The Break Up Break Down (Pionaire Podcasting)

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This week we're raising awareness for the ACT Emergency Shelter in Ft. Myers, FL: https://actabuse.com/giving/

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Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233

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Domestic Violence Support: https://www.thehotline.org/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-04:09): Episode Intro

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(04:09-06:20): How they got together

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(06:20-07:37: When the red flags started to show

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(07:37-10:16): When things started to take a turn for the worst

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(10:16-11:49): Why she decided to stay when things got violent

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(11:49)-13:09): When the relationship finally came to an end

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(13:09-14:18): Why she wanted to stay in this relationship 

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(14:18-17:36): The aftermath of the relationship

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(17:36-20:25): When she finally identified that this was abuse

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(20:25-24:17): Advice she would give to people in her situation

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(24:17-25:12): Thursday Episode/Next Tuesday Tease

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[CW: Sexual Assault, Domestic Violence, Miscarriage, Mental Health]

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Do they REALLY like me...or am I being love bombed? How do I identify it in my relationship? Is an age-gap relationship a bad idea? Like...how many years a part is too much?? We're breaking down this week's episode and covering all the hot topics in this quick break down bonus with Lexi.

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Lily Womble (The Date Brazen Podcast) Bonus Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/777HQvFseDMXe0YKF9dxqt?si=31iSSSg1SPSHfyV8rMoWUw

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Are Age Gaps Actually Toxic? 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T3zC7YCVR28

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5 Signs of Love bombing

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UlXoI_XJGAg&t=348s

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This week we're raising awareness for First Step in Detroit, MI: https://www.firststep-mi.org/donatenow/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(03:45): How they met

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(05:51): His father's death

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(09:25): How his father's death affected the relationship

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(13:39): The signs that something was wrong

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(25:51): When she started to realize she wanted out

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(27:58): The phone call from the detective....

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(33:43): Reflecting on the relationship/advice

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(41:20): Teaser

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[CONTENT WARNINGS: Child molestation, pedophilia, sexual assault/rape, loss of a family member (graphic)]

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This week we're bringing awareness to Mosaic Family Services in Dallas, TX: https://mosaicservices.org/donate/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(03:02): How they met

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(08:34): When the red flags started to show

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(14:47): When he went to jail for the second time

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(19:30): When his mom revealed what he was lying about

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(24:55): When she gave him a second chance

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(28:21): The aftermath of the break up

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(42:27): Reflecting on the relationship

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(55:20): Teaser

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[CW: Sexual Assault, Suicide, Domestic Violence, Child Molestation, Intimate Partner Violence]

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This week we're raising awareness for Children & Families of Iowa: https://cfiowa.ejoinme.org/MyPages/DonationPage/tabid/441383/Default.aspx

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-03:45): Episode Intro

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(03:45-04:50): How they met

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(04:50-06:56): When she was blindsided

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(06:56-09:34): When they became a "throuple"

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(09:34-11:43): The worst part of this "three person relationship" (for her)

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(11:43)-16:09): When she started to think about leaving....

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(16:09-19:11): What led to the marriage ending

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(19:11-23:17): She decides to leave the marriage/the divorce

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(23:17-29:34): Moving on after marrying your high school sweetheart

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(29:34:31:15): Advice for leaving a toxic relationship

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(31:15-31:34): Teaser Clip

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Support Family Rescue in Chicago, IL: https://familyrescueinc.org/donate/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-06:42): Episode Intro

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(06:42-08:26): Introducing the people involved in the story

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(08:26-14:16): When problems started to arise in the friendship/marriage

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(14:16-18:37): The final straw in the friendship(s)

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(18:37-21:35): The aftermath of their confrontation

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(21:35-25:43): "Where are they now"

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(25:43-32:27): Advice for difficult family situations/getting through it all

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(32:27-28:59): Reconnecting with her ex-BF

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(31:23-33:11): Episode Teasers

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(SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS/TIMESTAMPS) - Being in a "secret" engagement should probably be the first sign you're in a toxic relationship, but when you're crazy in love...crazy just seems like love. Next week's episode has something everyone can relate to. Whether you were in a toxic relationship or just had to hear about one from a friend, we dive into the reasons why people stay in relationships that just aren't good for them.I'm verified on Spotify!!! 

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Check out my Break Up Playlists Here: https://open.spotify.com/user/22nnbzo6iuxetz4f6dtczrabaTimestamps(01:38) 

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Abby and Coworker Justin Read the Submission(04:56)

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 Interview Begins/How they met(06:02)

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The "proposal" story no one knows about(08:37)

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 When things started to go south....(10:46)

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 "I've never cheated on you but...."(11:59)

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The texts that tipped her off that something was up(15:03) 

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When the relationship (almost) ended completely(16:13) 

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The humiliating public argument(17:31)

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 The couple tries to work things out(19:14)

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 Why she chose to stay in the relationship(22:22) 

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If she could go back and do things differently....(24:43)

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 The hardest thing about ending this relationship(28:23)

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 Closing announcements

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Resources:The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) www.ndvh.orgNational Dating Abuse Helpline 1-866-331-9474 www.loveisrespect.orgThe Love and Abuse Podcast: https://loveandabuse.com/the-podcast/How To Recognize Emotional Abuse: https://www.healthline.com/health/signs-of-mental-abuse

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Steps to help you leave an abusive relationship: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/getting-out-of-an-abusive-relationship.htm

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SUBMIT A BREAK UP STORY: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1JhayC6xUgMldTWgiQRa2mfzSXfac7kY0yOSaOAu5p8M/editCW: abuse

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This week we're raising awareness for Someplace Safe: https://www.someplacesafe.info/donate.html

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-04:26): Episode Intro

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(04:26-05:55): How they met

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(05:55-09:57): When things started going downhill....

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(09:57-13:40): The incident that would eventually end the relationship

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(13:40-20:10): Confronting her fiancé

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(20:10-22:58): The aftermath of ending the relationship

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(22:58)-26:00): Dating after breaking off an engagement

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(26:00-27:39): Advice for people unsure about ending things

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(27:39-28:21): S2E3 Teaser clip

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**all names have been censored/changed/or edited out.

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Getting cheated on is unbelievably painful and can leave you with deep emotional wounds. Katherine Ripley, LMSW, joins the podcast to comment on this week's main episode's relational topics and gives her professional insight. Katherine explains how to recognize how that trauma will show up in your life and how to tackle it on your own or with a mental health professional!—

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Follow Katherine: https://linktr.ee/katherineripleytherapist?fbclid=PAAab8jFX7mqwuDALKVAObUzGn2od9bH-H3R-KrwrS1xL29b3O4nGcp27s98E

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Check out this episode on self-esteem: https://traffic.megaphone.fm/PION6516502231.mp3?updated=1690554641

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National Sexual Assault Hotline: https://www.rainn.org/resources

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This week we're raising awareness for One Safe Place in Redding, CA: https://ospshasta.org/donate/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(08:54): How they met

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(11:34): The SA incident

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(21:08): How the relationship was after the SA

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(26:21): When the romantic relationship ended

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(28:45): How she tried to work through the infidelity

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(35:27): Coming to terms with the SA

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(38:41): Reflecting on the relationship/advice

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(50:29): Teaser

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[CW: Sexual Assault (Rape), Self-Harm, Suicidal Ideation, Intimate Partner Violence]

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This week we're bringing awareness to Safe Alliance in Charlotte, NC: https://www.safealliance.org/donations/make-a-donation/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(03:03): How they met

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(07:13): When she started noticing problems

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(15:53): The camping trip that exposed a huge secret

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(20:03): When more secrets got exposed

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(26:21): "The one year plan"

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(30:37): When she finally broke things off

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(33:28): Reflecting on the relationship/advice/lessons/etc

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(45:28): Teaser

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[CW: Intimate partner violence, Gun Violence]

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I don't know about you, but I often feel like a huge part of my identity is wrapped up in what I do. If you feel like if you lost a job, got ousted from a friend group, or left an organization, you'd lose a part of yourself- this episode is for you. My bestie from UF opens up the episode with me to talk about her experience not getting accepted to med school and then expert Shavonna Nicole jumps in to talk about how to find your identity in things other than your career.

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Why do we put our identity into what we do?

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(09:51): Interview with Shavonna Nicole

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Amy from New Perspectives: https://newperspectivesforlife.com/

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This week's main episode also touched on SA. Hear Amy and I's conversation on codependency and SA here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5KjJ9fJRkAwYE0Z4PMn0af?si=ILYLEbUyQRWN60z407amBQ

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Lily Womble from Date Brazen joins us to break down some of S2E2's key points and empower you to become "your own matchmaker" in this episode! 

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Learn more about Lily: https://www.datebrazen.com/about-lily

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Check out the Date Brazen Podcast!: https://pod.link/1498856353

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-00:45): Intro

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(00:45-05:27): Reading your "hey girly" DMs

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(05:27-13:37): Abby, Coworker Justin, and Lexi React to S2E2

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(13:137-16:12): Meet Lily!

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(16:12-18:23): How soon is too soon to jump into a new relationship?

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(18:23-20:55): How do you know you're ready for a new relationship?

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(20:55-24:22): Is it 'lovebombing' or a healthy relationship?

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(24:22-27:21): Addressing the shady DMs our interviewee got

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(22:21-31:05): What does you & your partner's sex life say about your relationship?

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(31:05-32:34): Advice for our interviewee

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(32:34-35:23): Advice for dating in a small town

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(35:23-36:08)- Closing out

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It can be so easy to look back on a relationship with hindsight bias. How many times have we all said, "Oh I should have done this" or "said this" or "done this differently"? The reality is, we're only in control of what we bring to the relationship and we're certainly not at fault for the horrible things a toxic ex has done. Let's unpack some of the hardest parts of this week's episode, just you and me!

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Timestamps

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(00:00): Intro

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(01:38): Break up withdrawals

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(07:22): His manipulative tactics

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(11:47): Grappling with his suicide

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(14:23): Her sexual assault

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(17:05): Outtro

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[CW: Sexual Assault, Suicide, Intimate Partner Violence]

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This week we're raising awareness for the Georgia Coalition Against DV: https://gcadv.org/

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Check out this week's bonus guest, Macken Murphy, before the episode airs!: https://pod.link/1334821500

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Justin's brother who does Drag Yoga in Charleston!!: https://instagram.com/miss_amy_g_dala?igshid=Zjc2ZTc4Nzk=

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(03:02): This week's submission

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(7:08): How they got together

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(09:35): First signs that the relationship would end

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(12:27): Should you go through your partner's phone?

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(13:42): When things started to go south

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(17:35): When she decided to end the relationship

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(20:01): Why did he cheat?

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(22:02): Why it was so hard to end the marriage

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(23:58): The aftermath/reflecting on it

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(26:29): Advice for people listening

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(35:50): Teaser

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This week we're raising awareness for Respond in Boston, MA: https://www.respondinc.org/donate/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(03:06 ): How they met

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(08:41): How her first relationship impacted her first marriage

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(10:46): When she finally got together with her first ex husband

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(16:47): When she decided she wanted her first divorce

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(25:09): When she started a relationship with husband #2

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(30:35): Her second divorce

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(32:43): Was there ever a throuple??

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(41:26): How she grew and moved past the relationships

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(53:25): Teaser

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[CW: Sexual Assault, Intimate Partner Violence]

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This week we're raising awareness for Favor House of NW Florida:  https://www.favorhouse.org/

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(03:51): How they met/the early relationship

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(09:11): Their engagement/early marriage

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(12:37): When the cracks in their relationship started to show

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(17:25): The start of the divorce

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(25:44): Why the divorce was so shocking

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(29:33): Her ex's new relationship

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(35:00): Reflecting on the relationship/advice

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(40:18): Teaser

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(05:32): How they met

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(12:30): When their relationship got more serious

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(15:01): When she wanted to end the relationship

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(18:21): "The Cancer Thing"

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(24:47): Why they decided to get married

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(30:00): When she started to get suspicious

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(42:28): When she and her wife separated

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(54:35): When she heard the truth from B's godmother

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(01:01:00): Advice

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(01:10:00): Teaser

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CW: This episode discusses suicide, eating disorders, mental illness, and homophobia. 

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This week we're raising awareness for The Nest in Lexington, KY: https://www.thenestlexington.org/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-03:55): Episode Intro

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(03:55-06:30): How they met

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(06:30-11:44): How they got together/dating in Mormon culture

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(11:44-15:37): "Same-sex attraction" in the church

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(15:37-21:44): Their 6-year-long marriage

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(21:44)-24:44): The start of their divorce

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(24:44-27:54): After the divorce

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(29:59-28:59): Reconnecting with her ex-BF

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(31:23-37:11): Living in a Mormon community and being Agnostic

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(37:11:38:26): BYU dating myths(?!?!) 

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(38:26-38:56): Teaser Clip

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Science might be able to explain why you got cheated on. Scientist Macken Murphy joins Abby and Lexi to explain through research studies and data what influences people to cheat. He explains why your genetics may make someone more likely to cheat, why you're always dating serial cheaters, and how you can set yourself up (statistically) for a committed relationship.

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Website: www.mackenmurphy.org

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Meet Macken

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(02:08): What factors make someone more likely to cheat

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(05:07): Once a cheater always a cheater?

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(07:27): Factors that make you more likely to get cheated on

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(16:05): Can a relationship continue after infidelity?

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(18:19): Why do men statistically cheat more than women?

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(21:58): Are humans built for monogamy? 

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(23:13): Things you can do to statistically reduce your risk of getting cheated on

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(29:32): How studying infidelity affects his relationships

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(33:22): PTSD after infidelity

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(36:36): How Lexi felt about this convo, having been cheated on

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(05:29): How they met

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(07:26): The trauma bond

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(09:13): When she knew things were off in the relationship

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(15:33): How she met her current BF

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(18:46): The start of the final breakup w/ her Fiancé

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(27:51): The falling out between her and her ex fiancé

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(34:13): Reflecting on the relationship/the trauma bond

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(47:37): Advice

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(57:06): Teaser

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[CONTENT WARNINGS: Intimate partner violence, eating disorders, suicidal ideation]

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We're diving deeper into the conversation surrounding domestic violence and verbal abuse on today's break down.

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LCSW Amethyst St. Thomas came on to react to this week's main episode and help us understand why victims choose to stay in abusive relationships and how we can help our friends and family escape a dangerous situation!

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Connect with Amethyst !

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-01:32): Episode intro/general reactions

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(01:32-03:36): Defining verbal abuse

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(03:36-04:34): The need for control in abusive relationships

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(04:34-06:29): Defining what abuse looks like in conflict

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(06:29-08:12): Reasons people choose to stay in abusive relationships

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(08:12-15:12): How to encourage someone to leave an abusive relationship

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(15:12-17:12): Common things people need to heal from after an abusive relationship

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(17:12-19:60): Closing out/where to follow Inclusive Therapy Club

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CW: Domestic violence: physical abuse, verbal abuse, emotional abuse.

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More from Jessica Anne Pressler, LCSW: https://www.jessicaannepressler.com/

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The OPENHOUSE Podcast: https://www.thisisopenhouse.com/podcast/anxious-attachment-style-and-dating-knztz

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How are Narcissists Created?: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2TBOvP4mu8Zkm4BX9MTXnA?si=oEgMnnCaQsSNFR6FabGLTg

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Attachment Styles: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1S2QkIh7l06vW6KJMaA2ZI?si=GosbucJFS0KBI8ibNXpbFA

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Self-Esteem/Self-Worth/Self-Trust: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1pFwVmNGSDEiihTfhuXNEp?si=jwxVgsqKTCWN-np3Nr5Y_Q

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Why was S3E3 deleted? Will it ever be reposted? Also what was the story even about? Then, Lexi and Justin join in to talk about the craziest things they've ever done for love and the double standards they notice in relationships. 

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(01:56): Crazy things we've done for love

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(07:27): Double standards in dating

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Check out the Honest Women Podcast: https://www.honestwomenpodcast.com/

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This week we're bringing awareness to The Spring of Tampa Bay: https://host.nxt.blackbaud.com/donor-form/?svcid=renxt&formId=f38033d6-4629-4986-ac4e-d63b706f96ef&envid=p-eHffd6codUik0Q42qq8gwA

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(02:27): How they met

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(04:31): When she found the PICTURES

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(08:00): When she breaks up with him

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(13:51): When his wife reached out to her

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(17:39): When she and the wife confront him

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(20:13): Reflecting on the relationship/advice

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(30:37): When she finally broke things off

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(26:33): Teaser

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KeKe Palmer's episode referenced: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_AYq-mbzgsA

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[SCROLL FOR CW] - Ex-Mormon therapist Jenny Morrow reacts to S2E4 and let's us in on what people leaving the LDS church struggle with after leaving. She talks about rules for dating, complications when one spouse wants to leave the church, divorce, and sexuality. Check out more from her at www.JennyMorrow.com.

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This is a replay episode that originally aired on August 25th, 2022

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(00:00-00:14): Episode Break Down

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(00:14-02:22): Meet Jenny!

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(02:22-05:08): Dating as a young Mormon

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(05:08-06:19): The Mormon temple

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(06:19-07:40): Dealing with religious shame

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(07:40-10:32): Sexuality in the church

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(10:32-12:17): Divorce in Mormonism

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(12:17-13:17): What if one spouse wants to leave the church?

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(13:17-14:24): Sexism in the church

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(14:24-16:15): What do ex-Mormons struggle with after leaving?

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(16:15-18:03): Advice for "finding yourself" after a big life change

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(18:03-18:29): Follow Jenny!

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CW: Suicide, Sexism

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Related Episodes

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How to Identify Intimate Partner Violence: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0n6r9f7ciRVuvOPGNvUwFk?si=tJ2z_Zw1SNy9ih83exi-vQ

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Learning Not to Blame Yourself for their Mistakes: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0kA8CB4VwnwpuDDCfQqbgD?si=ujeuC_lZQ1O4-_rh5SuHVA

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The Relationship Between Codependency and Sexual Assault: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5KjJ9fJRkAwYE0Z4PMn0af?si=pweXSoGrSfmJClmSsF34Yw

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National Help Hotline 1-800-662-4357 (Confidential free help, from public health agencies, to find substance use treatment and information)

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National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673

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How to recognize alcohol addiction: https://www.healthline.com/health/alcohol-addiction-recognizing-symptoms

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[CW: alcoholism, sexual assault, intimate partner violence, suicide]

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(01:00): Submission #1

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(02:21): Submission #2

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(04:23): Submission #3

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(06:35): Submission #4

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(08:44): Submission #5

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(10:12): Submission #6

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(11:27): Submission #7

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(13:32): Submission #8

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(14:39): Submission #9

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(16:08): Submission #10

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(05:03): How they met

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(08:05): When her gut told her something was off

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(11:00): How the infidelity affected the relationship

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(12:12): When more details about the infidelity came out

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(17:28): How she tried to work through the infidelity

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(22:47): When she knew it was time to end the marriage

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(30:00): Reflecting on the relationship/advice

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(35:56): Teaser

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(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) - Your friends are going to take sides if your relationship doesn't end well- but what if your story isn't the one they believe? Next week we're talking about what happens when you become the villain in someone else's story. Our interviewee got kicked out of her friend group after her friend's got half the story from her ex. Now they (and the rest of the internet) are going to hear her side.

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(01:08) - Abby and CoWorker Justin read the submission

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(02:58) - Interview Begins(03:53) 

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 How being closeted affected their relationship(04:52)

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How moving to Nashville/moving in together affected their relationship(05:37)

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The demise of the relationship(07:10)

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She breaks up with her GF(07:29)

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 "Why do I want to break up with my girlfriend?"(08:34) 

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 The mistake that made their relationship blow up(10:11)

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 Her ex confronts her about her private journal entries(14:21) 

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 Her ex confronts her and her wife at a Pride event(17:13)

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The aftermath of the relationship(20:01)

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Advice for people who aren't 100% sold on their relationships(22:37)

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Closing announcements

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SUBMIT A BREAK UP STORY: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1JhayC6xUgMldTWgiQRa2mfzSXfac7kY0yOSaOAu5p8M/edit

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You already know Abby, Lexi, and Coworker Justin are already a bit messed up...so we decided to make a whole episode talking about their attachment issues! LCSW Kat Schneider joins the podcast as well to give a professional take on attachment styles and even relates them to 'The Office' characters!

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(02:26): Episode break down/our personal attachment problems

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(16:15): Conversation with LCSW Kat Schneider

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5 Signs you're getting love bombed w/ Kati Morton: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UlXoI_XJGAg&t=151s

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CW: Domestic Violence/Abuse

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Have you ever felt manipulated by your partner? Did you try to break up with them, but they kept luring you back in? Abby brings on LMSW Vernique Esther to talk about how to recognize manipulation, set boundaries, and leave if necessary. 

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(00:00): Introducing Vernique

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(00:56): How do I know I'm getting manipulated?

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(04:06): Why do people manipulate?

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(07:07): Why do I feel bad for setting up boundaries?

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(09:18): How do I handle religious manipulation?

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(12:10): What if my partner threatens me w/ self-harm to keep us from breaking up?

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(14:04): How do I leave a manipulative relationship?

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(15:00): Can you ever work through manipulation?

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(18:24): How to set boundaries in a relationship with someone who has manipulative tendencies?

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(20:55): Why do I want to go back to someone who manipulated me?

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(23:08): How do I convince myself I deserve better?

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[CW: This episode briefly discusses: self-harm/suicide, domestic violence, religious trauma]

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Are you having a hard time trusting your new partner after your last relationship? Your ex may have damaged your ability to trust again, but you don't have to live in fear forever. Dr. Margaret Rutherford joins Abby to talk about what you can to have a healthy relationship with your new partner. 

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[CW: Abuse]

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The Holy Trinity of people pretending to be relationship experts are BACK! Lexi, Coworker Justin, and Abby got together to discuss going through your partner's phone, the nuances of cheating, and COSTCO.

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(02:04): Tinder/Dating Apps

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(05:42): Should you go through your partner's phone? 

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(13:14): Why do cheaters deny at first?!?!

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(15:46): Can your relationship survive cheating?!

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(18:05): Girl #2 predictions

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Getting cheated on is unbelievably painful and can leave you with deep emotional wounds. Katherine Ripley, LMSW, joins the podcast to comment on this week's main episode's relational topics and gives her professional insight. Katherine explains how to recognize how that trauma will show up in your life and how to tackle it on your own or with a mental health professional!—

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Saying we have a lot to unpack from S3E11 would be an understatement. Trauma therapist Katherine Ripley joins the podcast again to explain the difference between Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence. She explains how to identify it and how to plain a safe exit strategy if you or someone you love finds yourself in an abusive relationship.

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(00:00): Intro

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(00:27): Defining the difference between domestic violence and intimate partner violence.

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(04:18): Early signs that your partner may become abusive

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(09:24): How to create a safe exit plan if you're in an abusive relationship

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(11:48): Why victims may return to their abusers

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(13:55): How to accept that the person you love is abusive

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(16:17): First steps for victims of IPV

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(18:12): Words of encouragement for victims

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CW: Domestic Violence/Abuse

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(03:37 ): How they met

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(04:23): When the other relationship came to light

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(07:30): How his GF reacted

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(09:10): When he called her and broke things off bigggg time....

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(12:55): The aftermath

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(15:53): Reflecting on the relationship

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(23:00): Teaser

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(00:00) - (01:01): Intro

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(01:01) - (04:28): Discussing the season/submission

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(04:28) - (05:17): How they met/the "love" story

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(05:17) - (07:06): Red Flags

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(07:06) - (12:43): When things took a turn for the worst

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(12:43) - (15:30): Forming the plan

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(15:30) - (19:12): Executing the plan

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(19:12) - (23:18): How her ex fought back

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(23:18) - (27:20): The unexpected aftermath

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(27:20) - (33:55): Reflecting on the situation/advice/moving on

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Do you need help moving on from an ex? Do you feel like you still need closure? Abby and Justin talk about why it's so hard to get over them (and tell you what to do about it). Plus they react to this week's main episode and share stories about families/friends ruining their relationships! AND there's a fun little announcement right in the beginning of the episode as well. 

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(00:00)-(03:14): Intro/merch

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(03:14)-(06:29): When are you going too far to get closure?

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(06:29)-(09:12): Dating in your 20s is totally different each year

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(09:12)-(12:38): Friends/families ruining relationships

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(12:38)-(16:08): How to move on from an ex/why it's so hard in your adult years

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Sometimes people don't want to come on the podcast!!! Shocking, right?!?! Listen to a few of the submissions where Abby reached out and either got ignored, blocked, or politely declined. Then, coworker Justin helps her come up with some theories to what they think happened! 

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(00:00): Meet Stacie and Alicia!

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(03:18): Episode superlatives

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(08:20): Submission #1

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(09:03): Submission #2

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(13:48): Submission #3

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(15:22): Submission #4

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(16:30): Submission #5

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(18:28): Submission #6

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(21:23): Submission #7

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(22:36): Submission #8

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(25:33): Submission #9

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This week we're raising awareness for Alliance in Charlotte, NC: https://www.safealliance.org/donations/make-a-donation/

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(00:00-07:00): Episode Intro

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(07:00-8:12): How they met

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(8:12-11:19): Problems that came up in the relationship

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(11:19-17:05): When the relationship ended out of nowhere

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(17:05-20:56): How therapy helped him heal from this relationship

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(20:56-24:28): Lessons learned/advice 

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(24:28-24:56): Episode Teaser

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Abby and Coworker Justin are back at it again and comment on this week's episode! They talk about how mental health affects relationships and the beauty of walking with your partner when they're really going through it (obviously, when they're not deceiving you about their condition). Dr. David Puder joins Abby at the end to talk about the impact of factitious disorder and other mental health concerns in relationships and how you can be the best partner for someone when they're in the trenches. 

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): S3E1 Break Down

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(26:42): Interview with Dr. David Puder

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Why are we so quick to prioritize our partners? This week's bonus content breaks down this week's episode with Abby, Lexi, and Justin. They talk about the importance of making your partner earn your trust in the beginning and throughout the relationship. They'll also touch on recognizing domestic violence in the workplace from personal experience.

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Think your coworker/friend is in a dangerous relationship? Start here: https://www.thehotline.org/resources/talking-to-your-coworker/

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Dr. Margaret Rutherford Bonus Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1pFwVmNGSDEiihTfhuXNEp?si=uVS-xTMGRkOvyg0rYp5sYQ

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[CHECK CW] 

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This week we're raising awareness for Mosaic Family Services in Dallas, TX: https://mosaicservices.org/donate/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-02:03): Episode Intro

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(02:03-03:44): Submission

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(03:44-05:32): When she was blindsided

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(05:32-06:33): The first red flag

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(06:33-07:28): The Facebook post that proved her suspicions

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(07:28)-09:35): When she decided to confront him about "Anna"

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(09:35-11:36): When she finally confronted him about the photo

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(11:36-12:34): Tension with the family

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(12:34-13:12): When he broke up with her and then proposed 

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(13:12:16:41): The aftermath

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(16:41-18:20): "Where are they now"

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(18:20-27:02): Takeaways/Advice

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(27:02-27:30): Break Down Bonus and Next Ep. Teaser

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CW: Mention of Suicide/Self-Harm

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Was he drawing a boundary...or going to extremes to avoid his ex hook up? ExCoworker Justin joins the pod to recap and rehash this week's main episode! We'll talk about post-relationship triggers, avoiding your exes at any cost, and niche dating deal breakers....

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This week we're bringing awareness to Crisis Center North in Pittsburgh: https://www.crisiscenternorth.org/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(03:00): How they met

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(07:43: How her best friend became her doula

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(10:50): When the affair began

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(14:08): When she caught them

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(18:49): Why she decided to stay with him at first

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(21:08): When she was finally done with her marriage

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(23:43): How she "broke up" with her best friend

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(28:12): Things that helped her through her divorce

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(31:51): How her past relationships shaped her future ones

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(33:45): How purity culture impacted her marriage

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(36:48): Advice she'd give to people wanting to leave their marriage

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(38:47): Teaser

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(SCROLL FOR CW/TIMESTAMPS) - Do you remember 'that couple' that got hitched right after high school? Everyone knows at lease one- maybe three or four if you're in the south. This episode looks into High School sweethearts with a divorce from hell. This episode covers purity culture, domestic violence, and evennnn a little witchcraft.

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Submission form: https://forms.gle/hR4Q44tHb7LSH3CA6Timestamps(00:55) 

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Abby and Coworker Justin read the submission(06:15) 

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 Interview begins/how they met(08:12) 

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The first red flags start to show/purity culture(10:10)

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The main reason she decided to marry him(10:44) 

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More red flags start to show(15:18) 

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The beginning of their married life(22:34)

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When she started to think about breaking things off(24:52) 

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 She decides to leave the marriage(26:00) 

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The day she left her husband(33:52) 

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 The aftermath of the divorce(35:51)

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Her new relationship(37:50)

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Recovering from toxic purity culture(39:25) 

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Going from Christianity to witchcraft(41:02) 

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 Advice for women experiencing domestic abuse(43:36)

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Warning to women who are dating/in unhealthy relationships(45:31)

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Closing announcements

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Notable Resources: Domestic Violence Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/National Mental Health Hotline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helplineSuggested Podcasts: "I'm a Survivor", "Mental Illness Happy Hour", "Mental Health Hope and Recovery",.

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CW: Abuse, Self-harm, Eating disorders, Mental illness, Alcoholism

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This week we're raising awareness for the Haven House in Buffalo, NY: https://cfsbny.org/support-our-work/donate/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-03:47): Episode Intro

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(03:47-05:37): How they met/fell in love

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(05:37-10:40): When things started going downhill....

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(10:40-13:40): How he responded to her confronting him

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(13:40-17:15): Their relationship during/right after deployment

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(17:15-20:24): The fight that ended the relationship

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(20:24)-24:39): Things that came to light after the break up

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(24:39-27:31): Things she's working through now

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(27:31-28:07): S2E3 Teaser clip

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(01:05): Submission #1

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(03:32): Submission #2

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(05:29): Submission #3

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(07:24): Submission #4

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(12:49): Submission #5

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(14:23): Submission #6

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(15:57): Submission #7

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(17:10): Submission #8

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(20:01): Submission #9

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(22:58): Submission #10

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(psssttt Season 4 starts JUNE 27th!) Marriage and Family therapist Kati Morton joins the podcast to redefine "daddy issues". What are they and how do you know if you have them...and spoiler alert....it doesn't always have to do with your relationship with your father!

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This week we're raising awareness for The Hubbard House in Jacksonville, FL: https://www.hubbardhouse.org/neededmost

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(05:28): This week's submission

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(7:03): How they met

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(10:39): Introducing her best friend

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(12:01): When her boyfriend confessed their betrayal

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(15:05): Why she stayed with her boyfriend

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(18:27): How the relationship developed after the infidelity

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(23:48): The final straw for her

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(32:14): Healing after the breakup

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(36:26): Advice for "starting over" after a long-term relationship

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(37:52): Teaser Clip

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This week we're raising awareness for The Bridge in Houston, TX: https://tbotw.org/support-us/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-06:10): Episode Intro/Merch Info

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(06:10-10:18): Reading the Submission

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(10:18-11:36): How they met

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(11:36-15:21): When red flags popped up/the first breakup

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(15:21-18:04): The relationship continues to get worse

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(18:04-23:18): The truth finally comes out

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(23:18-30:27): Dealing with the aftershock of the breakup

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(30:27-32:07): Reflecting on the relationship

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(32:07-35:07): Advice she'd give others

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(35:07-35:51): Episode Teasers

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The BUBD Live Podcast Recording release has been postponed- will be available June 18th, 2024

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This week we're raising awareness for Friends of Yates in Kansas City: https://friendsofyates.org/FOY/?page_id=55

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(04:52): How they met

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(09:58): The first break up

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(12:01): When they got back together

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(15:53): The second break up

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(19:37): Their secret engagement

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(24:24): The end of their relationship

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(30:07): Why her friends were concerned about their relationship

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(34:46): Reflecting on the relationship

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(37:05): Advice

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(40:57): Teaser

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Thank you to Candice from The Christian Closet for coming on!: https://www.thechristiancloset.com/

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'When she was catfished for 8 years' live episode for purchase: https://paidbreakdownbonus.vhx.tv/

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When you feel like your partner is cheating on you, you usually have an idea as to who that person is, so how do you not feel crazy when you think they're stepping out on you...with their sibling? We'll find out when we break down this week's break up.

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This Week We're Raising Awareness for Hubbard House in Jacksonville, FL: https://www.hubbardhouse.org/

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National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(04:43): How they met

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(08:12): Introduction of the biological family

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(10:53): Finding the photos in his phone

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(17:33): The final straw

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(25:32): Reporting the incest

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(28:44): Reflecting on the relationship

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(34:18): Healing from the relationship

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(39:05): Advice

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(41:25): Teaser

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[CONTENT WARNINGS: abuse, sexual assault]

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If your friends are telling you to hire a PI to look into your husband, chances are he's doing something shady. So why did this marriage officially end over a disagreement over having kids and not...something else? We'll find out when we break down this week's break up.

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This week we're raising awareness for Genesis Women's Shelter in Dallas: https://www.genesisshelter.org/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(04:26): How they met

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(11:12): The first signs something was wrong

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(15:13): Why she asked for a divorce

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(17:01): What she found out when looking for closure

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(26:24): Their secret engagement

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(24:24): Reflecting with the hindsight she has now

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(34:46): Reflecting on the relationship

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(37:05): Advice

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(47:40): Teaser

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