Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella (Janice Formichella)

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

Today I am re-posting one of my favorite episodes from the first year of the podcast so that I can focus on my long holiday :) I hope you'll learn from and like it.

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupspodcast/

Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. 

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Trigger warning: gun violence, stalking, partner violence, suicide

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and we are honored to be kicking it off with a conversation with Ruth Glenn, President of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. Ruth's story is one of survival, inspiration, and information for us all to use and share.

Domestic violence is a prevalent and misunderstood issue impacting individuals and families in every community in this country. It is estimated that nearly 20 people per minute are being physically abused in the United States, with life-altering non-physical violence just as common but less recognized.

Yet as pervasive an issue as it is, there are myths and misunderstandings that make daily life even less safe for victims and survivors. In today’s interview, we speak with Ruth about:

-Her story of being abused by her husband

-Why “why didn’t you leave” misses the point and puts the blame on the abused person

-How you can provide hope and support to someone in your life who may be being abused

-How to recognize abuse in your relationship

-How to be an advocate to victims and survivors

Plus: how to get involved with the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and join the movement against intimate partner violence.

The NCADV is 100% reliant on grassroots support and donations and not funded by government grants. Please visit them today at https://ncadv.org/ to learn about the various ways to get involved.

Help us spread awareness this Domestic Violence Awareness Month by using the hashtag #weareresilient in your posts.

Want to get to know us more? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Breakups are part of life. Children are a part of life. But…the two don’t go together all that well, right? Well, I’ve called in the experts to help!

This week I am joined by two of return co-hosts and friends of the show to take a deep dive into (almost) everything that has to do with discussing breakups with your children. Dating-after-divorce coach Brian Dunn and co-parenting coach Katie Davie join me for a powerful roundtable chat about this sticky circumstance. We cover:

-Telling your children that you and their other parent are getting a divorce

-The difference between telling children about divorce and other types of breakups

-Age-appropriate ways to have these discussions

-Looking after yourself while looking after your children

-How much is too much as far as involving your children in your breakups

-Introducing new partners to your children

-Talking about your co-parent’s breakups

-AND MORE

PLUS: Listener questions!

Please go show Brian some love. Follow him on IG at mrbriancdunn and TicTok at mrbriancdunn

AND Please go show Katie some love, and get in touch with her if you want to learn about one-on-one support for navigating the co-parenting journey. You can find her on IG at CoparentingPeacefully.

Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com.

Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Questions covered: -Everyone around me seems so happy. This is really hard. What should I do? -I don’t want to be alone for the holidays and can’t get past that. Tips? An affirmation to use today: -I love my own company. I am my own soulmate. PLUS: journal prompts to help you process your emotions Episodes for more support: Ep. 9: Single on Valentine’s Day Ep. 19: Will I ever love like that again? Ep. 38: Loneliness and Breakups with Janice _________________________________________________________________________ Is our Move on in 12 Days series helping you survive the holidays? We would love you to let us know by leaving us a review at Apple Podcasts. Want to connect with the Ex-Philes gals? Find the show on IG at @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice at @Janiceformichella. Or, join the Ex-Phile FB community at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  🌈🌈 The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

How do you process the emotions that come after a breakup? In this episode, Clair dives into the popular RAIN mindfulness technique as a way to gain acceptance of a breakup and the emotions that come with that loss. She also shares a tool for when you're all processed out and need to interrupt a rumination spiral that you can't seem to shake. Yes, we need to process our emotions and not avoid them, but we also need to continue to experience life because life is beautiful and that doesn't change even after a breakup!

We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. We want to know you and for you to know us!

One of my most popular episodes is here to support you again!

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup 

Journaling sure is having a moment, isn’t it? Want to know how it can actually help with your breakup? In this week’s episode, I cover:

-The mental health benefits of journaling

-How writing directly helps with the pain of a breakup

-Ways that I have used journaling in my life and in my breakups

-3 powerful journal prompts to get started

Grab a pen and paper - if you’re serious about healing your heart this episode is for you. 

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And as promised, here’s how you can schedule a free intro call with me: 

Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

Resources mentioned in this episode: 

Playlists: 

Breakups: It’s time to kick ass

Breakups: it’s okay to grieve

Breakups: self-love

Breakups: You’re going to make it

Journaling: University of Rochester’s Health Encyclopedia

Healthline: 6 Journaling Benefits and How to Start Right Now

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Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @janiceformichella

Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. 

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

🥂🥂🥂 Pour a summer cocktail and settle in for this month’s happy hour episode! This time we take a major deep dive into another classic, and ten-year-old, romcom. He’s Just Not That Into You is a great movie for two breakup coaches to get tipsy and talk trash about. And this time - we do it in person - yay!  If you are struggling with a breakup and want a fun distraction this weekend - this episode is for you!  Some highlights:  -What we loved about it  -What we thought was weird, outdated, and cringy  -How sexy Ben Affleck is in this film  -Our favorite quotes from the film  -What "beef and broccoli" really means  -Whether or not you should take your leftovers with you on a first, second, or third date  Is there a movie you would like to have us analyze while we drink? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

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Trauma bonds are a very real dynamic that can keep us in very unhealthy relationships and prevent us from developing meaningful intimacy even after we untangle ourselves from the person we have found ourselves taken hostage by. 

In this powerful replay I cover: 

-What trauma bonds ARE

-What trauma bonds are NOT

-Identifying if you are trapped in one

-Recovering from a trauma bond

-Fantasy bonds

If this episode helps you please let me know by going over to IG and sending me a DM. 

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @janiceformichella

Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. 

 

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Are you using dating apps while also saying how hard it is to meet people on them? Are you trying to get back out there after healing from a breakup and feeling like it’s slim pickings?

The problem might be with your mindset!

We want you to have FUN dating and to manifest the relationships you desire. And we see a lot of people trapped in some mindset patterns that keep them having a LAME time and even creating some self-fulfilling prophecies. Let’s do something about it!

If you are dating or planning to date soon - click play. Here’s what we have in store for you:

-why you might keep going on the apps even though you think it sucks

-why dating apps are great for the jaded daters out there

-the most common thought patterns that keep people stuck in unfulfilling online dating lives

-the top things you need to know about using apps that will help you set positive and realistic expectations

Want to have fun out there? Start with this fun chat. We might lose our train of thought a couple of times as we go along, but that’s how you know we are keeping it real and keeping it casual (just like you might want to do on the apps!).

Make sure to get to the end of this zanny Ex-Philes episode before you start swiping again.

Remember - we’ve got your backs!

Interested in Messy Path, the podcast we recommend in this episode? Check them out here or wherever you listen to podcasts.

Do you think that these are some dating tips that you can apply to your dating life? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Register for our live Valentine’s show:  https://www.eventbrite.com/e/virtual-valentines-ex-philes-live-qa-show-tickets-249747500497

We have been on a mission to help our listeners love Valentine’s Day since the beginning of the podcast. Today we are releasing an oldie but goodie: one of our first Ex-Philes episodes all on the topic of being single on Valentine’s Day.

Why is this so important to us:

We don’t think it is fair that our society tries to tell us that it is better to be in a relationship than to be single.

We don’t think that it is fair that this cute holiday is set up to hurt people who don’t have romantic love in their lives!

We don’t think that it is fair that anyone should feel pain on a day that is sort of imposed on them (it’s not our choice that this happens on Feb. 14th, right?)

We don’t want any of our beloved listeners to be sad on this day.

If you agree we would love for you to join us for our Valentine’s LIVE show happening on February 14th at 8pm EST. Get your tickets here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/virtual-valentines-ex-philes-live-qa-show-tickets-249747500497

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup 

Are you struggling with a breakup and despite REALLY wanting to beat it finding that nothing is working? Has it been ages and you still miss your ex? BIG HUG. We know that this can be a really frustrating place to find yourself and we want to help.

Healing a broken heart takes a combination of time AND effort. There is a lot of intention involved, despite what so many people may say about time healing all wounds. Sometimes, it can be useful for someone to point you in the right direction...that’s what breakup coaches are for!

This episode can be a fresh start for your healing, if you let it. Today we chat about:

-The 10 Breakup Commandments

-What you may be doing to hold yourself back from healing

-How holding onto a relationship may be aiding in the story we are telling about the breakup

-Our own experiences with breakup devastation

-Steps you can take NOW to add power to your healing journey

Plus words of support for your breakup.

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Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @janiceformichella

Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. 

 

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

When it comes to any type of healing our thoughts often determine the outcome. This is perhaps the truest when it comes to a breakup. When we are feeling heartbroken or down and out, however, it cam be hard to see what our mindsets are and even harder to change them. 

Well—I got you!  Today I share five mindset tips for breakup success, including one thing that I have never, ever been wrong about.

You got this! 

Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. 

Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. 

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Do you feel like you strike out over and over again? Do you feel that there is something about you that makes it hard for you to connec with people? Do you wonder if you are doomed to be alone? 

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

Do you feel insecure about your looks? Do you feel insecure about your quirks?

Today Brian Dunn and I are talking about what makes people feel “undatable” and what ANYONE who feels this way can to turn this around and get out there with *confidence* and swagger. 

We discuss: 

-What makes some people feel unattractive or undatable -Our personal stories with limiting beliefs-Common limiting beliefs that keep people stuck in dating-Common areas where people feel self-conscious or insecure-Breaking patterns-Geting what you want out of dating-Confidence building tips

Please go show Brian some podcast love. Follow him on IG at mrbriancdunn and TicTok at mrbriancdunn

Connect with me!

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @breakupspodcast

@JaniceFormichella

Quotes from this episode: 

“Want confidence? Set small goals and keep promises to yourself.” -Brian Dunn

“Feeling secure enough to go out into the wild on your own is a sure-fire way to build confidence.” -Janice Formichella

“Smiling at people not only builds your confidence, it is very magnetic.” -Janice Formichella

“Talking to a stranger and prove to yourself that it didn’t blow up in your face.” -Brian Dunn

“If you don’t know what you want, it’s easy to keep repeating the same patterns and accepting anything that comes your way.” -Janice Formichella

“Attachment styles are not encoded on us.” -Janice Formichella

Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. 

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

Solo travel has a TON of benefits, especially after a breakup. Today I am joined by solo travel enthusiast Kelly Saavedra to talk about our recent post-breakup adventures, how it helps with healing a broken heart, and HOW to DO IT. Plus-advice on dealing with the naysayers. 

**Please** go show Kelly some podcast love! Follow her on IG at kellyannexplores

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @breakupspodcast 

Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. 

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Today we share the things that make us US. We have had an amazing first year as a podcast and we thought for one of our celebrations it might be fun to do a feel-good episode and chit chat about some of the interesting parts of our personal backstories and what make us the women and breakup coaches that we are today.

We love learning about our listeners and look forward to continuing to build the connection by continuing to share our stories. But not everything that has created us has to do with our love lives and various breakups! In today’s chill episode we talk about:

-Clair’s cats!

-The many places Janice has lived

-Clair’s current love life

-Did growing up Mormon turn Janice into a wanna-be sexologist?

-Our very unique hobbies

-Why an introvert and an extrovert make great podcast co-hosts

Learn more about Janice’s crazy journey out of Mormonism by listening to her episode “Cut Off From Mormonism with Janice Formichella" on the great podcast Bitches, Witches, and Queers: On Spotify or Apple.

Would you like us to do more “getting to know us” content? What would you like to know? Send us a DM with your query and we will do our best to fill you in on the juicy details.

If you have loved the first year of Ex-Philes content, please leave us a review on Apple podcasts. Send us a screenshot with your review and we will slide into your snail mail with Ex-Philes stickers and a thank you.

Interested in coaching? Send us a message on IG @ExPhilesPodcast

And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider! 

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What are you struggling to come to terms with when it comes to your breakup or the relationship? Have you considered that re-writing the narrative you are telling yourself may be the key to closure?

We are tickled PINK to be joined by a fan of the show today! Kate Marlene is (besides Janice’s twin) a content creator who also works one-on-one with people to heal through narrative therapy and storytelling. She is a WARRIOR who has used her breakups to learn about herself and grow. Kate’s premise is one that can help all of our listeners: YOU have the ability to write an empowering story about your breakup and about the relationship. The narrative you create can help you to get into the diver’s seat in life.

PLUS - we throw in a dash of the positive outcomes of Kate’s no contact journey.

👉🏻 Please go and follow Kate’s work. She is doing incredible things to support her continued healing and healing for others. Find her on IG @katemarlenelove and check out her podcast and cool projects on Facebook here. 

#breakups #healing #nocontact #divorce 

Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Questions covered: -I feel like I’m doing good and then out of nowhere the sadness/shock comes back. Am I doing it wrong? An affirmation to use today: - I honor my messiness. PLUS: journal prompts to help you process your emotions Episodes for more support: Ep. 13: How to ask for help after a breakup Ep. 17: Why do I only think about the good times? Ep. 23: The healing power of crying _________________________________________________________________________ Is our Move on in 12 Days series helping you survive the holidays? We would love you to let us know by leaving us a review at Apple Podcasts. Want to connect with the Ex-Philes gals? Find the show on IG at @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice at @Janiceformichella. Or, join the Ex-Phile FB community at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  🌈🌈 The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.: Move On in 12 Days Holiday Miniseries

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup 

We’ve all heard it. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. The stages of grief that are applied to nearly any loss a person may experience. But do they apply to breakups? We know that the grief surrounding the loss of a relationship is truly unique and that it may be more helpful to talk about breakup grief and healing in a new way.

In this week’s episode, we are outlining alternative stages of grief for breakups based on our experience as coaches and humans who have been through breakups. We are also providing tips and suggestions for coping with each one and using it as an opportunity to advance your healing.

Rememeber; healing isn’t linear and you have the right to your own experience. These are just suggestions to help you on your way.

If this episode helps you with your breakup healing we would love you to let us know by leaving us a review on Apple podcasts!

Happy PRIDE month!

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @janiceformichella

Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. 

 

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

This week, we talk about our top ten breakup recovery tips, AKA the 10 Breakup Commandments. If you follow these 10 rules, we think you’ll be creating the best conditions to get over your ex quickly and healthily. We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. We want to know you and for you to know us!

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup 

Happy New Year! Ready to make it a great year, put your breakup behind you, and write a beautiful new chapter in your life? This week we have a fun and light episode to fill you in on exactly how to make it happen using our personal manifesting hacks and practices.

We often say that a breakup is an OPPORTUNITY for a new beginning in life, if you let it be. The best way to let it be a new beginning is to take intentional steps to create a new reality. This is where the joy of manifesting comes in. Even if your breakup was a bummer, you can turn things around and not only come out on top, but with a brand new life that looks and feels more magical than you thought possible.

Ready to get started? This week the Ex-Philes gals share:

-What the Law of Attraction really means and how it can help you heal from your breakup

-An affirmation practice perfect for the new year

-Janice’s vision board method

-How to start using desire to guide your new life

-How to mix up your environment to start manifesting

-What your morning routine has to do with manifesting what you want in life

-Why you need to CUT TIES with your ex to call in your new beginning (and HOW to do it)

-Reclaiming your weekends for powerful manifesting

We are so excited for you and your new beginning and look forward to being with you this year as you make great things happen!

#lawofattraction #manifesting #visionboard #affirmations

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @janiceformichella

Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. 

 

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup 

How will I know I have moved on? How will I know I am ready to date again? These are questions I hear all of the time. “Moving on” is a fairly abstract concept, so today I am giving you som measurable benchmarks to monitor your progress.

I share: 

-Why it is important to know what “moving on” looks like

-How not fully moving on from a breakup prevents us from enjoying the moment 

-My stages of breakup grief

-The importance of acceptance

-What your day will look like once you move on from your breakup

-How to know if you’re ready to date again

-Will you still think about your ex after you’ve moved on? 

Quotes: 

“When you stop dwelling on regret and instead become grateful for the lessons you have reached an important benchmark on the moving on journey.”

“You deserve to enjoy the moment and to let joy grow in your life. When you feel easily triggered by memories of your ex it is very hard to do this.” 

“In my book, the no contact rule includes any space that your ex has in your phone, including pictures, texts, and yes, social media.”

“There is a period of time after a breakup that you will likely find it hard to see into the future. This is okay.”

“Dating from a place of having “moved on” alsbolutely means not going on dates or chatting with people and comparing them to your ex. Nothing good can come of this and it means you have a strong attachment to the good days of your last relationship still.” 

 

“We all heal at our own pace.”

I know you can do it :) 

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IG: @breakupspodcast 

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup 

The need for “closure” is something that a lot of people struggle with during and after a breakup. From not understanding why a relationship has ended to not feeling that you have all of the answers to things left unsaid, the urge to sort things with your ex can be strong. But it is also an opportunity to learn how to provide for yourself emotionally, own that the breakup has taken place, and take ownership over your life. You can give yourself closure, and we have lots of tips and tricks for empowering ways that you can do it.

You’ve got this!

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @janiceformichella

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

👉My new eBook: Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup 

GAH - some people really don’t know the right thing to say when we’re hurting - am I right?

Just because it doesn’t help doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you. This week I am breaking down the WORST and sadly, some of the most common bits of breakup BULLSHIT. I cover: 

-The breakup advice you can just ignore

-Why each is poor advice

-What to tell yourself instead

-The validity of your feelings 

I got you! 

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IG: @janiceformichella

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

97. Building Self Trust

Happy Holidays! Let’s hang out and talk about a brand new holiday rom com: Love Hard.

Pour a drink and settle in for a happy holiday hour. This time we talk about a new movie that explores the wide world of online dating, developing a relationship with someone you haven’t met in person, trying to make someone fall for you, and of course, being cheesy and over the top as only rom coms allow you to be.

Warning: we get pretty silly and don’t hold much back. But hey, isn’t that what it’s all about?

Did you like Love Hard? Or, did we go too far in our critique? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

In this episode, Clair talks solo about how to keep a positive perspective when dealing with frustration in relation to breakups. Frustration can be found in a few different dynamics: frustration with yourself; frustration with your ex; frustration with others and how they are/aren't supporting you; and then after a breakup, feeling frustrated with people who don't see breakups the same way you do from your newly evolved and empowered state.

Have you been dealing with frustration of any type during your breakup? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

Want to know one of the simplest tools for healing that is RIGHT at your fingertips? 

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

It’s walking. 

Don’t believe me? Push play, baby, and start healing today. 

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @breakupspodcast 

AND/OR JaniceFormichella

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

⭐️Today’s affirmation:  I choose my experience. ⭐️

Thank you for joining the Ex-Philes 10-Day No-Contact Challenge. You have made a powerful commitment to yourself and your future. We are honored that you have chosen us to support you on your healing journey.

For even more support please join our Facebook page at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On to talk about your experience or learn about coaching support.

You’ve made it to day 10! YOU. ARE. AMAZING.

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Trigger warning: Emotional abusive,domestic violence,  intimate partner control. 

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup 

If you or someone you know is in an unsafe or abusive relationship please reach out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233.

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

What do you do when you end up in a relationship that is unhealthy, toxic, and abusive? Today I am joined by a close friend who recently went through it. 

I’ve been through it too. And today I get to chat with Kelsey about our stories and how we navigated situations no one ever wants to find themselves in. We talk about: 

-What attracted us to the men who ended up almost breaking us

-The early red flags that we ignored or didn’t recognize

-The moments we realized how bad our situations were (our “oh shit” moments) 

-Signs of an unhealthy relationship

-How we got out

-What helped and what hurt as we healed and moved on

If you feel that you are in an unhealthy relationship I hope this episode will help you find the information, strength, and courage you need to remove yourself and look toward a brighter future. 

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @janiceformichella

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Should I stay friends with my ex? The question sure is a doozy and as you might expect, these breakup coaches have a lot to say about this breakup conundrum. We want you to thrive and if this is something you are struggling with, we’ve got things for you to consider, ways to approach it, when to approach it, and how we support our clients and community with whether or not to remain friends with the ex.

Remember, this is real life, it’s not Friends or How I Met Your Mother. This is a decision that can impact your healing and happiness. So dive in, and see what the breakup gurus have to say about staying friends with your ex. 

Do you have a burning breakup question? Send us a DM and let us know you would like us to answer it on the show. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

We are all told to look for it and even chase after it. But love and the hope of the ‘happily ever after’ can hurt and even destroy us in some cases. 

Today friend and narrative therapist Kate Marlene is joining me to share her experience of accepting that she is a love addict and her brave journey to recover and learn from it. This is a vulnerable, courageous chat on the part of Kate and I know you will all get so much out of it. 

We cover: 

-The signs of love addiction 

-Kate’s story

-How the media and those around us perpetuate unhealthy dating behaviors 

-The impacts of love addiction

-Recovering from love addiction 

-Finding and keeping TRUE intimacy 

Resources from today’s episode: 

Codependent No More: Melody Beattie

Codependent No More Workbook: Melody Beattie

The Language of Letting Go Daily Meditations 

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Lindsay C. Gibson

Facing Love Addiction: Pia Melody 

**Follow Kate’s work and learn about her restorative therapy work. It is great for those healing from a breakup. 

Visit her website here: restoryatherapy.com

And check out her great podcast here: aboutfacepodcast.com

Affirmations from today’s episode: 

• I take care of myself.

• I define and enforce healthy boundaries.

• I am in touch with what is going on right now, including how I feel about it.

• I accept 100 percent responsibility for my own happiness, security, and other needs (which means I know how to ask for appropriate support).

• I recognize and celebrate my strengths, while remaining humble about my weaknesses.

Connect with me!

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: JaniceFormichella

IG: breakupspodcast

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Pour a drink and settle in for another Clair and Janice happy hour full of girl talk and making fun of pop culture. This month we explore the 50 Shades of Gray franchise and our horror and amusement watching it from the perspective of two breakup coaches who value equal, healthy relationships. Buckle your seatbelts, this conversation takes a few twists and turns!

Some highlights:

Did you like the 50 Shades books or movies? Or, did we go too far in our critique? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

Don’t love Valentine’s Day…? How about instead of dreading it experimenting with fun, outside-of-the-box ways to enjoy it with some personal flare? Here are 6 of my favorite tips for reclaiming and/or enjoying Valentine’s Day no matter what your relationship status.

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

Want to roast a rom-com with me? Check out my hilarious ‘happy hour episodes:’

When Harry Met Sally

500 Days of Summer

50 Shades of Grey

Twilight

He’s Just Not That Into You

Valentine’s Day

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IG:@janiceformichella

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

A breakup is a blessing, even if it’s in disguise. Why? Because it is an opportunity for a new beginning and the chance to freshen up your life. We only get this opportunity a handful of times in our life, so why not take advantage of it? If a breakup wasn’t enough of a chance to start a new chapter in life, a new year is! Today, we invite you to combine the two factors and embrace the possibilities that are waiting for you. Don’t take the pain and stress of your breakup with you into the new year. Instead, take hope, plans, desires, and audacity. The road ahead will be unpredictable and hard at times. But it will also be magical, if you let it be. Some affirmations to use to open up the new year: -I am ready for a powerful year. -I am capable of great things. -I have an amazing, exciting life. PLUS: journal prompts to help you SPARKLE Episodes for more support: Ep. 4: So, you want to get over your ex Ep. 29: Let’s Talk Rituals Ep. 48: Regaining Confidence _________________________________________________________________________ Is our Move on in 12 Days series helping you survive the holidays? We would love you to let us know by leaving us a review at Apple Podcasts. Want to connect with the Ex-Philes gals? Find the show on IG at @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice at @Janiceformichella. Or, join the Ex-Phile FB community at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  🌈🌈 The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup 

Yikes! The first holidays after a breakup - memories, triggers, hope, not-so-much-hope, and everything in between. 

It is also an opportunity to really make your breakup and your no-contact commitment STICK. 

This episode is about how to do it. I’ve got four tips to help you survive this tricky time. In this episode I talk about: 

-What to do about friends and family 

-What to do if your ex’s family reaches out to you

-Gifts you meant to give to your ex

-Dealing with memories of your ex

-Avoiding pesky questions from family about your ex

-AND MORE!

Quotes from this episode: 

“Allow yourself the gift of not thinking too much about your ex. The holidays only come once a year. Let yourself enjoy it even if your heart is still healing.”

“ Imagine how great it will feel to look back on this holiday season and remember not your ex but all of the things from this year that had nothing to do with them.” 

“When you put yourself first everything else falls into place.”

“When we are trying to go no contact or really put our ex behind us it is about creating as much space with the person as we can. Talking with their parents is not creating more space, it is closing the gap.”

“Don’t let your ex invade your phone by texting with them. Don’t let it be used as a source of temptation. Let the holidays be a time when you really make no-contact stick by not having one sliver of contact with this person.”  

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @breakupspodcast 

@JaniceFormichella

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

⭐️Today’s affirmation: I am strong and each day I learn from this experience.⭐️

Thank you for joining the Ex-Philes 10-Day No-Contact Challenge. You have made a powerful commitment to yourself and your future. We are honored that you have chosen us to support you on your healing journey.

For even more support please join our Facebook page at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On to talk about your experience or learn about coaching support.

More resources for day 5:

Ep. 25: The power of positive affirmations

Bonus resource 1: Affirmations for your breakup

Ep. 40: Unfinished Business with Clair

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

🤷‍♀️🤷🏽🤦🏾‍♀️ Do you feel like you can’t quite get it right when it comes to selecting someone to go the distance with? Today’s episode is for you!

Yeah, some of us may suffer from a broken picker. And it can cause us a bunch of grief! In today’s episode the Ex-Philes gals cover:

-WHY some of us end up with a broken picker

-WHAT it means to have a broken picker and WHAT it looks like

-VERY personal stories and shares from Janice and Clair about the state of their pickers

-HOW you can repair your broken picker

Plus another edition of Breakup Ballads: Toxic, or Empowering?

More Ex-Philes episodes to help you strengthen your picker:

Ep. 35: Chemistry vs Compatibility

Ep. 45: Slow down! With Janice

Ep. 49: Love Them But Let Them Go with Clair

Want to get to know us more? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Do you know how to access pleasure in each moment? With subtle shifts in our mindset, we can truly live a life full of sensuality, with or without a partner.

Today I am welcomed by colleague Steve Oskard to talk about powerful reframes that we can all make to throw open the door on what is truly possible in regards to life satisfaction, in the bedroom and beyond.

Steve is a BRILLIANT sexologist. We discuss:

-Creating a pleasure practice

-Developing a rich vocabulary for discussing desire

-The power of soft touch

-The truth about the “pleasure gap”

-Exploring sexuality as a single person

-And OH…so much more!

**Please go show Steve some Ex-Philes love! Find him on IG at steve_oskard and on ClubHouse at Steve_Oskard**

Want to work with me one-on-one? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com.

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

The holidays are meant to be joyful and jolly, but they can actually really suck when we are healing from a broken heart. So…considering they can’t be avoided, what should we do? I GOT YOU! I have some tried and tested tips to help see you through the next couple of weeks. So push play one part one of “Surviving the holidays after a breakup.” Mentioned in this episode: Episode 23: The healing power of crying Quotes about the power of winter: "To appreciate the beauty of a snowflake it is necessary to stand out in the cold." - Aristotle "What good is the warmth of summer, without the cold of winter to give it sweetness." - John Steinbeck "I wonder if the snow loves the trees and fields that it kisses them so gently? And then it covers them up snug, you know, with a white quilt; and perhaps it says, 'Go to sleep, darlings, till the summer comes again.'" - Lewis Carroll "Winter forms our character and brings out our best." – Tom Allen Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Are you struggling with anger after a breakup? I have created this affirmations track to help you make progress on your healing journey this week. However you choose to use this track I hope you will remember that letting go of the past is a process that you are allowed to explore at your own pace. Also remember that no matter how you feel about your last relationship or breakup, you CAN heal and you CAN use what you have learned for happier relationships in the future.

Sending strength!

-Janice

What affirmations tracks would you like me to offer in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com.

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup 

This week Julie and I are giving our favorite dating tips. And how do we know they work? We’ve used them - to date ourselves. 

You don’t have to wait around for anyone or anything to fall into place to have a vibrant, indulgent life filled with connection with self and new experiences. 

Dating yourself is a lifestyle that may be a learning curve but once you get over the hump there are so many opportunities to create the life you truly desire. In this week’s episode Julie and I discuss: 

-Why more people don’t take themselves on dates

-Getting over misgivings or discomfort around dating yourself 

-The benefits of solitude 

-What you will gain from dating yourself 

-Tips for planning a great solo date

-Activites to try

Visit Julie  JulieDemsey.com and on IG at JulieDemsey

👉Get her book, FOUND Swiping right on me to find love on Amazon here. 

Resources mentioned in today’s episode: 

On My Own by Florence Falk 

Solo: Building a Remarkable Life of Your Own by Peter McGraw

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @janiceformichella

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup 

Today, we get really, really real…

Breakup? Take advantage! Use this time to work on yourself and emerge stronger than ever.

But what does that actually mean?? Platitudes are great, but what are the practical ways that you can use this moment in life to better yourself?

We got you!,

In this episode we cover six areas of personal development that are especially ripe for the picking after a breakup and how to go about getting started.

More episodes to support your journey:

87: Should I forgive my ex?

85: This might sound a little woo-woo

85: Our 5 favorite healing practices

78: Use your breakup to manifest a new beginning

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @janiceformichella

Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. 

 

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

In our second solo-episode, Janice is grabbing the mic to talk about how being a lifelong feminist led her to become a breakup coach and how acting as a doula for women experiencing a broken heart helps all women to show up stronger in the world.

We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. We want to know you and for you to know us!

Creating a home you love is vital to a sexy and joyful single life, no matter where you are in your single journey. And that’s what today’s bonus episode is all about. 

I hope you enjoy this chat with my friend Dr. Peter McGraw on his podcast Solo: The Single Person’s Guide to Creating a Remarkable Life. 

Our second guest interview is with the shiny and sparkly Kristina Michaelis, who shares her experience going through a divorce last year and what she has learned since. Kristina has thrived as she has started her new life and has used the tools of Human Design and astrology to navigate the dating game out in the wild and online. We were SO inspired by her determination and by the self-loving way that she has gone about things and know you will be too. Want to find out more about what Kristina is up to? Find her on IG here. 

AND - we are excited to be partnering with the podcast Human Design Delight in sharing this episode with their community as well. Human Design Delight is a podcast collaborative of 5 amazing female business owners who come together to talk about life, personal growth, and their interest in Human Design. To check out more of their episodes, find them on your favorite podcatcher here.

We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup 

I believe in no-contact! AND I also know how hard it is. It is challenging for almost everyone and for different reasons. Regardless of why you find it difficult, I have FIVE tips to help you make it a success. Get a pen and paper! Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to find ONE thing from today’s episode to apply to your no-contact journey.  More episodes to help:  160: The psychology of breakups 159: How to stop thinking about your ex 115: My ex texted. Should I reply?  Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

Want to connect?

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IG: @janiceformichella

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Trust me, you’re better off. Here’s why. 

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

Want to connect?

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IG:@janiceformichella

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

What does it mean when an ex texts? And more importantly – what is the right way to respond? As always, Ex-Philes has your back.

I am SUPER excited to introduce my first guest co-host, Anthony Canapi (he/him) to the show. Today we chat about Anthony’s METHOD for dealing with texts from the ex. Grab a pen and paper! It’s a method that will help you to put that ex in your rearview mirror for good.

👉🏻 PLEASE go show Anthony some love! Follow him on IG at anthonycanapi. Need a matchmaker? DM him for all of your “set me up” needs.

What topics would you like Anthony and I to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com.

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This week I am doing something a bit different - I am taking a deep dive into the societal constructs that create unbalanced relationships and hold women back from living the lives of their dreams. Buckle up and get ready for an impactful discussion with return guest co-host Mr. Brian Dunn. 

Note: this is a two-part episode! If you are curious about what it means to de-center men or take a patriarchy detox you are going to love what we have for you this week. 

Beat your breakup in THREE hours or less. Click here to get started. 

I am so excited for this one! In part one Brian and I will explore: 

-What is the patriarchy? -How men benefit from a patriarchy detox-What a patriarchy detox IS-The real meaning of feminism -Hidden stereotypes about gender roles that rob all genders of their humanity

-AND MORE!

Please go show Brian some podcast love. Follow him on IG at mrbriancdunn and TicTok at mrbriancdunn

Resources mentioned in this episode: 

Episode: Stop victim blaming (125)

Documentary: Victim/Suspect (Netflix)

Book: The Patriarchs: The Origins of Inequality by Angela Saini 

More Janice/Brian episodes: 

-😟Am I undatable? (183) 😟-👨‍❤️‍👨👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨Difficult conversations - 177 👨‍❤️‍👨👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨-😬I feel triggered…😬(175)- 🗣️ Talking to your kids about your breakup 🗣️(137)

My favorite quote from this episode: “Patriarchy robs women and men of their humanity.” -Brian Dunn

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @janiceformichella

 @breakupspodcast

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

There sure seem to be a lot of narcissists out there today, right? The number of people who have been affected by narcissism appears to be skyrocketing, but are we missing the point when we put labels on behaviors rather than describing them? We have looked forward to covering the topic of “narc abuse” and the reality of how narcissism shows up in relationships since the beginning of the show and today we have a great expert to open the conversation with.

Welcome to the show, Chris Gritti!

Chris Gritti is a certified Cognitive Behavioral Therapist and mental health coach who supports people in taking a proactive approach to moving beyond pain and trauma to thrive, especially in recovering from toxic relationships. He has a great TickTock channel where he discusses both relating to the toxic person in your life and healing from relationships with them. And while Chris has intimate experiences with more than one narcissist in his life, he focuses on moving past trying to diagnose someone and toward healing.

And he doesn’t hold back! Buckle your seatbelt - this interview is a wild ride! We discuss:

-How a toxic person gains a hold on someone

-The different types of narcissism

-Why labeling people or trying to diagnose them distracts us from healing

-Why it’s easy to stay stuck in talking about how narcissistic an ex is keeps us stuck

-How to take our power back after a toxic relationship

-Why being too nice or feeling sorry for a toxic person sets us up for a TON of misery

Chris is a lot of fun and has a great approach to relationships. Want to see him in action?

TickTock: https://www.tiktok.com/discover/Chris-Gritti

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_nittigritti/

Website: https://thenittigritti.com/

Want more Ex-Philes action? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

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Valentine’s breakup buddy programs are available! Book your free intro call here. 

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Finding out that your ex is dating someone new can be a doozy! It can bring up so many emotions, questions, and pain. It is really easy to get stuck in the thought trap of “why have they moved on so fast?” We want you to know that these feelings are normal and that there is a way to look past what your ex is up to and refocus on your own amazing future.

(And don’t worry -- we will also explore why an ex may start dating so soon.)

As always, we are telling our personal experiences. We each talk about dating after a breakup, our relationship with our ex’s current life, and reactions to finding out an ex is with someone new. We know what this is like and hope you will relate to some of our breakup ups and downs.

AND - we give some tips on how to cope and move forward when this tricky, icky, situation finds its way into your life.

Plus: another edition of Breakup Ballads: Toxic or Empowering? This week we analyze one of the most famous breakup songs of all time.

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @janiceformichella

Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. 

 

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

I’ve got you covered! Survive the holidays with my tried and tested tips - no matter where you are on your healing journey. Want more support? Schedule your FREE intro call here. 

Want to connect?

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IG: @janiceformichella

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

KINK is a beautiful way to explore your new single life or expand the possibilities for pleasure between you and your partner(s). And because it is a never-ending world of options it can be difficult to know where to start. Guest co-host and kink-expert Jessie Mare is back this week to make the world blush as we take a deep dive into KINK 101.

Buckle your seatbelts as we discuss:

-What kink is

-What fetish is

-What kink is NOT

-Our own kinky beginnings

-Types of kink

-Safety as a single person exploring kink

-Aftercare

-And MORE

Discussed in this episode:

Episode 34: 50 Shades of WTF?! 

What topics would you like Jessie and me to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com.

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider! 

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We all deserve to have the best in relationships, and that means feeling fulfilled and getting what you specifically want. So, how do you know if you’re settling?

Or compromising?

Or fearing intimacy?

Or avoiding getting close due to trauma?

Or struggling with relationship anxiety?

Today we explore the concept of settling in relationships and why you should never settle for less than you deserve. We cover:

-Disappointment in relationships

-What settling actually looks like

-Janice and Clair’s stories and experiences with settling

-Why settling is toxic for relationships

-Why settling is unfair and unkind to your partner

-WHY people do it

Remember: nothing is worth being in an unhappy relationship for. It is better to build a single life ttat you LOVE than to settle. This episode is about helping you get there.

If this episode helps you with your dating life we would love you to let us know by leaving us a review on Apple podcasts!

Happy PRIDE month!

Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup 

Does friends with benefits actually ever work? My new (and FABULOUS) guest co-host says it CAN - and she has the experience to back up her claim. Welcome to the show Laura Grant! 

For our first episode Laura and I will be diving into the ins and outs of a friends benefits situation. We humorously cover: 

-Both our experiences with FWB

-Entering a FWB relationship

-Research around people’s satisfaction with FWB

-Emotional and physical safety

-Communication

-The changing beast-And more! 

What topics would you like me and Laura to cover in future episodes? DM me on Instagram and let me know! 

Beat your breakup in THREE hours or less. Click here to get started. 

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @janiceformichella

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup 

Ghosting: the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication.

Caspering: Named after the fictional child phantom, it’s a friendly alternative to ghosting. Instead of ignoring someone, you’re honest about how you feel, and let them down gently before disappearing from their lives.

This week I am joined by wise and beautiful co-host Julie Demsey to talk about various ways of communicating in the early days of dating someone. Will have chemistry with some people and not with others, and that is fine. But there are ways of letting the other person know that are fine and others not so fine. Welcome to the stage ghosting and Caspering! 

Beat your breakup in THREE hours or less. Click here to get started. 

Today Julie and I cover: 

-What ghosting is and is NOT

-How ghosting impacts the people on the receiving end

-Tips for coping with “being ghosted”

-How Caspering is an alternative to ghosting 

-Ways to Casper

-Responding to Caspering 

Enjoy - and be a part of a trend to communicate better with each other. 

Other helpful episodes: 

-183: Am I datable?

-161: People pleasing 

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @janiceformichella

 @breakupspodcast

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Questions covered: -I imagined this holiday differently and now I don’t know what to do? -I can’t stop thinking about the past years or how I imagined this year would be. Affirmations to use today: -My holidays are magical -My future is brighter than I can imagine -This is making way for something even better -I can create the future I want for myself PLUS: journal prompts to help you process your emotions Episodes for more support: Ep. 5: Got closure? Ep. 15: 10 breakup commandments _________________________________________________________________________ Is our Move on in 12 Days series helping you survive the holidays? We would love you to let us know by leaving us a review at Apple Podcasts. Want to connect with the Ex-Philes gals? Find the show on IG at @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice at @Janiceformichella. Or, join the Ex-Phile FB community at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  🌈🌈 The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Do you want to do “the work” to create happier and LONGER-lasting relationships? Join me on the journey to become more securely attached this year.

But before we begin, what does it look like to be “secure?” In this week’s episode I talk about five signs of secure attachment.

Want to schedule a free consultation to discuss my coaching services? Get direct access to my calendar here.

Hit me up on IG: @janiceformichella

EMAIL: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

I want to connect with you!

An episode about all the woo things that we do to make ourselves feel good and keep the positive vibes flowing. And it’s infused with numerology goodness - recorded on 2/2/22 and dropping on 2/22/22. WOO-WOO!

Our woo practices help us to add a bit of the sacred into each day, making the entire week special and helping us to stay focused on our goals and supporting others to heal their hearts. Many of the things we are sharing today are things that we discovered after breakups and while not everything may resonate with everyone, we hope you might find a thing or two that you are excited about exploring and maybe even shaping into a practice of your own.

We want to help you heal, grow, and evolve. If you’d like information on coaching support please send us a DM to our IGs and we will be in touch.

Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup 

I have been waiting to drop this episode for quite some time now!

It is time to celebrate 200 episodes of Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On! I am doing it by being interviewed by one of my closest friends and sharing some pretty juicy/intimate facts about my life PLUS sharing some very special news. This is an episode not to be missed! What do you think of my announcement? Come over to IG and let me know! 

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @janiceformichella

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Jealousy is a natural human emotion, but it is also one that can poison and ruin relationships. So, what to do? Friend and co-host Jessie Maree is back for a deep dive into the topic. We cover: -Our recent experiences with jealousy -What jealousy is -How fear and jealousy are related -Types of jealousy -Ways to handle jealousy and prevent it from ruining all of your relationships -The meaning of trust and how to do it -Using your single time to learn to release jealousy more easily Mentioned in this episode: -Episode 119: Processing Anger After a Breakup -Can’t Help but Fly by Climbing PoeTree -Fear inventory: https://emotionalsobrietyandfood.files.wordpress.com/2013/05/the-fear-inventory-is-done-in-columns-like-resentments.pdf -Multiamory podcast episodes 394 and 395\ 👉👉Please go show Jessie some Ex-Philes love! Follow her on IG at jessiemareeco And check out her website https://www.jessiemaree.com/. What topics would you like Jessie and me to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Did you know that October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month? I hope you will join me to use the remaining weeks as a chance to educate yourself, spread awareness, advocate, and create visibility for this often under-discussed societal issue. 

⁠Donate to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence: https://ncadv.org/⁠

Domestic violence (also known as intimate partner violence, battering, or spouse abuse) is a pattern of abusive behavior used in a relationship to gain control and power over an intimate partner. It happens to everyone across race, gender, socioeconomic status, education, and sexual orientation.

Every minute, roughly 20 people are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States.

Every year in the United States, more than 10 million women and men become victims of domestic violence. 

More women lose their lives to intimate partner violence than any other means. In the U.S. alone,⁠ more than 55 percent⁠ of murdered women are killed in relation to intimate partner violence.

Nearly one million women have been shot by an intimate partner and have survived.

Nearly 1 in 10 women (9.4%) in the US have been raped by an intimate partner in their lifetime.

It is a persistent issue that finds victims feeling powerless and without means of support or escape. Most female victims of intimate partner violence were previously victimized by the same offender at rates of 77% for women ages 18 to 24, 76% for ages 25 to 34, and 81% for ages 35 to 49.

Domestic violence continues to go unnoticed by many because it is underreported with only 52% of victims reporting the crime to the police in 2019.

Sources:

⁠https://ncadv.org/⁠

⁠https://www.thehotline.org/stakeholders/domestic-violence-statistics/⁠

⁠https://www.dolanzimmerman.com/domestic-violence-statistics/⁠

What you can do this month to support victims and survivors: 

1. Educate yourself. Read up on the issue.

2. Share what you learn with others. Post on social media. Be brave. Be bold. 

3. Learn about what to do if someone comes to you for support. I will drop a separate mini-sode on this issue. 

4. Make a donation to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. You can visit them at https://ncadv.org/ and using the link in the show notes. 

5. Don’t just consume true crime for entertainment. A lot of the stories portrayed in our favorite documentaries and podcasts are sad examples of the terror that a lot of women around the country are faced with daily. Share what you consume and talk about the content and the stories with friends and on social media. Again, be brave. 

6. Commit to sharing content on the topic all year long. 

Thank you for listening. Please keep following my podcasts as I will be dropping more content through the month. 

Change your communication, change your life.  Breakup? Do you want to do things differently next time around? The answer may be in the way you interact with people. Have you ever thought of coming to conversations and encounters from a place of compassion - with yourself and others? It may be the game changer you’ve been waiting for. Today I welcome friend and colleague Dani Siqueira to the show to talk about Nonviolent Communication.  This is one of the most important talks I’ve ever had on the podcast. Get your pen and paper ready!  Want to learn more about ELLA Global Community? Visit them here.  Mentioned in this episode:  Ex-Philes episode 117: Self-forgiveness and breakups  Ex-Philes episode 119: Processing ANGER After a Breakup AND – Dani’s first Ex-Philes episode: Episode 82: LBTQ+ Loving and Dating with ELLA Global Community Want to schedule a free consultation to discuss my coaching services? Get direct access to my calendar here.  Want to connect? Email: exphilespodcast@gmail.com IG: @Janiceformichella  Love Ex-Philes? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.  ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup 

Is it time to say GOOD BYE to your breakup? I got you! 

In this episode I cover: 

-Why goodbyes are so painful for us

-Why saying goodbye to your breakup and putting it behind us is do damn hard

-The power of goodbyes

-A bunch of tips to say goodbye to your breakup

Get a pen and paper - it’s time to be intentional about your healing. 

Extra episodes to support your healing journey: 

10-day no-contact series

The no-contact rule: 5 tips for success

A letter to your ex

Quotes from this episode: 

“Faith is hard to embrace when you don’t know what is on the other side.” 

“It can be hard to leave something that isn’t good for you. Give yourself grace.”

“You deserve a relationship that is fully functional.” 

“I believe in the power of no contact.” 

“Have you ever set your mind to something that is out of reach? Do the same for your breakup.” 

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @janiceformichella

Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. 

 

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

Feeling stuck in your breakup or dating journey? It may be time to take a super close look at what’s not working and consider new ways of doing things. This week you’ve got two coaches here to lay it all out for you. 

Buckle up! 

We want you to be happy! So we’re here to point out your blindspots and help you to uncover where you may be able to make changes and TURN YOUR HEALING and DATING JOURNEY AROUND. 

Mentioned in this episode: 

165: Breakup? Find your happy place

171: The dating app mindset

Show Lena some podcast love! Please go follow her now and ask her about coaching on IG at HaveMoreLove

Quotes from this episode: 

“What someone did to hurt you isn’t your fault but the pattern is your to take responsibility for.” 

“If your life were a science experiment you would be the only constant.”

“Do not compromise yourself for the sake of the relationship.”

“Maybe it’s not about ‘WHO do I date..?” it’s about ‘HOW do I date?’”

“You don’t always get what you deserve but you do often get what you expect.”

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @breakupspodcast 

Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. 

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

The home is an often overlooked player in healing from a breakup. Reclaiming it as our own can add power to your proess that could be a huge game changer that allows you to turn a sharp corner with things. 

In today’s episode, I talk about what reclaiming my space has done for me after more than one breakup, the science behind why it works, and NINE ways to do it. 

Get a pen and paper ready - I am here to help you reclaim your space and reclaim you life. 

Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. 

Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. 

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Solo episode time! Today, Janice touches on her past relationships and how she discovered that she has codependent tendencies after leaving an abusive relationship. She explains what codependence really looks like (and what it doesn’t), some signs of being codependent, what has helped her to work on her less-than-positive relationship patterns, and some tips for learning and recovering from codependent relationships. She also shares how she has seen codependency show up outside of her love life and what she learned from that discovery as well.

Remember, you are not alone. If you are struggling with codependency we highly recommend Codependents Anonymous and the works of Melody Beattie.

We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

The time after a breakup is a POWERFUL one for reflecting on our relationship patterns and identifying where we want to grow and learn. In this week's episode guest co-host, Brian Dunn and I talk about HOW to do this in a way that creates lasting change and the foundation for joyful relationships in the future. 

Grab a pen and paper and start up-leveling your relationships now! 

Please go show Brian some love. Follow him on IG at mrbriancdunn and TicTok at mrbriancdunn

What topics would you like Brian and I to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com.

Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Buy my survive the holidays coaching package here. 

Part of moving on from a breakup is releasin our ex, the relationship that once meant so much to us, and the life we thought we’d have. But while necessary, it is a painful part of the healing journey and it can sometimes take a lot of motivation to get to that point.

Well, as always, I have your back! If you are looking for motivation to move on from your breakup hit play as I am sharing ten tips, concepts, and ways to look at things that are sure to help you kick ass during the next stage of your healing journey.

Episodes mentioned in this episode:

117: Self-forgiveness and breakups

114: Five tips to help you heal from your breakup this week

108: A morning routine for your breakup

74: Self-care for breakups

I believe in you!

What topics would you like me to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com.

Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

If the relationship wasn’t working and needed to end, why do we often dwell SO much on the good times after a breakup? Well, our minds can play tricks on us during the grieving process, and remembering the good times doesn’t necessarily mean the relationship itself was good. From science to our own personal experiences and a couple of acronyms along the way, we will let you know why this common breakup dynamic occurs. More importantly, we will let you know what you can do to speed up this phase of your healing journey.

A lot of people go through this and we want to support you in recognizing that it is normal and okay and learn some positive ways forward. And, we want to hear what you think of our take on remembering the good times or an experience you have had with it. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. If you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup 

Journaling sure is having a moment, isn’t it? Want to know how it can actually help with your breakup? In this week’s episode I cover:

-The mental health benefits of journaling

-How writing directly helps with the pain of a breakup

-Ways that I have used journaling in my life and in my breakups

-3 powerful journal prompts to get started

Grab a pen a paper - if you’re serious about healing your heart this episode is for you. 

And as promised, here’s how you can schedule a free intro call with me: 

Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

Resources mentioned in this episode: 

Playlists: 

Breakups: It’s time to kick ass

Breakups: it’s okay to grieve

Breakups: self-love

Breakups: You’re going to make it

Journaling: University of Rochester’s Health Encyclopedia

Healthline: 6 Journaling Benefits and How to Start Right Now

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @janiceformichella

 @breakupspodcast

Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. 

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

The pain of a broken heart is temporary. If you are struggling with a broken heart right now, I want you to know that you WILL get through this. From science to things that are probably in your blind spot right now, today I break down all of the proof that I have that brighter days are ahead. 

Want to schedule a free consultation to discuss my coaching services? Get direct access to my calendar here. 

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @breakupspodcast 

Love Ex-Philes? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. 

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Questions covered: -I can’t stop thinking about them. How can I be in the moment? -Nothing feels the same without them. How can I stop comparing? Affirmations to use today: -One step at a time. I don’t have to figure it all out at once. -Some people are made to only be in our lives for a chapter or two. There will be love in my life again. PLUS: journal prompts to help you process your emotions Episodes for more support: Ep. 42: Breakup Brain Ep. 74: Self-care for breakups Is our Move on in 12 Days series helping you survive the holidays? We would love you to let us know by leaving us a review at Apple Podcasts. _________________________________________________________________________ Want to connect with the Ex-Philes gals? Find the show on IG at @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice at @Janiceformichella. Or, join the Ex-Phile FB community at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  🌈🌈 The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

We all have things that help us thrive and Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs is one way to discuss the things that all humans require. Can the theory be applied to dating and relationships? Join my friend Barry Selby and me for a Friday afternoon chat about each of the needs as outlined by Maslow and how we can fulfil them. Some of our answers might surprise you! 

Please go show Barry some Ex-Philes love! Follow him on IG at TheRealBarrySelby and order a copy of his book, 50 Ways to Love Your Lover on Amazon here. 

Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. 

Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. 

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Today's podcast guest is Sacha Van G who is now an expert in connecting to your true self and finding your purpose... but it wasn't always that way. Sacha's journey has taken years, a breakup, intercontinental moves, and a dark night of the soul to get here. She shares her stories to help inspire you and remind you that there is a light at the end of the tunnel; and that you also have that same light within you. 

Sacha helps multi-passionate women find their core purpose with "cool shit they weren't taught in school", as Sacha describes it. You can find Sacha on Instagram @sacha.enlivened and listen to her podcast Enlivened on Apple or Spotify. 

Are you in your "Dark Night of The Soul" right now? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup 

Breakup? Want to know how to cope? I’ve got you. 

Today I am sharing five tips/practices/strategies for coping when your heart is so broken that you can barely think straight.

Remember - it is okay and healthy to set your grief aside while you allow your system to adjust to your new reality. This episode will give you ideas on how to do it. 

Quotes: 

“It is okay to have bad days and hard moments during a breakup.” 

“There is a crucial grieving process to any breakup, have faith that it is temporary, and don’t spiral.”

“As much as we may try to put on a brave face, interactions with others can be really hard when we are hurting so much.”

“Time does do a lot to help a person heal. But so does intention and showing up for yourself.”

“Remember, it is always, always better to be single than in a relationship that isn’t working.”

Episodes for more support: 

164: Breakup healing routines

159: How to stop thinking about your ex

157: Breakup? You’ll get through this. Here’s why. 

And please go look between episode 156 and 154 for a bonus affirmations track that you can play on your hard days. 

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @breakupspodcast 

Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. 

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Guest interview time! This week we welcome Brett McGinn from the apparel line Love Fucking Sucks -- yay!

Brett has a clothing line that is focused on the different phases of a relationship and the fact that anyone has known love also knows the pain of a broken heart. But he didn’t start there - he brings to the table a background in relationship consulting and continues to support customers with this service.

In today’s chat Brett tells us about his interesting story getting started with relationship consulting, the beauty of the honeymoon phase and tips on conscious dating. And as an extra special treat we put Brett on the hot seat to answer questions about dating and relationships from our audience.

Brett has an awesome business concept and great products. You can buy your own gear at www.lovefuckingsucks. Follow his awesome IG account at Love Fucking Sucks.

What did you think of Brett’s insight or our chat? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

Our live is LIVE!!! Today's bonus episode is the recording of the Q&A segment of our Virtual Valentine's event. We hope you enjoy hearing that whatever your questions are, you're likely not alone.

We explore:

- Why the apps aren't leading to more than a couple dates if that

- How is the best way to break up with someone, especially if they're struggling with their mental health

- If you break things off over text message

- How to find emotional support, especially as a man, when your ex was the person who you went to when sharing your feelings

- What the difference is between actually processing or using personal development to bypass your grief

- How to know you're dating for the "right reasons" not just because you're lonely

- How to cope and heal when you still love your ex, but it's not a compatible match

Want some support on your healing journey? DM us for coaching info.  Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

*Trigger warning: domestic violence, addiction, abuse*

The dynamics of a relationship can often play a huge role in how we heal. This week we are talking about two types of toxic dynamics: trauma bonds and fantasy bonds. We go deep into:

-The real meanings of trauma bonds and fantasy bonds

-What does a trauma bond feel like?

-How do I break a trauma bond?

-Fantasy bond v real love

-Preventing trauma bonds and fantasy bonds

-Recovering from a toxic relationship

-Developing healthy bonds

Remember: you CAN overcome even the most overwhelming of breakups and have an amazing future. We believe in you!

More episodes to help you heal:

Ep. 16: Co-dependence with Janice

Ep. 52: Rescuer Syndrome

Ep. 65: Domestic Violence Awareness with Ruth Glenn

Ep. 66: Am I in an abusive relationship?

Ep. 67: Am I in a healthy relationship?

Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

It's time for a change! Buckle up and get ready!

Beat your breakup in THREE hours or less. Click here to get started. 

I wanna hear from you!!!

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @janiceformichella

Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. 

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

We love to caution people against some missteps that we took after our breakups in order to perhaps prevent you from having the unpleasant experiences that we did. And we sprinkle in a lot of wisdom from our experience and training as coaches AND some of the great things we have done and learned from our own relationships and life. Today, we are going to discuss such things and how you might incorporate some of what we have done RIGHT.

We’ve got a bit of sexy experiences to share, some insight into how to “find yourself” during this time, making sure your health doesn’t suffer, how we have actually use social media after a breakup, and more. And we also reassure you that you don’t necessarily have to have a threesome to heal a broken heart.

PLUS - another old school edition of Breakup Ballads: Toxic or Empowering.

What did you think of our shares? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

Why are we talking about faking it on a podcast about breakups? Well….listen in and see!

Hehe.

For starters, a breakup is a clean slate and a time to learn about what you like, who you are, and how to show up differently in your next relationship. Focusing on sensuality and pleasure are beautiful hobbies for the single days and may lead to a more fulfilled and happier sex life whether or not you partner up again.

Learning how to communicate about our sexual needs and desires improves our relationships in and out of the bedroom. And it may start with how open and honest you can be about something as universal as orgasm.

We want you to have all of the pleasure the world and human body can offer! So let’s take a deep dive into the world of faking it and what it might mean for your sex life.

PLUS: another edition of Breakup Ballads: Toxic or Empowering?

Resources from the show:

Communication is the Bedrock to Make Your Bedroom Rock by Laurie Mintz PhD

Sex With Emily podcast 

Sex With Emily Masterclass

Dipsea: sexy audio stories

Audio Desires: Erotic Stories for Women and Couples

What do you think about the connection between breakup healing and faking it? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

Long-distance relationships are in a league of their own, and ending them has complications and dynamics that are much different from relationships with people you see often. With the ever-growing prevalence of online love, they are happening more often with our audience. We want you to feel supported regardless of the type of relationship you are healing from, so we’ve got some long-distance specific advice for you today.

First, the breakup gurus start out with the possible pitfalls of an online or long-distance relationship and why you may want to keep them in perspective as you heal your heart. Then, we offer some practical insight for putting this breakup fully behind you so that you can begin to thrive and love.

Did our advice help to heal from your long-distance love? Send us a DM and let us know. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

📸📸 Using a dating app is a lot about making a good impression so that you attract the people who will most want to connect with the REAL YOU. Matches and connections on apps only start after people swipe “YES,” so great photos will make sure that your brilliance is shining for potential matches to see. When we made a connection with Saskia Nelson, founder of the dating profile pic agency Hey Saturday, we jumped at the chance to have her tell us all about how to pick the best photos for your profile. Hint, hint - it pays to be intentional about them. Hey Saturday is an award-winning agency and Saskia has the knowledge to back it up. You will be amazed at how specific we get with our questions about profile pics without her skipping a beat. Want to know the most common mistake that men make with their dating app pics? Or the types of pics that get the most swipes? How old is too old for pics to be used? Or how to communicate your interests through a photo? Tune in! Book your Hey Saturday shoot today! They are fun, useful, and super affordable. EMAIL TO LET THEM KNOW YOU HEARD ABOUT THEM FROM EX-PHILES for 10% off your shoot! Head to Hey Saturday to schedule. And make sure to follow them on Instagram @HeySaturday for great info on creating great dating app photos. What episode topics would help you on your dating journey? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Valentine’s Day is for everyone! Don’t let not being in a romantic relationship keep you from having fun on this most pretty and pink of holidays. In today’s episode, we will share some fun and positive ways to reclaim Valentine’s Day for YOUR own. From some of its dark history to sexy succulents, we have you covered!

We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. We want to know you and for you to know us!

Greetings from Auckland, New Zealand, everyone! This week I am dropping a very personal mini-episode as I podcast on the go during my travels.

Do you have a song that reminds you of a difficult time in your life? Or perhaps one of your breakups? I have a few, and this episode is about one of them, and the breakup that could have broken me but instead led me to this exact spot.

I hope that you will find inspiration in my story. I am sending you so much strength for the week ahead.

-Janice

Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com.

Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Sometimes we just need someone to tell us that what we’re going through is real and that things are going to be okay, right? Today’s solo episode is just a loving pep talk from a friend who has been there and who now dedicates herself to help others hurting from a broken heart. Feeling like the sadness around your breakup is just a bit much this week? Here’s some comfort to keep you going.

Want more support? Here are some episodes to help:

Episode 12: How to ask for support during a breakup

Episode 23: The healing benefits of crying after your breakup

Episode 25: Using affirmations during your breakup

Episode 26: Journaling during your breakup with Janice

Episode 31: The five best things we did after a breakup

Episode 47: Black Girl in Love with Herself with Trey Anthony

Episode 48: Regaining confidence after a breakup

Would you like to get in touch with Janice? You can find her on Instagram @Janiceformichella. You can find Clair @clairlofthouse and the podcast @exphilespodcast  And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

I believe that we can all overcome loneliness and fulfill our own emotional needs, even with anxious attachment. This doesn’t mean that there are huge benefits to having a support network, but when we are able to look after ourselves these networks become stronger and more meaningful.

Learning to self-soothe is one way that we can prevent loneliness and develop self-trust after a breakup. I have been on a personal journey with building this muscle over the last several years and know how life-changing it can be. In today’s episode, I discuss:

-What it means to self-soothe

-How self-soothing relates to your attachment style and moving from an insecure attachment to a secure attachment style

-My experience learning how to self-soothe

-How self-soothing strengthens your friendships

-Beginner’s tips

You’ve got this!

Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com.

Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Do you know how to spot a healthy relationship? When you say you want a healthy relationship, do you know the specifics of what you’re after? We are continuing our DV Awareness Month discussion with a feel-good chat about what makes a partnership a truly functional and joyous one.

Knowledge is power! It is easy to say that a healthy relationship is one in which both partners feel loved, respected, and seen, but what does it look like day-to-day? Set the bar HIGH with the information included in this episode.

What do you think about our DV Awareness Month episodes? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts.

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup 

Conversations can either be a portal to greater intimacy or a portal to separation and resentment. Today Brian Dunn and I are sharing a method to use in your relationships when difficult issues come up as well as our own stories about learning to communicate better as we date and grow close to our partners. 

We discuss: 

-The ATTUNE method of speaking and listening inside of your relationship

-The difference between intention and impact in conflicts

-How to be an active listener

-Structuring things in your week to connect via conversations

-Journaling exercises to help you uncover the root of your triggers

-And more! 

Please go show Brian some podcast love. Follow him on IG at mrbriancdunn and TicTok at mrbriancdunn

Quotes from today’s episode:

“Embody and lead by example with more empathy, understanding, and compassion.” -Brian Dunn

“Be a good apologizer.” -Janice Formichella

“An apology may be a good band-aid for a wound but if you don’t address the wound it will keep festering and you can make it worse.” -Brian Dunn

“Think of your last big relationship and three big fights that you had - how did you show up?” -Janice Formichella

Continue to up-level your communication game! Check out these resources: 

What makes love last

Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work 

Boundary Boss

Nonviolent Communication 

Episodes for further learning: 

-156: Nonviolent communication 101

-152: Maslow’s hierarchy of needs in dating and relationships

139: past trauma, new relationships

129: Identifying relationship patterns after a breakup

-161: People pleasing 

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @breakupspodcast AND JaniceFormichella - I wanna hang out with you!

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Breakups and social media - it’s a hot topic and we have a lot to say about it! From how to avoid hurt on the various platforms to what NOT to post after ending a relationship, we don’t leave any opinion on the table. And we’ve also got some helpful tips, a bit of motivation, a dash of tough love, and some advice on how to make things easier on yourself during this time.

We want you to beat this breakup! Some of our thoughts on social media are sure to help.

We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. We want to know you and for you to know us!

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup 

Ah triggers…they come up when we least expect them to, and we often react so quickly that it can cause ruptures in our relationships. Preventing these ruptures is an intentional, ongoing practice.  Inside of a healthy, committed relationship both people can play a part in working through it. But it is our personal responsibility to make that happen.  Welcome back to the show Brian Dunn! This week we are talking about:  -The definition of a “trigger”  -What happens when we feel triggered -How our past relationships affect what we respond to -What can happen in a relationship when triggers go un-addressed -The part that each person in a relationship plays in addressing and preventing future rifts that are caused due to past shit Please go show Brian some podcast love. Follow him on IG at mrbriancdunn and TicTok at mrbriancdunn Quotes from the episode:  “Get specific. Saying you ‘felt triggered’ does not describe your experience.” “If someone has “triggers” and is not working to resolved them, you do have the option to consider if it is something you want to take on.” “Both perspectives can be true.”  “It is not about who’s right and who’s wrong. It’s about ‘We have this problem. How can we fix it together?’” Want to connect? Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com IG: @breakupspodcast and @janiceformichella Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.  ____________________________________________________________________________ Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Questions covered: -How do I deal with questions from my family? -My holiday plans have totally changed because of my breakup, how can I adapt? Affirmations to use today: - I deserve to be the star in my life -Everything is working out the way it is supposed to PLUS: journal prompts to help you process your emotions Episodes for more support: Ep. 4: So, you want to get over your ex Ep. 74: Self-care for breakups Is our Move on in 12 Days series helping you survive the holidays? We would love you to let us know by leaving us a review at Apple Podcasts. _________________________________________________________________________ Want to connect with the Ex-Philes gals? Find the show on IG at @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice at @Janiceformichella. Or, join the Ex-Phile FB community at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  🌈🌈 The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Breakups bring lessons, lessons, lessons. Part of the philosophy around Ex-Philes is that if you decide to learn and grow from a broken heart you can beat anything in life. Buckle up. If you’re not a believer already, this episode is meant to make one out of you.

I am joined once again by guest co-host and gal-pal Lena Ehrenberg to talk about how the way you do one thing is the way you do all things; including in love.

Show Lena some Ex-Philes love! Please go follow her now on IG at HaveMoreLove

What topics would you like me to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com.

Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Grab a chilled glass, pour a beer, and settle in for this month’s happy hour episode. This month we welcome back friend of the show Brett McGinn of Love Fucking Sucks to chat about a movie full of relationship head-scratchers.

500 Days of Summer is full of things for three people who love talking about relationships. Do you think that we are team Summer or team Tom? You might just be surprised with our answers…

We hope you have a great weekend and enjoy a bit of a distraction with our round table. Remember, we’re rooting for you!

Want some cool gear to celebrate your breakup? Check out Brett's clothing line on IG at lovefuckingsucks 

Do you agree with our take on 500 Days of Summer? Let us know! Or, do you have a burning breakup question to ask? Hit us up! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup 

Do as we say, not as we have done! One reason we both became breakup coaches is that we have learned so much from our own breakups and relationships. In this episode, we each identified five specific things that we would have done differently and things that we would advise others to avoid. Want to beat your breakup and heal your broken heart? Start with these loving guidelines.

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @janiceformichella

Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. 

 

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

It’s time for a ROM-COM roast! Get out your cocktails and enjoy Janice and Brian get tipsy and talk about America’s favorite rom-com; When Harry Met Sally. 

Is there a movie you’d like me to roast on my podcasts? Hit me up on IG and let me know!

Want to connect?

Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com

IG: @janiceformichella

Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. 

 

❤️ Dating again after a divorce can come with its own set of mindset challenges and a lot of questions about how to put your best foot forward. This is especially true if it has been a long time since you have been “out there.” Look no further. In this edition of our guest interview series, we are joined by dating coach and matchmaker Jade Bianca of Dating After Divorce to talk about how to OPTIMIZE dating apps to attract exactly what you are looking for at this stage of your journey. Jade is passionate about seeing people thrive and date confidently after divorce. She brought some great information to the chat. We covered: ✔️The number ONE thing that men do that hurts their chances of making connections online ✔️Overcoming negative mindsets around dating for the first time in a while ✔️How to use your knowledge of your “type” to attract a great partner ✔️Dating “rules” that keep some women stuck Make sure to tune in if you are ready to up your game and LOVE dating, no matter how rusty you feel. ❌SPECIAL OFFER FOR EX-PHILES listeners! Want to speak with Jade about her matchmaking or coaching support? Find her at www.datingafterdivorce.com. Use code #exphiles for 10% off any service. Join her matchmaking database for free to be potentially matched with a client at no cost HERE.  Other places to find Jade and get access to her wisdom: Instagram: @dating_after_div Facebook: @datingafterdiv Twitter: @after_divorce Did you find this helpful? What else would you like to know about your dating journey? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.