The Michelle Chalfant Show — Life from the Adult Chair (Michelle Chalfant)
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| 09 May 2019 | 157: Better Breakups with Natalia Juarez | 00:41:17 | |
On today’s show I have Natalia Juarez discussing how to have better breakups. Listen to this episode to learn the role attachment issues, love addiction and love avoidance play into our breakups. Learn when it is time to end a relationship AND MOVE ON. Discover how we are the point of our attraction and WHAT TO LOOK FOR within ourselves when we keep attracting “bad” relationships. So many great topics to discuss with an expert on all things dating, breaking up and recovery. Thank you Natalia Juarez. https://Betterbreakups.com (Website) The Breakup Coach (Instagram) Untangled (Book) Patti Elledge podcast #111 Attachment podcast | |||
| 06 Sep 2018 | 122: How to Stop Imploding, Stress, Anxiety and Ruminating Thoughts. | 00:29:22 | |
Anxiety, ruminating thoughts, stress and negative impulses can make us feel like we are imploding! When we implode, it feels like our world is collapsing and we have no way out. In today's show, I help you find your way out of imploding and even stop yourself before you collapse with 10 easy tips. The great news is that it only takes minutes to change your emotional state with these, and you don't even have to do all of them to feel better! Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Don’t Feed the Monkey Mind: How to Stop the Cycle of Anxiety, Fear and Worry by Jennifer Shannon LMFT | |||
| 22 Dec 2022 | 346: Holiday Replay: How to Manifest Anything with Dr. Joe Vitale | 01:01:11 | |
Whether you love manifesting or you’re still a little skeptical, I want you to consider one thing: if the Law of Attraction really is a law of nature, like gravity, is it possible that it is working in your life whether you know it or not? Is it possible that your unconscious beliefs are shaping your reality in ways you don’t realize – or want – simply because you haven’t chosen another way of thinking? This was the reality of Dr. Joe Vitale’s life when he was homeless and living on the floor of the Dallas library. A lifelong learner with a love for books, he would spend hours in the self-development section, trying to figure out what was keeping him stuck in life. He realized he was carrying a tremendous amount of limiting beliefs, including the belief that he needed to suffer to be successful, and these beliefs were the very reason he was in the circumstances he was in. As he changed his beliefs, he changed his entire life from his finances to his career, and today he’s a wildly successful author, actor, musician and guru on the Law of Attraction – and I was so honored to speak with him on today’s show. Dr. Joe helps explain the Law of Attraction and how it works on a practical level, showing how what we focus on is what we get, and walks us through a beautiful Hawaiian process for healing ourselves and those around us. I asked him all the tough questions and got all of the answers for you, so you can look at this concept through a new lens and start creating the life you want! Listen to discover:
At the end of the day, the Law of Attraction is based on the idea that we see and get more of what we focus on. Wouldn’t you rather focus on love than on fear or hate, no matter what – and especially if doing so was directly connected to the reality you were living? This is an awesome show to help you get started on that path and begin to see that miracles ARE possible! “The inner work is what got me here.” - Dr. Joe Vitale “In order to change the outside reality, you gotta go inside.” - Michelle Chalfant “You’re not purposely, consciously choosing most of these beliefs. Most of them you’ve absorbed.” - Dr. Joe Vitale “The ‘how’ is the number one thing that stops people.” - Dr. Joe Vitale "Fear and hate are two of the most powerful manifesting emotions that there are." - Dr. Joe Vitale "Emotion is fire for creating what you want." - Dr. Joe Vitale "The law of attraction is how your brain works. It is bringing to you what you're focused on." - Dr. Joe Vitale “I love working with the unconscious mind because that is where, to me, the magic is." - MIchelle Chalfant “It seems to me the only limits we have are mental constructs.” - Dr. Joe Vitale LINKS & RESOURCES Dr. Joe Vitale Website Zero Limits Living (Joe Vitale TV Show) “Zero Limits” (one of many Joe Vitale books) “Homeless to Billionaire” (Andres Pira with Dr. Joe Vitale book) Free 2023 Journaling Challenge - Starts January 1! MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website The Adult Chair® Events The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ | |||
| 18 Jul 2019 | 167: Top 5 - #3 Healthy Relationships Part 2 | 01:01:52 | |
Today's show is a follow up to Healthy Relationships Part 1. This show has even more examples on how to create healthy relationships as well as how we can transform our current relationship, especially if the other person is being difficult. | |||
| 05 Jan 2023 | 348: Transform through Journaling | 00:23:43 | |
Journaling is truly a self-discovery tool. It helps us to find who we really are – what we want, what we value and what we feel – underneath the false self. In fact, “journal” and “journey” come from the same root word. To journal is like taking a journey into the self! Journaling is one of my go-to practices for transformation. It’s so powerful for learning more about yourself, processing your emotions, getting things off your chest, finding clarity and getting unstuck in life. And it’s totally free to do! What’s not to love? In this episode, I’m giving you the scoop on the powerful ways journaling works to get you into the flow state and uncover deeper knowledge and answers about yourself and your life. You’ll get tips for how to start a journaling practice and how to get the words flowing, even if you don’t feel like a writer or aren’t sure what to write. Listen to discover:
Having a journal is like having a best friend who listens to you without judgment. It’s a place to process your inner world, move stuck energy and gain clarity and answers about yourself and your direction in life. Tune in to learn how to get started with this powerful practice today! “The journaling prompt will take you on a deep dive into the self to help you get clearer about who you are.” - Michelle Chalfant “It is such an incredible way to discover who you really are.” - Michelle Chalfant “Journaling is a self-discovery process.” - Michelle Chalfant “When you feel really emotional about something, you can journal about it.” - Michelle Chalfant “Journaling can be almost like a best friend.” - Michelle Chalfant “When we journal, it’s an energy. It actually is moving us forward in life.” - Michelle Chalfant “Anything that resonates with you, do it. Experiment.” - Michelle Chalfant “Journaling is a gateway.” - Michelle Chalfant “Anything that comes to your mind – anything at all – start there.” - Michelle Chalfant “There is no right or wrong when you journal.” - Michelle Chalfant “The prompt begins your journey.” - Michelle Chalfant “You will find direction and guidance through journaling.” - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Free 2023 Journaling Challenge https://theadultchair.com/journal MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ | |||
| 29 Dec 2022 | 347: Replay: How Self Validation can change your life | 00:33:03 | |
In my 25 years of practicing as a therapist and holistic life coach, I found that there was one common root cause behind many of the issues my clients were facing: low self-worth. From codependency to difficulty with decisions or boundaries, not having a strong connection with the inner self was often the driving force behind these challenges. Most of us have a tendency to look outside of ourselves for worth and validation, and building up a strong sense of who we are on the inside takes practice. One of the simplest and most powerful places to start is with self-validation. Self-validation is when we notice who we are – our actions, thoughts and feelings – and we affirm ourselves. It’s not bragging or comparing ourselves to others but rather speaking truth to ourselves and cheering ourselves on…which not only builds up our sense of self-worth but also leads to healthier relationships as we stop looking to others to validate us. In this episode, I’m sharing more about the power of self-validation and simple steps for how you can begin a practice of doing this every day. It literally takes seconds to do, and over time, it will change your life! Listen to discover:
No one can make us feel or believe something we don’t believe about ourselves. So, if we don’t have a sense of our own self-worth, no amount of validation from others is going to give us what we need. It’s an endless cycle of approval-seeking that never fills us up. That’s why we have to lay a foundation of self-worth and believe in our own goodness so that when others validate us, we can actually let it land and show up more authentically – as the true self that we know and love. “Self-validation starts a domino effect to help heal all of these things because self-validation starts to build self-worth.” - Michelle Chalfant “Self-validation is when we notice what we’re doing or thinking or feeling and we acknowledge it, we own it and then we give ourselves a pat on the back about it.” - Michelle Chalfant “If you want healthy relationships, start out by self-validating. It is unhealthy for us to rely on external validation.” - Michelle Chalfant “Self-validation is the healthy way to feel good about self.” - Michelle Chalfant “When you add that validation that takes seconds, my internal self gets built up, my self-worth gets built up, my sense of self becomes a little bit more positive.” - Michelle Chalfant “It’s your job to share with others what you need.” - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Free 2023 Journaling Challenge - Starts January 1! https://theadultchair.com/journal MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ | |||
| 09 Jul 2020 | 218: Summer Series: I’m in a Relationship with a Narcissist | 00:45:25 | |
Relationships with narcissists are insidious. They begin one way, and over time, very slowly and covertly, they change and become poisonous. We wake up one day and wonder what we did wrong and how we got here. We blame ourselves and can even feel embarrassed to tell others. In today’s very vulnerable show, Tracy shares her story of being married to a narcissist, how his toxic behaviors subtly increased over time and how it affected her sense of self. After marrying who she thought was a wonderful man, her life drastically changed and she began doubting herself. She fell into a depression, lived with anxiety and lost her sense of who she was. Tracy walks us through her story of waking up to the abuse and getting out of the relationship. We offer advice for others who are in these types of relationships, including what you can do and how to begin to build yourself back up and find your true self again.
Listen to discover:
“You think, ‘I don’t have negative feelings about myself,’ but something in my body was telling me I wasn’t good.” - Tracy
“I saw what his father was doing to him, but I didn’t see what he was doing to me.” - Tracy
“He chopped away your belief in yourself, the self-love you had, your self-worth.” - Michelle Chalfant
“You deserve to be happy. You are a good person. If you feel good about what you’re doing and you’re confident in who you are, be aware of that and remind yourself of that and step out of the picture for a while.” - Tracy
Resources 5 -Minute Self-Love Meditation https://theadultchair.com/portfolio_page/5-minute-self-love-meditation/ Episode #84: Raising Self-Esteem https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/84-raising-self-esteem/ Episode #173: Am I in a Toxic Relationship? https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/173-am-i-in-a-toxic-relationship/ Episode #174: Building Self-Esteem https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/174-building-self-esteem/ The Adult Chair Workshop - New York https://theadultchair.com/new-york/ The Adult Chair Workshop - Charleston https://theadultchair.com/charleston/ The Adult Chair Membership - Free Month of July! https://theadultchair.com/membership/ Use code FREEMEMBER The Self Series BOMBAS 20% off your first order
More Adult Chair The Adult Chair Website The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
*** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com | |||
| 16 Feb 2018 | Meditation 4: Opening to Love | 00:08:30 | |
This is a guided heart opening meditation. It helps with opening our hearts to love from others and in loving ourselves. | |||
| 29 Nov 2018 | 134: Repairing Relationships with our Kids (or Anyone) | 00:40:40 | |
In life, we sometimes hurt or damage relationships. The one's that we often regret the most are the one's that are with our kids or other loved ones. The question is, is it possible to repair these relationships and if so how? In today's show, I discuss with you how to live from your Adult Chair and mend broken relationships with people that we deeply care about. Healing the Wound of the Heart By: John Welwood | |||
| 16 Apr 2015 | 016: Cultivating Our Deepest Connections | 00:21:35 | |
I had a conversation with my husband this week that got me thinking about connections. Human connections. So this week on the show I want to talk about how we support one another when we need it most, when we’re reacting from our child or adolescent chair and we need to be heard and supported the most. This is also a discussion about how to support. That’s a very different skill, learning when to listen, when to love, and when to support from our adult chair. And even more important, how to listen without letting our partner’s emotions land squarely on us. I love this conversation. My clients consistently open new doors to deeper connections with their partners when they engage these key new skills, and I’m sure you'll find treasure in it too! | |||
| 06 Feb 2025 | 444: Transformation Through Archetypes with Catherine Plano | 00:53:15 | |
Today we are welcoming the transformation queen herself, Catherine Plano! Get ready to dive deep into the realm of self-discovery and personal growth. Catherine, a modern-day alchemist, shares her profound thoughts on psychological archetypes, shadow work, and how these elements can unlock your true potential. Join us as Catherine takes us on her incredible path from France to Australia, weaving her passions for quantum physics, astrology, and reiki into her corporate life. She shows us how introspection and self-awareness can change our external realities and empower us as co-creators of our own lives. This episode is all about embracing those hidden parts of ourselves and turning them into gifts of growth and healing. We’ll explore everything from identifying your inner critic to understanding the impact of core beliefs, all with a playful twist. Catherine's innovative astro coaching technique will offer you fresh perspectives on tackling life's challenges. You won't want to miss it! In this episode, you will hear:
Resources from this EpisodeCatherine’s Websites: Get 20% off at Aquatru.com with promo code: ADULTCHAIR
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| 06 Feb 2020 | 196: Spotting Covert Narcissism | 00:41:37 | |
We all know the word “narcissism.” We can usually spot a narcissist a mile away. They are loud, want all the attention and can be obnoxious. This is known as overt narcissism. But can you spot a covert narcissist? They can be tricky, with a more "subtle" form of narcissism. It can sting just as badly, but you have no idea it's happening (at least not initially) because it's so subtle. A covert narcissist still craves attention, but they are sneaky or subtle with how they get it. They look amazing on the outside, but behind closed doors, everything becomes your fault. You are made to feel crazy. They will blame and shame you to get their way. They look like they are socially connected, but in reality, they are inept at building deep relationships and letting anyone in emotionally. In the end, you wonder if you are the bad person in the relationship. It’s no wonder that relationships with this type of narcissist can be so confusing and damaging!
In today’s episode, I help you break down the disguises that covert narcissists wear. You’ll learn:
Narcissism can wreak havoc in our lives — sometimes before we even realize it. That’s why it’s so important to know what to look for, spot covert narcissism and take care of yourself if you suspect you have a narcissist in your life.
“They want the world to be according to them. It’s their map of the world. The way they see the world is the only way. And if you don’t agree with the way they see the world, blaming and shaming happens.” “If it feels bad, it’s not love.”
Resources The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair Podcasts https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/
Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
*** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com | |||
| 30 Jun 2016 | 040: Finding the Motivation to Change with Dr. Ted Klontz | 00:34:47 | |
We all get lost. It’s perfectly natural as human beings to get stuck in the forest, to get scared of the dark, to get lonely and feel our courage drift away. As our guest today so rightly shares, “we have to get used to the weirdness of being human beings.” That’s when we’re able to find the strength, the motivation, the courage to make change in our lives and approach the world with strength. I’m so excited to introduce you all to Dr. Ted Klontz. Ted is a psychologist based in Nashville and he’s here today because he’s a pioneer in the development and application of tools and techniques that help people to change their troublesome behaviors. He’s an author, having written or contributed to six books on Behavioral Finance, and is co-founder of Your Mental Wealth™ and the Financial Psychology Institute™. He’s a published researcher, speaker, trainer and facilitator, and he travels the world working with professional athletes, entertainers, high profile families, couples, and individuals, as well as the average citizen. As a participant in Ted’s workshops I can tell you first hand that his work is truly transformational, and I’m proud to introduce him to The Adult Chair audience today! Links & Notes | |||
| 25 Oct 2018 | 129: Healing Abandonment | 00:25:28 | |
Abandonment can leave an incredible wound inside of us. We do our best to bury it and not feel that pain but it leaves its mark on us. We move through life unconsciously guarded and ready for abandonment to happen again. We want to be free of this wound but don't know how. In today's show I go over the two types of abandonment and offer steps to heal this wound. Journaling Challenge: theadultchair.com/journal Inner Child link: https://kh519.infusionsoft.app/app/form/inner-child-form?cookieUUID=b1f9ab62-0aff-4de4-94d4-3aff2b1fd68e Narcissism podcast: https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/104?rq=narcissism Grief podcast: https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/93?rq=grief Parts podcast/Who is sitting in my Adolescent chair: https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/38?rq=Adolescent%20chair Healing from Betrayal podcast: https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/125?rq=Betrayal Audible link: https://www.audibletrial.com/theadultchair Book of the week: The Journey from Abandonment to Healing by Susan Anderson | |||
| 24 Aug 2017 | 077: Mindful Eating from The Adult Chair | 00:30:11 | |
We’re continuing our series on mindfulness and food this week with a conversation on Mindful Eating. What does it mean to eat mindfully? Which chair are we usually in when we eat? What happens to your body when you approach food from a place of mindfulness and gratitude? We’ve got some answers for you, and five key messages you can tell yourself to figure out how to get in better touch with your body, to listen to it, and begin making decisions that serve your overall physical and emotional health! Links & Notes | |||
| 10 Nov 2022 | 340: How to Work with Triggers | 00:26:34 | |
We all know the feeling: someone says or does something, and we feel our heart rate go up, the heat rise in our body, and the anxiety or anger take over. We just got triggered! A trigger is an emotional reaction that we have to someone else’s words or actions. They often catch us off guard and can flood us with “negative” emotions, and if we’re not being conscious, our first reaction is usually to blame the person who triggered us. But triggers aren’t about others; they’re always about us! And after years of working with my own, I can honestly say that triggers are a GIFT! Triggers reveal unconscious beliefs to us – limiting, untrue beliefs that shape our reality and hold us back in life – and give us a chance to heal them. When we have the tools to work through them, we can harness the healing and awareness they hold for us instead of shoving them down, spiraling into negativity or lashing out at others. In this episode, I’m giving you the scoop on what triggers are, how they form and what they can tell us about ourselves, plus my go-to, hands-on steps for working with them. Listen to discover:
Triggers are never fun, but we don’t have to get swept away by triggers or let them hijack our emotions. When we develop the skills to work with them, we can live with more peace and balance in every part of our lives…and get to know ourselves a lot better along the way. “[Triggers] are really key to our growth.” - Michelle Chalfant “Our triggers are our responsibility.” - Michelle Chalfant “Triggers belong to ourselves.” - Michelle Chalfant “If someone outside of you is acting like that, it will not bother you unless you have the same quality inside of you.” - Michelle Chalfant “The more we work on our stuff, the less we get triggered.” - Michelle Chalfant “That’s why I love triggers: because when we’re triggered, it’s like this belief that’s been in the dark gets lifted out of the dark and into the light.” - Michelle Chalfant “They help us to know the unknown that’s deep inside of us.” - Michelle Chalfant “When we get in touch with these unconscious beliefs, our lives begin to change.” - Michelle Chalfant “You have to go into what scares you. That is how you transform it.” - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Happy Birthday, Michelle! Review The Adult Chair® Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-adult-chair/id941317634?mt=2&ign-mpt=uo%3D4 2023 Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Doors Open Now! https://theadultchair.com/certification MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ | |||
| 06 May 2021 | 261: How to Receive a Boundary from Your Adult Chair | 00:21:54 | |
We talk a lot about how to set boundaries in The Adult Chair®, but sometimes we forget that we are human and sometimes we cross others’ boundaries. The other side of mastering boundaries is learning how to humbly and gracefully receive a boundary when the tables are turned and we’re the ones being asked to shift our behavior or approach.
It’s very easy to perceive boundaries as criticism and go on the defensive, but receiving a boundary is an opportunity to understand someone better and deepen our relationships. When we show up with presence, pay attention to our triggers and respond with grace, we grow as a person and show up in a more intentional and loving way with the people around us.
In this episode, we’re looking at the other side of boundaries, and I’m walking you through simple steps for how to receive a boundary well and what not to do when approached with a boundary (plus, how to recover the conversation if you do find yourself getting defensive...it happens to all of us!).
Listen to discover:
If someone comes to you with a boundary, try to think of it as them sharing with you instead of drawing a line in the sand or putting up a wall. Sharing comes from a place of vulnerability and wanting connection, and it’s an honor when someone feels safe enough to share with us...even if it feels a little hard to hear sometimes.
It takes practice to receive a boundary with grace, but when you own your stuff, you will find you have healthier relationships all around. “Give them that space to share whatever it is they need to share.” - Michelle Chalfant “Get in your Adult and remind yourself, ‘It’s not about me.’” - Michelle Chalfant “You want to make sure the person that’s sharing their boundary with you feels seen and heard.” - Michelle Chalfant Resources
The Adult Chair® Membership (May Theme: “I Own.”) https://theadultchair.com/membership/
TAC Circles® https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/
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More Adult Chair
The Adult Chair® Website
The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair® Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
TAC Circles® https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/
Stay Connected
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
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EPISODE CREDITS:
If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.
He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.
Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com
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| 15 Jun 2023 | 371: 5 Ways To Navigate a Relationship That Feels Stuck | 00:20:06 | |
There’s someone in your life you love, but the relationship just isn’t working.
Despite your best efforts to communicate and try to work things out, nothing is changing. This person seems totally uninterested in listening to you or working on the relationship.
You’ve hit a wall, and the relationship feels stuck.
This can be so maddening, frustrating, disappointing and painful! You wouldn’t be trying to make it work if you didn’t care for this person, but you can’t make them change…and you’re hurting in the meantime.
I hear from listeners all the time who find themselves in this situation, with a romantic partner, a friend, a family member or a colleague. They want to know: How do you approach this with an Adult Chair perspective…not just for the relationship, but for yourself?
In this episode, I’m giving you five steps to take when you feel stuck or at an impasse with someone in your life. These are all things YOU have the power to do, no matter the other person’s response, and they will help you find new clarity, perspective and ideas for navigating this situation.
Listen to discover:
Relationships can be beautiful, hard and everything in between.
It’s ok – and even expected – that certain people will come and go throughout our lives. Perhaps you’ve learned what you’re meant to learn and it’s time to let go, or perhaps there’s something for your soul to learn by working through this difficult process together.
Whether you want to keep fighting for a relationship or you know it’s time to end it, the steps in this episode will help you stay in your Adult Chair, control what you can, let go of what you can’t and take care of YOU, so you can live with peace and hope no matter what happens with the relationship.
“Have you considered that the reason that you’re with this person…is because you needed to learn, grow, transform or find something about yourself?” - Michelle Chalfant
“Acceptance and liking are two very different things.” - Michelle Chalfant
“When you’re able to accept somebody for who they are, there’s almost like a release that happens. There’s a detachment that happens.” - Michelle Chalfant
“People are not going to change until they’re ready and willing to change.” - Michelle Chalfant
“Just because the relationship needs to be shifted, it doesn’t mean it has to end.” - Michelle Chalfant
“We cannot go around our pain. We go through our pain, and we are stronger on the other side.” - Michelle Chalfant
“Emotions are meant to be experienced, felt and processed, or metabolized, through the body and the energy field. And if we don’t build a story around what we’re feeling…those emotions move through us.” - Michelle Chalfant
“Boundaries are not confrontational.” - Michelle Chalfant
“To let go is to truly detach from [the] outcome, and we let go of our expectations as well.” - Michelle Chalfant
“It’s beautiful when we are able to look at our lives and ask, ‘What do I need?’” - Michelle Chalfant
“Relationships can be beautiful, but they can also be really hard…and they can also be somewhere in the middle.” - Michelle Chalfant
MORE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult Chair® Website
The Adult Chair Events https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification
STAY CONNECTED
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
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| 22 Sep 2022 | 333: How to Find Your Passion and Purpose | 00:28:01 | |
We were all created with a purpose, but so many of us feel disconnected from who we are and why we’re here. We get bogged down by everyday life, social pressure and the need to make money, and we get stuck in survival mode. Many of us don’t even know what our passion is! But you were made for more! You were made to live a life of joy and passion that lights you up inside…and it’s never too late to find that. In this show, I’m giving you five hands-on steps to uncover your passion and purpose in life. This episode will take you on an exciting journey of self-discovery that will reconnect you back to yourself in a profound way and discover why your beautiful soul is here on this planet. So, grab a pen and paper and follow along with me, or listen for the tips and do the exercises at a later date. But I promise, if you go through this process, you WILL discover more about what your purpose is…and how to start taking action towards it! Listen to discover:
Our purpose in life isn’t rigid. It might be more than one thing. It might change over the years. The way we live it out might evolve. This is why it’s so important that we learn how to tune into our intuition and take the next step on the illuminated path in each season of life. When we let go of exactly what it should look like and instead embrace the exciting journey of life, we will be able to respond to the nudges we get from our soul and experience the joy of living in the flow…our unique path, designed around our gifts, passions and purpose. “Hopefully, your purpose lights you up and you feel passionate about it.” - Michelle Chalfant “The body knows why we’re here.” - Michelle Chalfant “Use your heart and your body as a navigation system that will lead you down a path to help you to find your passion and purpose.” - Michelle Chalfant “Every soul on the planet has gifts.” - Michelle Chalfant "What you hear, you have to take action on." - Michelle Chalfant "That soul, it's connected to something way bigger than us. It's got a vision for our whole life." - Michelle Chalfant “You are wise beyond your knowledge.” - Michelle Chalfant “Life is happening through you all the time.” - Michelle Chalfant “Feel your fear and do it anyway.” - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Certified Adult Chair® Coaches https://theadultchair.com/coaches/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the Waitlist! https://theadultchair.com/certification MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ | |||
| 04 Oct 2024 | Feel Your Emotions: A Guided Heart Opening Meditation | 00:16:32 | |
This meditation is a gentle invitation to open up your heart and truly embrace your emotions. When we let our emotions flow, we prevent them from becoming stuck, which can lead to physical, emotional, mental, or even spiritual blockages. Join me in this heart-opening practice to explore and process your feelings more deeply. | |||
| 10 Sep 2020 | 227: The Benefits of a Meditation Practice with Sharon Salzberg | 01:00:33 | |
In 1974 when Sharon Salzberg discovered meditation, there were no meditation apps, mainstream teachers, corporate retreats or scientific studies backing the practice like we have today. Largely considered a Buddhist practice, meditation was relegated to Eastern thought and spiritual gurus. But for Sharon, who grew up in the hustle and bustle of New York City and went through a number of traumatic experiences as a child, it was a lifesaver — a tool that showed her she could take ownership of her life and transform her own suffering. After studying in India for several years, Sharon became a meditation teacher and one of the first people to bring meditation into the mainstream, demystifying the practice with her secular and modern approach. I have followed her for years, and I am THRILLED to feature her in this episode — one that is so packed full of wisdom from this master teacher. In this episode, Sharon shares what meditation is and what it isn’t and the many wonderful things meditation can cultivate in our lives, including self-compassion, healthy ways to process pain, the ability to fall and get back up again and a profound connection with ourselves and others. She also helps to break down how to get started meditating and why everyone should be doing it.
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Whether you’ve meditated for years or are considering starting, I know you will love the countless nuggets of wisdom in this episode. And if you’re on the fence, I encourage you to take Sharon’s advice and just try it! Don’t give up after 10 minutes or look just at the practice time itself, but instead look at your life and how differently you respond to yourself, your relationships and life’s challenges. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised!
“We’re not trying to blank out or drop parts of our experience. We’re cultivating the ability to be with our experience differently. We don’t have to take every thought to heart. We don’t have to follow every thought into action. We don’t have to hold onto an emotion as if it’s the only thing we will ever feel.” - Sharon Salzberg
“It’s the practice of letting go and being able to begin again.” - Sharon Salzberg
“We don’t all share the same degree of pain. But we all share vulnerability.” - Sharon Salzberg
“You’re not supposed to stop your thoughts; you’re supposed to witness.” - Michelle Chalfant
Resources Sharon Salzberg Website https://www.sharonsalzberg.com/ Sharon Salzberg Facebook https://www.facebook.com/SharonSalzberg/ Sharon Salzberg Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sharonsalzberg/ Real Change (New Book) https://www.sharonsalzberg.com/realchange/ Real Happiness (Sharon Salzberg Book) https://www.amazon.com/Real-Happiness-Meditation-28-Day-Program/dp/0761159258 Faith (Sharon Salzberg Book) https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00AG0BRCE/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tkin_p1_i3 Inner Child Resource (contains 2 free meditations) https://theadultchair.com/innerchild Free Meditations https://theadultchair.com/meditations/
More Adult Chair The Adult Chair Website The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
*** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com
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| 27 Sep 2018 | 125: Healing from Betrayal | 00:28:56 | |
Betrayal is the worst kind of pain. It blindsides us, it can shock us and leave us in total disbelief. We wonder how we can move through such pain and feel ok again. In this show, Michelle shares her own experiences with betrayal and offers an 8 step process that walks us out of our pain and helps us to find trust again. Photo credit: @aleksdahlberg Resources mentioned: Living and Loving After Betrayal: How to Heal from Emotional Abuse, Deceit, Infidelity, and Chronic Resentment www.audibletrial.com/theadultchair | |||
| 07 Apr 2022 | 309: How to Save and Strengthen Your Relationship with Matt Fray | 01:05:05 | |
You think you’re a good person, you genuinely love your partner and you try to do the right thing …so why are you struggling in your relationship? Why do you and your partner feel unhappy, disconnected and maybe even headed for divorce?
These are the questions Matt Fray asked himself after his marriage ended. He knew he was a decent guy. He knew he had loved his wife, been faithful and done the things he thought he was “supposed” to do in a marriage – yet one day she came to him and asked for a divorce. As he walked through the grief and pain of that experience, he began a journey of self-reflection and blogging to try to understand what went wrong and how people can truly have healthy relationships.
What he uncovered was a series of small habits and dynamics that added up in his relationship and eroded trust and safety over time…and that these dynamics exist in nearly all relationships, including relationships made up of good people who really do love each other. Now, he’s on a mission to help good people become good partners by understanding the root of relationship problems and how to fix them.
In this episode, Matt reveals the invisible habits that kill relationships, how we can turn our relationships around and how to build trust, safety and lifelong love.
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Nothing in life is static. Either we’re cultivating our relationships and on a trajectory of trust or we’re neglecting our relationships and on a trajectory of breakdown. Too often, we can’t see this trajectory until it all falls apart. I love Matt’s work because he’s helping us open our eyes to the invisible ways we’re either creating or damaging our relationships, even when things seem “fine,” and giving us one of the most important gifts a person can have: the power of choice to do things differently and change the trajectory we’re on. “There’s so much power in that ‘I’m not alone’ experience.” - Matt Fray
“That’s when healing truly began — when I took ownership and responsibility for my lot in life.” - Matt Fray
“When you think you’re a good person, it’s so easy to not accept responsibility for harm that’s being experienced by someone else.”- Matt Fray
“Very good people who really, truly love each other can do this to one another.” - Matt Fray
“Once you associate invalidation with the erosion of trust, then you can make the conscious decision to validate.” - Matt Fray
“When we go through something unusual, it is our job to share, ‘You know, I really need help with this,’ and it’s our partner’s job to show up and say, ‘I’ve got you.’” - Michelle Chalfant
“It’s not about being right – it’s being there in it with that person.” - Michelle Chalfant
“The low-hanging fruit…is ‘I’m not going to invalidate.’” - Matt Fray
LINKS & RESOURCES
Matt Fray Website
“This Is How Your Marriage Ends” (Matt Fray book) https://www.amazon.com/This-Your-Marriage-Ends-Relationships/dp/0063072254/
“The Mask You Live In” Documentary https://therepproject.org/films/the-mask-you-live-in/
The Adult Chair® Membership (April Theme: Emotional Regulation) https://theadultchair.com/membership/
MORE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult Chair® Website
The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification
STAY CONNECTED
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfantCo/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ | |||
| 21 Jul 2022 | 324: Summer Series: The Anxiety Survival Guide with The Anxiety Sisters | 00:55:06 | |
Do you know what anxiety really feels like? I’m not talking about the emotions of fear or stress, but what it feels like in your body. So many of us live with anxiety and don’t even know it because it’s SO physical. It’s even easy to mistake it for physical disease, like heart issues or digestive issues. That was the case for Abbe Greenberg and Maggie Sarachek, two soul sisters who are both mental health professionals and the founders of Anxiety Sisters, a supportive community for those living with anxiety. Though they can now see how their anxiety began showing up in early childhood, for years, they bounced from doctor to doctor and even spent time in the hospital before realizing the root cause of their suffering was anxiety. This began their passion to help raise awareness around anxiety and help anxiety sufferers learn how to live full, happy lives – anxiety and all. We had an incredible conversation about all things anxiety and how to heal it, and I resonated with so many parts of their story…these ladies are the real deal! Listen to discover:
I know I have a lot of favorite topics, but anxiety is one I really feel we can't talk about enough. Too many people in the world are suffering from anxiety without even knowing it, and we have so many tools – from our support system to our sensory system – to help us find peace and balance in life. It’s not about never feeling anxious again, but learning how to find your own brand of happiness and how to take charge so anxiety no longer runs the show. "I still didn't have the vocabulary or the words to make these connections of what I was feeling and how that was connected to anxiety." - Maggie Sarachek
"Anxiety becomes really debilitating when it's in the driver's seat." - Abbe Greenberg
"I think there is this process of accepting anxiety." - Maggie Sarachek
"Acceptance doesn't mean anything other than, 'This is where I am.’" - Michelle Chalfant
"Our brand of happy is anxious happy." - Abbe Greenberg
"Anxiety can no longer sneak up on you. And when it can't sneak up on you, it takes away two thirds of its power." - Abbe Greenberg
"No two people have the same exact anxiety and panic." - Michelle Chalfant
LINKS & RESOURCES Anxiety Sisters Website
Anxiety Sisters Facebook https://www.facebook.com/anxietysisters *Home of a Tuesday night book club + supportive community
The Spin Cycle (Anxiety Sisters Podcast) https://anxietysisters.com/podcasts/
"The Anxiety Sisters' Survival Guide" (Anxiety Sisters Book) https://anxietysisters.com/anxiety-sisters-survival-guide/
The Adult Chair® Private Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website
The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification
STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
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| 24 Mar 2022 | 307: Seasonal Affective Disorder with Dr. Norman Rosenthal | 00:55:55 | |
There's a funny meme I see floating around the internet that says, "I'm sorry for the things I said when it was winter."
It's a joke, but as always, there's truth in humor – and the reality is that winter REALLY does affect our mood (and how we react to others) at a scientific level.
This is due to something called "seasonal affective disorder," or SAD, and it has everything to do with the amount of sunlight we're getting and how it affects our brains. It can even show up as major depression. And in today's episode, I'm interviewing the scientist who discovered this phenomenon himself, Dr. Norman Rosenthal.
Dr. Rosenthal is a fascinating man who loves everything from science to poetry and how people can experience greater well-being. He is passionate about, quite literally, bringing more light to this world, and he shares the creative and scientific process of how he and his colleagues discovered SAD, how they tested light therapy for SAD, who SAD affects the most, and some steps we can all take to make it through the winter.
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As we spring forward and April is around the corner, I’m beginning to feel a sense of hope and reawakening, but we’re not out of the woods yet. SAD is still affecting our friends in the Southern Hemisphere, in places that get a lot of rain like Seattle and England, and any of us who don’t spend enough time getting out in the light. So, here’s your reason to get up from your desk and take a walk around the block on the next sunny day – maybe with a book of poetry in hand. "Where previously you'd only seen light as a vehicle for vision, now you see it as a vehicle for well-being." - Dr. Norman Rosenthal
"It's genetic, it's hormonal and it's environmental." - Dr. Norman Rosenthal
"SAD is actually a form of major depression." - Dr. Norman Rosenthal
“I’m a great believer in training yourself to realize when you’re getting enough light.” - Dr. Norman Rosenthal
“I don’t think a lot of people understand that this is what happens to so many of us [in the winter months].” - Michelle Chalfant
“When you really sit and listen or when you’re reading [poetry], it just speaks to our soul.” - Michelle Chalfant
"As a human, we get to experience everything from love to fear and everything in between. They're rich, beautiful emotions – every single one of them." - Michelle Chalfant
LINKS & RESOURCES “Poetry Rx” (Dr. Norman Rosenthal book) https://www.amazon.com/Poetry-Rx-Inspiring-Poems-Bring/dp/172250546X
“Winter Blues” (Dr. Norman Rosenthal book) https://www.amazon.com/Winter-Blues-Fourth-Everything-Affective/dp/1609181859
Verilux HappyLight https://verilux.com/collections/happylight-therapy-lamps-boxes
Carex Day-Light https://carex.com/products/carex-day-light-classic-plus-light-therapy-sun-lamp
MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website
The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair® Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification
STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfantCo/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
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| 12 Nov 2020 | 236: How to Stay in Your Adult Chair During the Holidays | 00:28:24 | |
The holidays are almost upon us...and if holidays didn’t already come with stressful situations, now we get to navigate the holidays in 2020! A contentious election with families split across political lines, delicately balancing celebrations with COVID-19 concerns and the general stress of this year have the potential to add chaos to an already busy time of year. But with The Adult Chair, you have the tools you need to stay calm, centered and balanced even in the middle of the holidays. No one can steal your joy or your power unless you let them, so in this episode, I’m giving you three essential steps to staying in your Adult Chair...all the way from the time the Thanksgiving turkey is carved until the clock strikes midnight on New Year’s.
Listen to discover:
The key to having a healthy holiday season is to not lose yourself among the demands of others. This is why most of us struggle at the holidays — there is so much competing for our attention (plus, old, unhealthy patterns that we get pulled back into) that we lose connection with ourselves and we feel stressed, frazzled and lost. So, this year, if you only remember one thing, focus on staying connected to yourself. Remember who you are, and you can have a really lovely holiday season. "The moment that we lose our emotional balance and slip into story and assumption, we have lost our joy and our power and our happiness." - Michelle Chalfant "Have hope that [someone] might change some day, but drop your expectation of them to change." - Michelle Chalfant "The moment we can accept someone fully, the triggering becomes far less." - Michelle Chalfant
Resources 30-Day Journaling Challenge https://theadultchair.com/30days/ The Adult Chair Membership (November Theme: Boundaries) https://theadultchair.com/membership/
More Adult Chair The Adult Chair Website The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com
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| 23 Feb 2017 | 054: Narcissism, Codependence, and the Self-Love Deficit with Ross Rosenberg | 00:29:47 | |
Today on the show, Ross Rosenberg joins us to talk about narcissism and codependence. The concepts are tied together, says Ross, and he spends much of his work helping others understand this spectrum through his concept of “self-love deficit disorder.” He joins us to share the roots of narcissism, how narcissists present in relationships, and even delves into tools for protecting ourselves when we are engaging with pathological narcissists in our lives. Ross Rosenberg, is a counselor, trainer, and author of the best-selling book, The Human Magnet Syndrome. He’s also a prolific YouTube creator — his videos have been viewed over five million times! He's trained around the world and is regularly featured on national TV and radio. You can find him blogging for The Huffington Post, PsychCentral.com and TheGoodMenProject.com. Links & Notes | |||
| 11 Feb 2021 | 249: The Power of Self-Compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff | 00:53:59 | |
Compassion is something we have when we live in our healthiest Adult self, but how easy is it for you to turn around and offer that compassion to yourself? Most of us speak very differently to ourselves than we would to a friend, especially when we make a mistake or are going through a hard time.
But self-compassion is an essential part of healing! In fact, studies show that truly effective therapy is improved by increasing our self-compassion so we can live with more love and less anxiety and stress. My guest today, Dr. Kristin Neff, is one of the world’s leading self-compassion experts and one of the first to conduct scientific research on the benefits of self-compassion and how it can change your life. I LOVED our conversation, which covers everything from what self-compassion is and how to cultivate it to the inner critic, anger, gender roles and the way society often makes it difficult to cultivate self-compassion.
Listen to discover:
Self-compassion is not selfish. In fact, studies show that when we show ourselves compassion, it actually increases our compassion for others! Life is messy and none of us is perfect, which is why approaching the journey — both ours and others’ — with gentleness and kindness is so important to being healthy! “The biggest problem with self-esteem is it’s contingent on success.” - Dr. Kristin Neff
“The word ‘compassion’ by definition is a connected stance.” - Dr. Kristin Neff
“I know from practicing The Adult Chair, where we’re mindful, we practice self-compassion, we’re living in the moment, we’re tuning into the moment...it gets easier.” - Michelle Chalfant
“What reminds you to practice self-compassion is your suffering.” - Dr. Kristin Neff
“I really changed myself through self-compassion.” - Michelle Chalfant
Resources
Dr. Kristin Neff Website
“Fierce Self-Compassion” (Kristin Neff Book - Pre-Order) https://www.amazon.com/Fierce-Self-Compassion-Harness-Kindness-Thrive/dp/006299106X
The Adult Chair Membership: $1 offer Use promo code “ANITA” to try your first month for $1 February Theme = “I Love.” https://theadultchair.com/membership/
TAC Circles https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/ (Previously “TAC Gatherings”)
More Adult Chair
The Adult Chair Website
The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
TAC Circles https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/ (Previously “TAC Gatherings”)
Stay Connected
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/
The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
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EPISODE CREDITS:
If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com
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| 01 Feb 2018 | 097: DriveTime Download: Healing Trauma | 00:34:47 | |
Trauma comes in many shapes and sizes. From single events to long-running experiences that take away our sense of safety and security. Even if it doesn’t involve physical harm, it can lead toward isolation, depression, severe anxiety, and overwhelm. This week on the show, Michelle is back with a DriveTime Download inspired by the conversation on The Adult Chair private Facebook group to reflect on the nature of trauma and steps we can take to move forward in our Adult Chair! Links & Notes | |||
| 20 Jul 2017 | REBROADCAST — 25: Relationship Rescue! | 00:34:59 | |
We're still on vacation! But this week we bring you an old favorite from October 2015. This week: Relationships! Need help with a relationship? Whether it be your partner, family member, or friend, this information will shift how you interact in relationships. In today’s podcast, we discuss ways to improve relationships using techniques from the Adult Chair model. They are simple, easy to understand, empowering, and cultivate true connection. Join us for a conversation that will not only change your troubled relationship but transform how you interact with everyone. | |||
| 22 Nov 2018 | 133: Ending Triggers | 00:56:48 | |
I have great news for you. Yes we can end our triggers! In this show I share with you what a trigger is and what to do with them to end being triggered. Hallelujah! I even go into one of my triggers and how I walked my way out of it and transformed it. I share with you lots of examples that will help you too to be able to transform and end triggers for good. Audible book: Debbie Ford The light side of the dark chasers | |||
| 11 Jan 2018 | 094: An Astrologer's View of New Year Transitions with Rachel Lang | 00:34:47 | |
Were you feeling unnaturally thankful that 2017 ended, that you were embarking on a new journey for 2018? You’re not alone, and today’s guest is going to tell us all why! Rachel Lang is an intuitive astrologer and healer, and a consultant for businesses, and she’s here to provide much needed perspective on a crazy year gone by, and guidance for the year to come! Links & Notes | |||
| 23 May 2019 | 159: How to Recognize and Heal Abuse with Christine Gutierrez | 00:39:05 | |
Abuse can be tricky, it can be subtle and ease into our lives. We can be living with it and might not even be aware of it. Abuse comes in many forms and not just the obvious physical abuse. Codependency, narcissism, control, trauma, enmeshment, addictions etc. can all play into this dance of abuse. On today's show, Christine Gutierrez and I have a vulnerable and open discussion about abuse. Christine offers some incredible examples and tools on how to recognize if you are being abused, what you can do about it and the changes that can be made to empower yourself right now. https://christineg.tv/ Ned: https://helloned.com/adult Promo: Adult
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| 02 Dec 2021 | 291: Loneliness at the Holidays with Dr. Dain Heer | 00:52:13 | |
The holidays are a time where it feels like everything is a bit magnified: there is so much joy and brightness in the world but also space for sadness, loneliness and grief to be amplified.
It’s a touchy time of year where whatever we’re feeling gets underscored by parties, gatherings and traditions.
But the holidays don’t create these feelings. In fact, according to my guest on the podcast today, WE don’t even create most of these feelings. Rather, we pick them up from our parents and the world around us, and the key to overcoming loneliness and sadness is to understand where it all began.
In this episode, I’m bringing back one of my favorite people, Dr. Dain Heer, to talk about loneliness, how to identify what is ours and what is not, how to clear what’s not ours, how to get out of victim and so many more important, empowering topics!
Dr. Dain also shares tools and techniques you can use immediately to start clearing negative emotions – one of the reasons I love his work so much! Listen to discover:
Dr. Dain’s work with Access Consciousness is all about realizing the power you have within you to change. When you’re able to get rid of what is not yours, it gives you the space and energy to work on what IS yours and create your life instead of falling victim to it. I hope the tools in this episode help you find your inner power, no matter what you’re feeling this holiday season – or any time of the year!
“Your point of view creates your reality. Your reality doesn’t create your point of view.” - Dr. Dain Heer
“It’s as simple as redirecting that energy out of your energy field.” - Michelle Chalfant
“It starts to undo the foundation of limitation.” - Dr. Dain Heer
“We don’t have to be limited by the world around us.” - Dr. Dain Heer
“When we open the door for possibilities, it makes that available to everybody else on the planet.” - Dr. Dain Heer
“People who do victim have learned it.” - Dr. Dain Heer
“Victims are actually victimizing others and controlling them with their victimhood.” - Dr. Dain Heer
“If we can just sit in someone else’s energy field that’s healthy, we become more like them.” - Michelle Chalfant
Resources
Dr. Dain Heer Website
Dr. Dain Heer YouTube https://www.youtube.com/user/drdainheer
Dr. Dain Heer Facebook https://www.facebook.com/DrDainHeer
Dr. Dain Heer Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dainheer/
Who Does This Belong To App https://www.accessconsciousness.com/en/shop-catalog/apps/who-does-this-belong-to-app/
The Clearing Statement https://theclearingstatement.com/
“Body Whispering” (Dr. Dain Heer Book) https://www.amazon.com/Body-Whispering-Dr-Heer/dp/1634934873
2022 Adult Chair® Membership 2022 Theme: A Year of Conscious Living https://courses.theadultchair.com/offers/U6FHGTjV/checkout
P&G Hair Food Or find on Amazon or Target.com
MORE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult Chair® Website
The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair® Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification
TAC Circles® https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/
STAY CONNECTED
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfantCo/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
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| 18 Jan 2018 | 095: Creating Personal Change from The Adult Chair | 00:22:00 | |
We’re in the middle of January right now and if you’re like most of us, you’re probably already giving up on some of your well-intentioned resolutions that you set on New Year’s Eve. That’s completely normal, even though it’s likely disappointing. This week on the show, I’m going to give you a whole new way to think about accomplishing your goals: Making Change from the Adult Chair. Through visualization, meditation, journaling and so much more, you’re going to find the intrinsic motivation that will drive you to set realistic goals and then meet them with clear mind, heart, and spirit! Links & Notes | |||
| 03 Dec 2020 | 239: Guilt from The Adult Chair | 00:22:18 | |
It can be really tough to talk about guilt. No one wants to focus on a mistake they’ve made, and it can be especially hard to own and admit when we’ve done something wrong if we’re wracked with shame and beating up on ourselves.
But guilt can be a very healthy emotion when it comes from The Adult Chair — when it’s a path to healing rather than self-shaming. In this episode, I walk through the ways guilt serves us and how it can be a tool to let us know when we need to repair relationships. I’m also breaking down how you can tell when guilt is irrational or unnecessary and how to release guilt once you’ve made amends.
Listen to discover:
I see so many people who struggle with unhealthy guilt, whether they feel guilty for something they didn’t do or can’t forgive themselves when they’ve done something wrong...especially during the holidays and this pandemic. Guilt should never be all-consuming like this...and it doesn’t have to be when you:
"There's a big difference between guilt and shame. People often fall into shame and label it as guilt." - Michelle Chalfant
"It's a choice to continue to beat up on self." - Michelle Chalfant
"It's ok if other people are upset and disappointed if you're making a choice to protect yourself and your family." - Michelle Chalfant
Resources StoryWorth Storyworth.com/adult $10 off your first purchase
More Adult Chair The Adult Chair Website
The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
*** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com | |||
| 25 Mar 2021 | Bonus: 5 Minute Self Love Meditation | 00:06:06 | |
This 5-minute meditation promotes relaxation, healing, and self-love.
It’s a wonderful meditation for emotional healing and/or physical healing or for anyone seeking greater peace in their lives. | |||
| 11 Aug 2022 | 327: Summer Series: Emotional Mastery with Dr. Joan Rosenberg | 00:59:24 | |
We all experience emotions, but most of us don’t really understand what emotions are. These feelings can drastically alter our day, our life and our experience in the world, yet they’re intangible and often messy and confusing. It’s no wonder many of us try to avoid them altogether.
Well, get ready to have your mind blown and to see emotions in a whole new light in this brilliant episode with Dr. Joan Rosenberg. Dr. Rosenberg began her study of emotions when she was trying to figure out what made some people confident in life, and her finding was surprising: confidence didn’t just come from a sense of self-esteem but from our ability to handle uncomfortable emotions.
As she dug deeper into the human emotional experience, she uncovered a world of surprises around our understanding of emotions and how we can better process, experience and master our emotions.
We talked about why emotions are so uncomfortable for us (it’s not why you think), what a compliment really is and why it matters so much, what drives fear, anxiety and grief, our fears around emotions and how we get stuck in emotion. Dr. Joan also shares her formula for feeling, experiencing and expressing the eight core emotions in an authentic way that helps them truly move through us.
Listen to discover:
As much as I talk about emotions, I was still left speechless more than once in this episode as Dr. Rosenberg got to the heart of what is really beneath certain emotions and my perspective was shifted in so many ways. This is a truly empowering show that will help you live a more balanced and confident life.
“We need to learn as humans how to feel our emotions.” - Michelle Chalfant
“The ability or the capacity to handle unpleasant feelings really is the foundation of confidence.” - Dr Joan Rosenberg
“I think of confidence as the deep sense that you can handle the emotional outcome of whatever you face or whatever you pursue.” - Dr. Joan Rosenberg
"We're one interconnected whole...The brain is always feeding information to the body, and the body is always feeding information to the brain." Dr. Joan Rosenberg
"It comes down to handling short-lived bodily sensation waves." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg
"100% of the time that sensation morphs and vanishes if they stay with it." - Michelle Chalfant
"We metabolize feeling by feeling it and expressing it." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg
"If you want to stop your ruminating thoughts, you have to feel the emotion that's underneath the rumination." - Michelle Chalfant
"I think of the ability to speak up as the superglue to confidence." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg
"A compliment is a reflection of you back to you." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg
"What looks like arrogance is insecurity." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg
"Disguised grief is the gap between what we wanted, what we needed, what we felt we deserved and what we really got." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg
LINKS & RESOURCES Dr. Joan Rosenberg
“90 Seconds to a Life You Love” (Dr. Joan Rosenberg book) https://www.amazon.com/Seconds-Life-You-Love-Authenticity/dp/1478999764
Dr. Joan Rosenberg TED Talk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKy19WzkPxE
MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website
The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification
STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
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| 23 Apr 2015 | 017: Finding Hope in the Face of Life's Greatest Challenges | 00:23:01 | |
Karen Campion is one of my very favorite people. She’s a holistic therapist and her inner child and alternative therapies have helped so many people find peace and freedom from pain in their lives. I’ve invited her to join us today to share her amazing story of recovery from a life of incredible pain, and her journey through her own inner child connection that lead her to physical recovery. My deepest hope for this conversation is that you’re able to see Karen’s story as a model for your own road to peace and health. It’s a wonderful conversation with a beautiful spirit! | |||
| 21 Nov 2014 | 001: Introducing The Adult Chair — Meeting Michelle | 00:17:23 | |
Welcome to The Adult Chair with Michelle Chalfant. Michelle Chalfant has been a seeker her whole life. Through her own journey of discovery and her decades of work as a therapist, she has developed an approach to understanding the struggles we all experience as we move through the world each day. In The Adult Chair, we’ll be using Michelle’s framework as a foundation for better understanding our relationship with ourselves. Along the way, we’ll host an ongoing conversation around stress, anxiety, physical health, and how our understanding of ourselves impacts the most important relationships in our lives. This week on The Adult Chair, Michelle shares a bit of her own story with Pete Wright, the story that lead to this podcast. She introduces the chair model — originally created by Susan Austin Crumpton, one of Michelle's most inspirational teachers — and how this model inspires her own work to this day. She provides an overview to her guided approach to living authentically that she uses with clients each day. For more information on Susan Austin-Crumpton, visit The Estuary. | |||
| 07 May 2015 | 018: Healing the Mother Wound with Bethany Webster | 00:33:16 | |
Timing is everything, right? And just in time for Mother’s Day, we have an amazing conversation with an amazing woman and healer. Bethany Webster joins us on The Adult Chair to introduce us to the Mother Wound. Stemming from our early years — birth to 7 — the mother wound can dramatically impact our most important relationships, from our relationship with our selves to our partners and spouses to our children as they grow up. This week on the show, we introduce the powerful concepts that drive healing of the mother wound and reveal the strength that can come from a fully realized mother relationship for women and men alike! About Bethany Webster Bethany Webster is a writer, transformational coach, international speaker and what you could call a midwife of the heart. Her work is focused on helping women heal the "mother wound" so that they can step into their full feminine power and potential. In addition to writing and teaching internationally, Bethany offers online courses and a private coaching program for women leaders who desire to take a quantum leap in their leadership. You can learn more about Bethany on her website, Womb of Light. | |||
| 10 Feb 2015 | 008: Want a successful relationship? Have a seat in the Adult Chair | 00:24:37 | |
The strongest relationships in our lives come when we are able to communicate with our partner from our adult chair, and they are communicating with us from their own. This week on the show, Michelle teaches us how to approach our partner as a support rather than a cheerleader. We roll-play on the show this week, demonstrating and deconstructing a partner conversation and illustrate some key concepts that will absolutely change the way you communicate with your friends, partners, and spouse. Join us!
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| 07 Dec 2017 | 091: What do I do with my anger? | 00:40:46 | |
So many of us are afraid of our anger. We use language like, “don’t go there” or “stay calm”. We to push it down and shove it away and teach ourselves to hide from it, and hide it from others. In fact, this is the programming we get from others when we have anger. People close to us tell us to “chill out”, “calm down” or even “get over it”. The most insidious: sometimes we even hear “you are scaring me”. Of course, we don’t want to scare others, so we shove down this powerful emotion, and there it sits, simmering. But anger is an emotion of change. If we learn to sit with our anger just as we sit with our other emotions, we can come to understand it, to learn from it, and maybe even to love it in time. This week on the show, we’re talking all about the anger that lives inside of all of us, and how we can live in harmony with it instead of fear! Links & Notes | |||
| 05 May 2016 | 036: Mindfulness and Sitting with our Negative Emotions | 00:29:12 | |
You can’t heal negative emotions. They exist, and we all move in and out of them throughout our days, weeks … our whole lives. But with an understanding of the power of mindfulness, it is possible to come to terms with our negative emotions, and to find peace, solace, and understanding. This week on the show, we’re talking about both the internal and external tools you can use to sit in your negative emotions free of judgment and shame. Join us for this conversation, and let’s all invite our emotions to tea! Links & Notes | |||
| 20 Feb 2020 | 198: Transforming Fear | 00:20:10 | |
Fear creeps in and out of our lives all the time. It's just a human emotion, but it's a sneaky one. It starts small, then all of the sudden, we're overtaken by it until it becomes paralyzing. A little bit of fear can quickly turn into a lot of fear. A few weeks ago, I shared a story with you about some anxiety I was experiencing and a six-step process to move from panic to peace quickly (check out episode #195 to discover this process). While this process is incredibly effective, I found that I still had some fear creeping up, despite being able to calm my feelings of anxiety. I began to get curious about this fear and figure out why it was coming into my life. Fear is often a future-focused emotion. It is based on unknowns, which trigger the Adolescent and throw us into stories and assumptions. When we find ourselves afraid, many people advise us to step back and "trust the process" — which is true, but much easier said than done! Before we can trust, we must find the part that is able to trust and connect with that part. In this show, I am sharing the secret I discovered to identify the source of fear and transform it before it triggers the ego. There is a part of us where both fear and trust live, and when we tap into it, it transforms fear — almost instantly!
You'll discover:
By the way, if you liked the six-step process in episode #195, the tips I share in today’s episode make for a great “Step 7” that can be added on to that process — in just one minute or less!
Resources The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/ The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville https://theadultchair.com/events/ Inner Child Resource https://theadultchair.com/innerchild/ https://courses.theadultchair.com/ The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ From Anxiety & Panic to Peace Podcast https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/195
Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
*** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com | |||
| 03 Oct 2019 | 178: Ending Procrastination, Perfectionism and People Pleasing | 00:44:16 | |
Are you ready to shift out of procrastination, perfectionism and people pleasing? (I can't imagine anyone that doesn't have their hand up). Well today's show we are diving into The Adult Chair model and looking deeper at our "parts". Our inner unconscious parts are running the show until we bring them into awareness to transform. Today I am going to show you how to use this model and transform your inner parts that are driving you to do things or act in ways that are limiting you. As always, I have included easy to use steps for you to work with this concept today and begin your transformation right away. Get ready for shifts with today's episode! The Adult Chair website:
Promo code: ADULT | |||
| 22 Aug 2024 | 420: Navigating Grief | 00:37:47 | |
Grieving the loss of a loved one can shake the foundation of your world, but what if there were practical tools to help you navigate this emotional whirlwind? Today, I dive deep into the emotional rollercoaster of grief, sharing my personal journey after losing my beloved dog, Maya. Whether you're dealing with the loss of a loved one, a pet, or even the bittersweet transition of an empty nest, this episode is packed with compassion, wisdom, and practical tips to help you navigate tough times. I kick things off by exploring the different faces of grief — it's not just about death. From the ache of watching your kids leave for college to the frustration of aging, I cover it all. I also share some invaluable self-care tips like eating well, getting proper rest, and indulging in those little comforts that make you feel human again. Feeling lost about how to support a grieving friend? I’ve got your back. I discuss the importance of simply being present and holding space for their emotions without the need to "fix" anything. Join me for an episode that's not just about surviving grief but thriving through it. In this episode, you will hear:
Resources from this Episodehttps://courses.theadultchair.com/the-academy-of-awakening
MORE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult Chair® Website
Membership: The Academy of Awakening
https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
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| 02 Jun 2016 | 038: Who's sitting in my Adolescent Chair? | 00:25:22 | |
Just because we might be considered adults chronologically doesn’t mean we’re always acting our age! That’s the psychological trick of the Chairs, and this week I hope to give you all some clarification. Our goal here is to uncover where we are at any given moment, which chair we’re using to relate to the world, and get to know that part of us free from judgement. Our Adolescent Chair is here to protect you. Get to know it, thank it, then let it know that you’ve got this and can move into your Adult Chair. Today, we’re talking about finding that Adult Chair before the trap door closes and we’re stuck using our more limited adolescent skills, and we define some of the skills required to maintain our sense of center and stay in our Adult. Links & Notes | |||
| 21 May 2020 | 211: Empaths and Highly Sensitive Persons with Dr. Judith Orloff | 00:33:49 | |
“Empath” is one of those words that has become a buzzword over the last few years, and it has us empaths who have felt different our whole lives yelling, “Finally!” At last, the world is beginning to understand that certain people are wired in a way that makes them highly in tune with their environment and the emotions around them. Where empaths might have been called too sensitive in the past, we’re now acknowledging the unique gifts that empaths bring to the table — from having huge amounts of empathy to deeply caring for others. But being an empath also comes with its own unique set of challenges. Because we’re so affected by what is going on around us, we can often find ourselves overwhelmed, exhausted or just feeling “off.” Self-care is SO critical for empaths to stay healthy and centered. In this episode, I’m interviewing the incredible Dr. Judith Orloff, a brilliant psychiatrist and healer, who has written a number of books on how to survive and thrive as an empath. She shares a wealth of wisdom on how to know if you’re an empath, common traps empaths fall into and practical tips to live empowered as an empath.
Listen to discover:
If you’ve felt different, sensitive or intuitive your whole life, I think this episode will really resonate with you. Empaths are kind, loving, beautiful individuals who can truly thrive when we learn to be just as kind and loving to ourselves.
“Empaths don’t have the same kind of filters that other people have in terms of emotional or physical filters, so when something intense is going on in the world or your life, you may have a tendency to be overwhelmed by this.” - Dr. Judith Orloff
“Many empaths are having problems during this time because they’re not embodied anymore. They’re in their minds and they’re in panic, fear and suffering is in the mind. So if you bring it back to the body and heart, which is healing energy, you can recalibrate yourself.” - Dr. Judith Orloff
“An empowered empath is someone who can stay centered and loving without absorbing all the energy.” - Dr. Judith Orloff
Resources Judith Orloff Website Judith Orloff Book: “The Empath’s Survival Guide” https://www.amazon.com/Empaths-Survival-Guide-Strategies-Sensitive Judith Orloff Book: “Thriving As An Empath” https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1683642910 Judith Orloff Empath Support Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/929510143757438/
Inner Child Resource https://theadultchair.com/innerchild/ Empath Meditation for Cleansing and Clearing Your Energy https://theadultchair.com/portfolio_page/empath-meditation-for-cleansing-and-clearing-your-energy/
More Adult Chair The Adult Chair Website The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/ The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville, New York and Charleston https://theadultchair.com/events/
Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
*** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com
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| 10 Feb 2022 | 301: Narcissism 101: What It Is & How To Heal It | 00:40:42 | |
Narcissism is such a buzzword these days...it can be tempting to throw the label at anyone in our lives who isn't healthy or who is a little bit full of themselves. While I love that psychology is so accessible and that the world has a lot more awareness of narcissism than in the past, it’s so important to understand what narcissism really is, so we can spot it and heal from it – whether you are in a relationship with a narcissist or believe you’re a narcissist yourself.
In this episode, I’m breaking down the core traits of narcissism (it’s more than just a big ego), the childhood wounding that leads to narcissism and the steps you can take to heal the painful effects of narcissism.
Listen to discover:
Being in a relationship with a narcissist can be incredibly painful. It’s often filled with emotional abuse and manipulation, put downs and a lack of empathy that can be incredibly confusing and damaging to our sense of self. If you’re experiencing any type of abuse in a relationship, get out! At the same time, it’s important to remember we’re all human, and the narcissist is also in pain from deep childhood wounding that has caused them to cover up their true selves. With awareness, any of us can heal, and I hope this episode helps shed some light on the topic of narcissism and gives you practical tips for healing, whether you’re recovering from a relationship with a narcissist or have narcissistic traits yourself. "Let's be really clear: true narcissism is a personality disorder." - Michelle Chalfant
"Narcissists can love, but they can't empathize. They can't feel their emotions, so how in the world are they supposed to connect to your emotions?" - Michelle Chalfant
"Narcissism is a mask." - Michelle Chalfant
"They inflate their sense of self to feel important in the world." - Michelle Chalfant
"At the root of both these narcissistic pathways is deep shame." - Michelle Chalfant
"The narcissist just wants admiration from you, and once they hook you, everything starts to change." - Michelle Chalfant
“You did not get into the relationship knowing what you know now. In a sense, you were tricked.” - Michelle Chalfant
“Anybody can heal that wants to heal. Anybody.” - Michelle Chalfant
LINKS & RESOURCES
Adult Chair Podcast Episodes on Feeling Emotions https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/?sterm=emotions
The Adult Chair® Membership (February Theme: Crack your mask) https://theadultchair.com/membership/
MORE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult Chair® Website
The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair® Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification
STAY CONNECTED
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfantCo/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ | |||
| 16 May 2024 | 406: Three Strategies to Improve Your Relationship | 00:30:46 | |
Today’s episode was inspired by a conversation with a dear friend who was seeking relationship advice.
The truth is that many relationships face similar challenges — even relationships that aren’t romantic.
As I explained the significance of self-awareness in her relationship, the role of her childhood wounds in shaping her interactions, and how to effectively repair and improve the communication in her relationship, I realized that the conversation was something everyone could benefit from.
If you would like to start improving your relationship today, stop what you’re doing and listen to this week’s episode.
In this episode, I share the three strategies you can use to improve your relationship:
I also include actionable tips centered on understanding yourself better to improve the dynamics of your interactions with others.
Listen to discover:
If your relationship isn’t as healthy as you’d like it to be, the tips and strategies in this episode will help you take the first step to creating a healthier, happier relationship. And we all have to start somewhere!
Quotes to Remember:
"Healthy relationships require healthy communication. It's probably one of the most important things that we can do." - Michelle
"The way to improve any relationship is to look in the mirror and actually look at yourself." - Michelle
"Instead of why is this happening to me, we ask the question, why is this happening for me?" - Michelle
"If you want to be with this person long term, you've got to come up with a repair plan.” - Michelle
“You've got to be willing to sit in whatever's going on with you, journal it out, call your coach, call a therapist, call a friend, process it, whatever you need to do in order to help yourself to work through that." - Michelle
LINKS & RESOURCES
https://www.airdoctorpro.com Promo code: adultchair for $300 off plus a 3 year warranty.
MORE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult Chair® Website
https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
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| 26 Mar 2020 | 203: Resilience in Turbulent Times with Linda Graham | 00:56:59 | |
As much as we hate to admit it, difficult times are part of life. Sometimes, they come in the form of trying seasons in our personal lives; other times, the whole world goes through challenges together, facing disasters like famine, tornadoes and disease. But just like difficulty is part of human history, so is resilience. Each of us has the ability to not only cope with what life throws our way, but to become stronger and thrive as a result. It was such a gift to interview Linda Graham, a marriage and family therapist who specializes in helping people cope with life’s challenges and develop a healthy sense of self through them. As I write these notes in the middle of the COVID-19 pandemic sweeping the world, I feel it is so important to explore this topic, and I know Linda’s perspective will be so encouraging to many. In this episode, we’re talking all about resilience, including how it relates to our nervous systems, how we can find peace and balance in the middle of pain, how we can bounce back from trauma and how we can reverse the impact of stress in our lives. We are all called to cultivate this skill through various life experiences, and while it might not be the most fun lesson to learn, the beautiful thing is that practicing resilience cultivates a mindset that empowers us to cope with anything.
Listen to this episode to discover:
Linda also shares a number of practical body-based tools that can help us adjust our nervous systems, keep a clear mind and an open heart and face what life throws our way. I know you will be encouraged by Linda’s reminder that you always have a choice, and you will find hope in the fact that nothing is permanent and we can bounce back stronger than ever.
“We go through disappointments and difficulties in our life. We’re called upon to face disaster. A resilience practice gives us tools and a mindset where we can cope with anything at all.” - Linda Graham
“The most important thing is to shift from focusing on the stressor to focusing on our own internal response because that is what we can do something about.” - Linda Graham
Resources Linda Graham Website Bouncing Back: Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience by Linda Graham https://www.amazon.com/Bouncing-Back-Rewiring-Resilience-Well-Being/dp/1608681297 Resilience: Powerful Practices to Bounce Back from Disappointment, Difficulty and Even Disaster by Linda Graham https://lindagraham-mft.net/resilience/ The New Adolescence by Christine Carter https://www.amazon.com/New-Adolescence-Raising-Successful-Distraction/dp/1948836548 The Coddling of the American Mind by Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff https://www.amazon.com/Coddling-American-Mind-Intentions-Generation/dp/0735224897
Care/Of - 50% off your first order Promo code: adult50
The Adult Chair The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/ The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville https://theadultchair.com/events/
Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
*** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com | |||
| 23 Apr 2020 | 207: The Narcissism and Codependency Connection with Ross Rosenberg | 01:04:47 | |
Today, we’re talking about two of our listeners’ favorite topics — narcissism and codependency. I’ve discussed these topics individually on the show before, but in reality, they are deeply connected with each other. And I’m honored to welcome back to the show Ross Rosenberg, a psychotherapist and leading expert on codependency, narcissism, trauma and addiction, on the show to help us understand the connection between these two traits and how to break the cycle. Ross explains the “dance” of codependency and narcissism, exploring how codependency often forms from narcissistic abuse in childhood and why codependents and narcissists are like magnets for each other. We tend to be attracted to what feels familiar to us, which is why codependents often experience intense chemistry with a narcissistic partner — until the “soulmate” becomes the “cellmate.” It’s not until we learn to fill our own self-love deficit that we can break the cycle of abuse and start forming relationships with partners who love and respect our whole selves.
Listen to discover:
This was SUCH a great episode that will help you understand the “why” behind narcissism and codependency while also giving you practical tips for taking care of yourself in a relationship with a narcissist and rebuilding the self once the relationship ends.
“The child intuitively knows that the world’s not safe, and they somehow have to adapt to it or mold themselves to it so they are the type of child that engenders being cared for.” - Ross Rosenberg
“How you mold yourself [as a child] ends up being how you’re going to be as an adult in relationships.” - Ross Rosenberg
Other Episodes with Ross #54: Narcissism, Codependence and the Self-Love Deficit:
Resources Ross Rosenberg Website Ross Rosenberg YouTube https://www.youtube.com/rossrosenberg Ross Rosenberg Book: “The Human Magnet Syndrome” https://www.amazon.com/Human-Magnet-Syndrome-Love-People/dp/1936128314 Video: When You Unmask a Covert Narcissist, RUN, But Quietly! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3an9crV9feM Video: Boundaries Don’t Work with Narcissists! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iF9hDRhx_hU Ross Rosenberg Event at The Art of Living September 2020 14 Days To Peace & Balance Journaling Prompts https://theadultchair.com/14days
The Adult Chair The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/ The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair Workshop - New York https://theadultchair.com/events/
Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
*** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com | |||
| 23 Dec 2014 | 005: Addressing Our Triggers | 00:18:11 | |
Happy holidays to all! And with the holiday season upon us, let’s make a collective promise to keep cool heads as we’re tossed in all sorts of crazy directions! To do that, we have to understand our triggers. Triggers are the emotionally charged reactions that we have when our comfortable state of “normal” is somehow tested. Did someone cut you off recklessly on the highway? Did you feel that surge of anger? That’s a trigger. Did you find out all your friends were invited to a holiday party and you weren’t? Did you feel that surge of jealousy? Another trigger! This week on the show, we’re talking about triggers, how they hit us, how we can better understand them, and most importantly how we can create a new habit of curiosity in our triggers as we learn to understand ourselves in the process!
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| 17 Jun 2021 | 267: Healing from Betrayal Trauma with Duane Osterlind & Marnie Breecker | 00:55:03 | |
When we form intimate partnerships in life, it goes far beyond love. The relationship becomes our home, our social circle, our sense of safety, and our way of living.
That’s why betrayal in intimate relationships, whether infidelity or lying, is so hurtful. It doesn’t just cause emotional pain, but it also shakes our entire sense of safety and reality. It’s a true multi-layered trauma that is not nearly as simple as breaking up and moving on or deciding to forgive and stay together.
The betrayed partner often faces feelings of confusion, self-doubt, shame, hurt, distrust and even PTSD. And the betrayer often has an addiction or attachment wound that underlies the betrayal. Both partners need support and healing, whether they choose to repair the relationship or step into a new chapter.
My guests today, Duane Osterlind and Marnie Breecker, both specialize in helping people heal after infidelity and betrayal by looking at it through a holistic lens that takes into account all the various forms of trauma that the betrayal has caused. In this episode, they share such important information about why betrayal is such a big deal, the different ways it affects us and how to rebuild safety and trust in a relationship if both partners decide they want to stay together. This is such an insightful show that sheds light on how attachment works, how trust forms, what trauma is and the deeper story behind betrayal.
Listen to discover:
At the end of the day, each one of us is seeking connection. When a betrayal occurs, it’s often an unhealthy way of getting the connection we all crave. It is possible to rebuild a sense of safety, trust, secure attachment and connection after betrayal — whether you choose to rebuild that with the same partner or for yourself and in future relationships. “We’re talking about a lot of complex systems in the brain. We’re talking about attachment. We’re talking about where we are in this life.” - Duane Osterlind
“When intimate relationships are betrayed, it impacts the primary feeling of safety that a person has in their life structure.” - Duane Osterlind
“This is an existential crisis and an attachment trauma for the partner, and all systems of meaning have been shattered." - Marnie Breecker
"Our nature is to trust the person we're living with." - Michelle Chalfant
"We were wired to connect, and in order to connect, we have to be able to trust." - Marnie Breecker
"We don't know how to communicate in a healthy way with other people." - Michelle Chalfant
Resources
Helping Couples Heal (Duane and Marnie Website) https://helpingcouplesheal.com/
Helping Couples Heal Podcast https://helpingcouplesheal.com/podcasts/
Novus Mindful Life Institute (Duane Website)
Center for Relational Healing (Marnie Website)
APSATS (The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists)
IITAP (International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals)
The Adult Chair® Workshop - Charleston https://theadultchair.com/charleston/
P&G Hair Food Or find at Bed Bath & Beyond, Amazon, Target or Walmart
More Adult Chair
The Adult Chair® Website
The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair® Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
TAC Circles® https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/
Stay Connected
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
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EPISODE CREDITS:
If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com\ | |||
| 04 Apr 2017 | 060: Breaking Patterns | 00:21:10 | |
Your life is a revolving door. You date the same people. You report to the same bosses. Over and over again, in spite of the effort you’re making to change your life, you find that you’re stuck in the patterns that have defined you and now you want to get out. This week on the show, we’re talking about those patterns, and how you can take steps to own them, control them, and break them in favor of a new and more empowered YOU. First, you have to learn where they come from, and that can be the hardest lesson of all. Take that step today! Don’t forget to register for my next intensive! Coming next month in Nashville! We’ve got people coming from all over the country and YOU should be there! Links & Notes | |||
| 31 Dec 2020 | 243: Holiday Series: Healing and Repairing Relationships | 00:34:20 | |
We’re all human and we all make mistakes. Unfortunately, sometimes those mistakes hurt people we love and can even create distance or damage in our most important relationships.
When a relationship is suffering, there’s nothing we want more than to heal and restore it, but many of us don’t know where to begin. We might have our own feelings of guilt and shame to overcome or believe the other person never wants to see or talk to us again.
But as long as we are alive, there is hope of change! Relationships can and do heal all the time, and you have the power to repair the damage done and move forward in an even stronger relationship than before.
In this episode, I’m giving you eight simple steps for healing and transforming the relationships in your life. In it, I give the example of one of my clients who was working to repair her relationship with her kids, but the advice here applies to EVERY relationship...spouse, friend, family, coworker, you name it!
Listen to discover:
If you’re living on this planet, chances are you’ve hurt someone and want to know how to make it right. Tune in to discover a practical step-by-step guide to begin the process of healing...for yourself and others! “If someone is willing to repair a relationship and put the time and effort into repairing the relationship, I always have hope.” - Michelle Chalfant
“Forgiveness allows us to get unstuck and to move on for ourselves. It’s freedom!” - Michelle Chalfant
“There is great power in accepting what is...if you are not accepting where things are, you are in resistance of truth.” - Michelle Chalfant
“When you stay with just today in the present, this is where all things can change...including, and most importantly, your perception of yourself.” - Michelle Chalfant
Resources
The Adult Chair Gatherings https://theadultchair.com/tacgatherings
The Self Series
More Adult Chair
The Adult Chair Website
The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
Stay Connected
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/
The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
*** EPISODE CREDITS:
If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com | |||
| 09 Sep 2021 | 279: Narcissistic Abuse Explained with Caroline Strawson | 01:12:10 | |
Sometimes, it takes losing everything you know to start over and begin the journey of healing.
Caroline Strawson is an internationally recognized trauma-informed therapist and coach who helps her clients recover from narcissistic abuse and complex PTSD and create thriving lives. Her journey began with her own story of loss when, in a very short period of time, her mother passed away, her narcissistic husband left her and their two young children and she discovered he had gotten them into $100,000 of debt, leading to the loss of her home and the life she had built.
Facing PTSD, anxiety, depression, self-harm, guilt and shame, Caroline turned inward and took a close look at herself, her life and her relationships – and has since become a leader in trauma-informed recovery and healing from abuse.
In this conversation, Caroline shares her story of overcoming narcissistic abuse, how she finally recognized the abuse and how she began the journey of healing. She offers deep insights into how childhood wounding forms, how we develop “protector parts” and how those parts can lead to struggles like codependency and narcissism. She is a wealth of knowledge on trauma, how we get stuck in life and how to move forward.
Listen to discover:
Whether you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist or not, you will get SO much out of this episode and gain a greater understanding of why you do what you do, what is going on in your brain in relation to trauma and how to heal your wounding so you can form healthier relationships with self and others.
"Initially I was waiting for that epiphany of him changing to then be ok for me to move forward. And of course, that isn't the case. Because we can't change anybody." - Caroline Strawson
"Trauma isn't a person. It's not an event. It's what I feel and what I'm saying to myself about those events." - Caroline Strawson
"Our system all of the time is working to keep us safe, keep us alive, protect us and move us away from the biggest perceived pain.” - Caroline Strawson
"No narcissist is born. They are created from their childhood." - Caroline Strawson
"The codependent is giving, giving, giving trying to soothe their self-worthiness wounds. The narcissist is like, 'Give it to me. I'll take, take, take,’ to soothe their self-worthiness wounds." - Caroline Strawson
"I think of narcissism on a scale." - Michelle Chalfant
"When we're in these relationships, our reality is so distorted. To build self-worth is to then start seeing reality much clearer." - Michelle Chalfant
"Grounding and getting all five senses online also helps us with our reality. We stop doubting ourselves." - Michelle Chalfant
LINKS & RESOURCES
Caroline Strawson Website https://www.carolinestrawson.com/
Caroline Strawson Facebook https://www.facebook.com/carolinestrawson/
Caroline Strawson Instagram https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/
“Divorce Became My Superpower” (Caroline Strawson Book) https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Became-Superpower-Caroline-Strawson/dp/1726255549
The Adult Chair® Membership September Theme: “I’m a self-care badass!” https://theadultchair.com/membership/
P&G Hair Food Or find at Amazon, Target or Walmart
MORE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult Chair® Website
The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair® Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification
TAC Circles® https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/
STAY CONNECTED
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ | |||
| 12 Oct 2017 | 083: Building True Connections from The Adult Chair | 00:23:07 | |
Ready for better relationships in your life? Perhaps you crave deeper connections, healthier relationships with better communication? In today’s show, I talk about how to do just that. Most of us weren’t taught how to have healthy relationships, but today we discuss how to change all of that and create healthy relationships from the Adult Chair. | |||
| 16 Jun 2016 | 039: Addiction & Forgiveness in the Home | 00:38:32 | |
This week’s show comes courtesy of a listener with some incredibly important questions around addiction, living with family suffering with addictive behaviors, and forgiving an emotionally distant parent. These are HUGE questions, as you can imagine, but unfortunately all too familiar issues for so many of us. We have a two part answer on the show. First, my own story, which I hope you can relate to and learn from. Second, I offer some of the tools and the framework you’ll need to move through the chairs, and walk through negative feelings into forgiveness. Thank you so much for writing in and keep those questions coming! Links & Notes | |||
| 05 May 2022 | 313: Developing a Soul Practice with Graham Chalfant | 00:36:29 | |
Anyone who knows me knows I LOVE deep conversation, and in this show, I’m letting you in on a beautiful conversation I had with my husband during one of our weekly coffee chats. This was totally unplanned, but as our chat turned into a conversation about the soul, connection and spiritual practice, I felt such important information coming through and hit “record” so all of you could join us in thinking about how to live a more grounded and loving life.
As humans, most of us live from the place of ego. We stay busy to push down our feelings of loneliness and separateness and miss the presence of something bigger that’s in front of us at all times. When we connect into this deeper part of self, we find comfort, inspiration, ideas and unconditional love.
So, how do we do this? I believe it’s through a “soul practice” of stillness. Stillness is different from meditation, which is quieting the mind to observe our thoughts. Stillness, on the other hand, is stopping all the “doing” and chatter of life and tuning into the deeper parts of our being – our soul.
While this might seem like something reserved for the monks or Zen masters, we can ALL make this a part of life – without quitting our jobs, skirting our responsibilities or even really changing our schedule. In this episode, I share what my soul practice looks like and how I work stillness into my day, one minute at a time.
Listen to discover:
True stillness is not ego-driven or another task to cross off our list. It's letting go and just “being” so that something more can come in. When you get to the end of this episode, I challenge you to sit in stillness for just one minute (and I literally mean 60 seconds!) and make space for your soul. It’s the place I’m striving to live from more and more each day. “The soul is never not with us. The human body is a garage for the soul.” - Michelle Chalfant
“The ideas come when I sit in these moments of stillness.” - Michelle Chalfant
“For me at least, and I think many other people, the meditation feels like more doing. So, even though it’s quieting the mind, you’re doing something.” - Graham Chalfant
“Micro-moments of stillness create relaxation in the nervous system.” - Michelle Chalfant
“One of the fastest ways to slow yourself down is to slow your breath down.” - Michelle Chalfant
“The revolutionary part is that this is the “‘not doing.’” - Graham Chalfant
“When sitting in stillness, we are able to connect with that thing that we all have come from.” - Michelle Chalfant
“If you’d stop doing and stop running so far ahead, the comfort’s right here.” - Graham Chalfant
"We're looking for that connection home again, and home is right inside of all of us." - Michelle Chalfant
LINKS & RESOURCES
The Adult Chair® Membership (May Theme: How to stop negative thinking) https://theadultchair.com/membership/
MORE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult Chair® Website
The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification
STAY CONNECTED
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfantCo/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
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| 13 Apr 2023 | 362: Guiding Your Kids Into Their Adult Chair with Blake Chalfant | 00:58:23 | |
One of the things I get asked about the most is how parents can help their children grow up to be healthy adults. How do you set your kids up to naturally slide into their Adult Chair, while they are still literally children and adolescents? I decided to put myself out there and talk with my son, Blake – who is now a young adult and coaching clients of his own – about his experiences growing up and what he believes is most important in helping kids get into their Adult Chairs. In this vulnerable and authentic conversation, we talk about both of our experiences during Blake’s childhood, from the work I had to do around my own triggers and codependency to the delicate dance parents need between boundaries and allowing their children to have experiences and make mistakes that shape them. Blake also shares that most of the young people he works with feel isolated and like they’re not enough, leading them to look for external validation. He talks about how, through honesty, safety and unconditional love, parents can help kids navigate the unique cultural challenges of their time and address the most common questions in every human’s heart: “Who am I?” “Am I loved?” “Am I enough?” Listen to discover: ● The balance between surrender and boundaries in parenting ● How to encourage your kids to talk to you and open up to you ● Demonstrating unconditional love, even when you have to discipline your kids ● The common thing all young people (and humans) struggle with ● The greatest gift you can give your kids ● How to help your kids feel their emotions ● Some of the unique challenges that kids today are facing, including porn and technology Blake was growing up during my years of private practice and working with The Adult Chair® model, so I think this is a beautiful story of what happens when parents and children are willing to learn and grow together. I’m so proud of who Blake is today, and I hope this encourages you that you don’t have to be a “perfect” parent or have “perfect” kids to raise children who become healthy adults – all you need to do is show up with presence, a lot of love and your own Adult Chair. "Most of the time, people really don't want advice, but what you can do is just offer what you have to say without an expectation." - Blake Chalfant "The culture that we're raising kids in today is scary in some ways. And is not healthy." - Blake Chalfant "We have to surrender, but there has to be a balance of boundaries as well." - Michelle Chalfant "There's a very fine line between things that are gonna really come back to bite them in the ass and then your own projections of how you think they should be." - Blake Chalfant "No one feels like they're enough from a very young age, and we spent the rest of our life trying to fill that void with external validation." - Blake Chalfant "I think that's important too: owning your mistake, apologizing, cause you're modeling that for the kid." - Michelle Chalfant "These beautiful children are with you for a reason." - Michelle Chalfant "You can unconditionally love and support your kids while having extremely firm boundaries." - Blake Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Blake Chalfant Website Blake Chalfant Instagram https://www.instagram.com/blake.chalfant Blake Chalfant YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@BlakeChalfant11 Summer 2023 Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Doors Now Open! https://theadultchair.com/certification MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website The Adult Chair Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ | |||
| 16 Feb 2018 | Meditation 19: Setting Goals and Achieving Success | 00:22:52 | |
Reset your mind and body to the new frequency of you: a person of vision, accomplishment, success, and light. Let us journey. This meditation helps to reprogram the mind with empowered thoughts that enable you to set goals and achieve success in life. We often times feel stuck or may have negative self-talk around goal setting and success. Many of us lack the confidence or beliefs within ourselves that we can become successful. This meditation plants seeds of empowerment, confidence, worthiness, and self-love into the mind that will enable you to make true life changes and begin to see yourself in a new way. | |||
| 29 Oct 2020 | 234: Anger and Healthy Relationships with Dr. Christian Conte | 01:07:54 | |
Emotions are my love language, and I’m all about learning to really feel our emotions...every single one of them. But some emotions are easier for us to feel than others, and there’s one that I find most people struggle with: anger. Anger often scares us because it’s intense, and when it’s unmanaged, it can lead people to do some pretty hurtful things. But anger isn’t a bad thing (in fact we need it), and I think it’s time we start talking about it a whole lot more. Our guest today, Dr. Christian Conte, is one of the world’s leading experts on anger and emotional management. Dr. Conte has worked with top athletes, MMA fighters, people in maximum security prisons and some of the toughest people on the planet to help them integrate anger and other uncomfortable emotions in their lives, and he is full of wisdom to help us do the same thing. Not only do we explore how to manage our emotions in this episode, but we also talk about Dr. Conte’s “Yield Theory,” a powerful tool to cultivate more empathy for others, and ways we can use this empathy to create healthier relationships with anyone in our life.
Listen to discover:
Anger is like fire. It can be destructive if not contained, but it can also be the fuel that powers us to recognize what we need and move forward in life. I hope this episode will help you get more comfortable with anger and other intense emotions, learn how to integrate them in a healthy way and become a more whole person as a result! “Emotions come and go. Actions cannot be undone.” - Dr. Christian Conte
“Your brain is being impacted by everything you encounter.” - Dr. Christian Conte
“The reason people get stuck in emotion is we get stuck in the story about the emotion.” - Michelle Chalfant
“We need anger to fuel us and to make us move forward in life.” - Michelle Chalfant
Resources Dr. Christian Conte YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC47w9g7lESxzqefb5vWkN1Q Dr. Christian Conte Website http://www.drchristianconte.com/ Dr. Christian Conte Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Dr-Christian-Conte-905015942910441/timeline/ Dr. Christian Conte Instagram https://www.instagram.com/drchristianconte Dr. Christian Conte Twitter Walking Through Anger - Dr. Christian Conte book https://www.amazon.com/Walking-Through-Anger-Confronting-Emotionally/dp/1683642589 The Adult Chair Workshop - Charleston https://theadultchair.com/charleston/ 30-Day Journaling Challenge https://theadultchair.com/30days/
More Adult Chair The Adult Chair Website The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
*** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com | |||
| 10 May 2018 | 111: Patti Elledge teaches us how to heal our attachment wounds | 01:00:58 | |
I adore our guest today! Patti Elledge joins us to talk about adult attachment wounds. She’s a brilliant therapist and practitioner and gives us so much depth through our conversation on the role of attachment in our lives and how we can heal ourselves — plus, her work fits _perfectly_with what I teach in The Adult Chair. So grab some coffee or tea and settle in for a wonderful conversation that can change your life! Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - And Keep - Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller! Links & Notes | |||
| 13 Oct 2016 | 045: How do you set the tone of your day? | 00:13:20 | |
So many clients have been coming to me dealing with daily stress. You know the feeling — you might not be able to put your finger on it, but the accumulation of stressors in your life feel like 10,000 pounds on your back. There is no one grand solution, rather a journey of many steps, and an easy one you can take right now today, is to focus on the way you start your day, and set the tone for everything that comes before you. Are you looking at your day with frustration and impatience? Or are you looking over your day with peace and gratitude? Today, we’re going to focus on setting the tone for our day with grace! Starting with a quick 1-minute breathing exercise that you can do anywhere, you can slowly start to build the habit of mindfulness that will become the foundation for everything you do! | |||
| 21 May 2015 | 019: The Law of Attraction | 00:27:42 | |
This week on the show, we’re taking on the Law of Attraction. You may have heard of the Law of Attraction as it was popularized in the book, “The Secret,” just about a decade ago. There is a lot to like about this concept that like attracts like, but I have some problems with the author’s handling of attraction that I believe limits us in the way we approach living a focused life, and putting our beliefs to work for us. This week, we’re talking all about the Law of Attraction and I share a great big lesson that can help you develop focus while not allowing yourself to be undermined by your own subconscious! | |||
| 08 Oct 2015 | 024: Communicating with our Inner Child — A Session with Sarah | 00:25:56 | |
We get triggered, feel painful emotions and go into “fix it mode.” The answer to our triggers and pain is to find the core emotion and go into it. This is where true healing occurs. Bonding with our Inner Child is the only way to do this. In this episode, I have an excerpt from a session with “Sarah” who is learning about the chairs and how to bond with her inner child. It’s the part of the session right after she discovers the feeling of “I don’t matter.” We work with her inner child, bond with her and she ultimately finds peace. | |||
| 19 Nov 2020 | 237: Healthy & Balanced Eating During the Holidays with Jessi Jean | 00:37:30 | |
Food is such a beautiful part of life. It’s a way of connecting with others and bringing enjoyment to your life. Unfortunately, we live in a world that makes it difficult to have a healthy relationship with food. We are met with the pressure to look a certain way, a lack of education about how to truly nourish our bodies and mixed messages that encourage both excess and deprivation — neither of which are healthy!
The holidays take this struggle with food and body image to the next level. We might miss out on a celebration or connection with our family because we’re filled with guilt and fear around food or we might lose control and later regret the way we lost sight of our goals for ourselves. It’s a frustrating cycle that takes all the fun out of this beautiful season!
So, in preparation for this season of feasting and celebration, I’m bringing back the lovely Jessi Jean, who is an eating psychology coach and such a grounding voice on how to have a healthy relationship with food. In this episode, Jessi talks about what a healthy relationship with food looks like, how to check in to make sure you have a balanced relationship with food and strategies for keeping that balance throughout the holidays (good news: pie is still on the menu!).
Listen to discover:
As Jessi says in this episode, it’s not what you do with food that’s the problem; it’s how you feel about it. The important thing is to stay in touch with what’s important to you, tune into all your senses and truly enjoy the experience of the holidays! "We can't control what our loved ones are going to say. We can't control what they are going to do. But we can control our reaction and our response." - Jessi Jean "Practice being unapologetic in your decisions with food." - Jessi Jean "You teach people how to respect you by the way that you respect yourself." - Jessi Jean "When you take something away, there's the thinking that there's a lack and that triggers something inside us." - Michelle Chalfant "Anything we do that is guilt and shame and fear-based...we take a good thing and make it toxic." - Jessi Jean
Resources
Episode #153: Binge Eating with Jessi Jean https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/153-binge-eating-with-jessi-jean/
Jessi Jean Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jessijeannn
Jessi Jean The Dear Body Podcast https://risewithmeco.com/podcast/
Jessi Jean Food Freedom Program
30-Day Journaling Challenge https://theadultchair.com/30days/
More Adult Chair
The Adult Chair Website
The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
Stay Connected
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
*** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com | |||
| 30 Jan 2025 | 443: Gut Brain Health and Healing with Josh Dech | 01:06:01 | |
This episode is a mind-opening chat with holistic nutritionist and physician consultant Josh Dech. We're diving into the world of gut-brain connection and how our modern lifestyles are messing with our health. Think processed foods, environmental toxins, and a rise in chronic conditions like Crohn’s and colitis — yep, Josh has reversed over 300 cases! He's here to shake up the notion that these conditions are irreversible. In this episode, we’re peeling back the layers on how gut health isn't just about food. Josh dishes out some vivid analogies (think your body as a bathtub!) and critiques the medical system’s go-to of prescribing meds instead of addressing root causes. We'll chat about the basics — diet, sleep, and stress management — and how they are essential for achieving a balanced life. Josh and I also explore the critical role of listening to our bodies. We're talking nutrient deficiencies, toxicities, and microbial imbalances, and how tuning into these signals can help recalibrate our health strategies. Plus, we delve into the world of functional and naturopathic medicine for a holistic approach to gut health. We'll help you navigate the complexities of the gut-brain connection and empower you with actionable insights for lasting wellness. Let’s get into it! In this episode, you will hear:
Resources from this Episode
Josh’s Website: gutsolutions.ca
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| 23 Nov 2023 | 394: Holiday Special: Loneliness at the Holidays with Dr. Dain Heer | 00:46:54 | |
The holidays are a time where it feels like everything is a bit magnified: there is so much joy and brightness in the world but also space for sadness, loneliness and grief to be amplified.
It’s a touchy time of year where whatever we’re feeling gets underscored by parties, gatherings and traditions.
But the holidays don’t create these feelings. In fact, according to my guest on the podcast today, WE don’t even create most of these feelings. Rather, we pick them up from our parents and the world around us, and the key to overcoming loneliness and sadness is to understand where it all began.
In this episode, I’m bringing back one of my favorite people, Dr. Dain Heer, to talk about loneliness, how to identify what is ours and what is not, how to clear what’s not ours, how to get out of victim and so many more important, empowering topics!
Dr. Dain also shares tools and techniques you can use immediately to start clearing negative emotions – one of the reasons I love his work so much! Listen to discover:
Dr. Dain’s work with Access Consciousness is all about realizing the power you have within you to change. When you’re able to get rid of what is not yours, it gives you the space and energy to work on what IS yours and create your life instead of falling victim to it. I hope the tools in this episode help you find your inner power, no matter what you’re feeling this holiday season – or any time of the year!
“Your point of view creates your reality. Your reality doesn’t create your point of view.” - Dr. Dain Heer
“It’s as simple as redirecting that energy out of your energy field.” - Michelle Chalfant
“It starts to undo the foundation of limitation.” - Dr. Dain Heer
“We don’t have to be limited by the world around us.” - Dr. Dain Heer
“When we open the door for possibilities, it makes that available to everybody else on the planet.” - Dr. Dain Heer
“People who do victim have learned it.” - Dr. Dain Heer
“Victims are actually victimizing others and controlling them with their victimhood.” - Dr. Dain Heer
“If we can just sit in someone else’s energy field that’s healthy, we become more like them.” - Michelle Chalfant
LINKS & RESOURCES
Dr. Dain Heer Website
Dr. Dain Heer YouTube https://www.youtube.com/user/drdainheer
Dr. Dain Heer Facebook https://www.facebook.com/DrDainHeer
Dr. Dain Heer Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dainheer/
Who Does This Belong To App https://www.accessconsciousness.com/en/shop-catalog/apps/who-does-this-belong-to-app/
The Clearing Statement https://theclearingstatement.com/
“Body Whispering” (Dr. Dain Heer Book) https://www.amazon.com/Body-Whispering-Dr-Heer/dp/1634934873
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| 23 Nov 2017 | 089: Feeling Our Feelings with Ramona Reid | 00:54:41 | |
I’m back with my dear friend Ramona Reid on her radio show, Holistic Revolution Radio this week! Actually, this show was recorded last month, but we talked about all the things that are incredibly important for us to keep in mind over the Thanksgiving Holiday (here in the U.S.). So, in the whirlwind of craziness that comes with family and friends, this is a reminder to stay present, to free yourself from limiting beliefs, and to feel the feelings that are constraining you. Ramona asks some wonderful probing questions, and I’m confident this conversation is going to resonate with you! Happy Thanksgiving! Links & Notes | |||
| 23 May 2024 | 407: How Toxins, Inflammation, and Food Affect Your Physical and Emotional Health with Dr. Tom O'Bryan | 00:56:18 | |
Did you know that your physical health directly impacts your emotional state — and vice versa? Think about it: when you’re not in a good place emotionally, how does your body feel? Full of aches and pains, stomach issues, or other not-so-comfortable symptoms? In today’s episode, Dr. Tom O'Bryan, an internationally recognized speaker on food sensitivities, environmental toxins, and the development of autoimmune diseases, joins me to discuss the intricate link between physical and emotional health. You may be surprised to know that everyday substances like gluten in modified food, toxins in the environment, and even electromagnetic waves can trigger an immune response that leads to inflammation and a range of health issues, including serious conditions like Alzheimer’s. Dr. Tom shares startling insights into how certain foods, especially those altered chemically to enhance taste, can adversely affect our body’s defense mechanisms and even lead to addiction. We'll also explore the crucial differences in the prevalence of chemicals allowed in food and household products across different regions, like the US and the European Union. Of course, we also talk about small lifestyle adjustments that you can do right now to dramatically improve your health, such as opting for glass Tupperware or incorporating more organic products into your diet. Listen to discover:
Listen to continue your wellness journey with us and understand how to take charge of your health in today’s complex world.
Quotes to Remember:
Connecting with Dr. Tom O'Bryan: For those looking to dive deeper into the relationship between chronic inflammation and various health disorders, explore Dr. O'Bryan's resources. His insights into the effects of diet and environment on health are transformative and can be explored further through his published works and his website.
As we wrap up this enlightening discussion, consider how your own physical health could be influencing your emotional well-being. Remember, it’s not just about treating symptoms but addressing the root causes that intertwine our mental and physical states. And if you’d like to join Dr. Tom O’Bryan’s upcoming summit, just click here.
LINKS & RESOURCES Dr. Tom O’Bryan Website
The Inflammation Equation Summit theinflammationequation.com/adult
https://www.instagram.com/thedrtomobryan
Dr. Tom O’Bryan Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedr.com.english/
Dr. Tom O’Bryan YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzlefeGh3JA-Nm0jtf9iYoQ
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| 20 Jun 2019 | 163: Feel your anger and find your truth | 00:49:36 | |
How do you feel about anger? What do you do with your anger? Do you shove it down and override it with being "nice" so you "don't rock the boat"? Many of us grew up with unhealthy anger modeling. Maybe you had a narcissistic and angry parent in the home. Perhaps when you had anger in your home, you were told it was unacceptable or even bad. Whatever the case may be, anger is a healthy and much needed emotion. Anger fuels our power and can help us to make decisions and take steps forward in our lives. It's a powerful emotion, when expressed from our Adult Chair. In today's show, I give you two client examples of how their lives were able to change and transform when they allowed themselves to feel anger. Get excited, you are about to hear about all the benefits of anger and how to unlock and express yours.
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| 12 Jan 2023 | 349: Breaking Down Astrology with Rachel Lang | 00:41:42 | |
At the start of a new year, we all wonder what the year will hold for us. Even with the resolutions and intentions we set, there’s also that element of uncertainty around the things we can’t control. What will come our way? What will shift for us? This goes beyond just us as individuals. Our planet also goes through shifts and transitions with the rhythms of nature and the universe – and on this show, I’m talking with astrologer Rachel Lang to learn more about what might be coming for all of us here on earth in 2023 and beyond. Before giving her predictions for 2023, Rachel breaks down what astrology is and why it’s so much more than what many people think. She helps demystify some of the thought processes and patterns behind it and explains some of the shifts that could be coming in the universe. And, to help illustrate just how complex and deep astrology charts can be, I’m putting myself out there and letting her read my chart on air. Curious to find out what might be going on in my life this year? Listen to find out! Listen to discover:
Astrology is much deeper than just your birthday or your horoscope in the newspaper. It’s about the rhythms of nature and the patterns we see in the heavenly bodies – and what that can mean for trends in the universe and in each of our lives. Whether you love astrology or are a self-proclaimed skeptic, this episode will give you some interesting things to consider and some insights into what this year might hold for you. “Any time we open ourselves up, we have the opportunity to really help others.” - Rachel Lang “It is the least woo woo of all the things that are considered woo.” - Rachel Lang “It’s a study of archetypes.” - Rachel Lang “Everything has some kind of symbolic resonance.” - Rachel Lang “You can use astrology for just about everything.” - Michelle Chalfant “If we would work with the cycles of nature instead of against them, then I think personally we wouldn’t have a lot of the problems that we have right now.” - Rachel Lang “Everything affects everything else.” - Rachel Lang “It’s about space, but ultimately, it brings us to a place of presence on the earth.” - Rachel Lang LINKS & RESOURCES Rachel Lang Website https://rachellangastrologer.com/ Episode #94: An Astrologer's View of New Year Transitions with Rachel Lang https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/94-an-astrologers-view-of-new-year-transitions-with-rachel-lang/ The Adult Chair® Private Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ | |||
| 21 Nov 2024 | 433: Attachment and the Inner Child with Karen Gelstein | 00:52:56 | |
Hey there! Today, we’re journeying into the world of attachment theory and inner child work with the amazing Karen Gelstein. In this episode, we explore how early childhood bonds set the stage for our adult relationships. Whether you're navigating a romance or trying to keep the peace at work, understanding your attachment style is key. Are you secure, anxious, avoidant, or maybe a mix of it all? We've got you covered! Karen, a seasoned trauma and addiction expert, joins us to shed light on the four primary attachment styles and how they play out in our daily lives. We'll chat about the impact of parenting styles and how to mend those pesky attachment wounds. Ever wondered why you're drawn to certain people or situations? This episode might just have the answers. We'll also explore the role of modern technology in shaping our connections — spoiler alert: it's a mixed bag! Plus, Karen shares some practical tips for doing inner child work, emphasizing the power of self-awareness and emotional validation. In this episode, you will hear:
Resources from this EpisodeDeepening the Connection with your Inner Child Course: michellechalfant.com/innerchildGet 20% off at Aquatru.com with promo code: ADULTCHAIR MORE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult Chair® Website
Membership: The Academy of Awakening
https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
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| 21 Dec 2023 | 398: Holiday Replay: How to Become Happier with Gretchen Rubin | 00:58:58 | |
Whether it’s eating healthier, getting exercise, starting a meditation practice or staying socially connected, figuring out what to do to be happy might be simple – but actually doing these things and living in a way that lets us experience happiness is much harder. When we know there are things we can do that will make us healthier and happier, why do we struggle to actually do them? Why do we get caught in a cycle of chasing happiness instead of choosing joy, even when we know better? This is what Gretchen Rubin wanted to understand when she began studying happiness and why people form the habits they do. It turns out that it has everything to do with how we relate to expectations. Gretchen discovered that there are four different “tendencies” that tell us how different people approach habits and expectations – whether we question expectations, comply with expectations, rebel against expectations or uphold them from within. We are born with our tendency and there’s no right or wrong way to be, but our ability to pursue happiness and form habits is directly connected to which tendency we’re wired with. In this episode, Gretchen describes each of the four tendencies in detail and ways to work with your type to go after the life you want. She also talks about habit formation and the different approaches to starting a new habit, so you can figure out which one works best for you! This is so fascinating and has major implications for how we structure our lives, how we work with each other in business and relationships and so much more! Listen to discover:
Though it's true that everyone is different in terms of what makes us happy, we're also all different in how we get to the things that make us happy. When we understand our wiring, we can overcome resistance and set ourselves up to achieve the life we want, in a way that is uniquely ours. "Our physical experience is always going to color our emotional experience." - Gretchen Rubin
"The key to happiness is relationships." - Gretchen Rubin
"Don't suit other people. Suit yourself." - Gretchen Rubin
"I'm a big believer in the genetic roots of personality." - Gretchen Rubin
"We can work with each other to help us all achieve our aims, but sometimes we have to provide a different way from what would work for us." - Gretchen Rubin
"Your communication style would change once you know this." - Michelle Chalfant
"Happier people are more interested in the problems of the world." - Gretchen Rubin
"You have to take care of yourself. You have to put yourself first." - Michelle Chalfant
"When you're not indulging in a temptation, it goes away." - Gretchen Rubin
LINKS & RESOURCES
Gretchen Rubin Website
Happier Podcast (Gretchen Rubin podcast) https://gretchenrubin.com/podcasts/
Gretchen Rubin Books https://gretchenrubin.com/books/
The Four Tendencies Quiz https://gretchenrubin.com/fourtendencies
The Happier App https://the-happiness-project.com/pages/happier-app
Gretchen Rubin Facebook https://www.facebook.com/GretchenRubin
Gretchen Rubin Instagram https://www.instagram.com/gretchenrubin/
Gretchen Rubin LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/gretchenrubin
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| 03 Nov 2022 | 339: Navigating Narcissism and High-Conflict Co-Parenting with Sarah Kamoto | 00:53:55 | |
Realizing your partner is a narcissist or emotionally abusive and making the decision to leave can be one of the most liberating experiences of your life. But what if you’re forever tied to this person because of a child you share together? What if you can take yourself out of the relationship but can't take the narcissist out of your life? Co-parenting with a highly toxic or abusive person adds a whole new dynamic to parenting and divorce. Your child needs more support than ever — and so do you as you heal. You not only have to figure out how to move forward, but you also have to learn how to handle high-conflict interactions with your ex without letting it drag you back into the old patterns that harmed you. Sarah Kamoto is a coach who specializes in helping people co-parent through high-conflict situations. After leaving the narcissistic father of her young child, she has walked this path and navigated everything from how to help your child process the unhealthy dynamics they’re witnessing at the toxic parent’s house to what to do when your ex tries to turn your child against you. In this episode, we dig deep into narcissistic relationships — the signs of a narcissistic relationship, why we experience grief when leaving, dating after leaving and so many questions I get asked about narcissism — plus how to thrive even when you have a high-conflict ex to contend with. Listen to discover:
Everyone deserves to have a beautiful life. You weren’t put here to experience abuse or have your sense of self eroded. You, your children and your entire family can thrive after a narcissistic relationship, but it all starts within. It starts with you doing your work so you can model something different for your children and take the higher path even when your ex tries to tear you down. I hope this episode gives you new tools for growing your self-worth and practical ideas for navigating complex co-parenting situations. "They basically try to destroy who you are as a person." - Sarah Kamoto "They don't ever take responsibility, and they blame you for everything." - Michelle Chalfant "It's a slow erosion." - Sarah Kamoto "I realized that I couldn't have had self-love if I allowed someone to treat me in this way without setting my own boundaries." - Sarah Kamoto "I don't think emotionally healthy people end up in these relationships. You only become emotionally healthy when you've been forced to do this work." - Sarah Kamoto "Isn't the fact that you want more and deserve more enough?" - Sarah Kamoto "It's a lot easier just to switch victims and move on to somebody else than to actually go and do the inner healing work." - Sarah Kamoto "I think anything is possible. And for me it boils down to, 'How aware are you?'" - Michelle Chalfant "Life is too short. I want to live a beautiful life. Everyone deserves to live a beautiful life. We were not put on this earth to be treated in this way and downtrodden and abused." - Sarah Kamoto "Not all people with narcissistic traits are abusive." - Sarah Kamoto "You're trying to parent and you're trying to heal and you're trying to co-parent with somebody who is high conflict." - Sarah Kamoto "You need to differentiate who you are from who the other parent is." - Sarah Kamoto LINKS & RESOURCES Sarah Kamoto Instagram https://www.instagram.com/narc_proof_and_thriving/ Sarah Kamoto Website https://narcproofandthriving.com/ 2023 Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Doors Open Now! https://theadultchair.com/certification Tanasi Use code ADULT for 50% off your first order MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ | |||
| 27 Oct 2022 | 338: How to Overcome Fear in Decision-Making | 00:19:39 | |
You get an idea, you have something you want to do or you become aware of a change you want to make. The first thing you feel is excitement…and then suddenly, the fear hits. Your mind starts racing with all the bad things that could happen if you move forward with your idea. Some of these concerns might sound legitimate, which just adds to the confusion. How can you tell if you’re making a decision out of fear or out of wisdom? How can you connect to your soul to know if something is right for you or not? In this episode, I’m giving you a quick and easy five-step process to overcome fear in decision-making. Using this process, you will learn how to identify the specific fears you have, how to figure out which of them are true (and which are just stories) and how to get out of your head and intuitively make a decision from your heart. Listen to discover:
Here’s the thing: it’s normal to feel fear when making a big decision, and at the same time, fear isn’t always a sign that we shouldn’t move forward. When we learn to unwind our stories and get into our bodies, we can tell the difference between empty fear and intuitive guidance and learn to make the decisions that are truly best for us. “We think that it’s real, all of these fears, but what we find is most of them are not. They’re just stories we’re telling ourselves.” - Michelle Chalfant “Write down as many as you can until you have exhausted that part of your brain that’s kicking out all the fears.” - Michelle Chalfant “The idea is you want to be able to see what thoughts you’re having around the decision.” - Michelle Chalfant “If it’s not 100% fact and truth, you’re gonna cross it off the list.” - Michelle Chalfant “When you feel it in the body, it anchors in your new truth.” - Michelle Chalfant “Fear is a stimulating emotion.” - Michelle Chalfant “That takes us out of fight or flight. That puts us in the parasympathetic nervous system, which is the rest and relax. Then we can think clearly again.” - Michelle Chalfant “Sometimes when we make decisions, there’s a little bit of fear there. If fear is there, it doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t move forward.” - Michelle Chalfant “We want to make soul-driven decisions.” - Michelle Chalfant “We don’t make the right decisions when we’re only in our heads.” - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES 2023 Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Doors Open Now! https://theadultchair.com/certification Tanasi Use code ADULT for 50% off your first order MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
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| 27 Apr 2023 | 364: How To Work With Triggers and Parts | 00:30:47 | |
Guess what? I got triggered this week. AND I was able to work through the trigger and meet the most beautiful younger part of myself using the tools in The Adult Chair® model. In this episode, I’m letting you guys in on exactly what happened and walking you step-by-step through how I transformed this trigger — and how you can use the exact same process the next time you’re triggered. It all started with a relatively simple interaction with my husband, Graham. Though we didn’t have a fight, this interaction brought up feelings of anger and rage in me. As I dug into those feelings, I found that a 10-year-old part of me was feeling really scared and unsafe because the interaction reminded her of an unpredictable situation from childhood. And what happened afterwards was SO POWERFUL that it still gives me chills! Listen to discover: ● What triggers are and where they come from ● Why triggers are a HUGE opportunity to heal ● The step-by-step trigger tool I used to transform my trigger ● A powerful script for working with younger, scared parts of self ● How working with triggers can lead to healthier relationships The really cool thing is that instead of letting my anger create a fight between Graham and me, we were able to have a really authentic conversation about what happened, and I left feeling seen and supported. This is the power of doing our work! I wanted to openly share this story to not only equip you with the tools to work through a trigger, but also to show you that the goal isn’t to “arrive” or “stop getting triggered.” The goal is to do the lifelong work of turning inward to get to know and transform ourselves so we can connect more deeply with self and others. "There are tools within this model that help us to heal and transform whatever is going on in our lives." - Michelle Chalfant "We have so many parts that are within us. So, when you get triggered, remember, it's an unconscious belief that's rising up inside of [you]." - Michelle Chalfant "Triggers are an opportunity for us to see what is unknown within ourselves." - Michelle Chalfant "Oftentimes anger and rage...it's a defense against a more vulnerable emotion." - Michelle Chalfant "Our emotions oftentimes are stacked." - Michelle Chalfant "Nobody can make you feel anything. How you feel is already within you." - Michelle Chalfant "Working with triggers is such an important thing to help us to heal and live with emotional balance…Working with triggers is a way to stay connected to yourself." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Summer 2023 Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Doors Now Open! https://theadultchair.com/certification MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website The Adult Chair Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ | |||
| 24 Jun 2021 | 268: How to Use The Adult Chair® in Everyday Experiences | 00:29:51 | |
The work we do in The Adult Chair® isn’t just about healing past wounding, working with the inner child, parts work or uncovering unconscious programming (though you know I LOVE all of those things).
It’s also about navigating everyday life...what’s happening in the here and now.
Because let’s be honest: when life comes at us (and it always does), it can be hard to stay grounded and in peace and balance. It’s often the everyday experiences of flat tires, our kids talking back to us, our boss giving us a last-minute deadline and home projects gone awry where stress, anger, and anxiety build up and we find ourselves seated smack dab in our Adolescent Chair.
But that’s exactly what The Adult Chair model is here for. It's a model for how to live as the healthiest version of yourself and a manual for everyday life..including when you're having just “one of those days.”
In this episode, I’m walking you through some key Adult Chair principles that are designed to help you navigate everyday stress and stay in balance, even when curveballs get thrown your way. I’m sharing some real examples from my recent home remodel and how I was able to witness the choices I had in each small moment and choose the ones that pulled me out of stress and into peace (even when in a frustrating situation). These tips are simple and practical, and if I can do it, I promise you can too!
Listen to discover:
These principles don’t mean we don’t feel stress or anger. They just mean we don’t let it overtake us. When life happens, there is always a moment where we have a choice and that choice is to either go into the negativity or to take charge of the situation and do what is needed without added suffering or drama. This is how we honor our Child’s emotions and the Adolescent’s need to protect while operating from a place of consciousness and staying in our peaceful Adult Chair. “When I live with presence, I’m not going into the past and pulling up ammunition for what’s going on in my present moment, and I’m also not launching into the future to figure out what’s coming.” - Michelle Chalfant
“We’ve got 70,000 to 90,000 thoughts a day. We don’t need to follow all of them.” - Michelle Chalfant
“My emotions are not in control of me. They just run through me.” - Michelle Chalfant
“The world mirrors where we are with…how well we’re living in the healthiest version of ourselves.” - Michelle Chalfant
“Things happen to us and how we see it and perceive it and tell the story can really stir up some serious drama.” - Michelle Chalfant
“Drama is a choice. Pulling out anger is a choice. And it affects only me.” - Michelle Chalfant
“We have to make choices and changes in our life to get ourselves out of stress.” - Michelle Chalfant
Resources
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
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The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
TAC Circles® https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/
Stay Connected
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| 11 Jul 2019 | 166: Top 5 - #4 Healthy Relationships | 01:07:40 | |
Today I share with you how we create Healthy Relationships from The Adult Chair. Unfortunately, so many of us aren’t taught how to have healthy relationships. In fact, most of us enter into relationships with a lot of baggage which can activate our triggers, and leave us feeling helpless and not sure what to do to help or improve our relationship. In today’s show I offer tools and tips on how we can create and/or improve our relationships. A big part of healthy relationships is being able to communicate effectively, which again so many of us are unsure how to do. Today’s tools can be applied to any relationship, not only romantic ones. I hope you find hope, clarity and empowerment after listening to today’s show as now you too can begin to create new stronger connections in your own life and with others. https://theadultchair.com/events | |||
| 25 Jun 2020 | 216: Navigating 2020 from your Adult | 00:38:36 | |
As we reach the last week of June and find ourselves halfway through 2020, I’m having a hard time finding words for this year. It has felt like a year of nonstop chaos, with so many challenges at the global and personal level. We are all feeling triggered everywhere we turn and overwhelmed by a range of emotions. You might be wondering if it’s even possible to live from your healthy Adult Chair during times like these, and I’m here to tell you that it IS possible. These are the times when we need The Adult Chair the most. It is when our healthiest selves are challenged that we truly develop the skills and practices that keep us in peace and balance regardless of outside circumstances. In this episode, I give you tons of practical tips to help you navigate times of chaos from your Adult Chair. This includes how to tell when you’ve slipped into the Adolescent, how to get back into your Adult and how I’m using The Adult Chair model to get through 2020.
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When I say The Adult Chair model is here to help you live a life of balance no matter what is going on in the world (or your life), I mean it! It’s not just a zen state that you can find when all is good. It’s a practical model to help you get through even the most chaotic of times. I know it is helping me! I really believe that we are in a season of transformation right now. Our world is changing, and it’s bringing us along with it. And while transformation is always painful, we are uncovering truths that have been hidden for far too long and making progress that is long overdue. Through The Adult Chair model, not only can you stay balanced during stressful times, but you can also step into your own journey of transformation and join the world as it changes for the better.
“When we’re faced with fear, we have a tendency to slide out of the Adult Chair, the seat of the authentic part of who we are, and we get pulled by our ego into our Adolescent Chair. This is the seat of unconsciousness.” - Michelle Chalfant
“We want to make sure we’re living in this place [of presence] before we step out into the world or make a statement.” - Michelle Chalfant
"Anxiety is the physical manifestation of unfelt emotions." - Michelle Chalfant
“I can’t expect the world to change to make me feel better. [I have] to change and make [myself] feel better, and I say the same thing to you.” - Michelle Chalfant
Resources The Adult Chair Workshop - New York https://theadultchair.com/new-york/ The Adult Chair Workshop - Charleston https://theadultchair.com/charleston/ Insight Timer
More Adult Chair The Adult Chair Website The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
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| 28 Jan 2016 | 030: The Code author Tony Borroughs on Intention and The Highest Good | 00:35:38 | |
Envision Only Positive Outcomes So says Tony Burroughs this week as we continue our conversation on intentionality. Tony’s work is all around intentions; he’s co-founder of The Intenders of the Highest Good and one of his greatest gifts to all of us is the practice of the Intender’s Circles, now a global community of people joining together to envision a better world, and find greater personal alignment in it. We’ve put a bunch of links to Tony’s work below, including his original — and inspirational — book, The Code. Check it out, and start your own Intender’s Circle today! Links & Notes What you Need to Know Now: The Lee Ching Messages The Code: Use the Laws of Manifestation to Achieve Your Highest Good | |||
| 13 Feb 2018 | 099: Vulnerability | 00:15:36 | |
Most of us grew up thinking that vulnerability equals weakness. Let's get this straight right off the top: that is absolutely not true. This week on the podcast we’re going to pull that misconception apart and share some examples of vulnerability that you can use to frame how you approach becoming vulnerable as an act of courage, an act of embracing risk, and most importantly, and act of love! | |||
| 28 Jul 2022 | 325: Summer Series: Finding your True Self with Dr. Shefali | 00:38:11 | |
The world around us demands so much of us. If we’re not careful, it can erode our souls, steal our true selves and get us to believe lies about the source of our worth. We have to become conscious and aware to step into our true power and a whole, awakened life.
I have been a huge fan of Dr. Shefali for years. I got SO much out of her work on conscious parenting when my kids were young, and it’s no wonder she’s become so well known for her work. But her new book might just be my favorite yet — I truly couldn’t put it down (it’s SO aligned with The Adult Chair®) — and I’m beyond thrilled to have her on the show to discuss how to have a radical (and beautiful) awakening in life.
In this conversation, we explore the way our ego and our social conditioning covers up the true self and keeps us from living free lives. This can be especially true for those oriented towards giving, nurturing and connecting. Society takes these gifts and trains us to be outward focused, seeking praise, validation and approval instead of turning inward and claiming who we really are.
Dr. Shefali shares her own story of awakening, when she realized that despite her work, she was living in the “matrix” and ignoring her true wants and needs to try to get love from others (what she calls the “beggar” mentality). By going deep into the often difficult work of looking at the ego and the masks we all wear, she was able to strip away the lies and see what was true — and step into the authentic self-love and self-care we all deserve.
Listen to discover:
This is a profound conversation that will take the blinders off and change what you think is normal, while inspiring you to strive for what is truly possible for you — and for all of us.
“We, women especially, need to snap out of our chronic civility, helplessness and unworthiness.” - Dr. Shefali
“We cannot waste our life never discovering our true self.” - Dr. Shefali
“When we’re told we can only be given worth when we put others before ourselves, now that giving heart leads to an obliteration of ourselves.” - Dr. Shefali
“We’re so disconnected from our true self, we don’t know who we are at all.” - Michelle Chalfant
“The way out is in. We have to go in to heal.” - Michelle Chalfant
“I want what’s on the other side of that wall, but you got to go through the wall, and the wall is our pain.” - Michelle Chalfant
“We tell ourselves the greatest stories in the world, and we don’t know we’re telling ourselves stories.” - Dr. Shefali
“The greatest narcissism is to pretend you’re not a queen or a king and not own your voice.” - Dr. Shefali
Resources “A Radical Awakening” Book and Course
Dr. Shefali Website
Free Inner Child Resource https://theadultchair.com/innerchild
More Adult Chair The Adult Chair® Website
The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
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| 29 Jun 2023 | 373: Drama Addiction with Dr. Scott Lyons | 00:56:53 | |
You see their name pop up on your phone, and you immediately notice yourself feeling stressed. It’s that friend who always seems to be in crisis, who always calls to gossip or vent. We all know that person…many of us ARE that person. It’s called drama addiction, and there’s a part in all of us that is drawn towards chaos and stress. Sometimes this shows up in big, dramatic ways, and other times, it’s subtler, like our need to always be busy, doom scroll through the news or argue with someone on social media. My brilliant guest today, Dr. Scott Lyons, is a trauma expert who has studied what is really going on in the brain and body when we’re addicted to drama. He breaks down what trauma does in our body, why addiction forms in response and what exactly is happening in our nervous system when we seek out stress, busyness and drama. Dr. Lyons also helps us navigate situations where others are pulling us into their drama (including news and social media), explaining why we do this, how it affects our nervous systems and the boundaries we can put in place to protect ourselves. This episode is full of major “aha” moments that will help you better understand trauma and how stress affects you, whether you are addicted to drama or know someone who is. Listen to discover:
We all unconsciously do the things that make us feel safe, accepted, loved and alive. If we grew up in a chaotic or dysregulating environment, drama feels safe to us, and that’s why we seek it out. Understanding your nervous system and how your experiences have shaped it is so empowering and will greatly increase your compassion for yourself and others. This show is a must listen! “We all know someone addicted to drama.” - Dr. Scott Lyons “The first part of a stress response is a release of endorphins, is a release of pain relief…So, we become attached, dependent on wanting hits of things that give us essentially that constant stream of pain relief.” - Dr. Scott Lyons “In our nervous systems, our exaggerated responses are justified if we’re addicted to drama.” - Dr. Scott Lyons “Self-regulation is the ability to know how much energy, attention and emotion to utilize in our system to properly adapt to a stimulus.” - Dr. Scott Lyons “An addiction to drama looks different on the outside than what it feels like on the inside.” - Dr. Scott Lyons “I’ve noticed with people in my life that are chronically busy, when there’s a space of downtime, boom, it’s filled right away.” - Michelle Chalfant “That tornado of chaos that we all know so well, that we’ve either created ourselves or been pulled into, that is a sad cry for a sense of connection.” - Dr. Scott Lyons “I would think as soon as the internet was created that [drama addiction] became a bigger addiction for most people.” - Michelle Chalfant “The ways in which media, and social media specifically, operate have replicated the conditions of an addiction to drama, but on an endemic scale.” - Dr. Scott Lyons “We live in a stress economy.” - Dr. Scott Lyons “Negative information — fear, anger, sadness — will be more capturing of our attention than positive news…We are more likely in watching the news to believe bad things will happen to us.” - Dr. Scott Lyons “The most contagious state is a stress state.” - Dr. Scott Lyons “We want the drama.” - Michelle Chalfant “I did so much nervous system work with myself for so many years, and I’m finally in this place of much more balance…now I protect myself from drama.” - Michelle Chalfant “That is the curative to an addiction, and it is belonging. And when we belong to ourselves, we can start to lower the drawbridge and feel intimacy, the safety for intimacy and belonging to other people.” - Dr. Scott Lyons LINKS & RESOURCES Dr. Scott Lyons Website Dr. Scott Lyons Instagram https://www.instagram.com/drscottlyons/ "The Gently Used Human" (Dr. Scott Lyons Podcast) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-gently-used-human-with-dr-scott-lyons/id1685789759 "Addicted to Drama" (Dr. Scott Lyons Book) https://www.amazon.com/Addicted-Drama-Healing-Dependency-Yourself/dp/0306925834 The Adult Chair® Private Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website The Adult Chair Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ | |||
| 19 Aug 2021 | 276: Raising Teens from The Adult Chair® with Dr. Pam Staples | 01:04:43 | |
I think it’s universally agreed upon: raising teenagers is hard!
A natural part of growing up is becoming an individual, which comes with challenging limits, venturing away from the family structure and challenging parents in the process!
Not only do our teens challenge us by pushing back on our boundaries, but the process of letting go of our kids also challenges our egos and attachments and pushes us to do our own work. I get so many questions about parenting teenagers in a healthy way, and I’m thrilled to bring the wisdom of today’s guest, Dr. Pam Staples, to you.
Dr. Staples has worked with teenagers for 37 years, and she is so grounded and knowledgeable on how to not just get through the tough teenage years but also help your teen develop into the adult they’re called to be.
We talk about how to let go and let our children become more independent, setting healthy boundaries while maintaining a safe space for our kids to mess up, building trust, how to have tough conversations and so much more.
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As parents, our job is to be the guardrails for our kids as they find who they are and their unique purpose and destiny. Too often we focus on outcomes, performance and our dreams for our kids, when in reality, they need to learn to find their own inner voice and intuition and be who THEY are created to be (which might be very different from who we are). As kids grow from children to teenagers, we begin to “widen the lanes” on the road, giving them more space and freedom while still being that safe touchstone to come back to. When we set healthy limits for our kids rooted in mutual respect, we invite them to turn to us when they need guidance and become partners in their personal development, while growing as people ourselves. This doesn’t necessarily make it easier when you find out your teen has been drinking or when they want nothing to do with you, but parenting from our Adult Chair helps us lead with love, curiosity and acceptance...which is exactly what our kids need to grow into the amazing beings they’re becoming.
“Once they hit adolescence, they start turning away from the family and more towards their peer group.” - Dr. Pam Staples
“We want them to have that God-given intuition turn on and stay on.” - Michelle Chalfant
“In order for them to differentiate and individuate, they need to push off of something, and it’s going to be the family.” - Dr. Pam Staples
“It’s important to create flexible boundaries where you allow for that teaching, mentoring and guiding aspect of parenting.” - Dr. Pam Staples “It’s letting go of these kids so they can become whoever it is that they’re here to become...I didn’t say, ‘so our kids can become who WE think they should become.” - Michelle Chalfant “We have to get out of the way with our children. They have their own destiny. They have their own life path. They have, in my opinion, their own soul that has a purpose and mission to be here. And we’ve got to get the hell out of the way.” - Michelle Chalfant “As a parent, you can’t impose your hopes, your wishes and your dreams for your children onto them. You have to let them cook up their own.” - Dr. Pam Staples “When kids make choices to please their parents, it takes them longer to find themselves.” - Dr. Pam Staples “Let your kids find their own potential.” - Dr. Pam Staples
Resources
Dr. Pam Staples https://www.myrelationallife.com/
Episode #35: Parenting In The 21st Century – Growing Healthy Teens With Guest Dr. James Wellborn https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/35
Episode #79: Raising Teens From Your Adult Chair With James Wellborn https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/79
Episode #123 : Helping your Kids Cope with Anxiety with Sharon Selby https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/123
Episode #134: Repairing Relationships with our Kids (or Anyone) https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/134
Episode #225: Raising Kids from The Adult Chair https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/225
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
More Adult Chair
The Adult Chair® Website
The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair® Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
TAC Circles® https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/
Stay Connected
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ | |||
| 19 Dec 2024 | 437: High Functioning Codependency with Terri Cole | 00:58:01 | |
In this episode, we’re exploring the world of high-functioning codependency with our guest, Terri Cole. This isn't your typical chat about codependency; Terri's giving it a fresh spin, especially for those of us who juggle a million things and still find time to care a little too much about everyone else's problems. Terri breaks down how high-functioning codependents — often the go-getters and perfectionists among us — end up sacrificing their own well-being. Sound familiar? We get into the nitty-gritty of societal norms, early family expectations, and how these can set the stage for burnout. But luckily, Terri has strategies to help us break free from these patterns and set healthy boundaries. Terri shares how to foster real connections without feeling like you have to manage everyone else's life. If you’re ready to transform your relationships and reclaim your personal freedom, you won’t want to miss this chat. In this episode, you will hear:
Resources from this Episodehttps://www.terricole.com/HFC/ 52 week journal - michellechalfant.com/52week MORE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult Chair® Website
Membership: The Academy of Awakening
https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
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| 20 Jan 2022 | 298: How to Work with and Tame the Inner Critic with Jenny Jansen | 00:41:02 | |
All of us have an inner critic – the part that reminds us of our limits, our failures and tries to “keep us in line.” It’s that voice inside your head that can be critical, judgmental and even mean. Though it’s just one part of who we are, the inner critic is one of those parts that can be especially painful and stressful to deal with.
Not only does the inner critic impact our sense of self-worth, but it also keeps us stuck and small in life (although it thinks it’s keeping us safe). We will often find this part standing between us and the dreams that are in our heart, telling us all the reasons why we can’t or shouldn’t.
That is what Adult Chair® Coach Jenny Jansen encountered when she was considering joining The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification Program. She knew her heart was telling her to take the leap, but her inner critic dialed the volume up and tried to keep her stuck in fear.
In this episode, Jenny tells the story of how she used The Adult Chair® to work with and transform her inner critic and how that was the first step toward living a life where she feels purposeful, energized and successful. Jenny shares a detailed example of doing her own parts work, helping illustrate what this work looks like in real life and how transformational it is.
Listen to discover:
As Jenny worked with her inner critic, she discovered that underneath the blame and shame it was throwing her way was fear. This is usually the case for our Adolescent parts – they are afraid and want to keep us safe. When we turn towards them with our healthy Adult voice and let them know they’re ok, they transform. Jenny’s story is a powerful example of how the goal is not to get rid of parts of ourselves but rather to integrate them into our whole self, with our healthy Adult in charge. “I feel like my inner critic was born when I was born.” - Jenny Jansen “When I turned toward it, I realized there was so much fear underneath.” - Jenny Jansen “The more you turn away from that voice, it gets louder.” - Michelle Chalfant “When we’re able to turn toward those parts and get to know them, they morph.” - Michelle Chalfant “A lot of times, we mix up feeling safe with feeling familiar.” - Jenny Jansen “What is it going to take to move your body path in line with your soul path?” - Jenny Jansen “When we take these risks and work with these inner parts and walk through our fears, we become more authentic. We live more from our true self, our true essence, and we have an experience of it.” - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES
Jenny Jansen Website https://www.trueconsciousliving.com/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification (Doors Close January 31!) https://theadultchair.com/certification
MORE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult Chair® Website
The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair® Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification (Doors Close January 31!) https://theadultchair.com/certification
STAY CONNECTED
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfantCo/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ | |||
| 14 Nov 2024 | 432: Your Brain and Body on Grief with Meghan Riordan Jarvis | 00:39:40 | |
In this heartfelt episode, we dive into the often uncharted waters of grief with the incredible Meghan Riordan Jarvis. As a trauma-trained psychotherapist and TEDx speaker, Meghan joins us to uncover the hidden layers of grief that many of us don't recognize. Spoiler alert: it’s not just about tears and sadness. We explore how grief can sneakily manifest in our bodies as physical ailments or even mimic depression. Join us as we journey with Meghan, who shares her personal experiences and expert insights on processing grief instead of letting it simmer under the surface. You'll learn why acknowledging grief as an energy that needs to be expressed, not suppressed, is crucial. Meghan and I discuss practical strategies for emotional healing through movement, nourishment, and connection. Plus, we touch on those pesky feelings of guilt and regret that can hold us back. Whether you're navigating a loss yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode serves as a compassionate guide to integrating grief into a life filled with growth and healing. In this episode, you will hear:
Resources from this EpisodeInstagram: @meghan.riordan.jarvis Website: https://meghanriordanjarvis.com/ MORE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult Chair® Website
Membership: The Academy of Awakening
https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
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| 20 Jul 2023 | 376: Summer Series: “I Feel Like a Fraud!” Overcoming Imposter Syndrome | 00:20:32 | |
You landed the dream gig, got the promotion, submitted your book for publishing, had an amazing first date. So, why do you feel so insecure, unsure and even unworthy? Hello, imposter syndrome! Imposter syndrome, or feeling like a fraud, is something that everyone struggles with from time to time — yep, even those super successful people you look up to. It’s that feeling that you don’t really deserve the recognition or opportunities you’ve earned or you worry you’re not really good enough for them. It often sounds like, “If they only knew…” Imposter syndrome can pop up when something good happens in our life or it can hold us back from ever going after our dreams. In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly what imposter syndrome is, where it comes from and the concrete steps you can take to work through it and overcome it! Listen to discover:
Feeling like a fraud is part of the human experience. But because this feeling causes us shame, we hide it and then end up thinking we’re the only ones. It’s time we talk about it openly — and talk about what you can do so it doesn’t hold you back any longer! I hope the steps in this episode are steps you can turn to anytime you feel imposter syndrome creep up. "If you feel this way, don't feel like you're the only one." - Michelle Chalfant
"It's the feeling that you're a fraud, that you don't deserve compliments, praise or success that you rightfully earned." - Michelle Chalfant
"When we have imposter syndrome, we feel like our success happened by chance or by luck." - Michelle Chalfant
"It's like we're carrying around this big, dark secret that we want no one to know about." - Michelle Chalfant
"It's critical to have self-worth. This is one of the ways that we work ourselves out of feeling like a fraud or an imposter." - Michelle Chalfant
"When we can become witness to it, we give ourselves another perspective." - Michelle Chalfant
"Don't let your rouge thoughts run your life." - Michelle Chalfant
"When we change our thoughts into positive, conscious thoughts about who we are, it feels better." - Michelle Chalfant
"What we're not great at doing is accepting and owning our accomplishments." - Michelle Chalfant
"These are your accomplishments. They're yours. Claim them. Be proud of them." - Michelle Chalfant
"Self-worth is key to changing your mindset about being a fraud." - Michelle Chalfant
"Self-worth is all about value." - Michelle Chalfant
"Imposter syndrome is much more common than you would think." - Michelle Chalfant
LINKS & RESOURCES
Green Chef https://www.greenchef.com/adult60 Use code ADULT60 for 60% off + free shipping
The Adult Chair® Private Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
MORE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult Chair® Website
The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification
STAY CONNECTED
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ \
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
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| 28 Nov 2019 | 186: Staying Present During the Holidays | 00:12:20 | |
Happy Thanksgiving all! Today is the day that marks the official "mad dashing" around to get to the parties on time, buying the perfect gifts, lots of rushing here and there with lots of traffic and the common denominator...stress (and of course it's not all bad...we have some fun too). What I hear so much about from people is yes a lot about this stressful time of year but even more about how they lose themselves and don't have time for themselves. In today's episode I give you a few ideas on how to stay connected to yourself and stay grounded despite the holiday craziness. I also give you a wonderful 5 minute meditation that you could (I am having a hard time not saying should here), :) do daily to help you get through the next month. If you are even thinking to yourself, "I don't have 5 minutes"! Then you need to do a 10 minute meditation! We all can build in 5 minutes a day for ourselves and our sanity. This meditation helps with just that. I wish you all a beautiful and safe Thanksgiving! Much love, This is the You Tube link for the 5 minute self love meditation.
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| 05 Dec 2019 | 187: Codependency at the Holidays | 00:33:51 | |
Ah the holidays, what a wonderful time of year. The rushing around the shopping the preparing of food the obligations to attend all the parties. It's a codependents nightmare! By the time the first week of January hits we are wiped out and in bed with fatigue from all the caretaking and controlling we did during the holidays. It can be exhausting for us codependents! In today's show, I give you tools and tips for staying "in your own lane" during the holidays and all year long. It's a mini codependents reference guide in today's show. I share with you all about the fatigue, anger, resentment, anxiety and even depression we can get if we are not "careful codependents". There is a way to make it through the holidays in a healthy way and today I give you numerous tips to do just that. From boundaries (and how to set them), dealing with narcissism, in laws, how to self soothe when we are triggered and how to stay connected to your Self (intentional capital S here). You see there is a big difference between our Self and self. Our "self" (small s) is the self that wears a mask to please everyone else. Our "Self" is the Self that knows who we are and strives to live authentically. Lots of information in today's show for you. Remember, life is a journey, an adventure. Don't cling to anything, to any labels (even codependency). See parts like codependency instead as indicators of what we need to give our attention to (temporarily), to keep ourselves healthy and to aid in our transformation. That's it! https://theadultchair.com/events | |||
| 01 Oct 2020 | 230: Cutting Through Depression | 00:46:43 | |
From the outside — and to herself — Tonya looked like she had it all together...until one day, all the “spinning plates” fell and she collapsed. That moment led Tonya to a therapist’s office where she was diagnosed with depression and anxiety that had been simmering under the surface unnoticed for years. She found herself battling suicidal thoughts with stress manifesting in her body in many different ways. Determined to not let it be the end of her story, Tonya began searching for a quick way to transform her depression on her own. She prayed for a “knife” that could quickly cut through her depression and was led to The Adult Chair podcast, which allowed her to completely transform in a matter of months. In this episode, Tonya shares her inspirational story of how she used the tools in The Adult Chair to completely shift her outlook on life and get healthy FAST (and for free!).
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Today, Tonya is happy, healthy and on her way to becoming an Adult Chair Certified Coach. I’m so excited to see the way she helps others transform through her own experience of walking through and transforming depression and anxiety.
“The Adult Chair was my knife to cut through layers and layers of trauma.” - Tonya
“One of the biggest things is to be a story buster. Something happens and we interpret it negatively, and that leads to anxiety.” - Michelle Chalfant “Accepting it doesn’t mean you like it or you’re never wanting change. Acceptance releases us from pushing against.” - Michelle Chalfant “The same walls we use to protect our image are the same ones that imprison us in our pain.” - Tonya
Resources
The Adult Chair Workshop - Charleston https://theadultchair.com/charleston/ 30-Day Journaling Challenge https://theadultchair.com/30days/ The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
More Adult Chair The Adult Chair Website The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
*** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com | |||
| 03 Feb 2022 | 300: How to Be a Boundary Boss with Terri Cole | 00:40:24 | |
Are you convinced you’re just bad at boundaries? Do you worry this is a trait that you were born without and you’re just destined to feel taken advantage of and resentful for the rest of your life?
The truth is that no one is born good at boundaries! They’re not something you have or don’t have; they’re a skill you develop. That’s right – you CAN become a boundary boss!
My guest today, Terri Cole, is a boundary boss herself and a licensed psychotherapist who helps people from all walks of life overcome the “disease to please,” speak their truth clearly and confidently and live more free, peaceful lives. We talk about how our boundary scripts form (and why it’s not your fault), how to navigate conflict in a healthier way and a POWERFUL list of “boundary rights” you have that will inspire you to take more control of your life today!
Listen to discover:
The cool thing about boundaries is that once you start setting them, it gets easier and easier. Though some people will push back against your boundaries, you might be surprised by the amount of appreciation and respect you get from others when you begin setting boundaries. You will learn that conflict doesn’t equal disconnection – in fact, boundaries deepen connection and prevent resentment – and you will really experience what it feels like to be loved for your authentic self. And once you know how that feels, there is no turning back! “We all have this downloaded boundary blueprint in our unconscious mind.” - Terri Cole
“It’s your own personal rules of engagement…All of our boundaries are incredibly unique.” - Terri Cole
“We were raised and praised — most of us — for being self-abandoning codependents.” - Terri Cole
“It’s so much easier to say no when you haven’t already said yes.” - Terri Cole
"'Isn't self-care selfish?' No, it's self-loving!" - Michelle Chalfant
"Once you start doing it, it feels so good to be known. It feels so good to be accurately seen." - Terri Cole
"We can stay lovingly attached to the people in our lives while we set boundaries." - Terri Cole
LINKS & RESOURCES
Terri Cole Website
Terri Cole Instagram https://www.instagram.com/terricole/
“Boundary Boss” (Terri Cole book)
The Terri Cole Show (Terri Cole podcast) https://www.terricole.com/podcast/
Free Boundaries + Codependency Resource from Terri Cole https://boundaryboss.me/michelle
Episode #140: Love and Boundaries with Terri Cole https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/140-love-and-boundaries-with-terri-cole/
Episode #261: How to Receive a Boundary from Your Adult Chair https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/261/
The Adult Chair® Membership (February Theme: Crack your mask) https://theadultchair.com/membership/
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The Adult Chair® Website
The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair® Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification
STAY CONNECTED
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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfantCo/
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| 24 Sep 2015 | 023: How do I find my Adult Chair in the middle of an emotional storm? | 00:29:20 | |
The concept of the Adult Chair is simple. We live in the moment, in fact and truth, set healthy boundaries, feel empowered and we become an observer of our lives (and not stuck in the drama) and make decisions for our lives. Sounds like a wonderful idea, right!? What happens when we get stuck? When we feel overwhelmed, not in our bodies, scared, can’t think straight, afraid to make the wrong decision etc. How then can I bring in my adult? In today’s podcast we discuss ways to do this. To find peace and regain balance in a storm. | |||
| 22 Oct 2020 | 233: I’m Codependent. Now What? | 00:36:35 | |
“Codependency.” You finally have a word to describe why you’ve been feeling so overwhelmed and drained your whole life. And while I’m not the biggest fan of labels, sometimes having a term to describe your experience can be the thing that makes all the pieces fall into place and the light bulb go off. But having a “label” is only the first step. That’s why one of the biggest questions I get asked, especially around codependency, is “So, what do I do about it?” Codependency is something I understand extremely well, because it was a constant companion for the first half of my life. I know how painful it can be and the feelings of regret that can arise when you discover you’re codependent. But I also know codependency doesn’t have to be the end of the story. You CAN change this pattern in your life, and in this episode, I’m telling you exactly how to do that. Listen to discover:
You didn’t choose codependency, but starting today, you can choose to end it! Instead of feeling regret for time lost, look at today as the first day of the rest of your life. I’m here to help you take that next step into health and freedom! “If you’re human, you have things to work on. Healthy people work on their stuff.” - Michelle Chalfant “Nobody throws us in the victim chair. We choose it.” - Michelle Chalfant “You have to take care of you and your life. It’s no one else’s job.” - Michelle Chalfant “There’s a fine line between being really caring and codependent, and when you’re codependent, you can't see that line.” - Michelle Chalfant
Resources 30-Day Journaling Challenge https://theadultchair.com/30days/ The Adult Chair Private Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ Green Chef $80 off your first box + free shipping
More Adult Chair The Adult Chair Website The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
*** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com
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| 11 Apr 2019 | 153: Binge Eating with Jessi Jean | 00:41:50 | |
On today's show I spoke with Certified Eating Psychology Coach, Jessi Jean all about binge eating, emotional eating and more. Jessi shared with us her own journey and offered some tips on what you can do right now if you feel out of control with food. So many of us struggle with food and Jessi's teachings and masterclass have helped thousands around the globe with eating/food issues and food addiction. Instagram: @Jessijeannn https://theadultchair.com/workshop | |||
| 03 Aug 2017 | 073: The Healing Power of Breath with Michelle D'Avella | 00:28:55 | |
Today, we’re talking about your breath. Yes, we all breathe, but how often do you think about the way your breathing impacts your emotional well being or your physical health or your ability to respond to stress and anxiety? The answer — not enough. Our guest today is Michelle D’Avella. Michelle supports people through their journey inward to release pain, open their hearts, and create a life they love. She is a breathwork teacher, desire map facilitator, writer, and mentor. She is the host of The Pushing Beauty Podcast and we’re thrilled to welcome her to The Adult Chair today. Links & Notes | |||