Feminist Survival Project (Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski)
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| 17 Aug 2020 | 44: How to Shadow Work | 00:42:01 | |
Why do certain things really make you angry? Could it be that they remind you of things you dislike in yourself? Emily and Amelia discuss. Spoilers for Rise of Skywalker, The Mandalorian, Hamilton, Moana and The Accursed Year 2020. *** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by “The Rebellious Rancher,” the latest book in the The Millers of Morgan Valley Series by Kate Pearce https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781420148251/the-rebellious-rancher/ Jungian archetypes: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jungian_archetypes Audre Lorde: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Audre_Lorde Episode 34: The Madwoman: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-34-madwoman Metta loving-kindness meditation: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maitrī | |||
| 24 Feb 2020 | 19: How to Entertainment | 00:36:28 | |
What's the difference between art and entertainment? How can you engage with both in a healthy way? PS: Emily really, really loves Schitt's Creek. ****** How Horror Helps With Processing Grief and Trauma: | |||
| 03 Feb 2020 | 16: How to Be a White Lady Who Tries | 00:34:32 | |
We're white ladies. We know we're not going to say anything that people of color don't already know. We're going to make mistakes. But we're going to try our best. Show notes: Me and White Supremacy workbook by Layla Saad Tressie McMillan Cottom's THICK | |||
| 22 Jun 2020 | 36: Embrace Tiger | 00:40:33 | |
This week, Amelia discusses tai chi and nonjudgment in the hope that it can help Emily. (and you) Spoiler warning: The moral of the story is Universe Juice. ******** Embrace Tiger, Return to Mountain: The Essence of Tai Ji https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/252447.Embrace_Tiger_Return_to_Mountain Everything Is Everything (Lauryn Hill song) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Everything_Is_Everything_(Lauryn_Hill_song) Kung Fu Panda https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kung_Fu_Panda_(franchise) Chickpea To Cook, By Rumi: | |||
| 20 Jan 2020 | 14: How to Art | 00:44:32 | |
Amelia takes the lead on this one. How does creative self-expression help you complete the stress response cycle? (Hint: It has to do with recognizing that emotions are real.) | |||
| 17 Nov 2020 | 56: Amelia’s Something Larger is a Turkey | 00:41:54 | |
It’s a special holiday episode where we ask you not to attend holiday gatherings. It’s about turkey, but it’s not really about turkey. Bonus: Amelia’s secret stuffing recipe. ***** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by If the Boot Fits, A Smart & Sexy Cinderella Story by Rebekah Weatherspoon LINKS: NY Times: For Home Cooks, Burnout Is a Reality This Holiday Season Episode 05: What's Your Something Larger? Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome | |||
| 02 Nov 2020 | 55: One Important Thing | 00:57:35 | |
It’s the final episode of the season! Emily and Amelia discuss what all of you learned from the show. And if your name is Brené Brown, there’s a special gratitude song just for you. ****** Taco Emoji 🌮 Don’t Bring Facts to a Feelings Fight Brené with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress Cycle Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: | |||
| 01 Jun 2020 | 33: Because: Unbreakable | 00:26:02 | |
Did you watch the interactive Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt? How does making good choices for Kimmy apply to real life? Emily and Amelia discuss. (Tons of spoilers for Kimmy Vs. The Reverend) ******** Kimmy Vs. The Reverend: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt10324166/ EMDR Therapy: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eye_movement_desensitization_and_reprocessing Emily’s romance novels: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/27208942-how-not-to-fall https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/25985351-how-not-to-let-go Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-03-human-giver-syndrome | |||
| 26 Jul 2021 | 63: How to Listen to Your Body (Addendum) | 00:46:10 | |
Is Emily Amelia's Loki Variant or is Amelia *Emily's* Loki Variant?? Sometimes your body lies to you, so it’s very on theme that it turns out we lied about this series ending last week. Mild spoilers for Loki, if you are planning to watch it. ********** LINKS: The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma Come As You Are (signed by Emily) Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com | |||
| 12 Mar 2025 | Goals 101: Why Amelia Failed No Buy Low Buy | 00:46:52 | |
Let’s talk about what makes a good goal. Amelia kind of biffed on No Buy Low Buy, but in the service of owning enough clothing to leave the house without looking like a hobo. Maybe it’s OK to not be a minimalist in all things?
PS: Amelia is still going live on Youtube on Fridays @4pm eastern: https://www.youtube.com/@feministsurvivalproject Dana K White - A Slob Comes Clean | |||
| 27 Jul 2020 | 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex | 01:08:47 | |
The Bikini-Industrial Complex We have been lied to all our lives about the relationship between health and weight. It’s both liberating and infuriating. Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Emily’s blog post on BMI and weight stigma: https://www.thedirtynormal.com/post/2016/08/07/bmi-mortality-weight-stigma-science-sigh/ Health at Every Size: Episode 11: The Bubble of Love: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-11-bubble-of-love Episode 40: Food: It's Complicated: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-40-food-its-complicated Episode 36: Embrace Tiger: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-36-embrace-tiger Sonya Renee Taylor - The Body is Not an Apology: https://www.sonyareneetaylor.com/the-body-is-not-an-apology Anti-Diet by Christy Harrison: https://christyharrison.com/book-anti-diet-intuitive-eating-christy-harrison | |||
| 03 Nov 2019 | 01: Separate the Stress From the Stressor | 00:24:30 | |
Wellness is a state of action. The cure for burnout isn’t self-care, it’s all of us caring for each other. And when we embrace those things, we’re not taking a break from fixing the world, we are already fixing the world. | |||
| 20 Mar 2025 | Introduction to Food and Body Awareness | 00:47:58 | |
tl;dr The one rule you really need to follow when you eat food is: Listen to your body. There you go. Hope you’ll still listen to the episode. PS: Amelia is still going live on Youtube on Fridays @4pm eastern: https://www.youtube.com/@feministsurvivalproject Links: FutureCanoe (Youtube) BlackForager (Youtube) Internet Shaquille (Youtube) What Cooking is Like for Someone Who Doesn't Cook (Youtube) | |||
| 21 Sep 2020 | 49: How to Dreams | 00:46:20 | |
Are your dreams purely biochemical processes or are they Jungian-scented mind candles your subconscious teaches you lessons with? Emily and Amelia discuss. ************* Jonathan Haidt: Encyclopedia Of Occult Sciences (archive.org) | |||
| 05 Feb 2025 | Elon Musk Does Not Have Asperger's and Neither Do We | 00:51:02 | |
Amelia takes the lead this week with a history of Autism and how it’s intertwined with Fascism. It gets dark, but not explicit. Links: Asperger's Children: The Origins of Autism in Nazi Vienna FSP 2020 Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome | |||
| 04 May 2020 | 29: Allegra | 01:00:56 | |
Amelia’s friend and fellow musician Allegra joins us this week and shares her perspective on social distancing and burnout. ****** Wozzeck Trailer (The Royal Opera): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YzU31UrXceo Predictably Irrational: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Predictably_Irrational The Ballad of the Brown King: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Ballad_of_the_Brown_King The Concert Choir of Georgetown University - Millennium Stage: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aPDZ2iwSMXA Vegetarian JapChae recipe: http://aeriskitchen.com/2017/03/vegetarian-japchae/ | |||
| 13 Jan 2020 | 13: Is it Burnout... Or is it trauma? | 00:35:03 | |
Burnout and trauma are not the same thing. Emily and Amelia discuss the difference and some ways to help. (Apologies for the audio quality on this one. We had some microphone difficulties.) | |||
| 18 May 2020 | 31: Social Support | 00:39:35 | |
It turns out feelings are real and (spoiler warning) emotional support is really important! Emily and Amelia discuss. There's science to support it. Emily and Amelia discuss. This episode is brought to you by Kensington’s newest title from Lindsay McKenna, Wind River Undercover. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/book.aspx/39281 ****** Gourmet Makes: https://www.bonappetit.com/video/series/gourmet-makes Shrinkchicks (Season 1, Episode 20) https://open.spotify.com/episode/61wmkKTydqaWbZ4pgorSKX Polyvagal Theory by Stephen Porges https://www.stephenporges.com/ | |||
| 25 May 2020 | 32: The Owl and the Cheese | 00:38:03 | |
What do owls and cheese have to do with surviving the hellscape of 2020? How can we work to run toward the things that make it worth surviving. Emily and Amelia discuss. ****** Episode 5: What's Your Something Larger? https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-05-something-larger Pacific Overtures "Someone in a Tree" - Ann Harada, Austin Ku, Kelvin Moon Loh & Thom Sesma: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-PNX9PPCEls&feature=emb_title Love Illuminated (part 1): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F8I4zFUxU9g&list=PLY864P3qWCN7iwXSXbQ8ZFA7J1YeYM8 Sadie the Dog: https://www.instagram.com/burnoutbookgroup/ | |||
| 20 Jul 2020 | 40: Food: It's Complicated | 00:45:42 | |
Do you live to eat or eat to live? If you answered, "it's complicated," you are correct. Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by “The Mermaid, the Witch, and the Sea,” Maggie Tokuda-Hall’s sweeping fantasy debut from Candlewick press: https://www.candlewick.com/cat.asp?mode=book&isbn=1536204315&browse=Title Episode 18: The New Hotness https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-18-new-hotness | |||
| 28 Sep 2020 | 50: Number Fifty | 00:35:50 | |
Fifty episodes! Let’s review the toolkit we’ve built during this year of podcasts. Emily and Amelia discuss. ************* Brené Brown: The power of vulnerability (TED talk) Episode 01: Separate the Stress From the Stressor Episode 32: The Owl and the Cheese Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Episode 11: The Bubble of Love Episode 05: What's Your Something Larger? Episode 35: Too Much Connection | |||
| 12 Oct 2020 | 52: Trust | 00:49:13 | |
How do you know when to trust other people? How do you know when to share your cupcakes to make the world better for everyone? Emily and Amelia discuss and end with a song. ******* Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women Come as You Are chapter 4 covers attachment theory | |||
| 02 Dec 2019 | 08: The Monitor | 00:38:01 | |
Frustration. Everybody feels it. Emily and Amelia discuss the science of how frustration works, and strategies for managing it. Worksheets from their book Burnout are here: https://www.burnoutbook.net/downloads | |||
| 11 Nov 2019 | 05: What's Your Something Larger? | 00:30:13 | |
There's a lot of research that says meaning and purpose is good for your mental health. But how do we define that? Emily, Amelia, and Moana are here to figure that out. | |||
| 07 Sep 2020 | 47: Pause For Pleasure | 00:39:40 | |
Can focusing on pleasure help your brain counteract depression? Is it worth taking a moment to enjoy every donut even if it doesn’t? Emily and Amelia discuss. ********* SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by “The Siren and the Deep Blue Sea,” the latest book in the Embraced by Magic Series by Kerrelyn Sparks. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781496730060/the-siren-and-the-deep-blue-sea/ ********* Entenmann’s donuts: https://www.entenmanns.com/en/products/8-crumb-donuts?category=8 Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-03-human-giver-syndrome Iggy Pop, King Biscuit Flower Hour: https://www.allmusic.com/album/king-biscuit-flower-hour-mw0000029108 How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind: https://www.aslobcomesclean.com/manage-home-without-losing-mind/ Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-41-bikini-industrial-complex Episode 10: Rest IS the Revolution: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-10-rest-is-revolution Disney's Polynesian Resort Music Loop (Full 3 Hour Edition): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QrAkWFQpi0w A Social History of Background Music: http://passport2dreams.blogspot.com/2017/10/a-social-history-of-background-music.html | |||
| 18 Jan 2021 | 57: 2020 [BETA] | 00:51:17 | |
Let’s make some New Year’s Resolutions. Or not! Do whatever you need to get through this mess. Amelia is still dealing with long Covid and Emily gets really excited about Bridgerton. ********* LINKS: Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Your New Year’s Resolution in 2021 Should Be To Stay Alive | A Serious Message From a Comedy Writer Kate Bornstein get out of hell card Episode 51: Calling In Amelia’s Covid Burnout: THE SECRET TO UNLOCKING THE STRESS CYCLE feminist survival project instagram | |||
| 24 Aug 2020 | 45: Emily’s Epiphany | 00:43:25 | |
Emily’s worried about the future of democracy, but the good news is It turns out the nature of the problem doesn’t necessarily dictate the nature of the solution. (This one’s a little dark.) ******* Sonya Renee Taylor: https://www.instagram.com/tv/CD4C_56AbP7/?igshid=jrczl9b8x7ay https://www.instagram.com/tv/CECUAjsADLF/?igshid=1ecl04ohd5a1h Surviving Autocracy by Masha Gessen: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/50695164-surviving-autocracy How to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/40265832-how-to-be-an-antiracist Defying Hitler by Sebastian Haffner: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/65458.Defying_Hitler Early warning signs of fascism: https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/holocaust-museum-warning-signs-fascism/ The Cake in the Rain Song (not to be confused with The Pina Colada Song) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sD-zTwi3_GU How Fascism Works: The Politics of Us and Them by Jason Stanley https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/38255329-how-fascism-works Episode 44: How to Shadow Work: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-44-shadow-work Episode 04: The Abyss: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-04-the-abyss | |||
| 09 Dec 2019 | 09: How to Rage | 00:45:06 | |
Rage. It's a maligned and misunderstood emotion. What's your relationship with your rage? What's your rage's relationship with... poop? | |||
| 30 Mar 2020 | 24: The Sex Episode | 00:52:22 | |
Emily and Amelia’s first ever guest! They talk with the amazing Peggy Kleinplatz, one of the authors of the new book, Magnificent Sex. ****** Magnificent Sex By Peggy J. Kleinplatz and A. Dana Ménard https://www.routledge.com/Magnificent-Sex-Lessons-from-Extraordinary-Lovers-1st-Edition/Kleinplatz-Menard/p/book/9780367181376 | |||
| 03 Mar 2020 | Mini-Episode: How to Coronavirus | 00:14:55 | |
Worried about the Coronavirus? Luckily, Emily has a background in public health and can explain it. This is an episode for people who aren’t at high risk, to talk about why and how they can help make the world safer for people who are at risk. Spoiler warning: Wash your hands. PS: Edited to add when Emily listened to this mini-episode, she realized they didn’t make it crystal clear that it’s not just age but also health issues that make people vulnerable. People of any age can have respiratory issues, diabetes or cardiovascular disease, all three of which are known to increase severity of symptoms if a person gets COVID-19. ****** By Emily: how to survive a long-haul flight — 2020/coronovirus update Emily loves Mrs. Meyer's Acorn Spice Liquid Hand Soap | |||
| 28 Oct 2019 | Introduction | 00:05:21 | |
What is the Feminist Survival Project 2020? Emily and Amelia Nagoski explain the project and how you can help. | |||
| 18 Nov 2019 | 06: How to News | 00:22:30 | |
Impeachment has begun. What's your relationship with the news right now? Emily and Amelia discuss their strategies. Spoiler alert: It's OK to dial it back and take care of yourself. | |||
| 17 Feb 2020 | 18: The New Hotness | 00:43:20 | |
The Bikini-Industrial Complex. What is it and how can you escape it? Also- The secret identity of The New Hotness (Spoiler warning: It's you.) ****** | |||
| 02 Jan 2025 | Take Your Time | 00:55:55 | |
Who in your life gives you the permission and support to take the time that you need? If you can’t think of anyone else, let it be us. Links: Cynthia Erivo sings I'm Here - The Color Purple (The pose is at about 4:40) Cynthia Erivo sings "I'm Here" for the final time on Broadway Emily’s TED talk - The truth about unwanted arousal Confidence and joy are the keys to a great sex life | Emily Nagoski | TEDxUniversityofNevada (Did you know there's a workbook??) The Burnout workbook audiobook (and an audiobook of the workbook??) Dana K. White - How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind FSP 2020 Episode 33: Because: Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt - ten seconds at a time Laura Vanderkam - Off the Clock: Feel Less Busy While Getting More Done FSP 2020 Episode 05: What's Your Something Larger? | |||
| 27 Apr 2020 | 28: Foop | 00:41:50 | |
You know that crazy feeling of oscillating between frustrated rage and helpless despair? That’s Foop. Emily and Amelia discuss. ********** The Monitor: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-08-the-monitor | |||
| 17 Feb 2021 | Bonus: Audio Preface to the new edition (1 of 3) | 00:25:50 | |
Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gmail.com A transcript of this episode is available on the FSP website. | |||
| 13 Jul 2020 | 39: Covid Follow Up | 00:34:12 | |
Spoiler alert: COVID is serious. Amelia is past the worst and quarantined like a boss, but it really took a toll. Contains some coughing and mild coffee snobbery. ******** Amelia’s covid prep list: https://medium.com/@amelianp/covid-prep-list-7bbc6a8ee3d2 Hario V60 pour over coffee: https://www.baristainstitute.com/brewguides-2/hario-v60 Episode 08: The Monitor: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-08-the-monitor | |||
| 06 Jul 2020 | 38: Amelia has the COVID | 00:57:48 | |
As careful as she was, Amelia caught the virus. (She's OK.) Let's learn from her experience and get a Corona Plan together in case you need to quarantine. Bonus: Emily and Amelia discuss toilet paper. SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by Crushing It, a new romantic comedy by Lorelei Parker from Kensington Books. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/pages/landing-page/crushingit/ Amelia’s covid prep list: | |||
| 09 Mar 2020 | 21: Your Body Will Tell You | 00:49:54 | |
How do you listen to your body? It’s easy for some people and a completely alien concept for others. Emily and Amelia discuss. ****** The Communication of Emotion by Ross Buck https://www.amazon.com/Communication-Emotion-Ross-Buck/dp/0898621100 Interoception https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interoception Proprioception https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Proprioception Singing Redefined by Walter C. Foster https://www.classicalvocalrep.com/products/Singing-Redefined-by-Walter-C-Foster-369633.html Peggy Kleinplatz https://www.aasect.org/member-spotlight-peggy-kleinplatz | |||
| 16 Dec 2019 | 10: Rest IS the Revolution | 00:29:21 | |
Rest is important. You're probably not getting enough. Let's talk about it with Emily, Amelia, and a special secret guest cameo appearance from Rachel Maddow. We're huge fans of The Nap Ministry, who you should follow on Instagram. | |||
| 02 Mar 2020 | 20: How to Numbing | 00:35:01 | |
Numbing. Emotional ibuprofen. Maladaptive coping strategies. They’re short-term solutions, but sometimes reducing the pain is the only way you can rest enough to heal. FSP2020 joins the Frolic network: https://frolic.media Gourmet Makes with Claire Saffitz: https://www.bonappetit.com/video/series/gourmet-makes Explain Pain Super Charged: https://www.amazon.com/Explain-Charged-Butler-Lorimer-Moseley/dp/0648022706 | |||
| 30 Dec 2019 | 11: The Bubble of Love | 00:33:46 | |
What makes a relationship safe and renewing? Emily and Amelia explain using Cupcake Economics. | |||
| 28 Feb 2025 | Decluttering Momentum and the Doom Box | 01:11:28 | |
Do you have a box of stuff you've carried between moves and never dealt with? Yeah, I totally don't have 100 of those. This week, Amelia declutters a Dreaded Doom Box. And then Emily and Amelia go a little deeper on decluttering. Today! Amelia is going live on Youtube on Fridays starting, February 21 @ 4pm eastern. Follow here: https://www.youtube.com/@feministsurvivalproject **** Links: Dana K White - A Slob Comes Clean https://www.aslobcomesclean.com This Is Your Brain on Music: THE SCIENCE OF A HUMAN OBSESSION By Daniel J. Levitin | |||
| 25 Nov 2019 | 07: Your Racist Uncle, Your Apathetic Aunt, and Your Misogynist Cousin: How To | 00:33:34 | |
It's almost Thanksgiving here in these United States. Emily and Amelia discuss their strategies for dealing with people you disagree with during the holidays. In the words of Luke Skywalker, "This is not going to go the way you think." | |||
| 20 Nov 2024 | FSP: Zombie Apocalypse Edition | 00:50:32 | |
Emily and Amelia are back. Maybe this will help you like it helps them. Links: Nothing Much Happens podcast: Softly Softly Sleep Sound with Richard Armitage (Audible) The New Jim Crow (book) In 2017, “Joy Policing” Can Go Fuck Itself by Emily BURNOUT: Do You Feel Half Alive? We Can Do Hard Things - Apple Podcasts | |||
| 13 Apr 2020 | 26: Masks and How to Wear Them | 00:32:23 | |
We're all wearing masks now. But why are we wearing them and how can we do so most effectively. Emily and Amelia get into it, cowboy outlaw-style. | |||
| 14 Sep 2020 | 48: You’re Allowed to Like the Thing | 00:57:22 | |
Do the views of authors and actors affect your ability to enjoy things? Can you consume problematic media in good conscience? Amelia and Emily discuss. J. K. Rowling is not invited. ************* WTAF, RWA: Courtney Milan Banned, Suspended From RWA I Asked My Friend WHY She Had a Plantation Wedding Zaris-Angel performs 'Naughty' at West End Live 2016 Splash Mountain to Be Rethemed to The Princess and the Frog The Wind Can GTFO [A Gone With the Wind Breakdown] Episode 07: Your Racist Uncle, Your Apathetic Aunt, and Your Misogynist Cousin: How To | |||
| 10 Feb 2020 | 17: How to Gratitude | 00:37:59 | |
Gratitude is important. But just because we’ve come a long way, it doesn’t mean we’re close to where we need to be. Emily and Amelia discuss. FSP2020 episode 5: What's your something larger? Nichole’s Gratitude on Medium. Amelia is a huge Brandon Sanderson fan. | |||
| 06 Mar 2025 | The Problem With Hope | 01:28:34 | |
If hope is your reason to do nothing, that’s delusion. But what is hope? Do you need it? The second half of the episode gets a little dark, but hopefully it’ll be helpful to hear. Help is available right away. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, 1-800-273-TALK - website Trans Lifeline: 1-877-565-8860 - website Links: FSP 2025: We're Stronger Than the Fire An Alternative to Hope: Or, The Secret Medicine for When the Thing With Feathers Stop Singing (Emily on Youtube) Monty Python - Dead Parrot (Youtube) FSP 2020 episode 8: The Monitor No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz, PHD (book) | |||
| 16 Nov 2022 | The Come As You Are podcast | 00:24:16 | |
The Come As You Are podcast was a 8-episode miniseries. It's over now, but maybe you haven't heard it yet? Subscribe here: | |||
| 07 Jun 2021 | 58: How to Listen to Your Body, Part One | 00:38:23 | |
Part one in a series where Amelia discusses how she’s learned to listen to her body. Spoiler warning: She used to be terrible at it. Allegra Martin joins the show this week. (Emily is back next week.) ********** LINKS: Jonathan Haidt: The Elephant and the Rider Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com | |||
| 27 Nov 2024 | We're Stronger Than the Fire | 00:53:25 | |
Let it burn. Links: Paradise Square (musical) Joaquina Kalukango – "Let It Burn" (75th Tony Awards Performance) on Youtube (This is the performance we talk about in the episode.) The "This is Fine" dog by KC Green, who is a real person who actually created the cartoon. | |||
| 14 Feb 2025 | No Buy Low Buy | 01:00:29 | |
Emily and Amelia are both doing some variation on low-buy/no-buy this year. There are many good reasons to do so, and many good ways to make it work for you. All that and bonus toaster oven and kitchen counter commiseration! Amelia is going live on Youtube starting next Friday, February 21 @ 4pm eastern. Follow here. Links: | |||
| 12 Jul 2021 | 62: How to Listen to Your Body: Part Five | 00:53:02 | |
The epic conclusion! It’s about using your imagination to listen to your body. Emily and Amelia bring it all home. ********** LINKS: Episode 58: How to Listen to Your Body, Part One (guest starring Allegra) Emily and Amelia on Brené Brown’s “Unlocking Us” Rumi’s “A Story is Like Water” Come As You Are (signed by Emily) What I Talk About When I Talk About Running No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com | |||
| 20 Jun 2021 | 60: How to Listen to Your Body, Part Three | 00:43:01 | |
You’re aware of how the external world affects your internal experience. What’s next? Nonjudgment is a big part of it. Emily and Amelia discuss interoception. ************ LINKS: Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com | |||
| 19 Feb 2021 | Bonus: Audio Preface to the new edition (2 of 3) | 00:22:31 | |
Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gmail.com A transcript of this episode is available on the FSP website. | |||
| 03 Nov 2019 | 04: The Abyss | 00:30:46 | |
Today... we’re gonna look squarely into the abyss. We’ve all got one. Let’s talk about it. | |||
| 19 Oct 2020 | 53: How to Attachment | 00:58:57 | |
What’s your attachment style? Which Broadway musical number does it correspond to? Emily and Amelia discuss… and sing. ***** Reaper Incandescent Sisal Light Up Halloween Decor Candide - Make Our Garden Grow Brené with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress Cycle How to Be an Adult: A Handbook for Psychological and Spiritual Integration Tell us one thing you’ve learned on FSP so far! feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com | |||
| 03 Aug 2020 | 42: Stages of Change | 00:51:45 | |
Amelia’s COVID Chronicles, Chapter One Million. Emily helps her turn towards her fatigue with m********ing kindness and m********ing compassion. ******** Transtheoretical model: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transtheoretical_model That Calvin Coolidge quote which neither of us endorse: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/2749-nothing-in-this-world-can-take-the-place-of-persistence Episode 31: Social Support: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-31-social-support Self-Therapy: https://selftherapyjourney.com Emily’s romance novels: | |||
| 03 Nov 2019 | 02: Complete the Stress Response Cycle | 00:40:16 | |
So if solving actual stressors isn’t enough to deal with the stress in your body, what does deal with it? How do we complete the stress response cycle? This episode is a catalog of a dozen concrete, specific, evidence-based strategies for doing just that. | |||
| 30 Jan 2025 | Introduction to Decluttering and Cozy Spaces | 01:18:26 | |
You probably have too much stuff. Most of us have too much stuff. And that’s not even taking into account the emotions we feel about having too much stuff. Luckily, Emily has done the research. Let’s make your space more ventral. Links: Saturn Ion (Wikipedia) FSP 2025 Season 2, Episode 4: Polyvagal 101 Freshwave (the stuff in the buckets) Cas Aarssen (Youtube) Kay Patterson (Youtube) Goodbye, Things (the silent to do list) FSP 2020 Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex | |||
| 06 Jan 2020 | 12: How to Sleeping | 00:41:11 | |
How much sleep do you need? What's the "right" way to sleep? Emily and Amelia talk about sleep debt, sleep personalities, and a just a touch of Jane Eyre. | |||
| 06 Apr 2020 | 25: Even More Social Distancing | 00:47:09 | |
Emily (from her bed) and Amelia (from her kitchen) discuss the importance of social distancing, as well as why it's so hard. And Amelia tops it off with a classic 90s Bette Midler jam. ****** Episode 20: How to Numbing https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-20-numbing SOCIAL DISTANCE - A Randy Rainbow Song Parody https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WimbyL_25Nw Colin Firth Swimming https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hasKmDr1yrA | |||
| 05 Oct 2020 | 51: Calling In Amelia’s Covid | 00:39:24 | |
Update on Amelia’s long Covid situation and Emily’s new dad, Mandy Patinkin. ******* “I’m a Black Feminist. I Think Call-Out Culture Is Toxic.” by Loretta Ross | |||
| 14 Jun 2021 | 59: How to Listen to Your Body, Part Two | 00:56:23 | |
It took Amelia years to realize feelings were real and to listen to her own body. This week, she and Emily explain the way to get started to Amelia’s 17-year-old self.) ********** LINKS: “Until you spread your wings, you'll have no idea how far you can walk.” Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com | |||
| 20 Apr 2020 | 27: How to Unfamiliarity | 01:01:33 | |
We're all in uncharted territory these days. Amelia has a music metaphor to help cope with these times of social distancing. Emily helps break it down. Special appearance by Beethoven. (not the dog) | |||
| 06 Dec 2024 | Gender: It Begins | 01:07:45 | |
Turns out you can be identical twins and experience gender really differently from one another. Emily and Amelia discuss. Content warning: There’s some talk about fascism and Mussolini’s sex life. Links: Come Together - The Gender Mirage (chapter 10) Will and Harper (Netflix show) | |||
| 23 Dec 2024 | Enough tho | 00:47:42 | |
You are enough. Because all you can be is 100% of who you are. But you’re also filled with tiny organisms that fart. Links: Burnout (our book) Starling murmuration 2020 (youtube video) High Conflict by Amanda Ripley My Grandmother’s Hands by Resmaa Menakem Coca-Cola's 'Hilltop' Ad ("I'd Like to Teach the World to Sing") (youtube) Brandon Sanderson's "The Stormlight Archive" series (Amelia's excerpt is from book 5.) The Bubble of Love (FSP2020 episode 11) | |||
| 29 Jun 2020 | 37: Ode to Ode to Joy | 00:41:46 | |
Ode to Ode to Joy Classical music should be for everyone because we all deserve access to joy. You may have more in common with these dead composers than you thought. Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Was Beethoven Black? Probably Not, but These Unsung Composers Were: Joy playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0RmAELBeFBBItZnfTV4yX7?si=EsR-Yi_GRbyjw4IUk6lhvw Schubert: Symphony No.9 "The Great" / Bernstein Bayerischen Rundfunks: https://youtu.be/hCuC8--m-98?t=2453 Mahler: Symphony No. 2: Mov. 5 - Part 4 of 4: https://youtu.be/tf5fM1i3MGQ?t=234 Rachmaninoff plays Traditional/Rachmaninov "Powder and Paint" with Nadejda Plevitskaya: Beethoven in Baltimore: https://www.bsomusic.org/GMLoungeLive Burnout playlist, art music by women composers in a mood of quiet strength: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2F3axNgma4ropXUTvbKYXf?si=_df9yYjuSVC5GEXo3-NZFg | |||
| 03 Nov 2019 | 03: Human Giver Syndrome | 00:30:30 | |
In this episode, the question is: What’s the biggest cultural barrier between feminists and their ability to complete the stress response cycles? | |||
| 31 Aug 2020 | 46: What Even Is Hope | 00:44:06 | |
What is the nature of hope? Amelia’s off this week, so Emily discusses with her mysterious Marital Euphemism. ****** How We Hope: A Moral Psychology by Adrienne Martin: https://www.amazon.com/How-We-Hope-Moral-Psychology/dp/0691171394 Irascible Appetites: https://aquinasonline.com/sense-appetites-passions/ Episode 08: The Monitor: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-08-the-monitor Oregon Trail Generation: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Xennials Marital Euphemism: https://twitter.com/rstevens | |||
| 26 Oct 2020 | 54: Music For Stress Management | 00:53:35 | |
Everybody’s been asking about the class Amelia teaches on the book Burnout, so she’s gonna lay it all out for us. And, ohh… did you know we spoke to Brené Brown? That actually happened. ***** Brené with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress Cycle Episode 13: Is it Burnout... Or is it trauma? Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Tell us one thing you’ve learned on FSP so far! feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com | |||
| 15 Jun 2020 | 35: Too Much Connection | 00:39:30 | |
Connection is a drive, like hunger and sleep. But what do you do when you’ve had too much connection? Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Born in Quarantine (Facebook ad) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8OW4AFbzjGk Social Distance podcast: https://www.theatlantic.com/podcasts/socialdistance/ Episode 31: Social Support: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-31-social-support The Noonday Demon: http://andrewsolomon.com/books/the-noonday-demon/ Raising Your Spirited Child, Third Edition: https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Your-Spirited-Child-Third/dp/0062403060 | |||
| 08 Jun 2020 | 34: The Madwoman | 01:05:16 | |
Emily and Amelia discuss the concept of The Madwoman, and how you can turn toward yours with kindness and compassion. Spoiler warning for those who don't yet know the stories of Jane Eyre or Moana. ******** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by Never Conspire With a Sinful Baron, the latest book in Renee Ann Miller’s Infamous Lords Series. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781420150032/never-conspire-with-a-sinful-baron/ Jane Eyre https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jane_Eyre Bertha Mason (The Madwoman in the Attic) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bertha_Mason Buffy’s Madwoman© https://medium.com/@amelianp/buffys-madwoman-a925672d7689 Episode 04: The Abyss https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-04-the-abyss Episode 11: The Bubble of Love https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-11-bubble-of-love Episode 02: Complete the Stress Response Cycle https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-02-complete-the-stress-response-cycle | |||
| 13 Dec 2024 | Polyvagal 101 | 01:07:28 | |
Dorsal. Sympathetic. Ventral. It’s all about your nervous system’s sense of safety. Links: Our Polyvagal World: How Safety and Trauma Change Us by Stephen W. Porges and Seth Porges Deb Dana's website - includes definitions of Polyvagal Theory terms Borders Books and Music (RIP) FSP2020 episode 58: How to Listen to Your Body, Part One (of four) FSP2020 episode 49: How to Dreams | |||
| 22 Feb 2021 | Bonus: Audio Preface to the new edition (3 of 3) | 00:26:21 | |
Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gmail.com A transcript of this episode is available on the FSP website. | |||
| 09 Jan 2025 | Mask Off | 01:22:42 | |
Everyone masks to make it easier to live in the world. Emily and Amelia discuss theirs, and have some insights about times when things were particularly difficult. Content warning, there are some dark thoughts and mentions of suicidal ideation in the form of a Zombie Leprechaun around the 50 minute mark. No one was harmed. Please take care. Editor’s note: There is some extremely cathartic laughter at the end. Amelia’s video from the beginning of this episode Follow Amelia's Youtube channel here FSP 2020 Episode 04: The Abyss The Come As You Are podcast | |||
| 11 May 2020 | 30: Voting While Feminist | 01:17:29 | |
“Democracy is the worst form of government, except for all the others” is attributed to Winston Churchill, who wasn't too great himself. And this year it might feel like the Democratic presidential candidate is the worst one on the ballot except for the other one. What’s a feminist to do?Emily, Amelia, and Amelia's colleague Mark discuss. (Content warning: this episode includes discussion of sexual violence ) ****** what to do when someone tells you they were sexually assaulted: https://medium.com/@enagoski/what-to-do-when-someone-tells-you-they-were-sexually-assaulted-794d41e58c05 | |||
| 28 Jun 2021 | 61: How to Listen to Your Body: Part Four | 00:50:42 | |
Emily and Amelia start by talking about your body’s sense of proprioception, but wind up taking a journey into imagination. ************ LINKS: YOKE: MY YOGA OF SELF ACCEPTANCE (book) Singing Redefined by Walter C. Foster FSP episode 36: Embrace Tiger Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com | |||
| 27 Jan 2020 | 15: How to Primaries | 00:32:19 | |
It's the inevitable politics episode. Amelia is an idealist. Emily's a pragmatist. But guess what? They both want to do the right thing. | |||
| 13 Nov 2024 | An Alternative to Hope (From Emily) | 00:15:03 | |
An Alternative to Hope: Or, The Secret Medicine for When the Thing With Feathers Stop Singing I was inspired to make this video obviously because of John Green’s June 25th video, where he talks about taking a break from making videos because: depression, and he concludes with his familiar assurance that despair is a lie, hopelessness is a lie, that life is meaningful, and your life matters. He says he’s going to spend the month of July reminding himself that Emily Dickinson was right, “that hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul and sings the tune without the words and never stops at all.” (The source for this episode) Amelia's response to my response Read this post on my newsletter here (google doc) On the “Metaverse”: Rich White Men Looking to Escape the World They Created "How We Hope" by Adrienne Martin (excellent book) | |||
| 10 Aug 2020 | 43: How to Bystander | 00:48:42 | |
So you’ve noticed something Not Okay is happening. What do you do next? Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Green Dot Bystander Intervention: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Green_Dot_Bystander_Intervention Rage Fridge (From Thanksgiving episode): https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-07-thanksgiving Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-41-bikini-industrial-complex Episode 18: The New Hotness: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-18-new-hotness Erika Moen: | |||
| 16 Mar 2020 | 22: Time Affluence | 00:44:57 | |
Time is the only completely limited resource. What matters more to you, time or stuff? Are you willing to compromise to fit the expectations of others? Emily and Amelia discuss. | |||
| 23 Mar 2020 | 23: Social Distance Duet | 00:56:03 | |
Emily and Amelia discuss social distancing while social distancing. Plus: Bonus word games and ukulele music. ****** Mickey Mouse - Ku'u Lei Melody | Song https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h8FasCHHsPk | |||