Big Hormone Enneagram (John Luckovich, Emeka Okorafor, David Gray, Alexandra Arroyo-Acevedo)

Ya girl and boys are closing out the year with a very lit unsober wrap party. We’re looking back on the year and its most memorable parts and of course talking shit. Grab a drink and/or a smoke and join us as we look back on the beautiful train-wreck that was 2020. 

— what our most listened to episodes are — what nancy really thinks about podding with a bunch of soc-last dudes — shout-outs to all our guests, reviewers, and patrons — Ideas and plans for 2021 (nota4, the loveline, and book launches)

Happy New Year!

Farah, a 6 with the 693 tritype, joins us to discuss her experience being triple attachment. Why 369s find it difficult to find their inner voice. The struggle of comparing to others vs wanting to be unique. And finally, why 6s have a thing for punishment.

Two texan sexual 6s are with us this week to get into the guts of 6. We start out with their boldness and attraction to high pressure situations. Unpacking what Naranjo’s sexual 6 ‘Strength and Beauty’ means. The 6 line to 3 and the need to ‘earn it’ through hard work and prove they're deserving. 6 anti-narcissism vs 4’s ‘i’m the gift’. Why 6s anticipate criticism, put themselves down, and self-sabotage. How 6s can overcome their inner critic and allow themselves to be great. We wrap up with some clear differences between 6s and 4s.

— (4:16) What it’s like to have frustration, rejection, or attachment last — (14:26) Emeka’s rejection/frustration refined border freakouts — (23:16) DG & Alexandra are rejection last ghostly 9s  — (25:22) John’s frustration/rejection locked down non-personhood — (32:54) What 4s with more attachment are like — (42:55) Attachment/rejection are stable negotiators  — (48:56) Gut lasts are unhinged  — (50:42) Head lasts are impulsive creatures — (54:40) Heart lasts are dead inside

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Get unstuck and practice inner awareness with John and Josh’s new foundational enneagram school. Sign up for their 6-part class — A Developmental View of the Centers at https://www.theenneagramschool.com/first-offering

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DAA — Become dangerously perceptive and skilled at seeing types clearly. Watch recent classes on SX Polarity,The Whiny Tears Trifix, Leonard Cowen. And get typed at https://www.enneagrammer.com/

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This week we’re recapping what we've learned from our series of type interviews. We start out on the nature of type wings. The introspective inner beam of 4 and the ‘in the dark’ quality of types fully in the gap. The parallels between 9s and 3s absorbing and taking in outside perspectives as their own. The universal quality of the 369 Bermuda types and their connection to people. The self-orientation of the hexad types. The perception of 8s as confident vs how they experience themselves on the inside. And we wrap up with why 4 is the Chad/Stacy of the enneagram.

This week we dive into the often misunderstood lines of connection and why it’s important as a path for growth. What does it mean when your type goes to the line of integration or disintegration? And why it’s more accurate that we’re drawing on both types in our lines of connection positively and negatively. Starting with the triangle types we go into how each type goes to the types in their lines of connection in healthy and unhealthy ways. As we go along David adds in his abstract ‘birth stories’ insights for each line of connection. We cover 3/9/6, and then 8/5 lines. And we’ll continue with the rest in Part 2.

Josh is back to unveil his profound new model of the centers and object relations from a point of view of development. This is major.

— (13:30) Josh explains how his variant model of object relations and the centers came about / issues with the protecting and nurturing object relational framework  — (20:03) Ken Wilber’s holonic theory of consciousness and the centers as a sequence of development through sensation, gaze, and symbol — (27:48) Object relational affects are oriented to the milieu of each center / frustrated, rejected, or attached to sensory impact, gaze & attention, or symbol & orientation — (28:48) How this framework makes the centers and trifix clearer and easier to work with — (34:23) Josh goes through each object relational affect in the body center — (57:10) How we hold others in symbolic space is evaluated from the perspective of our core center and object relational affect / John & Emeka and judging Josh from gaze & sensory — (1:16:45) David and John’s frustration and fighting people online

Check out John and Josh’s new formal enneagram school. And sign up for their first class which starts this week — A Developmental View of the Centers at https://www.theenneagramschool.com/first-offering

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DAA — Becoming fluent in the enneagram thru the practice of typing. Watch recent classes on instinct fashion aesthetics, Khabib, John Malkovich. And get typed at enneagrammer.com

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Art by Laura Tempest Zakroff

We’re bringing the pain to rejection types. How penetrating the other becomes the replacement for connection.

— (2:08) The penetration and leverage of rejection is a possession of the other — (4:25) Riffing on what sexual 8 possession really means / all the rejection types are doing possession through their centers — (11:06) Possessing the other becomes a replacement for the connection the rejection type assumes is not on the table — (13:46) Callback to soul intercourse and how that had a parental rejection dynamic for Emeka — (16:51) Rejection types are tracking how much it matters to you / tiers of penetration — (20:36) Rejection types needing someone who can get through their wall but tending to seek out those who allow them to reinforce a possession dynamic — (25:47) An attraction can feel really strong only because it’s reinforcing the type structure’s ego agenda — (29:09) 8s are forceful because they’re expanding on potent leverage points to rewrite an experience of something  — (34:24) Rejection possession dynamics in Inception and There Will Be Blood — (42:04) How rejection types can let go of the story of being a cut off fractional person — (49:03) Language around instinctual approaches differing from the point of view of the centers / sexual instinct and competition — (51:33) Rejection types redefining the game and doubling down on it until the other doesn’t feel like they’re in a full relationship — (54:58) The insecurity of frustration types in getting their needs met  — (58:19) The challenges of attaching to a rejection type / the assumption of being on the same page is what ensures a disconnect continues to arise and we adapt to each other

Sign up for free Fourth Way Gurdjieff talks organized by John’s group taking place on the 13th & 14th of September 7PM ET: https://gurdjieffbennett.org/joining-new-groups/   Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T

DAA — Discover the dark arts of enneagram typing. Watch recent typing classes on Andrew Tate, Kurt Cobain, Anjelica Huston. And get typed at enneagrammer.com

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Courtney’s back with us to dive into the mind’s eye of the head center. How the mind is how we frame things and what generates the stories we tell ourselves. How each head type uses narratives to distort reality. What is it about 6s and head types that people identify with and like? How the center perspective of spiritual teachers influences their teachings. Gurdjieff’s gut center style vs that of his students. The verbal/language orientation of the head center making head types great teachers and dissectors. How COVID is making us all 6. We wrap up with our experience of what head types bring to each of us.  

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— (1:27) We watched Bone Tomahawk — (5:06) Instinct Zone updates / Emeka’s 1-3 flame burnout — (10:09) The Play Zones and nailing down long term relationship — (15:23) Stackings within the stackings made a comeback / syn vs contra zone stems — (22:05) The weirdness of 3-1 fetish — (24:20) 3-2 containment and ‘health’ — (28:23) What’s SX2-3 really about? — (36:31) Stacking vs Zone Stems — (43:28) Reptilian SP3-1

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Rediscover the centers of intelligence and object relations with John and Josh’s 6-part class: https://www.theenneagramschool.com/developmental-centers

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We’re picking up where we left off with Dave Powers of objectivepersonality.com, exploring similarities between OPS and the enneagram.

— (1:39) Function animals cont’d with John’s play last — (6:57) How working on the last animal is similar to integrating the instinctual blindspot, and how to work on sleep and consume as last animals — (15:47) How to work on the play and blast last animals — (26:08) Consciousness as a collection of programs running us — (33:08) Learning from experiences as we get older is how we develop beyond our worst patterns — (37:28) Dave/Shan’s enneagram types and typing from different centers — (43:57) What growth and health means in OPS from the perspective of positivity vs negativity — (51:38) Setting goals and watching ourselves f**k it up is what clues us into our blindspots and type patterns.  — (54:54) Maps like OPS and the enneagram allow us to study and develop ourselves with precision

Check out ObjectivePersonality.com for OPS classes and resources

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Wings are back with Alexandra. This week, the wings at the crown.

— (11:44) Overview riffs on nine wings / 9w8 is meaty — (18:01) The 8-wing gives 9w8 permission to be more dissociated and messy — (28:13) 9w1 has tension giving itself permission to relax / sensitive refined relaxation — (31:10) 9w1’s often mistype as 4 because of their frustrated refinement and fussiness  — (36:00) The archetypal role of 9w8 and how rejection reinforces their 9ness / 9w8s are not angrier than 9w1s — (39:40) 9w1 tone police vs 9w8 cutting off — (42:53) 1-wing is idealist and philosophical  — (46:54) How frustration and rejection facilitates attachment to disconnect — (57:33) The micro-aggressive warfare of 9w1 vs the provocative push of 9w8   If you haven’t already, go buy John’s book on amazon or barnesandnoble: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T

DAA — Discover the dark arts of enneagram typing. Learn how to see and identify types in classes on Andrew Tate, Robert Greene, Marina Abramovic. And get typed at enneagrammer.com

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New insights emerging on having your heart center last.

— (4:22) Alexandra’s new insights about heart-last and image being a cultivated sense of identity  — (12:27) Being a social-blind image type / reinforcing who you are to yourself — (16:28) Painting your self-portrait and updating how things reflect on you  — (23:18) Aesthetic of personality and unearthing an ocean of values — (26:08) What does neglecting the heart center cost you? — (33:02) Heart last and 4 fix reflex to wince away from being seen — (39:00) Heart lasts underestimate how what they’re doing will cause them to feel shame — (44:33) Events of the world as heart-last phenomenons — (56:20) Heart last and what’s valuable about me

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Enneagrammer — Become dangerously perceptive and skilled at seeing types clearly. Watch recent classes on Katt Williams, Yorgos Lanthimos, and Bermuda Overlays and get typed at: https://www.enneagrammer.com/

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Rediscover the centers of intelligence and object relations with John and Josh’s 6-part class https://www.theenneagramschool.com/developmental-centers

Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T

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Allow us to reintroduce ourselves. Coming to you live from Nothingville, Virginia. For the first time, watch the video version of this episode on our youtube page: https://youtu.be/wk62CguaO8k

— (2:11) Our response to the responses to the Ian Cron Episode — (7:25) Reintroducing ourselves as a group that’s both irreverent and centered on inner work — (11:25) The approaches to inner work you prefer are a reflection of your type’s point of view — (17:45) Our provocative style reflects our personalities and is a much needed contrast to the generally accepted beige enneagram culture — (21:38) American entitlement and expectation to be catered to and coddled is in direct conflict with the conscious suffering of inner work — (25:48) Addressing comments that we hate attachment types  — (33:17) Alexandra, the only social type in our midst, contextualizes our group — (36:37) The personal dynamics behind why people are drawn in but feel conflicted about our style  — (44:48) Curiosity and obsession with the enneagram is what generates the quality of content we produce — (47:59) Questions from the live audience — Can one’s own narcissism be leveraged for inner work? — (51:53) How do positive types learn from us without needing their own space? — (58:50) What aspect of the enneagram do you still find yourselves curious about? Do you find yourselves curious about the basics? — (1:02:46) Light roasting of John’s book. Integrating narcissism and inner work

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Super spreader hormoan instinct talks.

— (7:47) Nancy chimes in on instinct love languages and what men really want but won’t say they want — (13:01) Sex work revealing missing needs and desires / strip club talk — (20:28) What’s up with America’s hyper-sexuality vs sexual conservatism  — (25:52) Culture as an instinctual meme / Latin culture drawing from Aztec mythology culturally integrates more sexual instinct — (29:06) Sex at Dawn and the creation of monogamy / the sexual threat of trans-racial mixing to culture, legacy and blood lines — (42:32) Hookup chronicles and sp/so sexuality

Watch Nancy’s interview with Josh on What It’s Like to be You: https://youtu.be/u4WTC0GM8lI

Check out the SinSomnia podcast hosted by Kristen, Kaisa, and Sammy: https://open.spotify.com/show/5I8hvknTdatmtSvW8LGMCM?si=e499a19ac3544a65

Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram offerings at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com

Check out John and Josh’s new foundational enneagram school. And sign up for their now 6-part class — A Developmental View of the Centers at https://www.theenneagramschool.com/first-offering

Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble and attend his weekly study group: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T

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DAA — Become dangerously perceptive and skilled at seeing types more clearly. Watch recent classes on the 359 Flat line trifix , Margot Robbie, Type Twins. And get typed at https://www.enneagrammer.com/

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Picking up where we left off with Josh and Spiral Dynamics.

— (1:38) The conflict of what it means to help people with the enneagram from the worldviews of different stages of development — (7:33) Yellow distinguishes between and integrates interior subjectivity and external objectivity — (12:53) DG’s 7-fix ain’t got time for yellow — (16:31) Yellow makes finer distinctions beyond Green’s assumption that everyone’s whole — (20:43) The limitations of Yellow is the insistence that everyone can develop  — (25:57) Teal has an awareness of construct as a vantage point for meaning making  — (29:55) The way to develop is to reach the limits of your level’s framework — (32:24) Is DAA an example of a yellow or orange holding of the enneagram? — (37:42) Assertive types seeming orange and the need to integrate both an inner and outer orientation — (42:03) The value system of each type’s fixation evolves through the developmental stages

Check out John and Josh’s new formal enneagram school. And sign up for their first class — A Developmental View of the Centers at https://www.theenneagramschool.com/

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DAA — Become more fluent in the language of the enneagram thru the practice of typing. Watch recent classes on the Liver King, Assertive 9s, Khabib. And get typed at enneagrammer.com

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A social last 3 and a social 3 are with us to complete a threesome of 3s with Nancy. We start off with how our 3s are stuffing their feelings and anxiety during quarantine. How 3s reflexively adapt to others and what authenticity means to them. The hero’s journey of 3s becoming who they were meant to be. The sense of being a conduit of something greater. And finally, 3s and the sexual instinct.

We’re talking about love, relationships, and sex again.

— (4:34) Friendship jealousy and what causes it — (13:38) The tension between expecting too much from a romantic partner and not expecting much at all — (17:05) Western isolation puts more pressure on romantic relationships — (20:25) The need to be seen in a relationship and what it means — (24:26) All About Love by bell hooks defines love as an action to prioritize the other’s well-being — (32:06) We can only love or see an other to the degree that we can see and care for our own well-being — (38:44) Putting yourself aside for an other vs not being a doormat or codependent simp — (44:38) Self-love and knowing how to set boundaries is an important aspect of loving an other — (49:30) Learning to date and talk to the potential sex partners

Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram offerings at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com

Check out John and Josh’s new formal enneagram school. And sign up for their first class  — A Developmental View of the Centers at https://www.theenneagramschool.com/first-offering

Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble and attend his weekly study group: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T

https://www.johnluckovich.com/the-study-group

DAA — Becoming more fluent in the language of the enneagram to see types more clearly. Watch recent classes on 3 vs 6, 3 vs 9, the DJ trifix special. And get typed at https://www.enneagrammer.com/daa

Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here: https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-gray

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We’re wrapping up our Bhavachakra instinct discussions riffing on David’s insights and odds & ends.

— (9:42) The Bhavachakra and Buddhism are a philosophy of psychology — (14:45) The scarcity of attraction for sx/sp compared to sx/so — (19:48) The ‘star’ principle of sx/so and how this appears in Egyptian cosmology  — (25:57) The overarching message and takeaways DG wants you to get from the Bhavachakra’s instinct mandala  — (32:12) Nancy’s take on the sp/so beast realm and existence revolving on having baseline needs met — (35:08) Contrasting sp/so and sp/sx with dogs and cats (again) — (45:17) The interesting numerology arising from the stackings overlapping with the types and how these overlaps show up in the collage exercise

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New juice to wet your beaks. To follow along check out the intro blogs and videos here: https://www.enneagrammer.com/instinct-zones

— (3:29) What are the instinct zone stems? — (9:51) Why Alexandra feels like others are doing social wrong / SO2-1 the gossip flake — (13:48) The Social Zones — (16:54) DG’s social zone 1 provocations — (27:22) John’s SO2-3 A-list player influencer vs Emeka’s SO3-2 group container — (31:15) Alexandra’s SO2-1 sensitivity to social chemistry — (34:05) Emeka’s impractical SP1-2 — (38:10) The Self-pres Zones — (41:26) DG and Alexandra’s SP3-2 cozey uniform  — (54:45) Sexual zones / Jealousy and competition in Zone 2 — (1:02:16) Big hormone consummation in SX Zone 3 / DG’s Zone 2 Himbo proclivities  — (1:11:27) Your zone stem is the order you do the cycle in that instinct — (1:19:39) Sex drive and SX3-2

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Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram readings and trash tv gossip: https://www.saturnruled9.com

Rediscover the centers of intelligence and object relations with John and Josh’s 6-part class: https://www.theenneagramschool.com/developmental-centers

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This week we’re joined by Czander to delve into his illuminating insight on the disconnect of attachment types. 

— (8:56) Czander shares his comment on attachment and discusses his thought process on how he figured it out — (20:54) How attachment types make themselves feel not seen and supported so they can adapt — (37:15) Integrating the blindspot is the key to go from functioning (adapting) to being — (44:18) Attachment types seeing themselves as the problem and martyring themselves to persevere in difficult circumstances — (1:00:02) Attachment types projecting disconnect on others because they’re disconnected from themselves — (1:07:04) Attachment types having amnesia seeing re-occuring problems as new each time  — (1:18:02) Attachment types are attached to being disconnected from their emotions

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We need to talk about attachment some more. Interesting new questions and insights about attachment have emerged as a result of our soul intercourse series. Let’s spin.

— (4:03)  Inner disagreement and ongoing friction fueling attachment — (9:24)  The implications of attachment in politics and group dynamics — (14:44) The mechanics behind the hate/love relationship attachment types have with us — (20:42) How Nancy and DG self-locate their preferences — (33:15) Hexad vs attachment on arguments and disagreement — (40:57) Attachment types coming to terms with how they’re giving away their autonomy — (46:56) Putting it all together with how and why attachment types get lost in the sauce — (49:18) Why attachment types think hexad types are ‘cool’ and get triggered by them

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Gurdjief’s discovery of the enneagram symbol in Egypt. What the symbol means and the cosmic laws it represents. The enneagram of process explained. The difference between essence vs personality. Personality as the unbalanced use of the three centers of intelligence. And how inner work is a practice to be more present through sensation in all three centers.

John is teaching a weekly online enneagram class this month at Maharose. Check it out at the link below:

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Join us on our annual end of year drunk pod looking back on 2022’s ups and downs.

— (7:13) Parasocial discord and drawing lines in the sand — (15:23) Looking back on the vibe of 2022 and the growth of the pod — (23:38) The year of Emeka slowing down / DG’s hot nerd creative updates — (32:44) Revisiting Alejohndra conscious sex talk and the sexual instinct — (50:51) Nancy getting married and moving halfway across the globe — (59:26) Favorite episodes and ideas for 2023  — (1:07:04) John and Josh’s new formal enneagram school — (1:16:59) Play vs play last OPS talk — (1:30:44) Last call for 2023 plans

Check out John and Josh’s new formal enneagram school. And sign up for their first class — A Developmental View of the Centers at https://www.theenneagramschool.com/first-offering

Don’t miss Emeka and John on the ‘best of’ Enneagram Global Summit (we make cheese when you sign up) shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/egs22a23961/a23961 shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/egs22JohnL/JohnL

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DAA — Becoming experientially fluent with the enneagram thru the practice of typing. Watch recent classes on the Liver King, Assertive 9s, Khabib. And get typed at enneagrammer.com

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We need to talk about astrology y’all. Od, a comedian and astrologer, is with us this week to help us explore what insights astrology has for inner work. First, we address skepticism of astrology. What astrology is looking at vs the enneagram. What is astrology and how does it work? What are the 3 most important aspects of a natal chart? Collective astrology and the coronavirus. Racism and America’s shadow Pluto Return. Od’s journey from the enneagram to astrology. Gurdjieff and the significance of cosmic events for inner work. And we wrap up with the astrological vibe of our BHE crew.

We’re back with new insights to share continuing our hexad vs attachment series.

— (1:26)  Revisiting the curious case of David Gray and his hidden very weird attachment — (9:09) Reviewing the last episode’s insights on the individuated vs attachment yes and no — (12:40) The premature yes of attachment vs the premature no of rejection vs the ‘yes, but no’ of frustration — (16:50) Emeka’s experience of the severing of rejection and ‘no’ as a baseline — (21:47) Nancy’s reaction and how the grass isn’t greener on the hexad side — (30:36) The latest on John’s book release and Courtney joining us next week to work her magic on hexad vs attachment

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Live from Brooklyn backrooms answering your questions. Watch here: https://youtu.be/WlHQcWEglks

— (2:32) How important is trifix order? — (12:10) What feels like boring chores to the sexual instinct? — (17:31) How DG experiences his lines of connection as a 9 with no attachment fixes — (25:26) What cakes would each of us bake? — (30:13) How to rizz up the 3-7 stem? — (36:56) What are the holy ideas and higher centers? — (45:10) Insights from the baaaack roooommms - attachment is the seed for object relations — (52:39) Is so/sx what is represented on all the memes on extraversion?

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Continuing where we left off with John and Kristen of the Sinsomnia podcast on the archetypal feminine/masculine myths in Star Wars. **start sending in your questions and comments for episode #200** 

—(1:27) Couples that look like siblings —(5:50) The different splits in masculine/feminine psyche —(8:06) Social shadow work to understand sexual instinct/individuation —(9:52) Seeing masculine/feminine as energies rather than compartmentalized roles —(13:53) Anger’s role in the sexual instinct —(16:38) The idea of integration, holding the tension —(18:15) Being able to stretch and expand creatively —(19:14) Mother projections, living in paradox —(24:33) A neutralizing force versus an activating force —(30:12) Libidinal energy being trapped in the mother —(31:56) Zooming out with Gurdjieff —(41:30) Attunement to the unconscious energies of the centers and instincts —(45:03) Understanding instinctual and neurotic fear —(49:37) The terror of police body cam footage in suburban America —(54:29) The aesthetic realm and its role in reality’s horror show
—(56:58) Concretizing murder in the image of slaying the dragon —(1:03:37) Art pulling you out of knowing and certainty —(1:07:53) Moving towards your death, keeping things novel

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Courtney’s back to finish off the pain thots who didn't feel the 6 and 9 Object Relations in our previous pods got the adequate TLC. We start off with a refresh on what attachment type object relations are. And each of the ‘misses’ and O.R. dynamics for 3, 6 (17:28), and 9 (50:42). Is ‘authority figure’ the best way to describe how 6s externally look for support? The 9 responses to #nota4 on the forums. How the attachment types each represent the archetypal human. And we wrap up interviewing DG on the 9’s O.R. dynamics and rage. How to get our 9 babies to show up.

This week we’re getting into a mbti personality system called Objective Personality (OPS). We ended up doing a rough intro into the basic concepts of OPS, and how we might explore connections between cognitive functions and the enneagram.

— (10:16) What is the objective personality approach to MBTI? — (19:21) The function animals and how they work (Blast, Consume, Play, Sleep) — (23:55) Function animals are like instinct stacking (Info vs Energy) — (42:35) What are cognitive functions and how is a mbti type structured? — (48:40) Sensory vs Intuition — (51:26) Saviors vs Demons functions and animals. How to develop the blindspot — (1:08:21) Deciders vs Observers — (1:12:06) How to figure out your mbti type

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We’re joined by two social types, Ikram & Kristen, to explore the pain and suffering of the social instinct.

— (12:33) Post-zone reflections on social pain and longing — (16:44) Potential dangers in social space — (22:48) The naivety of social-blinds with the social game — (26:50) Why people tear others down to prop themselves up — (29:47) Social is how we project our inner identities and shadows out into the world — (36:18) Dysfunctional social sabotage and attachment dynamics — (40:29) Our nervous systems are regulated by other people / the healing power of connection — (49:30) Owning your own social danger and parasocial obsessions — (1:08:33) Personal encounters with social wounding

Get the last spot on Alexandra and Josh’s new Attachment Support Group: https://www.theenneagramschool.com/attachment-support-group

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Our very first LoveLine pod is here. Hats off to the four brave pioneers who sent in voicemails for this seminal work. We see you Sarah and we honor you. How to not be awkward as a sx-blind head type? How do we deal with jealousy and is it type or instinct specific? What type would David mail-order as a companion on a desert island? And finally, what’s the most triggering breakup we’ve had? To be featured on the next LoveLine episode leave a voicemail at (323) 696-0647 today. 

— (1:27) The Big Hormone Self-Pres podcast — (3:37) Psychedelics as anti-depressants (correction: serotonin is a neurotransmitter not a hormone) — (11:26) COVID stories and launching the pod — (16:31) The great disillusionment  — (19:51) Trump and elon dork — (21:52) Synflow vs contraflow in autonomy conflicts — (33:30) Getting back into the wing series / 3w2vs3w4

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Find out what flavor of toxic you are 9w19w88w99w81w99w89w16w76w79w19w86w59w89w19w86w76w79w8 https://www.enneagrammer.com/

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This week we’re roasting the worst parts of dating each type. Everything that sucks about dealing with each type romantically. But first, be sure to sign up for John’s session on the centers coming up at the Global Enneagram Summit using his link: https://shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/egs20/JohnL . We start off with the gut types. 8, 9 (18:50), 1 (25:20) and finish off with 2 (33:56) and 3 (42:01). We’ll continue with 4 and the head types in Part II of this series. Don’t forget to send in your BHE Love Line questions and comments to be featured in a future episode. Leave us a voicemail at (323) 696-0647.

The Enneagrammer team explores why learning how to type is a must.

— (5:00) Learning how to type is a requirement for applying the enneagram — (9:14) ‘Only you can type yourself’, as if you’re conscious of your *unconscious* motivations — (12:30) To use and apply the enneagram you have to first start with accurate observations of how it applies — (16:34) Typing is a practice of observing distinctions snapping into place and forming 3D architecture  — (18:26) Use the inherent bias of your type’s lens to identify your own relationship to each type — (22:49) Every description you’ve ever read is a work-in-progress snapshot from the author’s lens and experience — (30:05) Learnings from our experience typing as a team / Getchu a typing buddy — (36:18) Observing and identifying type as dynamics vs type as identity — (39:04) The importance of typing fictional characters / typing is accurately matching concept with reality / new descriptions are discoveries pulling from reality back to concept — (45:14) Accurate typing is at the foundation for why our group is so nice and makes new discoveries  — (48:41) How knowing how to type changes your dating experience / DG’s impressions on our accelerated growth the last few years — (53:11) How mind-blowing hexad vs attachment still is as a discovery

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Got your head on a swivel.

— (1:27) How major the Bermuda Overlays are  — (4:23) No Diddy and creepy 3w2s — (8:16) Why do people hate Teal Swan so much? / BHE Suicide Hotline — (16:46) DG’s metallurgy analogy for how a wing transforms a fix — (23:22) Are the attachment wings harder to see? — (25:47) What if 9w8 is the most common 9? — (29:36) Gut is king / 8 chaos vs 1 order — (43:52) Bermuda hiddenness and discovering their particular specificities  — (52:32) The sensitivity of the human nervous system is the starting point — (55:01) Bermudas ‘going fuzzy’ is a wide cast net as a platform to show up in

Finally figure out what type of toxic you are with Enneagrammer. Watch recent typing videos on the Drake vs Kendrick beef, Baby Reindeer, and get typed at: https://www.enneagrammer.com/

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Rediscover the centers of intelligence and object relations with John and Josh’s 6-part class https://www.theenneagramschool.com/developmental-centers

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it’s the spice of life.

— (1:25) Frustration is the aesthetic of each center — (6:10) Frustration as the basis of human suffering and expression of personality  — (7:56) Bermuda Overlays and frustration as personalized flavor / rejection as the elemental substrate of each center — (14:25) Frustration doesn’t give up on their needs but unwilling to work with how to get its needs met / the knot of not having — (16:58) Rejection cut off vs frustration in relationships — (24:13) Everyone’s shitting on the thing they most want — (31:57) Rejection and attachment both have a self-erasing quality / ‘attachment as exposition, frustration as rising action, rejection as conclusion’ — (39:27) The social engagement of the world is low on frustration / you’re not a person if you don’t hate something — (42:16) 2 vs 4 love is not the same / frustration is essential to seeing someone’s personhood — (52:57) Attachment-rejection vs attachment-frustration strategies — (55:13) To be aesthetic means prioritizing your preferences over maintaining connection / 4 seeing people as aesthetic holograms — (1:00:50) Universal bread people attraction vs personal specific attraction

Enneagrammer — Become dangerously perceptive and skilled at seeing types clearly. Watch recent classes on Princess Diana, 8w7 vs 8w9, and the Bermuda Overlays and get typed at: https://www.enneagrammer.com/

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Cont’d.

— (6:02) This is now a 9 enabling self-pres podcast — (11:26) Become a hope machine / lift some weights — (18:14) We should do an episode on the self-pres love language — (21:11) John’s sleep vs Emeka’s sleep last as recluse cavemen — (26:29) Tackling big life topics through the lens of the enneagram / most relationship advice is missing the thing it most needs - the sexual instinct — (31:15) Finding your attraction orientation apart from what’s generally accepted as attractive

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Check out John and Josh’s new formal enneagram school. And sign up for their now 6-part class — A Developmental View of the Centers at https://www.theenneagramschool.com/first-offering

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DAA — Refining your intuition of the types to see them more clearly and become a more accurate typer. Watch recent classes on 3 vs 6, 3 vs 9, the DJ trifix special. And get typed at https://www.enneagrammer.com/daa

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We’re penetrating the untouchables this week. Strap in for a meandering dive into what rejection types are really up to.

— (16:32) The rejection separateness in sexual 8 display /Rejection types having a fractional sense of personhood — (20:52) The micro-disengagements of rejection types / the intellectual intensity of 5s — (27:17) DG’s instinct overlap schema for each rejection type — (30:17) The psychic structure of rejection is shaped by penetration / why 2’s heart penetration feels so potent — (37:06) Self-pres independence vs rejection separateness / rejection dynamics in our families — (46:42) The cutting off of rejection is a retroactive amputation — (57:32) How micro-disengagement shows up in 2s  — (1:05:48) Rejection types engage with controlling power dynamics — (1:18:54) Attachment has the most hope, frustration has medium hope, rejection sees hope as an extreme vulnurability   Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T

DAA — Discover the dark arts of enneagram typing. Learn how to see and identify types in classes on Andrew Tate, Kurt Cobain, Marina Abramovic. And get typed at enneagrammer.com

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We’re joined by Social types, Laura and Alexandra, to discuss the contrast between Social-first and Social-last, highlighting David’s taboo story in BHE 011 (13:44). How Social types frame around potential reactions and how Social-lasts view connection. And finally, Social types experiencing loneliness.

Coming to you live from a brooklyn bedroom in the zone. A round the chat circle audience q&a pod. Watch the video pod here: https://youtu.be/cXMTPc5YIHo

— (1:27) Awkward soc-last attempts to kickstart the pod — (9:50) How everyone got into the enneagram and what it has done for them?  — (11:58) Celia, a 6w5 middle manager, mistyped as an 8 before finding us — (13:14) Sarah, a social 9 DJ, found the enneagram through evangelical christian content and mistyped as a 4 — (17:44) Kristen, a social 9 Bermuda, mistyped as a 5 before finding the pod and turning her life upside down  — (23:24) Gray, social 3 Kyle, set her life on fire after encountering herself in a zone — (27:56) Josh, a social 3 Bermuda and host of What It’s Like To Be You, gives us his podcast intro voice — (30:40) Michaela, a social 3 DJ, found us through instagram memes — (33:10) Sammy, a self-pres 9 Hateful Ghost, was upset to find out she was triple withdrawn — (41:03) Kaisa, a sexual Flatline 9, came all the way from Finland to go deep with us — (47:12) How do attachment types stop caring? — (50:36) Happy Birthday to StJUCE — (53:12) Alexandra and others give their take on integrating the psychological mixing of the sexual instinct (audio issues abound)

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DAA — Become more fluent in the language of the enneagram. Watch recent typing classes on assertive 9s, Anton Lavey, Reactive types. And get typed at enneagrammer.com

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Back at it with another juicy episode on attraction and sexual display from the point of view of the different instincts. What are the instinctual love languages? The role gender plays and other factors. The way each instinct is framing how an attraction is going. We each take a look at this for ourselves in the context of dating and all the games we play. The reciprocity and contextualizing of social. The provocative hooking and spilling of sexual. And the grounded sensuality and consummation of self-pres.

We’re continuing our discussions on rejection. This time with the Enneagrammer/DAA typing team riffing on some new insights.

— (6:22) Lever points and what being indispensable means to a rejection type / Joseph’s impression of feeling used by rejection types — (9:47) Emeka’s analogy of rejection types as limited persons born with missing limbs — (15:38) Frustration is in relation/reaction to an ideal, while rejection assumes a baseline of being cut off — (17:35) Rejection types see their offerings as transactional resources and indispensable commodities — (22:29) What’s necessary to get 8s is to understand how they control potent leverage points from the perspective of their dominant instinct / Emeka and enneagram typing as a potent leverage point — (26:25) What is the rejection affect and how are we noticing it in our typings? — (29:54) The difference between how a 5 is absent vs a 9 being absent — (31:22) How the cut-offness of rejection shows up in 2s  — (35:40) Something is indispensable when it’s a necessary point in a process / the immovable sandbox metaphor — (39:57) Rejection types are measuring and testing to what degree their offerings are necessary to you — (44:32) The implications of not having rejection at play for Joseph and David — (56:06) Rejection types like Andrew Tate and Robert Greene gaining popularity by occupying power vacuums in the public consciousness

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This week we’re finishing up our trifix series by exploring some of David’s magical trifix concepts. What is a fix and a stem. How stems form a sub-theme to the core type. The difference between fixes and the lines of connection (integration/disintegration lines). What health means in the enneagram, and how the lines of connection work. How trifix has impacted our growth and self-awareness. How descriptions and definitions get in the way of understanding. And we wrap up with the usual useless beast terribleness.

Our reluctant cult leader finally decided to pick up where she left off.

— (12:24) Alexandra’s intro to 3w2 vs 3w4 — (16:06) 3w4 self as exemplary object vs 3w2 self as interpersonal star  — (18:07) 3w4 bitchy frustration vs 3w2 schmoozy rejection — (32:00) Are 3w2’s better manipulators than 3w4’s? — (38:00) 3w2 vs 3w4 singers / which is more of a cameleon? — (40:49) Positive vs reactive wing — (46:58) Superego offerings of 3w2 — (49:24) What cringes Nancy out about other 3w4s — (52:50) 3w2s ask better questions

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Riffing and winging it.

— (4:25) Josh’s new object relational theory of the centers and the superego triad — (10:20) The hornevians might explain why certain types are next to each other — (11:18) 8w9 vs 8w7 centralized vs decentralized leverage — (17:06) 1w9 vs 1w2  — (30:25) 4w5/5w4 ephemeral self-invention — (44:00) The hell of the double hexad types — (47:43) Plans for more soul intercourse episodes

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Continuing where we left off with Courtney and Czander and attachment to disconnect from the 3-6-9 Bermuda Triangle.

— (9:26) How does a good attachment form for attachment types if attaching is based on not being seen? — (17:13) 9s needing contrast and negation to find themselves and resisting being located — (22:52) Attachment types exist in shifting context, which makes them resistant to pinning down self-location and identity — (29:58) How 9s are open but ‘not there’ in their attachments, and how that gets in the way of relationships — (46:58) Courtney explains how a healthy attachment for a 6 helps affirm and trust her intuition — (53:50) Nancy explains how 3 shame helps her individuate — (57:10) Attachment types are listening and the hexad types are not — (1:06:02) Attachment types take their identity too seriously

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Watch Stolen Youth on Hulu and get into this.

— (5:13) Larry is an 8w9 862 Wouldn’t Hurt a Fly — (9:18) What’s so compelling about a type like Larry? — (13:00) The government and military as social hooks used to manipulate victims — (24:43) Setting an attachment landscape and opening the door for alternative realities with ‘taking responsibility’ — (29:53) 8’s leveraging victimhood and why Larry is sp/so — (44:29) Shaping reality with relentless alternative memories / attachment as a survival strategy — (48:39) The seductive pull of a being given a scapegoat for why your life sucks / rejection creating parental dynamics

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This week we’re responding to your comments on our soul intercourse series. It’s gonna get spicy. 

— (2:59)  Can we discuss this topic from the queer perspective? — (5:48)  David’s favorite stripper with mother issues has an amazing sex life — (9:53) Confused rambler with nothing to contribute has some shit to say — (22:39) Is what we’re sharing triggering insecurities? — (31:57) Social 2 shares her experience making a soul connection with her partner — (33:50) Appreciative type 2 caller loves this topic and misses having this type of connection

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Delving into the fear and anxiety of the head types.

— (3:57) 5 fear of being contaminated — (10:40) Avarice is a sense that personhood isn’t robust enough to be fully exposed in the world — (11:30) The 8 line to 5 and the 2 line to 8 — (16:30) Ways to work on 5 avarice — (19:18) 5 fear as one way endless monologues — (24:17) How Emeka and John experience 5 fix fear — (33:52) 6 fear of fear itself — (37:02) 6 considering all possibilities / fear disguised as responsibility and logic — (46:48) 6 preemptive call outs and self-deprecation / the essence quality of 6 is to be the universe’s eye — (50:33) 5 subjectivity vs 6 objectivity — (57:37) Toxic 7 fear — (1:06:30) 7 is running from the limitations of what is — (1:10:47) 7s need to get in touch with their own generation instead of just consuming — (1:15:04) 7 anxiety showing up as manic consumption

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We’re joined by a social 2 and social-last 2 to help us dig underneath the sugary sweet hearts of 2s. How they reject their own needs and only see themselves through serving others. The difficulty of 2s to own up to their own selfishness and potential to cause harm. Their intense love for connection. 2s and the sexual instinct. Wrapping up with our 2s lending their relational expertise to a touchy situation.

This week we’re diving into the not so sunny positive outlook types as we start off a series exploring the harmonic groups.

— (8:05) What is the positive outlook harmonic group? — (13:53) How 9’s self-erasing makes them seem less positive than 2 and 7 — (17:14) Why it’s named harmonics — (24:40) How positive outlook gets in the way of inner work — (31:12) The positive type premature expert — (33:08) The 9’s brand of know it all narcissism  — (41:02) The negative shadow of positive types  — (42:44) The dark side of 9 — (47:01) The shadow of 7 — (48:01) How David and Emeka experience their positive outlook influences — (56:04) The negative shadow of 2

Nancy hosts a bangin attachment talk with Alexandra and Courtney. Some magic happened in this Bermuda Zone.

— (3:24) Contrasting and comparing attachment to disconnect experiences from the perspective of 3/6/9 — (10:38) 3&9 vs 6 differences on revealing their location  — (18:54) Round robin impressions of the other attachment types — (21:18) What’s scary about 9 for 3&6 — (24:16) What’s scary about 3 for 6&9 — (30:02) What’s scary about 6 for 9&3 — (36:41) 6’s need to earn it and are committed to life being difficult — (40:11) Courtney’s experiences as an attachment parent  — (44:10) Nancy recalls what it was like to be parented by a hexad vs an attachment parent — (48:52) Alexandra’s experiences in an all attachment family — (1:04:55) The attachment insecurity around being loved for you are as an individual vs how you’ve adapted to be loved — (1:09:36) What each attachment type thinks they needed from their parents — (1:16:56) Grounding practices for each attachment type

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We’ve got a trifecta of sexual 8s with Paula and Siena joining us to discuss the soul and heart of 8. The body as a container of expansive energy. How 8s dissociate through action and immediacy. Why 8s feel no one has their back, and how they self-negate as rejection types. And finally, what it’s like being a sexual 8. Wrapping up with an epic sexual 8 story.

Happy Halloween. Send in your questions and topics for the upcoming live pod. 

— (3:38) Dahmer as an attachment type and death obsessed soc-blind — (10:49) The hot serial killer phenomenon / serial killers as an aesthetic   — (15:31) The disconnection from death in the west as a lived experience creates a shadow death obsession — (25:44) The social and type dynamics that allowed Dahmer to get away with it for so long — (26:22) Dahmer fandom and serial killer fixation as an example of our collective lack of relationship to death  — (34:41) Alcoholism as self-medication for loneliness and social isolation — (43:17) We should explore how to make and keep friends / We’re lonely because we’re disconnected from ourselves — (49:18) Dahmer’s attachment to disconnect and dissociation from reality — (55:07) Dahmer had a growing inner impulse centered around autonomy / everything happening to the 9

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Bouncing back into the swing of things with a light loveline. 

— (1:27) Riffing on the spiritual role of the enneagram and inner work in society — (9:06) New beginnings applying the discoveries from the last year — (20:44) Can the enneagram be used widely long term as a developmental tool? — (22:17) Reasons why it’s unlikely the enneagram undiluted will ever become a mainstream hit — (24:36) Sherwin williams paint and the commercialization of the enneagram — (28:55) How do we see someone relating to both hexad and attachment as a type 1? Can you be both? — (33:23) Type 1s aren’t about being good as much they’re about justifying an inner sense of how things should go — (39:05) Hexad types think they’re more adaptable than they actually are and attachment types think they’re more solid than they are — (42:34) Props and appreciation — (43:59) Ideas for next episodes -- Let us know what you’d like to hear more of

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Continuing where we left off with Courtney on hexad vs attachment.

— (1:26) How do frustration types relate to one another? — (5:18) How attachment gets in the way of relating to others — (7:46) Hexad vs attachment perspectives and reactions to the typing process — (20:50) How attachment yes/no shows up in 6s — (27:16) Differences in how and why 6/3/9 override the other centers to make decisions — (36:59) The differences in what each attachment type needs to create an attachment — (54:56) Attachment and hexad from the perspective of the instincts 

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The crew takes a dive into the instinctual drives. The evolution of instinct teaching and our own personal experiences uncovering a deeper understanding of our relationships to the instincts. John gets into the instinctual drives as a modality of inner work and presence. David briefly gets into his discovery of the elemental link between the instinctual drives and the wheel of life buddhist symbol called the Bhavacakra. Nancy waxes poetic about the Self-pres wonders of tea.

We’re responding to your loveline submissions for our 100th episode. Thanks for all your comments, questions, and feedback. We appreciate y’all sticking with us thus far. 

— (6:04) The inaccessibility of the pod’s communication style  — (9:35) What drug would each of the hosts be? — (13:22) Sex worker question for Nancy — (18:05) Advise for christians who are interested in learning the enneagram — (25:21) Why we get so much hate — (39:46) Girthy request for more on the compartmentalization of the self-pres instinct — (44:15) Request to explore connections between mbti and the enneagram. And factors that determine collage instinct typings. — (48:00) Syn/Contra question for David — (54:55) Request for more on each trifix and why spotify only has our episodes starting from episode 4 — (57:35) How the hornevian triads and the object relational stances combine to illustrate the inner works of the types — (1:00:44) 5 vs 7 confusion with Grimes as an example — (1:04:04) Exploring nuances and sharper distinctions for bermuda’s

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— (18:41) What we’ve contributed to the enneagram as a group — (23:18) Josh leads us through piecing together the history of the group — (37:44) DG’s instinct cards and the birth of the collage exercise  — (44:34) How Alexandra found the group and typing meltdowns — (53:51) Courtney finding the group and her object relations contributions — (59:12) How COVID led to the first zone and John met Alexandra — (1:04:48) How did Josh find the group and began creating with the enneagram? — (1:22:33) How Alexandra came to join the pod? — (1:33:20) How the Kristen and the dream team made connections between dreams and the enneagram and started the SinSomnia podcast

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This week we have on special guest Ian Cron, author of the Road Back To You. We’ve put aside our differences and tried to come to an understanding. 

— (5:10) Introduction to Ian Cron and his work — (8:49) Love and compassion are what makes us human — (15:23) 4s are focused on the dark but are also envious of your happiness and light — (22:44) We make amends for #nota4 and the emotional psychological trauma it has caused — (28:66) The church has revolutionized the enneagram  — (33:69) The emptiness of our hearts have to be filled by his love

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A must-watch for every 9 and 9-fixer. Watch Dogville and then come back to this.

— (8:42) Why we’re talking about Dogville / Plot overview — (19:53) The hope of attachment vs the leverage of rejection — (24:30) How things went from bad to worse — (30:04) The arrogance of 9 — (37:32) Grace confronted by the Dogville principle — (47:14) Grace representing the unprotected innocence of the body center — (53:00) The 8 tenet of first protecting your self and life force — (1:03:39) Why Dogville is a must watch for 9s and 9-fixers

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After an unfathomable delay we’ve returned to the wings series. **send in your questions and comments for episode #200 bonanza** 

—(1:27) Alexandra gaslighting us about why she gave up on the wing series —(12:25) 4-wings intro —(17:53) 9 vs 4 differences / 4’s off-putting emotional aggression  —(23:17) The ambient emotional friction of 4 / frustrated reactivity as a self-protecting boundary —(29:05) 4w3’s formed self-identity vs 4w5’s formless god particle —(34:14) 4w5 being in the dark about itself —(38:33) 4w3 representing something beyond the map —(42:29) 4w3 refining personal subjective taste into a unique ‘thing’ —(49:09) 4w3 vs 4w5 in interviews / the self-contained rejection offering of 4w5 —(53:39) 4w3’s aloof sommelier identity  —(58:37) 4w3 operatic stylization vs 4w5 bottomless mystery  —(1:06:35) The decaying dark matter anti-style of 4w5 / https://www.instagram.com/the__ljilja/ —(1:10:47) How we feel talking about our heart center type —(1:13:21) What 4w5s are like in the wild  —(1:24:20) Luigi Luigi

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Welcome to the genesis of Big Hormone Enneagram. Your hosts with the mostest are John Luckovich, Nancy Walter, David Gray, and Emeka Okorafor. In this episode you'll get to know us and hear how these 4 odd insurgents found their way to a thing called the Enneagram.

Od's back in da house for a very hormonal episode on astrological compatibility and chemistry. Why he thinks the sign of your mars placement can determine sexual chemistry. The difference between the attraction compatibility of mars vs venus. How the north node and south nodes reveal how our life purposes intersect and what you might be learning from a partner. The Juno astroid and what we deeply desire for long term relationships. The Pattern vs Co-Star astrology apps. And finally, Od demonstrates these ideas by showing us the hormonal chemistry dynamics of the BHE crew. 

In case you didn’t know, ya boyz (Nancy❤️RIP) got your back on how to figure out trifix once and for all. In this episode we lay out a guide for landing on your trifix by going into each center and discussing what it’s like to have each fix. We start out with the body/gut center and how each fix is maintaining ego boundaries and distance. Then the heart/image center (26:41) and how each fix is creating identity and self-image. And finally the head center (50:04) and how each fix is overdoing a different style of insight.

This week we’re discussing and answering your submitted loveline questions on John’s instinct book.

— (3:21) What might it look like when a type is faced with a situation that exemplifies the loss of essential quality? — (22:10) A critique about John’s use of the word individuation and hormonal comments about his hotness — (31:18) How is the instinct stacking determined and why does one instinct become dominant over another? — (43:56) What is the distinction between the loss of self of sexual and spiritual dissolving of the ego? — (48:44) What does secondary self-pres for sx/sp look like for people who are bad at self-pres? — (52:03) Where to find the music used at the end of the upisodes? — (53:08) How to type each type and we read the energy of each type? — (56:51) How aspects of personality contribute to people getting along with each other?

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We’re continuing where we left off to get more specific with how the average levels of health operate.

— (8:36) Everyone is at average levels of health — (16:34) What does it mean to be at Level 4? — (20:54) Type 4 at level 4 — (23:48) Type 9 at level 4 — (29:13) Type 3 at level 4 — (33:56) The real difference between level 4 and level 3 — (38:47) Type 8 at level 4 — (47:00) The transition to level 5 from level 4 — (55:16) How 9s compartmentalize conflict and disengage at level 5 — (1:05:24) Level 6

Picking up where we left off with Julie of Riverbend Coaching and the archetypal feminine.

— (6:32) Julie starts us off with a short guided practice to bring us back into the space of the feminine  — (10:14) People are not in touch with their responses from the pelvis and genitals   — (12:10) The head center through the lens of the feminine — (17:01) The panoramic vision of the feminine head center makes us aware of the whole and the emerging facets of the truth of what’s happening now — (21:00) The multi-dimensional faceted learning approach we’ve brought to the enneagram has a feminine contextual thinking style — (26:22) Dahmer fandom and serial killer fixation as an example of our collective lack of relationship to death  — (30:54) The bright feminine archetype of 2 vs the dark and fierce feminine archetypes of 4 and 8 — (41:28) We have a need to integrate ferocity in the feminine as an antidote to projecting that energy out of oneself — (44:10) The allowing and receiving of the feminine is an engaged receptivity, not a passive receptivity — (46:12) Julie, Nancy, and Alexandra’s experiences of being women in a culture lacking relationship to the feminine  — (53:53) Dealing with the internalized misogyny of “I’m just a girl” — (1:03:11) Masculine vs feminine forms of practice

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This week we’re joined by two twos, Alex Giroux and Fay Willow, to unpack our negative bias against 2s. We attempt to atone for our sins. Forgive us for we shall sin again.

— (10:06) The collective shadow that type 2 represents culturally — (19:40) Emeka and John reacting to their mothers being 2s — (29:58) How Alex experiences her own neediness as a social blind 2 — (38:00) 2s feeling like they have to offer something to justify their existence as rejection types — (43:40) How our 2s interpret the notion that their love is conditional and is giving to get — (53:27) The friction between 2s giving love and kindness vs their authentic preferences in the moment  — (1:08:59) Fay and David’s intense conversation about allowing him to give hold space for her without her giving anything first — (1:19:53) 2s are formidable and not fragile or weak

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— (13:24) Noticing people from an attraction lens / sexual blind weird algebra — (18:32) Trying to describe what attraction is without using social signifiers — (25:09) The chemical infection of the sexual instinct and the drug analogy — (28:03) What happens after the merging of sexual? — (30:55) The mercurial growth element of sexual chemistry / sexual is seeking or creating polarities that remix boundaries — (36:44) Gender neutrality vs polarity / Sexual is engaging the tension between various polarities — (44:12) Disagreement and disruption as a form of sexual polarity — (53:06) Your porn stash as a truth serum for your sexual instinct 

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We’re continuing our discussions on instincts, joined by my bb Beth, to get into the sexual stackings and DG’s insights with the Bhavachakra.

— (6:39) David’s intro to his SX/SO and SX/SP correlations on the  Bhavachakra — (14:35) Beth’s experience as a sx/so attachment type in contrast to social types and sx/sp — (26:21) What distinctly makes sx/so a sexual type — (35:30) Contrasting sx/so with so/sx — (49:54) Hungry ghosts (sx/sp) and Gods/Goddesses (sx/so) — (57:40) Personality and social genres as an attraction hook for sx/so

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The soul sex saga continues. Our beloved CQ Alexandra joins us to excavate the challenges attachment types face in love, intimacy, and sexuality. 

— (1:27)  Addressing excuses and deflections — (7:49)  What social blinds are missing and how that can be detrimental in love — (11:33) Sexual blinds seen as uncool by sexual blinds — (22:37) How attachment types hook others by seeing themselves through their eyes — (29:28) The dynamic of the pod needs more Nancy — (38:00) What's wrong with not having any attachment?  — (43:18) Attachment types remaining unaffected by chasing ‘gold stars’ in relationships they barely care about

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We’re descending into the hell of the self-pres instinct with this face/off between Dominatrix Nancy and Cult Daddy David

— (5:20) The hellish fear vs the comfort stages of self-pres — (9:09) The friction between the pursuit of money for a certain lifestyle and actually getting to live that lifestyle — (11:11) Nancy’s cottage core bi-sexual farm lifestyle goal — (19:37) Pushing the body to extremes is a self-pres high — (24:46) Energy conservation and keeping the blinders on to get the goods — (31:53) Creating a sense of home and why self-pres attachment types overwork — (38:03) How capitalism and self-pres sustainability shape politics and systems — (49:14) The war between the different instinctual worlds and empathy

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We’re back with two contrasting social types thrust into a social hell in this surprise face/off between Koala CQ Alexandra and Untouchable Prince Joseph.

— (2:39) Social attachment vs social hexad — (5:36) How does Joseph navigate being social as a negative 4 — (13:56) Comparing and contrasting so/sx and so/sp — (31:15) What does closeness mean and what is the aim of social? — (39:22) What causes social anxiety and stress? The social 9 vs social 4 dynamic — (49:30) The social meta of this call and social types revealing themselves as a person — (58:19) Reputation, rumors, and macro-social stress around how you’re perceived putting yourself out there — (1:09:16) The social blind obliviousness roast — (1:18:37) How is social disruption during a connection experienced? — (1:26:37) Receptivity to the social milieu contrasts between attachment and hexad

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Are you a Bermuda or a Huh? This week we dive into trifix. What is it and why does it matter? How enneagram triads help us make use of it. We dive into our list of trifix roast names, developed by the BHE Enneagram Universe Chief Executive Council Internal Committee. We’ll be exploring each of the following trifixes in this episode: 479 Huh?, 478 Revolving Door Rehab, 469 Whiny Tears, 468 Public Display of Affliction, 459 Hateful Ghost, 458 Useless Beast, 379 DJ, 378 Chad/Stacy, 369 Bermuda Triangle.

We’re back at it with another thirsty LoveLine episode.

— (2:19) How can sexual blinds recognize when someone is attracted to them? — (28:02) What is it like to date your instinct stacking and the other stackings? — (50:09) What type would say yes to marriage for a green card and will Nancy accept his proposal? — (56:44) Can we do a riff on #nota5? YES, we’ll devote of all the next episode to it.

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We’re back at it looking at reactive harmonics.

— (3:22) Reactive vs frustration / harmonics is how we resolve a situation — (7:16) ‘Hopeful’ better describes what positive outlook is up to / reactive aims to uncover where the other is located under duress  — (9:51) Katt Williams and 6 exposing the worst case scenario  — (12:34) 4/6/8 testing to see if you can hang with negative realness — (19:54) Reactive types are provoking the authenticity of each center — (26:09) 4 vs 8 purging poison and creating space — (32:35) The audacity of hope for positive types — (40:35) Do we need a better name for reactive? — (48:56) 6 is the most psycho reactive type / Katt and reactive 6 comics — (1:03:39) M6GA

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Your himbo grumps are back at it again, to pick apart an often repeated and incorrect adage, “movitation, not behavior”.

— (3:14) It’s both motivation AND behavior, and you don’t know your own motivation — (6:26) The instinctual drives and other layers have to be considered in motivation  — (11:59) The motivation behind creating easily misunderstood catch phrases — (15:42) Each type structure is very limited and ‘close-minded’ — (18:13) Attachment types not wanting to be pinned down and rehashing the conflict around the ‘real me’ — (30:58) The question of what do I do now and the blindspot as the key — (37:10) Type isn’t what you think you’re good at — (43:50) Why you need an outside reflection to see/type yourself

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We went off the deep end to explore the upside down hexagram triangle and David’s reflections between hexad and attachment.

— (12:08) Recapping what 3/6/9 represent for humanity vs the hexagram triangle — (16:14) The hexagram triangle is the upside down of the 369 triangle — (18:06) DG’s reflections and how the hexad types types are born of the attachment types (3>7/8, 6>1/2, 9>4/5) — (26:33) The hexagram is out of sync with the cosmic flow — (27:16) The line from 9 to the space between 4/5 is the everything to the nothing  — (30:04) John dives into the spheres of existence on the kabbalah / the tension between the everything and the nothing is time — (39:11) Hexad vs attachment is like contra vs synflow — a needed negative force — (44:50) Alexandra’s impressions of the 4/5 zone as a 9 — (50:38) Emeka and Nancy’s reflections on 3 vs 7/8

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Dearly beloved / we’re gathered here today / to love through this thing called instinct 

— (2:59) We make our dominant instinct a religion / how we manipulate what love is through our dominant instinct — (5:47) Integrating the social instinct’s verbal-contextual expressions of love / Alexandra’s ‘love cup’ religion propaganda — (15:03) Zooming out and talking about the relationship meets non-negotiable needs of love / sp/sx wants a smaller and smaller intimacy cave — (21:09) Overcoming the fear of the blindspot instinct / the analogy of social as light / ’socially slutty’ — (30:47) Social is seeing yourself as a three dimensional human. Personality and character traits, not just your utility. — (35:53) Alexandra’s war on the sexual instinct and the soc-blinds — (42:12) The toxicity of sexual instinct attraction — (48:32) We could develop something like a instinct composite/synastry chart / let’s flesh out love languages for instincts

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Check out John and Josh’s new formal enneagram school. And sign up for their now 6-part class — A Developmental View of the Centers at https://www.theenneagramschool.com/first-offering

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We’re back at it discussing John’s new instincts book, continuing where we left off with how to integrate the blindspot.

— (4:57) The social approaches — (25:10) Practices for integrating the self-pres blindspot — (37:48) Practices for integrating the sexual blindspot — (58:02) Practices for integrating the social blindspot

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Special episode with John and Kristen of the Sinsomnia podcast on the archetypal feminine/masculine myths in Star Wars. **start sending in your questions and comments for episode #200** 

— (1:27) Plugs — (5:53) Salome & Star Wars intro — (7:00) Conditions of existence, Masculine/Feminine, and the third force — (10:38) John sets the Star Wars stage — (12:53) A New Hope: Princess Leia Loses It All — (19:58) Empire Strikes Back: Introducing Eros — (23:05) Return of the Jedi: The Metal Bikini — (27:28) The power fantasy, fathers/sons, and male expectations — (32:00) Kristen zooms out with the Star Wars mythology — (34:52) A glimpse of the feminine journey — (39:04) Dualistic feminine energies & Leia’s psyche — (47:20) Where are the feminine stories? — (52:15) Jung’s ‘Answer to Job’: Why is God a dick? — (56:20) Salome’s story — (1:02:30) The Death Mother — (1:06:00) The journey of the three instincts, Anima/Animus — (1:17:00) Alien: the violence of being born — (1:25:00) Masculine pain & the parental complexes

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This week, after another heart-opening transformative meetup in the zone, we’re discussing our experiences with breathwork. 

— (3:24) We recount a powerful spontaneous breathwork session in The Zone — (7:52) What is a breathwork session and how does it work? — (23:00) How processing and releasing trauma is like exorcising demons — (27:42) David’s breathwork session with John — (38:05) Emeka’s breathwork session with John — (47:58) Nancy feeling parts of her body function as they were intended after her breathwork session — (50:08) Resources and recommended breathworkers 

This week we’re diving into the often misunderstood levels of health.

— (3:38) Health is not a measure of positive outcomes or attitudes — (7:32) History of the levels of health and what it means — (12:08) You don’t overcome your type as you go up the levels — (13:26) The shock between going from level 4 to level 3 — (17:27) What it means to do inner work to liberate attention  — (26:49) Just being aware of your type is not freedom from it — (33:18) Gurdjieff as a healthy 8 who wasn’t always a ‘good’ person — (38:42) Inner and outer considering — (42:06) David’s story about an experience of inner freedom — (48:22) Health as an experience of the divine through the higher centers — (59:05) Freedom from personality doesn’t always make you feel good — (1:01:08) Freedom/Health as ego deaths — (1:06:33) Awakeness represented in ancient Egypt as the union between Horus and Set

Making your wishes come true with the 3rd round of our BHE Enneagram Universe Syndicate trifix roasts. In this episode we’ll be roasting the following trifixes: 379 DJ (extra dose of abuse as requested), 147 Princess and the Pea, 146 Big Pain, 145 Insectoid, 137 Welcome To My Ted Talk, 136 Middle Manager, 135 Robocelibate, 127 Cool Teacher, 126 Ballbuster/Ok Boomer, 125 Friend Zone.

We’re wrapping up our Michael Teachings talk with Shepherd by diving into the overleaves.

— (2:37) Action axis // Warrior and King roles — (8:54) The bossiness of the King role in a normal person — (12:36) Goal of acceptance — (16:15) Goal of flow — (17:16) Goal of discrimination — (25:17) Goal of dominance — (27:51) What are sliding overleaves?  — (28:54) Goal of submission — (31:01) Spiritualist Attitude — (32:30) Nancy/Emeka/John having the skeptic attitude — (42:07) The idealist attitude — (44:20) Reserve and Passion mode — (48:08) Caution and Power mode — (51:52) How different overleaves cause friction in relationships — (54:19) What it’s like for a role to have high frequency — (56:44) Attraction to members of our entity or cadre — (59:38) The significance of previous cycles and soul age

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Courtney joins us to lend her insightful point of view to the hexad vs attachment discussion in this two part conversation.

— (1:26)  An overview of Object Relations and what hexad and attachment mean — (10:40) Why is attachment triggering to hexad types — (12:54) Attachment types figuring out who they are through relationship to someone or something else — (17:22) The limited box of hexad types addicted to frustration and rejection — (30:20) The yes/no dichotomy is a closed hexad point of view that isn’t open to what might unfold beyond the self — (32:44) The phenomenon of attachment types taking on feelings expressed by others as their own — (42:38) The disgust of 4 as the ego’s avoidance of the sense of being violated by unwanted external influences — (48:26) Hexad self-containment is a removal from self-renewal — (55:32) Exploring frustration, attachment, and rejection in child’s play — (1:02:38) How do rejection types relate to one another

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Good luck following this freeform conversation on the law of three, relationships, and the polarity between 9 and the gap.

— (5:33) John’s visions of the law of 3 and why Pete Davidson gets girls — (9:34) Attachment types being open and available on the frontend but unavailable on the backend — (13:56) #Nota4 and the acceptance and thinking style of 9 vs the rejection at the gap — (28:55) Everything is a threesome and how 9s must integrate non-integration  — (34:39) Attachment types are unconscious of their No’s, and hexad types of their Yes’s — (42:17) Astrological mate selection and cosmic latte — (52:42) There’s probably only one ideal romantic type for you on the enneagram 

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This week we’re exploring and explaining the parts of instincts that continue to confuse and trip people up.

— (6:12) Where did the idea of a blindspot come from and is the blindspot really blind? — (14:27) Overestimating your sexual instinct when you’re sexual blind — (17:24) Sexual is penetrating and flipping polarities moment to moment — (23:26) How Nancy was able to see her sexual blindness as truly blind. Sexual as hooks and tension. — (30:46) Being self-pres dominant and also being terrible at self-pres — (41:08) How can I be a social type if I don’t like people? How social types are socialing — (51:06) Sexual types who don’t see themselves as sexual dominant

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In our first ever bonus episode, John and Emeka explore the enneagrammic and inner work insights from the Netflix show Dark Season 3. SPOILER ALERT: Don’t listen if you haven’t seen the show. We focus on on the inescapable cycle of the knot and Adam’s futile attempts to free himself. The parallels to inner work and the law of 3. The need for a 3rd force to free ourselves from perpetuating the same patterns that imprison us.

The inner dynamics of 6 and Japan as a 6 culture. The ethics of typing and the blindspot of ’only you can know yourself’. Type 4 object relations and the differences between 4 and 6. How to describe the flavor of sexual 6.

Check out our prior episodes on objective personality if you haven’t already. John - Ti/Se-CS/P(B) / Alexandra - Se/Fe-PB/S(C) / David - Te/Se-PC/S(B) / Emeka - Se/Te-PC/B(S).

Watch Stolen Youth on Hulu for next week.

— (5:59) 3 Playas vs John’s Play-last / What is Blast — (10:28) Play is co-creative real time learning / PC vs PB — (14:51) Blindspots and tidalwaves / Emeka’s Sleep-last — (17:46) Alexandra and John’s Play vs Play-last relationship dynamic / Emeka’s Play and De as a reclusive 8 rejection type — (21:00) Hopefully eventually the enneagram gets integrated into OPS — (24:04) The mental style of OPS vs the enneagram and typing objectively — (28:59) Consume and Sleep last tidalwaves

Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram offerings at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com

Check out John and Josh’s new formal enneagram school. And sign up for their now 6-part class — A Developmental View of the Centers at https://www.theenneagramschool.com/first-offering

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How diversity in the enneagram is limited by the prevailing middle class white culture. #NotA4 and the widespread issue of mistyping at 4. Integrating authentic ‘savage’ expression with spirituality and sensitivity. The approach of curiosity vs being overly certain in learning the enneagram. We discuss counter-intuitive insights we’ve discovered with types 8, 5, and 3. Nancy shares what ‘deceit’ really means for her as a type 3.

Deserted by the others, the two lone swordsmen continued into the abyss of the unknown. With only memories of forgotten ancient texts to guide them. These are their stories.

— (5:25) The role of cultural differences in the expression of type / confrontational blunt 9s from other cultures — (12:20) How our early life experiences and environment create an unexpected relationship with certain instincts / Emeka and food — (22:01) Digging up John’s leftover concept of each instinct having a close vs distant optimal distance — (28:28) The difference between 9s merging and sexual instinct merging / instinctual dynamics in relationships — (36:45) Wild topic switch to social-contextual dynamics in dating / race as an overlooked significant contextual layer / female vs male gaze — (43:40) Most people are making sexual choices with social reasons  — (50:49) John’s ‘effortlessly masculine’ and Emeka’s black artist with masc/fem interplay — (56:10) When we feel safe those optimal distance polarities dissolve

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DAA — Become dangerously perceptive and skilled at seeing types more clearly. Watch recent classes on the White Lotus, Margot Robbie, Jim Morrison. And get typed at https://www.enneagrammer.com/

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Yes, Dive in.

— (1:40) Sx types and Sx middles are most prone to delude themselves into thinking they’re going for what they’re passionate about or self-transforming — (7:18) Social clout chasers with no genuine connection — (8:51) The psychological penetration of sexual can be used to get cheap ego hits that avoids any risk and self-transformation — (12:05) Discussions in John’s study group on using the instinct for ego vs using it to support the real needs of the body and inner life — (14:32) It’s not just attachment types that get into relationships for the wrong reasons — (20:04) You’re not missing out on what you think you are without sexual in the stacking — (24:31) It’s through our core type and dominant instinct that we approach the needs of our other instincts and centers — (27:02) There is no compatibility formula that works as a replacement for two humans meeting each other / how each instinct uses templates to create orientation to others — (35:06) We settle for nonsense because it’s difficult to risk having nothing while expecting more — (39:53) Separating eros from the sexual instinct / idealizing types is like looking through garbage to find something real — (59:06) You’re lame because you’re lame. Not because of your type, trifix, or instincts. — (1:05:06) People quitting the enneagram when their ego fixes are taken away / #nota4 filtering out those using the enneagram to validate their ego — (1:10:12) Fine tuned observation of the self and others is what a group centered on typing encourages / self-observation and misery as the gateway for self-work and change

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DAA — Learn how to see with the dark arts of the enneagram. Watch recent typing classes on 9 and 6 wings, dark 7s, rejection fixes. And get typed at enneagrammer.com

Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here: https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-gray

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At long last, a super thicc Part 2 of our deep dive into the inner lines of connection. For a refresher check out BHE 034 for Part 1. We get right back into it starting with 7 (10:08), 1 (40:16), 4 (58:53), and finally 2 (85:08). One last thing, fans of David’s delicious voice should let their appreciation spill forth into a review on the Apple podcast app. And check out John’s new site johnluckovich.com for his enneagram coaching and very tasteful nudes.

Picking up where we left off with Courtney and rejection.

— (1:46) The protection from vulnerability and transactional nature of relationships is true for all of us / But it’s more true for rejection types — (3:24) The different flavors of separateness and intensity of the rejection types — (8:21) How John and Courtney experience rejection in relationships as frustration and attachment types — (14:21) How rejection types can redefine their self-concept in less narrow terms by sensing the automatic wall in the body — (20:20) How to distinguish the not there-ness of rejection vs the not being there of 9 — (23:20) Rejection type possession sweeps you up with intensity because it has such a small aperture of personhood — (27:38) How rejection types can work with the sensation of the wall and widen their sense of personhood — (34:34) Rejection types need to revisit vulnerable parts they have cut off in order to avoid becoming more fractional as time goes on — (41:08) Niklas’ interview with Josh and getting a 2’s perspective on rejection

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DAA — Become fluent in the dark arts of the enneagram. Watch recent typing classes on 9 and 6 wings, Kurt Cobain, Courtney Love. And get typed at enneagrammer.com

Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here: https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-gray

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Julie of Riverbend Coaching is here with us to explore the archetypal feminine.

— (6:48) Why and how Julie connected the archetypal feminine and the enneagram’s 3 centers — (9:04) The feminine in the body center — sacred form / the fertile matrix — (14:45) The feminine in nature is an uncontrollable force that gives life — (15:24) Could the goddesses be connected to the types? — (19:59) The patriarchy compartmentalizes and the goddesses can both be sexual and nurturing — (21:21) Developing the feminine: Being more in your senses and open to the experience / welcome the shadow / don’t seek certainty or stasis — (25:42) The patriarchy perpetuates a lack of being in touch with oneself and the natural cycles of the feminine — (33:19) The feminine invites you into the beauty of life in all the senses and the creation of new things — (36:52) How a linear directional point of view is applied to inner work vs the unfolding nature of allowing inner work to envelope your consciousness — (41:41) A short guided breath practice to experience the masculine and feminine — (49:41) Abundant heart — to be able to be fully with whatever’s happening and the threshold of what’s next — (54:30) There’s no growth in an unwounded life / the feminine welcomes the vulnerability of being wounded — (1:03:24) When we allow ourselves to experience grief it moves and ends up connecting us to what we love

Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T

DAA — Learn how to see with the eyes of the enneagram. Watch recent typing classes on 9 and 6 wings, dark 7s, rejection fixes. And get typed at enneagrammer.com

Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here: https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-gray

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This week we’re talking about the Black Lives Matter protests. How to confront racism and its parallels to inner work and the enneagram. How actively working to undo unconscious racism is inner work. Race and Class as personality types and unconscious biases that have to be uncovered and faced the same way we do our enneagram types. Wanting to be healthy and good as a bypass to the finish line vs educating ourselves and confronting what needs changing continually. We wrap up with a story of how racial profiling sent cops with guns to Emeka's apartment.