ask a sub (Lina Dune)

Masculinity and Dominance - some say they cannot peacefully coexist. But the men and masc-identifying folks of the ask a sub discord community say different. These are their voices on a deeply important and under-discussed topic. Together let's explore the ways Dominance can transform toxic masculinty into mindful masculinity, and bring men and masculine people deep healing and joy.

Join Patreon here, or at patreon.com/askasub. Once we hit 2K subscribers the Ask A Sub podcast is coming back full force!

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Today’s episode is brought to you by our friends at Feeld, the dating app for the curious! The theme of the day is spitting it out - from feelings to actual fluids, comedian Alison Stevenson and Lina have you completely covered. With information. Just information and humor. Unless…?

Follow Feeld on Instagram here, or download it using this link.

To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month!

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Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0

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With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

A sub calls in asking how to make amends for past mistakes. Spoiler alert: you do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert repenting. Unless you're into that.

To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! Get a year of Patreon for $50 (that's two months free!) before the rate goes up to $6 on 1/1/24.

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CREDITS

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With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

This month’s Deep Dive was with boudoir photographer and all around artiste Alex Kacha. We discussed self care, the healing gaze of the camera, and of course the kinkiest shoots they’ve ever done!

Deep Dive is a monthly series where I'll bring you deep conversations with luminaries in the kink and alternative sexuality communities, always with the focus of asking them educated, insider questions about their work. Not only are these interviews fun and informational, but with your support we're creating an oral history of kink at this moment in time. Exciting stuff!

Join Patreon at $11/month to get the complete interview here, as well as access to the archives of interviews with discussions ranging from how to find a sex positive therapist, to how to navigate your local kink scene, to the scientific origins of masochism. Oh yeah, and my only public recorded convo with Mr. Dune. 

To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! 

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Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

This week we’ve got a HUGE announcement and a call from a sub who sounds frickin’ exhausted. Who isn’t?? Lina reminds everybody about how submission begins at home, and how the call of self-discovery is coming from inside the house (we have self-actualization at home).

Calling all sub space cadets!! You’[re needed at basic training!! Get into my all new, totally independent membership service over at askasub.com/subspace.

Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo.

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CREDITS

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Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

A sub is concerned that her Dom’s wife is going to veto their dynamic and wonders how she can modify her behavior to make the wife more comfortable. Lina talks about which feelings we have control over (only our own) and how to give yourself grace during liminal times. 

To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month!

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CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

Due to unforeseen circumstances (we got COVID), in lieu of this week’s scheduled episode please enjoy this rerun of a season 2 favorite. Lina interviews a listener who got in touch to share the story of her custody battle with her sex-negative ex-husband, and the unexpected win that arrived at the end of her story.

To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! 

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With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

This week, we cover all the basics of dating and finding kinky people to play with. First, Lina covers the FAQs of dating app profiles – what to do if you’re looking for your ideal Dom(me), how to signal to people that you’re kinky without screaming “I’M A SUB” (but also totally cool to do this too), and how to connect from there. Next, Lina offers tools and criteria to navigate how to safely transition from apps to IRL to explore your kinks. And finally, Lina serves up some radical advice while covering the dilemma of getting you someone who can do both – aka, be your Dom(me) but also be a compatible partner outside of a scene. 

This episode is brought to you by Pure App, the shameless, sex-positive place to date! Visit https://puredating.app.link/jklrkuzrFlb for your dating needs! 

Have a question about BDSM, sex, dating, relationships, Dom/sub dynamics, and anything else you’d like to ask Lina? Submit yours by emailing a voice memo to podcast@askasub.com - there is no question too bizarre or too basic!

Still thirsty for community? Join us on the Ask a Sub Patreon and have access to the most wholesome and kinky discord community! Check it out over at www.patreon.com/askasub

You can follow Lina over at @askasub on both Instagram and Twitter! 

Make sure to subscribe, drop us a 5-star rating, and tell all your filthy friends about the show!

Host, Producer - Lina Dune | Producer, Editor - Stella Hartmann |

Producer, Research - Caroline Stephens | Music - Dan Molad 

Art by Kayleigh Denner

It's official! Once we receive 2K subscribers on Patreon the Ask A Sub podcast is coming back full force! In the meantime I want to share a teaser of a series I'm doing for Patreon members called DEEP DIVE. 

Deep Dive is a monthy series where I'll bring you deep conversations with luminaries in the kink and alternative sexuality communities, always with the focus of asking them educated, insider questions about their work. Not only are these interviews fun and informational, but with your support we're creating an oral history of kink at this moment in time. Exciting stuff!

May's Deep Dive was with Shamanatrix Dia Dynasty, and William the founder of kink space Temple NYC. We talked about co-topping, their favorite scenes, why responsible tops love newbies, and how kink allows us to resist the influence of capitalism. They also invited us into the magical world of FemDom Farm, a kink-influenced commune-style space that is resurrecting the Matriarchy.

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Socials / Links:

Dia: Instagram / Twitter / Website

William: Instagram / Twitter

Temple NYC: Instagram / Website

FemDom Farm: Instagram / Twitter

Media Recs:

Braiding Sweetgrass: Indigenous Wisdom, Scientific Knowledge and The Teachings Of Plants by Robin Wall Kimmerer

Your Relationship Is A Garden: Codependence & D/s Dynamics by Lina Dune

A new sub wants to know how to manage jealousy when you're monogamous and your partner isn't. Aka, where is your place in the kink community if not at the so-called "cool kid's table?" Well, it's right here next to me.

Get instructions for submitting YOUR STORY to our community-sourced May Deep Dive here.

To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! 

Miss the Friday Q&As? They live on here & are totally free and public.

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Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0

CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

It's official! Once we hit 2K subscribers on Patreon the Ask A Sub podcast is coming back full force! In the meantime I want to share a teaser of a series I'm doing for Patreon members called DEEP DIVE. 

Deep Dive is a monthy series where I'll bring you deep conversations with luminaries in the kink and alternative sexuality communities, always with the focus of asking them educated, insider questions about their work. Not only are these interviews fun and informational, but with your support we're creating an oral history of kink at this moment in time. Exciting stuff!

Pain is a sensation that is heavily stigmatized in our culture. It can be hard to understand why masochists do what they (we) do when you're working from that cultural understanding alone. Which is why I brought in Leigh Cowart, science reporter and self-proclaimed masochist, to explain to us not only why humans pursue pain on purpose, but how it all works in your brain and body. And they have all the answers, having written one of my favorite books on a kink-related topic, Hurts So Good: The Science And Culture Of Pain On Purpose.

As as we put it in the interview, we're all just goopy primates trying to have some fun in our meat sacks. So cue up this interview and let the goop between your ears understand a little bit more about itself :)

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Socials / Links:

http://www.instagram.com/voraciousbrain

http://www.twitter.com/voraciousbrain

​​Ready to demystify kink and head out into the world? In this episode, Lina talks about her own history with submission and how she decided 24/7 lifestyle D/s was for her. What do you do if you know you're kinky but not sure what comes next? What about that important thing called aftercare? Lina goes over the basics, the nuances of orgasm control, and also how to enter the dating world as a third looking for respectful, fulfilling and fun play. 💖

Let us be the part of society that tells you your kinks are okay, your wants are valid and they can be so, so much fun!

Have a question about BDSM, sex, dating, relationships, Dom/sub dynamics, and anything else you’d like to ask Lina? Submit your q’s at www.askasub.com/podcast - there is no question too bizarre or too basic!

Get 10% off your first order at Momotaro Apotheca with code “SUBPODCAST” - www.momotaroapotheca.com

Still thirsty for community? Join us on Patreon and get access to the most wholesome and kinky discord community! Check it out over at www.patreon.com/askasub

You can follow Lina over at @askasub on both Instagram and Twitter

Make sure to subscribe, drop us a 5-star rating, and tell all your filthy friends about the show!

Host, Producer - Lina Dune | Producer, Editor - Stella Hartmann | Producer, Research - Caroline Stephens | Music - Dan Molad Artwork - Kayleigh Denner

Trying to keep your kink gendy-neutch? Means of address can go a long way in creating that euphoric safe space for you. This week we’re bringing you some Pride aftercare in the form of means of address inspiration.

To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month!

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Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0

CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

A caller wants to know if straight people are ruining kink, and Lina gets into the history of gentrification in the kink world and how well-meaning straights can use their kink for good. Also a diatribe on how Fake Doms have class-traitor vibes. Sorry it had to be said!!

To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month!

Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo.

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Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE

Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0

CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

Looootttttaaaaaa feelings about gender this week, huh folks? We’re discussing the “gender wars,” how you can assist in the political apocalypse, and how to embrace one’s identity as a male submissive.

To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month!

Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo.

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Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE

Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0

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With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

In our season finale, we wade into the waters of respect, romance, and all things mushy gushy. First, hear Lina’s thoughts on training collars and creating contracts – how to set up expectations, needs, and all the rice-kneeling moments in between, including a little peek into Lina’s accidental protocol misinterpretation at the start of her own dynamic! Next, Lina talks about something we don’t hear covered often – the romantic side of D/s dynamics and what happens if you fall in love with your Dom(me). Finally, Lina offers advice on how to kinkify a wedding and marriage as a whole. And make sure to stay tuned to the end for the big, juicy reveal y’all have been waiting for! 

Join us on the Ask a Sub Patreon to show your support for the show and to join the kinky party as we wait for season 2! Check it out over at www.patreon.com/askasub

Check out Voodoo’s Flower Power vibe at voodoo.toys and use promo code “ASKASUB30” for 30% off your entire online order! 

Get 20% off Lina’s Conscious Kink course with code PODCAST at checkout https://www.askasub.com/conscious-kink 

You can follow Lina over at @askasub on both Instagram and Twitter! 

Make sure to subscribe, drop us a 5-star rating, and tell all your filthy friends about the show!

Host, Producer - Lina Dune | Producer, Editor - Stella Hartmann |

Producer, Research - Caroline Stephens | Music - Dan Molad 

Art by Kayleigh Denner

Lina interviews a listener who got in touch to share the story of her custody battle with her sex-negative ex-husband, and the unexpected win that arrived at the end of her story.

To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! You’ll also gain access to our Deep Dive with Evie Lupine on 7/20!

Miss the Friday Q&As? They live on here & are totally free and public.

Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com 

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Subscribe to the subby substack here.

Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0

CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

We talk a lot on this podcast about feeling “queer enough,” and a straight passing queer couple wonders how to feel more at home in queer spaces. Lina affirms that they’re allowed to be there, and anyone whose opinion is worth considering is probably just thinking they’re hot. Fewer queer cops, more queer fucking!!!

To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month!

Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here.

Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com

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Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE

Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0

CREDITS

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With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

This week, Lina takes on Society at Large! Hear her thoughts on how to navigate the social stigma around BDSM culture – especially turning those “oh, that’s not normal” comments into something more expansive and inclusive. Lina then digs into those shamey sub drop feels that society and culture have reinforced in our spongy brains and how to retrain your thoughts and be gentle with yourself in those moments. She’s also serving up a hot take on countering toxic positivity, especially in the sex-positive sodia media landscape. And finally, Lina reveals her secret of How to D/s Quietly! (Just kidding, there is no secret). Really though–cohabitating with adults and having a dynamic may seem tricky, but Lina gives her advice on how best go about this because spoiler alert, most people have sex and no matter what, you’re probably going to hear it–dynamic or not!  

Have a question about BDSM, sex, dating, relationships, Dom/sub dynamics, and anything else you’d like to ask Lina? Submit yours by emailing a voice memo to podcast@askasub.com - there is no question too bizarre or too basic!

Still thirsty for community? Join us on the Ask a Sub Patreon and have access to the most wholesome and kinky discord community! Check it out over at www.patreon.com/askasub

Get 10% off your first order at Momotaro Apotheca with code “SUBPODCAST” - www.momotaroapotheca.com

Get 20% off Lina’s Conscious Kink course with code PODCAST at checkout https://www.askasub.com/conscious-kink 

You can follow Lina over at @askasub on both Instagram and Twitter! 

Make sure to subscribe, drop us a 5-star rating, and tell all your filthy friends about the show!

Host, Producer - Lina Dune | Producer, Editor - Stella Hartmann |

Producer, Research - Caroline Stephens | Music - Dan Molad 

Art by Kayleigh Denner

Cue up some disco and put on your finest assless chaps, because we’re reviewing the history of The Folsom Street Fair, then we’re taking a walking tour of the heart of leather culture in the 1970’s - San Francisco’s South of Market neighborhood and the many bars, clubs, and bathhouses that made it famous.

Check out my substack piece on the walking tour here.

Here’s the Folsom Street Fair’s website.

To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! 

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CREDITS

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With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

A sub is concerned about sending the wrong message when telling Doms she doesn't have hard limits. What to do?

To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month!

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CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

CW for the Episode: Assault–please skip to 16:14 to go straight to question 2. 

Lina starts this week’s episode by talking about how trauma informs Kink and BDSM, and the healing aspect that can come along with it. But big spoiler alert, there is no magical cure for trauma. And that’s okay! In fact, your trauma doesn’t need to even be involved with your Kinkiness at all if you so choose. Next up, Lina covers what loneliness can look like in BDSM and the self-shaming tendencies we have towards figuring out our roles and desires–and provides validation in having likes and dislikes and how to address those needs as submissives. And finally, hear Lina wax on the poetics of Cucking and what it can bring to the Kinky table, especially as a potential bridge between monogamy and non. And what to do about that lil thing called jealousy and how best to address it in moving towards threesomes, cucking, and/or ENM together. 

Esther Perel’s Mating in Captivity: https://bookshop.org/a/14567/9780060753641

Ethical Slut: https://bookshop.org/a/14567/9780399579660

Dan Savage: https://www.thestranger.com/savage-love/2020/01/14/42559563/savage-love 

Have a question about BDSM, sex, dating, relationships, Dom/sub dynamics, and anything else you’d like to ask Lina? Submit yours by emailing a voice memo to podcast@askasub.com - there is no question too bizarre or too basic!

Still thirsty for community? Join us on the Ask a Sub Patreon and have access to the most wholesome and kinky discord community! Check it out over at www.patreon.com/askasub

Get 20% off Lina’s Conscious Kink course with code PODCAST at checkout https://www.askasub.com/conscious-kink 

You can follow Lina over at @askasub on both Instagram and Twitter! 

Make sure to subscribe, drop us a 5-star rating, and tell all your filthy friends about the show!

Host, Producer - Lina Dune | Producer, Editor - Stella Hartmann |

Producer, Research - Caroline Stephens | Music - Dan Molad 

Art by Kayleigh Denner

Lina ponificates on curating kinky community beyond the algorithm, then stands at the crossroads with a listener who wants to go from book learning to street smarts. And finally, some thoughts on overthinking, and the perfectly nice orgasms it chases away.

Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com

Free & Pubic Friday Q&As: https://discord.gg/AvkZ9f6BtY 

More on my breakup with Instagram: https://askasub.substack.com/p/my-last-abusive-relationship

Subscribe to the subby substack for free short form content: https://askasub.substack.com 

To join our live Q&A with Lola Jean all about Brats, join patreon starting at $5/month: https://www.patreon.com/askasub 

Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0

CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

A sub calls in wondering how to maintain a 24/7 spark when sometimes all you wanna do is curl up on the couch and cuddle. Spoiler alert: kink and the couch may not be as at odds with each other as we think.

For more 24/7 info check out my online course Conscious Kink that will walk you through building a dynamic of your very own!

Don’t miss our Deep Dive with Evie Lupine on 7/20!

To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month!

Miss the Friday Q&As? They live on here & are totally free and public.

Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com

Go here for information on how to record a voice memo

Subscribe to the subby substack here.

Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0

CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

Hurts So Good author Leigh Cowart joined me for a conversation about pervertibles, aka making kink tools out of what you've got on hand! We also talked about the ever-moving goal posts of masochism and how to make your journey sustainable, joyful, and ever-more perverse.

Join Patreon at $11/month to get the complete interview here, as well as access to the archives of interviews with discussions ranging from how to find a sex positive therapist, to how to navigate your local kink scene, to the scientific origins of masochism. Oh yeah, and my only recorded convo with Mr. Dune. 

Get Leigh's book here!

Follow Leigh anywhere by searching @voraciousbrain

To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! 

Miss the Friday Q&As? They live on here & are totally free and public.

Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com 

Go here for information on how to record a voice memo  

Subscribe to the subby substack here.

Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0

CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

Hey!! Hey you!! Stop worrying about upsetting people with your very reasonable needs and requests! In today’s episode, a caller worries that their Dom is upset by their needs/wants/suggestions, and Lina goes Big Sister Mode to set them straight.

To get the full version of this episode Join Patreon at $11/month or substack at $8/month.

Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here.

Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com

Go here for information on how to record a voice memo

Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE

Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0

CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

Why are subs and kinky people so prone to tripping out on what the future could be? Well, as the saying goes, subs plan and Doms laugh at our anticipatory anxiety. Lina also discusses how marriage and society are a weird mindf*%k combo to navigate (and not always in the nice way), and how we all need more space to increase our capacity for change and ability to accept more things into our orifices.

To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month!

Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here.

Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com

Go here for information on how to record a voice memo

Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE

Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0

CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

This week we’re naming and confronting the pessimism that makes us think all potential sex partners are trash, then discussing what good, real Doms are actually like! They’re out there!

Upcoming Deep Dive: Real Stories From The Kink World on 5/17 at 5 pacific

Mindful Masculinity Deep Dive

The Bisexual Ghost | Wife Swapping with Christopher Walken

To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! 

Miss the Friday Q&As? They live on here & are totally free and public.

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Subscribe to the subby substack here.

Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0

CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

While I work on bringing you a second season of Ask A Sub, in the meantime I want to share a teaser of a patreon-exclusive series I'm doing called DEEP DIVE.

Deep Dive is a monthy series wherein I'll bring you deep conversations with luminaries in the kink community, always with the focus of asking them educated, insider questions about their work.

In April I had the honor of kicking off this series with the legendary nightlife curator Venus Cuffs. We covered play parties from every possible angle, from the organizing side to the attendee side, and gave listeners tips and tricks for attending kink events. Then Venus told us all about female-led D/s relationships and the beauty therein. 

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Our next patrons-only Q&A will be on May 19th at 5pm PST with will be with with dominatrix Dia Dynasty and William of @tiemetightly / the founder of Temple NYC. They will talk Dominance, rope, and FemDom Farm. See you there!

It's official! Once we hit 2K subscribers on Patreon the Ask A Sub podcast is coming back full force! In the meantime I want to share a teaser of a series I'm doing for Patreon members called DEEP DIVE. 

Deep Dive is a monthy series where I'll bring you deep conversations with luminaries in the kink and alternative sexuality communities, always with the focus of asking them educated, insider questions about their work. Not only are these interviews fun and informational, but with your support we're creating an oral history of kink at this moment in time. Exciting stuff!

What does it take to scandalize Lina Dune you ask? Cory Bush and Adam Rei Siegel’s sex life. These two people have the most remarkable scene planning energy and I can’t wait for you to hear about all their exploits in great detail. Do not listen in public unless you’re ready to BLUSH. HARD.

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A listener calls in feeling big feelings about a new Dom, and Lina talks about making the most of the safe havens we find along the road to our dream situation. And maybe covering those safe havens in saliva a bit, idk!!

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Mr. Dune Deep Dive info.

Daddy Issues series on Patreon or Substack.

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CREDITS

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Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

This week on the table of sub wisdom is something a lot of subs historically have a past with – people pleasing. There is no magic solution, but Lina does her best to unpack it like the classic algebra problems that we definitely don’t miss from highschool (but can we all agree that sexy problem-solving would have made the class a whole lot more fun?) Like what if “X” was monogamy and “Y” was kink–how do we get to “Z”?? And how about if “X” is people pleasing, and “Z” is being a Good sub, what is the value of “Y?” Okay, maybe too far but Lina still gets to the bottom of why people pleasing isn’t healthy and how to try to shut it down, stay authentic to yourself, and go on to live your happy submissive life. And finally, Lina discusses what to do if you experience shaming from your friends and/or family about your kinky ways (no algebra here, we promise, just straight facts and support). 

Have a question about BDSM, sex, dating, relationships, Dom/sub dynamics, and anything else you’d like to ask Lina? Submit yours by emailing a voice memo to podcast@askasub.com - there is no question too bizarre or too basic!

Still thirsty for community? Join us on the Ask a Sub Patreon and have access to the most wholesome and kinky discord community! Check it out over at www.patreon.com/askasub

Get 20% off Lina’s Conscious Kink course with code PODCAST at checkout https://www.askasub.com/conscious-kink 

You can follow Lina over at @askasub on both Instagram and Twitter! 

Make sure to subscribe, drop us a 5-star rating, and tell all your filthy friends about the show!

Host, Producer - Lina Dune | Producer, Editor - Stella Hartmann |

Producer, Research - Caroline Stephens | Music - Dan Molad 

Art by Kayleigh Denner

Thoughts on respecting all the connections in your polyamorous ecosystem when the sub swoons come calling.

Our next Deep Dive is on 9/12 at 3pm with pelvic floor physical therapist Dr. Rachel McCarthy-Moya! Get more info here.

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CREDITS

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With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

This week we're talking about how to approach conflict in a way that honors your D/s dynamic. So few of us have learned any strategies for respectful conflict, and translating the few we have into D/s language can be hard work. Let me help!

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CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

New weekly episodes of ask a sub coming 2/17. Send your voice memo questions, comments, prompts, anecdotes and success stories to podcast@askasub.com <3

We’re back! And we’re kicking purity culture in the pants!! 

Get info about the Friday 1/26 Deep Dive here!

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CREDITS

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Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

In this preview of Deep Dive, Lina chats with Casey Tanner, @queersextherapy, about their new book Feel It All. Topics covered include defining secure sexuality and the origins of insecure sexuality (aka why are we so messed up about sex?!). In the full Deep Dive, available to paid members, hear them discuss how to support queer people in straight passing relationships, whether sexual preferences or attraction can be problematic, how to negotiate accommodation for neurodivergent and disabled people, and other ways of being sexual secure, filthy (if that’s what you want!), and thoughtful freaks.

“Well, hi!” Cat 

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CREDITS

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With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

Today we’re reclaiming our erotic power and studying a holy trinity of queer feminist writers: Adrienne Rich, Audre Lorde, and Gloria Anzaldúa. 

Join our free & public community discussion here.

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Read The Bisexual Ghost.

Get instructions for submitting YOUR STORY to our community-sourced May Deep Dive here.

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CREDITS

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With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

What do you do when a very special dynamic leaves your life? This week a broken-hearted brat wants to know how to move on in the wake of a great love lost. 

Join us for our next Deep Dive with photographer Alex Kacha on Tuesday, 10/20 at 5 pacific. Join patreon to attend live for just $5/month, or get the replay at the $11/month Patreon or $8/month substack.

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CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

A sub wants to know how to bring forward feminine energy and suppress the masculine during aftercare. Lina’s response? Gender is fake, privilege is real, and pegging your Dom is a submissive act. How did we get there? Guess you’ll have to listen.

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The Endangered Celebrity Daddy (And The Pedro Pascalification Of My Mental Health): https://askasub.substack.com/p/the-endangered-celebrity-daddy 

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CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

Every wondered how to find a good therapist? And actually get your needs met by said therapist? What about sleeping arrangements for your 4 person polycule? Non-Monogamous therapist Rachel Wright has your back in this lovely interview.

Join Patreon here, or at patreon.com/askasub. Once we hit 2K subscribers the Ask A Sub podcast is coming back full force!

Our next Deep Dive with Gaby Herstik all about sacred sex and witchcraft is on 10/20 at 5PT. Join Patreon at $5/month to listen live, and at $11/month to get the recording. 

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Rachel also hosts donation based non-monogamy support groups which can be found here:

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A listener wants to know the answer to a so-called googleable question - what the heck is a play party, exactly? Lina answers & gives tips on navigating these experiences once you find the right one.

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CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

What happens when you’re criss crossing all your red string a la Charlie Day while researching D/s to broaden the scope of your dynamic, but your Dom just won’t click the links you send? Lina talks the three-legged race of a longterm relationship, how the patriarchy doesn’t support men in self improvement, and what to do when you suspect you’re a koi fish in a goldfish bowl.

Get in on the new Ask A Sub Office Hours offering!

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CREDITS

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With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

I’ve been through some shit lately and wanted to share the ways people have supported me so you can support those in your life who are also going through shit. We will be back to our regular format next week. Love you all. 

Get my essay about the miscarriage on Patreon or Substack. 

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CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

In a transmission from God’s hot car, Lina discusses the relationship between kink and chronic pain, and advises a Spoonie who’s playing with a doctor to enjoy the free medical care without shame.

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CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

Today’s episode is all about feeling your feelings. One sub asks whether it’s possible to introduce kink to her partner in a non-sexual context, while another wants to know how to react in a subby way to conflict with their Dom. 

Support the pod at http://www.patreon.com/askasub

Free & Public Friday Q&As on Discord: https://discord.gg/askasub 

Mating In Captivity by Esther Perel

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More on my breakup with Instagram: https://askasub.substack.com/p/my-last-abusive-relationship

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Bisexual polyamorous writer Gab Alexa joins me to discuss bi-erasure, queer baiting, and her spicy time at the infamous swinger’s retreat Hedonism.

Join Patreon at $11/month or Substack at $8/month to get the complete interview, as well as access to the archives of interviews with discussions ranging from how to find a sex positive therapist, to how to navigate your local kink scene, to the scientific origins of masochism. Oh yeah, and my only public recorded convo with Mr. Dune. 

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CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

Join me and Luna Matatas for a discussion all about cultivating body confidence in a messed up world! 

Get the rest of my interview with Luna here. 

Find Luna online here.

Join Patreon at $11/month to get the complete interview here, as well as access to the archives of interviews with discussions ranging from how to find a sex positive therapist, to how to navigate your local kink scene, to the scientific origins of masochism. Oh yeah, and my only public recorded convo with Mr. Dune. 

To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! 

Miss the Friday Q&As? They live on here & are totally free and public.

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CREDITS

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With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

Writer, educatrix, and all around kink community badass Tina Horn joined us to talk all about hardcore kinks and fetishes and how we sort kinks into this category. Her new book Why Are People Into That?! is out now wherever books are sold.

To get the full version of this episode Join Patreon at $11/month or substack at $8/month.

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CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

A Dom calls in wondering how to navigate his sub’s dynamic with another Dom, and Lina talks about primary partner veto, as well as the ins and outs of navigating side-by-side dynamics. (Our deepest apologies for the title of this episode, we couldn’t help ourselves)

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CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

A sub wants to know how to communicate their changing needs in a longterm relationship, and Lina equips them with proactive, active, and reactive tools for sharing feedback and keeping the D/s container safe (but also spicy).

To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! 

Get my Conscious Kink course here.

Learn how to submit your story for the next Deep Dive here.

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CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

The words filth and perversion barely begin to scratch the surface of what's on offer in this interview with Empress Wu and her singular penchant for scenes that expand into systems that fuck gender, the body, notions of inside and outside, as well as existence itself. Here in the free preview, we discuss Wu’s journey into pro-Domme work as well as her thoughts on sex work decriminalization.

Paid listeners will receive the full hour and fifteen minute interview featuring specifics of her wild Dominance practice.

Get the complete interview on Patreon for $11/month or Substack for $8/month.

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/94681123?pr=true 

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To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! 

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CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

Get your spot in the Conscious Kink 2 Incubator and learn more about it here. Registration ends 9/27 at 11:59pm pacific. 

Get more Folsom info from this pamphlet.

Special thanks to Cactus Cult Leather, BunnyLeather.com, Sylvan and Milton, SF K9 Unit, Bay Area Open Minds, The Satanic Temple and everyone who spoke to me at Folsom last year!

Get my full discussion with Alex Kacha on Patreon or Substack.

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CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

On this week’s episode, Lina tackles the foundational questions of who are Dom(me)s? What do they get out of D/s, and how does trauma play into everything? What about Fake Doms? What are they and how does one *not* be a Fake Dom–especially on dating apps? And finally, Lina addresses the age old question: can you be a feminist *and* a submissive? 💖

Let us be the part of society that tells you your kinks are okay, your wants are valid and they can be so, so much fun!

Have a question about BDSM, sex, dating, relationships, Dom/sub dynamics, and anything else you’d like to ask Lina? Submit yours by emailing a voice memo to podcast@askasub.com - there is no question too bizarre or too basic!

Still thirsty for community? Join us on the Ask a Sub Patreon and have access to the most wholesome and kinky discord community! Check it out over at www.patreon.com/askasub 

Get 20% off Lina’s Conscious Kink course with code PODCAST at checkout https://www.askasub.com/conscious-kink 

To learn more about the Armie Hammer Sitch–

https://www.bitchmedia.org/article/armie-hammer-cannibal-jokes-hide-abuse-allegations

You can follow Lina over at @askasub on both Instagram and Twitter! 

Make sure to subscribe, drop us a 5-star rating, and tell all your filthy friends about the show!

Host, Producer - Lina Dune | Producer, Editor - Stella Hartmann |

Producer, Research - Caroline Stephens | Music - Dan Molad 

This week, Lina goes straight into what it feels like to find a new Dom(me)–what it means to navigate the feels of frenzy and swooning, and is it possible to balance leaning in and not overextending yourself? (Spoiler alert: it is!) She also covers the basics of subspace, the power and security of Safe Words, what nonverbal Safe Words can look like in practice, and why the word “No” is so intense and scary sometimes. And finally, Lina yells from the top of the BDSM mountain that there is 👏🏻not👏🏻a👏🏻top👏🏻shortage! Kissing some frogs is just part of the process and that’s okay!

Your Brain On BDSM (Vice)

Have a question about BDSM, sex, dating, relationships, Dom/sub dynamics, and anything else you’d like to ask Lina? Submit yours by emailing a voice memo to podcast@askasub.com - there is no question too bizarre or too basic!

Still thirsty for community? Join us on the Ask a Sub Patreon and have access to the most wholesome and kinky discord community! Check it out over at www.patreon.com/askasub

Get 50% off your first month of Isabella Frappier’s Eros Workshop Membership with code ASKASUBEROS at https://isabella-frappier.teachable.com/p/eros-workshops-membership

Get 20% off Lina’s Conscious Kink course with code PODCAST at checkout https://www.askasub.com/conscious-kink 

You can follow Lina over at @askasub on both Instagram and Twitter! 

Make sure to subscribe, drop us a 5-star rating, and tell all your filthy friends about the show!

Host, Producer - Lina Dune | Producer, Editor - Stella Hartmann |

Producer, Research - Caroline Stephens | Music - Dan Molad 

Art by Kayleigh Denner

A sub in an M/s dynamic calls in wondering how to integrate more long distance service into their dynamic and Lina nerds out on protocol in great detail. A brain dump if you will. (I’m NOT going to make a scat play joke. I would NEVER.)

To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month!

Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo.

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CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

You guys — we did it — we trapped a true switch for switch poly couple with our big butterfly net and dove deep into their deeply respectful and inspiring relationship. Join us for a convo with charismatic Aussies Abbey and Liam for a tour through their individual love lives, and the love they have for fostering connections in their broader ENM community.

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CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

R.O. Kwon stopped by the pod this week to talk about her new book Exhibit, a tale about kink, queerness, and what happens when people pursue that which they truly desire. 

Catch R.O.’s Thirst Inventory here.

To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month!

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CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

Gather ‘round to hear the debauched tales of connection, mutual support, and hot sex contained in the ever problematic social media boogeyman… the Age Gap Relationship!! These crowdsourced stories come from our very own AAS community and will warm your freezing cold heart, ever so briefly slake your unquenchable thirst, and perhaps expand your dating app age filters.

To get the full version of this episode Join Patreon at $11/month or substack at $8/month.

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Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0

CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

We all know about Fake Doms, people on dating apps who co-opt the language of BDSM to push a misogynistic agenda, but what about when the messaging of manipulation is more subtle, and even uses sex positive language to confuse subs? Enter: Fake Dom 2.0. In this episode, Lina shares signs you may be dealing with a Fake Dom 2.0, vetting questions to try to weed them out, and solace for those who have been victimized by these creeps.

To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month!

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Zachary Zane, author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto stopped by to talk about bisexual sluttiness, rejecting bi assimilationism, and his hairy butthole. We had a ton of fun breaking down bi stereotypes and bringing some bi chaos to pride month.

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Sometimes parting is just too much sorrow! This week Lina equips a listener with a strategy for lessening the blow of transitioning back into vanilla life without your Dom, and ask the question… maybe it’s love?

Get my first interview with Leigh: teaser | full version

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Erica Smith helps Purity Culture dropouts rebuild their sexual ethic after escaping restrictive religions, and this week she’s helping all of us deal with the cult of America. On the way we talk about how porn addiction isn’t real, how to keep yourself sane through the news, and how the revolution demands fuckin’ and suckin’.

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Disability advocate, sex toy creator, and host of Disability After Dark Andrew Gurza joins us to talk all about non-binary identity, dating while disabled, and how we can improve accessibility in kinky and queer spaces.

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For that piece of writing I was talking about get it on Patreon or Substack. 

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Vienna Farlow The Cuntsultant dropped by for an interview about the Fertility Awareness Method and the weird shift from not wanting to get pregnant to wanting to, and how to actually do it (or not do it!). We also talked about breeding kinks and how they’re totally common, normal, and dare I say… fun?

Get the substack piece about baby fever here. 

Book Rec: Like A Mother: A Feminist Journey Through The Science and Culture of Pregnancy by Angela Garbes

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Ever wondered how to drop the news of some of your less mainstream kinks in a relationship? You know… the really head-turning ones that would shock polite company? The ones that keep you up at night googling really specific gear? The ones that pop up in your head even as you’re trying to write the description of your podcast?? Well this week Lina is sharing an actionable formula for introducing your new partner to what you want, and also laying down a new Ask A Sub commandment — no dragging Doms into Dominance. Now back to those kinks…

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This week a caller on the autism spectrum and his partner with ADD wonder if there is a link between kink and neurodivergence. Let's talk about it!

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Lina gives some tender yet protective advice to a 20-year-old sub looking to start their kink journey.

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A sub loves the play parties she attends with her Dom, but is struggling with watching him play with his primary partner. Can this cozy polycule find a way forward that honors her boundaries?

Alex Kacha Deep Dive Interview - Live Event on 10/24 at 5pm PT

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So you've got somebody to do 24/7 with - great! Now how the hell do you narrow down all the options and create a bespoke practice just for you? Lina walks a listener through the buffet of options, and helps guide the process of assembling a satisfying D/s plate covered in consent gravy.

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How can you date again after a D/s relationship turns abusive? You start by dating your intuition.

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Sex therapist and author Yana Tallon-Hicks dropped by to share some practical sex advice, thoughts on neurodivergence and kink, and lay down some beautiful reflections on consent-forward parenting.

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A caller wants to know how to repair their relationship with their mind and body after a breakup. Lina’s take? Don’t let your drive to be considerate and ethical override your humanity. Feel it, be messy, take your space. The filth will be there to hold you along the way <3

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A listener asks the age-old question of where the line is with public humiliation kinks and involving bystanders, and Lina dives in with things to consider before you go to the grocery store with the f-word written across your forehead.

Listen to Lina address the Erewhon incident on Dan Savage’s podcast here. 

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A listener wants to know how to navigate putting a dynamic on pause when one partner is Going Through It, and Lina offers ideas about boundaries and points of connection for the supporting partner.

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In today’s episode Lina goes in deep on what aftercare is and how to incorporate it with all kinds of people and all kinds of sex. She also covers some ways to build and structure a dynamic from scratch – in particular punishment, funishment, and the glory of being a Brat. Finally, Lina discusses the spectrum between vanilla and kink relationships and how to adapt and grow within those rainbow shades of intimacy 💖

Let's be the part of society that tells you your kinks are okay, your wants are valid and they can be so, so much fun!

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Host, Producer - Lina Dune | Producer, Editor - Stella Hartmann 

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Calling all rubber buggy baby kinksters… let’s take a hard 180 away from the doomscroll and talk about the surprising history of the latex kink. From fashion runways to kiddie pools of piss, this versatile fabric has a lot to offer the freaks of the world.

Lina’s book recommendations (I get 10% of your order!)

Life, Leather, and the Pursuit of Happiness (Steve Lenius)

From Fetish to Fashion: The Rise Of Latex (BBC)

Rubber Ball USA

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Lina shares a million thoughts on anal sex from a sub’s perspective including sweet meditations on the butt’s position as a metaphor for the liminal space between our conscious and subconscious minds, as well as meditations on what to do if your butt plug is about to fall out at a public wine tasting. Happy Valentine’s, sluts!!!!

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A bi-for-bi open marriage, crossdressing, and a series of passionate artistic love affairs — no, it’s not 2023, it’s 1923! On this month’s pride minisode I’m bringing you the story of bisexual it girl Vita Sackville-West, and the letters that made her a queer icon.

The Fabulous Forgotten Life Of Vita Sackville-West

Our next Deep Dive with bisexual author Zachary Zane is on 6/7 at 5 pacific.

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A listener calls in wondering how in god’s name to deal with having a CRUSH on a CIS MAN?!? (Valid). Lina gives an answer about trusting your body and not letting weird Christian plagiarists from the year 100 run your life in 2025.

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Hey, it's your real life calling! The one where you're not sleeping on an air mattress in a musty basement bracing yourself to hear your Uncle Jim's conspiracy theories at the dinner table! You -- yes you! -- used to be kinky, and that kinkiness is a superpower!

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Have you noticed online is just getting worse and worse? This week, kink celebrity and YouTuber Evie Lupine joins me to talk about how kinky people have seen this coming for miles, and what internet censorship means for newbies searching for their identities in the online kink world.

Get the full version of this episode on Patreon or Substack.

Get more info about the upcoming Deep Dive with Leigh Cowart on 8/2 at 5 PT here.  

Leigh previously visited us to discuss their book Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain On Purpose.

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This Christmas, fear isn’t just for the ballot box. That’s right, a caller wants to know how to negotiate with fear around kinks, edges, and, the scariest monster of all, the terrifying ordeal of being Known by another human being. Also in the intro Lina sets expectations for Babygirl (medium) and encourages all of you to get to work on your kinky screenplays in 2025.

Kinky Movies That Don’t Suck

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More and more D/s couples are having to put their dynamics on pause lately, and we want to give you the tools to find your way back to each other. This week, Lina’s talking about the integral role of play in building trust and putting your whole (figurative) p*ssy into your vulnerability.

***Get your spot in the Conscious Kink 2 Incubator and learn more about it here.***

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Craving a broad introduction to fear play? I bet you are you sick freak!! In this lesson, I mean episode, Lina talks about the classics of fear play: knives, cages, trampling, and even really really sick and perverted edge play like tickling and, god forbid, forced compliments.

Fear 101 (Substack) | Letter Writing Ideas from Audrey Gidman

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Get more Folsom info from this pamphlet.

Special thanks to Cactus Cult Leather, BunnyLeather.com, Sylvan and Milton, SF K9 Unit, Bay Area Open Minds, The Satanic Temple and everyone who spoke to me at Folsom! 

Get my full discussion with Alex Kacha on Patreon or Substack.

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Hear all about the varied kink lives of our ask a sub community! From single folks to people married with kids, kink is a living, breathing practice that meets us where we are and infuses our lives with choice, meaning, and joy. 

Join Patreon at $11/month to get the complete interview here, as well as access to the archives of interviews with discussions ranging from how to find a sex positive therapist, to how to navigate your local kink scene, to the scientific origins of masochism. Oh yeah, and my only public recorded convo with Mr. Dune. 

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Follow KD: Instagram | Website

Follow Kink Out: Instagram | Website

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No family?! Community kitchens?! Mandatory orgies?! Less social isolation?! This is the future the left wants, and Lina is forcing it down your throat this week alongside brilliant guest Sophie Lewis who wrote the book on family abolition. Join us for a discussion about tentacle porn, muppet theory, and liberatory queer futures.

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Cue up some disco and put on your finest assless chaps, we’re taking a walking tour through the heart of leather culture in the 1970’s - San Francisco’s South of Market neighborhood (home of Folsom Street) and the many bars, clubs, and bathhouses that made it famous.

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Dogs and cats, living together, mass hysteria! When can a sub be a Dom? A caller wants to know when their Dommy tendencies qualify them to start switchin’, and how their neurodivergent brain can deal with the ambiguity. Answer? BDSM loves getting all up in your cracks to make you stretch all the parts of yourself. Just don't forget the lube. The lube is you loving yourself.

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GENDER!! Ever hear of it?! Lina’s popping off on the presidential election, right-wing weird shit, and the subtle leak of conspirituality-adjacent terms like ‘divine masculine & feminine’ into sex education spaces. She also goes into why her submission doesn’t feel feminine, but an intense space to reckon with the masculine. Controversial? Probably! 

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If you’re reading this, you have a pelvic floor! And Dr. Rachel McCarthy-Moya is here to tell you all about it. Listen for her take on kegels (do less of them), your pelvic floor's relationship to capitalism (burn it down), and her lovely guided exercise for pelvic floor lengthening. Get the complete interview here. 

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Recommended Reading: Like A Mother by Angela Garbes

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CW for the Episode: CNC–please skip to 13:50 to go straight to question 2.

This week, Lina breaks down Consensual Non-Consent – what it is, where the fantasy comes from, and how to safely proceed in play while still feeling seen and taken care of. Her secret?Starting slow. Lina then pivots to BDSM collaring, how it has changed over time, what it means now, and what it signifies to you and your dynamic. Over at Ask a Sub HQ, we personally love collars so strap in for your options and permission to do whatever kind of collaring works for and empowers you. And finally, Lina addresses the dilemma of a 24/7 sub in an ethically non-monogamous relationship who wants to maintain their protocols and stay true to their Dom's wishes, but also meet the needs of their other partners.

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A refresher on red flags and the radical notion that you don’t have to put up with assholes to get your kink needs met.

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A listener calls in after someone told them saying they are kinky means they are probably not looking for anything serious. Obviously this is not true, but Lina also had some thoughts on the relationship escalator, community care, and how to see people as individuals in a sex positive context.

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Communication is hard! Ever wanted to do it non-verbally with your butt? Enter: the hanky code. Today we’re talking about its origins in queer cruising culture and discussing how to plan your Hot Hanky Summer.

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That’s me in the corner… that’s me in the… somewhat challenging aftercare predicament? A listener calls in about how to engineer proper aftercare in a cucking scene, and Lina reassures them that sometimes it’s ok to experiment with big feelings and occasionally get it wrong.

Substack: What We Talk About When We Talk About Cucking

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Kink arrives in your life looking like a problem, but it’s really a solution. In this episode, Lina leads a listener through the daunting moment of taking stock of your submissive fantasies with the empathy of somebody a little further down the road.

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Safe Slut joined me to tell me all about her dating life as an HSV+ queen, shared her thoughts on disclosure, and gave us some insight into her first date rituals. Spoiler alert: an HSV diagnosis isn't going to end your sex life! In fact... it might make it even better.

How Herpes Became A Sexual Boogeyman (Slate)

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