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04 Feb 2022
Unleashing Your Inner Wild Femme
00:28:16
Every woman is a force of nature. Within each of us resides a wild, primal, untamable essence. She goes by many names. Some call Her Kali. Some call her Lilith. Some call her the Dark Goddess.
Whatever you choose to call Her, this Wild Femme part of you is sacred.
This essence is as unique as your fingerprint. She's here to keep you on track; to guide you home to your deepest desires and ensure the embodiment of your erotic power.
When we experience our Wild Erotic Femme essence as "negative" and try to suppress or avoid it, this energy gets blocked.
When erotic energy is blocked it can result in bouts of destructive rage and or depression and even chronic health issues and eating disorders.
But we can unleash this energy and harness its power. When we invite this part of us into our lives and give Her a place to play, it liberates our vitality and creativity and aligns us with our desires and purpose.
In this episode I riff on:
the archetype of the Wild Femme
my Inner Bitch and why She's my BFF
why our wild Femme is the keeper of our desires and our inner boundary boss
the Wild Femme and erotic power
rage and passion
giving your rage a place to play
finding the desire under the complaint
how to invite your Wild Femme into your life/tips and tools
harnessing the power of the erotic force of nature
Book your FREE Pleasure Queen Activation Session with me here.
Check out my online program Second Spring Queenhere.
10 Feb 2022
Up-leveling Your Self Love to Self Romance
00:19:49
Self love. It's everything right? Never before have we had so much support and information on learning to care for ourselves and love ourselves for who we are.
That's beautiful. And ...I want to dial it up a bit. Have you ever considered self romance? Like really truly being able to put yourself into a swoon? To fall head over heels in love with yourself?
This goes way beyond eating well, exercising, meditation and affirmations. What's missing most in the wellness space, I feel, is our sensuality. It really is the master key to thriving in our lives and relationships.
Here it is my friends, my Valentine's Day episode! Welcome to the Self Romance Revolution!
I Riff on:
My musings on the V Day version of love
Cultivating a more sustainable source of love
Up-levelng self love to self romance
Falling head over heels in love with yourself
The new paradigm of true partnership and connection and the role of self romance
The master key to self romance
Love is an essence. It's who you truly are
Sensuality as a portal into a state of flow and gratitude
The power of-visceral gratitude
Sensuality as the Holy Grail
Sensuality as a yoga practice
On the mat and off the mat practice
Mindset and Sensual myths
The importance of embodiment
The importance of breathwork
Realigning with the Goddess you were born to be
Sensual breath work and tidal rhythm
The Polyvagal Theory and sensual breath
Tapping into the power of your own essence
The power of pausing
The 5 minute breath break
Some links for you, love!
Download The Heart of the Goddess Breathwork practice here
Book your FREE Pleasure Queen Activation Session with me here.
Check out my online program Second Spring Queenhere.
We're in the midst of a sensual revolution. Can you feel it?
More and more people are getting interested in healing what blocks them from experiencing sensual pleasure. Never before has there been such widespread interest in healing the wounds that keep us from the type of intimacy we crave. With ourselves, with others, with nature, with life itself.
The recent Netflix series; Sex, Love & Goop is a harbinger of a new wave in wellness. Folks want to heal. It's time.
There's work to be done. And we can do it together. In today's episode I dive into my five pillars of sensual healing.
I riff on:
Why we all need sensual healing
How the current Astrology supports this
Reclaiming the Body's wisdom
My 5 pillars of sensual healing( Breath, Rhythm, Movement, Sound, & Pleasure
A biohacking tip to disrupt the hamster wheel of stress
Creating sacred space for sensual practice
Sacred Sensual Movement™
Some links for you:
Download the Shakti Reset Breathwork practice here
The Key to Jade Egg Success/The Power of Home Practice
00:19:44
The Taoist Jade Egg Practice is one of the most curative and empowering practices on the planet for the female body. Yet so few women ever get to experience what's possible with this practice.
It can be so seductive to think that you need to go to Bali, Tulum, or Thailand to explore this practice. It's simply untrue. And buying into that myth can be a huge distraction. And keep you stuck.
Don't get me wrong, Retreats can be awesome. I love travel and can't wait to get out my passport again, but what I found to be true is that women only get sustainable results with this practice when they commit to a consistent home practice. When we can step out of the narrative that sensual practice is a novelty and a diversion and take it on as a form of yoga, we set ourselves up for success.
Sure it take effort to carve out time and space in your busy life to cultivate your sensuality. But when you claim your domain, and decide to do so, your life will change from the inside out.
The results that are possible with the Jade Egg Practice are deeper and longer lasting than a transformation. It's an unfolding. A remembering of who you are at the core. And the magic happens right in your own backyard.
I riff on:
the beauty of creating your own space for sensual practice
how were conditioned to give our power away and seek outwards for healing
how the wellness industry perpetuates this
how this derails us and postpones our healing
the lasting “transformation” happens in your own backyard
how it’s not about “transformation” it’s an unfolding; a remembrance of who you are
the high energetic cost of doing this work abroad
the power of claiming your domain and deciding to make space in your life for this work
the ripple effect of home practice
a practice tip for busy moms
how home practice cultivates sustainable results
how home practice builds power
the power of honoring your sensitivity and having your own space
how home practice promotes integration with your family and life
my protocol for a successful home practice
Ready to start your home practice? That's what my program Second Spring Queen is all about!
Check out my online program Second Spring Queenhere.
Book your FREE Pleasure Queen Activation Session with me here.
What is Feminine Energy? Why Should We Care? And How Do We Tap Into It?
00:25:20
In this episode I delve into the mysterious, elusive, and controversial topic of Feminine Energy. Feminine Energy is infinite life force energy. It's a continuum. And it's in all of us.
The Sanskrit word for this energy is Shakti. And the female body has potent access to it. We access this energy through our sensuality. Pleasure is a portal.
We access this energy when we honor the sacredness of our bodies.
We access this energy when we unleash our passion and give it a place to play.
We get sustainable access to this energy through sensual practice.
The way this energy expresses through you is as unique as your fingerprint.
And midlife is the perfect time to cultivate it! Most women on the planet are cut off from this power source. But it doesn't have to be that way.
How do we know when we're not accessing it? Here are some clues..
Feeling like you're in go mode all of the time and feeling unsatisfied and ungratified
Feeling disconnected to your sensuality and pleasure
Feeling like your libido is MIA
Feeling cut off from your creativity
Feeling malnourished
Feeling unseen/unheard
You have difficulty creating boundaries
Your emotions feel overwhelming/exhausting
You feel disconnected to your unique beauty
You struggle with addiction to substance, to work, to social media...
Your inner critic is running the show
You feel unworthy or "not enough"
You struggle with feelings of scarcity
You struggle with chronic health issues and or fatigue
You have trouble sleeping/relaxing
You feel like you're on high alert all of the time
The list goes on. I truly feel this the root of so much of our suffering.
If you feel like you're cut off from your Femme you're in good company. It happens to all of us. And it's so important to get that it's not your fault!
We are crawling out of 5,000 years of patriarchy, dear Queen. It's going to take some work and a whole lotta love and compassion to turn this mess around.
But I want you to know that the Goddess is back. She never really left. She just had to go underground for a bit. Shakti is indeed rising. And She lives in you.
This is the stuff that the world is starving for. It's essential for rebirthing our lives and rebirthing our world.
I riff on:
What is femme energy?
Why should we care?
How do we tap into it?
The two faces of the femme and how they work in cahoots
How the female body has potent access to it by design
Why should we care?
What it feels like to be disconnected to you femme
The healing power of this energy
How to tap into it
The Taoist Jade Egg practice & the 5 key moves of vaginal mastery
Some links for you:
Download the Shakti Reset Breathwork practice here
heck out my online program Second Spring Queenhere.
Book your FREE Pleasure Queen Activation Session with me here.
Manifesting With Pleasure aka Sex Magic/3 Simple Steps
00:20:30
We're in the midst of a collective rebirth right now. A new way of being human on the planet is emerging. And healing our sensuality is at the heart of it all.
We're being called into deeper intimacy with ourselves, with each other and with nature; the beautiful planet we call home.
During this transition things are bound to feel a bit (or a lot) chaotic. As things shift and dismantle it's bound to get messy.
Healing is never neat, tidy or straightforward. We have to be willing to come undone, to somatically unwind, to be raw. That's all part of the process. And we were born for this.
And yet...amidst all of the chaos it's never been more important to have a vision.
As astrologer Caroline W Casey says "Imagination lays the tracks for the reality train to follow."
If we we don't have a vision; a clear read on our desires, we're going to end up somewhere we don't want to go. We may even get completely derailed.
If you think that the manifestation game is only for millennials and the wealth coaches they follow, I hear you. There's a lot of noise out there. Some of it is a bit annoying, immature and misguided. So, dear Queen, that's why we need you in this game.
Your vision matters. Your desires matter. Your turn on matters. Massively. The ripple effect you have on your domain is immense.
I feel that turned on seasoned women will guide us through this wild mutation with grace and joy. With the lived wisdom we've accumulated, the big love in our hearts and the creative life force of our sexual energy, we are indeed a force. And a source of much needed guidance for the younger generations.
It's never been a better time to get clear on our vision and desires and get real with manifestation. When we power that with our sensual pleasure, we've got something really powerful going on.
That's what this episode is all about; the power of intentional turn on.
I dive into:
How we sabotage gratitude
The power of embodied gratitude
Why pleasure is the ultimate manifesting hack
The frequency of visceral gratitude
The ancient roots of sex magic
Why is sex magic is practical magic
Three simple steps to manifest with pleasure
How to take it next level with a sensual ritual
Enjoy! xo, Dianne
And if you're resonating with what I'm saying here in the show, I've created a free training for you to take it deeper. It's super juicy, and robust. A must-watch for any turned-on seasoned woman!
What I cover:
Why pleasure actually matters.
What Sacred Feminine Energy is and how do we know when we’re cut off from it.
Why we want to tap into this innate sensual power within.
Reclaiming the Sensuality of the Breath/Sensual Breathwork
00:33:13
Sensual sovereignty begins with the breath. It's the master key to activating the Holy Grail within and restoring our natural multi-orgasmic nature.
Orgasm is a continuum. It's a wave- like life force energy that's available to all of us. When we restore our connection to the natural tidal rhythm of our breath we learn to open the pathways of this energy to flow more freely in our bodies.
When we journey into the magnificent vessels of our bodies with the practice of conscious connected breath, we ignite our natural capacity to heal on physical emotional and spiritual levels.
When we invite our sensuality into the practice, it brings breath medicine to a whole new level. Our sensuality is the secret sauce that most people are missing. When we bring our sensual selves into the process we're coming from a place of grounded feminine power. And that has a profound effect on our healing.
Sensual Breathwork has the power to dissolve long held emotional and physical blocks to our pleasure. When we learn to receive the breath we can melt tension and trauma that has been holding us captive for decades. And do so in the most gentle, loving and compassionate way. When we open to the breath, we open to life.
When we breathe in the way we are naturally designed to breathe and learn to truly receive the medicine of the breath, we set ourselves free and reclaim our birthright of being connected to and supported by the orgasmic wave of life.
The keys to our queendom are literally right under our noses.
In this episode I dive into:
How we block the magic of the breath and why that makes sense
How we are naturally designed to breathe
How our natural breath heals our physical body
How our natural breath heals our emotional body
How our natural breath activates our sacred essence
How we are designed to breathe in ways that can put us into stats of ecstasy in seconds
The power of the nose inhale
How our armoring blocks our pleasure
A simple way to start to turn it around
How to invite in the sensuality of the breath with the sense of smell
Breathing into the heart and womb
How the breath teaches us to receive and surrender to pleasure
What is the practice of Sensual Breathwork™?
Why is it so powerful?
Catching the wave of the breath and entering your flow state
Letting go of the "fix it" syndrome
Befriending our blocks
How the breath helps us meet and heal our physical & emotional wounds
The wisdom of our emotions
How the subconscious mind runs us and how the breath gives us access to healing
How the breath is a portal into our divinity aka our Inner Goddess
The sacred experiment of seeing the breath as a lover
Why We Sabotage Our Pleasure and 4 Tips to Turn it Around
00:24:57
Is this you? The idea of embodying the power of your sensuality, experiencing more pleasure and ecstatic, expanded full body orgasm sounds great. Sign me up!
You're so on board with the idea. And yet, when it comes time to "do the thing." whether it's a Jade Egg practice or any sensuality practice, you hit a huge wave of resistance. You simply can't find the time, you find something more interesting to do etc.
Soon after your excitement of "hell yeah" to joining a program, or starting a new practice, fades you find yourself wrestling with some version of a strong " hell no."
Firstly, it happens to all of us. You're not alone. I have yet to meet a woman (including me) who hasn't had to meet her resistance face to face when starting her sensual journey.
Secondly, this, my friend is where the rubber meets the road. This is where the Yoni Yoga practice begins.
Thirdly, there are ways to turn it around.
In this episode I dive into this topic with gusto and give you some navigational tips so you can stay the course and get the goods you deserve. Here's what I cover:
The main reason we sabotage our pleasure
What does sabotaging our pleasure look like?
Why most women's Jade/Yoni egg ends up sitting in the drawer
The toxicity of feeling isolated in our resistance
Why reclaiming our pleasure is a bold move
The "no time" excuse and how to remedy it
The power of micro-dosing pleasure
How we actually create new pathways for pleasure
How resistance lurks in the subconscious mind and runs the show
Common myths/unconscious beliefs about our sensuality that sabotage our pleasure
Why dealing with resistance is simple but not at all easy
The toxicity of "Venus Bashing"
How awareness is the first step
The power of sensual mantra
How we are designed for exquisite pleasure
How to choose pleasure in the moment
My favorite somatic practices to shift to pleasure
Enjoy and let me know how it lands! Comment on my blog here.
Sign up for Free The Vital Goddess Masterclass here Get back into your pleasure with Tantric Shaking here Explore my Free training on Sacred Sensual Movement here. Check out my previous episode on Sensual Breathwork here.
06 May 2022
Going Barefoot for Vibrant Sensuality and Lifelong Libido
00:32:17
You may want to kick off your shoes and socks for this one! It's time to celebrate your sexy feet! Yes you heard me right; your feet!
Your feet are incredible; we're talking twenty six bones, thirty three joints and seven thousand nerve endings in each foot! They are the most important portal to connecting with the life force energy of sweet Mother Earth. When fully activated your feet can provide you with a wellspring of vitality, emotional wellbeing, and sensual pleasure.
Re-wilding and enlivening your feet is one of the best things you can do for your overall posture, health and radiance. Not only that it's a powerful way to care for your nervous system, create safety in your body and experience and more sensual pleasure.
For the past two years I've been a bit obsessed with my feet. Barefoot hiking has become a big passion of mine and after listening to this episode you'll understand why. Here's what I cover:
Why going barefoot is one of my favorite sensual healing practices
Why your feet are a masterpiece; a work of art
The 7,000 nerve endings in each foot as a portal into sensual pleasure
Your sentient feet; your hands that touch the Earth
Why you need to start smart and go slow
Why your feet need movement
The feet/pelvis connection and full range of motion
How going barefoot has drastically improved my balance and agility
How going barefoot has toned my core
When our feet are in lockdown, our pelvis is in lockdown
How going barefoot has healed my knee and hip issues
Allowing the feet to do what they were born to do
The power of Bubbling Spring aka Kidney One points to nourish our libido
How going barefoot helps cultivate our flow/pleasure zone aka our parasympathetic state of our nervous system and make it our default
How going barefoot helps us nourish our Yin and libido
How going barefoot helps us rejuvenate and even sleep better
How going barefoot reduces inflammation
How going barefoot helps prevent heart disease
How going barefoot helps with autoimmune issues
How going barefoot helps with emotional stress and supports mental health
The emotional benefits of re-wilding and connecting to our inner wild child
Barefoot and first and second Chakra healing
Barefoot and belonging
Connecting to the Great Mother through going barefoot
Starting small, soft and smart
An amazing bootcamp for your feet
My favorite minimalist shoe company to transition safely
Some resources for you: Check out Sacred Sensual Movement™ here Join Petra Fisher's Fix Your Feet Bootcamphere Find Petra on Instagram here Download a short PDF guide that I create for my clients: 3 Tips to Re-wild You Feet here Here's an image of those amazing Bubbling Sprig/Kidney 1 Points My favorite company for barefoot shoes: Xero Shoes
09 May 2022
The Art of Yoni Mastery aka Sexual Mastery for Women
00:18:13
We live in a mechanized world with a primarily mechanized view of the body. That view doesn't serve us when it comes to sensual pleasure, orgasm and all things Yoni. Science has brought us far in so many ways, but when it comes to our truly embodying the source of our feminine power, it becomes an obstacle.
Yoni Mastery is not a science. It's an art. If we truly want to experience what our bodies are capable of we need to bring back the beauty, the poetry, the rapture, the nuance, the mystery. We need to embrace the sublime moves of the Yoni. Her moves are not mechanical, they are fluid, wave-like, pulsating. And when you allow your Yoni to move in the way She needs to move, you activate the multi-orgasmic ocean within. You unlock the feminine codes within you and you remember.
We can learn to unlock the deep mysteries of the Yoni and artfully play this exquisite instrument of ours. It's a learnable skill just like in music or dance. There are scales and basic steps that can open the door into creating your own artful embodied expression.
When we let go of the mechanical lens of the body, embrace the inner artist and cultivate the fluid power of the Yoni, we are on the creative and circuitous path of Yoni Mastery.
In this episode I explore:
The limitations of science and the need for art
Moving beyond the mechanistic view of the body
Reclaiming the beauty and poetry of the Yoni
Mastery as an unfolding process
Yoni Mastery as a movement art
Learning to play your instrument
The Shakti Core ® Method and the art of Yoni articulation
The power of precision
The multidimensional moves of the Yoni
The 5 Key Moves of Yoni Mastery
Moving beyond the Kegel
The wave-like, pulsating moves of the Yoni
Sensual breathwork; reclaiming the tidal rhythm of the breath and the Yoni
How to begin your Yoni Mastery journey
Resources:
Take the Vital Goddess Masterclass here Start your Yoni Mastery journey for free with The Ultimate Jade Egg Primer here Learn more about my Yoni Mastery program Second Spring Queen here Book your free Pleasure Queen Activation Session with me here
17 May 2022
How to Embody Your Erotic Power
00:27:29
The word embodiment gets used a lot. As does the word empowerment. They’re often used in the same sentence, but something is missing from the conversation. Something major.
What are we missing? The very thing that women have been shamed for, blamed for, vilified for and attacked for for thousands of years. The most powerful force on the planet; the Femme Erotic.
To reclaim our sensual sovereignty is to reclaim our magic. And that's no small thing. We have healing work to do. And much of it has to do with dissolving and transmuting generations of trauma and internalized patriarchy and cultivating honest emotional intimacy with ourselves.
It’s a tall order. And it’s an inside job. As tempting as it can be, we can't check out or selectively numb. Not if we want to feel fully alive.
To reclaim our pleasure, we need to be willing to feel the raw, the real, and the intensity of this human experience. When we do, we gain access to the wisdom of our emotions, the power of inner alchemy and we open the doors to truly experiencing embodied erotic power.
The collective pain body around human sexuality is immense. It can seem daunting to step into this realm, I know. And yet if we want to thrive and If we care at all about the generations to come, step into it we must. It’s time. And we don't have to do it alone.
Our sexual energy is not just about sex. It’s the foundation of everything. And very few of us have ever been taught how to honor it as sacred, cultivate it and build personal love-infused power with it.
There are ways, arts, that can support you in this. These arts have been violently subdued and submerged for thousands of years. Almost to a state of oblivion But they are resurfacing. We're starting to remember.
These are the arts of the Goddess of Love, Alchemy and Beauty. I call her Venus, but She goes by many names. And ready or not, She's coming back full force. And right on time.
I feel that this is the new frontier of women's empowerment. And there are some brave and beautiful women who are diving into this wild and vast terrain of the feminine and reclaiming themselves mind body and soul. These women are my heroes. They are changing the world by changing their world.
As Buckminster Fuller said: "To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.”
To heal our sensuality and reclaim our embodied erotic power is to build a new sustainable model by building internal power.
The kind of power and internal knowing that no one can ever take away from you. A state of being where you have a direct line to your divinity, know who you are and why you're here.
A state of being where you get to fully express and give your gifts from a solid foundation of inspired, aligned and pleasure-infused action.
In this episode I cover:
What is embodied erotic power? And how it differs from other types of power.
How embodied erotic power is sustainable power
Embracing the physical, emotional and spiritual
How your erotic/sexual energy is not just about sex
Eros and inner wisdom
Remembering and reconnecting
The missing link: our sensuality
The high cost of shaming our sensuality
Why we need sensual/erotic practice to anchor our power
Libido and Yoni Mastery
How we give our power away
Reclaiming the sacred vessel of your body
Coming home to our senses
Cultivating a pleasure mindset and conquering limiting beliefs about our sensuality
Investing in pleasure and the power of consistent practice
Fueling your passion with pleasure
Starting a mindful sensuality practice
Creating a sanctuary for your sensuality
Sacred self-pleasure
Pleasure as a portal i&
25 May 2022
How to Activate Your Feminine Magic
00:30:08
Your magic is powerful. We can call it Feminine Magic, Shakti Magic, Goddess Magic, Courtesan Magic,Yoni magic, Pussy magic, Erotic Magic Orgasm Magic, I use all of those words interchangeably .
Choice of word will vary woman to woman and ultimately the words are not that important. What is important is the embodied frequency. The lived essence of what these words represent and invoke.
What I'm taking about here is the feminine principle; this life force creative life-giving energy that's in every human. It contains the rich deep wise wilderness of our rawest emotions and the swirling nuances of our ecstasy in the same breath. It contains the codes of our soul's deepest yearnings. The content we need to fully live, create and express. And it's been violently suppressed for thousands of years.
Those of us in a female body have potent access to this essence. And when we chose to activate it, we ignite our innate powers of bringing spirit into matter, heaven down to earth, embodied love, alchemy and rejuvenation. We reclaim our birthright to co-create and dance with life. And allow life to dance through us. And our world is starving for it.
The word feminine can trigger a lot of folks. I get that. Through the lens of patriarchy it becomes weak, toxic even. I'm about reclaiming the wholeness of that word. And reclaiming the multi-faceted expressions of this sacred essence. The expression of the feminine in all humans is as unique as our fingerprint.
The suppression of the feminine has created an extreme polarization into the masculine principle. And that I feel is at the root of much of the devastation and suffering we're experiencing right now on the planet.
To be clear, I'm not dissing the masculine. I love the many strong and healthy expressions of the masculine. In myself, in the men in my life and in the world. I'm not suggesting that swinging into an overly polarization of the feminine is the answer, by any means. But I do feel that we are in dire need of a revival of the embodied feminine principle if we are to create a a more balanced and beautiful world.
In this episode I riff on:
Why feminine magic matters especially at midlife
Why I don't vibe with the word "Crone."
Why our magic matters to the world; especially now"
Why we're afraid of it
4 tips to activate your own magic
Find the book Sacred Pleasure here Find the book Emotional Intimacy here Sign up for my Free Jade Egg course here Access the Free Vital Goddess Masterclass here Book your free Pleasure Queen Activation session with me here
03 Jun 2022
How to Rock Your Radiance/ 6 Simple Practices
00:24:32
Your radiance is a superpower. It's your best protection. What ever is going on in the outer world, whether on the world stage or in your relationships, when your inner light is turned on you can meet it from a place of power and agency.
When you are "in your radiance" (and that looks different for every human) you can engage with world and do your life with a lot more freedom, presence, ease, flow, connection and love.
It's a vibe. And it's available to anyone who wants to cultivate it.
This is the realm of feminine magic, alchemy and magnetism. Where there is no need to push, force or struggle. Where we get to relax, lean back, steep in our essence and let love lead. When action is needed, it becomes inspired and aligned.
To cultivate our radiance is an art and a daily moment to moment practice. We need to train ourselves to get in tune with the frequency of approval. We need to get right with what's actually woking and what's beautiful and feel it in our bodies, celebrate it. bless it.
This is so not bypass or people pleasing. That comes from a place of nervous system disregulation and fear. Approval comes from a place of deep nervous system regulation and embodied pleasure. The more approval and pleasure you have circulating in your system, the brighter your radiance shines. This is gratitude on steroids.
When you are embodying your true femme essence and shinning your light, you benefit and the whole world benefits. This is spirit into matter, bringing heaven down to Earth. It's your birthright; your feminine genius in action. And you get to activate it and dial it up.
In this episode I riff on:
Radiance and the feminine
Approval vs disapproval and the effectives they have on our radiance
How approval activates the feminine
Yoni Puja; the ancient Tantric practice of Yoni worship
Yoni Massage, Orgasmic Meditation and approval
Approval vs people pleasing and fawning
Critical thought vs approval
The art of approval and building muscle memory
6 simple approval practices to dial up you radiance
Some resources for you to explore:
Download the Radiant Inner Smile Meditationhere Download the Heart of the Goddess Breathwork practice here Sign up for my Free Jade Egg course here Sign up for the Free Vital Goddess Masterclass here Book a Free Pleasure Queen Activation Session with me here
10 Jun 2022
Why Crone When You Can Queen?
00:28:55
How do you feel about the word Crone? Personally, it just doesn't do it for me.
I have no interest in Croning. The word feels horrible in my body. Dry. Contracting. Disempowering. It feels cringe-worthy. Like nails on a chalkboard. It feels out of alinement and simply untrue. It doesn't resonate with me on any level. So, although many would say I'm well within in my Crone years, I'm just not going there.
I'm choosing to Queen instead. The word feels much better in my body. Empowering. Expansive. Rich. Alive. Creative. Juicy. Fun. Exciting. Like setting off on an adventure. It feels true and in alignment with my vision and what I came here to do on the planet. So I claim it.
It's not that I'm against aging. I'm just into aging magnificently. Beautifully. Powerfully. Creatively. Orgasmically.
The third chapter of a woman's life can be her masterpiece. It can and ideally should be the richest, most joyful, most creative and sexiest chapter of her life. Where she gets to truly claim her freedom, be the artist of her life and to shine. Without apology. Without negotiating. Without all of the BS rules culture has put on her sexuality in an attempt to keep her down and cut her off from the her power source.
From the Taoist perspective midlife and menopause are called Second Spring. It's a spiritual and sexual rebirth. A time when a woman taps into the power of her sexual energy for real and rejuvenates, realigns and redesigns her life from the inside out. Her way. According to her deepest core values and desires. A time when she claims her freedom and her crown as Queen of her domain. A time when she gets to do her best and most creative work. Fueled by her desire, her pleasure and her orgasm.
Our sexual energy aka orgasm is our creative life force and the foundation of everything. It's how we co-create. It's the source of our manifesting powers. And our direct line to the Sacred Feminine. It's how we bring heaven down to Earth. And do what we came here to do with joy, zest and love. Its depths are oceanic. Its potential, limitless. And to rob a woman of that when she's just getting started is cruel and devastating.
It doesn't have to go that way. We don't have to Crone. We get to Queen. But we have to choose it. And we have to take our pleasure seriously.
As Dr. Christiane Northrup says in her book Goddesses Never Age:
"You are sitting on a throne of gold. It's your erotic anatomy."
I couldn't agree more.
Our sexuality and sensuality by design are meant to be a source of nourishment, enlightenment and empowerment.
Women by nature are designed to be multi-orgasmic creatrixes till the end. Getting stronger over time, not weaker. I'm all about Queening up! Are you with me? Then this episode is for you!
I riff on:
Why I don't resonate with the word Crone
Our lack of sensual education and how it impacts our vitality and purpose
Why you must come first
How embodiment of our sensuality is essential to thriving; especially at midlife
Download the Heart of the Goddess Breathwork & Breast Massage practice here
Sign up for my Free Jade Egg course
17 Jun 2022
How We Heal Trauma and Reclaim Our Pleasure
00:32:14
Trauma is a very complex and multi-layered topic. Although there are obviously many different levels of trauma we all carry it in our bodies. That's the human condition. And it's the number one thing that blocks our sensual pleasure and multi-orgasmic power.
What I've found to be true is that healing trauma is not a straight and narrow path. It's as complex as we are and everyone's journey is unique.
This journey is more art than science. And requires patience, courage, curiosity and time. It's an ongoing process, like yoga. There's always more to unfold. And we're not meant to go it alone.
In this episode I go into the specific body-based tools/healing arts that I use as a trauma-informed coach.
I riff on:
Why we need to relax the scientific approach to sensual healing and embrace the healing arts
Redefining orgasm and tapping into sustainable multi-orgasmic power
Yin power orgasm
How we nourish the libido via cultivation
How stress and trauma wreak havoc on our libido
Trauma Release Exercises (TRE)
The physical, energetic and emotional aspects of trauma
The four pillars of sensual healing
Sacred Sensual Movement
The 5 Key Moves of Vaginal Mastery
Sensual Breathwork
The healing power of pleasure
Some resources for you:
Learn more about Trauma Release Exercises (TRE) here. Learn more about Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) here. Learn more about Somatic Experiencing here. Check out Sacred Sensual Movement here Check out Sensual Breathwork here. Book your free Pleasure Queen Activation Session here Access the Vital Goddess Masterclasshere
24 Jun 2022
How We Get Out of Our Heads and Into Our Bodies/Embodied Alchemy & The Felt Sense
00:22:47
Feeling stuck in your head and cut off from your body? I hear you. This is such a modern human problem!
We crave pleasure, embodiment and connection but our racing minds just won't quit. Everyone I know, including myself struggles with this.
We've created a situation where the mind plays tyrant to the body. We analyze, problem solve, try to fix, stifle, numb and control our bodies to such a degree that we can barely feel her pulse, barely hear the infinite wisdom that's always trying to pour through.
The massive swing into an over polarization of the masculine principle and over identification with the mind has taken a toll. It's left us high, dry and disconnected. And it's killing us.
This top down control saps our life force and cuts us off from the pleasure and beauty around us and in us. And robs us of the experience of being fully alive. Which I feel is what most of us are truly craving.
In the words of Joesph Campbell:
"I don't believe people are looking for the meaning of life as much as they are looking for the experience of being alive."
Our minds are constantly telling us that we need to figure life out. Our bodies are always offering us an invitation to live.
We were born into these magnificent bodies not to control or manage them but fully inhabit them; to have a lived experience of spirit into matter; of soulful embodiment.
So how do we get there? How do we create more internal harmony and feel more fully alive? We need to forge new pathways of connecting with these amazing bodies of ours.
Learning the language of the body is a great way to start.
In this episode I share one of my favorite ways to do just that. I've seen some variation of this in every holistic sexuality and somatic healing practice I've explored from ancient to modern. It's simple and super potent but definitely not easy.
Learning a new language always feels awkward at first. But the effort is so worth it. No worries, I've got some great resources for you.
In this episode I riff on:
Our mind-dominant world
The empowerment and nourishment of embodiment
The Shakti Meditation
Orgasmic Meditation and the language of sensation
Healing trauma, inner alchemy and the language of the body
"Rage is passion without a place to play." If you've followed me for a bit you may have heard that one. It came to me at a time when I was raging up a storm. Pretty much on a daily basis. I was going through menopause and rage was a constant companion. I know that's not the way it goes for some women, but that's the way it went for me.
A teacher I was working with at the time shared that little piece of wisdom with me and it changed everything.
The seemingly random bouts of emotional flares we get throughout our lives, (highlighted as we navigate puberty, our menstrual cycles, motherhood and menopause) are guideposts.
During these storms the veil is thin and we can see a little more clearly what's going on. In our personal lives, in the systems we operate under and in the world at large. We see that it's all connected and we get a glimpse of what's not working. We see the cracks.
I now consider these emotional truth bombs to be wake up calls from Shakti. It's the wild feminine in us screaming for attention. Trying to set things straight. And we've been systematically taught to turn a deaf ear. To stuff those emotions, least we be called crazy. We're taught to ignore them, medicate them, and generally go numb to them. Or we just let it all rip (sometimes the perfect thing) and end up exhausted and in need of a damage control squad.
Our emotions carry power. And most of us have never been taught how to harness that power. Our emotions are messages meant specifically for us. And most of us have never been taught how to tune into their wisdom.
Emotional shut down and sexual shutdown go hand in hand. Our emotions have been oppressed and shamed right along side our sexuality. When we reunite them we become unstoppable.
The key to unlocking our emotional power lies in our ability to sensually and erotically embody them. To welcome them with rhythmic breath. To get in sync with them. To feel them fully, to move with them, dance with them, to give voice to them not though explanation but through primal sound. To allow them to unleash our wild nature and turn us on. When we do, our Shakti essence awakens and She speaks. And we know the right next move.
In this episode I riff on:
My body's reaction to Roe v Wade
The freeze response; functional freeze syndrome
How to thaw out
The power of breath and erotic movement
The wild feminine and emotional alchemy
How women are a force of nature
Meeting emotions with the erotic
Womb breathing
Tapping into the wisdom and treasure of our emotions
Getting clear on our true desires
Giving our passion a place to play
Your emotions are messages totally unique to you and only you can crack the code
What if all we desire is desiring us? What if the ultimate lover we yearn for has been here all along? What if the hottest romance is by design an internal experience?
I've been hesitant to share this part of my journey because it's a bit woo to be honest. It took me a while to wrap my head around this concept and put it into practice. But when I did, it changed everything. There's treasure here for those willing to play and explore.
The idea of a Twin Flame or Soul Mate is pretty seductive. Often when people speak of this the focus is external. The stuff of romance novels. That there is a perfect lover for us out there somewhere. We may have even had the experience of thinking that we've found it, only to have it all dramatically fall apart. That's usually how it goes. And it makes sense.
The people we meet and love through our lives can be connecting points to our sacred lover within. but can never substitute for it. We can get a taste of it, but the transient nature of peak experiences in human love can leave us empty, starving even, and pinning for more.
What if there was a way to tap into an eternal source of erotic/romantic nourishment? A way to feel more whole in every relationship experience? And have a lot more fun?
There is. Once we kindle the Twin Flame within we can experience the alchemy of embodied true love. A sacred internal union.
A love that is everlasting and unbreakable.
A love that can become our anchor, our assembly point.
A love that provides sustainable nourishment, adoration and devotion.
A love that can dissolve the fear-based scarcity mindset that systems of dominance and oppression thrive on.
A love that cultivates a resilient foundation from which we can connect with others, give our gifts and create magic in our lives.
As the old saying goes; above, so below, as within, so without. We're here to co-create. And we're starting to remember that.
What I've found to be true is that our hungry ghost quest and even our demands for true love and the deep yearning that accompanies them are not shameful. They're not a weakness or something to be mocked. Our yearning is beautiful and something to celebrate. I feel it's actually sacred; calling us home to the truth of who we really are.
Your soul mate has been here all along. The ultimate love affair is within. And it gets to be as fun, sexy, passionate and as hot as you want it to be.
Here I riff on:
How we lost touch with the sacred inner marriage
Cultivating a deep sacred love affair from within
The dance between Venus and Mars and how astrology can help us activate it
Falling head over heels; what's the message?
Inner alchemy and self nourishment
Bringing it alive with your five senses & breathwork
As we dive into this episode I invite you to leave your analytical mind at the the door. Let's step into the mystical Rumiesque realm of sacred romance and inner alchemy.
Some links for you:
Download your Twin Flame Breathwork Meditationhere
Learn more about my Goddess on a Mission Astrology Session here
Book your free Pleasure Queen Activation Session here
15 Jul 2022
New Earth & The Venusian Revolution
00:29:41
When we align with Venus we become part of the solution.
The challenges we face right now on the planet are intense to say the least. We're being asked to make radical changes. Bold changes.
We're being asked to create new ways of being human on the planet. And change the game we've been playing.
We're being asked to move from a scarcity/fear-based finite game rooted in domination and violence, to a love-based infinite game rooted in pleasure, beauty and partnership.
If that sounds impossible, I hear you. And how can I talk about Venus when the world is burning? I honestly believe that it's our only hope.
What I'm talking about is the redemptive and rejuvenating powers of the Goddess of Sensuality, Beauty & Love in all of Her expressions. Game master of this new game.
We've gathered a lot of evidence that supports the belief that human civilization is inherently hierarchical and violent. Not necessarily so.
Not many of us were taught this in history class, but there was a time when the Sacred Venusian arts of pleasure, beauty and love were practiced and life was good.
The ancient civilization of Minoan Create thrived from 6,000 B.C. to 1,600 B.C. According to archaeological research, in this golden age of Crete there was no evidence of a military, or a dominant sex or class.
This peaceful culture (that existed for far longer than our current society) had high art, architecture, wealth, natural cosmetics, fashion and jewelry. They enjoyed prosperous and cooperative trade in essential oils, copper (sacred to Venus), ceramics, and in a highly effective form of herbal birth control.
When the golden age of Crete fell 3,600 years ago Venus was exiled and Her sacred arts went underground.
But the current astrology says: Venus is calling. She wants Her crown back. She's calling for a love revolution; an infinite game. A way of being that embraces beauty and vital sensuality. And a deep erotic connection to the Earth.
It's personal and collective. It's written in the stars. And encoded in our bodies.
Here I riff on:
Why I'm calling New Earth The Venusian Revolution
The Minoan Crete Civilization and Sacred Pleasure
Why the current astrology supports the return of Venus
The exile of Venus and the rise of Dominator model
How the current astrology supports the return of Venus
Uranus in Taurus; a radical call for sensual embodiment
Saturn square Uranus; an emphatic invitation to do the work
Our stewardship to the Earth and its erotic nature
4 Tips to embody your personal revolution
Some links for you:
Here's a link to the book Sacred Pleasure by Riane Eisler
Here's a link to the book Renegade Beauty by Nadine Artemis
Learn more about my Goddess on a Mission Astrology Session here
Book your free Pleasure Queen Activation Session here
Your Personal Venus: Embodying the Goddess of Pleasure, Beauty & Love
00:43:30
Venus is emerging from a long slumber. After thousands of years of exile, She wants back in. She wants Her arts honored and She wants to express through us as embodied pleasure, beauty and love.
I've been calling this rise of Venus The Venusian Revolution and the current astrology speaks to this (see my previous episode).
This revolution will impact the collective but it starts at a very personal level. How does Venus want to move and express through you? That's what this episode is all about.
Here I riff on:
How Venus is calling us out
The power of embodied love and why it's needed now more than ever
How systems of domination cut people off from pleasure, sacred beauty and embodied love
How we've all gone numb in the process
How we've adopted a fear-based scarcity mindset as a result
The power of astrology as a tool of reclamation
Using astrology in your sensual practice
Honoring and feeding Venus
How Venus expresses through the astrological signs
Book your free Pleasure Queen Activation Session here
12 Aug 2022
Why Every Woman Needs a Temple
00:18:17
Hey! I'm back after a summer adventure in the mountains and ready to get back to work. Goddess style.
As we turn the corner into Virgo season, I'm feeling a strong craving for deep ritual. A desire to recommitment to sacred work.
For me that means getting back to the temple. Getting back in the rhythm and flow of regular sensual practice. In community.
As kid I always resented "back to school season." It seemed like such a rude interruption of my wild and free life.
Now I love this time of year. It ignites my inner Priestess.
This time of year is an opportunity to take stock. To get grounded and get precise on the exact practices that keep our internal flame glowing brightly.
To honor the body temple and to do the sacred work.
In this episode I riff on why every woman needs a temple and share some exciting updates and a massive discount to my program Second Spring Queen.
Let's dive in!
Some links for you:
Book your free Pleasure Queen Activation Session here.
I've got all the details of the Second Spring Queen Program laid out for you in a PDF manual. Download ithere
16 Aug 2022
The Rise of Goddess Yoga/ Reviving Feminine Spiritual Practice
00:23:31
We are living in very exciting times. A new way of being human on the planet is emerging. For over 5,000 years an extreme over polarization into the masculine principle has dominated all of our systems including our spiritual institutions.
What's been revered, worshipped and held sacred has been almost exclusively dictated through a masculine lens. This has led to a massive imbalance and a degradation of all things feminine. We see this in most major world religions and in most forms of yoga and meditation.
But things are shifting. And reviving the sacred feminine arts is at the core of this quantum shift. The feminine in all of us is on the rise. And right on time. In this episode we explore:
What is masculine spiritual practice?
What the masculine in all of us craves
What is feminine spiritual practice?
What the feminine in all of us craves
The three key inquiries of sacred feminine practice
The role of embodied pleasure
The role of embodied beauty
The role of embodied love
How the masculine finds spiritual bliss and nourishment
How the feminine finds spiritual bliss and nourishment
How this dynamic shows up in my marriage and our daily spiritual practices
Masculine breathwork vs Feminine/sensual breathwork
How most modern spiritual practices were created through the masculine lens at the expense of the feminine
Some links for you:
Book your free Pleasure Queen Activation Session here.
I've got all the details of the Second Spring Queen Program laid out for you in a PDF manual. Download ithere
17 Aug 2022
Releasing the Shame & Restoring the Sacred Feminine/ My Best Practices
00:33:26
Shame is a heavy vibration that can sabotage our vitality and pleasure and block us from living our best lives. I feel it's the number one thing that stands between us and full embodiment of our sensuality and the self love/body love that is a natural byproduct of that.
The hammer of shame has been used as a control program for thousands of years and it's come down hard on women's sexuality, sensuality and body image. When we add ageism to the equation it becomes even more toxic.
The experience of shame is a high activation of the nervous system. The response to an experience that causes shame puts us into state of numbness or shut down. This can greatly impact our pleasure, passion and our physical and mental health. Shame can be the result of our own experiences and passed down for generations. Regardless of its source, shame can be stored in the body for years, even a lifetime unless we release and integrate it.
Shame stored in the body can show up in many ways. One of the ways I often see it in my work (and I've also witnessed it in myself) is something I call "functional freeze"; a state of selective freeze where we can function in the world, but are cut off from the full aliveness that's available when we inhabit our sexual and sensual selves.
Here I riff on:
The control program of shame and the feminine
How shame dims our light
Where shame hangs out; a nervous system perspective and the Polyvagal Theory
How shame affects our ability to inhabit our "pleasure zone"
How shame blocks our motivation for sensual practice
Taking the shame out of shame; naming the elephant in the room
Shame and isolation
My favorite practices to release shame
Restoring the sacred as the ultimate antidote to shame
Cultivating an attitude of reverence, honor and worship
Reclaiming the ancient feminine spiritual arts and practices
The role of pleasure & how to micro-dose it
The role of conscious breath
TRE (Trauma Release Exercises)
The role of sensual movement/pelvic movement and shame & trauma release
The role of sound; primal sounding and Sexual Reflexology and the Taoist Healing Sounds
The role of the Jade/Yoni Egg practice
Yoni de-armoring and the Crystal Yoni Wand Practice
View a map of the nervous system through the lens of the Polyvagal Theory here
Book your free Pleasure Queen Activation Session here.
I've got all the details of the Second Spring Queen Program laid out for you in a PDF manual. Download ithere
22 Aug 2022
How I Committed to a Sacred Sensual Practice
00:29:55
Are you finding it challenging to make your pleasure a priority? I hear you! And it makes sense.
My short answer for why we face so much resistance to exploring our sensuality is this: 5,000 years of patriarchy.
The sacred feminine, our sensuality and natural erotic nature have been on the chopping blocks for generation upon generation. We carry our own trauma, blocks, and baggage and our ancestors' stuff too.
Thankfully, things are shifting. The full spectrum feminine is truly rising. It may have not been safe for our mothers, grandmothers and great grandmothers etc to live their true essence, go for their pleasure and live in alignment with their desires, but we can.
Our generation has the opportunity (and the tools) to turn this mess around. And we have a lot of cosmic support too. (See the Venusian Revolution episode.)
But we have some important decisions to make first.
In this episode I take you back in time to when I was going through menopause and how that experience kicked me onto the pleasure path. What began as a massive meltdown, ended up being a deep initiation into the sacred feminine mysteries.
Any journey worth its salt begins with decision and commitment. Here I'll share some important decisions I had to make to step onto (and stay on) the path.
I riff on:
How my menopause journey initiated me into the sacred feminine mysteries
Why I call menopause The Passion Portal
What’s missing in most clinical approaches to pelvic issues and menopause
The decision to make the sacred feminine and pleasure a priority
The decision that I’m a sensual being and pleasure is essential
The decision that pleasure is my responsibility (this was a big one)!
The decision to make space for the feminine and pleasure in my life
Some links for you:
Book your free Pleasure Queen Activation Session here.
I've got all the details of the Second Spring Queen Program laid out for you in a PDF manual. Download ithere
28 Aug 2022
Pleasure: The Ultimate Antidote to Ageism
00:26:17
If you’ve ever felt like you’re being put out to pasture, this one’s for you.
Ageism is toxic and it can stop a woman in her tracks just when she’s getting started. In this episode I dive into why I believe that sensual pleasure is the ultimate antidote to ageism.
Fear mongering around growing older, especially for women, is rampant. It’s really easy to buy into it and it’s really easy to internalize it. And I think that’s where it becomes the most toxic.
Our bodies are always listening and responding to our thoughts and the messages that come at us through society. If we have a narrative of ageism running in our brain it’s absolutely going to impact our physical health, our mental health, our radiance, our beauty, our libido, our creativity; everything.
Ageism is a form of shame and it blocks our chi, our life force energy. As we head into the third chapter of lives we get hard with with it.
Many women who come to my work say things like: “ WTF…I feel like I’m being put out to pasture but I inside I know that there’s got to be more.” That knowing is the feminine speaking. The part in everywoman who knows there’s more. And there is, so much more. And we have a lot more agency to claim that more than we’re led to believe.
It’s no secret that ageism sells. There are many businesses that profit massively on women being terrified of aging.
But it doesn’t have to go that way. When we turn towards our sensual pleasure we take back our power. Pleasure is truly the ultimate antidote.
Here I riff on:
The toxic narrative of ageism and how it impacts us
Ageism and shame
How ageism turns us into cash cows
Defying the lie and claiming pleasure
How pleasure connects us to our embodied feminine wisdom
Emotional intelligence and body wisdom
Pleasure and our inner compass
Yoni wisdom and seeing through the bull shit
The truth and wisdom of midlife rage
Desire as a guide
Two recent examples of how ageism was coming at me and my Yoni steered me in right direction
Some links for you:
Book your free Pleasure Queen Activation Session here.
I've got all the details of the Second Spring Queen Program laid out for you in a PDF manual. Download ithere
30 Aug 2022
Why You Don't Need to Boost Your Libido
00:28:17
Low libido is an epidemic and although lots of folks entering midlife report lack of libido as a chief complaint, there are many people, (record numbers actually) in their 20s and 30s with the same complaint.
The fist thing I want to say about low libido is this: don’t attribute it to your age. While your body may be going through a transition, that’s all it needs to be; a transition. It’s not “the beginning of the end.” The third chapter of your life can be the most sensually rich and sexiest chapter of your life. To give you a very personal example: my real sex life began at 40 and 19 years later, at 59, it just keeps on getting better. Prior to menopause, my libido was super low and erratic. I’ve learned a lot since then:)
The second thing I want to say is this: chronic low libido is a wake up call. The stresses of our modern high-tech lifestyle are hard on the nervous system and over time chronic stress depletes our mojo regardless of age.
While it’s natural, healthy and necessary to have periodic dips in libido, when we experience chronic low libido, our body is talking to us. By design we are meant to feel juicy, alive, creative, radiant available for pleasure much of the time. But the realities of stressful lifestyle, unprocessed emotions, stored trauma, digital overload and cultural narratives that shame our sensuality and sexuality can block the flow of our natural turn on. Is it any wonder why low libido is a chief complaint?
The third thing I want to say is this: we don’t need to boost our libido. The word boost indicates a temporary fix, like a double espresso or an energy drink. or any substance (herbal, pharmaceutical or otherwise) that “jacks us up” and creates an artificial surge of energy. We’ve had enough of that. And it’s not working.
What most women I know are craving is authentic, natural, sustainable passion. They want to feel sexy and good in their skin and they want that feeling to come from within; their own, authentic sexual essence. For this we don’t need to boost our libido we need to nourish, rejuvenate and cultivate our libido.
Our libido is the foundation of our health and happiness. To cultivate it we need to switch the focus from temporary hit to practices that promote long-lasting sexual vitality. This of course includes good nutrition, quality supplements (tonics/not boosts), exercise and time in nature. It also includes adopting a mindset and lifestyle of pleasure and practices that rejuvenate and cultivate our natural store of sexual energy from the inside out.
The Taoist Jade Egg practice has much to offer here.
Let’s dive in!
In this episode I riff on:
Why libido is so much more than “sex drive”
The low libido deficit that’s affecting all ages
The midlife invitation into a deeper dance of soul expression
How libido aka sexual energy can be cultivated and stored
The Taoist perspective and the 3 treasures
Libido, desire and spiritual path; the feminine perspective
Why so many women are giving from an empty cup and how to change it
How our sexual energy fuels our spiritual path
Cultivating a pleasure lifestyle and how it builds sexual energy
The Jade Egg Practice and energy cultivation
Pelvic lockdown
Vaginal Reflexology and the Taoist Healing Sounds: getting at the root cause and restoring vibrancy
Some links for you:
Book your free Pleasure Queen Activation Session here. I've got all the details of the Second Spring Queen Program laid out for you in a PDF manual. Download ithere
04 Sep 2022
How To Embody Your Feminine Energy
00:36:57
What is feminine energy and how do we tap into it and embody it?
Feminine energy is life force creative energy that's in every human. It contains the rich deep wise wilderness of our rawest emotions and the swirling nuances of our passion and ecstasy in the same breath.
It contains the codes of our soul's deepest yearnings. The sacred content we need to fully live, create and express.
And it's been violently suppressed for thousands of years.
The word feminine can trigger a lot of folks. I get that. Through the lens of patriarchy it becomes weak, dangerous, disempowering, toxic even.
The sacred feminine has not been fully expressed since the rise of dominator-style systems of patriarchy thousands of years ago. Full spectrum feminine has not been seen on this planet for ages. And its suppression was and is heavy handed.
There’s a lot of trauma to unpack and a lot conditioning to unravel so it’s no wonder that it’s such a confusing and at times triggering topic.
To reclaim the feminine is a bold path. There’s much healing to be done. And some are ready to do it.
Our world is rapidly shifting and at the heart of this shift is the rise of the sacred feminine.
Parts that have been lost are calling out for reclamation and embodiment.
It’s so important to understand that the expression of your sacred feminine essence is as unique your fingerprint. There is no one “right way” to be feminine.
However there are spiritual practices that will help you connect to your authentic expression of this sacred energy.
And embody it.
And have sustainable access to it.
That’s what this episode is all about.
I riff on:
The feminine energy/libido connection
Yin orgasm; our oceanic source of energy
How feminism liberated the masculine in women
Women who want more
Feminine spiritual practice
Riding the waves of emotion
Inner emotional intimacy and alchemy
Emotional lock down and low libido
Cultivating a pleasure mindset/busting the myths about our sensuality
The passion of the "dark" feminine
Micro-dosing pleasure
Sensual breathwork
Sensual movement
The Jade Egg/Yoni Egg practice
Some links for you:
Book your free Pleasure Queen Activation Session here.
I've got all the details of the Second Spring Queen Program laid out for you in a PDF manual. Download ithere
Join me in my new free membership Shakti Core Breathwork Journeys here
The Master Key to Awakening and Embodying Your Feminine Essence/The Power of Sensual Breathwork
00:18:38
Your feminine essence is multi-faceted. It's kaleidoscopic.
There is no one way or right way to be 'in your feminine." What I've found to be true is that the only way to discover, awaken, have sustainable access to and embody your own unique sacred feminine/Shakti essence is through feminine spiritual practice.
Feminine energy is passionate life force creative energy and it wants a place to play. It wants to move through us.
Some women have a predominately masculine essence and they might feel totally fine and fulfilled with masculine spiritual practices.
But there are many women who want more.
The masculine in all of us finds spiritual bliss by becoming the witness/observer of life. The feminine finds spiritual bliss in opening and becoming the sacred vessel life moves through.
Feminine spiritual practice is based in questions like:
How does sensual pleasure want to move through me?
How does light/radiance/beauty want to move through me?
How does passion and the full spectrum of emotion want to more through me?
How does yearning and desire want to move through me?
How does love want to move through me?
How do I open and become the vessel for all of it?
How does life want to dance through me?
The master key to experiencing all of it first hand is through our breath.
Here I riff on:
My new free membership: Shakti Core Breathwork Journeys
Why breath is the master key to embodying our sacred feminine
What's missing for many women in masculine spiritual practice
How the masculine in all of us craves emptiness
How the feminine in all of us craves fullness
How sensual pleasure is a portal into our sacred feminine
Breath and opening to receive
Developing emotional intimacy and intelligence
Riding the waves of the breath
Creating a spacious container for your essence to thrive
The Heart/Womb connection & love fueled by erotic power
Some links for you:
Check out my previous episode on Goddess Yoga/Reviving Feminine Spiritual Practicehere
An Ancient Practice to Nourish Your Libido & Cultivate Your Sacred Feminine Energy
00:22:08
Today I want to share with you one of my favorite feminine embodiment practices: The Taoist Breast Massage.
I’ve been practicing breast massage daily for years and it has completely transformed my physical breasts and my relationship with my breasts. It’s also deepened my connection to my sexual vitality, feminine essence and my experience of pleasure.
Breast Massage is one of the simplest and most effective ways to increase your self-love and radiance, balance your hormones, and nourish your libido naturally. It’s one of the foundational practices in the Jade Egg practice and an important gateway into becoming multi-orgasmic.
From the Taoist perspective, the breasts are considered to be our positive poles and the seat of our Love Chi for women.
This is how we give our gifts to the world and where we source our love and nurturing for ourselves and others. When we are armored in the heart, energy gets stagnant in the breasts. This not only affects our physical health, but also blocks our love, joy, and creative expression.
Breast massage circulates blood and lymph which is critical for breast health, but it also circulates chi or energy which keeps us vibrant and radiant.
Breast massage also promotes firming and toning of the breasts.
A regular Breast Massage practice is one of the best things you can do to nourish your libido.
Here I riff on:
The benefits of a regular mindful breast massage
De-armoring the heart
How our breasts absorb emotions and energy
The breasts and heart as positive poles/how we give our gifts to the world
The breasts/libido connection
Giving from abundance
Breast massage and the Jade Egg practice
Embodying your sexual vitality
Why breast massage needs to be about pleasure
How breast massage connects us to our feminine energy
How breast massage helps harmonize our hormones/The Love Hormone
Finding Time for Feminine Embodiment Practices/Tips for the Modern Goddess
00:25:36
No time for pleasure practices? I get it. Life can definitely feel that way. And while that can feel so true, we have a lot more agency around this than we've been lead to believe.
The idea of reclaiming our feminine can be so alluring and appealing and yet when it comes to "rolling out the mat" and getting into a regular rhythm with embodiment practices that support that, we hit a huge hurdle. We all do. "How can I find time for all of this?" is the chief complaint.
You're a modern woman. Finding time for feminine spiritual practice is going to be a challenge. Initially. Once you get in the groove, it will get easier, I promise!
In this episode we explore:
The chief obstacle to finding time for practice: mindset
Cultivating a pleasure mindset
Connecting to and strengthening the frequency of your Inner Pleasure Queen aka your Sacred Feminine
Convincing ourselves that pleasure is a valuable thing
3 decisions every woman needs to make on this journey
True sexual confidence is a rare thing. Although most folks crave it, regardless of gender or age sexual confidence can be confusing and elusive. That makes sense. In a society where sex is considered problematic of course it's going to be tough to access authentic confidence in our erotic expression. We're constantly bombarded with images and ideals of what sexual confidence is "supposed to look like" and most of it leaves us feeling pretty unsexy.
The main thing I believe most people are missing here is that sexual confidence is about authentic embodiment. It's an energy, a frequency and accessing it is an inside job. Sexual energy is life force energy and our expression of it is as unique as our fingerprint. It simply cannot be borrowed or bought. It needs to be awakened and it needs to flow. And there are practices for that.
For women with a predominately feminine essence it's all about feminine spiritual practice. For lifelong sexual confidence (and spiritual bliss) we need practices that allow us to open to the ecstasy and intensity of life force. To our own unique radiance and beauty, to our passion and desire, to our full emotional range, to love itself. The feminine finds meaning in life (and spiritual bliss and sexual confidence) through allowing the aliveness of life to flow through us.
I turn 60 in just a few days and I gotta say I've never felt more sexually confident in my life. But it's not just about that, it's about so much more. Instead of asking; "How can I become more sexually confident?" The deeper question is; "How does the feminine want to rise through you?"
Join me in this birthday episode and get inspired.
In this episode we explore:
why our sexual energy is the foundation of everything
why at 60 I've never felt more sexually confident
being multi-orgasmic at 60
Yin power and the feminine face of orgasm
sustainable orgasm; riding the waves of the ocean of orgasm
why there's always more
being more succulent and juicy at 60 than I was in my 20s & 30s
ageless sexual confidence
true radiance and sisterhood
the damage of internalize patriarchy/the wounded feminine
the magnetic power of your feminine essence
embodied passion/emotional intimacy & sexual confidence
the guru-less path of the feminine
the power of foundational practices/going deep with simple practice
why feminine spiritual practice is the key to it all.
What is Feminine Energy & How Do We Know When We're Cut Off From It?
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One of the best ways to connect with your feminine energy is to notice when you're cut off from it.
Awareness is the first step.
Being disconnected our feminine life force has become such a normalized way of being that we barely even notice. We're conditioned out of our true nature to such a degree that we begin to believe that feeling unfulfilled, flat or cut off from our pleasure, passion, and vitality is just simply the way things are. Or even worse, we think that that's what it means to be a responsible mature adult. Ugh!
We are not designed to live this way!
How do we know when we're cut off from our feminine? That will look different for every woman.
In this episode I share some of the common red flags of disconnect that I've seen in myself and in my clients and how to turn them around.
In this episode we explore:
What is feminine energy?
How do we know when we're cut off from it?
9 common red flags
The main thing to focus on to reconnect and feel fully alive
Move Beyond the Kegel/Why the Kegel Doesn't Work and What Does
00:20:32
How do you feel about doing Kegel exercises? Do you love them? Hate them? Do you do them? Are they getting you results? If so, do they leaving you wanting more?
I often say that my work is for women who want more. If the Kegel leaves you wanting more, this episode is for you!
If you're like most women I know the Kegel is just not doing it for you. Kegel exercises are still standard advice for many women experiencing pelvic floor issues and low libido. And while some women may get some results, they generally are not the results most women are truly craving.
In this episode I share my 4 chief complaints (I have more:) about Kegel exercises and what actually does work to experience full embodied pleasure and lifelong pelvic radiance and vitality.
How Astrology Can Help You Activate Your Inner Goddess
00:26:43
Can astrology help you embody your inner Goddess? You bet! If you're open to it.
And if you use it through the lens of the feminine.
I got into astrology around the same time that I started to explore the Taoist and Tantric sensual arts and ancient Goddess cultures. I was lucky to be pointed towards astrologers that have deep reverence for the sacred feminine.
What does that even mean?
When we honor the sacred feminine and bring the feminine lens into astrology it becomes more art than science.
Instead of using it as a diagnostic tool to tell us what's wrong with us, or that were doomed etc...we use it as a tool to enliven us and explore how the multi-faceted dynamic energy of the cosmos wants to dance through us.
It’s all about embodiment.
Your astrological birth chart is a golden invitation to come more fully alive.
I use astrology in my work as a holistic sexuality coach to offer more customized support to my clients. When you get to know and embody the various archetypal energies represented in your astrological birth chart, it can enliven any embodiment practice. It can also give you great clarity on how to live more aligned with your true essence and desires.
You're not a problem to solve. There's nothing to fix. Everything you've ever needed has been with you all along.
Astrology can help you connect with your inner magic. As above, so below. As within, so without.
Sounds fun? Let's dive in!
In this episode I riff on:
How the pleasure path led me to astrology
Astrology and essence
Co-creating with the universe
A feminine take on astrology
How astrology can help us cultivate self love, embodiment, safety and compassion
Astrology and archetypal activation
Astrology and inner alchemy
Exhaling more fully into your truth
Moving beyond the "fix it" model
Astrology and sacred sensual practices
Creating inner harmony/the inner alchemy of Venus and Mars
How astrology helped enliven my marriage
How astrology can support you on your path
Venus and other Goddesses
Cast you astro birth chart here Learn more about my Goddess on a Mission Astrology Session here
28 Oct 2022
Ageless Beauty...Why it Matters & How to Claim Yours
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Our relationship to beauty can be so complicated. It can be really tempting to side step it, ignore it pretend it doesn't matter. Or get completely obsessed with it. There's a lot here to unpack.
Beauty has been hijacked. It's been commoditized and used against us. It's become a source of a lot of fear and insecurity causing heaps of mental and physical stress.
In truth, true beauty is not about "fixing our flaws" it's about revealing and shinning our unique radiance and love. True beauty is about embodiment. It's about spirit into matter. It's is a deep feminine spiritual principle. And it's time to take it back.
We can't really have a full rise of the Sacred Feminine unless we get right with beauty. It's a central part of the program.
Here I riff on:
Why we need to get right with beauty
Beauty and the internalized patriarchy
Why Venus is essential to the Feminine rising
Venus bashing and how it keeps us small
Why we fear beauty
Beauty for beauty's sake
Beauty and purpose
What the courtesans knew about beauty and the Venusian Arts
Beauty and embodied love
It's all about the Chi/beauty and energy flow
Beauty, spiritual power and how it changes the world
True beauty is not a cover up it's a reveal. It's a celebration of your essence; your divine light. Soul shine.
To quote one of my favorite books on the topic:
"The benediction of beauty begins by surrendering the how and blossoming into the expanse of now. Unconditional acceptance of who you are, what you are, and where you are aligns the heart and mind. Appreciation is the exquisite all-accepting song that attunes your body to you." -Nadine Artemis, Renegade Beauty
In this episode I share some of my favorite practices and resources for reclaiming true beauty.
I riff on:
My former complicated relationship with beauty and how I shut myself down
How pleasure brought me into the realm of true beauty
Unfolding into true beauty
Beauty and vital life force
How beauty practices support my pleasure practices
Herbalist and true beauty priestess Rosemary Gladstar
Home spa play
Pretty vs Beauty
Fierce beauty, grief and rage
How beauty can be messy
Goddess energy, being stewards of the Earth and the connection to beauty
My big beauty purge and restock
Pleasure mindset and beauty rituals
True beauty renegade priestess Nadine Artemis
Want to dive deeper?
Check out Rosemary Gladstar's book on beauty here Watch Nadine Artemis's video on cleansing with oil here Check out Nadine Artemis's book Renegade Beauty here Check out Nadine's company Living Libations here Join Shakti Core Breathwork Journeys here
04 Nov 2022
Pleasure, Embodied Self Love & The Menopause Adventure With Intimacy Coach Gina Catherine
00:47:32
Get ready for a fun and sassy adventure!
In this episode I chat with Sex, Love and Intimacy coach Gina Catherine.
We wax poetic on the power of pleasure, embodiment, emotional alchemy and so much more.
Gina shares my passion for lifelong vitality, pleasure practices, breathwork and how midlife, menopause and beyond can be the adventure of a lifetime.
Not only that she's got a huge, radiant heart and a killer sense of humor!
Get out your passport, and join us on this super fun & sensually soulful journey into self love.
Gina drops a lot of gems that you just don't want to miss!
How to release emotional blocks to self love and intimacy and efficiently and effectively; a body-based approach
Digesting the tough stuff
Pleasure and embodiment practices, why they're essential
The simple solution that's available to everyone
Harmonizing intellect and body
Gina shares her journey from external confidence and disconnection to embodied truth and intimacy and self love
Health challenges and wake up calls
Gina shares her personal practices that helped her transform her life
Love, safety and belonging and feeling limitless and truly confident
Daily pleasure practices as nourishment
Honoring the Inner Goddess with pleasure
Becca Levy and how our mindset affects our biology
Midlife and menopause as an adventure
Lifelong vibrancy vs "dealing"
Tweaking the truth of the body
Getting support and guidance and steeping in the "pleasure mindset"
How our self love and pleasure can lead to world peace
The many different flavors of pleasure
How pleasure creates spaciousness inside of us for love and compassion
Being open minded and open bodied
The power of daily breathwork rituals to open the body and alchemize emotions
The never ending journey into pleasure; there's always more
Vital Longevity and Choosing Your Adventure With Jen Harrington N.D.
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I'm so excited to share this week's episode with you!
I had a wonderful conversation with naturopathic doctor Jen Harrington. Jen runs an online clinic focusing on midlife women's health from her home in Sydney Australia.
We talked about the power of mindset, the sassiness of midlife (and why that's a good thing) and the challenges that many women face entering their prime time of life.
I love Jen's warmth, positivity and her grounded, integrative approach to cultivating lifelong health and vitality. I think you will too!
Jen also shares some real gems on nutrition that you don't want to miss. Let's dive in!
We riff on:
Choosing an empowering mindset
Health span vs life span
The team approach to health care
Sassiness and vitality
The power of our daily choices
How health is not a destination but a journey
How every woman's journey is unique
The pressures and stresses of "the Prime Time Woman"
Midlife and relationship shifts
Some real talk on nutrition
The importance of electrolytes/ hot flashes and muscle cramps
Magnesium-the Master Menopause Mineral
Common signs of magnesium deficiency
Some real talk on calcium supplements
Food sources of calcium
A multi-dimensional take on libido
The pleasure factor and taking responsibility for our happiness
The rise of the feminine is multidimensional and multi-orgasmic. There's no one way to express feminine (or masculine) energy. We all have both. We are complex, kaleidoscopic humans in a dynamic, fluid dance with the universe.
The dance of these energies through you is one that only you can bring to life. And that's a beautiful thing!
We're hearing a lot about the rise of the feminine, feminine leadership, a new paradigm, the changing of the ages, the New Earth. We can look around us and see that, although things may be chaotic ( a little or a lot) it's totally happening.
Here's my perspective: it can't happen without the Yoni; without our erotic essence in tact. Without fully embodying the Goddesses we were born to be. For that we don't need to look around us. We need to look within us.
Our sexual energy is foundational life force, prana, chi and it's ours to claim. Feminine embodiment of this energy has been to say the least, complicated. For thousands of years we've lived with systems of violence and oppression that were able to get traction by disempowering people (especially women) around their sexuality.
Without sustainable access to our Shakti essence we can't truly thrive and live our full expression and purpose. When we're cut off from our erotic essence (and there are SO many reasons why we might be), we are not fully living into who we came here to be. There are ways, tools, practices that can bring us home.
Any major dude will tell you that gratitude is a core part of any spiritual practice. And I totally agree. What any major dude won't tell you is that real true gratitude can't really come into its full frequency without sensual pleasure.
Without being in a dynamic, erotic relationship with ourselves and the life force moving through us we can't truly, fully be grateful. At least that my take on it.
True gratitude comes from a deeply embodied place. The ancients knew this and they prayed that way. We're starting to remember. How amazing is that?
Embodied gratitude is a full body, ecstatic experience. It's your birthright. You can cultivate it and it will change your world.
While mindset practices and gratitude journals are beautiful and powerful tools, they are only a bridge to the deeper work of opening to life.
This holiday season, let's explore a new, sexy take on gratitude and have a little (or a lot) more fun.
Let's dive in shall we?
Here I riff on:
My "Black Friday"special
What is empowered/embodied gratitude?
How I messed myself up with my top down gratitude practice
Pleasure, desire and core feminine spiritual values
How I "Shaktified" & "Pussified" my gratitude practice
The power of visceral gratitude
Thinking gratitude vs being gratitude
Gratitude and emotional intimacy
Celebrating our emotional range
How sensual pleasure make us more responsible personally and as global citizens
Simple tips to level-up your gratitude practice this holiday season
Bringing in your feminine and getting sexy with gratitude
Opening, receiving and gratitude
Being moved by and penetrated by life
Sexy gratitude and full body orgasm
Embodied gratitude and the true essence of love and peace
How to Activate Your Cervical Superpowers/A Deep Journey Into Embodied Self Love
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The Cervix (yes I'm capitalizing here) is an absolute wonder. A magical portal into the sublime. An invitation to swim in the infinite sea of love. Yeah, we're going there Goddess.
This precious jewel that was revered and worshiped in ancient cultures is for the most part buried treasure for most modern women. For many valid reasons. All of them can be summed up in one phrase: thousands of years of patriarchy.
I know, I know I sound like a broken record, but that's the truth.
A quick Google search will give you an idea of how the modern world views the Cervix.
Basically medicalized.
We see a lot on the Cervix in relation to conventional childbirth and disease.
You won't see much on the Cervix as sacred gateway into transcendental, across the universe, self-actualizing kinds of orgasm. Tantric orgasm. The kind of orgasm that once you taste it, you'll never be the same. Partner optional.
When we awaken the Cervix, we come home to ourselves in the most profound way. We remember that we are divine. That we are the love that we've been searching and yearning for.
Reclaiming the Cervix is a journey of de-armoring and embodied self love. It's a holistic journey that embraces all of who we are as women.
Join me as I wax poetic on Cervical Orgasm, Yoni Consciousness and how you can experience this magic yourself. It's your birthright after all.
I truly believe that this is the Holy Grail we've been searching for.
Here I riff on:
My own Cervical de-armoring journey
Cervical Orgasm and the New Earth
Trauma and the Cervix
The Cervix/Heart connection
Creating safety
The groundwork; mindset & embodiment
How the Cervix teaches us unconditional love, compassion & patience
Safety & surrender
The pop culture take on orgasm; the Netflix version
Why Tantric orgasm doesn't make good TV
Cervical orgasm and self actualization
Unplugging orgasm and tapping into the deeper realms
The mystical Vagus nerve, our core channel and how orgasm can fuel us
How orgasm can strengthen our energetic body
How the state of our Cervix affects the whole of our being
Why this journey is a holistic journey
Coming into our flow state/ becoming parasympathetic dominant
The power of now in orgasm
2 simple embodiment practices to start your journey
Midlife, Menopause and The Changes That No One is Talking About
00:51:03
Midlife and menopause. For so many these word signify change. For some, big change. There can be major shifts in the way we feel physically, emotionally and spiritually. It can be a crisis or a golden opportunity.
I wanted to bring in an expert on adult transitions so we could dive a little deeper into this, so this week I'm in conversation with my dear friend and colleague Kellie Sterling.
Kellie has a somatic-centered life transitions coaching practice with a focus on trauma resolution. She's based in Melbourne Australia and offers her services worldwide online.
Midlife can be a powerful rite of passage. And this is one of Kellie's areas of genius. During this time time of change and sometimes upheaval there can be huge shifts in our identity, our sexuality and spirituality. The transitions we navigate can feel unsettling and yet also be a powerful awakening to our purpose and meaning in our life.
Kellie calls this an initiation into our wise woman power.
In this episode we dive deep and explore different aspects of these transitions that are not often talked about. Let's dive in!
We riff on:
The midlife journey and the changes most people are not talking about
How the midlife transition has become pathologized
How stress and hormonal changes can bring up old trauma
Midlife anger as a healing trigger
The midlife stage and getting real with our sexuality
The yearning for more
The midlife stage and the resurgence of our teenage trauma
How our Kundalini energy changes direction at midlife and menopause
Menopause as a sexual awakening
Sexual energy/life force energy and setting ourselves up for a vital 3rd chapter
Rest as part of an erotic practice
Being well resourced as a sexual wellness practice
Sleep as a foundational to relationship
Our cyclical nature and how the work place doesn't support it
How our cyclical nature extends post menopause
The power of Yoga Nidra
Emotional intimacy and unpacking family and cultural history
Midlife, emotional alchemy and embodiment
The Wise Woman role and having a grounded relationship with anger
Estrogen as the hormone of appeasement
Rage, passion and desire
Mining the wisdom of emotions
Grief as an important part of every life transition
Grief and the Elder hood transition
We don't become an Elder just by getting older
Grief, gratitude and making friends with our emotions
Why we can't grieve alone, we need guides and space holders
Trauma-Informed Tantra/Why Your Nervous System Needs to Be The Top Priority
00:23:14
An exciting trend is happening across industries and across the globe.
The learning curve on all things trauma and how it impacts our lives and how we relate to each other has been steep over the past few years.
As challenging as it can be, folks all over the world are rising to the occasion to learn and heal together. That’s a beautiful thing and I feel such an essential step in human evolution.
Trauma awareness has come leaps and bounds. And yet we still have a long way to go.
In the work I do, I realized pretty early on that learning about trauma, how the body stores trauma and how we begin to unravel it is essential to supporting my clients and to continue to do my own healing work.
I know it sounds cliche but what I’ve found to be truer each each year is that healing is a journey, not a destination. It’s not a straight line either. There are layers and spirals. And we’re not meant to go it alone.
Nervous system support must be an integral part of any holistic sexuality program. To truly get a deeper embodied experience of pleasure and multi-orgasmic states, cultivating calm is the master key.
We can't expand our capacity to receive pleasure, hold pleasure in our system and expand our orgasmic experience from a hyper aroused state of the nervous system.
For real and lasting success in this work, and for you to truly embody the Goddess you were born to be your nervous system needs to be the top priority.
As a trauma-informed Tantra coach I've become quite a nervous system nerd.
And there's always more to learn. Always. Let's learn together!
In this episode I riff on:
why Tantra spaces need to be trauma-informed.
how creating safe space is a co-creation and partnership
why sensuality is the frontier of the wellness industry
awareness is the first step: the Polyvagal Theory Curve; a map for nervous system awareness
why we need to cultivate calm in this work
the role of Vagal Tone in finding our calm and cultivating orgasm
the hyper-aroused state of sexuality in the status quo
knowing how to resource yourself and down-regulate your nervous system
the power of breathwork
the power of shaking medicine/ basic shake and deep shake
Tantra can mean different things to different people. To me Tantra is the yoga of embodying the love we are at the core.
It's the mind, body, spirit practice of coming home to the sacredness of our bodies, healing what blocks our full expression of love and coming fully alive.
It's the practice of landing our unique essence; our soul shine. And remembering what our souls came to do and be in this world. It's a journey of spirit into matter.
Tantra to me is embracing all of who we are; the inner sacred union of our feminine and masculine essences; the passionate love affair within. It's a devotional celebration of our sensuality and sexuality, our full palette of human emotions and our deepest desires.
Although sacred sexuality with others is a beautiful part of Tantra, there's so much more to the story.
First and foremost it's about self awareness, self love and self cultivation. It's a path of inner devotion; of waking up to our true nature and making love to life. Partner (or partners) are actually optional.
It's deep right? It doesn't mean it has to be complicated. It's so easy to get caught up in complexity, even seduced by it.
But we can make it as simple, practical and accessible as we need to. That to me is where things get really fun and interesting. It's where the real power lies. The kind of power that can change the world.
No one I know wants to devote years of their life living on a mountain some where at the feet of a Guru to find themselves.
The good news it that we don't have to. And as we've found out from scandal after scandal, the Guru model definitely has its flaws. Especially when we bring sexuality into the picture.
It's time for a new model. And it's happening! The truth that so many are waking up to is that the magic and enlightenment can truly happen right smack dab in the middle our our modern, busy lives.
We can truly be Goddesses in the real world. If we choose it.
Here I riff on:
Tantra under the patriarchy and dominator models
Trauma-informed Tantra
The new face of Tantra in the New World paradigm
My framework for sensual healing, pleasure reclamation & Goddess embodiment
Embodying the Love You Crave/ Going Deep With The Taoist Breast Massage
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Today I want to share with you one of my favorite sensual embodiment practices: TheTaoist Breast Massage.
I’ve been practicing Breast Massage as a daily body meditation for over 10 years and it has completely transformed my physical breasts and my relationship with my breasts. It’s also deepened my connection to my feminine essence and my experience of embodied love and pleasure.
Breast Massage is one of the simplest and most effective ways to increase your self-love and radiance, balance your hormones, and nourish your libido naturally. It’s one of the foundational practices in the Jade Egg practice and an important gateway into becoming multi-orgasmic.
When you do a regular breast massage practice you begin to self cultivate the "love hormone" Oxytocin. Which I feel is what most of us are craving.
Yes, you can create your very own love chemistry!
From the Taoist perspective, the breasts are considered to be our positive/Yang pole and the seat of our Love Chi for women.
This is how we give our gifts to the world and where we source our love and nurturing for ourselves and others.
When we are armored in the heart, energy gets stagnant in the breasts. This not only affects our physical health, but also blocks our love, joy, and creative expression.
Breast massage circulates blood and lymph which is critical for breast health, but it also circulates chi or energy which keeps us vibrant, radiant and in love with ourselves and with life.
A daily mindful sensual breast massage is a great way to love yourself up. It will keep your energy flowing in a healthy way and allow your sexual energy to fuel you.
No more giving from an empty cup! Sounds good? Let's dive in! Here I riff on:
What makes breast massage so powerful?
The Love Hormone and embodying the love you crave
Breasts are not just for procreation (unwinding from the toxicity of patriarchy)
Cultivating sexual & orgasmic energy as wellness practice
Embodying the frequencies of love, joy & peace
Taking ownership of our breasts
De-armoring the breasts, heart and opening to love
Coming of age as a woman in a toxic world
The breasts in ancient Goddess cultures/ symbols of radiant power
How our sexual energy by design is meant to fuel us
The core channel
The connection between the breasts and the Yoni
The breasts and Cervical Orgasm
Cultivating the "love vibe" from the inside out
The many variations on the breast massage theme
Cultivating safety in the body and take back your power with breast massage
Breast massage and healing trauma
Breast massage as the ultimate self care practice
Breast massage and self expression, showing up for relationship from a place of fullness and love
Breast massage and processing emotions
Dialing up the sensual pleasure and dialing up the Goddess vibes
The path of sensual reclamation is a heroine's journey. It's not for the timid.
When we get in touch with and begin to embody our full Goddess essence, things shift. Sometimes massively.
I'd like to say that the path of reclaiming our sensuality and pleasure is an easeful flowing process but for all women I know it's not. It's deep work. And deep play.
Doing this work will bring you more ease, flow and so much more, but there is a price of admission.
We have to be willing to take a stand and really show up for our inner feminine in a world that's determined to shut Her down.
This work requires raw honesty, courage and levels vulnerability that can be really uncomfortable.
It asks us to keep our promises to ourselves and create boundaries in ways we probably haven't before.
We may question if we have what it takes. We do. When we decide. When we decide to claim our pleasure we are in our true power and cosmically supported.
As the old saying goes; "Venus favors the bold." -Ovid
Claiming our inner Venus will shake things up.
I like to see it as shaking things up to wake things up.
When I started this journey I had no idea where it would take me. To be honest, in many ways I still don't.
It's the joyful and beautiful unfolding mystery of it all that keeps me in awe. And keeps me on this path.
In today's episode I share a bit about the specifics of my personal journey; what that initially looked like for me as a busy mom of three young boys.
I also share how this circuitous journey transformed my marriage and laid the foundations for my work and the framework I use with my clients.
I riff on:
How this work elevates those around us or they fall off
Embracing the unknown of the adventure
The big pleasure reframe; some pleasure myths I needed to bust
How I created more safety in my system
How I claimed my responsibility for my pleasure; taking the reigns
How I made space for pleasure in my life
My bathtub temple
The magic of early morning practice
Desire clarity & emotional empowerment
"Rage is passion without a place to play"
"Under every complaint is a desire"
How my Inner Bitch became my BFF
The power of embodied desire
Sensual & sexual embodiment practices as a meditation
Intimacy coach Belinda Wiley joins me in a deep and powerful conversation about intimacy in relationships.
Belinda gets real on how intimacy can easily deteriorate in long term relationships, how we can all carry shame around that and she shares amazing some pro tips on how to turn it around.
Belinda dives into her own mind, body spirit adventure, how she found yoga, her journey with anxiety and how she eventually found Tantra in her late 50s.
She shares how discovering her own pleasure and desire impacted her marriage and set the foundation for her unique framework for supporting couples who want deeper intimacy in their relationship.
This Goddess shares some amazing gems that you don't want to miss! And right on time for Valentine's Day! Let's dive in!
We riff on:
Belinda’s journey into claiming her sexuality and becoming an intimacy coach in the midst of a long term marriage and raising her family
Fostering connection in the busyness of family life
The quest for more as a motivating force
How blaming impacts intimacy
How Belinda’s embodiment journey began with yoga
Finding our own passion
Sobriety, yoga and self discovery
From yoga to Tantra
Pleasure, Orgasm and self discovery
“Knowledge is power” Self knowledge and self empowerment
The role of safety in sexual embodiment
Cultural conditioning and sexual shamming
Self discovery and relationships
Taking charge of our pleasure
Owning and speaking our desires in and out of bedroom
Sexuality as a transformation journey
How relationship dynamics impact intimacy
Intimacy and communication skills
How trauma impacts intimacy
The body’s memory
Changing the “I’m broken “ narrative
Tapping into the body’s wisdom in partnership
Love and vulnerability
Finding connection in an overwhelming world
Safety, connection and the erotic
The four Cs of intimacy as the foundation of erotic union
When does perfectionism serve us? When can it get in the way?
While it's great to excel at something we're passionate about and awesome to get focused, go for it, build skills, achieve and slay the day, when it comes to cultivating a deeper experience of pleasure, habitual perfectionism can be a massive road block.
Why is that?
Our sensuality is about coming home to our senses. And that means slowing down and caring for our nervous system so that we are available to open and receive. That scares a lot of women. And that makes sense. There's a lot there.
It's so important to get that our sensuality shuts down in go mode. If we want to access and embody more pleasure, radiance, magnetism and intuition, being "task master" hard on ourselves will take us out every time.
It may sound odd, but I feel that habitual perfectionism is a trauma response. It keeps us on the never ending hamster wheel of strife and keeps those stress hormones like cortisol flowing.
If pleasure is a portal into our sacred feminine essence (I believe it is) and if that's something you're interested in exploring (if you're here, you most likely are), it's essential that you get good as shifting gears.
Here I riff on:
Why I view habitual perfectionism as a trauma response and why it's not our fault
Conditional love and "not enough-ness"
How this derails our pleasure
Getting out of our head and into our body
The self critic program
Owning our worthiness
Trusting our bodies, ourselves and letting go
Sensual pleasure as a major portal into your sacred feminine essence
The feminine lens of Tantra
Perfectionism and hyper vigilance
Perfectionism and people pleasing
Honoring our bodies responses to threat
Finding the right mix for you
Desire, goals and pressure
How pressure can sap our pleasure
The power of approval
The Inner Smile practice
The bracing that comes with needing to be perfect and how that blocks our pleasure
What if the love we seek is right under our noses?
What if most of we've been told about our sensuality is simply not true and that pleasure is is actually the fastest and most powerful way to embody love, gratitude, peace and compassion?
What if we were able to do a little myth busting and explore our pleasure through a different, sacred lens?
Who would we be? What would we create?
The Goddess of Love; a sacred essence that lives in all of us and was once revered, then dethroned, has not been fully anchored and expressed on this planet for thousands of years.
There were times in ancient human history when Venus (just one of Her many names) reigned supreme, pleasure was sacred and life was good, or at the very least way better. (Riane Eisler's book Sacred Pleasure dives deeply into this.)
Since then, we've been fed a strong narrative that pleasure is hedonistic, selfish, taboo, dangerous and among many other things. Certainly not anything a "serious spiritual person" would pursue.
This creates a lot imbalance and toxicity.
We've seen this play out in so many spiritual institutions, including the yoga world. Denouncing sensuality and sexuality on the one hand, sexual abuse and scandal on the other.
Or, as in some Tantra schools, applying a dominator, top down/ Guru approach to sacred sexuality(not what Venus is about at all!) and creating its own flavor of imbalance, disfunction and abuse.
I feel that if we truly want to move beyond the dominator systems that have wreaked havoc on the planet for thousands of years and to co-create a new world paradigm based in love, beauty and partnership, healing and embracing our sensuality is a great place to start.
We need to stop kicking pleasure to the curb and start seeing it as a legit spiritual path. We need a direct experience of it. It's an inside job.
The yoga of Venus is making a come back.
We've got some myth busting to do.
In this episode I riff on:
Prevailing myths about sensuality that abound in pleasure-negative societies
Why we all need mindset work around pleasure
How some popular spiritual leaders miss the mark on pleasure
Demonizing and bypass in the spiritual development world
The problem with denouncing pleasure, sensuality and desire
How sacred feminine principles get dissed in most spiritual work
Why embodiment is so key
How embodied pleasure cultivates joy, peace, pleasure and love
The Jade Egg or Yoni Egg practice is one of the most curative and empowering practices on the planet for the female pelvis. It's a mind, body, spirit practice that completely changed my life when I found it in my early 40s.
Dialing it back to that time I was having a lot of issues with my pelvis. After 3 big babies within 5 years I had some physical problems that I'd never addressed.
And when menopause hit at age 40 things escalated fast. I was experiencing chronic pelvic pain, dryness, incontinence, a low level of pelvic organ prolapse and sciatica.
Kegels weren't working for me nor was Pilates or Yoga. In retrospect what I really needed was a holistic approach that embraced emotional integration and sensuality.
Luckily I found the Jade Egg practice and some incredible teachers who were emphasizing working with emotions in a powerful way and incorporating pleasure as part of the healing process. It changed everything.
Here I riff on:
My menopause meltdown at age 40
Why I needed a holistic approach
A short history of the Jade Egg practice
Chinese medicine and sexual health
Cultivating sexual energy for overall health, vitality and spiritual growth
What exactly is the Jade Egg practice?
Jade and other gemstones
The best beginner egg
An alternative to using gemstones; the new glass egg!
How the Jade Egg helps us get precision toning in the pelvic floor
Why you don't want a tight vagina
Please don't "kegel" your egg
Why a trauma-informed practice matters
Why mindset work matters
Why working with emotions is so key
The way we practice matters
Pleasure, flow, nervous system care and emotional processing
My movement-centric approach to the Jade Egg as a former Pilates teacher
Why movement heals
Allowing the body to reclaim natural movement
Why your Yoni needs to move
The 5 Key Moves of Yoni Mastery
How movement is one the most powerful ways to heal trauma
How I apply that principle to my unique system of teaching the Jade Egg
How movement heals vaginal dryness
Yoni dexterity; why it matters
How the Yoni is the core of the femme core
Martha Graham and "Move from your vagina"!
What most people don't know about the Kegel
How the Jade Egg practice can help prevent and support pelvic organ prolapse
Yoni Reflexology and how working internally with an egg supports overall health, emotional wellbeing and vitality
The Taoist Healing Sounds
Embodiment and full body orgasm
How the Jade Egg connects us to spirit
Want to dive deeper?
Check out my self study Jade Egg mastery course; Jade Rebirth; a movement-centric approach to Yoni and Multi-Orgasmic mastery
Our emotions are a power source. And yet most of us have been taught that our emotions are a problem. It can certainly feel that way util we learn how to work with them. And we won't get there by thinking about them.
The alchemical magic happens when we allow ourselves to feel our emotions and allow them to move through us. Only then can we harvest the wisdom hidden within them. And feel empowered by them rather than derailed by them.
Like a storm that rages through and leaves behind cleaner, crisper air, our emotions can clean house and give us clarity on whatever it is we are struggling with. And what we truly desire.
For this to happen we need to create the space to feel our emotions on the level of sensation. Embodiment is the master key. Embodied emotions have the alchemical power to turn lead into gold.
In this episode I share a personal experience of how emotional alchemy turned an evening that was going off the tracks completely around.
There are always new experiences that come into our lives where we get to choose love. We get so many opportunities (that often masquerade as crises) where we get an invitation to choose to love ourselves first.
Although it's become such a cliche, loving ourselves first is not easy! It's really challenging for most folks. That totally makes sense. But we can shift into a deeper experience of full, embodied self love by empowering our small daily choices.
I feel that at the heart of it is being willing to take an honest look at how our inner masculine is treating our inner feminine. And vice versa.
In this episode I dive into how we can cultivate a deeper, more intimate and even sexy relationship with ourselves. When we have the courage to dive into this inner work, things can shift massively. I feel that the realm of this inner dynamic is where true self love resides.
This is inner love affair can lead us to deeper inner harmony, self trust and whole lot more pleasure. Are you ready to reclaim your eros from within? This one's for you!
Please add to this list! When you know what you want you're in a place where you can actually cultivate it. And I want that for you.
Desire clarity is gold. Otherwise we can easily fall prey to betraying our authentic selves in love. And in every relationship. This is not your fault. This is the conditioning we received from the very unbalanced culture that most of us were raised in. When it comes to sex, we've been lied to, literally.
The good news is we can choose to decondition. We can choose our truth.
Until we explore what we truly want erotically we end up on the path that so many women find themselves on. Feeling angry, resentful, unloved, unworthy, overwhelmed, frustrated, disappointed, confused, shamed, the list goes on.
It doesn't have to be that way. You can take the reins and become your own best lover. And when you do, your experience with any lover(s) will shift.
If you're a woman who's craving more, and most women drawn to my work are, this one's for you. We have so much untapped potential, ladies.
I feel that the biggest missing piece for so many of us is flow. The Yoni is all about flow; fluid power that nourishes and builds true connection. Sacred, cosmic connection.
When we tap into our fluid power by waking up the Yoni, our sex lives can become a source of deep nourishment; mind, body and soul.
After struggling for years with severe anxiety and conversion disorder Susanne hit the wall and decided to take her healing into her own hands.
She went from being afraid to leave her home to coming alive again and pursuing a career as a journalist immersing herself in the world of rock and roll and pop music covering musicians, music events and festivals.
In this episode Susanne shares about her journey and her struggles and disappointments along the way to find the solutions and support that truly worked for her.
I love this conversation so much as it really underscores how unique we all truly are, how we deserve custom support and how self love, self trust and safety are at the core of any healing journey.
Susanne shares some beautiful wisdom here. The kind of wisdom that's not gained easily. The kind of wisdom that comes from the core of a soulful woman's journey to boldly claim herself.
TRE® Trauma Release Exercises TRE® Trauma Release Exercises/Release Stress & Trauma and Reclaim Joy & Pleasure
00:18:03
Do you feel like stress is stuck in your system? When we’re holding on to stress in our bodies, it can be really hard to drop back into our natural state of relaxation so we can actually enjoy life… (and sleep well)
TRE® is a series of exercises(created by trauma expert Dr. David Bercelli)that connects you toyour body's natural way ofreleasingandintegrating stressand trauma. This technique is simple, effective and empowering.
The best part?
Once you master the basics, you can use it at home, on your own, whenever you need to release stress, tension and traumatic events from your body, so you can create a feeling of wellbeing and safety in your system.
In this episode I dive into all things TRE and how I use it in my practice as a holistic sexuality/Tantra coach.
I also want to invite you to experience TRE yourself in a free workshop I've created for you.
In this free training you’ll find a complete TRE tutorial that will help you activate your body’s natural ability to shake off stress and trauma.
Cultivating Divine Self Worth, and a Sacred Relationship With Money with Jennifer Whitaker
00:34:40
Money can be such a charged topic right?
Just like talking about relationships and sex it can bring up such strong emotions.
This is intimate stuff! And it's something I feel that so many of us could use some loving, soul centered guidance and support on.
That's why I'm so excited to share my guest with you today!
Jennifer Whitaker is spiritual coach and wealth expert who guides women home to their inherent sacred worth and wealth and supports them in cultivating a sacred relationship with money.
After struggling for years with unworthiness and scarcity Jennifer now speaks on big stages alongside people such as Jane Goodall and some of Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday’s best selling authors.
She’s also repeatedly magnetized multiple six-figure weeks in her business.
Jennifer shares some amazing gems here to support you in owning your inherent worth and wealth and getting into a sacred relationship with money. Let's dive in!
How to Slow Down and Come Into Your Feminine Flow/My 3 Favorite Tips
00:30:11
If you want to expand your pleasure, sensuality, creativity, vitality and access more of your sacred feminine essence, one of the most valuable things to get really skillful at is the art of slowing down.
When is comes to flow, pleasure, bliss and even love, everything we seek is within us. But how do we get sustainable access to it? How do we come out of the ever racing (and often fearful) mind and into our natural state of radiance, ease and flow?
Things around us move fast, the pace of life over the past 10 years has sped up massively and will continue to do so.
It's never been more important to know how to slow down, tune in and orient towards sensual pleasure as our default. This is how we access the internal compass of our inner wisdom and navigate our days with more authentic alignment and radiant magnetism.
If you're looking for some super practical tips on this, you're in the right place! In this episode I share three of my favorite ways to get into, (and stay in) your feminine flow.
The Art of Self Trust & Living in Alignment With Your Desires
00:27:19
Can your sensuality be the missing link to true embodied self trust? The kind of guidance that will never steer you wrong? I believe it can.
We're so conditioned to look outside of ourselves for the answers.
With the amount of information we now have available to us via the internet, it's never been more challenging to tune in and trust ourselves.
When you find yourself anxious, overwhelmed, doubting yourself, in limbo, finding it hard to make decisions and speaking your truth, I believe pleasure is the antidote.
What? Yes. Pleasure.
What I've found to be true is that when we awaken the erotic intelligence of the Yoni through pleasure practices, we awaken our inner oracle. Yep, I said it. True, embodied self trust is sourced in the Yoni.
This is our direct line to the inner guidance of our sacred feminine wisdom. Where desire reigns supreme.
Sensual Healing & Feminine Embodiment/Two Essentials for Success
00:26:05
One of the silver lining gifts of the challenging pandemic years was the rise of the home practice. During global lockdown folks got busy creating home gyms, meditation spaces, yoga spaces and more.
By carving out physical space in their homes, people went deeper with whatever practice they were engaging with. That's empowerment!
When it comes to mindful sensuality practice, Tantric and Taoist practices, contrary to popular belief, you don't need to go to Bali, or Thailand or Tulum.
I've found that the best way to get sustainable results with practices like the Jade Egg, is to have a dedicated home practice.
That doesn't mean we need to go it alone.
Sisterhood is essential for sensual healing.
Enter the internet!
Who knew that a Zoom room could double as a Venus Temple?!
I feel that when a woman gets to explore these kinds of practices in her own space and at her own pace and she gets to have sisterhood support as well, we have a recipe for success.
Home practice plus global virtual sisterhood is a winning combination.
Is pleasure selfish? I used to think so. What I've found to be true is the opposite.
The deeper I've gone into my sensual embodiment practices over the last 15 years or so, the more I see the effect it continues to have not just on me but on everyone in my life.
As within, so without.
And I see similar effects with my clients.
There are a number of things I've observed over the years that can happen when a woman commits to her pleasure I'll list just a few.
When we reclaim our pleasure:
We build presence, power and resilience.
We become more joyful, hopeful, more peaceful and naturally more full of gratitude.
We become more creative.
We reclaim our natural radiance; we glow.
We celebrate the beauty and power of other women.
We start to appreciate men.
We become more fully alive, passionate and inhabit our libido.
We begin to take better care of ourselves in all ways.
We're more able to find our calm in the storm and better at not sweating the small stuff.
We get better at honoring and feeling our emotions and are able to tap into their wisdom.
We connect more deeply to our intuition.
We stop blaming, and take responsibility.
We're more able to step away from drama and get better at cultivating connection.
We begin to feel full, fueled; deeply nourished.
We align with our true north.
We claim our worth, begin to value ourselves more and often get better with money.
We begin to get really clear on our desires and speak our truth.
We get much better at setting boundaries. We find our voice in a new way.
We begin to have more body confidence in and out of the bedroom.
We don't fret about growing older, we relish it.
We become multi-orgasmic.
We start to fall in love with ourselves in a very deep and even romantic way.
We find true compassion for ourselves and others.
These are all different facets of embodying the sacred feminine essence within.
And it changes everything.
Pleasure, your pleasure, is really the foundation of how you can truly live the life you came here to live. And give your gifts from a full cup. Let's dive in!
In this episode I want to get a little personal. Because I feel it may be of service. About 20 years ago my marriage was on the rocks. And I had no clue what to do about it. Hell, I was so resentful that I wasn't even sure I wanted to do anything about it.
At that time I was lucky enough to find teachers who were living in a very different paradigm when it came to men and relationships. Teachers who were teaching some ancient truths that brought a whole new perspective.
Trigger warning. When I first learned about this it was a lot to swallow. It took some work to let it seep in. And even more to start to explore it.
Do you know that famous quote by Gloria Steinem: "The truth will set you free. But first it will piss you off?" It was kinda like that. Let's dive in!
Zen Pleasure: How I Got Out of My Head in Bed (and in Life)
00:26:24
This week I want to share about how I started to get Zen with pleasure with a practice called Orgasmic Meditation.
When I started to bring a deeper quality of mindfulness into my pleasure practice things started to root a new and more profound way.
We have so many distractions when it comes to our sensuality and sensuality. Things can get complicated and confusing fast.
I found that when I learned to let go of goal setting in the bedroom, and embraced flow, connection and presence it paved the way to a much deeper experience of intimacy, joy, creativity in and out of the bedroom.
Simplicity it turns out was the key to finding my authentic erotic rhythm and feeling deeply nourished by sex.
Your time is such a precious resource and for most women it seems like it's in short supply. If you feel like your days are packed and you barely have time to take a deep breath, you're in good company.
The pace of life can definitely create a strong narrative that we have no time for pleasure, creativity, joy and all the good things in life.
I get that. I feel that way at times as well. And I want to challenge that.
Creating spaciousness in our lives is essential for tapping into our pleasure and our magic.
The tough news is that no one can create that space in our lives except us. No blaming and shaming here, but it's so true.
The tsunami of busyness is consuming women around the globe. Not to sound too alarmist but it's reaching a crisis level.
But we can turn the tides, when we decide. We have a lot more agency than modern culture leads us to believe.
Start a Summer Love Affair Between Your Inner Masculine & Feminine
00:26:40
Are you ready for a summer romance? I love it!
What if I told you that the hottest romance in town starts from within?
In this episode I share some some thoughts on what I found to be true about the sacred union between our inner masculine and feminine energies and how we can cultivate more love, trust and harmony from within and set the stage for living in love regardless of our relationship status or the state of our current relationship.
I riff on:
How to address limiting beliefs about the masculine and feminine
Simple embodiment practices to explore both energies
How to integrate both energies more fully into our daily lives
12 Summer Self-Care Ideas to Nourish Your Feminine Energy
00:26:42
Summer can be such a great time of year to deepen your connection to your feminine energy. The seasons we're moving into astrologically; Cancer, Leo and Virgo each have their own unique gifts and invitations into deeper embodiment, pleasure and self love.
Cancer's focus on self care, nourishment, safety and belonging, Leo's focus on radiant self love, creativity and play, and Virgo's focus on sacred ritual and practice all can be wonderful support on your journey.
In this episode I share 12 ideas to explore this summer to nourish your feminine and more fully embody your inner Goddess.
I'll be exploring these simple practices right along with you!
I'm declaring this summer, the summer of Goddess!
Are you with me?
Here I riff on:
What our feminine energy needs to thrive
Why summer self-care is so important
12 simple, fun summer feminine self-care rituals to explore
There's a lot in the online space these days about unleashing the wild feminine or re-wilding the feminine. While I think that's awesome, I think some of the marketing out there can be misleading.
I've seen a lot of messaging that implies that for a woman to reclaim her wild she needs to be overtly sexual and/or she needs to go through some kind of deep dark messy cathartic process that will totally disrupt her life.
While that may be some women's experience, it doesn't have to be that way. And I feel that message can end up putting pressure on women to be performative. Or it gives the feeling that there's a certain way to "do it right".
What I've found to be true is that our erotic wild nature is intimately connected with the rhythm and flow of nature and when we honor that and celebrate that our re-wilding becomes a lot more easeful, and natural. Not to mention fun!
We tend to over complicate things. You are a wild child by nature. It's your birthright to claim it. The permission you need is right in your own back yard, or local forest, or any where in nature that speaks to you.
I wanted to share 5 fun ideas to support you in this.
In this episode I share:
What is the wild feminine?
Reclaiming our sensual and erotic connection to nature
5 fun ways to unleash your wild feminine this summer from PG to spicy:)
Let's dive in!
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I’m just chomping at the bit to share this episode with you!
Today I’m in conversation with Julia Lally.
Julia is a poet, witch and mentor who loves helping women reclaim their juice and feminine power through a practice called sex magic.
At this time of great change and shifting paradigms Julia is a voice of grounded spirituality, true feminine empowerment, magic, mystery and ancient and modern wisdom.
Her knowledge and lived experience of the feminine mysteries is vast and deep.
And at the heart of it all is love.
Here we riff on:
Julia’s journey into her own feminine power and tantric sexuality
Our mutual love of the Orgasmic Meditation practice
Sacred Feminine awakening through orgasmic practice
Feminine power in a post feminist era
Rebirthing ancient feminine power
Embodying the ancient feminine codes
Practical magic and everyday living
Feminine desire, collapsing time and manifestation
These are things that most women are craving and yet we've been massively led astray.
We've been led in the exact opposite direction of where we need to go.
We've been taught to look outside of ourselves, fed the toxic mimic of these things which creates a hungry ghost in our feminine soul leaving us wondering what we're missing.
Our bodies have had the answer all along. When we turn towards the body and begin to awaken our inner feminine essence with feminine embodiment practices, we begin to remember.
We remember that we are beauty. We are abundance. We are passion. We are ecstasy. We are love. In the flesh.
Embodiment practices are the breadcrumbs on the trail leading us home.
In this episode we explore:
The 5 Sacred Codes of Venus
How to activate them
A simple meditation to connect with your inner Venus
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21 Jul 2023
3 Super Common Habits That Block Our Feminine Energy & How to Turn Them Around
00:24:37
Our daily habits and mindset can support us or sabotage us.
We've all accumulated a certain degree of negative believes and unhealthy habits when it comes to the feminine.
No blame or shame here, but it's something we really need to take a look at if we want to truly embody our feminine power.
Cultural conditioning and the push towards external validation has reached a crisis point. And it's created some really unhealthy habits. I call this internalized patriarchy.
Once we see and name it, we can do something to change it.
In this episode we explore:
The toxicity of overbooking
The trouble with micro-managing and the hazards of decision fatigue
The perfectionism virus and the big lie
How your feminine thrives
Let's roll up our sleeves and dive in. Want to dive deeper?
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28 Jul 2023
How Astrology Can Help You Embody Your Feminine Energy
00:22:13
Your feminine energy is as unique as your fingerprint. And so is every other part of you!
We are such beautifully complex beings and not one of us is alike.
One of the things I love most about astrology is that it maps that out for us.
I started studying astrology around the same time I started to study Tantra and Taoist Sexual Yoga. In hindsight it all makes sense. It's all connected.
I now use astrology as a tool for Tantric embodiment. As a tool to support us in bringing spirit into matter so we can be more of the love we are at the core. So that we can thrive more in intimacy, give our unique gifts and live the path that we came here to live in alignment.
Used consciously, astrology can be a huge permission slip to embody who we truly and fully are.
It's so important to understand that there is no one way to "be feminine" or "be masculine". We have both of these sacred energies within us. And it's designed to work.
Society conditions us with such limiting templates of how we "should be" and how it all "should look". And that we need to continually source love and validation from external sources.
It's a recipe for disaster. It infuses us with the belief that we're lacking in some way. Perhaps in every way. And I think we've all experienced that on some level.
This leads us into buying into the myth that there is a lover out there somewhere who can magically complete us.
The truth is, we're already complete. And we're starting to remember that.
There's a cosmic dance going on inside of all of us and when we start to work with the love affair within, we can experience a sense of deep wholeness and joy that allows us to show up in any partnership from a much fuller place.
This is where relationships can become a lot less frustrating and transactional and a lot more creative, fun and even sacred.
It's deep inner work.
And I believe that this is the essence of Tantra. And where Tantra and astrology meet.
It's also important to understand that it's never about being perfect.
It's about more joyfully living into our divine potential while acknowledging and embracing our very human experience. With curiosity, awe and humor about this wild ride we signed up for.
In this episode we explore:
How astrology supported me (and still does) in embodying my sacred feminine
How astrology helps us activates the sacred codes within us and customize our embodiment practices
Bringing your Venus alive in sacred ritual
How astrology can help you activate the frequencies of your inner Venus, Mars and the Sacred Union within
How astrology can help us dissolve internalized patriarchy
Want to dive deeper?
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04 Aug 2023
Reclaiming Aphrodite/Best Practices
00:30:48
To reclaim Aphrodite is to choose love over fear. It's a bold move. To claim your life force, shine unapologetically in the world, gift your gifts from a place of joy and pleasure and create your life from desire is your birthright.
And it terrifies most women.
While the fear is understandable, (thousands of years of patriarchy.) We can't let it stop us if we truly want to live the life we came here to live.
We can feel the fear and alchemize it into power. We can strengthen our innate frequency of Venusian love.
The most powerful love there is.
There are practices, tools, and arts for this. Your body remembers. It's just your mind that's forgotten.
We can heal from this case of collective amnesia and cultivate the love that lives at our core.
It begins with you deciding and it's sustained with your commitment to doing the work.
Today I want to go into the nuts and bolts of what "the work" in this realm requires and why I created The Vital Goddess Mastermind to support you in this.
Welcome to my Venusian mystery school dear sister! “Venus favors the bold.” -Ovid In this episode I riff on:
How menopause kicked me onto the pleasure path
What your Inner Goddess needs most to unfold
The framework to embody your Inner Goddess of Love
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18 Aug 2023
Sacred Union/Romancing the Sacred Masculine Within
00:27:45
Hey Goddess, I know you’re rocking it in so many areas of your life, (but, yes, I'm daring to ask), how’s your love life?
Are you like so many women on the planet..frustrated (to say the least) in the love department?
Like “let’s not even go there?”
Maybe you’re done with the whole mess and decided to focus on all of the other things in life that give you joy?
I hear you! And I've been there.
And I'm here to say that you, my dear, can be having a hell of a lot more fun when it comes to romance.
When it comes to romantic love we're been led in the wrong direction.
We've been led to believe that "out there somewhere" is a perfect lover that is destined to complete us.
We've taken the bait. And that sets us up for a lifetime of bitter disappointment and resentment.
What if we could turn it all around? What if we could work some inner alchemy on this and shift our experience? What if we could come to the banquet of relationship, from a more nourished and empowered place? What if we could have a lot more fun?
I believe we can. In fact I know we can.
The magic is within you love, when you begin to get that and work it, things will feel a whole lot different.
In this episode I dive into:
The sexy & sacred union within; masculine/feminine, Shiva/Shakti/Yin/Yang
Your inner God & Goddess; the epic romance within
Mindset, Embodiment & Integration tips to bring your inner lover alive in your life
Let's dive in!
Want to dive deeper?
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11 Aug 2023
3 Simple Practices to Own Your True Beauty & Rock Your Natural Radiance
00:24:21
Beauty is a loaded topic. I get it. The word alone can trigger a lot of emotion. That makes sense.
It's been distorted, commercialized and youth-focused to such an extreme degree that we've pretty much lost the plot on beauty. Maybe we've even thrown in the towel. Again, I get it.
Beauty has been distorted almost beyond recognition. It's been hijacked and infused with ridiculous, artificial, racist and ageist standards that instill fear, doubt and comparison; leading women to spend gazillions of dollars in an attempt to "fix their beauty problems."
But what if there's actually nothing to fix? What if Beauty (with a capital B) has been with you all along? What if all we need to do is to remember how to tap into it? To give it space and permission to shine?
True beauty is not a standard or a fix or a cover up it's a sacred reveal. A reveal of your essence; your divine light shining in the sacred vessel of your body. Your soul shine.
To quote fashion and beauty icon Coco Channel: "Look for the woman in the dress. If there is no woman, there is no dress."
So how do we claim our true beauty? Through pleasure. When a woman embodies her pleasure, her radiance can't help but shine. I see it all the time in my work. And when a woman shines, the whole world is blessed.
Rocking your radiance is your birthright. And you can claim it.
In this episode I share:
How we lost the plot on beauty
How we need to move away from fear-based beauty into love, self trust, authenticity and celebration
How claiming our true beauty frees our feminine and helps us dismantle internalized patriarchy
3 simple and solid tools to heal your relationship with beauty and shine your light
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Falling in Love With the Dark Goddess/Rage, Passion & Desire
00:24:40
"Rage is passion without a place to play." A teacher dropped that truth bomb on me when I was navigating probably the most emotionally charged season of my life.
I was deeply immersed in my menopause journey, and for me it was a wild ride.
There was a lot going on. On so many levels.
I was completely overwhelmed by the tsunami of emotions, (mostly anger and resentment), that were surging through me. I didn't know it at the time but this was a wake up call and an invitation into the deeper Sacred Feminine mysteries.
Our emotions are a gift; a treasure and a portal into our inner wisdom and our deepest desires. And what does culture teach us? We're taught to disown them, disconnect from them and numb them. And it leaves us feeling disempowered and wondering WTF are we're missing.
We can't selectively numb, when we stifle and suppress the more intense emotions like anger, rage and grief, we shut down our joy, ecstasy and rapture. That's just the way it works. But most of us were not taught that.
Learning how to work with our emotions and excavate the treasures buried within them can enliven us and align us with our true north. Knowing our inner Dark Goddess can transform our lives and awaken deep wells of creative and erotic life force energy. And we can do it in a way that feels good. It doesn't have to be a hot mess.
Venus has a sidekick, a beautiful dark sister who is essential and She wants to have our backs. She lives in all of us. But She requires an invitation to work Her magic in a way that feels good.
In this episode I dive into:
How Venus and the Dark Goddess are in cahoots
Meet my Dark Goddess
How the Dark Goddess is essential for the Feminine to rise
3 ways to connect with your own Dark Goddess and give your passion a place to play
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01 Sep 2023
Mid Life Crisis? How Astrology Can Help
00:27:53
Hey Gorgeous!
Today I want to get a little cosmic with you.
Are you game?
I want to talk about astrology and how it can work for you.
Hear me out:)
At first glance astrology can seem kinda woo, I get it. But I’m here to say while on the one hand, yes it’s magical and I love that. And on the other hand it’s super practical and I love that too.
What I love so much about astrology is that it can give context and meaning to the sometime crazy shit that we go through as spiritual beings having this very human experience.
And let’s be honest, when it comes to midlife and aging things can get a little “unsteady on the jetty” to say the least.
And adding to the confusion, we have a lot of disempowering messages coming our way.
Have you noticed?
We’re told in so many subtle (and not so subtle) ways that we’re being put out to pasture.
Astrology says “forget that bs, you’re just getting started!”
Astrology can be enormously supportive at any stage of life but I want to speak specifically to how it can serve us at midlife.
If we’re open to it.
Does midlife really need to be a crisis? Not if we’re wiling to do some inner work.
Does midlife have to be the beginning of the end?
No. It can be a rebirth; a realignment with who we truly are and what we came here to do.
From the ages of around 40-60 we have four invitations/ opportunities to do some deep soul work. And astrology maps that out for us.
Doing this work can help you get aligned and set yourself up for a rewarding, joyful and even spicy and juicy third chapter of life.
Astrology is not a belief system, it’s a language that can help us navigate these midlife initiation portals with more clarity, ease, love, compassion, joy, gratitude and success.
In this episode I dive into:
Reframing “mid life crisis” into “juicy initiation portals”
How astrology can help us cut to the chase and customize our inner work
4 powerful initiation portals in midlife to tune into; (Uranus Opposition, Chiron Return, Venus Returns & 2nd Saturn Return)
Let's dive in!
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08 Sep 2023
How to Create Boundaries That Feel Good/ My 3 Step Formula
00:27:34
Hey there Gorgeous!
As the soulful, heart-centered women you are, you're constantly looking for new and better ways to bring more joy, love, peace and harmony into the world, am I right?
I love that about you! (And thank you, btw!)
And because of that I'm sure that there are lots of people drawn to your light and clamoring for your precious time, energy & essence. Yes?
And let's be honest, spending time with some of those people inspires and fuels you and others? Well, they can leave you feeling like you just got hit by a freight train.
Here's the thing that most women in my world know, but have trouble actually putting it into practice. We gotta get good, like really good, at creating boundaries!
And in my world that means creating boundaries that feel good. And it's a lifelong practice.
Many of us were not taught that owning our inner authority is a legit thing to do. For some of us it was downright dangerous. And yet it's crucial if we truly want to thrive.
You get to be the boss of you. You get to decide who gets access to your time, energy and essence. Not everyone gets an all access pass.
You, as proud owner of your inner authority, you get to be author of your life. You get to write the script. And it gets to feel good.
This is something I feel we can all use some more loving, spicy support on.
That's why today's episode is about three steps to take to start creating boundaries that actually feel good.
And you guessed it, Bella, pleasure has everything to do with it.
In this episode:
why putting ourselves first is so key
powerful mindset tips to shift our relationship to authority & desire
our sexual energy/erotic power and claiming our inner authority
simple and fun tips to bring boundaries that feel good alive in your life
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15 Sep 2023
3 Feminine Embodiment Practices to Stress Less & Flow More
00:23:14
Hey there Gorgeous!
Today I want to share a bit on something we all encounter pretty much on the daily; stress.
Stress is a fact of life, but unless we have the right tools to navigate it, it can wreak havoc on us body, mind and soul. It saps our vitality, ages us prematurely, cause all kinds of mental and physical aliments, and tanks our libido.
When we store unprocessed stress and the emotions connected to it in our bodies, it blocks our life force, natural radiance, creativity and joy.
Obviously, stress can be a major buzzkill. But it doesn't have to go that way for you.
Mindset practices and affirmations can be great for managing stress, but if we want to go beyond simply managing stress to becoming a master navigator we need to dig deeper.
We need to think (and move) outside the box.
We need to tune into the body's wisdom and embrace the feminine principles of rhythm, flow, sensuality and giving space and permission to feel our full emotional range and ignite the ultimate healing elixir; our erotic power.
When we combine mindset or meditation practices with a daily does of feminine embodiment practice, we've got some potent tools to take the reins on stress and take back our power. Our fluid power that is.
In this episode I share:
The 3 most common types of stress
How stress and emotions get stored in the body
The healing power of sensual breathwork
How sensual movement heals; igniting your fascial system & emotional alchemy
The healing power of sound; organic and the Taoist Healing Sounds
A simple formula to bring these practices into your daily life
Are you ready to bust some stress? Let's dive in!
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22 Sep 2023
How to Truly Heal Your Pelvic Floor & Never Kegel Again
00:26:59
Hey there Gorgeous!
How do you feel about Kegel exercises? Do you love them? Do you hate them? Do you do them?
To be honest, I've never been a fan. Most of the women I know feel similarly.
Although the big K is still the standard advice for pelvic floor care, and can definitely deliver some tangible results, so many women I've met through my work over the years have had a hunch that there's more to explore.
If that's you, I applaud you! You're spot on, love. There IS more. So much more.
That's why I want to do a deeper dive in this week's episode on how we truly heal the pelvic floor (and the entire Femme core) and ditch the Kegel for good.
Here's what you'll find:
The shift into the new paradigm; the rise of the Feminine and the journey from wellness to wholeness
Why a mind, body, spirit approach is key to true healing
How tapping into your flow/fluid power; your amazing fascial network is so key
The truth about the Femme core and why Martha Graham was so on point when she told her students: "Move from your vagina!"
My top suggestions to start your healing journey
Are you ready for a deeper (and much more pleasurable) experience of your Femme core? Cool! Let's dive in!
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29 Sep 2023
The Secret to Building a Radiant & Powerful Core/3 Things Most Women are Missing
00:21:40
Hey beautiful!
Today I want to share a bit of what I've learned about true core power after years of teaching Pilates, Power Yoga & Barre and The Jade Egg.
One thing's for sure, it's not about abs of steel!
While I love movement and I'm all about having a toned, well functioning core, being armored up in the core can actually do a lot of harm.
Chronically sucking in the belly messes with our breathing, keeps us in stress mode, cuts us off from our deepest power source and can exasperate pelvic floor issues of all kinds.
It's time for a new paradigm in fitness. We need a holistic approach that includes all of who we are mind, body & spirit. One that embraces the truth how we're actually designed.
In this episode I dive into:
How "abs of steel" and chronically sucking in the belly impacts the pelvic floor
How sucking in the gut creates armor in the body that keeps us in fight or flight increases inflammation making it hard to lose weight
3 truths about the femme core that most women are missing
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06 Oct 2023
How to Build Embodied Self Trust by Tapping into Your Feminine Flow
00:24:19
Hey Gorgeous!
I’m so excited to share today’s episode with you. It’s all about tuning in to your feminine genius. And trusting it.
Self trust is tricky isn’t it?
It can seem so “fly by night.” One minute you can feel so sure of something, the next, not so much.
We know that trusting ourselves is essential to living a full, authentic life. And we all crave more of the peace, clarity and presence that trusting ourselves can generate, but truly trusting our gut on knowing what’s best for us be it food, career, friends, lovers and communities we engage with, well, it’s not something that most of us were ever encouraged to do.
I feel that the missing piece here is embodiment. When we awaken our feminine flow in our bodies, self trust is a natural result.
Without rooted, embodied self trust life quickly becomes overwhelming and chaotic. But we can get our groove back.
And it’s really quite simple.
In this episode I dive into:
Why self trust is a practice
3 pillars to building self trust from the inside out
Why flow is the master key to self trust
Simple, powerful tips to embody your self trust
It’s your birthright to be connected to your inner wisdom. It’s your birthright to trust it. It’s your birthright to shine your unique essence and give your gifts to the world.
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13 Oct 2023
How to Navigate Eclipse Season Like a Goddess
00:19:04
Hey Beautiful!
Another Eclipse season is upon us! Even if you know nothing about astrology, just like when Mercury spins retro, it can be useful to know that things are not operating in "regularly scheduled program" mode.
Eclipse season happens about every 6 months and offer us powerful invitations to make a quantum shifts. I like to call these cauldrons of transformation as the opportunities for self awareness, healing and inner alchemy are heightened.
Things can feel intense, emotions can run high, and just like Mercury retrogrades, the energy can seem chaotic and abrupt, but when we work with these potent little portals with awareness and intention they can help realign us with our purpose and re-infuse us with passion for out path.
I wanted to do a short and sweet episode on this so that you can navigate this eclipse season (starting Oct. 14th, 2023) from a place of empowerment. There's a lot to work with here, if we choose to get curious and dive in.
Eclipse self care is the key to accessing the magic of the season. And it has everything to do with caring for your nervous system. Let's dive in!
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20 Oct 2023
How to Release Control & Reclaim Your Feminine
00:28:32
Hey Beautiful!
This is an episode about control. And I used to have lots of it. And it didn’t feel so good.
While I love that old Janet Jackson song, too much control can be really problematic. As a former (and at times still recovering) control freak, I know this terrain well and I feel it’s something worth exploring.
There’s a lot here.
I mean, who doesn’t like a little control? It can feel so good,.
Until it doesn’t.
Of course having some control in our lives is essential but in the world we live in, we can easily go overboard and even get addicted to having control and find ourselves in chronic survival mode.
Uber control is not sexy. It can shut down our sensuality and have serious effects on our mental and physical health. When we are '“white knuckling” our way through life we are literally putting ourselves in fight, flight and freeze and miles away from pleasure.
Instead of having all of our ducks in a row, I think there’s a lot of value in learning how to let those ducks swim.
We can learn to let go and flow more and when we do, we get access to the most radiant, creative and powerful parts of ourselves.
I’ve got some tools for you. Let's dive in!
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27 Oct 2023
Unleash Your Inner Goddess/ A 3-Part Activation to Embody Your Sacred Feminine
00:21:38
Hey Beautiful!
If you've been around me for bit, you probably know that I'm part mystic and part tips and tools/nuts and bolts kind of gal.
I love tripping out in the bliss realms where body meets spirit, Rumi poetry, the joy and ecstasy of the heart, full body O etc...
And I really like precision. I love systems that work (former Pilates teacher over here)!
This episode is a good illustration of that:)
For me both are important.
I wanted to devote a full episode to a free, 3-part Sacred Feminine activation masterclass that I've created intentionally and exclusively for the beautiful souls on the waitlist for my signature program The Vital Goddess Mastermind.
It's called Unleash Your Inner Goddess and it's forged in love with a big dose of Goddess magic and chock full of easy to apply practical tools for the mystical, busy modern woman that you are.
I guess we can say it's practical magic:) Tis the season after all! There's a lot here to explore. Let's dive in!
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03 Nov 2023
The Rise of the Feminine & The New Paradigm of Wellness
00:35:00
Hey Beautiful!
As the feminine energy rises on the planet, “the times they are a- changing”.
Never before have we had such a mass interest in holistic healing and wellbeing.
We’re waking up to our true nature and potential.
We’re expanding.
And we’re craving more depth.
While super foods, power smoothies, fitness, Yoga and meditation are always going to be foundational to well being, a new take on what it truly means to thrive is emerging.
We’re moving beyond a simplistic mechanical view of the body; ( ie: the body is a machine that breaks and needs to be fixed), into a perspective steeped in the beautiful, cosmic, rich truth of who we are.
I’ve been working in the wellness industry for over 20 years now; initially as a Pilates and Yoga teacher and now as a Tantra/Jade Egg & Feminine Embodiment coach.
And I can’t help but notice the changing of the tides; it’s more like a tsunami actually. And it’s pretty darn exciting!
A new paradigm is being birthed. One that embraces the feminine. One that honors mind, body and spirit. One that celebrates the beauty, power and sacredness of our bodies and our sensuality.
We’re healing.
We’re remembering.
And we’re just getting started.
Let’s dive in!
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10 Nov 2023
Healing Pelvic Pain With the Taoist Jade Egg Practice
00:28:40
Hey Beautiful!
In today’s episode I dive into a topic that so many women are familiar with; pelvic pain.
There are many different types of pelvic pain, some requiring medical attention, but for women seeking a holistic approach, The Taoist Jade Egg Practice may be the solution you’ve been looking for.
Pelvic pain was a big wake up call for me. It was my own journey with pelvic pain and other issues that kicked me onto the pleasure path over 20 years ago. My quest to heal led me on a journey of reclaiming my Sacred Feminine and introduced me to mind/body/spirit holistic practices that really worked for me.
Here I go deep into the specifics of how The Jade Egg Practice can help heal pelvic pain of many kinds.
Let's dive in! Want to dive deeper?
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17 Nov 2023
Stay in Your Feminine Flow During the Holidays/ The Vital Goddess Radiant Holiday Bundle
00:21:45
Hey Beautiful!
I know things can get a bit hectic this time of year in general and on top of that we’ve got a lot going on in the world right now.
I wanted to put a little something together to support you staying in your feminine flow this holiday season.
So this episode is all about The Vital Goddess Radiant Holiday Bundle.
Here I break down three simple practices that will really help you stay cool, calm and embodied in your flow.
Don’t forget to download your PDF guide with live links to the vids.
You’ll find that linked below.
So much love to your and yours!
xo,
Dianne Download your free Vital Goddess Radiant Holiday Bundle here
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24 Nov 2023
How to Cultivate a Thriving Libido And Why You Might Want To
00:27:14
Today I want to riff a bit on a topic that I know so many women are curious about and maybe even frustrated and confused by; the female libido.
One of the chief complaints heard in doctors offices and in couples counseling from women of all ages is that of low libido.
There’s a lot there.
And there is no short answer or quick fix.
I feel we need a holistic approach when tending to the female libido.
This is a crucial wellness issue that we need to talk more about.
Your vitality and happiness depends on a thriving libido regardless of your age and whether you choose to have sex or not.
Your sexual energy is not just about the urge to have sex. It’s the foundation of everything.
This is your creative life force. And you can learn to cultivate it and tap into it to fuel your life.
A thriving libido is your birthright.
And you can have it.
Let’s dive in!
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01 Dec 2023
Real Talk on Libido & Pleasure With Intimacy Coach Belinda Wiley
00:47:22
Hey Beautiful!
This week on the pod I'm in conversation with the illustrious Belinda Wiley! We dive deep into the female libido, the importance of pleasure, the essentials of true intimacy and chocolate meditation:)
Belinda is a New Zealand based intimacy coach who helps couples reignite the passion in their relationships. Her warmth, humor and heart centered approach to this work (and to life) is beautiful and so unique.
I hope you have as much fun tuning into this conversation as we did recording it. Belinda is full of wisdom and drops so many gems. Let's dive in!
Your Sacred Libido/Claiming the Keys to Your Queendom
00:29:39
Hey Beautiful!
We commonly hear libido described as “sex drive” or “the urge to have sexual intercourse” but there’s sooo much more to the story of turn on.
Libido is your creative life force energy; your zest for life. And a thriving libido is central to your wellbeing whether you’re interested in having sexual partners or not.
In Chinese medicine libido is called Jing and it’s considered to be one of the three treasures of life.
In TCM when your Jing is depleted it’s a red flag. Depleted Jing makes us more susceptible to disease, degeneration and general aging.
In our modern lifestyle it’s very easy to leak Jing. That leaves us feeling depleted, uninspired and sets the stage for a whole host of health problems.
Stress and inflammation are probably the top culprits of depleted Jing.
So how do we preserve and cultivate this treasure of zest and vitality? This may come as a surprise but it’s not about boosting or revving up anything.
The roots of our libido or Jing are our Kidneys. Kidneys are Yin organs; they’re of the water element.
Chinese medicine offers many tonic herbs that can help replenish Kidney energy and Jing but for those to be truly effective lifestyle changes need to be part of the program as well.
And there are ancient Taoist sexual yoga practices (like The Jade Egg Practice) that work really well here.
But how we approach these practices really matters.
We need a reframe on what culture tells us about libido and sexuality. Instead of getting fired up or amped up, we need more rest, calm and flow. We need more sensual pleasure and more reverence for our sacred libido and the sacred vessels of our bodies.
We need practices that soothe the nervous system and allow the body time and space to heal from the effects of stress, past wounds and trauma. Only then can we replenish our reserves slowly and steadily and reclaim our treasure of sustainable Jing and sexy radiant health.
I do believe that our Jing is our personal fountain of youth and claiming it hands us the keys to our Queendom.
Like Dr. Christiane Northrup says in her book Goddesses Never Age; “You’re sitting on a throne of gold. It’s your erotic anatomy.”
Let's dive in!
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15 Dec 2023
Sensual Pleasure is the Ultimate Libido Tonic
00:24:22
Hey Beautiful!
If you’re a woman who wants to truly glow from the inside out and feel amazing, (and if you’re here, I know you are!). A woman who wants to be free to be all of who she fully is and live in alignment with her passion, desires and core values, (again, I’m pretty sure you are!), then you want to take your pleasure seriously.
Truly. This is a non-negotiable my friend!
I know that when life gets rocking and rolling (cue Holiday Season), it’s so easy to put our pleasure last.
Not a good plan!
In fact it’s a terrible plan.
Nix that plan!
Your pleasure is more powerful than a superfood smoothie, I kid you not.
Don’t get me wrong, I love a good green smoothie. Those antioxidants are quite sexy. But there is nothing more holistically supportive of you being your best self in all areas of your life than making your pleasure a top priority.
And making it your default.
You can become an artistic master at pleasure; a maestro.
And you have way more agency around this than you’ve been led to believe.
And it’s really quite simple.
Let's dive in!
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22 Dec 2023
The Law of Attraction & The Feminine Art of Receiving
00:29:41
Are you interested in creating your life more aligned with your desires?
This one’s for you!
Here I dive into the practice of manifestation and using the Law of Attraction to create the life you want to live and the world you want to live and thrive in.
Did you know that activating your sensual pleasure and opening the body to receive and hold the frequency of our desires are powerful (and key) skills to becoming masterful at manifesting?
This is something that Courtesans through the ages have known and practiced.
And something that we focus on a lot in my work.
The sensual arts have much to offer us here.
Within you runs the the creative life force energy that creates worlds. It's your sensual and sexual energy.
Your turn on is life force itself!
And you can learn how to harness it and build your presence and magnetic power with it.
It’s a practice.
Like yoga.
Over time you can be living a lot more in alignment with the Creatrix you truly are.
Here I share some simple and powerful tools on how to do that. Let's dive in!
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29 Dec 2023
3 Ways to Rock Your Radiance in 2024
00:22:27
Heading into a New Year is always an exciting time, isn't it? A fresh start. The musings and soulful conversations we have with our inner wisdom; our higher selves are just so full of truth, love and light. Getting more into alignment with who we really are and why we're here. The new commitments that we make to ourselves. So much potential. So much anticipation. So much desire brewing. I love it!
It's a great reminder of how powerful we truly are. A reminder of how we really do, to a large extent, create our reality. And how much agency we truly have to refine our desires, expand on a dream, to course correct, to make a change. Let's take a moment to acknowledge that. You are amazing! And your desires have the potency to make your world go round.
What's missing in most New Year/New You conversations is how important your pleasure and erotic power are in all of it. It's time to change that.
Your sexual energy is not just about sex, it's creative life force; the stuff that creates worlds. When you add that to the mix, "baby, you got a stew goin'" (Any Arrested Development fans out there?)
When you're "in your pleasure zone" your sacred eros is fueling you and your intuitive genius is online.
When you're tuned in, tapped in, turned on, you are divine spirit dancing in the beautiful sacred vessel that is your body. You remember who you are; the Goddess incarnate. In that place your higher self is activated and you are at your most radiant and magnetic.
The place where all the magic happens.
I know you know that place.
You know exactly what that feels like and I'm pretty sure you want to hang out there a lot more.
And you can.
But it takes practice.
You have to be willing to choose it again and again and again until it becomes your default. You have to really, really care about your sensual pleasure. And be willing to make it a top priority. The great news is that there are practices to support you in this.
Today I want to share with you how we go about it in my work. I want to share three ways to tap into your most radiant and magnetic self. And dial it way up in 2024.
Learn more about my mastermind program The Vital Goddess Mastermind here
05 Jan 2024
5 Ways to Strengthen Your Feminine Essence
00:28:49
Happy New Year!
It’s that time of year where we hear a lot about setting goals, slaying the day and making it all happen.
I want to share a different perspective.
Let’s talk about how to strengthen not our will power but our magnetic power.
The radiant, creative power of your Sacred Feminine.
To do that we need to basically do the opposite of what culture says.
We need to drop into Yin; to connect with our inner wisdom and pleasure. We need to make space for creativity, space to daydream, space to feel, space to connect with our desires and space to open to receive.
Most importantly we need to let go of the pressure to be perfect.
If you’re feeling a bit of post holiday overwhelm, New Year/ New You pressure to improve yourself through striving and pushing, if you’re craving a deeper connection to yourself, this one’s for you!
3 Ways Sensual Breathwork Can Awaken Your Sacred Feminine
00:30:48
Breathwork has gone viral. How cool is that?
There are so many fabulous schools, teachers and coaches out there to learn from and experience the multitude of powerful benefits breathwork can provide.
After studying a variety breathwork techniques with some stellar teachers I realized that what I was truly craving was a breathwork practice that could drop me into my feminine.
I wanted a breathwork practice that was rooted in feminine principle and sensuality; a practice that could help me soothe my nervous system, release blocks to pleasure and open more to receiving.
I couldn't find it anywhere. Even the practices in the category of "Tantric Breathwork" weren't doing for me.
So I rolled out my yoga mat, grabbed my essential oils and started experimenting. After many hours of exploring and refining, Shakti Core Breathwork was born.
If you're looking for a simple breathwork practice that can bring you into your feminine, expand your capacity to receive pleasure and dial up your radiance, magnetism and manifestation powers, this one's for you Bella!
When you align with all of who you really are, you're in your flow, things line up, magic happens, you feel radiant, magnetic, amazing and you feel so deeply grateful. It feels like falling in love.
If you've experienced that state, you've experienced your Inner Venus. Isn't She lovely? Don't you want more of Her?
This vibrational elixir of the Goddess of Love lives in all of us and yet most women, most of time feel cut off from it.
If that's the case for you right now, it's not your fault. But you do have the power to change it.
I feel that this separation from Venus source is major problem and a major missing piece for most woman.
The good news is that you can reclaim Her. I'll show you how. Let's dive in!
3 Ways to Heal Your Relationship With the Masculine
00:32:31
If you struggle with your intimate relationships with the masculine, you’re so not alone!
Intimacy dynamics and romance are a major pain points for so many powerful women.
We can be super confident and fulfilled in so many areas of our lives; career, family, friends, but when it comes to our romantic life?
Things can go into a confusing, destabilizing and downright infuriating downward spiral fast.
I get it. And I’ve definitely been there.
Although we may crave a deeply loving, connected, passionate relationship with a man, how one can actually create that can seem really daunting.
Many women give up on their romantic desires because they seem so out of reach.
But what if we could zoom out a little and try something different?
What most of us were not taught about romance is that amazing relationships don’t “just happen” (at least not sustainable ones).
Great relationships that can go the depth and the distance are the result of deep inner work.
What does that look like?
The biggest shifts for me in this realm happened when I rolled up my sleeves, and took a good look at how my own inner masculine was treating my own inner feminine.
It wasn’t pretty.
I had a lot of cleaning up to do.
But it changed everything.
If you want more romantically, I celebrate you! You deserve it all.
And there’s a lot you can do to have a more curated, empowering, satisfying and fun experience with men.
Society doesn’t make it easy to embody and express that.
And yet it’s absolutely key.
My own journey of reclaiming my feminine didn’t begin with sunshine, rainbows, love and light.
It began in the dark.
It began when I decided to step on the path of befriending my wild, unpredictable, untamable, stormy Dark Femme and invite her to the party.
I used to be terrified of this part of me, but what I’ve found to be true is that She’s my die or ride, my bff, my inner boundary boss and keeper of my deepest desires.
Connecting with this part of me literally brought me back to life.
This inner wild one is within every woman and holds the keys accessing the full spectrum feminine.
Society says that this energy is dangerous. It will ruin our lives and ultimately lead us to self destruction.
I say, not if we learn how to harness this creative life-force power and turn in the direction of our desires.
We can learn how to integrate our Dark Femme in ways empower us and in ways that feel good.
As one of my teacher’s once said: “Rage is passion without a place to play.”
Most women I know, myself included, find romantic relationships to be one of the most challenging areas of life. It’s an ongoing adventure isn’t?
Sometimes there’s connection, ease, flow, passion and fun.
And then the winds shift (sometimes very quickly) and we find ourselves moving into frustration, resentment, anger and that awful gnawing feeling of not feeling met, seen or fulfilled.
Even worse, we sometimes blame ourselves for not knowing what went wrong, not “doing it right” and not knowing how to fix it.
Ugh! We’ve all been there! And it doesn’t serve us or our lovers.
In part, challenges are part of the relationship game.
They can help us grow and heal.
We’re all complex beings and we’re all on a healing journey.
But we can have a lot more creative control over how we feel in our romantic life when we’re willing to do some inner work.
When we do, things can be a lot more fun.
As we head into Valentine’s Day I want to share some things that have really helped and continue to help me on my own relationship journey.
Whether you want to level up your current relationship, or you want to set the stage to attract an amazing lover, this one’s for you.
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