We Need To Talk with Paul C. Brunson (WNTT)

Paul sits down with Dr. Karen Gurney, a renowned psychologist and sex expert, to explore the topic of intimate relationships and sexual satisfaction. From demystifying the concept of being "good in bed" to unpacking the historical biases shaping our perceptions of sex, Dr Karen provides a refreshing perspective that prioritises emotional connection and individual fulfilment. Join us as we tackle key topics such as the orgasm gap, the complexities of sexual compatibility, and the impact of cultural myths on our intimate lives.Dr. Gurney offers practical advice for fostering meaningful conversations about sex, building trust, and embracing the full spectrum of pleasure. Whether you're navigating a long-term relationship or exploring casual connections, this episode is a thought-provoking guide to cultivating a healthier, more fulfilling sex life. Follow Dr Karen Here: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/MU8rewKCxOb Karen's Book 'Mind The Gap' https://g2ul0.app.link/4i3z7QkDxOb Karen's Book 'How Not to Let Having Kids Ruin Your Sex Life' https://g2ul0.app.link/YjgD9soDxOb Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod -- 00:00 Introduction   1:16 How External Influences Impact Your Sex Life   1:52 What Is Sex And Why Does It Matter?   3:07 The Essential Rules Of Sex Everyone Should Know   5:49 Understanding The Sexual Scale: Where Do You Fit?   7:42 The Truth About Sexual Compatibility: Does It Exist?   10:14 Good Sex Vs Bad Sex: How To Tell The Difference   15:37 Rating Sexual Pleasure In Different Scenarios   18:08 The Truth About Orgasms And Society's Expectations   21:06 What Is The Orgasm Gap And Why It Matters   27:32 1st PTC (Post Topic Commentary)   28:17 Does Penis Size Actually Matter?   31:47 Why Society Is Obsessed With Penis Size   34:02 The G-Spot: Myth Or Reality?   36:22 Are Fetishes Becoming More Common?   37:33 Is Pornography Helpful Or Harmful In Today's World?   40:49 2nd PTC (Post Topic Commentary)   41:27 Sex Today Vs Past Generations: What’s Changed?   45:11 The Future Of Sex: Robots, AI, And Beyond   47:23 Huel Sponsorship Ad   48:25 Fiverr Sponsorship Ad   49:35 What Is The Kinsey Scale And Why Does It Matter?   52:22 Sexual Currency Explained: Why It's Crucial In Relationships   1:00:40 How To Build Sexual Currency In Your Relationship   1:01:58 3rd PTC (Post Topic Commentary)   1:02:41 How To Make An Invitation For Sex More Inviting   1:04:16 How Sleep Impacts Your Sex Life   1:05:10 How Often Should You Be Having Sex?   1:09:16 How Long Should Sex Last For Maximum Pleasure?   1:15:08 How Conscientiousness Influences Your Sex Life   1:19:20 What Is Self-Expansion And How It Improves Relationships   1:22:44 When Is Lack Of Sex A Valid Reason To Leave A Relationship?   1:27:37 How A Strong Sexual Connection Benefits Your Relationship   1:29:40 Why Understanding Sexual Anatomy Is So Important   1:34:28 Can Having Sex Make Someone More Physically Attractive To You?   1:37:53 The Most Memorable Conversation About Sex   1:41:58 Key Takeaways From This Discussion On Sex   1:43:55 Tinder Sponsorship Ad   -- Sponsored by: Huel: huel.com/paul use code PAUL Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of We Need To Talk we’re joined by Dr. Julie Smith, a clinical psychologist, best-selling author, and online educator known for making mental health tools accessible to millions. Dive deep into the realities of self-love, how to build secure relationships, and the hidden cost of always trying to "win" in arguments. Dr. Julie shares practical strategies to manage fear, navigate uncertainty, and transform anxiety into a source of strength.  Dr Julie’s new book Open When: A Companion for Life’s Twists and Turns is available to buy now Open When on Amazon: https://g2ul0.app.link/nCGOymXTzQb Follow Dr Julie here: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/td8IlXZTzQb TikTok - https://g2ul0.app.link/kaxaiI7TzQb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod (00:00) Intro (01:43) Dr. Julie's Upbringing (04:00) Is Shyness Genetic or Learned Behavior? (06:11) Dr. Julie's Relationship With Her Husband (10:08) Why Did Dr. Julie Specialize in Clinical Psychology? (13:02) Dr. Julie's Experience Working for the NHS (16:55) Dr. Julie's Move Onto Social Media (23:10) The Success of Dr. Julie's First Book (24:40) Dr. Julie's Experience Writing Her Second Book Open When (26:15) Dr. Julie's Cancer Diagnosis (31:41) Dr. Julie's Thoughts on the Popularity of the Term "Self-Love" (34:40) What Is Metacognition? (37:23) Dr. Julie's Definition of Self-Love (40:17) How Do We Correct Our Self-Destructive Thoughts? (43:55) Keep Love Ad (44:52) Tinder Ad (45:41) What Is Dr. Julie's Definition of Self-Esteem? (50:08) How Does Confidence Relate to Self-Esteem? (54:43) How Should We Handle Criticism in Terms of Our Self-Esteem? (58:52) Do Our Values Stay the Same or Change Over Time? (1:00:07) Demonstration of Values (1:06:33) Are We More Anxious Than Ever in Society? (1:10:31) How Do We Manage the Anxieties of Modern Society? (1:14:29) Dr. Julie's Thoughts on Today's "Self-Centered" Society (1:16:57) How Do You Know if You're Ready for a Relationship? (1:18:36) Why Do We Need Relationships With Others for Our Happiness? (1:21:31) Dr. Julie's Tips for a Successful Relationship (1:24:28) Dr. Julie's Definition of Attachment Styles (1:28:01) How to Determine Your Attachment Style (1:29:52) How to Make Your Attachment Style More Secure (1:31:09) Dr. Julie's Ethos on Conflict in Relationships (1:35:15) Most Memorable Conversation (1:39:59) Paul's Takeaways (1:42:05) Adobe Express Sponsored by: Get your tickets to 'An Evening with Paul C. Brunson' here: https://bit.ly/keeplove-megaphone Pre-order Keep Love here: https://lnk.to/keeplovebook Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“I Sleep with a Knife!” This second episode in a two-part series reveals Tulisa's honest reflections on her time in the spotlight during her stint on 'I’m A Celebrity’. We also dive into the shocking details of the drug sting that threatened to derail Tulisa’s career and life, and speak of the profound impact it had on her mental health. Hear directly from Tulisa as she recounts the intense anxiety and prescription drug dependence that followed, before leading to her courageous steps toward recovery. Please be aware that this episode discusses sensitive topics, including addiction. If you or someone you know needs support, please see the charities below: MIND: https://g2ul0.app.link/d72yzu7jJOb The Survivors Trust: https://g2ul0.app.link/sqvZqaAesPb Follow Tulisa Here: Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/Cv7G7DkesPb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Sections: 00:00 Intro 02:30 'The Sting' Explained: A Detailed Analysis 19:49 Resolving The Case: What Happened? 22:47 Psychological Effects of 'The Sting' on Tulisa: An In-Depth Look 25:51 Tulisa's Life Post-Trial: A Comprehensive Overview 31:41 BBC Documentary Review: Tulisa’s Path to Redemption 32:55 Legal Battle: The Controversy Behind 'Scream & Shout' 36:44 Scandal Breakdown: The "Homewrecker" Story 38:46 Tulisa’s Resilience in Showbiz: Secrets to Overcoming Adversity 40:46 Huel Ad 41:45 Tinder Ad 42:36 The Success of N-Dubz: A Deep Dive 46:10 Tulisa's Battle with Medication: A Personal Journey 48:35 Tulisa on 'I'm A Celeb': Behind The Scenes Insights 01:01:04 The Mystery of Tulisa’s Absence at the 'I'm A Celeb' Final 01:05:25 Exploring Tulisa’s Demi-Sexuality: What Does It Mean? 01:07:08 Tulisa and Celibacy: A Period of Self-Discovery 01:11:00 Does Tulisa Still Believe in Love? Insights Revealed 01:13:38 What Is Tulisa Looking for in a Partner? Dating Preferences Unveiled 01:15:53 Exploring Tulisa's 'Fantasy Land': Dreams and Aspirations 01:19:29 Paul’s Takeaways Sponsored by: Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB  Huel: https://huel.com/paul use code PAUL Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of We Need To Talk, BRIT-nominated, MOBO award-winning singer Jamelia sits down for a raw and unfiltered conversation, sharing the untold chapters of her life - from rising to fame as a teenage Superstar to the dark realities of the music industry. She opens up about being groomed at 16, surviving an abusive relationship that inspired Thank You, and the relentless scrutiny of the tabloids, who hacked her phone for a decade. Despite it all, Jamelia has never been happier. She reflects on fame, family, and resilience - how she’s navigated betrayal, heartbreak, and an industry that tried to break her, only to come out stronger. She shares how motherhood saved her, why she’s finally at peace, and the power of owning her story. This is Jamelia as you've never heard her before - honest, fearless, and thriving. Support charities: Refuge - https://g2ul0.app.link/DyflXtM08Qb Women's Aid - https://g2ul0.app.link/kW1JuPO08Qb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Follow Jamelia here: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/f4cAxiQQ8Qb TikTok - https://g2ul0.app.link/lgMDMYG08Qb Spotify - https://g2ul0.app.link/vsj2h9y08Qb (00:00) Intro (01:54) Growing Up in Handsworth (03:01) Riots in '81 (04:27) How Would Jamelia Define Rastafarianism? (10:26) Jamelia Father in Prison (13:38) How Did Jamelia Father's Consistency Shape Jamelia Relationships? (18:55) What Would Jamelia Say to Jamelia Father Now? (22:28) Self-Work and Self-Reflection (24:58) Forgiving Jamelia Parents (27:12) Jamelia Mother (29:32) How Did Jamelia Decide Music Was the Career? (33:00) Making More Money Than Jamelia Mother (35:32) Music Career Takes Off (35:56) Jamelia Brothers Groomed Onto the Streets (37:33) How Do Jamelia Define Grooming? (41:42) Did Jamelia Blame Yourself for Jamelia Brother's Conviction? (44:49) A Mother to Nieces and Nephews (49:42) Career Regrets, Phone Hacking, and Press Harassment (56:49) Sexualisation in the Industry (1:04:10) Code-Switching (1:07:46) Eating at Nelson Mandela's House (1:09:28) Adobe ExpressAd (1:10:25) Tinder Ad (1:11:37) Thank You Song (1:19:27) The Next Relationships (1:33:00) Second Husband (01:43:27) Our Children Are Angels (01:49:44) Getting Back Up After Being Knocked Down (01:54:36) New Album (01:56:04) TV Career (02:08:10) How Amazing Life Is Now (02:15:15) Self-Actualisation (With a Partner) (02:18:13) Breaking the Generational Curses (02:21:20) Where Is Your Dream Partner? (02:25:02) Flipping Society's Script (02:31:49) Most Memorable Conversation (02:35:11) Paul's Takeaways Sponsored by: Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/ Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In episode, Paul sits down with Ashley Cain, a former professional footballer and reality TV star, who bravely shares his transformative journey of grief and healing following the devastating loss of his daughter, Azaylia, to leukemia. Ashley opens up about the struggles he's faced, the lessons he’s learned, and the powerful mission he’s now embraced to raise awareness for childhood cancer and men’s mental health. Through this heartfelt conversation, Ashley discusses the emotional challenges men often encounter and how understanding and addressing these needs can lead to personal growth. We explore the sudden end to his football career, the impact that trauma has had on his life, and how he's used his experiences to help others find strength, even in the darkest of moments.Ashley offers valuable advice on finding happiness, achieving well-being, and transforming relationships—with ourselves and others—through a process of healing. His work with The Azaylia Foundation continues to inspire people all over the world, offering hope and support to families facing similar tragedies. Please note: This episode covers sensitive topics like child loss and grief, which may be difficult for some listeners. -- Ashley's Book: Strong - https://g2ul0.app.link/Ow8Hgaq5HNb Ashley's Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/SWyyCc2UGNb Ashley's Charity - The Azaylia Foundation https://g2ul0.app.link/YP3IHk8UGNb -- Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod -- 02:19 - How Are You Feeling Right Now? 03:18 - Growing Up Mixed Race: Challenges And Experiences 04:57 - How Race And Upbringing Shaped Ashley's Identity 08:01 - If You Could Change Your Past, Would You? 10:06 - How Football Transformed Ashley's Life 11:42 - Life After Football: Losing Fame And Status 13:49 - Becoming A Dad For The First Time 15:38 - When Ashley Discovered Azaylia's Illness 22:57 - Staying Positive And Advocating For Azaylia's Health 32:35 - How To Cope With Trauma 38:50 - Supporting Men Through Trauma: Advice For Partners 42:08 - The Male Mental Health Crisis: What Needs To Change 50:39 - Shopify And Tinder Ad Break 52:32 - Is Ashley Truly Happy? 54:36 - Ashley's Wellness Journey 56:31 - The 6 Dimensions Of Psychological Wellbeing Explained 01:00:10 - How To Handle Trauma In Relationships 01:02:50 - What Ashley Would Change About His Past Relationships 01:03:27 - Relationship Advice: Loving A Man Like Ashley 01:05:00 - Is Ashley Single Right Now? 01:05:55 - Is Ashley Open To Dating? 01:07:00 - Who Should Make The First Move In Dating? 01:08:00 - Chirpsing Roleplay: How To Approach Someone 01:12:10 - How Opening Up Has Affected Ashley 01:12:46 - The Most Memorable Conversation Ashley's Had 01:15:09 - Paul's Key Takeaways -- Sponsored by: Shopify - www.shopify.co.uk/needtotalk Tinder - https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, dance power couple Oti Mabuse and Marius Iepure sit down for their first joint interview. Together, they share the highs and lows of their relationship, revealing how hey transitioned from dance partners to life partners, and navigated the challenges following their daughter’s premature birth. Oti opens up about how her obsession with winning Strictly strained their marriage and how Marius supported her during her lowest moment as a professional dancer. Join Paul for an inspiring conversation about resilience, unwavering support, and the vital importance of showing up for one another in life’s toughest moments. Oti's Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/EyHZ8NAnjNb  Marius's Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/Qc1t4kFnjNb Oti and Marius' Website: https://g2ul0.app.link/SrgkUdenjNb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Sections: 00:00 - Introduction 02:17 - Why Share Your Private Life Now? 04:48 - How Childhood Lessons Shape Your Life Today 13:25 - Building Strong Connections Despite Differences 17:49 - How Dance Brings People Together 21:35 - The Global Impact of Afrobeats and Dance 24:58 - Redefining Masculinity in African Culture 28:12 - Navigating Power Dynamics in Modern Relationships 32:44 - Why Failure and Rejection Are Essential for Growth 36:10 - How Setting Boundaries Transforms Your Life 40:23 - Does Fame Change Who You Are? 44:56 - The Pressures of Being a Role Model 49:12 - How to Stay True to Yourself in a Demanding World 53:39 - Your Path to Self-Acceptance and Confidence 58:27 - Why Mental Health Should Be a Priority 01:02:14 - How Vulnerability Can Empower You 01:07:06 - Living Authentically in a Digital Age 01:11:35 - Mastering How to Handle Criticism 01:16:02 - How to Find Inner Peace in a Busy World 01:20:47 - Discovering Your Life's Purpose 01:25:33 - Overcoming The Fear Of Being Judged 01:29:50 - How to Become Your Best Self Sponsored by: Tinder - https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. John and Dr. Julie Gottman, world-renowned relationship experts and founders of The Gottman Institute, share their research-based insights into what truly makes relationships work. With over 50 years of research on marital stability and parenting, they dive deep into key issues like how contempt can destroy your immune system, and why certain toxic behaviors—like criticism and stonewalling—are major red flags in relationships. They also debunk common myths such as "Never go to bed angry" and explain how empathy and emotional intelligence are critical to lasting love. The Gottmans provide practical advice on how to manage conflict, heal from childhood trauma, and create deeper emotional connections. Whether you're navigating daily disagreements or looking to rebuild trust after betrayal, this conversation is filled with valuable takeaways to help you strengthen your relationship and build a healthier, more fulfilling partnership. Find the Gottmans here: The Gottman Institute - https://g2ul0.app.link/H16ipH9ywNb Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/CJZlSOczwNb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Topics: 00:00 - Intro   02:02 - Do People Still Believe In Marriage Today?   09:23 - What Defines A Successful Marriage In Modern Times?   13:09 - What Percentage Of Couples Are Truly Happy In Their Relationships?   15:47 - Inside Paul’s Matchmaking Process On MAFS (Married At First Sight)   17:51 - Are Successful Couples Less Exciting? The Truth About Stability   21:24 - What Is The Love Lab And How Does It Work?   22:38 - Shocking Discoveries From The Love Lab: What Science Says About Love   26:18 - The Power Of The 'Six Second Kiss' In Relationships   29:38 - Do The Gottmans Use Their Own Research In Their Marriage?   32:51 - How Important Is Sex For A Healthy Relationship?   37:46 - Why Date Night Matters More Than You Think   40:37 - The Ingredients Of A Perfect Date: How To Get It Right   43:03 - Paul's Ultimate First Date Test: Does It Predict Success?   45:52 - The Key Principles Of A Successful Marriage Revealed   49:46 - The Top Reason Couples Fight And How To Avoid It   50:45 - The Different Conflict Styles In Marriage: Which One Are You?   55:27 - Is Conflict Good For Your Relationship? Here’s The Answer   57:22 - How Important Is Compatibility In A Relationship?   58:40 - The Questions You Should Ask To Truly Understand Your Partner   01:06:16 - How To Resolve Conflicts And Strengthen Your Relationship   01:08:57 - Should You Stay With A Partner Who Won't Resolve Conflicts?   01:11:10 - Tinder Ad: How Modern Dating Apps Are Changing Relationships   01:12:12 - The Four Horsemen Of Relationships And Why Contempt Is The Worst   01:14:47 - When Is It Time To End A Relationship? Key Signs To Watch For   01:16:24 - What Is Flooding In Relationships And How To Manage It   01:18:46 - How To Self-Soothe When You’re Emotionally Overwhelmed   01:21:17 - Should You 'Never Go To Bed Angry'? The Real Answer   01:22:22 - Can You Rebuild Trust After Infidelity? Here’s How   01:28:33 - How To Know If Your Relationship Is Failing: Warning Signs   01:31:26 - What’s The Most Memorable Relationship Conversation You’ve Had?   01:35:00 - Outro   01:35:28 - Paul’s Final Takeaways On Love And Relationships Sponsored by: Tinder - https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“I Should’ve Done Things Differently" Reality TV star Chloe Ferry opens up about the dark side of fame, body image struggles, and the pressure of online scrutiny in this raw episode of We Need to Talk with Paul Brunson. From Geordie Shore fame to undergoing multiple surgeries in search of confidence, Chloe shares how she lost herself—and why she’s now embracing self-love and a fresh start. This episode contains discussions about mental health, body image, and cosmetic surgery, which may be sensitive for some listeners. If you, or anyone you know needs support, please contact the charities below: MIND https://g2ul0.app.link/w5vNMYwowQb CALM https://g2ul0.app.link/Xx7coefJ7Pb Follow Chloe Here: Instagram https://g2ul0.app.link/ibuFE1iJ3Qb TikTok https://g2ul0.app.link/mSjck2lJ3Qb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Get your copy of Keep Love now: https://lnk.to/keeplovebook/ Sections: 00:00 Intro 01:27 Chloe Leaving Her Comfort Zone 03:10 Growing up in Newcastle 06:51 Chloe's Family Life 11:19 Speaking to Chloe's Inner Child 12:42 Ice Skating as an Outlet 18:33 "Being Scouted for Geordie Shore" 24:43 Chloe's Mindset on Geordie Shore 27:44 The Backlash 34:01 Chloe Lost Who She Was 38:34 Who Chloe Was 41:23 The Surgeries 51:03 External Validation 52:42 A Message from Chloe's Mum 55:24 Adobe Express Ad 56:22 Tinder Ad 57:15 Relationships 1:03:17 Chloe, The Businesswoman 1:06:43 Body Dysmorphia 1:12:54 Therapy 1:14:33 Depression 1:16:47 The People in Chloe's Life 1:19:24 Anxiety 1:22:48 Beauty as a Currency 1:31:53 Is Surgery Ever a Good Idea? 1:37:27 More Surgery Plans 1:40:23 Coming Out of The Storm 1:45:36 Most Memorable Conversation 1:48:39 Paul's Takeaways 1:50:36 Keep Love Ad Sponsored by: Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/ Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of We Need To Talk, Bre Tiesi opens up about her journey from Vegas clubs to becoming a top luxury realtor and star of Selling Sunset. She shares the real drama behind the cameras, her relationship with Nick Cannon, and the challenges of navigating motherhood in the spotlight. For the first time, Bre shares the truth about growing up in Calabasas, the impact of her fractured relationship with her mother, and why she filed for emancipation from her parents at 14. She reflects on how these struggles shaped her into the self-made, empowered woman she is today. Bre also talks about her high-profile relationships with Nick Hogan and Johnny Manziel and the impact of the LA wildfires. Unfiltered, unapologetic - this is Bre Tiesi in her own words. Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk  https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod  Follow Bre here: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/Pe5i2WZlwRb TikTok - https://g2ul0.app.link/gd6xoe2lwRb (00:00) Intro (00:01:47) UK vs. US Comparisons (00:02:49) Growing Up in Los Angeles (00:03:48) Bre's Family Heritage (00:05:23) How Bre's Upbringing Shaped Her Identity (00:06:21) Meeting Her Father for the First Time at 12 (00:09:59) Moving Between Caregivers During Adolescence (00:12:01) Did Bre Miss Out on a Childhood? (00:13:05) Paul & Bre’s Views on Marriage (00:13:44) How Bre Feels About Sharing Her Story (00:16:33) Bre’s Avoidant Attachment Style (00:18:18) Emancipating Herself at 13 (00:19:10) Bre's First Relationship With Nick Hogan (00:20:37) Breaking Into the Modeling Industry (00:21:22) Her Relationship With Family at 18 (00:24:46) Bre's Early Relationship With Money (00:25:55) How Her Relationship With Nick Hogan Ended (00:28:00) Working Bottle Service in Nightclubs (00:30:33) Bre's Experience With Excess Wealth (00:32:04) Bre’s Natural Sales Talent (00:34:56) Bre's Biggest Tip for Success (00:35:51) Her Decision to Leave the Club Scene (00:37:13) How Bre’s Mother Shaped Her Persuasion Skills (00:39:32) Struggles With Self-Image (00:40:43) Her Marriage to Johnny Manziel (00:50:01) Divorcing Johnny Manziel (00:53:38) Stepping Into the Public Eye (00:56:19) Where Does Bre’s Self-Worth Come From? (00:57:07) Shopify Ad (00:58:20) Tinder Ad (00:59:11) Starting Her Career in Real Estate (01:00:24) Gender Disparity in the Real Estate Industry (01:01:50) Landing Her First Big Listing (01:03:03) Bre's Relationship With Nick Cannon (01:06:28) How Their Non-Monogamous Relationship Works (01:10:34) Has Bre Ever Felt Jealous? (01:14:31) Polygamy: Changing Attitudes & Statistics (01:17:18) Pregnancy & Miscarriage Experiences (01:18:52) Giving Birth & Motherhood (01:22:29) Bre’s Battle With Postpartum Depression (01:27:42) How Motherhood Transformed Her Life (01:29:19) Joining Selling Sunset (01:30:22) Going Public About Her Relationship With Nick Cannon (01:33:57) Filming Selling Sunset Six Weeks Postpartum (01:37:56) Was Bre Targeted on the Show for Her Relationship? (01:41:27) Her Thoughts on the Public’s Reaction to Her (01:43:28) Bre’s Vision for the Future (01:45:41) Surviving the LA Wildfires (01:49:42) Most Memorable Conversation (01:51:25) Paul’s Key Takeaways (01:54:10) Adobe Express Ad Sponsored by: Shopify: www.shopify.co.uk/needtotalk  Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB  Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this exclusive episode of We Need To Talk, Faye Winter opens up like never before, revealing the truth behind her Love Island experience, including the infamous argument that shook the villa and the deep emotional toll it took on her life. For the first time, Faye bravely shares the painful truth about her abusive relationship, the betrayal of infidelity, and the relentless online abuse that followed her every move. This is Faye Winter like you've never seen her before. Support charities: Refuge - https://g2ul0.app.link/DyflXtM08Qb  Women's Aid - https://g2ul0.app.link/kW1JuPO08Qb  Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk  https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod  Follow Faye here: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/SXvTo0I6qRb TikTok - https://g2ul0.app.link/zydlY1L6qRb  (00:00) Intro (01:47) Growing Up in Devon (03:03) Faye's Parents (07:01) What Did Love Mean to Faye Growing Up? (10:03) Faye's First Relationships (11:00) How Did Faye Know Her First Relationship Was 'For Life'? (13:28) Why Didn't Faye's Boyfriend's Family Approve of Her? (18:03) The Darker Aspects of Faye's Relationship (21:28) Paul's Take on Domestic Abuse (26:51) What Gave Faye the Strength to Leave? (29:53) Faye's Next Relationship (34:22) How Did Faye's First Two Toxic Relationships Affect Her? (36:21) Adobe Express Ad (37:18) Tinder Ad (38:13) How Faye Was Scouted for Love Island (40:01) Faye's Perception of Her Looks vs. the Other Girls on Love Island (41:59) Faye's Cosmetic Surgery Before Love Island (44:45) What Was Faye Doing Before Love Island? (45:52) Why Did Faye Want to Go on Love Island? (47:33) Faye's Experience on Love Island (50:52) Faye's Perspective on 'The Argument' (54:05) Paul's Take on 'The Argument' (54:55) The Impact of Ofcom Complaints on Faye's Wellbeing (58:16) The Aftermath of Being on Love Island (1:03:44) Why Did Her Love Island Relationship End? (1:08:16) Moving Back to Devon (1:10:42) Getting Therapy After Love Island (1:12:21) Online Abuse After Love Island (1:15:11) Faye's Charity Work (1:18:33) Influencing as a Career (1:20:59) Faye's Love Life Post-Love Island (1:21:55) Faye's Experience of Stalking (1:28:16) Paul's Take on Stalking (1:32:55) Faye's Opinion on the World of Cosmetic Surgery (1:42:08) Statistics Around Cosmetic Surgery (1:44:30) Most Memorable Conversation (1:47:07) Paul's Takeaways Sponsored by: Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/  Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We Need To Talk: In this thought-provoking episode, relationship expert and coach Sadia Khan openly shares her own perspectives on modern dating, masculinity, and the evolving nature of intimate relationships. Paul and Sadia dive deep into the impact of the sexual revolution, which Sadia believes has led to a decline in masculinity among men and an enhancement of masculinity in women.  They also examine how adult media platforms like Only Fans are eroding intimacy, while fuelling infidelity in modern relationships. Sadia shares her beliefs on the importance of being a 'high-value man’ and offers her perspective on whether non-monogamous relationships can truly work within the structures of marriage. By the end of this conversation, listeners can expect to gain a deeper understanding of the struggles in modern dating, the challenges young men face, and the reasons why many modern relationships are failing, all while exploring the conflict between traditional values and today’s evolving dating culture. Learn more about Sadia’s work here: https://g2ul0.app.link/SadiaKhan — 00:00 - Introduction 01:59 - The First Time You Felt Love 03:07 - Are You A Feminist Or Misogynist? Discover Your True Self 03:37 - Sadia's Journey Through Love And Relationships 05:18 - Why Infidelity Is A Major Fear In Relationships 08:37 - How The Sexual Revolution Transformed Modern Dating 11:10 - Defining Masculinity: What It Means Today 13:06 - Do Men Really Only Want Sex? 14:50 - Exploring Paul's Love Life And Intimacy 18:47 - How Feedback Can Strengthen A Marriage 21:19 - The Dangers Of Pornography On Relationships 23:36 - Are There Any Benefits To Watching Porn? 26:09 - Are Polyamorous Relationships Destroying Dating Norms? 27:20 - Is Marriage The Right Choice For Everyone? 32:42 - Is OnlyFans Changing The Face Of Modern Dating? 36:52 - Perspectives On OnlyFans: Empowerment Or Exploitation? 43:54 - What Is The Narcissistic Movement? A Deep Dive 45:11 - How Ethnicity Affects Your Dating Preferences 46:17 - Are Women Becoming More Narcissistic? 48:06 - Does Racial Preference In Dating Make You Racist? 49:59 - Colonialism's Impact On Modern Dating Preferences 50:49 - The Two Types Of Men According To Sadia 53:11 - Dating Advice For Single Men Looking For Love 55:12 - The Biggest Red Flags Men Should Avoid 58:12 - What Makes A Woman Truly Attractive? 01:03:01 - How Wellbeing Influences Partner Choices 01:07:26 - Why Men React Negatively To Attractive Women 01:07:53 - How Jealousy Affects Self-Worth In Relationships 01:10:12 - How Sadia Handles Negative Comments Online 01:12:01 - Paul's Biggest Takeaways From The Conversation — Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

First Date Mistakes To Avoid in 2025! Join Paul as he explores the real-life dating from three remarkable guests: Jo, who at 44, has never been in a relationship; Heather who, as a single parent, is navigating the dating world after the tragic loss of her partner; and Emmalee, who recently lost her leg and is finding dating to be challenging. Also - stay tuned to meet Paul’s special guest - someone who many Married at First Sight fans will know all too well! Whether you're starting afresh, or looking for love under unique circumstances, this episode offers practical tools and invaluable insights to help you on your journey. Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Sections: 00:00 Introduction 02:13 Meet Jo 02:44 Self-Love Challenges 03:48 Finding Love: Challenges and Solutions 04:00 Living in the Moment: Techniques and Benefits 04:19 Family Dynamics: Understanding Relationship Impacts 07:12 Exploring Attachment Styles with Jo 11:11 Jo's Love Life 12:21 Has Jo Truly Been in Love? 14:48 Modern Dating Tips with Jo 18:44 Reconnecting with Fathers 21:00 The Power of Letter Writing in Healing 24:51 Changing Negative Beliefs 30:14 Adobe Ad 31:11 Introducing Heather: New Beginnings 31:50 Why Heather Chose Therapy with Paul 31:23 Inside Heather's Love Life: Current Status 34:25 Relationship Analysis: Heather and Dave 37:46 Is Heather Ready for Dating? Expert Assessment 39:53 Are You Ready to Date? Paul's Test Explained 43:45 Tips for Dating Again: Openness and Preparedness 50:50 Creating a Vision Board: Steps and Benefits 55:47 Dealing with Guilt: Effective Strategies 56:39 Paul's Parting Advice: Lasting Thoughts 58:27 Intro to Emmalee: A Soldier's Story 00:59:03 Relationship Lessons from Military Life with Emmalee 01:00:07 Healthy Relationships in the Military: Emmalee's Experience 01:00:36 Coping with Injury and Military Exit: Emmalee's Story 01:02:39 Dealing with Trauma: Emmalee's Leg Amputation Story 01:03:24 Dating as an Amputee: Challenges and Insights 01:04:58 Emmalee's Dating Life 01:05:42 Emmalee Discusses Love 01:06:30 Introducing Jay from Married at First Sight 01:07:00 Why Emmalee Follows Jay 01:07:36 Jay's Experience on MAFS as an Amputee 01:08:52 Building Dating Confidence 01:09:36 Addressing Fetishization in Disabled Dating 01:13:08 Vulnerability in Dating: Amputee Experiences 01:16:23 Tackling Anxiety in Social Situations: Emmalee's Techniques 01:17:15 Confidence Building for Dating: Paul's Guidance 01:22:00 Creating a Supportive Friend Network 01:25:30 The Importance of Setting Boundaries in Relationships 01:25:56 Emmalee's Revealing Conversations 01:27:18 Memorable Conversations 01:27:21 Paul's Key Takeaways 01:30:40 Tinder Ad Sponsored by: Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/ Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“I Thought Therapy Couldn’t Help” - Join us in this powerful episode featuring Daniel Middleton, better known as DanTDM, the UK’s most-followed YouTuber with over 29 million subscribers. Dan shares the untold story behind his rise to fame — from navigating childhood challenges such as social anxiety and the divorce of his parents, to his struggle with severe postnatal depression during early fatherhood. Learn how Dan overcame his mental health struggles through therapy and his advice on how to protect ones mental health through difficult times. If you’re affected by anything discussed in this episode, please contact the below organisations and charities who can provide support: Samaritans - https://g2ul0.app.link/1CRhatR7mPb CALM - https://g2ul0.app.link/YvmzhM17mPb MIND - https://g2ul0.app.link/d72yzu7jJOb Follow Dan here: YouTube - https://g2ul0.app.link/tjSbVHz7mPb Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/MEkgFAI7mPb X - https://g2ul0.app.link/341f8KC7mPb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Sections: 00:00 Introduction To The Episode 02:16 Being Compared To Michael Jackson 02:46 The Origin Of The Name “Dan TDM" Explained 03:34 Balancing Two Personalities 04:33 A Look Back At Dan's Childhood 05:27 How Divorce Shaped Dan's Childhood 07:46 Surviving Secondary School 12:53 How Dan Started His YouTube Career 16:43 What Is Minecraft? A Beginner’s Guide 18:32 How Minecraft Transformed Dan's Life 21:18 When Dan Realized YouTube Could Be A Career 22:49 Transitioning To Full-Time YouTube 27:07 Why Dan Is One Of YouTube's Most Successful Creators 34:48 Breaking Down The 2017 Forbes Article On Dan 37:56 How Dan Coped With Sudden Fame 42:33 Managing Fame As An Introvert 44:06 Why Dan Is A Positive Role Model For Fans 44:59 Dan’s Impact On His Young Audience 47:39 Behind The Scenes Of Dan's Live Show 51:17 Inside Dan's Relationship With His Wife 54:20 Why Dan Got Married At 21 55:26 How Dan's Wife Influenced His Success 58:43 How Becoming A Father Changed Dan's Life 01:01:26 Huel Sponsorship 01:02:28 Tinder Ad Spot 01:03:24 Dan Advocates For Men’s Mental Health 01:06:16 Struggling With Mental Health During Lockdown 01:09:18 Hitting Rock Bottom 01:10:55 Dan's Honest Experience With Anti-Depressants 01:12:05 Dan Opens Up About Suicidal Thoughts 01:15:21 How Dan Shared His Feelings With His Wife 01:17:45 Exploring Why Dan Felt The Way He Did 01:20:01 What Early Fatherhood Taught Dan 01:24:10 How Therapy Helped Dan Overcome His Struggles 01:27:11 Creating YouTube Content While Battling Depression 01:31:06 How Being A Man Shapes Dan’s Views On Mental Health 01:34:18 Dan’s Advice For Those Struggling With Mental Health 01:36:38 What’s Next For Dan? Future Plans Revealed 01:41:38 Is Being A YouTuber A Sustainable Career? 01:44:07 Dan’s Top Tips For Growing A Successful YouTube Channel 01:46:43 How Many Subscribers Does Dan Have Today? 01:47:02 Dan’s Most Memorable Conversation Ever 01:49:48 Key Takeaways From This Episode 01:52:33 Adobe Sponsorship Sponsored by: Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/  Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/ Huel: https://huel.com/paul/ use code PAUL Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of We Need To Talk, Calum Scott opens up like never before. A decade on from his iconic Britain’s Got Talent audition, Calum reflects on the moment that changed everything. He reveals what was really going on behind the scenes, the guilt he still carries about his sister, and the truth about that death stare at Simon Cowell.  Calum speaks candidly about growing up in Hull, being raised by strong women, and navigating his sexuality - including the impact of being outed by friends at school. He opens up about his struggles with body dysmorphia, identity, and the time he found himself on a bridge, questioning whether he could go on. From Dancing On My Own - now streamed over 1 billion times on Spotify - to No Matter What, Calum reveals how he turned heartbreak into healing, and how therapy has helped him find peace. This is Calum Scott as you’ve never seen him - raw, honest, and deeply human. This episode includes sensitive topics like suicidal thoughts and body dysmorphia. Please watch with care and find support resources below: MIND - https://g2ul0.app.link/w5vNMYwowQb   Samaritans - https://g2ul0.app.link/zsXiEH8BORb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk  https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod  Support Calum here: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/JAW7hxKlKSb TikTok - https://g2ul0.app.link/xpUnQDNlKSb  Pre-order new album Avenoir https://g2ul0.app.link/uG2nTUJOKSb FTD & Me Blog https://www.ftdandme.co.uk/about-me  (00:00) Intro (01:38) Yorkshire Tea (02:55) Calum Describes Hull (04:10) What Are Some of the Northern Stereotypes That Are True? (05:37) Calum's Memories of Home When He Was a Child (07:41) Did Calum's Biological Dad Have Any Presence in His Life After He Left? (10:16) Calum's Time in HR (11:38) When Did Calum Discover His Voice? (13:47) Calum's First Time Singing On-Stage (16:49) Calum's Relationship with His Sister (17:43) Calum's Time in 'Maroon 4' (18:51) The Impact of Calum's Grandma on His Life (20:57) Calum's Life and Relationship with His Sister Going Into the Britain's Got Talent Auditions (22:18) Calum's Experience of His Britain's Got Talent Audition (36:51) Calum Reflects on the Impact BGT Had on His Career (38:47) Calum's Experience of the BGT Final (45:18) How Did Calum Get a Record Deal After BGT? (49:35) What Are the Biggest Highs and Lows of Calum's Career? (55:00) Calum's Style of Singing and His Confidence Over Time (58:50) Shopify Ad (1:00:02) Tinder Ad (1:00:57) The Lyrics to 'You're the Reason' (1:03:08) Calum's Journey with His Sexuality and Coming Out (1:21:52) Calum's Experience of Body Dysmorphia and Suicidal Ideation (1:29:57) A Message from Calum's Best Friend Jess (1:31:49) How to Support a Friend Going Through a Tough Time (1:33:51) Calum Explains FTD and the Impact It’s Had on His and Jess' Life (1:37:09) Discussing Mortality and Living Life to the Fullest (1:39:45) The Inspiration Behind Calum's New Album 'Avenoir' (1:41:56) Calum's Pre-Stage Ritual (1:44:26) Where Does Calum's Desire to Be a Father Come From? (1:45:52) Most Memorable Conversation (1:50:20) Paul's Takeaways Sponsored by: Shopify: www.shopify.co.uk/needtotalk  Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Toni Tone and Taiwo Ogebule share the transformative journey that has redefined their approach to love and relationships.Through overcoming personal challenges, cultural pressures, and managing a long-distance romance, they reveal how a foundation of trust, mutual respect, and deep emotional connection has kept their bond strong. Together, they challenge conventional narratives around attachment, masculinity, and "struggle love," showing how self-discovery and resilience create a partnership that goes beyond expectations. Follow Toni Here: Toni's TikTok: https://g2ul0.app.link/JazIAMKurOb Toni's Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/sFCGcJOurOb Follow Taiwo Here: Taiwo's TikTok: https://g2ul0.app.link/0wuUp8WurOb Taiwo's Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/pUhyd2SurOb Follow Me Here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod 00:00 Introduction to the Episode 03:04 Dating Culture Differences: USA vs. UK 05:15 Toni and Taiwo’s Relationship Histories 06:18 How Relationships Can Impact Attachment Styles 11:06 How Toni and Taiwo Met: Their Love Story 16:22 Toni’s Viral Tweet After Their First Call 16:53 Understanding Demisexuality: What Does It Mean? 18:23 Tips for Maintaining a Long-Distance Relationship 20:46 Managing Conflict Across Borders: Toni and Taiwo’s Approach 25:49 The Biggest Misconceptions About Our Relationship 29:51 What Makes a “Good Man” in Modern Dating? 30:55 Shopify Ad 31:54 Huel Ad 33:25 What Is Gut Instinct and Why It’s Important in Love 35:37 Breaking Down “Struggle Love” and Its Impact 38:51 Can a Strong Woman Really Intimidate Men? 49:00 Our Most Memorable Conversations Together 54:24 Key Takeaways from Paul 56:59 Tinder Ad Sponsored by: Shopify: www.shopify.co.uk/needtotalk  Huel: huel.com/paul use code PAUL Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Judith Joseph, a leading psychiatrist and mental health expert, to explore high-functioning depression and anhedonia—two often-overlooked mental health conditions that can profoundly affect both personal well-being and relationships. Dr. Judith shares her insights on how people may appear to have everything under control while silently struggling, and she provides practical advice for identifying these hidden signs and managing them effectively. With her clinical background and deep understanding of trauma and attachment issues, Dr. Judith offers listeners tools to foster self-awareness, resilience, and healthier connections. Whether you’re dealing with these challenges yourself or supporting someone who is, this conversation will equip you with valuable strategies for navigating the complexities of these struggles. Follow Dr Judith Joseph here: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/CWNtxBUHfOb Dr Judith Pre-Order Link: https://g2ul0.app.link/JOBEG4qIfOb Dr Judith Anhedonia Quiz: https://g2ul0.app.link/iKrl1RxIfOb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod 0:00 Intro  0:46 Judith’s Early Life and Background  2:33 Pros and Cons of Being an Immigrant  5:04 Judith’s Strong Work Ethic  6:06 Why Judith Switched to a Career in Psychology  8:45 How Judith Found the Confidence to Change Careers  10:18 Why Judith Chose to Pursue Psychiatry  12:08 What Exactly Is Psychiatry?  13:34 The Role of a Lab in Psychiatry and Why It Matters  15:40 How Race Affects Access to Therapy  18:28 Can You Overdo Therapy?  20:45 Understanding and Defining Trauma  23:38 How the Pandemic Has Shaped Our View on Trauma  24:42 What Is Scarcity Trauma?  25:55 What Happens If You Don’t Address Trauma  27:27 The Key Differences Between Guilt and Shame  28:56 How to Support Someone Going Through Trauma  32:20 What Is Scarcity Envy and How Does It Affect Us?  35:15 High-Functioning Depression Explained  36:38 What Is Depression? Signs and Symptoms  38:06 Ad Break  40:27 Are People More Depressed Than Ever?  42:23 What Is "High-Functioning Depression"?  44:03 How to Check In on Friends and Family  46:51 What Is Anhedonia and Why It Matters  51:33 The Impact of Anhedonia on Mental Health  53:18 Should We Slow Down to Improve Mental Health?  54:55 The 5,4,3,2,1 Exercise for Anxiety Relief  58:20 Procrastination Caused by Worry: How to Manage It  59:10 Should You Stay in a Relationship Where Depression Is Present?  1:01:59 Are We All Somewhere on the Neurodivergent Spectrum?  1:03:48 How to Raise Awareness Without Misdiagnosing Yourself  1:06:07 Taking Control of Your Thoughts  1:08:05 The Cognitive Behavioral Triangle Explained  1:08:47 What Judith Would Tell Her Younger Self  1:09:21 Is Judith Truly Happy?  1:11:23 Judith’s Most Memorable Conversation  Sponsored by: Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul  Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

CONTENT WARNING: This episode includes a conversation around suicide. “I had Death threats after cheating” Join us for an intimate journey with Pete Wicks as he reveals the truths behind his life in the spotlight. From deeply personal setbacks to pivotal lessons learned along the way, Pete opens up about his experiences from early life to his days on reality TV, and how he navigates his current world. This episode goes beyond entertainment; it’s a heartfelt exploration of authenticity, friendship, and the courage it takes to truly be oneself. CONTENT WARNING: This episode discusses sensitive topics, including suicide. If you or someone you know needs support, please see the charities below: Pete's Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/zjM1cB5I7Pb Samaritans - https://g2ul0.app.link/AqoPIXcJ7Pb CALM https://g2ul0.app.link/Xx7coefJ7Pb Follow Pete Here: Watch Pete Wicks: For Dog's Sake on U https://g2ul0.app.link/F6dHawVY7Pb Dog's Trust https://g2ul0.app.link/ZYBsXCYY7Pb Book Never Enough https://g2ul0.app.link/KZHnwQ0Y7Pb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk/ https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod/ Get your tickets to 'An Evening with Paul C. Brunson' here: https://bit.ly/keeplove-megaphone/ Pre-order Keep Love here: https://lnk.to/keeplovebook/ Sections: (00:00) Insights on Pete (01:40) Pete Is WNTT's Most Wanted Guest (06:20) Exploring Pete's Love for Dogs (15:48) Debunking Myths About Pete's Height (17:06) Introducing Harlow (18:30) The Roots of Pete: His Early Life (21:49) Tribute to Pete's Grandmother (26:00) The Impact of Pete's Parents' Divorce (28:25) How Pete's Parents' Divorce Shaped His Self-Esteem (33:33) Mental Health Challenges: Insights from Pete's Mother (36:33) Pete and His 12-Year-Old Self: A Relationship Study (40:11) How Pete's Childhood Influences His Adult Relationships (43:16) Pete Before Fame: His Employment Journey (47:57) Adobe Ad (48:54) Tinder Ad (49:46) The Start of Pete's Journey in Reality TV (52:59) TOWIE's Rise in Popularity with Pete (55:11) Comparing Reality TV Then and Now: Pete's Experience 57:52 Public Reaction to Pete's Cheating Scandal with Megan McKenna (01:01:29) TOWIE's Impact on Pete's Personal Relationships (01:01:57) Unveiling the Two Sides of Pete (01:04:25) Pete Today: Does He Feel Sufficient? (01:06:33) Paul's Positive Affirmations for Pete (01:08:31) Paul's Praise for Pete: A Motivational Boost (01:11:48) Is Pete Truly Happy? Unpacking His Emotional State (01:16:52) Exploring Pete's Relationship with Maura Higgins (01:19:28) Pete and Sam Thompson: Analyzing Their Bond (01:21:12) Today's Crisis of Authenticity (01:25:58) Loneliness Epidemic and Male Mental Health: A Deep Dive (01:29:42) What Lies Ahead for Pete? Future Prospects (01:32:24) Pete's Journey to Self-Help Realization (01:36:38) Pete Discusses Vulnerability and Openness (01:38:15) Most Memorable Conversations with Pete (01:41:41) Paul's Closing Thoughts For Pete (01:46:16) Paul's Key Takeaways (01:48:54) Keep Love Ad Sponsored by: Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/ Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We Need To Talk: In this episode, we uncover the untold truth behind TV superstar Lauren Goodger. Lauren, a TV icon, entrepreneur, and mother, rose to fame on The Only Way is Essex (TOWIE) from 2010 to 2012 and made a much-anticipated return in 2024. For the first time, Lauren opens up about her personal journey—reflecting on her relationships, the intense scrutiny of high-profile romances, and how she found self-love through life's many evolutions. In her own words, Lauren reveals her path to healing and growth, offering listeners a candid look at her struggles and triumphs. We hope her story not only brings healing to Lauren but inspires others to talk more openly about mental health and overcoming tragedy. Follow Lauren here: https://g2ul0.app.link/i2ghg6YrMMb (00:00) Intro (02:07) When Was The First Time You Fell In Love? (05:36) Your First Serious Relationship Revealed (09:04) The Most Challenging Moment In Your Relationship With Mark (11:05) The Beginning Of TOWIE: How It All Started (12:12) A Turning Point In Your Journey (13:12) How TOWIE And Fame Affected Your Relationship With Mark (17:36) Why People Are So Intrigued By You (18:24) The Real Reason You Broke Up With Mark (21:42) Lauren And Mark: Why They Stopped Speaking (22:49) Reflecting On Major Life Events (23:39) Your Second Relationship With Jake After Mark (26:35) How To Pick The Right Partner (27:17) Breaking Up With Jake, What Really Happened (31:12) Your Relationship With Joey (34:13) What Attracts You To Bad Boys? (36:44) How You Earned Thousands From A Photoshoot (39:01) Why You Started OnlyFans And What It Meant To You (42:36) Your Relationship With Charles: The Truth (45:26) The Emotional Impact Of Having An Abortion (47:07) The Journey Of Becoming A Mother (47:59) Why It Takes So Long To Get To Know Someone (53:40) The Tragic Loss Of Your Unborn Child (59:30) Feeling Lonely, How You Handled It (01:00:58) Steps To Recover From Trauma (01:03:17) The Three Essential Groups We Need In Life (01:07:43) What You Did To Change Your Life For The Better (01:13:12) What You Would Tell Your 12-Year-Old Self (01:13:51) The Most Impactful Conversation Of Your Life (01:16:07) Why You Want People To Know The Real You? Sponsors: Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Shopify: www.shopify.co.uk/needtotalk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode of We Need To Talk sees YouTuber and singer Talia Mar share the defining moments that have shaped her life. She opens up about her whirlwind romance with Simon (AKA Sidemen's Miniminter) - from their instant connection on their first date to how they plan to parent their child in the public eye. Talia candidly discusses being diagnosed with autism at 25, the struggles of masking, feeling different, and how it reshaped her understanding of herself. She also opens up about navigating pregnancy with ASD and why so many women remain undiagnosed on the spectrum. Talia reflects on her school bullying experiences and the battle with anorexia that pushed her to her limits. This conversation is about Talia’s journey of self-discovery, embracing her autism, and how her deep connection with Simon helps them navigate the challenges of life together. This episode discusses sensitive topics, including anorexia. If you need support, please find resources below: MIND - https://g2ul0.app.link/w5vNMYwowQb   Beat Eating Disorders - https://g2ul0.app.link/gHK6cjr3ZRb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk  https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod  Support Talia here: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/QUo550jhbSb TikTok - https://g2ul0.app.link/ZuoqY6lhbSb  (1:51) Talia and Paul's Shared Connection with Sutton   (2:48) Talia's Childhood   (6:12) Talia's Childhood Love of Music   (8:00) Talia's Experience of BRIT School   (8:49) Talia's Experience of Bullying at Her Previous School   (10:45) Talia's Mental Health Struggles at School   (13:57) Talia's First Best Friend at 16   (14:47) Talia's Perspective on Romantic Relationships at 16   (15:37) How Did Talia Believe She Was Going to Be Successful in Music?   (19:23) How Did Talia Know She Was Doing Something Right with Her YouTube Channel?   (20:51) When Was Talia's First Monetisation from YouTube?   (23:30) 'Tough Decisions' EP Release   (25:50) Talia's Fellow BRIT Alumni   (30:45) Talia's Emotional Regulation   (33:59) Tinder Ad   (34:55) How Talia Met Simon Minter   (47:23) What Made Talia Fall in Love with Simon Minter?   (49:26) Talia's First Impressions of the Sidemen   (53:16) The Reaction to Talia and Simon Making Content Together   (56:32) How Did Her Public Relationship with Simon Impact Talia's Work?   (1:00:22) Did Talia Have Any Doubts About Her Engagement to Simon?   (1:01:39) Talia's Autism Diagnosis   (1:13:30) How Was Simon with Talia's Autistic Traits?   (1:14:15) Talia and Simon's Wedding   (1:16:06) Talia's Pregnancy   (1:19:21) How Do Talia and Simon Plan to Manage Having a Baby in the Public Eye?   (1:21:57) How Has Talia Found Being Pregnant?   (1:25:42) What Is Talia Most Excited for Regarding Her Future?   (1:27:22) Talia's Thoughts on Plastic Surgery   (1:30:40) Talia's Struggles with Anorexia   (1:38:16) Most Memorable Conversation   (1:41:40) Paul's Takeaways   Sponsored by: Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Just 2 hours before entering the Celebrity Big Brother house, JoJo Siwa sat down for one of her most raw and revealing conversations yet. Who is JoJo Siwa? In this powerful episode of We Need To Talk, the self-proclaimed “CEO of gay pop” opens up about the cost of growing up on Dance Moms, the pressures of childhood stardom, and why she won’t “give Abby her flowers.” She reflects on the moment her confidence dropped on screen and how it felt being the internet's “punching bag.” Before entering the Big Brother house, Paul asks how JoJo deals with people she doesn’t agree with - a question that now holds new significance after her viral clash with Mickey Rourke. JoJo addresses the controversy following the release of Karma and shares how she’s taking full control of her creative journey. She speaks candidly about falling in love, reclaiming her identity, and leaving behind the version of herself the world thought they knew. From Dance Moms to Big Brother, from glitter and bows to bold reinvention - this is JoJo Siwa like you’ve never seen her before. Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk  https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod  Follow JoJo here: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/RmSKBmOXySb TikTok - https://g2ul0.app.link/ZHFgDDQXySb  (00:19) Jojo's Imminent Big Brother Arrival (00:48) Is Jojo Scared of the Public Seeing a Different Side to Her? (02:45) Would Jojo Describe Herself as Someone with a Strong Personality? (03:25) How Will Jojo Manage Conflict in the BB House? (05:14) A Message from Jojo's Mum (07:33) Jojo's Childhood in Omaha, Nebraska (11:59) What Made Jojo Fall in Love with Dancing? (13:23) How Did Jojo Get on Dance Moms? (14:57) Why Does Jojo Think She Was So Successful on Dance Moms? (17:30) Did Jojo Need Validation When She Was 11 on Dance Moms? (19:14) Was Jojo 'Emotionally Abused' During Dance Moms? (25:42) Jojo's 'Ice Cream Story' (29:21) Was Jojo's Bow Branding Intentional? (31:52) Jojo's Bow Merchandise (33:50) Jojo Pivoting from TV to YouTube (36:54) Jojo's Perspective on Her Social Media Output (39:13) Shopify Ad (40:26) Tinder Ad (41:21) Did Jojo Have Difficulty Distinguishing Between Her Real Self and Her TV Persona? (44:43) Jojo's Experience of Bullying Online and In-Person (51:10) What Caused Jojo to Lose Confidence Over Time? (54:02) Jojo's Self-Consciousness About Her Singing (58:28) Jojo's Journey with Her Sexuality (1:06:04) The Process of Jojo Coming Out to the Wider Public (1:14:53) Jojo's Current Romantic Relationship (1:18:41) What Would Jojo Be Without Her Mother? (1:20:38) Jojo's Perspective on Motherhood (1:22:28) What Does Jojo Want Viewers of BB to Learn from Her? (1:23:23) What Is Most Misunderstood About Jojo? (1:24:01) The Controversy Around 'Karma' (1:26:53) Most Memorable Conversation (1:31:17) Paul's Takeaways Sponsored by: Shopify: www.shopify.co.uk/needtotalk  Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Appearance Was A Big Part Of My Childhood: Join Megan Barton-Hanson, a former Love Island finalist and one of the top creators on OnlyFans, where she shares her incredible journey from being severely bullied in her younger years, to becoming a global advocate for sex positivity and empowerment.  Megan opens up about the challenges she’s faced, from overcoming societal misconceptions about sex work to building a multi-million-dollar career rooted in authenticity and resilience.  With candid reflections on love, self-worth, and breaking free from judgment, Megan’s story is a powerful reminder of the strength it takes to own your narrative and defy outdated norms. Follow Megan here: Instagram https://g2ul0.app.link/ep1wbj4jJOb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod If you’re affected by anything discussed in this episode, please contact the below organisations and charities who can provide support: Women's Aid https://g2ul0.app.link/WyCdvWWjJOb Refuge https://g2ul0.app.link/pmZkBsOjJOb NUM https://g2ul0.app.link/sosyTb1jJOb MIND https://g2ul0.app.link/d72yzu7jJOb 00:00 Intro 2:11 Megan’s Childhood: Growing Up In Southend-On-Sea 3:20 Megan’s Relationship With Her Parents During Her Youth 4:19 Megan’s Brother: Their Bond And Memories 5:39 Highlights Of School Life And Living In Southend 6:59 Megan’s Struggles With Bullying At School 10:30 Who Supported Megan Through Her Bullying Experiences? 12:23 Megan’s Early Views On Intimacy And Self-Worth 13:55 When Did Megan First Experience Sexual Intimacy? 15:22 Megan’s Journey To Realizing Her Sexual Orientation 16:30 Megan’s First Lesbian Relationship: A Personal Story 21:46 Megan’s Cosmetic Surgery Experience: Why She Did It 24:02 How Megan Started Her Career: A Look Back 25:18 Megan’s Experience Working As A Stripper 27:59 Defining ‘Sex Work’: Megan’s Perspective 29:43 Was Megan Truly Happy While Working As A Stripper? 30:40 Megan’s Journey To Becoming A Love Island Contestant 32:47 Lessons Megan Learned About People From Her Time At The Strip Club 35:42 What Megan Discovered About Herself During Her Early Career 37:26 How Megan Got Cast On Love Island 39:31 How Megan Earned Money Before Joining Love Island 40:36 Why Megan Decided To Go On Love Island 41:43 Did Megan Have A Game Plan For Love Island? 42:52 Life After Love Island: Megan’s Story 44:21 Finding Love On Love Island: Megan’s Experience 46:12 Navigating Fame: Megan’s Life In The Public Eye 54:00 Megan’s Brother’s Mental Health Struggles 56:15 Why Megan Joined Celebs Go Dating 58:11 Facing Skepticism About Her Sexuality: Megan’s Response 1:00:22 When Paul Realized Megan Had Feelings For Demi 1:03:19 How Megan And Demi’s Relationship Ended 1:05:41 Adobe Ad 1:06:36 Tinder Ad 1:07:39 Megan’s Current Dating Life: What’s Happening Now? 1:10:48 What Megan Wants In An Ideal Partner 1:12:48 Inside Megan’s Hinge Profile: Dating In The Digital Age 1:15:19 Megan’s Worst Experiences With Men: Lessons Learned 1:20:19 Megan’s Charity Work And Giving Back 1:29:33 Challenges Megan Has Faced In Relationships With Men 1:36:12 Megan’s Journey As A Successful Businesswoman 1:41:51 Why Megan Is A Top Creator On OnlyFans 1:43:12 The Most Unusual Requests Megan Has Received On OnlyFans 1:44:44 Funny And Unexpected OnlyFans Stories 1:46:32 Is OnlyFans Considered Pornography? Megan’s Take 1:52:27 Is Megan Truly Happy Now? A Reflection 1:55:27 Megan’s Most Memorable Conversations 1:57:21 Key Takeaways From Megan’s Journey 2:01:11 Huel Ad Sponsored by: Adobe https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/  Tinder https://tinder.com/en-GB  Huel https://huel.com/paul/ use code PAUL Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do younger partners make you happier? In this episode, Cindy Gallop, founder of Make Love Not Porn, shares her bold perspective on living authentically and challenging societal norms. From rejecting pressures to marry or have children to embracing the joy of dating younger men, Cindy redefines intimacy and celebrates individuality. Drawing on her successful advertising career and groundbreaking work in reshaping conversations about sex and relationships, she offers insights on breaking free from conventional expectations to live a uniquely fulfilling life. Tune in for an inspiring conversation that encourages you to rethink what it means to live on your own terms. Follow Cindy Here: Cindy's Instagram https://g2ul0.app.link/neknglRJJOb MakeLoveNotPorn Instagram https://g2ul0.app.link/ANV19lVJJOb MakeLoveNotPorn Fundraiser https://g2ul0.app.link/3nwgfqdMJOb Support MakeLoveNotPorn Here: https://www.wefunder.com/makelovenotporn Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod 00:00 Introduction: Who Is Cindy Gallop? 02:02 What Does "Cindy’s Brand" Really Mean? 03:45 How Cindy Views Herself vs. How The World Sees Her 04:25 How Cindy’s Background Shaped Her Authentic Self 06:28 Steps To Embracing Your Authentic Self 09:00 Breaking Down The Most Harmful Societal Norms 12:07 Has Cindy Ever Experienced True Romantic Love? 13:47 Why Cindy Isn’t Focused On Finding Romantic Love 15:44 Why Young Men Are Choosing To Date Older Women 17:51 What’s The Age Gap Between Cindy And The Men She Dates? 20:56 Why Cindy Gallop’s Relationships Are Different From Love 24:53 Will Traditional Ideas About Love And Family Ever Change? 25:47 How To Stop External Pressures From Influencing Your Choices 27:19 The Dangerous Myth Of “The One” In Relationships 28:44 How Cindy Maintains Successful Relationships With Younger Men 35:25 Debunking The Myth Of The “Nuclear Family” 37:58 Advertising’s Misrepresentation Of Age And Its Impact 42:34 Is “Make Love Not Porn” Competing With Mainstream Porn? 46:26 Why Cindy Created “Make Love Not Porn” And Its Mission 53:16 What Is The Social-Sexual Revolution “Make Love Not Porn” Aims To Spark? 58:49 How “Make Love Not Porn” Differs From Mainstream Porn’s Addictive Traits 01:02:18 Cindy Gallop’s Definition Of True Consent 01:05:23 Can Sharing Your Sex Life Help Correct Misconceptions About Sex? 01:08:11 A Look At Paul’s Research On “Make Love Not Porn” 01:11:21 Cindy’s Innovative Approach To Educating Young People About Sex 01:13:42 How And When Parents Should Talk To Kids About Sex And Porn 01:16:15 Inside The “Make Love Not Porn” Academy 01:22:03 Cindy Gallop’s Most Memorable Conversations Sponsored by: Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul Huel: https://huel.com/paul/ use code PAUL Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"I Proved Them All Wrong - One Direction Were Like Family" Join us for an inspiring episode as Cher Lloyd delves deep into her journey from a breakout star on X-Factor to overcoming the challenges of media scrutiny and personal transformation.  At just 16, Cher quickly rose to fame, finishing fourth on the show and charting hits in both the US and UK. Yet, behind the scenes, she faced intense media torment that shaped her public image into something she didn’t recognise.  In this heartfelt interview, Cher reveals the true self behind the 'villain' persona once painted by the press, sharing insights into the real-life impacts of fame and the media's role in it. Cher also opens up about her personal growth through motherhood and how it shifted her career trajectory, discussing the industry's cold shoulder during her pregnancy and her decade-long partnership with her husband, Craig.  After a significant break from music, Cher is back, ready to reclaim her space in the music industry with newfound resilience and empowerment.  Tune in to hear how Cher Lloyd transforms adversities into a powerful narrative of self-acceptance and determination, proving that stepping back can be a pathway to leaping forward. If you or someone you know needs support, please see the charities below: APNI (The Association for Post Natal Illness) - https://g2ul0.app.link/L4J3lVyowQb Mind (useful contacts for post natal depression) - https://g2ul0.app.link/6IyLaUmowQb Follow Cher Here: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/RajyCUByoQb Cher's New Single 'Head Down’ - https://g2ul0.app.link/fWjunOvyoQb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Get your tickets to 'An Evening with Paul C. Brunson' here: https://bit.ly/keeplove-megaphone Pre-order Keep Love here: https://lnk.to/keeplovebook Sections: 00:00 Intro 02:23 How are you feeling? 04:13 Exploring Cher's Childhood 06:48 Impact of Cher's Upbringing on Her Adult Life 09:27 Cher's Life in the Romany Community 15:42 UK Media's Negative Portrayal of the Traveller Community 16:52 The Beginnings of Cher's Singing Career 18:43 Why Cher Decided to Pursue a Pop Career 22:18 Cher's Audition on X-Factor: A Look Back 30:48 Advice Cher Would Give to Her 16-Year-Old Self 32:41 Reality vs. Portrayal: Cher on the X-Factor 37:34 Mental Health Support for Cher During X-Factor 39:38 Inside Cher's Relationships with X-Factor Judges 44:31 Living with Other Artists: Cher's Experience 44:55 Reaction to Liam Payne's Post: A Discussion 48:57 Negative Media Coverage of Cher During X-Factor 51:01 Keep Love Ad 51:57 Tinder Ad 52:48 Cher Performs 'Stay': Reflecting on Her Uncle's Passing 57:08 Paul's Admiration: Wishing He Could Sing Like Cher 57:35 Cher's Career After the X-Factor: What's Next? 58:51 Cher Reflects on 'Swagger Jagger' Years Later 01:01:51 How the UK Media Labeled Cher Post-X-Factor 01:05:22 Examining Sexism in the Music Industry: 2010 vs. Today 01:11:23 Cher's Success in the US: A Detailed Look 01:14:56 Cher Discusses Her Struggle with Belonging in the US 01:19:39 Why Cher Returned to the UK 01:20:10 Does the UK Now Love Cher? 01:20:33 Cher's Future Career Plans Revealed 01:22:29 Cher and Taylor Swift: A Musical Collaboration 01:25:32 Cher Proudly Talks About Being a Great Mom 01:26:25 How Parenthood Changed Cher: Becoming a Better Person 01:28:07 Cher and Her Husband Craig: Their Relationship Story 01:34:08 How Motherhood Transformed Cher 01:36:40 Cher's Battle with Postnatal Depression 01:42:25 Cher's Relationship with Social Media Explored 01:45:02 Finding Empowerment 01:46:32 Cher's Most Memorable Conversation 01:51:04 Paul's Key Takeaways from Cher's Journey 01:53:07 Adobe Express Ad Sponsored by: Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This first episode in a two-part series explores Tulisa's inspiring journey, through a turbulent childhood with family mental health challenges, to achieving widespread fame through her career with N-Dubz and X-Factor. This powerful conversation explores Tulisa's personal encounters with trauma and sexual assault, while highlighting her incredible resilience and self-belief, offering a path of empowerment and hope for those in similar situations. Please be aware that this episode discusses sensitive topics, including sexual assault and self-harm. If you or someone you know needs support, please see the charities below: The Survivors Trust: https://g2ul0.app.link/sqvZqaAesPb MIND: https://g2ul0.app.link/d72yzu7jJOb Follow Tulisa Here: Tulisa's Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/Cv7G7DkesPb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Sections: 00:00 Introduction to the Series 02:22 Growing Up in Camden: A Personal Journey 05:20 Family Life in Camden: Tulisa’s Childhood Explored 07:14 The Complex Relationship Between Tulisa and Her Mother 10:34 Tulisa's Role as a Caregiver: Personal Stories 13:16 Mental Health Struggles in the Family: Tulisa's Insights 14:50 Advice to My Younger Self: Tulisa Reflects 16:47 Tulisa’s Father and Mungo Jerry: A Musical Legacy 21:35 Understanding Attachment Styles with Tulisa 25:27 First Love: Tulisa’s Early Romantic Experiences 26:58 Tulisa’s Initial Sexual Encounters: A Candid Discussion 29:09 Exploring Spirituality with Tulisa 32:22 Addressing Sexual Assault: Tulisa's Harrowing Experience 36:15 True Love in Relationships: Has Tulisa Experienced It? 39:16 Wishing for a Different First Time: Tulisa's Regrets 41:31 Adobe Express Advertisement 42:29 Tinder Advertisement 43:26 Paul’s Love for N-Dubz: A Fan’s Perspective 47:39 The Impact of Dappy on Tulisa’s Life 51:03 Coping with Uncle B’s Death: Tulisa’s Experience 55:07 Celebrating Platinum Records: Tulisa’s Achievements 57:47 Tulisa Discusses Her History with Self-Harm 01:01:54 Class and Music: How It Shaped N-Dubz's Reception 01:08:30 Starting on X-Factor: Tulisa's Initial Impressions 01:12:36 Reality TV Exposed: The Fakeness Behind the Scenes 01:14:12 Support Among X-Factor Judges: Tulisa’s Experience 01:16:42 The Controversial 'Tape' Incident: Tulisa's Story 01:27:57 Wrapping Up: Final Thoughts 01:28:26 Teaser for Episode 2: What's Next? Sponsored by: Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/ Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/ Huel: https://huel.com/paul/ use code PAUL Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of We Need To Talk, Grammy Award-winning artist Estelle joins Paul for an unfiltered conversation about music, identity, and the power of self-belief. From growing up in West London to becoming the first artist to be signed by John Legend, Estelle shares the resilience it took to break into the music industry - and the self-trust she had to develop along the way. She tells the incredible story of how a chance encounter with Kanye West in a chicken shop led to the global smash hit American Boy. Estelle reflects on the personal losses that shaped her, the industry rejection she pushed through, and how she’s finally learned to trust her voice - both in music and in life. This is the real story behind American Boy - and so much more. Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk  https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod  Follow Estelle here: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/YBqxXz8ThSb TikTok - https://g2ul0.app.link/CQK5GJbUhSb  (00:00) Intro  (01:50) Estelle's Childhood in Hammersmith  (04:40) What Values Did Estelle's Grandmother Instill in Her?  (06:22) Estelle's Family  (07:37) How Estelle's Parents Met  (09:04) Estelle's Relationship with Her Father  (10:09) How Did Estelle's Parents' Split Affect Her?  (11:22) Estelle's Experience of School  (15:28) The Beginning of Estelle's Career in Music  (27:31) The Differences Between Hip Hop and R&B in the USA vs. UK in the Early 2000s  (29:43) Estelle's Experience in the British Music Industry as a Black Female Artist  (35:53) How Estelle Met Kanye West and John Legend  (44:10) Shopify Ad  (45:21) Tinder Ad  (46:16) How Estelle Wrote 'American Boy'  (51:26) The Legacy of 'American Boy'  (54:53) Paul’s Favourite Estelle Songs  (56:48) When Did Estelle Feel Like She Was 'Losing It' During Her Career?  (1:03:43) How Did Estelle Learn to Trust Herself?  (1:06:44) Estelle's Relationship History  (1:15:59) Is Estelle Interested in Being a Mother?  (1:16:57) The Impact of Estelle's Grandmother's Death  (1:21:51) Estelle's Spiritual Beliefs  (1:22:46) Estelle's Role in 'Steven Universe'  (1:26:30) Why Is Allyship So Important to Estelle?  (1:28:53) Paul Tells a Crazy Story About Estelle  (1:31:03) One of Estelle's Wildest Moments During Her Career  (1:33:07) Happiest Moment of Estelle's Career  (1:34:49) Estelle's New EP 'New Direction'  (1:37:35) Paul, De La Soul and Estelle's Feature on 'Memories Of'  (1:40:24) Estelle's Forthcoming Book  (1:42:37) Most Memorable Conversation  (1:46:18) Paul's Takeaways  Sponsored by: Shopify: www.shopify.co.uk/needtotalk  Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of We Need To Talk, Jordan Stephens opens up like never before. The musician, writer, and actor shares the untold story behind his rise to fame with Rizzle Kicks, the struggles that nearly broke him, and the pivotal moments that shaped his life. Jordan reflects on his battles with addiction, the weight of fame, and the personal challenges he’s faced behind closed doors. For the first time, Jordan reflects on a period where he felt his lowest and how a phone call with his mum brought him back from the edge.  Now, in a high-profile relationship with Jade Thirlwall, Jordan opens up about how they navigate their relationship in the spotlight, and whether marriage and fatherhood are on the cards. Paul and Jordan have a powerful conversation around masculinity, exploring the struggles men face with emotions, intimacy, and societal pressures. This is Jordan Stephens as you’ve never seen him before. Support charities: MIND - https://g2ul0.app.link/w5vNMYwowQb Samaritans - https://g2ul0.app.link/zsXiEH8BORb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk  https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod  Support Jordan here: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/eQmG1muoJRb TikTok - https://g2ul0.app.link/n3LMyDBoJRb Book: Avoidance, Drugs, Heartbreak and Dogs -  https://g2ul0.app.link/iC6Y7KJjNRb  Audio Active - https://g2ul0.app.link/h2gPqvCjNRb  (00:00) Intro (01:36) Influence of Jordan’s Mum and Dad on His Upbringing (02:53) When Did Jordan Realise His Parents Were Anti-Establishment? (04:24) Jordan’s Experiences on His Childhood Estate (06:05) Jordan’s Parents’ Situation When He Was a Child (07:28) Jordan Moving to Brighton at 10 (08:25) What Did Jordan Think of His Parents Growing Up? (10:38) Jordan’s Complicated Relationship With Class (13:37) Jordan’s Experience as a Young Mixed-Race Man in Brighton (17:25) How Does Jordan Categorise Himself? (22:01) Jordan’s Early Experiences With Drugs (26:33) Changing Attitudes Towards Sex (27:38) The ‘Bizarre’ Story of Jordan Losing His Virginity (32:48) When Did Jordan Fall in Love With Hip-Hop? (35:17) The Origins of Rizzle Kicks (39:08) How Jordan Made ‘Down With the Trumpets’ (43:13) Does Jordan Have Any Regrets About His Music Career? (48:19) Paul Loves Jordan’s Book ADHD (49:29) Paul and Jordan’s Thoughts on the State of Masculinity (54:37) Internalised Homophobia (58:53) The Kinsey Scale: Understanding Sexuality (1:00:28) Jordan’s Experience at ‘The Bridge’ (1:05:24) Adobe Express Ad (1:06:24) Tinder Ad (1:07:34) Jordan’s Experience With Suicide and Suicidal Ideation (1:16:13) Jordan’s ‘Break-Up’ With His Mother (1:22:05) Jordan’s ‘Type’ (1:23:33) How Jordan Met JADE (1:30:26) Jordan’s Thoughts on Polyamory (1:32:20) Jordan’s Thoughts on the ‘L Word’ (1:34:52) Jordan and JADE's First Date (1:38:56) Will Jordan and JADE Get Married? (1:42:06) Jordan’s Thoughts on Fatherhood (1:47:44) How Jordan Navigates Being in a High-Profile Relationship (1:54:10) Jordan Praises Paul and WNTT (1:56:27) Most Memorable Conversation (2:00:04) Paul’s Takeaways Sponsored by: Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/  Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Married at First Sight star Ella Morgan sits down alongside her dad Chris for an emotional conversation about identity, acceptance and resilience. Ella opens up about knowing she was different as a child, the challenges of transitioning, the heartbreaking moments of self-doubt and how her relationships on MAFS and Celebs Go Dating shaped her journey. She and Chris reflect on their struggles to understand each other, the moments that nearly broke their family, and the unconditional love that brought them back together. Chris speaks candidly about his struggles in coming to terms with Ella’s transition to being her biggest supporter. Together, they address the misconceptions surrounding trans identities, the harsh realities of discrimination, and the power of unconditional love. A powerful conversation every parent and child needs to hear. This episode discusses sensitive topics, including suicide and eating disorders. If you need support, please find resources below: MIND - https://g2ul0.app.link/w5vNMYwowQb Samaritans - https://g2ul0.app.link/zsXiEH8BORb Beat Eating Disorders - https://g2ul0.app.link/gHK6cjr3ZRb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk  https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod  Follow Ella here: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/T9GbS7j3ZRb TikTok - https://g2ul0.app.link/lTRuysm3ZRb (0:00) Intro   (1:27) Ella Being a Trans 'Advocate' Not an Activist   (3:41) Ella Explains 'Dead-Naming'   (6:14) Why Did Ella Go on MAFS?   (9:53) Ella's Relationship History Before MAFS   (12:07) Safety as a Trans Person   (14:40) What Were Ella's Lessons from MAFS?   (20:18) Ella's 'Ill-Advised' Relationship on Celebs Go Dating   (23:26) Adobe Ad   (24:26) Tinder Ad   (25:18) Ella's Reaction to Three-Year-Old Evan   (27:54) What Was Ella's Childhood Like?   (30:10) Ella's Experience at School   (31:54) Societal Scripts Around Gender   (33:44) When and How Ella Realised She Was Trans   (36:51) Ella's Experience of Bulimia   (43:52) Ella's Experience of Suicide at 16   (50:01) Ella Coming Out as Trans to Her Mum   (54:04) Ella First Presenting as a Woman   (55:44) How the Rest of Ella's Family Found Out Her True Identity   (57:34) Ella's Dad Joins the Conversation   (58:59) How Did Chris Find Out About Ella's True Identity?   (1:00:53) How Did Chris Feel When He First Found Out About Ella?   (1:02:56) Paul Shows Chris a Picture of Him and Ella from 2001   (1:04:43) What Were Chris' Hopes and Dreams for Ella as a Child?   (1:06:25) How Chris Dealt with Changing Terminology After Finding Out   (1:09:10) When Did Chris Realise Ella's Identity Wasn't Just a Phase?   (1:11:02) Public Reaction to Ella Presenting as a Woman   (1:12:49) Ella's Experience of Gender Reassignment Surgery   (1:15:27) Chris' Experience of Ella's Transition Surgery   (1:17:13) Stats on Suicide in Transgender People   (1:17:57) Ella's Second Experience with Suicide   (1:19:42) How Did Chris Deal with Ella's Suicide Attempt?   (1:21:35) How to Hold Space for Someone in Crisis   (1:22:29) What Is the 'Work' for Families During a Transition?   (1:25:29) Support for Parents of Transgender People   (1:27:23) What Ella's Transition Means to Chris   (1:29:26) Paul and Chris' Experience of Transphobia Among Friends   (1:31:02) Why Ella Is the Bravest Person Chris Knows   (1:34:02) Chris' Advice to Parents of Transgender Children   (1:34:43) Ella's Procedures and the Costs   (1:38:23) Statistics on Transgender Employment Rates   (1:39:40) Most Memorable Conversation   (1:43:19) Paul's Takeaways  Sponsored by: Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/  Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Paul C Brunson, the world’s most influential matchmaker and TV star, brings his insightful commentary on how to create and sustain successful relationships through vulnerability, connection and understanding. From weekly conversations with industry experts and familiar faces, Paul promises to support your personal growth, provide practical insights, and deliver actionable advice that will add value to your relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

From her humble beginnings working at Hooters in Canada, to conquering the UK's comedy scene, Katherine Ryan's journey is nothing short of inspiring. In this candid interview, she opens up about her trials as a single mum breaking into the male-dominated stand-up world, her experiences with toxic relationships and overcoming personal setbacks, including her tragic miscarriages. Now, reconnected with Bobby, her high school sweetheart, Katherine's story embodies deep resilience, showing us how one can turn life’s challenges into empowering insights. Please be aware that this episode discusses sensitive topics. If you or someone you know needs support, please see the charities below: The Survivors Trust: https://g2ul0.app.link/sqvZqaAesPb MIND: https://g2ul0.app.link/d72yzu7jJOb Follow Katherine here: Katherine's Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/1LSdEcnweQb …And get tickets for Katherine's stand up tour, Battleaxe, which runs until 28th June. For tickets, visit Ticketmaster - https://g2ul0.app.link/xCXoMzpweQb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Get your tickets to 'An Evening with Paul C. Brunson' here: https://bit.ly/keeplove-megaphone Pre-order Keep Love here: https://lnk.to/keeplovebook Sections: 02:16 Differences Between Life In The USA, Canada, And The UK 04:33 Katherine's Childhood And Upbringing In Canada 05:40 Growing Up In Different Communities: Katherine's Experience 07:30 What Katherine Thought About The UK As A Child 09:00 How Katherine Discovered Her Passion For Performing 09:50 What Was Katherine's Childhood Really Like? 11:15 How Katherine Built A Strong Family Bond During Childhood 12:57 Does Experiencing Trauma Make Someone A Better Comedian? 15:45 What Katherine Wanted To Become At Age 12 18:29 The Impact Of Katherine's Parents’ Divorce On Her Life 25:53 Katherine's Early Dating Experiences And Relationships 28:13 Generational Challenges: Alcohol And Violence In Katherine's Family 29:33 The Story Of Katherine's Friendship With Jessica 39:49 Behind The Scenes: Katherine's Job At Hooters 47:47 The Truth About The "Keep Love" Ad Campaign 48:39 What Happened Behind The Scenes Of The Tinder Ad 49:34 How Katherine Started Her Comedy Career At 21 51:31 Why The UK Is Considered The Stand-Up Comedy Capital Of The World 53:06 Challenges Of Starting Out As A Female Comedian In Stand-Up 55:38 Did Katherine Move To The UK For Love Or Her Career? 56:44 Starting Her Comedy Career In The UK: Katherine’s Journey 58:45 Becoming A Young Mother By Choice: Katherine's Story 1:05:10 Katherine's First TV Break With The Show Campus 1:05:51 Balancing Motherhood And A Growing Comedy Career 1:08:09 Paul’s Reaction To Katherine's 2012 Appearance On 8 Out Of 10 Cats 1:09:00 How Katherine Prepares For High-Pressure Panel Shows 1:13:45 Why Stupidity Dominates Modern Politics 1:15:59 Why Are Less Than 20% Of UK Comedians Female? 1:18:21 How Diversity Is Shaping Today’s Stand-Up Comedy Scene 1:24:22 Katherine's Relationships During Her Comedy Career Rise 1:25:40 The Shocking Story Of Child Protection Services Investigating Katherine 1:28:36 Surviving Coercive Control: Katherine’s Personal Experience 1:37:00 Katherine's Life During Her Single Years 1:38:33 Reconnecting With Her Childhood Romance: Bobby’s Story 1:43:56 How Katherine Persuaded Bobby To Move To The UK 1:45:19 Katherine And Paul's Heartbreaking Experience With Miscarriages 1:51:15 Will Katherine And Bobby Have More Kids? 1:53:07 Why Katherine And Bobby Schedule Intimacy In Their Relationship 1:55:19 How Often Do People Really Have Sex? 1:57:08 The Most Memorable Conversation Of Katherine's Life 1:59:01 Key Takeaways From Paul’s Perspective 2:01:18 The Inside Scoop On The Adobe Express Ad Campaign Sponsored by: Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/ Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this exclusive episode, Love Island star Maura Higgins opens up about the intimate and personal aspects of her life journey, shedding light on the emotional challenges she’s encountered since entering the spotlight. From heartbreak, loss, and betrayal to the pressures of living in the public eye, Maura discusses how embracing vulnerability and practicing self-love have helped her stay true to herself. In her debut podcast episode, Maura’s story of resilience and personal growth is both empowering and relatable, especially for anyone navigating similar hardships. This conversation includes sensitive topics such as grief and sexual assault. If you are affected by anything in this podcast, please use these links to organisations that can offer support: CALM: https://g2ul0.app.link/uULaUXcM3Nb MIND: https://g2ul0.app.link/gbuRaxjM3Nb Follow Maura here: https://g2ul0.app.link/7kCDv2mM3Nb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod — 00:00 Introduction 01:38 Maura Reveals Why She Rarely Shares Her Story 02:45 Why Maura Chose Now for Her First In-depth Interview 03:30 Exploring Maura's Complex Relationship With Her Mother 04:21 Insights into Maura's Childhood Experiences 05:39 Understanding Maura's Relationship With Her Father 08:59 Analyzing Maura's School Life Experiences 12:40 What Was It Like in Maura's Childhood Home? 13:49 Toxic School Experiences: Maura's Story 14:32 Weekends in Maura's Childhood: A Deep Dive 15:11 How Maura's Early Life Influenced Her Adult Relationships 15:58 Maura's Dating Life Beginnings Uncovered 16:25 Maura's First Romantic Relationship Explored 18:24 Maura's Journey to Becoming a Hairdresser 21:09 Maura's Early Days in the Public Eye 22:55 Promotional Segment: Tinder Advertisement 23:48 The Story of Maura and Her Best Friend 26:04 Can Men and Women Be Just Friends? Maura Discusses 28:24 Maura Confronts the Loss of Her Best Friend 35:26 Maura's Lack of Emotional Support from Her Father 36:08 The Truth About Maura's Cheating Ex-Partner 45:50 Maura Discusses Her Experience with Sexual Assault 52:22 Inside Maura's Love Island Adventure 58:54 Exploring Maura's Relationships on Love Island 01:01:34 Public Perceptions of Maura Post-Love Island 01:05:06 Life Changes for Maura After Love Island 01:10:54 Maura's Mental Health After Love Island: A Breakdown 01:25:45 Exploring the 'Triangular Love' Theory 01:27:11 Has Maura Ever Been in a Fulfilling Relationship? 01:29:44 Maura Discusses: What It Means to Truly Love 01:39:49 Maura on Staying Relevant: Career Pressures Post-Fame 01:41:58 Maura's Advice on Relationships 01:43:49 Maura at the BAFTAs: Celebrity Connections Revealed 01:50:41 Most Memorable Questions Asked to Maura 01:53:33 Key Insights from Paul's Interview with Maura 01:56:26 Advertisement Segment: Fiverr Promotion — Sponsored by: Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/ Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of We Need To Talk, Kelsey Parker opens up about navigating life after the heartbreaking loss of Tom Parker, her husband and a member of the boyband The Wanted. Kelsey shares how she faced grief, public scrutiny, and the challenge of raising their children while keeping Tom’s memory alive. Kelsey also speaks candidly about love after loss, the reality of widowhood, and how she’s embracing a new chapter in her life. Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Follow Kelsey here: https://g2ul0.app.link/pmpCxFKuSQb (00:00) Intro (01:20) Shopify Ad (02:59) Where Is Kelsey From? (04:33) Kelsey's Absent Father (05:47) Kelsey's Relationship With Her Stepfather (07:04) Stigma of Blended Families (09:40) Meeting Tom (From The Wanted) (14:00) First Date With Tom (16:47) The Industry Made Us Not Label Our Relationship (22:16) Starting a Relationship With Tom (23:38) Getting Engaged to Tom (24:53) First Few Years of Being With Tom (26:09) Did Fame Change Tom? (26:41) How Did Tom Know He Wanted to Get Married? (28:39) Marrying Tom (30:15) The Honeymoon With Tom (31:05) Tom's Protectiveness vs. Kelsey's Dad (33:59) Running Businesses Together (35:40) Conversation About Having Children (37:37) First Symptoms of Tom's Illness (42:56) Tom's Brain Tumor Diagnosis (48:05) Managing Life With a Diagnosis (54:04) Tom's Mindset Through Treatment (56:37) Going Public With the Diagnosis (58:46) Tom's Chemotherapy (01:01:00) Adobe Express Ad (01:01:57) Tinder Ad (01:02:51) Keeping a Sense of Hope (01:08:36) Facing Reality and Getting Tom Into a Hospice (01:14:38) The Last Conversation With Tom (01:18:40) Focusing on the Children (01:21:46) Life After Tom (01:22:37) Feeling Lonely After Tom's Death (01:24:00) Perception of Widows Who Try to Move On (01:26:30) How Do Single Men React to a Widow? (01:29:24) Vulnerability After Loss (01:30:40) Criticism on Social Media (01:37:11) Meeting New Partner Will (01:39:40) Falling Pregnant With Will (01:41:38) Going Public With Pregnancy (01:45:24) Reaction of Tom's Family to the Pregnancy Announcement (01:46:24) Experience as a Blended Family (01:48:13) Kelsey's Spirituality (01:54:47) Keeping Tom's Memory Alive (01:58:22) Celebrating Tom's Life With the Children (02:00:49) What Is Next for Kelsey? (02:02:36) Will's Reaction to the Pregnancy (02:04:08) What Kelsey Wants Everyone to Take Away From Her Experience (02:04:42) Kelsey's Most Memorable Conversation (02:08:18) Keep Love Ad Sponsored by: Shopify: www.shopify.co.uk/needtotalk  Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/  Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Get your copy of Keep Love now: https://lnk.to/keeplovebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“If he upsets me - I get gifts!” In this episode, best-selling author and activist Chidera Eggerue (aka The Slumflower) joins us to discuss her transformative ideas on love, relationships, and self-worth. Known for creating the viral #SaggyBoobsMatter movement, Chidera challenges traditional heteronormative expectations and encourages women to recognise their inherent value, demand more from their partners, and create more equal, empowering relationships.  With her provocative insights on love, money, and equality, she provides listeners with practical tools to break free from societal norms, set higher standards in their personal lives, and reclaim their power. Follow Chidera Here: https://g2ul0.app.link/T3GIV2Y0bPb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod 00:00 Intro 00:02:13 History Of Chidera's Moniker 'Slumflower' 00:04:30 Growing Up In Peckham/'Little Lagos' 00:08:00 Chidera Cutting Her Mum Off And Ensuing Therapy 00:10:57 Chidera's Relationship With Her Father 00:13:11 Chidera's Early Romantic Relationships 00:14:31 Was Chidera Loved By Anyone In Her Childhood/Adolescence? 00:16:04 Chidera Has Never Had A Man At Her Flat 00:17:31 How Chidera's Ideology Developed Over Time 00:24:45 The Traditional Idea Of Love Is Damaging To Women 00:27:31 What Does Love Mean To Chidera? 00:29:25 Love, Feminism And Finance 00:31:04 Chidera's Thoughts On The Male Loneliness Epidemic 00:32:15 Is Chidera An Advocate For Marriage? 00:33:41 Why Does Society Struggle With Finance When It Comes To Romance? 00:41:49 Men And Self-Esteem/Ego 00:45:19 'Marriage Is The Lowest Paid Form Of Sex Work' 00:55:10 Huel Ad 00:56:12 Tinder Ad 00:57:06 Chidera's Definition Of Hypergamy 00:59:40 4B Movement 01:07:01 Chidera Being 'Grey A-Sexual' 01:11:29 Chidera On BDSM And Being A Dominatrix 01:16:14 How Do These Relationships Start? 01:22:17 Chidera's 'Goddess Gina' Alter Ego 01:27:46 A Letter From 'Slave Tux' 01:37:51 Critiques Of Chidera 01:41:24 Most Memorable Conversation 01:46:57 Paul's Takeaways 01:49:10 Fiver Ad Sponsored by: Huel: https://huel.com/paul/ use code PAUL Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/ Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We Need to Talk: In this episode, Paul dives into the critical role status plays in our relationships. He explores why couples engage in "status games" and how our evolutionary drive for status impacts our pursuit for sexual partners. His guest this week is Will Storr, award-winning journalist and Sunday Times bestselling author of The Status Game, The Heretics, Selfie, and The Science of Storytelling. Together, they unpack how understanding status can help us build stronger, long-lasting relationships. Learn more about Will Storr's work here: https://g2ul0.app.link/lV7aQOFvTMb (00:00) Introduction (1:30) What Is Status and How Do We Define It? (2:23) Why Is Status So Important in Modern Society? (2:58) 1st PTC (3:22) How Status and Connection Impact Happiness (4:15) The Role of High Status in Tribal Societies (5:52) How Status Shapes Our Identity (6:56) The Difference Between Superficial and Meaningful Connections (10:20) 2nd PTC (11:44) Are We Doomed to a Culture of Doom and Gloom? (13:30) How to Handle the Loss of Celebrity Status (16:17) Navigating Multiple Status Games in Life (18:32) Sponsor - Tinder (19:33) The Link Between Status and Suicide: What You Need to Know (21:31) How to Support Someone Losing Their Status (22:24) 3rd PTC (22:54) Is Modern Dating Being Destroyed by Dating Apps? (24:41) Does Social Media Affect How We Behave in Real Life? (26:16) How Status Displays Differ in Hookups vs. Serious Relationships (30:23) 4th PTC (31:41) What Is 'Detect and Protect' Mode in Relationships? (34:44) Why We Crave Connection with the Same People (38:18) Why My Partner and I Decided Not to Have Children (42:51) How Childhood Unhappiness Can Lead to Adult Success (44:22) How to Overcome Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships (45:48) Why Loving Yourself Is Key to a Healthy Relationship (48:56) The Most Meaningful Conversation I’ve Ever Had (51:42) My Biggest Takeaways From This Discussion -- Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is the truth behind delaying sex in the early days of your relationship? Dive deep into the neuroscience of love, trust, and connection with Dr. Tara Swart, a renowned neuroscientist and psychiatrist. Explore the role of oxytocin and learn how neuro-plasticity is reshaping our brains and revolutionising our relationships. Dr. Swart provides practical tips on reigniting passion and maintaining closeness in relationships. Discover a neuroscientist’s secrets to sustaining a deep emotional connection with others and ensure your relationships thrive. Follow Dr Tara here: https://g2ul0.app.link/xkHuM1JgWPb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Sections: 00:00 Intro 01:57 How Brain Function Influences Relationships 04:44 Dr. Tara's Definition of Love Explained 09:00 Oxytocin: The Key Chemical in Relationships 12:24 The Crucial Role of Dopamine in Emotional Health 13:17 Understanding the Importance of Vasopressin in Human Bonds 14:14 Ideal Timing for Intimacy in New Relationships 24:30 The Impact of Brain Chemistry on Fatherhood 28:19 Effects of Pornography on the Brain 28:55 Brain Changes from Attending Sex Parties 33:33 The Science Behind Attraction and Scent 35:46 Factors That Shape Our Perception of Attractiveness 40:03 Tinder Ad 40:51 Exploring 'The Source': How to Access Your Inner Power 42:22 Manifesting Desires: Practical Steps to Bring Dreams to Reality 51:33 The Tetris Effect: How Activities Shape Our Brains 57:16 How to Align Actions With Your Manifestation Goals 1:03:01 Social Contagion: Understanding Its Influence 1:06:25 Modern Strategies to Manage Cortisol 1:12:53 The Impact of Cortisol on Brain Function 1:19:58 Two Surprising Facts You Didn't Know 1:22:39 Most Memorable Conversations: A Look Back 1:23:42 Key Takeaways from Paul's Discussion 1:27:34 Adobe Advertising Review Sponsored by: Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/ Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Gabor Maté, a world-renowned expert on trauma, stress and addiction, reveals how childhood experiences and emotional suppression deeply shape our relationships and overall wellbeing. He explains how unresolved trauma from our early years can lead to stress and challenges in adult relationships, and offers powerful insights on how embracing vulnerability and authenticity can foster healing and transformation in both one's personal life and relationships. Whether you're dealing with relationship challenges or seeking personal growth, Dr. Maté’s wisdom provides a path to healing and improvement, by understanding the root causes of emotional suppression and learning to live more authentically. Follow Gabor’s work here: On Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/BHvQI3ZySNb/ ..and his latest book, The Myth of Normal - https://g2ul0.app.link/gOaWoFWySNb/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod — 00:00 Introduction   01:52 Career Change Tips for Older Adults   04:27 How the Mind-Body Connection Impacts Relationships   11:51 How to Choose the Right Partner for Long-Term Happiness   13:08 Why Authenticity Matters in and out of Relationships   16:19 How Childhood Attachments Shape Your Adult Relationships   18:25 How to Be Your Most Authentic Self the Power of Saying No   28:41 How Social Status Affects Relationships   29:54 Different Types of Stress and How to Manage Them   36:37 Is Your Partner Hurting Your Well-Being   44:54 How to Develop a Secure Attachment in Relationships   49:10 The Health Effects of Avoidant and Anxious Attachment Styles   54:03 The Link Between Addiction and Attachment Styles   01:02:15 What Is Trauma and How Does It Affect You   01:05:41 How Many People Are Living with Trauma Today   01:07:30 How to Heal from Trauma and Move Forward   01:12:02 Important Topics That Need More Attention   01:15:24 Most Memorable Conversations on Relationships   01:17:24 Key Takeaways from This Discussion — Sponsored by: Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul/ Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices