Why Are People Into That?! (Tina Horn)

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Just in time for the nights to get longer, CUNY professor and author of the new book Gothic Queer Culture Laura Westengard discusses insidious trauma: from Castle of Otranto to True Blood, how vampires create their own erotic holes, and why monster desire is always queer desire. // Laura Westengard (she/her/hers) is an Associate Professor of English at the City University of New York where she serves as point person of the Gender & Sexuality Studies concentration and as a board member for CLAGS: The Center for LGBTQ Studies. She is the author of Gothic Queer Culture: Marginalized Communities and the Ghosts of Insidious Trauma and co-editor of The 25 Sitcoms that Changed Television: Turning Points in American Culture. She writes about popular culture, performance art, and contemporary U.S. literature and recently published an illustrated essay on Cold War-era lesbian pulp fiction for Morbid Anatomy. She is currently researching medical archives for an upcoming book on lesser known 19th and early 20th century medical devices that have shaped contemporary understandings of gender and sexuality.

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“You’re still a Madonna to everyone else but maybe you’re a little bit of a whore for him sometimes” In this special episode of Interrobang, my guest is Jacq the Stripper, a writer, comedian, stripper and illustrator. She is kickstarting Striptastic! a full-color coffee-table book of illustrations, interviews, and data collected from a survey she conducted with nearly 300 strippers from around the world. The campaign ends the morning of Sept 7th but you can buy the book and some other excellent stripper swag in perpetuity by visiting jacqthestripper.com/striptastic to pledge that shit! We recorded a full-length conversation about why people are into strip clubs, but in this preview we answer a sex advice question from a fan. To find out what jack and I think about grappling with the Madonna-Whore complex, listen now! Interrobang is the name of the short exclooosive segment that you get when you subscribe to YAPIT on Acast because you just can’t get enough uncensored pervert conversation. But I’m releasing this one on the regular Why Are People Into That feed so you can get… a taste. Download the ACast App to find out more!

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“The funny thing about Crash Pad is: you know that I know that you know that I know that there’s cameras in there." //

In Part 2 of my interview with Shine, we focus in on Why Are People Into Voyeurism. //

Shine tells a legendary tale of how seeing herself in the mirrors at the Lusty Lady inspired Crash Pad Series. We discuss how the voyeurism themes of CPS means she’s both removed her queer woman of color gaze and inserted that gaze into every single scene; how CPS has changed over 15 years of queer p*rn production; why you should pay for your porn; why asking first is necessary. We also explore: Why is voyeurism considered so creepy? Is the voyeur a top? When is looking like touching? There's also some nerdy camera talk and Shine's conspiracy theory about P*rn Hub. //

Shine Louise Houston is the founding producer and director of Pink and White Productions (CrashPadSeries.com, PinkLabel.tv). During a five-year position at the women-owned sx toy purveyor Good Vibrations, Shine recognized an underserved demand for an alternative to mainstream p*rnography. In 2005, she quit her day job to form a p*rn company, kickstarting a renaissance in queer-made p*rn. A graduate from the San Francisco Arts Institute with a Bachelors in Fine Art Film, Shine has always had a unique vision for adult cinema. Her work has been recognized for its craft and cultural contribution to LGBTQ communities around the world. 

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“I get away with a lot!” /

Katie Skelly and I discuss puffy bulging vulvas, the “dark whimsy” of her psychedelic erotic comic books, why people think her phantasmagoria is a personal ad, how she got away with showing a certain superhero eating ass on a spaceship, and how she was influenced by looking at Vogue in her parents’ newsstand. /

Katie Skelly is an award-winning cartoonist who lives in Brooklyn, NY. Her comics work includes Nurse Nurse, Operation Margarine, and Twisted Romance #1. Her most recent comics, My Pretty Vampire and The Agency, are available from Fantagraphics.

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Molecular biophysicist and queer lit slut Joe Osmundson gets into it with Tina on the great debate of our time: saline vs water enemas. You'll be surprised by their, um, artisanal isotonic douche solutions! Discussed: the inner and outer world of the epithelium, why queer sexual health is under-studied, why you should listen to Frank Ocean while giving yourself an enema, why the douche and cuddle is the new Netflix and chill. //

Joseph Osmundson is a scientist and writer based in New York City.  He has a PhD from The Rockefeller University in Molecular Biophysics.  His research has been supported by the American Cancer Society, published in leading biological journals including Cell and PNAS, and he's currently a Clinical Assistant Professor of Biology at NYU.  His writing has appeared in The Village Voice, The Los Angeles Review of Books, Gawker, The Kenyon Review, The Rumpus, The Lambda Literary Review, and The Feminist Wire, and elsewhere, too.  His book, Capsid: A Love Song won the POZ Award for best HIV writing (fiction/poetry) and was a finalist for a Lambda Literary Award.  His second book, INSIDE/OUT is now out from Sibling Rivalry Press (January, 2018).  He is represented by Katie Kotchman at Don Congdon Associates.  With three other queer writers, he co-hosts a podcast, Food 4 Thot, covering dicks drama, and discourse.  He's available for campus visits and readings via the contact form on his site.

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"I was called a ho long before I became an actual sex worker.” /

The brilliant and deviant Ashley Paige joins me again to discuss the Marriott hotel’s classist sex worker profiling, the racial difference between a slut and a ho, and Ashley’s personal history in the sex industry. /

Content warning: at about 40 minutes this episode gets extra real: w/r/t abuse and violence. /

Ashley Paige is a ProDomme, AlphaFemale, and Kinky Travel Companion based in NYC. She’s been engaging professionally in pleasure and perversion for more than a decade and specializes in the art of catharsis created by her ethereal understanding of visceral connection through Holistic Kink and Companionship. The femme daddy of your leather dreams and filthy fantasies…!

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For the latest in my special series from the Pleasure Chest, Mary joins me to chat about Domination and Submission. 

Mary has worked in various aspects of the adult industry for nearly two decades. Through pleasure education, pro domination, and outfitting premier adult stores, her focus has always been on validating fantasies and relieving humans of sexual oppressions. She currently resides in Los Angeles with her partner, two kids, and often teaches kink oriented workshops at the Pleasure Chest West Hollywood. 

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This is Interrobang! Available exclusively to Acast+ subscribers! Sign up now to get access to this and other bonus content from Tina Horn and Why Are People Into That?! An interrobang is when a question mark and an exclamation point are next to each other. Really. That’s the actual name for that. On this episode of Interrobang, my guest is Merrit K. She’s the host of the Woodland Secrets podcast and the editor of the anthology Video Games for Humans. She is also very funny and prolific on Twitter @merrittkopas. Merritt told me about two related sexual interests that I really didn’t know very much about: pregnancy fetishes and the Omegaverse. What the actual fuck is that? Keep listening and find out! Interrobang is produced and hosted by Tina Horn. Follow @TinaHornsAss on Twitter and Instagram and visit WhyArePeopleIntoThat.com.

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“I don’t experience my naked body as inherently erotic. It’s my body, and I like it. It has so much more to do for me with the glamour and the transgression. That’s the part where I’m comfortable and excited. Burlesque was the first time I ever saw an exalted fat body.” 

Fancy Feast joins me for a talk about the art of burlesque. But first we discuss her Jewish Currents piece about identity fetishism and what kind of Jewish-themed porn she would make. Her act called 50 Shades of Oy Vey is a great segue into a discussion of the money she’s put into big rhinestone, why she’s not body positive, and whether good girls can do burlesque. Pt 2 coming soon! //

Fancy Feast is a burlesque performer, sex educator, and writer. She holds the title of Miss Coney Island 2016 and is the recipient of the Revolutionary Award at the 2017 New York Burlesque Festival. She is a 2018 New Jewish Culture fellow. She has performed nationwide at venues including the Whitney, the Brooklyn Museum, the Metropolitan Opera, and the Burlesque Hall of Fame in Las Vegas. She is the subject of the 2016 documentary “Fancy Feast: the Fat Burlesque Performer”, by Leon Chase. 

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Happy Pub Day Jaclyn Friedman! Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power, and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All is now available everywhere! To celebrate, enjoy this recording from our live crossover podcast at Sex Expo NYC. We discussed Ted Cruz’ “staffing issue,” the reproductive rights actions of the Satanic Temple, psychic dicks, masturbation, our favorite vibrators, adult baby diaper lovers, tentacle porn, and how to start the resistance from your bedroom

Recorded live in front of an audience at the Sex Expo in Brooklyn September 23rd by Nora Linde. Educational programming sponsored by the Pleasure Chest. Engineering sponsored by Acast.

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“Kink is an arena where I find tidiness.” //

In Part 2 of my talk with Juno Mac, co-author of Revolting Prostitutes, we discuss: great books about sex work, rational thoughts in an irrational world, whether there's such a thing as the sex worker gaze, what the Hustlers of prostitution will look like, why it’s imperative that sex work activism centers mutual aid and the experience of migrants, and how Juno is trying not to be the movement’s mother so she can be a @FeralMommy in her personal life. //

“Our fangs are so fucking sharp." //

Juno Mac is a professional leg spreader and opinion haver; a sex worker, activist, author, and photographer based in London, UK. She is an organizer with Sex Workers’ Advocacy and Resistance Movement, a collective of sex workers based in different cities around the UK. She is one of the co-authors of the book Revolution Prostitutes: The Fight For Sex Workers’ Rights released in 2018, and is currently working on a part documentary/part memoir photographic project about the intimate spaces in sex working lives. Her 2016 TED Talk is called: The laws that sex workers really want. 

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“I didn’t how to kiss gently. It was always about grabbing the person, putting my hand around their throat, biting. Leaving as many bruises on a body as possible. I confused a lot of people!”

How is being an actress like being a dominatrix? Tina spoke with the creators of the groundbreaking new webseries "Mercy Mistress" about BDSM as healing, sex work as a consent ritual, and the perks of crop tops in winter.

Mercy Mistress is an episodic dramatic series that follows Mistress Yin, a queer first generation Chinese-American professional and lifestyle dominatrix living in New York City. Each episode focuses on a different client and explores the roots of their particular kink while the larger story is one that unveils the layers of Mistress Yin's own sexuality and how she broke from a cycle of abuse, self-destruction, and childhood violence through her healing journey with BDSM.

Yin Q is a BDSM educator/writer, media producer, sex work activist, and mother of two fierce girls. She has a BA from Barnard College and MFA from The New School. 

Poppy Liu is a first generation Yellow American New York City based actor, poet and community organizer who was born in Xi'An, China and raised between Minnesota and Shanghai.

Poppy is the founding director of the production company Collective Sex which has the mission of decolonizing queer femme stories about body, sex, love and healing. 

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“The ultimate fantasy is love.” Live from Camp Ravish, a sexy outdoor event in rural Texas, comes this atmospheric YAPIT Live! My special guest was world renowned rope bondage expert JD from 2 Knotty Boys. We discussed bondage, exhibitionism and voyeurism, spanking, age play, and more!

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DaemonumX aka Christine talks about her leather dyke zine FIST, her polyamory zine LINKED, and what it even means to be a zine maker in 2019. We also chat about her notorious rope suspension performances and why they’re more about sadism than beauty. Then we settle into a discussion of Catholicism: how Christine went from an inquisitive young Catholic to a blaspheming dyke confessing about impure thoughts to another femme at a party called Slutpile. Stay tuned for Part 2 where we discuss lesbian nuns, demon dildos, and mortification of the motherfuckin flesh! //

Daemonum X is a femme leatherdyke and lifestyle Dominant. She believes in BDSM as a form of spirituality and specializes in rope bondage and blood play. She is the founder and Editrix of FIST, an anthology zine for leatherdykes, as well as Linked, A Polyamory Zine. More of her words on BDSM and power exchange can be found in Them, Autostraddle, and Wussy Mag. DaemonumX lives in Brooklyn where she sometimes teaches and often performs.

You can follow her on social media @DaemonumX and buy zines at fistzine.com

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“I’m imagining a sperm-soaked pulsating os right now.”

Tina hopped on the phone with Stephanie Berman, creator of the Pop! ejaculating dildo. They discussed the reproductive origin story of this innovative toy, as well as kinky and gender affirming uses.

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“I’ll chain you to the bed and put a pretty bow on you” //

This live show, recorded at the NYC Pleasure Chest in December 2019, is all about balance: silk ties and heavy metal shackles, being juicy and muscular, being a genderqueer parent and glamorous pro-domme. Amazon Maddox aka BrujaPxssy tells their kink origin story, explores topics of fat positivity and exotification, and gives advice for parents navigating biases against sexual identity. And then there's a pretty detailed exploration of Why Are People Into Blackmail?! //

BrujaPxssy is an AfroLatin GenderFluid New Yorker and SP. Through their work as a 'Pro-Dominant Life Coach, they strive to make BDSM and alternative lifestyles a more inclusive and well represented community, as well as make meaningful connections with those they encounter on their own journey into The Arts. Parent, Activist, and aspiring model, there is not much they can't handle.

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"He called me Daddy and I've never felt my lips quiver so hard in my life." /

I figured since we started the year off talking about Leather Mommies, it would only be fair to give some space to masculine nurturing dominants. And who better to embody that queer Daddy vibe than professional dominatrix Ashley Paige? /

We discussed what it means for women to claim the title Daddy, whether this is or is not about incest, and how sex work helped Ashley get in touch with her inner vulnerable androgynous top. /

Ashley Paige is a ProDomme, AlphaFemale, and Kinky Travel Companion based in NYC. She’s been engaging professionally in pleasure and perversion for more than a decade and specializes in the art of catharsis created by her ethereal understanding of visceral connection through Holistic Kink and Companionship. The femme daddy of your leather dreams and filthy fantasies…!

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“What does our desire endorse?” //

Content Warning: This episode features two Jewish leftist queers in Brooklyn talking about the history, aesthetics, and complicated erotic allegories of fascism. Some graphic references to torture from fictional films including Salò and The Night Porter. //

In the first YAPIT recorded during the COVID-19 quarantine, JB Brager joins me remotely from their home to discuss the spectacle of fascism. Discussed: shiny shiny shiny boots of leather, Nazisploitation, the fashion inspirations of Night Porter, why Salò isn’t actually a BDSM film but could spark scene material, Cate Blanchett's Soviet jodhpurs, why the Borg don't understand dating, the gender politics of Ilsa, She Wolf of the SS, and this entire fucking 1975 Sontag quote: “Fascist aesthetics… flow from (and justify) a preoccupation with situations of control, submissive behavior, extravagant effort, and the endurance of pain... They endorse two seemingly opposite states, egomania and servitude. The relations of domination and enslavement take the form of a characteristic pageantry: the massing of groups of people; the turning of people into things; the multiplication or replication of things; and the groupings of people/ things around an all-powerful, hypnotic leader-figure or force... Fascist art glorifies surrender, it exalts mindlessness, it glamorizes death. Never before was the relation of masters and slaves so consciously aestheticized... Now there is a master scenario available to everyone. The color is black, the material is leather, the seduction is beauty, the justification is honesty, the aim is ecstasy, the fantasy is death.” //

JB Brager is a writer and cartoonist living in Brooklyn NY, Lenape-ho-king. They are a founding editor of Pinko Magazine and founding host of the Bluestockings bookstore comics reading series In The Gutter. They hold a PhD in Women’s & Gender Studies from Rutgers University New Brunswick. They are on all social media as well as Patreon at @jbbrager

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“We are made to feel powerless non-consensually all the time. This is an opportunity to take the power back.” /

Content warning: This is conversation between two queer women about erotic fantasies that involve themes of force and violation. 

Rape scenes are the most fundamental yet thorniest of sexual fantasies. Whether it's force and resistance, psychological control, or emotional humiliation, why are we drawn erotically to things we don't actually want to do or have happen to us? In this episode, we unpack the paradox of consensual non-consent. Andrea brings her training as a therapist to help us understand the difference between abuse and kink play. She also gives some tips for healthy communication within a BDSM power dynamic. /

Andrea Glik, LMSW is a psychotherapist, somatic healer, sex educator, and witch. Andrea specializes in treating trauma and PTSD for queer & trans folks, using body based and feminist therapy practices to help clients come home to themselves. Andrea practices at The Gender & Sexuality Therapy Collective in NYC.

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 In Part 2, Christine graces us with some explicit Catholic play stories. We discuss cilices, bloody bibles, corruption, possession, places to store a rosary, lesbian nuns, demon dildos, and mortification of the motherfuckin flesh! She offers a quick take on blood play, the inherent camp of vestments, and the inherent cannibalism of transubstantiation. // Daemonum X is a femme leatherdyke and lifestyle Dominant. She believes in BDSM as a form of spirituality and specializes in rope bondage and blood play. She is the founder and Editrix of FIST, an anthology zine for leatherdykes, as well as Linked, A Polyamory Zine. More of her words on BDSM and power exchange can be found in Them, Autostraddle, and Wussy Mag. DaemonumX lives in Brooklyn where she sometimes teaches and often performs.

You can follow her on social media @DaemonumX and buy zines at fistzine.com

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"The fetish itself is anti-consumption.” Lindsay Dye is a cam model, performance artist, and sculptor who specializes in the fetish known as cake sitting. In this episode, she explains the intersection of WAM (Wet & Messy Play) with crushing fetishism, as well as how Miami, empathy, clowning, power, laughter, tears, and more inform her public sittings. /

Lindsay Dye is a 31 year old artist and sex worker of Puerto Rican descent from Miami, Florida. She holds an MFA in Photography and Sculpture from the Pratt Institute. She is most known on social media for her Cake Sitting Performances. Her work has been featured in a wide range of media including: Time Out New York, Playboy, HuffPost, Paper, iD and most recently her butt and handmade cake graced the cover of UK-based BRICKS magazine.

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“You can desire me as C'etait all you want, but sex for me does not include C'etait. That is fully Mathieu." / In Part 2 of Why Are People Into Drag?! Anteus Mathieu, aka drag and burlesque performer C'etait Bontemps, describes some of their drag routines in graphic detail, digs into the complications of folks who are turned on by cross dressing, and concludes we should kill our idols. /

Anteus Mathieu, aka C'etait Bontemps, is a Non-binary drag and burlesque performer living in Brooklyn! A Florida transplant, he has been working in nightlife for 6 years. His brand of drag melds the worlds of feminine and masculine performance in both sexy and sometimes uncomfortable ways. His goal is to push the boundaries of drag and burlesque as performance artistry to explore gender identity, sexual agency, and just plain weird shit. 

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Part Two of my conversation with Melissa Dessereau, MFT, in which we discuss attachment theory, and why queers are especially well equipped for non-monogamy.

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Yin Q, writer of the piece "We All Deserve To Heal" from We Too, discusses Spike Lee, Body of Workers, Kink Out Spaces at MOMA PS1, disassociation, complicity, power play, control, and forgiveness. // Yin Q is a mother, kink educator, writer, and activist based in New York City. Their media work includes Mercy Mistress, a web pilot, and Fly in Power, a short documentary. They founded a production team called Kink Out and organize with Red Canary Song, an APIA and Asian migrant sex and massage worker collective. Yin has been recognized by Spike Lee as an impact activist in his tribute to Jackie Robinson.// ABOUT WE TOO: This collection of narrative essays by sex workers presents a crystal-clear rejoinder: there’s never been a better time to fight for justice. Responding to the resurgence of the #MeToo movement in 2017, sex workers from across the industry—hookers and prostitutes, strippers and dancers, porn stars, cam models, Dommes and subs alike—complicate narratives of sexual harassment and violence, and expand conversations often limited to normative workplaces.

Writing across topics such as homelessness, motherhood, and toxic masculinity, We Too: Essays on Sex Work and Survival gives voice to the fight for agency and accountability across sex industries. With contributions by leading voices in the movement such as Melissa Gira Grant, Ceyenne Doroshow, Audacia Ray, femi babylon, April Flores, and Yin Q, this anthology explores sex work as work, and sex workers as laboring subjects in need of respect—not rescue.

A portion of this book's net proceeds will be donated to SWOP Behind Bars (SBB).

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"People who share their fantasies are the happiest and most sexually satisfied in their relationships." //

What’s the different between a fetish and a fantasy? What are the benefits of communicating our deepest desires? What are the most common fantasies among Republicans versus Democrats? These and many more questions are address by social psychologist Dr Justin Lehmiller's new book Tell Me What You Want, for which he surveyed 4200 Americans on their erotic fantasies. //

Dr Lehmiller and Tina chatted about why we want what we can't have, or what we've been raised to believe we're not supposed to want in the first place, and much more! //

Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 40 pieces of academic writing to date, including a textbook entitled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller's research focuses on topics including casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. His studies have appeared in all of the leading journals on human sexuality, including the Journal of Sex Research, Archives of Sexual Behavior, and The Journal of Sexual Medicine. 

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“In summary, life is pain; submit to me!” Mistress Blunt’s professional practice incorporates devotional principles of yoga with classic BDSM training. In this highly intellectual and erotic episode, she talks with Tina about altered states of consciousness, the relationship between chronic pain and S&M, and her specialized femme induction sessions. 

Danielle Blunt is a New York City based professional and lifestyle domina. She is a classically trained dominatrix, a sex worker’s rights activist, a public health student, a full-spectrum doula, a yoga teacher, a writer, an award winning visual artist, and a plant mom. Her play, work and research all explore the intersections of tenderness and pain. She enjoys long walks on the beach and making men cry.

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“Every time she’s stimulated it’s utter chaos!” /

In Part2 of my conversation with Katie Skelly we discuss whether erotic comics benefit from stories, Italian class dynamics in Milo Manara’s Click, grotesquery in Lisa Hanawalt, Go Nagai, Gina Wynbrandt's Someone Please Have Sex with Me, Dave Cooper's Ripple, the un-dying allure of the comic book store backroom, and Skelly's newest project including possibly incestuous killer maids! /

Katie Skelly is an award-winning cartoonist who lives in Brooklyn, NY. Her comics work includes Nurse Nurse, Operation Margarine, and Twisted Romance #1. Her most recent comics, My Pretty Vampire and The Agency, are available from Fantagraphics.

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“Kinky people have the upper hand!" Queer icon Margaret Cho is now executive producing Yin Q’s webseries Mercy Mistress, so I got the honor of interviewing her when I was in Los Angeles. We chatted about the importance of seeing yourself represented in pop culture, how hard it is to be a good dominatrix, and what BDSM can teach us about consent. /

An accomplished performer in all formats, Margaret Cho could be called the “Queen of all Media” having conquered the worlds of film, television, books, music and theatre. She has five Grammy Award nominations (two for music albums, Cho Dependent and American Myth) and one Emmy nod for her groundbreaking work on 30 Rock. Never one to shy away from a difficult or 'taboo' topic, her socially aware brand of stand-up comedy has made her both a thought leader as well as a teacher to those with open minds and open hearts. In 2017, Rolling Stone magazine named one of the 50 Best Stand-Up Comics calling her “the sort of funny, sex-positive feminist and LGBT activist younger comics continue to look up to.”

Equally as important as her creative side is the causes she is passionate about. Margaret is widely recognized for her charitable work with gay rights and anti-bullying campaigns. In every segment of her life, Margaret is honest, forthright, passionate, uproarious and always entertaining.

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"Why be ashamed of my fetishes when I can fetishize my shame?" /

My conversation w Chingy continues with this deeply personal dive into kinky Mommy lust. Leather Mommies are the new Leather Daddies in this funny and taboo episode. /

Chingy is a writer, actress, humorist and all-around funny pervert based out of Los Angeles and Oakland, CA. Her work focuses on kink lifestyles, queer media, and lesbian thirst and has been featured at Autostraddle, VICE, and BuzzFeed. Chingy is currently working on an informational comic about BDSM love languages, regular columns on kinky lesbian sex, and a workplace comedy about queer sex workers that was featured at Lambda LitFest 2018’s main stage. She is also a much better bottom than you.

She can be found slinging rampantly homosexual memes and ensnaring femme tops on Instagram and Twitter as @TheGayChingy

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"The more you clean leather, the more it smells like itself." For YAPIT Live at the 2nd Ave NYC Pleasure Chest in July '18 with my guests Erykah Ohms and Santos, we discussed leather as a sensual material, a fetish, a symbol, an aspiration, a fashion statement, a cultural beacon, and an ice cream sundae. //

Also: the erotics of bootblacking care, chest harnesses, strap-on harnesses, leather appropriation and "post-fetishism" in fashion, bondage, impact play, protocol, what we think leather smells like, and how leather makes us feel. //

Erykah Ohms is a New York-based, black, queer, cis, leather dyke, who is a kink enthusiast with masochistic tendencies. After quitting her job she wandered into a leather shop seeking employment. There she was introduced to the leather community which became an integral part of her journey in kink. Though she has since moved on from her days of slinging dildos and pushing poppers she remains active in the kink community as a queer performer. With her work, she strives to increase the visibility of POC in kink and sex-positive media. //

Santos J. Arce is a 37 year old Brooklyn native. He is a latinx, trans masculine queer who seeks to bring an intersectional & inclusive perspective on sex ed. He has worked at Pleasure Chest, as a Sex Specialist for over 2 years, & has spoken about gender & sexuality on Buzzfeed & at SAGE NYC (a center that serves to improve the lives of LGBT older adults). When he isn't working as a sex educator, He is member of the trans/queer punk band Trashy, as well as a member of the Brooklyn Transcore Collective, which promotes trans & queer punk bands in & around New York City.

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“While my mouth is open, he gets lost among my teeth, sliding down my throat, not being able to escape my mouth.” //

In truly one of the most deranged episodes in the history of this podcast, Empress Wu and I speculate about the thrall of cannibalism, figurative and in some cases literal. Mukbang videos, a client called Mental Dental, vore, giantess fetishists, vomiting fetishists, eating each other out, drinking cum and piss, the romance of only having so much meat to give, the moment in sex when you're so close you never want to leave, and how cannibalism flips consumption inside out. //

Empress Wu is an NYC-based dominatrix and cultural activist, primarily operating via performance, curation, writing, and production to explore the semiotics of sex work, and its effect on the body politic. In her spare time, she can be found loudly preaching conspiracy theories about slime videos.

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“I brought you into this world, and I can take you out of it!” /

In this hilarious and boundary-pushing live episode, recorded in March 2019 at the 2nd Ave Pleasure Chest in NYC, I'm joined by two other queer sex workers, Ashley Paige and Corey More, to discuss the persistently taboo yet insurgently popular concept of incest fantasies! We deepen our ongoing discussion of leather families, while also exploring power dynamics between siblings, whether twincest is homosexual and/or masturbatory, and ponder that age-old ethical chestnut: if you discover the person you're having really hot sex with is your cousin, how long do you wait to tell them? We also get literal about queer parenthood, since Corey was 7 months pregnant when this was recorded and has some stunning insight into trans and nonbinary birthing bodies. /

Ashley Paige is a ProDomme, AlphaFemale, and Kinky Travel Companion based in NYC. She’s been engaging professionally in pleasure and perversion for more than a decade and specializes in the art of catharsis created by her ethereal understanding of visceral connection through Holistic Kink and Companionship. The femme daddy of your leather dreams and filthy fantasies…! /

Corey More is a chameleon with tits. A carnal detective and longtime provider of erotic odds and ends, they are a porno newbie and a stripper grandpa. Wielding a cancer sun and virgo rising, they specialize in curating the perfect experience to make you want your mommy in the worst way.

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What is the Whorearchy? How can understanding it help us to combat whorephobia? This portmanteau meaning Whore-Hierarchy is a term originating from and used within the sex worker rights movement describing social stratification within the industry. In honor of International Whores Day on June 2nd, here's my lecture from a 10.26.17 Stigma Unbound event at Catland Books in Brooklyn. Check out patreon.com/TinaHorn for a video and my slideshow from the lecture.

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A storytelling heavy flow celebrating some under-appreciated things many people find mystifying and/or disgusting: menstruation, the full internal structure of the clitoris, body scents, and hair! /

Recorded November 2018 at Pleasure Chest on 2nd Ave in NYC. Live engineered by Ben Weber, co-sponsored by Acast. Music by TreZure Empire! /

Arielle Egozi is a writer and social influencer who uses her platform to destigmatize and decolonize sex, bodies, and society. She believes our personal liberation is entwined with everyone else’s, and that feminism isn’t a thing unless it’s intersectional. She’s written for and been featured in publications you’ve probably heard about, and just launched a video campaign with a brand helping teens navigate their first periods. She is now Director of Content at RAXO, a WOC-owned and run creative agency. She’s also a witch. /

Bahar Baharloo is a sex educator and the Assistant Manager of the Pleasure Chest in the Upper East Side. She is a Queer, Femme-sy, Iranian-American, Power-Slut! Her favorite topics include normalizing sexuality/kink, busting myths and demystifying taboos, and the dogs she just can’t own right now. Her favorite toy in the whole store (besides the nJoy Pure Wand) is the B-Vibe Rimming plug.

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Should you pie a Nazi in the face? What's the best JELL-O for wrestling? What are the class implications of bringing food into your sex life? These are the kinds of questions Tina and Lorelei have been asking each other over the years in dungeons, porn castles, and cocktail bars. They figured the least they could do for their fans was to record it for once! Lorelei Lee has been an adult film performer, a bachelor party dancer, a professional dominatrix, a waitress, an advice columnist, and a writing teacher. She has been nominated for 11 AVN awards. Her fiction, nonfiction, and poetry have appeared in Salon, The Rumpus, WIRED, Denver Quarterly, the Los Angeles Review of Books, Buzzfeed, $pread Magazine, and elsewhere. She cowrote the independent film About Cherry, in distribution through IFC films. She is a member of the Adult Performer Advocacy Committee and was the Free Speech Coalition’s 2015 Woman of the Year.

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“The part of sex that most people love is the letting go, the freedom of connection with themselves or another person, the expansion, literally the OMG of it. Most people feel that want more of that and they want it to go on longer. Tantra offers practical ways to get you there."

Recorded in front of a particularly enthusiastic audience at the Pleasure Chest in NYC, December 2017, this is the Tantra Edition of YAPIT Live! Featuring Barbara Carrellas, author of the kinky queer sex guide Urban Tantra, along with Sloan, a Pleasure Chest educator and curator, this episode covers massage, breath, orgies, and much more! 

$5+ Patrons get the episode early, as well as NOT ONE BUT TWO EXCLUSIVE EXTRAS including sex advice about asking for what you want when what you want is love, and a whole lot of fascinating audience questions.

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“Theres a tendency for men in tech to trust machines more than they trust women.” For the first time ever, Tina tackles a speculative YAPIT: or as guest Rose Eveleth calls it: why WOULD people BE into that? Rose is the host and producer of Flash Forward, a spectacular podcast about the future. She’s also written extensively about sex robots technology with feminist humor and scientific skepticism. In this episode, Tina and Rose muse on everything from the consent politics of machines, to how sex workers and sex robots might work together, to where the hell you would store a sex robot in a New York apartment. 

Rose Eveleth is a journalist who covers how humans tangle with sports, science and technology. She’s the host and producer of Flash Forward, a podcast about the future, and has covered everything from fake tumbleweed farms to sexist prosthetics. Before all that she worked at The Atlantic, Smithsonian Magazine, Nautilus Magazine, TED and CBS. Her work has appeared on Vice, BBC Future, Racked, Scientific American, Eater, The New York Times, Fusion, Five Thirty Eight and more. In her spare time she makes paper automata and day dreams about hanging out with a pack of foxes. 

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Welcome back to the first new feed drop in three years. I appreciate that you’re still subscribed, and I hope this was a nice treat in your podcast updates today. People tell me all the time they still listen to back episodes. I’m so grateful for that, and for all the listener support over the years. The major reason I haven’t been actively doing the show is that I got a major book deal to write Why Are People Into That A Cultural Investigation of Kink. It’s been a long process – sometimes arduous, sometimes glorious, and now the book is about to be unleashed upon the world, that’s you! That pub day is June 4th, 2024. 

Why Are People Into That A Cultural Investigation of Kink isn’t an adaptation or like novelization of the pod so much as a book based on the same premise that this podcast is based on: a queer as fuck, whore-centric, slut positive, pervert celebrating deep dives into fetish sex. Which is to say, if you’ve enjoyed listening, you’re gonna enjoy reading. 

And You, dear listener, can get yourself a hardcover copy wherever books are sold (I recommend your local indie shop, but yes it’s available through the behemoths too). You can get an ebook wherever digital books are sold, or the audiobook, read by me.

And speaking of the audiobook, the reason for this feed drop is not exactly a new episode, but a preview of the audiobook to thank you for being a loyal podcast subscriber. Specifically it’s Chapter 4 which is all about Fisting… shockingly a topic I’ve never featured on the show despite it being one of my favorite things to do and talk about. This chapter discusses lube, g spots, p spots, Gayle Rubin’s Catacombs A Temple of the Butthole, Adam Zmith’s book on poppers Deep Sniff, Bini Adamczak's On Circlusion translated by Sophie Lewis, Mira Bellweather’s zine Fucking Trans Women, some personal fisting stories, and much much more. 

Preorders are important! If you’re listening to this before June 4th, it would mean so much to me and the countercultures celebrated in this book if you would preorder in any format from any retailer. And I’m offering a special incentive for people who preorder. All you have to do is go to the link in my Instagram bio and upload your proof of preorder purchase to access another special episode of the podcast, this one with an actual special mystery guest! It’s more intimate than any episode I’ve done before and you can ONLY hear it if you preorder the book. If you’ve missed that, you can still buy the book wherever books are sold, and that really means a lot to me too. 

So now… get engorged. Do your carpal tunnel stretches. And I hope you enjoy this preview of Why Are People Into That A Cultural Investigation of Kink. I hope you grab a copy, I hope to see you on book tour. Here we go…

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"Why Are People Into That?: A Cultural Investigation of Kink" THE BOOK IS OUT TODAY June 4th, 2024. Happy birthday baby!

The episode you’re listening to now was recorded in July of 2021 at Junior High gallery in Los Angeles. It was one of the first in-person events I did after getting vaccinated. I’ve been sitting on this footage and other footage from the other live shows I’ve done over the past few years because I was honestly waiting for a special occasion. I don't think anything more special than the book release is likely to happen any time soon, so here it is! 

Friend of the pod and returning guest Nea Ching aka "The Gay Chingy" is so fucking funny, at one point she literally says, "I’m a hole not an engineer!" This episode was actually really a treat for me to return to and edit. The audience was super cute as my audiences tend to be. I hope you laugh and get turned on listening as much as I did making it. We talk about how fucking machines are objects that objectify you, about breeding with ovipositor dildos, about artisinal poppers that make you feel the way you do when you have a really big crush on someone, and how during the pandemic we missed strangers spitting in our mouths. 

Real quick I just want to tell you that if listening to this makes you wish you could attend YAPIT live, you’re gonna wanna come back to the Junior High gallery on June 11th for a cabaret celebration of the book release with wine and sweets and schmoozing… and burlesque and drag performance curated by my very talented friend Spike Prince of Cats. 

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The best way to get tickets to that show, and also find out about my book tour and educatrix workshops, and my new detective comic Deprog, is to subscribe to my newsletter at Tina Horn dot net, and follow me where I’m most active at tinahornsass on Instagram. 

Alright, grab a folding chair and get ready to be bred by YAPIT Live a flashback from summer 2021 with Chingy Nea. This is part one! and part two with all of our discussions of audience questions will be out soon, so stay subscribed. 

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“Most forced stuff is good, really.” — Nea Ching

"Why Are People Into That?: A Cultural Investigation of Kink" THE BOOK IS OUT NOW wherever books are sold in hardcover, ebook, and audiobook read by me!

The episode you’re listening to now was recorded in July of 2021 at Junior High gallery in Los Angeles. It was one of the first in-person events I did after getting vaccinated. I’ve been sitting on this footage and other footage from the other live shows I’ve done over the past few years because I was honestly waiting for a special occasion. I don't think anything more special than the book release is likely to happen any time soon, so here it is! 

Friend of the pod and returning guest Nea Ching aka "The Gay Chingy" and I answer audience questions like "Why Are People Into Being Hunted?!" (the greatest audience question of all time?!) and discuss an alternate dimension where Chingy is a top.

Tickets are still available to Junior High gallery on June 11th for a cabaret celebration of the book release with wine and sweets and schmoozing… and burlesque and drag performance curated by my very talented friend Spike Prince of Cats. 

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“There’s a part of me that’s going to enact a sadism on you from the inside.” //

It’s YAPIT: COVID-19 Lightning Round Edition, recorded live on Instagram May 2nd 2020. //

In which I really try my best to game-ify YAPIT even though I don’t have a game brain and cannot follow my own rules. //

We cover: masks, medical fetishism, nano-objects, virtual reality, bug-chasing, spit, and breath play. //

Death ethics, Zoom fart trolls, Thomas the Tank Engine lead recalls, how the crisis will change porn, the question “if you had a clone how would you fuck it?”, ovipositors, and sourdough starters also come up because how could they not? //

“You’re a femme fatale, the fluids from your body have the power to destroy me.” //

Empress Wu is an NYC-based dominatrix and cultural activist, primarily operating via performance, curation, writing, and production to explore the semiotics of sex work, and its effect on the body politic. In her spare time, she can be found loudly preaching conspiracy theories about slime videos.

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In this special holiday guide from the Pleasure Chest, LA sex specialist Tracy walks us through all sort of stocking stuffer ideas from vibrators that double as jewelry, to porn, books, bondage toys, massage oils, gift cards, gift packages, and special deals to give the gift of stress relief to all your loved ones!

Tracy is the Supervisor and Sex specialist at the Pleasure Chest in West Hollywood. She has been working for the Pleasure Chest since 2015 and in the adult toy industry for 6 years. Her goal is to help others explore and add a lil spice and everything nice to their lives! 

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Whether it’s been a few years since you heard it or you’re getting slobbered on by it for the first time, please enjoy this rerun of Why Are People Into Puppy Play! with Rocket/Yandy.

Fetch! Speak! Roll over! This episode is all about people who love to role play as dogs. Sometimes their puppy persona becomes a part of their sexual identity, a way to access innocence, playfulness, and carnal passion.

DISCUSSED: Puppy-on-puppy Love / Scooby Snack Graham Crackers / Butt Plugs with Tails / Elbow Pads / Halloween Store Finds / Saran Wrap / Love until the Heat Death of the Universe / You Know if You’ve Been a Fucking Goddamn Good Ottoman or Not / Positive Reinforcement DS / Walkies /

Rocket/Yandy is a gender-ambivalent, futureshocked nice Jewitch pupper who prefers “it” pronouns and is, at present, exploring the interplay between poetry, time travel, countermemory, and trans identity using a combination of sadomasochism, rhinestones, and strategically applied pyromania. Rocket works on the Transgender Rite of Ancestor Elevation, Mythical Events, and the Agdistine Order and teaches at places like the Queer Porn Film Festival, the New England Leather Alliance, and Columbia University.  

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Money makes the world go round, or so it's been sung. So what about when cash makes your pussy wet and your dick hard? Pornographer, writer, and activist Lorelei Lee understands both sides of the transactional fetish known as financial domination. In this episode, Tina and Lorelei explore the circumstances in which sex work is and is not "findoming," plus all the different ways to fuck on top of a pile of money. “You exist only to prop me up. This is the entire reason you go to work. You’re just a pay piggie. You might as well sign over your check to me. The thing that’s thrilling me is having cash accumulate around me, rubbing it on my body, smelling it. I love to fuck on it. I love to throw it around the room. I feel like I’m receiving power when I receive that money, power that I specifically felt the lack of at many times in my life. I’m owning it, controlling it, stepping on it. Maybe the thing I’m dominating is the money… “ Lorelei Lee has been an adult film performer, a bachelor party dancer, a professional dominatrix, a waitress, an advice columnist, and a writing teacher. She has been nominated for 11 AVN awards. Her fiction, nonfiction, and poetry have appeared in Salon, The Rumpus, WIRED, Denver Quarterly, the Los Angeles Review of Books, Buzzfeed, $pread Magazine, and elsewhere. She cowrote the independent film About Cherry, in distribution through IFC films. She is a member of the Adult Performer Advocacy Committee and was the Free Speech Coalition’s 2015 Woman of the Year.

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This February, let's rethink our idea about romance by focusing on self love and solo sex!

Tania has been with the Pleasure Chest for 2 years managing the Lincoln Avenue location in Chicago. She loves poetry, cooking and crystals. She finds a lot of joy in helping folks find a way to love themselves and others.

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"Riding someone while biting them is like consuming them from both ends.” /

“The esophagus is the thinking man’s rectum.” /

Worship, biting, vampirism, feeding frenzies, body farms, eating pubes, menstrual blood, ripping into each other, the act of service of giving someone your life force, the Cannibal cop, Der Metzgermeister, eating the placenta of someone you love, what part of her own body Wu would like to eat, what Yu-Gi-Oh! fan fiction has to do with all this, and how Wu would prepare you. /

Empress Wu is an NYC-based dominatrix and cultural activist, primarily operating via performance, curation, writing, and production to explore the semiotics of sex work, and its effect on the body politic. In her spare time, she can be found loudly preaching conspiracy theories about slime videos.

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“Sex that takes up a lot of time doesn’t contribute to capitalist production. Anyone who comes into the Pleasure Chest is already saying; I’m taking back time for myself." In this special Pride episode, Ryan DiMartino talks with Tina about queering sex. From fabulous toys like golden strap-on dildos, to queer porn and literature, to gender affirming gear like gaffs and packers, the Pleasure Chest is the perfect place to find everything you need to queer your sex life all year long! Ryan DiMartino coordinates education at the Pleasure Chest NY. Inspired by sharing the stage with community leader Miss Major at age 17, their work is in pursuit of justice at the intersections of sexuality and gender with a focus on sex workers rights, body autonomy, and education. When they're not working with humans, they can usually be found beneath a pile of dogs.

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“The AIDS crisis was taking away our sexual freedom as well as our lives. I wanted to have sex in a way that was safe from HIV, but ecstatic as gay men in the all night disco palaces of your dreams.”

Barbara Carrellas is a queer kinky sex educator whose work has been very influential on Tina’s personal and professional life. To celebrate the tenth anniversary edition of Barbara’s seminal book Urban Tantra, the two of them sat down to discuss breath and energy orgasms, their relative tolerate for “woo,” and the complications of cultural appropriation. This is Part One, with Part Two coming later this month!

Barbara Carrellas is celebrating the brand new second edition of her bestselling book, Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty First Century—the world’s first LGBTQ- and BDSM-inclusive Tantric sex book. She has also written Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide To Sex, Relationships and Oh So Much More, and Luxurious Loving. Barbara is the founder of Urban Tantra®  — a philosophy, an international community, and an inclusive conscious sexuality practice. She was named Best Tantric Sex Seminar Leader in New York City by Time Out/NY Magazine for her Urban Tantra® workshops, and was awarded a 2016 Sexual Freedom Award for Lifetime Achievement.

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For the first episode of a special series celebrating the release of We Too: Essays on Sex Work and Survival, I chatted with the book's editor Natalie West. (I associate edited and contributed to the anthology!) //

"You have to be ok with ambiguity to grapple with what the book presents and what sex work is."//

Natalie reflects on her choice to market herself as the Lesbian Dominatrix of Los Angeles. Then we get into the long history of how we came to co-edit this anthology of sex workers responding to the Me Too movement. Stay tuned for more episodes featuring other contributors to the book. And snag your copy, out 2.9.21 from Feminist Press! //

Natalie West is a Los Angeles based writer and educator. She worked as a professional Dominatrix while obtaining her PhD in Gender Studies. These days, she is a professor who moonlights as a sex work, BDSM, and queer community authenticity consultant for film and television. //

We Too is a collection of narrative essays by sex workers presents a crystal-clear rejoinder: there’s never been a better time to fight for justice. Responding to the resurgence of the #MeToo movement in 2017, sex workers from across the industry—hookers and prostitutes, strippers and dancers, porn stars, cam models, Dommes and subs alike—complicate narratives of sexual harassment and violence, and expand conversations often limited to normative workplaces.

Writing across topics such as homelessness, motherhood, and toxic masculinity, We Too: Essays on Sex Work and Survival gives voice to the fight for agency and accountability across sex industries. With contributions by leading voices in the movement such as Melissa Gira Grant, Ceyenne Doroshow, Audacia Ray, femi babylon, April Flores, and Yin Q, this anthology explores sex work as work, and sex workers as laboring subjects in need of respect—not rescue.

A portion of this book's net proceeds will be donated to SWOP Behind Bars (SBB).

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Hey YAPIT fans! I'm focusing my energy on SfSx Volume 2, the hustle, and work/life balance in these turbulent times. Listen for a few words on my hiatus, and what to expect in 2021. xoxoxo TH

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“All subcultures use aesthetics to establish community." // Fetish artist and aesthete Lanee Bird joined me the day after her film Laboratory was screened as part of Kink Out: Spaces at MOMA PS1. We talked fetish as: obsession, reverence, precision, perfectionism, discomfort, fashion... and how being a bottom contributes to Lanee's talents. //

Lanee Bird is an indigenous queer photographer, cinematographer and video editor based in Brooklyn, NY. Through her personal work of both photo and film she reveals the intersections of fashion and fetishism. She is also experienced in commercial video production as an editor and colorist primarily working within the beauty industry. @LOVVR @DRESSEDFORPLEASURE

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“The push and pull between clarity and imagination is something I think about a lot in visual storytelling.” //

I called up SfSx series artist Jen Hickman to celebrate the release of our SfSx: Volume 1: Protection trade paperback on July 22nd!

Jen and I discuss our collaborative process, and Jen gives some insight into how they think about formatting sequential art, color as music, and an art school game that’s like exquisite corpse but with dicks. We also touch on Jen’s talent for “character acting” and one of my favorite examples of this from SfSx, how they made an air duct scene sex charged and hilarious, the role of time in comics especially smutty comics, and what kind of sex robot we'd want to fuck. // Jen Hickman is a visual storyteller and a graduate of the Savannah College of Art and Design's Sequential Art program. Past work includes TEST, Moth & Whisper, Jem and the Holograms, the Femme Magnifique anthology, and more. They get really excited about dystopian fiction, good coffee, and drawing hands.

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“Chivalry is the kind of ritualized flirting that goes on and on and on." In this episode, iconic writer S. Bear Bergman makes a case for chivalry; a modern, bespoke, very queer kind. He compares it to high protocol BDSM, cruising, and good ole fashioned courtesy. Very much the kind of convo you’ll only find on YAPIT.

S. Bear Bergman is a writer, storyteller, educator, activist and the founder and publisher of children’s book publisher Flamingo Rampant, which makes feminist, culturally-diverse children’s picture books about LGBT2Q+ kids and families. He writes creative non-fiction for grown ups, fiction for children, resolutely factual features for various news outlets, the advice column Asking Bear and was the co-editor along with Kate Bornstein of Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation. These days he spends most of his time making transgender cultural competency interventions any way he can and trying to avoid stepping on Lego. Learn more about his projects at sbearbergman.com.

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Picking up cash with your pussy. Pulling bills out of your butt. Torturing men until they reveal where they've hidden your money around the room. Tina and Lorelei have witnessed some wild intersections of finances and sex in their time. In Part Two, they continue their discussion of financial domination and cash fetishism.

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On May 11th, I recorded an episode remotely with Shine, about 15 years of Crash Pad Series, and a second part about voyeurism. On June 24th, I called her back to get her perspective on the Movement for Black Lives. This is part one, including our talks about BLM and CPS. Voyeurism coming soon. //

“If you tell professionals what to do they won’t riff. If you tell amateurs what to do they ignore you. What I found was that the more I took myself out, the more organic the scene could be… The only thing I needed to control was the cameras…” //

In which I call Crash Pad Series the Law and Order of Queer P*rn, Shine explains the origin story of the CPS themes and production values, and her take on the narratives of a sex scene. //

Shine Louise Houston is the founding producer and director of Pink and White Productions (CrashPadSeries.com, PinkLabel.tv). During a five-year position at the women-owned sx toy purveyor Good Vibrations, Shine recognized an underserved demand for an alternative to mainstream p*rnography. In 2005, she quit her day job to form a p*rn company, kickstarting a renaissance in queer-made p*rn. A graduate from the San Francisco Arts Institute with a Bachelors in Fine Art Film, Shine has always had a unique vision for adult cinema. Her work has been recognized for its craft and cultural contribution to LGBTQ communities around the world.

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Cleaning things up so you can get extra dirty. That’s the philosophy of Ask A Clean Person columnist and podcaster Jolie Kerr. Tina had the misconception that a cleaning expert probably wouldn’t share some of her disgusting interests, but Jolie defies expectations with her dirty mouth and filthy mind. In this episode, Jolie gives tips for using ketchup to clean leather strap-on harnesses, and using meat tenderizer to clean up period blood; and Tina tells a very personal story about an anal catastrophe. 

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“I can make anybody into a clown!” Dear listeners, you may know by now that Tina is and always has been unnerved by clowns, and has even avoided requests for a YAPIT episode on that topic. Until now! 

The calming, elegant darkness of Domina Dia Dynasty, co-creator of NYC’s La Maison du Rouge, inspired Tina to face her fears. Tina crawled into Dia’s homemade yurt to discuss humiliation, exaggeration, wonder, curiosity, transformation, absurdity, masks, and how Dia likes to live in the place where humor and terror intersect. //

Dia Dynasty is a Shamanatrix; a professional dominatrix who incorporates spiritual and healing modalities into her BDSM practice in order to offer her clients transformational and life-altering experiences. Her 10 years as a professional dominatrix in New York City, along with her lifelong engagement with yoga and magick have honed her skills of domination with a mixture of psychomagick, holistic health practices, and ritual work. Dia has been a guest on numerous kink, sex and spirituality forums including Kink Doctor’s Youtube talk show, Witchwave podcast, SexOutLoud Radio with Tristan Taormino, DownForWhatever podcast, Banana Mag print publication and more. Dia enjoys traveling the world, roller skating, archery, and tending to her home in Brooklyn with her cat and her life partner. 

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“Drag is how you perform gender for people to see and understand. If you’ve confused them, that’s even better!” /

In Part 1 of this episode on gender bending performance art, Anteus Mathieu, aka C'etait Bontemps, discusses growing up in Florida watching RuPaul's Drag Race and going to gay clubs, and how burlesque helped him get in touch with his transmasculine identity. He opens up about how his community was affected by the Pulse nightclub massacre, and how his dysphoria relates to the ways his body is perceived sexually onstage.

Stay tuned for Part Two later this month when Matthew describes his drag routines and digs into the complex implications of folks who are turned on by cross dressing. /

Anteus Mathieu, aka C'etait Bontemps, is a Non-binary drag and burlesque performer living in Brooklyn! A Florida transplant, he has been working in nightlife for 6 years. His brand of drag melds the worlds of feminine and masculine performance in both sexy and sometimes uncomfortable ways. His goal is to push the boundaries of drag and burlesque as performance artistry to explore gender identity, sexual agency, and just plain weird shit. 

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Miki is an entrepreneur whose work focuses on the taboo bodily fluids we’re usually too ashamed to even discuss. In this Interrobang, Miki discusses the personal and environmental effect of toilet habits, the civic horror of fatbergs, the relationship between anal health and anal pleasure, and why porn star Asa Akira was the perfect spokesperson for her new line of bidets. 

Miki Agrawal is a successful social entrepreneur and accomplished disrupter who uses innovative products to break taboos. She co-founded and led THINX, a high-tech, period-proof underwear brand now valued at over $150 million. She most recently founded TUSHY, a company revolutionizing the American bathroom and making bidets mainstream in the US. Miki is also founder of the gluten-free pizza chain WILD and the author of “Do Cool Sh*t” and “Disrupt-Her.” She was recently named Fast Company’s Most Creative People of 2018 and Most Impressive Women Entrepreneurs by Inc. Magazine. She is a graduate of Cornell University and proud mama of Hiro Happy.

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"Trauma and shame show up in the body in the same ways.” /

In this Interrobang, Andrea Glik, LMSW discusses her therapy practice, how BDSM can help us to heal from trauma, what depression looks like in your nervous system, and which Cate Blanchett character she would want a sex robot to impersonate for her. /

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“Is it ok for 'Juno Mac' to be an anxious hooker and an advocate for sex worker rights? Am I allowed to be a messy, complicated person?” //

The co-author of the indispensable book Revolting Prostitutes join me over the phone from her quarantine in England to discuss: the unfair pressure of compartmentalizing our own sex lives and whoreientations, why doing sex work digitally feels like Buffy losing her super-strength and not being able to open a jar of pickles, dinner party Decrim talking points, and “calling in” the analogy "sex is to rape as sex work is to trafficking." //

Juno Mac is a professional leg spreader and opinion haver; a sex worker, activist, author, and photographer based in London, UK. She is an organizer with Sex Workers’ Advocacy and Resistance Movement, a collective of sex workers based in different cities around the UK. She is one of the co-authors of the book Revolution Prostitutes: The Fight For Sex Workers’ Rights released in 2018, and is currently working on a part documentary/part memoir photographic project about the intimate spaces in sex working lives. Her 2016 TED Talk is called: The laws that sex workers really want. 

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“The second you make someone laugh, it’s so much easier to get money out of 'em!” / Live from McNally Jackson NYC in January 2018!We discussed colorism at strip clubs, #MeToo issues, Spread Magazine, how being a stripper prepares you to write single panel comics, and a certain portrait of Aya's mom wearing a leopard print fur bikini holding a snake! / From I Was A Teenage Dominatrix to The Happy Hooker, classic sex work books have been limited to pretty one-dimensional points of view. In the 21st century, sex work books are as prismatic as the workers themselves. Join sex work journalist and podcaster Tina Horn for a panel on the exciting and nuanced ways sex work is being written about right now. Learn how strippers around the world represent themselves, on topics ranging from snacks to the male ego, in Jacq the Stripper's crowdfunded self published Striptastic. Learn why Aya de Leon chose escort characters as the protagonists of her Justice Hustlers crime series. Learn how Akynos uses both her blogging and performance art as activism. We'll be discussing everything from stigma to genre to branding to high heels in an effort to create a real and honest portrait of the modern literary sex worker. 

/ Jacq the Stripper is a Canadian writer, comedian, stripper and illustrator. She lives in New York City with her wife and plants.Beaver Show, Striptastic, social media... / Aya de Leon is an author, teacher, and activist in the Oakland Bay Area. Kensington Books publishes her sex worker heist series, Justice Hustlers: Uptown Thief in 2016 (winner of Independent Publisher and International Latino Book Awards), The Boss in 2017, and The Accidental Mistress in 2018. She has received acclaim in the Washington Post, Village Voice, Tits and Sass, The SF Chronicle, and The Establishment. Her work has also appeared in Ebony, Guernica, Writers Digest, Huffington Post, The Toast, The Honest Courtesan, Essence, VICE, Bitch Magazine and on Def Poetry. She is also at work on a black girl spy YA novel called Going Dark, and an adult spy novel about FBI infiltration of an African American political organization. She teaches creative writing in the African American Studies Department at UC Berkeley, and blogs and tweets about race, gender, and culture at @AyadeLeon and ayadeleon.com.

kynos is a New York raised stripper and performance artist. For the past decade she has been featured in showcases from New York to Europe. She is a proud sex worker and human rights activist. She has spoken at events such as the 2016 International AIDS conference in South Africa and the AWID conference in Brazil of the same year. Her film Whore Logic has been featured in film festivals such as The Sex Worker Film and Arts festival. She currently has a new bi-weekly variety showcase with her dance troupe Koffee every other Thursdays at Essence bar in Brooklyn. To support her artistic endeavors please support her current gofundme campaign and sign up for her patreon where she will feature writings and a podcast on topics pertaining to her life, sex worker rights and conversations around sex and sexuality. She is currently a grad student at Goddard College in Vermont. 

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“It’s a strengthening of the will. It’s letting them surrender into their purpose of service."

Yin Q is a BDSM ritualist/educator, mother to two fierce children and two calm animals, and writer of Mercy Mistress, a web series based on Q’s memoirs of coming-into- kink and sex work (Exec Prod. Margaret Cho). Yin founded Kink Out to bring together intersectional peoples of the leather/kink communities for art, conversation, and activism. Their writing is in BUST, Afro-Asia, Queer Magic, Apogee Journal, and the upcoming #WeToo Anthology published by Feminist Press. They are currently working on a documentary on Red Canary Song, the sex worker organization that advocates for Asian Migrant Massage Parlor Workers.

@YinQ13

@Kink Out 

@Red Canary Song 

IonaPearl is Assistant Manager and Sex Specialist at the Pleasure Chest Upper East Side. They are a Queer, Black Femme, and energetic Libra. IonaPearl is an abortion, contraception, and miscarriage Doula, and aspiring social worker. In their free time, IonaPearl enjoys reading (Sister Outsider), eating (Sour Patch Children), and crystals (Tiger's Eye). @ionathepearl

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Lesbian vampires. Face-hugging aliens. Blue collar werewolves. Shitty boyfriend robots. Abject zombies. Mermaids with strap-ons. The devil’s ice-cold dick. These are just some of the hilarious ways we sexualized monsters on this Halloween edition of YAPIT Live at the Pleasure Chest in NYC. My gore whore guests Katie Skelly (author of the graphic novel My Pretty Vampire), Kristen Sollee (author of Witches Sluts Feminists) and Carly (sex educator at the Pleasure Chest and author of the Dildo Or Dil-Don't blog). Recording by Ben Weber sponsored by Acast. 

If you’re in the NYC area, come to the monthly live series to enjoy raunchy talk with my special sexpert guests, wine and refreshments, schmoozing with babes, and discounted sex toy shopping! Updated info is always at TinaHorn.net/live. 

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“They have no stakes. We have all of the stakes.”

In the latest episode of my special series on WE TOO: Essays on Sex Work and Survival, I interviewed Selena the Stripper, who wrote the book's introduction.

Discussed: FKA Twigs' pole dance appropriation; who gets to use the word Heaux: sugar dating; the status value of a Birkin bag; Strippers United //

Selena The Stripper is a sex worker, writer, podcaster, and community organizer. After graduating from MICA in 2015, fae felt out of place in the elitist world of institutional art. Through stripping fae found financial stability and a community of incredibly strong, radically free thinking artists. Faer Instagram (@prettyboygirl) highlights faer writing and photography, but weekly exclusive content can be found on Patreon (@therealprettyboygirl). Fae is a resident author with Berlinable, a Berlin-based erotica publication. Faer podcast, Heaux in the Kneaux, is available on all platforms. //

ABOUT WE TOO

This collection of narrative essays by sex workers presents a crystal-clear rejoinder: there’s never been a better time to fight for justice. Responding to the resurgence of the #MeToo movement in 2017, sex workers from across the industry—hookers and prostitutes, strippers and dancers, porn stars, cam models, Dommes and subs alike—complicate narratives of sexual harassment and violence, and expand conversations often limited to normative workplaces.

Writing across topics such as homelessness, motherhood, and toxic masculinity, We Too: Essays on Sex Work and Survival gives voice to the fight for agency and accountability across sex industries. With contributions by leading voices in the movement such as Melissa Gira Grant, Ceyenne Doroshow, Audacia Ray, femi babylon, April Flores, and Yin Q, this anthology explores sex work as work, and sex workers as laboring subjects in need of respect—not rescue.

A portion of this book's net proceeds will be donated to SWOP Behind Bars (SBB)

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Carly from the NYC Pleasure Chest joins us again to discuss why it can be worth investing in luxury sex toys. Think about it in terms of form, function, aesthetics, price per orgasm, or the heirlooms you want to pass on to the next generation!

Carly's blog is Dildo or Dil-don't! She's @Makeupandsin

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“You can’t really control whether you’re having an emotional connection with someone." By popular demand, here is an entire episode on the topic of open relationships, with a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who also happens to be an out queer polyamorous badass. Is having a customized relationship really worth all that processing? Listen and decide for yourself!

Melissa Dessereau is a perceptive and nuanced therapist with a refreshingly frank style. For over 20 years, she has been working with individuals, couples, and families to foster personal growth and satisfying relationships. She has a way of making clients feel comfortable, understood, and at ease — like no matter what you say she gets it and doesn’t judge you. And she’s funny.

Melissa can deal with complexity and better yet can make it simple and manageable. She’s well-versed with queer, kinky, and polyamorous relationships and experiences. You can visit her web page at http://www.phiirst.com/bio-melissa.htm.

Melissa is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She completed her Master of Science in Family Therapy with a concentration in Sex Therapy at Thomas Jefferson University. She also holds Master of Arts in Child Development from Tufts University. Melissa is a member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT).

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Decriminalized & destigmatized cannabis use is entering a new American era, and that means there's more ways than ever to incorporate this classic aphrodisiac into our love lives. For another live episode at the Pleasure Chest in NYC, Tina sat down with sex and weed journalist Sophie Saint Thomas and pleasure educator Carly to break down the science of the endocannabinoid system, weed lube, stoner porn, rose petal joints, the difference between THC and CBD, how to objectify someone by turning them into a human bong, ashtray, or edible, forced intox, adult baby diaper stoners, how cannabis can help us heal from sexual trauma, and the importance of cannabis-related social equity programs for currently or formerly incarcerated people. /

Plus we field some questions about double-sided dildos, erotic hypnosis, and sounding! /

Sophie Saint Thomas is a queer Brooklyn-based writer originally from the Virgin Islands. Brooklyn Magazine named her one of their 30 Under 30, and High Times selected her as one of their 100 Women in High Places. She is a regular contributor about sex and cannabis for Allure, Playboy, GQ, Vice, Glamour, High Times, Marie Claire and more. She is currently writing a book for Simon & Schuster called Finding Your Higher Self: Your Guide to Cannabis for Self Care which comes out this November. /

Carly S. has been a sex educator since 2010 and runs the blog dildoordildont. If you ever meet her, she loves strong coffee and even stronger vibration. She's called the Queen of Wands, and it's easy to figure out why. Check the Pleasure Chest calendar to see her teach! 

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“Any pain can be transformative” / July '18. Euridice Gallery in Brooklyn. At a live kink event curated by Amy Boyajian of Wildflower, Tina hosted a panel featuring Amy as well as kink pros Jin and Alice. "Allijin" had just done a piercing demo, so the panel focused mostly on body mod play, touching on the concepts of harm, aftercare, LARP therapy, suspension, and period sex. /

During the Q&A, the panelists fielded questions about the intimacy of pain, as well as how to discuss both interests and boundaries when you're new to a kink scene. (Questions are restated by Tina to protect the privacy of the attendees). /

Allijin is a play piercing demonstration duo based out of Brooklyn, NY. They publicly demonstrate needlework as a type of ritualistic and sensual practice. /

Jin Hee is pro dominatrix, community events organizer, gender-nonconforming visual artist and gallerist. Jin was born and raised in Hawai and is now based in New York. Jin collectively organizes events and art shows with Brooklyn QTPOC punk collective No Flowers for Yt Powers and Disclaimer Gallery. /

Alex "Alice" Maiorano is a professional body piercer, hook suspension practitioner, born and based in Brooklyn. Alice is the Manager of Ahimsa Piercing Studio, the head piercer of Anchors Aweigh Suspension Team and a production member of The Skin Project. /

Amy Boyajian is the founder of Wild Flower, a gender neutral sexual wellness brand that focuses on pleasure and education. Previous to Wild Flower, Amy worked as a dominatrix in NYC, giving her a unique insight to sexuality within our culture and helping her shape her unique style of sexual education. Originally from the UK, Amy currently resides in New York City.

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Andrew Gurza is a writer and podcaster who specializes in queerness and disability. In this episode of Interrobang, he reveals what pisses him off about dating, gives advice on how to talk (and how not to talk) to cute disabled people, and explains how queer cripple can be a term of empowerment Andrew Gurza is a Disability Awareness Consultant and Cripple Content Creator working to make the lived experience of queerness and disability accessible to all. His written work has been featured in Huffington Post, The Advocate, Everyday Feminism, Mashable, and Out.com He has presented all across North America on what it means to be a Queer Cripple. He is also the host of the DisabilityWithDrew and DisabilityAfterDark Podcasts. Andrew resides in Toronto, Canada. You can find out more about his work at www.andrewgurza.com

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In March 2017, Tina gave a lecture at Skidmore College in update New York, based on an article she wrote for Refinery 29. The lecture and the article were called “Why Sex Work Decriminalization Matters to Feminism.” In light of the national conversation about SESTA/FOSTA, Tina decided to release the audio she recorded of this lecture (not the best sound quality, but solid content, promise!). Touching on topics from pop culture representation to trans rights to violence to consent to class to public health to emotional labor to utopian visions, this lecture offers many useful talking points for explaining the connection between the things that matter to sex workers and the things that matter to feminists. 

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So this episode is a little unusual for a few reasons. First, it was recorded over a year ago and somehow just kept getting pushed back. Second, it's definitely a first for YAPIT: an interview with a mother-son comedy duo who have their own sex podcast on my network, Acast.

We discussed sex parties, virginity, cartoon porn, and much more. And KarenLee came to regret asking me to recount the most extreme fetish story I could think of...

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“I'm a very successful hu-cow!” At six months pregnant, sex work activist Maxine Holloway has never felt hotter. She opened up to Tina about the connection between her bovine breeding fetish and the realities of her growing body, everything her escort clients love about her transformation, and dating while being a queer poly slut who just happens to be knocked up.

Discussed: a very literal Madonna-Whore complex, ovipositor porn, virility-themed cuckolding, MILF money, milk. /

Maxine Holloway advocates for sex worker justice through the ever-intersecting avenues of activism, community organizing, politics, public health, and art. Since 2008 Holloway has been conspiring with Bay Area talent to create and showcase provocative performance, education and advocacy. Her pornography performances earned her AVN nominations, an XBIZ award, and a Feminist Porn Award. In 2014 she founded the Ask First Campaign to raise awareness about consent, and has brought the project to the Folsom Street Fair for the fifth year in a row. Certified in Sex-Education and HIV/STI Prevention, she recently completed her master's degree in public health at San Francisco State University. Her studies focus on the health, safety, and human rights of sex workers. Holloway recently curated We’re Still Working: The Art of Sex Work, a visual art exhibit and event series sharing the history and stories of Bay Area workers. Holloway is the co-founder of Bay Area Workers Support (BAWS) a sex worker resource organization and writes a monthly column for brokeassstuart.com, "Brain Throbs & Blow Jobs" where she interviews Bay Area providers, strippers and porn performers.

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In Part Two, Stoya and I discuss:

The Reunion by Laura Antoniou (and psychological erotica), Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski (and arousal non-concordance), The Guide to Getting It On (how Stoya masturbated to it and why Tina hates it), Mercedes Lachey's book that has a scene where people fuck on some rocks (that Stoya can't remember the name of), Sam Delaney (and a story you've probably heard Tina tell 20 times), House of Holes (two tickets please!), and which one of us has actually been railed in the stacks. /

Stoya has been working with sexuality for over a decade, on camera and off. She has written for the Guardian, the New York Times, Playboy, and others. Her first book, Philosophy, Pussycats & Porn, was released through Not A Cult in 2018. She contributes to Slate's How To Do It every week, and runs a sexuality focused book club in Gowanus the third Sunday of the month.

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"That’s the sex appeal of fascism: the desire to be violated. To be cut through like butter and spread... Fascism is sexy because it’s dangerous, confident, and... leather! It’s scary and comforting at the same time, because you don’t have to make any decisions. We’re afraid of it because our power is taken away, and we want it because we want our power to be taken away." //

CW: two Jewish anti-fascist leftist queers in Brooklyn talking about the history, aesthetics, and complicated erotic allegories of fascism.

In Part Two: The empty symbolism of punk / Derek Jarman’s Jubilee, / Adam Ant’s "Deutscher Girls" / Are people jerking off to Mel Brook’s "Hitler Rap"? / Are gay skinheads fascist? / Yukio Mishima / Forced breeding and medical experiments / Adrienne Rich’s response to Susan Sontag’s NYRB essay / Slave Play //

"Unless you contend with desire, you’re never gonna get anywhere.” //

JB Brager is a writer and cartoonist living in Brooklyn NY, Lenape-ho-king. They are a founding editor of Pinko Magazine and founding host of the Bluestockings bookstore comics reading series In The Gutter. They hold a PhD in Women’s & Gender Studies from Rutgers University New Brunswick. They are on all social media as well as Patreon at @jbbrager

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