Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy (Emily & Johnny Spigelmire | Christian Marriage Recovery Coaches)
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| 23 Dec 2024 | 85 | A Christmas Message of Hope for Couples After Infidelity | 00:04:00 | |
Are you looking for hope in what may seem to be a hopeless situation right now?
Merriam-Webster defines hope as "to expect with confidence".
During this Christmas season many of us are looking for hope. Hope that things will change for the better or maybe just hope that the pain of betrayal and the confusion of addiction will simply “go away”.
Friends, let me assure you that there is true hope to be found in the reality of the arrival of Jesus into our world and our lives. When we remember to set our focus on Immanuel, “God with us” it is easier to see that you are not alone and there is hope.
Join us today as we impart our message of hope to you as you move through the devastation of porn-fueled infidelity.
Merry Christmas!
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 33. The Greatest Gift at Christmas: A 12-Stop Journey To God’s Plan for Redemption
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| 17 Mar 2025 | 97 | "The Bubble" - What Makes Sex Addiction So Cunning, Baffling, and Powerful? | 00:37:34 | |
What is addiction?
How does it work?
Is it just about deciding to stop destructive behaviors?
Addiction can be a mystery for many couples. Husbands may wonder if they are addicts after betraying their spouse. Wives often struggle to understand how their partner could engage in such hurtful actions for so long.
When our marriage faced sexual betrayal six years ago, we were just as confused about sexual addiction as many of you. Since then, we've learned a lot and want to share key insights about addiction.
We will explore the complexities of sex addiction. We'll discuss how addiction affects not only the addict but also their loved ones, especially spouses.
We’ll cover the addiction cycle and its pain, using the concept of 'The Bubble' to explain the addict's inner world.
This episode is a chance to learn and and also foster conversations that lead to deeper intimacy.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 17. Is My Spouse A Porn Addict? 13 Clues To Help Expose Compulsive Sexual Behavior Episode 26. Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull
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| 15 Jan 2024 | 36 | Recovery Step 7: Holding on to Pride? Humility Before God = Freedom From Pornography | 00:28:56 | |
Have you come to a place in life where you have been humbled by your own actions and are ready to move forward with hope and integrity? It is time to approach God humbly and ask him do for us what we cannot do for ourselves.
From the Green Book of Recovery: "We may wonder why it is necessary to ask humbly. Many of us have confused humility with humiliation. We were more familiar with pleading for, or demanding what we wanted, than with asking. In fact, it takes humility to ask for help. It means admitting that we are not wholly strong and self-sufficient. It means that we are not too proud or ashamed to believe that we can be helped.
Change occurs in God’s time, not ours. As addicts, we are accustomed to seeking instant gratification. But in recovery, most of us experience gradual improvement rather than sudden transformation."
So, grab a cup of whatever you are telling yourself is healthier than what you did last year and get ready to explore humility before God with us.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RESOURCES: Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d Drop the Rock co-authored by Bill P., Todd W and Sara S. (As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)
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Disclaimer: The content presented in this podcast is provided solely for educational purposes and should be considered as general information. It is not intended to serve as therapy or psychological advice. We strongly recommend consulting your physician or mental health provider for personalized advice, support, or treatment concerning your well-being. In the event of a crisis, please dial 911 for immediate assistance. | |||
| 29 Apr 2024 | 51 | Full Therapeutic Disclosure: 3 Steps to Healing and Freedom After Sexual Betrayal | 00:32:48 | |
My betrayed sisters, if you were given the opportunity to learn the truth about your spouse’s sexual betrayal, would you take it?
My fellow betrayers, if there was a safe and judgement free environment where you could get all your secrets out and alleviate your burden of shame, would you go for it?
Would you both be willing to do all it takes to reveal and know the truth?
Join us today as we give an overview of a very effective process that can give a marriage broken by sexual betrayal a really good chance for healing and recovery.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 07. 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 1) Episode 08. 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 2)
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| 05 Aug 2024 | 65 | 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #1 See Her Pain | 00:34:17 | |
Following the revelation of sexual betrayal, a couple must decide whether to stay together or not. Choosing to stay married initiates a complex journey of recovery and healing, filled with challenges and triumphs.
However, the journey may be prolonged due to the betrayer's lack of understanding the needs of the betrayed. Initially, the focus is on the betrayer's recovery and repairing the damage. The betrayed spouse often struggles to feel safe and discern truth.
Today we will be speaking through the lens of a betraying husband and a betrayed wife because that is our story. We want to shed light on the needs a wife has after the devastation of learning her husband has been unfaithful. Needs she may not even realize she has and needs her husband is most likely completely clueless about.
Listen in as we share with you what we have learned on our own journey of healing from sexual betrayal.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 52. What Is His Response To Her BIG Emotions After Porn-Fueled Infidelity? Episode 54. Betrayed Wives Experience Profound Loss, But Do Cheating Husbands? Episode 64. 5 Things A Wife Needs From Her Recovering Husband (Series)
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| 03 Jul 2023 | 08 | 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 2) | 00:29:21 | |
When you think of the word honesty, do you view it in black and white or on a sliding scale? Those who see it in black and white might argue that a person either tells the truth or they don’t. Those who prefer a sliding scale approach may categorize white lies at a 1-2, lies of omission at a 4-5, but a deceptive or premeditated lie at 9-10. Honesty, in this person’s mind, is relative.
In our show today, we’re going to talk about rigorous honesty. We were first introduced to this concept through Johnny’s 12-step program. We will unpack what this kind of honesty looks like, how to attain it and how it impacted our recovery process. We will also take a look at what God says about honesty from the scriptures.
So get comfy and settle in for part 2 of our lively discussion on 5 ways we lie and the secret to complete honesty. And just a reminder that we’d love to answer any questions you have about our journey or yours!
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 01. Why Are We Talking About Betrayal? A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me Episode 03. His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral Values Episode 07. 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 1)
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| 01 Apr 2024 | 47| Sexual Intimacy with a Recovering Sex Addict in Marriage (3 of 3) | 00:35:30 | |
Hopefully you’ve heard both sides of our sexual intimacy story, or lack thereof, in episodes 45 and 46. If not, we encourage you to listen to those to gain a better understanding of how we got to the place where our broken marriage got new life after God intervened and recovery began.
Now, we share a wonderfully intimate sexual life together, but it wasn’t easy getting here. On today’s show we will run down the progression of our sex life from Discovery Day and Disclosure Day when Johnny confessed his regular porn use and extra-marital relationships, to our current emotionally safe and sexually satisfying marriage through recovery.
Grab a beverage and listen in for an uplifting conversation about God’s redemptive work in a marriage where both spouses are fully surrendered to Him and each other.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 40. Valentine's Day Fails and Favorites Before and After Sexual Betrayal Episode 45. Intimacy with a Sex-Addict in Marriage Episode 46. Sexuality as a Sex-Addict in Marriage
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| 12 Jun 2023 | 05 | The Effects of Infidelity and How We Made the Decision to Stay Married After Sexual Betrayal | 00:28:31 | |
The decision to stay married after sexual betrayal is a very difficult one to navigate. We understand this because the effects of infidelity shook each of us to our core. If you've been listening to our show you know we are still married, but we didn’t go through this on our own. We had an incredible amount of support and guidance along the way.
In this episode we're going to open up about the personal effects that infidelity had on each of us while shedding light on the reasons behind our mutual decision to preserve our marriage, despite the pain. We also have a list of valuable resources to share with you—ones that truly made a difference as we navigated our new reality. But the most important thing we want to leave you with is the hope of redemption and the grace, mercy, and love of our amazing God!
So grab your favorite beverage, get comfortable and get ready for a story of resilience and faith.
We pray this episode blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 01. Why Are We Talking About Betrayal? A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me Episode 03. His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral Values
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| 14 Oct 2024 | 75 | Heal With God From Sexual Betrayal, Shame, and Unforgiveness: feat. Heather O'Brien | 00:35:30 | |
Have you ever wondered how to hear God speaking to you? When we have deep wounds such as betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues, we can feel desperate to hear the voice of God. We want him to tell us what to do to get relief from the ever-present pain and anxiety we are experiencing to find freedom and healing.
Today we are so excited to share our interview with Heather O’Brien host of the top 5% globally ranked podcast, "Heal with God”. She gave us some incredible insights into what true forgiveness means and how to release the shame of sexual betrayal. Heather emphasizes the importance of grieving with God and outlines her healing courses and resources, offering a step-by-step framework called the Heal with God Trauma Painkiller Roadmap.
Join us today as Heather walks us through the healing process by listening to God’s voice.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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Connect with Heather O’Brien: Heal with God podcast Heather’s Free Mental Makeover Challenge
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal Episode 72. Praising God While in the Storm of Sexual Betrayal and Porn-Fueled Infidelity Episode 74. Guilt and Shame in the Aftermath of Sexual Betrayal
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| 11 Dec 2023 | 31 | Recovery Step 4: Who Am I? A Fearless Search - The Origin of My Sex Addiction | 00:36:03 | |
Have you turned your will and your life over to the care of God? Are you ready to gain an understanding of how you violated your personal moral boundaries and allowed addiction to set into your life? From the Green Book of Recovery: In taking the 4th step, we begin to know ourselves for who we really are. Building on the foundation of the first 3 steps, we take stock of the feelings and patterns that have shaped our lives. We come to realize that our addiction is more than just unmanageable sexual activities; it includes an entire system of underlying thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. If we neglect this inventory, we risk being stuck in our old habits and mistaken beliefs, and our unexamined defects of character will eventually lead us to relapse. By looking honestly at our moral nature – the failings that kept us trapped in our addiction, as well as our virtues and aspirations – we start to move away from being self-centered toward being God-centered.
Today with a good understanding of Steps 1, 2 & 3, we are ready to move onto Step 4.
So, grab your favorite beverage and a notepad and join us as we take a deep look into who we are, why we do the things we do, and how we got here.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RESOURCES: Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d (As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)
RELATED EPISODES: Episode 27. Recovery Step 2: Porn Making You Crazy? Believing God Can Restore Your Sanity Episode 29. Recovery Step 3: 3 Things To Know When Leaving Porn Behind
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Disclaimer: The content presented in this podcast is provided solely for educational purposes and should be considered as general information. It is not intended to serve as therapy or psychological advice. We strongly recommend consulting your physician or mental health provider for personalized advice, support, or treatment concerning your well-being. In the event of a crisis, please dial 911 for immediate assistance. | |||
| 03 Jun 2024 | 56 | Identifying Sex Addiction: Take the First Step Today | 00:23:02 | |
As a recovering sex-addict, I now find comfort in knowing that my addiction was real and that there is hope through recovery that I will not have to live the rest of my life as a “dis-integrated” man, always trying to hide myself from others based on a lie that if they really knew what I was doing, they would reject me.
But I didn’t always understand that I truly was a sex-addict. It wasn’t until the idea was expressed to me by someone else that I made the choice to face the reality that sex-addiction could be a present and active part of my life. Having accepted this as a possibility, I sought out help for myself and ultimately found recovery from sex-addiction through a 12-step program.
In today’s show, we’re going to share some resources to help you discover for yourself if sex-addiction is the destructive force lurking in the darkness of your mind. If so, there is a way out!
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RESOURCES: Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)
RELATED EPISODES: Episode 17. Is My Spouse A Porn Addict? 13 Clues To Help Expose Compulsive Sexual Behavior Episode 25. Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work? Episode 26. Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull
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| 24 Feb 2025 | 94 | From “Oh, Hell No!” to "The Golden Ticket" - 4 Phases of Sexuality in Recovery from Adultery | 00:45:31 | |
You may be wondering if sex will ever be fulfilling and satisfying for you or your spouse now that the reality of sexual betrayal has invaded your marriage.
If you are at the very beginning of the discovery and disclosure of infidelity through pornography or other sexual expressions outside of your marriage, you might be wondering if you’ll ever have sex again, or if you’ll even want to have sex with your spouse again.
It’s a very tender topic and we know that every couple will have a different path to take on their road to recovery in the area of sexual intimacy.
Today, we are going to let you peek into our journey back to being sexual again with its ups and downs, ebbs and flows, and give you hope for what God can do with those willing to take that journey with him.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 23. 7 Steps to True Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal Sexual Intimacy Series: Episode 45. Intimacy with a Sex-Addict in Marriage (1 of 3) Episode 46. Sexuality as a Sex-Addict in Marriage (2 of 3) Episode 47. Sexual Intimacy with a Recovering Sex Addict in Marriage (3 of 3)
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| 20 Nov 2023 | 28 | Giving Thanks In Your Broken Marriage Through Gratitude | 00:31:35 | |
What does Thanksgiving Day mean to you? Here in the United States, it is recognized as a national holiday on the 3rd Thursday of November each year. Today we want to look beyond what’s considered to be the traditional activities of this special day, such as gathering of family, turkey dinner with all the fixings, football, post dinner food comas, all the pies and of course, leftovers. And while all those are very special traditions; we want to take time today to reflect on what it means to truly give thanks and be grateful for what we have been given by God.
We do understand that the holidays can be a very difficult time for those who have experienced sexual betrayal. If you found out about your spouse’s infidelity around the holidays whether this month, a year ago or twenty years ago, memories, triggers and lingering difficult emotions can taint the holiday season. We have found that one of the best ways to deal with these negative experiences is to cultivate a heart of thanksgiving and gratitude. Today we will focus on giving thanks in our relationships with our spouses, families, others, and to God himself.
So, as you join us today, grab your favorite pumpkin spiced whatever and get out your notepad to jot down a few of the ideas we will be sharing with you in this episode.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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| 29 May 2023 | Trailer/Beyond Broken Vows Podcast | 00:02:40 | |
Have you been devastated by marital infidelity fueled by pornography? We've been there too and have traveled a difficult yet victorious road to reconciliation and recovery. We believe that any couple who is willing to completely surrender to God can not only get through it but also experience a marriage made new and better than ever before!
Listen on YouTube https://youtu.be/qH9y_fIZ6zw | |||
| 12 Feb 2024 | 40 | Valentine's Day Fails and Favorites Before and After Sexual Betrayal | 00:42:53 | |
Let us be the first to wish you a happy Valentine’s Day! Okay, how did that make you feel? Did you smile? Did it make you cringe? Did it bring up a feeling of excitement, or anger or even dread?
We’ve found that Valentine’s Day is a tricky holiday. Well, it’s not a public holiday, but it is a recognized day on the calendar for celebrating love between sweethearts. We’re going to be talking today about the different ways people either love or hate this day that comes around every year with shocking regularity. We're also going to be sharing the nitty gritty of our first Valentine's Day after discovery and reminding you that you are not alone and there is hope for you and your marriage.
So, grab yourself a box of those sugar candy hearts and join us for a revealing look into Valentine’s Day.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 28. Giving Thanks In Your Broken Marriage Through Gratitude Episode 33. The Greatest Gift at Christmas: A 12-Stop Journey To God’s Plan for Redemption Episode 34. New Beginnings for Marriages in the New Year After Sexual Betrayal
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| 05 Jun 2023 | 04 | Sharing Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery | 00:20:22 | |
Hi Friend,
In today's episode we will be telling a quick version of our love story from how we met and got married up to the day of Johnny's confession of adultery that we call Discovery Day.
If you haven't heard our story as told by each of us from our own perspectives, you can listen to Emily's story in Episode 2 and Johnny's story in Episode 3.
We are telling our story together today to help you understand that we are ordinary people who love Jesus, but how the Enemy was able to wreak havoc in our lives. We also share the hope of redemption and the grace, mercy and love of our amazing God!
We pray this episode blesses you!
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 01. Why Are We Talking About Betrayal? A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me Episode 03. His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral Values
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| 25 Nov 2024 | 81 | Giving Thanks In The Aftermath of Porn-Fueled Infidelity | 00:26:13 | |
Ah, the holiday season! A time filled with twinkling lights, joyful gatherings, and, let's face it, a few emotional landmines for those who have been through the wringer with sexual betrayal. If the holiday cheer takes a nosedive because you discovered your partner’s unfaithfulness—whether it was last month, a year ago, or even two decades back—we totally get it. It's completely natural for memories, triggers, and difficult emotions to surface and cast a shadow over the festivities.
But fear not! We’ve learned one of the most powerful antidotes to this holiday struggle. Filling your heart with thankfulness and gratitude can work wonders to transform those tough feelings into a brighter holiday season. So, let’s exchange a few of those heavy thoughts for a dash of joy and give this season a few glimmers of hope and peace.
Don your stretchy pants, grab yourself another slice of pumpkin pie, and settle in for a cornucopia of gratitude and thankfulness.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 28. Giving Thanks In Your Broken Marriage Through Gratitude Episode 78. Praising God While in the Storm of Sexual Betrayal and Porn-Fueled Infidelity
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| 18 Sep 2023 | 19 | Feeling Like I’m Not Enough: How Comparison Can Distort Self-Identity | 00:45:06 | |
As a fallen human race, we tend to compare ourselves to others in many ways, the way people look, what kind of clothes they wear or car they drive, what job they have or what kind of house and neighborhood they live in. This comparison can lead to feelings of inadequacy or pridefulness. I imagine most, if not all of us, have or have had some degree of comparison working against us in how we feel about ourselves. Today we are going to explore the feeling of not being enough and how the destructive practice of comparison shaped my view of my self-worth before the discovery of my husband’s sexual betrayal and then after it all came to light and how it slowly eroded my personal identity throughout my life. So, grab your favorite beverage, buckle up and get ready for some real transparency.
We pray this blesses you,
Emily and Johnny Spigelmire
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Related Episodes: Episode 04. Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery Episode 18. Feeling Like I’m Not Enough. What If Pornography Is Not My True Addiction?
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| 29 May 2023 | 01 | ”Why Are We Talking About Betrayal?” A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer | 00:15:09 | |
Hello Friends!
This is our very first show on the Beyond Broken Vows podcast. Today we are telling you a little bit about us, what you will hear in this podcast, what you won't hear in this podcast, and our goal for sharing our personal story with you. Topics like betrayal, infidelity, and pornography addiction are difficult for many people to talk about, especially for those being affected in some way by them. We have definitely been through all of these, but we are also enjoying the blessings of reconciliation, redemption and recovery. With God it is possible!
Are you someone who has been betrayed by your spouse? Or have you betrayed your spouse? Then this show is for you. We don't have all the answers, but we know the One who does. Please let us share our hearts with you and give you hope for your marriage. We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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| 02 Oct 2023 | 21 | Breaking Free: How To Escape the Grip of Porn Addiction with Emmanuel and Bekah Guarino | 00:36:14 | |
The prevalence of sexually explicit content continues to surge, becoming increasingly accessible with each passing day. Who's it hurting? A better question might be, who isn't it hurting? Pornography affects everyone from innocent children to grandparents and there’s really no escaping it in our culture today. So, what can we do?
Today we are sharing a discussion we had with a young couple who experienced the devastation of pornography use in their marriage. But, they didn’t let it destroy them. In fact, they are doing something amazing to help others struggling with porn addiction find freedom. Their secret to success might just surprise you!
It's time to sip on your favorite drink and join us for a captivating conversation featuring our guests, Emmanuel and Bekah Guarino.
We pray this blesses you,
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 17. ” Is My Spouse A Porn Addict? 13 Clues To Help Expose Compulsive Sexual Behavior Episode 18. Feeling Like I’m Not Enough. What If Pornography Is Not My True Addiction?
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| 05 Feb 2024 | 39 | Recovery Step 10: 4 Ways to Keep Your Relational Slate Clean & Stay Clear of Porn Addiction | 00:28:53 | |
Do you have a daily practice of self-reflection? Do you ever stop to take stock in how you act, think, and feel when relating to others? Most of us have heard the phrase - wash, rinse, repeat. And no, we aren’t talking about the latest greatest shampoo. Today as we talk about the 10th Step in SSA Recovery we will peel back the layers of what a daily personal inventory can look like and why we should even do it?
From the Green Book of Recovery: “In the 10th step we embrace the discipline of regular spiritual house-cleaning. Just as we took action to repair the damage we caused in the past, so we continue taking inventory of our behavior, and making amends when needed, in our lives today. Working step 10 helps us deal with our shortcomings on a daily basis. Even with our best efforts, we make mistakes. We are human, and we fall short of the mark regularly, even when we are abstinent from our addictive sexual behavior. In taking the 10th step, we commit to keeping our house in order, whether old failings reappear, or new ones arise, as they inevitably will.”
So grab a pen and notepad and something refreshing to drink and join us for an illuminating conversation on the benefits of daily self-examination.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RESOURCES: Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d Drop the Rock co-authored by Bill P., Todd W and Sara S. (As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)
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| 06 May 2024 | 52 | What Is His Response To Her BIG Emotions After Porn-Fueled Infidelity? | 00:32:54 | |
After betrayal, big emotions are a reality. When expressed well and received well, they can be a catalyst for healing and growth.
Today we will be talking about big emotions, what they are and how to handle them properly. We will also give you insight to the benefits of working through big emotions together to promote connection and intimacy. We’re excited to share our perspective on this topic as we have lived it and learned from it. So pop in your earbud and join us for a riveting conversation about BIG emotions.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 09. I’m So Angry! How I Overcame Anger from Sexual Betrayal in 3 Simple But Not Easy Steps Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology
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| 21 Aug 2023 | 15 | Giving Bad News? 6 Things We Said While Confessing Adultery In Our Marriage | 00:30:02 | |
Have you ever told someone something you knew they were not going to want to hear? Do you have something you need to tell someone and are terrified about how they will react? Are you afraid to say it because it could cause them significant pain and/or jeopardize your relationship with them? These are very natural emotions that come with telling difficult news. This was our predicament when we made the decision to tell some people about the reality of infidelity in our marriage.
Today we will share with you how we went through this process and what happened as a result.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 01. ”Why Are We Talking About Betrayal?” A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me Episode 03. His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral Values Episode 04. Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery
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| 04 Mar 2024 | 43 | Our 12-Step Series Wrap Up: Which Sex Addiction Recovery Program Is the Best? | 00:37:01 | |
What happens to a marriage, shattered by porn-fueled infidelity, that doesn’t undertake a specific recovery process? What happens to the individuals in that marriage?
We believe, it’s likely that this marriage will be devoid of real connection and true intimacy. Sure, it is possible to stay married without recovery. Couples can sweep it under the rug denying it’s impact. Or, one spouse may be unwilling to do the hard work of recovery and leave the other feeling not seen and not secure in the marriage. Or, one spouse may want to work hard, but the other can’t find a way to forgive and move forward.
But, is this what you signed up for when you said, “I Do”?
Today we wrap up our series on the 12-Steps of Recovery from Sex Addicts Anonymous. It is our heartfelt desire that if you are in a marriage broken by adultery and betrayal, you will seek out a recovery program that can walk you step-by-step into freedom and peace. And a marriage better than you ever imagined possible.
So, grab a comfortable seat and join us as we share the hope of Jesus through our wrap up of the 12-steps.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d Drop the Rock co-authored by Bill P., Todd W and Sara S. (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases. As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)
RELATED EPISODES: Episode 41. Recovery Step 11: How Can We Know? 6 Points to Ponder When Seeking God’s Will
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| 16 Sep 2024 | 71 | From Shame to Freedom: Revisiting "His Story" | 00:45:54 | |
It's been almost a year and a half since we first told our stories of sexual addiction and betrayal on our podcast. A lot has happened since then!
We are so very grateful for the recovery, healing, and growth that both of us have experienced since D-Day in 2018. It has been due to God's help, tons of hard work on our part, and a great support community.
To commemorate our 37th wedding anniversary, we are taking a little slower pace for the month of September. So, on today's episode, we are revisiting Johnny's story of how a young boy with hopes and dreams for a wonderful future ends up confessing to his wife of 31 years that he is a sex addict and an adulterer.
His painful story is tragic, but also beautiful because he knows the One who makes a way when there is no way. Jesus can make something beautiful out of the ashes of our lives if we let him. And we know it's true because he's done it for us. He can do it for you too!
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire
RELATED EPISODES: Episode 01. ”Why Are We Talking About Betrayal?” A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me Episode 04. Sharing Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery
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| 20 Jan 2025 | 89 | Considering Divorce After Sexual Betrayal? 3 Good Reasons to Stay Married | 00:28:34 | |
After infidelity in marriage is discovered, many questions arise and decisions need to be made. Questions like:
Is this real?
How could this happen to me?
And one of the more frequently asked questions,
What do I do now?
Last week, in episode #88, we told the story of our journey toward "making a decision and burning the ships".
Today, we follow up on our conversation from last week by asking the question, "Why stay married?" We will unpack 3 good reasons to stay married after broken covenant and give you some hope through the scriptures.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 88. Make a Decision and Burn the Ships
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| 18 Mar 2024 | 45 | Intimacy with a Sex-Addict in Marriage (1 of 3) | 00:26:48 | |
Ladies, have you spent years trying to connect with your husband in a meaningful and fulfilling way only to find that you just couldn’t get there no matter what you did? Has it ever occurred to you that you may be trying to experience intimacy with a sex-addict? Seems oxymoronic, right? Intimacy with a sex- addict. We think so as well. But how many wives are living this nightmare without knowing why? Over the next 3 weeks we will be sharing our perspectives on the pitfalls of trying to achieve intimacy in marriage when sex-addiction is a behind-the-scenes factor.
Join us as we uncover a picture of sexual disfunction and intimacy anorexia in marriage where porn use and adultery are present.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me Episode 12. His Adultery Shattered My Reality. How Do I Know What’s Real? Episode 17. Is My Spouse A Porn Addict? 13 Clues To Help Expose Compulsive Sexual Behavior
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| 13 Jan 2025 | 88 | Burn the Ships: Decisions on Marriage & Sex | 00:32:54 | |
Often in life, we come to a point where we need to make an important decision. A decision that could alter the trajectory of the rest of our lives. Yes, that kind of decision.
Have you had to make such decisions??
When it comes to recovering from sexual betrayal in marriage, these kinds of decisions can come up very soon after the discovery of adultery and then later on as rebuilding your marriage is underway.
You may commit to moving forward, leaving the safety of what is known, and move into unchartered territory - with no plans to turn back.
The time has come to "burn the ships".
Join us for this candid discussion, centered on experiences from our own recovery journey, highlighting the ships we burned to move forward in search of true intimacy.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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| 09 Oct 2023 | 22 | How Long Will This Hurt? Experiencing The 5 Stages of Grief Through the Lens of Sexual Betrayal | 00:44:46 | |
Hello Friend,
Have you experienced grief? We normally associate grief with the death and loss of someone we love, and we can also grieve the loss of something we are emotionally attached to like a job or home. But there is also a loss that occurs through betrayal. With this type of loss come the very same emotions that are common to losing someone or something dear to us.
After sexual betrayal, the loss of the relationship you thought you had can trigger the grieving process. Finding out about your spouse's hidden sexual behavior can be one of the most shocking betrayals you'll ever go through and the experience of being lied to and manipulated compounds the trauma and can even intensify grief. Grief in any situation is very painful and takes time and courage to process through.
So, grab your coffee or pumpkin spiced latte and join us as we look at grief through the lens of sexual betrayal in marriage.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 04. Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery
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| 13 Nov 2023 | 27 | Recovery Step 2: Porn Making You Crazy? Believing God Can Restore Your Sanity | 00:22:07 | |
Do you see yourself in this vicious cycle of chaos?
When we utilize technology to view pornography and use it for our own sexual satisfaction, then walk away from our devices, it can give us the illusion that we are in control. But how quickly do we shift from promising ourselves that we’re not going to do it again to contemplating what we've seen then anticipating our next opportunity to view only to inevitably return to using pornography to meet our own needs?
Last week we introduced the Step 1 of the Sex Addicts Anonymous 12-step recovery program. Today we will be talking about Step 2 which states, I came to believe that a Power greater than myself could restore me to sanity.
So, grab a pen and your favorite beverage and join us for an enlightening discussion that will give us hope that by reaching beyond ourselves this cycle of insanity can be broken, to experience freedom once and for all.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 26. Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull
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Disclaimer: The content presented in this podcast is provided solely for educational purposes and should be considered as general information. It is not intended to serve as therapy or psychological advice. We strongly recommend consulting your physician or mental health provider for personalized advice, support, or treatment concerning your well-being. In the event of a crisis, please dial 911 for immediate assistance. | |||
| 11 Nov 2024 | 79 | Redeeming What Was Lost, Stolen, or Given Away Through Adultery | 00:38:56 | |
Have you ever lost something or had something taken away from you and you deeply felt the loss?
Or perhaps you gave something precious away that you now regret or grieve and want to get it back.
Would you be willing to travel a potentially painful path to have your loss restored?
The path of redemption can be challenging at best and painful at its worst. But what if the road less traveled brought victory and healing from your past and freedom for your future?
You will not want to miss our conversation today as we talk about redeeming what was lost, stolen, or given away through marital infidelity.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 54. Betrayed Wives Experience Profound Loss, But Do Cheating Husbands?
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| 23 Oct 2023 | 24 | Would You Marry Your Betraying Spouse Again? Renewing Vows After Porn-Fueled Infidelity. This Time...Mean It. | 00:34:23 | |
Up until now, we’ve been talking a lot about taking steps to stabilize, grieve, heal, and renew our marriages after sexual betrayal. We've covered heavy topics like confession, boundaries, apologies, and forgiveness. and in our last episode even dipped our toes into the waters of reigniting sexual connection and what true intimacy looks like.
But today, we're switching gears. We're going to take a step back from the weightier topics for something more lighthearted and enjoyable.
If you’ve decided to stay married and have been working through the recovery process, have you considered renewing your marriage vows?
Today we're going to explore the "why" behind renewing your vows, why we decided to renew our vows and unpack what renewing your marriage vows signifies as you move forward in your relationship.
So, grab your coffee or wine and get ready for a fun discussion that we hope brings you encouragement in your own healing journey.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 04. Sharing Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery
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| 29 May 2023 | 02 | Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me | 00:25:06 | |
Hi Friend,
Today Emily is baring her soul to tell the story of her husband's marital infidelity fueled by pornography use. And although it was Not Her Fault in any way, she is not perfect and you will hear some of the ways she fell short in her life too. But, God is bigger than any failure, heartbreak or trauma. He is the redeemer of the lost and the comforter of the broken-hearted.
We pray this episode blesses you!
Emily and Johnny
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| 29 Jan 2024 | 38 | Recovery Step 9: Become an Action Hero! Righting the Wrongs of Our Destructive Sexual Behavior | 00:45:20 | |
Last week we asked the question: Have you ever hurt someone and come to not only realize that you hurt them but understood exactly how you hurt them?
This week we want to ask: Have you felt any fear or intimidation when making the choice to go back and right that wrong?
We have a special guest today who is going to share with us his experience with Step 9 of the Sex Addicts Anonymous Recovery Program.
So go ahead and pop in your ear bud and join us! It is time to take action toward those we have harmed through our behavioral choices by making amends.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RESOURCES: The Promises (From Sex Addicts Anonymous) (Discussed in Episode 27 - Step 2) If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are halfway through. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others. That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows. Self-seeking will slip away. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us. We will intuitively know how to handle situations, which used to baffle us. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves. Are these extravagant promises? We think not! They are being fulfilled among us sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. They will always materialize if we work for them.
Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d Drop the Rock co-authored by Bill P., Todd W and Sara S. (As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)
RELATED EPISODES: Episode 36. Recovery Step 7: Holding on to Pride? Humility Before God = Freedom From Pornography
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| 19 Aug 2024 | 67 | 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #3 Keep Your Promises | 00:30:00 | |
How much do you value keeping your word? And how does it make you feel when someone doesn't keep their word?
For a betrayed wife, it becomes even more important that her recovering husband keep his word. This new display of reliability provides the safety and security that she desperately needs in a time of confusion and broken trust. When he makes the effort to follow through on his promises, he's slowly rebuilding a solid foundation of trustworthiness that she can depend on.
Join us for this important discussion centered around the importance of keeping our word.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 64. 5 Things A Wife Needs From Her Recovering Husband (Series) Episode 65. 5 Things A Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) - #1 See Her Pain Episode 66. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) - #2 Prioritize Her
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| 31 Jul 2023 | 12 | His Adultery Shattered My Reality. How Do I Know What’s Real? | 00:45:07 | |
What actually happens to a person who has experienced betrayal? What happens in the mind of one who has their reality shattered in an instant?
Today we’re going to be discussing the effects of this type of mental and emotional injury when someone is betrayed. We’ll be sharing with you how this affected us after Johnny’s confession of adultery through pornography use and extra-marital relationships and how we sorted through the reality that our marriage was not what Emily thought it was. We’ll also share what we did to sift through the wreckage and find the nuggets of truth which then helped us to start building our new, more honest and beautiful, reality together.
So, grab your favorite beverage and spend some time with us as we have a conversation about what is real and not real.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (*paid affiliate links may be included) The Healing Apology (request .pdf at support@beyondbrokenvows.com) The Aftermath of Betrayal by Michelle D. Mays LPC, CSAT-S
RELATED EPISODES: Episode 8. I’m So Angry! How I Overcome Anger from Sexual Betrayal in 3 Simple But Not Easy Steps Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal
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| 24 Jun 2024 | 59 | Is It Over? Take These 5 Steps to Save Your Marriage After Adultery | 00:37:25 | |
The day you never imagined you’d ever live to see has come and gone; D-Day. You have discovered sexual betrayal in your marriage. Whether you found out or your spouse confessed, you can’t believe that this has happened. You may be asking yourself, Is my marriage over? Is it worth saving? Is it possible to move forward?
Today we are going to answer those questions from our own perspective. Spoiler alert, we did make the choice to stay married and we are so glad we did! Even though it has been the hardest and most painful journey we have ever embarked on, it has been worth it to experience the safety, trust and true intimacy created out of the ashes of a marriage destroyed by porn-fueled infidelity.
We are going to outline 5 steps that will help you receive healing from your trauma and save your marriage. Please stay with us to the end of this episode for a special limited opportunity.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal Episode 25. Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work?
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| 26 Feb 2024 | 42 | Recovery Step 12: A Great Awakening - 7 Ways to Serve Others While Healing From Sex Addiction | 00:33:21 | |
Have you ever experienced a life-changing revelation that compelled you to share it with others and integrate it into your life? This is similar to the impact of embracing recovery and is at the very heart of what we felt when we surrendered to Jesus. Today, we will explore the 12th step of recovery, and how we can actively share our message while living out these steps in our daily lives.
So, grab a beverage and something to take notes with and join us as we discuss 7 ways we can share our message of hope with others.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RESOURCES: Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d Drop the Rock co-authored by Bill P., Todd W and Sara S. (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases)
RELATED EPISODES: Episode 41. Recovery Step 11: How Can We Know? 6 Points to Ponder When Seeking God’s Will
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Disclaimer: The content presented in this podcast is provided solely for educational purposes and should be considered as general information. It is not intended to serve as therapy or psychological advice. We strongly recommend consulting your physician or mental health provider for personalized advice, support, or treatment concerning your well-being. In the event of a crisis, please dial 911 for immediate assistance. | |||
| 22 Jul 2024 | 63 | Got Porn Brain? What It Is and How It Affects You and Your Marriage | 00:49:25 | |
It wasn’t until I stopped using pornography altogether and the fog lifted that I learned just how much effect it had had on my brain. The further I got away from the porn and the more days of sobriety I achieved, I found that I was able to think more clearly and process the difficult truth of my sex-addiction. Understanding porn’s effect on my brain helped to explain so many of my actions, or lack thereof, before I was finally discovered and came out of the shadows.
Here are just 4 shocking statistics about pornography use around the world:
Today on our show, we will talk about the reality of porn-brain and the effect continual use of pornography has on our cognitive abilities, reasoning, and relationships.
So, buckle up, folks! We're pulling back the curtain on the damaging effects of watching porn - the things that many people might not know or just don't want to talk about. So, grab your favorite drink and let's get started!
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Or Watch Episode 20 on YouTube! Episode 21. Breaking Free: How To Escape the Grip of Porn Addiction with Emmanuel and Bekah Guarino Episode 26. Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull
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| 02 Sep 2024 | 69 | 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #5 Spiritual Leadership | 00:34:43 | |
Wives, do you have a desire for your husband to lead you and your family spiritually? Of course!
Husbands, are you at a loss for what that looks like and how you can show up for your wife in this area? Yeah, probably.
Unfortunately, in many Christian marriages, this is often a reality. A wife will take up the responsibility of being the spiritual head of the home because her husband isn’t stepping into that role.
When betrayal and addiction are revealed, reasons for his passivity become clear. After discovery, it may be necessary for a wife to temporarily take the lead until her husband achieves some recovery and healing, giving him the capacity and desire to lead his wife spiritually.
Today we are discussing 4 ways a husband can take up his God-given role to lead his wife in authentic spiritual leadership.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 64. 5 Things A Betrayed Wife Needs From Her Recovering Husband (Series) Episode 65. 5 Things A Betrayed Wife Needs…(Series) #1 See Her Pain Episode 66. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #2 Prioritize Her Episode 67. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #3 Keep Your Promises Episode 68. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #4 Emotional Maturity
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| 06 Nov 2023 | 26 | Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull | 00:35:18 | |
Does pornography use have a hold on you or someone you love?
Today we are talking about Step 1 of the 12-Step Sex Addicts Anonymous recovery program. This is Johnny’s chosen recovery program so we will be sharing what this step entails, how he approached this step and why it is so imperative to start here. We will also be hearing from Emily on how she views the process and progress of Johnny’s 12-Step recovery journey.
From the Green Book of Recovery: In our addiction we held onto the belief that we were in control of our sexual behavior and could successfully manage our lives. This kept many of us from seeing that we even had a problem. We told ourselves that if we had tried harder, we could have stopped. But our experience has shown otherwise. No matter how many promises or resolutions we made, no matter how strong our efforts and our determination, the behaviors eventually returned, along with their painful consequences. Only when we admit our powerlessness over these behaviors, and our inability to manage our own lives, are we able to begin walking a path of recovery.
We are grateful to the program of Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) that makes our recovery possible.
Grab a pen and something to write on and join us as we lay out the 12 steps of recovery with a deep dive into Step 1.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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_______ RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (*paid affiliate links may be included) The Healing Apology (request .pdf at support@beyondbrokenvows.com) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d
_______ RELATED EPISODES: Episode 17. Is My Spouse A Porn Addict? 13 Clues To Help Expose Compulsive Sexual Behavior Episode 25. Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work?
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| 09 Dec 2024 | 83 | Is Your Soul at Risk From Porn-Addiction? Answering Tough Questions with Heather O'Brien | 00:31:01 | |
On today's show, we share our transformative journey from the deep struggles of pornography addiction and infidelity to healing and restoration. If you remember back on episode #75, we had a guest on our show who gave us some incredible insights on how to Heal with God, from heavy things like sexual betrayal, shame and unforgiveness.
Heather O’Brien is the host of the podcast Heal with God, and we were so blessed to have her on our show a couple months ago. We both gleaned some nuggets of truth that we have since implemented in our own healing journey, so we encourage you to go back and listen to that episode if you haven’t heard it yet. We’ve also put more ways to connect with Heather and her resources below in our show notes.
Heather was kind enough to ask us to be on her show and we are sharing that interview with you now, so settle in for some vulnerable answers to some difficult questions.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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CONNECT with Heather O’Brien: Heal with God podcast Heather’s Free Mental Makeover Challenge
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 63. Got Porn Brain? What It Is and How It Affects You and Your Marriage Episode 75. Heal With God From Sexual Betrayal, Shame, and Unforgiveness: feat. Heather O'Brien
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| 13 May 2024 | 53 | 4 Ways To Help a Friend Experiencing Sexual Betrayal | 00:27:09 | |
One of our listeners wrote in to ask a question about how to help her friend who is going through the pain of sexual betrayal. First, we just want to say how grateful we are for those of you who take time to write us and share what’s on your heart. We love to get questions that we can answer from our experience. Please keep them coming!
Today we will discuss two different types of friends in this scenario and the best way for each of them to help a friend going through this difficult journey.
So, grab a refreshing beverage and join us as we unpack what it looks like to be a good friend.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 09. I’m So Angry! How I Overcame Anger from Sexual Betrayal in 3 Simple But Not Easy Steps Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal
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| 17 Feb 2025 | 93 | Creating Healthy Connections While Healing from Betrayal Trauma and Sex-Addiction | 00:30:38 | |
Connection...
When you think about connecting with others, what comes to mind?
What does it truly mean to be connected, and what are healthy connections? And speaking of healthy connections, it makes you wonder—are there unhealthy connections?
What do your connections look like in your life?
Join us today as we dive into these intriguing questions and explore the meaning of connections together!
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 57. Alone No More: How Isolation Fuels Sex-Addiction and How to Defeat It Episode 53. 4 Ways To Help a Friend Experiencing Sexual Betrayal
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| 27 May 2024 | 55 | Our Podcast is One Year Old!!! Marriages Redeemed, Hearts Renewed | 00:24:55 | |
Have you ever felt like God was nudging you towards something challenging in life? Maybe a call to step out of your comfort zone and venture into the unknown. It can be intimidating, right? Would you be willing to take that leap of faith and trust that God has your best interests at heart, even when the path ahead seems uncertain? If you have taken that leap, have you experienced God's faithfulness along the way?
Well, we certainly have, and today we want to share our journey with you. It's a story of moving from betrayal and brokenness to healing and hope that has God’s fingerprints all over it. The twists and turns have been surprising, and we are continually in awe at the Lord’s provision every step of the way.
Our podcast is one year old today, and you are a huge reason for it. So, grab a refreshing drink and join us as we recount how we got here, where we are now, and the future ahead with God leading the way. Let’s celebrate together!
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RESOURCES: The Healing Apology – Episode #10 (request your copy at support@beyondbrokenvows.com) Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)
RELATED EPISODES: Episode 01. ”Why Are We Talking About Betrayal?” A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer Episode 04. Sharing Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal Episode 50. Are You Thriving or Just Surviving in Marriage After Sexual Betrayal
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| 16 Oct 2023 | 23 | 7 Steps to True Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal | 00:48:41 | |
Have you wrestled with this question? Can there still be a meaningful sexual relationship after experiencing sexual betrayal? The short answer is YES, but today, we're not diving into the world of makeup or guilt sex. Instead, we'll be delving into the realm of true intimacy.
Intimacy is often misunderstood as just being synonymous with love and sex. While sex is a part of it, there's a deeper layer involved. It's about gradually building a connection with your spouse, one that's rooted in honesty, vulnerability, and transparency. So, join us as we explore the intricacies of maintaining a strong bond through intimacy.
So, reheat your coffee or pour yourself a glass of wine and join us for an encouraging look at sex and intimacy in marriage after sexual betrayal.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (*paid affiliate links may be included) The Healing Apology (request .pdf at support@beyondbrokenvows.com)
RELATED EPISODES: Episode 06. Setting Boundaries After Sexual Betrayal in Marriage Episode 07. 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 1) Episode 08. 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 2) Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal
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| 04 Sep 2023 | 17 | Is My Spouse A Porn Addict? 13 Clues To Help Expose Compulsive Sexual Behavior | 00:40:47 | |
As the wife of a recovering addict, I’ve learned that there were clues displayed by my husband that pointed to addictive behavior. I was aware of his periodic pornography use but didn’t put it together with these behavioral clues to realize that there might be a serious issue. Now that we have been working on our recovery for several years, I have discovered what I either missed or ignored as signs of a porn addiction. We are going to share some information with you today that I wished I had known before it had escalated into compulsive pornography use and serial extra-marital relationships.
We hope this information helps you connect the dots. This is not about getting our spouses into trouble; it’s about getting them out. Freedom is on the other side of hidden sin. Even if you are already aware of addictive behavioral patterns, please be assured that it will not just go away on its own. If left unaddressed, it will always escalate. It is a painful process to come out of addiction, for both spouses, but it is well worth the journey to experience real connection with each other in a marriage based on honesty, trust, transparency, and exclusivity.
So, grab your favorite beverage, get comfy and spend some time with us as we unpack 13 clues that may expose porn/sex addiction in your spouse or yourself so that healing can begin.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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CORRECTION: The scripture reference of Proverbs 27:17 was incorrect. Here is the verse with the correct reference; And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Hebrews 10:24
RESOURCES MENTIONED: Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d LPC; CSAT; Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA- 12-Step); Celebrate Recovery
RELATED EPISODES: Episode 04. Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery Episode 07. 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 1) Episode 08. 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 2)
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| 08 Jan 2024 | 35 | Recovery Step 6: Ready to Move on From Sexual Integrity Issues? 4 Questions to Help you Decide | 00:32:30 | |
Have you come to a place where you understand that some of the things that you do are not beneficial for you? Or are even hurtful to others?
What do you do once you’ve discovered this? Do you say, “Well, that’s just me.” Or, do you decide that you want to change these behaviors for your own good and the good of those you love? If so, how do you go about making these changes?
From the Green Book of Recovery: Character defects are undesirable traits, attitudes, and beliefs that make our lives unmanageable, cause pain to others, and block our spiritual growth. Our problems did not begin with our sex addiction, nor do they end when we get into recovery. Step 6 builds on the recognition that our malady has roots that run deeper than just our acting-out behavior. It requires the willingness to change. Today we will talk about how we take our moral inventory and walk it out in a very practical way.
So, pour out your expired eggnog, grab yourself a fresh Cup o’ Jo and get ready to ask yourself some important questions.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 31. Recovery Step 4: Who Am I? A Fearless Search - The Origin of My Sex Addiction
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| 28 Oct 2024 | 77 | 4 Practical Steps for Vigilance in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Infidelity | 00:37:07 | |
Have you ever found yourself in a situation that totally surprised you, leaving you unsure of how to react? It happens to all of us! When we’re on the journey to recovering from sex addiction, those unexpected moments can be particularly challenging. It’s important to be aware and not let our guard down, as staying vigilant plays a crucial role in our recovery. We’d love for you to join us today as we chat about the importance of staying watchful throughout our recovery process and how it can positively impact our relationships with our wives.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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| 08 Apr 2024 | 48 | Closing the Gap - 3 Steps to Sexual Intimacy | 00:32:16 | |
Have you been on the healing journey after sexual betrayal and you and your spouse are ready to level up? Do you want to experience more true intimacy?
Today we will be talking about 3 simple steps to take that are not easy because it will involve some risk. But, if you are looking for intimacy that goes far beyond anything that our world has to offer, it’s so worth it!
So, come spend a little time with us to hear how you can grow closer to your spouse, even if you have already made great progress. There’s much more that God has in store for you!
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology Episode 23. 7 Steps to True Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal
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| 16 Dec 2024 | 84 | Bah Humbug No More: Christmas (Then and Now) | 00:27:50 | |
Are you looking forward to celebrating Christmas this year? Or maybe for you, Christmastime has a dark shadow over it because of the discovery of sexual betrayal in your marriage and you’re wondering if it is ever going to get better.
We know how that feels! Several years ago, we faced the shocking reality of infidelity in our marriage, and it turned our Christmas into a painful blur. Before that experience, each of us had such different perspectives on holiday joy. Let’s just say one of us was a real Humbug.
But after going through the healing journey together, we’ve found common ground in how we celebrate Christmas, and it has truly become more meaningful than ever.
So, why not cozy up with a warm cup of hot cocoa and join us as we share some heartfelt stories of Christmases past and a sprinkle of hope for the present? You're not alone in this journey!
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 33. The Greatest Gift at Christmas: A 12-Stop Journey To God’s Plan for Redemption
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| 18 Nov 2024 | 80 | 7 Caveats for an Effective Healing Apology | 00:33:10 | |
Making and apology to our betrayed spouse is one of the more important facets of our recovery process. However, have you had the experience when making an apology to your spouse, it seemed to cause more damage than give relief? So, what is the secret to a good apology and how can it be done with respect and honesty that can lead to true intimacy.
Since publishing episode #10, When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology, we have had many requests for the Healing Apology worksheet, mostly from husbands who realized that they needed to apologize to their spouse for the ways they hurt them through their infidelity. We have gotten some great feedback from those who have used this valuable tool. Many found it very helpful, but others, not so much. Through this feedback we’re going to expand on the Healing Apology resource and give some caveats to help folks have a more successful experience.
You will not want to miss our conversation today as we talk through 7 caveats for an effective healing apology.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal
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| 23 Sep 2024 | 72 | Praising God While in the Storm of Sexual Betrayal and Porn-Fueled Infidelity | 00:35:09 | |
We had planned to update and replay episodes all this month to help us take things a little slower for our anniversary. Well, we got of our 2 most popular shows out, but this week we decided to share some new content with you.
We want to give some encouragement and a little guidance to those of you who are struggling in the storm of your broken marriage. Whether you have been betrayed or you have broken trust, this episode will show you how to find peace and comfort through the praise and celebration of our amazing Redeemer and Lord, Jesus Christ.
We pray this blesses you!
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 28. Giving Thanks In Your Broken Marriage Through Gratitude Episode 58. Purpose from Pain. Did Sexual Betrayal Destroy God’s Plan for Your Marriage? Episode 61. Is Joy Possible After Sexual Betrayal?
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| 26 Aug 2024 | 68 | 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #4 Emotional Maturity | 00:40:43 | |
Wives, are you trying to communicate your feelings to your husband and somehow it always ends up being about him. Are just not feeling seen, heard and validated?
Men, is your wife explaining to you how she feels or coming at you with big emotions and you find yourself at a loss of how to respond?
This can happen in any marriage, but when sexual betrayal is a reality, the pain and frustration seem magnified to levels that threaten to break the marriage. But, when she finds her voice and he respond with emotional maturity, the healing can begin.
Today we are going to talk through examples of how a betrayed wife can clearly communicate what she needs and how a recovering husband can respond with emotional maturity.
Grab a cool drink and get ready as we unpack 4 areas where emotional maturity can be cultivated.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 64. 5 Things A Betrayed Wife Needs From Her Recovering Husband (Series) Episode 65. 5 Things A Betrayed Wife Needs…(Series) #1 See Her Pain Episode 66. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #2 Prioritize Her Episode 67. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #3 Keep Your Promises
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| 28 Aug 2023 | 16 | ”It’s Just Porn, What’s The Big Deal?” And 4 Other Lies We Tell Ourselves To Justify Viewing Pornography | 00:29:34 | |
If pornography is no big deal, why are so many marriages destroyed by it? If pornography is harmless, why are so many people around the world hurt by it? If pornography is no big deal, why do we hide it from our wives? If pornography is harmless, why do we hide it from our children?
How much do you know about porn and the pornography industry? I didn’t know much about it when I got married and I didn’t really want to. I thought it was something non-believers did. Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to stay naive about this topic when my husband revealed to me his pornography use that escalated into extra-marital relationships. I got an education that I never wanted, but it has helped me to be more discerning and also empathetic to those who struggle with this destructive habitual sin.
Today we will unpack 4 lies that people tell themselves when trying to justify the use of pornography and also just how harmful it is inside of covenant marriage.
We hope this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
y pornography use or addiction, it is easy to only focus on the outward behaviors because they are so painful and destructive. But what if there is something deeper under the surface that you are unaware of? What if the addiction was only the evidence of an underlying problem. Would you be willing to explore the possibility?
I’m a recovering sex addict with over 4 years of sobriety and I’m grateful that I discovered that there was something insidious behind my acting out behaviors. This realization became the framework on which my recovery began.
Today we are going to unpack my ah-ha moment and uncover the deeper origins that led to my true addiction, which had manifested as porn addiction and ultimately culminated into extra-marital relationships.
So, grab your favorite beverage and join us for this eye-opening discussion about what may be behind our addictive and destructive behaviors.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me Episode 03. His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral Values Episode 04. Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery
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| 30 Sep 2024 | 73 | Unashamed Unafraid of My Sexual Betrayal & Recovery Story, ft. Steve Shields | 00:51:10 | |
We know our story of sexual betrayal and recovery is not the only one out there, so we are excited to share with you a compelling conversation we had with Steve Shields from the Unashamed Unafraid podcast. He tells his unique and very personal story of how a Christian man trapped in porn addiction was able to come to terms with his powerlessness, and after several recovery setbacks, was finally able to get experience freedom from shame and addiction and help others get free as well.
It is so good to know that we are not alone on this journey of brokenness to wholeness. No matter who you are or where you’ve been, there is hope for a better future on the other side of porn-fueled infidelity and betrayal trauma.
Listen in to hear some nuggets of truth and wisdom as we hear Steve tell his amazing redemption story!
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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Connect with Steve Shields: Unafraid Unashamed podcast instagram- @unashamedunafraid youtube- @unashamedunafraidpod
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 21. Breaking Free: How To Escape the Grip of Porn Addiction with Emmanuel and Bekah Guarino
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| 19 Feb 2024 | 41 | Recovery Step 11: How Can We Know? 6 Points to Ponder When Seeking God’s Will | 00:34:37 | |
Do you find it difficult to connect with God and know his will for your life?
If you said yes, you are not alone. Just like the recovery journey, it takes a lot of persistent and consistent effort to cultivate a close relationship with the Lord. It doesn’t come naturally to us mere humans, but there is a roadmap for discovering how to make connecting with God a priority. It’s found in the Bible. Today we are going to unpack Step 11 of the Sex Addicts Anonymous Recovery Program, which is all about this sometimes elusive yet always fulfilling practice of knowing God and his will for us.
So grab a drink, your Bible, and a pen and join us for this journey into seeking God’s will for our lives and his power to carry it out.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RESOURCES: Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d Drop the Rock co-authored by Bill P., Todd W and Sara S. ( As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)
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| 02 Dec 2024 | 82 | Broken Trust After Infidelity? 3 Ways to Reach Her Heart | 00:35:21 | |
Ladies, do you and your husband seem to be in a never-ending cycle of communication misfires? You ask him hard questions, he gives you answers, but you still aren’t connecting and moving forward.
Are you frustrated and confused by his responses, or lack thereof, leaving you with no confidence that he is telling the truth or that he sees your pain?
Today we address the challenges of rebuilding trust and the emotional journey for both spouses. We discuss common questions such as, 'Will I ever trust my husband again?' and 'How long will this take?' We will share our own experience with building trust and the obstacles to trust we encountered.
So how is trust rebuilt after trust is broken through porn-fueled infidelity? Here’s a hint…husbands, you hold the key to her heart. Let’s dive in!
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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| 21 Oct 2024 | 76 | What Do You Mean You Don't Regret Your Sexual Betrayal?? | 00:35:09 | |
When you hear the statement, "I do not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it". What thoughts and/or emotions surface immediately? Our experience has shown us that the initial reaction from a betrayed spouse will likely differ from that of the one who has broken faith. The former will react in a posture of, "You better regret your past!". And the latter will feel that they are “supposed to” regret their past actions.
Join us today as we navigate our way through this potentially triggering statement on The Beyond Broken Vows Podcast.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) Twelve Promises - from AA & SAA 1. If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through. 2. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. 3. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. 4. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace. 5. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others. 6. That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear. 7. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows. 8. Self-seeking will slip away. 9. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change. 10. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us. 11. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us. 12. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves Are these extravagant promises? We think not. They are being fulfilled among us - sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. They will always materialize if we work for them.
RELATED EPISODES: Episode 25 | Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work? Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal
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| 01 Jan 2024 | 34 | New Beginnings for Marriages in the New Year After Sexual Betrayal | 00:28:01 | |
Have you noticed that New Year’s resolutions don’t last much past January for most people? Statistically, 91% of Americans fail at New Year’s resolutions. That’s not very encouraging.
We were going to talk about the reasons why resolutions are so hard to keep in today’s episode, but then Holy Spirit intervened. So, we threw out our outline and just had a candid conversation about our first New Year after sexual betrayal shattered our marriage.
Today, on New Year's Day, we want you to know that resolving to stay in your marriage that has been broken by sexual betrayal is a personal decision and a difficult one. However, if both spouses are willing to surrender to God’s will, do the hard work, and extend lots of mercy and grace - it is very possible and so worth it!
Listen in as we remember what our first New Year’s after betrayal looked like and how we found hope for our future together.
Happy New Year!
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 28. Giving Thanks In Your Broken Marriage Through Gratitude Episode 33. The Greatest Gift at Christmas: A 12-Stop Journey To God’s Plan for Redemption
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| 25 Mar 2024 | 46 | Sexuality as a Sex-Addict in Marriage (2 of 3) | 00:35:19 | |
Men, do you have a secret relationship with pornography and/or others outside of your marriage? Are you consumed by your thought life and hiding things from your wife that you don’t want her to know? Is sex with your wife becoming challenging, difficult, or just too much effort? Do you feel misunderstood? Are you afraid that if she knew everything about you, she would leave you?
Last week, Emily shared her perspective on our sexual relationship through the years up until Discovery Day and Disclosure Day when Johnny came clean of all his secrets. She didn’t know what she didn’t know, which made this area of our life progressively challenging.
Today Johnny is going to share how he viewed our sex life, not knowing he was an addict, but knowing he was hiding secret sin from Emily.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 03. His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral Values Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology Episode 18. Feeling Like I’m Not Enough. What If Pornography Is Not My True Addiction?
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| 17 Jul 2023 | 10 | When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology | 00:41:19 | |
Do you appreciate getting an apology? Do you have a hard time extending one? Do you even know what a good apology looks like?
Join us today as we cover the 8 steps to a healing apology, which is so helpful in a marriage, especially when there has been some form of betrayal.
We have experienced the power of this healing apology in our own marriage after the discovery and disclosure of pornography use that escalated into infidelity. Giving an apology the wrong way can be even more hurtful than not doing it at all. But, done correctly, it can open the door to forgiveness, healing and hope.
So, grab something to take notes with and your favorite beverage and listen in for a step-by-step process to an amazing healing apology.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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| 14 Aug 2023 | 14 | To Tell Or Not To Tell: 3 Things We Did Right (And 1 Thing We Didn’t) When Deciding Who Needs To Know Our Infidelity Story | 00:32:21 | |
Your marriage has suffered a massive blow of betrayal. Adultery through pornography and/or extra-marital relationships has been discovered. You both want to save the marriage, if possible, by working on reconciliation and recovery. But now you’re wondering if you need to tell anyone or if you should just keep it private and work on it together.
We went through this same scenario and today we are going to let you peek inside our marriage and the devastation we experienced through infidelity to see the process we went through when trying to decide, To Tell or Not To Tell. That IS the question. For today. 😉
So, grab a yummy beverage, get comfortable and listen in as we take a trip down memory lane, just 4 ½ short years ago, and walk you through the things we did right (and one thing we didn’t) when making the decision to tell or not to tell.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 01. ”Why Are We Talking About Betrayal?” A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me Episode 03. His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral Values Episode 04. Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery
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| 30 Oct 2023 | 25 | Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work? | 00:30:51 | |
What if you had been confronted with the fact that your life had become unmanageable and through this revelation you discovered that you were powerless over a major struggle in your life? And what if you came to believe that this major struggle in your life was an addiction? You may be asking, "How did I get here? What do I do about it and how do I get out of it?"
If there was a measurable way to reclaim the manageability in your life, would you want to take the steps necessary to repair your broken relationship with your spouse and gain peace for yourself? Even if it turns out to be the hardest work you've ever done?
If you are willing to do this hard work, there is good news!
Today we are going to talk about the discovery of addiction in our lives, how to recover from addiction and why to engage in a recovery program. Buckle up, here we go!
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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_______ RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (*paid affiliate links may be included) The Healing Apology (request .pdf at support@beyondbrokenvows.com) Be Broken Ministries – Online care groups for wives wanting help to heal from sexual betrayal trauma. https://www.bebroken.org/wives
_______ RELATED EPISODES: Episode 04. Sharing Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery
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| 10 Jul 2023 | 09 | I’m So Angry! How I Overcame Anger from Sexual Betrayal in 3 Simple But Not Easy Steps | 00:42:28 | |
Do you get angry while driving in traffic? Have you ever had or seen road rage? Are you the person that yells at everyone making stupid and even dangerous driving mistakes from inside your car with the windows up?
I can’t say I’ve never had a burst of anger when driving, but in recent years I have made it a practice to try and give other drivers the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they have an emergency, maybe their kids are distracting them... And it also helps to remind myself that I have probably done the same stupid thing before myself and that I’m not the only one with important places to go. But, this isn’t the kind of anger we’re going to talk about today.
Anger can be a catalyst to create needed changes or to promote justice, but it can also become disastrous if not contained within some specific boundaries. Today we are going to talk about the good, the bad and the ugly aspects of anger and how to move through it so we are not trapped in this potentially destructive emotion.
We all struggle with anger at times, but we don't have to let it rule the day. So, grab your favorite beverage and stick around as we have an honest conversation about Emily's anger caused by Johnny's betrayal and how she learned to overcome it with 3 simple (but not easy) steps.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 01. Why Are We Talking About Betrayal? A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me Episode 03. His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral Values
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| 27 Nov 2023 | 29 | Recovery Step 3: 3 Things To Know When Leaving Porn Behind | 00:27:01 | |
Have you admitted your powerlessness over your porn addiction? Have you come to believe that a power greater than yourself can restore you to sanity?
These two questions encapsulate steps 1 and 2 of the Sex Addicts Anonymous 12-step recovery program. In today’s episode we will unpack Step 3. which focuses on surrendering our plans and path. Are you ready to turn EVERY part of your life over to God? At this point in our program, we are simply willing to move forward. We decide to make a commitment to recovery, and to our spiritual growth.
So, grab your favorite beverage and something to jot down notes and join us as we reveal three things to know about giving it all to God and moving beyond our pornography and sex addiction. Wives, you will want to hear this too!
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d (As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)
RELATED EPISODES: Episode 26. Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull Episode 27. Recovery Step 2: Porn Making You Crazy? Believing God Can Restore Your Sanity
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Disclaimer: The content presented in this podcast is provided solely for educational purposes and should be considered as general information. It is not intended to serve as therapy or psychological advice. We strongly recommend consulting your physician or mental health provider for personalized advice, support, or treatment concerning your well-being. In the event of a crisis, please dial 911 for immediate assistance. | |||
| 09 Sep 2024 | 70 | Straight Talk: A Candid Revisit of a Betrayed Wife's Journey | 00:33:45 | |
September is our anniversary month and we're celebrating by taking a break from creating new episodes this month, but rather updating and replaying a few of our most popular episodes.
Today we are revisiting Episode #2 Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me, where Emily bares her soul to tell the story of Johnny's marital infidelity* fueled by pornography use. And although it was Not Her Fault in any way, she is not perfect and you will hear some of the ways she fell short in her life too. But God is bigger than any failure, heartbreak or trauma. He is the redeemer of the lost and the comforter of the broken-hearted. (*name changed for privacy)
Grab a spiced latte or some other yummy drink and settle in for a deep and personal story of a betrayed wife and the hope she found in Jesus.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 01. ”Why Are We Talking About Betrayal?” A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer Episode 03. His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral Values Episode 04. Sharing Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery
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| 07 Oct 2024 | 74 | Guilt and Shame in the Aftermath of Sexual Betrayal | 00:38:47 | |
If you are listening to our podcast on a regular basis, and we hope you are, you are likely working hard to stay married after porn-fueled infidelity.
One challenging area that needs to be addressed in the recovery process is shame and guilt. Many times, shame and guilt are used interchangeably as though they are the same. Do you know there’s a difference? What are the differences?
Join us today for our conversation on the difference between guilt and shame and how one of these is actually helpful for us as we move forward in our healing process.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology Episode 19. Feeling Like I’m Not Enough: How Comparison Can Distort Self-Identity
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| 18 Dec 2023 | 32 | Recovery Step 5: What Have I Done? Admitting How My Porn Addiction Hurt Myself and Others | 00:31:17 | |
Have you gotten to the point in your life where you are ready to tell someone else every terrible thing that you’ve done in your life?
If this thought doesn't excite you or possibly even terrifies you, then you’re in good company. Baring our souls to another person is not something we come by naturally. However, the longer we keep secrets locked behind the door of our minds, the longer we will stay trapped in our addictions and true freedom will continue to elude us.
From the Green Book of Recovery: As active sex addicts, we hid who we were and what we were doing from others, but also from ourselves. We take the 5th step when we come out of hiding, let go of self-deception, and acknowledge our reliance on a higher power. Our belief that we were isolated, estranged from the care of a loving God, had kept us in fear. Now, breaking free of secrecy, we admit our wrongs in the light of our relationship with the God of our understanding. If we trust, we will be given the power to acknowledge our shortcomings. Admitting our wrongs to God opens the door to change within ourselves. We have found that God will help us find the courage and honesty we need in order to work this step.
Today we will talk about how we take our moral inventory and walk it out in a very practical way.
So, heat up your coffee or pour yourself a glass of wine and join us as we learn how to take the courageous step to tell someone else every hidden thing in our past in order to find freedom for our future.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RESOURCES: Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d (As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)
RELATED EPISODES: Episode 29. Recovery Step 3: 3 Things To Know When Leaving Porn Behind Episode 31. Recovery Step 4: Who Am I? A Fearless Search - The Origin of My Sex Addiction
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Disclaimer: The content presented in this podcast is provided solely for educational purposes and should be considered as general information. It is not intended to serve as therapy or psychological advice. We strongly recommend consulting your physician or mental health provider for personalized advice, support, or treatment concerning your well-being. In the event of a crisis, please dial 911 for immediate assistance. | |||
| 26 Jun 2023 | 07 | 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 1) | 00:33:15 | |
Did you know that there is more than one way to lie?
A lack of honesty can leave others in your life on uncertain ground. How do we overcome this deceptive practice and what is the key to complete honesty?
Spend the next half hour with us as we talk about 5 different ways we lie to each other, how lying affects our relationships and what we can do to change it forever.
We will also be sharing some details from our sometimes painful journey to find freedom from the lies that plagued our marriage.
We hope this blesses you!
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 01. Why Are We Talking About Betrayal? A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me Episode 03. His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral Values
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| 20 May 2024 | 54 | Betrayed Wives Experience Profound Loss, But Do Cheating Husbands? | 00:35:48 | |
Does a cheating husband who has chosen the path of repentance and recovery experience any losses? The short answer is yes. But it may not be evident to a betrayed wife, especially when stacked up against her seemingly infinite losses. She may not see many tangible losses or consequences for his infidelity.
Today, we are going to outline some perceived perks received by the husband stemming from extra-marital relationships and contrast them with losses his wife experiences due to his betrayal. We’ll also address a question from one of our Beyond Broken Vows Insiders as she wonders, “Are there truly any significant losses for the betrayer and if so, what are they?” You may find that you identify with some of these “perks” and/or losses from your own experience with sexual betrayal.
So, get comfy and settle in for a deeply personal conversation about loss, but also the hope we have in Christ in the midst of pain and injustice.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RESOURCES: The Healing Apology (request your copy at support@beyondbrokenvows.com) Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)
RELATED EPISODES: Episode 09. I’m So Angry! How I Overcame Anger from Sexual Betrayal in 3 Simple But Not Easy Steps Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal
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| 19 Jun 2023 | 06 | Setting Boundaries After Sexual Betrayal in Marriage | 00:47:16 | |
Have you ever stopped to think about the significance of boundaries? What kind of feelings or emotions do you think of when you hear that term? Does it bring to mind negative connotations or a sense of being confined and restricted? Perhaps it even feels punitive or unfair. It's understandable to have these reactions, but let's take a moment to consider a different perspective. What if boundaries could actually be beneficial for all parties involved?
In today's episode, we're going to unpack the word "boundaries". We'll explore why boundaries are not only necessary but essential in our lives. We'll examine what insights and guidance we can find from a spiritual standpoint, exploring what God has to say about boundaries.
But our exploration won't stop there. We'll also share a personal story, drawing from our own experiences in marriage. When faced with the challenges of infidelity and addiction, we had to confront the need for boundaries head-on. We'll walk you through our journey of how we implemented and navigated these often misunderstood boundaries in our relationship.
So, make sure to stick around and listen in. By the end of this episode, you'll gain a deeper understanding of boundaries and their potential to bring about positive transformation in your own life and relationships.
We pray this blesses you!
Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 01. Why Are We Talking About Betrayal? A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me Episode 03. His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral Values
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| 27 Jan 2025 | 90 | Discovering the Man Within: Sathiya Sam on Overcoming Porn Addiction | 00:48:45 | |
Today we’ll be sharing a fantastic interview with Sathiya Sam, host of the Man Within podcast and the founder of Deep Clean. Sathiya opens up about his personal journey, including how he overcame a 15-year struggle with porn addiction, and the faith and guidance that played a key role in his recovery. He dives into some eye-opening differences between just being sober and truly experiencing freedom from addiction, all while highlighting the importance of addressing root issues. Plus, Sathiya shares how he has integrated healthy sexuality into his marriage and how he safeguards that bond through openness and accountability. The conversation is packed with practical tips on building resilience and achieving lasting freedom from porn addiction. We can't wait for you to tune in! We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily
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CONNECT WITH SATHIYA SAM: Website: https://www.sathiyasam.com/ The Last Relapse book: https://www.sathiyasam.com/books Man Within Podcast: https://www.sathiyasam.com/podcast Instagram: www.instagram.com/sathiyamesam
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 26. Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull
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| 10 Feb 2025 | 92 | Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal | 00:37:33 | |
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you realized that making a significant personal sacrifice was the key to resolving a difficult situation? And that this decision would alter your life as you know it? Often, these moments involve putting the needs of someone else first. It’s those we love most with whom we often decide to "die to self." We’d love for you to join us today as Johnny shares four pivotal moments from his recovery journey where he chose to put Emily ahead of himself in their marriage. We can’t wait for you to hear his inspiring story! We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 51. Full Therapeutic Disclosure: 3 Steps to Healing and Freedom After Sexual Betrayal Episode 60. The High Cost of Freedom in a Sexually Betrayed Marriage
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| 29 May 2023 | 03 | His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral Values | 00:44:59 | |
Hi Friend,
On today's episode, Johnny tells his story of how a young boy with hopes and dreams for a wonderful future ends up confessing to his wife of 31 years that he is a sex addict and an adulterer. His painful story is tragic, but also beautiful because he knows the One who makes a way when there is no way. Jesus can make something beautiful out of the ashes of our lives if we let him.
We pray this episode blesses you!
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 01. Why Are We Talking About Betrayal? A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me
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| 22 Jan 2024 | 37 | Recovery Step 8: My Addiction To Porn Hurt Others. 4 Questions to Ask When Making it Right | 00:27:06 | |
Have you ever hurt someone and come to not only realize that you had hurt them, but understood exactly how you hurt them? Today as we cover the 8th step of recovery of Sex Addicts Anonymous, it is time to do the work of making a list of those we've harmed through our destructive sexual behaviors and become willing to make amends.
Working this step means finding the willingness to bring resolution to these relationships, regardless of whether or not those involved behaved rightly toward us. This process of becoming willing to make amends involves a deeper surrender to our higher powers’ will than we have known before.”
Grab a cup of coffee or wine and something to jot down notes with and join us as we explore the process of making amends.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RESOURCES: Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d Drop the Rock co-authored by Bill P., Todd W and Sara S. (As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)
RELATED EPISODES: Episode 36. Recovery Step 7: Holding on to Pride? Humility Before God = Freedom From Pornography
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Disclaimer: The content presented in this podcast is provided solely for educational purposes and should be considered as general information. It is not intended to serve as therapy or psychological advice. We strongly recommend consulting your physician or mental health provider for personalized advice, support, or treatment concerning your well-being. In the event of a crisis, please dial 911 for immediate assistance. | |||
| 25 Sep 2023 | 20 | From Porn Queen To Child of God Now On Mission To Help Others Find Freedom with Elizabeth Spraggins | 00:54:39 | |
Hey Friend,
Have you ever been curious about the untold stories of those in the adult entertainment industry? Do you question the authenticity of what you've heard about or witnessed on the screen?
We've recently been talking a lot about the harmful impact of pornography on consumers and their loved ones, but only briefly explored the profound effects it has on those who take center stage.
Today, prepare to be captivated as we engage in a compelling conversation with Elizabeth Spraggins, a remarkable individual who once lived in the world of adult entertainment but has since found freedom in Christ. Elizabeth, a Certified Professional Life Coach and a distinguished authority in human sexuality and adult entertainment, offers us an exclusive glimpse behind the curtains.
She's not only turned her life around but has also extended her hand to those still navigating this complex industry. Join us as Elizabeth unveils the transformation ignited by her newfound relationship with Jesus and her inspiring mission to guide adult entertainers and sex workers toward a path of rebirth—mind, body, and spirit.
Grab your coffee or pumpkin spiced latte and tune in for an eye-opening discussion that'll change the way you see the world behind the screen.
We pray this blesses you!
Johnny and Emily
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Here's how you can connect with Elizabeth, Podcast: Digging From Darkness Living in Light, on multiple platforms @elizabethspraggins on YouTube @alljoyinspired on Twitch, Rumble, Twitter
To watch this interview on YouTube click here, https://youtu.be/N2FbjR57ApI
Related Episodes: Episode 04. Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery Episode 17. ” Is My Spouse A Porn Addict? 13 Clues To Help Expose Compulsive Sexual Behavior Episode 18. Feeling Like I’m Not Enough. What If Pornography Is Not My True Addiction?
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| 04 Dec 2023 | 30 | Has Adultery Grinched Your Christmas? 2 Ways to Approach Holiday Season Triggers After Sexual Betrayal | 00:31:34 | |
Is the holiday season hard for you after sexual betrayal? Or any date that reminds you of the devastation that sexual betrayal brings into a marriage? It sure was for us in the beginning.
What is a healthy way to deal with these triggers when they occur?
Today we are going to have a conversation about how these dubious dates affected our marriage and how we worked through them so that they are no longer as painful as they once were.
So, pop in your earbud, grab your favorite Christmas beverage and join us for a peek through the window into our holiday healing.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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| 29 Jul 2024 | 64 | 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs From Her Recovering Husband (Series) | 00:25:12 | |
Has the reality of porn-fueled infidelity in your marriage come to light? Have you both decided to stay together and want to do your part to save your marriage?
Husband, have you decided to go all in on making it right? Are willing to do whatever it takes to recover from the devastating consequences of your bad decisions, but moving forward in your relationship with your wife seems difficult?
Wife, are you hurt and confused about how this could have possibly happened? Are you grieving the loss of the marriage you thought you had? Do desperately need to see changes in your husband, but can’t find the words to communicate what you need from him?
We understand. At this raw and painful time, husbands likely don’t know what their wives need from them, and wives may not be able to articulate their needs in the aftermath of sexual betrayal.
On today’s show we are going to introduce 5 areas where a willing husband can learn to meet his wife’s deepest needs and how a broken-hearted wife can find her voice.
Listen in as we share with you what we have learned through our own journey of healing from sexual betrayal.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 52. Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull Episode 54. Betrayed Wives Experience Profound Loss, But Do Cheating Husbands?
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| 11 Sep 2023 | 18 | Feeling Like I’m Not Enough. What If Pornography Is Not My True Addiction? | 00:32:05 | |
In our marriages when there is sexual betrayal fueled by pornography use or addiction, it is easy to only focus on the outward behaviors because they are so painful and destructive. But what if there is something deeper under the surface that you are unaware of? What if the addiction was only the evidence of an underlying problem. Would you be willing to explore the possibility?
I’m a recovering sex addict with over 4 years of sobriety and I’m grateful that I discovered that there was something insidious behind my acting out behaviors. This realization became the framework on which my recovery began.
Today we are going to unpack my ah-ha moment and uncover the deeper origins that led to my true addiction, which had manifested as porn addiction and ultimately culminated into extra-marital relationships.
So, grab your favorite beverage and join us for this eye-opening discussion about what may be behind our addictive and destructive behaviors.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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| 01 Jul 2024 | 60 | The High Cost of Freedom in a Sexually Betrayed Marriage | 00:40:11 | |
Many of us have heard the phrase “Freedom Isn’t Free” and if you have not heard it, you likely understand the idea behind it knowing that in order to gain freedom of any kind some form of sacrifice needs to be made. And sacrifices are not called sacrifices because they are easy.
Are you feeling like you’re trapped in a never-ending cycle of anger, confusion, shame, and pain? Do you long for freedom from your current circumstance?
In today’s show, we will discuss how freedom to live in a new and intimate marriage can come at a high cost. Are you willing to pay it?
So, grab yourself a summertime drink, like a cool Mint Julep, and listen in for a compelling look at the importance of gaining freedom in your marriage and how to maintain it.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal Episode 59. Is It Over? Take These 5 Steps to Save Your Marriage After Adultery
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| 04 Nov 2024 | 78 | Forgiving the “Other Woman” - A Path to Peace After Sexual Betrayal Trauma | 00:28:40 | |
On this show, we have often talked about forgiveness - the need for extending forgiveness and how to walk out forgiveness. It has been in the context of forgiving your spouse for sexual betrayal, but what about the other woman? Or women? There are many different scenarios and every marriage has a unique story of brokenness. But there is a common thread of knowing there are those outside of your marriage who contributed to and/or participated in your spouse’s sexual sin. How do you forgive these people who you may not even know?
In this episode, we discuss the difficult topic of forgiving the “other women” involved in a marriage infidelity. Emily shares her personal journey of forgiveness, detailing the challenges and steps she took to forgive not only Johnny, who had a long history of pornography and extramarital affairs, but also the women involved. She describes how she navigated her emotions and found empathy and compassion for those she once resented.
Join us for this frank discussion on forgiveness and then share it with someone you know needs to hear it.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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| 15 Jul 2024 | 62 | Social Media Hack Triggers Trauma From Porn-Fueled Infidelity | 00:24:43 | |
How was your week? Did it go as planned? This week, a verse really hit home for us in a big way...
We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps. Proverbs 16:9
Imagine this - just as we were about to hit the button to record today’s podcast episode, a sudden interruption caught us off guard. Johnny received a private message that sparked a whirlwind of emotions and confusion. It was from a woman Emily didn't know.
Talk about getting triggered!
It turned out to be a false alarm – phew! But, after the dust settled, we decided to share this story with you instead of our originally planned episode on porn-brain, which we will have for you next week.
Life has a funny way of throwing us curveballs that can leave us feeling off balance and disheartened. But even amid chaos, there is always a path forward for those who trust in the Lord.
So, get comfortable and settle in for a true-life story of an unexpected event that could have ended in disaster - but, God.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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| 25 Dec 2023 | 33 | The Greatest Gift at Christmas: A 12-Stop Journey To God’s Plan for Redemption | 00:35:44 | |
Before you got married, you had in your head an idea of what you wanted your marriage to look like. You had all kinds of hopes and dreams and they were all good, positive things and you made plans according to this picture in your mind.
But things didn’t go exactly as planned.
This is not the first time this story has played out. God made plans for how he wanted his relationship with mankind to look.
Men, God intended for you to have a work to do, a woman to love and a will to obey.
Women, God created you to be a perfect helper for your man. So important to God that he uses the same word “helper” in the New Testament when describing Holy Spirit.
God planned for us to walk daily with him in the Garden and for us to be naked before each other and not be ashamed. And this form of nakedness is what we refer to today as true intimacy.
But things didn’t go exactly as planned.
That’s because he also gave us free will. When we chose our own way, sin, pain and death were the result. Then God introduced a new plan to bring us back to himself.
You have probably heard the Christmas story from Luke many times. Today we are going to go through not only this incredible story, but also the new plan of redemption that comes through Jesus Christ for all who would believe. Our Savior, our Redeemer, and our Lord.
So, as you join us today, grab your favorite Christmas beverage and settle in for a meaningful journey of hope.
Merry Christmas!
Johnny and Emily
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MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: A 12-Stop Journey Through the Scriptures Isaiah 9:6-7 Matthew 1:18-23 Luke 2:1-20 Luke 19:10 John 11:50 Luke 23:34 John 19:30 Romans 5:1-8 Revelation 3:19-21 Romans 10:9-10 Hebrews 11:6 Revelation 21:5
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 28. Giving Thanks In Your Broken Marriage Through Gratitude
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Disclaimer: The content presented in this podcast is provided solely for educational purposes and should be considered as general information. It is not intended to serve as therapy or psychological advice. We strongly recommend consulting your physician or mental health provider for personalized advice, support, or treatment concerning your well-being. In the event of a crisis, please dial 911 for immediate assistance. | |||
| 10 Mar 2025 | 96 | The Message in the Affair: Self-Discovery After His Infidelity, with April Truitt | 00:42:57 | |
When it comes to confronting the aftermath of sexual betrayal, each of us will set out on a unique journey to healing and restoration. This was certainly true of our guest April Truitt. April shares the deeply personal and transformative story of her marriage's journey through infidelity. After discovering her husband's affair, April recounts the emotional devastation and the path to recovery that followed. She discusses the underlying issues in their marriage, their struggles with insecurity, and how her husband's affair led to a profound period of self-examination and spiritual growth. With time and guidance from their church and counselor, this precious couple was able to confront their emotional intimacy issues, work through forgiveness, and rebuild their marriage stronger than before. April also highlights her own battles with shame, negative self-talk, and the transformative power of relying on God's grace. Now, as an author and speaker, she aims to help others facing similar struggles, offering her book, 'A Wife's Recovery from an Affair: The Story of a Faithful God,' and a free journaling workbook on her website. Join us today as we hear from April about what God was teaching her through her personal recovery journey. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 04. Sharing Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery Episode 58. Purpose from Pain. Did Sexual Betrayal Destroy God’s Plan for Your Marriage?
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| 24 Jul 2023 | 11 | Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal | 00:37:57 | |
Do you find it hard to forgive someone who has hurt you deeply?
On our show today, we’re going to unpack 4 keys to unlocking forgiveness. This method is simple, but it’s definitely not easy. So how do we get through this difficult process? We will share with you how this approach played out in our marriage after porn-fueled infidelity and where we turned for help.
Grab your favorite beverage and spend some time with us as we delve deeper into the topic of forgiveness.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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| 08 Jul 2024 | 61 | Is Joy Possible After Sexual Betrayal? | 00:28:20 | |
After discovering your spouse had betrayed you sexually, what was your initial reaction? We bet it wasn’t joy. We know that there are many volatile emotions that come on the heels of that shocking and devastating news - among them pain, anger, and confusion.
As you try to make sense of the senseless in your new unwanted reality, you may find yourself desperately longing for relief from the ever-present despair that threatens to overwhelm you.
On today’s show, we are going to explore joy. What is joy? Is it different than happiness? Why would you even consider joy after betrayal? Does this sound impossible?
While it may seem counterintuitive, we believe that even in the midst of the most painful and destructive event of your life, joy is still possible. Intrigued?
Well, pour yourself a cool, summertime beverage and settle in as we unpack this thought-provoking topic of how and why to choose joy after betrayal.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal Episode 12. His Adultery Shattered My Reality. How Do I Know What’s Real?
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| 07 Aug 2023 | 13 | His Triggers, Her Triggers – 4 Steps For Dealing With Triggers While Healing From Infidelity | 00:34:32 | |
Triggers, what are they and how do they affect us? Triggers come without warning and without our permission. Today we’re going to dissect the ways we are triggered and how we should handle them, so they are not destructive, but rather an opportunity for healing, connection and growth. And good heavens, do they ever stop?
Grab your favorite beverage and buckle up as we talk about triggers.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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| 06 Jan 2025 | 87 | Can’t We Just Get Back to Normal? Shortest Path to True Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal | 00:38:19 | |
Have you gotten to the point in your recovery journey from marital infidelity where you may be feeling the fatigue of endless questions, lack of trust, and having to talk about the pain every day and you’re asking yourself, "Can't we just get back to normal"?
What is normal?
What if "normal" got you to where you are today? Would you really want to go back?
Join us today as we outline the shortest path through minefield of betrayal and addiction recovery to the seemingly illusive "Promised Land".
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 50. Are You Thriving or Just Surviving in Marriage After Sexual Betrayal
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| 03 Feb 2025 | 91 | Overwhelmed While Recovering From Betrayal Trauma or Porn-Fueled Infidelity? | 00:06:40 | |
Okay, picture this scene: you are on vacation at the beach, having a great time soaking in the sun and playing in the ocean. You're making your way further and further out into deeper water. The waves are getting steadily higher but it’s still manageable as your feet are connected to the sandy ocean floor.
Suddenly, seemingly out of nowhere, a very large and powerful wave comes crashing over your head. You are overwhelmed - taken off your feet, tossed about, and feeling like you might drown.
Similar scenes play out from time to time in our recovery journeys from sexual betrayal and addiction. This is certainly true for us.
Join us as we share about the “wave” that overwhelmed us this week. Our desire as we share our story is that you will know that you are not alone and there is hope.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 12. His Adultery Shattered My Reality. How Do I Know What’s Real? Episode 86. Recovering From Porn-Fueled Infidelity: Obstacles We Encountered This Year
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| 03 Mar 2025 | 95 | Weddings and Pirates and Triggers. Oh, my! | 00:24:15 | |
After sexual betrayal is discovered in a marriage and the couple decides to embark on the journey to recovery, there are many opportunities for social events to become emotionally challenging, causing what many call triggers.
Today we recount a fun, awkward, semi-harrowing story of our weekend adventure at a pirate-themed wedding; fraught with danger, and also some victories.
Listen in to hear which tools in our relational toolbox were the keys to turning a difficult social situation into a bonding experience. Hint, it may have something to do with the importance of preparation and vigilance.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 77. 4 Practical Steps for Vigilance in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Infidelity
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| 10 Jun 2024 | 57 | Alone No More: How Isolation Fuels Sex-Addiction and How to Defeat It | 00:38:15 | |
What is isolation, and where does it truly begin?
Imagine a lone animal in the wild, separated from its herd. We've all seen those heart-wrenching documentary scenes where isolation turns them into easy prey. Nature's example is a powerful reminder of a harsh reality: when we isolate ourselves from our community, we become vulnerable to the schemes and traps of our Enemy who is actively looking to devour us. (1 peter 5:8)
In isolation, destructive and addictive behaviors often take root, dragging us deeper into darkness. But there's hope! How can we break free from the chains of isolation and reclaim our lives?
Grab your favorite drink and join us for this compelling discussion about the perils of isolation and the practical steps to emerge from its oppressive grip. Together, we'll explore how to reconnect, rebuild, and thrive once again.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 18. Feeling Like I’m Not Enough. What If Pornography Is Not My True Addiction? Episode 26. Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull
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| 15 Apr 2024 | 49 | Sobriety vs. Recovery After Porn-Fueled Infidelity | 00:35:43 | |
Wives, has your husband stopped his acting out behavior and is even showing some behaviors that you appreciate, but you still feel like he isn’t a changed man? Do you still feel the distance between you? Like he doesn’t really see you?
Husbands, are you doing all the things your wife has requested and feel like you are moving forward in recovery, but she isn’t responding the way you hope or expect?
Today we are going to talk about an aspect of sexual betrayal recovery we’ve experienced and are now seeing in many of our clients and hearing it from our listeners who write in…Husbands who are sober, but not actively recovering. What’s the difference?
Join us as we unravel this common and sometimes confusing issue in marriages trying to recover from porn-fueled infidelity.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 27. Recovery Step 2: Porn Making You Crazy? Believing God Can Restore Your Sanity Episode 31. Recovery Step 4: Who Am I? A Fearless Search - The Origin of My Sex Addiction
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| 30 Dec 2024 | 86 | Recovering From Porn-Fueled Infidelity: Obstacles We Encountered This Year | 00:36:05 | |
As we approach the end of 2024, we find ourselves reflecting on the past year of recovery. Was this last year anything that we hoped or imagined it would be? What went well? What missed the mark of our expectations? What could we have done differently?
These are all good questions to ask ourselves in light of the upcoming New Year.
Our recovery journey from porn-fueled infidelity and betrayal trauma to true intimacy is no different. We must ask ourselves these types of questions if we are to stay on the path to regain what was lost, stolen, or given away.
So, grab your favorite holiday beverage and listen in as we reflect on this past year and share some harrowing obstacles we encountered and insights on what we learned along the way.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 62. Social Media Hack Triggers Trauma From Porn-Fueled Infidelity Episode 77. 4 Practical Steps for Vigilance in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Infidelity
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| 17 Jun 2024 | 58 | Purpose from Pain. Did Sexual Betrayal Destroy God’s Plan for Your Marriage? | 00:30:15 | |
Do you ever stop and wonder why? Why did this happen? Have you lamented, “Can anything good ever come of it?”
When the discovery of sexual betrayal threatens to destroy your marriage, you may think you won’t survive it. Then, if you have made the choice to stay and do the hard work of recovery, you start to see God working in your life and marriage to bring hope and healing. A little further down the road on this journey, you might see how much God has blessed you and wonder why others in this situation can’t seem to recover.
Today we will answer those questions and possibly give you a bigger vision of God’s greater purpose in our suffering. Grab a beverage and join us for a hopeful conversation.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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| 22 Apr 2024 | 50 | Are You Thriving or Just Surviving in Marriage After Sexual Betrayal | 00:40:23 | |
Is your marriage thriving after sexual betrayal? Maybe not. Maybe you are just surviving.
You might just be at the beginning of the journey to healing and still don’t even know if you want to stay married. Maybe you and your spouse have been working hard on recovering from this devastation, but you aren’t really connecting in a fulfilling way yet. Or, maybe you have reached a point as a couple where you feel like you have a brand-new marriage, and it’s better than the one you had before betrayal and addiction.
We fall into this last category, but that doesn’t mean we don’t still have very hard days. Can a marriage thrive even while experiencing recurring painful moments from the past? And might this be a marker for how well a marriage is thriving? We'll let you in on one of our recent really hard days and what it taught us.
Our prayer is that everyone listening to our podcast will eventually find the peace and joy of a marriage redeemed by God and made new. It is not easy getting here or staying here, but it is so worth the effort!
Join us today as we have a vulnerable conversation about thriving vs. surviving in marriage post sexual betrayal.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal Episode 23. 7 Steps to True Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal Episode 48. Closing the Gap - 3 Steps to Sexual Intimacy Episode 49. Sobriety vs. Recovery After Porn-Fueled Infidelity
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| 11 Mar 2024 | 44 | Fearing the Worst? How to Plan for Sex Addiction Slips & Relapses in Your Marriage | 00:50:44 | |
Ladies, now that you know your husband has been unfaithful and broken covenant with you; maybe through pornography use, maybe it even escalated to being sexually active outside of your marriage, I want to ask you, what is your biggest fear?
If you are like me, you are afraid that he will do it again. This is a very real and natural thing to be concerned about. Trust me, if it happened once, it can happen again.
Now, if your spouse is in recovery and making good, steady forward progress, it may be easier for you to keep that fear at bay. A track record of trustworthiness is wonderful and comforting. It creates safety for you and brings stability to your marriage. But also, like me, you may eventually get to a place where he’s doing so well that you don’t think it will happen again and your hopeful optimism can produce an emotional crisis when a slip in recovery occurs.
So, what happens next? What do we do? These are natural questions to ask and hard to answer when we are blindsided with the reality of persistent sexual integrity issues. This is why we’re going to spend some time talking about Slips and Relapses and the importance of having a Relapse Plan if we find ourselves in that precarious position.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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Episode 6. Setting Boundaries After Sexual Betrayal in Marriage When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology
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| 12 Aug 2024 | 66 | 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #2 Prioritize Her | 00:38:27 | |
We all have priorities, whether we make them intentionally or they exist by default. At times our priorities can be misguided and cause pain for ourselves and for others. We also understand that priorities are important and it’s necessary to have them in the right order.
And for a betrayed wife, it’s imperative to know that she is a priority to her husband.
Today as we continue in our series, we will cover a wife’s need to feel she is more important to her husband than anyone or anything else on the planet. We will be outlining 4 ways a recovering husband can make this a reality for his wife.
So, grab a cool beverage, pop in your ear bud, and join us for this important discussion.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES: Episode 49. Sobriety vs. Recovery After Porn-Fueled Infidelity Episode 64. 5 Things A Betrayed Wife Needs From Her Recovering Husband (Series) Episode 65. 5 Things A Betrayed Wife Needs…(Series) - #1 See Her Pain
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