F*ck Yeah (Sarah Tomchesson and Robin Jennings)

Dirty Lola, of NYC's Sex Ed A Go-Go and Netflix's Principles of Pleasure, schools us on the nuances of polyamory aka open relationships aka ethical non-monogamy (ENM). We get into way more than the semantics. Lola shares about the ways to deprogram from toxic monogamy culture, the tenets (and common pitfalls) of ENM, her personal poly triumphs and learnings, the communication tools she and her wonderfully unique poly fam use to make it all work. We learn about polycules. poly-friendly dating apps and so much more in our conversation with Lola.You can find Lola on social @dirtylola, or online at www.dirtylola.coYou can find us on TT & IG @fuckyeahpod, Youtube @fyeahpod or email us at fyeahpod@gmail.com

Sarah and Robin are exploring fantasies in this penultimate episode of season 3. They break down what constitutes a fantasy with help from the classic guide The Erotic Mind by Jack Morin, deconstruct some of their own fantasies, answer the question "does Sarah even fantasize?" and talk through the process of reconstructing fantasies that feel outdated or misaligned with your current erotic self. Robin introduces Sarah to the meaning of Cathexis and how it's different from love and the poem Manic Pixie Dream Girl by Olivia Gatwood, and Sarah introduces Robin to a segment about delightfully gay dolphins. This episode features a vulva from @kokieca and the coining of the term "embodied fantasy"!

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Ryan DiMartino, founder of World of Difference Doula, joins Robin and Sarah to share their birthing and adoption journey. We covered so much ground in our conversation with Ryan that we have broken it into two parts. In today’s episode, we dive into Ryan’s pregnancy, after doctors told them testosterone would cause them to become infertile. Ryan’s experience navigating the health care system as a 21 year old, trans pregnant person speaks volumes about the disparity in care and systematic scrutiny folks receive based on their perceived identity. Ryan’s birthing experience, their subsequent surrogacy, and their role in an open adoption with their children have given them an uniquely insightful perspective on adoption, reproductive care, and the like. Sarah and Robin also share about their own, much different, birthing stories.

Join us next week to hear more about the adoption industry and the experience of birthing parents and adopted children in that system. Find Ryan at worldofdifferencedoula.com

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In episode 5, Sarah and Robin get together to celebrate the launch of the podcast and check in on how it's going for each of them personally. This naturally turns into a robust discussion about self-parenting, self-expression, and the anxiety that comes with putting yourself out there. Buster Keaton, David Bowie and cuddly alpacas make an appearance in this episode. Robin wraps the episode up with a "Wait, What?!" and educates Sarah on "Pick Me Girls" and the multiple layers of misogyny that show up in the recent TikTok trend.

We have returned from hiatus to bring you season 4. We kick off with a catch up about the state of the world - Olympics, politics and summer vibes are dominating our world right now. Get our hot takes on women's sports, Kamala's rise to brat status and which white man we took bets on becoming her running mate.

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Accomplished writer, podcaster (Why Are People Into That?!?), educator, and kink connoisseur, Tina Horn joins Sarah and Robin to unpack consensual non-consent. Tina brings her signature wit and intellect to this nuanced discussion about total power exchange. The conversation covers why non-consensual dynamics can be enticing to explore in play and the metaphorical nature of fantasy play. We dive into how complicated it is to clearly define consent and dismantle rape culture, the appeal of monster sex, BDSM as storytelling, and we learn about the 90s heartthrobs that left an impression on Tina. The conversation wraps up with a glimpse into Tina's process of developing her riveting, sex-positive, sci fi dystopian comic book series SfSx.

CW: this episode touches on forced sex, and rape fantasies. Please take care while listening.

Tina Horn is the creator and writer of the sci-fi sex-rebel comic book series SfSx (Safe Sex). She is currently working on a book version of her long-running kink podcast Why Are People Into That?! and was the host and co-writer of the Wondery podcast series Operator. Her reporting on sexual subcultures and politics has appeared in Rolling Stone, Playboy, Hazlitt, Glamour, Jezebel and elsewhere; she is the author of two nonfiction books and has contributed to numerous anthologies including We Too: Essays on Sex Work and Survival, which she also co-edited. Tina has lectured on sex worker politics and queer BDSM identities at universities and community centers all over North America, and works as an on-set consultant for theater, film, and television including the dominatrix scenes of Pose. She is a LAMBDA Literary Fellow, an AVN nominee, the recipient of two Feminist Porn Awards, and holds an MFA in Creative Nonfiction Writing from Sarah Lawrence. You can follower her on Twitter and Instagram @TinaHornsAss and visit TinaHorn.net

Happy Holidays! To celebrate, Sarah and Robin sit down for a feminist check in. We dive into the feminist (and not-so-feminist) highlights of the season from Kylie Kelce's new number 1 podcast, to the ways the 4B movement has lit up the internet. Join us for this jovial feminist rant.

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We're sharing our favorite horror film genres, films and moments with the illustrious Tina Horn (Why are People Into That) in honor of all that is spooky and fabulous about October! Why do we watch horror? (Unsurprisingly, Elvira has the answer for us). Which horror films left the biggest impression on us? What does sex and horror have in common? We get into all of it in this deliciously bite-sized episode.

Join us and Cruise LA this Saturday, October 19th 4-9pm at the Eagle LA (4219 Santa Monica Blvd). Get your free Circa Festival tix here! We are hosting a panel discussion featuring Vanessa Carlisle, Sydney Rogers, SWOPLA, SHEP as part of Cruise LA.

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Author Chris Zeischegg joins us to talk about his newest book, Creation: On Art and Becoming. Chris' work is semi-autobiographical and heavily influenced by his years working in the sex industry. Longtime collaborator, Luka Fisher, serves as a muse and a thread that weaves Chris' newest collection of short stories and essays together. We discuss the book, Luka's role in both the book and Chris' life, the impact of toxic masculinity on everyone in the sex trade regardless of gender, and the shadow side of porn - all of which appear in Chris' transgressive and visceral writings. Content warning: we discuss the impact of sex work including self harm and suicidal ideation. We encourage you to take care of yourself while listening or ,skipping this week if you need to.

Christopher Zeischegg is a writer, musician, and filmmaker who spent eight years working in the adult industry as performer, Danny Wylde.

He is the author of five books, Creation: On Art and Unbecoming, The Magician, The Wolves that Live in Skin and Space, Body to Job, and Come to My Brother, and has contributed to Expat 4, Human Rights, Split Lips, and a variety of digital publications, such as Somesuch and The Nervous Breakdown.

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April Lampert of Shameless Sex joins us this week to say F*ck Yeah to plant medicine! We always have a blast with April and this week’s episode is brimming with belly laughs and heartfelt shares about being a woman in the industry, manifesting your best life, and how building a relationship with plant medicine has shaped April’s unique journey. April’s light is infectious, and we are so excited to share it with you our dear listeners!

April Lampert is co-host of one of the most listened to sex podcasts in the world, Shameless Sex, and is VP at the cutting edge sex toy company Hot Octopuss. She reigns as one of the prominent woman in the pleasure products industry earning her an award for Woman of the Year while her sex and relationship podcast has more than 15 million downloads to date. April’s passion for pleasure and sexual wellness has steered her to dedicate her life to the business of sex.

This week we're mashing up past segments about a common thread that comes up in our conversations - containers! What is the benefit of creating a safe container for sex, kink or intimacy? We answer this question in compiled segments from Season 2 Episode 14 F*ck Yeah to Shameless Sex with Amy Baldwin followed by a clip from our appearance on the Shameless Sex podcast. We apply a famous playground study to kink play, explore an intimate eye-gazing exercise from renowned tantra educator, Barbara Carellas, and Sarah reports back on trying Amy Baldwin's inner beast exercise.

Lucie Fielding, author of Trans Sex: Clinical Approaches to Trans Sexualities and Erotic Embodiments, joins Sarah and Robin to dive into the concept of erotic embodiment. We explore Mary Poppins as a femme root, learn the term fluidic as an erotic experience, and discuss how the field of sex therapy is breaking out of some of it's puritanical underpinnings through the efforts of practitioners like Lucie (or Dr. Fielding, if you're nasty). Lucie also introduces us to the concept of gender pleasure and how it is taking shape in her work and delivers some expert tips on muffing that blow our minds.

This episode is rich with references (links below) from Lucie's intersecting experience as a writer, erotic literary scholar, sex therapist, and pleasure-affirming, somatic practitioner. Lucie Fielding, PhD, MA, LMHCA, Resident in Counseling (she/they) is a white, neurodivergent, queer, trans misogyny affected (TMA) femme, and a therapist practicing in Virginia and Washington (on Monacan lands and unceded Duwamish territory, respectively). They specialize in sex therapy, kink-knowledgeable therapy, 2SLGBTQIA-knowledgeable therapy, sex work-affirming therapy; and they work from narrative, imaginal, and somatic frameworks that honor the (intergenerational) wisdom of the body, promote community-care, and support empowered embodied eroticism. They are the author of Trans Sex: Clinical Approaches to Trans Sexualities and Erotic Embodiments (2021), which was awarded an AASECT Book Award in 2022 (Sexuality Professionals Category) and named a finalist for a 2022 Lambda Literary Award (Lammy) in the Transgender-Nonfiction category.

You can find out more about Lucie at https://luciefielding.com or follow them on Instagram (@sexbeyondbinaries)

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Dorothy Allison https://www.dorothyallison.com/

Amber Hollibaugh https://www.dukeupress.edu/my-dangerous-desires

Raechel Anne Jolie https://www.raechelannejolie.com/

Ashley Hoskin https://www.ashleyhoskin.ca/rah

Tuck Malloy https://intrasensual.com/

Mira Bellwether "Fucking Trans Women" https://archive.org/details/FuckingTransWomen0/mode/2up

"Muffing 101" Tobi Hill-Myer https://www.autostraddle.com/muffing-101/

Queer hair stylist and fierce femme Sparrow Fox joins us to talk queer hair, aging with grace, and the magic of being seen in the salon (and the streets). We get into the pressures of our culture to look beautiful on the outside while suppressing inner turmoil, how fashion can affirm your identity, and how a queer mindset allows for stylistic freedom. We also share about our early experiences in the salon, the messaging that shaped how we view ourselves and how we carry ourselves in the world now as midlife queers who are sometimes too busy to serve all the lewks.

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Sparrow Fox is a queer hair stylist specializing in color. She runs her own salon and is a brand educator for Amika. You can find Sparrow on socials @sfoxhair

This is our last week on break and we're bringing you the very moving and informative re-release of our interview with Sex Nerd Sandra. Like do many, we are deeply troubled by the horrific conflict in Gaza. This episode starts with an acknowledgment of what is happening in Gaza. If you're unsure of how to help, please visit https://www.jewishvoiceforpeace.org/ for actionable ways to demand a cease fire.

From Season 1… Sex Nerd Sandra joins us for this week's dive into pelvic floors, mental health, and staying true to yourself. We learn about Sandra's path away from podcasting & sex education to becoming a Pelvic floor PT (we're definitely doing our kegel exercises incorrectly btw). From witchy rituals and pregnancy to memory lapses and fisting, we cover the gamut in this episode. If you're like us and you miss Sex Nerd Sandra's hilarious, nerdy, and sex pos podcast, you've got to check out this week's episode. Nuts to guts, y’all!

Resources referenced in this episode...Erotic Blueprint - Missjaiya.comPetra Zebroff – Erotic initiation stylesKegel routines – rubycup.com, vaginacoach.com

Ro Rose, aka Queerly Fluid, shares their touch work and sacred intimacy practices on today's Solstice episode. Ro is a queer and erotic steward who works with clients to unlock their erotic selves and access to pleasure through somatic gendering work, scar care, pleasure mapping and more. We learn about how Ro defines erotic stewardship and the container of consent they create with clients to protect both the client's and their own personal borders and boundaries. Ro shares their loving curiosity with us as well as rituals for aligning and centering. There are self support gems in this episode for care workers and human givers.

Robin ends the episode by sharing with Sarah about the corner of TikTok she calls home.

CW: This episode contains mention of sexual assault and rape. Please take care of yourself while listening.

Spooky season is here and we are here for it! We are also in the middle of a series of eclipses that may stir up all the shadows and the "work" you are here to do. Sarah and Robin get it into the culture that's helping them embrace the season of the shadow - Circa Festival, Alanis Morissette, The Idles, Nirvana, Inside Out 2 - and how eclipse season is showing up for us and how it may for you. Tune in to learn about ways to attune to and embrace darker days.

Join us and Cruise LA October 19th 4-9pm at the Eagle LA (4219 Santa Monica Blvd). Get your free Circa Festival tix here!

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If you’re curious about doing online sex work, building a following, navigating censorship OR interested in consuming porn ethically, this episode is for you!

Sarah and Robin sit down with Carly S, also known as the Queen of Wands, of award-winning sex toy blog dildoordildont.com to talk about her work as a pleasure educator and porn star and how she integrates the two in her work. Sarah and Robin get into the fucked-up-ed-ness of the algorithm, code switching as a means of resistance, and the puritanical and oppressive systems baked into current censorship standards.

Sarah shares a "Is it just me?!?" with Robin about an issue she's having peeing. Listen until the end of the episode if you want a good laugh.

Carly S is a model, blogger of Dildo or Dildon't, and a bad bitch from the Bronx. She’s managed and been the featured educator of some of NYC’s award-winning sex toy stores is currently the buyer for Spectrum Boutique. Find her on social media @makeupandsin on all platforms.

Multi-disciplined artist and advocate Sydney Rogers has been performing as Miss Barbie Q for over three decades. From drag queen story to social justice drag, Sydney has coined their work “artivism.” They share with Robin and Sarah how their daily work as a clinical social worker in training and advocate for trans employment rights and leadership development intersects with their stage persona and how they weave the two worlds together. Sydney speaks to carrying the responsibility of being the first Black trans person to break into many spaces and the self care practices that sustain them. Our expansive conversation touches on fashion, the power of performance, book bans, navigating fear, how to be an trans ally in this moment and so much more.

You can support MissBarbieQ directly thru venmo: MissBarbieQLA. Make sure to also catch Miss Barbie Q at their monthly residency at Melody Wine Bar or online at https://www.missbarbieq.com/

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Re-Release from November 10, 2022. Season 1 Episode 7:

This week Midori, the Fairy God-Auntie of Kink, joins Sarah and Robin for a conversation that challenges conventions. Midori shares about reconciling the shadow side of our desires, the impact of misogyny on shaping sexuality, power and dominance, and how to get comfortable with being vulnerable. We get into Midori’s art and the alchemy of kink, writing, teaching, and creative practice that is Midori’s unique offering to the world. In her nerdy, contemplative, creative glory Learn which Star Wars character Midori would be and get ready for some serious nerding out and fan girling! Robin shares one of her favorite BJ tips to round out the episode.

Trailblazing educator, sexologist, artist, and irritant to banality, Midori founded Rope Dojo and ForteFemme: Women's Dominance Intensive. She penned the first English instruction book on Shibari, "Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage" in 2001, paving the way to the popularity of rope. Dan Savage calls her the "Super Nova of Kink," while others affectionately call her Auntie Midori for her cool, tell-it-like-it-is, funny, reality-based teaching.

Midori is the Co-Director of Curriculum for Kink Informed Certification, part of Sexual Health Alliance, training therapists and helping professional to provide safe, compassionate, and inclusive service to their clients. She is the recipient of the 2022 Humanitarian Award from the American Association of Sex Educators Therapists & Counselors (AASECT) and 2022 Effing Foundation Grant, along with having honored with a Sainthood by the Sisters of Perpetual indulgence.

She is also the author of "Wild Side Sex," "Master Han's Daughter," and "Silk Threads.”

Learn, laugh, and enjoy her special online classes, events, and art at www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori

F*ck Yeah is 50 (episodes)! To celebrate we reflect on some of our favorite and most influential moments on the pod. What do we feel about our discussions from Season 1? What were the key lessons from Season 2? What are the most fun moments we've had on the pod? If you're a new listener, this is a great way to experience past guests you may not have heard yet. If you've been with us from the beginning, enjoy this nostalgic discussions. Featured guests in this episode include: Kristen Tribby (Sex Positive Parenting), Andrew Gurza (Queer Sexuality & Disability), Dr. Vanessa Carlisle (Somatic Practices), Susan Bratton (Biohacking), Sydney Rogers aka Miss Barbie Q (Artivism), and Witch Wilde (Sex Magix).. Come with us on our metaphorical walk down memory lane.

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This week Midori, the Fairy God-Auntie of Kink, joins Sarah and Robin for a conversation that challenges conventions. Midori shares about reconciling the shadow side of our desires, the impact of misogyny on shaping sexuality, power and dominance, and how to get comfortable with being vulnerable. We get into Midori’s art and the alchemy of kink, writing, teaching, and creative practice that is Midori’s unique offering to the world. In her nerdy, contemplative, creative glory Learn which Star Wars character Midori would be and get ready for some serious nerding out and fan girling! Robin shares one of her favorite BJ tips to round out the episode.

Trailblazing educator, sexologist, artist, and irritant to banality, Midori founded Rope Dojo and ForteFemme: Women's Dominance Intensive. She penned the first English instruction book on Shibari, "Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage" in 2001, paving the way to the popularity of rope. Dan Savage calls her the "Super Nova of Kink," while others affectionately call her Auntie Midori for her cool, tell-it-like-it-is, funny, reality-based teaching.

Midori is the Co-Director of Curriculum for Kink Informed Certification, part of Sexual Health Alliance, training therapists and helping professional to provide safe, compassionate, and inclusive service to their clients. She is the recipient of the 2022 Humanitarian Award from the American Association of Sex Educators Therapists & Counselors (AASECT) and 2022 Effing Foundation Grant, along with having honored with a Sainthood by the Sisters of Perpetual indulgence.

She is also the author of "Wild Side Sex," "Master Han's Daughter," and "Silk Threads.”

Learn, laugh, and enjoy her special online classes, events, and art at www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori

In our first episode of 2023, Sarah and Robin do a q&a! We celebrate Robin being substance-free for 30 days and field YOUR burning questions. How do you get into domming (11 min)?? When are the Miracle Whips coming on the pod (28 min)? What’s up with pregnancy sex (32 min)? How do you start an embodied sensual practice (37 min)? What’s your favorite sex tip to share (that you actually use in your own sex life - 39 min)?

Join us for heartfelt advice and fun tips in our first listener q&a.

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Fuck Yeah Season 1 is coming September 22, 2022! Join hosts Sarah Tomchesson and Robin Jennings with legendary guests like sexuality supernova, Midori, the incomparable Sex Nerd Sandra, Shameless Sex co-host April Lampert, and more!

CannaSexual, Ashley Manta, joins us on the pod to share the incredible benefits of cannabis for increasing arousal, counteracting perimenopausal symptoms, and even increasing your multi-orgasmic potential. In addition to busting 'cannamyths, Ashley shares helpful tips for integrating cannabis into your sexual routines. We also get into her BodySex work, Betty Dodson's facilitated process for vulva owners to own their sexual power, and how vulva gazing, among other embodied practices, can build confidence and help you claim your sexuality.Ashley Manta is an award-winning sex educator and coach and has become a sought-after authority on mindfully combining sex and cannabis as part of her CannaSexual® brand. She is the author of The CBD Solution: Sex, published in 2020 in conjunction with Merry Jane and Chronicle Books. She completed her certification as a Bodysex® Facilitator after studying with legendary pleasure pioneer Betty Dodson. Ashley is also the creator of the Activating Your Cosmic Pussy sisterhood and a series of online intensives and retreats. She and colleague Dr. Shannon Chavez often collaborate to offer in-person retreats they call Pleasure Camp in Hawaii, California, and other locations around the world. You can find Ashley on social media @cannasexual and on TT @intimacymuseYou can find us on TT & IG @fuckyeahpod. Email us your fuck yeahs, questions and feedback to fyeahpod@gmail.com

This week we're talking about food! No, "Queer Cuisine" is not a euphemism. Chef Kat Mciver of seasonal farm-to-table cafe Wide Eyes Open Palms in Long Beach joins us and we get to ask an expert about our personal (and very different) struggles with food. Kat shares about how the punk scene prepared her for toxic kitchen culture, enlightens us on her cooking philosophy of "waste not, want not" and how to use every part of a plant (think carrot tops, radish greens and pea tendrils). We contemplate the idea that food may mean something special to us as queer people and try to name what makes something "Queer Cuisine." Kat also shares an intuitive eating practice and her approach to shopping at a farmer's market.

If you're interested in visiting Kat's cafe, WEOP was founded on the mission of being the ultimate brunch experience, combining the joys of a perfectly prepared coffee with the nourishment of a fresh, healthy farmers market-sourced meal, and a fresh-baked pastry. We aim to bring all of that into a positive environment focused on inclusivity and celebrating the LGBTQ, women, and POC communities, each and every day. Give them a follow HERE.

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Robin and Sarah's hot mom summer antics continue this week as they steer away from politics to the personal. Robin shares about her kinky escapades with friends and how nourishing the kink container has been as her life is going through massive changes. Sarah has been immersed in an embodied intimacy coaching program, diving deeper into consent, and how to locate empowered choice in the body. On hiatus both Sarah and Robin spent more time in their bodies, not just their heads. Tune in to hear about it!

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Sarah and Robin are joined by Certified Sexuality Educator, badass boss, parent, and good friend of the podcast Kristen Tribby of Fun Factory. We talk sex-positive parenting, processing our own trauma through parenting, parenting as a queer person, kids' bodily functions, and why the "no means no" approach does not work. We share a lot of laughs in this episode as we learn that a sense of humor and self-compassion are the ways we each are surviving parenting. Sidebars include Robin and Sarah’s birthing experiences, the books What Makes a Baby by Cory Silverberg and the Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk,and holding space for the hard conversations with your kids (and yourself).

Kristen Tribby is Head of Marketing at our favorite vibrator and dildo makers Fun Factory

Filmmaker Daviel Shy joins us to share about her upcoming project, The Lovers, which serves eroticism and queerness in equal parts. Daviel's creative mindset is akin to an arousal state. In creative flow, she takes in her experiences with heightened awareness and incorporates them into her work. Daviel also integrates the unique lived experiences of her collaborators into her work and allows space for the work to be changed by those both in front of and behind the camera. The Lovers web series is a semi-autobiographical work that integrates the ways Daviel and her collaborators sought connection through the pandemic and how the isolation, separation and strange interconnectedness of the pandemic changed them (and all of us). In revisiting the experience of the pandemic, audiences are able to process and integrate their lingering grief and trauma from living through similar experiences. The series premieres September 21st at the LA Gay and Lesbian Center. Tickets can be reserved at givebutter.com/SsGRph

You can also register for the Shameless Sex Couples Retreat that Sarah has been talking about and will be co-facilitating Nov 12-17.

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Daviel Shy wrote and directed THE LADIES ALMANACK, starring Guinevere Turner, Hélène Cixous, and Eileen Myles. She created and stars in the seven episode series, THE LOVERS, and her fiction appears in the 2024 Anthology, SLUTS, edited by Michelle Tea and published by Dopamine/Semiotext(e). She is currently co-founding a porn production company called DAYLiGHT FiLMs.

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This week we bring you our live panel featuring Vanessa Carlisle, PhD and Sydney Rogers, aka Miss Barbie Q, exploring the intersections of sex work, activism and queer liberation from Circa Queer Histories Festival. Our discussion explores the longstanding alliance between sex worker activists and queer activists, the ways activism shows up in queer and sex worker spaces, and combatting burnout in the fight for liberation.

This panel was made possible by the One Institute. You can learn more about the Circa Queer Histories Festival at their site https://circafestival.org/

Join us over at patreon to get videos of each recording and see our adorable pups or follow along on IG or TikTok.

JP Craft Captain, illustrator, puppeteer, art director, professional crafter and reverend, joins Sarah and Robin to talk all things queer weddings - what makes for an awesome wedding, and the life affirming power of a couple coming together and sharing their love with their loved ones through ceremony. JP has officiated dozens of queer weddings, art weddings, funky weddings, and sees it as her service to the community. JP has witnessed countless nuptials, and in some cases the dissolution of those partnerships. JP has also gone through a painful rebirth through her own divorce. We talk about the deeply destabilizing effects of divorce and how to overcome the feelings of shame or isolation that often accompany it and JP's journey of a daily art practice that got her out of her darkest days. Of course, we love on CraftNight, which is held every Wednesday night at the iconic Silverlake bar, Akbar.

We also, somehow, talk a lot about underwear! Stick around until the end for a segment on the history of women's underwear, or the lack thereof as it turns out. Bonus: If you’ve attended CraftNight at Akbar over the years you can nerd out on a quick, sweet history of the iconic happening.

Find JP's amazing works of illustration and other art projects at julianaparr.com or find JP on IG @jparr.Find us on TT & IG @fuckyeahpod, or email us at fyeahpod@gmail.com.

It's been a wild and heartbreaking couple of weeks for those of us in the fight for queer and trans rights, choice over our reproductive decisions, regulation of corporate greed, dismantling white supremacism, and peace across the world. Sarah and Robin process their grief and rage over the election and plot a way forward with queer community, creative expression, and grounding in pleasure at the center. Showing up for the resistance is going to be exhausting at times, so let's all get resourced and give ourselves permission to step back and recharge when needed. Do not obey in advance. Do not give up. Glad to be in the fight with you all.

To support the show, join us over at patreon to get videos of each recording and see our adorable pups or follow along on IG or TikTok.

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An old friend, Mike Squillacioti, joins us to share the juicy details of how his marriage evolved into a throuple. We learn about his go-go dancing days at the iconic West Hollywood club, Mickeys, his sweet courtship with his hubby there, and how 12 years later they met their boyfriend, Dakota Payne, while (you guessed it) he was go-go dancing. We share laughs, revel in the joy of the dance floor and go-go dancing as the ultimate embodiment practice, and enjoy Mike’s sweet and saucy tales of non-monogamy. Sarah introduces Robin to the concept of compersion to round out the episode.

In episode 1, we say “fuck, yeah!” to Chasing the Feeling

F**ck Yeah kicks off with a deep dive into co-host Robin Jenning’s (aka Mistress Mary) journey to find her most authentic, kinky, empowered self. We explore costumery, role play, finding your partner, solicited dick pics, the bygone days of craigslist and playing pool as a power move. Deanie joins for a segment of “Wait, What?!” to introduce Sarah to Orgasm Denial porn.

Listener note, as this is our first episode we are experimenting with our set up and discovered that Robin makes Sarah laugh a lot and this cannot be done too close to the mic. Apologies in advance for those of you who are sound sensitive – we promise we’re working out a set up that allows for all of the laughter and Sarah’s loud talking.

Learn and laugh along with us in our inaugural episode.

This week Anne Hodder-Shipp joins us to educate us on her groundbreaking and expansive approach to Love Languages. We talk self-love, queer love, platonic love, romantic love, but most importantly how be in relationship with "love" in a way that does not make it feel in short supply. At the end of the episode, Sarah and Robin try an exercise that Anne recommends for working with her book Speaking from the Heart: 18 Modern Love languages and all kinds of gushy expressions of mutual love and respect ensues.

If you haven't followed Anne's sex ed reels & Tik Toks, find her online @theannehodder. Anne is an award-winning certified sex and relationship educator dedicated to providing accurate, expansive, and compassionate care. They are the founder and lead educator at Everyone Deserves Sex Ed, a sex ed and professional development organization. Most recently, Anne wrote Speaking from the Heart: 18 Languages for Modern Love, and its accompanying guide, The Speaking from the Heart Workbook: A Practical Guide to the Modern Love Languages.

Sarah and Robin explore the feminine tropes that shape cultures expectations of women - the damsel in distress, the vamp, the mother/good wife and more recently the trope that they are both loving - the childless cat lady. Robin shares the history of the vamp, which was initiated by silent film star Theda Bara, who Robin pays tribute to with a new prayer candle. Sarah shares about a recent caregiving experience that kicked up the human giver in her (in a surprisingly good way).

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Powerhouse Christine Soyong Harley, President of SIECUS - Sex Ed for Social Change, joins us this week to talk all things sex ed. Sex ed sits at the nexus of multiple social justice issues including public health equity, gender disparities, sexual diversity, racial justice, abortion access and more. Sex ed can benefit young people in a myriad of ways (spoiler alert it doesn't just reduce rates of teen pregnancy and stis!) and Chris schools us on the range of benefits and why, as a result, it challenges conservative power structures aiming to restrict personal liberties and the growing power of the global majority. While it can feel hard these days to be hopeful in the face of harmful, restrictive policies and a moral panic that leverages fear to attack the rights and bodies of women, people of color, queer and trans people; Chris' perspective and work, informed by SIECUS' impressive 60 year track record, is a glimpse of light in the darkness. Chris also shares about SIECUS' new initiative targeting adults, Sex Ed Futurism! Don't miss this enlightening, informative, and empowering conversation!. Sarah closes out the episode walking Robin through sex ed standards and what we mean we talk about sex ed in schools. If you're looking for some good talking points at your family or holiday gatherings - this episode is for you!

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Sex Nerd Sandra joins us for this week's dive into pelvic floors, mental health, and staying true to yourself. We learn about Sandra's path away from podcasting & sex education to becoming a Pelvic floor PT (we're definitely doing our kegel exercises incorrectly btw). From witchy rituals and pregnancy to memory lapses and fisting, we cover the gamut in this episode. If you're like us and you miss Sex Nerd Sandra's hilarious, nerdy, and sex pos podcast, you've got to check out this week's episode. Nuts to guts, y’all!

Resources referenced in this episode...

Erotic Blueprint - Missjaiya.com

Petra Zebroff – Erotic initiation styles

Kegel routines – rubycup.com, vaginacoach.com

Andrew Gurza, host of Disability After Dark, joins the pod and shares about their experience navigating these times as a severely disabled, queer person. We talk about the power of sex work, Andrew’s coming out journey, the unique challenges of accessing queer spaces as a disabled person and the double edged sword of anti-queer sentiment in disabled spaces. Andrew's approach of giving grace and educating with humor and radical transparency, while actively challenging ableist beliefs and institutionalized erasure of the experience of disabled people is powerful and palpable in everything they do. Our conversation with Andrew is all the things... enlightening, heartening, funny, and queer AF.

Andrew Gurza (they/he) is an award winning Disability Awareness Consultant and the Chief Disability Officer and Co-founder of Bump’n, a sex toy company for and by disabled people. He was the subject of an award winning National Film Board of Canada Documentary “Picture This”. He is also the host of Disability After Dark: The Podcast Shining a Bright Light on Disability Stories which won a Canadian Podcast Award in 2021, was a Queerty Award nominee, and was chosen as an Honoree at the 2020 Webby Awards. The show is available on all platforms. Andrew is also the creator of the viral hashtag #DisabledPeopleAreHot.

You can find out more about Andrew by going to www.andrewgurza.com

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Andrew's Podcast Disability After Dark

Cripping Up Sex

The Handi Book of Love, Lust & Disability (Andrew is a Contributor)

Find Andrew on IG @andrewguza6

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We are so excited to be back (and curious as ever) with Season 3! We're kicking off this new season with a deep dive into our Astrological birth charts. Sarah and Robin have different relationships to astrology - Sarah is a true believer and Robin is a skeptic. Santos, the integrative healer behind Santos & The Crystal Visions, joins the pod and holds space for Sarah's overenthusiasm and Robin's questions. He walks us through the many alignments we share and what they mean for our partnership, the astrology of the podcast itself, and how you can work with astrology to sync up with your calling. If you've ever been curious about astrology, Santos brings a number of modalities to his work to hold space for the complex emotional journey of getting to know yourself and become the person you want to be, including shadow work, guided plant medicine journeys, archetypal astrology and coaching.

Danny Santos (@santoscrystalvisions) guides clients through shamanic plant medicine journeys, astrological sessions for integration, and spiritual life coaching programs. Danny’s approach is kind, compassionate, playful, and filled with the magic of his shamanic training. After studying Ayahuasca Shamanism for the last four years under a teacher in Oakland, California, Danny finally went to Peru this past summer to receive the blessing from the indigenous Shipibo Tribe to begin serving Ayahuasca. Danny is a certified breath work instructor, sound healer, reiki practitioner, and tarot reader, and has been studying astrology since 2004.

Danny is the host of the Astro Daddy Podcast (@astrodaddypodcast) where he discusses astrology, shamanism, plant medicine, and other spiritual topics with guests. Danny has been featured for his work on BuzzFeed and Goodful, as well as podcasts such as Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman (the dating coach for The Drew Barrymore Show), Broke Girl Therapy, and The Double Teamed Podcast, to name a few. Danny is a fervent advocate for mental health and has been featured and works with The National Alliance on Mental Illness as well as Pineapple Support, a non-profit organization that specializes in bringing mental health support to the people of the adult entertainment industry. Danny is currently preparing to work with veterans, survivors of human trafficking, and people with PTSD. In his free time, Danny writes music and sings. You can hear his first single, “Poppies For Edwin,” on Spotify.

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For our season finale, we are joined by Witch Wilde, who introduces us to Sex Magix theories. She shares how to direct sexual energy towards manifesting your desires, increasing your vitality and connecting with the cosmos. She also guides us in an incredible grounding/energy harnessing exercise that you are going to want in on. The conversation spans the many modalities that have influenced Wilde's practice: alchemy, tantra, taoism, toning, sigils, breathwork, visualization. If you are intrigued by taking your sexual practices out of the mundane - this episode is for you.

Witch Wilde can be found on IG @witch.wilde. You can find us @fuckyeahpod on IG and TikTok or email us at fyeahpod@gmail.com.

We will be taking a hiatus to recharge and regroup and will return in the spring!

Resources from this episode include:

Esther Perel's Mating in Captivity

Barbara Carellas' Urban Tantra

Margot Anand's The Art of Sexual Ecstasy

Annie Dieu-Le-Veut's The Sacred Sex Rites of Ishtar

Mantak Chia's writing on Taoism

Annie Sprinkle's Sluts & Goddessess

Remember when slimline vibrators and stashed Hustler mags were all you could get your hands on?? Sarah and Robin take a walk down memory lane with Robin’s teenage journals! We tease and love hard on our younger selves while unpacking the challenges of coming into one’s self as an adolescent girl and all of the ways mysogynistic scripts shapes our sexuality. Join us showing some love, kindness and advice to our teenage selves.

This week we continue our conversation with queer doula, Ryan, founder of World of Difference Doula. We get deeper into the nuances of adoption as a for profit industry and the impacts on adoptees and birthing parents. Ryan shares more about their family constellation and the struggles and triumphs of their personal adoption journey as birthing parent, a trans gender birthing parent and a full spectrum doula supporting birthing parents who are separating from their children. Sarah and Robin also close out Pride month with some fun, queer facts about the animal kingdom and the science that proves queerness is in fact natural. The recent “You’re Wrong About” podcast episode titled Lesbian Seagulls is to thank for this side bar!You can find Ryan at www.worldofdifferencedoula.comYou can find us on IG and TT @fuckyeahpod or email us at fyeahpod@gmail.comCheck out the YWA episode, Lesbian Seagulls, wherever you get your podcasts or HERE

Former Mr. LA Leather, current co-host of Cruise LA and recent post-graduate MFT in training, Elliot Musgrave, joins us to get into the weeds with us on thriving strategies for 2025, working as a mental health clinician supporting trans and queer clients, their own gender expansion journey, the evolving nature of selfhood, valuing your lived experience and parenting (and all of the healing and reparenting that happens along the way). Elliot can be found every 3rd Saturday at the Eagle LA hosting @Cruise_LA, and working in the community clinic at LA's Gay and Lesbian Center.

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That's a wrap on Season 4. We will be taking a hiatus for a few months and will let followers of our socials know when we plan to return.

Sex Therapist, relationship coach, and educator Dr. Shannon Chavez joins the pod to share about current relationship trends (we're headed in a good direction, y'all!), how to differentiate what you should bring up with your partner versus the stuff that's "yours" to work out, and some delicious tips for prioritizing your sexuality and pleasure. We also get into the differences between therapy and coaching and ask some questions about our own relationships. Shannon is a ray of light that is infectious and this conversation is not only insightful and informative, it is FUN! At the end of the episode Sarah and Robin walk through Bryon Katie's 4 questions, known as "The Work," in response to one of Robin's limiting beliefs. Shannon Chavez Qureshi, PsyD, CST is a nationally recognized expert, therapist, and educator specializing in “all things sexuality.” She is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist in California (PSY26924) with a private practice in Beverly Hills, California (SHAPE Center) where she works with individuals and couples (of all genders and orientations) to address sexual concerns and build sexual awareness through therapy, coaching, and education. You can learn more about how to work with Dr. Shannon at her site https://drshannonchavez.com/

Sarah mentions a study about the wok place disparities between moms and dads in this episode. Here’s an article highlighting the findings…

Motherhood Penalty vs. Fatherhood Bonus Article

Tis the season to get witchy with a throwback to season 1 when we had our minds blown by Witch Wilde who introduces us to Sex Magix theories. They shares how to direct sexual energy towards manifesting your desires, increasing your vitality and connecting with the cosmos. They also guide us in an incredible grounding/energy harnessing exercise that you are going to want in on. The conversation spans the many modalities that have influenced Wilde's practice: alchemy, tantra, taoism, toning, sigils, breathwork, visualization. If you are intrigued by taking your sexual practices out of the mundane - this episode is for you.

Witch Wilde can be found on IG @witch.wilde. You can find us @fuckyeahpod on IG and TikTok or email us at fyeahpod@gmail.com.

Resources from this episode include:

Esther Perel's Mating in Captivity

Barbara Carellas' Urban Tantra

Margot Anand's The Art of Sexual Ecstasy

Annie Dieu-Le-Veut's The Sacred Sex Rites of Ishtar

Mantak Chia's writing on Taoism

Annie Sprinkle's Sluts & Goddessess

Sarah and Robin catch about seeing RuPaul's Drag Race All Star's live show for Robin's birthday - the amazing performances, the hostess with the most Shanell, the unbelievable costumes, the political nature of the show, and the cringe commercials woven into the spectacle. Sarah gets curious about Robin's friendly approach to kink and how she weaves kink play into her friendships. Robin shares her tools for approaching kink as a platonic container.

Check out our IG and TT to see the iconic drag race-inspired costume Robin put together for her birthday outing.

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Party promoter extraordinaire, Celesbian, and friend of the pod, Vanessa Craig, joins us to talk queer parties. What makes for a memorable party? How does queer night life make us feel seen and give us a sense of belonging? Why are parties especially needed with all that’s going on in the world? You know we also indulge in some nostalgia for the 90s LA lesbian scene! Tea is served. Robin tells Sarah all about an epic Peter Berlin inspired performance she took part in at a party Vanessa produced for OUTFEST in a “fucking slay” segment to close the episode.

Vanessa can be found at her monthly Sunday party, Magiq Hour, on the patio of Little Joy in LA. The next event, Collage and Cry, will be Sunday Jan 7th 3-8 pm. Admission is free. Check out @magiq_hour on IG. To find Vanessa (or more info about her “The World is Watching” shirt featuring Palestinian journalist Plestia Alaqad) give her a follow @VanessaCraigslist

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It is friendsgiving over at here at Fuck Yeah Pod. Sarah and Robin share their complicated feelings about the holiday and how they try to reclaim the season. They get into how food can reflect our families' values, and brainstorm survival strategies for family dynamics.

This episode was recorded before the tragedy at Club Q this weekend. In light of recent events, we want to acknowledge how difficult this season can be for our queer loved ones. We hope that this is a place where you can feel seen and supported. If you find yourself in need of additional support resources, please know the National Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender National Hotline is available 24/7 at 888-843-4564

Punk rock educatrix, Tina Horn joins us to talk all things kink - cash fetishes, financial domination, spanking, bimbofication, cannibalism, feet, domming, oh my! Tina applies her signature curiosity, flirtatious wit, hyper intelligence and dirty mind, which you may be familiar with from her hit podcast Why Are People Into That?, to her new book and to our conversation. Why are People Into That: A Cultural Investigation of Kink (Tina's new book) breaks down kink practices and the most niche fetishes through a cultural lens, revealing the ways that BDSM is baked into and simultaneously gawked at in our culture. The book also explores Tina's own hard-earned experience in the kink community, a shared lineage she and Robin revel over in this week's episode. Tune it in to learn why we think Tina is "a smarty, smarty kinky pants!"

Tina can be found on cashapp $showbiz04, on IG @tinahornsass, or online at tinahorn.net

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Tina Horn is a writer, educatrix, and media-maker.

Deprog, her new detective thriller comic book series, is out in 2024 from Dead Sky.

Tina is the creator/writer of the sci-fi sex-rebel comic book series SfSx (Safe Sex) (Image) and the host/cowriter of the phone sex podcast Operator (Wondery). Her reporting on sexual subcultures and politics has appeared in Rolling Stone, Playboy, Hazlitt, Glamour, Jezebel and elsewhere; she is the author of two nonfiction books and has contributed to numerous anthologies including We Too: Essays on Sex Work and Survival, which she also coedited.

She’s available for nonfiction book development editing, creative consulting, and personal relationship coaching. Tina has lectured on sex worker politics and queer BDSM identities at universities and community centers all over North America, and works as an on-set consultant for film/tv/theater including Pose.

Tina is a LAMBDA Literary Fellow, the winner of two Feminist Porn Awards, an AVN-nominated director, and holds an MFA in Creative Nonfiction Writing from Sarah Lawrence. Originally from Northern California, Tina spent a decade in NYC before re-settling in Los Angeles.

The creator of F*ck Yeah's theme song, She/Her/Sir, joins the pod to break down her songwriting process and journey back to her southern, Cajun roots. Recently She/Her/Sir released a new music video, Howling, which is influenced in equal parts by her queer and Louisiana heritage - parts of herself that were at odds for many years. We listen to a couple new songs from the upcoming album and share stories about the role music plays in each of our lives.

Lizanne Deliz, of Eye of Crow Herbs, joins us for a rich discussion about herbalism and pleasure. She shares about ways to interact with plants without foraging or collecting them, how plants work holistically as medicine, and how to increase your pleasure through plant medicines. She also teaches us about spirit doses, a way of taking plant medicines for spiritual guidance, and shares a recent (very hot) encounter with sex workers that left her feeling mighty good about herself!

Sarah shares a pleasure “garden” practice with Robin to round out the episode.

Plant friends that make an appearance in this episode are skullcap, hawthorne, comfrey, passionflower, lemon balm, kava, and damiana.

Lizanne's work as a Creative Director can be found at lizannedeliz.com. You can learn about her herbalism practice and book a session with her at energeticherbalism.com. You can find her on IG @eyeofcrowherbs

Other herbalism/plant medicine resources mentioned in this episode (and generously expanded upon by Lizanne:

Dirt Gems Oracle Deck

Sade Musa/Roots of Resistance

steadfastherbs.com

msteabotanica.com

florymachete.com

maasomedicina.bigcartel.com

sacredvibeshealing.com

goodfightherbco.com

sisterspinster.net

blueotterschool.com

And Sarah’s book recommend is the Desire Map

Leo Aquino, of Queer and Trans Wealth, joins us to rethink personal finances, debt and wealth creation through an anti-capitalist lens. Leo, who got their start as a sex and pleasure writer, began writing about the trauma of credit card and student loan debt. Since Leo has become a financial coach and offers services that specifically target queer and trans clients. Leo shares his past/present/future approach to financial planning and budgeting, how to stay regulated enough to make financial decisions or deal with debt, and ways to reduce harm with your personal spending. Robin ends the episode with a “might make you mad” segment on maternal mortality rates in the US.

Leo Aquino (he/they) is a poet, screenwriter, financial coach, and award-winning journalist covering anti-capitalist personal finance. Leo is also the founder of Queer & Trans Wealth, an organization dedicated to the financial education, economic empowerment, and collective liberation of queer & trans communities.

You can find Leo's org at queerandtranswealth.org or on IG @queerandtranswealth. You can also read Leo's work at www.leo-aquino.com

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Sarah and Robin revel in their shared love for the queer phenomenon, Our Flag Means Death. Proceed with caution if you do not want spoilers! We spill all of the beans. To kick the episode off Robin shares the punk history of pirates which includes disrupting the trans Atlantic slave trade, worker’s collectives, gay marriages, bi polycules and more. She sets the queer context for the world of the show. Then, Sarah and Robin dive into their favorite gay moments and some bts tidbits. While many straight critics may have missed the magic of season 2, Sarah and Robin relish in each delicious queer morsel this show offers.

Reference Sources:

Wikipedia, Kaz Rowe queer feminist history youtube.com/@KazRowe, https://shipwrecks.hist.sites.carleton.edu/queen-annes-revenge/queen-annes-revenge-p-1/

https://owlcation.com/humanities/Harsh-Life-Aboard-Navy-Sailing-Ships

https://allthatsinteresting.com/matelotage

Whatever you choose to do on this third Thursday in November - feast with family or fast in protest - we hope that our love for this queer love story touches your heart and gives you some of the comfort the show has given us.

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This week we're reclaiming celibacy, abstinence, and virginity with Daviel Shy! What if we approach abstinence as a container for introspection, longing and personal growth? When Daviel joined us on the pod two weeks ago we inquired about her Virgo season musings - the virgin experiment - which she has documented on her substack. When Sarah heard about Daviel's experimentation with celibacy, it reminded her of an intentional period of celibacy she took during Venus retrograde in Libra in 2018. We explore the significance of stepping back from your sexuality to integrate parts of yourself, why the sign of Virgo is particularly well-suited for the introspection that can accompany celibacy, and the intense longing that can arise in periods of celibacy (or abstinence). Even though Virgo season is coming to an end, there are many times of the year and stages of life that can benefit from periods of celibacy and it is something we can reclaim and reframe from the patriarchal model of abstinence until marriage or lifelong celibacy in servitude to god and repurpose for our own growth and wellbeing.

Daviel's project The Lovers series premieres at the LA Gay & Lesbian Center September 21st. Tickets can be reserved at givebutter.com/SsGRph

You can also register for the Shameless Sex Couples Retreat that Sarah has been talking about and will be co-facilitating Nov 12-17.

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The legendary Sheree Rose, also know to listeners as Robin's kink root, joins us for an enlightening conversation about her Kink legacy. We discuss her Sadomasochistic musings that intertwine art, power dynamics, and pain. From her monogamous marriage, to her partnership with Bob Flanagan starting in 1980 until his death in 1996, to her more recent 12 year collaboration with Martin O-Brien, Sheree approaches kink as art and kinky art as commentary on oppressive systems. We learn about her and Bob's early exhibitions at the New Museum of NY and Santa Monica Museum, the Society of Janice, the women's group, Leather and Lace, and the inspiration Sheree pulls from the Goddess Kali. This conversation is rich with queer, feminist and kink history.

CW: this episode explores heavy BDSM, cock and ball torture, and cystic fibrosis. Take cate while listening.

We close out the episode with Sarah introducing Robin to one of Bob Flanagan's pieces, "Why," that she uses when training professionals about Kink dynamics. The piece was featured in the documentary Sick: The Life and Death of Bob Flanagan, Supermasochist (1997) Dir. Kirby Dick. You can watch it here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nWtgdnuNiKQ

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Our Season 2 Finale features a lively discussion with author, sex educator, podcaster, pornographer and, now, queer memoirist, Tristan Taormino. We taped this episode live at the iconic Pleasure Chest in West Hollywood. We talk about Tristan's memoir A Part of the Heart Can't be Eaten which chronicles Tristan's formative relationship with her gay dad, the other queers through her childhood and beyond who shaped her queer identity and put her on her path as a sex writer and THE anal sex expert. We love on the 90s, queer femmes, drag queens, breakthrough lovers, sex workers, and so much more. We quiz an audience member on our season 1 & 2 segments. We field audience questions about moving through sexual trauma and how to transition your mindset from being in control and beholden to your day-to-day expectations to allow yourself to explore submission and kinky power dynamics. At the end of the episode, Tristan puts her podcast host hat on and poses questions to Sarah and Robin.

You can purchase Tristan's memoir HERE

Learn more about Tristan's work and upcoming classes https://tristantaormino.com/

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We will be taking a short break and returning with Season 3 later this fall. Thank you so much for being on this journey with us! Can't wait to return with new guests and episodes soon.

December 17th is recognized as the International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers and this week author and advocate, Chanelle Gallant, joins us to break down how violence is amplified through criminalization and how migrant sex workers are most at risk. We cover the moral panic surrounding human trafficking, Chanelle shares the abolitionist perspective on sex work, and we dive into her new book Not Your Rescue Project: Migrant Sex Workers Fighting for Justice, which she co-authored with Elene Lam. We explore the unique ways that oppressive systems intersect to criminalize migrant sex workers and the strange solidarity between progressives and conservatives on the criminalization of sexuality. You can learn more about the book at notyourrescueprojectbook.com

Chanelle Gallant has been fighting the criminalization of sexuality for 25 years, from organizing queer sex parties that were raided by the police to advocating for sex workers internationally. She is the co-author of the book Not Your Rescue Project: Migrant Sex Workers Fighting for Justice, the co-founder of the Migrant Sex Workers Project, SURJ-Toronto and other grassroots racial justice and sex worker organizations. Chanelle sits on the national board for Showing Up for Racial Justice and Catalyst Project and has helped to move millions into frontline organizing through grassroots fundraising. She holds an MA in Sociology and was a Lambda Literary Fellow. Find her at chanellegallant.com

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In episode two, we say “fuck, yeah!” to queer femmes. Meet co-host Sarah Tomchesson. We learn how she came into her queer identity and how intimately connected her queerness is to her femme identity. Both Sarah and Robin share about the role models shaped their relationship to femininity. AND we get deep into sex talk in this episode. Like, real deep. Bonus rant about birth control if you stick around until the end!

Join in our love for sex toys as we offer fun advice on what naughty gifts are best for your loved ones this holiday season. From which toys are best for newbies, when it's appropriate to gift a toy to a friend and even what your kinky bestie needs in their kit, we are covering the gamut of giftable sex toys. At the top of our list... Magic Wand. Even Sarah, the lover of low key vibrators, has been converted to the powerful classic toy that started it all! We also pay tribute to our friend who sadly passed last week, the founder of the best lube company on the planet Sliquid, Dean Elliott. Dean was a larger than life spirit and a true light in our lives and in the pleasure products industry. We are sending our deepest condolences to his family and will miss him very much.

Most of the products we mention on the show can be found at pleasurechest.com and you can find a trusted Magic Wand Retailer near you. neither of these brands have sponsored the show. Sarah serves as the Director of Marketing for Magic Wand. However, the opinions voiced in this episode are entirely our own!

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What better week to talk about food and the significance of shared communal meals to queer community than the last week of November. We're taking a pause this week and sharing this food episode from earlier this year! No, "Queer Cuisine" is not a euphemism. Chef Kat Mciver joins us and we contemplate the idea that food may mean something special to us as queer people and try to name what makes something "Queer Cuisine." She also helps us unpack our personal (and incredibly different) journeys with food, shares about being a queer woman in toxic kitchen culture, and enlightens us on her cooking philosophy of "waste not, want not" aka using every part of a plant or animal in your cooking (think carrot tops, radish greens and pea tendrils). Stick around 'til the end for an intuitive eating practice and Kat's approach to shopping at a farmer's market.

You can give Kat’s food account a follow HERE.

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Ever get the feeling that your sexuality was predetermined for you? This week Samantha Fox, Lesbian Curiosity and Sexuality Coach, joins us to unpack compulsory heterosexuality, how to get curious about your sexuality (regardless of your relationship status or identity), and how to get in touch with your true desires and fantasies at any age and stage of life. Samantha is a licensed psychotherapist with a specialization in Internal Family Systems (IFS). She's combined her professional experience with her personal experience of coming out later in life and built a coaching practice supporting women as they navigate breaking out of the confines of who they are "supposed" to be. Samantha uses her work with clients to wake them up to all parts of themself and also to connect them to an amazing community of like-minded women.

Resources shared in this week's episode include:

Samantha's Late Bloomers Boot Camp

Jane Ward's book The Tragedy of Heterosexuality

Richard Schwartz's book No Bad Parts

Yung Pueblo's book Lighter

You can find Samantha on TT @lesbiancuriousitycoach

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Dr. Lucie Fielding joins us again! This episode is like a warm embrace. Lucie shares ways to soften, offer yourself compassion, and navigate collective trauma. Lucie takes Sarah through a de-armoring exercise for listening to and allying with your body’s protective responses. Lucie’s wealth of knowledge and generosity shines through (as well as her new love of latex)! Sarah tells Robin about the human giver syndrome at the end of the episode and shares a passage from Emily and Amelia Nagoski’s book Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. Additional resources and practitioners shared in this episode include: Gayle Rubin’s essay Thinking Sex, Amber Hollibaugh, Douglas Crimp’s essay How to be Promiscuous in a Pandemic, Kati Spiterothe, and Vanessa Carlisle’s radio show on KPFK, BODY POLITICS.

Edgar Fabián Frías' multi-dimensional work bridges art, magic and storytelling. Edgar shares how both animism and other worldly portals influence their creative practices. The episode explores the effects of AI on artists and Edgar introduces Sarah and Robin to the idea that the digital spaces are egregores, formed by the thoughts and emotions of the collective.

Edgar Fabián Frías is a boundary-breaking multidisciplinary artist based in Los Angeles with degrees in Psychology, Studio Art, and an MFA in Art Practice from UC Berkeley. Their immersive works blend diverse artistic disciplines, challenging conventional categories. Frías explores resiliency and radical imagination through Indigenous Futurism, spirituality, and queer aesthetics. You can learn about Edgar's therapy practice - www.edgarfabianfrias.com.

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This week we're in conversation with Eli Lawliet, Ph.D., a practicing gender doula, who is also helping to develop the field of doulas with a specialization in supporting clients who are transitioning or exploring their gender. Eli is also a witch with a toolkit of spiritual service and tools including breathwork, ritual work, tarot and more. We get it into all of it - the inherent queerness of spiritual practices, the history of moral panics that follow increased visibility of queer and trans people, and the various ways doulas can support anyone going through a transformative experience or navigating systems of care that cause trauma. Eli shares their favorite tarot card and Sarah pulls a card for Robin from the Dirt Gems plant oracle deck to close out the episode.

Resources and practitioners mentioned in this episode include: Erica Livingston, Lindsay Mack, Julia Inglis, Fifth Spirit Tarot

Eli Lawliet, Ph.D., (he/him) is The Gender Doula - offering full-spectrum support to folks who are transitioning, questioning, or exploring their gender. He also uses his broad training to create workshops, classes, and resources to help gender expansive folks thrive. The scope of his work is broad, but the foundation is deeply rooted in transness as a spiritual practice. Eli lives in Los Angeles (Gabrieliño-Tongva, Chumash, & Kizh land) with his partner, three cats, a dog, and four snakes. You can find Eli's work at www.thegenderdoula.com

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We close out Season 3 with longtime friend of the pod and iconic artist, Cassils. We talk about the trajectory of Cassils's art career starting with early childhood paintings on genitals, to putting their body through peril as a means of waking up viewers to the struggles of the queer and trans experience. In Cassils's view, history does not repeat itself, but it rhymes. Their work is not only a vehicle for social change, it is steeped in the tactics of queer artist/activists of the 70s and 80s. Cassils uses their body heavily in their work, sometimes putting themself in precarious situations to convey the urgency and immediacy of the issues they are tackling. Cassils most recent piece draws inspiration from die-ins and the AIDS quilt. They will create a large scale cyanotype for Trans Day of Visibility at the end of the month at the Lincoln Memorial on the Mall in Washington D.C. Our conversation touches on a number of Cassils' pieces including Human Measure, Becoming an Image, In Plain Sight and and the throughline they weave through each. Their upcoming action with the NCET will take place on March 31st in D.C. To learn more about Cassils (or to take part in their TDOV action) visit their site -www.cassils.net - or follow them on IG @cassilsartist

CASSILS is a transgender artist who makes their own body the material and protagonist of their performances. Cassils's art contemplates the history(s) of LGBTQI+ violence, representation, struggle and survival. For Cassils, performance is a form of social sculpture: Drawing from the idea that bodies are formed in relation to forces of power and social expectations, Cassils work investigates historical contexts to examine the present moment.

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This week Safiya Darling joins the pod and brings her uniquely approachable perspective on Kink! We cover the gamut of fetishes from foot worship and farts to balloon popping and baby powder. We talk about the ABCs of kink, how to "pervert" household items and what is was like as a Black queer femme (with a twin) to transplant from the Midwest to a progressive kinky community.

Safiya will be teaching an interactive BDSM class (exclusively for QTIBIPOC) with Obsidian on Friday September 29th. Get your tickets here: https://www.obsidian-la.com/events/bdsm-101

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We're celebrating Pisces Season with our favorite, resident Pisces - Sarah! Enjoy this throwback to Season 1, Episode 2 when we were just baby podcasters. In this episode, we say “fuck, yeah!” to queer femmes! We learn how Sarah came into her queer identity and how intimately connected her queerness is to her femme identity. Both Sarah and Robin share about the role models shaped their relationship to femininity AND we get deep into sex talk in this episode. Like, real deep. Bonus rant about birth control if you stick around until the end!

Beck Gee joins FYP to talk about trans joy and struggle. Beck breaks down the ways the DSM-5’s (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) framework and “gender dysphoria” diagnosis creates a restrictive container for gender expansive folks, which compounds the lived experience of trying to fit into a binary world, and how the issues with gender diversity exist in our transphobic and cis-heteronormative culture not within the individuals experiencing a dissonance with the gender they were assigned at birth. Beck shares his personal journey of coming into his trans masculine identity and the joy he finds in his gay, cowboy, leather life. Beck shares ways to challenge yourself, examine your own gender and sexuality as a first step towards showing up as an ally. This episode explores the intersections of mental health, substance use, and gender and sexuality exploration. Robin and Sarah share about their kids' explorations and curiosity about their gender at the end of the episode.

Beck is an accomplished master's level clinician, armed with a profound educational background in Sociology, emphasizing Gender & Sexuality at the undergraduate level, and a master's degree in Addiction Counseling. Beck recently completed his second master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. With over 15 years of dedicated service in the mental health and substance use field, Beck has passionately channeled his expertise towards championing the well-being of the LGBTQ+ community, adolescents, and families. You can learn more about Beck and his work on his site http://www.bgcbridge.com or follow Beck on Instagram

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In honor of Valentine's Day and our love of love, Sarah's beloved Andrea joins us on the pod! Andrea shares how she approaches a gendered profession (handy work and carpentry) by offering her clients comfort, safety, and the joy of being heard. We break down how Andrea came into her signature swagger. The secret sauce to BDE (big dick energy) will be revealed! Sarah and Andrea share how they got together and how they've crafted a relationship based on mutual support and care. We get to the heart of how a recovering co-dependent caretaker (Sarah) and a hyper-independent, seemingly confirmed bachelor (Andrea) harmonize, set boundaries, treat each other well while taking responsibility for their own “work”, and create loving interdependence in their relationship.

To close out the episode, Robin shares her newest love, "boyfriend asmr" and schools Sarah on the wilds of YouTube erotica. Featuring a snippet from @ZeroASMR Check out her faves: @LivingZombie @NoraASMR @ViolentlySapphic @LeoASMR5555 This is a super sweet episode not to be missed!

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Today we're talking about building a network of loving support around non-binary and transgender youth with LGBTQ advocate and mother, Jamie Bruesehoff, author of Raising Kids Beyond the Binary: Celebrating God’s Transgender and Gender-Diverse Children.  Jamie shares her experience of raising her family in the Lutheran church in rural New Jersey and supporting her transgender daughter step into her full self. She describes the tension within Christianity - the repressive forces actively causing harm to gender expansive people and the loving kindness that her family has received from their congregation and Christians across the country. We talk about how being gender inclusive and breaking down gender stereotypes benefits all kids, how making space for LGBTQ+ youth to be their full selves creates space for us all to show up more fully, and how to advocate for your own gender diverse child. Jamie shares with Sarah and Robin about ring theory - a method for setting boundaries and protecting the safety and well-being of your child, regardless of what struggle they may be going through. Jamie demonstrates that you do not have to choose between your faith and your gender diverse child or loved one. Sarah closes the episode with a "Fucking Healing Shit" segment about the concept of "Unselfing" and ways to apply it when feeling helpless or hopeless.

Jamie Bruesehoff is an award-winning LGBTQ+ advocate, nationally known speaker, and mother of three, including a transgender child. Her family and work have been featured by media outlets and organizations around the world, including Disney, NPR, Good Morning America, USA Today, The Today Show, CBS News, Human Rights Campaign, The Trevor Project, and GLAAD. With a master's degree from The Lutheran Theological Seminary-Gettysburg and twenty years of experience working with youth and adults, she strives to create a world where LGBTQ+ young people thrive. She lives in New Jersey with her spouse and children. She is the author of Raising Kids Beyond the Binary: Celebrating God’s Transgender and Gender-Diverse Children. You can learn more about Jamie's work on her site www.jamiebruesehoff.com follow Jamie on Facebook or Instagram  

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Robin's bro, Brian Jennings, joins us for a super nerdy conversation that spans D&D, Star Trek, Rocky Horror, and the quintessential latchkey upbringing that contributed to both Brian and Robin's individuality. Brian is a gamer, programmer and kinkster. When he discovered there were not any kinky virtual reality games on the market, he and his partner made one! Dominatrix Simulator utilizes the movement tracking available in VR, storytelling, and a 40 story tall Goddess and her Mistresses to get players into sub space. We talk about all of the cool, immersive features of the game while Brian gives Sarah and Robin an education on kinky adult games. Sarah also leads Robin through a rousing alternative anatomy lesson, a new quiz segment that we promise will be as fun (and infuriating) for you as it was for our hosts!

Happy holidays, y'all! Thank you so much for tuning in this year. We will be taking a week off for the new year and will return January 5th with our first listener Q&A. In the meantime, make sure to check out Dominatrix Simulator and have a pleasure-filled end to 2022!

In this week's episode we wade into the complicated waters of Barbie. The mega summer blockbuster just set records as the first film by a female director to gross $1 billion dollars and we're here for it. Because we loved it so much, we also hold it to high standards as a feminist piece of work.

In this week's episode, Sarah and Robin explore Barbie's impact on them as young girls. They also discuss the delightful campiness of the Barbie film (and the breathtaking pink extravaganza that is Greta Gerwig's Barbieland) and dissect the film's feminist message. Ultimately, they may end up on opposite sides of the "Is Barbie a feminist movie?" debate! There are so many spoilers in this episode, so if you haven't seen it yet - first off, how dare you? - beware!

Robin and Sarah kick off season 2 with a round of updates both global and personal. Sarah shares her recent experience moving off the mompound and Robin shares about receiving an adhd diagnosis at 43. They learn about each other's moon astrology (thanks to Sarah Faith Gottesdiener's Moonbeaming class) and share what's ahead in season 2. The season wraps up with an ode to Masturbation May when Sarah tests Robin's knowledge of the health benefits of self pleasure.

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Anne Hodder-Shipp of sex ed internet fame joins us again to demystify the misunderstood "P" word - pleasure. Anne and Sarah co-facilitate a course, Pleasure Attitudes, that focuses on re-establishing a joyful connection to pleasure in all of its forms. Robin interviews them and the three break down the difference between pleasure and sexual pleasure (and why they've come to be conflated), the blocks that many of us face when trying to source pleasure in our lives, and what to do about it. Anne and Sarah share how they help Pleasure Attitudes participants establish embodied self support practices and why it's so important to create routines that are personalized to your needs rather than fit the mold of what is packaged and sold to us as "self care." This episode contains a fair amount of pleasure and self care myth-busting as well as our signature permission-giving around getting to know your authentic needs and desires. Sarah closes out the episode with a "This is going to make you fucking mad" segment about the recent Alabama Supreme Court decision granting "personhood" to embryos.

Content warning: Sarah and Robin start the episode talking about the recent death of nonbinary teen, Nex Benedict. If this topic is as heavy to you as it is to us and you need to skip this part of the discussion, skip to 8 min into the episode. If you want to support Nex's family go to www.gofundme.com/f/dagny-benedict

If you or anyone you know are experiencing trauma related to Nex's death Trans Lifeline is available for adults 877 565 8860. The Trevor Project offers youth crisis counseling text "start" to 678-678 or call 866 488 7386.

If you're not familiar with Anne's groundbreaking update to the Love Languages check out our episode in season 1 F*ck Yeah to Inclusive Love Languages and her book Speaking from the Heart: 18 Languages for Modern Love.

You can find Anne online doling out sex ed on TT & IG. If you're interested in working with Anne, visit her website www.annehodder.com

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Art is a form of resistance. Creative expression is a political act in a system built on your unwavering productivity. This week we invite Antone Martinez of Failed Films Fest to the pod to talk about how he interweaves the erotic and the biographical in his films and how Failed Film Festival, which he curates, creates a space for queer artists and erotic filmmakers to showcase their work.

Season 7 of Failed Films will be showing the work of 50+ artists this weekend Saturday November 16 in Los Angeles. Tickets are still available.

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Our favorite Leather Daddy, Pony Lee Musgrave, joins us for conversation about leather families, mustaches, leather competitions, masculine privilege, Annie Sprinkle, and carving out your spot in a world that isn't made for you, Plus, don't miss Robin's Fuck Yeah about a healthier relationship with weed and Sarah's Wait, What?!! on Eco-Sexuality and Eco-Feminism (inspired by Pony's Annie Sprinkle anecdote)!

Links for this episode:

https://salonfolklore.com/

https://anniesprinkle.org/

https://sprinklestephens.ucsc.edu/

This week, Sarah and Robin are joined by Susan Bratton, intimacy expert to millions. This episode is overflowing with education, from pleasure anatomy and clitoral stroking to orgasmic cross training and yoni massage techniques, Susan drops sex ed knowledge from her 20 years of studying, writing, and coaching on expansive sexual practices. In addition, Susan shares her secrets for conditioning your body for pleasure and introduces Sarah and Robin to the world of sexual biohacking. Susan hasn't just written the book on it; she has written 44 how-to guides for getting the best sex of your life. This high energy, orgasmic-packed episode is one not to be missed!

Resources mentioned in this week's episode:

Sheri Winston's Women's Anatomy of Arousal

Jamie McCartney's Vulva Wall

Susan Bratton is a champion and advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long. She’s created hundreds of techniques that transform “having sex” into making love and is the world’s most well-respected sexual biohacker. A best-selling author and publisher of 44 books and programs including Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, Ravish Him, Steamy Sex Ed™, The Passion Patch, Hormone Balancing, and Hot To Trot. Susan frequently appears on ABC, CBS, The CW, and NBC as well as being the #1 downloaded episode guest on myriad podcasts.

You can find The Susan Bratton Show® at BetterLover.com, her personal shares on Instagram @susanbratton, and her lust-for-life supplements, FLOW and DESIRE at The20store.com.

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We've hit the midway point of Season 21! Robin and Sarah catch up on YOUR questions and with each other. From our fave outfits and ADHD survival tools to must-follow TikTok creators and the parenting tips we've learned Linda Belcher (Bob's Burgers) we have a good old fashioned bitch sesh. Don't miss out on an epic feminist Hyena rant and the ways this season is teaching us to slowing down, notice and invite more pleasure in.

In this epic episode, Sarah and Robin are joined by Benjamin Violet, the creative mastermind behind Pelvis Wrestley and Gender Fluesday on TikTok (a series Robin and Sarah are absolutely obsessed with). Our delightful conversation covers home school vibes as a turn on, the rom com sections of the Bible, gender musings, queer pop-infused Country, coalition building, surviving the hateful laws in Texas, and Benjamin’s prolific art practices. Benjamin breaks down fashion, feminism and the duality of the identities we inhabit with precision, wit and empathy in equal parts. It is a conversation not to be missed!

At the end of the episode, Robin introduces Sarah to kinky drones/droning.

Listen to Pelvis Wrestley’s new album Vortexas Vorever on Bandcamp.

https://pelviswrestley.bandcamp.com/album/vortexas-vorever

Pelvis Wrestley's Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@pelviswrestley?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc

Learn more about Drones https://www.dailydot.com/irl/dronification-kink/

Episode art photo by Jackson Montgomert Schwartz @jxnart

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In this past season of RuPaul's Drag Race All Stars the final three queens, Jimbo, Kandy Muse, and Jessica Wild introduce the miracle of drag to three queer women by making them over and performing on the main stage with their lesbian sisters. Spoiler alerts ahead, proceed with caution...One of these contestants was our dear friend Angie Evans! She also happened to be on the winning team. In this episode, we get all the T about what it's like to be on Drag Race, wear heels for the first time, and put a drag performance together in two days. We learn more about Angie's experience dressing and performing in drag as a butch woman. We get into the weeds about gender as performance, the smoking hotness of female masculinity, and Angie's new following of "pangiesexuals."Robin shares about her new favorite documentary, ElDorado, and Sarah gets deep about butches. Before she was the owner of her own specialty coffee shop, (Wide Eyes Open Palms, in Long Beach), Angie Evans was better known as a soulful musician, feminist activist and the resident spanker for Dyke Day LA. As a tough and unapologetically butch woman, Angie brings her grounded, sex-positive and sexy as hell perspective to the conversations around gender identity and politics. A classic Taurus, she enjoys all the finer things in life, such as craft beer, her newly built camper van and a gnarly bodysurfing session. Though she doesn't perform music anymore, you can catch Angie serving up her brand of butch swagger as a barista behind the bar of her cafe or on the latest season of RuPaul's Drag Race All Stars. Angie appears in a makeover episode where Drag Race favorite Kandy Muse transforms her into Kookie Muse, Kandy's drag sister. Follow her @angieevansbutch to keep up with all the butch style, culture and commentary that she's serving up!Follow us on IG & TT @fuckyeahpod, or email us feedback, questions, suggestions at fyeahpod@gmail.com

Election season vibes are full on. Today's episode we have compiled resources for our listeners to support peace of mind and body as we all navigate the coming weeks. Sarah offers a visualization for locating safety in the body and sinking into a feeling of safety. Dr. Lucie Fielding shares tools with us from Season 2 such as self-compassion, tapping into pleasure and de-armoring amidst collective trauma. The episode rounds to a close with Byron Katie's "The Work," a series of simple questions that help you discern between fact and feeling. We are sending you all love and fist bumps for the bumpy road ahead!

5:30 Safety Meditation

15:00 Dr. Lucie Fielding on offering self compassion and mutual aid through collective trauma and how to tap into pleasure as a sustaining resource.

24:00 De-armoring exercise with Lucie.

34:00 Byron Katie's "The Work"

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On this election day, we bring you a vision of a world where live together in supportive communities, with communal kitchens and shared outdoor spaces. A world where systems are set up to support us living comfortably within our means and surrounded by our chosen family. We also serve up a good bitch session about the flaws of our current, nuclear-family centric housing crisis with longtime friend of the pod, Lizanne Deliz (@eyeofcrowherbs).

Take care of yourself and each other this week!

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Enjoy this fun cross over bonus episode with our friends Amy Baldwin and April Lampert of Shameless Sex. We shamelessly discuss everything from what we've learned from past relationships, moving on after breakups and divorce (and cheating/affairs), our latest and hottest sexual revelations, non-monogamy, and so much more. Not only is this episode extra special as it was recorded by four badass podcasters poolside while sipping wine in bathing suits, but also because we all had to share one mic! Enjoy!

We are still on break, planning to return with Season 3 on November 9th. In the meantime, make sure to check out Shameless Sex where ever you get your pod on! Also, Amy and April's new book, Shameless Sex: Choose Your Own Pleasure Path, is available for Pre-Order. Shameless Sex invites you to embrace your desires with confidence and embark on your own unique path to cultivating the sex life of your dreams.

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This week Robin reports back from the Adult Novelty Manufacturers Expo (ANME). Join us to learn all about the latest and greatest sex toys to hit the market recently, the classics that we can't live without, and the wonderfully unique people behind the toys that make the sex toy industry such a cool place to hang out. This episode features the classic Magic Wand and their newest release the Magic Wand Micro. Our favorite lubricants Sliquid & Uberlube. The new eco-conscious brand Make Love Not War. Womanizer's newest high tech toy, Next. Oxballs & Tantus’ iconic fan favorite silicone dildos, cockrings, plugs, and more. And COTR, makers of bvibe, le wand and cowgirl. Sarah and Robin share their favorite toys and what they love about working in the pleasure product industry.

Jet Setting Jasmine is an icon and owns it. As a multihyphenate adult performer, director, mental health professional, and parent Jasmine brings her full personhood to each of her roles and identities. We talk about what it takes to openly and unapologetically embrace your unique greatness, how to parent with authenticity, and how to embody and model your ethics. Jasmine shares ways to initiate conversations with your kids about boundaries, consent, sexuality, and porn that aligns with your ethics and evolves over their lifespan. She gives examples of utilizing media as a connection point and teaching tool in those evolving conversations. We talk about the state of the porn industry, how difficult it can be to define (and find) ethical pornography, and the ways political discourse makes its way into the bedroom.

Jasmine's work centers decolonizing the professional spaces she occupies - porn and mental health - and she models boundary-setting, prioritizing safety, trusting your intuition, and living your values in everything she does. This conversation ranges from teaching your kids the Boundary Song to recognizing how corporate ethics rule your sex life. Tune in to learn why Jasmine is unapologetically iconic!

Jet Setting Jasmine is an award-winning adult film director, entertainer, and master fetish trainer. She is also a licensed psychotherapist and educator who uses her expertise in mental health to advocate for a more inclusive and ethically-sound adult entertainment industry. Jasmine is the co-owner, along with partner King Noire, of Royal Fetish Films, a multi-channel adult-entertainment business that resists the discriminatory tropes common in the art of entertainment and mainstream adult industry. Well-trained to recognize the challenges that face workers in the adult film industry, Jasmine advocates for those who may not be empowered to speak for themselves. She employs cognitive behavioral therapy, solution-focused therapy, and narrative therapy, always with an aim of providing the most therapeutic client-care possible. Follow Jasmine on IG

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As promised, we are following up this week's episode with a segment dedicated to the human giver syndrome as defined in Emily and Amelia Nagoski's book Burnout: Unlocking the Secret to the Stress Cycle. Human giver syndrome offers insight into the unique stressors that come with caregiving or being the nurturer in intimate relationships. Human givers often experience guilt, shame and judgement, in addition to stress, when not acting in service to the human beings in their sphere. This episode is a call to empathy and compassion for all of the human givers - we see you.

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Dr. Vanessa Carlisle, co-host and producer of Body Politics: Sex, Love and Liberation on KPFK 90.7FM, is a multidisciplinary somatic practitioner, writer, death doula, and advocate. Vanessa shares their journey with somatic self-support practices and gives listeners an exercise for connecting with and staying in your body. Vanessa brings a grounded gentleness to their work. Rather than joy seeking and searching for the next peak experience, Vanessa’s approach integrates simple pleasures for a more embodied experience and open presence, even in the darkest moments of fear and grief. Vanessa’s philosophical orientation towards community care and transformative healing is powerful. In our conversation, we not only discover the interesting links between Vanessa’s self defense work, sex work, and death doula services we also get the honor of experiencing Vanessa’s healing presence firsthand. Join us!

Vanessa's work combats stigma and improves conditions for queer and sex working communities, including trauma-supportive self-defense classes, sex worker advocacy, and culturally attuned death care. Learn more at www.vanessacarlisle.com

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Writer, comedian Kristen Smith, joins the pod this week and brings great levity to an incredibly hard topic… the big C. Kristen shares what got her through the double whammy of becoming a mom after receiving a Follicular Lymphoma diagnosis. Spoilers Kristen’s years of saying yes (improv style), You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero, Ayahuasca, the Care Bear stare, and her unwavering sense of humor and ability to find the good all have something to do with it.

80s cartoon / childhood references abound in this episode. If nostalgia is your thing, this episode’s for you.

You can find Kristen @spacegirlk on IG and TikTok (or on the lesbian compound her fam shares with Sarah)

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We are joined today by author and women's intimacy coach, Rena Martine, talking about the ways shame holds us back from the sex, relationships, and lives we want to live and what to do about it. As a former sex crimes Deputy District Attorney, Rena comes at her work as an intimacy coach from a unique perspective. We discuss the ways that sexual shame and stigma can mutate into acts of violence and how seeing the darkest side of human sexuality burnt Rena out of her legal career. Her "aha" moment came during the pandemic when she changed careers and now coaches women on creating The Sex You Want (the title of her newly released book). Rena shares an exercise for getting to know your desires, one for tapping into your inner wisdom and we learn about Rena's first experience with a sex worker! Robin closes the episode with a "Healing Shit" segment - tapping into your inner crone with a crone goals exercise.

Rena Martine is a women's intimacy coach, former Sex Crimes Deputy District Attorney for the Los Angeles County D.A.'s Office, and author of The Sex You Want: A Shameless Journey to Deep Intimacy, Honest Pleasure, and a Life You Love. Find Rena at renamartine.com or on IG.

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