Eros Mama The Podcast with Megan Lambert (Megan D Lambert)

This week, I’m sitting down for a solo episode to talk with you about motherhood and my experience so far raising my ten-month-old baby, Lila. 

As you can imagine, we’ve learned a lot in the time we’ve had her in our lives. There has been so much expansion, growth, joy, tears, and learning. But all of it has brought me so much love and purpose as our family grows. 

In this episode, I’m going to share all the moments — happy, messy, scary, and humbling — starting with the first 40 days of our parenting cocoon. I’ll share what it was like to not leave the house for almost 2 months in the beginning, what traveling the world with a newborn was like, our first big health scare as a family, and all the expectations and teachings I’ve had throughout the last 10 months.

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email (megandlambert@gmail.com), Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts! 

If you’re curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.

Safe Infant Sleep is a great resource to learn about co-sleeping safely

Possum Sleep Method for sleep training

Solid starts for baby-led weaning

Key Moments:

(01:19 - 6:26) Feeling so supported by family and friends in the first 40 days of our parenting cocoon

(6:27 - 7:46) The shocking realization that motherhood is a lot messier than it seems

(7:47 - 8:34) Honoring Lila and her spirit sibling in a Balinese placenta burying ritual

(9:56 - 11:45) The sweetest, most expansive moments of motherhood so far

(11:46 - 14:07) The messiness of traveling for 36 hours with a 2-month old 

(14:08 -18:00) Navigating difficult emotions through our first health scare as a family 

(18:02 - 19:35) Realizing the importance of having friends who relate to motherhood

(19:35 -23:16) Throwing away the parenthood playbook to find what parenting styles worked best for us

(23:17 - 25:27) Screens, or no screens? Adjusting our parenting styles over time

(25:28 - 29:36) Balancing being a wife, mother, entrepreneur, and individual 

(29:38 - 32:33) Reflecting on how I’ve grown and evolved over the past 10 months as I navigate first-time motherhood

Welcome back to the podcast! We’re back with a fresh name, new look, and whole new vibe. 

This podcast was formerly “Touchy Topics with Megan Lambert”, but as I’ve changed dramatically since becoming a mother, so too have my teachings. So here we are, Eros Mama. 

In Season 3 of the podcast, we’re going deep into the heart of motherhood, exploring how we can maintain connection to our passion and sensuality, while nurturing our growing families. No easy feat! 

This episode shares my life updates (hello, new baby!) and major themes for this season of the podcast. 

Key Points:
[1:06] What has changed for me since baby #2 arrived? (Hint: a lot!) 

[2:35] How can we make space for all parts of us as mothers, embracing both the high highs and the low lows? 

[7:47] Noticing how the culture devalues motherhood and our life-giving work… and what we can do about it in our own homes 

[12:50] Big news about our family! A big change is brewing… 

[17:30] What does it take to leave a beautiful eco-legacy for our children? 

[22:51] The themes we will explore for the rest of this podcast

We humans have a strange relationship with money. We're fascinated by money, often want more of it, and at the same time, associate money with being dirty. "Filthy" rich. "Obscenely" wealthy. In a lot of ways, our relationship with money mirrors our relationship with sex - shameful, taboo, and yet, desire-filled. Is there a better way to relate with money & sex? One with less shame, more freedom, and greater play? Olivia and I explore this in our thought-provoking, controversial conversation.

How safe do you feel to express your voice? What voice is most challenging for you to express? What is the bigger voice you're following? In this episode, I speak with Amy Theissen, a soulful musician and voice coach, on the power of finding and expressing our voice. Amy uses a holistic approach to awaken voice through somatic awareness, discernment, devotion, and vocal techniques. This episode begins with the concept of voice, and from there, dives so much deeper into soul, feminism, awakening archetypes, the erotic, and true reverence. 

How can we live more richly fulfilling lives by combining the wisdom of Buddhist meditation AND the messy, raw electricity of desire? How do we unhook from the object of desire and experience Eros in its purest form? In this episode, I interview Justine Dawson, a 23 year practitioner of Buddhist meditation who studied with Jack Kornfield and a 12-year practitioner of the erotic and desire who studied with Nicole Daedone. Justine has deep & profound insights about how we can live awake and erotically alive.

Do you aim for climax in sex? Or have another goal for the experience? What would happen if you removed the goal entirely and became curious about the entire erotic experience? In this episode, Megan breaks down the way many people view sexuality as a goal-orientated activity, and instead she provides a refreshing alternative that will help you keep your intimate life alive, dynamic, and full of surprises.

Grab a cup of tea and settle in for this is an intimate solo episode together, where I share my personal updates, and a shift I’ve noticed in my work lately towards more softness and just being - rather than pushing and doing. 

I open up about identity challenges this change has brought up for me - as well as how I knew it was time to let go of online coaching for now. I share about listening to my body for deeper wisdom, and trusting those messages even when they don’t “make sense”. 

Sacrifice is a big theme in the episode too - consciously deciding what I do NOT do is as important as what I will do. 

Lastly I share a tangible practice you can take with you to identify your own values and priorities - and align your life behind them. I hope you find this episode useful for your own journey!

Key Topics:

• A move towards a new way of being [00:55]
• Transformation happens when we dissolve identity prisons [2:09]
• My sacrifices reveal the life I’m choosing for myself [4:31]
• Desire can make you feel as though you’re being split in two [8:38]
• Reevaluating where I’m being called and drawn to now [9:29] 
• What is the North Star of your life? [10:48]
• How does your schedule align with your mission and values? [12:15]

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

How do you get the best from your man? How do you communicate your desires in a way that inspires him to respond? In this solo episode, Megan explores these nuanced and complex questions coming up with her clients around man-woman dynamics.

When you can feel your life needs a reset, what do you do? How do you know when it's time to "die" (energetically)? Why are we so afraid of death as a culture? What is Coronavirus here to teach us about death and dying? Join Christina Morassi and Megan Lambert on a brave exploration of these confronting questions. Christina has over 20 years in the healing & coaching industry as a high six-figure coach. Now she is on a mission to help other women leaders activate Raw Feminine Power and learn how to use it in the natural design of their Feminine Operating System.

Death Ritual Meditation

Isn’t it crazy how taboo and in the shadows female masterbation or self-pleasure is? There’s good reason for this. When a woman takes the reins of her own pussy, her own body, and her own pleasure - she becomes daring and bold. The patriarchy can’t co-exist with women connecting to their authentic pleasure and sexuality. Listen in to learn more. 

In today’s episode, I’m joined by my husband James to discuss our pregnancy journey—how we decided it was time to start a family, how we discovered that I was pregnant, what we learned going through this for the first time, and our separate physical and emotional experiences throughout each stage of pregnancy.

Pregnancy was a completely new experience for both of us. We went into it with our own preconceived ideas and expectations of how it would be and were met with a reality that toppled all of it. While it was intense and hard at times, we were also pleasantly surprised at how it was simultaneously wonderful and exciting. Join us to hear all the juicy details from preconception, conception, and a trimester-by-trimester walkthrough of our journey together.   

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email (megandlambert@gmail.com), Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts! 

If you’re curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.

I created a guide of all the amazing resources that supported me in my pregnancy journey! You can find that here:

https://www.megandlambert.com/pregnancy-resources

Key Moments:

(1:17 -3:58) How we knew we were ready to be parents 

(3:59 - 5:33) Our conception story, feeling the spirit of our future baby with us

(5:35 - 10:03) The many false negatives that led up to our pregnancy announcement  

(10:04 -11:35) Why we decided to tell everyone right away instead of waiting

(11:36 - 18:02) The first trimester: learning to slow down and listen to my body

(18:03 - 24:47) The second trimester: “The Great Wait” and regaining my energy

(24:48 -27:19) Traveling while pregnant and getting COVID 

(27:20 -31:18) The third trimester: James’s changed perception of pregnancy stereotypes vs. what’s actually possible for pregnant women

(31:19 - 35:02) Being confronted with body insecurities and feeling alone 

(35:04 -37:27) Closing up shop and the final preparations before birth

(37:28 - 39:56) Our advice to couples in being supportive to your pregnant partner, and finding the gifts and intuitive nature that pregnancy holds

How does a man develop his sexual capacities? What is non-ejaculatory practice? What are the different types of orgasm women can have? Why is it sometimes challenging for women to climax?  Join Megan Lambert and her partner, James Mattingley, for an introduction to the differences between men and women when it comes to orgasm and climax. This podcast will give you a deeper understanding of yourself and the opposite sex, as well as a roadmap for how to grow as a lover. 

 Struggling with unfulfilled expectations of yourself or your partner? Well, in this episode James and I explore the inevitable frustration and disappointment when your ideals aren’t met. Here’s the deeper cause of this dynamic - and what to do about it. 

 In this deeply personal episode, James interviews me while I share about my journey with intimacy, sex, and erotic intelligence. I describe my 5 years with the Orgasm Meditation community, my first foray into erotic arts, and many of the resources that have helped me along my journey. A powerful episode for anyone looking to discover their own erotic side. To learn more, join my 5 day Eros challenge at megandlambert.com/eros.

Ever wonder if there is a more empowering and holistic way to view health challenges? Ever feel like modern medicine is missing a big piece of the puzzle, especially for women?  

In this episode with integrative health practitioner, Bindi Stables, we look at the root cause of chronic illness, disease, and body dysfunction, particularly when it comes to women’s bodies. 

Bindi shares her inspiring story of healing from daily seizures to thriving health, and how she found medical answers in unexpected places (ex: emotions, intuition, and ayuveda). 

We look at the most common health problem she helps women with - their menstrual cycles - and how this seemingly simple aspect of being a woman reveals much deeper patterns in our lives, as well as an invitation to an entirely new way of living. 

We also look at how our relationship to our menstrual cycle reflects our relationship to the feminine, and nature as a whole. Powerful stuff! I got chills many times during this episode because I believe this is such an important conversation. I hope you enjoy it! 

Key Topics:

• Bindi’s year-long struggle with daily seizures and finding no answers [01:00]
• Tapping into intuition to find a new path to healing [6:25]
• The manifestation of stagnation through building identity prisons [8:30]
• Stagnation is the birth of challenges conflicts [11:06]
• The two sides of examining health issues [13:05] 
• The long-term impacts of hormonal birth control on women [19:17]
• Finding healthier alternatives [28:00]
• Harnessing the gifts of our cycles [34:10]
• Honoring the wisdom of nature through herbalism [46:26]

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

Connect with Bindi: 

On Instagram: @bindistables
https://www.bindistables.com/

In this episode, my husband James and I share our intimate, powerful home birth story of our second baby, Latham. It was such a wild and empowering journey! Here I weave the tale of each step of the journey, plus what we did to prepare for the birth. 

I am so passionate about rewriting the narrative around birth. I believe birth can be the portal to a woman’s deepest feminine power, a blueprint that lasts her whole life (and the baby’s!). 

This is a great listen for anyone who is pregnant or considering a home birth. 

• 0:00 - Who we are and why we chose a home birth 
• 4:00 - The juicy way my labor started (literally!)
• 10:00 - The power of primal sounds in labor 
• 15:00 - When it got challenging through transition 
• 18:12 - Realizing "F*** good girl, that part will not get you through this birth"
• 25:35 - The baby is born! One big contraction 
• 27:10 - Brief scare when baby didn't breathe right away
• 30:00 - Birthing the placenta, skin-to-skin after birth
• 34:04 - The two most helpful things I did to prepare for birth 
• 39:14 - How partners can cultivate trust in birth
• 41:00 - Final reflections

This week, I’m interviewing one of my coaching clients, Emily, about her journey on a 3-month coaching container with me that’s now coming to an end. Emily first chose to work with me when she was post-partum with her third child and felt she was dragging baggage around from the past that she was ready to surrender.

In this episode, we get real about Emily’s deepest emotions, desires, and shadows that she had been avoiding bringing into the light before working with me. We talk about opening up about sexual fantasies, grieving the lost relationship with her mother and the rage surrounding it, cutting ties with people who no longer served a purpose in her life, and what’s in store for her future. 

If you want to reach into the depths with us and share in Emily’s emotional journey, you don’t want to miss this episode.    

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM, or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts! 

If you’re curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.

Key Topics:

• Emily’s desire to release the baggage she’s been carrying around from the past [1:03]
• Using the concepts of free birth as a tool for surrender [3:38]
• How my approach helped Emily soften and be vulnerable with me [7:48]
• Getting deep about desire with her partner by channeling her feminine energy [14:16]
• Accepting anger, rage, and grief and releasing expectations around family members  [22:21]
• Channeling rage and darkness through swamping [30:36]
• Finding the courage to cut ties with her abusive ex, her legal battles, and the voices telling her to keep fighting for things that were no longer serving her. [34:28]
• Flipping the script on feeling like she had to be a certain way to be seen as professional  [36:45]
• Envisioning her future career and wanting to support families through traumatic events [40:37]
• Calling others to go deeper and let circumstances show you where you need to heal [50:27]

Are you a single woman looking for a man? You might enjoy this episode in particular where I described the typical ways women try to “manifest” a partner and how this approach can ultimately be disappointing.  I take the listener through the five step process I use with coaching clients to help them dismantle their walls to love and open up to masculine attention in a deep and lasting way 💘

“Having is evidence of wanting”…. Carolyn Elliott and her husband Taia Kephler join Megan for an edgy conversation on how we can discover our shadow desires by looking at what we're currently experiencing in our love lives. Through an insider look at their marriage, Carolyn & Taia show us they apply “Existential Kink”, a concept that can unmask our shadow and unlock our hidden power in partnership and beyond.

This week, I’m doing an interview from a couples’ retreat on the beach in Bali with my friends and fellow changemakers, Madiha Bee and Ehab Marneh.

Madiha coaches Arab women to reclaim their sacred feminine power and step into leadership in their communities, while Ehab teaches people to embody their truest selves and become enlightened leaders. 

This episode will touch on many of the challenges the two have faced in their coaching careers advocating for change and challenging cultural taboos, particularly in the Middle East. We discuss how they each approach criticism from the public, their peers and families, and even within themselves. We’ll also discuss the taboos of challenging deep-seated cultural norms, reframe how other cultures view one another critically, and how to design your own reality to become truly liberated.

We’ll leave you with new perspectives to ponder, and the question, “How can you contribute to the change you want to see in the world while trusting your intuition and inner wisdom?

If you’re curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts!

Key Topics:

• Madiha and Ehab’s background in creating a movement  [1:22]
• Ehab’s story of sharing a provocative post & being publicly shamed by millions of people for it [5:28]
• How he turned this moment into personal growth through appreciation [12:08]
• Madiha’s ability to create space for free will around the hijab [25:00]
• “Everyone has their own veils; some are just more visible than others.”  [30:41]
• Liberation comes from within  [34:23]
• Madiha’s experience of ease and safety amongst her online community. [40:30]
• Trusting your intuition and contributing to meaningful change in the world  [44:49]

Find more from Ehab:

https://www.facebook.com/dr.ehabhamarneh

https://www.youtube.com/c/HighestPossibleExpression

https://www.instagram.com/dr.ehabhamarneh/

Find more from Madiha:

https://www.facebook.com/madihabeecoaching

https://www.youtube.com/c/MadihaBeeAwakenedWoman/videos

https://www.instagram.com/madihabeecoaching/

Today, I’m finally sharing the highly-requested home birth story of our daughter, Lila. This is a tell-all episode with no intimate details spared. 

In this episode, I recount my birth journey — from choosing our midwife, the days leading up to the birth, the moment I knew I was in labor, the feelings and sensations moving through my body during the whole experience, all the way up to the birth when we finally met our daughter.

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram, or leaving a review to let me know your thoughts! 

If you’re curious about what my husband James & I offer, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.

Key Moments:

(0:00 - 5:12) How we chose home birth, navigating family and cultural expectations, and the secret our midwife didn’t tell us at first

(5:15 - 6:00 ) The calm before labor begins - a quiet moment with God and the Universe 

(6:01 - 10:00) Realizing labor is starting (on my exact due date!)

(10:01 - 15:00) How my birth team made me feel like a true goddess, channeling my primal power in the late stages of labor

(15:02 - 16:05) Connecting deeply with my husband in the moments before Lila was born

(16:08 - 17:57) Channeling pain into pleasure as I started pushing

(17:58 - 19:26) Pooping during labor: let’s talk about it

(19:35 - 22:02) The final pushes, and the indescribable joy of finally meeting our daughter

(22:03 - 22:53) Bonding with Lila through baby-led breastfeeding

(22:54 - 25:30) Post-birth: stitches, catheters, placentas, and cutting the cord together as a new family

(25:31 - 27:27) Reflecting on the feelings of empowerment after giving birth and final thoughts

Birth Resources Mentioned in the Episode:

“Transformed by Birth” by Britta Bushnell

“Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth” by Ina May Gaskin

“Nurture” by Erica Chidi Cohen

“Gentle Birth, Gentle Mothering” by Sarah J Buckley

“Bountiful, Beautiful, Blissful” by Gurmukh

“Give Birth Like a Feminist” by Milli Hill

“Expecting Better” by Emily Oster 

Instagram

@painfreebirth

Where to Find Megan:

@megandlambert

https://www.megandlambert.com/

In this powerfully moving episode, Reverend Dr. Joanne Coleman, shares about her experience growing up with racism in America. She describes living through the first civil rights movement as a child, reflects on what has changed since then, and what still needs to be done collectively. This episode is full of vivid personal stories from her own life, as well as eye-opening metaphors that will change the way you think of racism. A must-listen.

What actually happens at a couples retreat?! Who goes to a retreat? What do people learn?

In this episode, my husband James Mattingley and I share about our most recent couples’ retreat in Bali. This was the third couples retreat we’ve hosted together, and like each one so far, it was full of lessons for ourselves and for the couples. 

We talk about the type of people who attend couples’ retreats, what these couples were looking for, and some of the surprising twists and turns this retreat took. 

We shared our favorite topics and a-ha moments from the retreat, from the myth of low libido to a body-based approach to navigating conflict in relationships, as well as one of the key skills we teach - how to spark the passion in long-term love. 

I hope you find this episode useful! If you’d like to join us on a future retreat, our next one is Dec 1-4th, 2023 in Bali. You can find more info on it here: www.integratedintimacy.co/retreat. 

Key Topics:

• The type of people that attend couples retreats (hint: it’s not what you think!) [1:07]
• Learning to have healthy conflict and embrace big truths [3:17]
• Increasing attraction and sensuality in partnership [7:06]
• How to create polarity on demand [9:21]
• Busting the myth of low libido [11:29]
• Having grace for our humanity [12:27]
• What James & I learn by teaching together [16:43]

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

One baby vs. two babies — depending who you ask, you’ll get a different answer about what it’s like to shift from a family of 3 to a family of 4 or more. 

This week, I’m talking with Jess Osie about the shifts in motherhood that come with a growing family. 

In this episode, we discuss motherhood as a rite of passage, the family nervous system, and caring for your relationship with your partner throughout all stages of parenthood. 

Jess gets real about what it’s like caring for two children and the struggles she and her partner have faced along the way. If you’re growing your family, or just curious to know what it’s like shifting into this new stage of life, this episode is for you.

Key Topics:

• Moving through the resentment tunnel of early parenthood [2:48]
• Practicing gratitude and appreciation of each other as parents [8:32]
• Navigating the family nervous system as a family of 4 [14:26]
• How to tend to the family nervous system [18:29]
• 1+1 does not = 2 in parenthood [22:00]
• Feeling a deeper inner confidence and intuition as a mother with baby #2 [26:30]
• Self-trust in maternal intuition is nourishing and reaffirming [29:54]
• Motherhood is a rite of passage — go slow, be gentle [35:32]

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. 

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

Find more from Jess:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessosie/

Website: https://www.jessosie.com/

What leads to the spark dying down? How can you stoke the fire and bring back the flame - in a fun and playful way? 

In this episode, I share a sample story of a couple who’s passion and romance faded over time… and the specific ways James & I helped them revive the spark. 

One of the main ways we help couples is by bringing the play back into intimacy, predominantly through games. Intimacy games help couples feel on the same team, be open minded to discover each other, and communicate what they like. 

Here I share 3 of my favorite games for couples who want to reignite and rediscover each other intimately. Each game takes 10 min or less - but can radically shift your erotic life. 

Let me know how the games go afterwards via email (megandlambert@gmail.com) or via Instagram (@megandlambert). Wishing you a fun and playful exploration with your partner!

Key Topics:

• Acknowledging relationship loops that stand in the way of intimacy [1:09]
• The unspoken void of intimacy disconnect - and how to shift it [6:18]
• Game #1 - Kiss Me Like This [8:55]
• Game #2 - A/B Testing [11:52]
• Game #3 - The Desire Game [15:46]

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

Welcome to the birth of Touchy Topics. In this episode we discuss LOVE. What is it? How do you define it? What do I think it means (hint: I see 3 layers of meaning)? Over 100 of you submitted responses to the question "What is Love?" - maybe yours was featured!

Stay tuned and be sure to subscribe!

Single but don’t want to be? Join me for this insightful solo show where I share the 4 phases of being single, and where you can get stuck, as well as how to progress. I share ways to open back up to love.

For more support with finding your partner, check out my Eros group program for single women, starting Sept 28. Megandlambert.com/eros

Given the popularity of the new Netflix documentary Orgasm Inc., I decided it was time to share about my 4 years deeply involved in the organization, OneTaste. 

The documentary paints a dark picture of the company, and OneTaste has spoken out sharing a light side of the company. My motive in this live is to share my experience - the light & the dark, the gold & the grit. 

Because ultimately nothing is all light or all dark - there’s always fifty shades of gray to any story. 

So here I let you in on how I got involved, what I learned from the OneTaste teachings, what the community was like, why I decided to leave, and the lessons I still carry with me in my own coaching business today.

This episode just scratches the surface on my own experience. There are thousands of people with their unique OneTaste experience (including those in the documentary) whose experience may be quite different from mine. Take what you like and leave the rest. 

My hope in sharing this vulnerable episode is to give you an inside glance into this very controversial community who influenced who I am today - and offer more nuance to the conversation around OneTaste.      

Key Topics:

• Why I’m finally ready to talk about my time in OneTaste  [1:35]
• The SantaCon that led me down the Alice-in-Wonderland rabbit hole [3:15] 
• Trading an unfulfilling relationship for the practice of Orgasmic Meditation [6:45]
• The undeniable electricity of the OneTaste community and teachings [9:41]
• Why I consider OneTaste a cult (affectionately) [11:47]
• Groupthink — the hallmark of a cult [13:40]
• Becoming familiar with radical self-honesty and fierce truth [17:32]
• The dark side: sales skepticism and seeking approval [20:12]
• The events that pushed me to leave [24:12]
• The gifts that my time in OneTaste left me [28:08]

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If you’re curious about Megan’s offerings, visit www.integratedintimacy.co. If this episode moves you, please let us know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts!

One of the least talked about — but most important — aspects of a relationship is how you structure your daily lives together. What are the rhythms and rituals you live by? What is the flow of your days? 

Often couples fall into unconscious patterns, without having a clear conversation on the rhythms they want to create together. Nor do they talk about their implicit expectations and baseline standards - which can breed resentment and hurt feelings.  

By having an open and honest conversation about these areas, you two can consciously design a more beautiful and fulfilling life together. 

In this episode, I share with you two powerful sets of questions to talk about with your partner to help you set your baseline standards and design your daily rhythms. This is potent work! May it create more flow and harmony in your relationship. 

Key Topics:

• What are rhythms and rituals in partnership? [1:06]
  • Why are they important? 
• Rhythms and rituals questions [2:50]
  • What do you do in the morning and before going to bed together?
  • How often and when do you make love?
  • How often do you have date nights?
  • Traveling and taking trips together or separately
  • Relationship check-ins
  • How do you play and have fun together?
  • How do you receive relationship support?
• Baseline standards questions [8:29]
  • What behaviors are not acceptable in fights?
  • What will you do when a standard is broken?
  • What is the standard of loyalty and honesty?
  • How long do you go without having sex?
  • How long do you harbor resentments?
  • How do you deal with substances, addictions, and/or vices?

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. 

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

What were you taught about food and your appetite? How is your relationship with your hunger? How do you feel about your body right now? 

This is such a hot topic for my female clients right now, so I wanted to dive into it here with you. 

In this intimate solo episode, I share with you my personal journey around food, body image, and feminine hunger. I touch on the healthiest aspects of my journey - as well as my dysfunctional habits - and the specific tools I’ve used to “rewild” my relationship with food and my body. 

When I watch my 16 month old baby naturally eat what she wants, when she wants, and intuitively follow her own hunger cues… I know that this is our natural state. 

Yet so many of us have a far-from-natural relationship with food and our bodies. We may diet, overexercise, binge & purge, obsessively count calories, or restrict ourselves. All of this comes from a “top-down” control of our bodies, rather than a deep trust of our body’s wisdom. 

This episode is an invitation back to your natural state, a chance to “rewild” your body, and rediscover what you intuitively know about eating and feminine hunger. 

Key Topics:

• The injury that led to my complicated relationship with food [01:56]
• Not an eating disorder, but disordered eating [5:09]
• Realigning with my body’s sensations through Orgasmic Meditation  [6:38]
• Giving yourself permission to connect with your emotions through food  - what are you truly hungry for? [8:40]
• Rewilding yourself by unleashing your desires [10:08] 
• Don’t underestimate the impact of cultural conditioning [12:31]

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

To go deeper into feminine magnetism, take a look at my Bali women’s retreat on July 9-13th:

https://www.megandlambert.com/magnetic

In today’s episode, I’m joined by my good friend Stephanie Dickinson (also a relationship coach), and we’re talking all about asking for our desires from our partners. Grab a cup of coffee or tea and sit down for a heart-to-heart with us.

In this episode, Stephanie & I share our real-life, intimate stories around asking for what we want from our partners. 

As we’ve discovered, it’s not easy to ask for what we want. We often build stories around why what we want isn’t possible, or we drop our desires before we get the courage to ask for them. 

Here we give you tangible ways to break down the process — how to identify a desire in ourselves and the feelings that come up around the desire, how to approach the desire with a partner, friend, or loved one, and how to be open to others’ desires when we’re on the receiving side of a request. 

We also explore masculine/feminine dynamics and how to work with the opposing energies when it comes to asking for a desire. 

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email (megandlambert@gmail.com), Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts! 

If you’re curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.

Connect with Stephanie on Instagram

Schedule a call with Stephanie

https://schedulestephanie.as.me/schedule.php?appointmentType=34999529

Key Moments:

(2:16 - 6:22) Stephanie opens up about an edgy desire she’s asked for recently, and how it went for her

(6:25 - 8:18) Talking yourself out of your wants as a form of self-rejection

(8:20 - 12:07) The inner work Stephanie does to identify desires in herself

(12:26 - 17:08) Megan’s desire to do the tantra retreat - and how she persistently and gently brought James on board

(17:18 -19:50) Resentment is the smoke on the fire of your desire

(19:52 - 26:32) Confiding in your friends to dig deeper before approaching your partner

(26:36 - 31:59) Being on the receiving end of someone else’s desires and setting boundaries

(32:00 - 38:20) Navigating “charged” sensations in difficult conversations

(38:21 - 41:00) Setting a “context” or framework around conversations with loved ones

(41:02 - 43:54) Sharing our current (secret) desires that we haven’t yet spoken to our partners about

What would you say if everyone you knew was dead? We’re going there in today’s episode with Chelsea Dickinson, aka The Sabotage Queen. 

I found Chelsea on Instagram about six months ago and since then, I have been captivated by how she “makes a mess online” - aka is her raw, unapologetic self on the internet. She is the queen of full self expression and having your own back in a big way, especially while building an online business. 

In this conversation, Chelsea and I talk about how she literally grew up in the coaching industry, her struggles and triumphs with OCD, opening up about trauma to an her audience, setting boundaries, and becoming the unfiltered version of ourselves. 

If you’ve ever wanted to unleash more of yourself into the world… get ready for a wildly magnetic ride on this week’s episode!

Key Topics:

• Growing up in a family of coaches — the good, bad, and the OCD [1:26]
• Becoming public about sharing trauma online [6:05] 

• The raw story of Chelsea’s OCD healing journey [12:33]

• Choosing unapologetic self-expression vs. protecting the world from our ideas [20:00]

• Don’t waste energy trying to get people to see your value [26:18]

• What the movie The Luckiest Girl Alive can teach us about the triumph of our own personal truth [31:21]

• Becoming the most unfiltered, unapologetic versions of ourselves benefits everyone [37:13]

• What would you say if everyone you knew was dead? [44:02] 

Connect with Chelsea on Instagram:

@thesabotagequeen 

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts!

Men and women are often polar opposites when it comes to sexual needs, desires, and what turns us on. It’s this polarity that can be the key to either bringing us together or pushing us farther apart. 

This week, I’m talking with Sarita, a radiant woman in her 60s who has been teaching Tantra for 30 years. Her whole life she has been following the question - “What is the essence of life?” In Tantra, she found an answer. 

James & I just finished an amazing week-long couple’s retreat with Sarita. At the end of the week, I sit down with her to explore the peaks and valleys of the tantric love-making. 

If you’ve ever felt that your sex life could be more fulfilling, vibrant, and divine, this episode will give you valuable insights from a master Tantra teacher. 

Key Topics:

• Sarita’s path to tantra, love, and the search for enlightenment [1:59]
• Why sexiness is the closest thing to godliness [4:20]
• Riding the orgasmic waves of the yin and the yang during sex [6:43]
• Balancing masculine and feminine arousal in love-making [12:25]
• Worshipping your man’s Lingham (penis) as a path of devotion [18:45]
• Reigniting the honeymoon hormones from your early relationship [25:06]
• Why Tantric men are the best lovers - and how to know if he’s the one [27:37] 
  
  

Find more from Sarita:

@maanandasarita

https://www.tantra-essence.com/about/mahasatvaa-ma-ananda-sarita-2/

If you’re curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts!

This is our most requested episode topic yet! 

Join me and my husband, James, this week as we share about keeping intimacy alive while caring for a newborn. No easy feat! But we have learned so much about how to balance both and this journey has deepened our love for each other. 

In this episode, we’ll share our perspectives on what it’s like trying to care for one another and a baby when you’re running on empty, how to still fill up each other’s cups while avoiding resentment (as much as possible), and the excitement around rediscovering your intimacy as a couple in a new phase of life. 

At the end of this episode, we leave you with two powerful questions that can transform your intimacy - for life. 

May this episode support you in the wild journey of raising babies while caring for a marriage! 

Key Topics:

• When filling up your own cup is replaced by a newborn [1:57]
• Where men need to create intimacy that’s replenishing to the mother in the newborn stage [5:03] 
• Resentment is smoke on the fire of a desire or need for more support [7:19]
• Cultivating space around baby to allow for deeper intimacy with each other [11:15]
• Rekindling intimacy and excitement in “the new you” as co-parents  [14:09]
• Most relationships die waiting for spontaneity [17:45]
• How can you love your partner differently every single day? [22:00]

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 If you’re curious about my offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts!

Today, I’m welcoming back one of my first-ever business coaches and friends, Cait Scudder, to share about her experience running a multi-seven-figure business from home while raising two kids under two.

We talk about lifestyle changes after becoming mamas, the intense portals we went through as we discovered the mother inside us, the feminine power that we found giving birth, and the unconventional future we see for ourselves and our families. 

Join us for this raw and real conversation about raising babies while running businesses, and how to hold space for big ambition while caring for little humans. 

Key Topics:

• Becoming intimate with a feminine power that lives within you [5:50]
• Getting unapologetically clear about what matters as a mother [12:04]
• Learning not to put motherhood into its own box [16:07]
• The big exhale we’ve all been waiting for [22:27]
• Rolling with the unexpected seasons of life through pregnancy & beyond [24:15]
• What’s next? — community, homeschooling, and homesteading [33:07]
• What’s calling you? The answer leads into the unknown [42:15]

Find more from Cait:

@caitscudder

Or visit her website at: 

https://www.cait.co 

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If you’re curious about Megan’s offerings, visit www.integratedintimacy.co. If this episode moves you, please let us know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts!

Have you heard the news? We’re expecting baby #2! 

James & I are planning to welcome a little boy to our family in February 2024. We’re so excited. 

In this life update episode I share all - how I knew it was time to conceive, our intimate conception story, finding out I was pregnant, and the way we surprised our family with the news. 

I also open up about fears and desires for this second journey through pregnancy, birth, and postpartum - as well as the challenges I’m anticipating. 

Lastly, I share how James and I are preparing our relationship to weather the storms of having more children - and how we’re continuing to deepen into parenthood together. 

If you’re interested in hearing about my first birth story, you can listen to that episode here: 

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/my-birth-story-of-lila/id1498731180?i=1000569846244

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/57NraRCfBZQFtSlu8z2ymH?si=8d11a34372f14fb3 

Key Topics:

• How I knew it was time for baby #2 [1:32]
• Navigating my complex feelings around a new pregnancy [4:05]
• Sharing the news with family in-person as a highlight of our wedding  [7:27]
• The differences in the first trimester between baby #1 and baby #2 [8:14]
• Breaking ground on The Sanctuary right after conceiving [13:09]
• Expectations vs. Reality of the second pregnancy [15:11]
• Hopes and fears for the portal of pregnancy, birth, and rebirth [16:40]
• Planning for another post-birth family cocoon [19:00]
• Anticipating new needs for structure and support in our relationship post-birth [19:00]

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

This might be one of my favorite episodes yet. It’s a profound interview with my mentor, Londin Angel Winters, where we explore, “How do you create a passionate partnership after decades together? What’s required to continue growing and deepening with your lover through having a child, starting a business, and navigating uncertainty?”

Londin is one of the wisest - yet playful! - women I know, and this episode is packed full of a-ha moments around intimacy, love, and relationship. In the episode, I bring her 3 typical challenges from my clients, and she responds with deep, life-changing advice for these situations. You may even get something for yourself!

We talk about what surrender *really* is, ways we unconsciously kill polarity and attraction, how to inspire masculine leadership, and how to offer yourself as a gift to your relationship. Londin asks, “How are you going to use your body and your time on earth to awaken conscious love?”

Key Topics:

• Learning the art of surrender for life-changing growth [01:46]
• Trusting in what you can’t see or understand [7:25]
• Surrendering during moments of intimacy [14:31]
• Relinquishing control to recognize and receive the gifts your partner is already giving you [23:07]
• Becoming a living gift, the beauty of life through creating polarity [31:07] 
• Serve the moment, not the ego [41:50]
• How did you love before you knew hurt? [48:34]

To deepen your surrender practice, check out Londin’s Receptive Breath guided audio practice here: https://on.soundcloud.com/ADAG8

You can find her on Instagram at @londinawinters. 

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

What does the “rise of women” over the last 100 years mean for men and intimate relationships? What are both sexes doing that perpetuates patriarchy? How can we create relationships where both people are free to continue evolving? 

In this insightful and deeply personal conversation, Robert Kandell shares about healing his relationship with his dying father, as well as his fears on what his wife’s spiritual growth means for their marriage.  We touch on both personal and societal themes of what a “modern man” means today.

Ibu Sari Pollen, founder of PKP Community Centre, transformed her painful life situations into a profound offering. 15 years ago, she was suicidal, a newly divorced mother, unable to see her daughter due to traditional customs. After a wake-up conversation with her mother, she created what is now PKP Community Centre - a hub for learning, opportunities, and well-being for an entire community in Bali. In this episode, she shares core principles of the centre, borrowed from Bali culture, that are powerful lessons for all of us. An awe-inspiring story of transformation. 

Welcome back! If you’re new here, it’s wonderful to meet you. Thank you for being here. I hope you enjoy this relaunch of my podcast after a life-changing 2-year hiatus. 

In this introductory episode, I catch you up on what’s shifted for me since the world shut down — all the transformations I and my growing family have been through, what I’ve learned so far, and the visions I have for the future. 

I’m excited for you to join me on this journey where we will be talking about relationships, sex, intimacy, motherhood, shadow work, and desire. If you want to have those conversations too, you’re in the right place. 

After you listen, connect with me on Instagram - @megandlambert. I’d love to hear what you got from the podcast! 

If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com or if you want to know about the work I do with my husband, James Mattingley, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.

Key Moments:

(0:00 - 2:18) What’s been going on in my life since the pandemic began: marriage, birth, new beginnings everywhere!

(2:18 - 5:05 ) My vision for the podcast and all the touchy topics we’re going to explore together

(5:06 - 7:36) What’s next for my community: Integrated Intimacy, sustainability, and The Sanctuary space

In this episode, international multi-six-figure business coach, Cait Scudder, takes us through her journey of building a coaching business to six-figures in one year from a laptop in Bali. In a remarkably candid moment, she shares how she let go of her "Imposter Syndrome" voices and learned trust herself through the process. We talk about how all great entrepreneurs experience many, many "failures" as they build their vision.

We often think the patriarchy is something out there but what if it is in here? What if we perpetuate the patriarchy by undervaluing our own feminine qualities? In this eye-opening solo episode, Megan discusses masculine and feminine qualities, and how much is lost, personally and socially, when we undervalue our feminine sides.

How do you work with masculine and feminine energy when it comes to bringing dreams to life? What gifts do our inner masculine and feminine bring around dreams? How do you dream together as a couple, in a polarized and sexy way?

As we start 2024, may this mini-episode inspire you to bring your biggest and boldest dreams to life, either individually or as a couple. 

Key Topics:

• Feminine is the vision, masculine is the execution [1:33]
• We all have masculine and feminine energies within us [4:20]
• Sometimes masculine practicality can squash feminine desire [5:13]
• Bringing forth feminine dreams and desires to a masculine partner [8:07]
• Trusting your partner to embody their chosen role for a particular dream [10:39]

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. 

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

What is your relationship to anger like? Have you experienced more anger since becoming a mother?

If you have, you aren’t alone. There is a unique flavor of anger I call “mother rage” that pops up while tending to little ones. It has important insights for us - if we are willing to listen. 

Anger can be scary, but it is also a valuable teacher, pointing out our deepest values and tenderest places. We get angry about issues that matter to us, areas that need to change. For that reason, anger is one of my favorite emotions - and a potent force for transformation. 

In this solo episode, I share what I’m angry about currently, as well as how I work with that anger in myself and in my clients. 

I hope this episode helps you breathe a sigh of relief next time you feel angry - and get curious enough to listen to anger’s wisdom.

Have you ever finally gotten the baby or kids to sleep, crashed into bed… and then your partner wants to make love? Maybe you also wanted to connect intimately, but you felt overwhelmed, overtouched, tapped out. What do you do? 

That is a very real challenge many mamas face (myself included!). In this episode I share with you exactly what I did the other night to deliberately transition from “mom mode” to “lover mode” in just a few minutes - and the beautiful intimacy that was created with my partner as a result. 

Rekindling your erotic spark - even admist the chaos and intensity of motherhood - is 100% possible for you too. This episode walks you through 5 key practices to get there. 

Key points: 

• 00:03 This episode is inspired by my experience last night! 
• 03:05 Taking a solo moment to transition from "mom mode" to "lover mode"  
• 05:12 Setting a time container and letting go of the goal 
• 09:46 Focusing on relaxation and deep breathing
• 11:23 Tuning into your body's yes/no signals through sounds and body language
• 06:28 Exploring common pitfalls like faking enjoyment or obligatory acts  
• 07:15 Encouraging honest communication and shared pleasure
• 17:05 Benefits of prioritizing intimacy for reducing conflict and parenting teamwork
• 08:32 Building body trust by trusting your “no”
• 18:41 Accessing pleasure from an exhausted state  
• 19:45 Balancing roles as mother, partner, and sensual being

Have you ever trusted your intuition, even amidst the noise of other people’s opinions? Such a powerful and needed skill of a mama. 

In this episode, I share about taking my daughter out of school after noticing her upset when being dropped off. I talk about navigating conflicting voices in my head - am I coddling her? Aren’t I supposed to “send my kids to school” - vs. ultimately trusting the quiet whispers of my body telling me this wasn’t right. 

I’ve also been exploring the concept of “unschooling” which focuses on child-led learning without an adult-imposed curriculum. This concept resonates deeply with me and I share my favorite resources on it below. 

Ultimately this episode is about trusting our intuition as mother’s even when it goes against societal norms or advice from others. I invite you to deeply listen to yourself as you make choices about your children. 

A great listen for any mama considering pre-school, homeschool, or unschooling her children. 

• 00:03 - Intro about exploring the concept of unschooling - child-led learning without adult-imposed curriculum
• 03:28 - Enrolled Lila in an alternative preschool in Bali 
• 05:17 - After a few days, Lila was holding back tears when being dropped off, which didn't feel right
• 06:43 - Saw another child cry hysterically for 45 mins after being dropped off, solidifying her decision
• 08:08 - Decided to take Lila out of preschool and trust her intuition, even if it disrupted norms
• 08:38 - Highlights the importance of tuning into maternal intuition over conventional wisdom when it doesn't resonate
• 10:12 -  Provides another example of listening to instincts by not doing cry-it-out sleep training

Unschooling resources:

• Natural Learning podcast 
• Free to Learn book 
• Raising Free People book 
• Schooling the World documentary

Today, I’m interviewing a coaching client and friend of mine, Kori Zornes (@herwanderlustsoul) about her transition into motherhood, and her decision to reach out for support during this transformational time in her life.

For many new mothers, the first few months after baby are a blur, and Kori’s experience was no exception. Through all the chaos, she’s been relearning about herself. Who she is, what her values are, what she wants out of motherhood and partnership, and how she wants her future to look with her growing family. 

In this episode, we discuss why it’s so important to reach out for support no matter where you’re at in life, why Kori chose me to coach her through this time, and all the beautiful things she’s learned about herself and her relationship along the way. Kori's commitment to self-development has had a ripple effect throughout all aspects of her life. I’m honored that she chose me to support her through it and excited to continue celebrating her future growth!

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let me know your thoughts!

If you’re curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.

Connect with Kori on Instagram, or visit her website to learn more:

@herwanderlustsoul

https://www.revampretreats.com/

Timestamps:

(01:18 -3:43) Kori’s background, coming out of the postpartum cocoon and beginning to rediscover herself 

(3:46 - 5:54) What was going through her head as she decided to receive support during this new phase of her life

(5:56 - 7:48) How Kori and I aligned to work together on her goals

(7:50 - 9:11) The top 3 things Kori wanted to work on during her coaching 

(9:16 - 11:26) The challenging moments — realizing her relationship is a mirror for herself 

(11:27 - 15:15) Why you should “focus on your own side of the street” (and what that actually means)

(15:16 - 21:18) Apologizing, improving communication, and changing the stories we tell ourselves around disagreements

(21:29 - 23:07) Breaking down tumescence and how tumescence hinders our deepest connections

(23:09 - 27:35) Getting curious in moments of confusion or doubt

(27:37 -29:55) What is Kori celebrating herself for in her journey?

(29:57 - 33:45) Making sense of the early postpartum blur and leaning into the messiness; closing thoughts

In this episode, my husband James Mattingley & I are interviewed by the wonderful Aimee Batuski of Desire on Fire, on how our marriage has changed since becoming parents. Aimee helps us dig into all the shifts we’ve gone through, and how we’ve navigated them together as a couple. 

We knew our lives would change after we got married, started our businesses, and had a baby, but it was impossible to fully prepare for the ups and downs that would occur through all of these major life events. Here we share how we’ve adapted to new needs, expectations, and roles as parents. 

Today, we’re bringing our tools and advice to you so that you can learn from our mistakes and successes and start integrating these practices into your own relationship to start having the intimacy you crave.   

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM, or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts! 

If you’re curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.

Key Moments:

(4:13 - 5:52) Our history as a couple so far 

(6:16 - 9:25) Reflecting on our marriage and early parenthood. Describing the magnified feelings and emotional bubbles we experienced

(9:26 - 12:20) Megan feeling needy after giving birth, and learning to feel worthy of that extra love and care

(12:22 - 13:39) James’s perspective on being needed more while receiving less, and what has changed for him in becoming a father

(13:41 - 19:26) How we’ve navigated the inevitably uneven roles in new parenthood without becoming resentful of each other (well, not too much!)

(19:28 - 22:11) How James has responded to different communications surrounding Megan’s needs

(22:13 - 27:15) How we’ve kept the erotic intimacy alive after becoming parents. Hint: intimacy doesn’t always involve sex 

(27:16 - 32:46) The physical challenges we faced postpartum. Intimacy, sex, and body confidence

(32:48 - 42:37) Sharing our juiciest, most stubborn fights - and how we moved through them by choosing love again and again 

(42:39 - 55:55) Analyzing the moments where we’ve failed to disagree in a healthy way, but have always gotten back on track

(55:58 - 1:02:59) Tools like “Emptying the Bucket” on how to move through disagreements and regulate yourself in heated moments.

We’re hosting a couples’ retreat in September! Learn more here:

https://integratedintimacy.co/epic-intimacy-retreat/

Private 2 on 2 couple’s coaching:

https://integratedintimacy.co/couples-intensive/

Get in Touch with James, Megan, and Aimee:

https://www.instagram.com/megandlambert/

https://www.instagram.com/james.mattingley/

https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/

Aimee’s Desire on Fire Website:

https://www.desireonfire.com/

Are you single & loving it this Valentine's Day? Single & hating it? Stats say 51% of Americans are single - more than at any time in recorded history. In this episode, I share 6 ways to celebrate Valentine's Day and mark this milestone as a single person. Each of these 6 ways is powerful, deep, and can radically impact your day, week, or even year.  

In this captivating, intimate episode of the Eros Mama podcast, I welcome Alexandra Roxo, best-selling author of "Fuck Like a Goddess" and mother to a 10-month-old girl. 

Alexandra shares her transformative journey to motherhood, discussing the challenges of finding the right partner and balancing her career with her desire for a child.

Alexandra opens up about her transition from a successful career in film and TV to a spiritual and healing path, and how this shift ultimately led her to motherhood. She candidly discusses the societal pressures she faced, her experiences with miscarriage, and the deep personal work she and her partner undertook to create a strong foundation for their family.

She challenges cultural narratives about motherhood and encourages women to embrace their erotic selves while navigating the demands of parenting.

This episode offers valuable insights for anyone interested in conscious conception, maintaining sensuality during pregnancy and postpartum, and creating a thriving partnership while raising a family. Alexandra's story is a testament to the power of trust, embodiment, and staying connected to one's desires throughout the journey of motherhood.

Join Megan and Alexandra for this empowering conversation that redefines what it means to be a sensual, vibrant mother in today's world.

How is your love life going? What do you really want?
This episode is an invitation for deeper self-awareness. In it, I take you through step-by-step questions to reflect on the current state of your love life, and where you want to go next. This episode will help you reveal personal insights and your own deeper wisdom, in order to create a more fulfilling and passionate love life.

Can you visualize the person you’re becoming? Maybe you’re looking to start a business, call in love, be more creative, or seek more adventure in your life. Are you creating space for this new you to emerge?  

This week, I’m chatting with Elaina, a good friend of mine who has built her multi-million dollar coaching business in only a few years. In this episode, we’re diving deep into how business and love are closely connected, imposter syndrome, becoming our own energetic bouncer, and figuring out the women we’re becoming and how we want to present our future selves to the world.       

We invite you to grab a warm drink or a snack, get cozy, and settle in with us for this compelling conversation about how we approach love and entrepreneurship.   

Key Topics:

• Seeing yourself in the people who have what you want [2:51]
  
• The perpetual presence of imposter syndrome — no matter how successful you are externally  [8:47] 

• Peeling back the layers of the women we’re each becoming [12:24]

• Dancing with your self-doubt [17:54]

• Be your own energetic bouncer  [23:47]

• Awakening the feminine power we have in relationships [31:40]

• Stop looking for broken people to fix [37:04]

• Raise your standards — life will meet you there [41:15] 

Find more from Elaina Ray:

@heyelainaray

If you’re curious about Megan’s offerings, visit www.integratedintimacy.co. If this episode moves you, please let us know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts!

Have you ever struggled with a “low libido”? It can feel so isolating, especially in a relationship, where your partner may be looking to you for their erotic satisfaction. 

In this episode, with renowned French sexologist Camille Bataillon, we unravel what “low libido” really means - and what to do about it. 

We often talk about “low libido” as if it is an individual problem - but the truth is, when you’re in a partnership, “low libido” is a relational challenge of mismatched desire.

So how do you address conflicting desires and needs, sexually? 

How do you uncover what you really want and nourish your erotic self?

How do you take responsibility for your own erotic satisfaction and then share it with a partner?

We cover all of these juicy topics in this episode. We hope it serves you in your journey towards more fulfilling sex, juicy desires, and closer partnership! 

Key Topics:

• Taking the shame out of libido mismatches [1:15]
• Finding a balance and setting expectations without judgment [6:08]
• Communication comes first [11:25]
• How to avoid therapy as a last-resort relationship saver [12:32]
• Your libido isn’t broken — Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire [14:23]
• Nourishing your erotic self through learning about your libido [17:48]
• How parenthood shifts libido, desires, and the way we communicate about them [27:39]
• Making love makes love — 240 different reasons to have sex [33:22]

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Learn more about Camille at https://www.camillebataillon.com/ or connect with her on Instagram @camilleparlesexe.  

If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

Hey feminine being - do you realize how powerful you are?!

For years, I overworked, overgave, and over-hustled… because I had no idea how naturally and inherently magnetic I was. I didn’t trust the power of my feminine to attract what I wanted - in love, in friendship, in work. 

In this potent solo episode, I share about my personal feminine awakening 10 years ago, and my journey into deeper trust with my body, with my longings, and ultimately, with the universe. 

I’ll also share the 9 qualities of being magnetic, and invite you into deeper self-reflection with me on your current superpowers - as well as areas you may be curious to explore further. 

May this episode activate a deep remembering inside you of just how badass and magnetic you truly are. 

Key Topics:

• A heroine’s growth journey of the last 10 years [00:47]
• Learning about trust and safety through Orgasmic Meditation [3:16]
• Mama Gena and the School of Womanly Arts [4:39]
• Finding access to faith and trust through Codependents’ Anonymous [6:29]
• The powerful magnetism inherent in our feminine nature [7:28] 
• The 9 transformations to becoming magnetic [9:22]
• Remembering how powerfully magnetic you are [15:22]

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

To go deeper into feminine magnetism, take a look at my Bali women’s retreat on July 9-13th:

https://www.megandlambert.com/magnetic

How do you prepare for birth with the full reverence and devotion it deserves? 

Birth is one of the biggest initiations of a woman’s life. It touches every aspect of who she is emotionally, physically, spiritually, socially…. As well as ripples out to her partner, family, friends, and community. 

So - what can you do to prepare for an amazing birth? Here I share a few of my favorite resources and things that have helped me prepare for birth. 

For my full pregnancy resource guide, check out - www.megandlambert.com/pregnancy 

Key Topics:

• Birth is the biggest initiation of a woman’s life [1:09]
• Stripping away the layers of your being [2:51]
• Birth is also a rebirth for the mother [3:55]
• Preparing for the descent, death, and re-emergence as a new woman [4:19]
• Preparing your mind for birth and expelling fears from the experience [6:25]
• Getting creative in birth prep [8:05]
• Reaching out to loved ones for support [8:37]
• Preparing your relationship for new dynamics [9:37]
• Reconnecting with your higher power prior to birth [10:44]

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. 

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

In this unfiltered & unedited episode, Megan coaches Sara, a woman who has been seeing a man for a few months and craves deeper commitment from him. Sara wants to call him her boyfriend but he's resisting making it official. Over the course of an hour, we uncover Sara's own resistance to commitment as well as her deeper fears around relationships. We touch on deep questions like how do you inspire a man to meet your desires? And what does "relationship as your mirror" really mean?

Are you pregnant, postpartum, or a parent --- and are also trying to keep an intimate relationship alive? This episode is for you. 

Here we cover one of the topics people ask me about the most - what changes in your intimacy once a little one arrives? 

In short, everything. 

In this episode, I break the conversation down into 3 phases - pregnancy, early postpartum days, and toddlerhood & beyond - and share the major challenges I hear from couples in each of these phases. 

Then I share 5 powerful ways you can keep the spark alive with your partner, even as you navigate the turbulent and awe-inspiring waters of parenthood. 

Key Topics:

• The changes and challenges to sex and intimacy in pregnancy [2:18]
• The pleasant (sexy!) surprises about intimacy during pregnancy [6:05]
• Rediscovering each other after the baby is born [6:47]
• Allowing space for your partner’s erotic needs after giving birth [8:47]
• Keeping the spark alive as new parents [10:03]
• Resentment is a wet blanket for intimacy  [11:37]
• Parenthood as an initiation to deepening and expanding your intimacy [12:26]
• 5 tangible shifts you can make to keep the spark alive [14:52]

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. 

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

What was becoming a mother like for our mothers? For our grandmothers? 

How can the wisdom from women who have come before guide us newer mamas in this journey? What can we learn from our mothers, grandmothers, wise women?

In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with my own mom to unravel and discover my female lineage, learning about my mama’s motherhood journey as well as my grandmother’s. 

My mother — a mama to 3 children — shares her experience of becoming a mama in her 20s, divorcing in her 30s, and then becoming a mama again in her 40s. She reflects on the delicate balance of maintaining a separate sense of self, of womanhood, while being a devoted mother. 

We also explored what “feminine power” means in the context of motherhood, and women’s unique ability to subtly influence family dynamics - without losing ourselves in the process. 

I left this chat feeling more connected to my mom and to the long line of mothers before us, as well as inspired by the foundational wisdom from generations before me. If you've ever wondered how to keep your own dreams alive and your partnership strong while raising little ones, this conversation is for you.

When is it the hardest to love yourself?

If you’ve never asked yourself this question before, this episode is for you. I’m joined by my good friend and self-love queen, Gina Swire, where we get deep about the messy, edgy, and wonderful parts of the self-love journey.  

We discuss the realness and rawness of true self-love vs. the diluted version you often see in mainstream media, how self-love is an internal truth, how to navigate through difficult emotions that can arise in our journey, and we even share our own moments where we’ve struggled to love ourselves through hardship and loss.  

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts! 

If you’re curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.

Connect with Gina:

@ginaswire

https://linktr.ee/ginaswire

Key Moments:

• The dark depths of true self-love vs. mainstream, diluted self-love [2:19]
  
  
• The addictiveness of lower-frequency thought patterns that take away from our healing [6:34]
  
  
  
• Riding the waves of the emotional spectrum vs. spiritual bypassing [9:24]

• What happens when your emotional processing is mismatched in relationships? [14:25]

• Coming back to connection after a falling out; revealing our self-love blind spots  [21:09]

• Lifting the veil on Gina’s downloads and channeling abilities [26:02]

• Revealing our own self-love struggles [31:50]
  
  
• One simple step to start on your self-love journey and what we’re currently working on for ourselves [46:34]

Do you struggle to receive? Do you wish your partner did more thoughtful things for you?

In this joint episode with my husband, James Mattingley, I share about the biggest gift I’ve ever received - and what it’s taught me about the art of giving & receiving in romantic relationships. 

James recently spent several months renovating my office! And in that process, I learned so much about the voices in my head that block my receiving  (“Do I deserve this? I don’t need anything so beautiful…”), as well as the magic I saw in my relationship when I opened to receive this gift graciously. 

By sharing this story of learning to receive more fully, I hope you get a golden nugget for yourself around what it means to receive, what stands in the way, and how to open more fully to the love that is, always, all around. 

Key Topics:

• The biggest gift I’ve ever received [00:36]
• Desiring the space to share my gifts with the world [2:20]
• Pouring attention into your partner’s desires [3:38]
• The best questions to ask your partner around gift-giving [5:52]
• Receiving graciously and letting go of the outcome [6:44] 
• How gifting reinforces your love bubble [10:50]
• The juicy ideas that can bubble up while journaling around gift-giving [12:55]

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

Meet Michelle Etchison - queen of naughty content, self-expression guide, breathwork facilitator and overall badass entrepreneur. She became a friend of mine through a mastermind, where I learned about her journey of healing her autoimmune disease through pleasure and self-expression.

At only 23 years old, she found herself struggling with an autoimmune disease that left her frail and weak. Through reconnecting with her inner voice, expressing herself boldly, and exploring her pleasure, she has completely healed. These days, you’ll find her doing sensual dance, EFT, or breathwork, posting about her happy hoe life on Instagram, and being vibrantly, radiantly healthy. 

In this episode, we explore the wisdom of our bodies - how autoimmune disease is a wake-up call for parts of our souls to come alive. We look at pleasure, and the ways pleasure helps our body become a safe place to be. Lastly, we explore Michelle’s roots as a child of immigrants, and how her cultural heritage informs her work today. 

I hope you enjoy this episode! 

Key Topics:

• Michelle’s origin story of healing autoimmune disease through pleasure and self-expression [01:58]
• The spark of realization that ignited her voice [5:30]
• The deep inner wisdom that stems from illness [9:45]
• Finally feeling safe to surrender [13:00]
• The profoundness of pleasure [14:30] 
• Feeling into the nourishment of breathwork and self-pleasure [20:14]
• Gifting yourself pockets of pleasure and play throughout the day [26:21]
• Michelle’s upbringing as the child of immigrants & breaking traditions [28:23]
• Knocking on the doors of your heart and soul - awakening new parts of you [34:51]

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Connect with Michelle Etchison: 

On Instagram: @michelle.etchison
https://michelleetchison.com/

If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

How do you know when a decision is right for you? What does that vague restless feeling tell you about your current life path? 

This mini episode is about a key concept I learned from my Orgasmic Meditation training - being on vs. off the spot - and how that concept has influenced the way I look at subtle energetics of life choices. It’s been one of the most life-changing concepts I’ve found. Hope you enjoy it!

Key Topics:

• Having an “off the spot” moment misaligned with a desire [1:05]
• What is “on the spot” and “off the spot”? [2:24]
• As in orgasmic meditation, as in life — listening to subtle signs within yourself [4:43]
• Trusting your instincts to bring you back on the spot [7:00]
• The difficult emotions that are sometimes coupled with being on the spot [8:10]

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. 

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

We’re backkk! The first episode with Londin Angel Winters was so powerful (listen to it here), that we immediately recorded a follow-up episode - this time centered on motherhood. 

If you don’t yet know Londin, she is an expert on the path of sacred devotional intimacy, having taught about sexuality, masculine / feminine dynamics, and the art of surrender for over 12 years. She is a true role model in this field and my former relationship mentor. 

In this episode, she shares about the pain of multiple miscarriages and how she (unexpectedly!) conceived at 47 years old, and had a successful home birth at 48 years old. 

We explore the profoundly spiritual aspects of giving birth, and what pregnancy and birth taught us about surrender, the power of the female body, and trusting the divine. We explore the intricate connections between birth, death, and sexuality. 

She shares about breaking the chains of old ways of parenting, and letting your child be your greatest spiritual teacher. 

We dive into intimacy and sex after baby - why so many moms lose interest in sex - and how postpartum actually represents a profound initiation into sacred sexuality and intimate depth, if both people are willing to uplevel together. 

Lastly, we end by talking about the purpose of motherhood - to give love in a way you never received - and how anchoring into that purpose can provide meaning, even in challenging motherhood moments. 

Key Topics:

• Finding acceptance through the pain of multiple miscarriages [01:33]
• Becoming pregnant with a miracle baby at 47 years old [3:41]
• Surrendering to the uncertainty of past pregnancies and [7:38]
• Going to the gates of life and death to receive her daughter [14:53]
• The annihilation of self and total surrender [16:55] 
• Positive discipline as a blueprint for your child to discover themselves [24:21]
• Making room for the messiest parts of ourselves when we’re feeling fragmented[32:05]
• Breaking the chains of the old ways of parenting [38:45]
• Parenthood can be the initiation for deeper intimacy if you make space for it [47:20]
• What kind of love would you love your child to experience that you never received? [1:04:55]

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

When a woman is turned on, she feels vibrant, radiant, alive. When she's not? She feels hallow, empty, numb. In this episode, I share the teachings from my program, Eros, around how to cultivate erotic energy and sustain turn on in any circumstances. It is a rebellious act to choose our body's aliveness and electricity over any "shoulds" of our mind. This episode explores the concept of turn on by sharing my personal experiences, some fundamental principles, and a meditation to help you find turn on inside your own body.

Say hello to Rebecca Ives, my current coach and online love. She says she is a “spiritual teacher masquerading as a marketing coach”. She has built her multi-six-figure brand on unapologetic self-expression, saying the rawest and realest thing, and having her own back in a big way. 

In this conversation, we’ll talk about how Rebecca began her online career and built her internet persona and community over the past decade, and how that has allowed her to work only with people she considers “soulmate clients”. 

Watching the way she holds loving - yet firm - boundaries in her business has deeply inspired me to also raise my standards and only work with people that feel amazing to my soul. She has helped me pay close attention to the energetics of my business to make sure it feels enlivening rather than draining, especially as a new mom. 

I’ve also been impressed by how Rebecca ditches the overly glossy highlight reel and shares openly about her sometimes messy, always real, personal journey. 

She oozes self love, sparkle, and glittery goddess vibes so if you’ve been waiting to unleash more of your whole self online - you don’t want to miss this episode! 

Key Topics:

The genesis of The Content Queen: creating the persona [1:37]

The quantum leap that scaled her business to multiple six-figures [4:41] 

Soulmate clients only: setting clear boundaries for ultimate feminine flow [8:23]

Using social media as the playground for the deeper parts of your soul [14:41]

Getting cancelled and earning your internet battlescars [18:34]

How to romanticize your business [24:37]

What do ADHD, emotional trauma, and smoking weed have in common? [31:27]

Reflecting love like a diamond-encrusted mirror [35:22] 

Your negative experiences are just a cloud over the sunshine of your essence [40:09]

Connect with Rebecca on Instagram:

@the_content_queen

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts!

What can you do to keep your sex fiery for the long haul? How do you build the foundation for long term eroticism in your relationship? Those are the questions James and I explore in the Epic Sex challenge. We’ve included the first episode for you here so you can join us in the journey (full free challenge: Facebook Group). For more info on our paid program, check out Better Sex Program.