Divorce Happens (Fresh Starts Registry )

In this heartfelt and poetic episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell sits down with writer, professor, and single mom Kelly McMasters to explore the deep emotional work of divorce—and the self-discovery that follows. Kelly shares powerful quotes that helped anchor her through her own experience, including words from poets like Marie Howe and Joy Harjo. She explains how poetry offered moments of stillness, truth, and community when everything else felt uncertain.

Kelly opens up about the emotional weight of letting go of fantasies, expectations, and the version of love she once believed in. Together, she and Olivia reflect on how divorce often brings us back to childhood, revealing the roots of our beliefs about love, safety, and self-worth. Kelly also discusses her acclaimed book The Leaving Season, and how writing it helped her reclaim her story—not just as a divorcée, but as a mother, artist, and woman rebuilding home from the ground up.

This episode is a celebration of growth, honesty, and the surprising beauty of starting over. If you’re navigating the messy middle of divorce—or simply seeking insight into how we piece ourselves back together—you’ll walk away from this conversation feeling seen, supported, and inspired.

Transcription:

Olivia Howell: Hello, hello! Welcome back to Divorce Happens, the podcast where we support you before, during, and after divorce—with education, inspiration, and of course, a little bit of laughter. Because divorce happens, and then you start fresh. Today, I’m here with our friend Kelly. Kelly, who are you? What do you do? Where are you from?

Kelly McMasters: Hi! I’m Kelly McMasters. I'm a mom, a writer, a professor—and I’m divorced.

Olivia: I love that. One of our favorite things to do on this podcast is talk to people who’ve gone through divorce about what they’ve learned. I truly believe divorce is one of the most intense learning environments we’ll ever experience. So, Kelly, what were three things you learned from your divorce?

Kelly: I love that you used the word “environment,” because divorce really does have these amorphous borders—it’s all-encompassing. One thing I learned is how important it is to find small anchors. For me, poetry was one of those anchors. I was at a reading recently and in walked this famous poet—wild hair and all—and I realized it was Marie Howe. Her poetry helped me get through my divorce. I even used one of her lines to open my book:

“You think this happened only once—and long ago?”

That line has so many meanings, but to me, it means that in the moment of deep grief, it feels like you are completely alone—that no one else could understand. But the truth is, you are not alone. It’s a reminder to reach out in those dark moments.

Another quote that helped me is from Willa Cather’s The Professor's House:

“The heart of another is a dark forest, always, no matter how close it has been to one’s own.”

That quote reminded me that I had to let go of the fantasy. Let go of what I thought was true. That was the hardest part—letting go of expectations, hopes, and dreams so I could live in the real world again. Once I did that, everything shifted.

Olivia: Can you read that first quote again?

Kelly: “You think this happened only once—and long ago?”

Olivia: I love that so much. That resonates deeply with me. When you go through divorce, it often brings you back to who you were as a child. You start realizing that your definitions of love were formed way before your marriage. For me, it was even more of a personal rediscovery than motherhood. I had to uncover and heal the pieces of me...

In this transformative episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell speaks with Kristen Curtis, an EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) tapping practitioner and Akashic records reader, about harnessing the power of EFT during the challenging transition of divorce. Kristen explains how tapping on acupressure points helps regulate the nervous system, process emotions, and bring clarity in moments of stress. They delve into practical ways to use EFT daily, even in the midst of chaos, like calming yourself at a red light or navigating the emotions of a child’s tantrum. Kristen also shares simple yet impactful tapping exercises for feeling stuck and overwhelmed.

Kristen offers heartfelt encouragement for anyone navigating the grief and uncertainty of divorce, reminding listeners that these feelings, though powerful, are temporary and part of a larger process of transformation. Her compassionate approach and practical tools provide a roadmap for finding peace and resilience in the midst of major life transitions. Learn more about Kristen’s work and connect with her through Fresh Starts Registry, where she offers resources, blog posts, and personalized support to help you start fresh.

Learn more about Kristen on her Fresh Starts Profile: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/kristen-curtis-empowerment-healing

On this episode of Divorce Happens, we chatted with realtor Holly Martins about her five fresh tips for getting a marital home ready to sell during a divorce. Holly shared practical advice on navigating this emotional and logistical challenge, emphasizing the importance of communication, planning, and teamwork. From establishing a timeline to purging unnecessary belongings, Holly’s guidance helps divorcing couples take proactive steps to ensure a smoother home-selling process. She also highlighted the value of wise investments in home repairs and the need for neutral, professional representation to make the sale as seamless as possible.

Takeaways from the episode include key questions like: Where will you move next, and how will you plan the transition? Have you set a clear timeline for the sale that both parties agree on? Are you prioritizing sorting and purging belongings to reduce stress during the move? Are you addressing necessary repairs that could impact the home’s value? And finally, how can you find a realtor who remains professional and impartial throughout the process? Holly’s tips provide a solid roadmap for anyone navigating the complexities of selling a marital home post-divorce.

In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell is joined by Lorraine Connell, a teen leadership coach, to dive into the often overlooked challenges teens face during a divorce. Lorraine shares valuable insights on how parents and caregivers can best support their teens through this difficult transition. She emphasizes the importance of grace, understanding the uncertainty teens may be feeling, and fostering open communication without overwhelming them with details. Lorraine offers practical advice for how adults can help teens navigate their emotions and adapt to the changes in family life, encouraging a more empathetic approach when it comes to their shifting routines and responsibilities.

Lorraine also highlights the unique struggles that teens face, particularly when living between two homes, and how adults can better support them in the school environment. She provides actionable strategies for teachers and parents alike, encouraging grace and patience when teens forget homework or seem distracted, recognizing that the instability caused by divorce is affecting their ability to focus. Lorraine also discusses her own leadership program, which empowers teens to develop skills they may not yet recognize in themselves. Her approach creates a safe space for young people to build confidence and take on leadership roles, furthering their emotional resilience through the challenges of divorce.

Learn more about Lorraine: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/peers-not-fears

In this episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell sits down with career expert Tramelle D. Jones to explore the profound impact divorce can have on your professional life. Tramelle shares her 20+ years of experience in personal and professional development, emphasizing the importance of confidence and strategic career planning during times of transition. From finding your unique strengths to marketing transferable skills, Tramelle offers actionable advice for those navigating the workforce while going through a divorce. She highlights how building confidence—both personally and professionally—can pave the way for a fulfilling career shift, whether you’re reentering the workforce, stepping into management, or starting a new business.

Tramelle also provides practical tips for finding the right career coach, including aligning values, checking availability, and ensuring a coach has a clear, results-driven process. Her encouragement to lean on trusted friends and family for reminders of your strengths underscores the power of community in rebuilding confidence. Whether you’re seeking a career pivot or just need inspiration to take the next step, this episode is a treasure trove of insights.

You can learn more about Tramelle on her Fresh Starts Registry profile: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/tdj-consulting-career-services

In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell sits down with digital marketing expert and community builder Meg O’Neill to discuss the critical role social media plays during a divorce. Drawing from years of experience helping individuals navigate life transitions, Meg shares practical tips on maintaining privacy, avoiding potential pitfalls, and protecting yourself legally and emotionally online. They also explore ways to process your feelings safely—whether through journaling, private conversations, or anonymous storytelling—while keeping personal details off social platforms.

Meg emphasizes the importance of mindfulness when sharing online and offers encouragement for those navigating the complexities of divorce. With actionable advice and heartfelt insights, this episode is a must-listen for anyone considering or going through a divorce.

To learn more about Meg and her work, visit her profile on Fresh Starts Registry: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/meg-oneill-coaching

In this heartfelt and insightful episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell sits down with Brian Recker and Scarlett Longstreet to explore the challenges and joys of dating as a single parent post-divorce. Brian, a former pastor, author, and father, and Scarlett, a writer and mother, share their personal journey of finding love after separation, from meeting on Instagram to navigating the complexities of long-distance relationships and blending families. Their candid stories and reflections offer hope, humor, and practical advice for anyone wondering if it’s possible to start fresh and build meaningful connections after divorce.

Tune in to hear their tips on introducing children to new partners, managing the “messy middle” of dating, and embracing the unpredictability of modern romance. Whether you’re a single parent looking to re-enter the dating world or simply curious about love in the aftermath of major life changes, this episode is packed with inspiration and real-world wisdom to guide you on your journey.

In this episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell welcomes parent coach Jenn Wert to discuss conscious parenting strategies during divorce transitions. Jenn emphasizes the importance of prioritizing connection and authenticity to foster a trusting relationship with kids. She highlights how being intentional about language, holding space for children’s emotions, and maintaining a positive perspective on the other parent can help families navigate the emotional challenges of divorce with grace. Jenn also shares practical advice for creating meaningful moments of connection, whether through conversation or quiet shared activities, tailored to each child's unique needs.

Listeners will gain valuable insights into balancing their own emotions with the demands of parenting during this tumultuous time. Jenn encourages parents to validate their children’s experiences and remain present, underscoring that connection often happens in unexpected, organic ways. This thoughtful and empowering conversation offers tools for building resilience and deeper family bonds amidst life’s transitions.

You can learn more about Jenn Wert and get in touch with Jenn at Fresh Starts Registry’s Expert Guide: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/jenn-wert-parent-coaching

In this episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell sits down with Fresh Starts expert Janice Holland, a licensed professional counselor specializing in trauma and life transitions. Janice shares insights from her two transformative programs: Courageous Living, a 90-day journey helping women heal from trauma and rediscover themselves, and a certification program for professionals in her trauma model. Together, they discuss the emotional toll of divorce, the importance of self-care, and how grieving the loss of a "future picture" is a necessary step toward healing.

Janice offers practical tips for women navigating divorce, from journaling goodbye letters to creating new financial habits that nurture self-love. She shares her own experiences of resilience and emphasizes the power of being gentle with yourself during difficult times. Whether you're contemplating divorce, in the midst of it, or rebuilding your life after, this episode provides compassionate guidance and community.

Learn more about Janice Holland: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/the-courageous-woman

Divorce is one of life’s biggest transitions, filled with uncertainty, emotional upheaval, and endless questions about what comes next. In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia sits down with Julee Roth, a gifted psychic, medium, and aura reader, to discuss how working with a psychic during and after divorce can be a powerful tool for healing and clarity. They explore how intuitive guidance can help individuals uncover their deepest emotional blocks, release fears, and move forward with a sense of peace and purpose. Whether you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or simply looking for direction, Julee shares how a psychic reading can offer immediate relief, alignment, and reassurance.

Julee explains that during a reading, she taps into a person’s energy, aura, and past lives to help them understand their path of least resistance—the easiest and most fulfilling way forward. Unlike traditional therapy or coaching, a psychic reading provides instant insights into what’s truly holding someone back, whether it’s unresolved emotions, limiting beliefs, or spiritual blocks. Olivia and Julee discuss how trusting intuitive guidance can be a game-changer during a life transition, offering comfort, validation, and a renewed sense of self. Plus, Julee shares real-life examples of how her work has helped people navigate divorce, love, relationships, and even messages from loved ones and pets!

If you’ve ever wondered what a psychic reading can do for you, this episode is your invitation to explore the power of intuition and energy work. Julee breaks down common misconceptions, explains how readings work, and shares why everyone—especially those going through divorce—can benefit from a session. Tune in to hear how psychic guidance can provide the answers, reassurance, and direction you’ve been searching for. Ready to step into clarity, alignment, and joy? Hit play and discover how trusting your energy can lead you to a brighter, more empowered future.

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In this episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell sits down with family and marital attorney Mara Bernstein to demystify the often-confusing process of divorce. Mara, who practices in South Florida, New York City, Long Island, and Westchester, specializes in private divorce and helps clients stay out of court through mediation and collaborative divorce. Together, they explore the different pathways available, from kitchen table agreements to litigation, offering insight into what each process entails and who they’re best suited for. Mara also shares why finding the right lawyer—someone you trust, respect, and feel comfortable with—is key to navigating this challenging life transition.

Mara’s compassionate approach and deep expertise make this episode a must-listen for anyone considering or going through divorce. Whether you’re curious about alternative dispute resolutions or seeking reassurance about the journey ahead, Mara provides practical advice and heartfelt encouragement, reminding listeners that divorce is temporary, and a new chapter is always on the horizon.

Connect with Mara through Fresh Starts Registry, where you’ll find more resources to help you navigate the process: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/divorce-different

Navigating homeownership during a divorce can feel overwhelming, but having the right expert in your corner makes all the difference. In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia sits down with mortgage expert Brian Green to break down the refinancing process for those looking to stay in their marital home. Brian shares his insights on what it means to refinance, the key steps to take early in the divorce process, and how to prepare financially to ensure you can afford to keep your home. With nearly a decade of experience and over 800 loans closed, Brian brings valuable knowledge to help divorcing homeowners move forward with confidence.

If you're going through a divorce and wondering what happens to your home, this episode is a must-listen. Brian explains why having a mortgage expert on your team is just as important as having a lawyer or divorce coach. He shares actionable steps like setting up a separate bank account for mortgage payments, gathering essential paperwork, and exploring loan options tailored to your unique situation. Whether you're in the early stages of divorce or ready to refinance, this conversation offers clarity and reassurance that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Learn more about Brian: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/xpert-home-lending

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In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia sits down with empowerment coach Jolie Steele, who specializes in helping women reconnect with their intuition and find their courage during life transitions. Jolie shares her personal experience with divorce and the societal narratives that can make it challenging for women to prioritize their needs and desires. She offers actionable insights on shifting from self-criticism to self-compassion and emphasizes the importance of small, mindful steps in reclaiming your authentic self.

Jolie also discusses her new workbook, Better Stories, which provides practical tools to help women identify the limiting beliefs that hold them back and create empowering new narratives. If you’ve ever felt lost or directionless in the wake of divorce, Jolie’s advice will inspire you to embrace this transformative phase as an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.

Find Jolie’s resources in the show notes and at Fresh Starts Registry: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/full-bloom-coaching

In this insightful episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell is joined by Dr. Erica Miller, a clinical psychologist and pediatric neuropsychologist, to tackle one of the most challenging aspects of divorce: how to talk to your kids about it. Erica shares practical advice for initiating these conversations with clarity, compassion, and confidence. From preparing for your child’s emotional reactions to creating a safe space for ongoing dialogue, this episode is packed with actionable tips for navigating this sensitive subject. Erica emphasizes the importance of co-parent communication and maintaining a unified approach to reassure your children during this time of transition.

Listeners will also hear Erica’s thoughtful perspective on rewriting the narrative of family life post-divorce. She reminds us that divorce is not the final chapter but a chance to reimagine what a healthy, loving family can look like. Whether you’re facing tough questions from your kids or wondering how to set the tone for future conversations, this episode offers encouragement and hope.

Connect with Dr. Erica Miller through Fresh Starts Registry and learn more about her expert services: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/connected-minds-nyc

In this episode of Divorce Happens, we dive into the challenges of managing ADHD and executive functioning during the transitional period of divorce. Whether you’re staying in the marital home or preparing to downsize, the process can feel overwhelming—especially for those with ADHD or neurodiverse tendencies. We explore practical strategies to tackle decision paralysis, streamline the decluttering process, and organize important documents. From leveraging tools like virtual body doubling to finding support for downsizing or tackling paperwork, this episode provides actionable tips to make the divorce transition less chaotic.

Key takeaways include the importance of breaking tasks into manageable steps, seeking support from professionals or friends, and using accountability methods like body doubling. We also discuss how organizing your space can provide mental clarity during a difficult time and why investing in help for executive functioning challenges is invaluable. This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating divorce with ADHD or struggling to stay on top of it all.

Questions answered on this episode of Divorce Happens:

Managing ADHD During Divorce: How to Stay Organized and Simplify Your Life

• How does ADHD impact the divorce process?
• What is decision paralysis, and how can you overcome it during life transitions?
• What strategies help with decluttering and organizing in a neurodiverse-friendly way?
• How can professional organizers or virtual support provide relief during a chaotic time?

In this episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell sits down with Fresh Starts Expert Whitney Cardosi, a health coach and cookbook author, to discuss how nutrition and simple meal strategies can support parents during divorce. Whitney shares her journey from corporate life to health coaching, emphasizing how food can be a grounding force during major life transitions. She provides practical tips for feeding your family when everything feels overwhelming, from stocking a well-prepared pantry to embracing quick and healthy meal solutions.

Whitney also dives into the emotional side of food, discussing how our childhood experiences shape our relationship with nutrition and how we can help our kids build healthy eating habits. Whether you're a newly single parent figuring out meal planning, a dad looking to bond with his kids in the kitchen, or just trying to get through the day without feeling drained, this conversation is packed with real-life strategies, encouragement, and a whole lot of grace. Plus, she shares insights from her cookbook, In the Kitchen: Healthy Meals You’ll Actually Enjoy, and why cooking together can be a meaningful way to rebuild connection with your children.

Learn more about Whitney: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/wellness-with-whit

Thinking about divorce but unsure where to start? In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell sits down with divorce coach, mediator, and former family law attorney Allison McFadden to discuss the first steps in the divorce process and how to approach this major life change with clarity and confidence. Allison shares expert insights on visualizing your post-divorce future, building a support team, and understanding when to seek legal guidance. She also explains why working with a divorce coach can help save time, money, and emotional energy—offering a holistic approach beyond just the legal side of divorce.

If you're feeling overwhelmed by the thought of divorce, Allison provides practical advice on getting organized, managing expectations, and staying focused on the bigger picture. From setting realistic goals to navigating co-parenting, she breaks down how to create a roadmap that makes the process smoother and more manageable. Divorce is tough, but it’s also an opportunity for growth and a fresh start. Tune in now for expert guidance and actionable steps to move forward with confidence!

Learn more about Allison: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/divorce-by-allison

In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell welcomes Pia Leichter, a creative coach who works with unconventional dreamers and visionary rebels to bring their ideas to life. Pia shares the transformative lessons she learned from her divorce, starting with the importance of staying true to yourself and not shapeshifting to please others. She emphasizes the beauty of embracing personal growth and finding a partner who loves each evolving version of you. Pia also reflects on how her divorce pushed her to look inward, leading to powerful healing and self-discovery through therapy.

Pia's journey culminated in a profound love affair with herself, where she learned to cherish and romance her individuality. She provides actionable advice on cultivating self-love, from journaling and exploring personal joys to taking yourself out on dates. Pia also offers encouraging words to those navigating divorce, reminding listeners that rejection can serve as redirection to a better path. With her warmth and wisdom, Pia inspires a fresh perspective on divorce as an opportunity for growth, self-empowerment, and a new beginning.

Navigating divorce is complex, but when you're a parent of a child with special needs, it becomes even more overwhelming and intricate. In this episode, Olivia sits down with Angela O’Brien, a professional organizer, Enneagram coach, and special needs advocate, to discuss the unique challenges of divorce for families with special needs children. Angela shares critical legal, financial, and emotional considerations that parents need to address, including guardianship, financial planning, special needs trusts, and government benefits. With the divorce rate among special needs families higher than the national average, this episode provides essential guidance and support for parents facing this life transition.

Angela also dives into how to build the right divorce team, why finding a lawyer and financial planner with special needs experience is crucial, and how to navigate custody, child support, and long-term care planning. She explains why parents must advocate for their child's future while also prioritizing their own well-being, ensuring they have the mental and emotional strength to navigate legal and financial systems. Whether you're just starting the divorce process or preparing for the next phase of your child's life, this conversation is packed with practical tools, expert insights, and words of encouragement to help you move forward with confidence.

Learn more about Angela: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/your-space-reclaimed

In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell welcomes Janice Berner, a certified divorce financial analyst, to discuss the critical financial considerations around Social Security benefits during and after divorce. Janice explains the basics of Social Security, how it’s calculated, and why it’s crucial to review your benefit information on ssa.gov. She also breaks down the eligibility criteria for divorced individuals to claim benefits based on their ex-spouse’s earnings, offering actionable advice on maximizing these benefits for long-term financial health.

Janice and Olivia also explore common questions, including the impact of multiple marriages on Social Security and why understanding these benefits is essential for financial planning during divorce. Whether you’re contemplating divorce, in the midst of it, or rebuilding afterward, this conversation provides practical guidance and optimism for navigating the financial aspects of your next chapter. Don't miss this informative episode!

Find Janice in the Fresh Starts Expert Guide: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/janice-berner

In this episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell welcomes Dr. Susan Trotter, a relationship coach and former clinical psychologist with over 20 years of experience. Dr. Trotter shares her expertise on navigating post-divorce dating, emphasizing the importance of self-reflection, emotional readiness, and clarity about what you want in a partner. She discusses why taking time to heal and work on personal growth is crucial to breaking patterns and fostering healthier relationships. Dr. Trotter also provides actionable advice on what qualities to look for in a potential partner, such as empathy, self-awareness, and integrity, and how to ensure words and actions align over time.

With a unique blend of practical strategies and heartfelt encouragement, Dr. Trotter offers tips on everything from building an online dating profile to recognizing red flags and cultivating confidence. She reminds listeners that divorce, while challenging, is also an opportunity for transformation and growth. Whether you're preparing to date again or simply seeking hope during a difficult time, this episode is packed with wisdom to guide you toward a fresh start.

Find Dr. Trotter in the Fresh Starts Expert Guide and let her help you rewrite your next chapter: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/susan-trotter

In this episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell sits down with Shelly Fox, a Reiki practitioner and one of the incredible experts from the Fresh Starts Registry. Shelly shares how Reiki—a healing technique that promotes relaxation and energy balance—can be a powerful tool for those navigating the emotional and physical toll of divorce. From restoring a sense of calm to supporting the body’s natural healing process, Shelly explains the profound benefits of Reiki in overcoming the "hit-by-a-truck" feeling that often accompanies divorce. Whether you’re curious about energy healing or seeking something to complement therapy and physical activity, Shelly’s insights offer hope and encouragement for anyone on their post-divorce journey.

Shelly provides both virtual and in-person sessions, making her healing services accessible no matter where you’re located. As a Fresh Starts expert, she’s committed to helping clients rebuild and heal after life’s toughest transitions. Shelly also shares words of encouragement for anyone currently going through a divorce, reminding us all that healing is possible and support is always within reach. This episode is filled with practical advice and heartfelt inspiration for those ready to embrace a fresh start.

To connect with Shelly, find her on the Fresh Starts Registry Expert Guide: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/finding-your-light-llc

Becoming a new mom is a huge life transition—but what happens when it coincides with divorce? In this episode, Olivia sits down with Alexandria Phillips, a perinatal mental health expert and therapist, to talk about the unique challenges of navigating divorce during pregnancy and postpartum. They discuss the stigma surrounding new moms who choose to leave their marriages, the emotional complexities of balancing motherhood and self-care, and how to prioritize your mental health while making life-changing decisions. Whether you’re currently in this situation or supporting someone who is, this conversation is full of validation, guidance, and hope.

Alex also shares practical steps for new moms considering divorce, including when to seek therapy, how to manage overwhelm and uncertainty, and why taking care of yourself first is essential for both you and your baby. Plus, Olivia and Alex break down the common misconceptions about postpartum emotions, the importance of having a strong support system, and why divorce does not define your success as a mother. If you’re feeling lost or unsure about your next steps, this episode will remind you that you are not alone—and your choices are valid.

Learn more about Alexandria Phillips: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/yourhood-therapy

In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell sits down with professional organizer Lindsey Mahanna to discuss strategies for managing two homes after divorce. From setting up a color-coded calendar system to organizing essential items for seamless transitions, Lindsey shares practical tips to help co-parents and kids feel more grounded and less overwhelmed. They also explore tools like digital calendars, checklists, and family-friendly zones to create structure and reduce morning chaos. Whether you're newly separated or years into co-parenting, this episode offers invaluable insights for building a system that truly works for your family.

Lindsey also highlights the importance of function over aesthetics, especially for neurodiverse families who may struggle with traditional organization methods. She shares how small, strategic changes can significantly ease the mental load of co-parenting and help everyone feel more in control. If you’re navigating life in two homes, this conversation is packed with actionable advice to bring more order, ease, and calm into your daily routine.

Learn more about Lindsey Mahanna: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/clutter-to-clarity-home-organizing-llc

Divorce isn’t just a legal process—it’s an emotional, mental, and logistical marathon that can leave you feeling completely drained. In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia sits down with therapist and coach Abbey Sangmeister (Google’s #1 Self-Care Coach!) to talk about how to prevent burnout while navigating divorce. Abbey shares her expert advice on setting boundaries, managing emotional overload, and creating small but impactful self-care rituals. She emphasizes that divorce often forces people to manage not only their own emotions but also those of their ex, children, lawyers, and even well-meaning friends and family. Through practical strategies—like carving out sacred alone time, using decision-making models to say “no,” and scheduling buffer time around legal meetings—Abbey helps listeners regain control and prevent total exhaustion.

Abbey also dives into the power of reframing divorce as a transformational process, rather than one that depletes your soul. She shares actionable tips for busy parents and professionals, like using the car as a moment of peace, building a support system, and advocating for personal space—especially when living with an ex. Olivia reflects on her own experience with legal overwhelm and how Abbey’s advice helped her manage the emotional weight of attorney calls. Whether you’re deep in the divorce process or supporting someone who is, this episode will help you protect your time, energy, and mental health while navigating one of life’s biggest transitions.

Abbey Sangmeister is a therapist, coach, and burnout prevention expert who specializes in helping professionals and parents reclaim their energy and take control of their lives. With over 13 years of experience, she has worked nationally and internationally to guide clients through personal transformations—helping them move past their stuck points and design fulfilling, balanced lives. Abbey’s approach blends therapy, coaching, and practical interventions to help people avoid burnout while achieving their goals.

Learn more about Abbey Sangmeister and Evolving Whole: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/evolving-whole

Divorce often brings big changes—including the need for a career fresh start. Whether you've been out of the workforce for years, need to switch industries, or just want a new job that fits your new life, career and confidence coach Arissan Nicole is here to help. In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell and Arissan dive into how to re-enter the workforce after divorce, update your resume with confidence, and leverage your existing skills (even if you haven’t had a traditional job in years!). They discuss the emotional and financial impact of job searching, how to avoid feeling overwhelmed, and why taking small, strategic steps is key to success.

If you're navigating both divorce and career change, this episode is full of practical advice and encouragement. Arissan shares her best resume-building strategies, tips for asking for support in your job search, and why networking is often the key to landing the right position. She also emphasizes the importance of mindset shifts and explains why confidence plays a huge role in career success. Whether you’re applying for your first job in years or making a big career pivot, this conversation will leave you feeling empowered and ready to take action. Tune in now for expert insights, encouragement, and a roadmap to building a new future.

Learn more about Arissan here: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/authentic-empowerment-llc

Divorce Happens. In fact, it happens to almost 50 percent of first marriages. So, let’s talk about it. Welcome to Divorce Happens, a podcast to educate, inspire, support, and yes, make you laugh, through divorce and beyond so you can start fresh on the next phase of your journey. Remember, divorce happens, and then we start fresh. 

I’m Olivia Dreizen Howell, the CEO and Co-founder of Fresh Starts Registry and I’m here to walk beside you as we muddle through the messiness of divorce, with support, inspiration, laughter, and a lot of great snacks. I promise. Stay tuned for expert advice, interesting conversations, and everything you need to support you through divorce and beyond.

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On this episode of Divorce Happens, we chatted with home organizer Shantae Duckworth about reclaiming your space after divorce. Shantae shares practical tips on how to refresh your surroundings, incorporate new items, and re-organize your home to reflect your new chapter. From tackling digital files and paperwork to redesigning your space, she highlights how professional organizing can simplify the process and ease emotional overwhelm. Whether in-person or through virtual sessions, Shantae explains how organizers act as both logistical and emotional support during a time of significant transition.

Takeaways include:

• How professional organizers can help create a fresh, empowering environment post-divorce.
• The benefits of virtual organizing sessions for managing paperwork and setting up a new space.
• Understanding the emotional attachment to "stuff" and how to work through it.
• Why a professional organizer can feel like a life coach during these challenging moments.

Key questions covered:

• How can re-organizing your home help you move forward emotionally?
• What are the advantages of virtual organizing sessions during a divorce?
• Why is decluttering an essential step to starting fresh after a major life transition?

Divorce isn’t just about endings—it’s about expansion, growth, and stepping into a new version of yourself. In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell sits down with Lauren DeGolia, a mindset expert and Rapid Resolution Therapy (RRT) practitioner, to talk about how to shift your thinking and embrace the next phase of your life with clarity and purpose. Lauren shares how RRT helps people move past emotional blocks, reprogram negative thought patterns, and create meaningful change—without getting stuck in endless cycles of rehashing the past. As a child of divorce herself, she also reflects on the deep emotional impact of separation and how to break free from old narratives.

If you’re considering divorce or in the midst of it, Lauren provides powerful insights on how to navigate uncertainty, trust your inner wisdom, and stop settling for a life that no longer fits. She explains why growth and expansion are natural parts of life and why holding onto a relationship out of fear can be more limiting than letting go. Through personal stories and expert advice, this episode will help you upgrade your mindset, find clarity, and move forward with confidence. Tune in now for an inspiring conversation about embracing change and stepping into your next chapter.

Learn more about Lauren: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/lauren-d-astrology

On this episode of Divorce Happens, we chatted with Rachel Sobel about the challenges and strategies of announcing a divorce. Rachel shares her personal experience of navigating the process, especially before the age of social media, and how it impacted her relationships. She emphasizes the importance of taking control of the narrative when sharing such personal news and finding empowerment in the process. Rachel provides valuable tips on crafting a divorce announcement, navigating the complexities of social media, and handling reactions from friends and family.

Key takeaway points include how to prepare for the emotional and social aspects of a divorce announcement, the power of setting boundaries with your audience, and tips for navigating both online and offline reactions. Key questions we cover include: How do you find empowerment when announcing a divorce? What strategies can help you craft a message that feels right for you? How can you manage the influence of social media during such a personal moment? Tune in to hear Rachel’s insights and advice for anyone facing a similar journey.

In this heartfelt episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell sits down with Vanessa Gordon, CEO and publisher of East End Taste, to discuss the three pivotal lessons she's learned during her divorce journey. Vanessa shares candid insights about navigating the emotional, financial, and legal complexities of divorce, shedding light on topics like the reality of divorce laws, the importance of financial independence, and the power of self-reliance. Together, Olivia and Vanessa explore the misconceptions around marriage and divorce, the value of a strong support network, and why it’s essential to trust your instincts and embrace fresh starts.

Vanessa’s story serves as a reminder that divorce, while challenging, is an opportunity for growth and transformation. She discusses practical advice for women entering marriage, including why every woman should have their own financial safety net and how to protect their dignity during difficult times. This episode is packed with empowering lessons and encouragement for anyone going through or contemplating divorce.

Takeaways from the Episode:

1. Divorce laws vary by state: Understand your local laws and don’t rely on common myths about marriage and divorce.
2. Prepare financially: Start saving and investing early, even if you believe your marriage is strong.
3. Trust your decision: If you've decided to divorce, remember the reasons that brought you to this point and trust your judgment.
4. Social media mindfulness: Be cautious about what you share online—it can impact your divorce process.
5. Support is key: Lean on friends, family, or colleagues who uplift and support you during this time.

For more from Vanessa, visit East End Taste Magazine or follow her on Instagram at @VanessaPGordon.

Making a housing decision after divorce can feel overwhelming, but having the right real estate expert by your side makes all the difference. In this episode, Olivia Howell sits down with Fresh Starts Expert Melissa Zimbelman, a seasoned real estate broker and property manager, to talk about navigating housing transitions during and after divorce. Melissa shares expert insights on everything from downsizing and short-term rentals to the importance of finding a realtor who truly understands your unique situation. Whether you're thinking about selling your marital home, looking for a rental, or preparing for a fresh start, this conversation is full of practical advice to help you move forward with confidence.

Melissa also discusses why finding the right realtor matters—especially in a high-emotion situation like divorce—and how to prepare yourself financially for a home transition. She breaks down options for those who need temporary housing, strategies for managing real estate decisions with an ex-spouse, and how to ensure you’re making smart choices for your future. If you’re contemplating divorce or in the early stages, this episode is a must-listen for understanding your next steps when it comes to home, stability, and peace of mind.

Learn more about Melissa: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/luxe-international-realty-property-management

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Parenting through divorce is overwhelming, stressful, and often feels like a full-time job. In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell sits down with Bonnie Scott, a licensed professional counselor, to talk about the unique challenges that moms face while going through a divorce. Bonnie shares expert insights on how to manage emotional stress, support your kids, and build a strong support system during this major life transition. She also emphasizes the importance of therapy, setting realistic expectations, and leaning on trusted people to get through the hardest moments.

Whether you’re in the thick of the divorce process or just starting to consider separation, Bonnie offers practical advice and encouragement to help you navigate this journey. From understanding the importance of self-care to learning how to stay grounded when emotions run high, this episode is packed with wisdom for any mom facing divorce. Bonnie also shares how therapy can provide a safe space for processing emotions and making confident decisions. Remember: divorce happens, but it won’t feel this hard forever. Tune in now for support, guidance, and a little bit of laughter along the way!

Learn more about Bonnie Scott: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/mindful-kindness-counseling

In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell sits down with Julie Costa, a certified Master Clinical Hypnotherapist and Fresh Starts Expert, to explore how subconscious work can transform the divorce journey. Julie explains the critical role the subconscious mind plays in shaping beliefs, behaviors, and decision-making during challenging transitions. They discuss common limiting beliefs like "I'm not good enough" and how these subconscious patterns can impact everything from emotional healing to interactions with divorce lawyers. Julie shares practical insights on how hypnosis and subconscious reprogramming can facilitate faster, more profound healing.

Julie also provides actionable advice for anyone going through a divorce, emphasizing the importance of tuning out external noise to reconnect with your true desires. Whether it's scheduling time for reflection or exploring hypnosis as part of a self-care routine, Julie offers encouragement and tools for creating a fresh start.

To learn more about Julie’s work, visit her profile on Fresh Starts Registry: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/julie-costa-coaching-hypnotherapy

In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell chats with portrait photographer Christina Gressianu about redefining your personal image after divorce. Christina specializes in working with women in transition, helping them capture empowering portraits that symbolize a fresh start. Together, they explore how photography can aid in reframing the story of your life, from dealing with the emotional impact of divorce to revisiting old family photos. Christina shares insights on how to navigate the challenges of letting go of past memories and using photography to reclaim your personal narrative.

They discuss the importance of feeling empowered and confident, especially through the lens of a photographer who makes you feel safe and valued. Whether it’s reimagining your wedding album or capturing your beauty in a boudoir session, Christina offers creative ways to help women embrace their new selves. This episode is full of practical advice, personal stories, and an empowering message: photography is more than just capturing an image; it’s a tool for healing and confidence-building.

Learn more about Christina on her Fresh Starts Profile: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/christina-gressianu-photographer

After divorce, stepping into new experiences can feel overwhelming—but travel can be a powerful tool for healing and rebuilding confidence. In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell sits down with Fresh Starts expert Nicole Cunningham to discuss how travel can transform life post-divorce. Nicole is the founder of Copilots for Coparents. Nicole shares why traveling solo or with your kids is an opportunity for self-discovery, joy, and creating lasting memories. She also addresses common concerns like budget constraints and single-parent logistics, offering practical advice for making travel accessible, even if it’s just a local adventure.

Nicole, the founder of an incredible travel company for parents, explains how she helps single parents navigate trips with ease, whether they’re looking to explore alone or with their children. Olivia and Nicole discuss the challenges of traveling post-divorce, the importance of community, and why even a short getaway can be a life-changing experience. Whether you're dreaming of an international trip or just a weekend staycation, this episode will inspire you to take that first step!

Learn more about Copilots for Coparents and Nicole: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/copilots-for-coparents

In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell welcomes Nikki Innocent, founder of the Inclusive Leadership Collective, to discuss the intersection of divorce and career. Nikki shares her expertise as a holistic career coach and leadership strategist, shedding light on how divorce impacts our professional lives and how workplace systems often fall short in supporting employees during this life-changing transition. Together, Olivia and Nikki explore actionable ways to manage career demands while navigating the emotional and logistical challenges of divorce.

From identifying safe spaces at work to building a supportive community, Nikki emphasizes the importance of giving yourself grace and permission to handle divorce in your unique way. Listeners will gain insights on how to communicate their needs, establish boundaries, and maintain authenticity in workplaces that may not always feel accessible. This episode is packed with empowering advice to help anyone juggling the complexities of divorce and work find their footing and reclaim their voice.

Learn more about Nikki on her Fresh Starts Profile: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/inclusive-leadership-collective

Leaving a toxic relationship is never easy, but knowing where to start can be the hardest part. In this episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell sits down with clinical and forensic psychologist Dr. Victoria Latifses to discuss the emotional and logistical challenges of leaving an unhealthy or abusive relationship. Victoria, who has nearly 20 years of experience working with protective parents, survivors, and family court advocacy, breaks down what defines a toxic relationship, how to recognize red flags, and why emotional and financial abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse. With thousands of people turning to Fresh Starts for guidance on this topic, Olivia and Victoria tackle the most common questions: How do I leave? Am I in a toxic relationship? How do I heal?

Victoria shares six essential steps for safely leaving a toxic relationship, starting with building a support system, reaching out to trusted friends and family, and taking small steps toward independence. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing isolation as a key tactic of abuse and provides concrete advice on where to find help, including therapists, legal professionals, and crisis resources. Olivia reflects on her own experience with emotional abuse, sharing how crucial it was to have a roadmap and a community to lean on. They also discuss the importance of setting boundaries, acknowledging the fear that comes with leaving, and taking intentional steps toward self-healing.

This episode is packed with expert insights, validation, and encouragement for anyone questioning their relationship or struggling to break free. Victoria highlights the signs of covert abuse—like gaslighting, control, and manipulation—and reminds listeners that healing begins the moment they take action. If you’re navigating an abusive relationship or supporting someone who is, this conversation offers guidance, reassurance, and practical steps to move forward. Don't miss this empowering discussion, and be sure to check out Fresh Starts for expert resources, community support, and scripts to help you take that first step.

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In this episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell chats with HR consultant Tara Bodine, founder of True North People Consulting, to explore the critical intersection of divorce and the workplace. Tara shares expert insights on how employers and HR teams can create supportive environments for employees navigating divorce, a life transition that often impacts work performance and emotional well-being. From implementing compassionate policies to fostering open communication, Tara provides actionable advice for companies looking to build a culture of understanding and resilience.

Whether you’re an HR professional, a manager, or an employee going through a divorce, this episode offers valuable perspectives on balancing personal challenges with professional responsibilities. Learn practical strategies for navigating this transition with empathy and gain tools to advocate for yourself or others in the workplace. Don’t miss this engaging and informative conversation!

Learn more about Tara Bodine on her Fresh Starts Profile: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/true-north-people-consulting

Divorce is challenging enough—but what happens when you have to continue living with your ex while figuring out your next steps? In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell sits down with divorce-specialized realtor Holly Martins to tackle the complexities of selling a marital home, setting boundaries while living together, and making the transition as smooth as possible. Holly shares her expertise on why real estate is often the biggest point of contention in divorce, how to navigate shared living situations without unnecessary conflict, and why choosing the right realtor is critical for a successful home sale.

Holly also breaks down the legal and financial differences between a typical home sale and one that involves divorce, explaining why it’s best to work with a neutral, experienced agent rather than a friend or family member. Plus, she offers practical advice on staying levelheaded, prioritizing the well-being of kids, and keeping the end goal in mind. If you’re facing the challenge of living with your ex while navigating divorce, this episode is packed with expert insights, real-life advice, and words of encouragement to help you move forward with confidence.

Learn more about Holly: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/holly-martins-nj-real-estate

On this episode of Divorce Happens, we chatted with Jordan Reid, the founder of Ramshackle Glam and author of The Big Activity Book for Divorced People. Jordan shares her experience of announcing her divorce and the impact that writing about her journey has had on both her and her audience. In conversation with Olivia, Jordan explores the importance of sharing divorce announcements authentically and the power of humor during such a challenging life transition. They discuss how writing about divorce can help people heal, while also providing a lighthearted approach to a typically heavy topic. Jordan also offers insights from her book, which aims to guide people through divorce with humor and perspective.

Key takeaway points from this episode include the importance of embracing humor and authenticity when navigating the complexities of divorce. Jordan shares how writing about her experience helped her process the emotions involved and connect with others. Key questions covered include: How can humor help during difficult times like divorce? What impact does sharing your divorce story have on both yourself and others? How can creative outlets, like Jordan’s book, support people in their divorce journey? Tune in for a conversation about healing through humor and finding light in the darkest of times.

On this episode of Divorce Happens, we chatted with divorce attorney Alex Peterson of Family First Legal Group to explore 5 Fresh Tips for navigating the divorce process with clarity and confidence. From understanding the importance of asking the right questions to knowing what to expect in terms of costs, Alex breaks down the key steps to make the divorce process less overwhelming and more strategic. Whether you’re just beginning or feeling stuck, this episode offers expert insights to help you protect your best interests—and your kids—during this challenging time.

Key points:

• Why "buy nice, not twice" applies to choosing a divorce attorney.
• The crucial questions you should ask any prospective lawyer to ensure a smooth divorce process.
• How speaking with a former client can provide valuable perspective.
• The importance of balanced communication with your attorney.
• Why understanding the full financial picture of your case matters.

Key questions covered:

• What specific traits and practices should you look for in a divorce attorney?
• How can you prepare for a consultation to make the most of your time?
• Why is it important to focus on long-term outcomes instead of short-term savings?

On this episode of Divorce Happens, we chatted with comedian, actor, and father Tom Arnold about navigating divorce in the public eye. Tom shared his experiences of announcing his divorce before and after the rise of social media, offering insights into handling tabloid narratives and public perceptions. He opened up about becoming a single dad, the challenges it brings, and his heartfelt advice for other single fathers going through similar experiences. Tom also emphasized the importance of being transparent about divorce and shared how having—or not having—a publicist can shape the process of managing your story.

Key takeaways from this episode include Tom’s advice on staying grounded when others try to control your narrative, tips for maintaining resilience as a single parent, and why openness about divorce can foster healing and growth. He also offered practical, relatable advice for simply getting out of bed and moving forward during difficult days. Whether you're navigating your own divorce or curious about the unique challenges of a public breakup, Tom's wisdom and humor make this an episode you don’t want to miss.

In this insightful episode, we tackle one of the most challenging conversations a parent can face during a divorce: telling your children. Therapist Oona Metz joins us to share expert advice on how to approach this delicate subject with honesty and sensitivity. Oona emphasizes the importance of being both vulnerable and resilient, modeling these qualities for your children. She explains that while every parent wants to protect their kids, it is crucial to communicate honestly about family changes, providing a balance between acknowledging sadness and reassuring them that the family will navigate through this together. Oona advises that the timing of the conversation should be considered carefully, with older children being told sooner due to their ability to sense household tension, while much younger children should be informed closer to any major changes, like a parent moving out.

Oona also stresses the importance of using a calm, unified approach when delivering the news. Ideally, both parents should work together to create a set of agreed-upon statements to guide the conversation, ensuring consistency and avoiding potential conflicts in front of the children. For parents who must deliver the news alone, Oona reassures that it is better to have one thoughtful, composed parent communicate the message than two parents who disagree. The first conversation should be kept brief and focus on the decision to separate, using the term "separation" initially to introduce the concept of divorce gently. While avoiding intricate details about the reasons for the separation, it’s crucial to offer a simple explanation like “We haven’t been getting along” and reassure your children that efforts were made to resolve issues. Emphasize that while some aspects of their lives might change, your love and commitment to them remain constant. Finally, encourage your children to express their feelings and assure them that they can approach you with any questions or concerns as everyone adjusts to the new family dynamics.

Learn more about Oona Metz: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/oona-metz-licsw

In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Susan Trotter, a renowned relationship, dating, and divorce coach, to explore the often daunting world of dating after divorce. Dr. Trotter offers valuable insights into regaining confidence and embracing the possibilities that come with a fresh start. She emphasizes the importance of self-discovery and healing before jumping into the dating scene, encouraging listeners to take time to understand their needs and desires. By focusing on personal growth and cultivating self-compassion, individuals can build a strong foundation of confidence, making them more open to meaningful connections. Dr. Trotter also shares practical advice on where to meet potential partners, from online dating platforms to community events, and stresses the importance of approaching each interaction with an open mind and heart.

Dr. Trotter highlights the benefits of viewing dating as a journey of self-exploration and opportunity rather than a task to be completed. She encourages listeners to let go of preconceived notions about what dating "should" be and instead remain open to new experiences and people. This mindset allows for a more enjoyable and authentic dating process, free from unnecessary pressure and expectations. Additionally, Dr. Trotter discusses strategies for tackling the dating process with a positive attitude, including setting realistic goals, being honest about intentions, and maintaining clear boundaries. By following these guidelines, individuals can navigate the dating landscape post-divorce with confidence, resilience, and a renewed sense of excitement about the future.

Learn more about Dr. Susan Trotter: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/susan-trotter

In this episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell sits down with Christina Granahan, an Enneagram coach and Fresh Starts expert, to explore how the Enneagram can help individuals rediscover their true selves during and after divorce. Christina breaks down the basics of the Enneagram, explaining how it serves as a "cheat code" to understanding your core essence. Together, they discuss how this powerful tool can guide individuals in rebuilding their lives, finding joy, and navigating the emotional upheaval of divorce. Christina shares insights on using the Enneagram to reconnect with what truly brings happiness and purpose, providing a fresh perspective on starting over.

The conversation also highlights Christina's unique coaching approach, which helps clients uncover their inherent strengths and use them as a foundation for growth. Whether it's figuring out how to cope with life transitions or learning to embrace your authentic self, Christina's advice is both practical and inspiring. Tune in to hear her tips on rebuilding confidence, creating meaningful routines, and finding clarity as you move forward.

Learn more about Christina: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/granahan-coaching-consulting-llc

In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell speaks with marketing expert Bethany Fiocchi Root, founder of Oceanview Marketing, about how to rebuild your professional brand after divorce. Bethany shares actionable strategies for creating a fresh start in your career or business, offering insights on redefining your goals, positioning yourself in the marketplace, and utilizing effective marketing techniques to grow your opportunities. With a focus on empowerment and clarity, Bethany explains how rebuilding your professional identity can be a transformative and rewarding process.

Whether you’re an entrepreneur or a professional seeking a new direction, Bethany’s advice is tailored to help you navigate this exciting chapter with confidence. As the founder of Oceanview Marketing, Bethany and her team provide on-demand marketing support, offering expert guidance on strategy and execution to help you achieve your goals with ease. Don’t miss this episode full of practical tips and inspiration to help you thrive post-divorce!

Learn more about Bethany on her Fresh Starts profile: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/oceanview-marketing

Divorce is an emotional and physical experience that can leave us feeling stuck, overwhelmed, and disconnected from our own bodies. In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell sits down with Alex Plante, a yoga teacher, librarian, witch, and self-proclaimed "good friend to all," to explore the profound connection between yoga and healing post-divorce. Alex shares how yoga, movement, breathwork, and somatic practices help release stored emotions, reduce stress, and create space for fresh starts. Whether you're a yoga newbie or a seasoned practitioner, this conversation is filled with wisdom on why yoga is an essential tool for navigating change.

Alex and Olivia discuss how trauma—especially from life transitions like divorce—gets physically stored in the body and how mindful movement can help us process and let go. They also break down misconceptions about yoga, share accessible ways to incorporate it into daily life (even if you can’t make it to a studio), and highlight free resources for those looking to start their practice. Plus, Alex provides encouraging words for anyone struggling through a divorce, reminding listeners that healing comes in many forms, and movement is a powerful place to start.

Learn more about Alex Plante: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/alexandra-plante-yoga

In this episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell sits down with Fresh Starts expert and Certified Public Accountant Brittany Turner to explore the often-overlooked financial aspects of divorce. Brittany shares practical advice on navigating taxes, managing finances, and organizing critical documents during a divorce. From deciding who claims dependents to understanding joint filings and estimated tax payments, Brittany provides actionable steps to avoid costly mistakes. Whether you're a small business owner or simply navigating the complexities of post-divorce finances, this episode is packed with valuable insights to help you move forward with confidence.

Brittany also opens up about her personal journey through divorce, offering encouragement and wisdom for those just beginning the process. She emphasizes the importance of being informed, advocating for financial transparency, and approaching this challenging time with patience and grace. Tune in for expert tips and empowering advice to help you thrive during life’s transitions.

Learn more about Brittany Turner: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/countless-llc

In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell sits down with Kara Francis, a former divorce lawyer turned marriage and divorce coach. Kara shares insights on helping clients decide whether to stay in their marriage or move forward with divorce, and how she supports them every step of the way. They discuss the process of choosing the right divorce lawyer, understanding the various options for divorce beyond litigation, and the importance of aligning with professionals who fit your specific needs and goals.

Kara also reveals her upcoming group coaching programs, including one for individuals preparing for marriage and another for those navigating challenges in long-term relationships. She emphasizes taking things "one day at a time" as a key mindset during the divorce process and offers practical tips to stay present and focused. Don't miss this empowering conversation, and be sure to check the show notes to connect with Kara and explore her coaching services.

Learn more about Kara: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/kara-francis-coaching

In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell sits down with professional astrologer Alice Smith to explore how astrology can offer guidance during the tumultuous process of divorce. Alice explains how understanding your birth chart and the dynamics between your astrological signs and those of your soon-to-be ex-partner can help you navigate this life transition with clarity and peace. They discuss how astrology sheds light on relationship patterns, highlights personal growth opportunities, and validates the transformative journey of divorce. Alice emphasizes the importance of recognizing life’s cycles, allowing space for healing, and embracing the lessons within each season.

The conversation also delves into practical ways astrology can support mental health during a divorce, from understanding your personal rhythms to pinpointing the unique challenges of this period. Alice shares how her readings provide clients with a profound sense of being “seen” by the universe, equipping them with tools to move forward intentionally. Olivia reflects on her own experience with astrologers during her divorce, affirming the power of astrology in bringing perspective and hope. Whether you’re contemplating divorce or in the midst of it, this episode offers insight and inspiration to approach the process with greater awareness and empowerment.

You can learn more about Alice Smith on the Fresh Starts Registry Expert Guide: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/alice-smith-astrology

Divorce and stress go hand in hand, but what if you could navigate this challenging time with greater ease and resilience? In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell sits down with mind-body connection consultant and clinician, Robyn Gaillard, to explore the profound emotional and physical impact of divorce. Robyn shares how stress from separation isn't just a passing phase—it’s a chronic adjustment that requires patience, self-awareness, and intentional healing. She offers practical strategies for grounding yourself, managing emotions, and finding stillness without numbing out. Whether you're in the early stages of considering divorce or deep in the process, Robyn’s wisdom will help you shift from overwhelm to empowerment.

Throughout the conversation, Robyn emphasizes the importance of honoring your emotions, prioritizing self-care, and embracing the birth of a new chapter. She highlights how simple yet powerful acts—such as spending time in natural light, maintaining small traditions with your children, and focusing on movement and breath—can create stability during uncertain times. If you’ve ever wondered how to truly heal and rebuild after divorce, this episode is packed with insightful guidance and practical tools to help you thrive.

Learn more about Robyn Gaillard: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/mywayom-inc

In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell sits down with Angela O’Brien, a professional organizer, Enneagram coach, and mom to a young adult with special needs. Angela shares her expertise on navigating the unique challenges of divorce for families with special needs, from managing disrupted routines to staying organized amid emotional and logistical chaos. She offers practical tips like creating triage bins for important papers, using scanner apps for digital files, and setting up easy-to-access systems to reduce stress during transitions.

Angela emphasizes the power of organization as a form of self-care, especially during life’s toughest moments. Whether it’s helping special needs parents stay on top of guardianship documents or offering virtual guidance for creating calm in the chaos, Angela’s advice is actionable and empowering. Don’t miss her inspiring insights and learn more about her work through her business, Your Space Reclaimed, and her podcast Especially Organized.

You can learn more about Angela on her Fresh Starts Profile: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/your-space-reclaimed

In this episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell sits down with Jo-Anne Suriel, founder of Energetic Well and a Fresh Starts expert, to discuss the transformative power of energy healing during divorce. Jo-Anne shares her expertise in Akashic Records, Reiki, and sound healing, offering insight into how these modalities can help individuals navigate the emotional and spiritual toll of divorce. Through her one-on-one Energetic Well Readings and group ceremonies, Jo-Anne provides a safe and supportive space for clients to access the wisdom of their soul’s journey, uncover root causes of challenges, and embrace practical solutions for healing and growth.

Jo-Anne explains the Akashic Records as a spiritual database containing the history of your soul across lifetimes, which can offer clarity and guidance during life’s most challenging transitions. With a blend of compassion, nature-based wisdom, and holistic practices, Jo-Anne encourages those going through divorce to trust in the process and find hope in the greater perspective of their soul’s path. If you’re feeling lost or overwhelmed, tune in to learn how energy healing can support your emotional resilience and self-discovery.

Learn more about Jo-Anne Suriel on her Fresh Starts profile: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/energetic-well

Going through a divorce is a major life transformation—so why not treat it like a personal rebrand? In this episode, Olivia sits down with Jenn Johnson, a multi-talented expert who blends yoga, hypnosis, neurolinguistic programming, trauma work, and marketing to help people step into the best version of themselves. Jenn shares how to approach life after divorce through a marketing and branding lens, using practical exercises to rediscover your strengths, passions, and personal style. Whether you’re redefining your identity, exploring new opportunities, or even stepping back into the dating world, Jenn’s insights will inspire you to embrace this next chapter with confidence and clarity.

Jenn walks us through the key steps to transformation, from making lists of what you love to picking your new “brand colors” and stepping into the person you truly want to be. Plus, she shares why we often get stuck in someone else’s version of who we "should" be—and how to break free and create a life that feels authentically yours. If you're looking for a fresh start and a fun, empowering way to approach this transition, this episode is for you!

Learn more about Jenn here: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/the-saltwater-effect

On this episode of Divorce Happens, we chatted with crisis communication strategist Molly McPherson about the rising trend of announcing divorces on social media. Molly shared why both celebrities and everyday individuals are embracing public transparency about their splits and offered expert advice for crafting a thoughtful and strategic announcement. We explored how framing the message with a focus on collaboration and positivity can ease the transition for everyone involved. Molly also highlighted the power of controlling your narrative and provided insights into how to approach divorce discussions subtly without explicitly naming the situation.

Takeaways from our conversation include tips for preparing a public divorce announcement, understanding what’s at stake when going public, and why it’s empowering to set the tone for your story. We also delved into Kelly Clarkson’s divorce as a case study, unpacking how celebrity divorces mirror the challenges and emotions of everyday ones. Whether you're planning your own announcement or just curious about this cultural shift, Molly’s expertise offers valuable insights into navigating this delicate moment with care and confidence.

In this episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell dives into the intersection of divorce, menopause, and personal transformation with guest Sue May, the founder of Midlife Evolved, and a dedicated expert in supporting women through life’s major transitions. Together, they explore the rising phenomenon of "gray divorce," particularly among women over 45, and discuss the unique challenges and opportunities that arise when navigating both menopause and divorce simultaneously. Olivia and Sue unpack how hormonal shifts and self-reassessment during menopause can lead to profound life changes, including reevaluating relationships and making bold decisions for personal growth.

Sue also shares actionable advice for women seeking support during these transitional times, emphasizing the importance of building a network and reclaiming agency over their well-being. Whether you’re navigating divorce, menopause, or both, this episode is filled with encouragement, practical tips, and reminders that you’re never alone in these journeys.

Learn more about Sue May on her Fresh Starts Profile: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/midlife-evolved

Debt and divorce—two overwhelming topics that often go hand in hand. In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia sits down with Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) and CPA, Janice Berner, to answer a crucial listener question: What do you do if you’re considering divorce but have significant debt? Janice breaks down the key steps, from understanding how debt is divided in divorce to why maintaining liquidity is essential. She also explains why paying off all debt before filing might not be the best move and shares smart financial strategies to set yourself up for stability before, during, and after divorce.

Janice also highlights the importance of running a credit report, monitoring joint accounts, and securing personal financial resources to avoid surprises down the road. Whether you’re navigating a divorce now or preparing for the future, her expert advice offers invaluable guidance on protecting yourself financially. Tune in for practical steps, essential insights, and a reminder that with the right planning, you can build a secure and hopeful financial future.

Learn more about Janice Berner, CDFA: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/janice-berner

Going through a divorce can leave you feeling disconnected—not just from your old life, but from yourself. In this episode, Olivia sits down with Chelsea Kim Long, a Fresh Starts Expert who helps people reconnect with their spirituality, intuition, and inner peace during and after major life transitions. Chelsea shares why it’s especially important for women to tap back into their spiritual side post-divorce and how doing so can bring clarity, confidence, and healing. Whether you’ve lost touch with yourself or are looking for simple ways to rebuild your sense of purpose, this conversation is filled with gentle guidance and practical tools to help you find your way.

Chelsea also shares easy, accessible ways to start reconnecting with your intuition and spirituality—even if you feel exhausted, overwhelmed, or unsure where to begin. From meditation and mindfulness to daily rituals that ground you, she offers insights that make the process feel manageable and empowering. Plus, Olivia and Chelsea discuss the misconceptions around meditation, why it’s okay if your mind wanders, and how to approach spiritual practices in a way that actually works for you. If you’re feeling lost after divorce, this episode will remind you that you are not broken—you're just beginning again.

Connect with Chelsea: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/chelsea-kim-long

This episode of Divorce Happens is unlike any other—because today, we’re celebrating divorce with music! 🎶 That’s right, we’ve teamed up with Suno Music to create a song, Divorce Happens (Ain’t No Thing), a bluesy, upbeat anthem that reminds us that divorce is just another chapter in life’s journey.

🔥 What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

🎤 The debut of the song, "Divorce Happens (Ain’t No Thing)" – a fun, empowering tune that will have you dancing into your next chapter!

💡 Why we created this song – because divorce isn’t the end, it’s a fresh start full of new possibilities.

🎶 The process of making a song with Suno Music – how we turned the realities of divorce into an anthem of resilience.

💬 A conversation about reframing divorce – from heartbreak to empowerment, laughter, and liberation!

Whether you’re just starting your divorce journey or years into your fresh start, this episode is here to lift your spirits, make you smile, and remind you that you’re not alone.

🎧 Tune in, turn it up, and let’s celebrate the fresh start that comes after divorce!

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In this episode, we talk to Jolee Vacchi, family law attorney and founder of Foundations Family Law & Mediation Center. We dive into the complexities of property division during a divorce, exploring how assets and liabilities are distributed between separating spouses. Property in a divorce context encompasses everything from real estate and personal belongings to financial assets like bank accounts, investments, and retirement funds.

We also discuss how debts are factored into this process, ensuring listeners understand that liabilities are divided alongside assets. Jolee clarifies what constitutes marital property—assets acquired during the marriage—and distinguish it from separate property, which includes items owned before marriage or received individually as gifts or inheritances.

We also examine the concept of equitable distribution, a legal principle used in many states to ensure a fair division of marital property. Unlike equal distribution, equitable distribution doesn't always mean a 50/50 split; instead, it considers factors like each spouse’s financial and non-financial contributions to the marriage, the duration of the marriage, and each party's economic circumstances post-divorce. We explain how courts interpret "equitable" and what it means for divorcing couples who must negotiate these terms.

Foundations Family Law & Mediation Center is a boutique family law practice based in Worcester County, Massachusetts. We strive to resolve family law conflicts as painlessly and peacefully as possible. Our approach is caring and dignified. While not afraid to utilize strong tactics if needed, the preferred method is respectful and amicable, especially when children are involved. We firmly believe that something beautiful can be made from something broken, and we will be with you every step of the way to help you build a solid foundation for the future you deserve. A future filled with freedom, stability, and peace of mind.

You can find more information about Jolee Vacchi here: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/foundations-family-law-mediation-center

In this episode of Divorce Happens, we are joined by Lisa Happ, a narcissistic abuse recovery coach, divorce coach, and trauma specialist. Lisa offers invaluable insights into navigating a divorce when dealing with a narcissist, from recognizing the signs of narcissistic behaviors to understanding the differences between narcissistic tendencies and full-blown narcissistic personality disorder. Lisa explains how narcissists often manipulate their partners, using tactics like love bombing and devaluing, and how their partners may find themselves questioning their reality. She shares strategies for coping with these challenges and emphasizes the importance of professional support during this difficult process.

Olivia and Lisa dive deep into the complexities of divorcing a narcissist, including the emotional toll and the challenges of dealing with their distorted version of reality. Lisa highlights the importance of preparation, both emotionally and legally, when facing a divorce with a narcissistic partner. She offers practical advice on protecting yourself, including safeguarding assets and getting professional help to create a clear plan. Above all, Lisa stresses the need to rebuild self-esteem and reclaim one's life after the trauma of a toxic relationship. For those navigating this tough journey, Lisa's empowering words provide hope and guidance toward a fresh start.

You can get in touch with Lisa on her Fresh Starts profile: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/lisa-happ-coaching

In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell chats with Aprille Barker, a legal consultant and paralegal who specializes in helping individuals navigate the complexities of divorce. Aprille shares how she supports clients who may not be able to afford an attorney by guiding them through mediation, paperwork preparation, and the logistical challenges of the process. She emphasizes the importance of education and transparency, offering step-by-step guidance to reduce stress and streamline what can often feel like an overwhelming second job. Whether it’s providing resources like financial advisors or realtors, or preparing essential legal documents, Aprille’s approach is rooted in making the process as straightforward and amicable as possible.

Aprille also discusses the importance of preparation, recommending that individuals gather documents like mortgage information, retirement accounts, and insurance policies before their initial consultation. She explains how she customizes her support based on each client’s unique needs, whether they meet at her office or in the comfort of their own home. With over three decades of experience in New Hampshire family law, Aprille’s expertise is invaluable in helping clients save time, money, and emotional energy during a difficult life transition. Tune in to learn more about her role in the divorce process and how she empowers individuals to start fresh.

You can learn more about Aprille Barker at Fresh Starts Registry in the Expert Guide: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/aprille-barker-freelance-paralegal-llc

In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia sits down with screenwriter Dara Resnik to explore the emotional and professional complexities of navigating a divorce while also ending a writing partnership with her ex-husband. Dara opens up about the key lessons she learned: the importance of acknowledging the humanity in your ex-partner, understanding that their behavior during the marriage will likely mirror their actions in divorce, and embracing the hope that life can improve after separation. Together, they discuss the challenges of co-parenting, finding emotional balance, and the importance of community support.

Listeners will gain valuable insights from Dara’s experiences, including the need for respect in co-parenting, letting go of micromanagement in shared parenting responsibilities, and embracing the realization that healing takes time. Dara shares how leaning into self-work and staying hopeful led her to a place of love and joy again. Three Takeaways: Healing is a gradual process but brings new beginnings; co-parenting thrives on flexibility and respect; and the hardest moments of divorce are not permanent.

Navigating custody agreements during divorce can be overwhelming, but understanding the basics can make the process less daunting. In this episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell sits down with Jolee Vacchi, Esq., the founder of Foundations Family & Mediation Center, to break down the legal complexities of custody. Jolee explains the two major types of custody—legal custody and physical custody—and provides clear, actionable insights on decision-making authority, parenting schedules, and what to expect when navigating custody disputes. She also shares the importance of mediation in finding flexible, personalized solutions for families, rather than relying on rigid court-imposed standards.

Jolee also discusses how custody arrangements evolve over time, the significance of school districts in physical custody decisions, and why parents should remain open to changes as their children grow. Whether you're in the early stages of divorce or considering modifications to an existing custody arrangement, this episode is packed with expert guidance to help you make informed, confident decisions. Jolee’s empowering message reminds listeners that they don’t have to have everything figured out at the start of the divorce process—the path will unfold as they move forward.

🔗 Learn more about Jolee Vacchi and her legal services: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/foundations-family-law-mediation-center

In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell sits down with Mark Slade, a seasoned real estate expert with personal experience navigating divorce. Mark shares how realtors play a pivotal role in ensuring a smooth transition during one of life’s most challenging times. From managing home inspections to providing emotional support, Mark emphasizes the value of having a knowledgeable advocate on your team to guide you through selling, buying, or simply strategizing your next steps.

Mark discusses the importance of neutral, professional support when relationships are strained, and how his team brings unique solutions to the table, including tailored representation for both parties. Whether you're contemplating divorce or in the midst of it, this conversation offers actionable insights, a little humor, and reassurance that there’s light at the end of the tunnel—and perhaps even a fresh start in a new home.

Learn more about Mark Slade: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/the-mark-slade-homes-team-at-keller-williams

In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia sits down with therapist, co-parenting coach, and mediator Aurisha Smolarski to discuss navigating co-parenting relationships and creating a secure environment for children post-divorce. Aurisha shares insights from her book, Cooperative Co-Parenting for Secure Kids, which offers practical tools grounded in attachment theory to help co-parents focus on what matters most: their children’s well-being. She emphasizes the importance of shifting from a romantic relationship mindset to a collaborative parenting partnership, placing the child at the center of the co-parenting dynamic.

Listeners will learn actionable tips for fostering clarity, consistency, and connection in their co-parenting journey. Aurisha highlights that successful co-parenting is possible through mindset shifts, effective communication, and prioritizing the child’s needs. With thoughtful advice and strategies from her book, Aurisha reminds us that healing and growth are possible, even in the midst of life’s challenges.

Learn more about Aurisha: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/aurisha-smolarskilmft

On this episode of Divorce Happens, we chatted with Jolie Steele, who opens up about her experience announcing her divorce on social media, to family, and friends. Jolie shares the thoughtful process she went through in preparing to share such a personal update, particularly in light of her children. She discusses the importance of framing the announcement in a way that emphasizes peace and neutrality while addressing the emotional landscape that comes with this kind of public disclosure. Jolie also offers valuable tips for others navigating this process, including adopting a neutral PR agent mindset and remaining detached from others’ emotional reactions.

In this episode, Jolie underscores the significance of planning how to share the news to set the right tone and protect your emotional well-being. She also explores the idea of a divorce registry, a tool for gathering the necessary support during a difficult transition. Takeaway points include how to manage public perceptions, the benefits of setting boundaries with emotional reactions, and how a divorce registry can help you get the support you need.

Welcome to Divorce Happens, the podcast where we inspire, educate, and support you through divorce and beyond so that you can start fresh on the next phase of your journey. Produced by Fresh Starts Registry, the only divorce registry platform for everything you need to begin again, including home items, hype team, and everything in between. Remember, divorce happens...and then, we start fresh. We're here to support you before, during, and after divorce.

I’m Olivia Dreizen Howell, the CEO and Co-founder of Fresh Starts Registry and I’m here to walk beside you as we muddle through the messiness of divorce, with support, inspiration, laughter, and a lot of great snacks. I promise. Stay tuned for expert advice, interesting conversations, and everything you need to support you through divorce and beyond.

Divorce Happens. In fact, it happens to almost 50 percent of first marriages. So, let’s talk about it. Welcome to Divorce Happens, a podcast to educate, inspire, support, and yes, make you laugh, through divorce and beyond so you can start fresh on the next phase of your journey. Remember, divorce happens, and then we start fresh. 

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In this heartfelt episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia sits down with Erin Snow, founder of Seacoast Listening Lounge and longtime advocate for women navigating divorce. Erin shares how her work as a legal professional in family law and her own personal divorce journey led her to create a safe, confidential, and judgment-free space for people who need to be truly heard. Her listening sessions are not therapy—they're something just as vital: compassionate, intentional human connection.

Erin and Olivia dive into the emotional weight of not feeling heard during divorce, and how the ability to speak without fear or judgment can be transformational. Erin shares why active listening is a powerful tool in emotional recovery, why it’s often missing in divorce conversations, and how listening with empathy can shift everything. From "verbal smash sessions" to quiet, meditative listening spaces, Erin explains how every conversation is shaped by the individual’s needs in that moment.

If you’ve ever felt alone, overwhelmed, or unsure who you can talk to during a life transition, this episode is a must-listen. Erin reminds us that healing starts when we feel safe enough to share—and that we all deserve to feel supported, seen, and understood.

Learn more about Erin and Seacoast Listening Lounge: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/seacoast-listening-lounge

Transcription: Divorce Happens Podcast with Erin Snow

Olivia Howell: Hello, hello, and welcome back to Divorce Happens, the podcast where we support you before, during, and after divorce with education, inspiration, and a little bit of laughter. Because, as we know, divorce happens—and then you start fresh. Today, we're here with one of our Fresh Starts experts, Erin Snow. Erin, can you tell us a little bit about who you are and what you do?

Erin Snow: Hi Olivia, thank you so much for having me! I’m really excited to be on the podcast. I’m Erin Snow, and I live in Seacoast, New Hampshire. I own Seacoast Listening Lounge, which is both an event space and a professional listening service for women who are looking to share their story in a safe and confidential space without judgment.

Olivia Howell: I love that! When Erin registered to be a Fresh Starts expert, we were like, "What is this? We’ve never heard of this before." I’m so excited to be showcasing you to the world because I love what you do. You have a long background in divorce advocacy and related areas. Let’s talk about the importance of listening during a divorce. Because often, people going through a divorce feel like nobody's listening to them. Why is active listening so important during that time?

Erin Snow: I can speak to this on both a professional and personal level. I worked in family law for over 16 years with New Hampshire Legal Assistance, handling high-conflict divorce, parenting, and protective order cases for domestic violence, stalking, and sexual assault survivors. Then I went through my own divorce. One of the reasons I started Seacoast Listening Lounge was because I saw a real lack of space where people could be heard—truly listened to—without judgment.

People going through divorce are under emotional and financial stress. You’re worrying about yourself, your kids, and how others will react. Having a space to just let it all out opens the valve. If we don’t create space to release that pressure, it builds up and becomes unmanageable. Empathetic listening doesn’t have to be hard, but it does require intention. It’s simply about letting someone know: “I’m here for you, no matter what you want to...

On this episode of Divorce Happens we sit down with burnout coach and therapist Abbey Sangmeister to delve into the critical topic of preventing and healing burnout during the emotionally taxing process of divorce. Abbey brings her expertise in mental health and burnout recovery to provide listeners with practical strategies for managing stress, maintaining emotional well-being, and fostering resilience during one of life's most challenging transitions.

Episode Highlights:

• Understanding Burnout in Divorce: Abbey explains how the unique stresses of divorce can lead to burnout, characterized by emotional exhaustion, reduced performance, and depersonalization.
• Signs and Symptoms: Learn to identify the early warning signs of burnout during divorce, including chronic fatigue, irritability, and feelings of hopelessness, and understand why it's crucial to address them promptly.
• Preventive Strategies: Discover proactive measures to prevent burnout during divorce, such as setting healthy boundaries, prioritizing self-care, and seeking professional support when needed. Abbey emphasizes the importance of maintaining routines, staying physically active, and connecting with supportive friends and family.
• Healing from Burnout: For those already experiencing burnout, Abbey provides a roadmap to recovery. She discusses the value of mindfulness practices, therapeutic interventions, and gradually reintroducing joy and relaxation into your life.
• Practical Tips for Daily Life: Gain actionable advice on how to manage daily responsibilities without feeling overwhelmed. Abbey shares techniques for time management, delegation, and developing a positive mindset.

By the end of this episode, listeners will have a comprehensive understanding of how to prevent and heal from burnout during the divorce process. Abbey Sangmeister’s compassionate and practical advice is essential for anyone navigating this difficult period. Tune in to gain valuable insights and take the first step towards a healthier, more balanced life post-divorce.

Make sure to subscribe to Divorce Happens and leave us a review to help others find our podcast and benefit from the valuable insights shared by experts like Abbey Sangmeister. For more information and resources, visit our website: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/divorce-happens

Selling a home during a divorce can feel overwhelming, but having the right real estate expert on your team can make all the difference. In this episode, Olivia sits down with Tina Tzortzis, a seasoned real estate professional specializing in helping individuals navigate the sale of their homes during a divorce. Tina shares the key steps to take before selling, how to work with both spouses fairly, and why it's crucial to have a neutral, supportive professional guiding the process. Whether you're in the early stages of separation or actively preparing to sell, this conversation is packed with practical advice and emotional support to help make the transition smoother.

Plus, Tina breaks down why timing matters, how to build a trusted team (including attorneys, lenders, and assessors), and the unexpected challenges that come up when selling a marital home. If you're going through a divorce and need expert guidance on handling one of the biggest financial and emotional aspects of the process—this episode is a must-listen!

Learn more about Tina Tzortzis: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/tzortzis-lane-real-estate-group

In this powerful episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell sits down with former divorce attorney and current mortgage expert Matthew DiBrino to unpack one of the most stressful parts of divorce: what to do about the house. With years of legal experience and now co-owner of High Quality Mortgage, Matthew brings a rare and compassionate dual perspective to navigating real estate during separation.

From understanding your mortgage options to knowing when and how to get pre-approved, Matthew offers actionable advice for anyone wondering what happens to their home during a divorce. He breaks down common scenarios like buyouts, refinancing, and why getting a mortgage pre-approval early in the process can save you time, money, and emotional stress.

Whether you're in the middle of a divorce or planning for a fresh start, this episode will help you feel more empowered and informed about one of the biggest assets involved in a separation. Plus, Matthew shares encouragement, real-life examples, and a refreshing approach to supporting clients as whole people—not just numbers on paper.

Learn more about Matthew DiBrino on his Fresh Starts profile: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/high-quality-mortgage-llc

Divorce Happens Podcast: Episode Transcript with Matthew DiBrino

Olivia Howell (Host): Hello, hello! Welcome back to Divorce Happens, the podcast where we support you before, during, and after divorce with education, inspiration, and a little bit of laughter—because as we know, divorce happens, and then you start fresh. Today we’re here with one of our Fresh Starts experts, talking about a very important topic. Matthew, can you tell us who you are and what you do?

Matthew D. DiBrino: Sure! Hi, my name is Matthew DiBrino. I'm a former practicing divorce attorney. I began my legal journey in 1999, clerking for the Honorable Thomas F. Brogan in Passaic County, who was then in the Family Division. After that, I received incredible training from one of the best attorneys I know, Jose Bastyr in Paterson, New Jersey. I worked in divorce law for quite some time until about 10 years ago, when I left the practice and opened High Quality Mortgage. I haven’t practiced law in a decade, but I still work closely with divorce attorneys and their clients.

I also went through a divorce myself. And something to note—one of my mentors was Joseph Noda, one of the founders of the collaborative divorce process. That approach really focuses on making the process less contentious and more amicable.

Olivia: Absolutely. There’s really nobody better to talk to about this than you. When I went through my divorce, owning a home with my ex-husband brought up a lot of questions. The house is often the number one concern when people start considering separation. Let’s talk about that. What’s the first step if you have a mortgage and you’re starting the divorce process, but don’t know what you’re going to do with the home?

Matthew: Great question. The first thing you want to do is evaluate your options, which starts with getting a fair market appraisal of the home. That’s going to give you clarity. From there, you typically have three options:

1. Sell the home and split the proceeds (though that can be adjusted depending on the divorce terms).
2. One party buys out the other’s equity.
3. Refinance to remove one party from the mortgage and deed.

Let’s say there’s $100,000 in equity—$400,000 home value, $300,000 mortgage. That means each party is entitled to...

On this episode of Divorce Happens, we chatted with writer and mom of three, Scarlett Longstreet, about the delicate art of announcing a divorce. Scarlett opens up about her own experience of sharing the news with her community, highlighting why a clear and thoughtful announcement can reduce assumptions and create space for understanding. From balancing honesty with privacy to navigating the emotions involved, Scarlett shares practical advice for anyone facing this pivotal moment.

Takeaways include:

• Why clarity matters when announcing a divorce.
• Tips for crafting a formal announcement that aligns with your values.
• How to handle emotional responses from your community with grace.
• Scarlett, a self-proclaimed "little treat and long car sit enthusiast" from Detroit, brings humor and insight to a challenging topic, offering a compassionate perspective for those on this journey.

In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell speaks with filmmaker and director James Takata about his personal experiences with divorce, the lessons learned, and his latest project, California Scenario. James reflects on the importance of seeking help, accepting that you can’t fix others, and valuing therapy as a tool for personal growth. They discuss the mental health challenges men face, the creative process as a means of healing, and how storytelling can bring light to deeply personal and universal experiences.

James also shares insights into California Scenario, a film inspired by his family’s history and Isamu Noguchi’s iconic garden. This drama explores intergenerational trauma and resilience within diverse Californian families, addressing themes like Japanese American internment, the Holocaust, and healing through identity.

Takeaways from the conversation include: the value of vulnerability, the role of creativity in processing life transitions, and the strength found in community and representation. Support California Scenario by contributing to its fundraising efforts or spreading the word. Learn more at this link.

Divorce is more than just a legal process—it’s an emotional and energetic journey that can leave you feeling drained, disconnected, and weighed down by the past. In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell sits down with Candice Erickson-Perham, an energy healer and Fresh Starts Expert, to explore how Emotion Code and Body Code can help release the emotional baggage that divorce leaves behind. From identifying trapped emotions to clearing energetic cords between you and your ex, Candice explains how energy work provides real relief from stress, anxiety, and even physical pain during life transitions.

Olivia and Candice dive into the powerful connection between emotional and physical health, revealing how trapped emotions can manifest as headaches, tension, and even long-term stress-related illnesses. Candice explains how she works with clients to release stored trauma—whether from the divorce itself or past experiences that are resurfacing. She also shares insights on how energy work can help children navigate the emotional impact of divorce, offering a holistic approach to healing for the entire family.

If you're struggling to move forward after divorce, feeling stuck in emotional pain, or curious about how energy healing can support your fresh start, this episode is for you. Candice shares practical tools, real-life client experiences, and information about her Heart Wall Release Package, designed specifically to help those recovering from heartbreak and major life changes. Tune in to discover how clearing emotional blockages can bring clarity, lightness, and a renewed sense of self after divorce.

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Transcription:

Introduction

Olivia Howell: Hello, hello! Welcome back to Divorce Happens, the podcast where we support you with education, information, and a little bit of laughter—because as we know, divorce happens, and then you start fresh. Today, we’re here with one of our wonderful Fresh Starts experts, Candice. Candice, can you tell us about what you do?

Candice: Sure! First, thank you for having me on. I’m very excited to be here. I know that divorce happens, and part of what I do is energy healing. Through energy healing, we can help lessen the burden that divorce brings to individuals.

What is Emotion Code & Body Code?

Olivia: I love that! I’ve personally done a lot of work with you and attended many of your...

In this heartfelt episode, Olivia Howell sits down with Foster Wilson—poet, filmmaker, and postpartum doula—to explore the three transformative lessons she learned from her divorce. Foster shares how her experience taught her the power of finding her voice, honoring her truth, and using her creativity as a healing outlet. She also reflects on the magnetic energy of following her heart and the clarity and joy that emerged on the other side of fear.

Foster offers profound advice on taking responsibility for your own growth, or as she puts it, “cleaning up your side of the street.” She reminds listeners that while divorce can be challenging, it has the potential to be a gift for everyone involved. Check out Foster’s book of poetry, Afternoon Abundance: Poetry for Wild Souls, and connect with her at FosterWilson.com.

In this powerful episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia sits down with grief support specialist and founder of Grieve Leave, Rebecca Feinglos, to explore the layered emotions and life shifts that come with divorce. Together, they dive deep into the intersection of grief and relationship loss, revealing how losing a parent can shape how we love—and leave. Rebecca shares her own story of heartbreak and healing, highlighting the pivotal moment she realized she didn’t have to normalize unhealthy behavior in her marriage.

Rebecca opens up about the three biggest lessons she learned through divorce: that you are never truly stuck, that self-discovery is a vital part of the healing process, and that it’s okay to feel both grief and freedom at the same time. She emphasizes the importance of tuning into your gut, even when the world around you tells you to stay. Her insights remind listeners that grief doesn’t just follow death—it can show up in endings of all kinds, and it deserves time, space, and care.

Rebecca Feinglos (pronounced fine-gloss) is a certified grief support specialist, startup founder, and former policy advisor who launched Grieve Leave in 2021 after experiencing profound personal loss, including the deaths of both parents and a difficult divorce. Grieve Leave has since grown into a global movement, reaching over 30,000 people and encouraging intentional time for grieving through community, resources, and humor. Based between North Carolina and Montreal, Rebecca is a nationally recognized voice in grief advocacy, featured in TIME, HuffPost, and ELLE, and she's on a mission to make the world more grief-informed—one honest conversation at a time.

Transcript – Divorce Happens with Grieve Leave Founder Rebecca Feinglos

Olivia: Welcome back to Divorce Happens, the podcast where we support you before, during, and after divorce with education, inspiration, and a little bit of laughter—because as we know, divorce happens, and then you start fresh. Today, I'm joined by someone very special, someone I first connected with years ago when we were both building our platforms. We share a love of grief work, Jewish family roots, and yes—even puppets. Rebecca, I'm so glad you're here. Can you introduce yourself?

Rebecca Feinglos: Thanks, Olivia. I'm so excited to be here. I'm Rebecca Feinglos, the founder of Grieve Leave, an organization that focuses on grief, loss, and helping people navigate all types of grief—not just death. As someone who lost both of my parents before the age of 30 and then went through a divorce, I understand how grief can manifest in many forms. At Grieve Leave, we talk about grief that stems from life transitions like divorce, and we encourage people to take intentional time to process those experiences.

Olivia: I love that. It’s so important to normalize grief beyond death. As you know, I’m also happily divorced, but the grief still shows up sometimes. With that in mind, I’d love to know—what are the three biggest things you learned from your divorce?

Rebecca: First, you are not stuck. I felt stuck for so long in a life I thought I wanted. I had invested years into the relationship and told myself I had to make it work because of that. But it took losing both of my parents to realize that I wasn’t stuck—that I could make a different choice. And I did. I separated from my ex at 31 and haven’t looked back.

Olivia: That’s powerful. Did your parents know him?

Rebecca: My mom died when I was very young, so she never met him. But my dad did. He started seeing through the cracks of our relationship before I fully admitted what was...

On this episode of Divorce Happens, we chatted with Christina Bailey, of Baby Bailey Mama Drama, who shares her experience of announcing her divorce from her wife on social media. As a first-grade teacher and mother of four, Christina discusses the challenges of navigating such a personal moment publicly while balancing her role as a parent and a social media influencer. She emphasizes the importance of owning the announcement, staying authentic, and the empowerment that comes with sharing her story. Christina also opens up about the unexpected support she received from others who had gone through similar experiences, highlighting the power of community during difficult times.

Key takeaway points from this conversation include the importance of being honest and authentic when announcing a divorce, managing the impact on social media platforms, and embracing the support from others who have walked a similar path. Key questions covered include: How do you navigate announcing a divorce while maintaining your privacy? What role does social media play in personal crises? How can you find strength and connection through shared experiences? Tune in to hear Christina’s insightful advice for those facing the challenge of a public divorce announcement.

In this episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell sits down with Renee Coleman, a Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP) and residential mortgage lender, to discuss a vital yet often overlooked aspect of divorce—the mortgage. Renee shares her expertise on navigating the financial complexities tied to homeownership during and after a divorce, offering practical advice for individuals considering or going through this transition. From understanding the difference between being on the mortgage versus the title to the importance of pulling your credit report early, this conversation is packed with actionable steps for protecting your financial future.

Listeners will also learn how to build a strong support team, including a trusted lender, to navigate challenges like refinancing a home, dividing assets, and preparing financially for life post-divorce. Olivia and Renee delve into real-life scenarios, like managing equity buyouts, working with limited income, and planning strategically for homeownership post-divorce. Whether you're in the early stages of divorce or planning for the future, this episode provides essential insights to help you make informed decisions.

Get in touch with Renee on her Fresh Starts Profile: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/crosscountry-mortgage