10 Things To Tell You (Laura Tremaine)

This episode is for anyone who loves a teenager.  I'm the mom of a teenager and a preteen, and cultural norms and expectations have definitely shifted from my own childhood in the 80s & 90s. Sometimes I feel like I'm learning modern manners alongside my kids instead of teaching them from a place of authority.  My guest Brooke Romney believes that the only thing harder than parenting a modern teen is being a modern teen. In this episode, Brooke and I talk about a few of the rules that stuck out to me from her guide 52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens. This was a conversation I didn't even know I needed to have, and I loved it.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   Follow Brooke Romney on IG 52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens Volume 1 52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens Volume 2 52 Modern Manners for Kids     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for you if you strive to find meaning in everything.  I want you to think about whether everything deserves the energy you're giving it.  Full show notes here.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for you if there is something you want to get done before the end of the year.  Today's prompt came from the original 10 Things To Tell You social media challenge.  We all have something that we just keep procrastinating. Let's commit to completing this task between now and January 1. I'm sharing two of the things that I really want to sit down and finish (both on my To Do list for literally years) and a few ideas for things you might want to be held accountable to in the next three months.  Also in this episode I talk about my favorite planner. (And here's the blog post where I talk about how I chose this planner after a million minutes of internet research.) * Full show notes here @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook Sign up here for episode emails     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As I head back to my home state of Oklahoma this week to promote The Life Council, I'm feeling nostalgic in every way.  Even as life has marched forward, and I entered my twenties, then my thirties, and now my forties, I have found it useful to tap back into the childhood version of me. It reminds me who I am in my core and it reminds me where I came from.  And sometimes, even as I evolve in a positive way, I need that reminder of where I started. I want to tap into that original spirit.  This episode has four questions to ask yourself about your childhood self. We're going to talk about: Place People Our bodies Our dreams Maybe you think about your childhood self all the time. Maybe it's been a long time since you really remembered that version of you.  This episode and these questions will bring you back to who you were when you were young.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Episode 68: Hometown: A conversation about race   SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for anyone who can't get enough of the book talk. We didn't have time for me to share ALL the great books I've been reading on the recent reading episode, so this is a little bonus to tell you all about my current book stack, including a new novel that's a contender for favorite of the year, and a nonfiction book that I am forcing myself to read with an open mind. I'm also sharing a few of the books in my immediate To Read pile, plus the three books that I've preordered for fall release.  Full show notes for this episode can be found here.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign up to receive episode emails Join the 10TTTY Connection Group   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for anyone who struggles with her inner "good girl."  I read Break the Good Girl Myth: How To Dismantle Outdated Rules, Unleash Your Power, and Design a More Purposeful Life by Majo Molfino this summer and the whole idea resonated with me: identifying as a good girl, wanting to be seen as a good girl, and simultaneously wanting to get out of that trap. Even at 40-something, I am still dismantling these parts of my identity, and I could see myself - and so many of my friends - in the five different types of “good girls” that Majo writes about.  In our conversation, Majo shares a little more about “Breaking your good girl myth MEANS” and I share the parts of me that still sees myself a good girl, where that feels healthy and where that feels woefully outdated. Buy Break The Good Girl Myth by Majo Molfino Find out more about Majo Molfino here Follow @MajoMolfino on IG  Listen to her podcast Heroine * Remember to SUBSCRIBE to the 10 Things To Tell You podcast so that you don't miss bonus content like this! Just hit the SUBSCRIBE button in your favorite podcast app. Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   Join the 10 Things Connection Group on FB   Sign up to receive episode emails here.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As we near the 200th episode of 10 Things To Tell You, we're using this summer to pull a few episodes out of the archives from the first year of the show.  This episode is for you if you’ve ever needed to shake off a bad mood or a bad day.  I’m sharing 10 ways to pull myself out a funk. FILL OUT THE LISTENER SURVEY HERE   MENTIONED in this episode:  BONUS EP: Intentions, Affirmations, and Vision Boards, Oh my! Ep 46: Book Club 2019 Best Books of 2019 blog post Burnout by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski Gretchen Rubin (her podcasts and her books) The Next Right Thing by Emily P Freeman (her podcast and her book) Ep 9: 10 Ways to journal     SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month Lume // Go to LumeDeodorant.com/YOU for 40% off your starter pack     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Favorite Things! Again! I'm sharing my current favorites: including home stuff, beauty products, travel outfits, what's helping me sleep, a new bra obsession, and what I can't stop giving as a gift.  In case you hadn't noticed, I moved the frequency of the Favorite Things (Right Now) episodes up from every twenty episodes to every TEN. This was in direct reaction to your feedback on the listener survey, so thank you for listening, sharing, and making this show better all the time.  And remember, the Favorite Things episodes are meant to inspire YOU to share YOUR favorite things (doesn't have to be 10). Post on social media, text a friend, start a great conversation over a meal. Share your stuff. (Literally.) FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: Skillshare. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for a free premium trial Native. Go to NativeDeo.com for 20% off your first order * Thanks so much for your support! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Read Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for you if you’ve ever struggled with anxiety or ever watched a loved one form coping mechanisms to handle their anxiety. I have more than 10 things to tell you about anxiety, but here is a place we can start the mental health conversation. In this episode, I'm sharing my lifelong anxiety starting in childhood, through the teenage and young adult years, after I had children, and into the present day.  I'm talking about what anxiety looks like for me, healthy and unhealthy coping mechanisms, and the things that have given me the most relief.  The goal of this type of episode is just to share a common human experience. I hope that it makes you check in with your own body, be honest about mental health struggles, and bring about some understanding of the anxiety that millions of people live with every day.  * Full show notes for this episode here.   Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram and facebook.   Sign up to receive episode emails here.   *   This episode was brought to you by my newsletter the Secret Posts.   Sign up to receive the Secret Posts here.    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Not at all sorry to have two books & reading episodes in a row! Especially because my guests for this Best Books Lately conversation are two of my favorites voices in the book-ish world. Meredith Monday Schwartz and Kaytee Cobb are the two women behind the Currently Reading podcast and I think that you will love their varied recommendations in our conversation. (I contribute almost nothing of value to this episode since my reading habits have been so out-of-whack, however I do talk about a few recent best sellers that just didn’t do it for me.) I hope hearing us talk about what books we’ve loved (or haven’t) so far in 2021 will spark your own conversations or that you share on social media. FULL SHOW NOTES (and book recommendations) HERE Where To Find Meredith & Kaytee: Meredith on Instagram // Kaytee on Instagram Currently Reading Podcast // Currently Reading Podcast on Instagram   Sponsors: Thirdlove. Go to Thirdlove.com/10Things for 20% off your first purchase. Skillshare. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for a free trial of premium membership. Ana Luisa. Go to AnaLuisa.com/YOU for 10% off your purchase.   * Thanks for listening to the 10 Things To Tell You podcast!   Your ratings, reviews, and shares really matter.    Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG   Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB   Follow @laura.tremaine on IG   Follow @mslauratremaine on FB   Sign up to receive episode emails   Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group   Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm answering listener questions like: Do you ever wish you'd had more kids? Is life in LA portrayed correctly on Real Housewives? Will you ever write another book and on what topic? JOIN SECRET STUFF for a few more BONUS (personal) questions about money, travel, and woo-woo stuff I've tried It's always fun to hear what's on your mind through the questions you ask. I hope this episode also gives you a few questions to ask around your own tables. FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 210: My Favorite Things (Right Now) The walking pad I love College sweatshirt from The Great Nike by You   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This month marks FIFTEEN years that I have been pursuing a career primarily by sharing myself on the internet. Starting with the Hollywood Housewife blog in January 2010, then building a social media presence, then becoming a podcaster and an author, and I have so many stories and thoughts to share about the last decade and a half. On this episode, I'm talking about the things I did right, the things I definitely got wrong, and how I've evolved right along with the World Wide Web. Join SECRET STUFF to hear even MORE behind-the-scenes stories. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MORE episodes on this topic: Ep. 73: I Wrote a Book! Ep. 63: Working From Home Ep. 111: Behind The Scenes of Publishing, Marketing, and Launching a Book (with Kelly Gordon) Ep. 166: How To Write a Book (in 10 Steps) Ep. 174: 3 Things I've Learned While Working With a Business Coach (A Conversation with Retha Nichole) MENTIONED in this episode: Ep. 251: 10 Things I Learned in 2024 Sorta Awesome podcast Smartest Person in the Room podcast Racial Bias series on SPITR Share Yo​​ur Stuff. I’ll Go First. by Laura Tremaine The Life Council by Laura Tremaine   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine’s SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for you if you've ever looked at a photo of yourself and gasped.  This has happened to all of us, right? We've looked a photo of ourselves and seen a stranger.    Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Introducing The Secret Tapes, a private podcast series I created ONLY for people who have purchased my book Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First. The Secret Tapes are conversations with the people I write about in the book, along with behind the scenes commentary about many of the stories I share in the pages of Share Your Stuff. You know how when you read a memoir, you always wonder what the author’s family and friends thought about what they wrote? You know how you always want just a little bit more? The Secret Tapes is the MORE. These conversations are hard and beautiful and funny and complicated, and these short little snippets gives you a taste of what you’ll hear in the episodes. Want to hear the full conversations? You’ll have to order Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First. (It’s available on amazon, Bookshop, Target, Barnes & Noble, audible, or from your favorite local bookstore.) Take your receipt/order/confirmation number to the Share Your Stuff Book Bonuses page and fill out the form. You’ll immediately get an email with access to all THREE of the Book Bonuses, including the Secret Posts. Questions? Email hello@shareyourstuffbook.com for tips or troubleshooting. * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign up for episode emails Join the Connection Group Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign up for the Secret Posts emails Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First: 10 Questions to Take Your Friendships to the Next Level   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for anyone who has asked themselves why they're so invested in what is clearly outrageous, manipulative, and phony "reality" television shows.  I watch Real Housewives every weekday on my lunch break, and as I've gone through phases of watching with both fascination and disgust, I’ve asked myself: why do smart people love dumb tv? What is it that we’re drawn to? Why do we get so sucked into the drama? Is it aspirational or escapism or something darker or is it just not that deep?  And so I decided to explore that topic with the perfect guest: Matt Marr, cohost of the Reality Gays podcast. In this episode, Matt and I talk about our history of reality tv watching (starting with the Real World in the 90s), and we talk about how we think reality TV has changed culture, why we’re so invested in the lives of these reality TV personas, and so much more. We talked for over an hour and didn’t even scratch the surface of all that we could have discussed.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE We do have an extended cut version of this episode over on the Secret Stuff patreon page, where Matt and I talk about our shared Oklahoma roots and I'll also be releasing a personal episode over there this week about my time working in reality television in the early 2000s.  For all that bonus material, SIGN UP FOR SECRET STUFF HERE.  You can listen more of Matt on the Reality Gays podcast  Follow Matt Marr on social media   SPONSORS: Uncommon Goods // Go to UncommonGoods.com/YOU for 15% off your order   MENTIONED in this episode: Instagram Christopher Ryan Stamey - @christopherryanstamey  90 Day Fiancé on TLC  Real Housewives franchise on Bravo  RuPaul’s Drag Race on MTV  Passions Soap Opera on NBC  The Real World on MTV Duck Dynasty on A&E  Bittersweet by Susan Cain Indian Matchmaking on Netflix  Love is Blind on Netflix Married at First Sight on Lifetime  Pig Royalty on Amazon Prime Video  Nanny 911, now on Amazon Prime Video  Doggy Fizzle Televizzle on MTV  Crowned on FOX  America’s Next Top Model on UPN/The CW  Joe Millionaire on FOX The Swan on FOX  90 Day Fiancé: The Last Resort on TLC  The Golden Bachelor on ABC    If you liked this episode you may like: Ep 189: About the Hollywood Strikes and How They Affect You   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How often are the old you and the current you in complete alignment? I'm sharing a passage from Congratulations, The Best Is Over by R. Eric Thomas and a famous quote from writer Joan Didion. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG and on facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for anyone seeking a life change.  We cannot, of course, plan for many of the plot twists that life throws our way. Breakups, pregnancies, a PANDEMIC...there are many major life moments that can catch us totally by surprise.  But what if we WANT to shake things up? What if we're seeking a new direction in our story?  This conversation with Roxy Stone and Katelyn Beaty from the Saved by the City podcast is all about purposefully creating our own life plot twist.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Listen to the Saved by the City podcast Follow Roxy Stone on twitter Follow Katelyn Beaty on twitter Sponsors Prose haircare. Go to Prose.com/YOU for 15% off your first order Storyworth. Go to Storyworth.com/YOU for $10 off your first order Green Chef. Go to GreenChef.com/YOU100 to get $100 off plus free shipping * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of my greatest teachers of the last few years is author, podcaster, and speaker Emily P. Freeman. I have learned so much from her work and devoured her latest NEW YORK TIMES best selling book How To Walk Into A Room: The Art of Knowing When To Stay and When To Walk Away. Emily says, "Our whole life is like a house, and every commitment, community, role, and relationship is like a room." In this conversation, Emily and I continue her room metaphor and she asks 10 Questions from her book that we can use to discern our own sense of belonging, and our choices to stay or leave. The framework of these 10 questions is perfect for 10 Things To Tell You and I loved unpacking each of these questions and concepts with Emily. Find out more about Emily P. Freeman Buy How To Walk Into A Room: The Art of Knowing When To Stay and When To Walk Away Listen to The Next Right Thing podcast Read Emily on Substack Follow Emily on IG FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Did I choose this room or did it choose me? What are the corners, sections, people, or parts of this room that I’m avoiding?  What is good and beautiful about this room? Where are the caution flags? Is anyone or anything missing from this room? If so, who or what?  Who has the power in this room?  Who or what will be affected by my decision?  To what extent can I be myself in this room? If God is in this room, what is the action of the divine?  Do I want to stay in this room?    SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This summer I read NINE books that I gave a 5-star rating. NINE. This is unheard of, to read such incredible books all in the same couple of months. But now I'm so excited to share them with you! Join SECRET STUFF, where you'll get access to: My list of Meh Bestsellers to Skip Stephen King Summer book club recaps Fall nonfiction book club Personal updates I don't share anywhere else List of books that I talk about on this episode: The Meaning of Mariah Carey by Mariah Carey The Happiness Equation by Neil Pasricha The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker Misery by Stephen King Mexican Gothic by Silvia Moreno-Garcia Billy Summers by Stephen King Who is Maud Dixon? by Alexandra Andrews Razorblade Tears by S.A. Cosby The Paper Palace Miranda Cowley Heller   FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   Other Episodes related to this one:   Ep 107: 10 Reasons to Read (with @fictionmatters Sara Hildreth) Ep 119: Best Books Lately with Anne Bogel Ep 121: Stephen King Starter Kit Ep 126: Books We Wish We'd Written (with Shawn Smucker)   SPONSORS:   Noom. Go to Noom.com/10Things to start your trial Skillshare. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for a free month of premium membership   * Thanks so much for listening to 10 Things To Tell You!    Rating, reviewing, and sharing the podcast really helps to grow the show.    Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG   Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB   Sign Up for Episode Emails   Join the Connection Group   Listen to SECRET STUFF   Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'LL GO FIRST.      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Content warning: Child loss and suicide  This episode is one of the most tender and important I’ve ever shared on this show, and I am just so deeply grateful to Amy Ortloff for having this conversation with me and letting me make it public.  In 2017, Amy Ortloff lost her middle child Ryan to suicide. Ryan was just 17 years old. Less than a week after his death, Amy took to her personal Facebook page and starting sharing every single day. She began by sharing stories about Ryan, family memories and examples of the kind of kid he was. She didn't want her child to be forgotten.  As the weeks went by, deep in grief, Amy also started sharing her own experiences of this devastating time she was living through. She shared what she was learning in therapy, she set and shared her personal boundaries for interaction for those in her small town Oklahoma community.  Amy's sharing was raw and vulnerable. It was heartbreaking and powerful. I made a point to read her posts every day that first year after Ryan.  This episode is about the effects of that real-time sharing during the hardest time of her life, the positive and the negative. Amy was teaching us how to grieve with her, and it made an enormous impact on me long before I ever wrote a book about sharing stuff.  If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or text TALK to 741741.  Read Amy Ortloff's blog Keep Going Follow Amy Ortloff on Facebook here * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You. Please share this episode with anyone who might need to listen to Amy's story.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for you if you've ever dreamed of living abroad with your family for a year.  I've been dying to share this conversation with my dear friend Julie Stillwell. In 2018, Julie and her husband Tom took their two young daughters to live in Amsterdam for one year. All four had lived in Los Angeles their whole lives, so this was a family adventure with a hundred takeaways.  We talk about the logistics of moving abroad and the emotions of both leaving and adjusting. We talk living without a car and sending their kids to the International School. We talk about style and food in Amsterdam versus the United States. We talk about why life seems simpler and slower in this part of Europe, and how temporary absence can actually deepen relationships.  There are so many nuggets of wisdom and things to think about in this episode. It made me realize that sitting down with a friend and giving full focus to something big in their life isn't something I do enough.  Full show notes for this episode here. @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   Join the 10 Things Connection Group on FB   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Myquillyn Smith (aka The Nester) has influenced the way I think about decorating my home for years, through her blog, social media, and books. Her latest book Welcome Home is about decorating your home for the seasons without buying a bunch of expensive decor, and how you can signal the natural cycle of the year using scents and textures and sound. These concepts apply even when you live somewhere where the temperature doesn't change much!  Myquillyn gives me a little pep talk about creating a home that is the background for family memories, and she reveals a fairly genius way to decorate for the holidays that removes a bulk of the stress. (Why hadn't I thought of this before??) Buy Welcome Home Follow Myquillyn Smith @thenester on IG The Nester's blog + courses Full show notes here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Holy Moses it's episode 100!! We're celebrating this milestone with a Favorite Things Hall of Fame. These are some of my favorite things across these categories: Beauty Products Books & Writing Intimates Food Gadgets Online platforms & Follows Podcasts Shopping  Home  Journals & Planner I know...it's a LOT of favorites.  Many of these I've talked about regularly, but some might be new to you. And best of all: it's all in one place! FULL SHOW NOTES (with links) HERE * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign up for the SECRET POSTS Sign up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'LL GO FIRST by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My favorite things for the Fall of 2024 include a bra, a neck alignment thing-y, a documentary, a book, what's making me feel pretty, and two unexpected events that turned out to be some of my favorite moments of the year (so far). We share our Favorite Things around here because a) it's fun b) it forces us to notice our life and c) it serves as a gratitude list of sorts. BONUS: this episode also contains a dozen recommendations from fellow listeners and members of the SECRET STUFF community. JOIN SECRET STUFF Share YOUR favorite things by making a list, posting on social media, or texting a friend. (Or all three!) FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED BY LAURA in this episode: Recent Girl's Trip posts HERE and HERE Under Outfit bra Meeting Elizabeth Forsythe Hailey story HERE A Woman of Independent Means by Elizabeth Forsythe Hailey Neck alignment thing-y “Nothin’ But a Good Time” on Paramount Plus 1000 Words: A Writer's Guide to Staying Creative, Focused, and Productive All Year Round by Jami Attenberg Emma J. Shipley wallpaper LISTENER VOICES Recommendations: Prequel Lucent-C Vitamin C Serum Nuuly Clothing rentals Lost Man’s Lane by Scott Carson ma:nyo Pure Facial Cleansing Oil Aveeno Protect + Hydrate Body Sunscreen Senté Even Tone Mineral Sunscreen Skylight Calendar and App Starling House by Alix E. Harrow ILIA Balmy Tint Hydrating Lip Balm Substack Five-Senses Journal by Gretchen Rubin   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this BONUS episode we’re talking about pelvic floor health, which is something I’ve been wanting to talk about on the show for a long time. I REALLY wish women talked more about this topic with one another, and understand the effects of pelvic floor health on our overall health, including our sex lives and incontinence. My guest is MaryEllen Reider, co-creator of the women’s wellness device YARLAP. The YARLAP is an FDA-approved device, and it recently won an Women’s Health FEMTECH award. (Please note: I have not tried it yet.) We talk about the importance of pelvic floor, what is happening in your body when you orgasm (or don’t), when you can’t control your urge to urinate, and more. MaryEllen offered a discount code to listeners, (enter Joy at checkout for 30% off) but I want to be clear that this is not sponsored, nor is it a partnership or affiliate. I just wanted to start this conversation among women. Learn more about Yarlap here. Follow @yarlap_otc on IG FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign Up for Episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is always one of my favorite episodes of the year! My real life book club friends Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith join me for a long and lively conversation about some of our favorite books of 2020. We talk about how the pandemic affected our reading life and why our book club didn’t meet for 7+ months. Before we share some of our favorites, we also use the episode as a bit of stand-in for our regular meeting and you can hear us discuss our December book club pick A Burning by Megha Majumdar. Then we each share 3 or 4 of our favorite books of the year. Because I had already shared most of mine on earlier episodes, I was really excited to hear Yasmin and Stephanie’s picks, since they were outside the box of what we’ve already talked about on the show in the last few months. I do plan to do a BONUS episode in the last few days of the year, talking through a few more interesting books I read in 2020 that didn’t make it into this conversation. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE with all the books and links   EPISODE SPONSORED BY: EBY - Go to JoinEby.com and enter promo code THINGS20 to get 20% off your first order GREEN CHEF - Go to GreenChef.com/80YOU and enter promo code 80YOU for $80 off and free shipping BETTERHELP - Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU to save 10% off your first month   Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Join the 10 Things Connection Group   Preorder Laura's book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First: 10 Questions to take your friendships to the next level (out 2/2/21)   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have 10 things to tell you about my new book The Life Council, which launches TODAY April 4, 2023 in every format: paperback, hard cover, ebook, and audiobook (read by me).  BUY THE LIFE COUNCIL This is my second book in two years, and the process and mindset behind writing and marketing The Life Council has been so different from launching my first book in 2021.  In this episode, I wanted to share with you ten thoughts about the book, the creative process, why I felt like a fraud writing it, and why I believe in its message so deeply.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The Life Council PREORDER BONUSES (which expire at midnight on 4/4) Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. (my first book) Ep 167: Five Friendship Philosophies (an audiobook excerpt of The Life Council)   SPONSORS: Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month by going to BetterHelp.com/YOU   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Things To Tell You is now moving to THURSDAYS! Same great conversations, journal prompts, book talk, and introspection - just a different day. If you're already subscribed to the show, you don't need to do anything at all. If you want to make sure you don't miss a thing, make sure you've: Subscribed to the show in your favorite podcast app Signed up for episode emails to get the show notes straight to your inbox every week Follow the show on Instagram and on Facebook See you Thursday with another fantastic episode! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for anyone looking to transition well between the end of summer and beginning of fall.  Whether you mark the end of summer by the school calendar, the weather, or football season, we have come to the end of the season.  In this episode, I'm walking through 8 questions to ask yourself as we close one chapter of the year and enter into another. As usual, these questions work best when you share them with a friend, partner, coworker, or the whole family. They're also great for taking to your journal and sitting with your thoughts in this seasonal transition.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Ep. 180: Four Metaphors For Turning 44 Ep. 181: Favorite Things (Right Now) Summer 2023 On Our Best Behavior by Elise Loehnen Monsters: A Fan's Dilemma by Claire Dederer Atomic Habits by James Clear   SPONSORS: SECRET STUFF by Laura Tremaine   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I joined twitter in 2009 and for 15 years - until this very month - it has been my favorite social media platform. The one place where I am only a consumer and not a creator. The place where I met my earliest online friends. The place where I made most of my best online memories following breaking news, political, scandal, and pop culture. And the only other person I know who has been obsessed with twitter for as long as I have been? None other than friend and podcaster Jamie Golden. Jamie and I have shared many obsessions over the years - and I write about her in The Life Council as the Fellow Obsessive friend - but our love of twitter has always been our biggest shared passion. And despite saying numerous times over the years that we'd never leave, we both decided in the last few weeks to depart our formerly favorite space. And thus, a funeral for twitter. In this conversation, Jamie and I talk about our earliest days on twitter, why we loved it so much, our favorite moments, a few of our regrets, and, of course, why we're leaving. You don't have to care about twitter to enjoy this passionate conversation between friends. My hope for this episode is that you'll get a little glimpse into some social media history and that you'll see yourself in a discussion about how being online has changed us. Follow Jamie Golden on IG Follow Jamie Golden on Bluesky Listen to Jamie Golden on her podcasts The Popcast with Knox and Jamie and Faith Adjacent Follow Laura Tremaine on BlueSky FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Black Twitter: A People’s History (hulu docuseries) Extremely Online by Taylor Lorenz So You've Been Publicly Shamed by Jon Ronson JAMIE's past episodes of 10 Things To Tell You: Ep. 14: Skincare and Makeup Favorites with Jamie Golden Ep. 51: Masterminds: How to create and structure a business peer group (with guests Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi) Ep. 105: Needles, Lasers, and Fillers in Your Face (Jamie Holden RETURNS!) Ep. 164: Are we friends or not? (A Secret Tapes Mastermind Conversation with Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi) Ep. 192: OBSESSED: Skincare & Makeup Favorites (with Jamie Golden)   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for you if you or a loved one has ever struggled through the fertility process, or if you’re interested in the topic of adoption. I am so happy to share this conversation with one of my dearest friends, Lindsay Lawler, who recently became a mother when she adopted her baby girl on Thanksgiving Day 2018.  Lindsay shares the story of her experience with infertility, medical treatments, and adoption. As a reminder, neither Lindsay nor I are medical experts OR adoption experts. We both encourage you to do all your research when planning to grow your family. In this episode, we discuss: listening to your body finding out your egg count connecting with your doctor marriage strain how adoption should NOT be a last resort staying positive but also allowing yourself emotions finding an adoption agency trusting the outcome fears after placement   Full show notes can be found here. Follow Lindsay on Instagram Follow Laura on Instagram Follow 10 Things To Tell You on Instagram Follow 10 Things To Tell You on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for anyone who has struggled in 2020 to listen to their intuition. These words are for myself as much as they are for you. In this year of uncertainty, of noise, of conflict in relationships, of missteps and self-doubt, I have come into this holiday season unable to tap fully into my own intuition. I’m sharing about: WHY we need to listen to our intuition now more than ever HOW to listen to our intuition when we’re new to the practice or need a reset ANXIETY and intuition and how it’s often hard to discern the two (but I have one failsafe method) RELATIONSHIPS and intuition MESSING IT UP and GETTING IT RIGHT Sponsors: BETTERHELP. Go to BETTERHELP.com/YOU for 10% off your first month EBY. Go to JoinEBY.com and use code THINGS20 for 20% off your first order Full show notes here. * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10TTTY Connection Group   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for anyone who wants to start a book club! **Have you purchased my new book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First? If so, SIGN UP FOR PREORDER BONUSES HERE.** People love the idea of being in a book club, but I think most of us would rather join an already formed group, with procedures in place and a warm and fuzzy vibe already established. But if that isn’t readily available to you, guess what the next best thing is? Start one yourself! GET MY BOOK CLUB BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS HERE It doesn’t have to be an overwhelming task. You don’t have to have a lot of people (really!) and you don’t have to have a perfectly articulated theme or objective. What you want to do is read, and then talk about what you read with someone else. It really is that simple. But beyond that, it’s nice to have some basics: Identify your WHY Choose members wisely Decide on some logistics (like how to choose a book, who leads the discussion) Set expectations early Have your first meeting Adjust as necessary Sure, there are some details that can be fun or tedious: choosing a schedule, consistent communication), but start with the fundamentals, keep it as simple as possible, and figure out what REALLY works for your group. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE     THIS WEEK'S SPONSORS: RITUAL. Go to Ritual.com/10Things for 10% off your first 3 months THE BALANCED LIFE. Go to TheBalancedLifeOnline.com/YOU to sign up for the FREE Pilates challenge * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Join the 10TTTY Connection Group Sign Up to receive episode emails     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have been following Myquillyn Smith's home decor advice online for years and am so happy to welcome her back to the show to talk about her new book HOUSE RULES. This new book from Myquillyn (aka The Nester) is not only gorgeous, it just lays it out bare in list form: these are the "rules" to create a space you love and want to be in. In our conversation here, we talk about our favorite house rules and I also ask her to dive deeper into some of the rules I didn't fully understand. Follow @TheNester on IG Follow @TheNestingPlace on FB Buy House Rules by Myquillyn Smith FULL SHOW NOTES HERE SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is an important topic. Since the explosion in popularity of the true crime genre over the last decade, I've questioned the ethics of crime as entertainment. Many of us have become obsessed with grisley stories of murder.  But have you ever actually talked to someone whose loved one was murdered? Would it change your opinion on the true crime entertainment genre?  This episode is a conversation with author, award-winning blogger, and actress Amy B. Chesler. Amy's mother was murdered in 2007 and her book Working for Justice: One Family's Tale of Murder, Betrayal, and Healing is about the events before and after this tragic event.  Amy surprised me with her take on the popularity of the true crime genre and it definitely affected how I consume these stories.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Amy B. Chesler's website Working for Justice: One Family’s Tale of Murder, Betrayal, and Healing by Amy B. Chesler Evil Lives Here episode with Amy Chesler "Making a Murderer" Documentary on Netflix "The Real Bling Ring: Hollywood Heist" Documentary on Netflix "Keep Sweet: Pray and Obey" Documentary in Netflix I Know What You Did Last Summer by Lois Duncan Killing Mr. Griffin by Lois Duncan Who killed My Daughter by Lois Duncan Something Was Wrong podcast Unsilenced Voices podcast "A Murder in Mansfield" documentary on Amazon Prime Dirty Money podcast Dirty John podcast   SPONSORS: Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month Apostrophe.com/YOU and use code YOU to get your initial visit for just $5     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m sharing four mistakes I don’t regret in my: Education Marriage Business & Body As we come to the end of another calendar year, I’m (as always) nostalgic and reflective. Here are some of the biggest choices in my life that were the “wrong” choices, but I don’t regret them. (Okay, one of them I do regret.) At the end of the episode, we hear listener voices chiming in with some of their biggest life lessons over the last few years. (Listener voices are always my favorite part of the episode.) SPONSORS: Acorn.TV. Go to Acorn.TV and use promo code you (all lowercase) Storyworth. Go to Storyworth.com/YOU for $10 off your first order Olive & June. Go to OliveandJune.com and use code YOU for 20% off your first mani system * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's my favorite time of year! Not because of the holiday season, but because I love getting reflective, looking back over the last twelve months and looking ahead to changing of the calendar.  The 10 questions in this episode are meant to bring introspection (if you work through them alone) and connection (if you bring them up in conversation). Bring these to your journal, to your travel companions, to the holiday table, or just let them flow through your mind in these last few weeks of the year as we wind down 2023 and gear up for 2024.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: 10 Questions for Starting Over 10 Questions To Ask Yourself in the Middle of Anything Journaling for Grownups Laura on Instagram   SPONSORS: Daily Harvest // Go to DailyHarvest.com/TellYou for up to $65 off your first box Betterhelp // Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month Uncommon Goods // Go to UncommonGoods.com/YOU for 15% off your order   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Introducing a new series of the podcast called ONE THING where I host conversations with interesting people and ask the ONE THING they would tell you. I'm kicking the series off with my friend Amy B. Harris. Amy has been a producer, writer, and show runner on some of the most iconic shows of our lifetime. Her credits include Sex and the City, Gossip Girl, The Comeback, The Carrie Diaries, The Wilds, and more. She's also a mom raising her daughter in Hollywood, which is how we met and became friends. My conversation with Amy is packed with wisdom and insight, along with her behind-the-scenes perspective on helping to create entertainment that shifts the culture. Follow Amy Harris on IG FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 200: What's the ONE thing you would tell? Childhood, Boyhood, and Youth by Leo Tolstoy The Devil's Candy by Julie Salamon   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for anyone who thinks journaling is just for heartbroken teenage girls.  I'm sharing 8 thoughts on Journaling for Grownups: What to ask yourself about journaling What to let go of (and what to cling to) Methods of journaling to try And the BIG tip that will give you journal freedom Mentioned in this episode: My BOOK! Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First.  Episode 9: 10 Ways To Journal Ep 88: Write Down Right Now (10 Journal prompts for this historic moment) Full show notes here. SPONSORS: Raycon. Go to BuyRaycon.com/YOU for 15% off your order Native Deodorant. Go to NativeDeo.com/YOU for 20% off your first order * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Sign up for episode emails Follow @Laura.tremaine on IG Get the Secret Posts Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of the things we’ve never discussed on this show is MONEY. Even though I know it’s one of the topics that we wish people spoke more openly about. A lot of us are flying pretty blind in our money situation. Are we making enough? Are we saving enough? Are we spending or investing it right? How much money could I *actually* make if I started a side hustle? A year of the pandemic has made a lot people rethink their careers, and there’s a lot of interest in going full time freelance, pursuing a passion, or monetizing a creative pursuit. My guest for this episode is Katelyn Magnuson, aka The Freelance CFO, and she’s here to give us 10 Tips for Going Freelance. We start with some basics, but i’ve been in the freelance game for over a decade, and I still learned a lot in this conversation. Find about more about The Freelance CFO Katelyn Magnuson Follow @katelyn.magnuson on IG Follow @thefreelancecfo on FB   FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   Sponsors: Ritual. Go to Ritual.com/10Things for 10% your first month AcornTV. Go to Acorn.TV and use promo code you (all lowercase) for a free 30 day trial * Thank you for listening and sharing 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign up to receive episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'LL GO FIRST. by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for moms who are drowning in this season. After years of rarely talking about parenthood on this show, this topic suddenly continues to find me. I'm not sure if this because of my kids' ages (11 & 13) or just the season I'm in, but motherhood is something I want to talk about more now than I did when the kids were young.  My guest today is Dr. Morgan Cutlip, a highly sought after relationship expert, who has helped hundreds of thousands of people worldwide learn how to form and maintain healthy relationships. Dr. Morgan has been a featured relationship expert with Good Morning America, Teen Vogue, and The New York Times. Her new book, Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself, is out now. Dr. Morgan and I talk about motherhood as an identity and the mental load of parenting that so often falls more heavily on women. We also discuss how that affects our mood, our partnerships and sex drive. I even share a real life example of this dynamic happening in my home right now. If you've been carrying the mental load in your family, I hope this conversation resonates with you and that you'll know you're not alone.  LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. MORGAN CUTLIP HERE FOLLOW DR. MORGAN CUTLIP ON IG HERE BUY LOVE YOUR KIDS WITHOUT LOSING YOURSELF    FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Come As You Are by Emily Nagowski Dr. Cutlip's free guide to talking to your partner about mental load     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for anyone looking for an anchor to their day. I promise I'm not going to tell you to get up at 5am. I hold the word "morning" pretty loosely in this context, but I do think a time to pause and commit to ritual at some point in your day can bring much needed structure.  On this episode, I'm sharing my personal morning routine and giving you a few different ways to think about this topic.  SIGN UP HERE to receive the brand spankin' new episode emails! Mentioned in this episode: Ep. 18: 10 Thoughts On Anxiety The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod  Ep. 9: 10 Ways To Journal BONUS Ep.: Intentions, Affirmations, and Vision Boards, Oh my! The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron Full show notes HERE. * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Join the FB Connection Group Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this busy season I’m so aware of how neglectful I can get about my own self care. When life feels crazy, the first thing to fall to the bottom of my priority list is ME. And I’m becoming increasingly aware of what I’m teaching my own children in this realm. So when Toye Penny reached out to share 4 ways to “Model Well-Being for Generations to Come” I knew I needed to hear what she had to say. Toye shares helpful, thoughtful and practical ways to love the next generation by loving ourselves well first.  Toye Penny is a Luxury Well-Being Strategist, Author of Love “Them”, Love You More, and creator of The Love You More Method℠. She specializes in helping High Performing CEO Moms put their oxygen mask on first so they can save everyone around them. Toye is a wife, mother to 3 daughters, and she seeks to intervene in women’s lives so children won't have to be the result of generational trauma passed down from their mothers. You can learn more about her work by going to ToyePenny.com. I loved chatting with Toye and hope you take as much from this conversation as I did.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for you if Judy Blume's novels made an impact on your childhood.  This is the first in the REVISIT series, where we're going to look at things from the past and see how they affected us then and how we feel about them now. Today's topic: Judy Blume. Specifically, her three novels:  Are you there, God? It's me, Margaret. Blubber and Starring Sally J. Freedman As Herself. My guest on this episode is my childhood friend Cara Pence, and we get a little emotional as we delve into the more painful themes of these books. This is a true conversation between friends. You can read the full show notes here. Take this topic to your journal, text your best friend, or post on social media using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou. Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram and facebook. You can also sign up here for episode emails.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m Laura Tremaine, and I have 10 things to tell you.  Each episode of this new podcast will ask a question, and you're encouraged to take that prompt to your journal, to your best friend, or to social media.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Things To Tell You exists because Meg Tietz put a microphone in my hand nearly a decade ago when she launched the Sorta Awesome podcast and asked me to be a regular cohost. That invitation changed my life, along with the thousands of Sorta Awesome listeners who have been touched by Meg's words and wisdom for all these years.  Meg Tietz has long been a pioneer in the online space. She was one of the earliest mommy bloggers to build a large audience and one of the earliest independent podcasters in the girlfriend chat genre. I am lucky enough to have been friends with her since our childhood years in Oklahoma and have watched the way that she has shaped an entire corner of the internet.  Meg recently announced that she is bring the Sorta Awesome podcast to a close, and in our conversation here we reminisce about her online journey and talk about what it means to decide to end something that is going well, simply because you know it's time.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   Sorta Awesome episodes mentioned: Ep. 123: Intuition, Friendship, and The Future (from 12/1/2017) Ep. 26: The Truth About Anxiety, Part 1 (also known as the face shaving episode)( from 9/10/2015) Ep. 101: The Truth About Anxiety, Part 2 (from 5/19/2017) Ep. 54: Ten Friends Every Woman Needs (from 4/7/2016) Ep. 139: Resurrection: New Life on The Other Side of a Faith Shift (from 3/30/2018) Ep. 192: Heartbreak, Doubt, And Finding Faith Through The Storm (Rebekah speaks about miscarriage) (from 4/17/2019) Ep. 90: Exploring Hope and Healing for Postpartum Depression (from 2/24/2017) Ep. 56: Unpopular Opinions Ahead (A Group Show)! (from 4/21/2016) LISTEN TO THE FULL CATALOGUE of SORTA AWESOME     MENTIONED in this episode: Sorta Awesome cohost Kelly Gordon Sorta Awesome cohost Rebekah Hoffer Sorta Awesome Hangout (facebook group) Serial Podcast Voxer app   SPONSORS: Daily Harvest // Go to DailyHarvest.com/TellYou for up to $65 off your first box BetterHelp // Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for your if you’re curious about how setting intentions works. If you’ve heard the phrase “setting intentions” and thought it was just a bunch of vague feel-good language, think again. In this episode, I’m sharing how setting intentions can lead to getting the most out of your day, your experiences, and your interactions with others. *   Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   Sign up to receive episode emails here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I made this episode for me. But I hope you enjoy it, too.  A few thoughts on feeling more like yourself when you've been out of sorts.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: Noom. Go to Noom.com/10Things for your free trial. Storyworth. Go to Storyworth.com/YOU for $10 off your order. * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Your ratings, reviews, and shares really help grow the show.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @Laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'LL GO FIRST by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TWO HUNDRED EPISODES! It's a milestone worth celebrating.  We're going back to the roots of the show and asking ourselves, What is the ONE thing you would tell? Not 10 Things. Not 3 things. But the most important message you would share with others if given a pen, a keyboard, or a microphone.  I share the ONE thing that I want impart to others, and I'm joined by more than a dozen past guests of 10 Things To Tell You sharing their ONE thing.  Thanks for being here. Happy 200!  - So grateful for my special guests in this episode: Anne Bogel from What Should I Read Next? Emily P Freeman from The Next Right Thing Andrew Och is the First Ladies Man Kaytee Cobb from Currently Reading Bethany Winters Sarah Stewart Holland from Pantsuit Politics Mary Marantz from the Mary Marantz Show Dr. Christine Koh from Edit Your Life Meredith Monday Schwartz from Currently Reading Shawn Smucker  Miss Freddy professional photo organizer Elizabeth Passarella author of It Was An Ugly Couch Anyway Retha Nichole Business Coach Lindsay Lawler singer and soul sister Beth Silvers from Pantsuit Politics    FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The Final Episode of Sorta Awesome Episode 472: Awesome Ever After Ep 194: On Endings and Intuition (with Meg Tietz) Episode 150: 10 Things To Tell You     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In March of 2020, just three weeks into the global pandemic bringing Los Angeles to a standstill, we recorded a family episode called Ep 59: Marry the Person You Want to Quarantine With (the Tremaines Wave Hello).  And now we're back....only it's been ONE YEAR of the pandemic and we still haven't returned to school or work full time. Our family (me, my husband Jeff, our 11 year old daughter Lucy, and our 9 year old son Finch) returned to the couch and the microphone to talk about the last year has looked like for us.  We used the loose framework and questions from Episode 106: 10 Questions To Mark One Year of the Pandemic to talk about the challenges of joys of the last twelve months.  I hope that our family conversation sparks one of your own, whether you record it or not.  Further listening: Ep 59: Marry the Person You Want To Quarantine With (The Tremaines Wave Hello) Ep 69: 22+ Things We've Watched During Quarantine FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: Listenable. Go to Listenable.io and use code YOU for 50% off a year of unlimited access Ana Luisa. Go to AnaLuisa.com/YOU for 10% all products * Thanks for listening to the 10 Things To Tell You podcast! Your ratings, reviews, and shares really matter.    Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG   Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB   Follow @laura.tremaine on IG   Follow @mslauratremaine on FB   Sign up to receive episode emails   Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group   Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mistakes. We’ve all made ‘em. In this episode, I wanted to share 3 mistakes I’ve made recently (personally and professionally) as a jumping off point for talking about missteps, how we corrected them, and what we learned. Of course, not all mistakes are equal. And we don’t always want to harp on things we did wrong. But it can be helpful to hear about other people’s mess ups, and talking about it can hold us accountable for our own actions. Because next time we’ll do it differently. Right? This episode features listener voices at the end sharing their own recent mistakes.  Full show notes here. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's the last Favorite Things episode of the year! I'm sharing some real biggies for my life right now, but we also have listener voices chiming in with their Favorites of 2021.  My list includes a new pair of jeans that made me feel great, two documentaries I can't stop thinking about, and some personal choices around my home and kids.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE. Sponsors: Olive & June. Go to OliveandJune.com and use code YOU for 20% off your first mani system.  Skillshare. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for a free trial of premium membership.  Audible. Go to Audible.com/THINGS to try it free for 30 days. * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

June is my birthday month, and every year I create a personal episode for the occasion. This year, instead of waxing nostaligic or sharing what I've learned in the last year, I'm taking us on a journey.  Of metaphors.  I'm sharing four metaphors that feel especially apt for life right now: One Point (clap clap) At A Time There are years where you wander and years when you're on the road Accelerate through the turn You are not lost   I hope you take something from this episode that helps you on your path.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 174: 3 Things I've Learned While Working with a Business Coach  Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston JOIN SECRET STUFF for an exclusive invite to the Secret Stuff Summit     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, and I have long wanted to have this conversation with my friend, stylist, and breast cancer survivor Bethany Winters.  Content Warning: Bethany speaks candidly about her experience in this episode. Please take care while listening.  In 2016, at age 47, Bethany Winters was diagnosed with Grade 3 Stage IIB Invasive Ductal Carcinoma. What followed was a year of intensive treatment, including chemotherapy, a double mastectomy, and total hysterectomy. In this episode, Bethany shares 10 Things about breast cancer survivorship, and how it's not ever really over even when declared "cancer-free."  This is a tender and important conversation.  Follow @BethanySWinters on twitter Follow @BethanyWin on IG FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   SPONSORS Ritual. Go to Ritual.com/10Things for 10% off your first three months. Acorn.tv. Go to Acorn.TV and enter promo code you for your free 30 day trial. * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for you if you've ever had a teacher who made an impact on your thinking and development.  Tell me about your teachers.    Today we're talking about the school teachers (or coaches, or activity instructors) who have made a difference in our lives in one way or another. I'm sharing the teachers who taught me how to think, trusted me, and even a few who left a mark I wish I didn't have. At the end of the episode, we hear from a few listeners.  You can take this prompt to your journal, text it to a friend, or post on social media using the #10ThingsToTellYou hashtag.  See the full show notes here.  Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram and facebook. You can also sign up here for episode emails.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for you if you've ever taken a trip.  What is the best trip you've ever taken? And what does "best" even mean? Was the best location, with the best people, was it simple or revelatory or both?  This prompt is a great conversation starter.  In this episode, I'm sharing some of my favorite trips of all time. And at the end of me rambling, there are 10+ travel tips sent in my listeners. That's the best part of the whole show! Full show notes for this episode here.   Make sure and follow:   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   Sign up to receive episode emails here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for anyone who struggles with outside influences they can't shake.  I thought when I turned 40 that I had turned a corner in my personal developement, that the shift into caring less about other people's opinions would also mean that my inner critic would pipe down.  But here I am, a few years down the road, and the voices from my past live rent-free in my head and their chatter can affect my confidence and my choices.  In this episode, I'm talking about the five types of voices that rattle around in our heads and how we can identify them and turn down their volume.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   SPONSORS: HelloFresh // Go To HelloFresh.com/50YOU and use code 50YOU for 50% off plus free shipping   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's been awhile since we've talked directly about mental health, and I wanted to give a personal update about what I've noticed is different about my lifelong anxiety in the last few years. I attribute these changes to aging, and evolving lifestyle, and a few different habits that I have really prioritized since I turned 40. As always when I share on this topic, it is meant to be purely my own experience and is not medical advice. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Sorta Awesome Episode 26: The Truth About Anxiety Sorta Awesome Episode 101: The Truth About Anxiety (Part II) 10 Things To Tell You Episodes by Topic (scroll to the mental health section) Episode 18, 10 Thoughts on Anxiety Episode 86: 10 Thoughts On Therapy Episode 182: 10 Things About 10 Years in Therapy Episode 203: Meditation for Beginners   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for you if you’ve ever needed to shake off a bad mood or a bad day. I’m sharing 10 ways to pull myself out a funk. This episode is sponsored by LOLA Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the framework of my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, the duo behind the Pantsuit Politics podcast could be considered Business Besties or Old Friends, but I see them primarily as BATTLE BUDDIES. Beth Silvers and Sarah Stewart Holland have spent nearly ten years publicly discussing the American political landscape on the podcast Pantsuit Politics, and, well, you can imagine why I see them as having walked through a battle together.  Somehow, though, these two women have navigated these conversations with integrity, grace, and - especially - nuance.  I've been a fan of Beth & Sarah for years now, and respect their work so much. It was honor to have them on the show to talk about their friendship and partnership.    FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   Listen to Pantsuit Politics Follow Pantsuit Politics on IG Follow Beth on IG Follow Sarah on IG Buy their book I Think You're Wrong (But I'm Listening) Buy their book Now What?   MENTIONED in this episode: The Pantsuit Politics Premium Episodes on Patreon   SPONSORS: LUME // Go to LumeDeodorant.com and use code YOU for 40% your starter pack ZocDoc // Go to Zocdoc.com/YOU to download the Zocdoc app for free   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When I first found Kate Kennedy's podcast Be There in Five, I just wanted Taylor Swift analysis. But I stayed for her series on Mommy Bloggers. Then I couldn't get enough of her pop culture commentary, hilarious tangents, and well-researched episodes about everything I wanted to talk about (that other people weren't talking about).  I also texted every podcast friend I have to ask, "Have you seen what Kate Kennedy is doing?" Because her show was defying all the rules. Be There in Five's episodes are often 2+ hours long, and mostly solo. It was empowering to watch a woman unapologetically take up so much space with her words and ideas and air time. AND be smart and funny on top of it.  So I was beyond excited to have this conversation with Kate about leaning into your skillset, finding your own personal "football game," and what "being authentic" means when you're one person online and another with your family. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE. Listen to Be There in Five Follow Kate Kennedy on IG Buy Twinkle Twinkle Social Media Star   SPONSORS: Betterhelp. Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month. Raycon. Go to BuyRaycon.com/YOU for 15% off wireless earbuds.   * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You. Your ratings and shares mean so much for the growth of the show.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'LL GO FIRST. by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for anyone interested in raising their hand. Jenna Arnold is an educator, entrepreneur, activist and mother who lives in New York City, and her new book is Raising Our Hands: How White Women Can Stop Avoiding Hard Conversations, Start Accepting Responsibility, and Find Our Place on the New Front Lines.  In this BONUS episode, Jenna and I talk through a few of the reasons white women statistically stay silent about important issues: perfection, performance, and peacekeeping.  I really liked Jenna's book and am excited to share this conversation with you.  Follow Jenna on IG Buy Jenna's book Full show notes here Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Join the 10TTTY Connection Group Sign up for episode emails   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"I learned to stop praying for patience, instead pray for resolution." From a post by JeriLynn Clifford, aka @the_hill_country_bon_vivant on IG Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This supersized episode is actually two conversations: the first with one of my oldest and dearest friends, Kimi Dallman, a bridesmaid in my wedding and childhood friend from summer camp and the second with a new-er mom friend, Tracy Herriott, a friend I've traveled with more in the last four years than anyone else in adulthood besides my husband.  Old friends and new friends have different benefits and fill really different spaces in our lives. I wanted to have these conversations with two women who mean a lot to me, and encourage YOU to reach out to the old friends who have been there through every season, and to feel gratitude for the new friends in your life who only know the most current version of yourself.  Kimi Dallman founded Switch Matt Dallman's BBQ is called Live Coals Tracy Herriott posts amazing photos on IG FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: Skillshare. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for a free trial of premium membership Betterhelp. Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10TTTY Connection Group BUY Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for you if you've ever walked into a room. * Full show notes for this episode here. Make sure and follow:   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   Sign up to receive episode emails here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm sharing my 10 Most Important Takeaways of 2021, a year that was personally hard and full of change and life lessons.  On this solo episode, I talk about everything from my word of the year to moving houses to confusing health problems to spiritual insight. And at the end I'm telling you about a big decision I made regarding the future of the show.  Thanks for listening, friends. I am honored and grateful that you would spend so many hours with me in your ears every week for the last three years.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for you if you met your best friend at the office.  Jenna Fischer and Angela Kinsey are well known for their iconic roles as Pam Beesly and Angela Martin on one of the most beloved tv shows of all time, The Office. But in real life they are also best friends, and now they're business partners launching their new podcast Office Ladies.  On this very special episode, Jenna and Angela talk with me about one of my favorite topics: friendship. We talk about childhood friends, how hard it is to make good friends as adults, and the trickiness of friendship when the dynamics change.  Angela shares her biggest heartbreak with a friendship, and Jenna talks about a time when her feelings were hurt in a friendship. Plus I tell the story of the two VERY awkward ways I met each of these women, and they tell me the origin story of their friendship on set all those years ago.  This episode is PACKED with stories, laughs, and a few tears.  Make sure and subscribe to Office Ladies, debuting Oct. 16 Follow Jenna on Instagram Follow Angela on Instagram * Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   Sign up to receive episode emails here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's the FIFTH annual Best Books of the Year episode with my real life book club friends Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith.  This is one of my very favorite conversations every single December and I do not apologize that it is super sized! Yasmin, Stephanie, and I share 3-4 of our favorite books of 2022 across all genres.  As usual, there are some suprises, some curveballs, and LOTS of opinions.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   Laura’s Picks: I’m Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy The Measure by Nikki Erlick The Only Good Indians by Stephen Graham Jones   Yasmin’s Picks: Small Things Like These by Claire Keegan Mercury Pictures Presents by Anthony Marra Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want To Be by Becky Kennedy Stolen Focus: Why You Can't Pay Attention-- And How to Think Deeply Again by Johann Hari   Steph’s Picks: Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow by Gabrielle Zevin People Love Dead Jews: Reports From a Haunted Present by Dara Horn Ghosts by Dolly Alderton Sirens & Muses by Antonia Angress   Also Mentioned: The Line that Held Us by Dave Joy Foster by Claire Keegan The Storyteller: Tales of Life and Music by Dave Grohl Selena Gomez: My Mind & Me documentary from Apple TV+ The Leftovers by Tom Perrotta Good Inside with Dr. Becky Podcast My Heart is a Chainsaw by Stephen Graham Jones The Nothing Man by Catherine Ryan Howard Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro We Are All Completely Besides Ourselves by Karen Joy Fowler Booth by Karen Joy Fowler Detransition, Baby by Torrey Peters Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other by Sherry Turkle Reclaiming Conversation: The Power of Talk in a Digital Age by Sherry Turkle   SPONSORS: PREODER The Life Council by Laura Tremaine NOW Join SECRET STUFF by Laura Tremaine   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to another episode in my FRIENDSHIP STORIES series!  Can men and women be "just friends"? Kerith & Lee are here to answer that OF COURSE they can. Their unique friendship story starts with a surgery that results in hours-long phone marathons and a friendship that stretches across time and gender roles.  In this conversation you’ll hear what Kerith’s husband thinks of their friendship, how it’s impacted Lee’s dating life, and how others have reacted to their unusual friendship. * Preorder THE LIFE COUNCIL: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs  * SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Reading is always the best form of therapy, distraction, entertainment, and education. And in this episode we talk about titles that serve all of those purposes. Sophie Hudson (aka Boo Mama) is the co-host of The Big Boo Cast and she's also the author of seven books, including her latest A Fine Sight To See. She is always so fun to talk to and we had a blast talking about how long we've known each other, where we first met, how we both feel strongly about women in leadership, and, of course, the best books that we've read lately. JOIN THE SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUB As usual, my book selections were all of the place. And as a former English teacher, Sophie recommended all kinds of books to make us feel and think. FOLLOW Sophie on IG LISTEN to Sophie on The Big Boo Cast READ Sophie's latest book A Fine Sight To See FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sophie’s picks: Remarkably Bright Creatures by Shelly Van Pelt I Cheerfully Refuse by Leif Enger The Kingdom, The Power and The Glory: American Evangelicals in An Age of Extremism by Tim Alberta The Barn by Wright Thompson Laura’s picks: The Wedding People by Alison Espach All Fours by Miranda July The Quiet Damage: QAnon and the Destruction of the American Family by Jesselyn Cook I'm Thinking of Ending Things by Iain Reed Other books mentioned: The Friendship Factor by Alan Loy McGinnis The Girl on the Train by Paula Hawkins Tom Lake by Ann Patchett Sandwich by Catherine Newman  Peace Like a River by Leif Enger No One Belongs Here More than You: Stories by Miranda July Jesus and John Wayne By Kristin Kobes Du Mez Pappyland by Wright Thompson Dispatches from Pluto by Richard Grant Same As It Ever Was by Claire Lombardo Heavy by Kiese Laymon Long Division by Kiese Laymon Also Mentioned: The Popcast with Knox and Jamie Me and You and Everyone We Know (movie) Melanie Shankle, the Big Mama Blog Episode 239: Horror for Beginners (with Meredith Monday Schwartz) SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for you if you love to read (and follow literary controversies).  Book episodes are the best episodes! We spend the first half hour talking about the best books we've read lately with Jessica Turner, and we take a brief detour to talk about #Bookstagram and our current reading habits (including a new hobby Jessica picked up and the #ReadYourBooks challenge she's hosting online).  In the second half of this extra long episode, I'm joined by my real-life book club friend Stephanie Newman-Smith to talk through the layers of controversy around the novel American Dirt by Jeanine Cummins. We talk about who can tell what stories, how the publishing industry is complicit in silencing non-white voices, and the bizarre marketing missteps around the novel that Oprah picked for her book club.  This episode is sponsored by Glossier. Click here for 10% off your first order.  This episode is sponsored by Bombas. Click here to get 20% off your first purchase.  Find Jessica Turner here. Follow Jessica on IG Follow Jessica on FB Follow Jessica's Book Snobbery IG account * Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection group on FB! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for you if you want to learn more about taking care of your skin, or if you're always looking for new makeup recs.  Guest Jamie Golden is giving us a skincare education. If you have no idea what serums you need or how to make your face look more like it did 10 years ago, you are about to take notes.  Jamie is most well-known for her popular (hilarious) podcasts The Popcast with Knox and Jamie, and The Bible Binge, but her personal obsession is skin care. Jamie's Instagram is full of beauty tips and recommendations.  On this episode, Jamie walks us through our basic skincare needs while Laura shares five or her favorite current beauty buys, from hair products to lipstick to a magical foundation.  Full show notes (with everything we recommend) here.  * Jamie Golden is on Instagram.  Jamie co-hosts The Popcast with Knox and Jamie and the Bible Binge. Find The Popcast on Instagram and Facebook. The Bible Binge on Instagram. and on facebook. * Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram and facebook. Sign up to receive episode emails here.    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As someone who has been writing and creating on the internet for over a decade, I know first hand all the challenges that one can face in their pursuit of creative work. The desire to create is there, but the obstacles are real, especially if you become a parent and feel like your time, resources and energy are limited. My guest, Ashlee Gadd, is the perfect person to speak to his as she has just released a book called Create Anyway: The Joy of Pursuing Creativity in the Margins of Motherhood Ashlee and I ended up talking for two hours about art and perfectionism, how it takes a village to create good work, and the social media of it all. We also took a tangent and had a fascinating discussion about paid communities (including Patreon - where I host Secret Stuff), and metrics and some of the more in-the-weeds parts of content creation. That part of the conversation will be available to Secret Stuff members only. JOIN SECRET STUFF HERE I felt so inspired after talking with Ashlee. You don’t have to be a writer or online creator to enjoy this conversation. All of us are wired for some sort of creative expression and life can always get in the way of that. You can buy Ashlee’s book Create Anyway wherever you buy books. I hope this conversation inspires you to pursue your own creative outlet with abandon. Ashlee Gadd on Instagram: www.instagram.com/ashleegadd Coffee + Crumbs on Instragram: www.instagram.com/coffeeandcrumbs Ashlee Gadd on Substack: www.ashleegadd.substack.com  Ashlee Gadd on Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ashlee_gadd/   MENTIONED in this episode: Ep. 57: Masterminds: How to create and structure a business peer group (with guests Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi)  The Social Dilemma documentary on Netflix Deep Work by Cal Newport Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My 5 Friendship Philosophies are: Friendship is a TO DO Believe the Best Just Go Like Every Selfie Your Spouse Is Not Your Best Friend I explain these all in more detail in The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, but I also encourage the reader (and the listener) to find their own friendship philosophies. Rules to live by that will make your connections stronger and your mental load lighter. This Sunday, sit with these ideas and also come up with your own. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

June is my birthday month and so of course I'm feeling (extra) reflective.  In this episode I'm sharing 10 Things I Learned (or am still learning) in the last year. A year that included a worldwide pandemic, publishing my first book, and moving houses after a decade.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Related episodes: Ep 115: Taking Up Space (A conversation with Kate Kennedy) Ep 114: How To Feel Like YOU (when you don't) Ep 109: 8 Tips to Celebrate Yourself Ep 106: 10 Questions To Mark One Year of the Pandemic Ep 97: Top 10 Takeaways from 2020 Ep 87: 3 Mistakes I've Made Recently Ep 77: What's Your BIG Story?   SPONSORS: BetterHelp. Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU for 10% your first month.   * Thank you for listening to and sharing 10 Things To Tell You!  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for Episode Emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Maybe it was a weird conversation or an offhand remark or a comment on a social media post, but whatever happened, you're spinning out. This circumstance has tapped into all of your securities and now you're filled with self-doubt or anger or unworthiness. How do you recenter yourself? I'm going to share 5 ways I've learned to quiet my mind amid chaos and guess what - I am NOT recommending journaling or meditation. I love both of those things (and they can be helpful), but I want to give you a few new tools to consider when you're having one of those days. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE RELATED to this episode: Ep 123: How To Feel Pretty When You Don't Ep 162: 10 Ways To Handle Overwhelm Ep 193: 10 Things To Help with Grief and Loss Ep 213: Anxiety Always Makes Sense Ep 57: Is it Anxiety or Intuition Ep 79: 10+ Mantras and Affirmations for Right Now   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When I stumble across someone on the internet who is sharing themselves in a very vulnerable or very unique way, I take notice. And this is what happened when I found Danielle and Adam of Marriage and Martinis. Their podcast goes ALL THE WAY there. They talk about their relationship and also just LIFE in a way that I don’t think I’ve heard anywhere else.  In this episode, I talk with Danielle about the Marriage and Martinis origin story, why they've chosen to share their relationship in such an open way, and how their friends, family, and community have responded to their honesty.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Listen to Marriage and Martinis Follow Marriage and Martinis on IG Follow Marriage and Martinis on FB Buy their Date Night Questions Ebook   SPONSOR Green Chef. Go to GreenChef.com/90YOU for $90 off including free shipping. * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Your ratings and shares help to grow the show.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'll GO FIRST by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's October! I'm joined on this episode by my friend and co-host of the Currently Reading podcast Meredith Monday Schwartz, to talk about why we read (and love) books in the horror genre and to give you a pile of recommendations for this spooky season. This is a conversation for longtime horror readers AND for those who are horror-curious. We cover everything from why escaping into scary stories HELPS our anxiety (yes, really), to how we believe horror books are often tackling some of the most important cultural topics. Follow Meredith Monday Schwartz on IG Listen to the Currently Reading podcast Sign up for the Currently Reading Patreon to get the All The Things Murderful series FULL SHOW NOTES HERE JOIN SECRET STUFF by Laura Tremaine Laura’s Spooky Books: We Have Always Lived in the Castle by Shirley Jackson Mexican Gothic by Silvia Moreno-Garcia The Need by Helen Phillips How to Sell a Haunted House by Grady Hendrix (Mutual pick for Laura and Meredith) Meredith’s Spooky Books: Diavola by Jennifer Thorne We Used to Live Here by Marcus Kliewer I’m Thinking of Ending Things by Iain Reid Scary Story Beginnings: Nancy Drew Series by Carolyn Keene The Amityville Horror by Jay Anson Stephen King Christopher Pike VC Andrews My Sweet Audrina by V.C. Andrews Horror Books Laura Always Talks About: Into the Drowning Deep by Mira Grant The Passage by Justin Cronin The Only Good Indians by Stephen Graham Jones Tender is the Flesh by Agustina Bazterrica Meredith’s Rurther Reading Recs: Devolution by Max Brooks FantasticLand by Mike Bockoven The Troop by Nick Cutter Amazon Original Stories Creature Feature Collection Laura’s TBR recs: The Reformatory by Tananarive Due The House of Leaves by Mark Z. Danielewski Books Also Mentioned: I’ll be Gone in the Dark by Michelle McNamara (The scariest book Meredith has ever read) The Nothing Man by Catherine Ryan Howard The Haunting of Hill House by Shirley Jackson Lottery and Other Stories by Shirley Jackson The Final Girl Support Group by Grady Hendrix The Southern Book Club’s Guide to Slaying Vampires by Grady Hendrix Sandwich by Catherine Newman 101 Horror Books to Read Before You’re Murdered by Sadie Hartmann Also Mentioned: Talking Scared Podcast Episode 222: Stephen King Starter Kit Part II (What To Read + What To Skip) Storygraph (for tracking books and checking trigger warnings) Sadie Hartmann @mother.horror on Instagram SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Good news! My reading rhythms are back, which means more book content than ever before. I am so happy to share this conversation with Sarah from Sarah's Bookshelves Live about the best books we've read lately.  Follow @sarahsbookshelves on IG Listen to Sarah's Bookshelves Live podcast FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: Ritual. Go to Ritual.com/10Things for 10% off your first month. Molekule. Go to Molekule.com and enter promo code YOU to save up to $120 off your order plus free shipping. Best Fiends. Download Best Fiends FREE today. * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You. Your reviews and shares mean so much. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for Episode Emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'LL GO FIRST. by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for you if you’ve had any recent revelations you want to share. If you’re a regular listener to this show, you are probably the type of person who is striving for growth, who aims to be self-aware, and who is paying attention. And if you’re paying attention, you’re learning. Always. So this week I'm sharing with you a few of my own personal recent revelations (some shallow, some deeper), and I am actively encouraging you to share your own. Not only privately or in your journal, this time I’m challenging you to share on social media. I want you to tell us a recent revelation you’ve had in your life. It’s an exercise in sharing of yourself AND I just want to see what people are thinking about these days. It helps me see the pulse of the listeners and create content for the show. Mentioned on this episode: Laura's personal Instagram account Sign Up for the Secret Posts Ep #21: 10 Thoughts on Turning 40    Thanks for listening! Click here to read the full show notes. @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook Sign up here to get episode emails     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for anyone who is excited for summer reading!  I am so excited to welcome Anne Bogel, three-time author, blogger at Modern Mrs. Darcy, podcaster at What Should I Read Next? and someone who reads more books than anyone else I know! Anne recently released her latest book called Don't Overthink It. You can also go to her website to sign up to get her FREE (and much anticipated!) Summer Reading Guide.  On this episode, Anne and I talk about what our reading life looks like during the global pandemic, how the Instagram #Bookstagram community has changed the way we share what we're reading, and, of course, we give a few recent reading recommendations.  Click here for the full show notes (with links to all the books we talk about). This episode is sponsored by Molekule. Go to Molekule.com and use code YOU for 10% off your order.  Follow Anne on Instagram Follow Anne on Facebook Follow What Should I Read Next on Instagram * Follow 10 Things To Tell You on Instagram Follow 10 Things To Tell You on Facebook Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have followed photographer Kate T. Parker on Instagram for years now and continue to be inspired by her depictions of her fierce and dynamic daughters (and their friends). I love seeing her raw and authentic sports photos since I have two little athletes in my house. You'll probably recognize Kate's work from her books Strong Is the New Pretty and Play Like A Girl. In this BONUS episode, I wanted to chat with Kate about her origin story, her work, and especially her new book Force of Nature. Learn more about Kate T. Parker Follow Kate T. Parker on Instagram Buy her new book Force of Nature SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for you if you've ever felt lonely. Which means this episode is for everyone.    Loneliness feels like one of the great taboo topics of adulthood. But all around me, I see and hear people whispering that they’re profoundly lonely. In this episode I’m going to tell you about a time in my life when I was really lonely, and the two things I did that turned it around for me.    The prompt for this week:   Are you lonely?   Or    When were you lonely?   Take your thoughts to your journal, to a friend, or to social media using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou.   Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook and Instagram.   You can sign up for episode emails and see the full show notes here.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for you if you forgot to self reflect about the new decade on New Years Eve.  Happy first birthday to 10 Things To Tell You! 🎉 We're celebrating one year of good questions and solid conversations. In the beginning of this episode, I share some of the best episodes of the past year (both statistically and personally) and reflect on making these first 50+ episodes.  After that we get down to the central question: Who were you 10 years ago? This is a great ice breaker question OR a chance to see if you remember the beginning of the last decade the same way your friends and family do. Who was 2010 YOU, and would she be happy with 2020 you?  This episode is sponsored by DERMA E. Use code YOU at checkout for 20% off.  Click here for the new FB connection group.  Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jodi Wellman is focused on death. And she wants you to think about it more, too. Death is (clearly) not a popular topic, and something most of us avoid thinking about at all costs. But Jodi believes that knowing you have something to lose can help you live like you mean it. Her new book You Only Die Once: How To Make It To The End With No Regrets can walk you through making the most of your time on this earth. In this episode, author and speaker Jodi Wellman shares 5 ways to live like you're dying: Count your Mondays (quantifying your time can be remarkably clarifying) Diagnose the dead zones (areas in life that feel dead inside) Identify your deathbed pre-grets (regrets-in-the-making that can still be course-corrected) Live wider (with vitality) and deeper (with meaning): identify a list of enlivening endeavors  Pick one small thing to take action on at a time Learn more about Jodi Wellman Buy You Only Die Once: How To Make It To the End With No Regrets Follow Jodi Wellman on IG FULL SHOW NOTES HERE JOIN STEPHEN KING SUMMER HERE SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This final episode of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast contains the the 10 most important things I have to tell you: READ SHARE NOTICE MOVE DECORATE ARMOR UP DOCUMENT PRACTICE LISTEN THANK Thank you for being on the ride with me - for listening and sharing and also showing up on Tuesdays, ready to reflect or learn something or simply to chat. It has been such an honor to make these episodes for you, and I will never forget our time here together. Laura Find me on IG: @laura.tremaine Find me on FB: @mslauratremaine www.lauratremaine.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for you if you have a pet.  This is the last show I ever thought I would do, but I just have to hand it to my dog. I'm asking you to reflect on what your pet brings to your life (now or in the past).  I'm sharing about why we got a dog when I was so opposed to it, and the role he played in a recent scary event in our life.  This episode is short and sweet. Like Kona Rocket. (That's right, he has his own instagram.)   Brought to you by the 10 Things To Tell You facebook page! Read the full show notes here.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram Sign up here to get episode emails.    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This conversation is for anyone who will go through menopause, is currently going through menopause, or who has already gone through menopause.  Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz is my personal gynecologist and I trust her completely with the information she shares in this episode about the changes that women go through biologically, hormonally, physically, and emotionally. She's recently published Menopause Bootcamp: Optimize Your Health, Empower Your Self, and Flourish As You Age.  In this conversation we talk about her path to this work that combines holistic and modern medicine and her compassion and mission to help other women find the answers they need for this next stage of life.  Don't be scared by the "m" word. This conversation (and this information) is helpful, thoughtful, practical, and important.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   Learn more about Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz on her website Follow Dr. Gilberg-Lenz on facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Buy Menopause Bootcamp by Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz   SPONSORS: Apostrophe. Go to Apostrophe.com/YOU and use code YOU to get your initial visit for just $5. Betterhelp. Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's a question we've all asked ourselves at some point....Is everyone happier than me? A relatable thought made worse by the perfection of social media and knowledge that life could go take us on a hundred different paths. Did we choose the right one? It's also the title of Sarah Bragg's new book, where she explores this topic with essays and stories from her own life and parenthood. In this episode, Sarah gives us 4 ways to be happier online (since that's such a huge contributing factor to this question). I loved this conversation with Sarah and know I'm not the only one kept awake at night with comparison and curiosity. LEARN MORE ABOUT SARAH BRAGG Follow @SarahWBragg on IG Listen to the Surviving Sarah podcast Buy her new book Is Everyone Happier Than Me? FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   JOIN STEPHEN KING SUMMER HERE SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Well this episode is a bit of a departure.  One of the strangest things about our life in Hollywood (and there are many, many strange things) is our enormous fish tank. Every time I share a little bit about our fish tank on social media, I get flooded with questions that I mostly can't answer.  So I finally recorded a conversation with someone who could! Nic Tiemens is the co-founder of Infinity Aquariums and not only does he take care of the Tremaine Tank for us every week, he has installed and maintained tanks for some of the biggest celebrities and most beautiful homes in the world.  In this episode, Nic shares how he stumbled into this line of work, why you shouldn't ever get a fish tank on a whim, and the insane new project he's been working on for two years in Bel Air.  My husband Jeff also joins us for part of the conversation, because he's the real reason we have a 1,500 gallon fish tank in our dining room.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Learn more about Nic and Infinity Aquariums Follow @infinityaquariums on IG SPONSORS Rothys. Go to Rothys.com/YOU for $20 off your first purchase Green Chef. Go to GreenChef.com/YOU125 for $125 off your first order.  Storyworth. Go to Storyworth.com/YOU for $10 off your first purchase. * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Prompts for self-reflection or great conversation at the end of the year (any year). My third annual 10 Questions for the End of the Year episode is here and while some of it may be a little familiar, there's a lot of new thoughts in this one.  Take these 10 questions to your journal, the holiday table, or to start any great conversation with friends, family, co-workers, neighbors, or anyone at all.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: Olive & June. Go to OliveandJune.com and enter promo code YOU at checkout for 20% off your first mani system Honey. Go to JoinHoney.com/10Things to get Honey for free Skillshare. Go to SkillShare.com/YOU for one month free premium membership * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of the books that has made the biggest impression on me in the last few years is The Perfectionist's Guide To Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler. I have talked about this book EVERYWHERE and insisted that even people who do not self-identify as "perfectionists" would get something out of it. So you can imagine that I was thrilled with the Secret Stuff members chose TPGTLC as a book club pick and I was doubly thrilled when author Katherine Morgan Schafler agreed to attend our regular monthly book club meeting to discuss it. JOIN THE SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUB HERE This episode is a replay of our book club discussion that was held over zoom, where Katherine and I held a great conversation about some of the major points of the book (including the five different types of "perfectionists"), and then Secret Stuff members got to ask her questions. I loved our conversation so much that I wanted everyone to hear it (and to read the book!). If you like these types of book club meetings, consider joining the Secret Stuff Book Club for 2025. We always have the best meetings with thoughtful conversations. Read The Perfectionist's Guide To Losing Control Follow @katherinemorganschafler on IG FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown (also one of my favorite books of all time) “Tracker” on CBS   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Published Jan 12, 2024 My two week course JOURNALING FOR GROWNUPS is back! The cart closes on Thursday, January 18th so grab it now.  JOIN JOURNALING FOR GROWNUPS If you'd like to get the class for FREE you can become an annual member of SECRET STUFF at the Secret Keeper level ($84/year) and you'll get a discount code for 100% off.  BECOME A SECRET STUFF ANNUAL MEMBER Hope to see you in class! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for anyone who has has been told that there's no use fighting on facebook.  Has the internet ever changed your mind on an issue? Is it easier to hear a new perspective from friends and acquaintances or from strangers? The episode is all about the ways that people’s social media posts ARE changing our culture, through snark, humor, memes or thoughtful shared experiences. Let’s be honest about when a post has opened our eyes or when we’ve decided to dig in our heels. I share my own thoughts on this topic, as well as a few ways (some silly, some serious) that the internet has changed my perspective. At the end of the show a few listeners chime in with their thoughts. This episode is sponsored by SKILLSHARE. Get two months premium membership FREE at Skillshare.com/YOU Full show notes for this episode here. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Sign up for episode emails Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As the headlines get harder, the politics more divisive, and the platforms themselves more corrupt, many of us are rethinking our social media usage in 2025. Yeah, sure, we've all said this before in the past. So we take breaks, or delete the apps off our phones, but we always come crawling back. Social media is just an ingrained part of our lives now. It's where we get our news, it's how we connect with others, it's a source of entertainment and expression. And yet...there is something different about this moment in internet history. People really are fed up, but it also seems impossible to quit cold turkey. There has to be a middle ground between spending large chunks of our day scrolling and walking away from social media completely. In this episode I'm walking through my own personal process of changing my relationship with my phone. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Opal app RELATED episodes: Ep 253: Regrets and Reflections After 15 Years of Working on the Internet Ep 246: A Funeral for Twitter Ep 211: The Cell Phone Contract (A conversation with my kids)   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine’s SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for you if you’re thinking about setting intentions, starting affirmations, and creating a vision board for the new year. On this episode, I’m sharing my (relatively recent) experience with setting intentions, writing down affirmations, and creating a vision board. Let me be clear that I no expert on any of these things, but I do believe that something goes on in your consciousness when you stay open to receiving what the world has to offer (instead of closing yourself off from anything you don’t understand), and by putting in place a few practices that might positively affect your mood, spirit, and actions. This episode is sponsored by VISTAPRINT. Use code YOU at Vistaprint.com to receive free shipping on any business cards. Full show notes HERE. @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're back with all new episodes!  I have so many Favorite Things to share with you from this summer. Remember that we share favorite things every few months as an exercise in gratitude but also because it's a fun and low stakes way to share ourselves. What we're into at any given moment is a reflection of our tastes and interests.  My Favorite Things (Right Now) Summer 2023: Birthday Journal NEST NY Himalayan Salt and Rose Water Candle Everyday Habits App Adult Friendship bracelets (the one I bought here) Taking loved ones on a trip of a lifetime Abbott Elementary The Retrievals Basecamp Shark Heart by Emily Habeck Event Culture  FULL SHOW NOTES (with everything I talk about) HERE   ALSO MENTIONED in this episode: TLC Book Club Drop Ins  Secret Stuff private podcast & membership community Book Soup Event with Emily Habeck    Books we’re reading in Secret Stuff: On Writing by Stephen King  On Our Best Behavior by Elise Loehnen Monsters by Claire Dederer   Birthday Journal IG post  Fabled Bookshop  Commonplace Books OKC  NEST NY Himalayan and Rose Water Candle Everyday Habit App  Find What Feels Good App  Stretch It App  Ring Concierge Best Friends Bracelet  What we did in London IG post What we ate in London IG post Wimbledon IG post  Abbot Elementary  Succession The Righteous Gemstones The Retrievals podcast Basecamp Asana ClickUp Shark Heart by Emily Habeck Elizabeth Barnhill’s IG  Into the Drowning Deep by Mira Grant    SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode will motivate you to create a family yearbook (or any other kind of photo book). CLICK HERE TO FILL OUT THE LISTENER SURVEY Miss Freddy is back! Last year’s Ep 41: 10 Tips to organize your digital photos with professional photo organizer Miss Freddy was so popular that I couldn't wait to have Casey (aka Miss Freddy) back on the show for more ideas about what to do with all the photos we’re drowning in. This time we’re focusing on family yearbooks, but Miss Freddy’s advice applies to any sort of digital photo book you want to create. She’s sharing the steps, the tools, and the mindset to create an album you’ll be so happy to have. Go to Miss Freddy’s Backup Bootcamp course and use code 10THINGS Go to Miss Freddy’s Family Yearbook course and use code 10THINGS See the full show notes This episode is sponsored by BETTERHELP. Go to BETTERHELP.com/YOU for 10% off your first month The episode is sponsored by FUNCTION of BEAUTY. Go to FUNCTIONofBEAUTY.com/YOU for 20% off your first order Follow @miss.freddy on IG Follow Miss Freddy on FB Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Sign up to get 10 Things To Tell You insider info Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for you if you've ever felt stuck in your roles.  This episode and this concept is brought to you by an old boyfriend, who (I think?) made up this analogy and it contributed to the end of our relationship and also has stayed with me as a major life question and metaphor. * Full show notes for this episode here.   Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram and facebook.   Sign up to receive episode emails here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for anyone interested in the peek behind the curtain of the book publishing industry.  Back when writing a book was just a dream, I made a promise to myself that if I ever published, I would share the experience openly and candidly. I used to crave all the information about agents and book deals and publicity and marketing and all the things that it seemed like authors very rarely talked about. Back on Ep 73: I wrote a book! I shared about everything I knew up to that point: getting attention from agents, shopping a book proposal, and, of course, writing and editing my first book. Because I'm now on the other side of the book launch, this episode is a follow up to Ep 73. Here we're going to talk about mostly marketing: Are preorder bonuses a bribe? Is traditional publishing going the way of the dinosaur? Who pays for the publicity? How does getting paid to write a book work? I'm joined for this conversation by my friend Kelly Gordon, because I knew she would be a great person to talk through this topic. Kelly is a co-host of the Sorta Awesome podcast.  Follow Kelly on IG Follow Sorta Awesome on IG Also on the show, I mention two other places I'm doing a deep dive on the publishing process: The Big Boo Cast BONUS episode with Laura Tremaine Laura Tremaine as a Tuesday Teacher for hope*writers   FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: BetterHelp. Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month. Native Deodorant. Go to NativeDeo.com/YOU for 20% off your first order.  * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You. Rating and reviewing the show on iTunes and sharing on social media really helps to grow our audience.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'll GO FIRST. by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices