Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors. (Doctor Becc and Kristeen Barker)

Okay guys, here's a hard truth.

All of your procrastination is ultimately due to you trying to avoid emotions. Your want to avoid the unpalatable or even downright repelling emotion of what every task or activity you planned to be doing may be conscious or, more commonly, subconscious.

When not conscious (aware) of our reasoning, our minds will default to avoiding discomfort. Whenever we're not conscious about our choices during our day, we are likely to subconsciously choose to avoid the discomfort.

When we appreciate that about our human minds, we can start to appreciate how important it is that we prepare ourselves with strategies for following through with things we associate with discomfort - even the SLIGHTEST tinge of discomfort.

In this episode, we zoom in on what things we typically find ourselves procrastinating on and dissect out what discomfort is driving that procrastination.

If you can see yourselves in these examples, you will have a first key piece of awareness that can allow you to break your procrastination Cognitive Programs in the future. Getting conscious of something that is currently subconscious to you is an enormous step towards being able to change it.

Are you ready to change your procrastination habits? Join us in this episode.

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclain a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE.

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Hey Doctor Humans!

Tired of tiptoeing around uncomfortable conversations? Sick of harbouring resentment and building up walls? In this episode, we dive deep into the transformative power of honesty.

Discover how telling the truth can strengthen relationships, reduce stress, and set you free from the burdens of people-pleasing.

Key Points:

🫀 The liberating effects of honesty: How telling the truth can lead to deeper connections, reduced stress, and personal growth.

🫀 Overcoming the fear of confrontation: Understanding the benefits of honest communication and challenging the belief that honesty is hurtful.

🫀 The power of vulnerability: Embracing vulnerability as a key to building trust and strengthening relationships.

🫀 Setting boundaries and saying no: Learning to prioritize your needs and communicate your boundaries effectively.

🫀 The importance of self-reflection: Examining your own fears and motivations for avoiding honesty.

Ready to embrace the power of truth? This week, challenge yourself to have one honest conversation. Start small and gradually work your way towards more difficult conversations.

Let us know your plans and how you go! 💌

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq

📽 Becc's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl

👋 Becc's Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT

 

If you're a successful woman still feeling on guard and not fully free to express yourself, join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership at ⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠ 🔓 🚀

💌 Or you can join the mail list where she answers a bunch of common questions: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3Wih9Jh⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

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Feeling overwhelmed by the need for completeness and like you can never keep up? 

You're not alone! In this episode, Kristeen and Doctor Becc discuss the concept of creating problems for ourselves getting stuck in the weeds and losing sight of the actual goal. 

 

There's more than one way to get to your destination. There are always multiple ways to achieve a goal.

 

Join Kristeen and Doctor Becc for a conversation that will help you stop feeling like you're failing and wasting time on problems that don't need to be solved. 

 

Learn how to:

 

• Identify when you're creating problems for yourself
• Frequently check in with your big-picture goal/focus 
• Watch out for the common trap for doctors of believing we need to know everything

 

In this episode:

 

 

• Kristeen shares a story of how she almost created a problem for herself by feeling like she needed to become a bone marrow transplant expert to deliver this particular high-yield lesson to her doctor humans preparing for their Physician exams.
• Doctor Becc discusses the common trap of feeling inadequate when faced with a vast amount of scientific literature and the expectation to be up to date.
• They explore the concept of "emotional ransom" - withholding feelings of competence until achieving an unrealistic goal. And the way that guarantees you'll never able to benefit from feeling competent in your life. 
• These scenarios highlight a common trap for doctors of believing we need to know everything. Kristeen and Becc direct us to the importance of questioning your model of the world and the beliefs you hold about success is highlighted. They remind us that while we need to be able to put our head down and dive into the nitty-gritty details, we need to frequently lift our heads, step back and check that we're still walking in the right direction. 
• They offer strategies for getting out of the weeds and focusing on the big picture.
• Collaboration and seeking help from others are presented as valuable tools.
• The concept of "letting it be easy" is introduced as a way to approach challenges to solve problems in efficient ways.

 

 

Key Takeaways:

 

 

• It's important to regularly redirect our focus to the big-picture goal and ask if the details we're getting caught up in are truly necessary.
• Setting unrealistic goals leads to feelings of inadequacy. This feeling of inadequacy gets us further into the weeds and further from our big-picture goal.
• If you want to make progress rather than strive for solo perfection, ask for help from colleagues and utilise resources that make the process more targeted and efficient.
• There are always multiple ways to achieve a goal. Find the path that works best for you and makes the journey easier.

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Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎 📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠ 💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes empathetic doctors UNSHAKEABLE. ⏭️ WANT TO KNOW MORE or apply for a spot in the next cohort? 👭👭👭 https://www.doctorbecc.com.au

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Hello our doctor humans, our beautiful friends,

It's hard to believe it's already been a year since we launched "Am I Doing It Wrong." We've come a long way, and we couldn't have done it without your support. We are so grateful to have been able to connect with you and to have a community to share our experiences as doctors.

We thank you from the bottom of our hearts.

To celebrate this milestone, we're taking a trip down memory lane and revisiting some of our favourite episodes.

🎧 YOUR favourite episode was "Doctors, Do You Self-Sabotage?" (Episode 24)

Kristeen still wants to claim the Self-Sabotage Queen Crown. Any of you willing to step forwards and challenge her title? You've told us self-sabotage resonates with you!

🎧 Becc's favourite episode was Episode 15, where we shared her "BOARDROOM MODEL OF THE MIND" concept as a model of how to WORK WITH instead of against our minds. She uses this with her clients ALL - THE - TIME - and wants OUR PODDY LISTERNER to have this total advantage too.

This is a high-yield episode to refresh your memory on some of the most powerful lessons we learned about self-sabotage, emotional regulation, and imposter syndrome. We'll also be sharing some practical tips for managing stress, anxiety, and burnout.

Join us as we reflect on our journey and share insights that can help you thrive as a doctor.

What was YOUR FAVOURITE EPISODE? Was there any episode that particularly impacted you? We'd LOVE to hear your favourite episodes and lessons learned in the comments!💌

If you're a successful woman still feeling on guard and not fully free to express yourself, join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership at ⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠ 🔓 🚀

💌 Or you can join the mail list where she answers a bunch of common questions: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3Wih9Jh⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

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👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq

📽 Becc's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl

👋 Becc's Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT

Hey there Doctor humans! Feeling like you're constantly walking on eggshells around unseen authorities?

Us too!

In this episode, we discuss the concept of "police" in your life - those people or situations that make you question your every move.

This episode dives into the idea of having "police" in your life - those people or situations that make you feel like you're constantly being judged and scrutinised.

We explore how these "police" can make you act differently, expend unnecessary energy, and miss out on opportunities.

Let's talk about what you can do to take back control and feel safe in your own skin.

Key points:

📌 How the feeling of being watched can make you act strangely and unnaturally.

📌 The concept of "police" in your life can be a metaphor for internal and external pressures that make you feel unsafe.

📌 These pressures can come from people, situations, or even yourself.

📌 Allowing these "police" to control your behavior can be exhausting and steal your joy.

Do you notice there are the "police" in your life? Who are they and where they show up in your life?

Sticks and stones may break my bones but SILENCE… Well, it makes me a wee little bit crazy…

 

Negative feedback is not the only place that our minds can spin out on us. For many of us, we have a painful reaction to receiving no feedback at all. In that space, our mind fills in the gaps between people's (in)action and their implications.

 

Specifically, the situation we're talking about is when we're consciously or subconsciously expecting recognition or positive feedback ad we don't get it. We make a simple calculation: if positive feedback means I'm on track, I'm not failing, I'm good enough. 

 

… Well then, a lack of positive feedback means I'm not on track 

… I'm a failure 

… I'm not enough 

 

You personally may not recognise such blatant statements filling this space in your mind, but nonetheless, this episode is here to encourage you to notice where you have unmet expectations that a reaping havoc on your happiness and confidence.

 

This is particularly important for those of us working as doctors or in the healthcare in general as a culture that hasn't got a lot of positive feedback (or feedback of any flavour) built in. This isn't something that is going to rapidly and dramatically change, so let's do what we can to best support ourselves to show up and have the experience we want. 

 

In what situations do you have quiet expectations of positive feedback? Where do you notice your brain jump in and fill the gaps? We'd love to hear. (TELL ME I'M PRETTY) 

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

 

Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclaim a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE. 

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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 Hey beautiful friends & doctor humans!

 

Kristeen Barker and Doctor Becc, and welcome back to *Am I Doing It Wrong?*, the podcast for doctors by doctors.

WE ARE GOING TO KEEP TALKING ABOUT THIS UNTIL WE CHANGE THE RHETORIC IN HEALTHCARE.

If you're going through a difficult time recently and you're JUST STARTING to treat yourself and talk to yourself more reasonably... AND THEN SOMEONE COMES ALONG and says something like,

☄️ "Just be positive"

☄️ "You're just being fragile"

 

When you've always been someone who criticises yourself (ahem, many doctors), this familiar dialogue can easily infiltrate your assessments of yourself.

This week, we’re diving deep into how to stay in your integrity when people give unsolicited dismissive 'advice'

And why we believe it’s okay - and even productive - to NOT just 'be positive' and to actually spend time experiencing the emotions your body is producing. We explore how we can navigate these interactions without letting others’ words derail what we know is best for us.

Join us, Doctor Becc and Kristeen, for an empowering discussion on how to stay grounded and in your integrity in the face of critical and misguided advice.

In this episode:

🫀 How to recognise when someone’s “advice” is actually dismissive and lacks logic and self-awareness.

🫀 Why it’s essential to embrace and validate our negative emotions rather than suppress them.

🫀 The problem with societal pressure to always “stay positive” and how it leads to a disconnect from ourselves.

🫀 The impact of toxic positivity in medical culture and why we need more compassion and open space for processing emotions.

🫀 Tools for processing unsolicited advice from a place of self-awareness and emotional resilience.

🫀 Why tuning into your values and recognising your own expertise on yourself is the key to making empowering choices.

Let’s keep this important conversation going AND CHANGE THIS DEFAULT RHETORIC IN HEALTHCARE! We all deserve better. If this episode resonated with you, share your thoughts, stories, or questions 💌

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠

If you're a successful woman still feeling on guard and not fully free to express yourself, join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🔓 🚀

💌 Or you can join the mail list where she answers a bunch of common questions: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3Wih9Jh⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

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You're a human too. You Don't Get to Be Perfect as a Doctor

On one hand, we can all nod our heads at the idea that perfectionism is unrealistic, unfair to expect of ourselves and even detrimental to try to aim for...

... But what about when you're a doctors? What about when your performace effects other people in their most vulnerable states?

... Isn't this a time where we really should be perfect?

In this episode, we discuss the unrealistic expectation of perfection in medicine. We bring to light a difficult fact, which is that doctors are humans and humans are fallible. At times, this means patients will, to our devastation, not be perfectly cared for.

We discuss the importance and our reliance on the "Swiss Cheese Model" of caring for patients and how teamwork is essential to minimising and preventing medical errors.

Main Points:

• Doctors are expected to be perfect, but this is an unrealistic expectation.
• Ironically, perfectionism can lead to burnout and medical errors.
• The "Swiss Cheese Model" shows how multiple layers of defense can prevent errors.
• Teamwork is essential in medicine. Relying on the individual being infallible is a strategy doomed to harm patients.
• We invite doctors to embrace their humanity and ask for help when needed.

Key Quotes:

• "We will all have examples of times where we personally have been right at the cusp of causing harm and saved by the Swiss Cheese model..." - Dr Becc
• "...it's not just in our heads...there's this lack of tolerance for doctors not being precise and exact and all knowing..." - Dr Kristeen Barker
• "...thank goodness we are so lucky to get to work with colleagues..." - Dr Becc
• "...they are the true heroes in this situation..." - Dr Kristeen Barker

Have you ever been saved by a teammate? Share your stories in the comments below!

For a long time, Becc was afraid that being positive would mean she'd drop the ball. She thought her self-doubt and self-criticism gave her an edge. 

She couldn't imagine success that didn't come with anxiety and stress. 

In this episode, we take a page out of Kristeen's core and characteristic outlook on life: using positive energy. We've both struggled with negativity in the past, and let's be honest, who hasn't? But guess what? We've also discovered the amazing power of positivity and how it can completely transform your life, both inside and outside the hospital.

So, how do we avoid getting stuck in the "worst-case scenario" loop? Well, we've come up with a handy framework to help you flip the negativity switch:

1. Become Aware: Pay attention to your thoughts. Are they making you feel bored, overwhelmed, or stressed?
2. Ask Why: Pinpoint the specific thoughts causing those feelings. What stories are you telling yourself?
3. Set an Intention: Decide how you WANT to feel. Maybe you crave calmness, focus, or confidence.
4. Find the Thought: Identify thoughts that can evoke those desired feelings.

Here are some practical tips Kristeen uses to stay positive:

• The Joy List: Create a list of activities that bring you immediate joy (dancing, singing, listening to a favorite song) and do one when you need a quick mood shift.
• Clear Your Head: Meditate, take a walk, or do anything that gives you mental space.
• Set the Intention: Declare how you want to feel and who you want to be in the present moment. This helps you embody your best self.

Remember, everyone, shifting towards a more positive mindset is a journey, not a destination. Don't expect instant change! Experiment, observe the results, and find what works best for YOU on your path to a brighter outlook. As always, you're not doing it wrong!

And don't forget to share your own tips and tricks with us in the comments below! We're all in this together.

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠

If you're a successful woman still feeling on guard and not fully free to express yourself, join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🔓 🚀

💌 Or you can join the mail list where she answers a bunch of common questions: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3Wih9Jh⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

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Hey there goal-getters! Feeling overwhelmed by your to-do list and struggling to prioritize? In this episode, Kristeen shares the system that's been working wonders for her: the "Intuitive To-Do List" that will help you ditch the stress and choose what matters most. Learn how to tap into your intuition and get laser-focused on what will move you closer to your goals.

Kristeen and Becc chat about the challenges of feeling overwhelmed with to-do lists and the constant pressure to be productive. They introduce Kristeen's new system, the "Intuitive To-Do List," a three-step process that utilizes gratitude, future goal setting, and intuition to help you choose the most important task for each day.

Here are the key takeaways from the Intuitive To-Do List system:

1. Start with Gratitude: Write down anything you're thankful for to shift your mindset to a more positive place.
2. Set Your Future Goals: Identify your long-term and short-term goals and imagine yourself achieving them.
3. Tap into Your Intuition: Write down what comes to mind for what you need to do today to get closer to your goals. Don't overthink it - the first thought is usually the best one!

Listen to the full episode to learn more about the Intuitive To-Do List and how to implement it in your own life. Try it out this week and see how it changes your game!

Share your experience and any to-do list hacks you have in the comments below.

Belonging is a fundamental human need. It’s normal for us to feel a desire to belong and even to feel destabilised when we don't.

Many of us hold an idea about what a 'typical' doctor is... Or even a 'good' doctor. Consequently, it's common to feel 'othered' in medical culture.

It's never *easy* to feel othered. But, together, we can make this not only a better experience for you but also even a wildly enhancing one.

In this episode, we talk about common situations that make us feel othered in medicine:

... Failing an exam

... Diverging from a training pathway

... Not knowing which training pathway you want to do

... Delaying training

... Locuming

... Not pursuing research

This episode will have you checking in with your thoughts about what's 'normal' and, more importantly, prompting you to decide for yourseld:

- Is this definition of 'normal' really correct?

- If that's what normal is, do I want to be 'normal'?

- What's the problem with not being 'normal'?

- What are the strengths of not being 'normal'?

- If I know I don't want to be normal... Am I willing to be different?

- Is it possibly even a great thing to be different?

The only way to change the world is to be different.

Do you dare to be different?

In medical culture, negative feedback predominates the feedback gifts that we receive. While feedback is a gift in so many ways, it’s never easy to receive negative feedback. And it’s especially difficult to feel like you only ever get ‘bad news’. Taking this situation and being skilful with your response is, however, a game-changer when it comes to sky-rocking your career and becoming the person you want to be in this world. It’s helpful to look at the challenges of receiving negative feedback AND of deciding what to do with it *from your integrity*. Are you ready? Let’s talk about it.

DOWNLOAD YOUR 5-MINUTE *BASICALLY MAGIC* ENERGY-MAKER: 🔓🚀 https://tutorials.kristeenbarker.com/pages/doctor-wellbeing 🚀🔓

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Hey beautiful friends & doctor humans! Kristeen Barker and Doctor Becc, and welcome back to *Am I Doing It Wrong?*, the podcast for doctors by doctors. Today we have a fun and super practical episode for those of you who are balancing the demands of a clinical day with the need to study in the evenings. You know, those nights when you’re mentally exhausted but still need to hit the books? We’ve got just the thing to help you feel energised, focused, and ready to make the most of that time. Sounds too good to be true? Like magic? Well, it kind of is. Our minds are so incredibly powerful. We're going to show you how to use them to make magic happen. We’re excited to bring you tool a tool to GIVE YOU THE ENERGY YOU NEED for your evening study session (or for our consultants, whatever other goals & priorities you have in your life). ... EVEN AFTER a DRAINING, challenging clinical day. We're going to walk you through transitioning from a busy clinical day into productive study time by harnessing mental shifts that boost energy, focus, and positivity. Here are 3 Elements to Shift Your Energetic State using your MINDSET: 1️⃣ Appreciation – appreciation is a TOOL to move you UP the emotional scale. This can help change your physiology and actually CREATE energy or TURN OFF stressful energy spending processes. 2️⃣ Recognition – not everything is EASY. And, notice, you wouldn't have it that way even if you could. When things are difficult, you get to see in no unclear terms how resourceful, capable and skilful you are. Instead of ignoring or resenting the things that were hard in your day, recognise what you feel proud of and strong in. 3️⃣ Connecting with Your "Why" – Reconnecting with the purpose and motivation that inspired you to pursue medicine. This isn’t about pushing through exhaustion — this is about creating energy where you had none. Download the free recording linked below to start practicing these mindset shifts WITHOUT EVEN HAVING TO THINK. 🔓🚀 https://tutorials.kristeenbarker.com/pages/doctor-wellbeing 🚀🔓 Let us know how it goes! 💌

What's a common feature of a doctor's life? The DEADLINE AVALANCHE

One deadline... Piece of cake

Two deadlines... No problem 

Three deadlines... Okay we can do this 

Four deadlines... IT'S ONLY TUESDAY 

 

Time management 101 isn't enough to save us in this situation of competing demands and conflicting priorities 

 

The deadline avalanche can be managed by SURVIVING. This looks like staying up late to get everything done, forgoing things you'd rather keep, and even sacrificing things you said you wouldn't. 

 

Becc can't forget missing a wedding of a loved one when she was in med school. At the time, it seemed necessary to meet the demands of these deadlines. 

 

On the other hand, the option is not always obvious as a possibility... is THRIVING in the deadline avalanche. What this requires is DIVERTING resources away 

 

It's true, we can't do it all. 

But it's okay, because we CAN do what's important. 

 

So here's the catch - and the strategy. To free up our resources for what's important, we need TAKE THEM from somewhere else. 

 

And we can hear some of you… PERMISSION TO DO LESS? I'm IN. 

 

And then some of you like… PERMISSION TO DO LESS? … But … It won't be good enough 

 

THOUGHT: It won't meet the mark unless I give all of my effort

 

Becc used to have this same thought process. And it meant that she could never give herself permission to give less than 100% effort to any of these competing deadlines. It was too much of a risk. 

 

The problem with this is, she also never tried less than 100% to see if it would suffice. 

 

Evidence base for success giving LESS THAN 100% effort: nil 

Evidence base for success giving 100% effort: robust 

 

When we say 'There's no evidence for that' in medicine, we want to be clear if we're trying to communciate: 

 

"There's experiments that don't show evidence for that to be true"

OR

"There's no experiments that investigate that question"

 

And here's what we have to offer on this: 

 

The belief that is POSSIBLE that less than 100% effort needs to be strong enough for you to choose to do the experiment. If you don't believe it's possible, why try, right?

 

So, here's an invitation from our shared experience: 

 

It's possible that you can GIVE LESS EFFORT to some of these deadlines WITHOUT LOSING ANYTHING. 

 

With that extra effort diverted to the deadlines that are IMPORTANT, it's possible you can GAIN A LOT.

 

The key here is first getting clear on what's important before your mind gets carried away with what's urgent. 

 

When you are clear about what's IMPORTANT, you'll have the fuel for the bravery required to divert resources away from its competition. 

 

Sometimes good enough is good enough. 

 

What do you think?

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclain a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE.

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Hey Doctor Humans!

Empathetic and overwhelmed?

Kristeen Barker and Dr. Becc explore the complexities of empathy in medicine. From wedding tears to the realities of the ICU, they delve into how to harness this powerful emotion without burning out.

Being an empathic doctor can be both a strength and highly fulfilling and a weakness and great challenge - it depends on how you use it! Kristeen Barker and Dr. Becc discuss the challenges and rewards of empathy in medical practice.

They explore how to balance emotional connection with patients while maintaining professional boundaries.

🫀 Empathy is a powerful tool for doctors: Connecting with patients on a deeper emotional level can improve patient outcomes and satisfaction.

🫀 Understand the difference between cognitive and emotional empathy: Cognitive empathy involves intellectually understanding a patient's perspective, while emotional empathy involves experiencing their feelings. Both are important for effective patient care.

🫀 Manage the 'fixer' mentality: Sometimes patients and people in general don't want most for you to' fix' anything but they want you to use your empathy to see them and connect with them.

🫀 Practice emotional regulation and self-awareness: Developing strategies to manage emotions is crucial for doctors. Are you an empathetic doctor? Join the club with Kristeen & Becc ...And let them know in the comments! 💌

Speaking of MANAGING YOUR ENERGY & REJUVENATING, have you tried Kristeen's AFTER WORK UPWARD SPIRAL track? In just 5 MINUTES, Kristeen helps move up up the energy & emotional scale energy by directing your mindset to be able to go into your evening with intention and energy:

🔓🚀 https://tutorials.kristeenbarker.com/pages/doctor-wellbeing 🚀🔓

 

 👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclaim a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE. 

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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 Hey beautiful friends & doctor humans!

In this episode of Am I Doing It Wrong, we dive into a common self-care misstep: thinking that JUST ANY time away from work will be rejuvenating.

Nope.

Just because you're not at work or working doesn't mean you're putting deposits in your energy bank.

In particularly in this episode, we dive into how we've fallen into the trap of mistaking *socialising* for a method or rest and rejuvenation. Maybe you can hear this in your thoughts too as you say, "I've had the weekend off and spent time hanging out and having fun with friends. So I should be refreshed for work on Monday".

In fact, having MORE social time can actually create the need for MORE rejuvenation time. It's all about making sure you can listen to what your body & mind is asking for in the moment.

 

There are 2 main ideas we want to prompt you with

1️⃣ We want you to stop thinking something is wrong with you if you DON'T feel refreshed after a weekend socialising. For may of us, we have to recognise this as something that we want to invest energy in but that we don't *always* get energy back from.

2️⃣ We want you to be so clear about HOW YOU REJUVENATE so that when you want do, you can hit the right buttons to get that result.

 

In this episode:

🧠 Kristeen and Dr. Becc share personal stories of how, even with a break from work, genuine rest and rejuvenation often require solitude.

🧠 Reflecting on how grief, loss, and intense social commitments can amplify the need for personal time and self-connection.

🧠 Discussion on how social interactions, while meaningful, may still be exhausting due to the "hypervigilance" required to maintain energy and connection.

🧠 Importance of examining social expectations and giving yourself permission to step back and find peace alone, without guilt.

🧠 Reminders that even with loved ones, it’s okay if time together isn’t always relaxing. We don't have to make it mean it's not a 'good' relationship. Sometimes, what’s missing is reconnection with yourself first.

🧠 Practical advice on how to build authentic, fulfilling social interactions and ensure you’re meeting your personal needs too.

 

Have you got some self-care fails to share with us? We want to hear them! 💌

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclain a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE.

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Hey Doctor Humans!

Feeling burnt out?

... But that you don't have enough time to take care of yourself...

In this episode, Dr. Becc and Kristeen Barker debunk the myth that self-care has to take a lot of time. They’ll share some self-care that you can easily incorporate into your day to boost your energy and well-being.... AND get you more time back.

Dr. Becc and Kristeen Barker acknowledge the challenges that doctors face in finding time for self-care. They discuss two unconventional and controversial self-care practices that can be powerful, bold changes:

1️⃣ Ditching the news: Exposing yourself to constant distressing news can be a powerful, insidious drain your energy.

It is a privilege to be able to simply 'shut off' from the terrors of human life both locally and globally. If you find that watching the news is helping you make changes in the world, please continue. But if it is draining your energy without moving you to action, it's time to start valuing your energy.

2️⃣ Evaluating the close-circle energy vampires in your life: Not everyone is good for your well-being. It’s okay to distance yourself from people who drain your energy. If you're someone who values making an impact in the world, it's all about looking at if net-good is created from your choices.

The hosts acknowledge that these practices can be controversial, but they encourage listeners to consider the overall net impact of their choices and, make sure they actually factor themselves into that equation.

Let Kristeen and Becc know your thoughts! We are open as always to your perspectives and different opinions 💌

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclaim a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE.

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Hey there Doctor Humans! In this episode, we discuss shame spirals, a common experience for many people, especially those in the medical field.

But first,

We fell off our chairs reading Linda's poem from social media and, admittedly, in the awe we realised we had not sought permission to share her poem on the podcast. We connected with Linda after our recording and to our delight she was happy for us to keep it in the recording for you all to experience.

If you too are impressed with Linda's communication through poem, there's more where that came from. If we hadn't already been stunned by the poem, it would be more surprising to learn that Dr. Linda (Smith) Appiah-Kubi is actually a communication expert in healthcare.

While we cannot confirm if advanced communication through poem is included in her courses for doctors, if you're a doctor who appreciates that our communication skills can dramatically enhance our patient's experiences, Dr Appiah-Kubi's organisation, Clear and Connected can offer you the upskilling that you seek.

Clear and Connected by Dr Appiah-Kubi:

Website: https://bit.ly/4b2y2fy

Instagram: https://bit.ly/3y5WM7K

Linked in: https://bit.ly/4dg2OTr

Episode Summary:

• Shame spirals are common occurrences, especially for doctors who may experience feelings of inadequacy, incompetence, and vulnerability due to the nature of their work.
• Shame spirals can be debilitating and lead to a cycle of negative thoughts and emotions.
• The key to overcoming a shame spiral is to identify the source of the shame and understand the thoughts associated with it.
• We share personal stories of shame spirals we've experienced in their careers.
• Becc explains the difference between a shame spiral and processing a difficult experience. Shame spirals involve stacking negative stories on top of the initial experience, whereas processing an experience involves understanding the emotions and learning from them.
• Kristeen used a mindfulness technic called grounding to help her connect with the world around her in the present moment. This was a great example of how using mindfulness doesn't have to look like sitting cross-legged in silence but she engaged in sensory experiences like smelling candles to make her mindfulness more enjoyable yet effective.
• Becc explains the concept of mood-congruent memory bias, which is the tendency to recall memories that reinforce the emotions we are currently feeling. Shame spirals can worsen this bias.
• Shame can be a signal that something needs to be addressed, but it's important to go beyond the surface-level thoughts and identify the deeper beliefs that are causing the shame.
• By meeting the reality of the shame experience and challenging the negative thoughts associated with it, we can break free from the shame spiral and move forward.

Share your experiences with shame spirals and what's worked and not worked for you!

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💌 Get all your questions answered about Doctor Becc's *Dare, Darling* Group Coaching Membership - email list: ⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3Wih9Jh⁠⁠⁠ 💌

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclain a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE.

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Hello Doctor Humans!

Feeling overwhelmed and behind on your 2024 goals?

... Avoiding checking in with your goals at the midpoint of the year?

You're not alone! Dr. Kristeen Barker and Dr. Becc riff on the common pitfall of getting stuck in the weeds and forgetting to check-in with your big dreams. This episode is your pep talk to hit the pause button, re-evaluate, and get back on track to a thriving second half of the year.

Dr. Kristeen Barker and Dr. Becc open the episode acknowledging the common struggle of doctors – feeling busy but not necessarily accomplishing what truly matters. They emphasise the importance of quarterly check-ins with your goals to avoid the feeling of overwhelm and disappointment.

Here are the key takeaways:

🧠 Confusing busyness with productivity: Just because you're working hard doesn't mean you're moving the needle on your goals. It's easy to get stuck in the comfort zone of busy work without actually achieving anything meaningful.

🧠 The Gap vs. The Gain: Our brains are wired to focus on the gap between where we are and where we want to be, leading to negativity and self-doubt. It's crucial to acknowledge your achievements and shift your mindset to focus on the progress you've made.

🧠 The Truth & Dare Protocol - Two Truths and a Dare: A helpful tool for self-reflection. Reflect on two truths (what went well and what didn't) and use the "dare" to identify one thing you'll do differently moving forward.Don't wait! Take some time to reflect on your 2024 goals. It doesn't need to be perfect or elaborate. Use the Two Truths and a Dare exercise for a simple check in protocol to get out of the gap & into the gain.

💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://doctorbecc.myflodesk.com/mindsetmoments 

💜 Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclaim a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE. 

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort via ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Hey beautiful friends & doctor humans! 🧠🥂 

 

WELCOME to the UNSHAKEABLE MINDSETS Series. 

 

We're bringing this series to you on the poddy because doctors deserve to be able to show up as their most confident, calm and in control version of themselves in their lives. 

Don't they?

And these mindsets help you do that. Our general experience and upbringing in society has created so much confusion about what we should do, what's expected of us, what's our responsibility and what's the good/right answer for how to do life.

Our medical training and culture has only reinforced and taken that confusion and never-enough-ness to a-whole-nother-level.

 

Let's correct this together. 🧠

So that we can be unshakeable. 📈

Ready?

 

THIS SERIES will bring you mindsets to be unshakeable in 4 KEY AREAS:

Pillar 1️⃣ Your relationship with yourself

Pillar 2️⃣ Your relationship with uncertainty

Pillar 3️⃣ Your relationship with emotions (esp suffering)

Pillar 4️⃣ Your relationship with others

 

👑 These are my 4 pillars of being unshakeable. 

📚 Each with its own collection of mindsets that make you unshakeable. 

Welcome to Pillar 3 today: Your Relationship with Emotions

👉 These are the mindsets related to your relationship with EMOTIONS that make you unshakeable. 

This is my personal favourite because it has been the most IMPACTFUL for me in terms of creating FREEDOM and POWER. Which one of these do YOU think you need to be more unshakeable? Which one do you WANT to believe for yourself the most? Let us know in the comments! 💌

 

 

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠

 

If you're a successful woman still feeling on guard and not fully free to express yourself, join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership at ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🔓 🚀

💌 Or you can join the mail list where she answers a bunch of common questions: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3Wih9Jh⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

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Hello Doctor Humans! 

Are you a doctor struggling with exam anxiety?

Especially on your second or third time taking the exam?

This episode is for you! Doctors Kristeen Barker and Becc discuss a powerful strategy to free yourself from the fear of failing and refocus on what you can control.

Kristeen has been working closely with her Rock Your Long Case crew (which as you have heard she is no-so-secretly so invested in that she endearingly calls you guys 'ducklings'! 🫀 With many of her crew and hundreds of others sitting this difficult-to-predict and -prepare-for exam, Kristeen wanted to make sure you had this shortcut in your hands.

And this isn't a strategy that downplays the importance of the exams and just tries to tell you, "The exam doesn't matter that much". Becc uses this strategy in the most important things in her life - including in relationships most important to her. We take this fear very seriously!

We all know the sinking feeling that washes over you when you envision failing an exam you've poured your heart and soul into. That fear can be especially crushing for doctors facing the pressure of re-taking a crucial exam.

In this episode, Drs. Kristeen Barker and Becc offer a lifeline. They delve into a powerful strategy to help you confront your fear of failing head-on. By exploring your worst-case scenario and talking yourself through it, you can break free from the grip of anxiety and refocus your energy on what you can control. This approach can not only improve your emotional well-being but also empower you to reach your full potential.

So grab your cup of tea, curl up, and let Drs. Kristeen and Becc guide you towards exam success... with a lot less stress!

You can find the COST OF LIVING exercise & checklist here: https://bit.ly/47kSG8b.

When you sign up for the email list, not only will you receive the exercise but Becc guide you through it with self-coaching lessons & prompts straight to your inbox over the next 4 weeks. 

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Why are doctors burned out?

What's the solution to burnout?

How does the healthcare system need to change to solve burnout?

What is moral injury? Is moral injury or burnout the problem?

How to change the way you use your time to improve your burnout (hint: it's not 'be more efficient')

Can time management REALLY fix burnout?

 

THIS EPISODE is an important episode for anyone out there who is not feeling like they're living a life that they enjoy living in. This episode is not only for doctors who are at that awful, end stage of burnout but it's for anyone who feels like 

… your hand work isn't 'working' - it's not giving you back the results you want 

… you're willing to work hard but it's not feeling worth it 

… no matter how hard you work, you're not getting the results you want 

… no matter how hard you work, it's not fixing the problems

… no matter how hard you work, it's not filling you up 

 

The way that the burnout conversation is oversimplified at the moment has a lot of highly intelligent people feeling stuck.

 

The problem is, if burnout is a problem of working too hard… Of workloads being too high… Of trying to do too much with too little. 

 

We're stuck. 

 

Our only option is to work less or to work less hard. In our current system, that brings up unacceptable subsequent problems for doctors: 

 

"BUT my patients will be the ones who miss out and suffer if I do less"

"BUT my colleagues will just have to do more if I do less"

 

Enter: MORAL INJURY. 

 

Here, the only option is to 

… allow our patients to have a lesser standard of care 

… put our equally stretched, distressed and struggling colleagues under more pressure

 

Those solutions are simply not acceptable to us. 

 

Notice, we can either work less hard to solve our burnout… But then we face moral injury. 

 

Or 

 

We can lessen the moral injury at the cost of working more and becoming burnt out. 

 

We think the problem is working too much. 

So we need to work less.

But when we work less, the consequences are unacceptable. 

 

It's no surprise that we feel STUCK. 

 

… trapped 

… defeated 

… hopeless

 

The current burnout conversation largely centres around what is DRAINING & DEPLETING us. And that's an incredibly important aspect of burnout. 

But if we don’t look at the other side of the equation, we miss out on the other half of the solutions available to us: what's ENERGISING & FULFILLING to us. 

 

In this episode, we talk about common misunderstandings of burnout that keep us reliant on solutions that don't address the problem. We uproot the thought errors that perpetuate these cycles working hard to over-compensate for an inadequate healthcare system. 

 

We talk about THE OTHER SIDE of the burnout equation: doing meaningful, fulfilling work. And how we can realistically do that in the setting of an under-resourced healthcare system. 

 

We can't wait to have meaningful discussions WITH YOU about burnout, moral injury, and how we can ultimately change this system for doctors. Whether you agree, disagree or a mixture, we want to hear from you. See you in the comments!

💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: ⁠https://doctorbecc.myflodesk.com/mindsetmoments⁠ 

💜 Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclaim a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE. 

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort via ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Hey beautiful friends & doctor humans! 🧠🥂 

 

WELCOME to the last video in the UNSHAKEABLE MINDSETS Series. 

 

We're bringing this series to you on the poddy because doctors deserve to be able to show up as their most confident, calm and in control version of themselves in their lives. 

Don't they?

And these mindsets help you do that. Our general experience and upbringing in society has created so much confusion about what we should do, what's expected of us, what's our responsibility and what's the good/right answer for how to do life.

Our medical training and culture has only reinforced and taken that confusion and never-enough-ness to a-whole-nother-level.

 

Let's correct this together. 🧠

So that we can be unshakeable. 📈

Ready?

 

THIS SERIES will bring you mindsets to be unshakeable in 4 KEY AREAS:

Pillar 1️⃣ Your relationship with yourself

Pillar 2️⃣ Your relationship with uncertainty

Pillar 3️⃣ Your relationship with emotions (esp suffering)

Pillar 4️⃣ Your relationship with others

 

👑 These are my 4 pillars of being unshakeable. 

📚 Each with its own collection of mindsets that make you unshakeable. 

Welcome to Pillar 4 today: Your Relationship with Others

👉 These are the mindsets related to your relationship with OTHERS that make you unshakeable. 

This is usually the mindset pillar that my clients find the most life-changing because it is the place that we're often most confused an accidentally, innocently disempowered. In fact, most of us are implicitly and very explicitly taught disempowering mindsets when it comes to others.

This one's for my people-pleasers, over-givers and only-want-to-make-everyone-happy-ers 😉

I'm about to flip your world upside down for the better.

Which one of these mindsets do YOU think you need to be more unshakeable? Which one do you WANT to believe for yourself the most? Let us know in the comments! 💌

Welcome, friends! Welcome back to the poddy and into the NEW YEAR. 

 

We are so stoked to be able to start this year off with you and, on that note, we are so grateful for your support and connection in 2023. 

 

New year can come with a lot of expectations and pressure.  New year, new you, right?

 

In this episode, we're here to take the pressure off WHILE making sure you don't miss out on the magic or sell yourself short in 2024. We've both benefited from some simple practices that have made our years not only more productive - but EASIER. 

 

Would you like being more productive to be easier? You're in the right place. 

 

In particular, if are someone who understands that what you give attention to affects how you behave, a vision board or creating some form of daily direction of your attention is a high-yield hack to achieve more with less effort. We talk about how the vision board actually practically affected our behaviour in 2023 to help you understand if it has something to offer you. 

 

Have you got some magic to add? Different ways? Better ways? Things you'd recommend AGAINST? We'd love to hear about your practices and plans too.

Last week we talked about the PROBLEM. This week, let's talk about the SOLUTION. 

 

Last week's episode, episode 20, was an episode that resonated with a lot of you - we started to dissect why clinical work seems to be especially exhausting cognitively and emotionally… And because of that, also physiologically and physically.

 

Paradoxically, an important part of finding solutions for ourselves is getting closer to the reality of the problem. When we can see the problem clearly, we are better positioned to choose impactful solutions. So if you haven't listened to our last episode, we'd highly encourage you to start there in favour of 'shortcutting to a solution'. 

 

In this episode, we introduce the concept of DEPOSITS and WITHDRAWALS on your energy. NOTE: thinking about energy in terms of deposits and withdrawals is not an original concept but it is widely spread and we are unaware of the original creator to give credit to.  

 

In this episode, we first talk about what it really means when we say we want to rest or we need rest. For most of us, what most of us mean is that we want to feel less tired and we think that being idle and not exerting ourselves is the way to achieve that. Like us, many of you may have found the 'just rest' and 'just do less' advice… essentially useless. It seems that with this model we can never seem to rest enough. 

 

Luckily, there's a more sophisticated way to think about rest. In this episode, we detangle the result of feeling rested or more energise with being idle or creating ease in the body. 

 

And, as always, we share our own personal examples of unexpected ways that we create more energy for ourselves so that you can try it on and see if it fits in your life. 

 

We hope this one deposits some more energy into your life! We'd love it if you'd share some examples of deposits in the comments so that we can invest in them too.

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👋 Kristeen's Instagram: https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq

📽 Becc's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl

👋 Becc's Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT

 

If you're a successful woman still feeling on guard and not fully free to express yourself, join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership at ⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠

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Hey there Doctor Humans!

 

Have we ever felt like our lives as doctors are just...weird? Like, way outside the realm of "normal"? In this episode, we explore the idea that a doctor's life is inherently abnormal, and how acknowledging this reality can be a powerful tool for reducing stress and self-compassion.

 

Summary:

• We discuss a listener's realization that their clinical life is not normal.
• We explore the ways in which a doctor's life defies typical work experiences, from high-pressure decision-making to constant exposure to tragedy.
• The concept of normalizing the abnormal is discussed, and how it can lead to unnecessary self-criticism and exhaustion.
• Acknowledging the abnormal nature of our work can be a powerful tool for self-compassion and reducing stress.

 

We invite you guys to share your experiences with "abnormal" situations in the medical field here with us!

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclaim a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE.

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Hey Doctor Humans! Ever felt like you’re on top of the world, only to find yourself spiralling a few weeks later? You’re not alone! In this episode, we’re getting real about our recent slip-ups and sharing how we’re hitting the reset button. We’re talking about the importance of self-compassion, the power of small steps, and why even the most well-intentioned doctors need a little TLC. Join us as we navigate the ups and downs of life together. Episode Summary 📈 We share personal experiences of struggling to maintain balance and wellbeing as doctors. 📈 We emphasise the importance of self-compassion and understanding that setbacks are normal. 📈 We discuss the concept of the “appreciation rampage” as a way to boost mood and outlook. 📈 We encourage you to prioritise self-care and find your own path to reset and recharge. Tell us your RESET RITUALS in the comments! 💌

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👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclain a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE.

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Hey beautiful friends & doctor humans! Dr Becc here with Kristeen Barker, and welcome back to *Am I Doing It Wrong?*, the podcast for doctors by doctors. This week, we’re closing the loop on Kristeen’s question turned quest: “What is a life you don’t need a holiday from?” After exploring this in episode 48, Kristeen is coming back us today with the change in BELIEFS & BEHAVIOURS that hace shifted her from burnout to a life of ease, joy, and fulfilment. We also dive into how this mindset of VALUING YOURSELF is fundamental to the *Dare, Darling Manifesto*. The beliefs & behaviours outlined in this manifesto are offered to help direct you to be UNSHAKEABLE in your life - even the busy, demanding, often oh-so-chaotic life as a doctor. We’ve got actionable tips, mindset shifts, and a deep dive into how valuing yourself transforms the way you live and work. Join us, and as always, we love hearing from you—share your thoughts and let’s keep the conversation going! Key points: 📈 Kristeen revisits dilemma and it's question: “What is a life you don’t need a holiday from?” 📈 She shares the behaviour changes that have taken her from burnout to loving her everyday life.📈 You know from mindset coaching, her behaviour is a result of a BELIEF change 📈 Kristeen's BEHAVIOURS now show us that she VALUES HERSELF more than her PRODUCTIVITY 📈 Dr Becc emphasises how valuing ourselves, as outlined in the *Dare, Darling Manifesto*, strengthens your ability to contribute to others. We want to hear from you! What changes have you made since listening to episode 48 to move towards a life you don’t need a holiday from? Share your thoughts, and don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share this episode! Plus, check out the *Dare, Darling Manifesto* linked above to explore how these ideas can transform your life. 💌

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👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclaim a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE.

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Hey beautiful friends & doctor humans! Kristeen Barker and Doctor Becc, and welcome back to *Am I Doing It Wrong?*, the podcast for doctors by doctors.

Ever felt a pang of jealousy or envy when comparing yourself to other doctors? In this episode, Doctor Becc and Kristeen dive deep into the common struggle of comparison in the medical profession.

We explore how these emotions can spiral into self-doubt and shame, and offer practical strategies to reframe your perspective and harness the power of comparison for personal growth.

Key Points

🧠 Except comparison - it's a normal function of our brains. As a doctor, it's common to compare yourself as a part of the process of developing and maintaining your standards.

🧠 Use the experiences of jealousy and admiration to increase your self-awareness and emotional intelligence.🧠 We don't want to get rid of our comparison - we want to transform our emotional experience of it from jealousy to admiration

🧠 Harness comparison for growth. We talk about how you can use comparison as a tool for getting what you what and becoming who you want to be.

Ready to thrive in your career without being dragged down by comparison? Let's go.

Have you experienced feelings of comparison or self-doubt in your medical journey? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below.

Let's create a supportive community where we can learn and grow together. 💌

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclain a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE.

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Hey Doctor Humans!

Have you be zoning out recently?

Hosts Kristeen Barker and Dr. Becc understand. In this episode, they delve into the world of numbing behaviours, sharing personal experiences with excessive scrolling, overworking, and more. 

Discover how to break free from these patterns, reconnect with yourself, and prioritise self-care.In this episode of "Am I Doing It Wrong?", Kristeen Barker and Dr. Becc tackle the common issue of numbing behaviours. They explore how common practices like excessive scrolling, overworking, and unhealthy eating habits can be used as a way to avoid difficult emotions. 

By sharing personal stories of their own struggles, the hosts emphasise the importance of self-awareness and recognising when these behaviours become detrimental. 

Key points include:

✔️ The difference between life-enhancing and numbing behaviours.

✔️ What you miss out on when you choose numbing behaviours

✔️ Strategies for breaking free from the cycle of numbing.

✔️ The importance of self-compassion and avoiding self-judgment.

✔️ How noticing numbing offers an opportunity for you to gain key emotional regulation skills.

Gain insights into your own numbing habits and be inspired to break the cycle for yourself - over and over again.

Have you been numbing lately? Let us know in the comments your go-to numbing habit.

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👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclain a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE.

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Hello our doctor humans, our beautiful friends, Does it feel like nothing's going right? Maybe nothing's going wrong at all.

In fact, maybe this is EXACTLY what you want to be to get to that next version of yourself.

Join Dr. Becc and Kristeen as they help you step back and look at the big picture in these times that feel tough.

Key points:

🌎 Doctor Becc says "A good life is an obstacle course". A growth journey is inevitably full of ups and downs. Nothing is going wrong when it doesn't feel great or feel like it's all going perfectly.

🌎 Growth through struggle: Difficult experiences can lead to personal growth and resilience. In fact, we talk about how it's necessary to stimulate the growth we want.

🌎 Be kind to yourself: even if it's 'normal', it's still hard! Practice self-compassion and avoid self-criticism.

Are you in a growth phase right now? Care to share?

Or maybe you've just come up from a down? Share your own rollercoaster stories and your tips for navigating challenges! 💌

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠

If you're a successful woman still feeling on guard and not fully free to express yourself, join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership at ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🔓 🚀

💌 Or you can join the mail list where she answers a bunch of common questions: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3Wih9Jh⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

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Hey team! This week on the podcast, we are talking about something we all experience but maybe don't like to think about: criticism.

Specifically, we're diving into how criticism shows up when you're achieving big things and how to deal with it in a way that empowers you, not paralyses you.

 

Want to stop letting criticism hold you back? We've got some game-changing tips for you in this episode! Plus, there's a special announcement you won't want to miss!

 

We discuss the phenomenon of criticism increasing as you achieve greater success. We explore the feeling of "who do you think you are?" that can arise when you're making a difference or stepping outside the norm.

 

Here are some key takeaways:

• Criticism is inevitable, especially as you become more successful or visible.
• It's important to understand the source of the criticism, both from the critic's perspective and your own internal experience.
• Be aware of the way that fear of criticism can hold you back from taking risks and pursuing your goals. With that awareness, you can decide for yourself, "Do I want to let this fear be my decider?"
• There are ways to build your resilience to criticism and feel safe even when you're being challenged.

 

Becc's Group Coaching Membership, "Dare, Darling," is designed to help you develop the skills and mindset to handle criticism in a healthy way.

 👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq

📽 Becc's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl

👋 Becc's Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT

 

If you're a successful woman still feeling on guard and not fully free to express yourself, join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership at ⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠ 🔓 🚀

💌 Or you can join the mail list where she answers a bunch of common questions: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3Wih9Jh⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

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Hey Doctor Humans! 

Feeling like you're constantly failing at different parts of your life? 

Work-life balance feels impossible? 

You're not alone. 

Dr. Becc and Kristeen Barker tackle this common struggle with you in this episode of Am I Doing It Wrong?

Becc and Kristeen Barker dive into the challenge of balancing your dedication to being a great doctor with the other important aspects of your life - in particular, they delve into the common conflict between being a 'good doctor' and a 'good parent' or 'good partner' .

They discuss how the pressure to meet the 'good enough' threshold can lead to feelings of failure and guilt, and offer practical solutions for creating a life you won't regret.

Here are some key takeaways:

• Feeling like you're failing in one area of your life (work, relationships, etc.) is common for doctors.
• Rigid ideas about what it means to be a good doctor can limit your choices and flexibility.

• Watch out for common thinking traps such as over-generalisation leading us to believe that we aren't doing enough.
• Consider a longer time frame than just one day when evaluating your failure or success when it comes to meeting your standards.
• Identify where you want to set boundaries so you can show up fully in all areas of your life.

Are you struggling with work-life balance? Share your experiences and challenges in the comments below!

We all leave behind a trail of unanswered questions in our day-to-day lives. 

 

As a doctor working in the boundless universe of things we can know to make us better doctors, asking questions at opportune moments is an advantage that can't be compensated for with publications and uptodate articles. 

 

In this podcast, we talk about Becc's accidental step out of her integrity when she let herself silence a clinical question that arose in her mind. 

 

There are many reasons any of us may not ask a question when it would otherwise be in our integrity to do so. 

 

It reveals our knowledge gaps 

We think we "should know this by now"

We think it's not acceptable not to know the answer 

We think we should learn it ourselves, on our own time

We don't want our colleagues to draw false assumptions about us 

We don't want our colleagues to draw true assumptions about us 

We assume people don't want to take time to answer questions 

We think asking the question is annoying 

We don't want others to feel frustrated with us 

We don't want to make others uncomfortable if they don't know the answer 

We would rather avoid any negative reaction

We decide it's not worth it if there's a possibility of a negative reaction 

We are uncomfortable taking up space

We are uncomfortable asking for others' time 

We don't think we have 'earned' the question 

 

And this is just a small sample of thoughts that can accidentally get in our way. 

 

There's another component too. 

 

Simply not being present and intentional. 

 

Being present and intentional are critical ingredients for creating change in our lives. This requires core skills of mindfulness and directing attention (focus). It also often requires some time spent in advance to decide what helpful rules you create for yourself in advance of opportunities. 

 

For example, you might decide in advance, like Becc, that you will err of the side of asking questions. In this case, the decision in the moment has been made simpler - I will ask my questions UNLESS there is an outstanding exception (say, time-critical situations). 

 

There's a lot to be said for setting intentions, especially when you consider biases of minds such as CONFIRMATION BIAS. 

If we set an intention of asking questions - and taking opportunities to ask more questions, we will register more opportunities in my day. Opportunities that may have been missed if we were prioritising other things. 

 

Have you ever suppressed or dismissed a clinical question that arose in your mind?

 

What do you think drove the suppression?

 

Let us know! We can't wait to talk with you about this one. 

We start this episode on dealing with devastating situations as a doctor with Kristeen's memory of needing to lift her hands from the chest of her patient after the decision had been made to stop CPR. Any person would agree this is a discomposing situation to face for the first time - or even the fiftieth. However, it's not an unfamiliar situation for any doctor.   

 

Today's podcast holds an important conversation about how we respond both to ourselves and in our medical culture when bad things happen, which they frequently do in our work.

 

Doctors find themselves somewhat relentlessly in situations that aren't most humans would find challenging. Our work selects in for a high level of exposure to tragic human situations. 

 

When it comes to maintaining our integrity and health as doctors, while most of us would agree that emotional suppression is not a highly functional or adaptive long-term strategy, it's a strategy that many of us employ subconsciously. 

 

Is it because we don't know how to do anything else?

 

Is it because our fast-paced, busy clinical environments don't create space for an alternative?

 

Is it because we actually think it's the most productive and adaptive response for a doctor?

Is 'normalising' to suffering and loss a good thing as a doctor?

 

By asking and answering these questions, we hope to create some more clarity around what's going wrong, what's going right, and what we might be able to do better for ourselves and for our medical culture. 

 

We are looking forward to you chiming in on this one. Please share your experiences and wisdom so that we can collectively learn how we can show up for ourselves, each other and our patients when bad things happen. 

Everyone deserves a space in their human lives to be their real human self - even doctor humans. 

 

It's less common today in a medical culture of strict expectations of this controversial thing we call 'professionalism', which can be unforgiving to the human condition. 

 

Life can be simply described a series of joys and dilemmas and there's no human who's exempt. To pretend that our reality is not real makes a challenging job and life even more so.

 

It's time for doctors to have permission to be more human. You don't need to pretend.

 

… It's exhausting.

 

And, there's something better on offer: authenticity. 

 

In this episode, we start with a health-related guilt that plays on the minds of many doctors - that we should be balanced. 

 

The nature of medical training programs in Australia is such that trainees are often left with little time in terms of absolute hours and also little control over their hours. 

 

The irony is, the popular ideas of what it is to be 'healthy' and 'balanced' create a demanding list of wellness activities that we should be doing. 

 

It's easy to look at your life as a doctor and think, "I'm doing it wrong" 

 

And this can lead us to override our actual needs in the name of ticking the 'balanced' box. 

 

And we haven't even started to talk about the effect of the guilt that this 'balance' prescription creates. 

 

We want to relieve you of the idea of 'balance'. Instead of fitting into this idea of what a balanced life looks like, a better question is, 

 

"What do I need right now?"

 

Leave your expectations at the door. Take your finger off the override button. And trust that you know what is best for you. 

 

Sometimes, we require something that looks less like classic 'balance' and more like 'survival mode'. At those times, the best thing we can do for ourselves is not add a layer of guilt and inadequacy around what we 'should' be doing.

 

This will likely be a new process for your mind to go through as many of us hold these firm ideas about what's 'balanced' and 'healthy'. 

 

Are you having the battle with balance?

Are you done pretending?

 

We look forward to sharing the conversation with you.

🔓 Here's the LINK to get the FREE BOUNDARIES CHEAT SHEET and exercise to help you EXECUTE: https://bit.ly/3KWdmua 📈

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclain a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE.

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq

📽 Becc's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl

👋 Becc's Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT

Hey there, amazing doctors humans! We're back with another episode of Am I Doing It Wrong?

Have you ever looked up to someone so much they practically become a medical deity in your mind? We've all been there! This week, we're diving deep into the concept of "pedestaling" and how it can actually hold you back from what you truly want to achieve.

We'll explore why we put people on pedestals, how it affects both you and the person you admire, and most importantly, what you can do to build bridges instead. This episode is packed with insights and aha moments, so grab a cup of coffee, settle in, and get ready to transform your relationships with the amazing doctors you look up to.

Here are the key points:

• Pedestaling is putting someone on a pedestal, admiring them greatly and possibly to an excessive degree. This can create a distance between you and the person you admire.
• When you pedestal someone, you might:
• This can be negative for both people involved.
• The person being pedestaled might feel pressure to live up to your expectations and might not be approachable.
• The person pedestaling someone might miss out on opportunities to connect and learn from the person they admire.

The episode also talks about how to avoid pedestaling people and build bridges instead. Here are some tips:

• Recognize your admiration for someone.
• See them as a real person with strengths and weaknesses.
• Don't be afraid to approach them and connect with them.
• Build a two-way relationship.

Now, after listening to this episode, we'd love to hear from you! Have you ever pedestaled someone in your career? How did it impact you? Share your stories and thoughts in our online community. Let's keep the conversation going and empower each other to ditch the pedestals and build meaningful connections. See you online, and remember, you are amazing just the way you are!

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq

📽 Becc's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl

👋 Becc's Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT

Hey everyone, Kristeen and Becc here! We're dedicating this episode to a truly inspiring event we recently attended: the Creative Careers in Medicine Conference (CCIM). It wasn't just any conference; it was an eye-opening experience that redefined what's possible for doctors like us who crave creative expression alongside our medical careers.

👫👭👬 Join in on the CCIM goodness here: https://creativecareersinmedicine.com

We'll be diving deep into three key takeaways that left a lasting impression. But be warned, enthusiasm incoming!

Finding Your Tribe: A Collapse of Hierarchy

The CCIM wasn't your typical conference. It fostered a unique atmosphere where hierarchy dissolved. Everyone, from established professionals to aspiring creatives, interacted on equal footing. This openness led to genuine connections and a sense of belonging – a true rarity in the sometimes-rigid world of medicine.

Networking Redefined: Curiosity over Competition

Forget the pressure of schmoozing! Networking at CCIM felt more like making friends with kindred spirits. We were all there to learn, share experiences, and be inspired by each other's journeys. There was no competition, just a genuine curiosity about each other's creative pursuits.

Embracing Your "And": Inspiration to Fuel Your Passions

One of the most powerful takeaways was the realization that a career in medicine doesn't have to stifle your creative side. The conference was brimming with examples of doctors who successfully integrated their artistic passions into their lives, proving it can be an "and" instead of an "or." We left feeling empowered and overflowing with inspiration to pursue our own creative endeavors.

A Call to Action: Explore Your Creative Potential

If you're a doctor feeling a pull towards creative expression but unsure where to start, this episode is for you! We encourage you to explore your interests, embrace your curiosity, and maybe even consider attending the next CCIM conference. You might just discover a hidden world of possibilities waiting to be explored.

Bonus: We also touch on the conference's impact on potential burnout and the changing landscape of the medical workforce.

We hope this summary piques your interest! Let us know if you have any questions or want to share your own creative pursuits in medicine.

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠

💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://doctorbecc.myflodesk.com/mindsetmoments

💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes empathetic doctors UNSHAKEABLE. ⏭️ WANT TO KNOW MORE or apply for a spot in the next cohort? 👭👭👭 https://www.doctorbecc.com.au

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Hey beautiful friends & doctor humans!

Kristeen Barker and Doctor Becc, and welcome back to *Am I Doing It Wrong?*, the podcast for doctors by doctors.

In this week’s episode, we're redefining imposter syndrome - what it ISN'T and what it IS.

Together, we explore how our confidence doesn’t always have to rely on competence, and why rethinking the narrative around imposter syndrome can be the key to thriving in medicine.

Our Key Points on Imposter Syndrome:

🧠 What is Imposter Syndrome, Really? We question this syndrome and whether there's actually anything to panic about here.

🧠 Imposter Syndrome - Redefined. We talk about what Imposter Syndrome is: this doubting your good-enough-ness and belonging.

🧠 Cultural Pressures in Medicine: The hidden influence of medical culture on our self-perception and how to break free from unrealistic expectations.

🧠 Confidence vs. Competence: Why tying your confidence to your competence might be holding you back—and how to flip the script.

🧠 Mindset Mastery: Practical tips to identify and challenge the thoughts that fuel self-doubt.

🧠 Confidence as a Skill: How to cultivate confidence in uncertain situations to enhance your performance and growth.

Your Next Steps:

Reflect

1️⃣ Do you WANT to feel confidence? Why and why not? (Uncover your confidence blocks + motivation)

2️⃣ How would your life be different if you could feel confident in a specific area?

3️⃣ Where are you doubting yourself? How are you defining competence here?

And... SHARE: Share your thoughts with us!

Drop a comment, send a DM, or connect with us on social media. We’d love to hear how you’re redefining your relationship with imposter syndrome. 💌

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclain a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE.

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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So, doctor humans,

... No matter how hard you try, you can't seem to keep to the appointment schedule. You're not alone! 

In this episode of Am I Doing It Wrong, Dr. Becc and Kristeen Barker explore the surprising reasons why doctors often run late, and why it has almost nothing to do with your efficiency.

This episode of Am I Doing It Wrong tackles a common struggle for doctors: running behind in clinic. Hosts Dr. Becc and Kristeen Barker debunk the myth that doctors who run late are simply not good enough. Instead, they explore the hidden factors that contribute to this problem, such as unrealistic appointment times, unclear expectations, and the pressure to prioritise speed over quality care.

The episode also highlights the importance of self-compassion. Many doctors blame themselves for running late, leading to feelings of shame and frustration. 

Dr. Becc and Kristeen encourage doctors to make choices in their practice that align with their professional standards of patient care, even if it means adjusting appointment times or clinic workflows.

Key points discussed:

• Doctors often feel like failures when they run late in clinic.
• The reasons for running late are often complex and not related to a doctor's competency.
• Unrealistic expectations, allowing medicare to suggest standards for doctors, people-pleasing your patients and being unwilling to take more authority are common reasons doctors run late.
• Doctors need to prioritise their own values and standards and practice in a way that feels authentic.

Are you struggling to keep to time in clinic too? Share your experiences and frustrations with us. Let's start a conversation about how to create a better system for doctors and patients alike.

TIME TO HANDOVER!

Oh. No.

 

This is a MAJOR part of being a doctor that doesn't get enough attention. It needs to be done well to create good outcomes - for our patients and for ourselves as doctors and teammates. 

 

As the doctor coming on, you have a short period of time to extract all of this important information from your colleague. Information that isn't always documented or possible to find elsewhere. You're receiving a lot of important information at once. You're also often handed a lot of uncertainty. 

 

As the doctor giving the handover, you're synthesising and summarising to save your colleague's precious brain space. And you're not only communicating what you do know but, importantly, what you don't know. 

 

… That's a lot.

 

And it's the perfect storm for these mindsets of perfectionism, imposter syndrome and people-pleasing to come along and make your life harder. 

 

In this episode, we want to talk about the BAD EXPERIENCES we have in handover. And, of course, how to make a bad handover better for you. 

"That's a competitive specialty!"

 

Doctors, 

 

… If you having medical interviews in sight

… Or a cover letter to write

… If you've got a specialty in mind that you want to set yourself up over the next few years to apply for 

… Or if you're trying to understand if you need to do this research or that

… If you're wondering whether it's worth your time when it's 'so competitive' 

… If you're wondering whether the rat race is worth it to you at all

… Or if you're wondering what exactly this rat race that everyone is talking about is 

 

Then, this episode is for you. 

 

Kristeen shares the things that propelled her forwards despite all the barriers she came across in becoming a Specialist Nephrologist in Melbourne Australia. All of the way from Scotland no less.

 

This episode is full of those statements we hear over and over again as doctors that can get in our head and have us hold ourselves back. 

 

By bringing these statements into the light and using a process of inquiry, we can start to loosen the grips that these statements have on us - and the impact that they have on our career decisions. 

 

Kristeen also shares some incredible resources she's created on medical interviews, cover letters and competitive specialties. 

 

Has anyone ever said to you, "That's a competitive specialty!"

 

Let us know below. Your experience and perspective is so valuable to this community. We can't wait to chat with you. 

🔓 Here's the LINK to get the FREE BOUNDARIES CHEAT SHEET and exercise to help you EXECUTE: https://bit.ly/3KWdmua 📈

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclain a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE.

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Hello Doctor Humans!     Have you been getting the benefits of BOUNDARIES in your life? If not, this series is for you.

Welcome to episode 2 in our BOUNDARIES FOR DOCTORS mini-series.

We're going beyond the basics of boundaries and into the complexities and nuance to make sure that you are using boundaries in a way that is EMPOWERING. Believe it or not, boundaries can be used in a way that actually disempowers us and makes our lives smaller and smaller.

In this episode, Kristeen & Doctor Becc will talk about the most empowered way to use boundaries with both a short-term and long-term game plan in mind. Here, boundaries can be used as a temporary measure to buy us time to address the underlying issues that are causing us to need them in the first place. That's how we use boundaries to make our lives BIGGER - not smaller.

Here's some cliff notes:

❤️ Boundaries can be implemented to protect & maintain our standards and safety.

❤️ Setting boundaries is about taking control of your own experience - not about controlling, manipulating or sending a message to other people.

❤️ We may want to use boundaries as a temporary measure when we find ourselves feeling affected by another and we are not able to attend to our thoughts or nervous system response in the moment.

❤️ Ultimately, we want to aim to be so secure in ourselves that boundaries become unnecessary - others don't affect us.

❤️ As humans - relational beings - we want to acknowledge that this is an *ideal* to work to rather than something that you 'should' have mastered in every scenario.

❤️ Non-judgmentally expecting that being unintentionally affected by others will always be a part of our experience, this is where we can use boundaries to take great care of ourselves.

🚀 The next episode will focus on the "difficult second step" of boundaries, which is how to deal with the potential negative reaction from the other person when you set a boundary.

Are you ready to set a boundary in your life? Let us know!

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠⁠

 

If you're a successful woman still feeling on guard and not fully free to express yourself, join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🔓 🚀

💌 Or you can join the mail list where she answers a bunch of common questions: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3Wih9Jh⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

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Hello Doctor Humans!  

 

Doctor Kristeen Barker and Doctor Becc are back on the Am I Doing It Wrong podcast, and this time they're diving deep into a topic that every doctor needs to understand: boundaries.

In this miniseries, they'll be unpacking what boundaries truly are, how to identify them in your own life, and how to set them in an empowered way that's good for everyone involved.

Kristeen and Becc discuss the importance of boundaries in a doctor's life. They explore the common misconception that boundaries are about controlling others, and instead, reframe them as a way to protect yourself and uphold your personal standards.

The doctors introduce a helpful analogy of boundaries as circles:

• The inner circle represents your ideal zone, how you'd like yourself and others to behave.
• The larger outer circle represents what is acceptable to you.
• Anything outside this circle is unacceptable and a boundary violation.

They discuss how to identify your boundaries by paying attention to your emotional responses in different situations.

Boundaries are iterative, meaning you learn and refine them over time.

Examples are given of boundaries in different areas of life, including work, family, and social settings.

The episode emphasises that boundaries are set from a place of love. They are not about making others the villain, but about protecting your own standard and safety in your life.

Do you want to use boundaries more in your life? Let us know!

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq

📽 Becc's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl

👋 Becc's Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT

Comparison Almost Stole Our Friendship: How to Respond to Comparison, Not Retreat From It

Drs. Kristeen Barker and Becc explore the story of their own friendship, which almost never happened because of these comparisons.

Key Points:

• Comparing yourself to others can be a major roadblock to happiness and connection.
• The podcast explores three ways people respond to comparison: competing, retreating, and collaborating.
• Retreating, like Kristeen did initially, can prevent you from forming valuable relationships.
• Collaborating, like they eventually did, allows you to learn from and elevate each other.
• Surrounding yourself with inspiring people can help you become your best self.

This podcast is for:

• Anyone who struggles with comparing themselves to others.
• People who want to build stronger relationships.

Overall Message:

The way you respond to comparison matters. Choose collaboration over retreat to unlock the potential of your relationships and your own growth.

If your current strategy to deal with your concerns, fears and anxieties are to dismiss them, this episode is for you.

Doctors aren't generally used to being BAD at things. But Becc has recognised something that we're pretty bad at across the board. 

 

Self-validation

 

She's very passionate about bringing this skill to doctors for the benefit of both our professional and personal lives. 

 

Why? Because it's extremely productive. 

And because invalidating ourselves can be extremely destructive. 

 

What is self-validation? What does it mean to validate yourself? The simplest way to think about self-validation is that it's the opposite of self-denial, dismissal and resisting our own experience. 

The objection to self-validating that Becc has found to be ubiquitous in her high-achieving, successful clients is that looking by giving more attention to the 'negative' aspects of our experience, we'll only magnify them. That they'll then be more likely to play out in our behaviours or take up more space in our minds.

 

Paradoxically, it's *usually* the opposite. 

 

Think… Can you can recall many experiences where resisting and denying yourself has cost an enormous amount of attention and energy? That's attention and energy that can't go to your productive outputs. 

 

In this episode, Kristeen and Becc talk about Becc's BOARDROOM MODEL OF THE MIND which helps us relate to our minds in a different way. This analogy helps us to make decisions about how to treat the competing, conflicting and concerning thoughts that are normal and expected in the mind of someone taking on challenges and risks on their missions in life. 

 

Ready to change your mind? 

 

Ready to treat yourself differently?

 

Join us and let us know if this resonates with you!

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠

💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://doctorbecc.myflodesk.com/mindsetmoments

💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes empathetic doctors UNSHAKEABLE. ⏭️ WANT TO KNOW MORE or apply for a spot in the next cohort? 👭👭👭 https://www.doctorbecc.com.au

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Hey beautiful friends & doctor humans!

Kristeen Barker and Doctor Becc, and welcome back to *Am I Doing It Wrong?*, the podcast for doctors by doctors.

And today, we've got some wishes for this holiday period for you.

Whether you celebrate Christmas or not, for many of us this is a unique opportunity in the year where the working world slows down and even gives us collective permission to stop.

We want you to take advantage of that.

We think there are 2 intentions for Christmas:

(1) a break

(2) a time for joy

So these are our 2 wishes for you.

And a soecial thank you to the many of you who are working to keep our healthcare sysem runnkng over Christmas. It’s not a small sacrifice.

Let us know if you're a doctor working over the Christmas period so that we can thank you! 💌

What stops you from telling someone they have food in their teeth?   Buckle up, team. You're about to hear one of Becc's most embarrassing stories.   This will absolutely put you in the mood to get better at saying the hard thing to yoru fellow humans - doctors, patients, loved ones and strangers.    Communication is an incredibly important part of our work as doctors. This episode is beyond the basics though. Here, we talk about the minefield of navigating difficult conversations on topics that make both others and yourself uncomfortable. Because we know that, just because you're a doctor, it doesn't mean you deliver bad news, hard feedback or misunderstandings without vulnerability.    Communication is not a simple thing. The truth is we can never really see or understand the inner workings of another. In common day situations, this doesn't cause much trouble. Your communication as a doctor, however, can inflict or subtract suffering to and from your patients. Your lack of communication due to your discomfort can change the decisions of patients for worse.    We know it's in your integrity to communicate all of the material information you have to a patient. And to question and confirm their understanding along this tortuous and often surprising path. Let's navigate this together so that you feel confident and convicted to show up as your best.    Kick back with your cuppa as we kick off with Becc's embarrassment and, don't worry, there's more from where this came from in future episodes.   Chat with us down below! 

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclain a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE.

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Are you tired of letting uncertainty hold you back from making those big life decisions? You're not alone. We've all been there, second-guessing ourselves and wishing for a crystal ball. In this episode, we're spilling the tea on how to confidently navigate life's crossroads and stop being paralysed in decision-making. We'll help you ditch the idea of a 'right' answer and embrace the power of choice - before and after the decision. So, grab a cuppa, get cozy, and let's empower you to make decisions with the confidence you deserve. Hey Doctor Humans! Welcome back to our podcast. We know that making decisions can feel like a rollercoaster, full of ups and downs. That's why we're here to be your trusty companions on this journey. Let's dive into the world of decision-making together. Key Points 🔮 Busting the 'right' answer myth: There's no perfect choice. Recognise when you're trying to figure out the 'right' decisions when that's not available and stop letting that fallacy stifle you. 🔮 Commit and conquer: Once you've made a choice, back yourself 100% to give yourself the BEST SHOT at that outcome you want. Your outcome isn't just determined by your decision - but what you do WITH that decision. 🔮 Accept uncertainty. Don't waste time on questions that can't be answered. It's hard for doctors, but when we accept uncertainty, we make better decisions. Notice how your brain DOESN'T WANT TO accept that uncertainty exists - coach yourself into your ability to handle uncertainty. So, what big decision are you facing right now? We want to hear from you! Share your thoughts and experiences with us. And don't forget to subscribe to our podcast for more tips and support. You're not alone on this journey, and we're here to talk it out and cheer you on every step of the way. 💌

Are you EXHAUSTED or is it just me? 

 

Clinical work is pretty magical. There is so much to love and enjoy about it. Something that comes with such highs apparently fairly comes with some lows too. 

 

One of them seems to be that most of us will agree it's EXHASTING. 

 

You can seemingly come home after a day of simply circling the wards at a pace that would make weekend golfers look athletic… Or sitting in a comfortable chair, chatting away with your patient and tapping away at the computer… YET, come home and be magnetised to the couch. 

 

All you can think of is being still and doing nothing… Maybe you can tolerate a bit of TV or a book. Your body is heavy, your mind craves to be quiet. You WANT to spend time with your kids and have a laugh with your partner. You WANT to be the kind of person who goes straight on to a nice dinner… Or even just the gym. 

 

But you hear your body's exhausted desperate whisper… "I can't". 

 

Okay, that may be a little dramatic. But it feels not too far from reality. Many of you likely notice your non-clinical partners can come home with notably more pep in their step. So it's natural to ask… Is it YOU? Are YOU the problem here?

 

We've cherry-picked this topic today because clinical work seems to tire the most resilient and enthusiastic of us. In this episode, we talk about what makes clinical work special including what makes it ESPECIALLY tiring. 

 

Join us in the conversation on the podcast! And let us know if we've missed anything or if you have any hypotheses to throw into our mix. 

It is extremely inconvenient to be tired right now. Relatable?

We're talking about that kind of tiredness that isn't neutralised by a sleep-in, where you don't get re-booted from a workout or revived when you just work out you were missing some Vitamin Social Life. 

 

We're talking about the kind of tiredness that won't allow itself to be ignored. The kind of tired where it seems that your body shuts down all non-essential systems to the point that you are able to be still and blank.

 

Tiredness is not a problem in itself. When paired with being committed to your commitments, however, it does create significant challenges.

 

On one hand, it's great that you're committed and that you have the discipline to show up regardless of how you feel.

 

On the other hand, to disregard how you feel is a dangerous line to walk or anything but a short-term emergency. 

 

Being able to recognise the signals that our bodies send to us is critical for long-term success. Our human bodies have needs that must be met to facilitate health and performance. And how we feel is the mechanism by which our body can communicate this to get our attention. 

 

Doctors have, unfortunately, been encouraged to practice emotional suppression making it easier to miss or dismiss the messages. This may appear adaptive in the short term but emotional suppression is, however, a blunt tool by which I mean, we cannot suppress selectively just one feeling but instead, it's all or nothing. When we choose to suppress one emotion, we take the others down with it. 

 

And we lose important information about our life direction and our health in the process. 

 

In this episode, we are talking through our current real-time experience of managing this tiredness without avoidance, overriding, or denial. And we're meeting our limitations and revealing areas for further work here. We are walking the talk from Episode 1 of Am I Doing it Wrong the podcast!

 

Episode 1 brought forward the question of whether 'balance' was achievable or even the goal for doctors. Instead of balance, we have landed on contrast - allowing alternating times of being over-subscribed and then more free and light. 

 

Join us in this episode as we share our struggles, strategies and successes in dealing with our tiredness in a different way.

 

And tell us, how are you feeling? What side of the contrast coin are you on right now?

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This week on the podcast, we're inviting you to a challenge for December: THE "ASK SANTA" CHALLENGE. 

 

This is a challenge for you to take on the "Ask Santa" mindset. 

 

Ask Santa is a permission-giving mindset. 

 

It's a mindset that, at its foundation, asks you to stop auto-rejecting your wants and wishes and start honouring and acting on them. 

 

Years ago, Becc noticed she'd developed a pattern of reflexively silencing the sentences that started as 

 

"I wish…"

"It would be great if…"

"Wouldn't it be nice if.."

 

With her mind dismissively responding

 

"That's unrealistic"

"You shouldn't ask"

"You should just be easy"

"You should just accept"

"Don't be too much"

"Don't inconvenience them"

"They'll feel like they have to say yes"

"They wouldn't say no even if they wanted to"

"Don't risk putting pressure on them"

 

So, before she'd even considered what she wanted, she'd counted herself out. 

 

Here's the thing about Santa. 

 

If you don't write the letter, how can he fulfil your wish?

And, if you don't believe in Santa, you won't ask for what you want. And, so, you won't get it. 

 

If you don't believe, you won't receive. 

Or, more accurately, if you don't believe, YOU WON'T ASK, and so you won't receive. 

 

When we allow these responses that arise in our minds to make what we want seem unreasonable or unrealistic, we don't act like it's possible - we don't ask for it. 

 

We need to allow ourselves to believe in order to get in the arena. 

 

And, it's time to get in the arena. 

 

In this podcast, we talk about the what and why of the ASK SANTA mindset. It's about expanding your life, taking up space and advocating for yourself, and assuming the best. 

 

It’s not about whether you got a 'yes' or 'no' from Santa but about making yourself heard - first and foremost, by yourself. 

 

We would love to hear if you're going to join the challenge! OR what fears come up and get in the way when we challenge you to ASK for what you wish. 

💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://doctorbecc.myflodesk.com/mindsetmoments 💜 Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclaim a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE.

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort via ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Hey beautiful friends & doctor humans! 🧠🥂

WELCOME to the UNSHAKEABLE MINDSETS Series.

We're bringing this series to you on the poddy because doctors deserve to be able to show up as their most confident, calm and in control version of themselves in their lives.

Don't they?

And these mindsets help you do that. Our general experience and upbringing in society has created so much confusion about what we should do, what's expected of us, what's our responsibility and what's the good/right answer for how to do life.

Our medical training and culture has only reinforced and taken that confusion and never-enough-ness to a-whole-nother-level.

Let's correct this together. 🧠

So that we can be unshakeable. 📈

Ready?

THIS SERIES will bring you mindsets to be unshakeable in 4 KEY AREAS:

Pillar 1️⃣ Your relationship with yourself

Pillar 2️⃣ Your relationship with uncertainty

Pillar 3️⃣ Your relationship with emotions (esp suffering)

Pillar 4️⃣ Your relationship with others

👑 These are my 4 pillars of being unshakeable.

📚 Each with its own collection of mindsets that make you unshakeable.

Welcome to Pillar 2 today: Your Relationship with Uncertainty

👉 These are the mindsets related to your relationship with uncertainty that make you unshakeable. Which one of these do YOU think you need to be more unshakeable? Which one do you WANT to believe for yourself the most? Let us know in the comments! 💌

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclain a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE.

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Hey Doctor Humans! Are you tired of living for the weekend? Dreaming of a life where every day feels like a mini-vacation? Join us as we dive deep into the art of crafting a life you don't need a holiday from. We're talking about ditching the 'arrival fallacy' and finding joy in the everyday. Let's redefine success together. In this episode, we start with a POWERFUL question to use to guide the way you set up your life and therefore the decisions you make. ... Better than, "Do what you're passionate about" ... Better than, "What's the RIGHT thing to do?"; "What does everyone else say?" We're diving deep into the concept of creating a life where you don't need to escape. We share personal stories about the pursuit of balance and fulfillment, and explore practical steps to bring more joy and meaning into your daily life. We challenge the idea that happiness is a destination so that you don't get caught in the COMMON trap of many doctors of putting your life on hold. We talk about everything from appreciating appreciating what you've actually got to changing your circumstances. Let's break free from the endless cycle of 'almost there' and start living our best lives now. Are you going to answer this powerful question for yourself? Share your answers and other thoughts and experiences with us on social media! We can't wait to hear from you! 💌

Watch the video with all the useful visuals HERE ON YOUTUBE 🎬

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💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://doctorbecc.myflodesk.com/mindsetmoments 💜 Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclaim a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE.

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Hey beautiful friends & doctor humans! 🧠🥂

WELCOME to the UNSHAKEABLE MINDSETS Series.

We're bringing this series to you on the poddy because doctors deserve to be able to show up as their most confident, calm and in control version of themselves in their lives.

Don't they?

And these mindsets help you do that. Our general experience and upbringing in society has created so much confusion about what we should do, what's expected of us, what's our responsibility and what's the good/right answer for how to do life.

Our medical training and culture has only reinforced and taken that confusion and never-enough-ness to a-whole-nother-level.

Let's correct this together. 🧠

So that we can be unshakeable. 📈

Ready?

THIS SERIES will bring you mindsets to be unshakeable in 4 KEY AREAS:

Pillar 1️⃣ Your relationship with yourself

Pillar 2️⃣ Your relationship with uncertainty

Pillar 3️⃣ Your relationship with emotions (esp suffering)

Pillar 4️⃣ Your relationship with others

👑 These are my 4 pillars of being unshakeable.

📚 Each with its own collection of mindsets that make you unshakeable.

Welcome to Pillar 1 today: Your Relationship with Yourself

👉 These are the mindsets related to your relationship with yourself that make you unshakeable. Which one of these do YOU think you need to be more unshakeable? Which one do you WANT to believe for yourself the most? Let us know in the comments! 💌

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclaim a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE.

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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This episode is for you if you've just failed your exams.

Firstly, we're so glad you're here. As you'll hear on this episode, one of the most important and adaptive steps you can take if you're struggling with this failure is facing your reality instead of - what we all want to do - hide from it.

This episode is not your typical pep talk post-failure where we tell you to c'est-la-vie-it or don't-worry-about-it. We're not going to ask you to look on the bright side, just think positive or distract yourself until one day you wake up and it's not the first thing you think of.

Let's face this failure together.

This episode is also for you if you have 'failures' from the past that still haunt you. And we know that's not uncommon. That's because it's very common for doctors to have developed perfectionism and imposter syndrome mindsets. These mindsets allow their past 'failures' to carry into our present and future because of what we make the failure mean.

We're going to walk through the first steps of how to deal with this failure that doesn't involve a unhealthy avoidance nor a toxic positivity. You'll learn:

💌 The first steps you can take to face what's happened

💌 What thoughts to look for that might be the source of your pain

💌 What to do with the strong emotions that come up

💌 When you *shouldn't* talk about it

💌 How to deal with people's unwelcomed comments

You know what comments are welcome? YOURS.

We would love to open a long overdue honest and humble discussion about our failures as doctors. Leading nicely on from our last podcast on GROWTH MINDSET (episode 7), when we normalise failures, we are more productive and effective in the world.

We know we're not alone in our failures. But it's easy to forget that when no one talks about their experiences. So, we'd be so grateful for your contribution to create a more growth-minded, open and honest culture for doctors.

See you in the comments!

The first rule: do not harm. Okay but what about when you do? It sounds like the simple, obvious and easy minimum - to not harm our patients as we care for them. But we all have a library of experiences where our treatment decisions did do harm. And that's because medicine is not just hard from a sense of needing to build and accumulate knowledge and skills to care for patients. It's not just hard because we are working to integrate multiple data points and data sources from each individual patient and synthesise that into a congruent impression. It's not just hard because executing one treatment plan can exacerbate or create another issue or reveal another vulnerability in the patient. It's not just hard because of the limitations and demands of the healthcare system that mean that we cannot access ideal clinical care conditions or even conditions that we feed are the minimum standard. But it's also hard because we are constantly working with uncertainty. And the truth is, when you're working with such limitations, complexity and uncertainty, you don't get to simply do no harm. In a doctor's professional life, there will be many instances where we cause more harm than good in the noble pursuit of doing the best thing for our patients. That reality is extremely difficult for a lot of us to face. It's important that we find a clear balance between what is in our control and what is not in our control. Both situations are equally difficult. It can be extremely difficult to know that you have made a mistake, or that your skill level contributed to the harm done to a patient. Taking responsibility is a cornerstone of growth. For doctors, however, it's easy for us to not recognise the contextual influences of the 'mistake', for example … that we work as a team in healthcare, not as an individual … that we are in training … that our skills are never perfected even when we are experienced … that support, supervision and training provision should appropriately mitigate deficits and risk … that the healthcare system 'Swiss cheese' model should usually function to prevent any domino effects of a mistake. It's common for us to over-estimate what is in our control It's common for us to take over-responsibility … And make erroneous and hindering conclusions in retrospect about how we single-handedly could have prevented something or how we have really just proven we're not the 'right kind of person' to do medicine. This is over-responsibility. To be someone who is conscientious to provide great care for our patients and, with that, to do no harm wherever humanly possible, is an advantageous trait of a doctor. Let's not use that against ourselves. There's nothing useful or empowered about trying to control something that you can't. There's nothing that will make you feel more out of control than trying to control something that you can't. We hope you enjoy this vulnerable episode about making mistakes and the suffering that we can endure from that. Let us know if you, too, have checked your bloods with great anxiety!

Well hello there, welcome back! And into another beautiful week of 2024. This week's episode is a beautiful compliment to our last episode to kick off 2024.

It's all about the impact of our words.

Kristeen and Becc have both personally benefited from this practice of being strategic with the words they use. This is a relatively LOW EFFORT yet HIGH-YIELD change that you can make in your life.

AKA it's a shortcut you want to know about.

This episode starts off with a success story from Kristeen. Her examples are so relatable and applicable to doctor life. You'll instantly recognise how this applies to you and be inspired to make the exact same small tweaks with big payoffs.

Next, we help you tap into your personal experience of how words impact you - for better or for worse. We walk you through an example of recognising if and how a specific word affects you.

And, of course, this episode is full of examples to get your mind open and motivated towards how choosing your words can serve you.

We're so glad you're joining us! Let us know which word(s) you're going to add, delete or change your relationship with in 2024.

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq

📽 Becc's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl

👋 Becc's Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT

What to Do in a Hard Situation

In this episode, we discuss how to approach challenging situations.

Key Takeaways

• Challenge your fears: When faced with a difficult situation,  stay calm and approach it directly instead of avoiding it. You'll often find you have the resources and capabilities to handle it better than you anticipated.
• Embrace self-reliance: Don't wait for someone else to solve your problems. Trust your abilities and take initiative.
• Step into your future self: Imagine yourself  acting confidently in the challenging role you aspire to. This mental shift can empower you to make better decisions in the present.
• Fear is often misleading: Our initial fear response can be inaccurate. By taking action, we often discover the situation is not as scary as we thought.

Actionable Steps

• When faced with a difficult situation, take a deep breath and focus on staying calm.
• Break down the problem into smaller, more manageable steps.
• Visualize yourself successfully navigating the challenge.
• Reflect on past situations where you overcame obstacles. This can boost your confidence.

Memorable Moments

• Dr. Barker shares a story about overcoming her fear of mice by taking initiative to remove one from her house.
• Dr. Becc uses the analogy of fog to describe fear. As you approach your fear, it becomes less dense and the path forward becomes clearer.

Overall, this episode encourages listeners to approach challenges with courage and self-belief. By taking action and stepping outside their comfort zones, they can discover hidden strengths and achieve more than they think possible.

Most of us would say we are the type of person with a growth mindset. We're doctors, right? We signed up for a career of ongong learning skill development.

But, if you know the growth mindset well, you know that it's not something that you 'are' or 'aren't'. It's not a personality trait. It is, by definition, a mindset. A mindset that we can shift in and out of.

And it's not uncommon for ourselves and our colleagues to be in a fixed mindset rather than a growth mindset when it comes to medicine.

When we're in a fixed mindset, it means that we interpret our performance or current capabilities as measures that reveal our intrinsic capacity. Our capabilities are 'fixed' if you like, and you can see where they're fixed reflected in exactly where you are right now.

In a growth mindset, on the other hand, we understand that our current performance or level of achievement isn't telling of we're capable of.

In this episode, we share examples of places in our lives in the past and present where we're in a fixed mindset as opposed to a growth mindset. We reflect and recognise the consequences we face of being in the fixed mindset including, importantly, the opportunities we miss out on.

We discuss how it can be challenging to be in a growth mindset in our work as clinicians where the stakes are high when it comes to getting things wrong and making mistakes. We also discuss how we see the fixed mindset widely in medcial culture from medical students to consults with our unwillingness to openly express our knowledge and skill gaps.

Being in a fix mindset creates self-imposed and self-fulfilling limitations in our performance and our opportunities. A growth mindset is also a self-fulfiling prophecy - it promotes learning and creates opportunites.

To stop and reflect on where we're in a fixed mindset gives us an opportunity to authentically switch to a growth mindset - or to engage in the work we need to do to make that available to us.

Ready? Join our conversation!

TALL POPPY SYNDOME. Be excellent. But be quiet about it.

 

Australia has a strong preference for or even culture of humility. We don't like it when people think a lot of themselves … Even if they've got a lot of good stuff to think about. Being humble is the expectation. And bragging is perhaps the worst offence. 

 

We even have a name for the cultural quirk: THE TALL POPPY SYNDROME.

 

The Tall Poppy Syndrome refers to our tendency to criticise successful people. Knowing this tendency, we form fears of loudly successful or standing out for any good reason because we have the fear that we will be criticised - we'll be cut down. It's not necessarily something we do consciously, but often something we have learned implicitly and we see play out in our decisions and behaviour.  

 

For some of us, even just THINKING a good thought about yourself can evoke feelings of bragging. Let alone SPEAKING it.  And 'bragging' is certainly a dangerous thing if it makes you stand out as a Tall Poppy.

 

This actually presents a challenge for people in medicine. Many of us have learned these sentiments on our way to medicine: 

 

1. Meritocracy: if you just work hard, you will be rewarded 
2. Tall Poppy: if you stand out as successful, you will be criticised

 

Together: work hard and be quiet about it. 

Don't think positively about yourself.

… And, eventually, if you just work hard enough, you'll be rewarded or anointed. 

 

Recipe for prosperity and a happy life? Not quite. 

 

In this episode, we talk about our experiences with Tall Poppy Syndrome, the way that it disadvantages us and how we choose to think about success and humility instead. 

 

We are so happy that you've tuned into this episode. We think it would be a sad thing for people like you to not recognise the value you have to offer in this lifetime. Not just because the world will miss out on it, but also because of the joy that it will rob you of.

 

Do you see TALL POPPY SYNDROME in your life? What did you learn about the dangers of bragging or standing out? Tell us your thoughts and experiences. 

🔓 Here's the LINK to get the FREE BOUNDARIES CHEAT SHEET and exercise to help you EXECUTE: https://bit.ly/3KWdmua 📈

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

 

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Hello Doctor Humans!     Have you been getting the benefits of BOUNDARIES in your life? If not, this series is for you.

Welcome to episode 3 in our BOUNDARIES FOR DOCTORS mini-series.

Feeling stuck in a relationship with unclear boundaries? Does people-pleasing or conflict avoidance hold you back from getting what you need? 

This week on Am I Doing It Wrong, Dr. Becc and Kristeen Barker are breaking down the communication steps to setting healthy boundaries, even in the toughest situations. Get ready to ditch the resentment and step into empowered connections.

They delve into the often-missed step of communicating boundaries, emphasising the difference between disagreement and setting a boundary.

Key takeaways:

• Focus on Yourself: When communicating a boundary, explain how the other person's actions made you feel and what you would like them to do differently.
• Clear is Kind: Direct communication is essential to avoid misunderstandings. However, frame your requests in a way that respects the other person.
• Educate, Don't Dictate: Boundaries are about educating the other person about your standards, not controlling their behaviour.
• The Boundary Consequence: The consequence of a crossed boundary is about how you will respond, not how you expect the other person to change.

Dr. Becc also discusses the fear of negative consequences that often holds people back from setting boundaries. She explores two common fears: hostility and hurt feelings. She emphasizes that people's initial reactions may not reflect their true thoughts and feelings.

💭 Kristeen & Becc invite you to reflect on a boundary you might want to set and to share your experiences.

This episode will help you break the cycle.

In this episode, we talk about all you need to know about your self-sabotage.

The Nature of Self-Sabotage

• Difficulty Identifying in the Moment: Self-sabotage is often hard to recognize as it happens, requiring hindsight or the help of others to see the patterns.
• Case Study: The 'Good' Doctor - our example of prioritizing patient care over studying was a form of self-avoidance. She created excuses to protect her sense of self-worth and avoid the risk of failure in her exams.
• Emotional Drivers: Self-sabotage isn't about deliberately harming yourself. It's about feeling good in the moment, even at the expense of long-term goals. It's choosing the emotionally comfortable option.

How Self-Sabotage Manifests

• Motivational Triad: Humans are wired to seek what feels good, avoid pain, and conserve energy. This drives our choices.
• Study Avoidance: Procrastination cleaning, feeling incapable when studying, etc., are ways to avoid the discomfort of studying and potential negative thoughts about oneself.
• Self-Doubt Fuels the Behavior: Thoughts like "I'm not getting this" or "I should be further along" trigger challenging emotions (frustration, disappointment) that hinder learning and focus.

Counteracting Self-Sabotage

• Self-Awareness is Key: Monitor your mind and recognize your emotional states. How do your thoughts make you feel as you approach the task you're trying to avoid?
• Choose Your Emotional State: Recognize that suboptimal emotional states can interfere with learning and performance. You can choose to study from a calmer, more focused perspective.
• Compassion vs. Condemnation: Your brain's self-critical thoughts may stem from a desire to protect you from potential failure and a blow to your identity. Understanding this allows for a more productive negotiation with your mind.

Benefits of Overcoming Self-Sabotage

• Transform Failure: If you understand your self-sabotaging tendencies, failure becomes less destructive to your goals and identity. Even if you don't succeed initially, you did work hard, giving less power to self-doubt.
• Improve Your Experience: Studying and pursuing goals can be more pleasant and effective once you break self-sabotaging patterns. You can feel better while striving for what you want.

Additional Tips

• Don't Confuse Tiredness with Self-Sabotage: Learn to distinguish between needing rest and self-sabotaging avoidance.
• The Power of a Clean Space: While you don't need a clean environment to study, it can influence your mindset. The key is not letting it become a means of procrastination.