Babe Philosophy (Meli Wolf and Liv Wickedly)

Summary

The conversation explores the meaning of suffering and why we all experience it. It delves into the idea that suffering is a path of transmutation and a catalyst for growth and evolution. The speakers discuss how suffering arises from rejecting paradoxes in life and the importance of accepting and embracing contrasting experiences. They also highlight the danger of avoiding suffering, as it can lead to a low-grade state of constant suffering. The conversation references the story of Prince Siddhartha, who deliberately chose to experience suffering to gain depth and context in his life. Suffering can be a powerful force that leads to personal growth and transformation. It can be an opportunity for self-discovery, emotional regulation, and developing agency over one's own life. Suffering in vain is when one suffers without purpose or meaning, while suffering with meaning is when one chooses to suffer for the sake of a desired outcome or personal growth. By embracing suffering and finding purpose in it, individuals can experience joy and fulfillment.

Keywords

suffering, meaning, transmutation, growth, evolution, paradoxes, contrast, avoidance, constant suffering, Prince Siddhartha, suffering, personal growth, transformation, self-discovery, emotional regulation, agency, purpose, meaning, joy, fulfillment

Takeaways

• Suffering is a path of transmutation and a catalyst for growth and evolution.
• Rejecting paradoxes in life can lead to suffering, as it creates a state of resistance and inability to accept contrasting experiences.
• Avoiding suffering can result in a low-grade state of constant suffering and a lack of fulfillment in life.
• Embracing suffering allows for depth, context, and a more holistic experience of life.
• Deliberately choosing to experience suffering can lead to personal growth and transformation. Suffering can lead to personal growth and transformation
• Suffering in vain is when one suffers without purpose or meaning
• Suffering with meaning is when one chooses to suffer for a desired outcome or personal growth
• Embracing suffering and finding purpose in it can lead to joy and fulfillment

Sound Bites

"Suffering is the path of transmutation, taking experiential lead, walking the path of suffering."

"Suffering gives us context through which to understand the world."

"Accepting paradox becomes frenetic in someone's experience. It feels impossible."

"You're just scared of your own feelings, which means you're scared of yourself."

"Suffering can lead to this beautiful, intimate experience with your internal ecosystem."

"Suffering for the sake of suffering is suffering in vain."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Existential Question

02:57 The Meaning of Suffering

08:07 Avoiding Suffering

12:55 Accepting Paradoxes

26:19 Introduction

29:04 Finding Meaning in Suffering for Personal Growth

36:03 Suffering as an Opportunity for Self-Discovery

44:44 Taking Responsibility for Our Own Happiness

50:27 Suffering as the Liquid State of Transformation

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Summary

In this episode of Babe Philosophy, hosts Meli Wolfe and Liv Wickedly delve into the complex relationship individuals have with their diagnoses. They explore how these labels can become prisons, impacting self-identity and mental health. Meli shares her personal struggles with a recurring skin infection, while Liv discusses her experience with chronic sciatic pain. The conversation highlights the interplay between body and mind, the societal narratives surrounding health, and the dangers of becoming attached to diagnoses. Ultimately, they encourage listeners to view their health journeys as invitations for growth and self-discovery, emphasizing the importance of surrender and empowerment in the healing process.

Takeaways

• We often attach our identities to our diagnoses.
• Diagnoses can become prisons that limit our potential.
• The body and mind are interconnected in health.
• Cultural narratives can stigmatize disability and illness.
• Surrendering to our experiences can lead to healing.
• Diagnoses should be seen as invitations to explore.
• The power of belief can influence healing outcomes.
• Pain can teach us about our capabilities.
• We must challenge the narratives we create around our health.
• True healing involves both body and mind.

Sound Bites

• "Are we addicted to our diagnoses?"
• "I am not my diagnosis."
• "The body and mind are constantly in interplay."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Diagnoses and Identity

02:55 Meli's Personal Experience with Diagnosis

09:04 The Psychological Impact of Diagnoses

10:25 The Interplay of Body and Mind

15:04 The Role of Control in Health

21:14 Cultural Narratives and Health

27:07 The Slippery Slope of Diagnoses

30:53 The Power of Belief in Healing

34:44 Addiction to Diagnoses

38:28 The Journey Beyond Diagnosis

41:51 Surrendering to the Process

46:23 Finding Power in Pain

50:42 The Invitation of Pain

55:13 Conclusion and Reflections on Healing

01:05:43 Outro

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Summary

In this conversation, Liv and Meli delve into the multifaceted nature of truth, exploring its definitions, implications, and how it intersects with personal beliefs and societal constructs. They discuss the difference between objective and subjective truths, the impact of religion and atheism on perceptions of truth, and the importance of embodying truth as an expansive energy. The conversation emphasizes the need for flexibility in understanding truth, allowing for personal truths while recognizing the validity of others' experiences. Ultimately, they advocate for a more fluid and inclusive approach to truth that fosters connection and reduces friction in interpersonal interactions.

Takeaways

• Truth can range from objective reality to loving awareness.
• Objective truths help create social agreements and shared experiences.
• Subjective truths can be filtered through love and consciousness.
• All truths are a half truth, reflecting the complexity of reality.
• Limiting beliefs can create friction and suffering in our lives.
• Embodying truth means holding space for all perspectives.
• Truth is an expansive energy that we all have access to.
• Recognizing personal truths can lead to greater self-acceptance.
• Flexibility in understanding truth fosters connection and intimacy.
• The journey of understanding truth is ongoing and ever-evolving.

Sound Bites

• "There's room for all of it."
• "Great for you, not for me."
• "What is truth?"

Chapters

00:00 Exploring the Concept of Truth

10:46 The Intersection of Truth and Religion

19:17 Truth as an Embodiment and Energy

21:34 Exploring the Nature of Truth

27:58 The Impact of Perspective on Truth

34:05 Navigating Personal Truths and Limiting Beliefs

39:33 Embracing a Spectrum of Truths

44:19 Outro

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Summary

Babe Philosophy is a podcast that explores real conversations based on real life experiences and real questions. The hosts, Meli and Liv, approach topics from a philosophical perspective, encouraging listeners to ask questions and think critically. They believe that questions matter more than answers and that the journey of inquiry is essential for personal growth. They revere liminal spaces, embracing the discomfort and uncertainty that comes with growth and change. The podcast aims to create a holistic understanding of life and the human experience, while also infusing a sense of magic and wonder into everyday moments. The hosts invite listeners to participate and share their own questions and experiences.

Takeaways

• Questions matter more than answers
• Embrace and revere liminal spaces
• Approach life with a sense of magic and wonder
• Engage in real conversations based on real experiences
• Encourage critical thinking and personal growth

Sound Bites

"Embracing the Power of Questions"

"Legally Blonde meets Marcus Aurelius"

"Real Conversations, Real Experiences"

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Excitement

03:02 First Existential Thoughts as Children

15:32 The Importance of Questions over Answers

22:44 The Purpose of the Podcast

24:26 Embracing Liminal Spaces: Airports and Road Trips

26:07 The Magic of Taking Action and Surrendering

28:26 Practical Magic: Being a Powerful Creator

31:18 Philosophy as Expanding the Aperture on Humanity

43:38 Babe Philosophy: Relatability and Playful Discussions

Keywords

podcast, philosophy, real conversations, real life experiences, questions, critical thinking, personal growth, liminal spaces, discomfort, uncertainty, holistic understanding, magic, wonder

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Summary

In this conversation, Liv and Meli discuss the concept of love and how it is not blind. They explore the idea that love is synonymous with truth and that the societal depiction of love in movies is a distortion of what love truly is. They emphasize that love is unconditional and accepting things as they are. They also discuss the importance of knowing oneself and finding one's authentic expression of love. They share personal experiences of trying to fit into fairy tale versions of themselves and how it led to confusion and pain in their relationships. They highlight the need to sit with oneself and embrace the void in order to discover one's true desires and move towards authentic love. In this conversation, Liv and Meli discuss the concepts of the damsel and the maiden. They explore how the damsel is a shadow expression of the maiden, characterized by neediness, desperation, and victimhood. They question whether the damsel is an innate expression of femininity or a learned maladaptation. Meli shares her belief that the damsel is a distortion of the maiden, which is the true expression of the divine feminine. They discuss how society and personal experiences can lead to the development of the damsel complex. They also explore how the maiden embodies qualities such as self-sufficiency, authenticity, and a deep connection to oneself and the world around them. Liv and Meli emphasize the importance of loving oneself first and taking responsibility for one's own experiences in order to transition from the damsel to the maiden.

Keywords

love, truth, fairy tale, self-discovery, relationships, damsel, maiden, femininity, shadow expression, victimhood, self-sufficiency, authenticity, self-love

Takeaways

• Love is not blind, but rather synonymous with truth.
• The societal depiction of love in movies is a distortion of what love truly is.
• Love is unconditional and accepting things as they are.
• Knowing oneself and finding one's authentic expression of love is crucial.
• Trying to fit into fairy tale versions of oneself can lead to confusion and pain in relationships.
• Sitting with oneself and embracing the void is necessary for self-discovery and authentic love. The damsel is a shadow expression of the maiden, characterized by neediness, desperation, and victimhood.
• The damsel may be a learned maladaptation of the maiden, rather than an innate expression of femininity.
• Society and personal experiences can lead to the development of the damsel complex.
• The maiden embodies qualities such as self-sufficiency, authenticity, and a deep connection to oneself and the world.
• Loving oneself first and taking responsibility for one's own experiences are key to transitioning from the damsel to the maiden.

Sound Bites

"Know thyself, finding your energetic path of least resistance"

"The damsel is like this shadow expression of the maiden who is also very connected to her emotions and also very connected to her feminine, but in a leaky way where it's like needy or desperate."

"The damsel is not an innate expression of femininity that we need to alchemize as women. I truly believe that what happens is, like you were saying, we actually start as expressions of the divine."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Reflection on Growth

02:28 Is Love Actually Blind?

03:11 Love as Truth and Acceptance

09:19 Knowing Oneself and Finding the Path of Least Resistance

13:57 The Breaking Point as an Opportunity

29:53 Embracing the Damsel Archetype

34:41 The Importance of Authenticity in Relationships

36:32 The Dangers of Societal Ideals

36:59 The Importance of Expressing Emotions in Relationships

38:49 The Distortion of the Damsel

45:24 Taking Responsibility for Your Experience

50:52 Embodying the Maiden

57:52 Self-Love and Fulfilling Relationships

01:05:14 Transitioning from Damsel to Maiden

01:09:55 Outro

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Summary

In this episode, Liv and Meli explore the profound impact of gratitude on happiness and longevity. They discuss how practicing gratitude can transform one's perspective, helping individuals navigate difficult emotions and experiences. The conversation emphasizes the importance of authenticity in gratitude practices, encouraging listeners to connect deeply with their feelings of gratitude rather than merely going through the motions. They also address the potential pitfalls of using gratitude as a means of gaslighting oneself, urging listeners to maintain honesty in their gratitude practices.

Takeaways

Gratitude can lead to increased happiness and longevity.

Practicing gratitude is essential, especially during tough times.

Authenticity in gratitude practices enhances their effectiveness.

Gratitude can serve as a tool for perspective and self-reflection.

It's important to feel gratitude genuinely, not just performatively.

Gratitude helps in navigating difficult emotions and experiences.

A consistent gratitude practice can shift your overall lens on life.

Gratitude can help you identify when to let go of unhealthy situations.

Being specific in gratitude practices enhances their impact.

Gratitude should not be used to justify unhealthy situations.

Sound Bites

"Gratitude is a tool for perspective."

"You get to be happy right fucking now."

"Honesty is specific."

Chapters

00:00 The Importance of Gratitude

03:08 Practicing Gratitude in Daily Life

06:15 Authenticity in Gratitude

09:05 Navigating Difficult Emotions with Gratitude

11:58 Gratitude as a Tool for Perspective

15:05 Gratitude and Self-Reflection

17:58 The Balance of Gratitude and Honesty

20:48 Avoiding Gratitude Gaslighting

25:57 Outro

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Summary

In this episode of Babe Philosophy, Meli and Liv explore the complex question of whether looks matter in society. They discuss individual perspectives on attractiveness, the role of energy and self-care in how we present ourselves, and the importance of authenticity versus external validation. The conversation delves into the journey of self-acceptance and the impact of self-love on attraction, while also addressing societal beauty standards and the dichotomy of beauty and intelligence. Ultimately, they emphasize that true beauty comes from making choices that align with one's authentic self and the power of self-care in enhancing attractiveness.

Keywords

looks, beauty, self-acceptance, authenticity, self-love, attraction, societal standards, personal experiences, body positivity, self-care

Takeaways

• Looks matter if that person says they matter.
• Self-perception influences how we present ourselves to the world.
• Energy and self-care significantly impact attractiveness.
• Authenticity is more important than conforming to societal standards.
• Self-love is essential for feeling beautiful and attracting others.
• The journey to self-acceptance is complex and personal.
• People can sense when someone is being authentic versus seeking validation.
• True beauty is an expression of one's authentic self.
• Making choices for oneself enhances attractiveness.
• The way we care for ourselves reflects in our physical appearance.

Sound Bites

• "Do looks actually matter?"
• "Looks matter if that person says they matter."
• "It's more of an energetic thing."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction

00:35 The Question of Whether Looks Matter

02:51 The Subjectivity of Attractiveness

04:06 Authenticity and Self-Care in Appearance

07:39 Dressing for Love vs Dressing from Love

28:15 The Power of Authenticity and Self-Expression in Looks

37:08 Choosing What Feels Right for You

40:27 The Complexities of the Body Positivity Movement

43:24 True Beauty Comes from Authentic Choices

48:34 Acceptance and Non-Judgment in Body Positivity

51:14 Outro

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Summary

In this episode, Meli and Liv discuss the concept of attachments and why we have them. They define attachment as an energetic tie or cord to some element of our existence, such as a characteristic, an outcome, or a belief. They explore the evolutionary purpose of attachments and how they help us survive and interact with our environment. They also discuss the benefits of having attachments, such as providing focus and motivation. However, they caution against becoming too attached to outcomes and emphasize the importance of surrender and flexibility. They also highlight the need to be conscious of our attachments and the emotions they trigger, as well as the potential for attachments to become unhealthy and restrictive. In this conversation, Liv and Meli discuss attachments and their role in our lives. Liv shares a childhood experience of receiving a B grade and feeling devastated because she was attached to being perfect. They discuss the importance of allowing disappointment and failure to move through us and the need to shift our perspective on attachments. They explore the idea of preferences and how they can both limit and clarify our experiences. They suggest that attachments can serve as a funnel or bumper lane to guide us in a certain direction, but it's important to choose attachments consciously and allow them to be of service to us.

Keywords

attachment, energetic tie, characteristic, outcome, belief, evolutionary purpose, survival, environment, focus, motivation, surrender, flexibility, conscious, emotions, unhealthy, restrictive, attachments, preferences, disappointment, failure, perspective shift, perfection, childhood trauma, self-inquiry, self-acceptance, manifestation, energy, vibration, self-worth, self-love

Takeaways

• Attachments are energetic ties or cords to elements of our existence, such as characteristics, outcomes, or beliefs.
• Attachments have an evolutionary purpose and help us survive and interact with our environment.
• Attachments can provide focus and motivation, but it's important to avoid becoming too attached to specific outcomes.
• Surrender and flexibility are key in navigating attachments and allowing for growth and change.
• Being conscious of our attachments and the emotions they trigger is important for personal growth and well-being. Attachments can be intense and have a significant impact on our lives, especially when we are attached to perfection or specific outcomes.
• Allowing disappointment and failure to move through us and shifting our perspective on attachments can help us navigate challenges and setbacks.
• Preferences can both limit and clarify our experiences, and it's important to find a balance between being open to different possibilities and having some preferences to reduce decision fatigue.
• Attachments can serve as a funnel or bumper lane to guide us in a certain direction, but it's crucial to choose attachments consciously and allow them to be of service to us.
• Choosing love for our attachments and ego can help us navigate them in a healthier and more empowering way.

Sound Bites

• "An attachment is an energetic tie or cord to some element of my existence."
• "Attachments are something we perceive we need to survive."
• "Attachments help us move in directions and interact with our environment."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction: What is Attachment?

06:11 The Evolutionary Perspective on Attachments

08:49 The Benefits of Attachments

12:12 Differentiating Beneficial Attachments from Detrimental Ones

15:45 Recognizing and Detaching from Attachments

23:42 Recognizing the Effects of Attachments

25:50 The Power of Attachments

28:48 The Influence of Attachments

32:05 Detaching from Attachments

35:05 The Role of Preferences

39:09 Embodying the Energy of Manifestation

44:53 Choosing Love and Positive Attachment

51:54 Outro

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Summary

In this episode of Babe Philosophy, Liv and Meli discuss intuition and how to recognize it. They describe intuition as a voice of clarity that guides and speaks to us, similar to a fairy godmother or guardian angel. They explore the challenge of distinguishing intuition from other voices within ourselves, such as the internal family system. Meli shares her experience of intuition as a discerning voice that speaks without emotion or urgency, while Liv emphasizes the importance of stillness and the absence of rush in intuitive messages. They also discuss the role of fear as a compass and how fear can indicate areas for growth and expansion. The conversation highlights the need to strengthen the intuition muscle through consistent practice and intentional focus. The conversation explores the topic of staying connected to intuition and trusting it, even when it seems like everything is falling apart. It emphasizes the importance of not rushing and not being fueled by fear. The speakers discuss the misconception that intuition will make you lazy and argue that intuition actually clears the path for what is meant for you. They share personal experiences and highlight the need to shift our relationship with fear and see it in a different light. The conversation concludes with the reminder to trust ourselves and build a strong relationship with our intuition.

Takeaways

• Intuition is a voice of clarity that guides and speaks to us, similar to a fairy godmother or guardian angel.
• Distinguishing intuition from other voices within ourselves, such as the internal family system, can be challenging.
• Intuition often speaks without emotion or urgency, and it is not driven by excitement or attachment.
• Fear can serve as a compass, indicating areas for growth and expansion.
• Strengthening the intuition muscle requires consistent practice and intentional focus. Intuition is not urgent and does not require rushing. Urgency often comes from fear-based decision-making.
• Fear can be seen as fuel, but it is more beneficial to move from a place of trust and clarity.
• Intuition does not make you lazy or complacent. It clears the path for what is meant for you.
• When following intuition, things may fall apart before they get better. This is a purging period to release what is not aligned.
• Trusting yourself and your intuition is key, even when the external world seems chaotic.
• The liminal space between receiving an intuitive hit and its manifestation is an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.
• Building a strong relationship with your intuition and practicing listening to it is the magic that leads to alignment and authenticity.

Sound Bites

• "Intuition is a voice that speaks not from a place of emotion ever."
• "Fear is my compass."
• "How do we stay connected to our intuition and trust it when it literally looks like everything you're doing is burning your world down?"
• "Fear is an invitation to move into trust and to move towards dissolving the belief of what's going to happen if I don't whatever ⁓"
• "You might move the same pace as you would if you were being fueled by, I'm afraid I'll fail, but it's gonna be infinitely more successful."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Crochet Knit Earrings

02:08 Exploring the Concept of Intuition

03:21 Differentiating Intuition from Other Voices

07:39 The Role of the Internal Family System

13:05 Connecting with Intuition and Overcoming Fear

19:16 The Origin of Meli's Tattoo: Fear as a Compass

28:15 Building Intuition as a Muscle

37:08 The Role of Fear and Urgency in Intuition

37:29 Moving from Fear to Trust

50:44 The Slow Way is the Fast Way

55:39 Trusting Intuition in Relationships

01:04:17 The Liminal Space Between Intuition and Manifestation

01:07:43 The Magic of Building a Relationship with Intuition

01:09:25 Outro

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Summary

In this episode, Liv discusses the challenges of navigating tough times, sharing her personal experiences with grief, loss, and collective pain. She emphasizes the importance of maintaining hope and dignity, drawing inspiration from Viktor Frankl's philosophy on finding meaning in suffering. Liv encourages listeners to focus on their inner strength and perspective, reminding them that they have the power to shape their experiences even in the face of adversity.

Takeaways

• Times are tough, and it's okay to feel overwhelmed.
• Grief can be a long and difficult process.
• Viktor Frankl's teachings on hope and dignity are powerful.
• We can find meaning in our suffering.
• It's important to focus on what we can control.
• Empowerment comes from our perspective on challenges.
• We all have an indomitable spirit within us.
• Finding light in dark times is essential.
• We should nurture our strengths during tough times.
• Engaging with art and loved ones can be healing.

Sound Bites

• "I've been in grief all year."
• "How do you stoke that inner light?"
• "I can find a silver lining."

Chapters

00:00 Navigating Tough Times

08:52 Finding Meaning in Adversity

09:22 Outro

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Summary

In this engaging conversation, Liv and Meli interview Leola Watkins, the author of Sacred Sex Ed. They explore the themes of sacred sexuality, the journey of reading the book, the importance of tantra, and the dynamics of open relationships. Leola shares her insights on creating safe spaces for sexual exploration and the significance of self-trust in relationships. The discussion also delves into the SPREAD framework for safer sex conversations and the exploration of dark desires. The episode concludes with Leola's purpose behind writing the book and her vision for integrating spirituality and sexuality.

About Leola Watkins

Leola is a Pleasure Priestess & the best-selling author of Sacred Sex Ed, inspiring others to see an integration of sexuality and spirituality. She guides individuals and couples in discovering how life-force energy moves in the body; and more importantly, how to harness this inner-power for a pleasure-filled life that begins with our most intimate relationships and extends to our livelihood and our worldview.

In her early 20s, Leola discovered tantra and shamanic sexuality as modalities to heal her relationship to her body, process past sexual assault, and create a life she loves.

She is now dedicated to guiding others to be turned on by life itself, find God in their body, and seduce the world into a greater good.

Book: https://www.talktantratome.com/book

Website: https://www.talktantratome.com/

IG: @talktantratome

Keywords

Sacred Sex Ed, Tantra, Sexuality, Relationships, Open Relationships, Vulnerability, Healing, Journal Prompts, SPREAD, Community

Takeaways

• Sacred sexuality can be made accessible and playful.
• Vulnerability is the birthplace of magic and love.
• Understanding your own desires is crucial for empowerment.
• The SPREAD framework helps create safety in intimate conversations.
• Self-trust is essential in navigating relationships.
• Tantra is about expansion and liberation.
• Journal prompts can lead to significant breakthroughs.
• Open relationships require clear communication and agreements.
• Exploring dark desires can be empowering when done safely.
• The integration of spirituality and sexuality is vital for healing.

Sound Bites

• "It was a very confronting experience."
• "I wanted to make sacred sexuality more accessible."
• "I am the contributor of this reality."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Sacred Sex Ed

03:07 The Journey of Writing the Book

05:59 Personal Experiences and Confrontations

09:14 Understanding Tantra and Vital Life Force Energy

11:58 The Role of Journal Prompts in Self-Discovery

15:14 Navigating Relationships and Authenticity

18:09 Exploring Open Relationships and Jealousy

21:10 The SPREAD Framework for Safer Sex Conversations

27:05 Addressing Taboo Fantasies and Desires

30:02 Finding Community and Play Parties

36:09 The Impact of Sacred Sex Ed

38:48 Future Parenting and Sex Education

01:07:58 Outro

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Summary

In this enlightening conversation, Dr. Amelia May, a pelvic floor physical therapist, discusses the importance of understanding and caring for the pelvic floor. The episode covers various topics including the anatomy and function of the pelvic floor, common misconceptions about pelvic health, the role of Kegels, and the emotional connections tied to pelvic health. Listeners learn about postpartum incontinence, menstrual pain, and the benefits of internal manipulation. The discussion emphasizes the need for individualized care and the importance of self-awareness and breathing techniques in maintaining pelvic health.

About Dr. Amelia May

Dr. Amelia has been practicing in pelvic health for many years now and is passionate about empowering folks to feel their best at all stages of life, especially exercise lovers & athletes. Prior to being in the pelvic health world, she practiced in orthopedic physical therapy, when she decided to make the switch as her career interests shifted when she learned about the incredible approach at Genesis PT & Wellness!

In her free time, Amelia enjoys being outside in the sunshine with her dog & husband, whether that is hiking/going on a walk, playing pickleball or sand volleyball, or hanging out with friends & family. She is an avid reader - her favorite genres are fantasy, romance and mysteries - and she loves going to concerts regularly (if you compliment her music in her treatment room, you'll really make her day)! She is excited to wake up seeing the mountains in the distance every day!

• Instagram: @dr.amelia_dpt
• Website: http://www.genesisptwellness.com/colorado
• Pelvic Wand for self-assessment (as mentioned in show): https://www.intimaterose.com/collections/pelvic-wands *AMELIA2 gets you $5 off purchase if people want a discount code

Takeaways

• The pelvic floor is a group of muscles that plays a crucial role in overall health.
• Many people are unaware of their pelvic floor and its importance.
• Kegels are often misunderstood and may not be the best solution for everyone.
• Postpartum incontinence is common but not normal; it can be addressed.
• Menstrual pain is often dismissed, but it can indicate underlying issues.
• Internal manipulation can provide valuable insights into pelvic health.
• Self-evaluation and home practices can help individuals connect with their pelvic floor.
• Emotional stress can manifest physically in the pelvic area.
• Breathing techniques can help relax the pelvic floor and improve function.
• The pelvic floor can significantly impact sexual health and overall well-being.

Sound Bites

"The body is crazy, right?"

"Common, but not normal."

"Pussy power, baby!"

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Pelvic Health and Its Importance

03:16 Understanding the Pelvic Floor

06:13 Common Misconceptions About Pelvic Health

09:12 The Role of Kegels and Pelvic Floor Therapy

12:20 Pain Management and Menstrual Health

15:24 Nutrition and Hormonal Health

18:14 Cycle Awareness and Physical Activity

21:08 Internal Manipulation and Its Benefits

31:05 Understanding Pelvic Floor Tension

34:44 Self-Assessment and Home Remedies

38:04 Emotional Connections to the Pelvic Floor

42:20 The Interconnectedness of Body and Mind

48:39 Breath and Relaxation Techniques

50:23 The Magic of the Pelvic Floor

54:56 Outro

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Summary

In this episode of Babe Philosophy, Liv and Meli explore the profound impact of language on our psyche and relationships, focusing on the words 'but' and 'yes, and'. They discuss how using 'but' can negate and limit conversations, while 'yes, and' fosters inclusivity and connection. The conversation delves into self-reflection, the importance of internal dialogue, and how these concepts apply to real-life interactions. Through personal anecdotes and insights, they emphasize the transformative power of language in shaping our experiences and relationships.

Takeaways

Using 'but' negates and limits conversations.

'Yes, and' fosters inclusivity and connection.

Your language reflects your worldview.

The more you use 'but', the more you are stuck in your own reality.

Self-awareness in language can transform your experience.

'Yes, and' can change the energy of a conversation.

Inclusivity in language leads to personal growth.

Hurt people hurt people; narrow worldviews perpetuate conflict.

Real-life applications of 'yes, and' can resolve conflicts.

Language shapes our internal dialogue and self-perception.

Sound Bites

"There's always, always an 'and.'"

"Hurt people hurt people."

"You can't hide your buts from us."

Chapters

00:00 The Power of Words: Introduction to 'But' vs 'And'

03:16 Improv and Communication: The Impact of 'But'

06:25 Self-Reflection: The Role of Language in Self-Concept

09:18 Creating Space: The Alpha Beyond Alpha

12:12 Internal Dialogue: Shifting from 'But' to 'And'

15:04 Real-Life Applications: Yes And in Conversations

18:09 Awareness and Intention: The Key to Effective Communication

21:08 Recap and Conclusion: The Journey from 'But' to 'And'

23:51 Outro

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Summary

In this conversation, Meli and Liv explore the complex relationship humans have with their emotions, discussing the historical context of emotional expression, the conditioning that leads to fear of emotions, and the importance of emotional literacy. They emphasize the need for self-compassion and responsibility in navigating emotional experiences, and how emotions can serve as a compass for personal growth and understanding. The discussion also highlights the messiness of emotional integration and the significance of recognizing emotions as a natural part of the human experience.

Keywords

emotions, fear of emotions, emotional intelligence, emotional processing, self-awareness, emotional literacy, responsibility, self-compassion, emotional expression, mental health

Takeaways

• We are conditioned to fear our emotions due to societal norms.
• Understanding emotions is crucial for personal growth.
• Emotions are unique and can vary greatly between individuals.
• The historical context shows a shift in how emotions are expressed.
• Self-compassion is essential in navigating emotional experiences.
• Taking responsibility for our emotions empowers us.
• Emotions can serve as a compass for decision-making.
• The inquiry process helps in understanding our emotions better.
• It's important to allow emotions to be messy and complex.
• Emotional literacy is vital for healthy relationships.

Sound Bites

• "We're conditioned to be afraid of our emotions."
• "The unknown of emotions is what scares us."

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Our Fear of Emotions

04:24 The Historical Context of Emotional Expression

08:44 The Evolution of Emotional Awareness

13:50 Navigating Personal Emotional Experiences

19:06 The Inquiry Process for Emotional Understanding

26:52 Taking Responsibility for Our Emotions

47:16 The Power of Emotional Responsibility

57:34 Outro

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Summary

In this episode, Liv and Meli discuss codependency and their personal experiences with it. They define codependency as feeling dependent on someone else or something outside of oneself for one's well-being. They explore different manifestations of codependency, such as clinginess and neediness, as well as being the 'cool girl' or the 'mother' figure. They also discuss the fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses that can occur in codependent relationships. Liv and Meli share their own experiences of codependency in romantic partnerships and how it has affected their sense of self-worth and abandonment fears. They emphasize the importance of recognizing and addressing codependency in relationships and offer strategies for navigating codependent behaviors. Codependency is a common human tendency that can manifest in various ways. It is not something to be eradicated but rather managed and navigated with grace. Recognizing and acknowledging codependent behaviors is the first step towards creating healthier relationships. Practicing equanimity and being true to oneself while considering the needs of others is key. Shifting agreements rather than breaking them is important for maintaining trust and creating interdependence. Being your word to yourself and showing up for yourself is crucial in breaking the cycle of codependency.

Keywords

codependency, clinginess, neediness, survival instinct, fight, flight, freeze, fawn, abandonment, self-worth, attachment styles, people-pleasing, defensiveness, communication, codependent relationships, equanimity, interdependence, shifting agreements, trust, self-love

Takeaways

• Codependency is feeling dependent on someone else or something outside of oneself for one's well-being.
• Codependency can manifest as clinginess, neediness, or the 'cool girl' persona.
• The fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses are common in codependent relationships.
• Codependency often stems from childhood wounds and can lead to feelings of abandonment and low self-worth.
• Recognizing and addressing codependency is crucial for healthy relationships.
• Open communication and addressing the underlying energetics of codependent behaviors can help navigate them. Codependency is a common human tendency that can be managed and navigated with grace.
• Recognizing and acknowledging codependent behaviors is the first step towards creating healthier relationships.
• Practicing equanimity and being true to oneself while considering the needs of others is key.
• Shifting agreements rather than breaking them is important for maintaining trust and creating interdependence.
• Being your word to yourself and showing up for yourself is crucial in breaking the cycle of codependency.

Sound Bites

• "Codependency is when you feel dependent on somebody else, or something outside of yourself for your state of well-being."
• "Codependency results in people pleasing of some form or other."
• "Codependency is a maladaptive way to respond to this stimulus."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

01:42 Chapter 1: Understanding Codependency

03:10 Chapter 2: Manifestations of Codependency

09:49 Chapter 3: The Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn Responses

18:01 Chapter 4: Codependency and People-Pleasing

26:52 Chapter 5: Addressing Codependency

35:24 Understanding Codependency

45:18 Managing Codependency

48:26 Self-Love and Interdependence

54:16 Honesty and Vulnerability in Relationships

01:01:27 Effective Communication in Codependent Dynamics

01:04:38 Cleaning Up Codependent Patterns

01:08:14 Codependency as a Path to Freedom

01:08:42 Outro

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Summary

In this solo podcast episode, Meli discusses the challenges of navigating tough times, emphasizing the importance of normalizing struggles and recognizing that everyone faces difficulties. She shares personal experiences related to body image, self-worth, and intimacy, highlighting the need to let go of perfection and meet oneself where they are. Meli encourages listeners to take small steps towards healing and self-acceptance, reminding them that they are not alone in their struggles.

Takeaways

• We're never alone in the sauce.
• Normalizing struggles is essential for mental health.
• Letting go of the ideal can lead to self-acceptance.
• Body image issues are common and can affect self-worth.
• Intimacy challenges are normal in relationships.
• Meeting yourself where you are is crucial for growth.
• It's okay to take small steps towards healing.
• Vulnerability can foster connection and understanding.
• Societal pressures can distort our self-perception.
• Finding balance is key to navigating tough times.

Sound Bites

"I had a major identity crisis."

"Meet yourself where you're at."

"Let go of the peak of the mountain."

Chapters

00:00 Navigating Tough Times Alone

07:35 Body Image and Self-Worth

12:41 The Complexity of Intimacy

18:18 Normalizing Vulnerability and Connection

22:16 Outro

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Summary

In this episode of Babe Philosophy, hosts Meli Wolf and Liv Wickedly explore the complex relationship between intuition and anxiety. They discuss personal experiences, the importance of having a supportive friend group, and practical steps to differentiate between the two. The conversation emphasizes the need for honesty, vulnerability, and the willingness to confront uncomfortable truths in order to connect with one's intuition. The hosts also highlight the significance of having a 'square squad'—a trusted circle of friends who can provide honest feedback and support during emotional turmoil.

Keywords

intuition, anxiety, emotional health, self-awareness, personal growth, friendship, truth, mental clarity, support system, self-discovery

Takeaways

• Intuition and anxiety can often be intertwined, making it difficult to differentiate between the two.
• Having a supportive friend group is essential for navigating emotional challenges.
• Honesty and transparency with oneself and others are crucial for personal growth.
• It's important to be willing to confront uncomfortable truths to connect with intuition.
• Making a mess is part of the process of self-discovery and understanding one's emotions.
• Your intuition doesn't prioritize safety; it focuses on your highest potential.
• When feeling anxious, pause and reflect before making decisions.
• Avoiding sharing with loved ones can indicate a disconnect from your intuition.
• The concept of a 'square squad' can help in receiving honest feedback.
• Choosing to be "wrong" can lead to greater self-awareness and clarity.

Sound Bites

• "I feel like fucking shit."
• "If it was easy, then I didn't actually need it."
• "Honesty is love."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Good Vibes

01:43 Intuition vs. Anxiety: A Deep Dive

02:37 Meli's Personal Experience with Intuition and Anxiety

09:15 The Role of Friends in Navigating Emotions

14:50 The Importance of Truth and Transparency

22:17 Practical Steps to Differentiate Intuition from Anxiety

30:50 Conclusion and Encouragement

31:40 Outro Graphics

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Summary

In this episode of Babe Philosophy, Liv and Meli delve into the complexities of grief, sharing their personal experiences and insights. They explore the nature of grief, its transformative power, and the importance of understanding its stages. The conversation highlights how grief can bring clarity and serve as a catalyst for healing, while also addressing the challenges of coping with loss. They discuss the role of nutrition in emotional well-being and the significance of conscious coping strategies. Ultimately, the episode emphasizes that grief, while painful, can lead to profound personal growth and connection.

Takeaways

• Grief is an unavoidable emotional experience that everyone faces.
• It can feel like a continuous cycle of loss, similar to dominoes falling.
• Grief often shakes the core of one's identity and self-perception.
• Experiencing grief can lead to unexpected clarity and truth.
• Grief can be a facilitator of various emotions, including sadness, anger, and joy.
• The stages of grief are not linear and can occur simultaneously.
• Grief can surface unresolved emotions from the past.
• Conscious coping is essential to navigate through grief effectively.
• Nutrition plays a significant role in emotional health during grief.
• Grief can be a transformative experience that offers opportunities for healing.

Sound Bites

"What is the point of grief?"

"Grief is the aftermath of loss."

"When it rains, it pours."

Chapters

00:00 Navigating Grief: A Personal Journey

07:51 Understanding the Nature of Grief

16:00 The Complexity of Grief Stages

24:01 Grief Beyond Loss: Emotional Insights

27:49 Navigating Grief and Emotional Awareness

40:15 Conscious Coping and Emotional Hygiene

47:25 Outro

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Summary

In this mini-episode, Liv and Meli discuss their experiences with codependency and how they have chosen to navigate it. Meli is working through her codependency triggers within a partnership, while Liv is choosing to work on it outside of a partnership. They emphasize the importance of willingness and mutual agreement in a partnership, as well as the need for self-reflection and self-acceptance. They also discuss the concept of clean fuel versus dirty fuel in relationships and the importance of staying soft and open. The key takeaways include having grace for oneself and one's partner, letting things be ugly, and staying soft and open in the process.

Keywords

codependency, partnership, triggers, willingness, mutual agreement, self-reflection, self-acceptance, clean fuel, dirty fuel, grace, staying soft, staying open

Takeaways

• Willingness and mutual agreement are important in navigating codependency within a partnership.
• Self-reflection and self-acceptance are crucial in working through codependency.
• The concept of clean fuel versus dirty fuel in relationships is important to consider.
• Staying soft and open is essential in the process of healing codependency.

Sound Bites

• "Let it be ugly."
• "I am the partner I seek"

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

00:49 Choosing Different Paths: Inside vs Outside a Partnership

02:19 The Importance of Willingness and Mutual Agreement in Partnership

04:11 Recognizing and Setting Boundaries for Well-being

08:17 Clean Fuel vs Dirty Fuel: Offering Acts of Service without Expectations

09:31 Staying Soft and Having Grace for Oneself and Their Partner

31:20 Outro

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Summary

In this conversation, Meli and Liv interview Dr. Megan Daley, who shares her transformative journey from a successful career in physical therapy to pursuing her true passions. The discussion explores the fears and societal pressures that often hold individuals back from following their dreams, emphasizing the importance of self-reflection, nervous system regulation, and the impact of personal transformation on the collective. Megan highlights the significance of understanding one's own definitions of success and happiness, and encourages listeners to embrace their unique paths, regardless of age or external validation.

About Dr. Megan Daley

Dr. Megan Daley is a transformative success coach for high-achieving women ready to regain their energy, freedom, & deep joy for life! After 10 years as a successful clinician, hitting burnout multiple times, and watching her dad die with regrets of living his life for everyone else, she realized the answer to that question gnawing at her gut saying “I checked the boxes, why do I feel like I’m missing something?” didn’t lie in any course or certification or “just take a vacation,” but rather in learning how to regulate her nervous system, hold boundaries, let go of her conditioning & what others think in order to find her authentic self & path.

She now helps countless others quickly move from burnout to badass with clarity & confidence through her signature launchpad sessions, group containers, self-discovery journal, and her podcast, Human On the Daley.

• Connect with me: instagram.com/drmegandaley
  
• Nervous system course: https://www.moveonthedaley.com/offers/GdWLWV5Q
• Journal: https://amzn.to/3Yj4mFO
• 1:1s: https://www.moveonthedaley.com/180

Takeaways

• It's never too late to follow your dreams.
• Success is subjective and should be defined by you.
• The fear of change often stems from societal conditioning.
• Self-reflection is crucial in identifying what truly makes you happy.
• Nervous system regulation can help reconnect you with your desires.
• Coaching can provide valuable support in your journey.
• The sunken cost fallacy can trap you in unfulfilling careers.
• Personal transformation has a ripple effect on those around you.
• Identifying signs of misalignment is key to making changes.
• Your worth is not defined by your job title or accolades.

Sound Bites

"I felt like such an imposter."

"The magic is you."

"Women are so fucking phenomenal!"

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Personal Evolution

02:39 Career Transitions and Realizations

06:20 Defining Success and Personal Fulfillment

08:51 Facing Mortality and Life's Regrets

13:05 The Sunken Cost Fallacy in Career Choices

14:05 Unraveling Identity and Career Paths

22:20 Helping Women Find Their Path

26:22 Reconnecting with Desires and Dreams

32:34 The Science Behind Tapping and Anxiety Management

34:14 Connecting with Your Body to Discover Desires

35:39 Identifying and Releasing Identity Attachments

39:12 The Concept of Divine Timing in Life

40:31 Impact vs. Recognition: What Truly Matters?

42:34 The Importance of Interpersonal Relationships

45:15 Aligning Career and Personal Life for Fulfillment

47:20 Navigating Transitions and Personal Growth

52:00 The Role of Coaching in Personal Development

58:33 Is It Ever Too Late to Follow Your Dreams?

01:00:05 Finding Your Magic and Authentic Path

01:01:50 Outro

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Summary

In this episode, Liv and Meli discuss the concept of the ego and its role in our lives. They explore the idea that the ego is not inherently bad, but rather a necessary part of being human. They emphasize the importance of understanding and integrating the ego, rather than trying to eradicate it. They also discuss the need for external validation and how it relates to the ego. Overall, they encourage listeners to have a healthy relationship with their ego and recognize its role in shaping their identity and experiences. The conversation explores the importance of recognizing and integrating the ego rather than trying to eradicate it. It emphasizes the need to give ourselves permission to have needs and ask for help. Making a mess and taking risks is encouraged as a way to break patterns and learn. The key takeaway is that it's okay to be imperfect and make mistakes, as long as we have the courage to clean up and learn from them.

Keywords

ego, human experience, survival mechanism, external validation, integration, needs, connection, love, ego, integration, needs, asking for help, making a mess, courage, imperfection, learning

Takeaways

• The ego is a survival mechanism that helps us navigate the human world.
• Trying to eradicate the ego is impossible and would mean eradicating our humanity.
• The ego is not inherently bad, but it can lead us astray when we become too attached to its demands.
• It's important to have a healthy relationship with the ego and recognize its role in shaping our identity and experiences.
• External validation is a basic human need, and it's okay to seek it.
• Understanding and integrating the ego is key to living a balanced and fulfilling life. Recognize and integrate the ego instead of trying to eradicate it
• Give yourself permission to have needs and ask for help
• Making a mess and taking risks is essential for growth and breaking patterns
• Embrace imperfection and have the courage to learn and clean up

Sound Bites

• "A more adaptive way of considering the ego is to look at it as a child."
• "We find the middle point where we can say, okay, if I look at my ego as a child, that doesn't quite understand how to approach life holistically yet because they haven't had enough experience."
• "Meditation is this beautiful place for the soul and the ego to meet and have a conversation."
• "I could start to hear the seven-year-old girl that really just wanted her mom to tell her that she's so proud of her."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Weird Mood

06:02 Viewing the Ego as a Child

07:55 Finding the Middle Point with the Ego

11:15 The Fallacy of Eradicating the Ego

15:31 Making an Ally of the Ego

18:54 The Dance Between Ego and External Validation

23:24 The Need for External Validation

27:28 Ego and Needs: Synonymous

32:08 Navigating Ego-Driven Needs

40:30 The Dance of Ego and Soul: Meeting Your Needs

42:47 Permission to Have Needs and Ask for Help

44:32 Breaking Patterns: Doing Something Different

48:17 The Beauty of Making a Mess and Being Incompetent

53:17 Self-Acceptance and Self-Compassion

55:57 Courage to Explore and Embrace All Aspects of Yourself

57:08 Outro

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Summary

In this conversation, Meli and Liv explore the nuanced definitions of selfishness and selflessness, challenging societal norms that label selfishness as negative. They discuss the importance of self-care and the need for individuals to prioritize their own needs to be able to contribute positively to the world. The conversation delves into childhood conditioning, the people-pleasing epidemic, and the journey from selflessness to a healthier form of selfishness, termed 'selffulness.' Liv shares her personal vows to herself as a powerful example of self-love and commitment to personal growth.

Keywords

selfishness, selflessness, selffulness, personal growth, self-care, childhood conditioning, people-pleasing, balance, relationships, empowerment

Takeaways

• Selfishness and selflessness are two ends of the same spectrum.
• Being selfish can be a form of self-care and empowerment.
• Childhood conditioning often leads to people-pleasing behaviors.
• Finding balance between selflessness and selfishness is crucial for personal growth.
• It's important to check in with oneself before giving to others.
• You can't pour from an empty cup; self-care is essential.
• The journey from selflessness to selfishness can involve a necessary swing.
• Selffulness is about being full enough to give to others authentically.
• Self-love is a vital part of being able to love others well.
• Creating a healed world requires individuals to be selfful.

Sound Bites

• "It's okay to be selfish."
• "We could save the world if each individual person just stopped looking for somebody to save them."
• "You can't give something you don't have."

Chapters

00:00 Defining Selfishness and Selflessness

05:51 The Importance of Self-Care

11:51 Cultural Conditioning and People-Pleasing

19:31 The Swing from Selflessness to Selfishness

27:17 Finding Balance in Relationships

33:45 The Role of Basic Needs

39:19 The Power of Selffullness

51:23 Liv's Vows to Herself

59:12 Outro

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Summary

In this conversation, Liv and Meli discuss the concept of the fairy tale and how it can kill magic. They explore their own personal fairy tales and the expectations and fantasies they had about relationships and life. They realize that these fantasies were not aligned with their true desires and were actually blinding them from seeing the truth. They also discuss how love is not blind, but rather a source of clarity. They emphasize the importance of addressing internal voids and not relying on external acquisitions to fill them. In this conversation, Meli and Liv discuss the concept of the fairy tale and how it can kill magic in our lives. They explore the liminal space, which is the realization that living in a fantasy is not serving us, and the magic that comes from letting go of that fantasy. They emphasize the importance of surrendering to different possibilities and being open to experiencing happiness in various ways. They also discuss the process of grieving the loss of the fairy tale and the need to feel the pain and let go. Overall, they encourage listeners to slow down, enjoy the present moment, and embrace the fullness of life.

Keywords

fairy tale, magic, expectations, fantasies, love, blind, voids, truth, clarity, fairy tale, liminal space, magic, surrender, letting go, grief, happiness, present moment

Takeaways

• The fairy tale is the fantasy or dream that we have about what our life should be like, often influenced by societal expectations and media.
• The magic is the feeling we anticipate getting from achieving the fairy tale, such as happiness, fulfillment, or validation.
• Love is not blind; it is a source of clarity and truth. It helps us see ourselves and our relationships more clearly.
• Fantasies and expectations can blind us from the truth and prevent us from addressing internal voids.
• It is important to recognize and address our own desires and needs instead of trying to fit into societal or external expectations. Living in a fantasy can prevent us from experiencing true happiness and fulfillment.
• The liminal space is the realization that our current worldview or fantasy is not serving us.
• Letting go of the fantasy and surrendering to different possibilities can lead to magic and new experiences.
• Grieving the loss of the fairy tale is necessary to fully let go and embrace the present moment.
• Slowing down and enjoying the journey is more important than rushing to achieve a specific outcome.

Sound Bites

• "Love is clarity, as far as I'm concerned."
• "This worldview doesn't serve me. So there must be, and now at this point when you're at rock bottom and I feel like this is why so many people have."
• "That's why so much alchemy happens in these dark places."
• "Maybe this isn't the thing that is true to me."

Chapters

00:00 The Impact of Fairy Tales on Love and Fulfillment

16:14 Navigating the Fantasy of a Perfect Life

32:42 The Journey of Rock Bottom and Surrender

43:13 Navigating the Liminal Space

01:01:55 The Transformative Power of Surrender and Openness

01:02:53 Outro

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Summary

In this conversation, Meli and Liv discuss the concept of unity and whether we are all one. They explore the idea of a liminal space, where we are both individuals and part of a larger whole. They discuss the positive effects of embracing unity, such as a sense of belonging and interconnectedness. However, they also highlight the potential negative effects of bypassing individual experiences and boundaries in the name of unity. They emphasize the importance of finding a balance and recognizing the power of choice in navigating the concept of unity. In this conversation, Meli and Liv discuss the difference between healthy boundaries and distorted boundaries. They emphasize the importance of understanding and setting boundaries that are authentic and not fear-based. They also explore the concept of separation and unity, highlighting that both are necessary and can coexist. They encourage individuals to embrace their individuality while also recognizing their interconnectedness with the collective. They stress the importance of integrity and being true to oneself, rather than blindly adopting ideas or concepts. Overall, the conversation promotes a balanced approach to personal growth and collective harmony.

Keywords

unity, liminal space, individuality, interconnectedness, boundaries, bypassing, choice, boundaries, healthy boundaries, distorted boundaries, separation, unity, individuality, interconnectedness, integrity, personal growth, collective harmony

Takeaways

• The concept of unity suggests that we are all connected and come from the same source.
• A liminal space allows for the paradox of being both individuals and part of a larger whole.
• Embracing unity can bring a sense of belonging and interconnectedness.
• Bypassing individual experiences and boundaries in the name of unity can have negative consequences.
• Finding a balance and recognizing the power of choice is important in navigating the concept of unity. Understanding the difference between healthy boundaries and distorted boundaries is crucial for personal growth and healthy relationships.
• Separation and unity are both important and can coexist. Embracing individuality while recognizing interconnectedness with the collective is key.
• Integrity is essential in navigating personal growth and adopting ideas or concepts. Being true to oneself and avoiding blind conformity is important.
• Balancing personal growth and collective harmony requires embracing both individuality and interconnectedness.
• Setting boundaries that are authentic and not fear-based is essential for maintaining healthy relationships and personal well-being.

Sound Bites

"We all come from one and we are here with the purpose of having an individual experience."

"Unity brings a sense of belonging and interconnectedness."

"Unity allows for harmonization and finding a center point."

"Is separation a bad thing?"

"We can best be one by being more of ourselves as individual ones."

"You're not special. You are just as special as everyone else."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Excitement

01:05 Exploring the Concept of Unity

10:48 The Negative Effects of Bypassing Individual Experiences

13:55 Finding Balance: Recognizing Interconnectedness and Honoring Individuality

29:08 The Importance of Individualization and Contribution

32:16 Finding Balance Between Individuality and Interconnectedness

44:38 Being Idea Agnostic: Open-Mindedness and Personal Growth

46:07 Integrity: Staying True to Oneself While Exploring Concepts

50:55 Taking Responsibility for Personal Growth and Impact

51:00 Recap of Previous Episode's Question

52:05 Exploring Liminal Space and Paradox

54:36 Outro

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Summary

In this conversation, Meli and Liv delve into the complex feelings surrounding the notion of being 'too much' in relationships, particularly from a female perspective. They explore how childhood experiences shape this identity, the impact of emotional intensity, and the struggle for self-acceptance. The discussion highlights the importance of self-compassion, mindfulness, and healthy boundaries, while also addressing the societal pressures that contribute to feelings of inadequacy. Through personal anecdotes and insights, they encourage listeners to navigate their emotional landscapes with grace and understanding.

Takeaways

• The phrase 'too much' is often internalized from childhood experiences.
• Emotional intensity can be overwhelming, but it's a part of being human.
• Self-compassion is crucial in managing feelings of being 'too much.'
• External validation can feed the narrative of inadequacy.
• It's important to recognize when you're being too much for yourself.
• Mindfulness helps in regulating emotional responses.
• Healthy boundaries are essential in relationships.
• The interplay of personal and societal expectations shapes our identities.
• Reframing the narrative around 'too muchness' can lead to empowerment.
• Healing from the 'too much' identity is a journey of self-discovery.

Sound Bites

"You're just way too much."

"I feel like I'm too much for myself."

"I need to solve this so that this doesn't become a trauma."

Chapters

00:00 Exploring the Concept of 'Too Much'

06:41 The Impact of Childhood Experiences

13:41 Understanding Emotional Responses

20:15 Navigating Relationships and Boundaries

26:40 Finding Balance in Intensity

34:43 The Quest for Validation

39:23 The Dance of Too Muchness and Not Enoughness

42:37 Self-Reflection and Personal Stories

49:15 Empowerment and Emotional Regulation

54:00 Navigating Relationships and Communication

58:00 Outro

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Summary

In this conversation, Liv and Meli discuss the concept of archetypes and why they are important. They explain that archetypes are recurring symbols or motifs that appear in art, literature, and myths. They also discuss the psychoanalytic perspective of archetypes, which suggests that they are primitive mental images stored in our collective unconscious. Liv and Meli share their personal experiences with archetypes and how they use Oracle card decks to tap into energetic fields and gain insights about themselves. They emphasize that archetypes provide a container for meaning and understanding, and can be applied in various aspects of life. In this conversation, Meli and Liv discuss the power of archetypes and their relevance in understanding ourselves and the world around us. They emphasize the importance of embracing all aspects of the feminine experience, including the lost and darker ones. They share personal stories of how they have tapped into different archetypes and repaired their relationship with certain expressions of femininity. The conversation highlights the fluidity of archetypes and the tools they provide for self-discovery and growth.

Keywords

archetypes, recurring symbols, motifs, art, literature, myths, psychoanalytic perspective, collective unconscious, Oracle card decks, energetic fields, insights, meaning, understanding, archetypes, feminine, expression, shadow, distortion, divine, tools, self-discovery, growth

Takeaways

• Archetypes are recurring symbols or motifs that appear in art, literature, and myths.
• They can be understood from a psychoanalytic perspective as primitive mental images stored in our collective unconscious.
• Oracle card decks can be used to tap into energetic fields and gain insights about oneself.
• Archetypes provide a container for meaning and understanding in various aspects of life. Archetypes are fluid and multi-dimensional, representing different aspects of the feminine experience.
• Embracing all expressions of femininity, including the lost and darker ones, is essential for self-discovery and growth.
• Repairing our relationship with different archetypes allows us to access their strengths and integrate them into our lives.
• Archetypes provide tools for understanding ourselves and the world around us, helping us navigate through different phases and challenges.
• Archetypes are not fixed roles or stereotypes, but rather a framework for exploring and embracing our authentic selves.

Sound Bites

"Archetypes are recurring symbols or motifs"

"Archetypes provide a bridge between spirituality and the real lived human experience"

"Archetypes create a container for meaning and understanding"

"Harry Potter is littered with archetypes, littered with mythos"

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

02:12 What is an Archetype and Why Do We Care?

11:56 Creating an Archetype Deck

25:06 Addressing Resistance to Oracle Decks

34:35 The Power of Archetypes

52:46 The Fluidity of Archetypes

55:52 Repairing the Relationship with Self

01:08:07 Archetypes as Tools

01:09:51 Outro

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Summary

In this conversation, Liv and Meli discuss the concept of edges and their significance in personal growth and self-expression. They define an edge as the perimeter of where one allows themselves to exist and the extent to which they allow themselves to emote, express, share, or experience. Edges can be different for each person and can vary in their expansiveness. They discuss how edges can either limit or enhance one's experience of joy and other emotions. They also explore the difference between edges and boundaries, with boundaries being more fixed and non-negotiable. The conversation concludes with a discussion on how to expand edges by questioning their serving nature and confronting fears associated with them. In this conversation, Meli and Liv discuss the concept of edges and how they impact our daily lives. They provide relatable examples of edges, such as small irritations or conflicts, and emphasize the importance of recognizing and addressing them. They highlight the need to approach edges with presence and mindfulness, and to make conscious choices instead of reacting on autopilot. They also discuss the significance of self-talk and self-compassion in navigating edges, and the potential for growth and transformation that comes from expanding edges. Overall, they encourage listeners to approach edges with levity, humor, and excitement, and to embrace the magic that lies on the other side.

Keywords

edges, personal growth, self-expression, emotions, joy, boundaries, expansion, fears, edges, presence, mindfulness, conscious choices, self-talk, self-compassion, growth, transformation

Takeaways

• An edge is the perimeter of where one allows themselves to exist and the extent to which they allow themselves to emote, express, share, or experience.
• Edges can either limit or enhance one's experience of joy and other emotions.
• Boundaries are more fixed and non-negotiable, while edges can be expanded and explored.
• To expand edges, it is important to question their serving nature and confront fears associated with them. Edges are the points of discomfort or tension in our lives that offer opportunities for growth and transformation.
• Recognizing and addressing edges requires presence and mindfulness.
• Making conscious choices instead of reacting on autopilot is key to navigating edges effectively.
• Self-talk and self-compassion play a crucial role in expanding edges and creating a positive inner environment.
• Approaching edges with levity, humor, and excitement can make the process more enjoyable and rewarding.
• The magic lies on the other side of the edge, where growth, transformation, and a deeper understanding of oneself can be found.

Sound Bites

"Edges exist to make good better."

"Edges can be explored through sexual practices."

"Edges exist to make good better."

"I get to feel good after that. Like literally everything good comes after that."

"Yeah, out both ends."

"Start with the first step. What is the lowest hanging ripest fruit?"

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Question of the Week

01:12 What is an Edge?

23:29 Introduction to Edges

24:20 Everyday Edges and Energy Leaks

24:49 Starting Small and Being Present

25:43 Self-Talk and Self-Compassion

27:33 Presence and Conscious Control

31:52 Navigating Edges in Relationships

35:29 Approaching Edges on a Day-to-Day Basis

43:36 The Power of Edges and the Magic Beyond

44:41 Conclusion and Call to Action

47:01 Outro

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Summary

The conversation explores the concept of conscious coping and the distinction between healthy and unhealthy coping strategies. The hosts share their personal experiences and discuss the importance of being conscious and intentional in our coping mechanisms. They emphasize that there is no coping mechanism that is inherently bad, but it's the intention and the relationship we have with it that determines its impact on our well-being. They also touch on the slippery slope of coping strategies and the need to stay aware of when a coping mechanism becomes maladaptive. Overall, the conversation encourages conscious coping and self-awareness in navigating challenging situations. Conscious coping involves being aware of our coping mechanisms and building consciousness around them. It's about understanding our relationship with substances and activities and making aligned choices based on our context and intentions. It's important to recognize that the energy behind our coping strategies is what matters, not the substances themselves. We can choose to engage in certain behaviors out of love for ourselves or out of a sense of lack, and it's crucial to be mindful of our intentions. It's okay to have human moments and indulge in coping strategies, as long as we maintain awareness and don't let them become the sole source of our well-being.

Keywords

conscious coping, healthy coping, unhealthy coping, intention, self-awareness, coping mechanisms, relationship with substances, aligned choices, intentions, energy, love for oneself, sense of lack, mindfulness, human moments

Takeaways

• Coping strategies can be both healthy and unhealthy, depending on our intention and relationship with them.
• There is no coping mechanism that is inherently bad; it's about how we use it and the impact it has on our well-being.
• Being conscious and intentional in our coping strategies can help us avoid maladaptive patterns and maintain a healthy balance.
• Self-awareness is key in determining whether a coping mechanism is serving us or causing harm. Conscious coping involves being aware of our coping mechanisms and making aligned choices based on our intentions and context.
• The energy behind our coping strategies is what matters, not the substances themselves.
• It's important to be mindful of our intentions and whether we are engaging in certain behaviors out of love for ourselves or out of a sense of lack.
• It's okay to have human moments and indulge in coping strategies, as long as we maintain awareness and don't let them become the sole source of our well-being.

Sound Bites

• "I hope that this lands with one, at least one person who's like, oh my God, I don't have to feel like a fucking psychopath for going through a similar experience."
• "Coping strategies may start out as a coping strategy and then transition into a lifestyle choice."
• "Having is evidence of wanting. If you consistently have an experience in your life where you feel like a piece of shit, you clearly want to feel like a piece of shit."
• "Is going to buy a giant boxed wine and chug that going to create that thing for me? Or, I can go get one glass of wine and have that experience."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Personal Experiences

06:12 Defining Coping and its Purpose

10:36 The Spectrum of Healthy and Unhealthy Coping

19:18 The Role of Internal Conflict in Coping

23:52 Conscious Coping and Evaluating Impact

30:07 Understanding Conscious Coping

33:42 The Impact of Substance Use

36:50 Identifying Unhealthy Coping Patterns

41:28 Finding Healthier Coping Strategies

53:48 Outro

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Summary

In this conversation, Meli and Liv discuss the concept of trauma and what it really means. They explore how the term 'trauma' is often thrown around without a clear understanding of its true definition. They emphasize the importance of making distinctions within the broad category of trauma and not diminishing or overemphasizing one's own experiences. They also discuss the impact of trauma on the body and the need for validation and empathy in healing. The conversation highlights the prevalence of trauma in everyone's lives and the need for a practical and compassionate approach to addressing it. In this conversation, Meli and Liv discuss trauma and its impact on individuals and relationships. They emphasize the importance of understanding trauma on a deeper level, especially when it comes to children. They highlight the need for parents to do their own inner child work in order to effectively support their children. The conversation also explores the concept of generational trauma and how it gets passed down through families. They discuss the significance of recognizing and addressing collective traumas that affect the feminine, such as societal beauty standards. The conversation concludes with practical tools for managing and healing trauma, including offering sight, practicing inquiry, and cultivating self-compassion.

Keywords

trauma, impact, body, validation, empathy, healing, prevalence, practical, compassionate, trauma, children, inner child work, generational trauma, collective trauma, self-compassion, inquiry

Takeaways

• Trauma is often used without a clear understanding of its true definition, leading to a lack of distinction and precision in discussions.
• It is important to make distinctions within the broad category of trauma and not diminish or overemphasize one's own experiences.
• Trauma has a physical impact on the body, whether it is emotional, physical, or mental trauma.
• Validation and empathy are crucial in the healing process, as they allow individuals to feel seen and heard.
• Trauma is a universal experience, and it is important to recognize its prevalence in everyone's lives.
• A practical and compassionate approach is needed to address trauma and support healing.
• Understanding trauma on a deeper level is crucial, especially when it comes to children who may not be able to articulate their experiences.
• Parents need to do their own inner child work in order to effectively support their children through trauma.
• Generational trauma is passed down through families and can have a significant impact on individuals.
• Collective traumas, such as societal beauty standards, affect the feminine and persist through generations.
• Practical tools for managing and healing trauma include offering sight, practicing inquiry, and cultivating self-compassion.

Sound Bites

• "How you relate to the thing is where all the juice is."
• "Trauma is essentially unresolved conflict."
• "Children are just feeling rough and raw, and they're just in the experience."
• "As within, so without, as above, so below."
• "Because of her trauma, my mom might see my emotions, even when I'm a child, as manipulative."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction: What is Trauma?

02:20 Understanding the True Definition of Trauma

05:18 Making Distinctions Within the Broad Category of Trauma

09:12 The Impact of Trauma on the Body

11:08 The Importance of Validation and Empathy in Healing

19:25 Recognizing the Prevalence of Trauma

25:04 Taking a Practical and Compassionate Approach to Trauma

34:29 Understanding and Supporting Children's Trauma

37:36 The Impact of Generational Trauma

49:20 Collective Traumas and the Feminine

01:02:56 Practical Tools for Managing and Healing Trauma

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Summary

In this episode, Liv and Meli discuss the question of whether healing can be toxic. They both strongly believe that healing can indeed be toxic, especially in hyper-spiritual communities. They argue that healing can become a distorted expression and an attachment that prevents people from fully living their lives. They emphasize the importance of slowing down the healing process and taking time to appreciate the progress already made. They also highlight the need to shift the focus from constantly fixing oneself to embracing one's wholeness and creating in the present moment. Liv and Meli discuss how deep healing mode can sometimes become a form of resistance to creating, and how they have found a more productive way of moving through the world. They emphasize the importance of shifting the energy from healing to creation, while still acknowledging the need for healing as it arises. They also discuss the role of shadow energy in transmutation and the power of choosing to create even in the face of pain and grief. The conversation delves into the nature of resistance and its role in keeping us small and afraid of our true power. They highlight the importance of recognizing and addressing resistance in order to access our full potential for creation. They also discuss the signs of resistance, such as the need to defend oneself or justify one's actions, and the importance of surrendering to what is and allowing oneself to be with the present moment. In this conversation, Liv and Meli discuss the potential toxicity of the healing journey. They explore the importance of recognizing resistance as a compass and teacher, and the freedom of choice in how we respond to the world. They also challenge the narrow definition of creativity and encourage everyone to see themselves as artists in their own lives. They conclude by highlighting the magic of healing as a tool to access our inner creator and build a life of joy and pleasure.

Takeaways

• Healing can be toxic, especially in hyper-spiritual communities, where it can become a distorted expression and an attachment that prevents people from fully living their lives.
• Slowing down the healing process and taking time to appreciate the progress already made can help prevent the toxic aspects of healing.
• Shifting the focus from constantly fixing oneself to embracing one's wholeness and creating in the present moment is essential for a healthier approach to healing.
• Resistance is a mechanism that keeps us from actualizing our true power and can manifest in various ways, such as perpetual healing, rationalizing, and defending oneself.

Sound Bites

• "If you're focusing on healing, you're not doing the work in life. Like you're not creating."
• "The place that you create from is always whole and complete and ready to create. You just need to access it."
• "Resistance can be a beautiful compass and a lovely teacher"
• "Your greatest piece of art is your life"

Chapters

00:00 The Toxicity of Healing in Hyper-Spiritual Communities

04:10 The Energy Expense of Healing

07:34 The Obsession with Healing and the Neglect of Creation

08:34 Healing as an Excuse to Avoid Taking Action

10:39 Recognizing the Healing Process as an Opening Up to What Already Exists

23:17 Shifting Focus to Creation

26:34 Resistance as a Barrier to Creation

31:12 Healing Through Creation

36:06 Understanding Resistance

45:35 Signs of Resistance

49:31 Using Resistance as a Compass

51:54 Blowing Up Your Life: Accessing Peak Love

53:38 The Power of Free Will Choice

55:17 Honoring Our Free Will Choice

56:12 If Victor Can Do It, You Can Do It

59:23 Everyone is an Artist

01:03:27 Getting to Know Yourself Beyond the Stories

01:06:13 Remembering Who You Truly Are

01:12:53 Healing as a Tool for Creation

01:14:33 Outro

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Summary

In this conversation, Meli and Liv discuss the topic of signs from the universe. They define a sign as something outside of oneself that catches attention and feels meaningful, even if there is no clear causal effect. They emphasize the importance of being open to receiving and interpreting signs, while also being grounded in one's own reality. They caution against attaching too much significance to a single sign and highlight the need for self-awareness and knowing oneself. They also discuss the role of emotions in interpreting signs and the importance of making choices based on one's own truth rather than solely relying on signs. Overall, they suggest that signs can be real, but their interpretation should be approached with discernment and self-awareness. In this conversation, Liv and Meli discuss the concept of signs from the universe. They explore the idea that signs are not external messages, but rather reflections of one's own thoughts and beliefs. They emphasize the importance of knowing oneself and taking responsibility for one's own choices. They also discuss the need for a filtration system to interpret signs and the role of trusted individuals in providing feedback. The conversation highlights the magic of being open to signs and the excitement of exploring different interpretations.

Keywords

signs, universe, meaning, interpretation, openness, reality, emotions, self-awareness, choices, signs, universe, reflection, self, responsibility, interpretation, filtration system, trusted individuals, magic

Takeaways

• Signs from the universe are external events or occurrences that feel meaningful and catch one's attention.
• Being open to receiving and interpreting signs is important, but it is also crucial to be grounded in one's own reality and self-awareness.
• Interpreting signs based solely on emotions can be misleading, and it is important to make choices based on one's own truth and self-awareness.
• Signs can be real, but their interpretation should be approached with discernment and an understanding of one's own reality. Signs from the universe are not external messages, but reflections of one's own thoughts and beliefs.
• Knowing oneself and taking responsibility for one's choices is crucial in interpreting signs.
• A filtration system, including self-reflection and feedback from trusted individuals, helps in interpreting signs.
• Being open to signs and exploring different interpretations can bring excitement and magic to life.

Sound Bites

• "There's something outside of you that catches your attention that you feel like cannot be a coincidence."
• "If you have one interpretation of a sign, you're not reading it correctly."
• "Reality is the space in between the intensity of your emotions and the craziness of your fairy tales."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Technical Difficulties

02:15 Defining Signs from the Universe

05:22 The Importance of Openness and Groundedness

09:11 Interpreting Signs Based on Self-Awareness

13:22 Exploring the Nature of Reality

22:29 Making Choices Based on Personal Truth

25:00 Approaching Signs with Discernment and Self-Awareness

28:49 Understanding Signs from the Universe

30:25 Knowing Oneself and Taking Responsibility

31:58 The Importance of a Filtration System

33:35 The Magic of Being Open to Signs

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