cities to date, apparently). Ali reveals Skyline’s surprise for her end-of-corporate celebration and Erica makes an very fun purchase.

Where to find Sarah: On Instagram @youloveandyoulearn, on TikTok @youloveandyoulearn, at www.youloveandyoulearn.com

Timestamps: Sarah joins us at around minute 33.

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This week we are joined by Julie & Yue, cohosts of the amazing Dateable podcast and authors of the new book, ‘How To Be Dateable!’ Julie & Yue have drawn on their deep dating histories to develop the advice in their book (and their podcast). And it turns out our two duos have something in common: we’re both Dreamer/Maverick cohost teams! Ali, Erica, Julie, & Yue dive into how these archetypes have shaped their dating journeys and give advice on how listeners can make their type work for them (plus what pitfalls to look out for).

But first, Ali & Erica discuss the upcoming Valentine’s Day holiday and how they’ve approached it in the past. Plus, Ali recaps her January surprise date with Skyline and Erica looks forward to her first date with The Roommate.

Where to find Julie & Yue: On the Dateable podcast and on Instagram @dateablepodcast. Order their book, How To Be Datable for more from this episode!

Don’t forget we’d love to meet you live in NYC on Saturday, February 22nd! Tickets at findingmrheight.com/live.

Timestamps: Julie & Yue joins us at around minute 24.

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Ali & Erica are joined by Zach, a 30-something man whose friends are managing his Hinge profile. We talk about how (and why) this arrangement came to be plus what he’s learned from having someone else set up his dates. And, has it been a success? Listen and find out!

But first, Erica and Ali continue to update on outcomes from Dating App Sunday. In particular, Ali has a wild Saturday with 2 first dates plus a singles mixer.

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Timestamps: Zach joins us at around minute 33.

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Ali & Roark return to the topic of bad dates this week. They analyze what a “bad date” even is and how to determine if you're on one, and how to navigate asking for a date to be over, or how to get out a second date you don’t want to go on. In the Updates section, Roark discusses going on Facetime dates versus IRL dates, and Ali discusses her communication cadence with The Disco Ball.

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 29:40

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Straight from your guest suggestions, we have Maddie Dragsbaek, host of the Emotionally Online podcast, in an amazing episode this week! Maddie has been opening up about her life online since before podcasts were a thing and this week is no exception. Our conversation focuses first on her bisexuality - what exploring that both privately and publicly has looked like, her advice for anyone thinking they might be bi, and her experience taking dating off the apps and into the real world. We then dive into dating as a fat woman - her tips for approaching dating online and if she sees a difference when dating women vs men.

But first, Erica is fresh off of her (accidental) fourth date with Tony and comes to a decision about their future. Meanwhile, Ali recounts how she has managed anxieties around communication and scheduling in the early stages with Skyline. Plus we recap your responses to our anniversary poll!

Where to find Maddie: On Instagram @maddiedragsbaek, on TikTok @maddiedragsbaek, and the Emotionally Online podcast.

Timestamps: Maddie joins us at around minute 35.

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Erica & Ali are back with another hilarious (at least to us) Sex And The City episode, where we dissect its theories while acting out scenes from the show. This week, we’re covering Taxi Cab Theory, how long it takes to get over a break up, and faking orgasms (with a new character introduced!).

In Updates, Erica attends a friend’s wedding…or is it one of those “pitch your friend” events?? Ali awaits Skyline’s surprise and the gals discuss Hinge’s latest update that’s designed to keep conversations going.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 30.

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We’re back with another debate team episode, where Ali & Erica debate topics submitted by our listeners! We’ve got four topics up for debate this week. Let us know where you stand! Marathon dates early in the game - yay or nay? Is it okay to be late for a date? Can you date someone you work with? And finally, should you go ring shopping with your partner before getting engaged?

In Updates, Erica navigates next steps in her comedy career and opens up about her current focus. Meanwhile, Ali is back from Mexico City and came across a New York Times article about dating after 50.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 38.

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Have you ever asked yourself: do they like me? If so, it may because you’re receiving mixed signals. Ali & Roark are here to discuss what it feels like when someone you’re dating is running hot and cold. They answer listener questions about the confusion of having a strong in-person connection but lukewarm texting; and what it’s like to date someone who behaves like you’re in a relationship but tells you they don’t want one. But first, Ali & Roark give their own personal updates as well as start a new segment where they discuss the HBO Max show FBoy Island. Timestamps: FBoy Island talk begins at around 22:10; Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 43:20. If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

It’s another Grab Bag episode as Ali & Roark are joined by Shaun Galanos aka @thelovedrive to answer all sorts of questions about direct communication and vulnerability. This is the longest episode yet because the three have way too much fun laughing, commiserating, and agreeing with each other. Questions answered include: how to say “I love you” first, how to slowly bring down your walls, and how to set your standard and live with the person’s reaction even if it’s not what you wanted, and lots more! In this week's updates, Ali has a big reveal about the Threepeat which Roark asks incessant questions about. Timestamps: Shaun joins the show for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk, which begins at around 22:45 Here are all the ways to find Shaun! His website: https://www.shaungalanos.com/; TikTok & Instagram: @thelovedrive If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

Ali & Erica are joined this week by Kelly, a listener who wrote in to share her story about dating with depression & anxiety. Kelly shares her journey towards getting diagnosed, how depression impacted her dating, & what growing in her first serious relationship has been like. It’s a powerful, relatable story that we can’t wait to share.

But first, Erica has a long-awaited update on Comic Con while Ali reflects on more Skyline learnings.

Timestamps: Kelly joins us at around minute 35.

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It is another jam-packed episode this week where Ali & Roark dissect how to build the most right-swipeable (yes, that is a word now) dating app profile. They go over Ali's philosophy for which photos to use and debate the merits of various prompts on Hinge and Bumble. Listen to this episode with your profile open and see if you can upgrade yours! But first, Ali reveals a big decision regarding a current dating prospect and Roark discusses how she did in fact have to deal with Trivia. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 22:45. Want to learn more about dating app strategy? Tune into Ali's live two-part dating app webinar on Wednesday, September 15th. Part 1: The Profile. Part 2: The Messages. More info at findingmrheight.com/workshops If you'd like to hear personal updates before everyone else, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

Ali & Roark have a bit of a reset episode this week. Rather than cover a specific topic, they walk listeners down a dating life memory lane – covering all the major exes that are worthy of a nickname. They hope this will be a good reference episode in case you’ve missed any relationship origin stories. During the Updates section, Roark describes a meh first date, whereas Ali has an excellent one!

Timestamps: Topic Talk begins at around 28:15

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Ali & Roark are doling out advice again on another Hot Topics episode. During Updates, Roark sees a friend on Bumble and shares bad news about The Writer; and Ali is scheduling dates now that she is illness free. Then, they answer listener questions about noticing a new dating prospect pulling away, feeling uncomfortable with a date’s alcohol consumption, and deciding whether to continue seeing someone when there is a complicated past. And finally, Roark introduces Ali to a new segment – adjudicating an “Am I The A**hole” post about a woman who fails to wake up her oversleeping boyfriend.

Timestamps: Mythbusters and Hot Topics begin at around minute 28.

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The conflict series has turned into a trilogy – because of course it has. On this episode, Ali & Roark answer questions listeners sent in after the First Conflict One, including: how to make conflict healthier, how to confront “unsolvable” problems, and how to deal with recurring arguments on the same topic. During the Updates portion, Both Ali & Roark read the descriptions of their matchmaker dates and analyze the bios!

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 35:00

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Ali & Erica are breaking down one of their favorite personality tests this week: Myers Briggs! The episode starts with a break down of Myers Briggs as a concept - each aspect of the types and the limitations. The gals then discuss their own (basically opposite, lol) personality types and how they impact relationships, both romantic and otherwise. Plus: What personality type is Skyline??

In Updates, Erica has an IRL encounter with a potential date while Ali recaps her surprise date night with Skyline.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 25.

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Ali & Roark take a detour this week away from dating and into careers. They share their very different career paths and start answering some listener questions about finding mentors, asking for a raise, and developing work/life balance. As always, there is way too much to get to so they’ll definitely be doing more career-focused content. Keep the questions coming! In the Updates section, Roark is in love (hyperbolically, of course) and Ali recounts an adventurous date with the Disco Ball.

Timestamps: Topic Talk begins at around 38:45

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Time to talk about bad dates! We have all had them, and this week, Ali & Roark share their absolute worst date stories (Ali’s is a real doozie). They use their stories to discuss listeners' biggest questions: how do you handle a catfish-lite (someone who hasn’t totally lied, but is using very old pictures); how do you end a date early; and how do you get out of a potentially bad or scary situation? During their Updates, Roark is trying to figure out Greg’s bizarre texting behavior, and Ali eagerly awaits Disco Ball’s move to NY.

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Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 27:15

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Your calls have been answered…Matchmaker Maria is back on the pod!! We’re answering all sorts of listener questions, Ask A Matchmaker style. For example: how do you balance a hoe phase with dating intentionally? What should you learn about someone before sleeping with them? And so much more…

In Updates, Ali has an awesome first date with Mr. Worldwide (no, not that one) while Erica has a good * start * of a first date with The Heartbreaker.

Where to find Maria: On Instagram @matchmakermaria, on TikTok @realmatchmakermaria, at www.agapematch.com.

Timestamps: Maria joins us at around minute 33.

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It's here! The *real* premiere episode of FMH: The Podcast. Get to know your co-hosts as Ali & Roark share both their friendship origin story and walk down memory lane of relationships past. Then, they discuss their vision for the podcast. And finally, Roark tells Ali about a potentially awkward encounter at a recent date's place of business, which reminds Ali of her own story from a few years back. Have a question for Ali & Roark? Want to send in a screenshot for them to decode? General feedback? Find our submission form at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

She blinded us with science! Ali & Roark are joined by Dr. Abby Medcalf – a psychologist who tells them all about how the brain affects our relationships. The focus of the conversation is closure – what is it, why do we want it, and how can we get – but Abby goes much further and they probably could have talked for hours because she is so darn lovely and interesting. During Updates, Roark recounts an epic Phone Throwing Moment in her friend-group group chat, and Ali goes on a first date and gives a Disco Ball status report.

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 27:00

Where to find Abby: at her website https://abbymedcalf.com/about/

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This week, Ali & Roark have WAY too much fun with Jeff Guenther (aka Therapy Jeff). So much fun that a fair amount was deemed NSFP (not safe for pod), but Jeff *may* be coming to a Patreon near you sometime soon. You may recognize Jeff from your TikTok FYP. He is incredible at doling out bite-sized relationship advice you absolutely need to hear, and Ali & Roark think you’ll love this episode. They debate what questions to ask new partners and what might be a little too hard-hitting. Before Jeff joins them, Roark talks about shooting her shot with a guy from the past, and Ali discusses her next move with The Rower. Timestamps: Jeff joins the show for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 28:45. Where to find Jeff: On TikTok @therapyjeff and on his website www.therapyjeff.com. Looking for the therapist-finding resource Jeff mentions? Check out www.therapyden.com. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

Pamela Rae Schuller is more than one thing - she’s more than Tourette Syndrome, she’s more than her stint on Jewish Matchmaking, and she’s encouraging you to embrace your whole self, too. Together, we cover a wide range of topics, including dating with a disability, matchmaking, and achieving self-love.

In Updates, Erica receives a voice memo from the Accountant (that she DOES reply to, for the record) and Ali has her first date since The Publicist.

Where to find Pam: On Instagram @pamelacomedy and at her website pamelacomedy.com. Watch her TEDx Talk here: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=_uCubamMyHw.

Timestamps: Pam joins us at around minute 36.

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Ali & Roark’s three-part breakup series begins with special guest Dara Pollak – author of a viral post about a blindside breakup. Dara is a wonderful and vulnerable storyteller, and she shares her emotional journey from relationship to breakup to moving forward afterwards. It is a very relatable story and they know the listeners will hear themselves in parts of Dara’s experiences. Before Dara joins the show, Ali discusses New Years Eve plans with the Rower, and Roark is back on the apps! Timestamps: Dara joins the show for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 26:45 Where to find Dara: her blog post can be read at https://www.theskinnypignyc.com/2021/10/the-blindsided-breakup-story/; follow her on Instagram @darapollak If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

Ali & Roark introduce a new episode format this week – Hot Topics. Rather than focusing on only one topic or covering a whole bunch like a Grab Bag, Hot Topics episodes will thoroughly answer your questions from the Finding Mr. Height Google form. For their first Hot Topics episode, Ali & Roark read a listener’s screenshot and discuss whether she should go out with the guy she’s texting, they answer a question about a guy whose friends secretly spied on their date, and finally they address whether one listener is in a situationship with a guy who is “really busy with work.” In the updates section, they both discuss how they’re handling communicating with the people they are seeing while home for the holidays. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Hot Topics begin at around 25:45 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

Feeling burned out by dating apps? Jessica Hope, founder of Bored of Dating Apps, has BEEN THERE - and she created an entire company to deal with it! Coming to you from Ali’s living room couch, Jess chronicles the dating frustrations that led her to focus more on dating in person and start her own IRL dating events…a journey that ultimately led to her now partner. Ali and Jess chat flirting strategies, how to approach dating events, and much more in this super fun conversation.

But first, Ali is still glowing from her birthday week (plus a surprise date!), feeling so celebrated and loved by everyone in her life. She introduces a relationship check-in lens to her updates, opening up about an emotional moment from last week.

This week’s Media Mention comes from one of Ali’s faves: The Gottman Institute. The article is called Accepting Influence: Find Ways to Say “Yes” and you can find it here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/accepting-influence-find-ways-to-say-yes/

Where to find Bored of Dating Apps: On Instagram @boredofdatingapps on TikTok @boredofdatingapps, at www.boredofdatingapps.com.

Where to find Jessica: On Instagram @jessica.hope.boda.

Timestamps: Jessica joins at around minute 25.

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How did 2023 go for us? We’re breaking it down this week. How many first dates did we go on? What lessons did we learn? And did we succeed at “more kissing, less crying”?? Plus, we’re sharing what you, the listeners, learned this year.

In updates, Ali is feeling meh about seeing Billy Joel again and the ladies announce their next NYC live show on Saturday, January 20th! Snag your ticket at the links in our bios or at findingmrheight.com/live.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 20.

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This week, Ali & Roark are thrilled to welcome Jonah Feingold (@jonahfeingold) back on the pod! They had the pleasure of watching Dating & New York – Jonah’s debut movie as writer and director – and then getting to chat with him about it. Jonah shares about his creative process, tells an incredible casting story, and discusses rom-com tropes. Before bringing Jonah on, Roark has a big personal update to share with the listeners and Ali continues on her matchmaker dates. Additionally, they weigh in on a couple listener questions: how to find dates who won’t react poorly to personal success; and when calling out a ghoster may not be the right call.

Timestamps: Listener Questions begin at around 29:30; Interview with Jonah begins at around 41:45. Distributed by IFC, Dating & New York opens in theatres and video on demand on Friday, September 10. Follow on IG @datingandnewyork and watch the trailer here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wKfOZGfyrG8

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We had so much fun talking about our past beliefs the other week that we’re bringing it back for a series including your submissions! We discuss submissions such as “your person will complete you,” “trying hard isn’t cool,” and “you should share many common hobbies with your partner.” Let us know if you like this series and submit more of your past beliefs for future episodes!

But first, Erica has an exciting first date with (new nickname alert) Tony Soprano and Ali has a heck of weekend with old friends, volleyball wins, and a fun day with Skyline. We also chat about NYC’s dating scene vs other cities, emotional hangovers, and a new spot to meet men in LA.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 34.

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It’s just Ali & Roark this week as they start a conversation about how to long-distance date. With Ali back from Colombia, the two have a lot to catch up on and they spend more time on updates than usual. Both Ali & Roark had great first dates that they eagerly report. Then, they transition to Topic Talk with a Weird or Nah about starting a relationship while long distance, and Ali tells her story of accidentally ending up in an LDR. They take a few listener questions about how to *date* long distance (how to be in a relationship long distance will be saved for a later episode). Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 36:00 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

Erica & Ali are back answering your questions in a Hot Topics episode this week! We counsel a listener who is nervous about having sex for the first time. Then, a listener is struggling with a guy who’s chronically late and recently stood her up. Third, Erica gives advice on navigating a herpes disclosure in your relationship. And finally, a listener isn’t feeling cared for by the guy she’s dating.

With Ali still traveling and Erica focused on work (check out last week’s episode for more on that!), the two discuss an article that a listener sent in about relationship dynamics. After listening, are you usually the bird or the hand?

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 32.

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Caeli from our Dating Diaries segment is back on the podcast this week and we’re diving into her Bumble profile! We walk through her bio, prompts, and photos and discuss where she can make improvements to set herself up for more success. Through Ali’s notes on photo guidelines, best ways to elicit a reply with your prompts, and ways that different people swipe you’ll get some great tips for crafting your own profile! Plus, Caeli fills us in on a first date she went on and the two debate whether she should go on a second. Note: Ali’s mic wasn’t hooked up properly for the updates section, we apologize for the less-than-stellar audio.

In Updates, Ali is back from Colombia with a renewed zest for creating community through travel and is looking forward to this month’s surprise date (planned by Skyline) and their anniversary trip to Mexico. She also reflects on Love On The Spectrum in this week’s Media Mention.

Timestamps: Caeli joins us at around minute 22.

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Have you ever thought that your city is the worst for dating? Turns out most of our listeners do…so Ali & Erica are putting that to the test this week. We’re “traveling” to different cities in our dating apps and reporting back on our findings - plus sharing feedback from the listeners! Did we skip your city? Let us know at findingmrheight.com/podcast.

In Updates, Erica is unsure how to proceed with The Folly and Ali finally has her second date with Speed Racer…which was planned in quite the odd way!

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 27.

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The stars align this week as Ali & Roark get to talk to astrologer Aliza Kelly. Aliza has a really interesting and nuanced approach to astrology that has even consummate cynic Roark intrigued. They discuss topics like what does it really mean to have a particular sign? Is your sun sign the be all end all? And should we *really* not date THAT sign (you know which one we mean)? Before Aliza joins the pod, Ali & Roark give some quick updates on the Disco Ball and Lots of Dogs. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 15:20 Where to find Aliza: at her website www.alizakelly.com and on Instagram @alizakelly If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

We’re back with our latest Hot Topics, where we answer listener questions from our submission form! This week, we start out with a motion-sickness-related AITA. We then advise a listener on communication in between a second and third date, analyze a drawn-out dating app conversation, and discuss how to frame when you’re taking a break from work.

On the dating front, Ali & Erica both have dates lined up with men they met in the wild!

Timestamps: Hot Topics begins at around minute 40.

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It’s a podcast collab between Ali & Roark and Adam & Evan of the “I’ll Be the Judge of That” pod. The four debate common dating scenarios and ask – “can you?” Like – can you get engaged at another person’s party? Can you tell a friend you don’t like their partner? How about sitting on the same side of the table on a first date? You’ll hear just about every perspective on this episode. During Updates, Roark doesn’t want to go on a date, but is then pleasantly surprised, and Ali attends a Chaotic Singles Party.

Timestamps: Adam & Evan join the podcast at around minute 27.

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This week, Ali & Roark welcome Gigi Robinson to the pod. Gigi uses social media to talk about mental health, body image, chronic illness – and the intersection of them. The three discuss how to tell others about a chronic illness, how to hype yourself up when your body image isn’t at its best, and how to know you’re “enough.” During Ali & Roark’s updates, Ali tells Roark something that literally makes Roark’s jaw drop. And Roark recaps the end of her Dallas stay. Timestamps: Gigi joins the show for Weird of Nah and Topic Talk at around 24:20 Where to find Gigi: her website www.gigirobinson.com and on Instagram and TikTok @itsgigirobinson If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

Erica & Ali have so many updates to share this week that we did an episode full of them (plus a lot of girl talk in between)! Erica is fresh off her third date with Tony Soprano and is on the fence about a fourth (until she accidentally pushes herself off). The gals get into a great discussion about the frustration of someone being “good on paper” and how to know when to cut something off. Meanwhile, Ali celebrates two milestones with Skyline - 3 months of dating that happens to coincide with a tough day for her, plus 3 (not so) little words. If you liked this style episode, you’ll love our Patreon! Join at www.patreon.com/findingmrheight.

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Do you think everyone defines cheating the same way? We’re finding out this week, inspired by a Buzzfeed quiz that one of our listeners sent in! Erica and Ali each reveal how their Instagram audiences voted on each situation and discuss the results.

Find the quiz here: https://www.buzzfeed.com/kellymartinez/do-you-consider-this-cheating-or-not

In updates, Erica goes on a first date with Hot Chocolate and Ali does a post-birthday switcheroo.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 27.

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This week, Ali & Roark cover listener questions in a Hot Topics episode. They start with a question about friends who choose to stay friends with your ex. Then, they tackle a question about disclosing *your own* red flags. And they conclude with a Dating Mythbusters question – do men just decide they’re ready one day? During the Updates portion, Roark accidentally hard launches Lots of Dogs, and Ali has a fabulous date with the Disco Ball!

Timestamps: Topic Talk begins at around 22:00

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It’s our last episode of 2024 and we’ve got a roundup of the year coming at you! We polled our audience for your best superlative categories plus added in a few of our own. Tune in as we discuss our best/worst dates (and kisses) of the year, best new movie, pop culture moment, place to meet people IRL…and more! PS apologies for the occasional ticking sound when Erica is talking in the topic section - we had some audio issues that should be resolved now!

In Updates, Erica has a bit of a NYE dilemma coming out of a great first date while Ali makes a new connection on Christmas Eve.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 28.

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Ali & Erica are answering your questions this week! First, a listener worries she’s slipping into a FWB situation. Next, we give advice for letting someone know you’re newly single (hint: do not use the company Slack). Next, a listener wonders why her first dates keep getting “friends only” vibes from her - is she doing something wrong? And lastly, a listener in a long distance relationship struggles to bring up something she found in her boyfriend’s apartment.

In Updates, Erica goes on a first date down the shore and discovers the joys of a Lemon Drop. Meanwhile, Ali is back from Costa Rica and recaps the most well-organized speed dating event she’s ever been to.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 37.

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As great philosophers once said, "If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends." The Spice Girls were right! Which is why Ali & Roark are talking all things surrounding meeting the friends. Whether you've decided to make the introduction or you've been asked to meet your new person's friends, Ali & Roark are here for you through the entire process. What does it mean to you to meet someone's friends? How do you make the invitation? And what happens after - like if no one gets along? They read some listener questions and share their own experiences to address these key questions and more!

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It’s part two of Ali & Roark’s breakup series. This time they’re discussing what it’s like to be the one initiating the breakup. They start by discussing the difficulty of knowing whether your relationship problems are “normal” or “breakup worthy.” And then analyze how to end things with someone as kindly as possible – is there an ideal time, location, or mode of communication? But first, Ali gets vulnerable and shares her story of New Year’s Eve with The Rower, and Roark has her first first date back on the scene.

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 25:45

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She’sssss backkkkkk!!!!! Ali & Erica welcome former FMH cohost Roark back onto the pod as our guest this week. With Ali fresh off a bachelorette party, the three dive into wedding etiquette (especially wedding guest etiquette). Can you ask for a plus one? When is it appropriate to leave a wedding? And for goodness sake, can we please stop trying to wear white??

But first, we’re catching up on Roark’s dating life, featuring a nickname OG listeners miiiiiight recognize.

Where to find Roark: On Instagram @roarks_kitchen

Timestamps: Topic talk starts at around minute 39.

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Have you ever gotten the ick from a match or a date? Ali & Erica have rounded up all sorts of icks from the listeners and we’re debating them on this week’s episode. It’s a fun and silly one this week!

In Updates, Ali goes on a thoughtful fourth date with Mr. Worldwide. Meanwhile, Erica is excited to be back in LA for a while, making swiping easier. And, she is still taking submissions to be setup with her DC friends at fmhsetups@gmail.com.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 23.

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Hot Topics are back as Ali & Roark go in depth with three listener questions. During the Updates section, Ali catches listeners up on the Disco Ball and shares a bit of a phone throwing moment; and Roark talks through dealing with a bad texter. Hot Topics include: a guy who calls his ex his “girlfriend” when he tells stories that involve her; whether a listener is being too hard on her cute neighbor’s social media presence; and if a listener is wasting her time with a guy who is on dating apps “to meet new people and see what happens.”

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 34:30

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Have you ever swiped on a dating app in a group of friends and felt a sense of community in your shared experiences? Our guest this week, Lane Moore, brings that feeling to the stage in her hilarious Tinder Live shows. We chat about green (and red) flags on a dating app profile and share our best tips!

In updates, Erica has a man in her DMs and Ali starts the year off with 2 cancelled dates (whomp).

Where to find Lane: On Instagram @hellolanemoore and @tinderlive. Her upcoming book You Will Find Your People: How To Make Meaningful Friendships As An Adult is now available for preorder, and her first book How To Be Alone is available now.

Timestamps: Lane joins us at around minute 26.

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TW: This episode addresses disordered eating and intentional weight loss. If you’d like to skip this discussion, we announce in the episode when it begins.

It’s an extremely vulnerable episode this week as Erica and Ali welcome Emily Lubin, of the Diet Starts Tomorrow and RIP Diets podcasts. Emily opens up about her recovery from disordered eating and the path she’s taken to get there. She shares how her struggle impacted her relationships and gives advice for navigating dating while in recovery.

In updates, Ali continues to experiment with Tinder Premium and Erica sees an ex for the first time since their break up.

Where to find Emily: On Instagram @dietstartstomorrow.

Timestamps: Emily joins us at around minute 24.

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Hey, listeners! Big question for you…what’s your favorite dating app opener? We’re sharing ours this week (and Erica has an idea that Ali just might steal) plus a few that you submitted! From keeping things interesting (even when they might not be) to dealing with an empty profile, this episode has got you covered. 

But first, Erica has an update on Spanikopita, of dance floor fame, and Ali recaps her third date and future plans with The Padre. 

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This week, Ali & Roark cover listener questions in a Hot Topics episode. They start with a question about dating burn out from solid first dates that don't turn into seconds dates. Then, they read a dating-app screenshot where the listener is curious about how she should react to a match’s sexual opening message. And they conclude with a discussion of a listener’s situationship. But before all that, Roark reveals how the first date she was excited for went, and Ali checks in emotionally about where she’s at with The Rower.

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 35:10

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It’s time to meet our second Dating Diaries participant…Elyse! A 26-year-old living in a major east coast city, Elyse is ready to dive back into dating after recovering from her longest relationship to date. In this introduction episode, you’ll learn about Elyse’s dating history as a self-proclaimed “late bloomer,” how her last relationship played out, plus a very recent development that’s hot off the presses. Stay tuned as we hear more from Elyse and offer her some big sister advice on her journey that’s unfolding right here on the podcast.

In Updates, Ali has a rough week in her personal life and sets out to have a rejuvenating weekend with Skyline - from new outfits, to sunshine-filled park walks, to yapping with friends, and ending with a relaxing belated birthday present.

Timestamps: Elyse joins us at around minute 26.

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What is masculinity, anyway? How can you identify someone with healthy masculinity? How about someone who wants to equitably divide the mental load of a relationship? Rachel Sievers, M.S. - retired psychotherapist and host of The Answer To Everything Podcast - is here to help.

In Updates, Erica gets set up from an unexpected place and Ali goes on a surprise first date. We also debate a potential scam that Ali discovered at a singles mixer!

Where to find Rachel: On Instagram @rachelsieversms, on TikTok @rachelsieversms at www.arrivecoachandcounsel.com.

Timestamps: Rachel joins us at around minute 30.

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This episode is filled with lightbulb moments as Ali & Roark are joined by relationship therapist Charisse Cooke. And they promise they don’t *totally* derail the Q&A with Charisse by making it a personal therapy sesh. Charisse covers a ton of ground and answers listener questions such as how to handle having doubts about your partner, how to get what you need from a relationship, and how to set boundaries in a gentle way. In the updates section, Roark shares her feelings about not being able to see the Classmate for a bit, and Ali is in much better spirits after a great third date.

Timestamps: Charisse joins the podcast for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 21:40

Where to find Charisse: her website - https://charissecooke.com/ and her Instagram - @thecharissecooke

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Are you supervising your brain? Do you even know how? Kara Loewentheil, J.D., Master Certified Coach, and host of the UnF*ck Your Brain podcast is here to help. On this week’s episode, we explore topics of anxiety, particularly in the bedroom, and how to navigate through them. Kara explains how she worked to re-train her thoughts and we dive into how socialization impacts how we think.

In Updates, Erica tries to plan a first date - but will she get any help?? Meanwhile, Ali closes the door on The Stout, postpones with Speed Racer, and has a new guy on the scene.

Where to find Kara: On Instagram @karaloewentheil, on TikTok @karaloewentheil, at www.unfuckyourbrain.com.

Timestamps: Kara joins us at around minute 32.

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