Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman (Damona Hoffman - Dates and Mates Media)

Lane Moore, bestselling author and host of the comedy event, “Tinder Live”, talks about her new book “You’re Not the Only One F*cking Up: Breaking the Endless Cycle of Dating Mistakes.” The Dating Dish is: Can talking about finances unlock successful relationships? The Dear Damona this week is: Does Healthy=Boring in a relationship? Show dates for Lane’s Tinder Live tour are listed at LaneMoore.com! And grab a copy of her book by visiting try.everand.com/moore/ Read the full Dating Dish article, written by Damona herself, by visiting wise.com/us/blog/damona-hoffman-on-love-and-money F the Fairy Tale is an Amazon #1 Bestseller! Get your copy at FtheFairyTaleBook.com or from your favorite bookseller today in hardcover, audiobook, or ebook format and then SHARE THE LOVE - leave a review of the book on Amazon so Damona can heal more hearts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mat Boggs, YouTube dating coach, sets you up for your best first date yet as he covers everything from red flags and conversation topics to knowing how much time to invest in a match. The Dating Dish story this week comes from Mashable: Dating Culture Has Become Selfish. How Do We Fix It? Then our Dear Damona question this week is: An old flame invited me to their big birthday bash in Cabo. Should I go? Follow Mat on Youtube @MatBoggs and check out his MANifest Your Man Program by visiting: https://www.bravethinkinginstitute.com/love-relationships/resources/mym/offer/strategy-session Read the Mashable story at: mashable.com/article/selfish-dating-app-culture Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. Dates & Mates is sponsored by Betterhelp. TIMESTAMPS (00:00:12) First dates: The gateway to new possibilities  (00:01:57) Dating culture: A selfish era  (00:04:35) The capitalist mindset and dating (00:08:45) Rethinking the approach to dating (00:10:22) Do's and don'ts of first dates (00:17:47) Red Flags in Dating  (00:18:38) Internal Repetitive Energy  (00:19:35) Internal GPS System  (00:21:28) Manipulative Behaviors (00:23:04) Vibration for Long-Lasting Love  (00:24:35) Compatibility of Interests  (00:25:42) Mindset and Deal Breakers  (00:26:37) Mindset for Online Dating  (00:29:50) Intentional Action in Dating (00:30:51) Sharing on First Dates  (00:33:30) Whose hands are you going to put this baby into? (00:35:33)Shifting the conversation  (00:36:33) Mel's authentic approach (00:43:46) Dear Damona - Tracy's dilemma  (00:45:17) Damona's advice to Tracy  (00:49:06) Happy Birthday and Letting Go  (00:50:17) Lily Womble Up Next Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cassidy Davis, the founder of Chaotic Singles Party, shares the inspiration behind her wildly popular singles parties and breaks down how to meet your match IRL. The Dating Dish this week: What would happen if you embraced the awkward silence on dates? The Dear Damona question is: I matched a guy who is perfect on paper. Why don’t I feel anything? Follow Cassidy on Instagram @cassidynashdavis and learn more about her events at chaoticsinglesparty.com Get Damona’s free profile starter kit at DatesandMates.com Do you have a question for our all Dear Damona episode? We are taking voice memos in the DMs @DamonaHoffman and Voicemails at 424-246-6255 Sponsor: Green Chef is the #1 Meal Kit for Eating Well. Go to GreenChef.com/datesandmates60 and use code datesandmates60 to get 60% off plus free shipping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this all-Dear Damona episode, Damona takes on dating burnout and swipe fatigue by answering your questions, like: Is it a bad sign if my Bumble match is taking more than 3 days to reply? How do I manage expectations with new partners? How do I attract partners that are more financially and emotionally stable?  And, is it more difficult to find love after 50? Share the love: Get your copy of F the Fairy Tale on Amazon today and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode! TIMESTAMPS 00:00:07 Is it a bad sign if my bumble match is stuck on his move for days? 00:02:19 How do I manage expectations with new partners?  00:17:27 How do I attract partners that are more financially and emotionally stable? 00:18:30 Dealing with fixer-uppers  00:27:50 Is it more difficult to find love after 50? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Swipe apps have gamified dating but that doesn’t mean you have to play it their way! Damona dives deep into The Rules Myth with love and relationship experts Ariel Ford and Francesca Hoagie in one of her favorite panels from the F the The Fairy Tale Forum last year. Together they address how singles are hungry for shortcuts to finding love and reveal why this approach may be preventing them from making fulfilling connections. Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you’ll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona! Follow Arielle Ford on Instagram @ArielleFord_author and pick up a copy of her international bestseller, “THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction”. Follow Francesca Hogi on Instagram @DearFranny and check out the Dear Franny Podcast! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. TIMESTAMPS (00:00:00) Dates & Mates Intro (00:01:06) The rules myth  (00:02:10) Introduction of Ariel Ford and Francesca Hogi  (00:04:34) Defining love  (00:06:30) Navigating dating without rules  (00:09:08) Evolution of relationships  (00:13:13) Existence of soulmates  (00:16:58) Meeting people outside of dating apps  (00:18:02) The potential of organic connections  (00:19:52) Manifesting love and the meet cute mindset  (00:21:36) The abundance mindset and love before first sight  (00:26:06) Dating in midlife and redefining compatibility  (00:29:44) Embracing the process of dating and love skills Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s tempting to date by a list of preferred qualities and a set of prescribed rules, but these myths prevent singles from discovering more fulfilling relationships. Damona debunks The List Myth and The Rules Myth and offers real solutions to today’s common dating problems. Based on themes from her new book, F The Fairy Tale, this episode highlights The Goals Pillar and The Values Pillar in a conversation between Damona and love and relationship experts, Orna and Matthew Walters and Evan Marc Katz. Be sure to follow Evan on Instagram @RealEvanMarcKatz and check out his work at EvanMarcKatz.com And, be sure to follow Orna and Matthew on Instagram @OrnaAndMatthew and pre-order their new book at Barnes & Noble, Getting It Right This Time by visiting: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/getting-it-right-this-time-orna-walters/1145412458 Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. TIMESTAMPS (00:00:00) Introduction to the Episode  (00:01:05) The Goals and Values Pillars  (00:02:10) Breaking the Rules Myth  (00:03:18) Introduction of Guests  (00:06:12) The Importance of Values  (00:08:03) Engaging Conversations  (00:11:01) Understanding Love Imprints  (00:12:36) The Role of the Subconscious  (00:14:03) Client-Centered Approach  (00:15:50) Masterclass on Attraction  (00:16:26) Listener Questions Segment  (00:16:50) Evan's Jdate Experience  (00:18:07) Crafting a Great Profile  (00:19:57) Storytelling in Profiles  (00:21:09) Best Dating Sites for Older Women  (00:22:11) Pressure on Dating Apps  (00:23:40) Women’s Standards in Dating  (00:24:46) Meeting Men Outside Comfort Zones  (00:26:47) Investment in Dating  (00:28:22) Closing Remarks and Book Promotion  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Renee Bauer, family law attorney, talks about new beginnings. This week’s Dating Dish is: How the Language of Therapy Took Over Dating. The Dear Damona question this week is: I am looking for a relationship, but all of my dating app matches end up looking for a hookup. Is that all that’s out there? Follow Renee on Instagram @MsReneeBauer and learn more about the She Who Wins summit at SheWhoWins.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

John Kim, of The Angry Therapist podcast and IG, talks about how you can transform being single into a joyous, exciting period of personal growth and his new workbook, 31 Days of Single on Purpose. The Dating Dish this week: Here’s how long it takes most people to decide on a second date. The Dear Damona question is: How do I attract a happy, healthy partnership? Follow John on Instagram @TheAngryTherapist and grab your copy of 31 Days of Single on Purpose by visiting the link in his bio. I am now offering the Dating Accelerator as a self-study online program! I am offering $100 off to the next 3 Dates & Mates listeners to sign up - Use code "DATES100" at checkout before the coupons are all gone! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hannah Orenstein, Deputy Editor of Lifestyle and Wellness at Bustle, has her finger on the pulse of dating and is the perfect person to help us decode dating. This week’s Dating Dish is: Will ChatGPT: take over online dating? The Dear Damona question this week is: My new match is very complimentary. Am I being love bombed?  Be sure to follow Hannah on Instagram @HannahOrens and check out her Elite Daily column, “Dating, Decoded.” https://www.elitedaily.com/dating-decoded Get Damona’s free profile starter kit at DatesandMates.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Victor Frank, one of the very first guests on Dates & Mates, talks about his new book, “The 5 Hidden Love Questions: Radically Simple Strategies to Date Smarter, Own Your Power, and Flourish”. Grab a copy of his book on Amazon and find resources to accompany the book at TaoOfDating.com/resources And you can access Dr. Victor’s audio meditations at HappinessEngineering.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rachel Russo, matchmaker and dating & relationship coach, takes a provocative stance on age and dating. She busts through fairy tale myths and matchmaking blocks and shares her own story of being a solo mom by choice. Follow Rachel on Instagram @Rachel.Russo and apply for Rachel’s matchmaking database at RachelRusso.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

F the Fairy Tale is an Amazon #1 Bestseller! Get your copy at FtheFairyTaleBook.com or from your favorite bookseller today in hardcover, audiobook, or ebook format.  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, marriage and family therapist, joins Damona for National Breakup Month to normalize the stages of a breakup and help you overcome heartbreak. In an exciting twist, she’s brought her own Dear Damona questions! The Dating Dish this week is: Dating News Reveals New Study For the Best Places to Meet New People.  Follow Dr. Lisa on Instagram @DrLisaMarieBobby and check out her Breakup Recovery Program by visiting growingself.com/divorce-counseling-breakup-recovery/ The Dating Accelerator Program is back! Break free from the 5 dating loops and to finally find the relationship you imagine for yourself through this self-paced online program. For a limited time, add on one-on-one coaching too at DamonaHoffman.com/course Read the DatingNews.com article for yourself by visiting: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1oU9_Ihv_J_fmA6Xw4gyLCxjc9FeGgqgM3ruuBoTKElw/edit#heading=h.9k0gcldkjk0g Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fan favorite guest Mark Groves is back! This time he’s joined by his wife Kylie McBeath, to discuss their amazing new book Liberated Love: Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire. In this interview they get to the root of codependency and offer ways to heal trauma and date intentionally. The dating dish story is: The Downside of Are We Dating the Same Guy Facebook groups. In Dear Damona a listener asks: Why are there so many fake profiles and how can you avoid getting frustrated with them? Follow Mark @createthelove and Kylie @beingisbeautiful and pick up your copy of Liberated Love (https://read.macmillan.com/lp/liberated-love/) today! Speaking of books - F the Fairy Tale is currently on sale at Amazon. Leave a review on Amazon to have a chance at getting thanked personally on the show! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jillian Romero Chaves, founder of the Clara For Daters app, shows us how to make informed choices and nurture healthy relationships by mindfully tracking our dating experiences. Then in Dear Damona a listener asks, I haven’t dated in 7 years and the idea of putting myself out there is doubt and anxiety producing. Is there hope for me? Learn more about Jillian’s work and the Clara app by following the Clara Instagram @ClaraForDaters and check out the Clara For Daters app! BLACK FRIDAY: Damona’s new book “F the Fairy Tale” is available for preorder now at a special Black Friday price at FtheFairyTaleBook.com (thru 11/28) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, couples therapist and author, lays a foundational framework to deepen connection and self-understanding in her new book “Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow and Thrive.” In this episode, she will share specific exercises and prompts to get you thinking about love differently. The Dating Dish story this week comes to you from NBC News: Could an AI Dating Concierge fix your dating life? Then our Dear Damona question this week is: Is it a red flag if my match doesn’t ask me questions about myself? LIVE ONLINE EVENT: Damona is hosting a one night only, live workshop talking about how to meet your matches online and off on Tuesday, May 29th. Last chance to enroll in the Dating Decoded workshop at DamonaHoffman.com/workshop Follow Dr. Alexandra on Instagram @Dr.Alexandra.Solomon and grab a copy of her new book, “Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship heal, Grow and Thrive” Read the NBC News story at: https://www.nbcnews.com/tech/internet/ai-personas-are-future-dating-bumble-founder-says-many-arent-buying-rcna151738 Get it off your chest, with BetterHelp.Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. Dates & Mates is sponsored by Betterhelp. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Anna Burtt and Kitty Winks, authors of “The Little Book of Ick: 500 Reasons to Get Over Them - For Good” share their humorous dating insights. This week’s Dating Dish: How to date more ‘organically’ according to Gen-Z. The Dear Damona question this week is: A man who’d previously ghosted me just liked me on a dating app. Should I give him another chance?   Be sure to follow Anna Burtt on Instagram @BTNBookClub and Kitty Winks @KitWinks And grab a copy of their book, The Little Book of Ick. Get Damona’s free profile starter kit at DatesandMates.com Check out the NBC News article on Gen Z wanting to date more organically: https://www.nbcnews.com/news/gen-z-organic-dating-instagram-rcna70459 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

F the Fairy Tale is out today! Get your copy at FtheFairyTaleBook.com or from your favorite bookseller today in hardcover, audiobook, or ebook format. In this episode, Damona is kicking off the new year with a Master Class in celebration of the release of her new book “F The Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story”. She’s breaking down the 4 dating myths and outlining their fix in the 4 pillars of long term compatibility and ending the episode with her hottest tip for dating in 2024! Follow Damona @DamonaHoffman on IG, FB, and TikTok and submit your dating or relationship questions now for the next Dear Damona segment. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

MJ Harris, international speaker and author of “Get The F*ck Out Your Own Way”, shares his secrets to empowering your relationships - personal, platonic or romantic. Plus he explains why there’s nothing wrong with ghosting and as a world traveler, he breaks down The Tinder Rule. This week’s Dating Dish is: Avoid this trend if you're swiping to find a partner before Valentine’s Day! The Dear Damona question is: How do I respond to dating app candidates I’ve already dated or even slept with? Be sure to follow MJ on Instagram @MJHarrisSpeaks and pickup a copy of his book wherever they are sold! Read the Stylist piece for yourself by visiting: https://www.stylist.co.uk/relationships/dating-love/what-is-the-avalanching-dating-trend/855404 The Dating Accelerator Program is back! Break free from the 5 dating loops and finally find the relationship you imagine for yourself through this self-paced online program. Join in the monthly live Q&A for students only starting Wednesday, Feb. 7th! DamonaHoffman.com/course Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Julia Mazur, host of the Pretty Much Done podcast and former Tinder employee, talks about celebrating singlehood and enjoying each part of the dating journey. Then in Dear Damona a listener asks, should I still take a trip with my f-buddy if I just met someone with LTR potential? Learn more about her work on Instagram @pmdpod and check out her podcast wherever you listen to Dates & Mates! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

F the Fairy Tale is out now! Get your copy at FtheFairyTaleBook.com or from your favorite bookseller today in hardcover, audiobook, or ebook format.  Carol Allen, Vedic astrologer and relationship coach, shares her annual astrological forecast in life and love! The Dating Dish headline this week is: Does Your Dating Life Need Decluttering? And the Dear Damona question is: My match wants to be exclusive immediately. What should I do?  Be sure to follow Carol on Instagram @CarolAllenAstrologer and for a limited time you can get your Personal Success Calendar at a huge discount. Just visit DamonaHoffman.com/MyCalendar Start tracking your dating progress with Damona’s Date Tracker by visiting DamonaHoffman.com/DateTracker Declutter your dating life and update that dating profile with Damona’s Profile Starter Kit. Just visit the “Work with Me” tab at DamonaHoffman.com Read the New York Times article for yourself by visiting nytimes.com/2024/01/03/well/live/love-dating-romance.html Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Brenden Durell, intimacy expert on Netflix's Too Hot To Handle, guides us towards a deeper connection within with exercises that he practiced on the show and inspired by his intimacy retreat. Our Dear Damona question this week is: I find myself falling for men who either go all in or don’t give me the time of day. How can I change my pattern? Follow Brenden on Instagram @BrendenDurell and be sure to check out his work at BrendenDurell.com Look out for his “Inspired Intimacy Challenge” on socials and the Intimacy in the Jungle retreat in October. And, we are enrolling NOW for Damona’s signature group coaching program, The Dates & Mates Method! If you’re ready to create a dating plan and date differently this fall, then this is the time to sign up. Don’t miss out on a limited number of spots in this annual program. Learn more at DamonaHoffman.com/method TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Intimacy (00:00:00) Mirror Work Begins (00:00:09) Understanding Intimacy (00:00:13) Brendan's Background (00:02:05) Location and Energy (00:02:41) Premise of "Too Hot to Handle" (00:04:19) Evolution of Brendan's Role (00:06:00) Mirror Exercise Explanation (00:08:05) Impact of Reality TV (00:10:07) Apologizing to Oneself (00:11:23) Historical Context of Mirrors (00:12:23) Power of Self-Forgiveness (00:14:26) Intimacy Retreats (00:16:49) The Connection with Mother Earth (00:18:00) City Slicker vs. Nature (00:18:18) Walking Through Discomfort (00:19:17) Presence in the Moment (00:20:22) Reframing Time Pressure (00:24:51) Rites of Passage Experience (00:26:08) Intimacy in the Jungle Retreat (00:28:46) Embracing the Unknown (00:30:09) Renegotiating Commitments (00:32:35) God Exists in Everything (00:34:00) Exploring Intimacy Across Cultures (00:34:46) Curiosity in Personal Growth (00:35:52) Demystifying Intimacy (00:36:40) Reframing Perspectives on Pleasure (00:36:51) Listener's Dating Struggles (00:38:49) Prioritizing Self-Love (00:40:02) Understanding Relationship Patterns (00:41:08) Setting Boundaries in Dating (00:42:39) The Importance of Inner Intimacy (00:45:26) Invitation to Join the Program (00:46:32) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Helen Fisher, author and Chief Science Advisor to Match Group, shares the latest insights from the annual Singles In America study just in time for Valentine’s Day. This week’s Dear Damona question is: How do I get my match to stop talking about his exes? Be sure to check out Helen’s work on her website at HelenFisher.com and take a look at the Match Singles In America study by visiting singlesinamerica.com F the Fairy Tale is an Amazon #1 Bestseller! Get your copy at FtheFairyTaleBook.com or from your favorite bookseller today in hardcover, audiobook, or ebook format. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Dear Damona episode, Damona is tackling cuffing season questions. This week listeners ask: What if visualization doesn’t work for me? Am I dismissing great guys too soon? Should I just accept that I won’t find a lifelong partner? Plus, Damona shares a special interview with her client Sue who recently found love again.  Ready to find your forever match? This is the LAST WEEK of enrollment for our live group program. Get early enrollment bonuses and the lowest rate at: DamonaHoffman.com/program Still on the fence? A limited number of participants can try the first class for free by visiting DamonaHoffman.com/FreeClass Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Justine Kay and Natasha Scott-Reichel, the hosts of the 2 Black Girls, 1 Rose podcast, discuss the reality of race, age, and other unspoken relationship rules. They also cover what we can learn about romance from our favorite dating shows like Love Is Blind, The Golden Bachelor, and The Bachelorette.  Follow Justine and Natasha on Instagram @2BlackGirls1Rose and listen to 2 Black Girls, 1 Rose wherever you listen to Dates & Mates! Learn more about my friend and mentor Rebecca Benenati at: wellbornlifestyles.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Married At First Sight expert, Dr. Pia Holec, shares tips on how to build trust and intimacy with a partner for a healthier, more satisfying relationship. The Dating Dish headline today is: What Is Toxic Forgiveness? And Is It Really Possible to "Forgive and Forget"? The Dear Damona question is: I’m nervous about showing my body to a new partner. What should I do? Be sure to watch Married At First Sight Season 15 on Lifetime! And follow Dr. Pia on Instagram @SexDrPia Read the PopSugar article on Toxic Forgiveness at https://www.popsugar.com/love/what-is-toxic-forgiveness-48984021 Sponsors: Spice up your me-time, explore your fantasies, relax and unwind, or heat things up with a partner with Dipsea Stories. Get an extended 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/DATESANDMATES.   You can change your life and Mel Robbins will show you how. Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast every Monday and Thursday wherever you listen to Dates & Mates. Drew Barrymore wants to give you good news on the go, because we all need it right now. Catch new episodes of Drew’s News every Friday wherever you listen to Dates & Mates. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Carol Allen, Vedic astrologer and relationship coach, helps us understand the stars of 2023 and compatibility as it relates to someone else's astrological imprint. In the Dating Dish we cover: The Biggest Dating Trends Of 2023, According To Dating App Experts. And the Dear Damona question is: My match and I have lots of chemistry and common interests. Yet, he has made no moves toward intimacy. What should I do? Be sure to follow Carol on Instagram @CarolAllenAstrologer and for a limited time you can get your Personal Success Calendar at a huge discount. Just visit DamonaHoffman.com/MyCalendar ANNOUNCEMENT! Damona is running her signature dating coaching group LIVE one last time starting the week of January 23rd. If you want to find love in 2023, this is your moment! Hear new success stories and see how the program can change your love life too at TheDatingSecret.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Myisha Battle, certified clinical sexologist and sex & dating coach, talks about her new book, “This Is Supposed to Be Fun: How to Find Joy in Hooking Up, Settling Down, and Everything in Between”. This week’s Dating Dish: Is it true that thinking about your ex can improve your current relationship? The Dear Damona question this week is: How do you know your conflict resolution style? Follow Myisha on Instagram @MyishaBattle and to grab a copy of her book “This Is Supposed to Be Fun: How to Find Joy in Hooking Up, Settling Down, and Everything in Between” ANNOUNCEMENT! Damona is running her signature dating coaching group LIVE one last time with live session starting WEDNESDAY 1/25. This is your LAST CALL to get Damona’s direct support on developing your dating plan for 2023. Grab one of the last remaining seats today at TheDatingSecret.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you date by a list? How’s that going for you? Damona tackles The List Myth in the second episode of the “F The Fairy Tale'' Summer Series. Plus, Damona shares some dating math to illustrate how The List Myth hurts you more than helps you…and what you should focus on instead. Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you’ll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. TIMESTAMPS (00:00:00) Intro to the "F the Fairy Tale" summer series. (00:01:09) The list myth  (00:02:21) Narrowing the list  (00:05:55) Importance of leaving reviews  (00:06:58) Announcement of the next episode  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hunt Ethridge, award-winning international dating and relationship expert, breaks down cool new science in the relationship and dating space so you can hack the dating game once and for all.The Dating Dish headline is: Over one in 10 men are likely to cancel date plans due to feeling self-conscious. And the Dear Damona question is: My matches say they want commitment but then pull away after the 3rd or 4th date. What should I do? Be sure to follow Hunt on Instagram @QuestforAdvice and check out HuntforAdvice.com for more information. Looking for support in finding your forever person in 2023? Early Bird Enrollment is now open for the next round of the Dating Accelerator Program! Get $300 off now through Dec 31 with the code EARLYBIRD Find out the secret at TheDatingSecret.com Sponsor: OMGYes.com is a website with findings from the largest ever research study into women’s pleasure. Visit OMGYes.com/DATESANDMATES for a special discount! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu, the hosts of the Dateable podcast, discuss the true meaning of dating intentionally and how some daters may need to reframe their approach. Our Dating Dish this week is: From swiping to sexting, here is what's really driving Americans in dating today. The Dear Damona question is: What are the signs that it’s time to take a break from dating? Follow Yue and Julie on Instagram @DateablePodcast and be sure to check out Dateable wherever you listen to Dates & Mates! Share the love: Get your copy of F the Fairy Tale on Amazon today and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dan Savage, author and host of The Savage Lovecast, joins Damona in a very special 500th episode to talk about dating trends and predictions for 2024. Then he and Damona take on a spicy Dear Damona & Dan segment with questions like:  - My girlfriend wants to switch things up in the bedroom, but I’m feeling shy. Where do we start?  - And, I don’t want a relationship, but I don’t want a one-night stand. What are my options? Follow Dan on Instagram @DanSavage and check out The Savage Lovecast wherever you listen to Dates & Mates! Share the love: Get your copy of F the Fairy Tale on Amazon today and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode! TIMESTAMPS The 500th episode (00:00:00) Damona Hoffman reflects on the history of the podcast and celebrates the 500th episode with special guest Dan Savage. Dating trends and predictions for 2024 (00:01:07) Dan Savage discusses 2024 dating trends and shares his newest dating term. The impact of societal developments on dating (00:02:25) Damona reads a portion of her book, "F the Fairy Tale," discussing the impact of societal developments on dating and relationships. The trend of ghosting and flaking (00:08:08) Damona and Dan discuss the increasing trend of ghosting and flaking in dating, and its potential reasons. The influence of politics on dating (00:14:45) Damona and Dan analyze the growing influence of politics on dating and relationships, particularly in the context of an election year. The growing political divide (00:16:07) Discussion on the increasing influence of politics on dating and relationships, particularly regarding women's rights and equality. Polyamory trends and definitions (00:20:32) Exploring the trends and definitions of polyamorous relationships, including statistics and Dan Savage's personal experience. Defining monogamy (00:29:39) Dan Savage's perspective on the definition of monogamy and how it can encompass a range of relationship dynamics, including acknowledging attraction to others. Challenging traditional monogamous norms (00:32:17) Discussion on the flexibility of monogamous relationships and the importance of maintaining intimacy, security, and openness within a partnership. Pegging and Tolley Amory (00:33:53) Dan Savage introduces the term "tolley amory" and discusses the concept of putting up with a partner's infidelity. Advice on Dominance in Sex (00:37:47) Dan Savage provides tips on becoming more dominant in sexual relationships and discusses the psychological aspects of dominance. Initiating Group Sex with Friends (00:47:29) A listener seeks advice on how to hint at the possibility of group sex with a couple they are friends with. The friend zone and hanging out (00:50:08) Discussion about navigating the friend zone and hanging out with someone of interest. Starting fresh after a long-term marriage (00:53:15) Advice for someone who wants to start dating after a 15-year marriage and is unsure about casual dating. Exploring casual relationships and dating apps (00:54:41) Encouragement for exploring casual relationships, using dating apps, and finding the right platform for dating. Getting out of the house and meeting new people (01:00:11) Encouragement to engage in activities outside the house to meet new people and potentially find romantic connections. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special all Dear Damona episode, Damona is answering your questions to get you prepared for cuffing season. Questions include: What should I do with “new here” members that pop up in my feed over and over again? How do I stay safe while meeting online matches for the first time?  Should I be fearful of my partner’s STI status? Should I wait for someone who says they aren’t ready to commit? How do I date as a solo mom?  F The Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story is now available for pre-order! Go to FTheFairyTaleBook.com RIGHT NOW for an extra special Black Friday deal of 25% off and free shipping on orders over $25 now through November 28th. Visit FTheFairyTaleBook.com to pre-order the book and get this awesome deal. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Orna Walters, domestic violence survivor turned love coach, shares her personal story, some signs to look out for, and how to prepare yourself for a happy, healthy partnership. The Dating Dish headline today is: Unpopular Opinion: Long-distance relationships have the most potential. The Dear Damona question is: When is the right time to discuss taking down our dating profiles? And, if you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence please do not hesitate, call the Domestic Abuse Hotline: 800-799-7233 Grab Orna and Matthew Walter’s FREE guide at https://www.7stepstosoulmating.com And follow Orna and Matthew on Instagram @OrnaAndMatthew Read the John Hopkins Newsletter on LDR’s by visiting: https://www.jhunewsletter.com/article/2022/10/opposing-viewpoints-long-distance-relationships-have-the-most-potential Download Damona's FREE Profile Starter Kit here: https://datesandmates.lpages.co/profile-starter-kit-opt-in/ Sponsors: You can have your best night’s sleep with comfy sheets and loungewear from Cozy Earth. Go to CozyEarth.com and use the code Damona for 35% off sitewide.   You can change your life and Mel Robbins will show you how. Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast every Monday and Thursday wherever you listen to Dates & Mates. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kamie Crawford, co-host of MTV’s Catfish and host of the podcast Relationsh!t, brings you up to speed on all things dating, from the apps to catfishing and beyond, just in time for Cuffing Season. We kick off the show with a Romance Rollback this week with a retrospective on a classic custom that you might be able to still use today – dance cards. The Dear Damona question is: I think I am ready to start dating again after losing my husband two years ago. Where should I begin? Be sure to follow Kamie on Instagram @KamieCrawford and listen to Relationsh!t wherever you listen to Dates & Mates! Sponsors: Start your search for a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours. Just go to ZocDoc.com/Damona and download the ZocDoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you’re feeling stuck or frustrated with your love life, chances are you are stuck in 1 (or more) of the 5 Dating Loops. In this masterclass Damona gives the signs and symptoms of each dating loop and actionable advice on how to break the cycle of dating loops and find your person. LAST CALL for the Dating Accelerator Program. Doors are closing this week and the first class is Wednesday, January 25th. If you want to be coached on a personal level by Damona and her team, now is your chance to get into the ONLY live round of this program this year. You’ll receive  10 audio/video lessons 10 LIVE group sessions with meditation, partner exercises, accountability and live Q&A every week  A personalizable dating workbook  BONUS downloadable meditation BONUS first date starter kit Option to book exclusive solo VIP coaching sessions (for enrolled students only) And more! Snag one of the last spaces at TheDatingSecret.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Orna Guralnik, host of the hit Showtime series Couples Therapy, shares how she leads couples to some extraordinary breakthroughs, the best and worst ways to show up in a partnership, and what she has learned along the way. The Dating Dish this week: Could knowing Your Partner’s “Argument Style” Be A Relationship Game-Changer? The Dear Damona question is: I’m getting ready for a big cross-country move. Should I put a pause on dating? Follow Dr. Orna on Instagram @OrnaGuralnik and check out Couples Therapy on Showtime! Listen to the all Dear Damona episode of Dates & Mates by visiting: damonahoffman.com/dear-damona-rubbish-texter-dating-racism/ To see if you qualify for a spot in Damona’s Diamond VIP One-On-One Dates & Mates Coaching Method Program visit DamonaHoffman.com/VIPProgram and sign up for a 20 minute consultation for just $47! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Chris Thompson, one of the hottest multi-platform content creators, breaks down the gender war he’s witnessing online and shares his methods for coming back to a place of peace. The Dating Dish headline is: Should Dating References Be Required In Online Dating? And the Dear Damona question is: Is my picker broken? Be sure to follow Chris on TikTok and Instagram @SupDaily and check out his podcast “Unfiltered Friends” wherever you listen to Dates & Mates! Sponsor: The gift of health has never been so easy to share than it is this holiday. For listeners of the show, Everlywell is offering a discount of 20% off an at-home lab test at everlywell.com/datesandmates. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

From money monsters and fake date fiends to xanax zombies and a salacious tale from friend of the show Matt Marr about a hookup gone terribly wrong, Damona reacts to your dating disasters and gives tips on how to avoid them in the future. Special thanks to Reddit for collaborating with us to collect stories this year! For the tell-tale signs of ghosting and to see the new matching questions that Damona and OkCupid added for Halloween, check out Damona’s new post on the OkCupid blog Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Meredith Goldstein, from The Boston Globe advice column and podcast, Love Letters, shares what she’s learned from the advice she’s given others for over a decade. The Dating Dish this week is: From ‘Situationships’ to ‘Ghosting’, how undefined relationships impact your mental health. The Dear Damona question is: no one I like is messaging me back on the apps. Follow Meredith on Instagram @MeredithGoldstein and check out her podcast, Love Letters, wherever you listen to Dates & Mates and look for the column by the same name in The Boston Globe. Get Damona’s free profile starter kit at DatesandMates.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dating is a learned skill, not a natural born talent. The fifth episode of The Summer Series features a popular interview from The Mark Groves Podcast. Together, Mark and Damona discuss how you can build self worth by swiping left on dating apps, how the stories we tell ourselves may be holding us back in dating, and how hidden biases show up in our dating lives. Be sure to follow Mark on Instagram @ItsMarkGroves or @CreateTheLove and check out the Mark Groves podcast wherever you listen to Dates & Mates. Want personalized dating help? Last week to apply for the Diamond VIP one-on-one coaching program. Book an assessment session with with our team before the spots are all filled up!  DamonaHoffman.com/vipprogram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nora McInerny, author and host of the podcast, Terrible, Thanks For Asking, discusses how she managed after losing the love of her life, how she opened herself back up to love and how every experience in between led her to exactly where she is today. The Dating Dish headline today is: Dating is Broken. Going Retro Could Fix It. The Dear Damona question is: I found my missed connection on LinkedIn. Should I message him? Be sure to pick up a copy of Bad Vibes Only: And Other Things I Bring To The Table by visiting Nora’s website: https://noraborealis.com/ And follow Nora on Instagram @Noraborealis Interested in Matchmaking? Go to https://www.threedayrule.com/damonahoffman to request a consultation with Damona’s matchmaking colleague at Three Day Rule. Check out The New York Times article Dating Is Broken. Going Retro Could Fix It. https://www.nytimes.com/2022/09/29/opinion/dating-courtship-relationships.html Sponsors: Ready to spice up your me-time, explore your fantasies, or heat things up with a partner? Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/DATESANDMATES You can have your best night’s sleep with comfy sheets and loungewear from Cozy Earth. Go to CozyEarth.com and use the code Damona for 35% off sitewide.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are kicking off the “F The Fairy Tale” Summer Series this week with one of our most-asked questions: Online dating doesn’t work for me. How do I meet my match IRL? Plus, Damona shares dating tips for the summer and her own story of an epic summer romance with a man who went by the name of Mr. Pandemonium. Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you’ll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Wednesday Martin, writer and social researcher, explains the ways our animal brains are adapting with technology and how to find connection in the new dating landscape. The Dating Dish returns: Bumble’s 2024 Dating Forecast Findings are here! The Dear Damona question is: Can you be a committed dater when you are an adventure seeker dreaming about starting a new life abroad? Follow Dr. Wednesday Martin on Instagram @WednesdayMartinPHD and grab a copy of her book, “Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free”. Damona’s new book “F the Fairy Tale” is available for preorder NOW. Just go to FtheFairyTaleBook.com And, join Damona and some of her favorite love experts on December 7th for a one-night only LIVE stream event! Sign up at DamonaHoffman.com/forum Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Keishorne Scott, author and relationship & heartbreak coach, shares his strategies for healing after a breakup and setting boundaries. Plus, he’ll tell you which matches to avoid and which ones are safe to date. The Dating Dish this week is: Speed dating is making a comeback as Gen Z ditches dating apps. USA Today says, we shouldn't be surprised. The Dear Damona question is: What’s the etiquette for messaging a new match? Follow Keishorne on Instagram @KeishorneScott and learn more about his work and books at KeishorneScott.com! Share the love: Get your copy of F the Fairy Tale on Amazon today and take advantage of the discounted rate. Then leave a review and Damona may thank you live on-air! TIMESTAMPS (00:01:04) Spring cleaning and new beginnings - Damona discusses the positive aspects of spring and new relationship beginnings. (00:02:37) Speed dating resurgence - Damona discusses the resurgence of speed dating and its comparison to dating apps. (00:08:07) Preparing for speed dating - Damona host provides advice on preparing for speed dating events and engaging in meaningful conversations. (00:12:55) Managing expectations in dating - Damona emphasizes the importance of managing expectations and having a positive mindset in dating. 00:16:15) Introduction to Keishorne Scott - Damona introduces Keishorne Scott, a relationship and heartbreak coach, and discusses his work. (00:16:57) Overcoming heartbreak - Keishorne shares his personal experience with heartbreak and the journey to self-love and healing. (00:18:01) Self Work and Understanding Love - Keishorne discusses the self-work needed before marriage and understanding love. (00:20:00) Masculine and Feminine Gender Roles - Keishorne and Damona debate traditional gender roles in relationships and personal expression. (00:21:18) Types of Men to Avoid - Keishorne explains the "mouse," "bird," "dog," and "lion" archetypes and why to avoid them. (00:23:29) Recognizing Relationship Red Flags - Keishorne and Damona discuss the importance of communication and addressing personal issues in relationships. (00:28:03) Knowing When to Move On - Keishorne shares insights on recognizing when a relationship has run its course and the importance of mental health. (00:31:20) Healing from Heartbreak - Keishorne discusses the individual nature of healing from heartbreak and the non-negotiable aspect of self-healing. (00:32:49) Dealing with heartbreak and self-love - Keishorne Scott advises taking time to focus on oneself after a breakup. 00:33:40 Overcoming heartbreak and reconnecting with oneself - Damona Hoffman discusses the process of healing and reestablishing one's identity. 00:35:03 The discomfort of healing - Keishorne and Damona explore the discomfort that comes with healing and the importance of seeking support. 00:36:42 Maintaining boundaries - Keishorne and Damona discuss the importance of setting and maintaining personal boundaries in relationships. 00:39:08 Parting words and gratitude - Keishorne expresses gratitude for the discussion and shares insight on the importance of boundaries for personal protection. 00:40:22 Advice for a listener's dating situation - Damona addresses a listener's concerns about texting frequency and dating intentions. 00:47:56 Upcoming episode preview and book promotion - Damona promotes an upcoming episode and a book deal for "F the Fairytale." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sara Jane Ho, etiquette expert and host of Netflix’s Mind Your Manners, joins to share the definitive etiquette rules for dating, talking, and texting inspired by her new book. The Dating Dish story this week comes from CNN:  Bumble no longer requires women to make the first move!  Then our Dear Damona question this week is: My match and I are traveling farther than normal to meet. Does that mean our date should last longer? ANNOUNCEMENT: For the first time in a long time, Damona and her team are offering 1-on-1 coaching! Apply to become her next success story at DamonaHoffman.com/application Follow Sara Jane on Instagram @SaraJaneHo and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Mind Your Manners: How to Be Your Best Self in Any Situation”. Read the CNN article for yourself: cnn.com/2024/04/30/tech/bumble-relaunch-men-make-first-move/index.html Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dufflyn Lammers, Relationship and Recovery Coach, outlines how to set healthy boundaries with your loved ones and dates so that you can have a happy and healthy holiday season. The Dating Dish headline is: Just FYI, Your Fourth Date Should Absolutely Be a Day Date. And the Dear Damona question is: My matches aren’t putting in the same effort I do. Should I confront them? Be sure to follow Dufflyn on Instagram @Dufflyn and check out her upcoming course Boundaries Are The New Black happening Saturday, December 17, 2022.  You can also download her FREE guide, 8 Top Tips for Getting Through the Holidays with Boundaries, by visiting: https://www.relationshipinrecovery.com/f/8-top-tips-for-getting-through-the-holidays Sponsor: Spice up your me time with an extended 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/DATESANDMATES Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Julia Haart, fashion designer, CEO of Elite World Group, and star of Netflix series My Unorthodox Life talks about going from an Ultra-Orthodox Jewish community to designing lingerie and shares tips on finding your voice and power in a relationship. Follow Julia on Instagram @JuliaHaart and learn more about her sexy shapewear by visiting BodyByJuliaHaart.com Calling all questions for our next Dear Damona episode! Submit yours on Instagram, Twitter or Facebook @DamonaHoffman or text/call 424-246-6255. Ready to find your forever match? This is the LAST WEEK of enrollment for our live group program. Register at the lowest rate today at: DamonaHoffman.com/program A limited number of free mini-coaching sessions with my VIP coach are available for listeners interested in the group or one-on-one coaching: DamonaHoffman.com/session Timestamps: 00:00 Reinvention 02:25 Julia Haart 06:41 Shifting Into Body Confidence 18:12 Don’t Take Freedom For Granted 25:05 Are You A Gardener Or A Flower? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Damona’s new book F the Fairy Tale is available for pre-order NOW! In this special all Dear Damona episode, Damona is answering your questions to get dating with confidence for the new year ahead Questions include: How do I know when to say I love you to my partner? How do I deal with matches that do not carry their side of the conversation?  How do I tell if my much younger match is a good fit long term? How do I remain optimistic when finding my person seems to be taking longer than expected?  Pre-order your copy of “F The Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story” now and enter the giveaway for a chance to win 2 VIP tickets to The Drew Barrymore Show, a $500 travel voucher from New Leaf Literary, a $500 shopping spree from Democracy Clothing, or OkCupid Premium membership! Check out the rules and deets at DamonaHoffman.com/giveaway Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

F the Fairy Tale is an Amazon #1 Bestseller! Get your copy at FtheFairyTaleBook.com or from your favorite bookseller today in hardcover, audiobook, or ebook format.  In this special all Dear Damona episode, Damona is answering your questions just in time for Valentine’s Day. Questions include: How do I date younger men? What is proper dating etiquette when preparing for a big move? What do I do when I feel like my matches are trying to date a stereotype? Should I be concerned by my date’s frequent compliments? And, what are some tips for choosing good photos for my dating profile? The Dating Accelerator Program is back! Break free from the 5 dating loops and finally find the relationship you imagine for yourself through this self-paced online program. For a limited time, add on one-on-one coaching too at DamonaHoffman.com/course Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kara Loewentheil, Master Certified Life Coach, applies an analytical, feminist lens towards understanding our current dating culture and how our old stories may be affecting our decisions in love. The Dating Dish story this week is based on a national study conducted by Whirlpool: Spring Clean Your Dating Profile: A Surprising Social Experiment Uncovers What Singles Prioritize Most  Then our Dear Damona question this week is: How can I get more messages from my matches? LIVE ONLINE EVENT: Damona is hosting a one night only, live workshop talking about how to meet your matches online and off. Sign up for the Dating Decoded workshop at DamonaHoffman.com/workshop Follow Kara on Instagram @KaraLoewentheil and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Take Back Your Brain: How A Sexist Society Gets In Your Head and How To Get It Out.” Read about the Whirpool survey at: prnewswire.com/news-releases/spring-clean-your-dating-profile-whirlpool-brand-uncovers-what-singles-prioritize-most-in-a-potential-partner-302077664.html Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Season 11 premiere episode, Shan Boodram, host of the Roku series “The Marriage Pact”, explores what it means to be friends first in a relationship and how much physical chemistry really matters in marriage. Follow Shan on Instagram @ShanBoodram and check out The Marriage Pact on Roku for free! Our first all Dear Damona of the season will be airing September 5th. Be sure to submit your questions on Instagram, Twitter or Facebook @DamonaHoffman or text/call 424-246-6255. Want personalized dating help? If you want to be one of the first to know about the next Diamond VIP one-on-one coaching program spots, you can snag one of the early bird spots at a deeeeeep discount, there are three ways you can get in: Send me a DM with the word PROGRAM Go to DatesandMates.com and press the contact button at the top right and send me a message via the website or text Sponsor: Get 50% off plus free shipping on America’s #1 meal kit, HelloFresh, by visiting HelloFresh.com/50datesandmates and use code 50datesandmates Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Still wrapping your head around dating apps? The final episode of our Summer Series features a recent interview with Kim and Grandma Gail on the Excuse My Grandma podcast. Together they break down Grandma Gail’s aversion to today’s top dating tool. Plus, Damona shares her tips on the proper way to screen your dating app matches, why you shouldn’t text too much before a first date, and how a quick phone call could save you hours. Be sure to follow Kim and Grandma Gail on Instagram @Excuse My Grandma and check out the Excuse My Grandma podcast wherever you listen to Dates & Mates. Need a dating profile polish? Time is running out to get The Profile Starter Kit for free at DatesandMates.com Sponsors: Factor, America’s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with chef-prepared, dietitian-approved ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Get 50% off when you head to FactorMeals.com/DatesAndMates50 and use the code DatesAndMates50! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James Pendergrass and Brittan Byrd, stars of the hit reality series Too Hot Too Handle Season 4, share their love story and surprising new revelations. This week’s Dating Dish is: Americans plan to spend nearly $26 billion this Valentine’s Day - but what are they buying? The Dear Damona question this week is: I have found myself involved with someone who wants a large family, when I am not sure I even want to have kids. Do I need to shift my mindset or just let go? Follow James on Instagram @JamesPendergrass_ and Brittan @Brittan_Byrd and watch Season 4 of Too Hot To Handle on Netflix now! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jennifer Hurvitz, best-selling author and relationship coach, shares her personal experience and outlines how to return to dating after a big breakup. The Dating Dish headline is: Is the relationship doomed if you’re not sexually attracted to your partner. In Dear Damona a listener says: My boyfriend is great on paper, but things feel mundane. Am I being too picky, unrealistic, or holding onto an idealized connection that may never materialize?  Be sure to follow Jennifer on Instagram @DoingRelationshipsRight and check out her book “Midlife Priceless: A Dating Coach’s Guide to *Finally* Doing Relationships Right”. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special all Dear Damona episode, Damona is answering your questions to prep you for Short King Spring and Hot Girl Summer! Questions include: How can I feel successful enough to feel comfortable dating? My match is a bad texter. Is that a bad sign? How do I know when to stop looking for my match? Should I ever meet my match for the first time in a group setting? How do I open myself up to dating outside of my race? I want to explore my sexuality. How do I attract the right attention on dating apps? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lily Womble, host of the Date Brazen podcast, shares insights from her new book, “Thank You, More Please” so that you can navigate the dating world with eyes wide open and a little main character energy. Plus, she will share how to know when it's time for a dating detox.  The Dating Dish story this week is based on new findings from Tinder: The Green Flags Study on Assumptions & Dating Then our Dear Damona question this week is: How fast is too fast when dating a new match? Follow Lily on Instagram @DateBrazen and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Thank You, More Please”. Read the Tinder study by visiting: tinderpressroom.com/The-Green-Flags-Study#assets_all Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. Dates & Mates is sponsored by Betterhelp. TIMESTAMPS (00:00:00) Intro (00:01:38) Tinder's "Green Flag Study" on assumptions in dating  (00:05:47) Challenges in modern dating  (00:07:00) Creating positive dating experiences  (00:14:57) Criticism of dating apps  (00:17:24) The challenges of modern dating  (00:18:36) Design of dating apps  (00:19:01) Impact of dating apps on users  (00:21:23) Dependency on dating apps  (00:22:22) Main character energy in dating  (00:25:57) The practice of dating skills  (00:30:15) Challenging societal messaging  (00:29:11) Bragging on a date  (00:34:22) Brazen Bragging  (00:38:08) Essence Based Preferences  (00:42:18) Dating Detox: When and Why  (00:48:28) Importance of Intentional Dating  (00:49:21) Navigating Relationship Preparation  (00:49:58) Lily Womble's new book, "Thank You More Please"  (00:50:27) Listener Question: Relationship Pace  (00:51:52) The Notion of "Slow Love"  (00:53:06) Balancing New Love and Personal Life  (00:55:21) Cherishing New Love  (00:56:32) Invitation for Questions and Future Episode Preview Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Damona’s husband, Seth Hoffman (TV writer of The Walking Dead, House, and Prison Break) shares secrets, stories, and advice for their Sweet 16th anniversary. The Dating Dish this week is: Should you wear a pear ring for your relationship status? Damona’s free profile starter kit is available for a limited time only at DatesandMates.com Sponsors: Go to GreenChef.com/datesandmates60 and use code datesandmates60 to get 60% off plus free shipping! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you ready for a deep dive into dating apps? In the second episode of Damona’s Summer Series the tables are being turned as she shares her recent interview with dating expert, Ilana Dunn, on the Seeing Other People podcast. Together they cover Damona’s formula for sending the first message, the true definition of exclusivity and the importance of dedicating yourself to the dating process. Be sure to follow Ilana on Instagram @Ilana.Dunn and check out the Seeing Other People podcast wherever you listen to Dates & Mates. Want personalized dating help? For a limited time, Damona is taking applicants for the Diamond VIP one-on-one coaching program. Book an assessment session with Coach Yogi Marquis to see if it’s a fit! DamonaHoffman.com/vipprogram Get America’s #1 meal kit! Go to HelloFresh dot com slash datesandmates50 and and use code datesandmates50 for 50% off plus free shipping! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordan Green, family therapist and the founder of the Remble app, breaks down the 5 stages of every relationship to help you navigate the ups and downs that come with time. The Dating Dish headline today is: Here’s the No. 1 thing that makes relationships successful according to psychologists. The Dear Damona question is: I’m ready to return to dating and Bumble seems right for me. Can you share some tips? Be sure to follow Jordan on Instagram @The.Love.Therapist and check out the Remble app!  Sponsor: Spice up your me time with an extended 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/DATESANDMATES. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sandy Weiner, Host of Last First Date Radio, reveals the reasons people sometimes make poor choices in dating and shares the skills that will ultimately lead you to your last first date. The Dating Dish this week is: How dating became like shopping now and what you can do to get a good haul. The Dear Damona question is: I’m ready to meet my match, but he wants to wait… longer? Is this a red flag or “slow love”? Be sure to follow Sandy on Instagram @LastFirstDate1 and grab a copy of her new book, "Choice Points in Dating: Empowering Women to Make Healthier Decisions in Love".  Get Damona’s free profile starter kit at DatesandMates.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nicole Lapin, best-selling author and host of the podcast Money Rehab, meets you at the intersection of money and dating to help you develop your financial love language. The Dating Dish headline today is: Do you have a type? Maybe what you think you want and what you actually prefer don’t match up. The Dear Damona question is: After having our first video chat, I can no longer see myself kissing my match. What should I do? Be sure to follow Nicole on Instagram @NicoleLapin and pick up a copy of her book “Miss Independent” at NicoleLapin.com! Sponsor: The gift of health has never been so easy to share than it is this holiday. For listeners of the show, Everlywell is offering a discount of 20% off an at-home lab test at everlywell.com/datesandmates. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The idea of one perfect match is attractive, but the pursuit of soulmates actually prevents singles from moving into committed relationships AND from staying when things get tough. Damona tackles The Soulmate Myth revealing how it leads to an either or mentality and outlines how to approach dating with an abundance mindset instead. Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you’ll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. TIMESTAMPS (00:00:00) Introduction to the Soulmate Myth  (00:01:06) The Soulmate Myth Explained  (00:02:27) Shifting Mindsets  (00:04:37) Listener Question on Soulmates  (00:03:29) Statistics on Belief in Soulmates  (00:05:59) The Impact of Dating Apps  (00:07:15) Probability of Finding a Soulmate  (00:08:42) Destiny vs. Growth Mindset  (00:10:13) Myth Origins and Beliefs  (00:11:16) Invitation to Join the Book Squad  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stuck in a dating loop? The third episode of Damona’s Summer Series features a recent interview with Jase and Dedeker on the Multiamory podcast. Together they discuss Damona’s tips for overcoming dating app fatigue, how to know if you should go on a second or third date, and why you should microdose your dating. Be sure to follow Emily, Dedeker, and Jase on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and check out the Multiamory podcast wherever you listen to Dates & Mates. Want personalized dating help? For a limited time, Damona is taking applicants for the Diamond VIP one-on-one coaching program. Book an assessment session with Coach Yogi Marquis to see if it’s a fit! DamonaHoffman.com/vipprogram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special Halloween episode, Damona is back with another round of your deepest, darkest dating horror stories. She’s joined by Rory Uphold, actress, singer-songwriter and host of the podcast, Crimes of the Heart. Together they discuss what went wrong and what you might be able to do if you find yourself in a similar situation. The Dating Dish headline today is: 95 Couples Costumes Ideas That Are Cute, But Not The Nauseating Kind Of Cute. Be sure to follow Rory on Instagram @ICouldBeBlonder  And, check out her podcast, Crimes of the Heart, wherever you listen to Dates & Mates. Download the free Profile Starter Kit at datesandmates.lpages.co/profile-starter-kit-opt-in/ Sponsors: You can have your best night’s sleep with comfy sheets and loungewear from Cozy Earth. Go to CozyEarth.com and use the code 'Damona' for 35% off sitewide.   Everlywell is digital healthcare designed for you. Get 20% off an at-home lab test at everlywell.com/datesandmates Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special all Dear Damona episode, Damona is answering your questions to prep you for Dating Sunday and Peak Dating Season (aka right now!) Questions include: Some of my match’s questions make me uncomfortable. How should I respond? And, I am in the process of moving but want to start meeting matches in my new location right away. Am I getting ahead of myself? Plus, I haven’t dated in 7 years and the idea of getting back out there makes me anxious. What can I do? And, my matches say they want something serious, but then their actions don’t match. What is going on here? ANNOUNCEMENT! Damona is running her signature dating coaching group LIVE one last time starting the week of January 23rd. If you want to find love in 2023, this is your moment! Hear new success stories and see how the program can change your love life too at TheDatingSecret.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rachel Lindsay, media personality and star of The Bachelorette Season 13, talks about her new novel “Real Love!” which explores what happens when you take the road less traveled in love. This week’s Dating Dish is: A new survey shows how the rise of dating apps has fundamentally changed the way people find and keep relationships. The Dear Damona question this week is: How do I manage all of these dating app conversations? Follow Rachel on Instagram @TheRachLindsay and be sure to pick up a copy of her new novel, “Real Love!” and her essay book, “Miss Me With That: Hot Takes, Helpful Tidbits, and a Few Hard Truths”. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Robin, a long-time listener, shares her journey in love and her 180 transformation from when she began listening to the show, and gives inspiration for writing your incredible love story for 2024. Last Call for the Pre-order Giveaway!! F the Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story, Damona’s new book, will be released on 1/2/24.  Pre-order F the Fairy Tale now and enter to win 2 tickets to see The Drew Barrymore Show, a $500 wardrobe from Democracy Clothing, a $500 travel voucher courtesy of New Leaf Literary, or an OkCupid Premium membership at DamonaHoffman.com/giveaway  Tertulia, a new curated online bookstore, is  giving a 20% off discount to listeners of Dates & Mates! Just use the code DATING at checkout and you can even get 50% off plus free shipping when you take a free trial of their membership. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join Damona and top dating experts on Thursday for the F the Fairy Tale Forum - Register free at DamonaHoffman.com/Forum  Dr. Tara, award-winning sex researcher and host of the Luvbites by Dr. Tara podcast,, shares her secrets to improved conflict resolution and empathetic listening. Plus she reveals whether jealousy is truly bad in a relationship. The Dating Dish is: Introducing the official current dating app etiquette!! The Dear Damona question is: How do I get my boyfriend to be honest with me? Dr. Tara gives amazing love and sex advice on Instagram @Luvbites.co and her podcast, Luv Bites by Dr. Tara. Pre-order F the Fairy Tale from your favorite bookseller and enter to win 2 tickets to see The Drew Barrymore Show live and in person in NYC along with a $500 wardrobe makeover from Democracy clothing, a $500 travel voucher courtesy of New Leaf Literary, or an OkCupid Premium membership at DamonaHoffman.com/giveaway Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Britt Frank, author and licensed psychotherapist, talks about her new book, The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. This week’s Dating Dish is: How Reproductive Rights Impact Dating (according to new OkCupid data). The Dear Damona questions this week is: How much is too much when it comes to sharing details about your profession in your dating profile? Follow Britt on Instagram @BrittFrank and grab a copy of her new book The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emily Morse, Doctor of Human Sexuality & the host of the Sex With Emily podcast, talks about her new book, “Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure” in this very special Valentine’s Day episode. This week’s Dating Dish: Do you code-switch on dating apps? Plus, Emily answers these question with Damona in a supersized Dear Damona segment: I find that my matches often fetishize me. Please help! * I met a girl that I’m really attracted to, but she is a bad kisser. What can I do? * Would it be bad to tell my partner that I love her for the first time during sex?   Be sure to follow Emily on Instagram @SexWithEmily and pre-order her upcoming book, “Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure”, by visiting sexwithemily.com/book Get Damona’s free profile starter kit at DatesandMates.com Check out the NY Times article on code switching at: https://www.nytimes.com/2023/02/06/style/dating-app-profile-differences.html Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Think summer isn’t a good time for dating? Think again! In the first episode of Damona’s “Summer Series” she outlines why summer is a unique time to find love, where you’re most likely to make a match, and the key elements of flirting. Damona is now offering the Dating Accelerator as a self-study online program! Visit TheDatingSecret.com to learn more. If you’re ready for Damona’s 201 flirt school class, check out her Guide on Flirting in the Blinkist app! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jeff Guenther, AKA TherapyJeff on Instagram, joins Damona in the premiere of Season 12 of Dates & Mates for a state of the date address! They cover all phases of the dating journey from clarifying what you’re seeking to first dates, defining the relationship and even planning for the dreaded breakup. The Dear Damona question this week is: What’s the best way to reach out to someone new on LinkedIn? Be sure to follow Jeff on Instagram @TherapyJeff and grab a copy of his new book, Big Dating Energy, on shelves now! And get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Season 12 (00:00:00) Overview of the Episode (00:02:06) Introducing Therapy Jeff (00:04:29) Jeff's Book Release (00:05:00) Collaborating with an Ex (00:06:47) Personal Insights in the Book (00:08:48) Clarifying Deal Breakers (00:12:04) Understanding Relationship Needs (00:15:18) The Role of Fears in Dating (00:18:31) Dating Apps Discussion (00:20:07) The Impact of Dating Apps on Love (23:20) The Shift in Dating Dynamics (23:41) Boundaries with Technology (24:27) The Need for Healthy Relationships (27:48) Imagining Ideal Dating Apps (28:16) Cultural Changes in Dating Apps (29:39) Tips for Long-term Relationship Survival (30:19) Navigating Conflict in Relationships (31:59) Communication After Intimacy (33:10) Creating Sexual Energy (35:24) Understanding Breakups (36:45) Ethical Breakup Practices (39:05) The Value of Planning in Relationships (41:38) The Intimacy of Breakup Conversations (43:09) Listener Question on LinkedIn Outreach (44:02) Introduction and Connector Circle (00:46:04) Sliding into DMs (00:46:59) Approaching on LinkedIn (00:48:11) Navigating Online Connections (00:49:19) Promoting the Dates & Mates Method (00:50:16) Call for Listener Questions (00:51:13) Wrap-Up and Guest Teaser (00:52:06) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jennifer Cook, the autism and dating expert on Netflix’s Love on the Spectrum, tells us what to expect if you’re dating someone on the spectrum or if you have a hunch that you might be on the spectrum yourself. Plus, she gives practical exercises for building the skills of dating, even if you’re neurotypical. The Dating Dish this week is: Wanted, True Love. Reward, $100,000. Then our Dear Damona question this week is: What do I do if my date keeps talking about their spouse who passed on? Follow Jennifer on IG @JenniferCook_Author and check out “Love On The Spectrum US” on Netflix! Read the full New York Times article at nytimes.com/2024/02/13/business/dating-bounty-roy-zaslavskiy.html Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The hosts of the Multiamory podcast, Jase, Emily, and Dedeker, give insights on boundaries, micro-scripts for tough conversations, non-traditional relationships and other juicy tidbits from their new book Multiamory: Essential Tools For Modern Relationships. The Dating Dish this week: Why has height become such a significant factor in dating? The Dear Damona question is: How can I help my brother get back on the dating scene after divorce?  Follow them on Instagram @multiamory_podcast and grab a copy of their new book, Multiamory: Essential Tools For Modern Relationships, by visiting Multiamory.com/book Get Damona’s free profile starter kit for a limited time only at DatesandMates.com Sponsor: Green Chef is the #1 Meal Kit for Eating Well. Go to GreenChef.com/datesandmates60 and use code datesandmates60 to get 60% off plus free shipping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aleeza Ben Shalom, expert of the new Netflix series Jewish Matchmaking, shares her top matchmaking tips, some secrets from the show and a 5 date challenge that’s going to blow your mind. The Dating Dish this week: Is modern dating really worse than dating before? Or do we just keep saying it is? The Dear Damona question is: Am I too set in my ways to meet and keep a match? Follow Aleeza on Instagram @AleezaBenShalom and watch Jewish Matchmaking on Netflix now! Get Damona’s free profile starter kit at DatesandMates.com Do you have a question for our all Dear Damona episode? We are taking voicememos in the DMs @DamonaHoffman and Voicemails at 424-246-6255 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Erika Ettin, Founder of the online dating consultancy company, A Little Nudge, talks about the state of digital dating covering topics like message bait, text-speak, dating scripts and the recency bias. Follow Erika on Instagram @ALittleNudge and sign up for her coaching programs by visiting www.alittlenudge.com/coaching_d/  Having trouble tracking your dates? Grab Damona’s free date tracker download at DamonaHoffman.com/datetracker Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dan Savage, the host of the Savage Lovecast and the long-running column, Savage Love, talks about writing the rules of your own relationship. This week’s Dating Dish: If you clap when planes land, your partner might break up with you. Plus, Dan joins Damona in a very special Dear Damona to answer these questions: I put so much pressure on myself to find a guy that meets my standards, I think I am hindering myself from finding my match. What should I do? And, even though I want to be sexually open - I find myself getting attached to flings. How do I detach from my hookups? Be sure to follow Dan on Instagram @DanSavage and listen to the Savage Lovecast wherever you listen to Dates & Mates. And, be sure to grab a copy of Dan’s latest book, “Savage Love from A to Z: Advice on Sex and Relationships, Dating and Mating, Exes and Extras”. ANNOUNCEMENT! Damona is running her signature dating coaching group LIVE one last time starting the week of January 23rd. If you want to find love in 2023, this is your moment! Want to learn more? Check out the free intro class on Wednesday January 18th at 4pm PT/ 7pm ET. You can sign up for that at DamonaHoffman.com/freeclass Sponsor: Green Chef makes eating well easy with plans to fit every lifestyle. Go to GreenChef dot com slash DATESANDMATES60 and use code DATESANDMATES60 to 60% off plus free shipping Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lauren Zoeller, Certified Dating and Relationship Coach, talks about how you can become aligned in love, personally and in your relationships. The Dating Dish this week is: How many swipes does it take to find love online? The Dear Damona question is: Help! I have too many dating app messages and I’m getting burned out! Be sure to follow Lauren on Instagram @LaurenZoeller and learn more about her work by visiting: laurenzoeller.com/ Get Damona’s free profile starter kit at DatesandMates.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In Damona’s anniversary episode, her daughter Addie shares what she’s learned about dating and relationships from her parents 17 years of marriage. Then, Addie takes over the Dear Damona segment with dating questions from the next generation of daters that are surprisingly relatable to people of all ages, like: Is it okay to tell a friend that you think the person they are dating isn't a good fit? What are the signs that someone is attracted to you? How do you break up with someone kindly? What’s more important, looks or compatibility? And the Dating Dish of the week is “Lessons Learned: They Married, Divorced and Then Married Their Ex-Spouses Again”. Read the complete article from The New York Times: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/03/09/style/ex-spouse-divorced-remarried.html Share the love: Get your copy of F the Fairy Tale on Amazon today and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode! TIMECODES 00:00:00 Introduction 00:01:09 F The Fairy Tale - Think of a Relationship Like a Table 00:03:18 Episode Preview - The Future of Dating, Insights on Dating & Relationships from Damona's Daughter, Addie. 00:04:26 Dating Dish - New York Times: Discussion on couples who married, divorced, and remarried each other. 00:05:40 Story of Leslie and Val navigating religious differences in their relationship. 00:08:11 Story of Jean and Ronnie marrying and divorcing multiple times, and their lessons learned about the importance of being a team in a relationship. 00:10:33 Final take away from the article emphasizes the importance of not overdoing intense emotional conversations in relationships. 00:11:33 Addie Introduction 00:12:35 Addie discusses the current state of dating from a teenager's perspective. 00:13:13 Addie's perspective on the challenges of finding and meeting potential partners outside of school. 00:14:42 Addie's insights on different stages of dating and where people in her class are meeting potential partners. 00:15:45 Addie shares her observations of Damona and Seth's relationship and the importance of humor in relationships. 00:17:45 Addie's thoughts on wanting marriage and kids in the future, and the freedom to design her own dating destiny. 00:20:34 Discussion on the appropriateness of commenting on a friend's relationship and the potential impact on the friendship. 00:23:50 Signs of attraction, including body language, changes in behavior, and the importance of face-to-face interaction. 00:28:50 The importance of honest communication and creating a safe space for sharing feelings during a breakup. 00:33:17 The value of connection, shared experiences, and shared values in deepening chemistry, and the impact of instant attraction in modern dating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Morgana Rae, bestselling author and 7-figure spiritual life and business coach, shows us how to manifest more abundance in our lives whether it’s in the form of money, a partner, or perhaps both! To learn more, visit Morgana’s website MorganaRae.com and grab a copy of her bestselling book, "Financial Alchemy: 12 Months of Magic & Manifestation.” Calling all questions for our next Dear Damona episode! Submit yours on Instagram, Twitter or Facebook @DamonaHoffman or text/call 424-246-6255. You are invited to join the FREE 4 day “F The Fairytale Challenge”! Damona breaks down exactly how to break through the dating myths and rewrite your love life LIVE daily starting September 12th. Get access to all of the videos, digests and the challenges at DamonaHoffman.com/challenge Sponsor: For flavor packed meals delivered right to your door, go to FactorMeals.com/DatesAndMates50 and use the code DatesAndMates50 to get 50% off! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Matt Marr, co-host of Reality Gays, joins Damona for a very special all Dating Dish episode. The headlines include: Co-habitation tips inspired by 'Love Is Blind' couple Matt and Colleen, 20 Truths & Myths About Relationships, and Tyler James Williams schools us on LGBTQ+ Allyship…happy pride month! Follow Matt on Instagram @TheMattMarr and check out Reality Gays wherever you listen to Dates & Mates. I am now offering the Dating Accelerator as a self-study online program! Visit TheDatingSecret.com to register today at a special introductory rate. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Pre-order F the Fairy Tale from your favorite bookseller and enter to win 2 tickets to see The Drew Barrymore Show live and in person in NYC along with a $500 wardrobe makeover from Democracy clothing, a $500 travel voucher courtesy of New Leaf Literary, or an OkCupid Premium membership at DamonaHoffman.com/giveaway  Paul Keable, the chief strategy officer for Ashley Madison, breaks down the company's recently published study, “Decoding Gen Z: A global report on non-monogamy, sex, and the desire for discretion”. The Dating Dish is: What secrets are people keeping in their relationships? WalletHub announces the Financial Secrets Survey. The Dear Damona question is: How do I move on completely from my ex? Read the WalletHub survey on Financial Secrets by visiting https://wallethub.com/blog/financial-secrets-survey/131537 Check out the Ashley Madison study on decoding Gen Z by visiting AshleyMadison.com/insights Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Inessa Freya, international feng shui master and spiritual psychologist, reveals how simple changes in your home can attract new romantic possibilities, improve your current relationships, and bring a sense of harmony and balance that radiates from the inside out. Plus, Damona shares why she credits Inessa for being a part of bringing Mr. Hoffman into her life! But first we have a surprising dating dish to serve up for you: Move over healthcare! Could dating apps be the new benefit? Then our Dear Damona question this week is: Dating Burnout is real!!! How do I remain positive when I am struggling to find my match? Follow Inessa on Instagram @Inessa_Freya and learn more about her work by visiting www.fengshuifromtheheart.com Read the Forbes piece: forbes.com/sites/soulaimagourani/2024/06/04/dating-services-as-a-future-company-perk/?sh=5df2e008459a Read the Independent piece: https://sg.news.yahoo.com/tokyo-launch-first-government-run-091413507.html Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. Dates & Mates is sponsored by Betterhelp. TIMESTAMPS TIMESTAMPS (00:00:15) The introduction to Feng Shui (00:02:24) Dating apps as employee benefits  (00:06:20) Government-sponsored dating apps  (00:08:59) Introduction to Inessa Freya (00:10:36) Understanding Feng Shui  (00:12:39) Personal experiences with Feng Shui (00:18:01) Clearing up energy and finding love (00:19:52) Visualizing love and moving for love (00:24:32) Feng Shui principles and applying them (00:26:33) Decluttering and space clearing  (00:33:13) Space Clearing with Intention  (00:33:47) Impact of Objects on Energy  (00:35:14) Moving and Arranging Items  (00:35:55) Feng Shui Rules for Bed Placement  (00:39:38) Ancient Aspects of Feng Shui  (00:42:00) Maintaining a Positive Dating Mindset  (00:47:35) Challenging Societal Narratives  (00:48:42) Attracting Someone  (00:49:52) Mindset and Clarity  (00:50:50) The Five Dating Loops  (00:51:57) Setting Intentions  (00:53:03) Upcoming Season Finale  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feeling butterflies with a match may seem like a good sign for your romantic future, but many times it's a window to the past. Damona busts The Chemistry Myth so that you can stop missing the  true markers of relationship success and stop second guessing your dating choices. Plus, she answers this spicy Dear Damona question: How fast is too fast to have sex with a new person? Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you’ll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. TIMESTAMPS (00:00:10) The Chemistry Myth  (00:00:55) Personal Experience with Chemistry Myth  (00:04:27) Physiological Aspect of Chemistry  (00:05:33) Dear Damona Question on Slow Love  (00:07:42) Tossing out Timelines  (00:08:41) Safe Sex and Boundaries  (00:11:13) Joining the Book Squad  (00:12:24) Conclusion and Invitation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all hope to feel something special on that first date, but true love takes time, and so does trust. Damona debunks The Chemistry Myth and The Soulmate Myth while offering real solutions to today’s dating troubles. Based on themes from her new book, F The Fairy Tale, this episode highlights The Goals Pillar and The Values Pillar in a conversation between Damona and love and relationship experts, Carol Allen & Katherine Woodward, in one of the top panels from the F the Fairy Tale Forum last year. Be sure to follow Carol on Instagram @CarolAllenAstrologer and get a special discount on her annual personal success calendar at DamonaHoffman.com/mycalendar And, be sure to follow Katherine on Instagram @KatherineWoodwardThomas and check out her work at KatherineWoodwardThomas.com Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. TIMESTAMPS (00:00:00) Introduction to the Episode  (00:01:07) Transition to Communication and Trust  (00:02:04) The Chemistry Myth  (00:03:05) Introducing Guests Katherine and Carol  (00:03:56) Insights on Communication  (00:06:45) Astrological Compatibility Discussion  (00:10:10) Understanding Relationship Dynamics  (00:14:23) Scarcity Mindset in Dating  (00:18:08) Listener Questions and Support  (00:19:13) Dating Fatigue at 26  (00:20:10) Late Bloomers in Love  (00:22:19) Faith and Trust in Dating  (00:24:09) Top Dealbreakers in Relationships  (00:25:42) Self-Reflection in Relationships  (00:27:54) Abundant Mindset Tips  (00:29:31) From Wallflower to Proficient Dater  (00:30:12) Strategic Dating Approach  (00:32:27) Promoting Personal Success Calendars  (00:33:20) Book Reviews and Community Engagement Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Blaine Anderson, men’s dating coach, breaks down the fascinating findings from her Single Male Loneliness study and shares her tips for upleveling your textationship. The Dating Dish this week is: How Drew Barrymore gave us all a master class on empathic listening. The Dear Damona question is: I swipe left on profiles that mention the importance of chemistry. Am I making a mistake? Follow Blaine on Instagram @DatingByBlaine and learn more about her program by visiting DatingByBlaine.com Get Damona’s free profile starter kit at DatesandMates.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As we reflect on the year we’ve had and look ahead to start fresh, finding a partner to do life with often becomes a top priority. It all starts with getting clarity on what you’re looking for in a relationship. In this minisode Damona outlines the steps to making a vision board and breaks down why they work so that you can design a powerful roadmap for your life and manifest the relationship that you want.  Looking for support in finding your forever person in 2023? Early Bird Enrollment is now open for the next round of Damona’s signature coaching program, The Dating Accelerator! Get $300 off now through Dec. 31st with the code EARLYBIRD See testimonial videos, understand how the program changes lives and get on the road to a healthy relationship in the new year at TheDatingSecret.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

F the Fairy Tale is an Amazon #1 Bestseller! Get your copy at FtheFairyTaleBook.com or from your favorite bookseller today in hardcover, audiobook, or ebook format.  In this episode, Rainie Howard, speaker and bestselling author, outlines the steps to creating change and points out the signs that you may be in need of a shift yourself. The Dating Dish this week is: The hottest new dating site is here… And you know it as LinkedIn! And the Dear Damona question is: How do you know when you’ve been ghosted and what do you do about it?! Be sure to follow Rainie on Instagram @RainieHoward and check out The Rainie Howard Show wherever you listen to Dates & Mates! Read the Business Insider article, “The hottest new dating site: LinkedIn”, by visiting: businessinsider.com/linkedin-is-a-dating-app-remote-work-online-romance-2024-1 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Madeleine Reeves, Deputy Editor of Cosmopolitan Magazine, shares key data from their AI & Dating survey, plus tips to navigate the intersection of technology and love. This week’s Dating Dish is: Debunking the Love Languages: A New Look at Romance and Science. And, our Dear Damona question this week is: I’d like to be set up by a friend, but mine say they don’t have matches for me. What should I do? Read the article by visiting: https://neurosciencenews.com/love-relationships-psychology-25556/ Find Madeleine on Instagram @madeleinefrankreeves, Cosmopolitan on Instagram @Cosmopolitan and check out Cosmo & Bumble’s AI & Dating Study for yourself by visiting: https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a46574186/ai-dating/ REVIEWS WANTED: Get your copy of F the Fairy Tale on Amazon today and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special all Dear Damona episode, Damona is answering your questions to get you prepared for cuffing season. Questions include: Is it time to have a conversation about relationship status? How open do I need to be about my profession in my dating profile? How do I manage my expectations around first dates? How do I know when I am ready to return to dating? How to tell if my new relationship is too boring? You are invited to join the FREE 4 day “F The Fairytale Challenge”! Damona breaks down exactly how to break through the dating myths and rewrite your love life LIVE daily starting September 12th. Get access to all of the videos, digests and the challenges at DamonaHoffman.com/challenge Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Damona reveals a sneak preview of what you can expect from Season 11 of the Dates & Mates podcast. Plus, she shares the top moments from last season from guests like Rachel Lindsay from ABC’s The Bachelorette, Kamie Crawford from MTV’s Catfish, Roy Wood Jr from The Daily Show, sex & relationship columnist, Dan Savage, and clinical psychologist Orna Guralnik from Showtime’s Couples Therapy. Leave us a review and let us know what you want to hear more of in Season 11! Need a dating profile polish? Time is running out to get The Profile Starter Kit for free at DatesandMates.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Psychic Matchmaker Deborah Graham teaches singles to dial into their own psychic intuition. Plus, she shares her experiences as a psychic matchmaker, and her own story of being intuitively matched as well. Then, she gives a jaw-dropping live, on-air love reading. The Dating Dish this week is: Beware of Digital Body Language while you’re online dating. The Dear Damona questionis: What signs indicate that a person might be leaning towards commitment? Follow her on Instagram @PsychicDeborahGraham and learn more about her work by visiting psychicdeborahgraham.com F the Fairy Tale readers, the Dating Accelerator Program is open for on-going enrollment. Join today and get access to private livestreams with Damona just for VIP clients and Dating Accelerator students at DamonaHoffman.com/program TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 Intuition in Dating 00:02:32 Digital Body Language 00:13:15 Psychic Matchmaker's Introduction 00:14:39 Realization of Psychic Gifts 00:16:05 Limitations of Using Psychic Gifts 00:16:18 Arranged Marriage 00:17:49 Psychic Abilities 00:20:18 Beginning of Psychic Matchmaking 00:23:36 Mission and Intuition 00:25:48 Reading Energy and Intuition 00:27:49 Internal Compass and Muscle Testing 00:30:20 Silence and Energy Communication 00:30:48 Silence and Intuition 00:31:44 Psychic Reading for Producer Lindsey 00:33:27 Revelation about L's Past Relationship 00:38:33 Dating Rules and Intuition 00:41:16 Avoiding Ghosting and Dating Process 00:45:01 Early Phase Dating 00:46:06 Reframing Expectations 00:47:18 Enjoying the Process 00:48:13 Clarity and Guidance Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sherry Gaba, licensed psychotherapist, and Carla Romo, certified Life and Dating & Relationship Coach, talk about how to avoid toxic relationships, trust your gut and find and keep healthy love. This week’s Dating Dish is: Is “dating up” a bad thing? The Dear Damona question this week is: Should I reveal my STI status on my dating profile to weed out matches that aren’t in alignment with me? Be sure to follow Sherry and Carla on Instagram @TheLoveFix and check out their podcast by the same name. Get Damona’s free profile starter kit at DatesandMates.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Joy Ofodu, host of Dating Unsettled, shares her IG love story and her top tips for how you can use Instagram to find your match. The Dating Dish this week: How to Fall in Love When You Don’t Speak the Same Language. The Dear Damona question is: Is there an appropriate time to talk about exclusivity? Follow Joy on Instagram @joyofodu and listen to Dating Unsettled wherever you listen to Dates & Mates! I am now offering the Dating Accelerator as a self-study online program! I am offering $100 off to the first 9 Dates & Mates listeners to sign up. Just use code "DATES100" at checkout.  Sponsor: Hello Fresh is the #1 Meal Kit. Go to HelloFresh.com/datesandmates16 and use code datesandmates16 to get 16 free meals plus free shipping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Amber Kelleher-Andrews, CEO of the largest matchmaking service in America, Kelleher International breaks down what her clients are really looking for in a match and how she finds it.  Follow Amber on Instagram @Amber_Kelleher and if you’d like to sign up for matchmaking with Kelleher International, let them know we sent you by visiting this link: DamonaHoffman.com/matchmaker Our first all Dear Damona of the season will be airing September 5th. Be sure to submit your questions on Instagram, Twitter or Facebook @DamonaHoffman or text/call 424-246-6255. Ready for a love makeover? I am opening up 5 early bird spots for my Dates & Mates Method Coaching program at a deep discount. To register visit DamonaHoffman.com/program Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Scott Evans, host of Access Hollywood & Peacock’s Couple to Throuple, shares what he’s learned after hosting this unique show and gives the hot goss on his own experiences with polyamory. The Dating Dish is: Is a dog a dealbreaker in dating. Then our Dear Damona question this week is: Should I pay for upgrades on my dating profile? Follow Scott on Instagram @IAmScottEvans and check out Couple To Throuple on Peacock! If you’re looking for help with dating apps, look out for Damona’s Profile Starter Kit at DamonaHoffman.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Michelle Elman, author and five-board accredited life coach, talks about her most recent book “The Selfish Romantic” and why it's crucial to avoid losing ourselves in the pursuit of love. This week’s Dating Dish is: Why your voice may be the missing key to unlock new dates. The Dear Damona question this week is: How can I pursue a relationship rather than a friends with benefits situation? I’m not having any luck. Be sure to follow Michelle on Instagram @MichelleLElman and treat yourself to a copy of her book “The Selfish Romantic”. Get Damona’s free profile starter kit at DatesandMates.com Episode Chapters: (0:00:01) - Selfishness the Key to Dating? (0:01:51) - The Benefits of Voice in Online Dating (0:11:09) - The Benefits of Selfish Dating (0:23:34) - The Power of a Dating Detox (0:26:38) - Navigating the Single Lifestyle (0:26:38) - Creating Space for Healthy Love (0:29:18) - How to Find a LTR NOT a FWB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jillian Turecki, certified relationship coach and host of the Jillian On Love podcast, joins us for our Dates & Mates Season 11 finale! She and Damona explore why the fantasy of "The One" captivates us, and how this desire often masks a need for personal healing and growth. We are bringing back the Romance Rollback this week with: Surprising Facts About the Evolution of Dating  Then our Dear Damona question this week is: My dates keep ditching me… for my brother! What can I do? Follow Jillian at @JillianTurecki and you can become of member of Jillian’s relationship school by visiting JillianTurecki.com/membership To read the Mental Floss piece on the Evolution of dating visit: mentalfloss.com/article/79140/10-fascinating-facts-about-evolution-dating-and-courtship Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) Dates & Mates is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. TIMESTAMPS (00:03:40) The romance rollback  (00:11:28) Introduction of Jillian Turecki  (00:14:52) The myth of the one  (00:20:34) The concept of "the one"  (00:23:50) Reasons for being single  (00:30:04) Challenges in building trust  (00:35:02) The evolving dating landscape  (00:36:08) Missions in relationship coaching  (00:40:16) Making Dating Safer for Women  (00:42:07) The Responsibility of Men in Dating Safety (00:51:38) Impact of Attractiveness of Family Members on Dating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Scott Lyons, host of The Gently Used Human podcast, talks about his new book, “Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis & Chaos In Yourself & Others”. This week’s Dating Dish is: HuffPost shares the reasons why we try to “fix” our matches…and what you should probably do instead. Then our Dear Damona question this week is: How can I attract more culturally open matches? Follow Scott on Instagram @DrScottLyons and be sure to grab a copy of his book! Share the love: Get your copy of Damona’s book  F the Fairy Tale on Amazon too and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode! HuffPost article https://www.huffpost.com/entry/taylor-swift-fix-him-relationships_l_662a5511e4b005d7bf0cbef0 TIMESTAMPS (00:01:36) Why do we try to fix people in our relationships? (00:08:09) Introduction of Dr. Scott Lyons (00:13:32) Causes of addiction to drama (00:17:24) Origin of addiction to drama (00:18:09) Ecosystem and Turbulence (00:19:27) Numbness and Seeking Sensation (00:24:02) Addiction to Drama and Dating Apps (00:27:00) Attentional Economy and Social Media (00:33:13) Interrupting Peace and News Consumption (00:35:26) Dating App Activation and Frameworks (00:37:21) Awareness and Reflexive Behavior (00:38:01) Avoidance Tactics (00:38:24) Escaping Chaos (00:39:30) Milestones of Healing (00:42:41) Processing Trauma (00:43:42) Belonging and Identity (00:47:02) Cultural Diversity in Dating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you always dated the same “Type”? In this Summer Series Master Class, Damona shares why having a “Type” is a myth, why it may be holding you back in dating, and how you can expand your dating pool beyond seeing the same type of person again and again. Need personalized dating help? Damona is taking applicants for the Diamond VIP one-on-one coaching program through 7/31. Book an assessment session with Coach Yogi Marquis to see if we can help you find your person! DamonaHoffman.com/vipprogram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices