The Dom Sub Living BDSM and Kink Podcast (Dom Sub Living)

008: Are you ready to take your BDSM relationship to the next level?

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Join Alesandra as she reveals the crucial steps she and her partner took to establish a 24/7 total power exchange (TPE) dynamic! Alesandra discusses the use of safe words, the importance of a written contract, implementing daily and weekly check-ins, and creating a schedule with specific rituals. She emphasizes the value of open communication and invites you to explore your own desires and roles in D/s relationships. Get ready to dive deeper into the world of BDSM!

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#009: Are you struggling with a failing D/s relationship? Tune in as Alesandra delves into the common pitfalls and offers expert advice for reigniting your dynamic. In this episode. Alesandra shines a light on the intricacies of D/s relationships, offering her expertise in mastering and living the BDSM lifestyle. She also addresses the complexities of failing D/s relationships, tackles issues of self-blame, and shares insights on overcoming challenges such as "vanilla" life interference, mindset vs. skill focus, and topping from the bottom.
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#011: Hop on with Alesandra as she previews the upcoming year for Dom Sub Living. Alesandra, a prominent figure in the BDSM community and the podcast's energetic host, highlights her plans for 2024. She discusses podcast updates, the launch of a new channel, free online events, and the famous Kink Bundle. Subscribe to the podcast and stay updated on all the exciting new developments for 2024!

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#010: Discover the untold truths and personal experiences of prominent figures in the BDSM community in our groundbreaking roundup episode. Join host Alesandra as she shares her raw, honest insights alongside experienced guests. These real-life kinksters delve into crucial topics, like the need for community, the essence of communication, and dispelling misconceptions. Tune in and absorb the wisdom these amazing guests have to offer.

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#012: Join Alesandra as she reflects on the good, the bad, and the ugly moments of her life, love, and BDSM journey in this candid and emotional episode. Listen as she shares the challenges she and her partner have overcome, including health struggles, relationship dynamics, and the impact of long-distance work commitments. She also opens up about navigating toxic friendships, her commitment to sobriety, and the exciting plans ahead for Dom Sub Living.

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#013: Stay ahead of the curve with our latest BDSM insights! As the kink community evolves, what new trends are emerging? Listen as host Alesandra discusses exciting trends in the community and offers valuable predictions for the upcoming year. Staying informed on the evolving trends in BDSM will help you on your journey to becoming the best Dom or sub you can be.

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#014: Strengthen your long-distance BDSM relationship with our expert tips! Join host Alesandra as she shares her experience and offers valuable hacks to make your long-distance dynamic a success. She discusses punishments, virtual scenes, and more! Follow along with our free worksheets so you can create your own, personalized LDR action plan.

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#015: This is huge. Brace yourself because I'm dropping a bombshell, and it's a game-changer! Introducing our All-Access Pass – the ultimate combo of community-powered BDSM education and access to all our courses at your own pace. Connect with fellow kinksters on the same journey. Our killer courses have led thousands to success as a Dom or sub, and now, with the All-Access Pass, it's all bundled up at an insane bargain! Tune in to the special episode for a sneak peek, and don't miss our launch party for exclusive founding member perks. It's not just a launch; it's a celebration of your kinky journey. Ready for the ride?

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#016: How did this sub go from a sexless marriage to embracing the BDSM lifestyle? Leann Herron's journey is nothing short of inspiring. Leann is a kink-informed relationship coach, and also a Dom Sub Living student! On this episode she dishes with Alesandra on safe kink exploration, overcoming mindset hurdles, and practical tips for mastering the Dom/sub dynamic. Listen to this intimate interview to delve deeper into Leann's valuable insights and overcome your own struggles on your journey of understanding and mastering D/s relationships.

– Leann's website and workbook: Kinkyourway.com

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#017: Are you struggling to find a legitimate Dom or sub partner? In this episode, we dive into the secrets of navigating the BDSM dating scene. Alesandra provides guidance on finding a genuine partner, addressing past relationships, creating a wish list, vetting potential partners, and authentically presenting yourself. She also shares more about her best-selling course, 4 Steps to Finally Find Your Perfect Partner course, so you can find your perfect match fast!

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#018: Having trouble getting your partner on board with BDSM? Let's figure out how to make it a joint adventure filled with excitement and fulfillment! Your host, Alesandra, dives into the challenges of getting your partner interested in BDSM, highlighting the importance of communication, mutual benefits, and taking it slow. She also emphasizes the need for patience and mutual respect in this journey. Tune in and gain valuable insights for kinksters looking to spice up their relationships.

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#019: Discover the 5 crucial newbie mistakes in BDSM as host Alesandra reveals her embarrassing but invaluable experiences in this candid episode. Listen in as she walks through her real-life blunders, and bares it all to help fellow enthusiasts avoid these common mistakes. These insights are a must for any newbie (or veteran) in the BDSM scene.

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#020: Do you struggle with maintaining daily intensity in your BDSM relationship? Join Alesandra as she dives deep into unlocking the secrets of daily consistency in Dom/sub dynamics. As a full-time collared submissive and a mom of two, Alesandra discusses practical tips for integrating BDSM into daily life. Strengthen your Dom/sub relationship and don't miss out on this insightful episode!

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#021: We're diving into the world of Tradwife dynamics in relation to BDSM, as we uncover their similarities and differences. Join host Alesandra and she goes deep into the heart of the Tradwives lifestyle, discussing submission, empowerment, communication, and consent. Discover the appeal of 1950's submissive kink, and the importance of informed and consensual relationships. Whether you're into BDSM, curious about Tradwife dynamics, or simply want to explore empowering Dom/sub relationships, don't miss this thought-provoking podcast episode.

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#022: Ready to elevate your dominance game? Dive into the 4 key pillars that separate a good Dom from a great one in this episode. Join host Alesandra to uncover how Doms can enhance their relationships. this episode is packed with actionable tips for enhancing your dominance in relationships. To elevate your dominance game even more, be sure to grab our "How to Be a Good Dom Quick Start Guide"!

– Free "How to Be a Good Dom" Quickstart Guide: https://domsubliving.com/Dom

– Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/022

#023: Ever wonder if you're a switch in BDSM? Get the juicy details on embracing both dominance and submission! Listen as host Alesandra breaks down the ins and outs of being a switch in the BDSM community, debunks misconceptions, and shares signs that might point to a flair for both dominance and submission. Don't miss out on embracing your personal desires and exploring the kink spectrum. 

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#024: Ever wondered what BDSM is REALLY like, beyond the dungeon drama? Alesandra's here to spill the tea. She's peeling back the curtains on the nitty-gritty of power play. Think honest chats about trust, tricky emotions, and managing kinks while juggling real life. Jump into this raw conversation about love, leather, and everything in between. Click play and let's get real about BDSM!

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#025: Ever heard some "foolish" BDSM tips? Let's clear the air! Join host Alesandra as she debunks dangerous advice and delves into the murky waters of BDSM myths. We cover the importance of personal limits, dispel the notion of power imbalance, and reject gatekeeping in kink practices. Listen in and discover why there's no 'one-size-fits-all' in Dom/sub dynamics.

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#026: Are you curious about joining the kink community? Join Alesandra as she uncovers how to find kinky friends at local munches and dungeons. Discover intimate gathering spots, learn BDSM etiquette, and find out how larger events foster connections. This is your personal invitation to learn how to engage with the BDSM community for ongoing education and connection.

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#027: Ever felt lost in your BDSM journey? Dive deep with Alesandra as she uncovers the red and green flags in seeking a BDSM mentor. From identifying qualities of a credible guide to the transformative power of mentorship, Alesandra offers practical advice on navigating the lifestyle with confidence, and offers options for personalized mentorship. Take control of your journey today!

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Are you the sub you want to be? Dive into the 4 key pillars that separate a good sub from a great one in this episode. Join host Alesandra to uncover how submissives can better serve their Dominants. This episode is packed with actionable tips for enhancing your submission in relationships. To elevate your submission even more, be sure to grab our "How to Be a Good Sub Cheat Sheet"!

– Free "How to Be a Good Sub" Cheat Sheet: https://domsubliving.com/sub

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Ready to unravel the intricacies of BDSM and discover the profound connection it cultivates? Listen in as Suzii from Just Press Foreplay interviews Alesandra in this raw episode. Unpack the complexities of consent, communication, and care in BDSM. From boundary negotiations to the spiritual intertwining of dominance and submission, Alesandra and Suzii dissect the nuances of power play and the catharsis of kink exploration.

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#030: Struggling with your mental health? You're definitely not in this alone. Your host, Alesandra, has been there and is now sharing her raw take on finding balance with help from the world of BDSM. This chat's packed with real talk about coping mechanisms, the power of a structured dynamic, and even how Alesandra found unexpected support with ketamine therapy. It's Mental Health Awareness month, and it's time to shed light on the shadows of mental health in BDSM communities!

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#031: Is age really just a number? Join host Alesandra as she delves into the complexities of age gap relationships within BDSM. This episode uncovers myths, explores challenges, and celebrates the unique benefits of significant age differences in Dom/sub relationships. Key topics include consent legality, power dynamics, and personal anecdotes from Alesandra's life. Tune in and shift your perspective on age gaps in BDSM!

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#032: Here's why it's never too late to jumpstart your sex life and master the BDSM lifestyle. Too many older kinksters worry that they're too late to the game, are discouraged by their age, or think they're too far behind to ever catch up. The truth is age is just a number, and you're never too old to be your best Dom or sub self! Listen in and get ready to keep learning new things and experiencing new adventures, no matter how old you are!

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#033: Is 'Safe, Sane, Consensual' still the gold standard in BDSM, or is it time for a change? We're diving into the ins and outs of communication in BDSM, the buzz around acronyms like RACK, PRICK, and CCCC, and why consent is non-negotiable. We're sharing our thoughts on using "ethical" and the importance of being informed about BDSM practices. Plus, we're spilling the details on what we personally use, and offering a free kink dictionary to help you out. Tune in and tell us—what's your go-to framework for BDSM?

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#034: How do you balance being bi and submissive? In this episode, we're getting real about the ups and downs of being a bisexual sub while having a Dominant, male partner. We're tackling labels, biphobia, and how the BDSM and LGBTQ+ communities intersect. Plus, find out how a bi sub navigates her non-binary attractions and battles stereotypes. Don't miss out on this important conversation!

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Ever wondered how to keep your kink life fresh and exciting? Let's uncover some secrets together! In this AMA episode, we're tackling your burning questions about scene improvement, avoiding burnout, and maintaining excitement in long-term BDSM relationships. Alesandra shares personal insights from her D/s partnership with Jay, tips on creating rituals, managing D/s dynamics while parenting, and strategies for integrating kink into everyday life. Exclusive tips include revamping your toy collection, exploring new environments, and harnessing the power of intentional rituals. Curious for more? Join the Dom Sub Living community so you can get your questions answered on our next AMA!

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#036: How do you balance being a parent and participating in a BDSM dynamic? In this episode, we're uncovering the delicate balance between parental duties and maintaining a Dom/sub relationship. Learn how to segregate roles, keep privacy intact, and educate your kids about consent and respect. Discover practical tips for managing impact scene noise, scheduling intimate moments, and fostering a positive family dynamic while ensuring healthy adult relationships.

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#037: Want to dive into degradation and humiliation with your partner but afraid you'll cross the line? Let's navigate these intense and thrilling aspects safely and confidently. In this episode, we're diving into the world of degradation and humiliation within BDSM. Learn the differences between degradation and humiliation, explore beginner to advanced ideas, and uncover essential tips for maintaining safety and consent. Plus, download a free master list of 50 creative degradation and humiliation ideas to spice up your play!

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#038: Can someone with a disability still live the BDSM lifestyle to the full? In this episode, we're diving deep into the world of disability, chronic illness, and kink. With growing awareness around health issues, we're sharing personal stories, practical tips, and the importance of inclusivity. Discover how communication, consent, and specialized tools can empower Dominants and submissives with disabilities. Let’s break the stigma and celebrate all abilities in our Dom/sub community!

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#039: "Perfection is the enemy of progress in your BDSM journey." Join host, Alesandra, as she opens up about her personal struggle with perfectionism as a sub and its impact on her relationship. Discover how the pressure to be perfect can hold both Doms and subs back and learn practical tips to embrace imperfection, set realistic goals, and celebrate progress. We're also announcing our free 4-day boot camp, "Jumpstart Your BDSM Journey," complete with a private community forum, daily trainings, and coaching. Ready to conquer perfectionism? Click the links below for more insights on mastering your BDSM journey!

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#040 Ever feel like you're juggling your BDSM dynamic with your everyday vanilla life? Join host, Alesandra, as she shares her journey to harmonize work and family with BDSM desires. In this episode, learn practical tips and strategies such as setting boundaries, scheduling BDSM activities, and integrating subtle rituals into daily life. Discover how open communication and community support can help you achieve a fulfilling balance.

Ready to master your Dom Sub dynamics? Be sure to sign up for our free 4-day bootcamp!

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#041 Ever feel overwhelmed by the world of BDSM and don't know where to start? Or maybe you've dipped your toes in and need some tips to level up your game? This episode's for you! We're breaking down everything from newbie basics to expert moves, making it super easy to follow. You'll get the lowdown on building skills, setting up boundaries, and finding your groove in the BDSM scene. Plus, explore advanced techniques and learn why you should always keep learning. Get ready to take your BDSM journey to the next level!

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#042 Trust Issues in Your Dom Sub Relationship? Here's How to Fix Them! Trust is the bedrock of any strong D/s dynamic. In this episode we're discussing essential principles for building and maintaining trust. Hear personal experiences and actionable tips to help strengthen trust and create a more fulfilling relationship. Don't miss the insights on regular check-ins, accountability, and the power of vulnerability. Let's make your dynamic more fulfilling and secure!

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#043 Ever wondered what it would be like to compete in a BDSM Olympics? Join us as we dive into the thrilling concept of a BDSM Olympics, exploring impact play, sensory deprivation, and the importance of safety and communication in Doom/sub dynamics. Learn about top kinky skills, like wax play, medical play, and electro play, and discover how to take your scenes to the next level. This episode covers it all with personal anecdotes, practical advice, and a unique take on the BDSM community. Tune in, subscribe, and share your thoughts on our kinky event!

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#044 Ever wondered how to keep the spark alive in a Dom/Sub relationship and keep bratty behavior at bay? Let’s talk about maintenance spankings! In this episode, we're delving into the world of maintenance spankings. We discuss their purpose, benefits, and how they differ from punishment spankings. Learn why consistency and routine are crucial, and get tips on tracking your sessions. Tune in to find out how these prearranged, consensual acts can reinforce roles and sharpen focus, providing physical and emotional rewards for both parties.

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#045 Brats are having a moment right now, but have you ever wondered why some people love bratting in BDSM while others find it frustrating? In this episode, we're diving deep into the world of brats in the kink lifestyle. Discover the playful psychology behind bratty behavior, key distinctions between playful and disrespectful bratting, and practical tips for both Doms and subs to enhance their dynamic. Learn how to set boundaries, incorporate fun and discipline, and turn bratting into a positive force in your BDSM journey.

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#046 Worried about finding a Dominant who really respects your boundaries? Let’s make sure you’re in good hands. In this episode, we're breaking down the essentials of vetting a Dom. We’re talking key questions to ask, red flags to watch out for, and practical safety hacks to keep you protected. Plus, we're sharing some real-life stories and even a cool quiz to help you spot those fake doms from a mile away. Check out the fun Fake Dom Quiz and step up your vetting game!

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#047 Are you unknowingly wrecking your D/s dynamic? We're diving deep into the concept of topping from the bottom and how this subtle power shift can sabotage your BDSM relationship. Learn what it is, why it happens, and practical solutions to prevent it. From open communication to setting clear boundaries, join us as we uncover how to maintain a healthy power exchange and rebuild trust.

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#048 Is your potential sub truly compatible, or a red flag waiting to happen? We're diving into the crucial process of vetting a submissive, shedding light on the often overlooked but vital steps. Discover five key red flags like inconsistency and disrespect for boundaries, and why proactive sub behavior and core values alignment are paramount. Learn from personal experiences and get essential tips for fostering a healthy D/s dynamic built on trust, respect, and communication.

– Free 'How to Be a Good Sub' Cheatsheet: https://domsubliving.com/sub

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#049 Ever feel lost in your kink journey, like everyone else has it all figured out but you? We're diving into the complexities of navigating the kink lifestyle. Discover how to build confidence through self-exploration, find a supportive community, and safely explore your kinks. We'll also share personal stories, tips for mastering communication, and resources to help you on your journey.

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#050 Want to make your wildest fantasies come true? In this episode, we're diving deep into the intricacies of creating compelling BDSM scenes. Learn how to blend pleasure, restraint, and pain, set the perfect mood, maintain communication, and ensure smooth improvisation. Discover essential aftercare routines and tales of personal experiences that highlight the importance of emotional and physical recovery. With practical tips and negotiation strategies, this episode is a must-listen for both beginners and seasoned practitioners.

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#051 Can you be a devoted Christian and still enjoy BDSM? In this eye-opening episode, we're uncovering how Christian teachings on love, respect, and mutual authority can blend seamlessly with BDSM practices. We open up about our own journey of mixing faith and kink, bust common myths, and talk about the importance of exploring your desires. Tune in to see the surprising ways consensual power dynamics can align with biblical values.

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#052 Can serving coffee really make your Dom/sub dynamic stronger? You bet it can! Join us as we break down the ins and outs of using protocols to add depth to your relationship. Find out how small steps like kneeling and wearing a day collar can make a big difference without becoming overwhelming. We also share practical tips like doing morning check-ins and nightly rituals to keep that connection strong. Plus, hear some fun, real-life stories about how these little routines can totally transform your daily life. Want more protocol inspiration? Grab our free list of 20 different protocols! 

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#053 What drives a submissive to grow and reach their fullest potential? It's all in the training. Join us in this episode as we break down how to create personalized training plans that fit your unique dynamic. We’ll talk about why protocols need purpose, how patience and consistency are your best friends, and the quirky yet helpful "car analogy" for ongoing improvement. Get real strategies to improve your emotional and mental connection. Grab your free "How to Be a Good Sub Cheat Sheet" and step up your D/s game!

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#054: Is kink political? Tune in as we get real about the challenges facing the kink community today. From censorship on social media to how obscenity laws mess with our lives, we're covering it all. Learn about the fight for inclusive spaces, the valuable work of kink advocacy groups, and why your vote really matters. We also dive into the intersection of kink with issues like consent, power dynamics, and how politics shape our kink spaces - especially for marginalized folks. Get involved and subscribe now (and don't forget to vote)!

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#055 Have you ever had a fantasy that scares you? Maybe it feels too intense, or you're worried it says something bad about you. Darker desires are more common than you think, and they can be safely explored with the right tools and communication. In this episode, we're diving into the psychology behind frightening fantasies like consensual non-consent, degradation play, and edge play. You’ll learn how to navigate these desires without guilt or judgment, set boundaries, and create trust through aftercare. Curious about exploring your own frightening fantasies? Tune in now!

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#056 How do you know if a spanking is all fun and games or a real punishment? Mixing them up can lead to confusion and hurt feelings, even if everything's consensual! In this episode, we're breaking down the key differences between punishments and funishments. We’re talking about setting clear intentions, avoiding mixed signals, and keeping your kinky dynamics fun and trust-filled. Get tips on how to identify and navigate emotional impacts in your scenes. Don't forget to grab our free list of 30 different punishments for some awesome inspo!

– 30+ punishment ideas: https://domsubliving.com/punish

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#057 Even Dominants need a break sometimes. In this eye-opening episode of the Dom Sub Living Podcast, we're breaking down the concept of "Dom drop" and its impact on the dynamic. Learn how to recognize the signs, offer tailored aftercare, and support your Dominant through emotional crashes. Discover tips to encourage rest, conduct meaningful check-ins, and rebuild your dynamic with small, achievable goals.

Feeling connected? Share your experiences and support techniques, and don't forget to subscribe for more insights on BDSM relationships.

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#058 Worried about keeping your Dom/sub dynamic alive in public without drawing attention We've got you covered! Join us as we dive into 10 subtle and kinky ideas for maintaining your D/s connection in everyday settings. Learn creative tips from secret hand signals to special dress codes, ensuring your dynamic stays strong and thrilling, even at family gatherings! And stick around for our favorite sneaky trick at the end!

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#059 How do small, intentional acts of service transform a relationship? Join us as we dive into balancing parenthood, health, and wellness, all while serving from a place of strength. We've got tips on setting up intimate scenes, starting small with acts of service, and creating meaningful rituals. From helping with morning routines to mindful tasks like making coffee, you'll see how intentional service can really deepen your bond. Want to try it out? Grab our free list of 20 service protocols!

– Free list of 20 protocol ideas: https://domsubliving.com/protocols

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#060 What's your role in the world of BDSM? Let's dive in and find out! Join us as we break down the ins and outs of BDSM roles. From Dominants and submissives to fun niche roles like primal play and rope bondage, there's something for everyone. Hear personal stories, get tips on discovering your role, and learn how to make BDSM uniquely yours. Whether you're just starting out or looking to deepen your experience, this episode's got you covered. Don't miss out—tune in now and start your BDSM adventure!

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#061 Curious about impact play but don’t know where to start? Or maybe you’re worried about doing it wrong? Don’t stress—you’re in the right place. In this episode, we'll guide you through 5 easy, beginner-friendly impact play ideas that are safe, fun, and perfect for building your skills. We’ll cover everything from hands-only techniques to using everyday tools like wooden spoons and paddles—all while prioritizing safety and connection. Ready to explore? Grab your favorite tool (or hands!) and start experimenting with confidence!

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#062 Ever wonder how to truly crawl into your sub's mind or stay proactive as a sub without 'topping from the bottom? This Ask Me Anything episode is packed with your most thought-provoking questions. We’re covering:

1. How to deeply understand your submissive's mind
2. How to navigate BDSM as a person with a disability
3. How to stay proactive as a sub without overstepping boundaries
4. How to stay connected outside the bedroom to strengthen your relationship inside it
5. And, of course, the funniest (and most awkward) moment that’s ever happened in my dynamic!

Whether you're a Dom, sub, or somewhere in between, this episode will leave you with practical tips, relatable laughs, and a lots of “aha” moments. Join the Dom Sub Living community to submit your own questions for the next AMA and connect with 5,000+ kinksters just like you!

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#063 Can conflict in a Dom/sub relationship become a tool for deeper connection?
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We're diving into a common pitfall: trying to "win" arguments instead of focusing on your dynamic. We're sharing firsthand experiences and comparing them to vanilla relationship conflicts. Learn practical strategies and simple rituals to keep things smooth, like using D/s language and performing specific tasks. Tune in for more tools to strengthen your relationship!

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#064 Is your kinky bucket list feeling a bit uninspired? Let's spice it up together!

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We're diving deep into setting BDSM goals that push boundaries and bring excitement. Learn what a kinky bucket list is, why it's essential for growth, connection, and fun, and get creative ideas for beginners to advanced players. Whether you have a partner or flying solo, discover how to turn your dreams into reality with actionable steps. Ready to start? Tune in and take the first step today!

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#065 There's no guidebook for BDSM - but what if you could learn from experienced kinksters?

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We gathered 5 incredible kink educators to answer one key question: "What do you wish you knew before starting BDSM?" Hear invaluable insights from Evie Lupine, Sunny Megatron, Kayla Lords, John Brownstone, Amanda Dames, and Lazarus Redmayne. They share their wisdom on authenticity, community, and overcoming shame. Perfect for newbies and pros alike. Don't miss the full list of resources and your chance to connect with these experts!

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#066 Negotiation isn't just a skill, it's a gift you give your dynamic.

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In this episode, we're exploring the must-know steps for negotiating your BDSM relationship. From prepping your thoughts to choosing the right time to talk, you'll get the lowdown on clear and honest communication. We're sharing personal stories, busting common myths, and explaining why ongoing discussions are key to keeping things spicy and smooth. Level up your negotiation game and tune in now.

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#067 Is it possible to balance love, family, and a Dom/sub dynamic?

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In this episode, we chat with Harlo and Adira, a Dom/sub married couple navigating parenthood, health challenges, and everyday life—all while deepening their 24/7 D/s connection. They share the mindset shifts that transformed their relationship, how they handle challenges like chronic illness, and why communication and contracts are non-negotiable in their dynamic. Whether you're just starting out or looking to strengthen your dynamic, this episode is packed with real-life advice and inspiration.

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#068 Feeling like the passion in your D/s dynamic has faded? You’re not alone—but you can bring it back!

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We're sharing why losing the spark is so common and the key reasons it happens—like routine overload, lack of communication, and external stress. You’ll learn actionable strategies to reignite the fire, from revisiting your foundation to adding variety and deepening your connection. Plus, you'll get practical tips to overcome common objections and start small changes today.

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#069 "When my Dom secured the collar around my neck, it gave me a huge sense of belonging and trust like never before."

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In this episode, we explore the deep meaning of collars in a D/s dynamic, the practical aspects of wearing them 24/7, and the emotional significance they hold. Learn about different types of collars, why Alesandra chose her particular one, and tips for creating your own coloring ceremony. Curious about wearing a collar 24/7? Tune in now for insights and tips on embracing this powerful symbol in your D/s relationship!

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#070 Total power exchange sounds intense, right? But it's not just about control; it's about trust, intention, and freedom.

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Join us as we debunk myths surrounding 24/7 total power exchange (TPE) and share our journey into this fulfilling dynamic. Explore the foundational steps: from education, defining roles and boundaries, to creating contracts and establishing rituals. Learn how TPE can empower both partners through trust and communication. Could this be the missing piece in your relationship puzzle? Follow along and step into your own TPE journey today!

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#071 Why do forbidden things turn us on so much? It's not just about pleasure—it's psychology.

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We're unravelling the psychology behind BDSM, exploring misconceptions about trauma, the science of endorphins and dopamine, and the vital role of trust and control. Delve into why anticipation feels so good, the allure of taboo desires, and how kink can serve as emotional release and even healing. Join us and discover what makes BDSM exciting beyond the physical!

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#072 Can you balance a power exchange with everyday life? What about raising kids in a D/s relationship?

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In this episode, listen in as Alesandra sits down with Auntie Vice on Fat Chicks on Top to talk about BDSM beyond the bedroom. We cover behavior modification, the psychology of kink, navigating D/s dynamics with kids, and why communication is key in a power exchange relationship. Plus, Alesandra shares how she went from Beauty Blogger to BDSM Educator.

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#073 Are you guilty of these biggest BDSM blunders? You're not alone!

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We're revealing the surprises and challenges we encountered when we thought we had it all figured out. Worried you might mess up on your BDSM journey? Tune in now to avoid these common missteps and navigate your dynamic with confidence!

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#074 Discover game-changing sensation play techniques!

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Ever wondered how to make your BDSM scenes 10 times more intense? Spoiler: it's not about hitting harder or using fancier toys. Dive into this episode where we reveal how sensation play can transform your experiences! Explore contrasting sensations, the magic of slowing down, and creative tools like frozen grapes. Plus, uncover the unexpected power of breath, voice, and sensory deprivation in your play. Get ready to upgrade your BDSM scenes!

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#075 Think your kink is too weird or too basic? Spoiler: It's probably more common than you think!

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We're uncovering the top 10 kinks that captivate and connect people worldwide. From sensation play to intense power exchanges, we dive deep into what makes these kinks so popular. We also explore role-based dynamics like DD/lg and the broad world of BDSM. Whether you're new to the scene or a seasoned explorer, there's inspiration and insight for everyone. Get ready to discover your next favorite kink!

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#076 Is your bondage routine feeling a bit stale? By the end of this episode, you'll be itching to try something new.

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Alesandra and Jay dive into the world of bondage from last year's Dom/Sub Dynamics Summit. They chat about everything from ropes and cuffs to the psychological side of things like power play. Whether you're new to bondage or a seasoned pro, there's something here for everyone. Plus, learn how bondage can bring you closer and boost your dynamic. Listen now and transform your BDSM journey!

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#077 After 10 years of experience in the BDSM lifestyle—teaching, coaching, and living it 24/7—here are 50 game-changing BDSM tips in just 15 minutes!

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Whether you’re new to the scene or a seasoned kinkster, these insights will help you navigate power exchange, play, communication, and more. Hopefully, at least one of these tips will be a game changer for you!

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#078 If you don’t trust your own Dominance, your submissive won’t either.

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Confidence isn’t about being loud or forceful—it’s about presence, control, and certainty. In this episode, you’ll learn how to command attention without overcompensating, use body language to reinforce your authority, and lead in a way that makes your submissive feel safe, secure, and deeply connected to you.

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#079 Who's got it tougher in a D/s dynamic, Dominants or submissives?

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We're tackling this hot topic, and it might just surprise you. We're getting into the nitty-gritty, highlighting the weight on a Dom's shoulders—like planning and managing emotions—and the trust and mental hurdles subs navigate. Whether you're leading or letting go, there's a lot to consider! Got an opinion? Tune in and join the friendly debate.

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#080 Would you ever take orders from an AI Dom or command an AI sub?

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It might sound wild, but AI is creeping into BDSM faster than you'd think. We're breaking down how people are using AI for training, control, and even aftercare—plus where it all falls short. From AI subs with no real surrender to AI Doms missing true intuition, we're diving into the future (and risks) of tech in kink.

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#081 Poly and kinky? It’s not as easy as people think.

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We're sharing 5 essential rules for making BDSM and polyamory work—without the drama. Learn how to define power structures, avoid jealousy, handle communication across partners, and balance multiple D/s roles. With real stories, clear strategies, and hard truths, this is your roadmap to healthy, multi-dynamic relationships.

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003: On this personal and revealing episode, Alesandra shares her journey from a vanilla relationship to becoming a full-time submissive and BDSM instructor.

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Alesandra explains the reasons why people venture into BDSM, debunking myths and highlighting the importance of personal growth and self-discovery. Discover the challenges and rewards involved in D/s relationships, and why it's crucial to understand your ‘Why’ in exploring this dynamic.

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007: What happens when a Dom experiences doubt?

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Join Alesandra and her Dom, Jay, as they delve into the challenges and rewards of being a Dominant. In this episode, Jay shares insights into maintaining consistency as a Dom, managing Dom drop, and building trust in intense scenes. They discuss the importance of open communication and explore the role of discipline in a dynamic. Alesandra and Jay offer practical tips and share personal stories that will resonate with both experienced and aspiring Doms.
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001: Unlock your true potential in the world of BDSM, break free from societal expectations, and embrace the Dom/sub lifestyle!

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Join your kinky guide, Alesandra, a 10-year veteran of the lifestyle and founder of Dom Sub Living.  In this long-awaited episode, Alesandra shares her journey and highlights what the show is about, who it's for, and the importance of embracing BDSM as a lifestyle. Get ready for personal stories, advice, and tips on becoming the best Dom, sub, or switch you can be.

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002: Are you ready to unlock the power of BDSM? Dive into this episode of Dom Sub Living and discover how this lifestyle can transform your entire life.

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Alesandra discusses five compelling reasons why BDSM is necessary and how to incorporate it into your life. From spicing up your love life to exploring desires in a safe environment, each point invites you to discover the multiple benefits of D/s. She also introduces a free kink quiz to help you understand your personal kink identity.

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