Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You (Cathy Chen)
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| 11 Sep 2023 | Season 3 Trailer | 00:04:20 | |
Welcome back to Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, the season 3 teaser episode! This season is going to be amazing, as we continue to bring you educational, yet entertaining, content. If you’ve got topics you’d like to hear more about, get in contact with us so that we can bring you what you want to hear! Buckle down and get ready for another great season! Key Points From This Episode:
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“Season three is going to be dope!” — Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You [0:01:02]
“This season we are super excited because we are bringing on some of our fancy pants admissions office friends.” — Cathy Chen [0:01:26]
“Let us know what you want to learn more about! If there’s some topic we haven’t covered in our three seasons that you are super curious about — odds are we can talk about or know someone who can talk about it!” — Meredith Herrera [0:03:46]
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| 06 Nov 2024 | Lessons From This Year’s Early College Application Deadlines | 00:41:07 | |
The college application process can be brutal and anxiety-provoking for parents, teenagers, and, in particular, college counselors! In this episode, we reflect on our experiences at the end of this season and even share some advice for parents approaching applications with their teens. In this conversation, you’ll hear all about why college counselors hate November 1st, the debilitating anxiety that teens may face during this time, the different ways they deal with it, and the importance of reading, writing, and communication skills. We even share some advice for parents who are planning for their juniors to apply, why so many kids only start preparing after summer, the importance of being realistic about your kids’ skills and encouraging them to form their own beliefs, and so much more! We go on to talk about what makes for a successful application process, what students who are meeting the deadline and doing well are doing right, the importance of being positive throughout, and when to hold back on feedback as a parent. Finally, we caution parents against hiring multiple college counselors and encourage them to empower their kids to make decisions for themselves and celebrate every single application they send. Thanks for listening in! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 27 Nov 2024 | Purpose-Driven Parenting: Helping Your Teen Find Their Path & Boost Their Well-Being | 00:39:26 | |
Having a sense of purpose has been scientifically proven to increase your overall quality of life! So many college application essays are based on identity and most kids who find writing those essays easier have a sense of purpose already! Today on Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, we are discussing the importance of developing a sense of purpose in teenagers. In this discussion, you’ll hear what purpose actually is, why having purpose is imperative, how you can help kids find their own, and how your own identity as a parent can affect your child’s sense of self. We talk about how your purpose will contribute to your overall wellness before delving into how you can find your purpose by identifying your values and getting out of your comfort zone. We even tell you why creating boundaries can inspire your kids into action! Finally, we encourage you to try a values exercise with your children. Thanks for listening! Key Points From This Episode:
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode: Every Move You Make, I’ll Be Watching You: Why Modeling is Your Parenting Secret Weapon | |||
| 04 May 2022 | Parenting Mistakes | 00:35:31 | |
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith discuss some common parenting missteps, the impact they have on our children and how we can avoid making those same mistakes.
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| 03 Feb 2022 | It’s Happening! Meet Cathy & Meredith | 00:28:17 | |
In the debut episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith share what to expect on the podcast, which will discuss all things teen-related and help you become better parents along the way. They explain why they started this resource that pulls back the curtain on what teens are really thinking and why they chose to work with adolescents.
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| 04 Jan 2023 | Does My Kid Need a Tutor? Answer That Question and More with Expert Tutor, Maya Varga | 00:33:40 | |
Have you thought of hiring a tutor to help your child at school? If you are a parent, this thought has likely crossed your mind. Most students can cope well in a typical classroom situation, but it does not work for everyone, and some students require a more one-on-one approach. Tutoring can help students build essential learning skills, boost confidence, and increase subject comprehension. To help us unpack the benefits of tutoring is the Senior Director at Hayutin Education, Maya Varga. Hayutin Education offers a wide range of professional, research-based, and one-on-one tutoring services to help children reach their full potential. Maya started as a tutor in the entertainment industry and started her own private practice before joining Hayutin Education in 2014. Maya has vast experience in college counseling, homeschool instruction, and executive function skill-building, and specializes in non-traditional education pathways. In this episode, Maya answers all our questions about tutoring. We learn how to assess a student’s inventory of skills, key indicators your child would benefit from tutoring support, tailoring the approach to each student, and the value of building learning capacity. We also discuss what aspects to consider when looking for a tutor, how to tell whether tutoring is working, the value of building momentum, why tutoring does not get results overnight, and the importance of a support network. We also uncover why tutoring is not the silver bullet parents think it is, the benefits of independent learning, why the physical and mental health of a student is vital, and much more! Tune in to discover the power of tutoring with education expert Maya Varga! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 08 Nov 2023 | Think You Have a ‘Lazy’ Kid? Here’s What’s Really Happening | 00:38:47 | |
Ever found yourself putting things off for later, even when you know you shouldn't? Yup, that's procrastination. In today's episode, we break down why all of us, including teenagers, tend to postpone certain tasks, and what can be done to address this. Many people, parents included, often think of procrastination as nothing more than a delay tactic or that it’s simply the result of being lazy or forgetful. But procrastination is far more complex than that. It can be a coping mechanism to help you deal with difficult emotions or avoid the pressure of perfectionism. It can even signal something more serious, like depression or anxiety. But there is hope! Join us today as we lay out actionable strategies; from understanding the heart of procrastination to embracing mindfulness, time-blocking, and crafting procrastination-resistant environments. Remember, change isn't always a straight path, but with commitment and the right tools, you can guide your teen toward a more productive, delay-free life! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 11 Dec 2024 | Mastering Letters of Recommendation: How to Stand Out in College Applications | 00:24:46 | |
Letters of recommendation are so important in college applications, especially in the more selective colleges, and today, we are delving into why they need to be prioritized, the mistakes we see kids make, who to ask for letters, and more. Tuning in, you’ll hear all about the role of letters of recommendation in college applications, the dangers of focusing on the number of letters you have over the quality of them, how it can become the determining factor for whether or not you get into a college, and so much more! We delve into the intricacies of the questionnaire the recommender will have to ask you before discussing the kinds of people teenagers should ask for letters of recommendation from. We even talk about why building relationships with teachers is imperative in building communication skills and how that will help future letters of recommendation and even make learning more fun. Finally, we pinpoint which kids get the best letters of recommendation and explain why they’re always the hardest workers. Thanks for listening! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 11 May 2022 | Let’s Talk About Sex, Babyyyy… | 00:47:39 | |
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith talk with Justine Fonte, intersectional health educator, who holds a Masters in Education and Public Health from Columbia University. They get into some real-talk about what parents may not know (or want to know) about adolescent sexual behavior, how to talk to your child about sex, and when to start having those conversations.
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| 28 Feb 2024 | How Do I Make My Kid More Resilient? | 00:56:08 | |
Kids today, with their readily available smartphones, so easily avoid uncomfortable situations. But if we, as parents, constantly try to “fix” life for them, are we setting them up for a successful life as adults? Today we broach an idea in adolescent development, terminology you might have heard before; Orchid Children or Dandelion Children. These terms are often used to describe the temperaments of certain kids (even though not everyone is squarely an Orchid or a Dandelion). Join the conversation as Meredith and Cathy dive into what is meant by Orchid and Dandelion kids and we share tons of real-life examples of how low-distress tolerance children react to uncomfortable situations. They delve into the parental instinct to “fix” our child’s discomfort, the moral of today’s episode, and how the realness of this topic can have dire consequences in later adolescence and adulthood. Don’t miss out on all the insightful nuggets and practical tips for navigating children with low distress tolerance, on this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You. Thanks for tuning in! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 14 Dec 2022 | How to Work Effectively with Your School’s College Counselor | 00:39:13 | |
After visiting 700 college campuses, it’s safe to say that today’s guest, Diane Campbell, is an expert in this area! The college application and admission process is different to what it used to be, and this requires a mindset shift of the parents who have children in high school. In today’s episode, Diane shares advice on how to navigate college counseling during high school, why it’s never too late to visit a college counselor (yes, even if you’re a senior), her thoughts on IECs, and the dreaded “gap trap.” College applications can be complicated and confusing and as a parent, it’s your responsibility to guide your child while also offering them independence. Tune in today to hear it all from the Director of College Counseling at Liberty Common High School and the founder of Campbell College Consulting.
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| 27 Sep 2023 | What the End of Affirmative Action Means for Everyone | 00:34:53 | |
As we see a lot of things shifting in the world of college admissions, one of the things expected this year was that the Supreme Court would strike down Affirmative Action. We felt this would be an important topic on the podcast and wanted to open up the conversation and share our thoughts and beliefs regarding the decision. Join us as we talk about the definition of Affirmative Action in this context and the current narrative regarding race and elite colleges. We also take a closer look at the recently published study, ‘Diversifying Society’s Leaders? The Determinants and Causal Effects of Admission to Highly Selective Private Colleges.’ With this episode, we want to inspire parents and students to think deeper when it comes to college admissions, emphasize the importance of reaching beyond just getting into college, and encourage them to focus more on diversification. Tune in now, for all this, and more. Key Points From This Episode:
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| 09 Nov 2022 | Test Optional | 00:44:22 | |
There have been a number of important changes to testing regulations for college admissions in the last few years, and it is vital that families know what is expected of applicants with regard to SAT and ACT scores. With the increase in the number of schools that no longer require test scores to be submitted, how valuable is it to test at all? In this episode, we delve into the particulars of this question, as we consider how to maximize your child's resources and avoid any potential penalization. The conversation also covers different strategies for preparing for tests, and some of the best practices for improving scores if you do decide to take the tests. We cover some differences between SATs and ACTs and even consider some of the tutoring services that are available for students for upping their numbers. So to get clear on all of these questions, and make sure your child's application is the strongest it can be, press play!
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| 17 Apr 2024 | Do Colleges Care a Lot About Extracurriculars? | 00:37:33 | |
Parents and teens often put way too much emphasis on extracurriculars for college applications when the truth is, they’re not as important as they’re made out to be! Today we dive into a discussion on whether or not colleges care about extracurriculars. Tuning in, you’ll hear all about the importance of choosing activities based on passion and interest and not for the sake of applications, why unique activities are overrated, why the reason for selecting extracurriculars is more important than what is selected, and the negative effects of selecting curated summer programs for teenagers. We delve into why a college resume is not as important as you may think it is and why your actual transcript is far more important before we discuss anchoring decisions about activities based on values. Finally, we break down some examples of purpose and value-based extracurricular activities teenagers have come up with to inspire you. To hear all of this invaluable advice and wisdom, press play now! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 30 Oct 2024 | Navigating the Party Scene: What Every Parent Should Know | 00:28:15 | |
When it comes to drinking, partying, and substance abuse, there’s a lot of stuff your teenager won’t tell you – but we will! Today, we get into all the challenges that come with teenagers and partying, what to expect as a parent, and how to start discussing these things with your kid before it’s an issue. We break down the types of limitations and rules to put in place while also making sure they feel comfortable calling you if they need help. With drinking at home, we talk about how to model healthy behavior for your kids before discussing supervised drinking, including when you should do it, and when you absolutely should not. Our conversation also gets into the transition to high school, why your kids might suddenly be much more interested in parties, and how to assess when you should allow them to go. Additionally, we cover what to do if you get a call that your kid is wasted, when to have a conversation with them, and what the consequences should be. Tune in to hear the full conversation on teenagers, partying, and how to safely navigate this tricky subject! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 28 Aug 2024 | We're Baaaaack! | 00:06:47 | |
Welcome to Season 4 of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You! Join Cathy and Meredith as they dive into the real conversations and hidden truths of teenage life, bringing you more fresh insights and practical advice to help you navigate the teen years with confidence and understanding. Are you ready for candid discussions, expert tips, and plenty of laughs? Stay tuned for a season packed with stories and strategies (and maybe even some songs) to make parenting your teenager a little bit easier and a whole lot more rewarding! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 11 Oct 2022 | We’re Baaaaaack! | 00:07:03 | |
After some well-deserved R&R this summer, we’re back for our second season! Congrats on making it through the madness that is the beginning of the school year. Now that you've got your pumpkin spice latte in hand, it's time to sit back and enjoy season two of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won't Tell You where we drop more truth bombs, and answer your most pressing questions about the college admissions process and raising teenagers. Tune in to this episode to get a sneak peek at what’s headed your way! | |||
| 10 Jan 2024 | Interview with Village Founder, Cathy Chen: From College Drop-Out to Harvard Grad | 00:37:41 | |
Welcome to another episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You! Today we are doing an exclusive interview with our very own Cathy Chen to get to know her a little bit better. Tuning in, you’ll hear all about her early life as an immigrant, why she wasn’t a ‘good girl’, her college experience, and how her childhood influenced her career choices. We delve into her journey at Menlo before discussing Village Coaches and how it’s changed her life. Cathy tells us the best and worst parts of her job and finally, tells us about her private life and why she thinks she would be a Broadway star in an alternate universe. This episode is fun-filled and entertaining as we get personal with our very own host, so be sure to press play now! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 07 Feb 2024 | How To Have a Productive Conversation About Grades | 00:35:57 | |
Typically, teenagers aren’t always super open, available, or excited to tell you about their report cards. That’s why, in today’s episode, we’re spilling the beans about how you can have a productive, constructive, and empathetic conversation about grades with your teen and help them go from grade-obsessed panic to independently accepting responsibility for their academic performance. Tune in as we discuss the importance of checking in regularly, asking open-ended questions, being curious about your kid’s academic life, getting additional context from their teachers, focusing on performance rather than achievement, and much more! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 20 Nov 2024 | Navigating Teen Love: What Parents Need to Know About Dating, Boundaries, and Healthy Relationships | 00:27:44 | |
When adolescents start dating, it can be far more intense, serious, and potentially unhealthy than parents may be aware of. Today on Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, we are discussing all things teen love and relationships and sharing advice for parents who may not know how to handle it. In this conversation, we dig into why relationship talks with your teen might feel uncomfortable but are crucial to start before the need becomes urgent. We cover what to keep in mind when your child becomes interested in dating, then walk parents through 10 signs of both healthy and unhealthy relationships, discuss how modeling good relationships can impact your kids, go over common mistakes in teen dating, and explain how a strong sense of self can empower teens in their romantic relationships. We also discuss why boundaries are imperative, why you need to meet your child’s boyfriend/girlfriend and their family, and the danger of too much permissiveness. Finally, we touch on the extra layer of complexity LGBTQIA dating adds to teenage relationships. You don’t want to miss this one, so be sure to tune in now! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 25 Oct 2023 | The Secret to Writing a Great Personal Statement | 00:34:49 | |
Navigating the intricacies of crafting the perfect personal statement as a high school senior involves the art of skillfully constructing a narrative that authentically reflects one's individuality, maturity, and readiness for the next educational level. Although it’s much easier said than done! Join us as we delve deeper into the world of personal statement essays! In this episode, Cathy and Meredith explore key strategies for unlocking the secrets to crafting an outstanding personal statement including the challenges it presents, its underlying purpose, setting strong goals, and the significance of understanding what defines you as a student. They discuss some of the most commonly made mistakes, offer pragmatic tips, and debunk the myth about reaching a grand conclusion. They also explore common mistakes well-intentioned parents often make and the no-nos of advice from “people who really don’t know what they are talking about!” For all this and more, start listening now! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 23 Oct 2024 | Bullying in High School: How to Step In, Speak Up, and End the Drama | 00:43:17 | |
Bullying is annoying and damaging, leaving a trail of suffering in its wake; and we hate that. Today, we unwrap bullying from head to toe to bring you helpful information on navigating this complicated situation (and to help you understand just how difficult it is!). We begin with our definition of bullying, how it’s been normalized throughout American culture, troubling statistics that reveal how rampant it truly is, and why we believe that bullying is inherently bad. We explore the importance of having empathy for both bullies and the bullied, how parents and other adults should react when they witness a child being bullied, how parents should support their children after a bullying event, and why we should almost always believe our kids when they say they are being bullied. We end with a reminder to be loving, caring, and understanding when dealing with bullies or kids who have been bullied, and we explore what to do when an adult is the perpetrator. Key Points From This Episode:
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| 17 May 2023 | When Should I Get My Kid a Smartphone? | 00:40:52 | |
Deciding when to grant your child the coveted keys to the digital kingdom is a deeply personal choice influenced by a multitude of factors, ranging from age and maturity level to the unique needs and circumstances of your own family. But how can you determine the right time for your child to step into the realm of smartphones? And if you do take the leap, what rules and boundaries should you establish? In this episode, we delve into the intricate landscape of parental decision-making regarding smartphones. We dissect the ins and outs of parental control mechanisms, explore effective strategies to maintain a healthy balance of freedom and guidance in this digital age, and discuss how to cultivate a broader sense of responsibility. Through insightful research and expert opinions, we shed light on how social connections can flourish beyond the screen, emphasizing the significance of offline interactions and cultivating a well-rounded social foundation. Discover practical tips and actionable strategies to help navigate the smartphone conundrum with confidence, ensuring your child's digital journey is positive and balanced. Tune in now! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 13 Apr 2022 | I’ve Got a Bone to Pick | 00:40:15 | |
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith talk about the culture around college admissions in addition to the independent college counseling scene and what to watch out for.
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| 23 Mar 2022 | Listomania | 00:39:26 | |
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith discuss how to build an effective college list. They also talk about the do’s and don’ts of building a college list and how parents can best support their teen during the college process.
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| 16 Mar 2022 | Motivating Your Teen | 00:39:23 | |
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith talk about motivation or the lack thereof. How does procrastination show up? Cathy and Meredith explore some of the reasons behind procrastination and provide parents with strategies to help manage this issue with their teenagers.
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| 25 Jan 2023 | Our Top Tips For Parenting Teens | 00:33:31 | |
We know how difficult it can be to navigate your highly emotional, sometimes nasty, boundary-testing teenagers and today on Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, we are unpacking the enigma that is parenting teens. In this episode, you will hear our top tips for parenting teens, ranging from finding the balance between giving them independence and still being the parents they so desperately need, to how to handle alcohol and all things taboo. We delve into the dangers of trying to be your child’s friend, why teenagers need very strong boundaries, how to model behavior for them at all times, and why they need you to help them learn how to emotionally regulate. It is in the nature of teenagers to push boundaries and we discuss how being too permissive is problematic before asking you to fact-check your teens when something sounds strange. Finally, we want to remind you to shower your teens with love! To hear all this and more, tune in now! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 22 Feb 2023 | The Secret to Being an A+ Student | 00:39:05 | |
How often do you find yourself thinking of ways to help your teenager get organized, keep their space clean, and have better time management? Cathy Chen and Meredith Herrera are here to offer five key strategies that all teens should use and how you can help them do it. Despite feeling seemingly obvious to adults it is important to emphasize why being organized matters, and Cathy and Meredith give some tips on how to help teens see and understand this. You will hear about all the important times of the day for teens and how to best maximize organization in these times. From using a google calendar, creating a good routine, the importance of consistency, making time real, and buying the real-deal alarm clock, this episode covers it all! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 04 Sep 2024 | How to Prepare Your Middle Schooler for High School | 00:37:14 | |
As children grow and transition from middle school to high school, their world inevitably becomes bigger and more complex. And rightly so! Welcome back to another episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You. Today, we're turning our attention to the ‘littles’, our middle schoolers! Join us as we explore how to best prepare your middle schooler for the journey to high school. We dive into how to best prepare your middle schooler for the journey to high school by exploring two of the biggest transitions: academic and social. We also discuss some of the most common issues freshmen struggle with, the evolving role of parents, and how boundaries begin to shift, along with why it's crucial to create a safe space for your kids to have those confusing conversations with you. Don’t miss out as we cover all this and much more about getting your littles ready for high school. Thanks for listening! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 10 Apr 2024 | What Does Getting "Evaluated" Mean? — With Mark Westerfield | 00:38:19 | |
We are very excited to welcome another guest to the Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You podcast! Joining Cathy and Meredith today is Mark Westerfield, a clinical psychologist who focuses on cognitive, social-emotional, and academic evaluations for children, adolescents, and young adults. He’s here to delve into a conversation about an important topic, psycho-educational assessments; what they are, when they are indicated, and what to do with the results from the assessments. Mark unpacks several aspects of the assessment process, the reasons families would seek these services, and the importance of including children in the process, and shares his expertise on how to work with schools to deliver individualized accommodations and recommendations. He also shares advice on how to deal with parents and students who push back or don’t make use of their accommodations. To hear about all this, and much more, make sure not to miss out on this episode! Thanks for listening. Key Points From This Episode:
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| 09 Oct 2024 | How to Make the Most Out of College Visits at Your High School | 00:30:43 | |
Amid the pile of college applications, seniors are often encouraged to attend rep visits—but what exactly is a rep visit, and why should your child take full advantage of it? In this week’s episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, Cathy and Meredith explore how you and your teen can maximize the benefits of college rep visits at their school. They break down why these visits are important, and what to do (and what to avoid) while attending, and Cathy shares one of the most commonly missed opportunities during rep visits. You’ll also hear about the types of questions students should ask, which ones to skip, and what demonstrated interest is, and how it can sometimes play a role in the admissions process. If your child hasn’t mentioned anything about rep visits at school, be sure to check in with them or reach out to the school for more information. Tune in now for all this, and more! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 01 May 2024 | Is My Teen Addicted to Video Games? | 00:29:58 | |
Are your kids spending more time glued to screens than engaging with the world around them? Do you find yourself wondering if your child's love for video games is crossing the line into addiction? In this episode, hosts Meredith and Cathy delve into the pressing question: Is my teen addicted to video games? They explore the reasons behind the allure of video games and screens, challenge the notion of demonizing all video games, and discuss how certain games can offer benefits in various aspects of life. They highlight how parents can tell when it becomes problematic and share insights into navigating conversations around potentially addictive gaming or screentime behavior. In the end, it all boils down to finding the right balance for your kids and your family, inviting your kids into inquisitive and caring conversations, and reminding them that gaming and screentime are (and should be) considered a privilege and therefore something that can essentially, be taken away. Key Points From This Episode:
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| 08 Jun 2022 | A College Professor Shares His Best Practices For College Freshman | 01:06:07 | |
In the season finale episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith speak with special guest, Dr. Albert Herrera, professor of Biological Sciences at USC (and Meredith’s dad!). They break down the big differences between academic life during high school and what academic life looks like in college. Dr. Herrera also discusses the importance of time management in college, as well as other aspects of maturity that will help students navigate during their college years.
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| 13 Mar 2024 | Interview with Psychotherapist, Rebecca Li: A Parent’s Guide to Teen Therapy | 00:38:50 | |
Are you curious about seeking mental health support for your teen but worried about the stigma? Here’s what you need to know! Therapy or counseling can support adolescents through a variety of life events, important self-discovery moments, school-related stress, and mental health issues like anxiety and depression. It can also be used to prevent minor (and totally normal) issues from turning into problems later on. To help us dispel some of the common misconceptions about therapy and gain some insight into its measurable benefits, we are joined by Rebecca Li, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. In this episode, you’ll learn more about Rebecca’s methodology, hear her advice for skeptical parents, and discover valuable resources that you can lean on to help you make an informed decision about whether or not therapy is the right choice for your family. Tune in for all this and much more! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 13 Dec 2023 | Interview with Jon Burdick, Vice Provost for Enrollment at Cornell University | 00:36:23 | |
Have you ever wondered how to make your character stand out to impress those highly selective institutions? The answer may surprise you - it's all about being effortlessly yourself. Joining us on the show today is Jon Burdick, a good friend and former colleague with an impressive track record, including positions as Vice Provost and Dean of Admissions and Financial Aid at the University of Rochester and, more recently, as Vice Provost for Enrollment at Cornell University. Tune in to hear Jon's insights on admissions trends, understanding 'highly rejective' schools, and his advice for those considering highly selective institutions like Cornell. He stresses the point of understanding your why and provides valuable insights on school rankings. We then dive into a discussion on character and its role in the admissions process, and he highlights why it's crucial to show integrity (and how easy it is to spot disingenuous line items on applications!) He continues to share his thoughts on AI tools and other tools he’d like to see schools leverage. Be sure not to miss out on this insightful conversation with an admissions professional, so start listening now! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 18 Sep 2024 | A Sh**ty Life Update From Cathy | 00:34:39 | |
Today’s episode is about perseverance, resilience, and letting go of the things we can’t control. Earlier this year, Cathy received news that the lump she found on her body was indeed malignant, but the most important thing is everything she did after receiving the news. In today’s conversation, we learn about Cathy’s diagnosis and how she processed this revelation before exploring how Meredith came to terms with the news. We discover why and how Cathy’s plight fits perfectly with the themes of this podcast, how she’s maintained an optimistic outlook throughout her journey, how you can build a similar mindset of positivity, the keys to harnessing resilience, and the value of community in helping you overcome life’s struggles. To end, we unpack the dangers of toxic positivity, and Cathy shares her final words of gratitude – yes, you heard right, gratitude! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 01 Mar 2023 | College Counseling 201: Stuff Your School Doesn’t Always Tell You | 00:26:51 | |
College counseling and the college process can be daunting as a parent to a teenager. So what are the things you need to know as you begin to prepare to send your kid off to college? In this episode, we dive into what you won’t get in your hour-long junior college counseling meeting! Cathy and Meredith take us through the importance of being well-versed in context. How context plays a role in the college selection and admissions process and why you need to take both the volume of applicants and the competitive nature of admissions into account. We drop some truth bombs, talk about different admission software, and take a dip into course selection and extracurricular truths. This episode is jam-packed, so buckle up! It’s also so important to take heart, and recognize that there are thousands of four-year institutions in this country at different levels of selectivity and that you need to fit your kid into where they will be successful — where they feel they can thrive academically, emotionally, and socially. Don’t forget that there are a lot of really wonderful options out there! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 27 Mar 2024 | Wait. How Many APs Does My Kid Need to Take?? | 00:25:45 | |
We have a timely, but great, episode topic for listeners today! Course sign-ups. Everyone is gathering information, course catalogs are out, kids are having meetings with their counselors, and all this brought up a very interesting point of discussion. How to talk about rigor, as it pertains to the college admissions process. Join the conversation as Cathy and Meredith dive deep into how they approach the conversation about rigor, why colleges care about it, and their thoughts on the reality of taking “the most rigorous curriculum” at school. They answer a commonly asked question, share guidance on how to support a child who wishes to pursue a more rigorous curriculum, and explain why playing the game ultimately comes down to a choice. Through this conversation, Cathy and Meredith aim to clarify how broad rigor can look for students all over the country, to help parents realize that there is indeed a range of rigor, and that the rigor conversation can be hard for both parents and students to swallow. Cathy and Meredith (like all parents for their kids) truly want kids to have all the options, but unfortunately, that’s not the world and how it works these days. Stick around to hear their insightful thoughts on this topic on another episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 21 Dec 2022 | Early Decisions Just Came Out, What Now? | 00:34:49 | |
It’s nearing the time when students start to hear back from early decision (ED) and early action (EA) schools. In this timely episode, we’re covering the ins and outs of the ED/EA admissions process from the expected timeline for hearing back from schools to the appropriate actions for each potential outcome. We delve into the pros of early action schools and the cons of the third less common early admission option: restrictive/single choice early action. You’ll discover all the potential outcomes and what to do (and not to do) in the case of each outcome. If your child is a senior in the early decision/ early action process, you’ve come to the right place. Tune in for advice and action items you can put in place to keep calm in this stressful time. Key Points From This Episode:
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| 10 May 2023 | Reflections On This Year’s Admissions Cycle | 00:32:12 | |
If it were just that simple — ticking the boxes and doing “the right things” — we would package it up and sell it (for a helluva lot of money). But it’s not. To be a competitive option for college admissions, your kids must do the hard stuff, get out of their comfort zone, develop themselves personally, and do difficult things (things they don’t necessarily want to do!) Today we eagerly share our thoughts and reflections on the 2022 admissions cycle. We won’t be offering facts and figures, instead, we offer you what we saw with the group of students, and their families, that we worked with this year last year. We touch on trends, themes, and takeaways that continue to be true. Join us as we get into it.
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| 09 Feb 2022 | Interview with a Stanford Admission Officer | 00:54:56 | |
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenager Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith speak with Yamilet Medina López, Assistant Dean of Admission for Diversity Outreach and External Relations, about the admission process. Yamilet discusses how she helps parents understand the process and how parents can best support their students. She also shares what makes a strong application.
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| 29 Nov 2023 | Interview With Former Student, Maya Donato On Her Unconventional Path To Success | 00:40:55 | |
Sometimes it is very difficult for parents to understand the experiences and emotions of their teenagers and it’s almost as if they have forgotten what it’s like to be a teen. Today’s guest is quite close to her teenage experience and has created an incredible mentorship program to help teenage girls through their own adolescent years. She also happens to be a past student of Cathy’s! Maya Donato joins us to discuss her unconventional college experience, feelings of not fitting in socially and how to combat them, and the importance of practicing self-love. We talk about the benefits of giving teens a degree of experience before discussing how to cultivate gratitude and positive thinking into teenagers’ lives. Finally, Maya shares some invaluable advice about cutting out negative self-talk and developing a good relationship with yourself in order to be happy. You don’t want to miss out on this truly inspirational conversation so tune in now! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 24 Jan 2024 | How to Pick a College Major Wisely | 00:30:36 | |
Embarking on the journey of higher education often begins with a pivotal decision: choosing a college major. Choosing a college major wisely is crucial because it sets the foundation for your academic journey and, to an extent, your professional path. Making a thoughtful choice can align your studies with your interests, skills, and career aspirations, increasing the likelihood of satisfaction and success in your future endeavors. It can also be a stressful time for parents who often worry about their child's future, but fear not, we are here to help! In this episode, we delve into selecting a major that aligns with your passions, skills, and future aspirations. We discuss how to uncover your passion, what majors should be avoided, and common mistakes students when picking majors. Discover why it's okay not to have a clear-cut career path before stepping into college and the benefits of cultivating broad interests beforehand. We also unpack the pitfalls of prioritizing monetary gain over passion, the risks of choosing high-demand majors for the wrong reasons, effective approaches for students to explore the diversity of available majors, changing majors during college, and much more! Join us as we navigate the complexities of selecting a college major and how to empower students and parents in this crucial decision-making process. Tune in now! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 05 Apr 2023 | What’s the College Admissions Process Like For a Parent? | 00:36:42 | |
College admissions are right around the corner, so today we have invited a special guest (and one of our favorite parents) to talk about her experience of supporting her kids through the process. Margot has a daughter who is happily attending college after much anxiety, and a son who is in the thick of the admissions process. In this episode, she compares her two children’s respective college processes and shares advice for parenting two drastically different individuals. We talk about how one’s college process does not define them and how to gently impart that belief system to high-achieving kids. Margot opens up about how she supports her kids through hardships and disappointments and shares her profound takeaways from her daughter’s admissions process about our societal career trajectory as a whole. Tune in to find out, from a parent’s perspective, how (and why) to demonstrate confidence in your kid, and where the focus should lie ahead of college decisions. Key Points From This Episode:
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| 02 Feb 2022 | A Teenager’s Mind Embarking on the College Admission Process | 00:39:46 | |
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith speak with Sophie Taubman, a current freshman at Wesleyan University. Sophie takes you into the mind of a teenager embarking on the college admissions process. She shares what she was feeling through the process and the advice she would give to the senior version of herself. She also shares her advice to parents.
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| 08 Mar 2023 | Why is My Teen Mean To Me | 00:28:14 | |
The teenage years are a turbulent time defined by a need to test boundaries and establish an identity. And this can get pretty messy at times. Most parents of teenagers will know that they can often become snarky, mean, or even hostile. But sometimes it can be difficult to tell whether their behavior is normal, and when there should be cause for concern. Today on the show, we talk about the many ways that teenagers can be mean, the myriad of reasons behind this behavior, and how to deal with these situations as a parent. We discuss the importance of standing up for yourself, how your actions (and reactions) model behavior for your child, and how to de-escalate a tense situation and return to it when at a more neutral time. Our conversation also covers how you might be hurt by your child’s words and actions, the importance of being vulnerable with adolescents, and how to teach your child that apologizing does not absolve them of consequences. Today’s episode is filled with helpful insights on a complicated subject, and there is no shortage of funny anecdotes and heartfelt reminders that you are not alone in this! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 11 Dec 2024 | The Real Talk on Teen Substance Use: Bella’s Story and What Parents Need to Know | 00:36:13 | |
Have you equipped your teen to make informed choices about substance use? During this episode, Bella, a Senior at a Boarding School back East, joins us to share the inside scoop of what’s really going on at teen parties. Since the start of her high school career, she has been involved in advocating for teens with substance abuse issues. Join us for a look behind the scenes at what motivates kids to use substances at a young age including social pressure and the problem of mental health. We discuss the age-old belief that it’s safer to allow your kids to drink at home, and Bella offers her perspective on how easy it is for adults to tell if a young person is abusing substances. You’ll also hear about the level of access that suburban teens have to illegal substances, and Bella’s opinion on what it might look like to nurture an open and honest relationship with your child from a young age. This conversation also emphasizes the importance of educating your kids rather than punishing them. Thanks for tuning in. | |||
| 15 Mar 2023 | Things That Make Us Go EW | 00:30:42 | |
In the world of college admissions, there are countless things that make us go “ew” and today, we want to share them with you! We don’t want your kid to fall prey to same-kid syndrome and have admissions counselors rolling their eyes at their resume. In this episode, we share our views on service trips abroad, expensive leadership programs, internships, research programs, and more. We share examples of true value add experiences and the circumstances that warrant an exception to our stance on the above-mentioned endeavors. Tune in as we unpack our admissions-related aversions, and find out how your kid can make an impression as a happy consequence of pursuing meaningful experiences! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 18 Oct 2023 | College Admissions Insider Interview with Tim Brunold, Dean of Admissions USC | 00:42:34 | |
It’s often said that getting into college is simply the luck of the draw, totally random, and unpredictable. But today’s guest firmly believes it’s anything but that. He sees it as both an art and a science, a meticulous process that demands care, thought, and effort. We’re back for a very special episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You! We’re thrilled to have an amazing admissions professional and an even more amazing friend, Tim Brunold! He is currently the Dean of Admission at USC and an enrollment specialist, here today to share his wisdom and insights into the world of college admissions from both perspectives – an admissions professional and parent of a college-ready kid. Join the conversation to hear more from Tim as he explains enrollment management and the science of it. He talks about numbers, volume, and the sense of the scale of applications, and why there’s no such thing as a universally acceptable college student! He highlights the goal of most colleges to create a well-rounded class versus well-rounded individuals, and elaborates on why families should have confidence in admissions offices. We deep dive into a discussion about character and the role it plays in the process, how they navigate the issue of character measuring, and the clues they look for. Be sure not to miss out on all this, and so much more! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 18 May 2022 | Positive Psychology | 00:41:00 | |
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith talk about positive psychology. What it is, how it can be used to promote well being in your life and the lives of your children. They also discuss the importance of community, attuning to your character strengths, figuring out what your values are and finding yourself in a state of flow.
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| 17 Jan 2024 | How Do I Prepare My Kid for College Admissions? | 00:42:29 | |
The college admissions process can be intimidating for even the brightest of students. And, as a parent, you might be wondering how you can help your child prepare for this important chapter. That’s where we come in! We use today’s conversation to get into three key qualities that will help teens take on the college admissions process with confidence, ease, and even excitement! Tuning in you’ll learn why these characteristics are so helpful within the admissions process, how you can foster these qualities within your children, and why it’s never too early (or too late) to start. Discover the immense value of self-awareness, how a healthy reading habit can encourage critical thinking, methods for inspiring intellectual curiosity in your kids, and much more! Don't miss out — equip your child for a brighter academic future today! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 20 Apr 2022 | Mental Health Red Flags | 00:48:14 | |
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith interview Cristina Perez, Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Clinical Instructor of the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Keck School of Medicine of USC. They discuss mental health red flags, how to approach mental health concerns with your teen, when and how you can intervene, and support resources that parents can be aware of and discuss with their teens. There is so much packed into this episode, you don’t want to miss it!
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| 16 Oct 2024 | Every Move You Make, I’ll Be Watching You: Why Modeling is Your Parenting Secret Weapon | 00:32:16 | |
Today, we’re talking about modeling, and we don’t mean striking poses on the catwalk! Whether we intend to or not, we all end up looking to our parents as role models. In this episode, we explore the vital role of parent modeling in helping teens develop essential life skills. From effective communication and stress management to embracing new challenges, demonstrating the value of hard work, showcasing healthy relationships, and more, we reveal how you can lead by example rather than nagging or seeking to control your teens’ behavior. Get ready for a fun and insightful conversation full of practical tips to empower you to be the role model your teens need as they navigate these formative (and occasionally maddening) years! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 14 Feb 2024 | What is Teen Life Coaching? | 00:53:29 | |
Teen coaching is about helping teenagers with academics, college, self-esteem, self-awareness, and so much more! It’s basically all about coaching them in life! Today we are peeling back the layers of what we do every day and explaining all things teenage life coaching to you. Listening in, you’ll hear what teen life coaching actually is, why we got into it and why Cathy started Village Coaches, how we approach our work, the importance of trust, rapport, and respect, and much more! We then discuss the most common topics we discuss in coaching sessions before we talk about why coaching isn’t right for every kid and what we do not do in sessions. We even delve into some examples of how we build relationships with our clients. Finally, we share how vulnerable we get with teens in our coaching sessions and how that builds rapport. To hear all this and so much more, press play now! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 11 Oct 2023 | Roadmap to College | 00:39:12 | |
Our biggest advice for kids approaching college is simple: You’re going to be fine! This episode talks about the process of preparing for college. We’ve found that it’s predictable and routine and you can know it all in advance! Tune in today to hear our thoughts on the college preparation experience starting with Ninth Grade. We discuss the major shifts that often happen during Tenth Grade and what to bear in mind as a parent before exploring the test preparation process in Sophomore Year. It can be hard to determine what colleges care about and we aim to enlighten listeners on some of the process and how best to support your kids with decision-making along the way. Senior Year is the time to prioritize applications and this episode covers how to approach the lead-up to this pivotal year and how a counselor can support kids every step of the way. Rest assured, there are plenty of bases you can cover if you stay informed and get organized. Tune in today to hear some essential tips on how to do exactly that. Key Points From This Episode:
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| 06 Mar 2024 | It’s Meredith’s Turn! Insights From Our Resident Teen Whisperer | 00:27:30 | |
Today on Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, we are chatting to one of our hosts, Meredith Herrera about her life and career so our listeners can better get to know her. Tuning in, you’ll hear all about what drew Meredith to education, almost working for the Secret Service, the school administrative roles she’s had throughout her career, and more! We delve into why Meredith doesn’t actually find teenagers exhausting and what she loves about working with them before discussing what teens need from the adults around them. Finally, Meredith tells us what she would be doing if she weren’t an educator. To hear all this and so much more, press play now! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 11 Sep 2024 | How to Write a Kick-Ass Supplemental Essay That Will Make Admissions Say 'Wow!' | 00:42:52 | |
It’s mid-August, and college application deadlines are fast approaching. So, get ready for more 'college stuff' as we dive into how to write kick-ass supplemental essays that will make you stand out to admissions! In today’s world, most schools require at least two to three different supplements with their application, and highly selective schools often ask for even more. Join Cathy and Meredith as they share their insights on all things college supplements, including why colleges ask for them and why you need to take them seriously. They’ll explore different themes and templates, discuss how supplements can reveal what a college truly values, and guide listeners through a few key essay questions. Be sure to tune in for all this and more! And remember, make sure your kids don’t phone it in because admissions officers can tell! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 09 Mar 2022 | Summer Planning | 00:38:17 | |
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith discuss summer planning. How should your child approach their summer? Should they double down on academics? Should they ‘round’ out their resume? Cathy and Meredith share some tried and true answers to the most common questions about summer planning.
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| 02 Oct 2024 | The Role of Parents in the College Admissions Process | 00:41:57 | |
Parenting is incredibly difficult and stressful as it is, but when you add the college admissions process, that stress multiplies! So how can we help you find the best way to help your child through this process? Today on the show, we are discussing the role of parents in the college admissions process. Tuning in, you’ll hear about the danger of controlling your kids and trying to get too involved in this experience, why parents often have a dated outlook on colleges, and the importance of reminding your child that you will be proud of them regardless of the college they go to because their success and worthiness is not defined by the college they go to. We delve into how you can support your child through this process before discussing how parents can manage their anxiety to protect their children from potential damage. Hear about how your approach to this process can make or break the experience for your child, be reminded to meet your kid where they are and bring humility into this process by accepting that there are people who know what they’re talking about and can help your child. Finally, we urge you to recognize the impact you will have on this process for your child. The children who have the most positive experiences can largely attribute that to the role their parents take on in this process. Thank you for listening to another episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You!
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| 13 Nov 2024 | More Ways Independent College Counselors Annoy Us | 00:31:25 | |
So many parents and teenagers fall into the traps independent college counselors set to sell their business as a foolproof way to get into good colleges. Today on Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, we are here to discuss why that simply isn’t possible! There are no guarantees when it comes to college applications and focusing on what you think colleges may want instead of placing emphasis on the individual and what is best for them is hugely problematic. In this conversation, you’ll hear all about what irritates us about independent college counselors, what is missing in the college admission profession, and how we do things differently. We break down some of the problematic messaging these companies use before reminding listeners that families and teenagers have a choice when it comes to how they handle the college admissions process. We also discuss why candidacy building and having an application persona is simply marketing. Finally, we stress the importance of values and authenticity when helping adolescents develop into their adult selves. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe to hear more!
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| 06 Apr 2022 | Listomania, Part 2 | 00:35:12 | |
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith get into the mechanics of building a college list. They breakdown what a reach, target and likely are, as well as covering some of the do’s and don’ts to keep in mind when building a college list.
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| 12 Apr 2023 | Am I Putting Too Much Pressure On My Kid? | 00:50:27 | |
Buckle up people, we’ve got another exciting episode for you! Today, we are talking about pressure versus expectation. A question often brought up by parents in our coaching sessions is, “Am I putting too much pressure on my kid?” Join us as we dive into a discussion about the tension between applying pressure versus expectation, and what that looks like. We go through a few real-life scenarios of parents and children and talk about some important points behind the motivation of the pressure. Then, we delve into the importance of encouragement and setting healthy expectations, how it may actually be beneficial to your kid, and why it’s important that parents incorporate mindfulness, self-reflection, and revisiting in their parenting. If you want to learn more about whether it’s a lack of your child’s willpower or maybe some deeper issues, tune in for some great advice. And remember, be easy and gentle with yourselves, parents, as you walk the tightrope between pressure and healthy expectations, and remember, it’s okay to make mistakes.
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| 30 Nov 2022 | Is it better to get an A in ‘regular’ class or B in an AP Class? | 00:29:19 | |
Welcome to a brand new season of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You! We’ve been thinking about how we can make the SYTWTY Podcast more relevant and valuable to parents, which is why, in season two, we’re taking a look at our FAQs. Today, we attempt to answer an age-old question that we commonly receive from parents and students alike: is it better to get an A in a ‘regular’ class or a B in an AP/Honors class? The TL;DR answer may seem obvious (objectively, AP classes are better), but there are a number of factors that you need to evaluate when it comes to course selection, the college admissions process, and how it can impact a student’s self-worth. Tune in today as we give this FAQ the nuanced consideration it deserves!
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| 16 Nov 2022 | From Anxious Teen to Successful Adult: One of Our Former Students Shares Her Journey | 00:36:47 | |
When you grow up with social media, it can intensify some of the most overpowering feelings you experience during adolescence, especially when it comes to comparing yourself to others, or feeling like you’re constantly being watched. While our guest may not have grown up with Instagram, her High School years saw the introduction of Facebook which undoubtedly heightened feelings of anxiety and comparison. Today on the show we talk with the wonderful Zoë Björnson, whose life and career we’ve been following with great interest since we first met her as a teenager over a decade ago. Tuning in you’ll learn about Zoë’s experience of High School and adolescence, her natural sense of curiosity, and how having a growth mindset has shaped her life. In our conversation, Zoë discusses the periods of anxiety and depression she has experienced, why she was not as chill as she seemed in High School, and the advice that she would love to offer her younger, adolescent self, to guide her towards greater self-acceptance. You’ll also learn about the company Quilt, where Zoë currently works, a uniquely kind space on the internet, where you can be yourself (plus it’s audio-only, so you don’t have to worry about how you look all the time!). We had such an amazing time catching up with Zoë and loved hearing her thoughtful insights on transitioning from adolescence to young adulthood. We hope you’ll join us for this inspiring conversation with one of our favorite people, Zoë Björnson!
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| 02 Nov 2022 | What is the College Admissions Process Really Measuring | 00:33:14 | |
In today's conversation, we share some insights into what colleges are really looking for when assessing applications. While there are both quantitative and qualitative aspects to their measurements, we find that families who are applying can tend to overlook certain important areas that can make all the difference to the success of an application. We go into some detail about the vital ideas of maturity, self-awareness, and self-actualization, and how these can be demonstrated to an admissions board. A helpful idea to keep in mind is that colleges are effectively looking to admit young adults who have taken initiative in their lives and show a level of emotional maturity. Other aspects that we cover in the discussion include the consequences of the choices we make as parents, why letting our children fail is an important piece of the puzzle, the different kinds of support we can offer, and how to exercise our own forms of self-care while helping our children. So join us to catch it all, today!
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| 22 May 2024 | Exploring the Potential of Gap Years | 00:24:30 | |
It’s May, so our seniors are heading off to college! And as the sun sets on high school, fatigue, burnout, or even simple wanderlust may lead many to explore the option of a gap year. Welcome back to Shit Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You as today, we explore the highs and lows of taking a year’s break between high school and college. After explaining why we chose today’s topic, we learn about the reasons for wanting to pursue a gap year, the first steps toward taking a gap year, the dangers of taking leave to improve your academic record, and our guidelines and best practices to carry you forward during your year off. We also dive deeper into exploring the value of a gap year, gap year pre-package programs, the power of intention, and how a gap year can also be a way for you to take the time to focus on your mental health. Key Points From This Episode:
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| 24 Apr 2024 | What Does a College Counselor Do? | 00:36:53 | |
College counseling can become a really tedious process that is often treated as a ‘one-size-fits-all’ blueprint model. At Village Coaches, we prefer to place emphasis on helping teenagers build important skills that they will use for life and figure out who they are while doing college counseling. In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, we are breaking down what college counselors do, why our model is different from the norm, how meeting with students every week assists the process, and when the best time is to start college coaching. At Village, we don’t offer a generic model for every single student and instead, we help our kids thrive and learn about themselves while building skills they will use in college and beyond. For us, it’s about the long game and college counseling is just one of the many times your kids will encounter uncertainty and challenges. We even discuss why our students come to discuss college issues with us once they have already transitioned from high school. Lastly, we remind you that teenagers are smarter than we think and know themselves more than we give them credit for. You don’t want to miss this one so tune in now!
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| 06 Dec 2023 | Is Greek Life Right For My Child? | 00:33:39 | |
Have you ever wondered what happens behind fraternities and sororities’ closed doors on college campuses? Is your child interested in participating in Greek life but you are not sure if it is the right fit for them? In this episode, we delve into the heart of fraternity and sorority life, exploring what it means to be part of a Greek organization, the pros and cons of joining, and the unique experiences it offers. From the camaraderie and networking opportunities to the controversies and misconceptions, we lay it all out for you, helping you decide whether Greek life is right for your child. Gain insights into the aspects your child needs to be aware of before joining, the mysterious rush process, the responsibilities that come with pledging, and much more. Whether you're a curious student, a concerned parent, or simply an intrigued listener, we offer valuable advice to help you make the right decision for your child. To uncover the secrets of this fundamental aspect of the college experience, tune in now! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 20 Mar 2024 | What Is An Admissions Hook? | 00:28:06 | |
Get ready for a juicy and salacious topic in this week’s episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You! Join Cathy and Meredith as they dive into the concept of 'hooks' in the college admission process. They explore what hooks are and discuss the various types, including the nuanced world of athletic recruitment, the use of arts, what advancement is (and is not), and the reality of letters from trustees. Cathy shares a concrete example demonstrating the effectiveness of a true hook, and they leave the audience with a necessary truth about highly selective admission in the United States! Don’t miss out on this real and insightful episode. Thanks for tuning in! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 29 May 2024 | Conquering Senioritis: How to Overcome and Defeat High School Burnout | 00:30:02 | |
As the end of senior year approaches, a widespread affliction known as senioritis begins to affect many American high school students. In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, we explore how to recognize telltale symptoms of the “itis,” address some of its more serious consequences, and offer practical advice for encouraging seniors to make wise choices, even as their motivation wanes. We also share strategies for striking the right balance between letting teens enjoy all the fun and excitement of senior year while emphasizing the importance of a strong academic finish. Tune in today for your comprehensive guide to conquering senioritis, overcoming high school burnout, and ensuring your teen’s success!
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| 08 Feb 2023 | Is Private School or Public School Better? | 00:30:49 | |
Choosing a school for your child can be an incredibly challenging decision to make. One of the top questions we receive is whether or not we would send our own children to the schools we have worked at. We spend today’s episode unpacking the considerations we deem most important when searching for the right fit for your child and how to tackle this weighty decision. We share some of the lessons we’ve learned from our professional experiences, and anchor our conversation in the guiding question of what you value most. Tune in to hear our thoughts on how to get the right support for your child’s development based on who you want to see them become. Thanks for listening! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 07 Dec 2022 | Want to cut college tuition in half? How about college in Ireland? | 00:43:28 | |
A college education is the foundation for success and is essential to start the life you want. However, the costs associated with acquiring quality qualifications exclude many from pursuing their ambitions. What if there was a more affordable solution? In today’s episode, we speak to Niamh Kavanagh about the benefits of studying in Ireland and why it should be a consideration for any student wanting to pursue a college degree. Niamh is an International Recruitment Officer and Regional Manager of North & South America at the University of Limerick. She has worked on various national and international marketing campaigns and managed projects in countries around the world, affording her the experience and skills needed to be a success as an international recruiter. In our conversation, we discuss the benefits of studying in Ireland and what students can expect from attending an Irish university. We learn about the main differences between Irish and American universities, the culture shock many international students experience, and the benefits of the compulsory work experience required by Irish universities. Niamh also provides insight into common character traits of potential students and details the support system Limerick University offers for international students. Join us to discover the benefits of studying in Ireland and how to make it happen with special guest, Niamh Kavanagh!
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| 04 Oct 2023 | Am I Making Too Many Decisions For My Teen? | 00:35:31 | |
Giving teenagers the power to make decisions about their own lives can be terrifying, but it is an essential part of growing up. In today’s episode, we are talking all about agency and how we can empower our children to learn how to make reflective, good choices. Tuning in, you’ll hear about why this is so important, how to guide our teens in decisions about their academic journeys, the dangers of forcing them into things, how to help them recover from a series of bad choices, when they shouldn’t be in charge, and so much more. We even delve into how our actions of love may actually be inhibiting our children’s growth before discussing the big impacts of agency in our kids’ lives. So to hear all this and be inspired to raise more thoughtful people, press play now! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 26 Oct 2022 | Raising Body Positive Teens | 00:39:40 | |
What better way to kick off Season 2 AND National Body Acceptance Week than an episode on raising body-positive teens? In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith sit down with Wendy Sterling to discuss how diet and nutrition are central to raising healthy teens. Wendy is a Certified Eating Disorder Registered Dietitian and Approved Supervisor through the International Eating Association of Eating Disorder Professionals, and Board Certified Specialist in Sports Dietetics in the Bay Area in California. This episode offers a wealth of information to listeners who are interested in learning more about disordered eating, body image, relationship with food, and nutritional needs during adolescence. TIMESTAMPS
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| 15 Nov 2023 | To transfer or not to transfer? That is the question. | 00:35:16 | |
Is your child contemplating the big leap of transferring colleges? And are you unsure of whether you should encourage them to persevere, or help them find an institution that’s a better fit? College transfers can be fraught with uncertainty. Whether it's from a community college to a more selective university, or a transfer between four-year institutions, it's a decision that can reshape a student's academic and personal trajectory. That’s why we’re using today’s episode to delve into the intricacies of transferring, like knowing when it makes sense to transfer (and when it doesn’t), how to navigate the process across different institutions, and what you can do to support your child if they’re unhappy at their school. We also discuss the many strengths of community college, the type of students who could be well-suited to that type of environment, and the robust support they provide to those wanting to transfer. Tune in as we help you navigate the transfer process, from pushing through challenges to recognizing when it's genuinely time to consider other options! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 25 May 2022 | The Rumor Mill | 00:35:56 | |
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith discuss how rumors and gossip around the college process are not only counterproductive, but potentially harmful. They stress the importance of having a healthy skepticism and questioning the accuracy and helpfulness of the information you’re sharing with your fellow parents.
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| 16 Feb 2022 | Teenage Mutant Teenagers | 00:38:13 | |
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenager Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith offer some perspective on what it means to be an adolescent. They discuss what it means developmentally and offer advice on what parents can do for their teenagers.
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| 18 Dec 2024 | Debunking the Myths: The Power of a Liberal Arts Education | 00:35:40 | |
Most kids have no idea what a liberal arts education really is, or why it might be a great choice! Today on Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, we discuss a liberal arts education, why it’s beneficial, and so much more! We delve into what makes a liberal arts college unique, how it differs from a traditional university, the benefits of this kind of education, and what a liberal arts degree can be used for. We go on to discuss Meredith’s experience of being a liberal arts major and how it gave her an exploratory mindset before sharing our take on how kids can create relatively ordinary careers after studying abstract liberal arts degrees. We even tell you about 3+2/4+1 programs and how they work. Lastly, we remind you of the benefits of choosing a liberal arts program for your studies and encourage you not to ignore that as an option. Thanks for tuning in! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 19 Jan 2023 | Are Some Extracurriculars “Better” Than Others? | 00:36:42 | |
Extracurricular activities are a huge component of healthy development for teens. In this episode, we discuss the vast benefits of extracurriculars and how to approach the topic with your kids. You’ll hear our thoughts on the demands of sports commitments and whether some extracurriculars are better than others. If you’re wondering what colleges are really looking for in terms of extracurriculars and community service, you’ve come to the right place. Tune in to find out everything you need to know about the role of extracurricular activities in your child’s life. Key Points From This Episode:
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| 03 Apr 2024 | More About Motivation and What It Is and Isn't | 00:35:58 | |
How many of you actually felt like doing your homework as a kid? During this episode, we’re talking more about motivation; a topic that keeps resurfacing in our conversations with kids. What if discipline was more valuable than motivation? Join us as we explore how to respond to kids who cite a lack of motivation as their reason for achieving below their capabilities. Delving into our childhood experiences, we consider our respective approach to working as Deans and unpack what it might look like to encourage your kids as they develop the muscle of discipline by doing hard things. We also take a look at what may lie below what kids experience as a lack of motivation and discuss an alternative way of understanding what might cause them to feel that way. Listen in to hear all this and more! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 08 May 2024 | Our Most Frequently Asked Questions: Applying to College | 00:33:42 | |
One of the questions we hear several times a week is about applying to college. We kick off our conversation by weighing in on whether or not you should tell your high school college counselor that you are also consulting with an IEC, or private college counselor. We touch on what you should and shouldn’t disclose in your application, how many times you should take the SATs, and the role of AP scores in building your profile. Join us as we chat about all things waitlists, letters of continued interest, recommenders, and more. Lastly, we unpack whether or not it is worthwhile to add in portfolio work or any other documents that you think may strengthen your case. Tune in today to hear all this and more! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 25 Sep 2024 | When to Step In and When to Step Back: A Parent's Guide to School Drama Without the Mama Bear Meltdown | 00:35:33 | |
When we come in hot, fully activated to defend and advocate for our children, we may end up causing more harm than good. Sometimes, as parents, it’s essential to check our tone, take a breath, and approach situations with curiosity. Think of it as a partnership. Join Cathy and Meredith on this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You as they dive into a discussion about when it is and isn’t, appropriate for parents to step in and how to handle school drama without the 'Mama (or Papa) Bear Meltdown!' They explore different examples, discussing how a parent’s tone can completely change the entire experience and why, when necessary, you shouldn’t be deterred by red tape when advocating for your child’s needs. They also highlight key aspects of a well-received intervention, what to consider when making requests, and why it’s crucial to think about what you say, how you say it, and to whom you’re saying it. Be sure to tune in for all this and much more! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 01 Jun 2022 | Meredith’s Bone to Pick | 00:38:58 | |
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith talk about the lack of transparency in the college admissions process. What is the ethical responsibility of colleges? How could colleges make the admissions process more student-centered? Cathy and Meredith tackle these questions and more on this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You.
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| 21 Feb 2024 | Am I Too Easy on My Kid? | 00:39:03 | |
Finding the balance between holding your children accountable and having boundaries while keeping the peace and happiness in the home is a delicate task. In today’s episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, we are unpacking one of the most difficult issues parents face and helping you figure out if you’re too easy on your kid. Tuning in, you’ll hear all about our approaches with teens, why they often see us as harder on them than their parents are, why you have to hold your children accountable, and much more! We delve into defining your family standards, how to include children in that process, and why peace isn’t always possible before we discuss the dangers of talking too much. Your child’s future and ability to be a well-rounded, successful human is more important than being liked by your teenager and today, we remind you that you aren’t always going to be liked by your teenager and why that’s okay! Finally, we touch on sustaining yourselves as parents instead of relying on gratification from your children. This is an incredibly important episode so be sure to press play now! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 24 May 2023 | What’s the Purpose of Summer? | 00:44:42 | |
Welcome to the last episode of season two! Our topic for this week’s episode focuses on how to cultivate and promote your child’s wellness during the summer. And perhaps, while you are at it, how to cultivate your own wellness as a parent, too! We are excited to share some practical realities that can help drive decision-making for the summertime. We kick off with thoughts on the role of summer, the ideal ways to spend it, and a quick what not to do. We further dive into subtopics like the importance of balance, how family values play a role in choosing summertime activities, and why Cathy thinks getting your teenagers outside is imperative! We again touch on why getting kids out of their comfort zone and doing hard things is vital to their sense of self and their future and why a summer job is absolutely not lame. Tune in to hear why we think exposing your kids to differences and the reality of the real world can help set them up for success throughout their lives. Enjoy this last episode; we are excited to be back with more great topics for season three! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 30 Mar 2022 | Hearing Back from Colleges | 00:49:47 | |
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith discuss college admissions decisions and how to navigate that process with your teen. They talk about strategies for how to support your teen during the process and how to keep things in perspective.
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| 01 Feb 2023 | The Most Common Mistakes Seniors Make on College Apps | 00:29:38 | |
Sometimes we have to learn by doing, but a college application certainly isn’t the time for that approach. That’s why today, we are sharing common mistakes we see seniors make on college applications all too often. We know our audience, and the mistakes they are susceptible to making. Press play to hear us highlight what we’ve noticed, what to do instead, and whose guidance to heed along the way. We touch on which schools to apply to, essay tips, and what to make of school rankings before unpacking some essential considerations that will help you to determine which institution is the best fit for your child, and much more today. Thanks for tuning in to another episode! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 20 Sep 2023 | Starting the School Year Strong | 00:30:32 | |
Welcome to Season 3 of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You! Today, we want to talk about starting the school year strong. What can you as parents do to help set your kids on a trajectory to success? We dive into some of the things we think are important for students to conquer, including setting schedules, getting organized, educating themselves on and making use of their school’s resources, and becoming skilled at advocating for themselves. We also discuss effective study strategies that can help students navigate the transition in learning and study habits from middle school to high school, as well as the value of learning from natural consequences, cultivating a sense of independence, and why we think it’s important to talk to your children about school policies. If you want to hear more about these topics and why it’s crucial for your children to be engaged in their school communities, don’t miss this information-packed episode! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 19 Apr 2023 | No One’s Getting into Stanford, So Do This Instead | 00:35:01 | |
In the wake of the dreaded college admissions results, and considering their three percent admission rate, we want to tell parents to stop putting their eggs in those baskets and focus on what comes after college! Today, we will drop a few truth bombs about the difficulties of getting into prestigious colleges and why it is not the end of the world if your teenagers don’t. Tuning in, you’ll hear all about why you need to encourage your children to think beyond college, mistakes parents make in their lack of objectivity during this process as well as not developing with the times, and why there needs to be a mindset shift around college and success in general. Teenagers often feel very despondent and demotivated when they don’t get the news they want when college admissions are announced and in this episode, we delve into how that feeling of failure can be avoided and managed before discussing the dangers of forcing your child into a narrow definition of success. Lastly, we explain why we are so inspired by teenagers who have experienced real hardship and why we all need a little bit of perspective. So to find out what to do when your child doesn’t get into the college of their choice and to get a bit of insight into the importance of having conversations around values, tune in now! Key Points From This Episode:
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| 27 Apr 2022 | Structure | 00:41:11 | |
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith discuss structure and schedules as it relates to our child’s lives. What does good structure vs. poor structure look like? How much structure in your child’s life is too much? Cathy and Meredith answer these questions and more in this episode.
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| 01 Nov 2023 | College Admissions Insider Interview with Gary Clark, Associate Vice Chancellor of Enrollment Management at UCLA | 00:39:04 | |
Have you ever had a neighbor drop 'inside info' on UC admissions and you weren't quite sure if it held water? Well, today's episode is your ultimate UC admissions reality check – don't miss it! This week's guest is Gary Clark, the Associate Vice Chancellor of Enrollment Management at UCLA. With his extensive experience, Gary provides valuable insights into admissions and enrollment at UCLA, as well as the broader college application process. In this episode, Gary discusses hot topics like Affirmative Action, dispels common myths about UC admissions, touches on the selection process likened to a lottery system, and shares insights into UCLA's transfer process. If attending UCLA is your dream, you'll want to hear why transferring is a viable option. This episode offers a wealth of information on all things related to the UC admissions process, so don't miss out! Key Points From This Episode:
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