Childproof (Gwenna Laithland and Tori Phantom)

Empathy is a learned skill and you can start teaching at day zero. Our kids are more capable of empathy and understanding than we tend to think. This episode of the Childproof Podcast tackles empathy: what it is, how we teach it, and how to use it safely. Can you get empathetically burnt out? (Spoiler: Yeah) How do you set boundaries on empathy so you don’t wreck your own mental health? (Spoiler: Breaks) Also Gwenna is crocheting a blanket now and Tori talks about the Stamp Act Riots. And no. We don’t give you anymore context than that. Even in the show. 

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What happens when two sarcastic people make children together? You end up with a kid who is genetically built to be sarcastic. That’s what. Ask us how we know. This episode we are talking kid jokes, learning time and place, how sarcasm can still be empathetic, and then more kid jokes. We like kid jokes.

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Will it work for everyone? Absolutely not. There’s no one right way to raise kids. And sometimes you get to look at a rule and say Nope. We can’t do it that way. It won’t work for us. From approaching hair color and makeup to what our kids can consume for media, we set the boundaries and hope we got it right? 

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This week we hit the inbox for your emails. Which means we are all over the place. We touch on parenting through an age gap, losing the game (iykyk), weedwhackers & whippersnappers, imagination hour, cold weather whining and so much more. If you’d like to be included in a future episode please email us at Childproofmail@gmail.com and you could hear your ideas on the podcast. 

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Your kid is sick. Is it time for an ice pack and a nap? Or is it doctor time? When do you give Tylenol? Is Motrin safe for babies? Did I do something that got my kid lice? What do you mean my kid can’t wear their coat in their car seat? Parents hit up Google a lot. This episode of Childproof dives a little deeper and provides real-time parenting insight to some of the most common reasons parents find themselves in Dr. Google’s waiting room. 

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Ever look at a common idea or behavior and think “Nope. That’s not for me.” Cuz same. Today on Childproof Tori and Gwenna discuss come of their most Chaotic Good Parenting choices. From perfect attendance to censoring music with some stops in virtual learning, mental health days, and shocking toll booth attendants. 

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Moms do a lot of different jobs. Chef, Nurse, Event Planner, Administrative Assistant, Teacher. Some folks call this wearing different hats. We think it’s more like having different brains. We have to switch from mom brain to mom brain and sometimes that’s hard. Sometimes it’s impossible. Sometimes we struggle. On this episode we discuss why that is and ways to make switching modes just a little easier. 

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Gwenna and Tori are back this week! What even happened? Tori and Gwenna discuss everything that happened on their break, from why they had a break to how many kids were sick. They also revisit the routines they have been trying to establish and introduce a new segment, "Hyperfixation of the Week". Tori talks about Hamilton at least twice.

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Gwenna and Tori are back for another episode, this time diving in their relationships with their kids. They kick off with a listener email about feeling overwhelmed with the up and down nature of parenting; and how hard it can be to live up to your own expectation of being a good parent. Then they pose the question: Is it appropriate to be your kids' friend? They share their thoughts on how having a connection with your children can be a tricky responsibility to navigate, and why it’s important that the relationship remains friendly but doesn’t quite reach BFF level. After that, the get into their favorite family time activities, and how even fun time can offer opportunities to bond, learn, and relax (and why Monopoly is the WORST). Got an idea for the show? Send your topic suggestions, advice questions, and episode reactions to childproof@betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Start the timer! In the first episode of Childproof, hosts Gwenna Laithland and Tori Phantom are talking all about parenting – specifically, the things the internet doesn’t tell you about having kids. They start with some tips for new parents – don’t just sleep when they sleep, cry when they cry – and share the secrets they’ve learned for establishing a routine that actually works. Finally, they play a game of Parents Say the Darndest Things, featuring some of the most ridiculous phrases they’ve had to say to their kids. You’d think “don’t lick the baseboards” goes without saying... but you’d be wrong. Got an idea for the show? Send your topic suggestions, advice questions, and episode reactions to childproof@betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You’re grounded… and that’s a good thing. Gwenna and Tori are back for another episode of Childproof, and start with some simple tricks for ‘staying grounded’ in moments of parenting chaos. They give examples of the times their kids learned to take an emotional break, and the times when it was okay for everyone to lose their sh*t. Then they each share some of their biggest parenting pet peeves: where did the second shoe go, why are your pockets always full of rocks, and when did you pour that milk in the garbage?  Be sure to send your parenting pet peeves to childproof@betches.com and leave us a review wherever you’re listening now! Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gwenna and Tori are wishing a ‘Childproof’ Mother’s Day to all the parents out there, starting with honest reviews of the gifts their kids got them this year. They tell us some of their favorite things about Mother’s Day, what they don’t want out of the day, and why some moms just want to take a break (and that’s okay). Plus, they tell us why a thoughtful gift is better than jewelry and flowers any day.  Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Uh huh, this my sh*t! In this episode, Gwenna and Tori share how they have been handling their kids using curse words. What should you do the first time your kid says “f*ck”? Gwenna (aka MommaCusses) says it’s okay as long as you teach them the 3 criteria to swearing and Tori shares their own boundaries around cussing. Speaking of speaking, they close out the episode by playing a game of Tolderese where they guess what their kids really mean when they say “Luh Lou”. Got an idea for the show? Send your topic suggestions, advice questions, and episode reactions to childproof@betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

School’s out for summer… let the chaos begin. Gwenna and Tori return with some tips for maintaining a schedule even when you no longer have a good excuse to send the kids to bed. They play a game of “Love It or Leave It: Summer Edition” with a run-through of some of our favorite childhood summertime touchstones. Do popsicles still taste as good to adults? Is the summer reading list worth the trouble? And is the beach as relaxing when your kids are the ones doing the digging? Finally, they play a round of Ketchup is a Vegetable, featuring some of the weirdest food combos you’ll find in their households. And yes, mayonnaise does in fact go with everything. Send your summer questions and topic suggestions to childproof@betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You know what works better than asking nicely? Bribery. But when is it right to parent with positive reinforcement, and when is it okay to just pay the kid? Tori and Gwenna are talking all about the value of using incentives to teach your children to try new things and establish good habits. They also tell us whether or not their children get an allowance, and why Robux are just crypto for children. Plus, they talk about how to respond when something “isn’t fair” and fill us in on what it means to have a reasonable expectation of contribution (REC for short). Finally, they play a game of Double Standards all about the things they allow for themselves… but not for their kids. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are gentle parenting our children... But when do they start gentle childing us? In this episode, Gwenna and Tori share their gentle parenting journeys and how they differ from each other, fellow parents, and Ms. Rachel. They explain that a significant aspect of gentle parenting is allowing your kids to say "no." Then, they define "no," the different ways kids use the word "no," and the scenarios in which you can actually reject your kids' "no." To close out the episode, they play a round of Would You Rather - parenting edition. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let’s tell the truth, m’lady. Gwenna and Tori start off with the infamous phrase, "I don't know." They explore why kids sometimes genuinely don't know and discuss instances when they knew but still chose to lie. This week, they delve into the nuanced topic of lying and aim to help parents identify when and why their kids lie. Gwenna reads about the four different types of lying, and they chat about real-life examples and their approaches as parents to each type. To conclude the episode, they showcase their ability to deceive with a game of Two Truths and a Lie. Got an idea for the show? Send your topic suggestions, advice questions, and episode reactions to childproof@betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There's no shame in feeling guilty. Gwenna and Tori kick off this episode by reading listener emails about gentle parenting, pet peeves, and book recommendations. This week, they delve into the topic of how "mom guilt" and "mom shame" are often used interchangeably, even though they shouldn't be. In classic fashion, they read their definitions and share their own stories, discussing how they personally handle mom guilt. Finally, they compare their Mom Fails to see who failed the worst (or the best) as a parent. Got an idea for the show? Send your topic suggestions, advice questions, and episode reactions to childproof@betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Disclaimer! Mom rants ahead (but don’t worry, we’re not judging you). We are all about ranting here at Childproof because ranting is regulation and in this episode, Gwenna and Tori bring you the best and worst of their mom rants. From incorrect grammar, to the “just you wait”s, and “I don’t know how you do it”s. Do you have a mom rant of your own? Let us know at childproof@betches.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey kid, you're going to be okay. In this episode, Gwenna and Tori chat about using the phrase "You're okay" with their kids, because sometimes your kids actually are okay. They share their techniques for getting their kids to self-regulate and give real-life examples of how nuanced this phrase is. Because when we say "you're okay," it's really for us. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Don't worry, the freezer section is overwhelming for us too. In this episode, Gwenna and Tori address tantrums, explaining why they can occur and sharing creative ways they have worked through them. To assist with this, Tori introduces their "Toddler Grief Theory" which raises the question... When was the last time you felt a completely new emotion? They also discuss the judgment of others when dealing with tantrums in public, and they both agree that they would prefer to be criticized for loving their children rather than yelling at them. Don’t forget to go to podcastawards.com to register and vote for Childproof in the Kids & Family category. Nominations are open until July 31st. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know there is no such thing as a "hypoallergenic" pet? This week, Gwenna and Tori bring on their first guest and Pediatric Allergist, Dr. Zachary Rubin. With allergy season still in full swing for Gwenna, wants to get the big question out of the way: "Should I give my kids Benadryl?" They chat about the different options that parents can consider when introducing their kids to allergens and the best ways to utilize their doctors. The trio ends with the age-old dilemma of "What can I do when my kid is allergic to everything?" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re excited to hear from you! On this episode, Gwenna and Tori reach into the Childproof mail bag and answer your most popular questions. From their take on gentle parenting, setting boundaries, and overstimulation they offer their personal experiences and advice for parents (and non-parents alike). To close out, they play Sweet or Tangy brought to you by Ocean Spray where they reminisce on situations they have encountered as parents, and decide whether that moment was a sweet moment or was it a little tangy. Recommended Reading: How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t with Your Kids: A Practical Guide to Becoming a Calmer, Happier Parent Paperback – Carla Naumburg Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans - Michaeleen Doucleff How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Assholes - Melinda Wenner Moyer Momma Cusses: A Field Guide to Responsive Parenting & Trying Not to Be the Reason Your Kid Needs Therapy - Gwenna Laithland Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#SorryNotSorry! This week, Gwenna and Tori cover the nuances of apologizing for both kids and parents (and the parents of the parents). Gwenna starts off by laying out the structure to an apology which is: acknowledge what happened, apologize for what happened, and address how you will adjust your actions in the future. Throughout the episode they both give their own stories and advice on how they are teaching the importance of apologizing. Then, the duo plays a game of Sweet or Tangy brought to you by Ocean Spray where they reminisce on situations they have encountered as parents, and decide whether that moment was a sweet moment or was it a little tangy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mom and Dad can hardly wait for school to start again! It’s that time of year again and Gwenna and Tori are discussing some of their favorite ways to get ready for back to school. From buying new backpacks, practicing lunchtime, to setting up the drop off playlist, they share what works best for their kids (and what doesn’t). Then, they bring back a second round of Sweet or Tangy brought to you by Ocean Spray where they reminisce on situations they have encountered as parents, and decide whether that moment was a sweet moment or was it a little tangy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How does one keep a tidy house? Asking for a friend. This week, Gwenna and Tori invite the founder of Space + Mind, Ashley La Fond, onto the show to talk about all things related to home organization. Keeping your home tidy is already a significant feat on its own, and when you become a parent, it seems almost impossible. As a mom, Ashley shares her best tips and tricks to organize your spaces, helping them work best for you and your family. Guest: Ashley La Fond, @ashleylafond Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The kids are back to school... now what? In this episode, Gwenna and Tori celebrate (and commiserate) together about all things related to going back to school. From signing your kids up on six separate platforms to having an empty house all to yourself. But what happens when your kids return from school with a mountain of homework? Do you make them do it? For Gwenna and Tori, the short answer is no. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This Part Two episode is dedicated to everyone who hates the timer as much as we do. This week, Gwenna and Tori continue the ‘I don’t make my kids do homework’ conversation by sharing their own personal stories and how that shaped the way they handle take-home work today. Then, they dive into the dreaded test days or what we like to call ‘just days’ because no one actually cares how your kid did in middle school math...we just want them to learn something. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Gwenna and Tori bring on two very special guests. Sisters Idina Menzel and Cara Mentzel join us to talk about their new book, "Proud Mouse," a lyrical picture book about a proud sister learning to find her own way. The sisters share how their sibling relationship and childhood inspired the characters, along with intertwining personal parenting stories that, in our opinion, everyone can relate to. Guests: Cara Mentzel, @authorcaramentzel & Idina Menzel, @idinamenzel Pre-Order Proud Mouse: https://books.disney.com/book/proud-mouse/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

All right, we all just need to calm down. If you're a regular listener, you've probably heard Gwenna and Tori mention regulation a time or two. In today's episode, they define the difference between regulation and co-regulation. Then, they delve into the many ways they practice regulation with their kids, themselves... and others Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Don’t talk back to me!" "I hope you have kids exactly like you!" Have you heard these phrases before? We certainly have. In this episode, Gwenna and Tori are ready to break some cycles, starting with the main offender: toxic parental phrases. They provide examples from their own upbringing and explain how they've consciously decided not to use them with their own kids. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When did you know you wanted kids? Some of us are still waiting for that moment, and that’s okay. After reading a recent article about how friendships are affected when a child is introduced, Gwenna and Tori wanted to open a conversation about how society's mindset towards children has changed. They also delve into the difference between choosing to be childless and simply disliking children. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So, just how big is 10 centimeters? In this episode, Gwenna and Tori join forces with labor and delivery nurse, Jen Hamilton, to assist you in shaping your ‘Birth Vibes,’ because pregnancy rarely adheres to any plan. The trio discusses their own pregnancy plan expectations vs. reality and delves into the challenging journey of coping with the grief that comes with those deviations. Wrapping up the conversation, they play a game of Pet, Kids, or Husband?. Who did Gwenna ask, "Is that a spider in your mouth? Spit it out!" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Looking for a scare? Fright this way. With Halloween a few weeks away, Gwenna and Tori are here to get you ready for all the candy, costumes, and scares… oh my. The duo shares their own stories from Halloweens past and present, delving into how they prepare for a spooky, but safe holiday. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Bad moms never wonder if they're doing a good job, and good moms never stop worrying that they're doing a bad one. In this episode, Gwenna and Tori want to talk about their (and probably your) Bad Mom moments. From Rock 'n Plays, iPads, vitamins, and bribery, the duo swaps the many ways they failed at being perfect parents. But in the midst of the chaos, they're here to remind you that there's no such thing as a perfect parent; we're all doing the best with what we have. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How frequently is your house 'Company Clean'? This week, Gwenna and Tori are joined by their IRL friend, Emily Feret, to discuss how they embrace the everyday chaos of life. They openly explore the decision to showcase their unfiltered reality, embracing the clutter in their content as a way to assure fellow parents that it's okay not to be perfect. The conversation then shifts to their perspective on self-care, highlighting the importance of acknowledging that sometimes, opting out of an activity can be a better form of self-care than indulging in a bubble bath. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get ready to start the timer because in this episode, Gwenna and Tori dive into the topic of the countless (or meticulously counted) hours parents spend on their kids. From patiently waiting for them after school to waiting on them to finish their story, the duo shares about all the instances when they found themselves in ‘Mom Wait Mode.’ But don’t worry, as Gwenna and Tori spill the rules on their favorite games to make the wait time fly by. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you cringe at the sight of Christmas commercials popping up immediately after Halloween, then this episode is for you. This week's, Tori and Gwenna guide you and your kids through the preparations for Thanksgiving. They discuss everything from creating sample plates and cherishing core memories to deciding which traditions are worth keeping and which ones you might want to bid farewell. As for them, the annual dog show no longer graces their television screens. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Well actually... you should listen to this episode. This week, Gwenna and Tori take a stroll down memory lane, reflecting on both their cherished and cursed phases that ultimately shaped their journey into parenthood. From the ear-worm enchantment of Baby Shark, to the 'The Redditor inquisitor', and the notorious 'Why?' phase, the duo explores the significance of these experiences and how they contribute to shaping one's identity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your questions have been received, and we are here with the responses you seek. In this episode, Gwenna and Tori delve into the contents of the Childproof inbox to address your questions. Whether it's defining the concept of "Gentle Parenting" or navigating the decision of when to let your kids experiment with makeup, the duo gives valuable advice and offers reassurance to accompany you on your parenting journey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s giving season, and in this episode, Gwenna and Tori explore the essence of the 'Three Gs' of Christmas: Gratitude, Giving, and Gifts. The conversation encompasses helping your kids understand the significance of gratitude, as well as recounting a few of their own gifting mishaps. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Caution: Christmas spoilers ahead—proceed with care! In this episode, Gwenna and Tori chat about the magic of Christmas, from Dancer, Prancer, Donner, and Blitzen, to the iconic red man himself. This leads them to the one question that occupies the minds of parents during the holiday season: Is Santa Claus a lie we tell our kids? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your wish is our command! In this week, Gwenna and Tori present you with an early Christmas gift—an episode without the timer. They kick off the conversation by delving into their sources of inspiration and passions, recounting the moments of discovery and their gradual evolutions. Then, they open up about the exciting journey of witnessing their own children uncover and explore their individual sparks. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is your New Year's resolution? Ours is to not make resolutions. In the final episode of 2023, Gwenna and Tori chat about their post-Christmas relaxation and New Year celebrations. Then, they delve into a reflection on the goals they set for 2023 and explore the intricacies of crafting new aspirations for the upcoming year, 2024. 2024 Vision Board - https://www.mommacusses.com/services-1  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

No matter the weather, we’re in it together. This week, Gwenna and Tori are preparing their children (and themselves) for inclement weather conditions. They share stories and offer valuable tips and tricks to guide you in navigating through a snowy day or a potential power outage with your kids. Emergency Radio: https://amzn.to/3uZIUKY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Knock knock. Who’s there? It’s Gwenna and Tori ready to kick off the New Year. In this episode, they delve into the topic of children’s privacy. Is it a right or a privilege? They cover when introduce the concept of privacy to their kids, how they maintain it, and how if differs from kid to kid. Preorder Momma Cusses : https://static.macmillan.com/static/smp/momma-cusses/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Gwenna and Tori have their plates full with breakfast, lunch, and dinner. In this episode, the duo chats all about their kids' preferred palate. From tacos de lengua to strictly dino nuggets, they share how they’ve adjusted to their kids' ever-evolving tastes and how they encourage them to try new foods. The short answer is bribery. Yes you may be excused, but make sure to come back next week for the second course of this conversation. Preorder Momma Cusses : https://static.macmillan.com/static/smp/momma-cusses/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Back for seconds already? Don’t worry, Gwenna and Tori have plenty of leftovers from last week. They dive into their perspectives on addressing the topic of body image with their children (as well as with themselves) and explore its connection to diet. Then, they offer valuable tips, tricks, and resources that you can employ to guide your children in navigating a world centered around body awareness. Referenced Accounts: @feedinglittles @andydoeshealthy @kids.nutritionist @kids.eat.in.color Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gather 'round, children (and parents), it's story time! In this week's episode, Gwenna and Tori share their favorite parenting stories. From sleeve beans, tree floofs, and giant Elsa's they reflect on the lessons learned by both themselves and their kids. We want to hear from you! Head to Childproof@betches.com to share stories of your own. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Grab your favorite coffee, tea, or Four Loko and get ready to find yourself again. This week, Gwenna and Tori found inspiration from a fellow mom friend who has reached that stage in parenthood where she can carve out time for herself. They reflect on their own journeys, discussing the challenges of losing one's identity after having a baby and the newfound self-discoveries that have emerged in the process. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy Valentine's Day! On this episode, Gwenna and Tori air out their grievances about celebrating the day of love. They share what their favorite Valentine's gifts are and which ones get shuffled around the house for a couples days (or months). Then, they introduce a new segment highlighting a listener email who asks how to handle a pre-teen who "doesn't know". Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Don't cry, we're back with another episode! This week, Gwenna and Tori chat a little more about how to help your kids, help you, help them identify their emotions. They start off detailing the unique paths they take to get to the same result, avoiding a meltdown. They share how they introduce their kids to disappointment, stop a tantrums once they start, and how to avoid them in the future. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Congratulations, you've reached your podcast listening milestone. In this episode, Gwenna and Tori dive into the long list of developmental milestones that your kids are expected to meet. They offer reassurance to listeners, acknowledging the immense pressure felt by parents and emphasizing that you don't need to feel guilty if your children deviate from the list. However, they recount their own encounters with detecting early signs of developmental delays, shedding light on potential implications. CDC’s Developmental Milestones: https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/actearly/milestones/index.html Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's episode is a special dedication to our very own TikTok sensation, Gwenna. Her recently released book, "Momma Cusses: A Field Guide to Responsive Parenting & Trying Not to Be the Reason Your Kid Needs Therapy," is now available, and we're thrilled to get a glimpse behind the curtain. Tori asks Gwenna to delve into her journey, starting from the moment she realized her passion for writing, to her audience, and the significant role her family played in the writing process. Order Gwenna's Book: https://static.macmillan.com/static/smp/momma-cusses/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, Gwenna and Tori are thrilled to welcome Megan McNamee, one of the minds behind the Instagram account @feedinglittles. Recognizing the profound impact that Megan's platform has had on their own approaches to navigating the realm of food with their children, they eagerly invite her to delve deeper into the topic. The discussion starts with the myth surrounding "picky eaters" and the importance of respecting children's individual preferences. From there, the trio delves into practical strategies and tools aimed at enriching children's dining experiences, while also addressing the perennial question of when to introduce dessert into the equation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Okay, I'm going to need some space. In this episode, Gwenna and Tori delve into the topic of spaces within their homes. From shared living areas to designated play zones, the duo discusses the dynamics of family spaces. They explore the intricacies chore systems with their children, highlighting tips and tricks of finding organizational methods that suit each child's temperament. Wrapping up, they reflect on the importance of aesthetics in their homes, sharing insights into the specific aesthetic styles they resonate with and how they manage to maintain them as well as their kids's. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Gwenna and Tori find themselves halfway through spring break and already found themselves in the pit of the avocado (IYKYK). They share stories about supporting their children in preparing for emergencies, fostering their interests, and handling anger. This episode is just as jam-packed as your "week off," so be sure to tune in. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's let go, together. This week, Gwenna and Tori dive into the art of lowering expectations, both for themselves and their children. They kick off their discussion with school, acknowledging the struggle surrounding grades as a significant aspect of expectations. While recognizing that grades aren't the sole measure of a child's worth, they can give parents a peek into a kids holistic wellbeing. Transitioning into extracurricular activities, they share their experiences of striving to provide their children with diverse opportunities while also learning the importance of establishing healthy boundaries. Amidst the whirlwind of daily life, they discovered the necessity of showing themselves grace, particularly during meal times, recognizing that ensuring their children are nourished and content is what's important. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Gwenna is joined by Dr. Sujay Kansagra, pediatric neurologist and director of the pediatric neurology sleep medicine program at Duke Health. The duo dives into the intricacies of sleep training, discovering its true meaning, and its unique application within each family dynamic. They also explore the complexities of sleep cycles, circadian rhythms, and the surprising impact a mere 5-minute nap can have. Wrapping up, they offer insights into effectively communicating with your pediatrician when your child is experiencing sleep difficulties. Get Dr. Kansagra's Book: https://shorturl.at/crJP8 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sharing is caring... well, sometimes. This week, Tori returns, and the dynamic duo dives into the topic of sharing. They explore the nuances of sharing, whether it's about food, toys, or even navigating the grocery store aisles. With tips, tricks, and sayings, they reflect on their experiences in guiding their children through interactions with others. As they say, "We look with our eyes, not with our hands," imparting a valuable lesson on the importance of respecting boundaries and fostering cooperation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The simple solution is… you should listen to this episode. This week, Tori and Gwenna discuss the challenges of parenting and finding those simple solutions. They introduce us to the lesson of Occam’s razor, which states that the simplest answer is often the best solution. Drawing from personal experiences, they share their own stories from navigating online information overload, teaching children the art of drinking from a glass, and managing one’s emotions. With each story, they hammer home how the best results always came from the simplest solutions. To close out, Gwenna challenges Tori to a game of Dry Side or Wet Side, brought to you by Splash Refresher. Do you look at the dry side, or wet side of a problem? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What’s your biggest pet peeve? This week, Gwenna and Tori are here to rant. The duo vents about everyday parental frustrations and pet peeves from Kidz Bop to Frozen karaoke, and even self-flushing toilets. What do all of these have in common? The robot revolution. To close out, they are back with another round of Dry Side or Wet Side, brought to you by Splash Refresher. Do you look at the dry side or wet side of a problem? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As Childproof’s first birthday approaches, Gwenna and Tori are thrilled to bring you a special mailbag episode. Listeners have submitted questions about managing the never ending energy of a two year old to supporting their kids through divorce, and even teaching boundaries with preteens. Plus, they’re back again with a game of Dry Side or Wet Side, brought to you by Splash Refresher. Do you look at the dry side or wet side of life? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Don’t be nervous! This week, Gwenna and Tori are joined by Philippa Soo and Maris Pasquale Doran to discuss their children's book 'Piper Chen Sings' and the inspiration behind it. They talk about the importance of kids acknowledging and navigating through their bigger emotions like stage fright. The book aims to empower children to embrace their feelings and find their voice. To close out, Gwenna and Tori play a game of Dry Side or Wet Side, brought to you by Splash Refresher. Do you look at the dry side or wet side of life? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I think it's time we have "The Talk". Tori and Gwenna are joined by Rachel Coller Mulholland, a nationally certified counselor and author of 'The Birds, The Bees and The Elephant in the Room,' to discuss the importance of having tough conversations with kids about sex and other sensitive topics. Rachel provides advice for parents feeling shame or discomfort around these conversations and emphasizes comprehensive sex education. The book is divided by age appropriateness and covers topics like body awareness, puberty, consent, and healthy relationships, offering a framework for discussing sensitive topics and building trust. Pre-Order 'The Birds, The Bees and The Elephant in the Room': https://shorturl.at/NZjBW Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Summer has begun! In this episode, Gwenna and Tori share their excitement and challenges of the summer season, including the chaos of end-of-school-year activities and the need for balance between structured activities and free time. They share their summer bucket list activities like learning to swim, digging a hole, and going to the library. They close with listing off the wacky rules their families have to implement during summer vacation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This will definitely be a core memory. In this episode, Gwenna and Tori discuss their issues with the movie Inside Out and how it introduced 'core memories' into society. They share how comparing themselves to their own highlight reels is a common occurrence among parents, but even their bloopers aren't as bad as they think. The duo swap core memory stories from both their past as well as ones they have unintentionally given their kids. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Betches Media’s Childproof is a parenting chat show for when you’re craving adult conversation. As parents to three kids each, co-hosts Gwenna Laithland and Tori Phantom have been there. They know that sometimes our kids are the ones on the verge of a tantrum, and that sometimes it’s us. On Childproof, they attempt to figure out the dos, don’ts, and f*ck its of modern parenthood. Tune in every Wednesday, starting May 3rd, 2023 and subscribe now so you don't miss an episode! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Bring out the feelings wheel! In this episode, Gwenna and Tori emphasize the importance of allowing children to experience and express their emotions. They share practical tools like the ‘feelings wheel’ and ‘catastrophe scale’ to help children regulate their emotions, and discuss the role of boundaries, including the necessity of making children mad to enforce them. They share their own experiences, highlighting the need for parents to model emotional intelligence, repair mistakes, and distinguish between big feelings and trauma. The Feelings Wheel: Feelingswheel.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kids say the darnedest things. In this episode, Tori and Gwenna discuss how to handle kids saying mean sh*t. They emphasize teaching children about social norms, empathy, and the impact of their words. They also stress the importance of teaching intent versus impact and navigating sarcasm and phrases like "no offense" and "just kidding." To close they read off some listener emails about childhood memories and Furby nightmares. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you don't listen to this episode, I'm telling Mom! This week, Tori and Gwenna discuss the dynamics of sibling relationships, sharing their own experiences and how they navigate conflicts and foster strong bonds. They emphasize the importance of boundaries, autonomy, and communication, addressing issues like tattling, sibling competition, and comparison. They encourage fostering positive sibling relationships and teaching children to be gracious winners and losers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to our first Ages and Stages episode. This week, Tori and Gwenna walk through the early years. They emphasize trusting your instincts, prioritizing sleep, and realizing that disposable products can be self care. They discuss letting go of worries, balancing challenges, and dealing with regressions, while also stressing the importance of keeping and creating memories. They share their stories and advice on scrapbooking, gentle parenting, and the significance of repetition and communication in parenting toddlers (even though you hate it). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this second episode of Ages and Stages, Gwenna and Tori discuss the unique challenges and experiences of parenting children in the pre-K to third grade age range. They talk about the importance of setting boundaries with screens, teaching children to be bored and creative, navigating conflicts and emotions, and the random rules and commands that come with this age. They share their experiences and insights on a child's development of personalities, interests, and friendships. They also touch on the milestone of starting school and the emotions that come with it. The conversation also delves into the topic of screen time and the challenges parents face in managing it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Tori and Gwenna discuss the challenges of parenting middle grade, preteen, and teenage children. They emphasize the importance of maintaining open communication and trust with their children during this stage while addressing the misconception that teenagers are solely driven by hormones. They recommend Rachel Coler Mulholland's book, 'The Birds, The Bees, and The Elephant in the Room,' as a helpful resource for navigating teenagers and the need for open communication. Tori and Gwenna round it out by emphasizing the importance of empathy, mutual respect, and boundary-setting when parenting middle graders. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Tori and Gwenna delve into the intricate world of parenting children with deep passions, exploring how their kids' intense interests shape their family dynamics. Reflecting on the influence of pop culture on their kids' knowledge and the importance of finding common ground, they discuss the nuances of malicious compliance and various ways children express emotions. From the joys of discovering glitter's allure to appreciating life's small wonders, they explore sensory preferences in clothing and the valuable lessons learned from their children. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Who is ready for their kids to go back to school?!” If you raised your hand, you’re in good company. In this episode, Gwenna and Tori discuss the buzz of the new school year, the challenges of back-to-school shopping, and strategies for buying school supplies. Their mantra: "Reuse, reuse, reuse!" In this anticipatory episode, they touch on everything from drop-off line etiquette to uncomfy school shoes to finding peace in not being a Bento-box parent. Plus, the importance of involving teachers in decisions about fidgets and school supplies that double as toys (because we all know it's coming). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Tori and Gwenna dive into the complexities of parenting with wisdom and humor as they tackle the tough questions: Should you skip errands on a rough day? How can parents help kids manage their fears? They offer invaluable advice on staying flexible, regulating emotions, and embracing the silly moments with your little ones. Drawing from personal experiences, they offer insights on navigating transitions like moving homes and helping kids transition from cribs to big beds. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kids music parents will actually like?! This week, Tori and Gwenna are joined by Tim Kubart, a Grammy Award winning children’s musician, to share his journey into the world of children's music and his approach to creating engaging and meaningful songs for kids. Together they discuss the importance of finding a balance between not talking down to kids and not talking over their heads, while making music that is accessible and enjoyable for parents, too! Tim delves into the importance of honesty and kindness, his approach to tackling real issues like children’s mental health, and his collaboration with illustrator Laurie Richmond on his book 'Oopsie Do'. Plus, Tim discusses his new song, 'Really Real You' - trust us, you won’t be able to resist a dance party with your kiddos! @timkubart Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you think you were going to be packing bento boxes or going on every field trip, but then never did? That’s ok, us too. In this episode, Tori and Gwenna discuss their expectations of parenthood versus the reality. They explore how our expectations can be way different than the realities of parenting, focusing on various aspects such as teaching kids to drive, cooking creative meals, taking family photos, managing screen time, and participating in sports activities. Together, they highlight how the challenges and joys of parenting expand when we adapt and adjust to the reality of expectations as children grow. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Routines, habits, schedules, and systems are different but interconnected. In this episode, Tori and Gwenna share personal examples of how they have implemented systems in their own lives, such as organizing art supplies and keeping track of iPads. They also discuss the importance of buy-in from children and how to get them involved in the system-building process. Together they discuss the need to adapt and modify systems as children grow and circumstances change. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If a child is old enough to ask a question, they are old enough to deserve an answer. In this episode, Gwenna and Tori discuss the importance of having hard conversations with kids about topics like death, divorce, and illness. They also highlight the need to take time to think before responding to difficult questions and to approach these conversations in a developmentally appropriate way. They share personal experiences of navigating difficult conversations, such as the death of a pet and a family member's heart attack. They also discuss the role of humor in coping with difficult situations and the importance of creating a safe space for children to express their feelings. Overall, the conversation highlights the need for open and honest communication with children while considering their individual needs and understanding. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There is no right or wrong way to celebrate birthdays. In this episode, Tori and Gwenna share their reasons for not hosting parties, the challenges of planning and organizing kids parties, and the importance of accessibility and inclusivity. They also talk about their own birthday traditions and celebrations, including decorations and treats. They share tips and advice on topics such as opening presents at the party, handling rowdy behavior, sending invitations, dealing with cake mishaps, communicating dietary needs, and talking to kids about giving and receiving gifts. Plus, Tori and Gwenna share their parenting must haves in a special segment sponsored by Splash Refresher! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes, bribery is the solution to the problems you create for yourself. In this episode, Gwenna and Tori compare notes on some of the weird things they’ve done and said for their kids, from emotional support rats, to Hamilton hyper-fixations, and explaining how libraries work. Gwenna discovers that breakfast candy can rewire years of sleep habits, Tori explains a hack for making sandwiches more palatable for their kid, and they go over their Halloween essentials in a special segment sponsored by Splash Refresher. Tori tells Gwenna about their kid’s “YouTube Channel” (vlogs on Tori’s camera roll that never get posted anywhere), which leads into a discussion about Instagram’s new Teen Accounts and how parents can keep their kids safe on social media. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time for another mail bag! Gwenna and Tori dive right into the Childproof inbox to see what’s been on the listeners’ minds, and share some stories of their own. They cover everything from embarrassing your kids, to learning to give yourself grace when you lose your cool, and memories of getting lost in the supermarket. Then, in a segment sponsored by Splash Refresher, they share some of their self-care essentials. And finally, they close out the episode with some listener reviews. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Teachers are a vital part of our village, and they are on our side. In this episode, Gwenna and Tori unpack all things back to school, from field trips, to pockets full of rocks, and bafflingly disorganized folders. They tackle the question that every parent faces when it comes to their kids’ projects: keep or throw away? And is your kid’s head just itchy, or it is another lice outbreak? All we know for sure, is that a tiny dinosaur is a very tiny problem. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you're a hobby collector, this episode is for you. Gwenna and Tori discuss their many extracurricular pastimes, past and present (RIP Tori's miniature building), and why occupying your hands can be the key to quieting your mind. They catch each other up on their kids' hobbies, how to figure out if their latest fixation is a true passion or just a phase, and what to do when your kid gets really into something you never cared about before. Then, they cover the ways parents can avoid the pitfall of making your kids your hobby at the expense of their own personal interests. And finally, they highlight the importance of building in breaks (and boredom) into both your and your kids' schedules. Make sure to check out Gwenna's Hobby series over on her YouTube Channel, Pleasant Peasant Media! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why does it seem like reverse psychology only works when you don't want it to!? In this episode, Tori and Gwenna explore the humorous and often frustrating paradoxes of parenting. They discuss the conundrum of finding clothes that actually fit children, how illnesses always seems to strike before vacation, and the flabbergasting peculiarities of children's memories. Tori and Gwenna explore the complexities of their children's development, the significance of creating safe spaces for sharing, and the humorous yet frustrating realities of navigating food preferences and helpfulness in children.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If your child has ever screamed in a library, had a melt down in the freezer aisle, or if you've ever felt like apologizing for having kids (you don't!), then this episode is for you. In this episode of Childproof, Tori and Gwenna discuss the unpredictable nature of parenting, particularly in public settings. Together they chat about focusing on teaching children safety, social skills, and empathy while setting expectations. They dive into the challenges parents face when navigating public environments with children and the strategies they employ to foster good behavior and awareness in their kids. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever found yourself googling "Why is my child saying gyatt?" into the wee hours of the morning? This week, Gwenna and Tori turn to Google Auto Complete for the internet's most burning parenting questions, and share their insights. They tackle everything from "Why do kids walk on their toes?" and "When should kids learn to read?" to "When should parents have The Talk?" and what to do if "My kid keeps getting bit at daycare." They unpack the joys of kids finding their own way to vampire literature, the pains of tummy time, and why lying might not be as big of a red flag as you think. Ultimately, if you're googling it, it might be time to just call your doctor. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Just because you've never *seen* a tiger robot stuffy, that doesn't meant it doesn't exist. This week, Gwenna and Tori are here to help distract you from the news cycle with a mini games episode. They share their latest cute kid-isms ("My leg brains forgot"), pet updates, thoughts on all the most nostalgic foods from their own childhood (do Lunchables actually taste worse now or have our tastebuds changed?), and a few rounds of Would You Rather. To close out the episode, they try their best to stump each other with 2 Truths and a Lie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Good parents never stop thinking they’re doing a bad job; bad parents never stop to wonder if they’re doing a good one. This week, Gwenna and Tori turn to the Childproof inbox to read your emails, and share some thoughts of their own. Much to Gwenna's dismay, it turns out Surge *did* have a short-lived revival. And much to Tori's dismay, the debate about what part of NY is actually Upstate appears to be never-ending. They cover everything from the very relatable fear of messing up your kids, to an ingenious hack for winning arguments, some fresh takes on school subject folder colors, and what happens when you become obsessed with Dr. Kevorkian. Gwenna successfully Rick Rolls her husband, Tori manages to reference Hamilton more than twice, and they share the universally understood Feet Under The Door method of bringing your kids into public bathrooms. Finally, they close out the episode with an impassioned rant about changing tables. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your best is still your best when you don't have as much to give. This week, Gwenna and Tori talk all about emotions, what to do with them, and how to feel your feelings without making them everyone else's problem. They get into their coping mechanisms, how to teach your kids about processing their emotions, and the ways we co-regulate with other adults both IRL and online. Whether your head hurts or your heart hurts, you deserve to feel better. Email us at childproof@betches.com to let us know how you regulate. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s always parenting on hard mode when you’re parenting anywhere else but home territory. This week, Gwenna and Tori share their ultimate Thanksgiving food rankings for both eating and cooking, and Gwenna vents about the nightmare of holiday house hopping. Then, they share some helpful tips for ways that child-free people hosting Thanksgiving can prepare their house for young kids (consider the forbidden spaghetti and cover your sockets), and tips for parents who are worried about how their kids will handle being in an unfamiliar space (so many extra pairs of underwear). Email us at childproof@betches.com with your most chaotic holiday stories! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes, you just have to push through the discomfort and get really specific. This week, Gwenna and Tori discuss what moms actually want for the holidays, how to give a truly thoughtful gift that won't break the bank, and demystifying the idea that you are "hard to shop for." Don't forget to think about yourself for once - after all, if you don't know what you want, how is anyone else supposed to figure it out? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have a melancholy Christmas, it is…a time of year. This week, Gwenna and Tori share their struggle to get into the holiday spirit, and the way they're living vicariously through their kids' joy. They unpack the feeling of inadequacy wrapped up in Elf on a Shelf, the unrealistic expectations that social media sets us up for, and quality over quantity when it comes to gifts for your kids. Sometimes, the simplest family traditions can make this time of year the most special, and it's ok to let go of traditions that no longer spark joy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Context matters when you want to call your brother a Silly Pumpkin Doo-Doo Head. This week, Gwenna and Tori discuss the complexities of sibling dynamics with your kids, from fairness in gift giving, to baby tooth envy, and how to explain when name calling crosses the boundary from playful to mean. They compare notes on what to do when your kids are fighting, how to foster each of their individual personalities, and what makes a meaningful apology. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Gwenna and Tori share some sad - but ultimately exciting - news. Childproof is parting ways with Betches Media, but the show lives on! We're going on a short break for the holidays, and to get situated, but there will be a new episode dropping in January. Plus, all future episodes will be going up on YouTube as well, along with a ton of exciting video content on both of our channels! Stay subscribed right here for the audio version, and make sure you're following us on all social media so you know as soon as we're back. Follow Gwenna: IG / Threads / TikTok YouTube: Pleasant Peasant Media  Follow Tori: IG / Threads / TikTok YouTube: Tori Phantom Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes you gotta do it anxious. There’s a difference between feeling anxious and living with anxiety. No matter what level of anxious you feel, you still have to parent and adult and work and live. This episode we discuss how anxiety impacts us, how we help our kids process their anxiety, and how anxiety isn’t all bad all the time. 

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Being a twenty-first century parent is a lot. You have to find time for yourself while prioritizing yourself. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself. Be yourself. But how are you supposed to do that when these kids rely on you for almost everything. How do you find time to be yourself, or even remember who you are while parenting? The answer: we don’t know but here’s a few things we do just for us - ways we try to balance the person with the parent. 

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We like to read. We really like to read. Books have been a constant companion of both Tori and Gwenna and we are working on passing that love of reading on. It’s a slower process that we expected with some of our kids. Others jumped right in. This episode we discuss how we help our kids choose books, series they love, series we love, and how we find time as parents to read. (Spoiler: Mostly audiobooks and pickup line time.)

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