The Stoic Responder (Kristofor Healey)
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| 24 Aug 2022 | Finding Your Path in Business and in Life | TK Herman | 00:55:36 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Entrepreneurship - Building and Selling Companies - Learning to Fly - Challenges in the Modern Workplace - Marriage and Partnership - The Importance of Personal Development
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
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Show Notes:
TK Herman is a father, husband, investor and entrepreneur who has founded multiple successful companies in the software industry. TK is married to his best friend Jill with whom he has five children. TK is also an avid pilot, earning his pilot’s license in 1997, an instrument rating in 2006, a multi-engine rating in 2010 and a helicopter rating in 2020.
TK is a tremendously interesting and successful guy who has made personal development and inner growth an important part of his professional and personal journey.
This is a great conversation with a humble guy who has truly been there and done that. If you’re a father, husband or entrepreneur, you’re sure to gain some insight from this episode!
Until Friday…Out of role!
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| 02 May 2022 | Monday Mindset - Mental Health Check | 00:18:46 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Mental Health Awareness Month - Police suicide and Post Traumatic Stress in first responders - Sobering statistics on mental health and wellness in federal law enforcement - Tools you can use to check on yourself and others
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become the first responder for your family?
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Show Notes: For our Monday Mindset this week we discuss the importance of keeping tabs on your mental health and wellness.
May is Mental Health Awareness Month so it’s time to take care of yourself and check on your friends. Mental Health America has resources available at mhanational.org that can help you or a loved one screen for signs and symptoms of: Depression, Anxiety, Bipolar Disorder, PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), Alcohol or Substance Use Problems; Psychosis; and Eating Disorders.
If you’re a LEO or first responder, you’re at a far higher risk of substance abuse, depression and suicide than your friends and neighbors - Take some time this week to check on your mental well being and that of your colleagues.
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| 28 Feb 2023 | Tuesday Muster - Will it Make the Boat Go Faster? | 00:11:00 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Housekeeping: Podcast Schedule - The Importance of Measuring Against Your Goals - Will it Make the Boat Go Faster? - The Power of Implementation Intentions in Achieving Your Goals
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee)
Show Notes:
In anticipation of the 2000 Sydney Olympics, the British rowing team, who had not won gold since 1912, developed a useful strategy that changed everything for them. By asking themselves one simple question in advance of any decision, they went from being an average rowing team to winning Olympic Gold. The question? “Will this make the boat go faster?”
In psychology, this tactic is known as “implementation intentions,” and it is a tremendously powerful tool that can help you make the absolute most of yourself. We talk about it today on the podcast.
Until Tomorrow…out of role.
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| 12 Aug 2022 | Friday Debrief - Keep Your Promises to Yourself | 00:17:47 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Do You Keep Promises to Yourself? - It’s Hard to Love Yourself When You Don’t Trust Yourself - Using Micro Habits and Tactical Planning to Regain Your Trust With Yourself
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes: On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
It’s hard to like someone, let alone love them, when you don’t trust them. This is especially true when you don’t trust yourself.
We begin to trust ourselves by learning how to keep promises to ourselves.
Until Monday…Out of role!
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| 09 Dec 2022 | Friday Debrief - Stoic Resolutions | 00:34:14 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes: How would the Stoics approach New Year’s Resolutions? We talk about it on today’s show and give you some pointers for becoming part of the eight percent of Americans who actually achieve their New Year’s Resolutions.
Remember: “When faced with anything painful or pleasurable, anything bringing glory or disrepute, realize that the crisis is now, that the Olympics have started, and waiting is no longer an option; that the chance for progress, to keep or lose, turns on the events of a single day.” - Epictetus, Enchiridion 51.2
Until Monday…Out of role!
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| 19 Oct 2022 | Wednesday Solocast - Life is the Collection of Experiences | 00:25:14 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - The Importance of Taking a Break and Filling Your Cup - Living and Working for the Experience of Life - Life is More Than the Passing of Time - The Importance of Living Your Life Now - Enjoying the Fullness of Your Life
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
On today’s solocast I talk about the importance of work/life balance, living your life in the present and collecting experiences instead of things.
Remember: “Life is not just the passing of time. Life is the collection of experiences and their intensity.” - Jim Rohn
Until Friday…out of role. | |||
| 29 Apr 2022 | Friday Debrief - Why Discipline Equals Freedom | 00:16:08 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Why discipline equals freedom - Self-discipline and setting boundaries - How a strong foundation helps you weather the storm
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become the first responder for your family?
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes: On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
This week we learned about freedom and sovereignty and the importance of being a free man in your own right. Today, we discuss what Jocko Willink (and the Stoics) mean by “Discipline Equals Freedom” and how you can apply it to your daily life.
Remember: “Man conquers the world by conquering himself,” so it is important for us to first be self-disciplined if we wish to be free.
The greatest obstacles we face are often self-imposed. Self-discipline is the path to true freedom because it frees us from our own limitations that otherwise bar us from living the life we want.
Until Monday…out of role. | |||
| 10 Jun 2022 | Friday Debrief - The Power of Process Thinking | 00:23:49 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - How Roman Emperors and Championship Coaches use Process Thinking to win - Marcus Aurelias - Meditations 8.32 - Nick Saban - Trust the Process - Bill Belichick - Do Your Job - Sun Tzu - “Every Battle is Won Before it is Fought”
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become the first responder for your family?
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes: On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
This week we talked about the importance of keeping your eyes on the summit and staying on the path. Today we’re going to tell you how to get there using Process Thinking!
“You can’t look back. We don’t talk about last year. We don’t talk about next week. We talk about today, and we talk about the next game. That’s all we can really control. The rest of it will take care of itself.” - Bill Belichick
Until Monday…out of role. | |||
| 05 Jul 2024 | Emergency Reload | 00:10:26 | |
“And as long as nothing satisfies you, you yourself cannot satisfy others ” - Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
It has been said by many a firearms instructor that an empty gun is little more than a poorly designed impact weapon. That’s why we practice emergency reloads and immediate action drills - so that we can get back in the fight. But what happens when your personal magazine runs dry?
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways:
Until Next Time…out of role! | |||
| 28 Nov 2022 | Monday Muster - Pressure is a Privilege | 00:35:03 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Pressure is a Privilege - You Earn the Right to Feel Pressure - Pressure Makes us Better - Pressure Challenges us to Live With Integrity - Pressure Helps us Engage With Life More Meaningfully - “I Want The Ball” Feeling - Better to Fail While Daring Greatly
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Pressure is often viewed as a negative force in our lives. Undue pressure can certainly be an enormous cause of stress, chaos and turmoil. But each challenge that comes along also presents opportunities to test our character, our leadership, and our commitment. The opportunity to perform under pressure, in the face of adversity, and to meet or exceed expectations is truly a privilege. We talk about why on today’s podcast!
Until Wednesday…out of role.
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| 17 Feb 2023 | Friday Debrief - AI and the Knowledge Economy | 00:26:46 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee)
Show Notes: AI is going to be a permanent part of the knowledge economy whether you like it or not. Tools like ChatGPT, Otter AI and Bard are here to stay and can make you more efficient and better at your job if you learn how to leverage them. On today’s podcast I give you the 30,000 yard view of AI and how it is already changing the Knowledge Economy and creating new ways for business owners to become more efficient in their day to day operations. We discuss Artificial Intelligence and how you can utilize it on today’s podcast! Until Monday…Out of role!
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| 08 Apr 2022 | Friday Debrief - It Takes Time To Create Excellence | 00:22:14 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - What we learned this week: The power of humility - It takes time to create excellence - The importance of character traits, skills and beliefs - There is no magic trick, just time under tension
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become the first responder for your family?
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes: On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
This week we learned about the power of humility, what can happen when you lean into a new challenge and the character traits, skills and beliefs it takes to become excellent.
Remember: “It takes time to create excellence. If it could be done quickly, more people would do it.” So, set your intention, lean into your goal and commit to putting in the reps until it would be unreasonable for you to fail.
Until Monday…out of role. | |||
| 27 Aug 2024 | Age Versus Experience | 00:15:17 | |
“A man with white hair and wrinkles hasn’t lived long – he has just existed long” - Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
The Stoics believed that time is our most valuable resource, and it is the only thing that we can never get back. Therefore, we must seek to constantly develop ourselves in the time that we have.
In Atomic Habits, James Clear tells the story of the British cycling team who took this theory to the extreme with impressive results when they hired Dave Brailsford as their performance director in 2003. At the time of Brailsford’s hiring, British cyclists had won just one gold medal at the Olympic Games since 1908, and no British cyclist had ever won the Tour de France.
On today’s podcast, we talk about how Brailsford created success in a fraction of the time by focusing on marginal gains!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60. If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
Until Next Time…out of role! | |||
| 24 Jul 2024 | Seize What Flees | 00:11:02 | |
E035: Seize What Flees
“Let us therefore set out whole-heartedly, leaving aside our many distractions and exert ourselves in this single purpose before we realize too late the swift and unstoppable flight of time and are left behind. As each day arises, welcome it as the very best day of all, and make it your own possession. We must seize what flees.” – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
The sand will run out on each of our hour glasses. What can we do to seize what flees? We talk about it on the podcast today.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways:
Until Next Time…out of role! | |||
| 16 Feb 2023 | Thursday Solocast - Five Tips to Cultivate Patience | 00:32:48 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Housekeeping: Podcast Schedule - We can choose to perceive events in a productive way, or a destructive way. - Think Before You Act - New Days Are New Beginnings - The Importance of Acting with Purpose - For Everything There is a Season - Wherever You Are, You Are Already There - Learning to Live in Gratitude in the Moment
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee)
Show Notes:
Gentlemen, when we find ourselves in a season of adversity, there are lessons that we can take from Stoic philosophy that will help us develop the mindset necessary to overcome. Patience is hard to cultivate and develop, but it’s a skill that can make you happier and more successful if you learn how to wield it. We talk about it today on the podcast!
Until Friday…out of role.
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| 30 Aug 2024 | The World Does Not Care | 00:10:20 | |
Things stand outside of us, themselves by themselves, neither knowing anything of themselves nor expressing any judgment.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
The universe around us possesses no consciousness, nor does it pass judgments. It is fundamentally neutral and indifferent to our presence. It doesn't act with any particular intention or motive, whether to benefit or to harm us. Rather, it is our judgments and reactions to the world around us that assign value, meaning and emotional weight to events.
We talk about how to embrace indifference on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60. If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
Until Next Time…out of role! | |||
| 20 Oct 2023 | Friday Debrief - How to Say No More Often & Why You Should | 00:35:45 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Connect with Kristofor on Substack | https://kristoforhealey.substack.com
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a FREE COPY of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Buy your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes: If you want to feel less overwhelmed and become more productive, you need to say no more often.
And as hard as it is to say no, studies show that doing so is beneficial to your mental health because you feel better about yourself when you have healthy boundaries and standards in place that allow you to operate with greater efficiency on things that matter. You need to start saying no more often if you want to achieve more of your goals. We give you tips on how to do so on today’s podcast. Until Next Time…out of role!
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| 20 Aug 2024 | Master Yourself | 00:14:21 | |
"No man is free who is not master of himself." – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Part of what makes Stoicism so fascinating is that its early adherents were representative of the extremes of both Greek and Roman society. Some, like Cato, Zeno of Citium, Helvidius Priscus and Seneca were wealthy merchants, Senators, playwrights and civic leaders. One, Marcus Aurelius, was the most powerful man on earth, rising to the position of Emperor of Rome. But on the other hand, many came from more humble origins. Cleanthes was a simple laborer, Chrysippus a runner, and Epictetus a slave. The varied lives of the progenitors of the philosophy show us that regardless of one’s station in life, some things are universally true.
When Epictetus said, "No man is free who is not master of himself," he conveyed a fundamental principle of Stoic philosophy that transcends class and caste, namely that inner freedom and self-mastery are the true source of liberty.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60. If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
Until Next Time…out of role! | |||
| 31 May 2024 | The Highest Good | 00:08:53 | |
“Just that you do the right thing. The rest does not matter.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About: Cicero believed that the ultimate goal of human life was to achieve happiness, but he defined happiness not merely as pleasure or hedonistic pursuits but rather as a state of moral and intellectual excellence that came from achieving summum bonum - “the highest good.” In this episode we discuss what it means to aspire to the highest good. Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor | LinkTree Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here! Takeaways:
Until Next Time…out of role!
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| 26 Jun 2024 | How You Bear It | 00:17:43 | |
“It does not matter what you bear, but how you bear it.” – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About: Will Jimeno was a 33 year old rookie cop for the Port Authority Police Department on the morning of September 11, 2001. Shortly after American Airlines Flight 11 struck the North Tower, Jimeno and 19 of his colleagues boarded a commandeered bus and made their way towards the World Trade Center where they entered the mezzanine between the buildings. When the South Tower began to collapse minutes later, Jimeno, his colleague Dominick Pezzulo, and their sergeant, John McLoughlin were trapped in a freight elevator some 20 feet beneath the wreckage.
Jimeno and McLoughlin were two of only twenty survivors to emerge from the collapsed buildings. Their amazing story reminds us that even in times of unimaginable despair, it is within our power to control our mind, and bear the burden with resilience and courage. It reminds us that what defines our character is not the adversity we face, but, rather, the attitude with which we face it.
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor | LinkTree Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here! Takeaways
Until Next Time…out of role! | |||
| 08 Aug 2024 | It's All Perspective | 00:13:54 | |
“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth. – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
In September 2021, images and videos circulated showing Border Patrol Agents on horseback confronting illegal immigrants from Haiti on the banks of the Rio Grande River outside of Del Rio, Texas. As a rush of Haitians attempted to illegally enter the United States, the agents worked to manage the crowd and push them back, using their long leather reins to control their mounts.
Unfortunately, still photographs of the incident were characterized by media organizations and the White House as showing the agents “whipping” or “strapping” people. It didn’t matter that video proved that characterization was an outright lie, the narrative, once established, drowned out the truth. And when the investigation into the agents' conduct eventually cleared them of any wrongdoing, there were no apologies from the smear merchants who had long since moved on.
This incident is a good reminder that we work in a dynamic environment where deceptively edited images and videos can create an anti-police fervor in the blink of an eye. And while we cannot control the actions of dishonest brokers who profit from spinning up societal outrage, we can take a lesson from how they operate: If they frame police conduct this way, what else are they manipulating?
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60. If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
Until Next Time…out of role! | |||
| 25 Jun 2024 | Treat Yourself With Reason | 00:12:07 | |
“In order to protect ourselves we must live like doctors and be continually treating ourselves with reason.”– Musonius Rufus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About: One thing we learned during the pandemic is the difference between proactive and reactive care. We can take proactive steps to avoid infection or strengthen our immune system, but once infected, the treatment is reactive to the illness.
The Stoics viewed reason as proactive care for our mindset. Like a vitamin regimen or a workout schedule, we can take proactive steps to strengthen ourselves against infection.
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor | LinkTree Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here! Takeaways
Until Next Time…out of role! | |||
| 17 Jun 2022 | Friday Debrief - Becoming Indispensable | 00:20:03 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Weekly Housekeeping - What it Means to be Indispensable - Time, Money or Priorities? - Startling Statistics on Obesity in America - Prioritizing Your Health Prioritizes Your Family
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become the first responder for your family?
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes: On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
This week we talked about drivers and values and putting your family first. Today we talk about what it means to truly be an indispensable man for those who matter the most.
Remember…
“Of course I deprecate war, but if it is brought to my door the bringer will find me at home.” - James Garfield
Until Monday…out of role.
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| 20 Jun 2024 | It's All Projection | 00:09:45 | |
“Enter people’s minds, and you’ll find the judges you’re so afraid of — and how judiciously they judge themselves.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Imposter Syndrome is a psychological phenomenon characterized by persistent self-doubt and the fear of being exposed as a fraud, despite evidence of one's competence and accomplishments. Individuals experiencing this phenomenon often dismiss their achievements as luck, timing, or the result of deceiving others rather than acknowledging their own skills and qualifications.
At its core, Imposter Syndrome is a fear of being judged. But whose judgment, exactly, are we afraid of?
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | LinkTree Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways
Until Next Time…out of role! | |||
| 06 Dec 2023 | Trauma and Change: Helping Others Find Their Post Police Purpose | Former SWAT & K9 Officer Eric Maddox | 00:59:02 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Connect with Kristofor on Substack | https://kristoforhealey.substack.com
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a FREE COPY of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Buy your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Eric Maddox is a former law enforcement officer with 13 years of experience. He specialized in street crimes, K9, and tactical operations (SWAT).
After leaving law enforcement for a career in the private sector, Eric has a strong passion to help people in the first responder career field who want to make a change.
Through his consultancy, Maddox Initiative, Eric provides 1 on 1 high level coaching and services to help his clients bridge the gap between their LE careers and the private sector so that they can achieve their “dream” life on their terms.
You can find Eric Maddox online at:
IG: @MaddoxInitiative Website: www.MaddoxInitiative.com LinkedIn: Maddox Initiative
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| 22 Aug 2024 | Know Nothing | 00:10:10 | |
“The first thing a pretender to philosophy must do is get rid of their presuppositions; a person is not going to undertake to learn anything that they think they already know.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Presuppositions are the ideas, biases, and assumptions that we hold about the world based on our past experiences, beliefs, and cultural influences. They shape our perceptions of reality and influence how we interpret new information and experiences. However, clinging too tightly to these presuppositions can hinder our ability to truly learn and grow.
We talk about how Marine Corps leadership principles and Marcus Aurelius put an emphasis on seeking self-improvement through knowledge transfer on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60. If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
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| 21 Mar 2024 | Achieve More by Prioritizing Action Over Motion | 00:30:46 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
In this episode, we discuss the difference between motion and action and the importance of focusing on action items that advance your main goals. We share personal experiences and insights on how to be more deliberate and protect your time, emphasize the value of setting specific goals, creating a tactical plan, and executing it. By eliminating motion activities and focusing on action, individuals can achieve more and live with purpose.
Resources + Links:
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Takeaways:
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| 03 Jul 2024 | Facts First | 00:09:51 | |
"The first rule is to keep an untroubled spirit. The second is to look things in the face and know them for what they are." – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
To keep an untroubled spirit is to cultivate emotional resilience and the ability to withstand life's trials without being overwhelmed by negative emotions like anger, fear, or despair. But to succeed in this endeavor we must first be rational and reality-based in our thinking.
Facing reality directly makes us more effective problem-solvers. By understanding the true nature of a situation, we can devise thoughtful and pragmatic solutions and approach our challenges with serenity and insight.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways:
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| 04 Jul 2022 | Monday Muster - Willful Blindness | 00:18:16 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Willful Blindness is Conscious Avoidance - Willful Blindness is the Cause of the Greatest Crimes we Commit Against Ourselves - What are you Ignoring that is Causing you Harm Right Now? - True Growth Comes From Owning Who you are Now.
Resources + Links:
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Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes: There is a legal theory in federal money laundering cases called “willful blindness.”
Willful blindness is, in a word, lying to oneself. It is conscious avoidance.
Jordan Peterson calls willful blindness “the most common form of deception” and argues that it was responsible for the rise of fascism and communism and all of their attendant atrocities.
But, on a more personal level, he argues that willful blindness is responsible for the crimes we commit against ourselves.
Ignorance is not bliss. It’s deadly serious.
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| 16 Jun 2023 | Friday Debrief - The Plus, Minus and Equals Training System | 00:24:24 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes: MMA superstar Frank Shamrock developed a training system to help him become a more well rounded athlete in the octagon. You can apply Shamrock’s “Plus, Minus and Equals” training system to any aspect of your life where you want to see improvement. We talk about it on the podcast today. Remember: “False ideas about yourself destroy you. For me, I always stay a student, that’s what martial arts are about, and you have to use the humility as a tool”. – Frank Shamrock Until Monday…Out of role!
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| 01 Aug 2024 | Be Tranquil | 00:11:11 | |
“Occupy thyself with few things, says the philosopher, if thou wouldst be tranquil.“ – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About: It is only by decluttering our minds and lives, that we can create space for clarity, purpose, and serenity to flourish. This requires discipline, self-awareness, and a willingness to embrace simplicity in our thoughts, actions, and possessions. We talk about it on the podcast today!
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here! Sponsor Discounts: Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60. If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways
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| 18 Oct 2023 | Conducting a Self-Investigation | Jeff Fields | 01:08:03 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
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How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a FREE COPY of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Buy your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Jeff Fields is an accomplished law enforcement professional with over two decades of extensive experience at both local and federal levels. Across his career, Jeff has been a patrol officer, a TFO, a Special Agent and a high level internal affairs investigator who conducted highly sensitive and widely publicized investigations driven by Congressional motivation, focusing on executive-level government personnel and programs.
In addition to his law enforcement career, Jeff worked as a medico-legal death investigator in both New Mexico and North Carolina. He holds certifications as an active shooter response instructor from the Federal Law Enforcement Training Center and has received advanced training in executive protection, firearms, whistleblower/retaliation claims, and procurement fraud.
Currently residing in North Carolina, Jeff is working on his first book Sober From Sin, which delves into "A Law Enforcement Veteran's Self-Investigation Journey through Trauma, Addiction, Faith, and Redemption."
Today we talk about the toll our careers in law enforcement take and the way the job can exacerbate the problems we face at work and at home. Jeff’s story is one that many law enforcement officers face and his mission now is to share his story and be an asset and resource to others dealing with the same issues he faced across over two decades in the field.
You can find Jeff online at:
1333Consulting.com or via email at consulting1333@icloud.com
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| 21 Jun 2023 | Bear the Sword | Andy Hughes | 00:59:36 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Advice to Young People on Joining Law Enforcement - It Isn’t a Job or Career, It’s a Calling and a Noble and Honorable Profession - Training and Recruitment Issues in Law Enforcement - The Characteristics of a Good Law Enforcement Officer - Inspiring Future Generations of Law Enforcement Officers - The Two Types of People You Deal With in Law Enforcement - Servant Leadership - Putting Mental Health First - The Warrior Mindset in Policing vs. the Militarization of Law Enforcement
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes: Our guest today is Andy Hughes. Andy is a second generation law enforcement officer with over 30 yrs of experience at the county, municipal and state levels.
After he retired in 2016 Andy has been working in the private security sector, providing training to law enforcement organizations through Performance Protocol and volunteering with an Alabama faith based organization called Blue Watch that ministers to law enforcement officers by providing them support through free or low cost seminars and training.
Andy has recently been pursuing a new purpose in life: inspiring future generations of law enforcement officers, law enforcement leadership and supporters of law enforcement who he encourages to “Bear the Sword.”
Andy is an inspiring leader and speaker and if you are a law enforcement officer, spouse or supporter or feel called to the profession, I highly recommend you connect with Andy through Instagram (@ahughes297) or on LinkedIn (Andy R. Hughes).
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| 01 Feb 2024 | OUT OF ROLE - Taking on the Border Crisis With Jeff Fields | 01:05:30 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links:
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How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
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Show Notes:
In this conversation, Kris and Jeff discuss the current situation at the US-Mexico border and the challenges it presents. They provide insights based on their extensive experience in law enforcement and border-related crimes. The conversation covers topics such as the record numbers of illegal crossings, the impact on communities and resources, the intentional policies of the Biden administration, and the role of the media in shaping perceptions. They also highlight the strain on law enforcement resources and the need for effective enforcement and vetting processes.
The conversation delves into various aspects of border enforcement, the consequences of shutting down the border, the conditions at border detention facilities, the language used in immigration discourse, the credibility of asylum claims, the apprehension of individuals on the terror watch list, the humanitarian crisis at the border, the political motivations behind immigration policies, the dangers faced by those crossing the border, the impeachment of Alejandro Mayorkas, and the anticipated increase in border crossings as we approach the November election.
Takeaways
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| 02 Sep 2022 | Friday Debrief - A Gem Cannot be Polished Without Friction | 00:17:53 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Weekly Recap - The Value of Friction in Your Life - Rising Above Trials and Trauma - How Adversity Reveals What you are Really Made of - Focus on Solutions, Not on Problems
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
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Show Notes: On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
Some of the most successful people that I know have come from situations that would have derailed most people. How do we learn to rise above? We embrace friction and use it to empower us.
Remember: “A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor a man perfected without trials.” - Seneca
Until Monday…Out of role!
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| 17 Jul 2024 | OUT OF ROLE: Breaking Down the Trump Assassination Attempt, Security Failures, the USSS Response and Investigative Aftermath with Former Special Agent Jeff Fields | 01:26:18 | |
Given my background as a Special Agent I have been getting a lot of questions about the Trump shooting on Saturday and my opinion on security failures, the Secret Service response, staffing issues and what comes next. I brought my friend and classmate Jeff Fields on to discuss this incident and provide some insight from two former Special Agents who have worked with (and investigated) Secret Service. The conversation discusses the Trump assassination attempt and the role of the Secret Service in protecting the President and other high-profile individuals. We dive into the different divisions within the Secret Service and their responsibilities. We analyze the incident and the potential lapses in security that allowed the gunman to get within 400 feet of the President. We highlight the coordination between the Secret Service and local law enforcement agencies and emphasize the extensive training and vetting process that Secret Service agents undergo. We also discuss the criticism and misconceptions surrounding the female agents involved in the incident and address the training and skills of female agents, the challenges of using certain holsters, and the importance of communication and coordination during high-stress situations. The conversation also explores the allocation of resources and the limitations faced by the Secret Service in terms of hiring and budget and highlights the complexity of presidential protection and the need for a comprehensive understanding of the operational challenges. The conversation explores the issues and challenges within the Secret Service including recruitment and retention problems, resource allocation, communication failures, and the need for accountability. while highlighting the sacrifices and challenges faced by Secret Service agents, such as constant travel and missed family events. Finally, we dig into the potential separation of criminal investigative responsibilities from the Secret Service and the impact of being absorbed into the Department of Homeland Security while laying out what we hope to see for changes and accountability going forward.
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| 14 Dec 2022 | Becoming Fiscally Savage | Dylan Bain | 00:54:12 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs - Money is an Emotion and we Make Emotional Choices Around Money - The Emotional Manipulation of Money - A Lone Wolf is a Dead Wolf That Doesn’t Know it Yet - Women are Better at the Money Game - Why Partnering With a Good Woman is so Powerful - We all Have Trauma and it Manifests Itself in our Relationship With Money - None of us Come out of Childhood Without Scratches and Dents - Money is Not Natural - It’s an Agreed Upon Fiction - How Does Money Make You Feel? - The Importance of Tribal Relationships in Your Finances - The Identity Around Your Money Story
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
In the past eight years, Dylan Bain has gone from food stamps to financial sovereignty down a path that involved five jobs, four addresses, three degrees, two kids, and one vision of an amazing life. He has learned how to live, love, lead, and learn with his wife and raise their kids through all the challenges of those times. Now, in addition to working as a CPA, he runs Fiscally Savage, a financial coaching practice focused on the emotions of money, budgets as statements of shared values, and how to take control of your financial life and live free!
Fiscally Savage is a practice dedicated to creating a world of savages who live from their hearts by providing pathways to financial sovereignty. You can keep up to date on Dylan’s latest classes and workshops by signing up for his newsletter at FiscallySavage.com. You can follow Dylan on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter @FiscallySavage and can tune into the Fiscally Savage podcast wherever you get your podcasts!
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| 06 Jun 2022 | Monday Muster - Eyes on the Summit | 00:20:59 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - The Importance of Keeping Your Eyes on the Summit - Finding Inspiration from People on the Same Path - Stop Listening to People with no Skin in the Game
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become the first responder for your family?
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Show Notes: There is a Hindu proverb about success. In essence, it reminds us that there are many paths we can climb to reach the top of a mountain, and all of the paths lead in the same direction.
The important thing isn’t the path you choose, but that you’re climbing.
And the only people wasting time are the ones running around and around the base of the mountain, telling everyone else that they’re on the wrong path.
The lesson is endlessly applicable.
In all aspects of your life there will be people who tell you that you’re going to fail. There will be naysayers who criticize and cast doubt as you climb.
If you listen and respond to those who tell you you’re on the wrong path, you’ll never make it to the summit.
Here’s a tip: if someone is closer to the summit than you, pay attention. If someone is closer to the base, tune them out.
You don’t get rich by taking advice from broke people.
You don’t get fit by listening to your buddy with the dad bod.
You don’t cross finish lines by looking behind you.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
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| 15 Feb 2023 | Setting the Pace | Eric Masson | 00:54:43 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Service and Serving Others - Setting the Pace for Your Family - Entrepreneurship - Fitness After 40 - Choosing Your Battles - Never Pass Up The Opportunity to Keep Your Mouth Shut - Leadership Lessons from a Retired Coast Guard Officer - The Importance of Doing Things That Make You Uncomfortable - The Perfection Trap
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee) Show Notes: Our guest today is my friend Eric Masson. Eric is a father, husband, veteran, attorney, entrepreneur and Ironman. Our conversation about family, service, leadership, fitness and business was one of my favorite conversations on the podcast thus far.
You’ll want to tune in to hear Eric’s story, perspective and wisdom. And if you’re an entrepreneur or small business owner needing legal advice on how to structure your business, reach out to Eric at eric@eskowlawgroup.com or connect with him on Instagram @ericmasson.esq | |||
| 07 Dec 2022 | Wednesday Solocast - The Benefit of Hanlon’s Razor | 00:39:43 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Hanlon’s Razor - Fundamental Attribution Error - Not Attributing Failures to Malice or Action’s to Personality - The Benefit’s of Hanlon’s Razor - How to Apply Hanlon’s Razor to Your Day to Day Life - Recognizing Your Cognitive and Egocentric Bias - Embracing the Principle of Charity
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Hanlon’s razor is the adage that you should “never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity”. Applied broadly, this principle suggests that when assessing people’s actions, you should not assume that they acted out of a desire to cause harm, as long as there is a reasonable alternative explanation.
On today’s show we talk about how you can use an awareness of Hanlon’s Razor and fundamental attribution error to reduce friction, stress and emotional reactions in your life.
Until Friday…out of role.
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| 01 May 2023 | Monday Muster - Lessons in Controlling the Chaos | 00:23:06 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
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Show Notes:
The last four months have been a laboratory for me to test and practice the Stoic principle of the “Dichotomy of Control.” By controlling that which I could, and finding anchor points to set my life around during a period of chaos, I was able to regain control more quickly and hit the ground running to start a new week and month.
What are the anchor points in your life that you can lean into to help maintain control in times of chaos?
Remember:
“Some things are within our power, while others are not. Within our power are opinion, motivation, desire, aversion, and, in a word, whatever is of our own doing; not within our power are our body, our property, reputation, office, and, in a word, whatever is not of our own doing” - Epictetus
Until Wednesday…out of role.
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| 19 Sep 2022 | Monday Muster - Hoist the Black Flag | 00:26:26 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - When is Enough Enough? - Hoisting the Black Flag - Liberty is the Soul’s Right to Breathe - The Importance of Taking Stock of Your Situation
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
“Every normal man must be tempted, at times, to spit upon his hands, hoist the black flag, and begin slitting throats." - H.L. Mencken
One of my favorite books is Colin Woodard’s The Republic of Pirates that tells the tale of the Golden Age of Piracy and how the infamous Flying Gang revolted against the conditions they faced on the sea and on plantations and joined forces to form the western hemisphere’s first democratic republic.
The pirates weren’t what Hollywood wants you to see them as. They weren’t all bloodthirsty reprobates. They were rebels - free men - who said “enough,” and cast off their yokes to breathe free air. Their rebellion shook the foundations of the British and Spanish Empires and fanned the democratic sentiments that would drive the American revolution 50 years later.
The story always reminds me that men, at our core, across the generations, have always had the same yearning to throw off the shackles and forge our own path - free, independent and sovereign - not living by another’s leave.
We’re not that different in the 21st Century than those 17th Century rebels. We all yearn to live life on our terms. So…When do you say enough is enough and hoist your own black flag?
Gentlemen, you get one life. One shot to truly live free, to truly chase what’s yours and create a legacy. When will it be time for you to throw up your own black flag and choose to live life on your terms?
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| 06 Jul 2022 | The Art of Masculinity | Johnny Elsasser | 00:58:53 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Redefining Masculinity - Being a Leader for 21st Century Men - From Military to Civilian Life - The Power of Mentorship and Brotherhood - Refilling Your Cup by Building a Tribe - What Does the Art of Masculinity Mean to You?
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes: Our guest today is Johnny Elsasser. Johnny is a former U.S. Army Ranger from the 2nd Ranger Battalion and a former security contractor who protected the U.S. Ambassador to Iraq. After spending a decade working in and out of the Middle East, Johnny changed his focus to working on his own personal development journey and then to helping other men become better versions of themselves through his coaching programs, retreats and podcasts.
You can connect with Johnny via his website, follow his podcast, The Art of Masculinity, check out his YouTube channel, or check out his Instagram to learn more about the programs and retreats he’s offering such as the upcoming Wildman Experience in Kodiak, Alaska! After attending two of Johnny’s Wildman Experience retreats, I can tell you he puts on a hell of an experience for me looking to connect with likeminded, high achieving men and expand their social and professional circles. I hope you gain as much from this conversation as I did! Until Friday….Out of role. | |||
| 15 Apr 2022 | Friday Debrief - Make The Best Of What Is In Your Power | 00:16:30 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - What is in your power and what is not - How your actions and reactions are what define you - How to live with courage and make the best of the hand you’re dealt
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become the first responder for your family?
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Show Notes: On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
This week we learned about the courage it takes to overcome tragedy and make the best of what is within our control. We talked about courage in our actions and courage in our reactions.
Remember: We cannot control what happens to us. But we can control how we react to what happens to us. As Epictetus said, “Make the best of what is in your power and take the rest as it happens.”
Until Monday…out of role. | |||
| 06 Dec 2022 | Monday Muster - The FTX Media Playbook | 00:35:35 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - How a Billionaire Crypto Brow Set the Narrative - Seven Ways to Influence the Narrative Around You - Tell a Good Story - Money Talks and Writes - Flood the Zone With Content - Credibility Loves Company - Education > Advocacy - Be The Human Mascot of Your Company/Project/Team - Looks Matter - But Only if They Appear Authentic
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
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Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Today we break down an incredible thread/post by Lulu Cheng Meservy that discusses how FTX founder Sam Bankman-Fried (SBF) strategically manipulated the narrative around his company and created a sustained charm campaign to curry favor with the media, politicians and celebrities.
As SBF’s house of cards has collapsed, and he’s fled the U.S., he has continued to receive favorable coverage from the American media who are treating him like an ernest broker instead of a young Bernie Madoff.
We can all learn a thing or two about how SBF masterfully created a media narrative and how we can - ethically - use the same tactics to our own advantage.
Check out Lulu’s substack here for the full story!
Until Wednesday…out of role.
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| 14 Aug 2024 | Go Out and Get It | 00:09:33 | |
E047: Go Out and Get It
“God laid down this law, saying: if you want some good, get it from yourself.” – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
By the time he became a key figure in the American Revolution and played an instrumental role in drafting the Declaration of Independence and the United States Constitution Benjamin Franklin was already known worldwide as an author, satirist, scientist, publisher, inventor and statesman.
Franklin accomplished so much in his life because of his deep commitment to self-improvement.
We talk about Franklin’s self-discipline on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60. If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
Until Next Time…out of role! | |||
| 27 Apr 2022 | Wellness + Wisdom | Josh Trent | 01:00:26 | |
E012: Wellness + Wisdom
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Being a cog in the machine vs. protecting and serving - How the last two years have changed our beliefs on health and wellness, autonomy and sovereignty - The war on consciousness - The importance of who you serve - Spiritual suicide and following your path
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Show Notes:
Josh Trent (@joshtrentofficial) is the Founder of Wellness Force Media and host of the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast.
Josh has spent the past 19+ years as a trainer, researcher, and facilitator discovering the physical and emotional intelligence for humans to thrive in our modern world.
The Wellness Force Media Mission is to help humans heal mental, emotional and physical health through podcasts, programs, and a global community that believe in optimizing our potential to live life well.
Josh's life is dedicated to supporting humanity coming together as one. After publishing over 400 high-level interviews with some of the most respected minds in the health, wellness, and self-help industries, Josh has been spotlighted in major wellness media outlets such as Onnit, Spartan, SEALFIT, and Paleo f(x).
Josh holds a C.E.S certification from the National Academy of Sports Medicine, and is the creator of the BREATHE | Breath & Wellness Program: A 21 day guided breath and wellness program using ancient wisdom to boost your immunity, calm your mind, and give you freedom from chronic stress in the modern world.
Josh is also the CEO of Civilized Caveman, helping women and men live better through practical tools for wellness, personal development, and paleo-friendly recipes.
You can follow Josh on Instagram at @joshtrentofficial, check out his website https://joshtrent.com or follow the Wellness + Wisdom podcast wherever you get your podcasts. | |||
| 27 Jun 2022 | Monday Muster - Chaos is a Choice | 00:14:29 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Chaos is a Choice - Order and Chaos are Both Contagious - Chaos is Compounding - Outcomes are a Consequence of Your Choices, Don’t Choose Chaos
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Show Notes: Chaos and order are both choices. When we choose order we remove and reduce friction, and friction is the biggest impediment between you and your goals. Reduce chaos, achieve more.
Until Wednesday…out of role. | |||
| 05 Sep 2024 | Show Them Their Mistake | 00:12:58 | |
“Shall any man hate me? That will be his affair. But I will be mild and benevolent toward every man, and ready to show even him his mistake, not reproachfully, nor yet as making a display of my endurance, but nobly and honestly.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
When faced with prejudice against our profession it can be easy to get defensive. After all, you didn’t do anything deserving of the enmity. But does that defensiveness win any hearts and minds? No. Marcus Aurelius invites us to, instead, consider the transformative potential of responding to hate with love and benevolence.
We talk about how to rise above hatred on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60. If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
Until Next Time…out of role! | |||
| 20 Sep 2024 | True Freedom | 00:13:23 | |
“[It is] like seeing roasted meat and other dishes in front of you and suddenly realizing: This is a dead fish. A dead bird. A dead pig. Or that this noble vintage [wine] is rotted grapes… perceptions like that... latching onto things and piercing through them, to see what they really are… to strip away the legend that encrusts them.” - Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
What is the world around you when it is stripped of the values that you place upon it? Your badge? A piece of stamped metal.
Your authority? Words on a piece of paper.
Fancy meals, designer clothing and the custom motorcycle you’ve had your eye on? Their value is created by your perceptions, judgements, emotions and societal norms. It’s all illusory.
We talk about the importance of overcoming the superficial and illusory on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60. If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
Until Next Time…out of role! | |||
| 18 Jul 2024 | Call a Timeout | 00:14:15 | |
“Reason goes for nothing when once passion has been admitted to the mind, and has by our own free will been given a certain authority.” – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
While anger may be a natural and unavoidable emotion, our response to it is still within our control. By cultivating the habit of delaying our reaction to anger, we can, instead, harness the power of patience and restraint. We talk about it today on the podcast.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways
Until Next Time…out of role! | |||
| 26 Sep 2023 | Tuesday Solocast - How to Stop Playing Defense in Your Life | 00:42:20 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Connect with Kristofor on Substack | https://kristoforhealey.substack.com
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a FREE COPY of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Buy your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes: We all have moments in our lives when the momentum gets stopped and we have to play some defense. The problem is that we sometimes forget how to get the offense back on the field. Shifting from a reactive to a proactive position in life involves a deliberate change in mindset, habits, and behaviors. It's about taking control of your life, setting goals, and making conscious choices rather than simply responding to external events. On today’s podcast I give you the tools and tactical plan to make that switch from reactive to proactive in all areas of your life. Until Wednesday…out of role!
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| 16 May 2022 | Monday Mindset - Become Harder to Kill | 00:18:36 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Every Day You Don’t Workout Someone Else Does - Strong People Are Harder to Kill - The Importance of Strength Training for Longevity - Being Ready and Reliable When You’re Needed
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Show Notes: For our Monday Mindset this week we discuss the importance of strength training.
Two things have stayed with me since my first law enforcement academy.
The first was a U.S. Marshals poster on the wall of the gym that featured a prisoner doing lat pull downs. It read: “Every day you don’t work out someone else does! Stay fit!”
The second was a banner on the wall in the weight room with a Mark Rippetoe quote across it that read: “Strong people are harder to kill than weak people, and more useful in general.”
I can’t begin to tell you how much external motivation I’ve drawn from those two posters over the years, especially the second.
I want to win the fight. I want to go home to my family. I need to be harder to kill. I want to be more useful. I should probably work out.
You should too. | |||
| 01 Jul 2022 | Friday Debrief - Leadership on Little Round Top | 00:26:52 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - How One Bold Decision can Change the Course of History - Joshua Lawrence Chamberlain from Professor to Colonel - How Chamberlain’s Leadership can Inform our Own - Thinking on Your Feet with the Information at Hand
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Show Notes: On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
Today, on the 149th anniversary of the Battle of Gettysburg we are talking about Joshua Lawrence Chamberlain and the 20th Maine saving the Union flank at Little Round Top and how one bold leadership decision can change the course of history.
“The power of noble deeds is to be preserved and passed on to the future.” ― Joshua Lawrence Chamberlain
Until Monday…out of role. | |||
| 13 Jun 2022 | Monday Muster - Drivers and Values | 00:11:52 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - What are Your Drivers and Values? - Defining What Your Principles are and What Intrinsically Motivates you - Are Your Purpose and Your Mission in Alignment?
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Show Notes: Man, according to Viktor Frankl, is pushed by drivers and pulled by values. Values are your principles and beliefs, your code. Drivers are what intrinsically motivate you.
We all have values and drivers in our lives. The things that set our guardrails and the things make us take that first step and keep us going. The values that pull me? Integrity, honesty, trustworthiness, courage, self-reliance, service and toughness. The drivers that push me? Commitment, self-development, success, status, challenge and family.
Take a moment to consider your drivers and your values. Write them down, keep them close and consider them in the things you choose to pursue. If it doesn’t fit your drivers and values, perhaps you’re on the wrong path and it’s time to adjust.
So much of our success in life begins with holding fast to that which gives us purpose. When you find alignment with your purpose, consistent action becomes much easier.
Until Wednesday…out of role. | |||
| 06 Sep 2024 | Discipline Yourself | 00:11:09 | |
“Discipline yourself, and others won’t need to.” – John Wooden
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
In other words, we get a whole lot luckier when we are consistently prepared. And that takes discipline.
Want to be luckier? Be more disciplined. We talk about luck and discipline on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60. If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
Until Next Time…out of role! | |||
| 13 Nov 2023 | The Benefits of Remembering That You Will Die | 00:29:29 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Connect with Kristofor on Substack | https://kristoforhealey.substack.com
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a FREE COPY of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Buy your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes: Remembering your mortality isn't about living in fear; it's about living intentionally. It's a call to make the most of the time you have, to appreciate life, and to make meaningful contributions to the world. We talk about it today on the podcast!
Until Next Time…out of role!
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| 12 Sep 2022 | Monday Muster - Duty, Service, Love & Gratitude | 00:28:08 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Remembering 9/11 - The Man in the Red Bandana - What is Good for the Hive is Good for the Bee - Living with a Servant’s Heart - Understanding Duty and Service - Living Each Day with Love and Gratitude - The Importance of a Full Heart
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
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Show Notes:
“𝘏𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘢𝘭 𝘥𝘶𝘵𝘺 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘯𝘴𝘦𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘺 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘦𝘥” - George Washington
Today is a good day to remember that our own welfare cannot be disconnected from service to others, and that seeking our best self means actively caring for the welfare of others.
Never forget the example of men and women like Orio Palmer, Moira Smith, Welles Crowther, Frank de Martini, Pablo Ortiz and Rick Rescorla. Men and women who, in the hardest moment of their lives, chose to give their last full measure in service to others.
That is selfless. That is duty. That is living for higher purpose. And that is what we should all strive for.
On a day when we rightly remember and mourn for those lost, and grieve with those left behind, let us also celebrate the actions of those who rose to their highest self, expressing love and service in their last moments. And let us strive to live our lives by their example.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
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| 19 Aug 2022 | Friday Debrief - Invictus | 00:25:55 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Living Unconquered - William Ernest Henley and How to Endure - Being the Master of Your Fate and the Captain of Your Soul
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
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Show Notes: On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
What did poet William Ernest Henley mean when he wrote Invictus and how can you apply those lessons of endurance to your life?
Until Monday…Out of role! | |||
| 10 Jul 2024 | Live For Your Neighbor | 00:11:46 | |
“There is no such thing as good or bad fortune for the individual; we live in common. And no one can live happily who has regard to himself alone and transforms everything into a question of his own utility; you must live for your neighbor, if you would live for yourself. ” — Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
In 1955, the Los Angeles Police Department held a contest to identify a motto that would express the ideals that the LAPD was dedicated to. The winning entry was the motto, “To Protect and to Serve” submitted by Officer Joseph S. Dorobek. Many departments have since adopted the slogan for themselves because of how succinctly it describes the relationship between police and the societies that they watch over. So what do the Stoics have to say about how we should protect and serve?
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways:
Until Next Time…out of role! | |||
| 09 Jul 2024 | Will it Make the Boat Go Faster | 00:12:59 | |
"Enjoy present pleasures in such a way as not to injure future ones." – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Asking oneself a single filtering question like "Will it make the boat go faster?" involves considering the potential impact of each decision or action on the desired outcome. It requires a focus on efficiency, effectiveness, and eliminating distractions. It encourages us to stay disciplined, make sacrifices, and prioritize the actions in the present that have the greatest potential to contribute to our future success. We dig into it in today’s episode!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways:
Until Next Time…out of role! | |||
| 26 Aug 2022 | Friday Debrief - Make a Point or Make a Difference | 00:27:41 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Weekly Recap - Making a Point vs. Making a Difference. - Virtue vs. Virtue Signaling - The Comfort Trap - The Best Revenge is Living Well
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes: On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
Are you busy making a point or are you busy making a difference?
Remember: “The best revenge is to be unlike him who performed the injury.” - Marcus Aurelius
Until Monday…Out of role! | |||
| 02 Jan 2023 | Monday Muster - Hell Yeah or No? | 00:28:44 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Everybody can benefit from understanding why saying no is important to do in life. Humans are inclined to want to say yes in situations, whether it’s to not let someone down, or not let themselves down. It can be extremely hard to say no, but doing so more often provides significant benefits. Today we talk about ways to say no, while also understanding just how important it is.
Remember: “It is not that we have a short space of time, but that we waste much of it. Life is long enough, and it has been given in sufficiently generous measure to allow the accomplishment of the very greatest things if the whole of it is well invested.” - Seneca
Until Wednesday…out of role.
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| 08 Sep 2023 | Friday Debrief - Sheepdog Stories: Rick Rescorla | 00:43:05 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links:
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How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a FREE COPY of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Buy your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes: Rick Rescorla was a remarkable figure known for his heroism and dedication, particularly during the tragic events of September 11, 2001. Rescorla's early life saw him join the British Army's Parachute Regiment and serve in Cyprus and Rhodesia. He then moved to the United States, where he joined the U.S. Army and served in the 7th Cavalry during the Vietnam War. Rescorla's service in Vietnam at the Battle of Ia Drang earned him several accolades for bravery and leadership, including the Silver Star and the Bronze Star. After his military career, Rescorla pursued a career in security and became the head of security for Morgan Stanley at the company's offices in the World Trade Center's South Tower. His commitment to safety and security was unparalleled, and he conducted regular evacuation drills, which some employees initially found excessive. However, Rescorla's foresight and dedication to preparedness proved invaluable on the morning of September 11, 2001. When American Airlines Flight 11 struck the North Tower of the World Trade Center, Rescorla immediately took charge of the evacuation process in the South Tower. He directed Morgan Stanley employees and other occupants to evacuate, even though the Port Authority initially advised them to stay put. Rescorla's leadership and cool-headedness saved the lives of more than 2,600 people that morning. Tragically, after helping to evacuate most of the building's occupants, he re-entered the South Tower to search for stragglers and was last seen on the 10th floor. The tower collapsed shortly thereafter. Rick Rescorla's selfless actions and unwavering commitment to the safety of others made him a hero during the 9/11 attacks. His story exemplifies courage, leadership, and the willingness to make the ultimate sacrifice to save lives. We talk about it today! Until next time…out of role!
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| 31 Mar 2022 | Welcome to The Indispensable Man podcast! | 00:00:59 | |
Welcome to The Indispensable Man Podcast, I’m your host Kristofor Healey. In my career as a Special Agent, I traveled the globe taking on some of the world’s most notorious criminal organizations. Along the way, I learned valuable lessons in leadership, mindset and tactics that were the foundation of my professional success. My mission today is to share those lessons with you so that you can approach your life with a tactical advantage and become an indispensable man for your family.
Several times per week I’ll share leadership and mindset tips, tools of the trade and conversations with inspirational guests that can give you the skills you need to win the day and live with valor. | |||
| 31 Aug 2022 | Living Unconquered | Adam Davis | 00:59:43 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Writing is a Sacred Honor - The Power of Being Raw and Authentic - Overcoming Fear and Living With Purpose - Compounding Trauma - The Cost of Sustained Hypervigilance - Talking to God and Following His Path - Taking a Chance and Writing Your Story - How Police Can Win on the Job and Win at Home - Brothers Are Built for Times of Adversity
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Adam Davis is a former law enforcement officer, nationally known speaker, and bestselling author of nine books. He is passionate about helping others win in the workplace and at home. Adam is also a writing and publishing consultant and has helped more than 40 individuals take their ideas and turn them into books, many of which have become bestsellers.
Adam is the founder of the Live Unconquered movement helping people discover the path to overcome adversity and live above defeat. His passion is helping others WIN in life and OVERCOME!
Until Friday…Out of role!
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| 27 Jun 2024 | Bread and Circuses | 00:12:24 | |
“A weak mind must be constantly entertained and stimulated. A strong mind can occupy itself and, more important, be still and vigilant in moments that demand it.” – Ryan Holiday
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About: Panem et circenses is a Latin phrase that translates to "bread and circuses" in English. In ancient Rome, panem et circenses represented the political strategy employed by emperors and politicians to keep the population compliant. The government distributed free bread (panem) to citizens and organized lavish spectacles and entertainment (circenses), such as chariot races, gladiator fights, and theatrical performances, in grand arenas like the Colosseum. By providing basic necessities and diverting attention with extravagant shows, rulers aimed to prevent social unrest and maintain their power. Sound familiar?
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor | LinkTree Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here! Takeaways
Until Next Time…out of role! | |||
| 13 Jun 2024 | Open Your Eyes | 00:08:51 | |
“An angry man opens his mouth and shuts his eyes.” – Cato
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
As Cato notes, when we open our mouth impulsively, we often close our eyes to reason. And whether on the street or in the home, such blind rage leads to regrettable words and actions that can be like gasoline on a smoldering fire. Today we discuss the importance of opening our eyes before we open our mouths.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | LinkTree Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways
Until Next Time…out of role! | |||
| 24 Oct 2022 | Monday Muster - Making and Breaking Habits | 00:26:59 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Why You Should Do A Daily Muster - Tomorrow Begins Today - The Importance of Getting in Your Reps - Habits Create Endurance - For the Good or Bad - The Power of Counterbalancing Bad Habits with Good Habits - Tips for Creating Good Habits and Breaking Bad Habits
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Habits aren’t good or bad…they just are. You get to choose whether the habits you create are going to be good habits or bad habits, so you may as well create good ones.
On today’s podcast we talk about how “habit” is a powerful instinct that can make or break you and offer tips on how to create good habits and overcome the bad ones.
Until Wednesday…out of role. | |||
| 03 Jul 2023 | Monday Muster - Be Someone or Do Something | 00:18:57 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
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How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
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Show Notes:
Colonel John Boyd may be most famous for his skill as a fighter pilot and his creation of the OODA Loop, but his best advice has nothing to do with either. It had to do with character.
In the middle of a career that spanned three wars, Boyd was assigned to a post in the Pentagon. Surrounded by Generals and political climbers who had made their careers backstabbing and butt kissing, Boyd set about making his department more efficient and budget conscious - an outlier amidst all of the tax-payer funded largesse. But Boyd’s steadfast adherence to fighting fraud, waste and abuse weren’t without cost, as he regularly found himself in dust-ups with his chain of command, causing his name to be added to the top line of many General’s enemies lists.
While Boyd was disappointed that his rigid adherence to his conscience likely cost him the opportunity to rise above the rank of Colonel, he didn’t regret it, and made sure to tell young officers that they too would face a time for choosing sides.
In life there would be a roll call, Boyd would say. And at that roll call every one of us will have to make a decision to do something or to be someone. To do something, you might have to make a few enemies. To be someone, you might have to compromise your character.
When it comes to the pursuit of virtue, we must prioritize action. It encourages us to focus on becoming good individuals by embodying virtuous qualities and practicing moral principles rather than getting entangled in chasing the acclaim of others.
We talk about it on the podcast today!
Until Wednesday…out of role.
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| 12 Jul 2024 | Meet it Bravely | 00:18:01 | |
“Let us meet with bravery whatever may befall us. Let us never feel a shudder at the thought of being wounded or of being made a prisoner, or of poverty or persecution.” – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Stoicism acknowledges that suffering is an inherent part of the human experience. Rather than shying away from or fearing these trials, Stoics embrace them as opportunities for personal growth and the development of inner strength. We dig into Stoic sacrifice on the podcast today!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways:
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| 26 Apr 2023 | Changes in Latitudes, Changes in Attitudes | Nick Buttiglieri | 01:11:18 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes: Our guest today is my friend Nick Buttiglieri. After spending years as an accountant with the hope of retiring early to gain his freedom, Nick began working as a jeweler in NYC and realized how much better life can be if you enjoy what you do. He moved down to Austin, Texas last year with the intention of surrounding himself with like minded individuals and started a 100% Made in America jiu jitsu brand.
For the past year Nick has been working on his own jiu jitsu apparel brand focusing on sourcing and manufacturing everything in the United States. Through this time he realized just how broken the system is and how many people say they are American companies, but do all of their manufacturing overseas.
Nick will be releasing his first products in June (rash guards and grappling shorts) and went above and beyond to nail the fit and construction!
Join the mailing list at www.tarantasport.com to be the first to get your hands on them!
Keep up with Nick and his brand on social media: @nickytaranta & @tarantasport
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| 26 Jul 2023 | Retirement vs. Reality (PT2) | Lacy Healey | 01:08:30 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Join us for The Weekend: Bourbon Trail in Lexington, Kentucky September 29-October 2, 2023 | https://www.theweekendbourbontrail.com/
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
A lot of people ask Lacy how she “retired her husband,” so we decided to spill the tea on the ins and outs and the ups and downs of my transition from Special Agent to Dadpreneur over the last two years.
On the second part of our three part series, we talk about the highs and lows of 2022 - from unspeakable loss to the pinnacle of business success - and how we navigated the ups and downs of personal and professional life while trying to find an appropriate role for me in our family business.
Until Friday…out of role.
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| 30 Jul 2024 | A Slave to Impulse | 00:14:00 | |
“Stop allowing your mind to be a slave, to be jerked about by selfish impulses, to kick against fate and the present, and to mistrust the future." – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About: Over time, stressors and the lack of relief can increase the chances of police engaging in unhealthy behaviors, such as overuse of alcohol. This overuse can lead to dependency or full blown substance abuse disorders and the associated behavioral, financial and legal issues that often come with them. Some studies suggest that as many as 30 percent of law enforcement officers have a substance abuse disorder.
But we don’t have to be slaves to the stressors we experience. We discuss stoic tips to stop bad behaviors before they start on the podcast today.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60. If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways
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| 19 Jul 2024 | Get Off the Treadmill | 00:12:41 | |
E033: Get Off The Treadmill
"Difficulties strengthen the mind, as labor does the body." – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About: There is a psychological theory called the hedonic treadmill that describes the tendency of humans to return to a relatively stable level of happiness or satisfaction following temporary changes in life circumstances. In other words, we can turn the speed of our happiness up or down with our pursuits of pleasure, but in the end, we just keep running in place.
So, how do we do get off of this treadmill? By focusing on eudaimonic pursuits over hedonic ones.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways
Until Next Time…out of role! | |||
| 16 Aug 2023 | Rentals & Reality | Lacy Healey | 01:20:13 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Join us for The Weekend: Bourbon Trail in Lexington, Kentucky September 29-October 2, 2023 | https://www.theweekendbourbontrail.com/
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Lacy and I hit the microphones to discuss rental real estate and small business expansion and why it behooves you to know the ins and outs and ups and downs of the small business that you own.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
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| 11 Oct 2023 | Mastering Federal Retirement | Chris Barfield | 00:59:39 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Connect with Kristofor on Substack | https://kristoforhealey.substack.com
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a FREE COPY of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Buy your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Chris Barfield is a former Deputy U.S. Marshal who retired from federal law enforcement and founded Barfield Financial.
Barfield Financial exists to help current federal employees better understand their retirement benefits so they can make the best decisions for themselves and their families.
Chris provides one-on-one consultations and is available for hire by federal agencies to conduct their retirement seminars and TSP workshops.
You can get free resources and learn more about Chris and his programs at www.barfieldfinancial.com or on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn at Barfield Financial.
Until Next Time… Out of role.
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| 17 Oct 2023 | How to Find Clarity in Chaotic Times | 00:30:21 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Connect with Kristofor on Substack | https://kristoforhealey.substack.com
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a FREE COPY of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Buy your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Alan Watts' quote, "Muddy water is best cleared by leaving it alone," invites us to embrace the art of non-interference and surrender. It encourages us to recognize the futility of overthinking and over-controlling, and to find clarity through patience and allowing things to settle on their own.
In a world marked by incessant activity and the pursuit of clarity through external means, Watts' wisdom offers a profound reminder of the power of stillness and the simplicity of non-interference in attaining the peace and clarity we seek.
On the podcast today we discuss the profound impact of surrendering to stillness.
Until Next Time…out of role!
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| 02 Jan 2024 | 2024 Resolutions & Predictions | Lacy Healey | 01:08:43 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links:
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Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Connect with Kristofor on Substack | https://kristoforhealey.substack.com
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a FREE COPY of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Buy your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
In part two of our New Year’s conversation we discuss the importance of psychology in entrepreneurship, the process of starting an online business, and the significance of devotion in building a brand. We also reflect on our words of the year for 2023 and set resolutions and goals for 2024.We discuss their predictions for the year 2024 and touch on various topics such as industry trends, real estate investments, economic conditions, regulation in the industry, and political predictions.
Takeaways
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| 01 Jun 2023 | Living in the Present Tense | Pat Lemieux | 00:55:23 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Writing a Letter to Yourself - Maximizing Midlife - The Importance of Facing the Shadows - Life is Too Long to be Miserable - The Self Improvement Reading List - Living in the Present Tense
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become the first responder for your family?
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes: Our guest today is Pat Lemieux. Pat is the Director of Marketing for C&L Aviation Group. In his professional career, Pat has more than a decade of experience building brand awareness and audience development for corporations and non-profits. In his personal life, Pat is a modern day philosopher, a devoted father and my long time friend and fraternity brother!
A few weeks ago Pat posted an excellent letter to himself on Facebook on the occasion of his fortieth birthday. The post caught my attention because of how much I identified with his story of struggling to find himself in middle age and the path he had taken to reimagine his life and pursue it on his own terms.
If you are in a midlife rut and could use some inspiration, pay attention to Pat’s story of living in the present tense.
Until Friday….Out of role.
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| 15 Aug 2024 | The Best Answer to Anger | 00:09:13 | |
“The best answer to anger is silence.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
The term HALT in Alcoholics Anonymous is a reference to the most common triggers for relapse - hunger, anger, loneliness and tiredness. The mnemonic device helps remind individuals in recovery to manage their emotional and physical states, as these can influence their vulnerability to relapse.
Anger can be the hardest of these triggers to overcome, and while there are times when anger is an absolutely appropriate response to a provocation, it can also lead to impulsive and destructive behavior that causes harm to our reputations and relationships. Silence, on the other hand, can have the opposite effect.
We talk about the antidote to anger on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60. If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
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| 01 Jan 2024 | 2023 Year in Review | Lacy Healey | 01:00:06 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links:
Our sponsor HairXT is a fast, natural and healthy hair growth supplement product made of high quality ingredients and minerals that do not contain the drugs, chemicals, sugar or excess Biotin that can create unwanted side effects. If you’re looking for a safe, natural product that can help improve hair health and happiness, check out https://hairxt.com/ and use promo code HEALEY for 15% off of your order!
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Connect with Kristofor on Substack | https://kristoforhealey.substack.com
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a FREE COPY of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Buy your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
In part one of this conversation, Lacy and Kristofor reflect on the challenges they faced in 2023 and how they navigated through them. They discuss the importance of resilience and adaptability in relationships and how to grow stronger as a couple.
Takeaways
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| 05 Aug 2022 | Friday Debrief - Don't Virtue Signal, Be Virtuous | 00:22:22 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Meditations 9.5 - Being Virtuous vs. Virtue Signaling - Virtue is Hard, Virtue Signaling is Easy - There is Injustice in What You Do and in What You Don’t Do - Stop Talking About it and Be About it
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes: On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
In Meditations 9.5 Marcus Aurelius reminds us that “Injustice lies in what you aren’t doing, not only in what you are doing.”
What does this mean?
Said another way, you can commit injustice by doing nothing.
Virtue signaling is incredibly popular in our internet focussed society. You must emote on every current thing. You must be down for the struggle…nominally. As long as you don’t have to, you know, actually struggle.
Virtue signaling is a violation of the core Stoic practice of showing rather than telling. Virtue signaling is not virtue. Emoting does not make for a virtuous life. It is the same as doing nothing.
If we begin with a commitment to virtue, an earnest commitment to doing the right thing, to serving the common good, to philosophical ideals, it requires us to act when we see injustice, not to talk about it. Virtue signaling is easy. Virtue is hard!
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| 19 Jun 2024 | A Threshold Check | 00:11:41 | |
“One person likes tending to his farm, another to his horse; I like to daily monitor my self-improvement.” — Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
There are plenty of schools of thought on room clearing, but one universal truth is that thresholds are dangerous places, and how we approach them and negotiate them requires coordination and communication. That is why instructors encourage us to pause before crossing or entering a threshold. A quick pause, or ‘threshold check,’ allows us an opportunity to assess the situation before moving. It is, above all, an exercise in self-awareness. How can we apply this tactical concept to our personal lives? We discuss it on the podcast today.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | LinkTree Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways
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| 10 May 2023 | Design the Man Within | Johnny Elsasser | 01:07:50 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Keep Showing Up - Being Too Dumb to Quit - Character Traits, Skill and Beliefs - The Value of Coaching, Mentorship and Masterminds - Get Uncomfortable or Get Comfortable Where You Are At - Getting in the Room - Johnny Takes on The Manly Round - Doing Plant Medicine in Peru - How Hiking is Like Life - Designing the Man Within - Making the Men’s Movement Accessible - Calling Out the Man in the Mirror - Understanding Trauma - The Man as a Martyr - Are you Living for Your Family or Dying for Them? - Stella Barks at the Amazon Man - Leaning Into What Challenges You
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become the first responder for your family?
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes: Our guest today is Johnny Elsasser. Johnny is a former Special Operations U.S. Army Ranger from the 2nd Ranger Battalion and a former security contractor who protected the U.S. Ambassador to Iraq. After spending a decade working in and out of the Middle East, Johnny changed his focus to working on his own personal development journey and then to helping other men become better versions of themselves through his coaching programs, retreats, The Art of Masculinity podcast and, most recently, his new book – Design the Man Within.
You can connect with Johnny via his website, follow his podcast, The Art of Masculinity, check out his YouTube channel, or check out his Instagram to learn more!
You can get a copy of his new book on Amazon Kindle for .99 right now or pre-order a copy of the paperback.
Johnny is one of my close friends and a great voice for men’s personal development and I always take something away from our conversations.
I hope you gain as much from this episode as I did! Until Friday….Out of role.
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| 17 Apr 2023 | Pillow Talk: Real Estate & Regulation | 01:11:34 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Lacy and I break down our recent home sale, how being an internet entrepreneur impacts you in the real world and the variables involved in selling the place where you live AND work while still trying to live and work. Lacy breaks down the process of regulating your emotions during times of high stress in life and business.
This is a raw conversation about enduring the highs and lows while living and working together.
*If you’re in the Houston area or looking to relocate to the Houston area, check out Harrisburg Homes, Diamond Realty and BWC Lending. We highly recommend them!
Until Wednesday…out of role.
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| 18 Sep 2024 | Loyalty in Adversity | 00:14:15 | |
“In prosperity it is very easy to find a friend; but in adversity it is the most difficult of all things” – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
At the Federal Law Enforcement Training Center, the cadre at the Physical Techniques Division love to meter out punishment for minor transgressions. Students learn, in short order, that there is no benefit in standing out from the crowd and classes quickly band together to up level everyone’s performance for the good of the whole. Through this shared adversity, true friendships are built on principles of trust, empathy, and mutual support.
We talk about how shared adversity can make us greater on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60. If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
Until Next Time…out of role! | |||
| 01 Aug 2022 | Monday Muster - Accept Humbly & Let Go Easily | 00:30:04 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Meditations 8.33 - Marcus Aurelias and the Importance of Accepting and Letting Go With Diffidence. - Do Not Take the Slights of the Day Personally - Do Not Get Attached to Things That Are Fleeting - The More You Want the Poorer You’ll Feel
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes: On our Monday Muster we set intentions for the week and identify a concept that will help you live your life with valor.
In Meditations 8.33 Marcus Aurelias reminds us to NOT take the slights of the day personally. He reminds us to accept humbly and let go easily, to accept without arrogance and let go with indifference.
This lesson is pretty straightforward, but profound. When something comes your way—be it status, praise, or material things—accept it with humility, and be mindful that just because you’ve received that thing it doesn’t mean you are more important than anyone else. Do not attach yourself to what you’ve gained. That way, when you inevitably lose it, you are able to carry on unfazed.
To the Stoics, you could only control your mind and your soul. Therefore, spending your life in pursuit of worldly things, like material goods, wealth, social status, meaningless titles, and praise from others, was a road to misery and disappointment. After all, the more you want, the poorer you’ll feel.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
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| 25 May 2022 | The Power of Proximity | Jim Carter | 00:55:30 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Mentorship and Masterminds - The Importance of Putting Yourself in the Room - The Power of Proximity - Using Your Gifts and Talents to Help Others - Overcoming Fear and Uncertainty in Entrepreneurship
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become the first responder for your family?
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes: Today our guest is Jim Carter. For over two decades Jim's passion for technology has shined through projects of all sizes and industries. After seeing first hand the power tech has to make a greater impact, Jim has dedicated his life to giving changemakers the tools they need to succeed and thrive. As a passionate Technology Coach, Jim uses his 20+ years of knowledge, expertise, and experiences to advise Social Impact organizations, brands and experts.
Jim is the owner of several businesses including the Fast Foundations Mastermind, a business mastermind and community for small business owners and entrepreneurs, and a founder of Carter & Custer, an agency providing growth and content services for purpose-driven brands and organizations of all sizes.
He's an Eagle Scout, entrepreneur, husband and father of two, public speaker & trainer in the industry. Jim resides in the Los Angeles Area, enjoys a fine cup of coffee, the occasional glass of whiskey and rocks a mustache with pride.
You can connect with Jim on Instagram at @causehacker or on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/causehacker/
If you want to connect with Jim and learn more about how he can help you grow your small business, Text GROW to (310) 496-3389 | |||
| 14 Jun 2023 | The New Masculinity | Jeff Sabin | 01:06:54 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Leaving Corporate America for a Job with Your Wife - Finding Mission, Task and Purpose in Serving Your Family - Masculine and Feminine Energy - What Horses Can Teach You - Humbling Yourself and Ego Death - Everyone Wants to be Loved - Embracing the New Masculinity
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become the first responder for your family?
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes: Our guest today is Jeff Sabin. Eighteen months ago, Jeff left his career in construction management to work full time alongside his entrepreneur wife (@simplysadiejane) and be more present for his family as a stay at home dad.
On today’s podcast Jeff shares his story and the lessons he has learned along the way about family, relationships, entrepreneurship and embracing and leveraging masculine and feminine energies to be an effective business partner and spouse.
If you’re like Jeff and I and you have a spouse who is an online entrepreneur, you’ll want to listen to this episode and soak up some wisdom on how you can become a more effective asset in this new economic frontier.
You can follow Jeff on Instagram at @jeffsabin and learn more about his incredible spouse at www.simplysadiejane.com or on Instagram at @simplysadiejane or @simplywild.goods Until Friday….Out of role.
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| 10 Apr 2023 | Monday Muster - Pearson’s Law | 00:14:46 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee)
Show Notes:
If you want improved performance, you need to start measuring where you are so you can manage where you want to be.
Remember:
“When performance is measured, performance improves.”
Until Wednesday…out of role.
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| 06 Aug 2024 | You Can Always Change Yourself | 00:18:19 | |
“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” – Viktor Frankl
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About: Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl endured unimaginable loss at the hands of the Nazis, but rather than become consumed by despair or resignation to a hopeless situation beyond his control, Frankl endeavored to cultivate resilience in himself, taking responsibility of his own emotional and mental well being and seeking meaning in every moment of living.
We talk about Frankl and his incredible book Man’s Search for Meaning on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60. If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
Until Next Time…out of role! | |||
| 08 Aug 2023 | Tuesday Solocast: Knowing What’s Important is Most Important | 00:19:29 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Connect with Kristofor on Substack | https://kristoforhealey.substack.com
Join us for The Weekend: Bourbon Trail in Lexington, Kentucky September 29-October 2, 2023 | https://www.theweekendbourbontrail.com/
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
The phrase "knowing what’s important is most important" emphasizes the significance of prioritization and understanding the different energetic aspects of our lives. It underscores the idea that having clear knowledge of what truly matters in life is of utmost importance, as it guides our decisions, actions, and overall direction day to day. This concept can be applied to various areas of life, such as personal goals, relationships, values, and time management. On today’s podcast we explore how we can use this concept to reduce chaos in our lives and get more deliberate in how we move the ball forward. Until Wednesday…out of role.
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| 05 Dec 2023 | Becoming Indispensable - Five Tips For Making Yourself Absolutely Necessary | 00:20:42 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
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How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
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Show Notes:
I love the word “Indispensable,” but what do I mean when I encourage you to become indispensable? I mean you must become “absolutely necessary” to those you serve. Today on the podcast we talk about the importance of becoming more indispensable and give you five tips on how to achieve it.
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| 11 Jul 2024 | Learn As You Teach | 00:08:44 | |
“Withdraw into yourself, as far as you can. Associate with those who will make a better man of you. Welcome those whom you yourself can improve. The process is mutual; for men learn while they teach.” – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
The role of a Field Training Officer is crucial in helping new officers transition from the academic and theoretical aspects of police training to the practical and real-world scenarios they will encounter on the job. Unfortunately, for many rookies the only real world scenarios they encountered with an FTO was where to get a uniform discount at lunch time and the best place to catch a cat nap on duty. Let’s talk about how we be better teachers while also learning.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways:
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| 02 Jul 2024 | Fortify Your Inner Citadel | 00:07:52 | |
“Your mind will be like its habitual thoughts; for the soul becomes dyed with the color of its thoughts.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Every celebrity guru will sell you some version of the same mantra: “With my patented, proprietary method, you can change your thoughts and, thereby, change your life!” But long before Ted Talks were en vogue the Stoics had developed their own concept for changing their thoughts and improving their lives. They called it the inner citadel.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here! Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here! Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways:
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| 27 Mar 2023 | Monday Muster - Outwork Your Self Doubt | 00:31:58 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
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Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee)
Show Notes:
The best way to overcome self-doubt is to outwork it. Today on the podcast we give you actionable tips on overcoming those negative voices in the back of your head telling you you aren’t good enough.
Remember:
“You dont become confident by shouting affirmations in the mirror. But by having a stack of undeniable proof that you are who you say you are. Outwork your self-doubt.” — Alex Hormozi
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| 23 Sep 2022 | Friday Debrief - Your Alignment Determines Your Assignments | 00:27:57 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
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Show Notes: On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
This week we discussed the importance of living optimally and knowing when it is time to look in the mirror, say enough is enough, and put your life back on the path that you can walk down with purpose. Obstacles are opportunities, but too many of us let the obstacles send us on a long journey away from our destination. Are you in alignment with your purpose? If so, the path becomes much clearer and easier to traverse, despite the obstacles.
Today, we’re focussing on identifying your purpose and reminding yourself of the man you wanted to become.
Remember: “If you don’t know to which port you sail, no wind is favorable.” - Seneca | |||
| 10 Nov 2023 | The Stoic Cop: From Ancient Rome to America’s Streets | Bill Mauro | 00:55:44 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Connect with Kristofor on Substack | https://kristoforhealey.substack.com
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a FREE COPY of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Buy your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Bill Mauro is a 10 year veteran in law enforcement and the author of The Stoic Cop. He has experience in corrections, patrol, and investigative operations. In his spare time, he enjoys studying and applying different schools of thought and suffering through daily rigorous exercise. The Stoic Cop is available on Amazon in both paperback and Kindle. And Bill provides tactical strength and conditioning training to individuals through his website tscfitops.com
This is a great conversation with a fellow law enforcement officer, author and practicing Stoic about how we can benefit in our careers and personal life from understanding the dichotomy of control and applying Stoic principles of voluntary adversity and equanimity to our daily interactions.
You can find Bill online at Instagram at @thestoiccop
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| 25 Jan 2023 | Building Your Own Economy | David Perez | 00:53:23 | |
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - The Importance of Building Your Own Economy - Tax Consulting vs. Tax Strategy - Being 10% Ahead of Your Students - How AI is Impacting the Modern Business Environment - What a Tax Strategist is and Why You Need One - Setting up Strategy in Advance - Making Your Wealth Work for You
Resources + Links: Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
David Perez, aka Mr. BYOE, is an entrepreneur, investor, small business owner, speaker, author and tax strategist who overcame childhood hardships to build his own economy.
After years as a small business owner in the hospitality and tax preparation industries, David told his story in his best selling book “Build Your Own Economy” and began working with other small business owners, entrepreneurs and high net-worth individuals to protect their assets, invest their money and grow their wealth.
David is an inspirational speaker and a brilliant businessman who understands the importance of independence and loves helping others legally and ethically protect their assets, reduce their tax burdens and create generational wealth that can allow them to live life on their own terms.
To get a free copy of David’s book head to his website www.davidaperez.com, to set up a free tax strategy discovery call with David, head over to www.taxplanexperts.com, to follow him on Instagram and get some great tax strategy tips, check @iamdavidaperez and to follow his YouTube show where he interviews some great guests, check out The BYOE Show.
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