Talks with Dr Shafer (Shafer Stedron, MD)

If there was one thing I could make more time for in the typical medical evaluation, it would be getting to know a patient’s habits, goals, and beliefs, so that the goals and treatment plans were truly aligned with the patient’s needs and expectations. Modern medicine does not often allow for such a deep dive. Doing the work of understanding your goals, beliefs, values and habits ahead of a visit with your doctor can help make sure that you show up prepared to make a treatment plan that honors you and meets your needs.

*Trigger Warning: Today's Episode includes discussion of Sexual Assault, Addiction, Alcoholism, Self-Harm, and Eating Disorders

Join Dr Shafer on Talks with Dr Shafer with Special Guest Jonathan Niziol. Jonathan shares his journey of overcoming distractions and addiction after the sudden loss of his mother as a young adult. He discusses his struggles with severe anxiety, clinical depression, panic disorder, and self-harm. Jonathan's turning point in his alcoholism came when he experienced a life-threatening case of acute pancreatitis due to alcoholism. This event led him to make the decision to quit drinking, but his relationship to distractions and self led to several other cycles of addiction that he had to learn to face through a focus on self-awareness with the help of therapy. Jonathan is an International Model who was a victim of sexual assault in the workplace. Jonathan then faced a battle with bulimia and details his experience.

Jonathan Niziol shares his personal journey of overcoming addiction, trauma, and self-discovery. He emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, forgiveness, and self-acceptance in the healing process. Jonathan highlights the power of words and mindset in shaping our lives and encourages continuous learning and growth, and the importance of treating ourselves with kindness and compassion. Jonathan's story serves as a reminder that we are stronger than we think and that it's never too late to make positive changes in our lives, and those changes start with our mindset and our habits.

Thank you for joining us today. Please subscribe to Talks with Dr Shafer for more inspiration and growth-oriented episodes! Let's grow together and reclaim our stories.

You are not alone in dealing with addiction.

SAMHSA’s National Helpline is a free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders.

 1-800-662-HELP (4357)

FindTreatment.gov

You are not alone in dealing with your sexual assault.

Help is available

Speak with someone today

National Sexual Assault Hotline Hours: Available 24 hours/day

1-800-656-4673

National Sexual Violence Resource Center

https://www.nsvrc.org/find-help

You are not alone in dealing with an eating disorder:

ANOREXIA NERVOSA & ASSOCIATED DISORDERS

ANAD HOTLINE

The National Association of Anorexia Nervosa & Associated Disorders (ANAD) is a non-profit organization that provides support and resources to individuals and families affected by eating disorders, disordered eating, or body image concerns. They offer free, easy to access resources to anyone who needs them.

1-888-375-7767

Suicide and Crisis Support: You are not alone

Help is available

Speak with someone today

988

Suicide and Crisis Lifeline Hours: Available 24 hours.

Talks with Dr Shafer, Featuring Dr Shafer Stedron MD, Neurologist, Life Coach, Author and Musician with a passion for storytelling as a tool for growth, health, and creating a beautiful future.

www.drshaferstedronova.com

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Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse

Would you like to be a guest on Talks with Dr Shafer? Go to www.drshaferstedronova.com and contact us on the Podcast section! We can't wait to hear your story.

Join us for this week’s podcast with Dr Shafer, who discusses dealing with triggers with CPTSD, and a surprising breakthrough. This week’s episode is in support of We Don’t Tell Our Stories, an online community where survivors can connect ina safe, welcoming community in support of growth and healing through storytelling and community. #talkswithdrshafer #wedonttellourstories #triggers www.wedonttellourstories.com

My Story: The Beginning of Talks with Dr Shafer and My Passion For Reclaiming Your Story

On Today's Inspiring Episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr. Shafer shares her personal story of healing and growth, emphasizing the importance of reclaiming one's story and living authentically. Dr Shafer shares her journey from being a full-time physician to a part-time physician and then a full-time mom, as well as her decision to leave her career in music for a relationship early in life. She reflects on the challenges of prioritizing family over personal fulfillment and the process of rebuilding her life after relationship loss. Dr. Shafer's story is one of triumph, self-awareness, and tireless creation. 

Takeaways

• Reclaiming your story and living authentically is essential for healing and growth.
• Prioritizing family over personal fulfillment can lead to unhappiness and a need for self-discovery.
• Going through challenging moments requires belief in oneself, self-investment, and finding inspiration.
• Rebuilding after difficult experiences involves learning from the past, grieving losses, and moving forward with wisdom and strength.

Titles

• Finding Inspiration in Challenging Moments
• Reclaiming Your Story: A Path to Healing and Growth

Sound Bites

• "A reminder that you can go through the most terrifying moments of your life where you don't know how you'll pay your bills, how you'll have enough to eat, how you'll protect your children from things that are completely out of your control."
• "Out of my stubborn determination to reclaim my life and build a future for myself and for my family that was truly in alignment with my values and which allowed me to best use the gifts that life and a higher power have given me."

Keywords:

#restarting #musician #physician #pivot #chooseyou #family #divorce #talkswithdrshafer #drshaferstedronova #podcast #youcandoit #support #growth #mindset #lifecoach #doctor

We Hope You Enjoy Today’s Inspiring Episode. Please Like And Subscribe To Get The Next Inspiring, Growth-Focused Episode Of Talks With Dr Shafer, And Comment, Follow And Rate The Podcast To Help Spread Dr Shafer's Message Of Growth, Healing, And Reclaiming Your Story To As Many People As Possible!

Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and create your most beautiful future. 

You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, ⁠⁠www.drshaferstedronova.com⁠⁠, and reach out for 1 on 1 personal life coaching to help you achieve your goals!

Follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music.

This episode does not offer individualized medical advice. Opinions discussed are for informational purposes only, and should not be considered medical advice.

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All Rights Reserved. 

Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse

On this episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, with your host, Dr Shafer, we welcome special guest, Caitlin Sigouin, Therapist and Author of the Children's Book, A Rainbow of Feelings. We discuss the importance of allowing children to express and navigate their emotions, as well as the role of parents in supporting their children's emotional development. Caitlin highlights how learning new tools as parents can help us become more emotionally aware and better able to help both adults and children in navigating their emotions. We discuss different therapies and tools to aid in identifying and expressing emotions, such as using a color wheel to help identify emotions. We also touch on the challenges parents face, on learning to give grace and support to ourselves and one another, and the importance of authentic connection in our lives. 

You can learn more about Caitlin and her book, A Rainbow of Feelings, on her website www.caitlinsigouin.com, and download a free coloring sheet featuring the main character, Tito, in her book about emotions!

You can follow Caitlin on Instagram at @caitlinsigouin

Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and create your most beautiful future. 

You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, ⁠www.drshaferstedronova.com⁠, 

and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music. 

#caitlinsigouin #talkswithdrshafer #podcast #lifecoach #therapist #arainbowoffeelings #emotions #drshaferstedronova #author

Produced by Shafer Stedron

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All Rights Reserved. 

Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse

Spreading Peace Through Music with Jazz For Peace Creator Rick DellaRatta!

On this inspiring episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr Shafer welcomes Special Guest Rick DellaRatta, an internationally acclaimed jazz artist and founder of Jazz for Peace. Rick DellaRatta shares his journey and mission to spread peace through music. Rick discusses the power of music to bring joy and create a more peaceful world. Rick performs a beautiful rendition of The Waters of March and discusses the power of music to connect people and promote peace. Rick discusses the book, 'Paving the Path for Peace Through Music,' and his podcast, 'The Jazz for Peace Podcast.' Rick embodies the importance of using our talents and words to make a positive impact in the world.

@RickDellaRatta

Learn More on Rick DellaRatta's Website: 

http://rickdellaratta.com 

Organization Website: 

https://jazzforpeace.org Rick DellaRatta 

BBS Radio Page https://bbsradio.com/node/270332

LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/rick-dellaratta-08199818/

Twitter:  https://twitter.com/jazzmgmt Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/jazzforpeace/ 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/rick-dellaratta-08199818/

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/JazzforPeaceGrant/

AMAZING 100 Word ARTICLES!!!https://enterprisezone.cc/author/rick-dellaratta/

#rickdellaratta #jazzforpeace #talkswithdrshafer #drshaferstedronova #podcast #peace #music #jazz #artist #growth #mindset #charity #philanthropy #outreach

We Hope You Enjoy Today’s Powerful Episode. Please Like And Subscribe To Get The Next Inspiring, Growth-Focused Episode Of Talks With Dr Shafer, And Comment, Follow And Rate The Podcast To Help Spread Dr Shafer's Message Of Growth, Healing, And Reclaiming Your Story To As Many People As Possible!

Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and create your most beautiful future. 

You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, ⁠⁠www.drshaferstedronova.com⁠⁠, and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music.

This episode does not offer individualized medical advice. Opinions discussed are for informational purposes only, and should not be considered medical advice.

Little House Of Dreams Entertainment, LLC, 2024. 

All Rights Reserved. 

Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse

"Just One More:" Overcoming Trauma to Running Around Australia for Mental Health with Brooke McIntosh

On this Episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr Shafer welcomes Special Guest Brooke McIntosh to the show. Brooke Mcintosh, an elite athlete and entrepreneur, shares her inspiring story of overcoming adversity and using running as a tool for both improving her own mental health and advocating for mental health awareness. After surviving an accident where she was hit by a truck but managed to walk away, Brooke made a commitment to use her life to create a positive impact in the world. She started running long distances to raise awareness for mental health and hasn't stopped since. In 2023, Brooke McIntosh raised over $70,000 for mental health organizations when she ran 1,600 km from Pilbara to Perth. Now, Brooke is running a successful business and training to tackle her next big goal: a run around Australia in 2025 to raise over a million dollars for Mental Health. Today, Brooke emphasizes the importance of addressing mental health and not suffering in silence. She also discusses the power of running in processing emotions and finding clarity. Brooke is involved in various endeavors, including business coaching, interior design, and public speaking. She emphasizes the importance of taking a holistic approach to training, including strength training, nutrition, and mental health care. Many runners join her on her journey for their own mental health benefits, and Brooke invites listeners to join her next year on her journey and support her cause. Brooke's mission is to support the Blue Tree Project, a mental health charity that encourages conversations about mental health by painting trees blue.

#BrookeMcIntosh #mentalhealth #running #overcomingadversity #impact #awareness #secondchance #trauma #purpose #BlueTreeProject #support #Australia #runaroundaustralia #talkswithdrshafer #podcast #lifecoach

Learn More about Brooke McIntosh, her business, coaching services and her amazing run athttps://www.brookemcintosh.com.au/

Check Out Brooke McIntosh's Podcast Limitless athttps://www.brookemcintosh.com.au/podcast

Follow Brooke McIntosh on Social Media:

Youtube @brookemcintosh__Instagraminstagram.com/brookemcintosh__

LinkedIn linkedin.com/in/brooke-mcintosh-4601a4240

Tiktok tiktok.com/@brookemcintosh__

Facebook

web.facebook.com/brookeemmarose?_rdc=1&_rdr

Watch the movie "Impact To Ignite" which captures the epic feat of Brooke McIntosh's grueling 1,600-kilometre run along a treacherous Western Australian trucking route in 2023.

Dr Shafer Stedron, MD is a musician turned Neurologist, a mom, a Jay Shetty-Certified Life Coach, an Author, Publisher, and so much more. She is passionate about helping others reclaim their stories and build their most beautiful future, unlocking their fullest potential informed by her background in neurology, psychology, business and entertainment.

Dr. Shafer's story is one of triumph, self-awareness, and tireless creation. As she has reclaimed her own story, rebuilding her life after difficult experiences, she launched We Don’t Tell Our Stories, an online community to help people suffering from Domestic Abuse and Intimate Partner Violence. Her love of writing inspired her to launch Little House of Dreams Publishing, a children’s literature publishing house focused on sharing the stories of children. Dr Shafer believes it is never too early to show young people how important their voice truly is, and the power they possess to create a better world.

Connect with Dr. Shafer: https://drshaferstedronova.com/

To watch inspiring and informative Talks with Dr Shafer head to her YouTube Channel: / @talkswithdrshafer

This episode does not offer individualized medical advice. Opinions discussed are for informational purposes only, and should not be considered medical advice.

Little House Of Dreams Entertainment, LLC, 2024.

All Rights Reserved.

Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse

19 And A Political Prisoner of Belarus: Tatyana Ekelchik's Story Of Resilience And Hope

On This Episode Of Talks With Dr Shafer, Dr Shafer Welcomes The Inspiring Tatyana Ekelchik, Who Became A Political Prisoner In Belarus At The Age Of 19 After Participating In Peaceful Protests Following The Disputed Belarusian Presidential Elections  In 2020. Tatyana Shares Her Story Of Being Detained And Imprisoned Along With Other Students In Belarus After Participating In Peaceful Protests With University Classmates Following The 2020 Elections. The Conversation Covers The Political Climate In Belarus, The Motivation Behind The Protests, And The Experiences Of Tatyana During Her Interrogation By The KGB And Her Detention In The Isolator Followed By Her Transfer To A Women's Only Penal Colony Where She Was Forced To Work And Complete Her 2.5 Year Sentence. It Also Highlights The Resilience And Bravery Of Tatyana And Her Fellow Protesters In The Face Of Adversity. Tatiana Shares Her Harrowing Experience Of Being In Isolation And A Penal Colony In Belarus, Highlighting The Psychological Pressure, Strict Conditions, And Lack Of Medical Care. She Also Discusses Her Release, Resettlement In The Czech Republic, And Her Efforts To Support Students And Political Prisoners In Belarus. She Has Shared Links, Included Below, To Learn More About Political Prisoners And How You Can Help Support Them And A Free Belarus. 

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

05:45 Life in Belarus Before the Protests

09:07 Motivation to Join the Protests

35:54 Surviving Isolation and Penal Colony in Belarus

48:22 Resettlement and Advocacy in the Czech Republic

55:49 Global Support for Human Rights

Thank You to Our Special Guest, Tatyana Ekelchik
Resilience and Hope: The Incredible Story of
Strength and Determination
of a Young  Political Prisoner of Belarus

Resources:

Human rights organization with general information about Belarusian political prisoners https://prisoners.spring96.org/en

Donate to former political prisoners and their families: https://www.bysol.org/en/private/

Send a letter to political prisoner: Send a letter — Dissidentby (It’s possible to donate there as well.)

About “Students case”: Belarus: University students expelled from universities and imprisoned for peaceful protest (amnesty.org)

About imprisoned students: Belarus: University students expelled from universities and imprisoned for peaceful protest (amnesty.org)
 
Tatyana Ekelchik on Instagram @smetanyaaaaa
Tatyana Ekelchik on Facebook @TatyanaEkelchik

#talkswithdrshafer #tatyanaekelchik #freebelarus #svetlanatsikhanouskaya #belarus #politicalprisoner #freedom #humanrights

Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and create your most beautiful future. 

We Hope You Enjoy Today’s Powerful Episode. Please Like And Subscribe To Get The Next Inspiring, Growth-Focused Episode Of Talks With Dr Shafer, And Comment, Follow And Rate The Podcast To Help Spread Dr Shafer's Message Of Growth, Healing, And Reclaiming Your Story To As Many People As Possible!

You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, ⁠⁠www.drshaferstedronova.com⁠⁠, 

and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music. 

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All Rights Reserved. 

Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse

From an early age, we absorb all sorts of external ideas about what we are and what we deserve. Dr Shafer discusses acknowledging our limiting beliefs, coming back to ourselves and realizing that we do deserve to be authentic and to be happy. @talkswithdrshafer Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse @LittleHouseofDreamsEntertainment. All Rights Reserved.

The Attack on Blake Lively and Weaponized Distraction in Domestic Violence

Trigger Warning: Domestic Violence is Discussed

On this Short Talk on Talks with Dr. Shafer, Dr Shafer explores the importance of our attention, using the timely discussion surrounding Blake Lively's media tour in support of her new film, It Ends with Us as an example of the cost of distraction. The world is in competition for our most precious resources: time and energy. The distraction surrounding Blake Lively and the important cause of bringing light to Domestic Violence victims and survivors is being overshadowed, less by the actions of the actress herself, but more by the overwhelming response to it. Dr Shafer highlights the tendency to vilify individuals who speak out about important issues as well as the tendency to vilify and criticize victims of domestic abuse themselves should they speak up about their lived traumatic experiences. Dr Shafer urges listeners to focus on supporting survivors of domestic abuse and how resources like the movie It Ends with Us can serve to bring attention to the issue so that we can begin to do the work to have the difficult conversations and make the world a safer place. 

Keywords

#attention #blakelively #press #distraction #itendswithuse #price #resources #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #intimatepartnerviolence #survivors #villain #support #advocacy #podcast #physician #growth #story #storytelling takeaways

• Every choice we make is a trade-off, and we must consider the price of where we direct our attention.
• Survivors of domestic abuse often face vilification and ridicule when they speak out, creating further barriers to seeking safety.
• We should focus our energy on supporting survivors and using resources like movies to bring attention to important issues.
• We all have the opportunity to do better in how we view and discuss domestic abuse and support victims.

• The Price of Attention
• Vilification of Survivors

• "What's the price? We have to get in the habit of always asking, what is the price?"
• "She's vilified not for her efforts to bring light to the experience of women suffering from domestic violence."
• "Can we focus our energy on the fact that this movie exists, that so many people are bravely telling and sharing this story with the world?"

We Hope You Enjoy Today’s Powerful Episode. Please Like And Subscribe To Get The Next Inspiring, Growth-Focused Episode Of Talks With Dr Shafer, And Comment, Follow And Rate The Podcast To Help Spread Dr Shafer's Message Of Growth, Healing, And Reclaiming Your Story To As Many People As Possible!

You are not alone. 

The US National Domestic Violence Hotline

1-800-799-7233

Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and build your most beautiful future. 

You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, ⁠⁠⁠www.drshaferstedronova.com⁠⁠⁠

and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music.

This episode does not offer individualized medical advice. Opinions discussed are for informational purposes only, and should not be considered medical advice.

Little House Of Dreams Entertainment, LLC, 2024. 

All Rights Reserved. 

Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse

"Our Words Can Be A Weapon Or A Warm Welcome."- Dr Shafer

On this Short Talk on Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr. Shafer discusses the power of language in love and life. She emphasizes the importance of using simple and direct language to effectively communicate and connect with others. Dr. Shafer also highlights the negative impact of using specialized language to isolate or elevate certain individuals. She mentions Brene Brown as an example of a scientist who understands the value of using connecting language. Understanding the weight of words can help us become better leaders, lovers, friends, and neighbors.

#language #communication #connection #direct #talkswithdrshafer #podcast #BreneBrown #leadership #love #relationships

Takeaways

• Choose simple and direct language to effectively communicate and connect with others.
• Avoid using specialized language that isolates or elevates certain individuals.
• Understanding the weight of words can help us become better leaders, lovers, friends, and neighbors.
• Language plays a crucial role in our relationships and can impact our sense of belonging.

• The Power of Language in Love and Life
• The Negative Impact of Specialized Language

Quotes:

• "Our words can be a weapon or a warm welcome."
• "Using specialized language isolates others from the in-group."
• "Honing our communication skills through choosing our words with care is one way that we can better connect with the people in our lives."

Dr Shafer Stedron, MD is a musician turned Neurologist, a mom, a Jay Shetty-Certified Life Coach, an Author, Publisher, and so much more. She is passionate about helping others reclaim their stories and build their most beautiful future, unlocking their fullest potential informed by her background in neurology, psychology, business and entertainment. 

Dr. Shafer's story is one of triumph, self-awareness, and tireless creation. As she has reclaimed her own story, rebuilding her life after difficult experiences, she launched We Don’t Tell Our Stories, an online community to help people suffering from Domestic Abuse and Intimate Partner Violence. Her love of writing inspired her to launch Little House of Dreams Publishing, a children’s literature publishing house focused on sharing the stories of children. Dr Shafer believes it is never too early to show young people how important their voice truly is, and the power they possess to create a better world.  Connect with Dr. Shafer: https://drshaferstedronova.com/  To watch inspiring and informative Talks with Dr Shafer head to her YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TalkswithDrShafer
This episode does not offer individualized medical advice. Opinions discussed are for informational purposes only, and should not be considered medical advice. Little House Of Dreams Entertainment, LLC, 2024.  All Rights Reserved.  Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse

Hi Everyone! And welcome to Talks with Dr. Shafer. I am Dr Shafer, and I am a mom, a physician, a board certified Neurologist, a musician, writer and publisher on a quest to help others on their journey of growth and improved health through storytelling. I believe in creating safe spaces to share our stories so that we can heal, grow and support one another, and create and environment where there is no need for shame. Where we meet life’s challenges with a focus on the possibilities ahead, and learn to release or work around past limitations. Today, on Talks with Dr. Shafer, I want to talk about your response, and a concept that I call: Your Response is Your Responsibility There is this incredibly moving clip circulating right now where a woman witnesses a young girl being pulled into an alley by a man. The man is very tall and strong, towering over the young woman in the alley. The witness, another woman, asks what he is doing with her. He responds tersely that it is his family and tries to make the woman uncomfortable for bothering them. This is where the story could have easily taken a tragic turn. You see, many of us, if not most of us, are afraid of conflict. We are afraid of inconveniencing someone, of embarrassing them. We have been socially programmed to fawn and apologize for taking up space, let alone for speaking and asserting ourselves. So with the understanding of how women are expected to behave in social situations, when being rebuked by a tall, authoritarian man, it would be no surprise if the woman apologized and walked on. But that would be tragic, and it would probably haunt her forever. Because her gut knew. Her nervous system signaled danger to her. Her mind is trained to “mind your own business”, so it would be easy to respond to the social cues the man gave her with fawning and going about her day. But she didn’t. Because she trusted herself. She trusted her gut. She knew the girl wasn’t safe. And she knew that the only safety she had to offer the girl was her presence. And she was very generous with it and courageous. Despite the man yelling at her, making it seem that she was rude, asking why she was “stalking them” as he is quite literally abducting a child, his arm around her so that she can not escape him, trying to lead her away from the witness. He is actively attempting to manipulate the witness’s perception of reality, to reframe it so that she is actually the problem, disturbing him with what he calls his “family,” and “stalking” them. He does not allow the witness to see the girls’ face. He wraps his arm around her and leads her in the opposite direction. But the woman witnessing this does not back down. “I’m following you,” she firmly tells him, walking a safe distance behind them as he tries to lead the girl away on a different street. “Are you okay?” She repeatedly asks the girl. She cannot see her face. But her gut tells her that her presence is keeping this girl safe. Because there is no safety in silence. There is no security in isolation. Predators of all types know that isolating someone is key to being able to do whatever they want to them. It happens in relationships and homes, at work, at school, at night on the street with strangers, online, everywhere. And while they isolate their victim, they typically use verbal tactics to manipulate the victim’s perception of reality, such that the victim begins to believe that by being silent and isolated, they are safe. Then the unthinkable happens. And that moment is often followed by more silence and more isolation, as shame overcomes the victim. When we shed light on these moments, however, and we share them, the truth can’t help but come out. That the victim did nothing wrong. That a woman walking down a street, any time or day, no matter what she is doing or wearing, should be able to safely arrive to her destination. There is no circumstance or condition that would make that not justifiable. Period.

*Trigger Warning: This Episode Discusses Rape, Sexual Violence, Intimate Parter Violence, Domestic Abuse, Suicidal Thoughts and Suicide. 

On today's moving episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr Shafer is joined by Special Guest Robert Uttaro, a rape crisis counselor, community educator, and author of the book To the Survivors. Inspired by his undergraduate studies in Criminal Justice, he continues to embrace a life-long commitment to activism and advocacy for survivors of sexual violence. Dr Shafer and Robert Uttaro discuss the impact of sexual violence on victims and survivors, and the need for creating safe spaces for survivors to seek care and resources during the phase of healing from sexual violence. Robert shares the importance of support and resources, and how he works with the community to educate about sexual violence, as well as provides support to survivors in crisis. Please join us for this impactful conversation and make sure to check in with your support system if feeling triggered by the content. Robert's book is available for free on his website, and was created to allow the reader to access the chapters and information in an as-desired way, so that readers are able to access information in their own time. We hope that if it may be of help to you that you utilize this helpful resource. 

 

Resources: 

Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network

⁠https://www.rainn.org/⁠

To Learn More About Robert and His Work, Go To His Website: 

⁠https://www.robertuttaro.com/⁠

Robert Uttaro's powerful book is available on Amazon:

⁠https://www.amazon.com/Survivors-Journey-Counselor-Stories-Violence/dp/149093166X/ref=rvi_d_sccl_1/132-8228123-5178239?pd_rd_w=jgWcV&content-id=amzn1.sym.f5690a4d-f2bb-45d9-9d1b-736fee412437&pf_rd_p=f5690a4d-f2bb-45d9-9d1b-736fee412437&pf_rd_r=D1K1T84PQS6V6A4ACX5J&pd_rd_wg=A8NY7&pd_rd_r=2554944d-53de-4c7a-b651-b9cbfcba58f0&pd_rd_i=149093166X&psc=1⁠

And on his website.

Links to Connect with Robert Uttaro: 

Facebook

⁠https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100062956434169⁠

Twitter

⁠https://twitter.com/robert_uttaro⁠

#robertuttaro #sexualviolence #believesurvivors #tothesurvivors #intimatepartnerabuse #talkswithdrshafer #drshaferstedronova #podcast #author

Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and create your most beautiful future. 

You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, ⁠⁠www.drshaferstedronova.com⁠⁠, and contact us to learn more about the show!

and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music.

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All Rights Reserved. 

Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse

*Trigger Warning: Sexual Violence, Sexual Abuse, and Substance Abuse are discussed in today's episode.

Breaking the Silence and Reclaiming Your Power: Perry Power on Using Your Voice to Step Into Your Power

On this powerful episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, we are joined by Special Guest Actor, Author, Publisher and Advocate Perry Power. Perry Power shares his journey of breaking his silence on his childhood abuse and how he is helping others write their stories and move forward through his work with The Power Tribe. Dr Shafer and Perry Power discuss the impact of childhood abuse, the importance of safe spaces for sharing, and the complexities of the healing process. The themes of empowerment, self-validation, and the role of storytelling in advocacy are also explored. Perry shares how he works with survivors to take their traumas and create a published book, and how he created several charities to help victims, including We Rescue Kids and We Together. 

Learn more about the important work that Perry Power is doing on his website

www.iamperrypower.com

You can find Perry Power's book, Breaking the Silence, at https://iamperrypower.com/books/breaking-the-silence/

You can follow Perry Power on Social Media: 

Instagram @iamperrypower

Facebook @PerryPower

Youtube @iamperrypower

TikTok @iamperrypower

Resources: 

Are you a victim of sexual assault? You are not alone. 

RAINN National Sexual Assault Hotline: Confidential 24/7 Support

1-800-656-4673

Rainn.org

Call 9-1-1 or your country's emergency number in the case of an emergency. 

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Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and create your most beautiful future. 

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Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse

On this inspiring episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr. Shafer interviews Rev. Christine V. Davies, a writer, speaker, hospital chaplain and head of the hospital chaplaincy department at Robert Wood Johnson University Hospital, Minister, Pastoral Educator, Seminary Professor, Writer, and Spiritual Director. We discuss the role of a hospital chaplain and the importance of spiritual care in healthcare settings. Rev. Davies shares her personal journey and how she transitioned from pursuing a career in medicine to becoming a chaplain. We also explore the concept of spiritual distress and the ways in which chaplains provide emotional and spiritual support to patients and their families. The conversation highlights the need for open and honest conversations about grief, loss, and spirituality, and the importance of holding space for others without trying to fix or provide answers. Rev. Christine V. Davies discusses the practice of spiritual direction and its role in deepening one's spiritual life. Rev. Davies emphasizes the importance of individual grounding and finding a sense of spirituality, sacredness, and depth within oneself. She also highlights the need for individuals to untangle their beliefs and experiences from past religious trauma and find their own authentic spiritual path. An inspiring, deep conversation into real-world experiences of faith, illness, and connection with our families and communities, Dr Shafer and Rev. Davies create a safe space for difficult conversations and challenging moments.

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Learn more about Rev. Christine V Davies on her website,  www.christinevdavies.com

You can sign up for her newsletter at https://journeyingalongside.substack.com/

You can follow Rev. Christine V Davies at these links:

Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/rev-christine-davies/

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cvdavies/

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/christine.davies

Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and create your most beautiful future. 

You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, ⁠www.drshaferstedronova.com⁠, 

and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music. 

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Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse

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Chapters

00:00Introduction and Exploring Roles

02:19 Rev. Davies' Journey to Becoming a Chaplain

06:22 Recognizing Signs of Spiritual Distress

10:47 The Importance of Open and Honest Conversations

23:21 Toxic Spirituality and Harmful Religious Platitudes

27:22 The Power of Silence and Presence

28:41 Finding Groundedness and Depth in Spirituality

29:08 Introduction to Spiritual Direction

31:32 Untangling Beliefs and Experiences

36:35 The Process of Unraveling and Rebuilding

38:23 Pruning for Growth and Change

44:49 Supporting Individual Spiritual Journeys

They didn't Show Up. Now what? on Talks with Dr Shafer. We have all had times when we were so excited about connecting with someone, sharing something with someone, and they simply didn't show. No response. No apology or excuses. They just didn't show. You may never know what happened. In your mind, the worst case scenario starts playing: what if they were in a horrible accident? You wonder. That would explain why they didn't show up, and they didn't even tell me they wouldn't be coming as planned. It is wonderful when we can give someone the benefit of the doubt rather than assuming malintent. Sometimes things just happen. Things are forgotten, schedules can't be followed because life gets in the way, and we drop the ball on communicating with the person that is left waiting for us. We've all been on both sides of the equation. But sometimes the person you are waiting for just doesn't care. Not that they don't care about you and your dreams and your goals, not that they think they aren't worthwhile or that you aren't enough. They simply aren't at the same level of investment in the meeting as you were. There are a myriad of reasons why. This person may be avoidant, have wanted to cancel but couldn't get up the nerve to, and chose passively to let the meeting slip by and to just disconnect rather than admit that for whatever reason, they don't want to be there. It's important to remember that whatever the reason, most decisions other people make simply aren't about you. Or me. Or anyone else. Most people are motivated by and making decisions based on their wants and needs, their beliefs and expectations, not of the world so much but more so of themselves. Some people expect relationships to fail, and they then fail at relationships. Some people expect to fail at work, and so they don't meet deadlines because... well, their limiting beliefs are in the driver's seat, and they are arriving at the destination where they set the GPS to, because that's what they planned on happening. Even if they may want things to unfold differently, they are using the same set of tools and the same mindset that they have been using for a long time, and if these beliefs make them think negatively about themselves and how they show up in the world, they will likely continue to show up that way until they do the work to assess their mindset and change what they are telling themselves in their head about their potential, the outcomes and how they will navigate the journey to get there. Just make sure when you are dissappointed by someone not showing up for you, that you don't take it personally. Their choices likely have very little or nothing to do with you. THey have to do with a lifetime of data and beliefs and expectations that create their reality, a reality that you may simply be a temporary guest of, or even just a passerby. And that's okay. Just don't let their choices interfere with your journey, your beliefs, the things you are telling yourself as you move forward into the world and towards your goals.

Written and Produced by Shafer Stedron, MD

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Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse

Diagnosed Dad: James Smith's Journey with MND, Advocacy, and Living Life to the Fullest

On today's inspiring and informative episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr Shafer has Special Guest James Smith, a father of three living with motor neuron disease, on the show. James shares his journey and advocacy work to help spread awareness of MND (ALS), help share his story and resources with others living with the disease, and advocate for access to treatments, resources, and for further research into MND. James was diagnosed in June 2021 after experiencing symptoms for two years, and shares his story of disease progression and how it has affected him and his family. James created the podcast Diagnose Dad and the Facebook community MND and Beyond to educate and connect with others, from people living with MND to their loved ones and professionals. James emphasizes the importance of storytelling and sharing experiences to raise awareness and provide support. He encourages proactive engagement with resources and research studies, discusses the side effects he experienced with treatment and the alternative approaches he has explored, such as vitamins and supplements. James also talks about the benefits of massage therapy in managing his symptoms and the importance of listening to your body. James shares his bucket list experiences, including skydiving and climbing Mount Snowdon, and emphasizes the value of living in the present and pursuing meaningful experiences, and not waiting for a diagnosis to choose to pursue your dreams. 

Links: https://www.mndassociation.org/about-us/who-we-are/raising-awareness

https://linktr.ee/diagnoseddad

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@diagnoseddad
https://open.spotify.com/show/7xWlipjW7z9ZD4UA0XWnhL?si=eemDePHXTIqYAr3BdIZxcg&utm_medium=share&utm_source=linktree&nd=1&dlsi=8ab552600aa5494f

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diagnoseddad

TikTokhttps://www.tiktok.com/@diagnoseddad

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/justjamessmith

Facebook Group: 

https://www.facebook.com/groups/831321518182260/?ref=share_group_link&exp=7ffb

Important Quotes:

• "Don't let a terminal illness like I've got stop, you know, make you do the things you want to do because I wish I did it sooner."
• "I focus on things that I can do, not what I can't"

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Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and create your most beautiful future. 

You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, ⁠⁠www.drshaferstedronova.com⁠⁠, 

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Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse

Connect, don't Correct: Life Coaching Life Hack In our common conversation, most of us have had a particular style of communication modeled: listen to respond. We want to keep the flow going. We want to entertain. We want to impress the listener. We want them to feel less alone in their experience. All of these are valid reasons to share personal anecdotes and stories during a conversation. We may see ourselves, our past mistakes, our would have, could have, should have gremlins may awaken as we reflect on what someone is telling us, and we want to offer advice to help the speaker deal with the challenges they are sharing with us. We have been programmed to respond. Which is to say, we are programmed to assume that when someone shares a part of themself with us, that they are asking us indirectly for our opinion on that matter. That they are asking us for our acknowledgement, for our validation of their experience and their choices. Put that way, how do you feel about this way of responding? Do we share our stories for validation? Do we want advice? When we think back to the most healing, connecting moments in our lives, they don't usually include receiving advice. Or if they do, that advice was very cleverly cloaked in love, presence, and acknowledgement for how we were showing up in that moment, with that challenge, to face it. We felt empowered. The listener served to help reflect back to us what we had already shown: that we were capable of facing this. We need support, we need community, we need love. And more than anything, we need to know that we are complete and capable. When leaving our childhood home for the first time, a common feeling shared by many is the feeling that we just don't know what we are going to do. Are we going to make it? What is the right path? And many of us, 10, 20 years down the line, may look back at that time with a bit of sadness and grief if what we received in that moment was advice. Was a roadmap. Because we weren't asking for that. What we really wanted was to feel that we could succeed. To know that the world was big, but our potential was even bigger, and we just had to trust ourselves. Learn to follow our gut, to invest in our future, to build our skills and habits and trust in ourself. To collect the data to prove to ourselves that we are capable of doing great things. That we can fail, fall, get back up, brush ourselves off, and keep going, new lessons in hand. We can't take the fall with us, but the lessons? Those are portable. If we were deprived of our autonomy, and given the roadmap, and we followed it, and did not listen to our inner voice, once we get to the big goal on that map, it's very likely that we won't feel the desire to celebrate. Because we haven't proven to ourself that we are capable of being true to ourselves. We unknowingly left ourselves behind long ago, and arrived at a place that may be a desirable place, may be a safe place, but if it isn't our place, we can't find peace and satisfaction there. And we may grieve and resent the younger version of ourselves, or those who advised us. But resentment just cycles us back to the past, and keeps us on that path that wasn't ours. So, what do we want to do? How can we help one another to stay on our path? How can we show up for one another in a way that honors our completeness and recognizes the unique gifts that we have to share with the world…

Swimming Lessons: Sometimes You Must Swim or Go Down With The Ship. Choose to Swim.

Thank you for joining me for this Short Talk on Talks with Dr Shafer. I'm a physician, mom, life coach, musician, author, and I am passionate about using storytelling as a tool to help you reclaim and reframe your story and move forward to build your most beautiful future.

Today on this short talk, I wanted to read something I wrote called Swimming Lessons. It's time. You feel it in your bones. It's time to change. At first, the knowing was a quiet drip in the background. This way of doing things was no longer keeping the water out. But this is the way you've done things for as long as you can remember.

So you kept going on about it. Hours, days, weeks, months, and even years, knowing a change was necessary, but stuck in the rut of your old habits, stuck in a vessel that was taking on water. Drip, drip, drip.

Eventually, what was once a whisper became a louder, sharper dissonance, and the leaking vessel no longer could be ignored. This is your ship, but it is just a ship, just a thing created to take you to where you want to go. But it isn't doing that any longer. The ship is going down. You can stay in it.

But the habits and lifestyle that you have created are taking on water and you can either go down with the ship or change. There comes a time in life where it is sink or swim. The waters may be rough and uninviting, but in order to move on in life, we simply have to do it. We must face our fear, jump in and swim.

The scariest moment is right before you decide to jump. Every moment after, there is no room for fear. There is only room for moving towards your goal. Once you commit to your dreams and take action, there is no time for fear. All of your energy is used to stay afloat and moving forward. You are no longer in the sinking ship.

You are now in charge of your destiny. You did not go down with that ship. You are still here. Keep swimming.

Thank you for joining me on this short talk with Dr. Shafer. Stay safe and take care. I'll talk to you soon.

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Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse.

Bringing it Back to Your Body: Heavy or Light, Stiff or Flexible, Stuck or Free

Heavy and light, stiff and flexible.

We can feel all of these things at different moments. One moment we are nimble and light, and it is as if we could spring from leaf to leaf, climbing higher and higher towards the heavens, no fear of falling, only focused on reaching the warm blue expanse above us. Next, seemingly without reason, we can feel weighed down, tethered to the earth, encircled by stones and shadows, unable to move a millimeter as our limbs feel stuck in the mud, while the wind blows and sand stings our eyes.  What is the overall difference in our mindset when we are experiencing something positive versus something negative? Our minds are hard-wired to focus on the negative to keep us safe. Has that food gone bad? Your mind won't let you forget the pain of food poisoning for a long time, if ever, because it wants you to remember that lesson and avoid such danger in the future. But in many situations, our mind's focus on danger prevention creates fear and avoidance that are harmful, not helpful. While we may rejoice for a moment over a victory such as getting a new job, completing that chore we have been putting off, or starting that new business and getting our first customers, our brain sees little benefit in focusing on these wins long-term. Instead, when we succeed, our mind goes on to the next step. That success felt good. How can we build on it and achieve it again? Our positive experiences lead to the secretion of happy neurochemicals in our brains, and we seek out experiences to get the next positive feedback. Our negative experiences trigger fight-or-flight type nervous system responses, which our bodies then remember to avoid repeat negative experiences. The drive to avoid pain can be all-encompassing and act as a distraction from seeking positive reinforcement. We can only focus on one direction, after all. So if our head is turned, looking over our shoulder at the mistakes and pitfalls of our past, we can't possibly  focus effectively on working towards today's and tomorrow's accomplishments. A way to help us come back into the present moment from our past so that we can determine where we want to direct our energy moving forward from this moment is to focus on how we feel in our body. How does this memory make us feel? Can we process it and release what is no longer serving us? Picking up on a single word such as Stuck, can help us.
I feel stuck. 
What does it feel like in your body to feel stuck? Literally, I feel like I am in molasses. What would it feel like to pull yourself out of that molasses? That would feel... freeing. How would it be to be free?It would be a completely new experience. From the perspective of yourself in this moment, feeling free and new, where do you want to go? We are free. Our circumstances or controlling people or situations may make us feel that we are not, and limiting beliefs in our minds may echo and cage us, but the truth is, it isn't a cage, it is more like a hamster wheel. There is a way out. But you have to choose. You have to stop running the unwinnable race, stop heading in the same direction that isn't taking you anywhere, step off of the wheel, and choose your path. It isn't easy. But it is possible. And that is the power of coming back into your body, into the present moment, and choosing in an embodied state where you want to go from here. Heavy or light, stiff or flexible, stuck or free. You get to choose what you believe you are, and that is what you will be. 

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Hypervigilence: trauma & other neurological challenges change how we interact with our environment. Listen to your instincts and prioritize your safety, just as you must listen to what your body is telling you about your environment to maintain your balance. #talkswithdrshafer #wedonttellourstories #domesticviolenceawareness💜 #domesticabuseawareness

Trigger Warning: Today’s Episode Discusses Domestic Abuse, Sexual Assault, and Healing From Trauma.

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Facing Trauma And Healing Through EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Therapy

On this moving and informative episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr. Shafer interviews Adalina East, a neuroscientist, therapist, and transformational healer, about EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) therapy. Adalina shares her personal experience with trauma and how she found healing through various modalities, including EMDR. They discuss the importance of finding the right therapy modality for each individual and the need for elevated advocacy to ensure access to effective treatments. Adalina guides Dr. Shafer through a brief EMDR session, focusing on a specific memory and using a safe place chosen by Dr Shafer (an airplane flying away) as a resource. Dr. Shafer experiences a sense of calm and happiness during the session as she copes with continuing to return to the traumatic location and embrace the accompanying sensations and thoughts associated with that memory. Through the use of EMDR therapy, Adalina helps Dr. Shafer process her emotions and physical sensations associated with the traumatic event. They work on releasing the fear and tightness in her body and implanting new beliefs of resilience and worthiness. Dr. Shafer experiences a sense of peace and growth , and hopes that others interested in learning more about EMDR therapy may find today’s episode to be helpful and healing.

Takeaways

• EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a therapy technique that uses eye movements to help rewrite traumatic memories in the brain. • Finding the right therapy modality is important for healing trauma, and it may involve trying different techniques and modalities to find what works best for each individual.

• Advocacy is needed to ensure access to effective treatments, as some modalities may not be covered by insurance.

• Creating a safe place or resource, such as imagining being on an airplane, can help regulate the nervous system and provide a sense of calm during therapy sessions.

• EMDR can be a powerful tool for healing trauma and releasing negative emotions and physical sensations associated with traumatic memories. EMDR therapy can be effective in processing and releasing traumatic experiences • Physical sensations can be a way for the body to communicate unresolved trauma

• Beliefs of resilience and worthiness can help in feeling safe and deserving of positive experiences

• Processing trauma in a safe space can lead to growth and healing

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This episode does not offer individualized medical advice. Opinions discussed are for informational purposes only, and should not be considered medical advice.

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On this Short Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr Shafer explores the concept of mental Decluttering to process the things holding us back in our past so that we have space for the things that we need to build our future.
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On Short Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr Shafer discusses how it is necessary to take note of whether you are worth more dead or alive to certain people in your life, and act accordingly to the honest assessment of that, for your fulfillment and safety. #talkswithdrshafer #empowerment #worthmoredeadthanalive #lifecoach #growthmindset #chooseyourtable #wedonttellourstories #grow

ADHD and Women with Tracy Otsuka: Overcoming Feelings of Too Muchness and Leaning Into Your Interests

On this episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr Shafer welcomes Special Guest Tracy Otsuka, Lawyer, Author and Host of ADHD for Smart Ass Women. Tracy Otsuka shares her journey of being diagnosed with ADHD later in life and how it has impacted her life and career. She discusses the misconceptions and stereotypes surrounding ADHD, especially in women, and the importance of understanding the unique strengths and challenges that come with it. Tracy emphasizes the need for women with ADHD to lean into their interests and purpose, and to not let shame or societal expectations hold them back. She also highlights the connection between ADHD and trauma, and the importance of seeking support and understanding in managing ADHD symptoms. Tracy Otsuka discusses the impact of ADHD on women, particularly during perimenopause and menopause. She emphasizes the importance of understanding one's brain and finding strategies that work for individual strengths. Tracy shares her own experiences with exercise and sleep as effective ways to manage ADHD symptoms.#ADHD #women #diagnosis #stereotypes #strengths #challenges #purpose #shame #trauma #support #ADHD #perimenopause #menopause #dopamine #exercise #talkswithdrshafer #tracyotsuka #adhdforsmartasswomen #podcast #coachTakeaways

@tracyotsuka @adhdforsmartasswomen

Takeaways

• ADHD in women can often go undiagnosed or misdiagnosed due to misconceptions and stereotypes.
• ADHD symptoms can be different in women 
• Managing ADHD involves understanding and embracing one's interests and purpose.
• Finding strategies that work for individual strengths is crucial for managing ADHD symptoms.
• Understanding one's purpose and working in alignment with strengths can lead to a more fulfilling life with ADHD.
• Celebrating accomplishments and focusing on strengths is important for building self-confidence and overcoming feelings of not being enough.

• ADHD and Trauma: Navigating the Intersection
• Leaning into Purpose: Empowering Women with ADHD The Power of Exercise and Sleep for ADHD
• Finding Strategies that Work for Your ADHD Brain

Quotes:

• "We have a surplus of attention."
• "Drivenness is a form of hyperactivity."
• "We need to feel like we're making a difference."
• "We can modulate dopamine through sleep regimens, diets, and mindset work."
• "20 minutes of exercise that gets your heart rate up to 70% of max is as effective as a course of Adderall and Ritalin."
• "Knowing your purpose and working in your sweet spot is key for ADHD women."

Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and create your most beautiful future. 

You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, ⁠⁠www.drshaferstedronova.com⁠⁠, 

and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music.

This episode does not offer individualized medical advice. Opinions discussed are for informational purposes only, and should not be considered medical advice.

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Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse

Join Dr Shafer as she shares Spring Musings on Love in Life’s Seasons, a Short Talk edition of Talks with Dr Shafer. Learn more at www.drshaferstedronova.com Little House of Dreams Entertainment All Rights Reserved Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse

Our Tolerance For Making Mistakes After Having An Intolerant, Unpredictable Early Life Caregiver

In this Short Talk on Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr. Shafer discusses how our attitudes towards growth and our tolerance for making mistakes can be affected after growing up with intolerant or unpredictable caregivers. Dr Shafer explores how being trained to believe that criticism is love can affect our ability to accept kindness and praise. Dr. Shafer emphasizes the importance of understanding the patterns we learned from our caregivers and how they shape our thoughts, behaviors, and relationships, and to see the opportunity for creating a new mindset, setting the stage for healthier relationships and a happier life. She encourages listeners to embrace neuroplasticity and the potential for growth, even if it requires pruning old connections and reworking thoughts, habits, and relationships.

Keywords

growth, tolerance, mistakes, caregivers, criticism, love, patterns, neuroplasticity, pruning, reworking

Takeaways

• Our attitudes towards growth and tolerance for making mistakes can be influenced by our experiences with intolerant or unpredictable caregivers.
• Being trained to believe that criticism is love can make it difficult to accept kindness and praise.
• Understanding the patterns we learned from our caregivers can help us navigate our thoughts, behaviors, and relationships.
• Embracing neuroplasticity allows us to continue growing and rewiring our brains for a happier and more fulfilling future.

Sound Bites

• "When you are trained to believe that criticism is love, being treated in a tolerant, loving way can provoke the sensation of being tricked."
• "Our mistakes are no longer celebrated and rarely tolerated, even when they are rare and we can overcome them quickly."
• "Neuroplasticity and learning demands that we sacrifice the old for the new when it comes to our survival and our development."

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You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, ⁠⁠www.drshaferstedronova.com⁠⁠, and reach out for 1 on 1 personal life coaching to help you achieve your goals!

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This episode does not offer individualized medical advice. Opinions discussed are for informational purposes only, and should not be considered medical advice.

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On today’s episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr Shafer talks with guest Dr Shannon Sauer-Zavala, PhD, Clinical Psychologist and Mental Health Researcher, Associate Professor in The Department of Psychology at the University of Kentucky College of Arts and Sciences, author of her book Neuroticism: A New Framework for Emotional Disorders and their Treatment, and blogger for Psychology Today, as well as the developer of a new Personality Assessment Tool, the Personality Compass Assessment. 

You can learn more about the Personality Compass Assessment Tool and other resources at www.personality-compass.com, and follow Dr Shannon Sauer-Zavala on social media at @self.made.personality. You can also find her blog on Psychology Today, featuring helpful articles on mental health-related topics.

We are so grateful for Dr. Shannon Sauer-Zavala sharing her wisdom and the important work she is doing. We are sure you will be inspired by what she has to share about her work as a Clinical Psychologist with patients, her work in developing a new Personality Assessment tool, the Personality Compass Assessment, and her work with the Royal Canadian Mountain Police developing and implementing a mental health prevention program for cadets in training. 

Hosted by Shafer Stedron, MD

www.drshaferstedronova.com

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Maintain Your Flame For Life and Live Audaciously Authentic with Dr Nicole Bradford

On this episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr Shafer is joined by Dr. Nicole Bradford, Author, Educator, Coach and inspiring Speaker. Dr Nicole Bradford discusses the importance of maintaining one's flame for life and living an audaciously authentic life. Dr Bradford shares her personal journey of pursuing education and how it led her to embrace her uniqueness. Dr. Bradford emphasizes the need for setting boundaries and respecting one's self-worth in relationships and work. She also highlights the significance of education in elevating individuals and encourages parents to be actively involved in their children's lives. Overall, Dr. Bradford's message revolves around empowering others to live their lives to the fullest and not conform to societal expectations. Dr. Bradford and Dr. Shafer discuss the importance of maintaining boundaries and modeling behavior for children. They emphasize the need for parents to set limits on technology use and create a safe environment for their children.  Dr. Bradford shares her personal experiences and offers advice on maintaining a positive mindset, taking action, being intentional, and staying true to oneself. They also discuss the positive aspects of education, such as the use of technology and building relationships, as well as areas for improvement, such as addressing the distractions caused by cell phones in the educational space. 

You can learn more about Dr. Nicole Bradford on her website

www.maintaintheflame.net

And you can follow her on Instagram at

@ maintaintheflame 

#talkswithdrshafer #maintaintheflame #drnicolebradford #drshaferstedronova

 #podcast #growth #education #author #coach #AudaciouslyAuthentic #teacher

Takeaways

• Maintaining one's flame for life is crucial for personal growth and fulfillment.
• Living audaciously authentic means embracing one's uniqueness and not conforming to societal expectations.
• Setting boundaries and respecting one's self-worth are essential in relationships and work.
• Education plays a vital role in elevating individuals and empowering them to live their best lives.
• Parents should be actively involved in their children's lives and provide guidance and support throughout their educational journey. Parents need to set limits on technology use and create a safe environment for their children
• Maintaining a positive mindset, taking action, being intentional, and staying true to oneself are key to personal growth and development
• Education is doing well in areas such as technology integration, soft skills development, and building relationships
• Areas for improvement in education include addressing the distractions caused by cell phones

Sound Bites

• "Maintain your flame for life."
• "There is no such thing as perfection."
• "My Soul is Not for Sale."
• "We are educators. We need to show up and be modeling behavior."

We Hope You Enjoy Today’s Inspiring And Informative Episode. Please Like And Subscribe To Get The Next Inspiring, Growth-Focused Episode Of Talks With Dr Shafer, And Comment, Follow And Rate The Podcast To Help Spread Dr Shafer's Message Of Growth, Healing, And Reclaiming Your Story To As Many People As Possible!

Talks With Dr Shafer Is Hosted By Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician And Author Shafer Stedron, MD, Who Is Passionate About Storytelling As A Tool To Help Reclaim Your Story And Create Your Most Beautiful Future. 

You Can Learn More About Dr Shafer On Her Website www.drshaferstedronova.com

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We Start Fitting In First to Survive, But Then We Struggle To Thrive

Today on this Short Talk on Talks with Dr Shafer, I want to talk about the need to fit in. This need is natural and a part of our survival mechanisms. As a child, we needed to fit into our family because if they didn’t accept us, we would literally die. We were completely dependent on them to accept us, care for us and protect us. If there were issues leading to trouble connecting with our caregivers, we may have created complex tactics and strategies to ensure our needs were met and that we would not be rejected. Later in life, because the brain is hard-wired to repeat its habits until a new one is formed, we seek familiar relationships, even if the original version did not bring us peace, happiness or really meet our needs. We get used to begging for approval and silencing our wants and needs and beliefs, and focus all of our energy outward, on meeting the needs (real or imagined) of others. This sets us up for toxic relationships brimming with manipulation, coercion, and confusion. We want to earn love from this person, but it seems unattainable. If this is a familiar dynamic to us in relationships, no matter how bad it may feel or how much it may affect us, we may not see it as wrong behavior from the other person, because that is what we are used to. We may simply interpret that we have yet more data to confirm what we had learned early in life: that we didn’t fit in, that we needed to focus on the needs and wants of others and sacrifice our own. We then go further and further down the path of self-abandonment, until at some point, we reach a critical point of tension as we have gone so far out of alignment with ourselves. At this point, we can no longer bend. We can break, or we can have an equal and opposite reaction, coming back to ourselves. The snap back is sometimes painful, clumsily, reckless. It may take us further than we want to go. But it will take us to where we need to be. And from there, it is up to us to work towards staying in alignment with our values and beliefs moving forward. To stay on the path that resonates with us and serves our wants to reach our goals. This is our life, in fact. We don’t owe abandoning ourselves to anyone. The world needs you to be the best version of yourself, which is only possible if you actually show up as you.  We Hope You Enjoy Today’s Powerful Episode. Please Like And Subscribe To Get The Next Inspiring, Growth-Focused Episode Of Talks With Dr Shafer, And Comment, Follow And Rate The Podcast To Help Spread Dr Shafer's Message Of Growth, Healing, And Reclaiming Your Story To As Many People As Possible! Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and create your most beautiful future.  You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, ⁠⁠⁠www.drshaferstedronova.com⁠⁠⁠,  and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music. #fittingin #talkswithdrshafer #podcast #health #wellness #lifecoach #physician #blog #drshaferstedronova This episode does not offer individualized medical advice. Opinions discussed are for informational purposes only, and should not be considered medical advice. Little House Of Dreams Entertainment, LLC, 2024.  All Rights Reserved.  Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse

Short Talks with Dr Shafer: Name it, Claim it, and Reframe it. Dr Shafer discusses a real-life example of how we can apply Name it, Claim it, Reframe it in practice to lead to growth. #talkswithdrshafer

Hypnotherapy For Chronic Pain and Mindset Shifting with Orestis Vasilakas

On today's episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr Shafer welcomes Special Guest Orestis Vasilakis, certified hypnotherapist with a passion for helping individuals conquer chronic pain and enhance their overall well-being. Orestis has a background as a theoretical physicist working in academia when he was inspired by his own journey with chronic pain to pursue a career in hypnotherapy. Now Orestis works with others to help them on their own journey overcoming chronic pain through coaching and his Facebook group, Pain Peacemakers. Dr. Shafer and Orestis Vasilakis discuss the topic of chronic pain and how hypnotherapy can help in managing and overcoming it. Orestis shares his personal journey with chronic pain and how he found relief through a combination of medication, mindset work, and hypnotherapy. They also touch on the power of the mind in managing pain and the different approaches and goals of hypnotherapy. 

Keywords

chronic pain, hypnotherapy, mindset, self-talk, medication, journey, relief, hypnotherapy, self-reflection, chronic pain, unconscious mind, focus, dissociation, coping skills, Pain Peacemakers

Takeaways

• Chronic pain is a living experience that can be shifted, modified, and altered through various approaches.
• The power of the mind and self-talk in managing and overcoming chronic pain.
• The importance of finding the right practitioner and approach that aligns with individual needs and goals.
• Managing chronic pain requires persistence, patience, and a willingness to explore different modalities. Hypnotherapy facilitates interactive and immersive communication with the unconscious mind.
• Focusing and paying attention to ourselves is crucial for self-reflection and addressing chronic pain.
• Hypnotherapy is a safe and accessible tool for developing coping skills and improving our relationship with pain and ourselves.

Orestis' website: 

https://engagehypnosis.com/

Pain Peacemakers Facebook Group: 

https://www.facebook.com/groups/painpeacemakers

Social Media Links: 

Social Links:

https://linktr.ee/orestisv

Facebook: 

https://www.facebook.com/oresibios

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/engagehypnosis

TikTok:

@engagehypnosis

#orestisvasilakis #engagehypnosis #hypnosis #talkswithdrshafer #drshaferstedronova #podcast #fibromyalgia #pain #chronicpain #support #growth #mindset 

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Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and create your most beautiful future. 

You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, ⁠⁠www.drshaferstedronova.com⁠⁠, 

and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music.

This episode does not offer individualized medical advice. Opinions discussed are for informational purposes only, and should not be considered medical advice.

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Giving and Gratitude: Sometimes Love is a Washing Machine

Hi everyone, this is Dr. Shafer on Talks with Dr. Shafer. I'm so glad you're here. I'm a physician, mom, life coach, publisher, author, and I am passionate about storytelling as a tool to help you reclaim your story, reframe it, and build your most beautiful future. Thank you for joining me today on this short talk with Dr. Shafer.

Today, I wanted to share a story I wrote about my husband called Love is a Washing Machine.

My last name is very precious to me, Stedron. In Czech, it means generous. It is a gift to me from my husband, the most generous man I have ever met. I have seen his generosity in countless moments with countless people. We were friends long before we married, and I can recall always being transfixed watching him speak to strangers.

He's the kind of man who helps elderly people get home safe, who gives directions to anyone and everyone and in all sorts of languages, who helps anyone in any way he can always, no matter what. He gives his time and attention without expectation and feels grateful for the small and large opportunities life gives him to be of service to others. He has helped me in immeasurable ways and has inspired me more than I could ever say. He believes in the good in people in a way that is rare and admirable and his kindness is infectious. Recently, we went out to lunch at a restaurant. The charming restaurant was empty except for us and a few employees.

The owner had come upon some hard luck and was struggling to cope emotionally with the sudden changes that left the entirety of the restaurant and her family's future squarely on her shoulders and in her hands. She was exhausted and stressed and trying her best to keep it all together. We talked a bit, we cried a bit, we hugged, and we shared our stories of challenges and of the triumphs waiting.

hidden in the wings, even in the moments that we can't see them. Even though the challenges seemed stacked against her, she still believed that she would overcome them. She absentmindedly mentioned that on top of all the major issues she was facing, even the washing machine was broken now and needed to be replaced. Life was handing her a mess, and even her washing machine gave up on its job to help clean it up.

I sat down at our table next to my husband who looked at me with kindness and said, we can help her. I smiled knowingly at him and watched as he pulled over. I smiled knowingly at him and watched as he pulled out what she had said it would take her to replace the washing machine.

Like I have so many times before, I sat and watched as he walked over to the kind woman and gave her generously what he could. He handed her the bill and the money. She was surprised and first said, no, eyes wide, but then...

Her shoulders relaxed and she hugged my husband and her son, who was helping at the restaurant, wiped his eyes and shook his head.

It wasn't an extraordinarily big gift, but it was enough so that it was one less thing on the list of challenges, one less hurdle to jump over, one less task taking up their time in this season of life that required them to really hustle, to work countless hours and simply get through. It was a small thing that we could do so that she could remember that good things can happen and that they will happen for her. And we have seen her continue to work tirelessly since this moment to rebuild and to create a more beautiful future for herself and her family than before, one step at a time.

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Feeling Stuck? Make a Cup of Tea, Short Talk on Talks with Dr Shafer. When we are overwhelmed and not feeling able to tackle anything on our to do list, it can help to do something. To set a small, actionable goal, and complete it. This goal can be something as small as stopping to make a cup of tea, sitting down and drinking it. When you do what you set out to do, you show yourself that you can do what you set out to do, breaking you out of the cycle of feeling stuck and unable to start, which reinforces limiting beliefs and fears that you cannot do the things that you want to do. Show yourself, even in the smallest ways, that you can, and that data will do amazing things to help reinforce what you know: that you can do this. We just have to start, and keep going, bit by bit. #habits #cupoftea #tea #talkswithdrshafer #podcast

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Maintaining Interest To Stay Motivated to Reach Your Goals!

On Today's Short Talk on Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr. Shafer discusses the importance of maintaining interest and motivation in achieving goals. She emphasizes the need to celebrate wins, no matter how small, and create a reward system to sustain motivation. Dr. Shafer also highlights the power of positive self-talk and focusing on what inspires us. She encourages listeners to harness their energy and take responsibility for maintaining interest and drive towards their goals. You can achieve anything if you truly set your mind to it. And the first step is working on your mindset and creating an actionable plan to achieving your goals!

Takeaways

Celebrate your wins, no matter how small, to maintain motivation.

Create a reward system to sustain interest in achieving goals.

Practice positive self-talk and focus on what inspires you.

Take responsibility for maintaining interest and drive towards your goals.

Titles

Harnessing Energy and Positive Self-Talk

Focusing on Inspiration and Forward Progress

Sound Bites

"No matter how small or basic the task may seem that you've completed, if it moves you towards your goal, it has big meaning."

"And when we celebrate our goals, we create a tradition of stopping to savor the good feelings we have towards ourselves for achieving even small goals and maintaining healthy habits."

"Because at the end of the day, we cannot control what happens, but we can learn to harness our energy to craft our responses."

#motivation #interest #talkswithdrshafer #drshaferstedronova #podcast #youcandoit #support #growth #mindset #lifecoach #doctor #goals #motivated

We Hope You Enjoy Today’s Motivational Episode.

Please Like And Subscribe To Get The Next Inspiring, Growth-Focused Episode Of Talks With Dr Shafer, And Comment, Follow And Rate The Podcast To Help Spread Dr Shafer's Message Of Growth, Healing, And Reclaiming Your Story To As Many People As Possible!Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and create your most beautiful future.

You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, ⁠⁠www.drshaferstedronova.com⁠⁠, and reach out for 1 on 1 personal life coaching to help you achieve your goals!

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This episode does not offer individualized medical advice. Opinions discussed are for informational purposes only, and should not be considered medical advice.

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Question: What is the least you need for your happiness? 

On this Short Talk on Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr Shafer explores the question of what is the least you need for the greatest return on your happiness. Dr Shafer emphasizes the importance of staying true to yourself and not trying to fit in with others when answering this question. Dr. Shafer discusses the concept of cognitive dissonance and how it can lead to dissatisfaction if we don't heed it's warning signs. She shares her personal experience of investing in her own happiness by taking up running and leaving behind the activities that had been using up her energy and time and leaving her feeling unfulfilled and stuck. Dr Shafer encourages listeners to assess their possessions, habits, and relationships to determine what is truly necessary for their happiness.

#happiness #selfdiscovery #authenticity #cognitivedissonance #investment #energyconservation #energy #running #hobbies #time #purpose #drshaferstedronova #talkswithdrshafer #drshafer #podcast #lifecoach

Takeaways:

• Stay true to yourself and don't try to fit in with others.
• Invest in activities and habits that align with your values and bring you joy.
• Conserve your energy and focus on what truly matters to you.
• Assess your possessions, habits, and relationships to determine what is truly necessary for your happiness.

• Conserving Energy for What Truly Matters
• Finding Happiness by Staying True to Yourself

Sound Bites:

• "Going down others paths will only lead to cognitive dissonance."
• "All I needed to achieve this was an investment in my time and a good pair of running shoes."
• "Happiness is a side effect of doing the work to uncomplicate life."

Dr Shafer Stedron, MD is a musician turned Neurologist, a mom, a Jay Shetty-Certified Life Coach, an Author, Publisher, and so much more. She is passionate about helping others reclaim their stories and build their most beautiful future, unlocking their fullest potential informed by her background in neurology, psychology, business and entertainment. 

Dr. Shafer's story is one of triumph, self-awareness, and tireless creation. As she has reclaimed her own story, rebuilding her life after difficult experiences, she launched We Don’t Tell Our Stories, an online community to help people suffering from Domestic Abuse and Intimate Partner Violence. Her love of writing inspired her to launch Little House of Dreams Publishing, a children’s literature publishing house focused on sharing the stories of children. Dr Shafer believes it is never too early to show young people how important their voice truly is, and the power they possess to create a better world. 

Connect with Dr. Shafer: https://drshaferstedronova.com/ 

To watch inspiring and informative Talks with Dr Shafer head to her YouTube Channel:    / @talkswithdrshafer  

This episode does not offer individualized medical advice. Opinions discussed are for informational purposes only, and should not be considered medical advice.

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Beating Burnout and Creating A Vision for Your Life with Visionary Doc Dr Shehzad Batliwala

On today’s episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr Shafer welcomes Special Guest, Shehzad Batliwala, DO, Ophthalmologist, Speaker, and Visionary Doc. Dr. Shehzad Batliwala is an Ophthalmologist focused on not only helping people with their vision but also with creating a visionary life. Dr Shehz shares his journey of resilience and growth, from how he initially pursued medicine driven by ambition and the desire to make his parents proud, then through his experience with burnout and a period of self-reflection, discovered the importance of self-awareness and telling oneself an empowering story. He emphasizes the need to honor both the practical and intrinsic reasons for choosing a career path. The conversation also touches on the limitations of terms like burnout and imposter syndrome, which can sometimes deflect attention from systemic issues. Dr. Shafer and Shehzad Batliwala discuss the importance of self-awareness and emotional connection in overcoming burnout. They emphasize the need to be in touch with one's feelings and emotions, as well as the significance of empathy and compassion in the medical field. Shehzad shares his personal journey of burnout and how he rediscovered his passion for space and medicine. He also discusses his coaching platform, Visionary Doc, which aims to guide others who are experiencing burnout and help them understand their motivations and goals.

Thank you to our Special Guest, Dr Shehzad, Ophthalmologist, Speaker, Entrepreneur and Visionary Doc!

You Can Learn More About Dr Shehzad Batliwala on his website,

www.visionarydoc.com

You can also connect on social media at: 

Linked In: @Shehzad Batliwala, DO, MGM

Instagram: @visionary.doc

#talkswithdrshafer #visionarydoc #drshehzadbatliwala #drshaferstedronova #podcast #vision #space #goals #mindset #growth #opthalmology #opthalmologist #vision #coach 

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Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and create your most beautiful future. 

You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, ⁠⁠www.drshaferstedronova.com⁠⁠, 

and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music.

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Advocating for an Affirming Approach to Neurodiversity with Author and Therapist Sam Marion MSW LCSW

On today's inspiring episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr Shafer hosts Special Guest Sam Marion, a licensed clinical social worker and author of the book Embracing All Brains. Sam Marion discusses neurodiversity and the importance of affirming and supporting individuals with neurodivergent traits. Dr Shafer and Sam Marion explore the need for a shift in perspective from a deficit-based approach to one that recognizes and celebrates differences. Sam emphasizes the importance of regulation, flexibility,  autonomy and individualized support in educational settings as well as in parenting and other relationships. Sam highlights the significance of representation and empowerment for neurodivergent individuals. Sam Marion's book, Embracing All Brains, serves as a guide for becoming a neurodivergent-affirming educator. Marion encourages parents to provide opportunities for their children to make choices and have control over their own lives. 

Thank you to our Special Guest, Sam Marion, Sam Marion, MSW, LCSW. Sam Marion is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker living just outside of Atlanta, Georgia. 

Sam Marion's educational background as a social worker combined with advanced trainings in neurodivergence, trauma, and executive functioning all influence his 

work as a therapist, consultant, speaker, coach, content creator, and author. 

Learn More about Sam Marion at: 

www.neurodivergentspot.com

www.sammarion.com

Social Media Handles: 

Instagram: @sammarioncounseling

Instagram: @neurodivergentspot

TikTok: @sammarioncounseling

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and create your most beautiful future. 

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Podcast: Forgiveness: What it is, What it isn’t, and why we shouldn’t live without it. The concept of forgiveness has been all around me this week: conversations with family and friends, podcasts, books, a program for my child at school, a certification program I am in and even the sermon at church have all centered forgiveness. I have experienced great love and great loss in this week, and in the processing of that, the virtue of forgiveness has been in the center. If I was approaching life from the perspective of not letting go, of not being willing to forgive, I would be full of pain and frustration. There are relationships that will always invoke this virtue, and that we will need to approach with caution and self-awareness to ensure we are honoring ourselves will also giving the grace and forgiveness awarded us so many times. From where I stand in this current moment, forgiveness is pulling me through so much. The release it awards me is keeping me focused and energetic. I am not ignoring what I am experiencing, but I am choosing how much pain I wish to carry forward on my journey. www.drshaferstedronova.com

On this episode of Talks with Dr Shafer we welcome back special guest, Caitlin Sigouin, Therapist and Author of the illustrated Children's Book, A Rainbow of Feelings, for part two of our discussion on embracing emotions and empowering parents and children to accept all of their feelings. We discuss parenting through challenging moments, learning how to accept our emotions and gifting children important lessons of listening to their emotions.

You can learn more about Caitlin and her book, A Rainbow of Feelings, releasing May 24, 2024, on her website, www.caitlinsigouin.com

Download your free coloring pages from the book, A Rainbow of Feelings, at www.caitlinsigouin.com

The author hopes you will post your colored pages to Instagram and tag her so that everyone can enjoy your colorful creations!

You can follow Caitlin on Instagram at @caitlinsigouin

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This week on Talks with Dr Shafer meet Special Guest, the Philanthtrotainer and Keynote Speaker, Layne! Layne, also known as the Auctionista, shares their journey of pivoting from a successful financial advisor in Canada to becoming an auctionista, and how they had to challenge the status quo in the Auctioneer world to get to where they are now. They describe attending a charity gala and being intrigued by the auctioneer's role, which led them to pursue a career in auctioneering. Layne faced challenges in a male-dominated industry but stayed true to themselves and developed their own unique style as an auctioneer. They emphasize the importance of entertainment and connection in their work and the impact they have on fundraising events. Layne also discusses the discrimination and microaggressions they have faced as a non-binary individual and their commitment to promoting diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging. Layne, a philanthrotainer and activist, shares their journey of overcoming trauma and finding purpose in philanthropy. They discuss their transition from being an auctioneer to becoming a keynote speaker and educator, focusing on diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging. Layne emphasizes the importance of authenticity, vulnerability, and play in creating a fulfilling life. They also highlight the significance of representation and the power of storytelling in creating empathy and understanding. Layne's mission is to create a more inclusive and kind world. Join us for this fun and informative hour with the amazing Layne!#layne #theauctionista #pridemonth #talkswithdrshafer #representation #play #podcast #diversityContact info: www.LayneOfficial.cominfo@auctionista.caSocial Media Handles:Instagram@theauctionista
Facebook@TheAuctionista
TikTok 
@theauctionistaX@The_Auctionista
Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and create your most beautiful future. 

You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, ⁠www.drshaferstedronova.com⁠, 

and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music. 

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In this week’s Podcast episode, Bring it Back to Your Body, Dr Shafer discusses how we can and must come into our body in the present to move out of being stuck in our past and instead move into acceptance and growth. Only then can we meet the abundance that awaits us once we return to ourselves and our purpose.

On this episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr Shafer is joined by fellow physician Dr. Rachel Beanland, MD. Dr Beanland shares her journey of going into medicine and then realizing that she wanted to make a bigger impact globally. Through exploring mindfulness, yoga, and meditation, she found a way to make changes in her lifestyle and career that aligned with her authentic self. Dr. Beanland emphasizes the importance of self-reflection, questioning, and continuously editing our lives to live authentically and find fulfillment. Dr. Rachel Beanland and Dr. Shafer discuss the importance of activities like yoga and meditation as tools for self-care and resilience. They emphasize the connection between the mind and body and the need to bring mindfulness into daily life. Dr Shafer and Dr Rachel Beanland highlight the importance of starting small and finding simple habits that can be incorporated into daily routines. The conversation emphasizes the power of community and finding spaces where individuals can explore and learn safely. Dr. Beanland shares resources such as the Insight Timer app and her website for those interested in exploring yoga and meditation further.

#drrachelbeanland #authentictea #podcast #talkswithdrshafer #meditation #community #drshaferstedronova #podcast #yoga #recovery #pivot #physician #growth #mindset #femalephysician #storytelling

Thank you to Dr Rachel Beanland for being on the show. You can learn more about Dr Beanland at: 

https://www.resilienceyoga.fr/

Follow the Authentic Tea Podcast here: 

https://podcasts.apple.com/fr/podcast/authentic-tea-the-mindful-doctors-coach/id1547401163?l=en-GB

and on Youtube:

https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLVvs38GuaNxJV5cpHr8UJiFGJJiGESti8&si=kieSnoutskh-i8szSocial Media: 

Instagram @dr_rachelbeanland

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Facebook @rachel.beanland.5

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Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and build your most beautiful future. 

You can learn more about Dr Shafer at

 ⁠⁠⁠www.drshaferstedronova.com⁠⁠⁠, 

and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music.

This episode does not offer individualized medical advice. Opinions discussed are for informational purposes only, and should not be considered medical advice.

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Hot Dogs and Habits

On today's Short Talk on Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr. Shafer discusses the power of habits and the importance of aligning our habits with our values and beliefs. She shares her own experience with changing her diet and how it impacted her overall well-being. Dr. Shafer emphasizes the need to take stock of our habits and make actionable changes to create a life that aligns with our true desires. She encourages listeners to choose ingredients wisely in order to create a fulfilling and meaningful life.

#habits #values #beliefs #diet #talkswithdrshafer #podcast #choices #lifestyle #hotdogs

Takeaways

• Habits can be difficult to break, but it is important to align our habits with our values and beliefs.
• Taking stock of our habits and making actionable changes can lead to a more fulfilling and meaningful life.
• Choosing ingredients wisely in all aspects of life can create a life that aligns with our true desires.
• Creating a life that reflects our values and beliefs requires making choices that prioritize our well-being and growth.

• The Power of Habits
• Taking Stock of Our Habits

• "Habits are like a Trojan horse inserted into your life."
• "Eating the hot dog did not align with her values and beliefs. It was just a habit."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction

01:14 The Power of Habits

05:01 Taking Stock of Our Habits

06:29 Choosing Ingredients Wisely in Life

06:59 Conclusion

We Hope You Enjoy Today’s Inspiring And Informative Episode. Please Like And Subscribe To Get The Next Inspiring, Growth-Focused Episode Of Talks With Dr Shafer, And Comment, Follow And Rate The Podcast To Help Spread Dr Shafer's Message Of Growth, Healing, And Reclaiming Your Story To As Many People As Possible!

Talks With Dr Shafer Is Hosted By Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician And Author Shafer Stedron, MD, Who Is Passionate About Storytelling As A Tool To Help Reclaim Your Story And Create Your Most Beautiful Future. 

You Can Learn More About Dr Shafer On Her Website, ⁠⁠⁠www.drshaferstedronova.com⁠⁠⁠, 

And Follow Talks With Dr Shafer On Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @Talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks With Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, And Apple Music. 

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In cooperation with We Don’t Tell Our Stories (www.wedonttellourstories), this week Dr Shafer discusses the gifts of vulnerability and how our most beautiful memories and beloved stories contain our vulnerable moments, which connect and bond us. #talkswithdrshafer #wedonttellourstories #vulnerability #growthmindset #lifecoach #empowerment

*Disclaimer: Today’s episode discusses Intimate Partner Abuse, Domestic Abuse, Domestic Violence 

On this episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, with your host, Dr Shafer, we welcome special guest, Jennifer C Parker, who worked as a therapist for 35 years and is the author of  Coercive Relationships: Find the Answers You Seek, which she wrote to reach victims and non victims of Intimate Partner Abuse to educate and promote healing. Coercive Relationships was a finalist in the 2022 Next Generation Indie Book Awards.  Since retiring from therapy, Jennifer trains therapists in effective therapy for abuse victims, markets her book and blog, and reaches out to survivors with information on social media. Today, Dr Shafer and Jennifer discuss her concept of the 12 Bricks in the Coercion Wall, the dynamics of Coercive Relationships, and the importance of coming back to yourself and your values to regain autonomy if you recognize that you are experiencing coercive control in your relationships, and how this can be a long and difficult process requiring grace for yourself and your past. We hope you enjoy today’s powerful episode. Please like and subscribe to get the next inspiring, growth-focused episode of Talks with Dr Shafer!

Talks with Dr Shafer listeners can receive a 20% discount with Jennifer’s publisher, Black Rose Writing: https://www.blackrosewriting.com/nonfiction/coerciverelationships

Promo code: CR20 (if used before May 31, 2024) for 20% discount on print book

            For those who prefer Ebooks: Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/ dp/1684336678/

You can learn more about our Guest, Jennifer C Parker, her books and her mission at www.madisonmentalhealthcounselor.com and you can follow her on the following platforms

Blog signup: https://madisonmentalhealthcounselor.com/blog   

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JenniferCParkerMSSW

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenniferc.parker/

 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/jennifer-parker-therapy-training-consultation/

Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and create your most beautiful future. 

You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, ⁠www.drshaferstedronova.com⁠, 

and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music. 

#jennifercparker #talkswithdrshafer #podcast #womensvoices #intimatepartnerabuse #coerciverelationships #therapy #choose you #drshaferstedronova #domesticabuse

Resources:

Jennifer recommends the following resource for physical and emotional safety planning:  https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/comprehensive-guides/a-guide-to-domestic-violence-safety-planning

You are not alone. Help is available.

National Domestic Violence Hotline 

1-800-799-7233

Call 9-1-1 in the case of an Emergency 

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Hi Everyone! And welcome to Talks with Dr. Shafer. I am Dr Shafer, and I am a mom, a physician, a board certified Neurologist, a musician, writer and publisher  on a quest to help others on their journey of growth and improved health through storytelling. I believe in creating safe spaces to share our stories so that we can heal, grow and support one another, and create and environment where there is no need for shame. Where we meet life’s challenges with a focus on the possibilities ahead, and learn to release or work around past limitations. Today, on Talks with Dr. Shafer, I want to talk about something that is so incredibly important for our health and happiness: I want to talk about connection. We are literally wired for connection as human beings. Without it, our physical and our mental health suffers. Loneliness is truly a killer. Connection is a salve for life’s pain and suffering, and disconnection the cause of much of our grief. If you isolate a person, their risk for dementia increases by half. And having poor relationships where you are either alone or lonely is associated in increased risks for stroke and heart disease. We need connections not only for our happiness, but also for our health. . As we connect with others, we need to make sure that we are not disconnecting from ourselves. We cannot only direct our energy outwards searching for the next dopamine hit from a like, from a look, from someone’s passing praise. We cannot continue in relationships or jobs where we have to dissociate from ourselves to remain in that relationship or situation. Sometimes we are so focused on finding external validation and connection, that we become disconnected from who we are. We spend more and more energy trying to form bonds and connections with people and things and activities that don’t serve us. Investing and buying into things that don’t align with our beliefs and values. The more we go step outside of ourselves to support something we don’t believe in, something that goes against who we are, the further we get from ourselves and our truth. The more and more disconnected we become from our true self, the more alone we feel, even when surrounded by people, even when achieving things that someone else may look at with envy or admiration. If we leave ourselves behind, the victory is lonely, no matter who may be standing beside us. Because the one person who was always supposed to be there with us, from our start to our finish, was left behind…

On this episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, with your host, Dr Shafer, we welcome special guest, Terry Tucker. Terry Tucker is a truly inspirational Motivational Speaker, Author of the informative and inspiring book Sustainable Excellence, and founder of Motivational Check LLC.  In this conversation, Terry Tucker and Dr. Shafer discuss the importance of learning from mistakes, developing character and values, and overcoming fear. They emphasize the power of storytelling and the impact that sharing our stories can have on others. Terry shares his experience as a motivational speaker and cancer warrior, and highlights the importance of purpose, service and making a positive impact on others. This episode’s conversation explores the importance of leaning into one's purpose and finding fulfillment through service and connection. Terry discusses the significance of doing something you enjoy and are passionate about in order to sustain excellence, and he introduces the concept of the 40% rule, which emphasizes pushing past your perceived limits and finding strength in difficult times.  You can learn more about Terry Tucker and his mission on his website, www.motivationalcheck.com, and you can follow him on the following platforms: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/terry-tucker-9b5605179/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/motivationalcheck X (Twitter): https://mobile.twitter.com/terrytucker2012 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sustainableexcellenceauthor/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCl2CUA6R1zP2ZcjzhzGKWkQ Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and create your most beautiful future. You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, www.drshaferstedronova.com, and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music.  #terrytucker #talkswithdrshafer #podcast #lifecoach #motivationalcheck #sustainableexcellence #cancer #cancerwarrior #purpose #drshaferstedronova Little House of Dreams Entertainment, 2024.  All Rights Reserved.  Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse 

Trigger Warning: This Episode Contains Discussions About Mental Health Crises and Care, Suicidal Ideation and Suicide. 

On this episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr. Mark Peterson, a retired school administrator and mental health advocate, shares his journey of being diagnosed with major depressive disorder and how it led him to become a mental health advocate and speaker. He emphasizes the importance of being open and vulnerable about mental health struggles and his mission to encourage others to seek help when in need. Dr. Peterson discusses the evolution of inpatient care from the patient perspective and the resources available for those in crisis, such as the 988 crisis hotline and mental health emergency rooms. Dr. Peterson encourages individuals to take action and seek help when needed, without fear or shame.

Resources:

 988lifeline.org

Talk to Someone Now If You Are Thinking About Suicide

Text 988

Call 988

Disaster Distress Helpline

1-800-985-5990

#Talkswithdrshafer #DrMark Perterson #MentalHealth #Medicine #Podcast #Depression #Care  #Mindset #Growth #suicidehotline #988 #gethelpnow

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In today’s episode, Dr Shafer reflects on listening to Taylor Swift’s newest album, The Tortured Poets Department, and on the impactful and vulnerable storytelling gifted by the author. Taylor vulnerably lays bare experiences of love, betrayal, loss, and of becoming aware of the lessons and strength earned by coming through life’s challenges. We hope you enjoy this reflection, and would love to hear your thoughts on The Tortured Poets Department and the art of storytelling through music. Thank you, Taylor Swift! Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Dr Shafer Stedron, MD www.drshaferstedronova.com Little House of Dreams Entertainment, LLC 2024. All Rights Reserved. #talkswithdrshafer #ttpd #thetorturedpoetsdepartment #podcast #thankyou #storytelling

Investing in Healthy Habits: Why Building Self Trust Is Key for Thriving in Challenging Times In this Short Talk on Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr. Shafer emphasizes the importance of health and how it impacts our ability to live in alignment with our purpose. She encourages building healthy habits when we are already healthy, so that we have resilience during difficult times when they come. Dr. Shafer suggests committing to a healthy sleep regimen, positive focus, surrounding ourselves with uplifting individuals, and fueling our bodies with nutritious food as potential investments in our health. Dr Shafer recommends journaling and setting tangible goals to create a structured plan for reaching them as part of a plan for proving to ourselves that we can be the person we dream of being with the right plan in place. Keywords #health #habits #resilience #sleep #positivefocus #nutrition #goals #belief, #selftrust #talkswithdrshafer #lifecoach #podcast #drshaferstedronova Takeaways Health is essential for meeting our functional needs and living in alignment with our purpose. Building healthy habits when we are already healthy helps us develop resilience for difficult times. Committing to a healthy sleep regimen, positive focus, and nutritious food can improve our overall well-being. Journaling and setting tangible goals with actionable steps can help us reach our goals and build self-trust. Titles Building Resilience Through Healthy Habits Setting Tangible Goals and Building Self-Trust Sound Bites "If our physical or mental state is such that we cannot meet our functional needs, we do not have the energy and bandwidth to dedicate to the things that make us feel complete, whole, and that we are living in alignment with our purpose." "We can decide to use our energy to build healthy habits that will carry us through those moments." "One option is to begin to journal, to set down in writing tangible goals, to commit to these one by one, create actionable steps as a part of a structured plan to reach your goals, hold yourself accountable to a timeline that is attainable, and stick with it." We Hope You Enjoy Today’s Episode. Please Like And Subscribe To Get The Next Inspiring, Growth-Focused Episode Of Talks With Dr Shafer, And Comment, Follow And Rate The Podcast To Help Spread Dr Shafer's Message Of Growth, Healing, And Reclaiming Your Story To As Many People As Possible! Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and create your most beautiful future. You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, ⁠⁠www.drshaferstedronova.com⁠⁠, and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music. This episode does not offer individualized medical advice. Opinions discussed are for informational purposes only, and should not be considered medical advice. Little House Of Dreams Entertainment, LLC, 2024. All Rights Reserved. Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse

*Trigger Warning: Domestic Abuse and Domestic Violence are discussed in today's podcast.

Dr. Shafer of Talks with Dr Shafer interviews Faith C. Echo, a survivor of domestic abuse, about her experience and recovery. Faith shares her story of being in a narcissistically abusive relationship for four years and how she eventually escaped. She emphasizes the importance of sharing experiences to help others going through similar situations and finding support from a community of survivors. Faith also discusses the process of healing, including the need to sit with and process emotions, practice self-love and self-care, and find meaning in the experience. She now works as a recovery coach for women who have experienced domestic abuse.

Learn more about author Faith C. Echo and her work, including her book Rising from Ashes: A Testimony of Strength and Survival After Narcissistic Abuse, on her website www.faithcecho.com

If you are in immediate danger, call 9-1-1.

Help is available.

National Domestic Violence Hotline Hours: 24/7.

call 800-799-7233

Thank you to our local Women's Resource Center of Northern Michigan for the amazing and life-saving work you do.

www.wrcnm.org

24 hour Help and Information Hotline: 231-347-0082

To learn how you can help support these services at the Women's Resource Center of Northern Michigan, email info@wrcnm.org

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International Parental Child Abduction: Living Through the Unthinkable and Advocating for Children with with Jeffery Morehouse

On this powerful episode of Talks with Dr Shafer we are joined by Special Guest Jeffery Morehouse, Executive Director of Bring Abducted Children Home. Jeffery Morehouse shares his experience of his son being internationally kidnapped to Japan in 2010 and his advocacy work to help other families in similar situations. Jeffery discusses the challenges he faced in the legal system, and emphasizes the importance of providing resources and guidance to parents dealing with child abduction. He also highlights the misconceptions and lack of understanding surrounding parental child abduction and the impact it has on families. Mr Morehouse emphasizes the need for awareness, legal measures, and support systems to protect children and reunite families. He also discusses the cultural and legal barriers in Japan that contribute to the problem of parental child abduction. Overall, this conversation sheds light on the emotional and legal complexities of international parental child abduction and the ongoing efforts to address this issue, and seeks to provide information for families whose children are either victims or at risk for being victims of international parental child abduction.

#childabduction #internationalkidnapping #advocacy #legalsystem #lawenforcement #resources #guidance #parentalchildabduction #prevention #reunification #support #supportsystems #Japan #hagueconvention #hague #divorce #international #congress #bringabductedchildrenhome #talkswithdrshafer #jefferymorehouse

Thank you to Jeffery Morehouse for being on the show, and for the important advocacy work he does to help Bring Abducted Children Home. 

You can learn more about Mr Morehouse's efforts at

⁠https://www.bachome.org/⁠

You can sign up to be an ally for kidnapped children at 

⁠endchildabduction.org⁠

You can participate in the Back Home Challenge: The Walk for Freedom. Learn more at ⁠bachome.org⁠

Join Jeffery Morehouse at the Congressional Hearing on International Parental Child Abduction in Washington, DC on September 10, 2024 at 14:00 EST at the Rayburn House Office Building, Room 2172

Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and create your most beautiful future. 

You can learn more about Dr Shafer at ⁠⁠⁠www.drshaferstedronova.com⁠⁠⁠

and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music.

This episode does not offer individualized medical advice. Opinions discussed are for informational purposes only, and should not be considered medical advice.

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Talks with Dr Shafer welcomes guest Donna Galanti, Author of the Unicorn Island series, Joshua and the Lightning Road series, and The Element Trilogy and Host of the podcast Your Bounce Back Life to today’s episode. Donna shares her journey as an author and storyteller, which began after her mother's passing, a challenging and pivotal time in her life. She discusses how she found healing and purpose through writing and storytelling. Donna also talks about her newest adventure, her engaging podcast, Your Bounce Back Life, and how it allows her to share her experiences and inspire others. Donna shares her experience as a caregiver for her father, and the challenges and emotions involved in caregiving and finding peace in the process. She shares her toolbox of techniques for navigating challenges, including transcendental meditation, emotional freedom technique (EFT), walking in nature, yoga, exercise, and journaling, as well as the importance of slowing down and enjoying the journey rather than being fixated on the goal. Donna reminds us of the importance of core values, identity, and living in a state of wonder.

You can follow Donna Galanti’s beautiful and inspiring podcast, Your Bounce Back Life, at www.yourbouncebacklife.com, for inspiration and support. 

You can find out more about Donna Galanti the author at www.donnagalanti.com, where you can find her blog, books, and information about upcoming events! 

Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD. Dr Shafer is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and create your most beautiful future.

You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, www.drshaferstedronova.com, and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, Youtube, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music. 

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In this Short Talk on Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr. Shafer discusses self-sabotage and the importance of incorporating self-checks into our routines to help us identify areas where we can create new habits to move us towards our goals to overcome old habits that are not serving our goals. Dr Shafer emphasizes the need to align our daily actions with our long-term goals and shares personal examples of how keeping her environment tidy improves her overall well-being and efficiency. Has your life been improved through changes in your routine to avoid self-sabatoge? Share your life hacks at www.drshaferstedronova.com via contact or in the comments! Keywords #selfsabotage #habits #routines #selfchecks #alignment #environment #mindset #clarity #clutter #lifehacks #talkswithdrshafer Takeaways -Self-sabotage can become a part of our daily routine if we're not mindful of our habits. -Regularly taking stock of our lives and incorporating self-checks can help us stay on track with our long-term goals. -Keeping our environment tidy can improve our overall well-being and efficiency. -Being intentional about improving our systems and routines can lead to a better life experience and more energy to meet our goals. titles -Breaking the Cycle of Self-Sabotage -Aligning Daily Actions with Long-Term Goals Sound Bites "Has self-sabotage become a part of your daily routine?" "Taking stock of our lives with regularity can be a helpful tool to make sure we are doing the necessary calibration." "If I take the time to create a routine where I make sure that the dishwasher is full and running, I do much better than if I let dishes pile up in the sink." Dr Shafer Stedron, MD is a musician turned Neurologist, a mom, a Jay Shetty-Certified Life Coach, an Author, Publisher, and so much more. She is passionate about helping others reclaim their stories and build their most beautiful future, unlocking their fullest potential informed by her background in neurology, psychology, business and entertainment. Dr. Shafer's story is one of triumph, self-awareness, and tireless creation. As she has reclaimed her own story, rebuilding her life after difficult experiences, she launched We Don’t Tell Our Stories, an online community to help people suffering from Domestic Abuse and Intimate Partner Violence. Her love of writing inspired her to launch Little House of Dreams Publishing, a children’s literature publishing house focused on sharing the stories of children. Dr Shafer believes it is never too early to show young people how important their voice truly is, and the power they possess to create a better world. Connect with Dr. Shafer: https://drshaferstedronova.com/ To watch inspiring and informative Talks with Dr Shafer head to her YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TalkswithDrShafer

Prioritizing Fitness and Surviving Cancer: Fitz Koehler Shares Her Fitzness and Health Journey

On this inspiring episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr Shafer welcomes Special Guest Fitz Koehler. The creator of Fitzness, a fitness expert, author, race announcer, speaker and cancer survivor, Fitz Koehler shares her journey of resilience and determination through her cancer diagnosis and treatment while growing her business and traveling across the country to spread her message of strength and the importance of fitness. Fitz emphasizes the importance of finding joy in your work and doing what you love. Fitz discusses how she uses humor and storytelling to captivate audiences in her books, speaking engagements and podcast. Fitz shares her experiences of coping with cancer and the impact it had on her body image. She encourages listeners to embrace their uniqueness and not let others' opinions define them. 

Takeaways

• Maintain a positive attitude and focus on gratitude, even in the face of challenges.
• Prioritize your physical health, as it can greatly impact your ability to endure and recover from difficult situations.
• Do what you can, when you can, and maintain forward momentum.
• Choose joy and actively seek out things that bring you happiness.
• Share your experiences and lessons learned to help and inspire others. Find joy in your work and do what you love.
• Use humor and storytelling to captivate audiences and spread your message.
• Overcome challenges by finding creative solutions.
• Embrace your uniqueness and don't let others' opinions define you.
  

Sound Bites

• "I felt a lump. And that was six weeks after a crystal clear mammogram."
• "I made some damn good decisions and it changed the outcome."
• "I decided if it's not cancer, I'm not going to worry about it."
• "I'm a messenger, you know, that's what I am. I'm a communicator."
• "Find your joy."
• "I am never bored with what I do, ever."

Thank you to our Special Guest, Fitz Koehler, for being on the show and sharing her story of resilience and growth. 

You can learn more about Fitz Koehler at the following links: 

https://www.fitzness.com/blog

https://www.fitzness.com/blog/media-interviews/

https://www.fitzness.com/blog/the-fitzness-show-podcast/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/fitz-koehler/

You can follow Fitz Koehler on Social Media: 

linkedin.com/in/fitz-koehler

https://www.facebook.com/Fitzness

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On this episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr Shafer welcomes Special Guest Dr. Chelsie Rohrscheib, a neuroscientist and sleep expert, to the show. Dr Rohrscheib discusses the importance of sleep and its positive effects on the brain and body, as well as the negative effects of forgoing the necessary amount and quality of sleep. Dr Rohrscheib explains how sleep is an active and dynamic process that repairs the brain and body, releases hormones, and maintains the immune system. Even small amounts of sleep deprivation can have significant negative effects on health and aging. The four stages of sleep and why it is necessary to progress through them is discussed. Sleep aids, alcohol, caffeine, sunlight, exercise and routine are discussed as to how they can affect the quality of sleep. Dr. Chelsie Rohrscheib discusses the challenges of effecting change in daylight savings time and offers tips for managing jet lag. Dr Rohrscheib highlights the need for a holistic approach to sleep disorders, combining therapies like CPAP with behavioral sleep medicine and healthy lifestyle choices, and she recommends resources like the American Academy of Sleep Medicine and the Sleep Foundation for further information.

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Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and create your most beautiful future.

You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, ⁠www.drshaferstedronova.com⁠, and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music.

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On this episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr Shafer welcomes Special Guest Eric Fisher, MS, CCC, author of The Martial Art of Recovery: Self-Mastery Practices to Subdue Addiction and Achieve Mental Wellness and certified counselor specializing in trauma, addiction, depression, and mental health. Eric Fisher shares his journey to becoming a counselor, his experiences with the FBI, and his work in addiction recovery. They also explore the role of shame in addiction and recovery, the importance of self-compassion and self-love, and the use of martial arts and accelerated resolution therapy in trauma healing. Fisher emphasizes the need for curiosity, connection, and prioritizing the self in the recovery process.

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Takeaways:

• Trauma and addiction often go hand in hand, with trauma being a significant factor in the development of addiction.
• Shame and self-criticism can be major barriers to recovery, and cultivating self-compassion and self-love is essential.
• Curiosity and a beginner's mind can help individuals explore their trauma and addiction experiences in a non-judgmental way.
• The use of martial arts and accelerated resolution therapy can be effective tools in trauma healing and addiction recovery.
• Prioritizing the self and connecting with others are crucial for healing and maintaining recovery.

Sound Bites:

• "Shame is often called spiritual suicide."
• "The energy with survival equaling the drug starts to become energy for these different techniques and ways of living."
• "Accelerated resolution therapy changes negative images to positive images in the brain."

Thank you to Eric Fisher, MS, CCC Counseling Therapist, for being on the show!

You can learn more about Eric Fisher on his website

⁠www.recoveryartscounselling.com⁠

Eric Fisher's book is available for purchase at

https://www.amazon.com/Martial-Art-Recovery-Self-Mastery-Practices/dp/1738196216

Follow Eric Fisher on Social Media:

Instagram & Facebook ⁠@recoveryartscounselling⁠

LinkedIn ⁠linkedin.com/in/eric-m-fisher-5b83724a⁠

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You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, ⁠⁠⁠www.drshaferstedronova.com⁠⁠⁠, 

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This episode does not offer individualized medical advice. Opinions discussed are for informational purposes only, and should not be considered medical advice.

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What is the Cost of Not Loving Yourself? on Talks with Dr Shafer. I read something today that posed the question, how much has loving them cost you? My immediate response internally was to reframe that question, to turn it around and ask, How much has not loving yourself cost you? Because, at the heart of it, it wasn’t loving someone else that cost us something. Love is truly free. Love is not predicated on it’s being returned. It is something you gift, without any control over what happens after you feel it or you share it. But when we love, when we share our time and energy, when we open ourselves up and become vulnerable, for that to be a healthy and nourishing endeavor, we must always be simultaneously loving ourselves, and staying true to ourselves. Holding our values, our morals up high, and honoring them, no matter what external forces surround us. It is when, in the pursuit of love or connection, that we set aside our love for ourselves, that we abandon ourselves, that love can cost us. Not because we loved someone else, but because we stopped intentionally treating ourselves in a loving way. I can’t bring the love I seek, if the relationship I model with myself is one of disrespect of my core beliefs and values.

Hi everyone, and welcome to Talks with Dr Shafer. I am a mom, a physician, a board certified Neurologist, a musician, publisher, and creator, on a quest to help others through storytelling. I believe in creating safe spaces to share our stories so that we can heal and grow and support one another, and create an environment where there is no need for shame, but rather a focus on meeting life’s challenges with a focus on the possibilities ahead. This is why I am so excited reading about research in the field of Neuroscience that is confirming what has been believed in the field of Psychology as well, with regards to traumatic memories. Research done at Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai and Yale University, published in Nature Neuroscience November 30, 2023, utilizing imaging studies such as functional MRI and study participants own, real life memories, is showing that in people with PTSD, memories of traumatic events are being accessed in different parts of the brain from memories that are simply sad ones and not traumatic, and that areas of the brain that are associated with our feelings of self are being accessed when the traumatic memories are accessed, rather than the typical location for memories. Is it possible to restore those traumatic memories, minus the negative ideas of self, where they belong where we typically encode our long term memories, in a region of the brain called the hippocampus? And in doing so, can we alleviate the distressing characteristics of recall of traumatic memories, compared to those of sad or other memories stored in the typical fashion in our brains?

On today’s episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, Special Guest Sergeant Major Clint Markland, 24-year career veteran, life coach and co-creator of The Father Forge shares his journey of personal growth and transformation. He shares the inspiration for The Father Forge program that he has created to help other men seeking personal and professional growth. Sergeant Major Markland discusses the importance of being present at home and the challenges of balancing a military career with family life. He emphasizes the need for men who wish to have a meaningful connection with their partner and family to make a choice to be present and engaged at home, and to prioritize their physical and mental well-being. Sergeant Major Markland explains the Father Forge program, which focuses on empowering men to become strong, capable, and authentic fathers and husbands. He also highlights the importance of self-awareness, worthiness, and building a strong support system on the journey to personal and professional fulfillment. 

You can learn more about Sergeant Major Clint Markland and The Father Forge at www.thefatherforge.com. On his website you can find a free resources including The Father Forge. Transformation Guide Ebook and The Man of Steel: The Father Forge’s Ultimate Fitness Playbook.

You can follow Sergeant Major Clint Markland on instagram at @clint.markland, X @ClintMarkland, Facebook @Clint Ray Markland.

Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and create your most beautiful future. You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, www.drshaferstedronova.com, and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music. 

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We only have so much energy. 

A secret of life that we often come to realize midway or closer to the end, is that we get to choose where we direct our energy. 

We have a choice. 

You have a choice. 

I have a choice. 

If you could say one thing to yourself, every day, that could potentially change the outcome of your life, both in small and enormous ways, if you simply believed it to be true, it would be this simple truth:

I have a choice. 

I can choose where I put my energy. I can choose what I believe. I can choose who I align myself with. I can choose where to allow my power to be expended. I can choose to see myself as someone who can’t do it, or to see myself as someone who is learning how to do it. 

I have a choice. 

I can choose. 

What else can be more powerful? 

When we were young, life seemed so open. The options seemingly limitless for many of us, overwhelming to the point that a common sentiment is that of wishing someone would simply tell you what to do. 

But if we subscribe to this, searching for our why and our purpose outside of ourselves, then we only delay our journey to our true purpose. We take on the weight and the consequences of other people’s ideas and intentions for us, mostly serving them and not us. We pick up more and more outside of us, trying harder and harder to find what we are looking for, until the truth becomes glaringly clear. 

We have to shed it all. 

The expectations. 

The labels. 

The shame. 

The guilt. 

The what ifs. 

We have to unpack it all, lay it down, release it, and walk on. Alone with ourselves, in the quiet, listening to only our voice. The one that we had silenced and replaced with every voice and every opinion but our own. 

We have to return to the self. 

In the quiet, in the warm embrace of acceptance of our true self, all of the damage, all of the broken bits and scars, and all of the incredible beauty that we painted over with someone else’s palette. 

When we are there, in our essence, without anything else to hide behind, and we begin to not only accept, but to love and cherish ourselves, there we finally come to the magic of life. 

We truly recognize our worth, our value, our uniqueness, and our purpose. 

And once we do the difficult, painful, and long work of stripping down to who we are, and we see the beauty in every bit of us and recognize our true worth, we know that we will never abandon ourselves every again. 

Thank you for joining me today, and for allowing me to be with you on your journey. Go to www.drshaferstedronova.com for more resources and to connect.

Building Healthy Nutrition Habits for Your Best Life with Megan Lyons

On this informative episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr Shafer is joined by Special Guest Megan Lyons, Functional Nutritionist and Founder of The Lyons’ Share Wellness. Megan Lyons shares her journey of how she became passionate about nutrition and wellness and pivoted from the corporate world to creating a space to teach and assist clients in leading a healthy lifestyle through her work as a Functional Nutritionist, including on her Podcast, Wellness Your Way. Megan emphasizes the need to clarify goals and unravel diet dogma when working with clients. She also highlights the significant impact of sleep on nutrition and provides actionable tips for optimizing sleep. Additionally, Megan explains how chronic stress affects cortisol and insulin levels, leading to blood sugar swings, cravings, and metabolic dysfunction. She also discusses the connection between stress and gut health.

 

Takeaways

• Shift the conversation around food from shame and blame to a more scientific approach
• Clarify goals and unravel diet dogma when working on nutrition and wellness
• Optimize sleep for better nutrition and overall health
• Chronic stress affects cortisol and insulin levels, leading to blood sugar swings and cravings
• Stress impacts gut health and digestion Understanding our food stories and emotional eating can help us make conscious choices about our nutrition.
• Alcohol can negatively impact both sleep and nutritional goals, and it's important to consider healthier alternatives.
• Setting goals and prioritizing fresh, nutritious foods can lead to a healthier relationship with food.
• Equitable access to healthy food is a social equality issue that needs to be addressed.
• Improving nutrition, especially in schools, can have a significant impact on neurological and psychological health

Sound Bites

• "Shift the conversation to a more scientific one and learn how to disengage from limiting beliefs and habits."
• "Clarify goals and unravel diet dogma to make sustainable changes in nutrition."
• "Sleeping with the phone in a different room facilitates mental ease and happiness."
• "Give them the tools they need before the stressor happens."
• "What I want is that metaphorical hug from my mom."
• "Finding out the why, always finding out the why."

Thank You Megan Lyons For Being On The Show!

Learn More About Megan Lyons  on her website,

 www.thelyonsshare.org

On Megan's website, you can find free meal plans, blood sugar tips, and challenges, and sign up for her weekly newsletter with product recommendations, discounts and tips. 

Social Media: 

• Instagram: www.instagram.com/thelyonsshare

You Can Find Megan Lyons' Podcast Here  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wellness-your-way-with-megan-lyons/id1531030448

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Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse

The Awesome in the Silence

In this Short Talk on Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr. Shafer discusses the power of silence and the importance of embracing it. She highlights how silence is often seen as lacking and uncomfortable, leading us to fill the space with unnecessary words. However, she suggests that silence should be seen as an opportunity for growth and learning. By leaning into silence and allowing it to speak, we can discover its gifts and lessons. Dr. Shafer encourages listeners to turn down the noise, embrace silence, and see what happens.

Takeaways:

• Silence is often seen as lacking and uncomfortable, but it should be embraced as an opportunity for growth and learning.
• By leaning into silence and allowing it to speak, we can discover its gifts and lessons.
• Turning down the noise and embracing silence can lead to a deeper understanding of ourselves and the world around us.
• Embracing silence can be awkward, but it is where true growth and awesomeness reside.

• The Awesome in the Silence
• Discovering the Gifts of Silence

• "What if we saw the space as a living, breathing thing, as an opportunity?"
• "Silence is not awkward. It is awesome."
• "Next time silence wants to chime in, let her. See what happens. Let it be awkward. That's where awesome lives."

Chapters

00:00 The Power of Silence

03:15 Embracing Silence

04:27 Discovering the Gifts of Silence

05:23 Embracing Awkwardness

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Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and create your most beautiful future. 

You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, ⁠www.drshaferstedronova.com⁠, 

and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music. 

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Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse