Sex And Money With Jess (Jessica Trapp)

Hey everyone, Jess here! In our latest episode of "Sex and Money with Jess," we dove into the crucial first step of my three-part process for achieving financial intimacy: organization. I shared my passion for getting up close and personal with your finances, just like you would in a relationship, to build a strong foundation for growth and understanding.

We talked about the importance of not just knowing your balances but understanding the transactions behind them. Whether it's your savings, checking, or credit card accounts, I emphasized the need to categorize each transaction to see where your money is truly going.

I shared my love for spreadsheets and how they can be a simple yet powerful tool for organizing your finances. I also mentioned other options like Quicken, QuickBooks, and various apps, but I stressed the value of manually inputting transactions to stay fully engaged with your spending.

I encouraged you to make the organization process enjoyable—put on some music, take breaks, and maybe even dance a little! Remember, starting now can change your future, so grab those bank statements and begin categorizing your transactions.

Next week, we'll explore the second part of the process, which is all about familiarizing yourself with your finances. Until then, have fun organizing, and don't hesitate to reach out if you need help or want to share your progress. Love you all, and thanks for tuning in!

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In today's episode of Sex and Money with Jess, we explored the delicate balance between enjoying life's pleasures and being financially responsible. I shared insights on how to deepen your relationship with yourself and others when it comes to sex and money, and how to step into your empowered self without shame or societal pressures.

We kicked off the discussion with my personal experience in a book club, where we're currently reading "Daring Greatly" by Brene Brown. This led to a reflection on the courage it takes to pursue podcasting and personal growth.

I am debunking the myth that small indulgences like avocado toast or Starbucks coffee are the reasons behind not achieving financial milestones like buying a house. Instead, I emphasized the importance of enjoying your money without excessive restriction.

I shared a creative approach to saving for big purchases, like setting a task and assigning a dollar value to it, which adds an element of fun and satisfaction to the process. Additionally, I discussed the importance of cutting back on non-essential expenses, like multiple streaming services, to free up funds for more meaningful experiences.

The key takeaway is to identify what truly brings you joy and to make conscious choices about where to cut back. It's about setting clear financial goals, understanding the sacrifices needed to reach them, and still allowing yourself the pleasures that make life worth living.

Life is meant to be enjoyed and that we should dare greatly to reach our goals without sacrificing joy. I invited listeners to reflect on their own financial and personal joy, and to join me again next week for more empowering discussions.

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In this episode, we dive into the crucial topic of ignoring your finances. We explore why many of us adopt the habit of turning a blind eye to our financial realities and the potential consequences of doing so. It's a common mindset to believe that if we ignore financial issues, they will resolve themselves or disappear over time. However, I challenge this notion and emphasize the importance of facing financial truths head-on.

One of the goals of this episode  is to get you to reflect on your current state of mind regarding finances. Are you content with staying in a state of fear and avoidance, hindering our progress and the pursuit of our dreams? This  extends beyond the immediate concerns of financial hardship, acknowledging that even those in a stable situation may miss out on fully understanding and leveraging their finances.

One of the key reasons for ignoring your finances is the belief that there's always time to address financial matters later in life. I want to  challenge this procrastination mentality, and urge you  to start taking steps today for a more impactful and secure financial future. There are so many excuses why not to start, but I want you to think about what you could create if you just start now. 

I also dive into the fear associated with knowing your financial standing is another obstacle. Whether it's student loan debt, credit card debt, or simply not being aware of account balances, face these fears. There is so much power in taking control of your financial situation.

Start small. Start today. Do one small thing today to get you closer to where you want to be. Make sure to tune in as I share with you some small steps you can start taking now to take control of your finances.

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In this episode of Sex and Money with Jess, I delve into the importance of starting your financial journey, regardless of your age or past hesitations. I share my personal experiences and the realization that it's never too late to take control of your finances and work towards your goals.

I discuss the societal pressures and shame that often hold us back from pursuing our financial dreams. I reflect on my own hesitations about starting this podcast and how I overcame the fear of entering an already established market. This journey has taught me valuable lessons about growth and the power of starting, no matter how late it may seem.

I open up about my goal of buying a house within the next year and the steps I'm taking to achieve it, such as cutting back on expenses and saying no to certain opportunities.

I encourage you, to identify your goals and the reasons behind them, and to take small, consistent steps towards achieving them. Starting earlier might have led to different outcomes, it's the decision to start now that truly matters.

I believe in your ability to reach your goals and the importance of taking action today. I invite you to join me on this journey of financial empowerment and to share this message with others who might benefit from it.

Remember, it's not about where you could have been, but where you can go from here. Let's chase our dreams together and create the future we desire.

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Welcome back to "Sex and Money with Jess," where we explore the intimate relationship between personal empowerment, sex, and finances. In this episode, we continue our journey into financial management by diving into the third part of our structure: making changes and planning for the future.

After organizing our finances and gaining a deep understanding of our numbers, we've laid the groundwork for the exciting part—envisioning and working towards our financial goals. It's time to ask ourselves what we truly want and what we're willing to do to get there.

I discuss the importance of identifying non-negotiable expenses and then looking at what's left to see where we can make adjustments. Whether it's saving for a house, investing, or paying off debt, the key is to start small, test changes, and see what works. It's not about perfection; it's about progress and being willing to tweak our approach as we go.

I share personal anecdotes about my own financial goals, like saving to buy a house and improving my health, and how I make daily decisions that align with these objectives. I also emphasize the power of asking for help and knowing when to reach out for support to stay accountable.

As we wrap up, I encourage you to take some time this week to think about your financial future. Play with the numbers, create scenarios, and have fun with it. Remember, it's about taking responsibility and being accountable for your money.

If you're struggling to find joy in financial planning or need some guidance, my doors are always open. Reach out, and let's make financial planning an enjoyable part of your journey to empowerment.

Until next week, may your days be filled with love and progress towards the future you desire.

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Welcome to today's episode of "Sex and Money with Jess." We're embarking on a new series of episodes, shifting our focus from money to the equally important topic of sex. In the initial 12 episodes, we delved into various aspects of finances, exploring emotions, organization, and intimacy with money.

But today, let's open up the conversation around sex. It's a topic often shrouded in silence by society, despite its omnipresence in media and politics. We're taught conflicting messages about sex - it's everywhere, yet we're not supposed to openly discuss it or understand our own desires.

Growing up, my family had open conversations about both sex and money. However, entering college opened my eyes to the lack of knowledge many people have. While college often becomes a time of exploration, I found myself less swayed by societal pressures due to the groundwork laid by my parents.

Attending a Christian campus added layers to the conversation, with discussions around abstinence and religious views on sex. But these conversations often lack depth, leaving individuals ill-prepared for the complexities of sexual relationships.

Personal experiences shape our views on sex. For me, it wasn't until I was 27 that I felt ready to engage in vaginal intercourse. But sex isn't just about physical acts; it's about understanding what feels good emotionally, functionally, and intellectually.

Education plays a crucial role in sexual health. I recall supporting a peer who lacked basic knowledge about contraception due to a lack of education and societal stigma. This highlights the importance of comprehensive sex education and open dialogue.

My parents' simple yet profound advice - if you're not mature enough to buy condoms, you're not mature enough to have sex - emphasizes the importance of responsibility and communication in sexual relationships.

Sexual empowerment comes from understanding and embracing our desires, free from societal judgments and stereotypes. It's about feeling comfortable in our bodies and having open, honest conversations with our partners.

Over the next 11 episodes, we'll explore various aspects of sexuality, from navigating shame and quick fixes to communicating with partners effectively. My hope is that through these conversations, you'll feel more confident and empowered in your own sexuality, free to build a fulfilling sex life on your own terms.

Remember, your sexuality is unique and beautiful, and there's no shame in exploring and embracing it. So let's dive in and start unpacking the complexities of sex together.

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Hey friend! Today’s episode is a bit of a personal one, and I’m inviting you to join me as I unpack a mix of emotions. You’ll hear me reflect on the beauty of celebrating life while also honoring grief. I share how today marks three special birthdays—my best friend, my grandma, and another best friend’s daughter. At the same time, it’s also the anniversary of a tough moment in my life: the fall that led to my mom’s passing two years ago.

This duality—joy and grief—feels like a mirror to so many other areas of life, including our financial and personal journeys. When we’re working toward change, like improving our finances or deepening intimacy in our relationships, we often stand in the tension between old habits and new goals. It’s that “both-and” mindset—where celebration and struggle coexist—that teaches us what truly matters.

In this episode, I talk about:

• Embracing life’s dualities: How to hold space for both joy and grief.
• Personal growth in finances and relationships: Identifying what to keep, what to release, and what to build anew.
• The power of “both-and” thinking: Why it’s okay to celebrate wins while navigating setbacks.
• The importance of feeling it all: Giving yourself permission to experience the full spectrum of emotions.

Whether you’re in a season of celebration, grief, or somewhere in between, I want you to know that it’s okay to feel it all. Life is full of these complex, beautiful moments, and they shape who we are.

Thanks for tuning in today, and remember—you are loved, just as you are.

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In this episode, we dive into the expectations and pressures surrounding sexual intimacy in relationships and explore ways to connect with your partner beyond the physical. Host [Your Name] breaks down societal norms, discusses the impact of upbringing on intimacy, and provides actionable strategies for fostering a deeper emotional bond. Whether you’re navigating mismatched desires or seeking to enhance your relationship’s foundation, this conversation offers insights into building intimacy that goes beyond the bedroom.

Key Discussion Points:

Societal pressures often create unrealistic expectations around sex in relationships. Many of us grow up with narratives that prioritize sexual activity as the ultimate expression of love, leaving little room to explore other forms of connection. This episode challenges those ideas and encourages reflection on personal needs and communication with your partner.

When desires don’t align, it can lead to feelings of rejection or guilt. By taking a pause and having honest conversations, couples can create a safe space for intimacy to flourish in ways that go beyond the physical. Suggestions include cuddling, sharing activities, or simply spending uninterrupted time together. These moments foster emotional closeness and build trust, laying the groundwork for deeper intimacy—whether or not it leads to sex.

• “Our jobs as humans aren’t just to ‘bang one out’—it’s to grow, love, and connect in a multitude of ways.”
• “Intimacy isn’t just about sex; it’s about being present with each other in every sense.”

Start exploring ways to connect with your partner outside of sexual activity. Whether it’s a heartfelt conversation, a shared chore, or a quiet moment together, these acts of intimacy can strengthen your bond and create a foundation of trust and understanding.

Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast for more conversations on relationships and personal growth. Leave a review and share this episode with someone who might benefit from it!

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Hey there, I hope this holiday season finds you well, whether you're celebrating with joy or navigating a more challenging time. Wherever you are on the spectrum, my wish for you is a moment of peace and clarity during this season.

In this episode, I’m diving into something that so many of us struggle with—facing our finances. With the year-end approaching, I’ve heard from friends, family, and even myself about how daunting it feels to sit down and look at the numbers, whether it’s for holiday spending, prepping for tax season, or setting goals for 2025.

Let’s be real—money can be scary. From late fees to overspending on convenience (hello, takeout!), we’ve all been there. I’ll share my own recent experiences, like splurging on Black Friday deals and missing a rent payment deadline, and how I’m working to overcome that fear of facing financial realities.

Here’s what we’ll talk about:

• Why avoiding your finances only makes things worse.
• How to give yourself grace when you’ve made mistakes.
• Simple ways to reconnect with your financial goals without shame.
• The importance of being honest with yourself and pivoting when needed.

We’re all human, and we all mess up sometimes. But the key is learning to sit with the discomfort, forgive yourself, and take small, intentional steps toward your goals. Trust me, even multimillionaires feel the fear—it’s natural. The difference comes in how we face it and grow from it.

Recognize that fear is normal, but avoidance won’t solve the problem. Give yourself grace—it’s okay to make mistakes as long as you learn from them. Start small: plan your meals, track your spending, and build a game plan to get back on track.

Remember, facing your finances is less about perfection and more about progress. Let’s step into the new year with a mindset of growth, grace, and responsibility.

Wishing you a peaceful and joyful holiday season!

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Hey there, welcome back to another week of Sex and Money with Jess! I'm thrilled to dive into our ongoing conversation about, you guessed it, sex and money. Today, we're exploring a topic that's pretty relatable: quick fixes.

So, let's talk about it. Quick fixes can seem like the perfect solution, whether it's about money or relationships, but here's the catch: they usually don't address the underlying issue for the long haul. Sure, we all crave instant solutions, but sometimes, we need to dig deeper and put in the work for lasting results.

I'll be real with you—I'm not exactly the most patient person either. When something's wrong, I want it fixed ASAP. But life doesn't always work like that, does it? Sometimes, we need to sit with our problems, work through them, and let the solutions unfold naturally.

Take relationships, for example. Ever been in a disagreement with your partner and found that jumping into bed seemed like the easiest way to brush it under the rug? Been there. But here's the thing: while sex can temporarily mask our negative emotions, it rarely solves the underlying issues. It's like putting a band-aid on a deep wound—it might cover it up for a while, but it won't heal it.

Now, I'm a huge advocate for working through emotions, even when it's uncomfortable. Recently, I found myself grappling with some heavy feelings in a relationship. Instead of running from them, I leaned in. It wasn't easy, but it was necessary for growth.

Quick fixes might offer temporary relief, but true fulfillment comes from doing the work and embracing the journey. So, let's commit to digging deeper, facing our vulnerabilities, and seeking genuine connection. Because in the end, that's where true satisfaction lies.

Thanks for joining me for another episode of Sex and Money. Until next time, stay curious and keep exploring!

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In this episode, I encourage you to take a reflective approach to your sex life by answering a series of thought-provoking questions.

Communication and self-awareness are so key to having a great sex life in this episode I provide a list of questions for you to reflect on with yourself or with your partner. These questions are designed to help you explore and open yourself up around your sexuality.

Topics include understanding personal sexual preferences, resolving past sexual experiences, and improving overall sexual well-being. I advise taking your time with the questions, returning to them periodically, and seeking help if you need to go deeper.

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Welcome back to Sex and Money w/ Jess, let's dive into today's topic: quick fixes. I often find myself having conversations with people facing financial challenges or laying the foundation for their future. Quick fixes like selling possessions or making impulsive decisions may seem tempting, but there's more to consider.

Before jumping into a quick fix, take a moment to analyze all angles. Consider scenarios like selling your car to buy a bike for commuting. While it sounds eco-friendly and healthy, factors like weather, terrain, and unexpected situations need attention.

Financially, selling items or making quick changes can bring in income, but have you thought about what you'll do with that money? Are you pausing to decide if it goes into savings, investments, or paying off debts?

The issue arises when people revert to old spending habits after a quick financial boost. The key is to align the newfound income with your financial goals. Enjoying money is essential, but when you have specific financial objectives, a quick fix might not be the best approach.

When considering a quick fix, pause and discuss it with someone you trust. Seek a second opinion and talk through the pros and cons. Write down the numerical value of the quick fix and create a financial scenario, looking ahead to months or even years. The goal is to make a decision aligned with your financial future.

Don't rush into quick fixes without assessing the impact. Sleep on it, and physically act out scenarios. Ask yourself if it feels right and if it aligns with your goals. Quick fixes aren't always bad, but taking the time to pause and assess leads to more informed decisions.

I've learned from experience that impulsive decisions without a financial foundation can lead to regrets. Whether it takes days or hours, create a routine of understanding your finances. It'll benefit you more in the long run.

If you're in the midst of contemplating a quick fix and need an opinion, feel free to shoot me an email. I'm here to help.

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In this episode  I dive into the real issues many of us encounter due to post-COVID effects, inflation, and increasing expenses. I discuss how to focus and budget when money is tight.

The key takeaway is to identify your primary focus or goal and build your budget around it, making necessary adjustments, and recognizing what is within your control. I give practical advice on managing expenses, considering extra income, and navigating the difficulties of financial uncertainty. This episode is a real talk on surviving and planning amidst financial challenges, emphasizing resilience and prioritization

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In today's episode we tackled the empowering topic of asking for more money and recognizing your worth. We delved into the current climate where workers are advocating for fair compensation and the importance of understanding your value in the workplace.

I shared my personal journey of going from a $50,000 salary at a gaming company to being put on probation and facing a pay cut, to eventually landing a job that paid $60,000 and then successfully negotiating a 40% raise to $90,000 with a 10% bonus. This story highlighted the courage it takes to ask for what you deserve and the importance of being prepared with a list of your accomplishments and a clear idea of your worth.

We discussed the gender differences in job applications and promotions, noting that women often wait until they feel 100% qualified before asking for a raise, while men might do so when they feel 60% ready. I encouraged listeners to trust in their ability to learn and grow into new roles.

The episode emphasized the power of negotiation and the reality that companies aim to save money. I advised listeners to go into salary discussions with a higher figure in mind, as it opens up room for negotiation. It's important to remember that the worst outcome is simply a "no," and there are always options available, whether it's accepting the offer, finding a new job, or negotiating further.

I also offered insights from my experience in payroll and budgeting, explaining how companies approach salary decisions and the importance of advocating for yourself since companies prioritize their bottom line.

Remember, you are worth it, and it's up to you to chase what you deserve. Show up with confidence, negotiate your value, and don't be afraid to ask for more.

Share this episode with someone who could benefit from it, and don't forget to leave a review. Here's to thriving in all aspects of life!

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Welcome back to "Sex and Money with Jess." In today's episode, we continued our journey into financial empowerment by diving into the second part of my framework—getting intimate with your finances. Last week, we tackled organizing your finances, and this week, we're taking a closer look at where your money is actually going.

Understanding the flow of your money is crucial. It's about getting down to the nitty-gritty, categorizing your expenses, and really seeing the patterns in your spending. Whether it's rent, food, or those sneaky coffee runs, knowing where your money goes each month is the first step to financial intimacy.

I shared my personal experience with budgeting for recurring expenses like rent and annual costs like car registration and life insurance. It's important to be aware of the timing of these expenses to ensure you have the funds when needed and to avoid surprises.

We also discussed the importance of being proactive with your finances. By being intimate with your financial details, you can catch errors in your paycheck, prevent fraud, and make informed decisions about subscriptions and services you no longer need.

I encouraged you to take the time to review your transactions, question unfamiliar charges, and reconcile your accounts regularly. This practice not only prevents headaches down the line but also empowers you to make decisions that align with your financial goals.

Next week, we'll explore how to use this newfound financial intimacy to plan for the future. Remember, understanding where you are now is the key to getting where you want to be. So, take it slow, have fun with it, and embrace the journey to financial empowerment.

Thank you for tuning in, and I look forward to continuing this conversation next week. Don't forget to share this podcast with someone who could benefit from it, and if you're ready to dive deeper, visit lovealwaysjess.com/get-started for more resources. Have a fantastic week!

In this episode, we dive deep into the concept of time and how it affects our lives. Time seems to speed up as we get older and it feels like there's never enough time to accomplish everything we want.

Societal pressures and expectations around sex can make us feel like we're running out of time or that we're somehow "late to the game." I share about my own journey with sex, from feeling pressured to have it at a young age to realizing that it's okay to wait until you're ready and comfortable.

Let's challenge the idea that there's a right or wrong time to have sex, everyone's journey is unique and valid. There are societal constructs around virginity and the pressure to conform to certain timelines, but it is so important to embrace our individual experiences and desires.It's never too late to explore your desires and connect with your partner. We have the power to shape our own experiences, it's never too late to prioritize our well-being and happiness.

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In this episode, we dive into the often taboo topic of self-exploration and self-pleasure. This is a subject that can evoke a range of emotions from discomfort to excitement.

Societal and familial reactions to children's natural curiosity about their bodies can create lasting feelings of shame or guilt. I encourage you to reconsider these conditioned responses and to embrace self-exploration as a healthy, natural part of life. Understanding one's own body—its pleasures and boundaries—is not only beneficial for personal well-being but also for enhancing intimate relationships.

Overall, this episode is a call to embrace and honor the natural, pleasurable aspects of our bodies, encouraging a journey towards self-love, comfort, and a deeper understanding of what makes us feel good.

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In this episode, I share my experiences and thoughts on body positivity and self-love. From attending a thrilling pole dancing show to discussing societal pressures on body image, I emphasize the importance of loving our bodies while recognizing the desire for change.

I offer practical tips for fostering self-acceptance, such as standing naked in front of a mirror and focusing on positive traits. I encourage you to appreciate and celebrate your unique beauty, and to pursue changes that make you happy while maintaining self-love. Remember, it's okay to love yourself and want to change simultaneously.

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Hello and welcome to Sex & Money with Jess! The podcast that will have you cozying up with yourself, or your partner, and asking the real, honest questions surrounding two of the most vulnerable topics.

Jess' light hearted approach will have you growing more intimate with your feelings, goals, and reality surrounding your finances and sex life. Put on your favorite lingerie, grab your bank statements, and cuddle up with Jess every Monday to deepen your exploration into the alluring world of sex and money.

Hello, hello, hello! Today, we’re diving deep into a topic that's not always black and white, but so important: consent. If you've ever wondered about what consent really entails, especially in intimate moments, this episode will give you an insightful overview. Here’s what we talked about:

Understanding Consent

Consent goes beyond a simple yes or no—it’s a complex and layered concept. We broke it down into four parts:

1. Capacity: Are you and your partner of sound mind to make a clear decision? This involves checking in on things like sobriety and mental state to ensure that both of you can confidently say yes or no.

2. Information: Clear communication about what you want to do. Expressing your desires explicitly helps your partner feel comfortable and informed, giving them the chance to say yes, no, or maybe at any point.

3. Agreement & Boundaries: Consent isn’t just about agreeing once—it’s about setting boundaries and getting consistent buy-in. We explored why discussing boundaries, hard limits, and flexibility throughout your time together is essential for mutual respect and pleasure.

4. Autonomy: Everyone has the inherent right to control their own body, mind, and spirit. Consent is about respecting this autonomy, recognizing that we can only control our actions and feelings, not those of another person.

Key Points to Remember:

- Consent is continuous: Before, during, and even after intimacy, consent can be revisited. It’s okay to change your mind.

- Communication isn’t unsexy: Some of us worry that asking for consent in the moment feels awkward or “kills the vibe.” But many people find it empowering and even a turn-on when their partner checks in with them.

- Respecting each other's boundaries: Rejection can sting, but remember that a “no” isn’t about you personally—it’s about ensuring everyone feels safe and comfortable.

- Make the implicit explicit: Never assume silence means agreement. A genuine yes should always be clear and enthusiastic.

- Respect each other’s right to say no: Both you and your partner have the right to set boundaries. And if a boundary means stopping, then stopping is the best thing you can do.

Consent is about going with your feelings (literally—con + sent means "with feeling"). It's a practice that respects everyone’s right to control their own experience. Let’s keep having these conversations, respecting each other’s boundaries, and creating safe, empowering spaces for intimacy.

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In today's episode, we're delving into a heavy but important topic: shame when it comes to sex. Before we start, I want to give a trigger warning - we'll be discussing instances of sexual assault because shame often intersects with those experiences. If you need to skip those parts, I'll include timestamps in the show notes to make it easier for you.

And let me say this upfront: if you feel like you need to skip this episode altogether, that's totally okay. Shame, especially surrounding sex, is a lot to unpack, so please take care of yourself first and foremost.

Do you remember moments from your past where you felt shame surrounding sex? Maybe it was from experiences with partners, sex education from family, school, peers, or even church. For me, a couple of moments stand out vividly.

There was this one time with a partner where he casually, and embarrassingly, mentioned to his friend that I wasn't great at giving blowjobs. It was mortifying, and I felt so much shame in that moment. Another instance was during a church event where they essentially equated premarital sex with getting an STI, which left me feeling like I was somehow tainted.

These experiences stuck with me and affected my sexual journey, leading to moments of panic and insecurity even in my current, monogamous relationship. But I refuse to let shame dictate how I feel about myself or my sexuality. It's been a journey, but I've learned that open communication, honesty, and respect for boundaries are key.

Shame doesn't just come from our partners; it can also stem from societal, religious, or past experiences. I've seen how religious shame can deeply affect people's views on sex, leading to feelings of guilt and condemnation.

But here's the thing: we are not defined by our past or by societal norms. We are unique individuals, and it's okay to have different desires, boundaries, and experiences. What's important is that we approach sex with understanding, empathy, and a willingness to communicate openly.

So, if you ever find yourself caught in a shame spiral, remember to take a deep breath, ground yourself, and remind yourself that you are human. We're all works in progress, and it's okay to be gentle with ourselves as we navigate our sexual journeys.

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In this episode, I discuss the importance of automating your finances to save more effectively, particularly during busy work seasons. I share my personal strategy of splitting direct deposits between checking and savings accounts to ensure forced savings.

Additionally, I provide tips on automating regular transactions and how scheduling such transfers can help build financial security without the temptation to overspend. Automations and scheduled transactions can change your approach to saving, making it easier to build a financial cushion.

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Today’s episode is a bit of a redo — I originally recorded it on Election Day, but we had some audio issues, so here we are. By now, we know the results: President Trump will be serving his second term. For some, this brings excitement; for others, like me, it brings fear and uncertainty. Regardless of where you land, I want to take this opportunity to reflect on the power of our voices — both at the polls and in our everyday lives.

We often get caught up in the importance of presidential elections, but the real change happens at the local level. Those House Representatives and senators? They’re the ones making the laws that shape our day-to-day lives. Think about issues like abortion rights or Supreme Court nominations — it’s Congress that has the power to push things forward. So, if you didn’t vote this time, I encourage you to reflect on why and make a plan to show up for the next election, whether it’s local or national.

One thing I’ve been thinking about a lot is how change can feel slow, even pointless. It’s easy to believe that one person — one vote, one conversation, one action — doesn’t matter. But it does. I was deeply inspired by Sharon McMahon’s book, The Small and the Mighty. It’s full of stories about people who made a big impact through small, intentional actions. It reminded me that our influence, even if it feels tiny, can ripple out in ways we don’t always see right away.

So, whether you’re grieving the election results, celebrating, or somewhere in between, I want to remind you that your voice matters. Your actions matter. Whether it’s showing up to vote, having those tough conversations, or making small changes in your personal life, you are making an impact.

As we move forward into uncertain times, I challenge you to reflect on what you can do today to create the change you want to see tomorrow. It doesn’t have to be earth-shattering. Small, consistent steps add up.

Sending big hugs to everyone — no matter how you voted. Let’s remember that love and understanding are always worth choosing.

Resources Mentioned:

• Sharon McMahon’s book: The Small and the Mighty
• Follow Sharon on Instagram: @SharonSaysSo

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In today's episode, we dive deep into the struggles we face when it comes to sex. Life throws us curveballs, whether it's navigating new relationships, dealing with physical pain, or adjusting to changing circumstances. It's a journey filled with highs and lows, but amidst the challenges, there's always hope.

Navigating the complexities of sex and intimacy requires patience and self-reflection. It's about understanding your body's needs and desires, while also being open to exploring new ways of connecting with yourself and others. And above all, it's about embracing the journey, finding joy amidst the pain, and recognizing that you are worthy of happiness and pleasure, no matter what challenges come your way.

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Happy New Year! In this episode, we explore the excitement and potential of a fresh start in 2025. The beginning of a new year often feels like a reset, bringing opportunities to grow and build something new. I also share a personal story about the challenges I faced with my apartment lease renewal, offering insights into how to navigate unexpected hurdles and the importance of staying organized.

One of the biggest lessons from my experience is the power of documentation. Whether you’re dealing with personal, financial, or business matters, keeping a clear paper trail is invaluable. I share practical tips for tracking payments, emails, and conversations to protect yourself when things don’t go as planned. From writing down names and details during important phone calls to sending follow-up emails after in-person meetings, having a detailed record can save you time, money, and stress.

In this episode, I also emphasize the importance of taking small steps to stay organized in everyday life. This includes ensuring you keep receipts, tracking online orders, and maintaining records of significant transactions or agreements. Proper documentation isn’t just a chore—it’s a safety net that empowers you to advocate for yourself in tricky situations.

As we step into 2025, let’s embrace the opportunities ahead with intention and focus. May this year bring you growth, success, and the tools to tackle any challenge that comes your way. If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe and share it with someone who could benefit from these reminders about staying organized and prepared!

Welcome to the inaugural episode of the Sex and Money with Jess podcast! I'm Jessica, and I'm thrilled to embark on this journey with you, whether you're tuning in during your daily commute, workout, or enjoying some quality me time. Thank you for joining me as we delve into the intertwined realms of sex and money.

Growing up in a household where discussions about sex and money were open and encouraged, I realized that my family dynamic was not the norm. Conversations with friends and observations of societal norms unveiled a significant shroud of shame and silence surrounding these topics. This fueled my curiosity – why the hesitancy to discuss these vital aspects of our lives openly?

My journey initially led me to pursue a career as a youth pastor, but a realization during my freshman year of college prompted a shift. I observed the lack of proper sex education, particularly in religious institutions with an abstinence-only approach. This eye-opening experience led me to aspire to become a sex therapist.

However, the extensive education required led me to switch gears, and I pursued accounting, eventually becoming an associate director of finance in the music industry. Alongside my financial journey, I attained credentials as a sex coach during a hiatus from pursuing formal education.

In this podcast, we'll kick off by focusing on money, a pervasive force in our lives. Money influences every facet, and its impact is undeniable. Despite my privileged background, I've faced financial struggles – from probation and a pay cut to managing credit card debt. Through these experiences, I've learned valuable lessons that I'm eager to share.

Over the next episodes, we'll discuss various money-related topics, addressing shame, navigating finances, and negotiating for better compensation. Money paths are unique to individuals, shaped by personal goals and current situations. The goal is to empower you, helping you unearth confidence and trust in yourself while making gradual shifts toward financial well-being.

I want you to feel secure, confident, and excited about your financial future. By the end of this series, my aim is for you to take control of your money, reframing your mindset and initiating positive changes. I truly believe in your power to transform your financial narrative.

Whether you engage through this podcast, workshops, or coaching, together, we'll explore what money means to you, crafting a story that leads to a brighter future. It's time to break down the doors of silence and embrace conversations around sex and money. Let's get excited about managing, looking at, and utilizing our money.

You've got this!

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Hey there! In today's episode, I share my recent trip to Nashville and emphasize the importance of balancing practical financial management with big dreams and excitement. I'll dive into how I've been planning to buy a house, despite the logical challenges, and how I stay motivated by visualizing and embracing the fun aspects of money.

We also cover the importance of gratitude and imaginative planning, whether saving for a vacation, investing in stocks, or any other financial goals. Ultimately, it's all about dreaming big and letting our money mindset be driven by joy and excitement.

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In this special episode recorded on my 36th birthday, I reflect on my recent challenges and aspirations, particularly my goal of buying a house. I discuss the concept of the 'glass ceiling' and how our self-imposed limitations can hinder our growth.

I share my personal journey of overcoming financial constraints and shifting my money mindset to aim higher. Despite fears and uncertainties, I emphasize the importance of continuously pushing past these barriers to create new opportunities. Join me as we explore how to break through our limitations, embrace change, and achieve our dreams.

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In this episode, we dive deep into the often-avoided topic of sex and the importance of having open conversations about it. We explore various aspects, from discussing preferences with your partner to educating children about consent and bodily autonomy.

Sex is a topic that many find uncomfortable, but it's crucial to break down the barriers and have honest discussions. We share personal experiences, like navigating conversations with partners and exploring our own bodies.

Avoiding conversations about sex can lead to misunderstandings, shame, and even resentment. It's essential to create a safe space for open dialogue, respecting each other's boundaries and desires.

We touch on the societal influences that shape our perceptions of sex, from religious teachings to cultural norms. These influences can impact how we communicate with our partners and view our own sexuality.

Ultimately, embracing open communication about sex can lead to healthier relationships, both with ourselves and with others. It's about understanding and accepting each other's needs and desires, without judgment or shame. So let's start breaking down those barriers and having the conversations that matter.

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In this deeply personal episode, I discuss how grief can profoundly affect both financial situations and sexual relationships. Sharing from personal experience, the episode covers the emotional and financial challenges faced after the passing of a loved one, and how the stress and sadness can lead to unexpected financial decisions and impact one's sex life.

It is important to take the time to process grief by seeking support. Everyone's journey will be different so give yourself grace as you move through your own grief and figure out how to navigate your money and your sex life during this period.

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In this episode, I share my personal experience with managing finances, including the perks of summer Fridays at my company, enjoying time off, and the challenges of financial planning.

I discuss the importance of having a logical mindset when it comes to money, despite the common adult frustrations like paying bills. I cover the need to have a clear understanding of your income and expenses, making informed decisions about significant investments like buying a house, and setting realistic financial goals. I also share personal stories about financial mistakes and the importance of having contingency plans.

The main takeaway is to dream big, but approach your finances with a logical and actionable plan to achieve your goals successfully.

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In this episode, I reflect on a joyful weekend at Disneyland with friends and shift focus to discussing significant financial concerns women face. Topics include societal debates on women's roles, the undervaluation of stay-at-home moms, the importance of financial involvement, the pay disparity between men and women, and challenges like the 'pink tax.'

Emphasizing the need for women to be compensated fairly and involved in household finances, I also encourage women to ask for raises and promotions, while advocating for broader societal changes. The episode aims to raise awareness and inspire action towards financial equity for women.

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In this episode, I discuss the unique financial challenges that men face today, rooted in societal expectations and traditional roles. I share personal anecdotes about sleep issues due to noisy neighbors and the stress of early morning routines.

I emphasize the historical and ongoing pressures on men to be providers, the societal trends reinforcing these expectations, and how these pressures impact men's mental health.

I argue for a balanced partnership where both parties contribute equally and challenge the notion that a man's value is solely based on his financial success. I also suggest ways to have constructive conversations about finances with partners to mitigate these stresses.

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In our final episode of this series, I want to touch on something we've all grappled with—money. Whether it's overcoming debt, navigating pay raises, or planning for the future, the journey to financial stability is often fraught with uncertainty and self-doubt.

But here's the thing—we're all in this together. From navigating student loans to grappling with societal pressures, each of us has our own financial story to tell. And while the road ahead may seem daunting at times, it's important to remember that mistakes are a natural part of the journey.

In fact, they're often the catalyst for growth and self-discovery. So whether you're celebrating a pay raise or grappling with unexpected expenses, take a moment to pause and reflect on your financial journey. Where are you now, and where do you want to be?

But remember, life isn't just about chasing numbers on a balance sheet; it's about embracing the present moment and finding joy in the journey. So as you navigate the twists and turns of life, remember to pause, take a breath, and soak in the beauty of the scenery around you.

Until next time, keep embracing life's scenic routes, and remember—you've got this.

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Hey, it’s great to have you here! This week, I’m sharing some personal reflections on a topic I think we’ve all dealt with: disappointment, especially when things beyond our control don’t pan out as planned.

I’m opening up about the long wait for a promised promotion—a journey that many can relate to. It’s been tough waiting for over seven months while trying to stay motivated and handle the frustration of feeling stuck. In these situations, it can be tempting to let the resentment build, but I’ve realized how important it is to handle it in a constructive way.

Here’s what I’ve learned about dealing with these situations:

1. Keep the Lines Open: Don’t be afraid to periodically check in. Just make sure it’s spaced out and respectful. It helps signal to your employer that this is important to you.
2. Negotiate and State Your Worth: If there’s a delay, don’t hesitate to share your goals and expectations. If things are pushed further down the road, make it clear that you expect the terms to reflect your growth and dedication.
3. Explore Income Alternatives: Losing out on expected income can be frustrating, especially if you’ve been planning big moves (like home buying). Whether it’s freelancing, selling art, or a weekend gig like Uber, consider small side hustles that don’t add too much to your workload but can help you meet your financial goals in the meantime.

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Remember, it’s okay to expect more for yourself as you continue to grow. I believe we owe it to ourselves to ask for what we’re worth and to communicate that we’re not just waiting around. If your promotion or raise doesn’t come, keep moving forward. And always, always keep fighting for what you need to succeed.

Thanks for listening, and remember—you’re not alone in dealing with disappointment. Take care, and I’ll talk to you in the next episode!

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In today's episode, we delve into a powerful emotion that often lurks behind our financial decisions: shame. I believe that shame is the underpinning, the very core, of the emotions we associate with our money troubles, concerns, and anxieties. As Brené Brown aptly puts it, shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.

At 35, having traversed different phases of my own money journey, I can assure you that even I grapple with shame. It emerges when I scrutinize my spending, ponder my financial future, or compare myself to others on divergent paths. That inner voice whispers, "You're falling short; you won't make it." But here's the truth: you're not doing anything wrong; your priorities simply differ.

In this episode we explore the origins of shame. Society often dictates what is deemed the "superior" way to handle money. Influencers like Dave Ramsey or the lifestyles of friends and family can become benchmarks, leading to shame if we fall short of these standards.

Consider this: shame creeps in when we attempt to fit ourselves into someone else's life framework. Trying to replicate their financial choices may not align with our true desires, causing dissatisfaction and shame. It's crucial to recognize that your path, unique to you, is not wrong; it's simply different.

I confess to feeling shame in my own financial journey. Initially fixated on societal expectations, I believed owning a house was the key to financial wisdom. However, my 2020 choice to move into an apartment sparked criticism from those advocating homeownership. Little did I know, the world would change in three months.

Had I succumbed to shame, I might have missed out on invaluable experiences. The pandemic allowed me to grow independently in my first solo living experience. Financially, I could afford an apartment in California. It granted me freedom during remote work, privacy in relationships, and ultimately led me to meet the love of my life in my apartment complex.

While some may view my years in the apartment as "throwing money away," the memories, personal growth, and relationships formed make it priceless. The key is acknowledging shame but not letting it dictate your worth or decisions. It's a tool teaching valuable lessons but should never make you feel unworthy or unlovable.

As we navigate our financial journeys, let's prioritize decisions aligned with our true selves. Pause, reflect, and ask: Does this decision feel right to me? Is it propelling me towards my desired future? If the answer is yes, let go of shame; thank it for its concern. If not, embrace the opportunity to reevaluate without succumbing to shame.

Remember, you are a beautiful soul, and your decisions impact the world uniquely. Put your money where it feels right, silencing the voice of shame.

Today’s topic is one that I have a lot to say about: the old saying, “You need to test drive the car before you get married.” You know, that idea that you have to “try out” sex with your partner before committing to marriage. Let’s dive into why I think this saying is, well… kind of ridiculous.

If you’re someone who’s heard this and felt pressured, know that you’re not alone. We live in a world where people have opinions about everything, especially when it comes to sex and relationships. But here’s the truth: sex is so much more than just a skill you can “test drive.” It’s a constantly evolving part of a relationship, and what works now may change as life unfolds. Just like my trusty car that’s been through a few upgrades, our bodies and desires shift as we go through life.

Throughout this episode, I share personal stories and insights from my own experiences, including how things like grief and aging can impact intimacy. At its core, the best sex in a partnership often comes from deep communication, trust, and a willingness to learn together, not from an initial “test drive.”

So, if you’re someone considering waiting until marriage or feeling pressure from those around you to “try it out” first, I’m here to remind you: you do you! Let’s throw out this outdated adage, honor what feels right for us, and embrace the evolving, beautiful journey of intimacy in whatever way feels genuine.

Thanks for joining me on this very real (and yes, a little spicy) conversation. Enjoy the episode, and let’s keep building relationships on our own terms.

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In this episode, the discussion revolves around the top six common sexual concerns for women, including low or no sexual desire, pre-orgasmic primary and secondary issues, dyspareunia, body dysphoria, and sexual inhibitions.

Causes, such as aging, relationship conflicts, body image issues, fatigue, history of abuse, lack of sexual education for partners, and sexually repressive upbringings are explored. Practical resolutions are suggested, including medical consultations, seeking therapy, enhancing communication with partners, and exploring self-help techniques to embrace one’s sexuality and ensure an enjoyable sex life.

The episode emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance, open communication, and ongoing personal growth for sexual fulfillment.

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Hey everyone, Jess here! In our latest episode of "Sex and Money with Jess," we dove into the empowering world of personal finance. I shared insights on how to carve out your own financial path, emphasizing the importance of making decisions that resonate with your unique life story and goals.

We discussed the common trap of following others' financial advice without considering if it aligns with our personal dreams and circumstances. While financial advisors are valuable for their expertise, I reminded listeners that they only see parts of our financial puzzle. As a money coach myself, I admitted that even I seek professional advice, but ultimately, we are the ones responsible for our financial choices.

I shared a story about a friend's dilemma between choosing a high-yield savings account and a credit union offer, highlighting that there's no one-size-fits-all solution in finance. We explored the idea that financial gurus like Rich Dad Poor Dad or Dave Ramsey offer perspectives based on their experiences, but it's crucial to filter their advice through our own life lens.

The episode encourages listeners to ask themselves what they truly want from their financial journey and to seek knowledge to make informed decisions. I stressed the importance of taking responsibility for our financial choices, as they shape our journey and teach us valuable lessons.

We also touched on the dynamic nature of our financial paths, how they can change direction based on new life events or goals, and the power we have to rewrite our financial narratives at any point.

I want you to enjoy the process, learn from it, and get excited about the future they're creating. I believe in the power of personal responsibility and the joy that comes from making our financial journey our own.

Remember, your financial journey is unique, and I'm here to support you every step of the way. Let's continue to grow and thrive together. Can't wait to catch up with you all in the next episode. Until then, keep dreaming big and taking charge of your money story!

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In this episode, we discuss the nuances of gender identity, biological sex, sexual orientation, and gender expression. This is your invitation to explore without judgement.

Tune it for guidance for those exploring your sexuality, and diving into the importance of self-acceptance and understanding. The episode also covers practical advice for supporting friends and family members who are navigating their identities, and concludes with a call for inclusivity and respect for individual journeys.

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In this episode I talk about an experience with a book club book that really highlighted how different our perspectives on sex can be. I'm open about talking about sex—I even do pole dancing shows and am starting this podcast about becoming a sex coach. My coworkers have shared their sex lives with me, and I've done the same. Hearing their thoughts on the book was fascinating because it reminded me that everyone has a unique perspective. It's not about being right or wrong; it's just different experiences.

People often have preconceived notions about others' sex lives based on appearances or stereotypes. I frequently surprise people when I share my sexual preferences because I look innocent and sweet, but my interests can be quite unexpected. It's crucial to explore and enjoy sex on our own terms, without being swayed by others' judgments or expectations.

So, what does your sex life look like now? What's your ideal? Whether you're having sex or not, in a monogamous or polyamorous relationship, using sex toys or not, it's all valid. The important thing is to communicate with your partner(s) and explore what feels right for you. Remember, as long as there's consent and no harm, the sky's the limit.

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In this episode, we discuss various challenges that men face regarding their sexual health and performance. They cover six common concerns: erectile dysfunction, body dysphoria issues, early ejaculation, low or no sexual desire, sexual inhibition, and delayed ejaculation. The episode provides insights, possible causes, and potential resolutions for each concern. Listeners are encouraged to seek professional help and to understand that these are common issues that do not define their worth or capabilities. The episode aims to create a safe space for men to engage with their concerns without shame.

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Welcome to today's podcast episode! Let's dive into today's topic: sex. When it comes to money, we all want more. But with sex, it's not always about quantity—it's about what you need and deserve. Your libido, preferences, and relationship dynamics all play a role.

So, take a moment to reflect: What do you feel is missing from your sex life? Maybe you're content, and that's great. But if not, it's okay too. Our needs change over time, influenced by our bodies, environments, and relationships.

In my past, sex was just physical. But now, in a committed relationship, it's more about intimacy and connection. Despite life's demands, we make time for each other—even if it means scheduling sex.

Communication is key. Whether it's expressing desires or addressing challenges, open dialogue strengthens intimacy. It's scary, but essential for growth.

As we age, life gets busier and stress mounts. Sex often takes a backseat, but it's worth prioritizing. It deepens our connection and strengthens relationships.

If you're feeling disconnected, start with small steps—hold hands, cuddle, or have a heartfelt conversation. And don't be afraid to initiate. Vulnerability leads to growth.

Remember, it's a journey. By communicating openly, prioritizing intimacy, and sharing responsibilities, you can cultivate a fulfilling sex life. So, let's embrace the journey together!

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In today's episode, we're diving into a topic that's been on my mind a lot lately: self-love and its connection to sex and relationships. We've all heard the mantra that we need to love ourselves fully before we can find love elsewhere. But is that really true?

I've been pondering this question, and here's what I've realized: self-love isn't a destination; it's a journey. We're constantly evolving, and our feelings toward ourselves fluctuate from day to day. It's like a rollercoaster ride of emotions, and sometimes, we're not going to feel like we're at the peak of self-love.

I cringe whenever I hear the notion that we have to be at 100% self-love to enter into a relationship or enjoy sex. Life doesn't work that way. We're human, and we're bound to have days where we doubt ourselves or feel less than perfect.

Take me, for example. Just last week, I made a mistake at work, and my inner critic went into overdrive. In that moment, I wasn't loving myself; I was berating myself for messing up. But that doesn't mean I'm incapable of being in a loving, fulfilling relationship.

Self-love isn't about always feeling amazing about yourself; it's about showing up for yourself, even on the days when you're not feeling your best. It's about acknowledging your worth, even when you're struggling. And guess what? It's okay to not be okay sometimes.

When it comes to sex, the same principles apply. You don't have to be at 100% to enjoy intimacy with your partner. Some days, you might not be feeling it, and that's okay. Your partner should respect your boundaries and meet you where you're at.

So, as you go about your day, remember this: you don't have to be perfect to be worthy of love and connection. Self-love is a journey, and it's okay to take it one step at a time. And if nobody has told you today, let me be the first: you are lovable, you are worthy, and you are enough.

Next week, we'll delve into the topic of sexual shame, but for now, I hope this episode has given you some food for thought. Remember, you don't have to be at 100% to live a fulfilling life. Just show up as you are, and the rest will fall into place. Take care, and until next time.

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In this inaugural guest episode, I bring on my friend Anna, a seasoned realtor from Minnesota, to delve into the intricate process of buying a house. We discuss the key steps and financial considerations for first-time homebuyers, covering topics like down payment, earnest money, inspection costs, and closing fees. Anna shares her journey from education to real estate, her experiences during the COVID pandemic, and how market shifts have altered buying dynamics.

We also explore the nuances of working with lenders and realtors, negotiating commissions, and the importance of understanding homeowner association (HOA) fees and regulations. This episode provides essential guidance and practical tips for anyone looking to buy a home.

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In the final episode of the 'Sex and Money with Jess, I reflect on the 24-episode journey thus far, expressing gratitude to listeners and summarizing the series' insights.

This episode is all about personal sexual exploration, encouraging listeners to revisit the questions from episode 23 to better understand their own and their partner's sexual needs. I share my own personal experiences with societal expectations and boundaries in sex, and I share the importance of self-awareness, patience, and open communication.

It's important to take baby steps toward sexual comfort and fulfillment, and if you feel like you need support on your journey, make sure to reach out. I'd love to help. Thank you so much for listening

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