Finding Love After 30 (Shonda Howard)
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| 30 May 2024 | Ep 21: How to Deal with Mixed Signals | 00:19:44 | |
In this episode I’m unpacking the frustrating world of mixed signals in dating. Inspired by a thought-provoking quote I saw on Instagram, I’m sharing my insights to help you interpret those mixed signals and I’m giving you a fool proof texting strategy for when this happens to you. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 01 Dec 2022 | Ep 14: Transforming Your Marriage with Kendra Williams | 00:37:52 | |
In today’s episode I’m interviewing motherhood coach, Kendra Williams all about how her self-healing journey blew up and ultimately transformed her marriage. Kendra’s story might surprise you and she is super candid about her marriage, what wasn’t working and how she and her husband ultimately came back from a separation that was headed for divorce. You can check out Kendra on IG at: https://www.instagram.com/its.kendrawilliams/?hl=en Learn about working with Kendra at: https://bio.site/its.kendrawilliams Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 04 Nov 2022 | Ep 10: Your 'Hope' is Sabotaging You | 00:16:35 | |
If you're single and "hoping" that things work out for you, or "hoping" that you don't end up alone then you could be sabotaging all of your efforts to attract the right person. Inspired by a client call this week, we'll be diving into this sneaky "I hope" statement and exactly how it could be working against you. Conversation Highlights: {05:33} What happens when you are in the energy of “hope “ {06:00} How this energy feels in your body {14:30} How certainly feels in your body Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 11 May 2023 | Ep 16: Tools to change your reality | 00:18:40 | |
In this episode I'll be breaking down two tools that you can implement immediately to help you shift your thinking and make peace with your current circumstances so you can begin to change them. {04:40} When your thoughts are negative. {08:05} Recognize the difference between thoughts and truths. {09:00} Define your negative thoughts that keep surfacing and separate them from yourself and choose a new thought. {12:58} Acceptance vs resistance Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 08 May 2024 | Ep 18: How to stay sane while dating (unattachment + intuition) | 00:26:39 | |
In this episode I'm giving you some life updates and breaking down why you need to stay unattached + cultivate your intuition in dating if you want to stay sane and find your person. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 04 Sep 2024 | Ep 26: How to be more confident on dates | 00:14:27 | |
In this week's episode I'm breaking down the importance of self-confidence when you're dating over 30 AND I'm giving you my hack for showing up securely as your most confident self to your next date! No more second guessing yourself, waiting around for him to ask you out again, and no more settling. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 17 Apr 2025 | Ep 33: The dating challenge that changed everything for me | 00:12:39 | |
In today’s episode, I’m sharing a juicy story from my single days—when I unintentionally created a dating challenge that completely changed how I showed up in love. Spoiler: I didn’t meet my husband during the challenge, but it was one of the biggest shifts that helped me become magnetic and emotionally grounded in dating. You'll learn:
This episode is for you if: ✨ You’re tired of dating feeling like a chore ✨ You keep overthinking every text, glance, or comment from the guy ✨ You want to feel confident, grounded, and have fun while dating Let’s connect: DM me on Instagram @shondahowardlove or email me at shonda@shondahoward.com and tell me your biggest dating energy block—I’d love to help. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 22 Aug 2022 | Ep 1: How to Find Love - My Story | 00:17:14 | |
In this episode I'm walking you through my journey to finding love as a woman over 30 and giving you the 3 crucial steps that you need to take in order to meet your soul mate and have an amazing relationship. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 10 Nov 2022 | Ep 11: How to feel better when you're frustrated with being single | 00:15:54 | |
Navigating single life when you want to find love can be tricky. Yes, your job is to feel happy and fulfilled but you’ll inevitably hit some low points in your journey. Today I’m sharing a simple process you can use to feel better when you’re frustrated, fed up, and just plain sick of being single! Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 04 Feb 2025 | Ep 29: The Key to Meeting an Amazing Man (Lessons from My NYC Trip) | 00:26:31 | |
Download the Worksheet for this episode HERE After a weekend in NYC (where I may have cried every ten blocks), I had a massive realization about what actually matters when it comes to meeting an amazing man. In this episode, I’m sharing: ✨ The surprising truth about the year before I met my husband (and why it was just as amazing as the year I met him) ✨ The biggest mindset shift you need to make if you’re serious about finding love ✨ How to shake up your routine, shift your energy, and become magnetic AF ✨ Why your single season is just as important as your relationship season—and how to actually enjoy it If you’ve been waiting for love to start living, this episode is your wake-up call. 💌 Loved this episode? Let me know! Screenshot and tag me on IG @shondahowardlove. 🔗 Join my FREE training: Non-Sucky Valentine’s Day (because being single in February doesn’t have to suck) → Sign up here Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 17 Nov 2022 | Ep 12: The Power of belief when you want to find love | 00:17:05 | |
If you'e struggling to find love then you might be missing the important piece of belief. Today I'm sharing a quick personal story to illustrate why belief is so important in your search for love. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 06 Oct 2022 | Ep 7: Get Exactly What You Want in Love with The List (part 3) | 00:15:13 | |
Today we're finishing a 3-part series on how to get EXACTLY what you want in love using "The List". This episode dives into what to do after you've created the list so it gets into your subconscious mind.
Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 23 Jun 2023 | Ep 17: Lessons from Abraham Hicks (Part 1) | 00:40:21 | |
Today you're getting my post Abraham-Hicks workshop download (Part 1!) I share my personal journey with Abraham-Hicks, and the lessons I learned from attending the workshop. Conversation Highlights: {10:20} Abraham {15:30} My journey with Abraham’s teaching {26:35} Have a soft desire with no resistance. {36:00} Release yourself from needing to defend yourself. A couple of my fav Abraham videos to listen to: Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 22 Sep 2022 | Ep: 5 How to write "The List" so it actually works (Part 1) | 00:15:36 | |
I'm sure you've heard that you have to write a list to attract your dream relationship. But if you want it to actually work instead of being a waste of time then you need to do a couple of key things. Today I'm diving into step one of how to create a list that will actually work to attract your dream person into your life!
Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 04 May 2023 | Ep 15: What I'd do differently if I was single again in my late 30's | 00:15:10 | |
Today I'm sharing the four things that I'd do differently if I was single in my late 30s or 40s again. These four things will totally change the way you approach dating and finding love! {04:23} Your thoughts are not the truth {06:52} Circular dating {08:10} Have more fun {10:30} Trust your intuition Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 19 Feb 2025 | Ep. 31: Attracting Love & Clients Through Embodiment with Guest Lauren Ciesco | 00:55:47 | |
Episode Summary: In this episode Shonda welcomes special guest and business coach, Lauren Ciesco. Together, they explore how the principles of embodiment, emotional healing, and inner guidance apply to attracting your soulmate (and soulmate clients if you’re a business owner). Lauren shares her personal journey of going from emotionally unavailable to open-hearted in dating, and how that parallels her experience of building a thriving, soul-aligned business. Tune in to learn why “the how” isn’t the most important factor in success—whether in love or in business—and how trusting yourself, processing emotions, and embracing your full self can create magnetic results. Key Topics & TakeawaysThe Power of Embodiment
Emotional Work & Safety
From “Pick Me” to “I’m Chosen”
Feminine Energy & Flow
Parallels Between Love & Business
Lauren Ciesco helps soul-led entrepreneurs unlock their full potential—financially, energetically, and strategically. With 20 years of experience in sales and business, she blends deep embodiment work with intuitive sales and money coaching, guiding creatives, coaches, and service providers to make money doing what they love without the burnout, hustle, or sleazy tactics. After leaving a high-level corporate sales career that left her feeling empty, Lauren redefined success on her own terms. Now, she’s on a mission to help others do the same—teaching them to step into their power, trust their inner guidance, and build businesses that light them up and fill their bank accounts. Check out Lauren's website and FREE masterclass library HERE and Follow her on Instagram HERE! Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 24 May 2024 | Ep 20: How to not feel like you've wasted time on the "wrong man" | 00:16:19 | |
In this episode I'm breaking down a unique theory about dating that will help you stop feeling like you’ve wasted time on the wrong man. Whether you've faced heartbreak, ghosting, or situationships, this perspective will offer you comfort and motivation to keep moving forward and stay in the dating game with an open heart so can find your person. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 08 Sep 2022 | Ep 3: Becoming a Match for Mr. Right | 00:21:06 | |
If you want to attract your dream relationship you have to first create a life you love. Today we are diving into step 2 of my process to find love which will give every area of your life an upgrade. By doing this you will become an irresistible magnet to the person of your dreams! Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 24 Jul 2024 | Ep 25: Why you should take a dating break and what to do instead | 00:15:20 | |
In this week's episode I'm giving you a peak into my personal life and breaking down why you need to take a break from dating, and what you need to do instead if you want to find love this year! Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 12 Feb 2025 | Ep 30: How to have a Non-Sucky Valentine's Day | 00:45:51 | |
If you're single and Dreading Valentine's day then this is for YOU! I'm sharing my recent masterclass: Non-Sucky Valentine's day. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 27 Jun 2024 | Ep 24: Overcoming self-sabotage + becoming magnetic to love | 00:20:27 | |
This week I’m giving you a peak into a client’s journey to find love, how she became magnetic and started attracting better quality men (and more opportunities in her career and life!) and the sneaky way she started self-sabotaging. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 02 Apr 2025 | Ep 32: How to Meet Men in Real Life Without Dating Apps | 00:17:24 | |
In this episode of the Finding Love After 30 podcast, we dive deep into a topic that so many of you have been asking about: how to meet high-quality men in real life, without relying on dating apps. If you're tired of swiping and feeling frustrated with online dating, this episode is for you! I’ll be sharing my top strategies for meeting men offline, but before we dive into the “how,” we’ll focus on an essential mindset shift: who before how. This is all about getting your energy aligned so you can show up as your most magnetic self before putting yourself out there. Once you've got your mindset right, I'll give you actionable tips on where to go and how to meet men in the real world.
Key Topics Covered: · Why it’s important to take a break from dating apps when you’re feeling burned out · The importance of who before how—cleaning up your mindset and energy before taking action · How to connect with your future self to boost your confidence and attract the right energy · Practical, real-life strategies to meet men, including switching up your routine, trying new activities, and joining local events · The role of being open, curious, and present in creating magnetic energy that draws people in Resources Mentioned: · Book a call with me here– Join my Find The One program for personalized support in your dating journey. · Instagram – DM me with your questions or share your experiences with implementing these strategies! · Take Action: Listen in, and don’t forget to DM me on Instagram @shondahowardlove to let me know which strategies you’re trying. I’m here to support you every step of the way!
Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 13 Oct 2022 | Ep 8: How to Take Care of Yourself When Things Feel Really Hard | 00:16:39 | |
Learning to take care of yourself when things get tough is the work of prioritizing yourself. This is essential in life AND attracting a partner. Today I'm giving you my four steps to taking excellent care of yourself! Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 01 Sep 2022 | Ep 2: Why You Aren't Meeting the Right Person | 00:19:02 | |
Ever wonder why you can’t meet the right guy even though you feel like you’re doing all of the right things? In today’s episode I’m diving into exactly why that is and breaking down the first step in my process to find love: Releasing Your Past. If you want to attract a healthy, loving relationship then you absolutely must do the work to understand what your past patterns are and release them. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 20 Jun 2024 | Ep 23: Why you should stop chasing the "spark" in dating | 00:17:03 | |
In this week's episode I'm breaking down exactly why you need to stop chasing a "spark" in dating if you want to find a healthy, committed relationship - and what to look for instead! Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 20 Oct 2022 | Ep. 9: How Drinking Might Be Keeping You From the Relationship You Want with Jennie Juechter | 00:37:12 | |
Did you know that your relationship with alcohol might actually be holding you back from your dream relationship? This week Sober Curious Coach, Jennie Juechter joins us to talk about alcohol and how it might be messing with your efforts to improve your relationship and/or attract a high quality man. Conversation Highlights: {02:48} Jennie’s journey with Alcohol {13:30} Estrogen and alcohol {19:15} Sex, alcohol, and attachment {22:00} Sobriety and using your intuition {26:00} Ask yourself “who do I become when I drink” Follow Jennie at: Instagram.com/jennie_juechter Jennie’s Resources: https://linktr.ee/jenniejuechter Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 09 Sep 2024 | Ep 27: How to create your dream relationship with Lindsey Mango | 00:50:08 | |
This week I’m interviewing life and business coach Lindsey Mango about how she created her DREAM relationship! In this episode Lindsey breaks down:
Lindsey helps women create lives and businesses that they are obsessed with everyday possible through her program The Anything but Average Life Membership.You can learn more about the ABA Life membership here and follow Lindsey on IG for more inspo (and pics of her adorable new baby) here! Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 11 Jun 2024 | Ep 22: Change your "league" and attract better men | 00:16:03 | |
This week we’re talking about the popular dating advice to “date in your league”. If you’re frustrated with the types of men you seem to date (ghosters, bread-crumbers, chads, d-bags) then the best strategy might be to change your league! Listen to find out how! Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 29 Sep 2022 | Ep 6: Get Exactly What You Want in Love with 'The List' (Part 2) | 00:20:30 | |
If you want to get everything you want in love then you need to be clear and specific, and you have to access the feeling state of it being "done". In today's episode you'll learn what to do with your list to make sure you get everything you want in love. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 16 May 2024 | Ep 19: Finding Empowerment in dating with Ashleigh Renard | 00:56:52 | |
Ashleigh Renard is the best selling author of the book "Swing" - a new genre of HOT SELF HELP! We're talking all things finding empowerment in relationships, dating and the bedroom. You can find Ashleigh on Instagram here Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 08 Nov 2024 | Ep 28: Building Inner Safety for Healthy, Drama Free Love | 00:19:48 | |
In this episode, we’re diving into one of the most overlooked yet powerful aspects of dating: inner safety. If you’re tired of dating feeling like a high-stakes game where you’re always waiting for validation or reassurance, this episode is for you. Inner safety is the sense of calm, security, and self-trust that comes from within. It’s what keeps you grounded, confident, and able to navigate dating without getting overly attached or anxious. When you build this internal sense of safety, dating becomes less of a rollercoaster and more of a steady, enjoyable process. Download the FREE worksheet for this episode here Key Takeaways
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Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 15 Sep 2022 | Ep. 4: The 3 Big Mistakes You're Making That Prevent You From Attracting a High Quality Man | 00:17:48 | |
If you want to attract a higher quality man into your life then you need to stop making these 3 big mistakes in your dating life. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||
| 24 Nov 2022 | Ep 13: Amplifying Abundance in Love and Money | 00:12:58 | |
In today's episode I'm sharing a clip from a talk I gave on the topic of abundance. I"m breaking down exactly what abundance is and how living with feelings of lack may be working against you. This applies to your bank account and your search for love. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice. | |||