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05 Apr 2023Welcome to Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast00:17:28

Alyssa Zander here, your favorite codependency and relationship coach!

I am so excited to embark on this podcast journey where I will continue to share my personal stories and expertise on how to heal from codependency and navigate relationships in a healthy way. After experiencing trauma and struggling with core wounds of abandonment, rejection, and betrayal, I began to explore the parts of myself that feared these things and realized that as an adult, I was playing them out in my life and relationships. Through tending to these parts of myself, I was able to begin my healing journey around codependency and begin to live a more fulfilling life.

In this podcast, I will share my journey, tools, and ways to navigate the ebbs and flows of life and relationships in a loving and compassionate way. Join me in healing the mother wound, cultivating a space for women to be seen and heard, and moving from resentment, martyrdom, and people-pleasing to becoming strong and confident women who ask for what they need while holding the frequency of love and compassion.

Tune in to learn how to transform your life through healing the mother wound and navigating codependency.

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The Codependency Alchemy Podcast is dedicated to exploring various aspects of codependency, personal growth, and transformation and the episodes are inspired by the Codependency Alchemy Membership. By becoming a member of our Codependency Alchemy community, you'll gain access to an exclusive space where you can connect with a collective of women who are on a similar path of self-discovery and transformation. In this supportive and nurturing environment, you'll find the guidance, understanding, and encouragement you need to navigate the intricacies of healing codependency patterns.

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05 Apr 2023Identify, Track, and Shift Codependency00:22:27

In this episode, we delve into the topic of codependency and explore how it can impact our lives and relationships. We discuss how codependency can manifest as a lack of personal responsibility for ourselves and how we place our worth and good feelings about ourselves on something outside of us.

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05 Apr 2023Understanding Over-Giving and Self-Sacrificing in Relationships00:21:00

In this episode, we dive deep into the patterns of over-giving and self-sacrifice, and explore the reasons behind why we engage in these behaviors. We discuss the transactional agenda behind over-giving and self-sacrifice, and the consequences of these patterns, including feelings of resentment, burnout, and being unappreciated.

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05 Apr 2023Q&A: Navigating Ghosting and Anxious Attachment in Relationships00:25:05

 In this episode, we dive into the challenges of dealing with ghosting and anxious attachment in relationships. In this Q&A episode I take a question from a listener about her experience of struggling with codependency and anxiety when her partner doesn't respond for days at a time. 

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19 Apr 2023Q&A: Navigating Over-Giving, Boundaries, and Resentment in Relationships00:25:04

In this episode, we explore the challenges of asserting boundaries in relationships. Whether you're struggling with over-giving in your romantic relationship or feeling drained by always saying yes to friends and family, this episode will provide valuable insights and practical strategies for setting healthy boundaries and creating fulfilling relationships.

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19 Apr 2023Is it Chemistry or a Trauma Bond? Understanding the Difference00:21:06

Have you ever felt an intense spark or love at first sight, only to realize later that it was a toxic and emotionally abusive relationship? In this episode, we explore the difference between chemistry and trauma bonding, and how to identify if you are in a healthy, loving relationship. 

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03 May 2023Managing Codependency: A Personal Journey of Recognizing, Pausing, and Repairing00:33:02

In this episode, I share my personal experiences with codependency and how it has manifested in seeking validation outside of myself and falling into the trap of fixing and saviorism with a family member. Join me as I discuss the power of self-awareness, personal responsibility, and the journey towards healing codependency.

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03 May 2023Overcoming Relationship Anxiety and Self-Sabotage00:24:32

In this episode, we explore the topic of relationship anxiety and self-sabotage and how it can impact our ability to step fully into a healthy relationship. This episode will guide you through an inner child and shadow work practice to help you identify the root of your relationship anxiety and self-sabotaging behavior. 

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17 May 2023Self-Doubt and Fear00:29:19

In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, we delve deep into the intricate relationship between self-doubt and fear, unraveling the hidden layers that often go unnoticed. My hope is that you will leave with newfound clarity and are empowered to take action steps towards transmuting and meeting this part of yourself with compassion and grace. 

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17 May 2023Q&A: Nurturing Desires with Your Partner00:29:46

In this episode, we emphasize the importance of getting clear on your desires and focusing on how they make you feel, rather than fixating on specific details. Uncover the steps you and your partner can take to manifest your desired experiences, creating a roadmap towards a more fulfilling and harmonious relationship.

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07 Jun 2023The Fixer and Saviorism Trap (PART ONE)00:22:42

As people with codependency tendencies, we often believe that fixing or saving others makes us good people, even viewing it as our "job." However, underneath this seemingly noble intention lies a web of unconscious beliefs that drive our need to fix or save others. In Part One of this episode we focus on addressing the shadow work, navigating the uncharted territory of our own unconscious, exposing the beliefs that drive our fixing and saving tendencies.

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07 Jun 2023Somatic Healing: The Fixer and Saviorism Trap (PART TWO)00:15:54

In Part Two, we invite you to embark on a somatic journey, unraveling the roots of the pattern within your own body and unlocking the keys to self-empowerment. For the optimal experience, find a quiet space where you can close your eyes, creating an environment conducive to tapping into your inner wisdom. 

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21 Jun 2023Fear of Abandonment, Rejection, and Betrayal in Relationships00:23:59

Join me as we unravel the intricate layers of fears  that can often leave us feeling vulnerable and uncertain in our relationships and discover empowering ways to heal and transform it. Together, we'll explore a somatic practice that has personally supported me in my own journey of healing core wounds related to abandonment, rejection, and betrayal.

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21 Jun 2023THAT'S A WRAP! Thank You for an Amazing Season One!00:08:57

We celebrate the end of an incredible first season of Codependency Alchemy and share exciting news for the future!

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02 Aug 2023The Truth (You Need to Hear) About Boundaries00:26:27

We hear a lot about boundaries and the importance of them, but there is this misconception that boundaries mean someone else needs to do (or not do) something in order to "respect" your boundaries... I have a hot take on this, have a listen!

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02 Aug 2023Boundary Burnout (Q&A Session)00:43:26

I loved our conversation on feeling burnt out on enforcing boundaries, and how we can shift our perception of others misunderstanding (or outright ignoring) us and our boundaries from a victim mentality to one that is empowering (hint hint: it has to do with curiosity!)

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16 Aug 2023Alchemizing Our Fears Around Enforcing Boundaries00:16:18

When there is something we are struggling with, there is usually an underlying fear that is keeping us from doing the thing. In this weeks Alchemy episode we are going to move through the shadow work and somatic work for uncovering what those fears are, and meeting them within ourselves so that we can experience more compassion and joy in our lives and in our relationships.

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16 Aug 2023When You Feel Like You're Talking to a Wall (Q&A Session)00:33:58

Do you notice yourself getting angry when you feel that you have clearly conveyed or communicated something with someone and then they act like it was never heard or seen? Do you feel like you are sometimes talking to a wall? If you feel disrespected and frustrated when communicating your boundaries to others then this Q&A episode is for you!

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06 Sep 2023Ways You Are Manipulating (And Are Probably Unaware Of)00:34:33

Me? Manipulate? YIKES.
In this episode I get real and vulnerable with you about my first conscious exploration of manipulation, and how I started to see all the ways I WAS MANIPULATING while on a trip with my partner. You're gonna want to listen to this one, babes!

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06 Sep 2023When You Feel Responsible For Everyone's Emotions (Q&A Session)00:33:59

In this episode, I coach a mom who is navigating old toxic relationship dynamics, and how they impact her life as a partner and a mom. So much of what we learned, and how we learned to be, growing up can have an influence on how we relate to others in our adult life. If you have ever felt responsible for everyone's emotions and feelings, this episode will help you not feel so alone, and remind you who's feelings and emotions you ARE responsible for: yours.

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20 Sep 2023Alchemizing Manipulation00:16:41

In this Alchemy episode we will be moving through a somatic practice, bringing awareness to where manipulation lives in our body so that we can access the healing this part of us needs. This episode is best listened to when you can find yourself in a safe space where you won't be interrupted.

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20 Sep 2023When a Past Experience is Holding Us in Resentment (Q&A Session)00:43:19

In this episode I coach a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership. We discuss her fear around "taking a step back" from her business and a reframe for this, and I also support her in moving through a past experience that was bringing up a lot of anger, frustration, and resentment.

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04 Oct 2023Overcoming the Fear of Abandonment00:27:21

Listen, we all experience a fear of abandonment, and in this episode I give a visual representation of this fear and how we can overcome it in our lives, relationships, and work. My intention is that you walk away feeling empowered, inspired, and lighter around the core wound of abandonment.

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04 Oct 2023"It's Always F*cking Safety!" (Q&A Session)00:35:14

I get together with another Codependency Alchemy member to talk about fears around something we don't completely understand, and how it always's comes back to safety. We talk about embracing sexuality, fears around being sexualized, being in a state of fear, and more!

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18 Oct 2023From Chaos to Abundance: Healing and Finding Safety00:25:08

Many of us have experienced periods of chaos, especially in our childhoods, and then we watch it play out in our relationships, careers, and personal lives. Years of normalizing chaos primed our nervous system to attune and be more comfortable in it. Wild paradox, right?! Chaos becomes our default state of "safety." But what if there's a path to a more abundant and genuinely safe existence? Check out this weeks podcast episode where I share about my personal path from chaos to abundance.

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18 Oct 2023What the Healing Journey REALLY Looks Like (Q&A Session)00:35:43

I get together with my bestie, Erynn (LPC), to talk about how to hold ourselves when the fear of abandonment comes in. Basically, we share about what the healing journey REALLY looks like. (Hint hint: it's messy AF, sis)

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01 Nov 2023When You Are Constantly Defending Yourself00:24:04

Do you find yourself defending yourself all the time? In this episode we explore our fears around being wrong and bring in new ways of relating so that we can stop going to war with the ones we love.

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01 Nov 2023Let's Get the Guys Perspective, Shall We? (Q&A Session)00:30:15

This week we have a vvv special guest, Patrick, who is here to share with us how his relationship has changed since he and his partner began to tend to the codependency patterns in their relationship.

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15 Nov 2023When You Can't Stand Your Partner00:21:29

We've all been there (I think 😅) where you just can't stand your partner and you're at your wits end. In this episode I share something that has helped me overcome my limited perceptions of my partner and others so that I could experience more love and joy in my life and relationships.

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15 Nov 2023How Taking Responsibility Heals Our Relationships (Q&A Session)00:56:18

Taking radical personal responsibility rubs up against all of our fears of rejection and abandonment. It is, however, the very thing that can deeply heal our relationships with ourselves and others. In this episode I sit down with one of my best friends, Victoria St. Fleur (@ofrootandbranch), as she shares about some of the tools and perspectives that have helped her in healing codependency in her relationships, business, and life.

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06 Dec 2023Why People-Pleasing is Keeping You From Your Authenticity & Joy00:22:14

Let's talk about people-pleasing, codependency, "making other people happy brings me happiness" and where this way of relating can actually be keeping you from accessing your authentic joy. Genuine happiness in relationships is built from an overflow of trust, safety, and love that's been cultivated from within yourself first.

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13 Dec 2023How to Regulate Your Nervous System When You’re Fighting with Your Partner00:26:41

Conflicts can bring out the worst in us, and they can also be catalysts for the deepest kinds of connection and intimacy. In this episode I share about what to do to avoid the nasty cut-throat interactions so that you can have heart-opening conversations that lead to productive and desired outcomes, for everyone.

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20 Dec 2023How Resentment Ruins Relationships00:28:03

Resentment is your teacher, and the sooner you listen to it the better off your relationships will be.

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27 Dec 2023Reclaiming My Inner Child00:34:18

Inner child work can be messy and intense, as it was for me this week! I go into it all in this week's episode.

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03 Jan 2024Forgiveness and Its Role in Deep Transformational Healing00:17:03

Forgiveness can feel hard to reach, especially if we have been hurt or harmed in the past. I hope to offer some new perspectives in this weeks episode.

What are 10 things you are ready to forgive yourself for?

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17 Jan 2024Breaking Through Depression: Confronting Intrusive Thoughts with Empowering Questions00:27:25

In this deeply personal episode, Alyssa Zander shares a vulnerable moment of navigating through a depressive state and intrusive thoughts that sent her spiraling. Discover three empowering questions that guided Alyssa through the darkness and can support you in moments of discomfort or when you are feeling stuck.

  • Move from victim consciousness to empowerment by exploring the wisdom and teachings within challenging experiences.
  • Illuminate the traits you are being invited to embody during moments of depression, providing a guiding anchor to filter your experiences through.
  • Reality check intrusive thoughts and align your thoughts with how you desire to feel, creating a shift in your emotional state.

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31 Jan 2024Navigating Relationship Triggers: Taking Responsibility for Your Emotional Safety00:15:10

In this episode, Alyssa Zander addresses a listener's question on managing triggers within a current relationship. Discover three transformative strategies that have personally supported Alyssa in navigating relationship triggers, highlighting the importance of taking personal responsibility for emotional safety.

  • Learn about how triggers often arise when we don't feel safe within ourselves, and why it is so important to take personal responsibility for our emotional safety.
  • Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation: Understand the two-fold approach to managing triggers.
  • Discover how practicing self-compassion and sharing your healing journey with your partner, with consent, can deepen understanding and connection.

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24 Jan 2024No Spark? The Reality of Healthy Relationships and Unresolved Trauma00:31:52

In this episode, Alyssa opens up about the journey of her relationship, exploring the nuances of a healthy, consistent connection and the unexpected challenges she faced. Discover the hidden dynamics that can arise in healthy relationships, and how unresolved trauma can impact our perception of love.

  • Uncover the subtle triggers that may arise and how they are invitations to heal unresolved trauma.
  • Explore the concept of self-sabotage in healthy relationships, particularly for those who have experienced trauma. 
  • Personal share about things I wish I had done differently in the beginning.


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07 Feb 2024Discover Your Shadow Self00:14:15

In this episode Alyssa Zander will give four prompts that will help you in understanding your shadow self. Learn how staying curious opens your heart and eases the ego, paving the way for self-reflection and personal growth.

  • Explore powerful journal prompts to meet your shadow self. Uncover the nuances of your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors by bringing curiosity to situations that trigger strong reactions.
  • Discover how asking why certain aspects of your personality make you uncomfortable can lead to greater self-awareness, unveiling potential elements of your shadow self.
  • Engage in honest and open journaling about your experiences. Identify recurring patterns in your thoughts and behaviors to uncover themes of your shadow self.
  • Learn about what your shadow aspects need from you instead of suppressing them. 

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14 Feb 2024Did I Just Do That? Healing Anxious Attachment in Conflicts00:33:33

In this episode, Alyssa shares her personal journey of navigating conflict with a dysregulated partner while healing from an insecure attachment style. We'll talk about setting boundaries with compassion, creating space for your partner's emotions without feeling the need to "fix" them, and trusting in the resilience of both yourself and your partner.

If you've struggled with anxious attachment or fearful avoidant attachment in your relationships, this episode offers gives you a real life experience of what conflicts can look like when you're stepping into earned secure attachment.

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21 Feb 2024Are You Anxious, Avoidant, or Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style?00:35:32

This week we're talking about insecure attachment styles! We'll uncover the roots of anxious, avoidant, and fearful avoidant attachment styles. From understanding childhood traumas to its impact on our adult relationships, we'll explore how self-awareness, vulnerability, and personal responsibility can pave the way towards earned secure attachment, fostering healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

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28 Feb 2024Do I Self-Sabotage, or Choose Love?00:38:45

I think this means I passed the test?! Join me as I tell you babes about a vivid dream that sent me tumbling down the rabbit hole of self-doubt and fear, threatening to sabotage my relationship, once again. I unravel the familiar patterns and confront the impulse to push away someone I love. 

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06 Mar 2024The Breakup That Healed Me00:41:41

I think we can all agree that breakups are hardly ever easy. In this episode I talk about the breakup that pushed me to my edges, and how I finally had to face myself (and my unresolved trauma) in the process. I talk about the pain, revelations, and healing that took place through some of the darkest moments of my life. Without this breakup, I wouldn't be who I am today.

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13 Mar 2024When There is an Imbalance in Your Relationship00:37:55

When one partner consistently over-gives or seeks to create comfort for the other, a pattern emerges—one that often stems from deep-seated codependent tendencies rooted in fears of abandonment and rejection. In this episode we explore how these patterns manifest, the toll they take on both partners, and how to navigate towards healthier, more balanced relationships. 

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20 Mar 2024What is Reasonable When it Comes to Seeking Support from Your Partner?00:36:56

What is reasonable, or not reasonable when it comes to asking your partner for support. Additionally, what can you rely on your partner for?

What are you afraid will happen or what are you afraid it might mean about you if you ask for what you need, or if you ask for support? 

This was a question submitted in the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram. If you want to drop your own topic suggestions make sure you join the Broadcast Channel by clicking here: Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel

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27 Mar 2024Is There Codependency in Your Parenting?00:31:05

Many of the women I have the privilege of working with are mothers. Mothers who feel touched out and need space, but feel guilt when it comes for asking or taking it, or they struggle trusting the resilience of their child and their partner to figure out their own way. I share about my background with child development and things I've learned about cultivating a prepared environment that supports the child's development and behavior.

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03 Apr 2024Healing Codependency in Community00:30:09

I know I needed community and a brave place for me to navigate my unhealthy relationship patterns, so I created the places I needed. In this episode I talk about how Codependency Alchemy has grown, and thank you all for an amazing SEASON 2!

This is just the beginning babes. Stay tuned.

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01 May 2024What is a "situationship"?01:02:31

Opening up about a past "situationship" was incredibly difficult (or should I say embarrassing), but I really wanted to share with you all how that experience illuminated my insecure attachment patterns and codependent behaviors that I was completely unaware of.

What is a situationship? I would describe a situationship as a romantic connection, but nothing that suggests commitment. It’s perfect if you want to be in limbo and constantly question your sanity. 🤣

Resources:

* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram

* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.

* The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.

* How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.

* Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore

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15 May 2024What to do when you emotionally attach too quickly00:40:25

For those of us with codependent or anxious attachment patterns, it's super common to find ourselves making a new person or relationship mean something about us. We start dreaming up this whole future with them and attaching our sense of self-worth and belonging to how much they like us.

Resources:

* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram

* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.

* The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.

* How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. ONLY $25 FOR THE MONTH OF MAY!

* Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore

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08 May 2024How can I learn to trust myself and others after being in abusive relationships?00:46:15

When we have experienced abusive relationships, it can be challenging to trust ourselves and others. I remember feeling betrayed by myself, like how could I allow myself to be in something so toxic for so long? If I didn’t know better then, how could I trust myself to know better in the future?

Here is the shadow work prompt we explored in this episode:

“If I trust (this person/the good things that are happening), then…?” (what are you afraid will happen?)



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22 May 2024What if I am still carrying shame from past sexual abuse?00:45:49

I’ll never forget when I was in my situationship back in 2019 and all my sexual abuse trauma came bubbling up to the surface. I was completely confused because I felt like I had forgiven and put that past me, and I couldn’t understand why it so loud all of a sudden.

I learned that I had really repressed some very real feelings and emotions that a very young part of me was still holding. And in today’s podcast episode, Marcee was experiencing something very similar.

Please keep in mind when listening to today’s podcast episode that we will be discussing sexual abuse and trauma, so if this topic is sensitive to you please take care of your needs and check in with yourself before listening.



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12 Jun 2024How can I be a thriving, successful partner in my current relationship?00:46:24

In this weeks podcast episode we explore shadow work and inner child healing with Marella, who has noticed her our anxious tendencies in her relationship and is curious about how to start exploring more healthy and supportive patterns for herself and her relationship.

Listen to this full episode by subscribing to Codependency Alchemy: The Membership for $9/month (or less when you join annually)

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👉🏾The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.

👉🏾How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.

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03 Jul 2024When you're struggling with letting go of a relationship00:44:02

In this episode I get to sit with Santia and explore the challenges that come from a relationship ending, and I know that many of us can relate!

Shadow Work Prompt

* “If I let go, then…” (what am I afraid it will mean about me?)

* “If I let go, then…” (what am I afraid will happen?)

Resources:

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👉🏾Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.

👉🏾The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.

👉🏾How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.

👉🏾Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore

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29 May 2024When you want to fix everything for everyone00:38:46

If you feel like it'd your job to make everyone happy, or that it's always your fault when someone is upset, this definitely listen to today's episode. To learn more about why we do this, and practical solutions that you can implement in your life and relationships to help you navigate this pattern, you can check out the masterclass we did on this in the Codependency Alchemy Membership.

Resources:

* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram

* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.

* The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.

* How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. ONLY $25 FOR THE MONTH OF MAY!

* Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore

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26 Jun 20245 warning signs of a codependent relationship 00:36:01

Today we’re going to get into some of the most common codependency warnings signs that I’ve learned along the way.

Resources:

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* The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.

* How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.

* Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore

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05 Jun 2024What to do when you and your partner are not on the same page00:37:22

This week’s podcast episode is my personal share on what transpired over those few days where we were not on the same page, how I managed to stay aware that I was triggered by the things he was saying to me, and instead of getting defensive and fighting with him, how I was able to bring the conversation forward in a way that allowed for deep and meaningful connection and repairs in our relationship.

👉🏾 Check out June Events for Codependency Alchemy: The Membership

Codependency Alchemy Immersion- June 23rd-25th

I’m am so excited to hold a free 3-day immersion, where you can get a glimpse into what it is like in The Membership. Each day of the immersion we will be experiencing a different aspect of The Membership!

* Sunday, June 23rd: We will be coming together for a masterclass on Exploring Codependency and The Mother Wound.

* Monday, June 24th: You’ll get to expereince what our Monthly Meetups are like and receive hot-seat coaching, where I will guide you through shadow work and inner child healing for whatever you are presently expereiencing in your relationship.

* Tuesday, June 25th: You’ll get to join me for a private AMA chat (Ask Me Anything) where I will go back and forth with you on whatever you are needing or looking for support on! Think of this as a private chat room where you can be supported and witnessed.

Resources:

* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram

* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.

* The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.

* How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.

* Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore

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19 Jun 2024How we rebuilt trust in our relationship00:28:31

I'm going to be doing a long-awaited podcast episode on something I promised you a long time ago— and to be quite honest, I forgot! This episode is going to be about the tool that Justin and I used to help rebuild the trust in our relationship when we got back together.

Resources:

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👉🏾Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.

👉🏾The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.

👉🏾How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.

👉🏾Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore

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17 Jul 2024When you find yourself emotionally detached and avoid vulnerability00:53:15

Many of us struggle with vulnerability and getting close to people, even though deep down it is what we deeply desire. In this episode I get to witness Aaron, who moved a lot in his childhood and felt like he learned to not get attached because everything was temporary.

Resources:

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👉🏾Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.

👉🏾The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.

👉🏾How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.

👉🏾Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore

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31 Jul 2024When we self-sabotage and have fear around our partner finding someone better01:05:36

In today’s episode Crystal asks for support on what to do when conflict comes up in her relationships, how self-sabotage has started to show up, and fears around her partner leaving and finding someone better.

Resources:

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👉🏾How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.

👉🏾Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore

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10 Jul 2024How to heal codependency and the mother wound 00:28:24

In this episode, we explore how choosing compassion and grace over self-criticism can help heal codependency and the mother wound.

When we are hard on ourselves for our perceived flaws or mistakes, we perpetuate feelings of not being good enough. It is through showing ourselves compassion and accepting where we are in our journey that we actually create enough spaciousness to heal codependency and the mother wound within us.

I’ll be reading from my book “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” today, and sharing from the section titled, “Destiny”.

I hope these words are like a salve to your soul, and that they remind you of who you truly are.

Resources:

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👉🏾Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.

👉🏾The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.

👉🏾How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.

👉🏾Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore

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24 Jul 2024How to build a healthy relationship with food (and yourself) when healing codependency00:28:57

This week I share about my journey navigating food and meals in our home when we have different health/eating goals. Learn how to establish autonomy over food choices, practice self-trust, and support your partner's (and your own) individual journey.

Resources:

* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram

* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.

* The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.

* How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.

* Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore

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07 Aug 2024Identifying codependency (PART ONE)00:52:27

I recently did a free 3-day immersion where I walked those who signed up through a masterclass on Identifying Codependency, using shadow work and a somatic practice to explore in community.

The next two episodes are from this masterclass, and I hope you enjoy the conversations we had as much as I did!

What we cover in today’s episode:

* What is the mother wound?

* What is codependency?

* Reflection on close relationships to see where codependency shows up in your life

* How to do shadow work for codependency patterns and why this is so important for deep healing

Receiving support and perspectives from others can really deepen our healing process. I encourage you to share your experiences and insights in the comments or our Codependency Alchemy chat. This helps build connection and encourages us as we navigate these parts of us.

Please don’t hesitate to reach out to me or our community if you need guidance or accountability in implementing the inner child healing practices. You can join the Codependency Alchemy Membership by upgrading your subscription for $9/month and get ongoing support, resources, and community with like-minded souls healing codependency.



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14 Aug 2024Identifying codependency (PART TWO)00:48:43

Here’s the thing that we need to really start understanding: we have spent countless days, months, and years over-identifying and picking apart our mind’s stories, beliefs, and thoughts. In doing so, we have completely neglected our bodies stories which hold the keys to our deepest forms of healing and transformation.

In today’s episode I guide the women on the call through a somatic practice where you will take away information and an experience that will illuminate how your body is physically responding to certain patterns and tendencies.

With this wisdom and practice you can begin to access the precise actions needed for you to clear what is blocking you from living your most fulfilling and authentic life.

Need help or support in doing the shadow work and inner child healing? Join us in our Monthly Masterclasses, Meetups, and AMA Chats in the Codependency Alchemy Membership!



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21 Aug 2024How can I determine whether my boundary is healthy or based on trauma?01:10:37

In this 1:1 session I sit with a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership. Lena was struggling with codependency, insecurity, and fears around her partner leaving her or cheating which was triggering past traumas. Her goals were to build self-acceptance, heal from past hurts, and develop the ability to set compassionate boundaries in her relationship.

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28 Aug 2024My recent depressive episode 00:46:38

In this raw and vulnerable episode (my first time actually crying on the podcast), I open up about my recent experience with depression and feeling discomfort with slowness and spaciousness in my life, which was triggering fears around losing my sense of purpose and self-worth if I'm "not doing anything.”

Download my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide to get a printable worksheet that you can use again and again!

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04 Sep 2024When you have anxiety and fear over making "the wrong decision"01:17:54

On today's episode, I sit down with KaRonna, a working mom struggling with something I think many of us can relate to— the inability to prioritize herself and her own needs amidst the demands of career, parenthood, and life in general, fearing she'll make the wrong decision.

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11 Sep 2024When your partner is depressed00:27:09

In this episode, I take you back to 2018, when my relationship was taken over by darkness. My partner Justin was battling depression, and I was trapped in a cycle of trying to "fix" him, making his pain and discomfort my responsibility. It led us to a breaking point, where we both felt unseen and alone.

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Monthly Masterclass | September 5th | 10am (PDT) | Click here to RSVP on Zoom 💻

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18 Sep 2024What if I pass my codependency to my children?00:52:28

This week I get to sit down with a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership, Nicole, who is exploring the challenges of parenting while navigating her own inner healing journey. In this session I guide Nicole through shadow work and an inner child healing, validate her unmet needs, and help release the burdens of feeling "broken" and "not good enough."

This conversation offers a roadmap for intergenerational healing and the courage to show up authentically, even in the midst of our own imperfections.

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25 Sep 2024When you're stuck looping in the same pattern with your partner00:44:16

I’m excited to share a personal story today—one that has layers beyond what it seems. You’re definitely going to want to grab a drink, get comfortable, and enjoy. We're talking about boundaries, cookies, and the uncomfy parts of learning our own dysfunction through our relationship dynamics.

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Monthly Masterclass | September 5th | 10am (PDT) | Click here to RSVP on Zoom 💻

Monthly Meetup | September 12th | 10am (PDT) | Click here to RSVP on Zoom 💻

AMA Chat | September 19th | 10am-12pm (PDT) | Click here to RSVP for Chat 📱

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02 Oct 2024Healing shame, fear, and the need for approval01:01:32

This story is a powerful reminder that our healing comes from facing the uncomfortable emotions and beliefs we carry, even when they feel overwhelming. It’s through sitting with our pain and giving it space that we find freedom and peace.

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09 Oct 2024What I wish I would have known before I started dating00:34:02

In today’s post, I’m sharing a few things I wish I had known at the start of my relationship with Justin, and honestly, even before I started dating anyone. These realizations have been game-changers for me, and I hope they resonate with you too.

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16 Oct 2024When you need to have everything figured out before taking action00:50:26

Updates: Next week’s podcast will be the last episode of the year as I take a break to focus on our community here on Substack. I’m excited to create deeper connections and introduce new, fun ways for us to connect. If you haven’t already, download the Substack app to join in!

Also, a quick reminder—membership is still just $9/month for now, but the price will increase in the new year so if you’ve been thinking about joining make sure you hop in now!

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This week on our 1:1 session episode, Codependency Alchemy member Rachael came to the call experiencing a pattern of needing to have everything figured out before taking action— something I know I certainly relate to!

You asked for it, here it is…

I haven’t opened one-on-one sessions up to the public in a veryyyy long time, but it’s clear there is a huge need for it right now, as many of us are experiencing the HARDEST moments in our relationships— it kind of feels like a pressure cooker, doesn’t it? Let’s just say, in this session you’ll start to find the release valve.

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23 Oct 2024How shadow work and inner child healing changed her life01:08:48

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In this episode:

* How Luce discovered codependency work and what led her to it

* What her initial thoughts and hesitations were around codependency and inner child work

* How the work we do in the Codependency Alchemy membership has transformed her life, and the breakthroughs she has had since joining

* The insights and gifts that she has uncovered through inner child healing



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15 Jan 2025Overcoming relationship anxiety: navigating intimacy through shadow work00:48:08

Do you ever feel anxious or inadequate in your relationship, especially when intimacy isn’t present? In this episode, I guide a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership through the shadow work and inner child healing to uncover the core wounds that are fueling her fear of failure in love (specifically around intimacy, or lack of). Together, we work to validate her inner child, release the need to make everyone happy, and reconnect with her gifts to build self-trust.

This episode is for anyone who:

* Struggles with anxiety or fear of rejection in relationships.

* Feels unworthy or inadequate without constant reassurance.

* Wants to learn how to manage triggers and reconnect with their authentic self.

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“I was constantly anxious and shutting down in any conversation that I perceived as conflict. As a lifelong people pleaser I often put my feelings and needs after everyone else’s. After only 12 days in this Mastermind group I was able to calmly communicate boundaries to my husband and that was something I was never able to do before.” - Sarai (Spring 2024 co-hort)

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22 Jan 2025Navigating intimacy in relationships 01:01:10

In this live episode, I share my personal journey of rebuilding trust and navigating intimacy in relationships. We’ll explore the challenges of physical intimacy, the importance of self-validation, and how inner child work can transform triggers into opportunities for growth.

This episode is for anyone who:

* Struggles with vulnerability and fears rejection in relationships.

* Finds physical intimacy a source of conflict or insecurity.

* Wants to learn how to build trust and resolve conflicts with compassion and clarity.

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29 Jan 2025Feeling invisible: Inner child healing for belonging and self-worth00:55:33

In this episode I guide Jo, a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership, through a session of shadow work and inner child healing to address feelings of invisibility and unworthiness within her partner’s family. Together, we explore the emotional impact of being unseen, create a safe space for Jo's inner child, and discuss practical ways to integrate this work into daily life.

This episode is for anyone who:

* Feels overlooked or excluded in family or social dynamics.

* Struggles with validating their own feelings and experiences.

* Wants practical tools for connecting with and healing their inner child.

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08 Jan 2025When you feel dismissed in your relationship00:44:38

Have you ever felt dismissed or unseen by your partner, especially during stressful times like the holidays? In this episode, I share real-life moments from my relationship with Justin, unpacking the triggers that surfaced during our trip home. Through shadow work and inner child healing, I reconnected with my younger self, gained clarity on my needs, and approached the conflict with more compassion and a deeper understanding of both myself and him.

This episode is for anyone who:

* Struggles with feeling dismissed or unimportant in their relationship.

* Finds themselves triggered when returning home or navigating family dynamics.

* Wants to learn how to use journaling, somatic practices, and inner child healing to navigate relationship challenges with empathy and self-awareness.

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05 Feb 2025Needs, wants, and desires: The missing piece in relationship communication00:37:40

Have you ever felt like your partner just doesn’t get what you need? Maybe you’ve asked for something (more than once!) and felt crushed when they didn’t follow through. It’s frustrating, right? In this episode, we’re diving into the tricky—but super important—difference between needs, wants, and desires in relationships. I’ll share some hard-won lessons about what’s really hiding underneath those requests and how to talk about them in a way that actually lands.

We’ll also chat about how shadow work and inner child healing can totally change the way you show up in your relationships. Plus, I’ve got some tips for speaking your truth with confidence and kindness.

This episode is for you if:

* You feel unheard or misunderstood when you ask for what you need.

* You’re not sure how to tell the difference between a want, a desire, and a deeper need.

* You’re ready to build healthier, more honest communication in your relationships.

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12 Feb 2025Overcoming intrusive thoughts and self-sabotage00:49:24

Do you struggle with intrusive thoughts about your partner's past or find yourself self-sabotaging when things feel too good? In this episode, a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership shares her journey of recognizing codependency after a self-sabotaging moment during the holidays. Together, we explore the fears of not being "enough," the challenges of embracing happiness, and the power of community support in healing. Listen in as we dive into shadow work and inner child healing to release past burdens, reconnect with the inner child, and step into a more peaceful, present version of yourself.

This episode is for you if:

* You struggle with intrusive thoughts or comparing yourself in your relationship.

* Happiness feels uncomfortable, and you worry good things won’t last.

* You want practical tools to release the past and create more peace in the present.

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19 Feb 2025Overcoming limiting beliefs and embracing your desires00:50:06

Have you ever felt weird about being happy that you totally self-sabotage it with limiting beliefs that make you spiral in fear or doubt? In this live episode hosted on Substack, I share about a moment of joy that took a quick turn into self-doubt and fear of judgment. After celebrating a big win, I found myself spiraling with thoughts that completely knocked me off the joy high I was riding. Together, we’re going to move through a shadow work and inner child practice around our desires… something many of us have been too scared to name.

This episode is for you if:

* You sometimes feel like joy, love, or success isn’t really meant for you.

* You worry about being judged or losing people when you’re thriving.

* You want to learn how shadow work can help you feel safe and grounded in your joy and what you desire.

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26 Feb 2025Shadow work for unlocking fears around your desires00:57:19

Ever feel like your dreams are just out of reach, especially when the fear of failure or embarrassment keeps holding you back? In this episode, Assisi from our Codependency Alchemy membership shares how our recent Shadow Work Sunday Chat 💬 helped her start questioning her career path and the deeper desires she’s been suppressing. We dive into a shadow work and inner child healing to help her tend this part of her, and step into a more authentic version of herself—and how you can do the same in your own life.

This episode is for anyone who:

* Feels stuck in something that doesn’t feel aligned or satisfying.

* Struggles with the fear of failure or humiliation when thinking about making changes.

* Wants to learn how to use shadow work and inner child healing to step into their desires and create a life that feels true to them.

If you want to listen to “The Cookie Episode” mentioned in this episode, you can listen to it here.

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05 Mar 2025Navigating Tantrums: Emotional regulation for parents and children00:50:44

Do you feel overwhelmed when your child has a tantrum? In this episode, we break down the natural cycle of tantrums—beginning, middle, and end—and explore why they are a healthy release of pent-up emotions. We discuss how children attune to parent’s nervous system, the importance of regulating your own emotions, and practical techniques to help children (and adults!) process their feelings. By doing your own inner work and shifting your mindset around tantrums, you can show up with more calm, empathy, and connection.

This episode is for you if:

* You feel anxious, frustrated, or helpless when your child has a tantrum.

* You want to learn how your nervous system impacts your child’s emotional regulation.

* You’re looking for practical tools to support your child through big emotions with more confidence and ease.

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12 Mar 2025Healing the Fear of Being Seen00:53:13

Do you ever feel afraid of being truly seen? In this episode, Amba, a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership shares her transformative journey from seeking external validation to embracing self-love and inner trust. After reconnecting with her ex following deep inner work, she reflects on how she is struggling with fears of judgment and being seen in her work. Through a shadow work and inner child healing session, Amba reclaims her power, redefines her protectors’ roles, and steps into courage, truth, and open-hearted vulnerability. Listen in as we explore the process of releasing old fears, integrating new strengths, and cultivating self-compassion.

This episode is for you if:

* You struggle with the fear of being seen, judged, or rejected.

* You’re working on shifting from external validation to self-love.

* You want to learn how to reframe fear, meet your inner child’s needs, and embody new strengths.

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19 Mar 2025When anxiety hits: Tending to the parts that need you00:53:59

Do you ever feel anxious but can’t quite pinpoint why? In this podcast live episode I am sharing my personal experience of navigating discomfort and anxiety, walking you through my process of identifying triggers and reflecting on the frustration of revisiting the same wounds. We’ll talk about the importance of self-compassion in the healing journey, and practical ways to tend to intrusive thoughts and emotional overwhelm.

This episode is for you if:

* You struggle with anxiety and want a deeper understanding of its roots.

* You feel frustrated revisiting the same emotional wounds and want to cultivate more self-compassion.

* You’re navigating changes in relationships and community as you grow.

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26 Mar 2025When you're unhappy but scared to leave01:07:05

Have you ever felt stuck in a relationship, unsure if you should stay or walk away? In this week’s session episode, T, a member of the Codependency Alchemy community, comes to the call seeking clarity about whether her relationship is still aligned. But what emerges is something deeper—a lifelong pattern of feeling responsible for the care and well-being of others, rooted in childhood parentification.

This episode is for you if:

* You feel stuck in a relationship and don’t know whether to stay or leave.

* You struggle with feeling responsible for others’ emotions and well-being.

* You want to learn how inner child work can help you make aligned decisions in relationships.

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02 Apr 2025Conscious Clearing: How to repair after conflict00:53:23

Have you ever felt lingering tension in a relationship—like unspoken resentment, fear, or anxiety creating distance between you and your partner? In this episode, I dive into conscious clearing, a practice that helps clear unresolved conflict and deepen connection.

Rather than seeing conflict as something to avoid, I reframe it as an opportunity for growth, intimacy, and repair. I break down the three key steps for a conscious clearing, what tends to happen when we don’t have these, and why it can positively impact our relationships.

This episode is for you if:

* You feel tension or unspoken resentment in your relationships.

* You struggle with how to approach difficult conversations without making things worse.

* You want to learn a simple practice for clearing conflict and deepening emotional intimacy.

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09 Apr 2025Attracting unavailable partners? How to break unhealthy relationship patterns01:15:04

Do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners, struggle with feeling abandoned, or constantly doubt your own judgment in relationships? In this episode, I guide Sierra, a member of our Codependency Alchemy community, through a powerful healing process after a painful breakup. Sierra openly shares her experience navigating feelings of abandonment, betrayal, and shame after a promising relationship ended abruptly. Using shadow work and inner child healing, Sierra reconnects with her younger selves, explores the roots of her shame and self-worth struggles, and learns to integrate their unmet needs into her present life. You'll gain practical strategies for increasing self-awareness, tracking relationship patterns, and making conscious decisions to stop cycles of emotional pain and trauma bonds.

This episode is for you if:

* You're healing from a difficult breakup or emotional abandonment.

* You repeatedly attract emotionally unavailable partners.

* You struggle with shame, low self-worth, or trusting your intuition.

* You're seeking actionable steps to shift unhealthy relationship patterns through inner healing.

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16 Apr 2025Compassionate parenting for raising confident children01:02:26

Am you parenting from a place of punishment, or are you guiding your child toward autonomy, self-respect, and healthy emotional expression? In this episode, I share my insights as a M.Ed and Montessori educator on how to foster respect, emotional resilience, and healthy boundaries in children. I discuss practical strategies to prevent people-pleasing behaviors, handle challenging moments through playful connection (think pillow fights and peekaboo!), and support sensitive children by tracking emotional triggers. You’ll learn to create structured yet nurturing routines that offer stability for your child—and yourself—as you navigate parenting with self-compassion, authenticity, and curiosity.

This episode is for you if:

* You worry about raising a people-pleaser or struggle setting boundaries with your child.

* You have a sensitive, anxious, or energetic child and want actionable ways to support them.

* You're looking for playful parenting strategies to build emotional resilience.

* You want guidance on creating structured daily routines that benefit both you and your child.

SPECIAL INTRO OFFER: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and save 40% off! 👉🏾 Click here to join now!

MASTERMIND WAITLIST: This Mastermind is for you if you desire to fast track your healing journey through letting go of the suffocating patterns that have held you back in your life and relationships. Over the course of three months, you will learn how to implement tools and practices that will shift the way you feel and respond in your relationships. 👉🏾 Click here to join the waitlist!

Grab my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide

Watch Masterclasses from our Membership Library

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Check out The Gems 💎 where you will find the resources with practical insights, tools, and wisdom to guide you on your journey.



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