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| 22 May 2024 | is the diabolical lie that we can work or stay home? | 00:59:47 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss the speech Kansas City Chiefs kicker, Harrison Butker, gave at a Catholic university's commencement ceremony. In it, he states that women have been "diabolically lied to," and we agree, but not in the way you think. You can read the full text of Butker's speech here! Listen to Black Disability Politics here! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 22 Feb 2023 | If I don't commit, I'll never let you down! | 00:30:13 | |
In today's episode, Crystal and Laura take a question from someone whose stay-at-home-husband needs reminding around the house and someone whose partner is avoiding commitment! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 17 Apr 2024 | am i the a-hole for choosing the bride over my friend? | 00:39:59 | |
In this week's episode, we look at an AITA where someone's caught in a sticky friendship/family situation chock full of emotional labor. We talk about friendship, family, communication and empathy and all of the nuance that exists in our relationships. Read the AITA here! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 10 Aug 2023 | Are your standards a "you problem"? | 00:35:42 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss a TikTok that recently went viral--over paper plates versus real dinner plates. Is making the little decisions something we should "JUST GET OVER" or is there an opportunity for connection there? Resources Mentioned: Books Mentioned on This Episode Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 01 May 2024 | why is knowing everything MY job? | 00:38:25 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss the mental load of parenting and the learning that is often assumed by partners socialized as female. We also talk community building through gardening, and, of course, neurodivergence! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 30 Nov 2023 | I have anxiety and he has ADHD! Now what? | 00:29:49 | |
In this week's episode, Crystal and Laura take a caller question about ADHD, executive function and standards. They also chat about "sad dad apartments" and share a few resources like their holiday toolkit and Crystal's Fair Play for Neurodivergent Couples Workshop!Referenced in this episode:Miserable Shrew shirtKarl Havoc from I Think You Should Leave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 13 Sep 2023 | Why are we obsessed with Joe Jonas and Sophie Turner? | 00:41:25 | |
Why are we obsessed with divorce? And why did dresses not have pockets until recently?! These answers and more on this week's episode with guest Olivia Dreizen, CEO of Fresh Starts Registry. Resources Mentioned: Books Mentioned on This Episode Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 19 Oct 2023 | What would you do if your partner kept something BIG from you? | 00:31:59 | |
In this week's episode, Laura tells Crystal all about what happened in a bombshell episode of 90 Day Fiance, The Last Resort. Have you ever made a decision you've kept from a partner? What happened when they found out? Videos from this episode: Yara's video here and Jovi's video here! You can watch clips of The Last Resort here! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ **We do not endorse any kind of harassment or bullying of anyone mentioned on our podcast!** --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 28 Sep 2023 | What if I can't leave?--Building Community | 00:31:32 | |
This week, Crystal and Laura take a question from a listener who is wondering how to keep herself afloat because her partner isn't interested in changing. Resources Mentioned: Books Mentioned on This Episode Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 28 Jun 2023 | Married Single Motherhood? | 00:36:46 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal talk with Kate Adelle, a single mom, about the concept of "married single mothers." In response to a recent IG story shared by Crystal, Kate talks about how she has been impacted by single motherhood, how she experineced motherhood from within a marriage relationship, and how lack of systemic policy protection and support in the US effects ALL parents. *NOTE* The audio in the episode may seem choppy--we had file issues! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 31 May 2023 | The gift of curiosity with worldshaker | 00:37:05 | |
On this episode, Crystal and Laura interview Michael Vaughn, AKA worldshaker, AKA Bluey-Dad! We talk about patriarchy, the power of curiosity and what it means to give a complete gift. You can find Michael on IG and Tiktok at as well as through the links here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 07 Feb 2024 | what if your values don't align? | 00:31:11 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss the reality show 'Welcome to Plathville' and the recent divorce of Olivia and Ethan Plath. They explore the high-control environment and fundamentalist Christianity portrayed in the show, as well as the impact of coercive control and gender roles on their relationship. The conversation delves into the importance of autonomy and principles, highlighting Olivia's bravery in standing up for her beliefs. They also discuss the negative reactions from the media and comment section and the culture of othering and self-hatred that often arises in these situations. The episode concludes by reflecting on the need to question traditional roles and beliefs and the importance of ethical alignment in relationships. You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 29 Mar 2023 | Do your kids see you as a Mad Mommy? | 00:25:56 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura talk about what it feels like when your kids see you as "mad mommy" and a write-in win from a follower! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 07 Dec 2023 | Is it funny to joke about domestic violence? | 00:33:18 | |
**TW: Domestic violence and sexual assault In this week's episode, Crystal and Laura talk about Matt Rife's now-famous domestic violence joke from his Netflix special and provide an example of an how a comedian can make a joke about something challenging and do it well. We also discuss the phenomenon of the missing stair! STICK AROUND UNTIL THE END TO HEAR THE MISSING STAIR! You can see Matt Rife's joke here! You can see Daniel Sloss's joke here! You can watch Daniel Sloss's comedy here! You can listen to "The Missing Stair" by Phoebe Hunt, Melody Walker and Bonnie Sims here! Check out RAINN for resources for victims of DV and sexual assault. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 21 Jun 2023 | Redefining Hope - A Shiny Happy Breakdown Part 1 | 00:40:15 | |
In this episode, Laura and Cyrstal talk about what it means to seek hope when your core understandings are disrupted. We talk about the Shiny Happy People documentary mini-series which focuses on the Duggars and the way The Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP) turned a TLC show into ministry. TW: religious trauma and abuse Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 16 Nov 2023 | Am I a Bad Wife, Bad Mom, Bad Feminist BAD BAD BAD? | 00:33:02 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura talk about a trending video where a mother-in-law takes over when the wife is away! They also talk about the self-loathing trap when everyone and everyone encourages you to "just be grateful" for what you've got, even when you notice there might be some room for improvement. To watch the trending video referenced: Matty J's Single Mum video Mentioned in this episode: Zach Watson of @realzachthinkshare Clare Brown of @ClaraBelleToks Set Boundaries Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 26 Jul 2023 | If it's so hard, why don't you work and I'LL stay home?? | 00:35:07 | |
Have you ever heard or had a partner tell you directly, "Well if you hate taking care of the kids so much, why don't YOU work and I'LL stay home and relax?" Laura Danger and Crystal Britt discuss this zero-sum fallacy and what it means for BOTH partners to have buy in to a life you're building together--and how you BOTH get something out of that. Resources Mentioned: Books Mentioned on This Episode Statistics on Father Engagement Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 06 Dec 2023 | Introducing: Time to Lean | 00:00:30 | |
Educator Laura Danger and therapist Crystal Britt tackle your household messes. We provide unsolicited advice to tiktokers and reality tv couples and answer anonymous calls and questions from listeners like you! Send in an anonymous question and we'll propose solutions. Send in your questions! Follow us on IG! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 19 Jul 2023 | Mommy FB Groups and Daddy Dumb-Dumbs | 00:38:24 | |
HEY MAMA! Join Crystal and Laura in this episode to talk about the dark recesses of the internet known as Mommy FB Groups to touch on the inequity of educating parents on...parenting. Mentioned in this Episode: Books Mentioned on This Episode Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 10 Jan 2024 | what does a woman drive you to do? | 00:40:59 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss a WILD answer to a question on an old episode of Family Feud. Why isn't it funny? Mentioned in this episode: Emotional Labor Workshop Recording and Resource with Rose Hackman Teaching To Transgress by bell hooks You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 11 Oct 2023 | Are you hiding out in the bathroom right now? | 00:32:45 | |
Laura and Crystal talk about hiding out in the bathroom! They do a bit of over-sharing but in the name of discussing the old trope that dads are always hiding out in the bathroom. They also talk about the value of equal autonomous time and the benefits of identity outside of your roles. "While Daddy Was Pooping" book Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 21 Feb 2024 | wait, what is the internet for? | 00:50:57 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a viral video, separation anxiety, and the existential crisis that is the internet. Join us in the fray! Mentioned in this episode:
You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 31 Jan 2024 | why are love languages so insidious? | 00:47:25 | |
In this episode, Laura interviews Crystal about the Love Languages episode (yes, we're still talking about it!) And they also discuss how "checklist advice" hurts men more than women. Mentioned in this episode: You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 31 Aug 2023 | When is it okay to "blast them" on the internet? | 00:42:07 | |
How do we feel about wife strikes? How do we feel about shaming partners on the internet? All your burning questions answered in this episode! Resources Mentioned: Cindy Ditiberio's Post Post-Partnership Books Mentioned on This Episode Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 13 Mar 2024 | i'm fine, so why are you mad? | 00:43:30 | |
In this episode, we discuss common commentary along the lines of, "I'm not sure why you're so upset! I do what you ask. I never make demands of you. I'm fine, so it kind of seems like you're maybe just mad... to be mad." Oh, and the ole' "You're no fun anymore." EEk! Mentioned in this episode: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/02/10/business/gen-z-dating-pay-etiquette.html You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 13 Dec 2023 | Do You Have Oldest Daughter Syndrome? | 00:47:07 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss Oldest Daughter Syndrome, enmeshment, boundaries and Mama's Boys. As a reminder, information presented in this podcast is NOT a replacement for individualized mental health treatment! Thanks to our sponsor for this episode, SmartLabels! Find them here! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 05 Apr 2023 | Patriarchy from the Pulpit | 00:37:27 | |
In this episode, Crystal talks with Jon MacDonald, pastor of Restoration Church in Redlands, California. Jon has been a pastor for over 20 years and speaks with Crystal today about equity, justice, and how inflexible gender roles hurt couples. Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 21 Sep 2023 | Dealing with a father-in-law | 00:23:14 | |
Laura & Crystal discuss a listener's question, where her FATHER-IN-LAW suggests her kids need her to work less...but she and her husband split work evenly. What now? Resources Mentioned: Books Mentioned on This Episode Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 29 May 2024 | isn't that just called being a mom? | 00:50:54 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal dive into executive function, anxiety spirals and the complicated space of trying to emotionally regulate as a parent with your emotionally dysregulated kids. Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources One of us is a therapist, but not YOUR therapist--nothing in this podcast is meant to be a replacement for individual therapy. If you have concerns or an emergency, contact 911 for help. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 05 Jun 2024 | what if my needs are making him want to crawl out of his skin? | 00:41:42 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a listener question. She had a friend to visit for a few days and it ended very poorly. What is she supposed to do if she's dying for connection and the way she's getting those needs met are making him a bit miserable? Get ad-free episodes and join the conversation over on Patreon! Join our Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 12 Jun 2024 | RE-RELEASE: someone on the internet said screens were BAD, is that true? with the Gamer Educator! | 00:50:31 | |
Ash Brandin, @thegamereducator, joins Laura and Crystal to talk about the nuances surrounding screens. A video recently went viral on Tiktok where a creator made some serious claims about the harms of screens. Ash chats with us about how you can set boundaries around screens, how screens can be tools and who's really to blame for the significant role they play in our lives. Ash creates amazing content on their IG page. Go check their website out here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 19 Jun 2024 | is it "over-packing" or is it making sure we have a good time? | 00:55:31 | |
In this week's episode, we discuss the challenges of packing! Why do we pack what we pack? What goes into the process, and why? Packing is a task that's full to the brim with care, consideration, and preparation. A well-planned, well-packed trip means everyone has a better time. Referenced in the episode: Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources One of us is a therapist, but not YOUR therapist--nothing in this podcast is meant to be a replacement for individual therapy. If you have concerns or an emergency, contact 911 for help. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 26 Jun 2024 | how can we get the whole family to see the work? | 00:44:50 | |
In this week's episode, we discuss how we can course-correct when balance arrives, but the perception of it is still skewed. What work is being noticed? What is being ignored? What can we do to shift the narrative, especially with kids? To use the Persist web app and get a discount, use code DANGER15 https://www.timeforpersist.com/ Referenced in the episode: Releasing the Mother Load by Erica Djossa Parenting Beyond Power by Jen Lumanlan Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources One of us is a therapist, but not YOUR therapist--nothing in this podcast is meant to be a replacement for individual therapy. If you have concerns or an emergency, contact 911 for help. Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 03 Jul 2024 | am I the a-hole not cancelling the cleaner when my partner asked me to? | 00:40:29 | |
This week's episode focuses on an AITA found on reddit where the poster wanted to know if she was a jerk for asking her partner to let a cleaner into their flat when he was tired. This one was murky and we're dying to hear what you think! (Join the conversation over on Patreon. You can sub for free!) Read the AITA thread and comments here! Mentioned in this episode: Everything and Nothing at Once by Joel Leon Get ad-free episodes and other perks on Patreon! Join our Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 10 Jul 2024 | what if every conversation we have is a competition? | 01:21:37 | |
In this week's episode, we have a tweet submitted from a listener regarding initial reactions in communication. We discuss collaborative versus competitive communication and how it deeply effects how men and women communicate. Mentioned on this episode: Gottman Article on Accepting Influence From a Partner Study on Collaborative vs Competitive Communication Get ad-free episodes and other perks on Patreon! Join our Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 17 Jul 2024 | do they get to complain if they didn't help plan? | 00:50:59 | |
In this episode, we delve into the mental load and invisible pressures mothers and primary caregivers often face. We'll listen to a woman whose kids and partner complain about the sleeping conditions at the Airbnb they did nothing to help pick! We discuss the challenges of planning vacations, managing finances, and making family decisions, emphasizing open communication, shared responsibility, and empathy. Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 24 Jul 2024 | how should we handle finances? with Ellyce Fulmore | 00:48:36 | |
In this episode, Laura speaks with Ellyce Fulmore, author of the national bestseller Keep Finance Personal, a book dedicated to helping neurodivergent individuals approach their finances without shame! Find Ellyce @ellyce.fulmore, at Queerd Co., and on her podcast, Dopamine Dollars! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 31 Jul 2024 | what's going on down at Ballerina Farm? | 00:44:09 | |
On this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss the viral Ballerina Farm Time's Article. We delve into the unequal division of labor, the pressure on mothers to prioritize their kids and role as mom above all else, and the lack of autonomy and self-care for mothers. Mentioned on this episode: The viral Time's article on Ballerina Farm Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 07 Aug 2024 | what is the back-to-school mental load? | 00:44:57 | |
On this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss all things Back-to-Schoo! If you have kids or teach them or babysit them or are around them, you have felt the heavy mental load of this time of year. Join us in discussing this episode in our Patreon, meet up with us on Tuesdays to connect and ask questions-AND you can listen to our episodes AD-FREE for as low as $5 a month! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 14 Aug 2024 | how do you decide who should decide? | 00:50:47 | |
Join us as we dive into the rollercoaster ride of decision-making in relationships! We tackle the hot topic of who does what at home and the mental juggling act that often leaves one person feeling like a circus performer. We'll chat about why it's crucial to have teamwork and open communication and explore the difference between handling the practical and emotional sides of a partnership and the art of finding a balance that works. Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Listen to A Fresh Story Podcast Join us on Patreon! Get ad free episodes, exclusive updates and resources! Register for upcoming book clubs! Links to register and for info on the books here! Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 21 Aug 2024 | will an equitable chore split save us? | 00:49:44 | |
In this episode, we chat about the often-overlooked value of care work and the challenges of juggling work and family life. We share our personal stories about dealing with job insecurity, finding affordable childcare, and the mental toll it all takes. We also touch on how the pandemic has affected women’s roles at home and why it’s so important to push for fair pay and better support for care workers. It’s all about recognizing the value of care work and coming together to create a more balanced and caring society. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 28 Aug 2024 | how is care the highest form of capitalism? an interview with Toi Smith | 00:51:44 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal are joined by Toi Smith to discuss capitalism, motherhood, and collective liberation. How are they related, and how do we see them affect our day-to-day as we provide care in our homes? Toi Marie Smith is a growth and impact strategist whose work centers on doing life, business, and motherhood differently. She works with people whose work is countercultural, liberatory, and revolutionary in nature...or people who desire and are committed to moving their work or lives in that direction. You can find Toi @toimarie on Instagram and at ToiMarie.com. Care: The Highest Stage of Capitalism Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 04 Sep 2024 | am I the a-hole for divorcing over tightened lids? | 01:14:20 | |
This week's episode, we cover an absolutely WILD RIDE of an Am I The Asshole where a woman runs to the internet to ask if she's the asshole for divorcing her husband over lids that are too tight. This may be a spoiler... but in this episode, we also delve into the topic of GASLIGHTING!! A link to the original post Wikihow resource on gaslighting For AD FREE episodes, resources and SO MUCH MORE; Join our Patreon! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 11 Sep 2024 | am i the a-hole for refusing to wake him up? | 00:45:11 | |
Is it your partner's job to make sure you get to work on time? In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a Reddit post about a woman who refuses to wake up her boyfriend in the morning, which has caused him to almost lose his job. They explore the dynamics of the relationship and the expectations placed on each partner. They also touch on the importance of allowing children to experience failure and develop problem-solving skills. The conversation highlights the need for self-advocacy and discernment in navigating relationships and personal growth. The conversation revolves around the dynamics of responsibility and accountability in a relationship where one partner has ADHD. The discussion highlights the challenges faced by the partner with ADHD in managing time and tasks, as well as the impact on the other partner. It explores the importance of self-awareness, communication, and mutual understanding in navigating these challenges. The conversation also touches on the need for individual independence and the potential consequences of relying too heavily on a partner for basic responsibilities. Links: For AD FREE episodes, resources and SO MUCH MORE; Join our Patreon! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 18 Sep 2024 | am i asking too much for them to follow through on their word? | 00:58:59 | |
In this episode, we respond to a listener email from someone who is feeling stuck. Their partner says they're on board, but actions don't reflect those commitments. We explore the complexities of relationships, focusing on the mental load, communication dynamics, and the concept of domestic equity. They discuss the challenges default partners face, the importance of setting boundaries, and the role of systems like Persist and Fair Play in managing household responsibilities. What do you do when you're feeling gridlocked and considering options? We talk about the power of community support and self-care - REAL self-care. Use code DANGER15 for a 15% discount to access the Persist web app. Get yourself a copy of Fair Play here! For AD FREE episodes, resources and SO MUCH MORE; Join our Patreon! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 25 Sep 2024 | i'm fine, so why are you mad? - REPLAY | 00:43:30 | |
In this REPLAY episode, we revisit a discussion we had about common commentary along the lines of, "I'm not sure why you're so upset! I do what you ask. I never make demands of you. I'm fine, so it kind of seems like you're maybe just mad... to be mad." Oh, and the ole' "You're no fun anymore." EEk! Mentioned in this episode: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/02/10/business/gen-z-dating-pay-etiquette.html You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 02 Oct 2024 | i'm considering divorce - am i overreacting? | 01:06:12 | |
In this week's episode, Crystal reads Laura a story from a woman who faces a disastrous situation while recovering from abdominal surgery and heads to the internet to ask if she's overreacting for being upset. We don't want to spoil it... but she's definitely not overreacting. Get Ruth Whippman's book, Boy Mom For AD FREE episodes, resources and SO MUCH MORE; Join our Patreon! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 09 Oct 2024 | how can we build a village in a nuclear-family-obsessed culture? | 00:58:20 | |
In this episode, we interview Jessica Daylover, polyamorous storyteller, educator, mother of two and so much more - including Chief Executive Officer of the Nuclear Fusion App! Jessica shares her journey through motherhood, the challenges of raising a medically complex child, and her vision for community building through the Nuclear Fusion network. The conversation explores the importance of chosen families, the struggles of modern parenting, and the need for vulnerability and emotional intelligence in building connections. It's time to rethink traditional family structures and the value of community support in raising children. Join us as we discuss the question that's constantly on our minds - how do we connect with people and build the community connections we so desperately want? Check out the Nuclear Fusion App here! For AD FREE episodes, resources and SO MUCH MORE; Join our Patreon! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 16 Oct 2024 | am i wrong for freaking out over a looming natural disaster? | 01:00:30 | |
In this conversation, Laura and Crystal explore the dynamics of a viral video that highlights the emotional labor women often experience in relationships, particularly during crisis or stressful situations. Have you ever felt gaslit by a calmer partner? This one's for you. Links: Time to Read Book Club for October: Ace by Angela Chen! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 23 Oct 2024 | am I the a-hole for being upset he forgot my 40th birthday? | 00:42:57 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss Birthday Blues, expectations for partners, and how to move forward if they let you down. Links: Time to Read Book Club for October: Ace by Angela Chen! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 30 Oct 2024 | what are signs the relationship is over? | 01:04:14 | |
Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Resources Mentioned This Episode: DBT Assertiveness Scripts: https://dialecticalbehaviortherapy.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/DBT-IE-4-Assertiveness-Scripts-and-Interpersonal-Rights-compressed.pdf DBT Boundaries Worksheet: https://dialecticalbehaviortherapy.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/DBT-IE-8-Interpersonal-Boundaries-compressed.pdf DBT What Are Interpersonal Boundaries?: https://dialecticalbehaviortherapy.com/interpersonal-effectiveness/interpersonal-boundaries/ Gottman Four Horsemen and Antidotes: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-the-antidotes/ DBT TIPP: https://dialecticalbehaviortherapy.com/distress-tolerance/tipp/ Distress Tolerance STOPP: https://www.hey.nhs.uk/wp/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/OHC_STOPP.pdf Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 08 Nov 2024 | what if my partner voted against my best interest? | 01:02:58 | |
A very special episode, post-election. What now? Resources: National Domestic Violence Hotline What Are My Values? Free Worksheet from Us Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 13 Nov 2024 | if you're so tired, shouldn't you be laying down instead of washing the walls? | 00:57:09 | |
In this episode, we explore a viral video featuring a woman who always says she wants to relax, yet when the moment finally comes, she can’t help but get up and keep doing something around the house. We talk through the relatable feeling of never truly switching off, especially for women who feel that even their downtime at home has to be “productive.” Join us as we spiral through the compulsion to stay busy and how deeply it’s tied to societal expectations. For AD FREE episodes, resources and SO MUCH MORE; Join our Patreon! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) We <3 Data! Find some of the research we cited below! https://dornsife.usc.edu/news/stories/moms-cognitive-burden-chores/ Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 22 Nov 2024 | am i the a-hole for not helping when my partner says they're overwhelmed? | 00:51:20 | |
This week's episode has us grappled with some conflicted feelings. We discuss an AITA where someone asks if they're being a jerk by not helping their partner who says they're overwhelmed by the holiday tasks - the same tasks the original poster handled on their own for years. Scratch your head and spiral out along with us. **Oops, you may notice this week's episode had the wrong audio on it! SORRY ABOUT THAT! - Laura You can find the resources we mention here: On our Patreon! For AD FREE episodes, resources and SO MUCH MORE; Join our Patreon! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 27 Nov 2024 | am I the a-hole for wanting time alone? | 01:02:20 | |
We have a listener-submitted question! Queen of Group Projects wants to know if she should feel bad for wanting her partner to do his own tasks ON HIS OWN, rather than together. Crystal and Laura discuss the purpose of delegating tasks, the benefits of alone time, and how to connect outside of the mundane day-to-day! For resources and SO MUCH MORE; Join our Patreon! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 04 Dec 2024 | RE-RELEASE: what's going down at Ballerina Farm? | 00:45:22 | |
On this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss the viral Ballerina Farm Time's Article. We delve into the unequal division of labor, the pressure on mothers to prioritize their kids and role as mom above all else, and the lack of autonomy and self-care for mothers. Mentioned on this episode: The viral Time's article on Ballerina Farm Marie Claire's Article on the Evie Cover Sara Peterson's Article Re: Ballerina Farm Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 11 Dec 2024 | is it queer to like your wife? | 00:33:41 | |
You know the phrase "Happy Wife, Happy Life?" Well in this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss a refreshing take on this tired saying by creator @livunderthestairs. They discuss how it can be reframed more equitably, emphasizing shared responsibilities and emotional labor in relationships. Mentioned on this episode: The Tragedy of Heterosexuality Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 18 Dec 2024 | is it ball-busting to ask you to clean on the weekends? | 00:31:07 | |
Laura and Crystal discuss a viral video that ironically covers not only the Nag Paradox but also the double-standard myth that working outside the home should make a partner exempt from working inside the home with the other partner. Mentioned on this episode: Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 08 Jan 2025 | is this mother-in-law the a-hole? | 00:48:52 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss the complexities of family dynamics, particularly in the context of a viral gender reveal and the emotional labor involved in navigating relationships. They explore the concept of the 'mama's boy' dynamic, the importance of setting boundaries, and the cultural contexts that influence these interactions. The conversation also touches on the emotional toll of familial expectations and the need for self-awareness in managing relationships, especially during the holiday season. Mentioned on this episode: Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 15 Jan 2025 | Three year olds are fine on their own, right? | 00:54:45 | |
In this episode of Time to Lean, we share a wild story about a woman who had a three-year-old dropped into the seat next to her on a flight—without a word from the parents. 😳 This unbelievable situation had us thinking about the intense pressures of parenting in public spaces like airplanes. We dive into the anxiety of trying to "prepare for anything," the mental load we carry as parents, and how societal expectations shape the way we navigate these moments. We also explore the implications of neglecting child safety and how weaponized incompetence shows up in unexpected ways. Buckle up for this one—it’s a ride! Here's the link to the original video! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 21 Jan 2025 | if it's a joke, why aren't we laughing? | 00:53:35 | |
In this episode, we discuss a viral video of a stand-up comedian, whose punchline is how incompetent dads are. We're not laughing. Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 29 Jan 2025 | is it true that if he wanted to, he would? | 01:05:09 | |
In this weeks episode Laura and Crystal read a message from a follower and explore the idea of “if they wanted to they would.” We also give some of our thoughts on how to self-reflect to find solutions that work for us. Get the "Check Yourself: Guide to Understanding & Supporting Your Own Behavior" resource here! Statistics on Queerness and Neurodivergence The Birds, Bees, and the Elephant in The Room by Rachel Coler Mullhulland Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 05 Feb 2025 | what if they're trying but i need MORE? | 01:14:12 | |
Ever wonder if your standard for your partner is too high? Too low? Just right? In this episode, Laura and Crystal explore relationship dynamics when special circumstances like chronic illness and mental health are involved. How can a partnership like this be equitable in the domestic labor arena? Can it? Listen and tell us what you think! Get the "Check Yourself: Guide to Understanding & Supporting Your Own Behavior" resource here! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 12 Feb 2025 | when is weaponized incompetence emotional abuse? | 01:10:59 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss recent viral videos that beg the question: When exactly does weaponized incompetence turn into emotional abuse? Is it always emotional abuse? Resources from this Episode: Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 19 Feb 2025 | is dating dehumanizing? | 00:53:39 | |
Is there such a thing as "The One?" Is there such a thing as "choosing well" when it comes to a partner, or are we always looking to trade up to a "better model?" Laura and Crystal discuss a quote from Dean Spade's new book, "Love in a F*cked Up World." Resources discussed in this episode: Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 26 Feb 2025 | is it time to focus on men's health? | 01:06:00 | |
Laura and Crystal discuss an NPR article that caused quite a stir this week by focusing on men's health while women's rights and freedoms continue to be a target of the current presidential administration. Is it fair? Let's get into it! Mentioned in this Episode: NPR: Men Die Younger Than Women Miss Diagnosis: A Systemic Review of ADHD in Women Want to discuss this week's episode with us? Join our Patreon! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 05 Mar 2025 | is elon musk a bad dad? | 00:31:27 | |
We know this probably isn't your most burning question, but did you see this video of him last week? Laura and Crystal discuss the double standard of Elon's public displays of fatherhood, and the tokenism of his pro-natal movement. Y'all, we're tired. Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 22 Mar 2023 | How much grace do you need?! | 00:35:56 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura talk about the what it's like when one person is expected to facilitate extended family relationships and what happens when someone asks for grace while they adjust to better balance around the house. You can find a link to Crystal's downloadable resources here! You can find additional downloadable resources on Laura's site, too! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 20 Dec 2023 | Should you lie about who's giving you gifts? | 00:27:38 | |
In this week's episode, Crystal and Laura take a listener question. If you've been lying about getting gifts from your spouse for years, at what point do you stop? Your kids probably know by now, right? Maybe? What would YOU do? Some things mentioned in this episode: You can find resources for talking about the holidays ahead of time here! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 23 Aug 2023 | All Moms Work: Debunking the Scams of Motherhood with Raena Boston | 00:56:59 | |
We're so excited to welcome Raena Boston to the podcast! This episode has everything--gentrification, capitalism, racism, unpaid maternity leave that leads to paid paternity leave, and the scam of having it all. Resources Mentioned: Raena Boston - The Working Momtras Books Mentioned on This Episode Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 15 May 2024 | are "boy rooms" really all that messy? | 00:56:32 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal talk about "Boy Room", a show by Rachel Coster. It's an Instagram series that explores the messy and often disturbing world of boy bedrooms in New York City. Comedian Rachel Coster interviews men in their 20s and 30s about their messy living spaces. The rooms are filled with clutter, trash, and filth. The videos have gained a large following and have sparked discussions about messy habits, gender stereotypes, and the dynamics of relationships. Answer our prompt. Do you think these videos are FUNNY or SAD? You can read about Boy Room here! You can get your own copy of All About Love by bell hooks for your side table here! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 16 Aug 2023 | Is housework skilled work that's worth learning? | 00:33:59 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a voicemail submitted by a male listener--who says he never considered that caregiving work could be a skill that could be practiced and learned. Is it worth learning? Resources Mentioned: Books Mentioned on This Episode Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 22 Nov 2023 | Do you HAVE to have sex? | 00:39:42 | |
We can't wait for you to listen to this one--are you obligated to have sex with a partner, just because they're your partner? In this episode, Laura and Crystal talk about the nuances of consent, pillars of safe sex, and bodily autonomy.Referenced in this episode:Red Flags of Abuse From NNEDV Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 24 May 2023 | Are these the worst vows you've ever heard? | 00:31:39 | |
In this week's episode, Laura and Crystal show you the viral video of one man's HORRIBLE vows. From there, they touch on purity culture, rape culture and consent! Content warning for mentions of abuse and assault, including coercion. Content warning for discussions of domestic violence. Domestic Violence Resources Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 05 Jul 2023 | It's All Made Up - A Shiny Happy Breakdown Part 2 | 00:46:23 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal continue their conversation around Amazon Prime Video's "Shiny Happy People" documentary mini-series which focuses on the Duggars and the way The Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP) turned a TLC show into ministry. TW: religious trauma and abuse Resources/Sources Mentioned in this episode: Linda Fruits Instagram (@fruitsofmotherhood) Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 17 May 2023 | Getting Momfluenced with Sara Peterson | 00:36:43 | |
In this week's episode, Crystal and Laura chat with Sara Peterson, author of Momfluenced: Inside the Maddening, Picture-Perfect World of Mommy Influencer Culture. Sara has written about motherhood and feminism for The New York Times, Harper's Bazaar, The Washington Post, and elsewhere. She also writes the newsletter, In Pursuit of Clean Countertops, where she explores the cult of ideal motherhood. She lives in New Hampshire. You can find Sara on Twitter or Instagram. Subscribe to her amazing newsletter here!Heather Armstrong, mentioned in this episode, passed away a few days after recording. Sara wrote about Heather here. Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 03 May 2023 | AITA? My husband travels without me! | 00:35:05 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura answer an Am I The A**hole from Reddit and react to a message from a listener. You're definitely going to want to hear this one! Check out: Donnellwrites on IG! Bonniedoes on IG! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources Grab a Fair Play DeckInterested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video!Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 14 Jun 2023 | Someone on the internet said screens are BAD. Is that true? with The Gamer Educator! | 00:50:31 | |
Ash Brandin, @thegamereducator, joins Laura and Crystal to talk about the nuances surrounding screens. A video recently went viral on Tiktok where a creator made some serious claims about the harms of screens. Ash chats with us about how you can set boundaries around screens, how screens can be tools and who's really to blame for the significant role they play in our lives. Ash creates amazing content on their IG page. Go check their website out here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 02 Nov 2023 | What's Your Tolerable Level of Permanent Unhappiness? | 00:41:36 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal take a listener message and discuss what happens when a partner isn't interested in your hobby. We talk about different types of problems in relationships, as well as personal examples of these problems in our own lives. You can find the Gottman article discussed: Here! Here's Shar Henley's video! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ **We do not endorse any kind of harassment or bullying of anyone mentioned on our podcast!** --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 12 Apr 2023 | Therapy Disasters Part 1 | 00:31:45 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura revisit the Mad Mommy image and then read your write-ins about your experiences with couples therapy! This is part 1 of a two parter! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean Podcast on Instagram @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 31 Mar 2024 | is it a case for older men or is it a case for girl bossing? | 00:52:40 | |
Crystal and Laura discuss a viral article from The Cut titled 'The Case for Marrying an Older Man'. The article argues that marrying an older man provides women with ease, flexibility, and liberation from the burdens of womanhood. Is that what's it doing?Mentioned in this episode:Rose Hackman's article, I was 14. He was 22. If it wasn't grooming, what is? bell hooks ain't I a womanHow to rent without credit! https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLBowGyy/ Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 15 Mar 2023 | What's the sick protocol? | 00:42:29 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura talk about how to handle sickness in a... healthy way:) and a sticky situation with a blended family. Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Note!! Laura's computer crashed right before we hit record so she's on her phone and the sound isn't as high quality as we would have hoped on this episode! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 10 May 2023 | Platonic & Pleasurable with Dr. Julie Bruene | 00:37:03 | |
In this week's episode, Laura chats with Dr. Julie Bruene! Julie is the cohost of the Your Doctor Friends podcast where she and Dr. Jeremy Allard share approachable health information and interview amazing experts. Laura and Julie talk about the power of friendship and pleasurable movement. Check out Platonic by Marisa G. Franco PhD Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 06 Mar 2024 | Is Love truly Blind?? | 01:08:09 | |
By popular demand, Laura and Crystal review Love is Blind, season 6! Just in time for the finale, get all the hot takes on the newest season! You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 08 May 2024 | the best part about being a dad is not being a mom. | 00:53:05 | |
In this episode, we hear a clip from a podcast where a man VERY PROUDLY explains that he only changes diapers if he's in a good mood, doesn't wake up with the babies during the night and acts like a child. We talk about the importance of reciprocity and the value of care. Fill out our feedback form here! Here's the video of the podcast we play on this episode! Mentioned: Disability Intimacy, edited by Alice Wong We Do This Til We Free Us by Miriame Kaba Constellations of Care by Cindy Barukh Milstein Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer Data on parenting!More Data on Parenting! You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 15 Feb 2023 | Parenting Pinterest Boards | 00:33:26 | |
Welcome to Time to Lean! Start here. Laura and Crystal talk about Fair Play, how they came to find it, how it changed their relationships, and why they want to help you clean up your shit. Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 27 Mar 2024 | what if he's trying, but it still isn't working? | 00:43:10 | |
In this episode, we discuss a listener's email--she wants to know what to do if her partner is on board but, because of his ADHD, isn't able to follow through. We also touch on our own examples of how each of our neurodivergence shows up in our partnerships--how can we take responsibility for our actions and behaviors while also balancing disabilities and deficits? Mentioned in this episode: You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 28 Feb 2024 | but what if they're doing it the wrong way? | 00:46:35 | |
Laura and Crystal discuss a comment left on Instagram--what happens when a partner insists on doing something in the house the "right" way? How do you tell if it's for a bigger reason than preference? Listen to find out! You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 12 Jul 2023 | What if he says this isn't fair? | 00:44:11 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a listener-submitted question: She wonders if, after being the default partner for 20 years, her husband is justified in complaining that their proposed housework split isn't 50/50? What do you think? Resources/Sources Mentioned in this episode: Laura's Free Home Cleaning Checklist Gottman Institute (Couples Tips!) Time To Lean's Bookship.org List (Find Emotional Labor and Set Boundaries Find Peace here!) Emotion Sensation Wheel Pillow Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 07 Jun 2023 | Is patriarchy stopping men from dressing themselves? | 00:43:22 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura talk about the viral video where over 40 dads show up to 8th grade promotion wearing the same shirts. Why didn't these men dress themselves? This episode explores some of the ways patriarchy holds men back. Check out The Will to Change by bell hooks here! For a list of books about community, check out this book list! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean Podcast on Instagram @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 25 Oct 2023 | Who Gets a Sick Day? | 00:35:18 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal take a listener message and share a viral video. The topic: what's the deal with some people having access to rest and others not? Is it fair that one person can step away and the world falls apart and the same isn't true for the other? You can find the viral video discussed: Here! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ **We do not endorse any kind of harassment or bullying of anyone mentioned on our podcast!** Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 17 Jan 2024 | what if love languages are bulls**t? | 01:02:17 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Michael Vaughn (@world.shaker) discuss the Five Love Languages, and how it has the potential to damage your relationship! Find Michael at beacons.ai/worldshaker Mentioned in this episode:
You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 03 Jan 2024 | what happens when your partner lets you down? | 00:43:34 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a viral video when a partner asked her husband to do ONE THING--and he couldn't do it right. What do you do when you ask for help and are let down? Mentioned in this episode: The Most Hated Man On The Internet Documentary (CONTENT WARNINGS ALL OVER THE PLACE HERE GUYS) You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 14 Feb 2024 | shouldn't i just be grateful? | 00:46:16 | |
Laura and Crystal discuss a listener's question that we hear all. the. time. "if my partner is better than they used to be, shouldn't I just be grateful?" You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 19 Apr 2023 | Therapy Disasters Part 2 | 00:35:58 | |
This episode is Part 2 of reading your therapy disasters! Crystal and Laura read your write-ins about your experiences with couples therapy! Ever had a therapist tell you your standards are too high? YIKES! For a list of books about community, check out this book list! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean Podcast on Instagram @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 26 Apr 2023 | Are you parenting a Spicy One? - with Mary Van Geffen! | 00:42:10 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura interview Mary Van Geffen! Mary is an international parenting coach and parent educator for overwhelmed moms of strong-willed & Spicy Children™. You can find resources through her website and on her Instagram account! Mary is all about helping moms gain confidence to choose gentle, respectful parenting especially if they weren’t raised that way. Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean Podcast on Instagram @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 26 Oct 2023 | Men Get to "Opt Out" of Childcare? | 00:33:51 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss two articles that are VERY different in the way they talk about men and women and childcare (or lack there of). Don't forget to rate and subscribe wherever you listen! Resources from this Episode: National Domestic Workers Alliance Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ **We do not endorse any kind of harassment or bullying of anyone mentioned on our podcast!** --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 27 Dec 2023 | Can a situational hostage ever really win? | 00:40:39 | |
In this week's episode, we talk about the pillars of the "Man Box", discuss a viral prank and cover the topic of "situational hostages". Have you ever been put into a position where you have to suppress your own discomfort in order to keep safe? In this episode, we reference an event we hosted with Rose Hackman, author of Emotional Labor. You can access the replay on our website! You can pick up a copy of Rose's book here! Watch I Think You Should Leave on Netflix. :) You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 10 Apr 2024 | what if i sacrificed my identity to serve my family? | 00:34:27 | |
Laura and Crystal discuss submissions from our audience concerning loss of identity through self-sacrificing. Can we serve others, enjoy it, without sacrificing or losing who we are?Mentioned in this episode: Financial Abuse ResourcesFresh Starts Registry Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 07 Sep 2023 | Does capitalism ruin everything? | 00:27:17 | |
A listener writes in to ask if there's any other recourse when her partner will only take on domestic labor if his family is watching 👀 Resources Mentioned: Books Mentioned on This Episode Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||