I’m sharing the importance of acting in alignment with what you really want when other people have opinions of you and the changes you’re making, and how doing the mindset work I’m bringing you today will increase your capacity for making positive changes in your life.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/243

Join me on the podcast this week as we discuss where you should focus if you feel defined by your big mistakes, how to incorporate self-love as a daily practice, how to decide on your next big goal, having confidence in front of the camera, and so much more.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://frenchkisslife.com/196

Transforming Your Self-Image: The Key to Attracting Effortless Love

Your love story begins with self-love and an understanding of your own worth before seeking love from others. This foundational concept is beautifully illustrated in Tonya Leigh's podcast episode, where she shares her personal journey of transformation and the shifts in self-image that led her to a fulfilling relationship.

Tonya Leigh shares her personal love story and the pivotal self-image shifts that led to her engagement. She explores the connection between self-worth and the quality of relationships, emphasizing that our experiences in love often reflect how we see ourselves. Tonya invites listeners to consider the lessons learned from past relationships and how they can apply these insights to foster more fulfilling connections. With a light-hearted tone, she encourages self-reflection and growth, reminding us that relationships are powerful mirrors of our inner world.

Tune in for an inspiring discussion on attracting the love you deserve!

Talking Points:

01:02 - Tonya's Love Story: Self-Image Shifts
03:08 - Part One: The Attraction Stage
05:07 - Embracing Alone Time: Self-Discovery
07:47 - Dating Mindset: Enjoying the Process
10:24 - Online Dating: Authentic Profiles
14:44 - Authenticity: Sharing Fears
17:34 - Part Two: The Partnership Stage
20:04 - Redefining Love: Beyond Hollywood Rom-Coms
23:10 - Enjoying the Journey: No Rush to Marry
25:07 - The Beginning of Love: Self-Love First
26:02 - Embodying Love

Quotes:

"I just allowed myself to cry and to grieve and to feel all of the feelings because I knew that if I didn't deal with that, I was just going to keep attracting more of the same."

"I was open, but not attached. There was no rush, no timeline, no pressure."

"I'm not going to abandon me to get someone else's approval."

"I wasn't out there searching for love; I was fully immersed in a life that felt joyful and fulfilling."

"His love is steady, strong, and unwavering. His love is a beautiful, masculine love. Strong yet soft."

"Your love story doesn't begin when someone else enters into your life. It begins the moment you decide to love yourself deeply, unapologetically, and completely."

Useful  Resources:

Click HERE to join the Membership 

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Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:

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Join me on this episode as I dive into my vault of questions from the French Kiss Life community. I’m sharing the secrets of how I stay healthy, motivated, and grounded, as well as what you can do to free your life of boredom and loneliness, and live an elegant life, no matter your circumstances. Oh yeah, I’m also sharing why my lashes have been looking so amazing lately.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://frenchkisslife.com/191

Join me on the podcast this week to discover the power of personal branding. I’m discussing how you can start telling your story in a way that serves you, and why personal branding will bring more ease into your life, by helping you make decisions that align with the version of you that you want yourself and the world to experience.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/226

Finding Joy in Life's Challenges: The Uncommon Gratitude Practice

In our daily lives, we often encounter individuals who trigger strong emotional responses in us—whether it’s frustration, anger, or discomfort. The common reaction is to distance ourselves from these people, believing that cutting them out will provide relief. However, as discussed in the podcast episode, this approach may lead to missed opportunities for profound personal growth.

In this episode of the School of Self-Image, host Tonya Leigh explores the profound lessons that can be learned from the things we often take for granted, complain about, or try to avoid in our daily lives. As Thanksgiving approaches, Tonya emphasizes the importance of gratitude and celebration, arguing that these practices should extend beyond just one day a year. She reflects on how embracing gratitude has been a transformative principle in her life, helping her navigate challenges and create a life she loves. Drawing from a recent workshop, she shares insights on staying connected to our celebrations, highlighting how they can foster personal growth and joy. Join Tonya as she invites listeners to recognize and appreciate the unexpected sources of wisdom in their lives.

Talking Points:

00:40 - Thanksgiving and Gratitude

02:06 - The Power of Celebration

03:11 - Practicing Gratitude in Hard Times

03:43 - People Who Trigger Us

07:04 - Learning from Triggers

10:06 - Embracing Failures

12:35 -Daily Annoyances

16:00 - Future Gratitude

22:34 - Showing Up for Your Dreams

Quotes:

"Gratitude has become a practice that I especially use during my hardest times."

"I have come to view these people as my biggest teachers. I like to call them my pets. They're my personal emotional trainers."

"I think the answer is to lean into it so we can learn from it and grow from it."

"A lot of the lessons that we need to learn are going to be learned in the mistakes, not in the successes."

"The next time you're annoyed, just ask yourself, is there anything in this that I could be grateful for?"

"I have found that the anticipation is even better than the arrival."

"If you come across just one podcast and you learn something that changes your life, I will feel like I have served my mission in life."

"Be a woman who shows up for her dreams."

Useful  Resources:

Click HERE to join the Curated Year Workshop

Click HERE to join the Membership 

Click HERE for a FREE download 

Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit

Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:

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Emotional Residency: Packing Up Your Life for Joyful Reinvention

I want you to fill your social media feed with things that feel good, calm your nervous system, and make you excited to be alive. So, tune in this week to discover what you need to need to banish from your feed, so you can experience the creativity, positivity, and peace that is there to be enjoyed if you make enough room to allow it into your life.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/291

I see so many women beating themselves up because they can’t seem to change, and this needs to stop! Whether you want to work on your weight, your money, or your style, join me in this episode to discover the secret to changing your habits. I’m sharing why this journey is so tricky, and how to create the habits that will help you achieve anything in 2022.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/262

It’s the most wonderful time of the year!

Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.

Indeed, the holiday season is just around the corner as people start to prepare. One of the things to prepare is gifts to give family, friends, colleagues, and more.  The list of ideas and names is probably getting longer as the years by, isn’t it? But let me tell you, don’t forget to give yourself a gift too! 

If you have no idea of what to give yourself this holiday season, I’ll be sharing my top 5 gifts that I’ve given myself. Honestly, it was really hard to choose just 5 ‘cause I really thought of the best things that I had for the past years and came up with my top 5.

Also, get the first dibs on our upcoming holiday party and more announcements when you listen to today’s episode!

What I Cover In This Episode:

0:44 - How to join our Holiday Party

4:07 - Reasons why you should enroll in The School of Image today

7:02 - The festivities of the holiday season & gift-giving

8:49 - My favorite things I gifted myself

9:28 - Gift #1: Travel

12:12 - Gift #2: Style

16:09 - Gift #3: Wealth

23:01 - How to achieve financial discipline

27:03 - Gift #4: Coaching

30:39 - Gift #5: Wellness

Quotes:

“We are always elevating our environments to allow us to have access to different ideas and thoughts and possibilities that don't exist in our current environment.”

“The gift of self-exploration for the purpose of self-expression ~ the journey of style has been so much deeper than it may seem when I talk about this.”

“Believe it or not, a true style journey will give that to you because before you can express something intentionally, you have to know who you are that's wanting to be expressed.”

“Do you know what they're using their brains for to create wealth? And that's been the ultimate gift of gifting myself with wealth. Learning how to think and be a wealthy woman first, learning how to tune in to me instead of plugging into the world, deciding on purpose what I wanna believe about money, my ability to earn it, manage it and grow it.”

Useful Resources:

• Join our Holiday Party
• Join our Community
• FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto
• The School of Self-Image

Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:

• Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/?hl=en
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial/
• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachschool
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1RNNnPWpxvq7y7jK5rlOmQ
  
  

Discover what you would include in your self-care business plan if you could recreate your health and wellbeing in any way you wanted. I’m sharing how to allow yourself to want what you want unapologetically, and sell yourself on the possibilities.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/285

Discover whether you are a creator or a consumer. I’m sharing why I believe we should all be creating more than we consume, and how you can work on creating at a level that allows you to grow without becoming burned out.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/235

Discover the fastest and most effective way to experience massive changes in your self-image. I’m sharing how I’ve experienced this myself multiple times in my life, what you can do to put your thoughts and limiting beliefs to one side and how to give yourself the opportunity to thrive.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/279

Discover what it means to delight in yourself, and how you can start doing it right now. I’m sharing the thought patterns and self-image issues my clients have had to overcome in this process, my own experiences with this, and why, when you can delight in yourself, everything starts to change.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/240

Join me on the podcast this week to discover 5 ways to elevate your energy physically and mentally, so you can start creating a life that truly lights you up. And be sure to come join us in the School of Self-Image where, for the month of May, we’re diving deep into this topic. The doors just opened but we're going to be shutting them down soon, click here to find out more and to join.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/230

Everything I have built is a result of hard work and dedication, but never at the expense of rest and leisure when my brain and body need it. Anyone can hustle themselves into burnout, but honoring your inner lady of leisure is the secret to longevity here, so it’s time you created a work philosophy that allows for both in your own life too. 

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/295

Creating Your Couture Life: The Power of Dream Fittings!

In this episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the concept of a "couture life" custom-made to fit our souls. She introduces the idea of "dream fittings" and emphasizes the importance of pursuing our dreams. 

Tonya also discusses the significance of working on one's identity and self-image. She points out that many people neglect this aspect of personal development, which can lead to feeling stuck and self-sabotage. By not working on our identity, individuals may struggle to create the life they truly want.

Tonya emphasizes the need to prioritize this aspect of personal development encourages listeners to explore their true desires and aspirations and explores the importance of tangible experiences, trying things on to test out dreams and goals. She encourages individuals to actively engage in real-world situations to gain a better understanding of what truly aligns with their passions and values. Enjoy this insightful 'Dream Fittings' episode 

Episode Details:

02:26 Appreciating the ordinary. 

05:58 A couture life. 

09:23 Fear of failure and confidence. 

13:48 Finding a fitting dream. 

8:00 Dream fittings and exploration. 

20:31 Blessings in disguise. 

30:47 Join to learn more.

Quotes:

"Because when you really appreciate the ordinary, that's when it becomes extraordinary."

 "It's why so many people sabotage themselves because they don't work on the number one thing that is determining the quality of their life."

"It's believing that no matter what's going to happen, you're going to be okay."

"I'm someone who's willing to fail."

"You're so afraid of being called flighty or flaky that you're not willing to experiment."

"You're going to have to go out there and try it on."

"Testing your dreams out in little ways to see how they fit is the key to living a couture life."

Useful Resources:

   Join Now!  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join

    FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/

    Join us at SOSI South!:  http://schoolofselfimage.com/south

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Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:

    Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com

    Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh  

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial

    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh  

     YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Discover how to deal with those occasions when you lose motivation. I’m sharing why feeling this way from time to time is inevitable, what’s going on in your brain when it happens, and how to show yourself grace and compassion, so you can show up when you really need to.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/244

In this episode, I’m talking about how to overcome the doubt that’s telling you you’re not ready. I’ll share some of my experiences with starting before I was ready and how to catch your brain when it’s trying to keep you from going after what you want.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://frenchkisslife.com/147

Tune in this week as I share how I cultivated a “bring it” attitude, and the thoughts that have allowed me to truly believe that life is happening for me. You’ll discover how resisting the challenging times is stopping you from enjoying the good times, and how to open your arms wide and say, “Bring it. I was made for this.”

Get full show notes and more information here: https://frenchkisslife.com/181

Uncovering The ROI Of Style

In this episode of School of Self-Image, host and Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh, shares insights about the return on investment (ROI) of style. She shares how she has noticed improvements in her physical and mental health since moving to a new environment and how her friend has seen a tenfold increase in her business as a result of investing in style. 

Instead of spending a lot of money on expensive clothing to appear wealthy, the ROI of true style is emotional. It will make the wearer feel abundant, confident, powerful, and great in their own skin. The conversation also discusses how investing in designer items, such as a handbag, can help change the wearer's self-image. It can provide evidence for what they want to believe about themselves and be life-changing. The speaker suggests that action alone isn't enough and that the action needs to be taken with purpose in order to change thoughts about oneself. Finally, the conversation wraps up by discussing how feeling better, more confident, and more empowered will also have an emotional ROI.

What I cover in this episode:

0:00:01

"Exploring the ROI of Style: A Conversation with Tanya Lee"

0:06:32

Exploring the Impact of Style on Our Lives

0:09:44

"The Importance of Taking Care of Yourself: How Our Appearance Affects Our Perception"

0:11:25

The ROI of True Style: Leveraging the Brain to Get a Return and Make Our Lives Better

0:17:26

"The Power of Intentional Dressing: How Investing in Your Style Can Lead to Financial and Emotional Returns"

0:19:48

"The Power of Style: How to Use Attention to Your Advantage"

0:24:11

The Power of Professional Style: How to Elevate Your First Impression and Increase Your Net Worth

0:26:37

"The Power of Elevating Your Status Through Style"

0:28:45

"The Power of Style: How to Make Lasting Impressions and Transform Your Self-Image"

Quotes: 

You are trying to increase your net worth. You're wanting to attract quality men. You're wanting to place yourself in quality environments. And therefore, it's important that you match the energy of that which you want. Style has the ability to help you do that.

The ROI of style also impacts your first impressions and making a great first impression matters. 

So the emotional return on not only discovering your style, because that is a sign that you've taken the time to get to know yourself, that you know what you love and what you don't love, but also how you feel when you put an effort. 

A Gucci or Chanel handbag isn't going to change your life unless you change how you see yourself. 

Useful Resources:

• FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto

• Style Experience: schoolofselfimage.com/styleexperience
  
  

• Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:

• Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/
  
  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/?hl=en
  
  

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial/
  
  

• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachschool
  
  

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1RNNnPWpxvq7y7jK5rlOmQ

In this episode, I want to convince you that love has the power to heal us, connect us, and make us healthier & wealthier. I share my journey to love and how I struggled to let love back into my life. I talk about the effects of choosing love on my relationship with myself, my family, and my community as a whole. And I talk about how to handle it when you’re finding someone incredibly difficult – or even impossible – to love.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://frenchkisslife.com/133

Quality Over Quantity: The Key to an Elegant Closet

An elegant closet transcends mere clothing and accessories; it is about curating a selection that truly embodies your authentic style, meets your lifestyle needs, and brings you joy every time you open its doors. Tonya Leigh stresses the significance of crafting a closet that effortlessly reflects who you are. This involves meticulously choosing pieces that resonate with your personal style and values.

When curating an elegant closet, it is crucial to consider not only the visual appeal of the items but also their practicality in meeting your daily lifestyle demands. The clothes and accessories in your closet should serve a purpose and align with the activities and occasions you typically engage in. By ensuring that your wardrobe is tailored to your lifestyle, you can feel confident and comfortable in your outfits, knowing that they cater to your needs.

Get inspired to turn your closet into a personal sanctuary that truly reflects who you are.

Talking Points:

00:44 - Tonya's New Home and Office

01:37 - Designing an Elegant Closet

03:03 - Four Essentials of an Elegant Closet

04:19 - Emotional Benefits of an Elegant Closet

04:30 - Inspiration from a French Friend

05:33 - Misconceptions About Elegance

05:55 - Soul Style Quiz

07:00 - Solving the "Nothing to Wear" Problem

07:21 - Easier Packing for Trips

08:25 - Investing in Timeless Pieces

10:22 - Challenge: Choosing Quality Pieces

16:02 - Personal Story: High Heels vs. Sneakers

20:09 - Organizational Tools and Tips

26:52 - Final Thoughts on Closet Curation

Quotes:

 "When I was designing my closet, what I wanted was an elegant closet. And it turns out elegance isn't big. It's not massive. It's not over the top. It's about curating a closet that allows the beautiful expression of you."

 "An elegant closet eliminates decision fatigue, it boosts your self-esteem, and it sets this positive tone for your day."

"Because let me tell you, no amount of cheap thrills can fill the space that's meant for true quality pieces that resonate with your soul."

"It is an intimate journey designed for the discerning woman who knows she's capable of more, but needs that extra guidance and inspiration."

Useful  Resources:

Soul Style Quiz:  http://schoolofselfimage.com/stylequiz

Join Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join

 FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/

 Sign up for the Weekly Edit:  http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit

 Follow School of Self-Image on IG:  @schoolofselfimage

Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:

Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com

Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh  

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh  

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Summary:

What is your minimum style standard?  If you don’t know yet, this is the perfect episode ofor you. Setting a standard for yourself in so many areas of your life is important, including your style standard.  Maybe it is lip gloss and mascara before leaving the house, or never wearing sweats.  One of mine is, spoiler alert, hoodies.  Hoodies are great and many women can really rock a great hoodie.   But they just are not my style nor part of my style standard.  

Style standards vary widely depending on a number of factors such as cultural norms, personal preferences, and current fashion trends. But your everyday style standard is focused on your expression of YOU. Styling what you wear helps boost confidence and a positive self-image. You want someone to see you, and your style, and know it expresses your unique authentic self.  This is the very reason why I emphasize style and I advocate it. 

If you’re curious to know more about how you can start elevating your style standards, be sure to check out The Style Experience with me while you listen to this week’s episode! 

What I Cover In This Episode:

0:00 - Intro

0:30 - Little things that count

1:25 - How do I decide what to wear 

3:07 - What are my style standards?

3:57 - The importance of consistency

5:09 - The impact of your “I am” statements

6:11 - How to create your style standards

8:34 - How to raise your style standards

9:27 - How style is essential in boosting your confidence and self-respect

12:09 - Reasons why you should consider having your style standards

15:53 - How to define your purpose

Quotes:

“We can use our style and our environment to help us create new feelings. Which is why I'm an advocate of changing our environments. I'm an advocate of changing our style. I'm an advocate of taking action to shake things up. Because it gives you new perspectives. It allows you to access new thoughts. And it's a quick and easy way to shift the energy at the moment.” 

“Do you have a set of operating principles that you live by that make it easy to make decisions in terms of how you dress, how you carry yourself, or how you communicate? These sets of operating principles also help you to see yourself in a way that serves you. They help you to elevate your self-image.”

“What my standard is may not be your standard. That's the point of style. Style is to be original to figure out who you want to be and to express that on purpose.” 

“So stop being lazy, stop looking like a bum, let's get up, get dressed, and put our best self out to the world. But more importantly, put your best self out there for you. 

“You can have one outfit, one pair of shoes, one statement necklace, one bold red lip, one haircut, one pantsuit, one pair of jeans, one jacket, but literally can change your life.”

Useful Resources:

• FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto

• Enroll now in The Style Experience with Tonya Leigh: https://schoolofselfimage.com/the-style-experience/

• Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:

• Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/?hl=en

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial/

• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachschool

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1RNNnPWpxvq7y7jK5rlOmQ

Embracing Enoughness: Transforming Your Mindset This Holiday Season

An abundant self-image is fundamentally rooted in the belief that one's worth is expansive, regenerative, and independent of external validation or accomplishments. This perspective shifts the focus from a scarcity mindset—where individuals often feel inadequate or insufficient—to an empowering understanding of self-worth that is inherent and limitless.

In this special Christmas Day episode of the School of Self-Image, host Tonya Leigh shares her heartfelt reflections on abundance and gratitude. After a morning of journaling, Tonya expresses her desire for every woman to experience the overwhelming joy she felt while making her morning coffee. Instead of a tangible gift, she emphasizes the importance of a mindset shift, proposing that the greatest gift she can offer is an abundant self-image. Join Tonya as she dives into the transformative power of self-perception and how it can lead to a more fulfilling life.

Happy holidays!

Talking Points:

00:32 - Christmas Day Reflections
01:26 - The Gift of an Abundant Self-Image
02:08 - Understanding Scarcity Mindset
03:01 - Shifting Focus to Abundance
05:57 - Physical Presence and Self-Image
07:02 - Relationships and Boundaries
09:29 - Expressing Needs 
11:21 - Holding Multiple Truths
13:27 - Trusting Intuition 
14:12 - Taking Risks Without Guarantees
16:09 - Aligning Opportunities with Values
18:38 - Spending with an Abundant Mindset
19:09 - Generosity Without Depletion
20:04 - New Year Wishes

Quotes:

"If I could walk up to your door, knock on it and give you a box and you open it, this year I would want that gift to be an abundant self image."

"To me, they are proving the enoughness that I am wanting, that I am looking for."

"An abundant self-image is you having the understanding of what you need and articulating that in a way that others then understand it."

"Choosing based on what lights you up. That's such an abundant energy."

"To me, it's also about investing in your personal growth without needing to justify every penny."

"An abundant self-image is a woman who sees herself as enough, who sees the world as having enough, and who shows up in that state of enoughness."

Useful  Resources:

Click HERE to join the Membership 

Click HERE for a FREE download 

Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit

Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:

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Click HERE to visit our website

Click HERE to visit our Facebook group

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Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel

Looking Back, Living Now, and Celebrating the Future: A New Year’s Practice

The "champagne mindset" is a transformative approach to life that encourages individuals to celebrate not only their successes but also the challenges they face. This mindset is rooted in the understanding that both victories and obstacles are essential components of personal growth and resilience.

As we welcome the year 2025, Tonya shares her personal New Year's tradition of celebrating intentionally, emphasizing the importance of rewiring our brains to focus on positivity and possibility. She explains how our thoughts shape our focus and, ultimately, our lives. By embracing the champagne mindset, which combines celebration with resilience, listeners are encouraged to seek out extraordinary moments in everyday life and to celebrate both challenges and victories.

Tune in to discover how this mindset can shift your perspective and enhance your journey towards your biggest goals.

Talking Points:

00:41 - Reflecting on the Past Year
02:06 - Defining the Champagne Mindset
04:14 - Growth Through Challenges
06:00 - Authentic Goals and Self-Image
07:04 - Celebrating the Past
08:09 - Celebrating the Present
09:40 - The Science of Focus and Abundance
12:23 - The Be-Do-Have Model
14:09 - Taking Control of Your Story
15:03 - Celebrating the Future
19:00 - Aligning Actions with Future Success
20:06 - The Champagne Mindset in Practice
21:40 - Writing and Editing Your Life Story

Quotes:

"I call this the champagne mindset. It is an approach to life that combines celebration with resilience."

"To create something you've never had, you have to become someone you've never been."

"The more you celebrate life, the more life celebrates you."

"You have to take control of your story. You have to take control of your narrative."

"The brain has a difficulty distinguishing between vivid imagination and reality."

Useful  Resources:

Click HERE to join the Membership 

Click HERE for a FREE download 

Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit

Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:

Click HERE to follow our Instagram

Click HERE to visit our website

Click HERE to visit our Facebook group

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Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel

In this episode, host Tonya Leigh explores the concept of worthiness and how it can impact our lives. She discusses the importance of recognizing our own value and how it relates to bringing value to the world. Tonya shares personal experiences and insights on making the decision to see oneself as worthy, emphasizing that worthiness is not something that needs to be earned. Tune in to learn more about the "worthy decision" and how it can lead to a life of deep satisfaction and well-being.

The details:

[00:02:27] Being worthy and self-value.

[00:06:03] Your spending habits change.

[00:10:09] A worthy decision.

[00:13:49] Pay attention to your desires.

Quotes:

"It was really a decision of seeing myself as worthy."

"When you see yourself as worthy; when you see yourself as having nothing to prove, that's when the magic happens."

"Things can't make you worthy or make you less worthy."

"You're worthy enough to ride in that beautiful car and to pull up in style."

Useful Resources:

   Join Now!  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join

    FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/

    Join us at SOSI South!:  http://schoolofselfimage.com/south

Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:

    Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com

    Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh  

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In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, Tonta Leigh discusses the "dos and don'ts" of living a charmed life, inspired by a quote from Neil Donald Walsh. She encourages listeners to be the source of charm in the lives of others and to make everyone they touch feel lucky for crossing paths with them. Tanya also shares some anecdotes from her personal life, including hosting family and training for her first pickleball tournament. Finally, she reminds listeners that it's the little things in everyday life that can bring the most joy.

[00:03:35] Living a charmed life.

[00:04:33] The meaning of 'charm'. 

[00:06:20] SOSI South. 

[00:13:01] Being a Giver, not a taker.  

[00:16:51] Impress yourself.  

[00:21:13] Stop focusing on the unattractive.  

[00:25:03] Don't sweat the small stuff.   

[00:29:29] Slowing down for a charmed life.

Quotes: 

Charm means the power of giving delight or arousing admiration to achieve something as if by magic.

Life gives to the giver and takes from the taker.

Live to impress yourself.

Another thing to do if you want to live a charmed life is to unplug from the unattractive.

Charm and complaining don't go together.

But the other beautiful thing about slowing down is that you begin to realize that life can only be as beautiful as you make this moment."

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The Money Garden: Design, Nurture, and Enjoy Your Financial Life

In this episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the concept of elegance in budgeting. She emphasizes the importance of spending in a way that enhances life and brings abundance, rather than scarcity and fear. Tonya shares her personal practice of having a monthly "money date" to intimately connect with her finances and make intentional decisions. She highlights the positive impact this practice has had on her net worth over the years. Tonya also mentions her upcoming workshop, "The Money Garden," where she will delve deeper into money mindset and intentional money management.

Living within our means is also highlighted as an important aspect of an elegant budget. Overspending can lead to stress, anxiety, and a sense of scarcity. The host encourages living within our means to create a sense of abundance and wealth. This means appreciating and fully utilizing what we already have before bringing in new things. It is about being mindful of our purchases and avoiding buying things that will go unused or sit in our closets.

Overall, the episode promotes the idea of an elegant budget as a way to create a fulfilling and abundant life. It encourages conscious spending that is driven by joy, excitement, and alignment with our values and goals. 

Episode breakdown:

00:01 Elegance in spending.

05:10 The elegant budget.

09:41 The Three Mothers

12:44 The Pareto principle.

17:09 Investing in personal growth.

23:38 Maximizing your means.

Quotes:

"Between overindulgence and frugality is elegance."

"Go out there, eat the cake, spend the money, dance on tables, enjoy life today."

"Eating what you want, when you want, spending as much money as you want today is stealing from your future in some ways."

"People can call me superficial, they can call me whatever they want, but I love pretty things."

"I want to be wealthy in all of the ways and not just financially."

"Are you ready to tend to your wealth, watch it grow and make money feel beautiful?"

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Join me on the podcast this week to discover why taking a moment to enjoy life’s simple pleasures – the ones that cost nothing – will make your life richer and bring you closer to whatever it is you want to achieve. I’m sharing examples from my life where I lost perspective of the importance of these simple pleasures, and how every aspect of life improves when we celebrate them.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://frenchkisslife.com/179

It’s all in the mind!

Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.

Will you agree if I say love can either be the most beautiful experience or the most painful when being left behind? These kinds of experiences are part of one’s life which is inevitable. It’s in our nature to feel and be part of the process. But at the end of the day, it’s still your choice.

Leaving something (or someone) you love is a situation that most of us have experienced in life, right? As I know the emotions and thoughts might be overflowing, but you really have to decide whether to be stuck where you are or make a stand to move forward with your life.

It all comes back to your choice ~ are you gonna be the same version of yourself forever? Or are you gonna leap yourself up, act smart, and accept the situation for good?

So if you’re unsure yet of which one to choose, listen to find out how you can turn this leaving situation into something positive and bright!

What I Cover In This Episode:

1:34 - How to figure out the reason you’re leaving

4:17 - Why you should start to take responsibility

6:10 - How to know if a person, situation, or experience belongs in your future

8:29 - The importance of having a niche

10:17 - Pointers #1: Don’t second guess yourself

12:26 - Pointers #2: Be ready and be willing to feel the discomfort of leaving

14:29 - Pointers #3: Spend time being grateful for that person or that situation

16:41 - Pointers #4: Make sure to have your own back

17:51 - Pointers #5: Be okay with people being upset and disappointed

18:04 - Pointers #6: Have the time to look toward where you're going

21:24 - What is your greatest act of love

Quotes:

“You are your own answer.”

“Here's the secret, the success is within you. As when you have a successful self-image, you can make any niche work.”

“Just make sure you're leaving for the right reason. You are leaving so that you can grow and evolve and place yourself in expansive environments. You're not leaving to find something outside of you to fix your feelings.”

“You get to decide how you feel no matter where you are. And you can also place yourself in places where it's so much easier to feel the way you want to feel.” 

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Discover how having a negative body image held me back for so many years. I’m sharing how a negative perception of my body affected every area of my life, where to look so you can see how it could be affecting yours, and why everything improves when your body image becomes more positive.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/234

Discover how to step into queen energy. I’m sharing why so many women decide not to give themselves the royal treatment they deserve, and I’m showing you why now is the time to stop hiding, decide what you want, and go after it embodying the energy of a leader and an icon.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/284

Why I think being a self-possessed woman is a great goal. I’ll share what self-possessed means to me, why it requires you to take radical responsibility for yourself, and how it can set you free from some of the stories that are holding you back. And I’ll walk you through six areas in your life where you can practice self-possession, including your emotions, your self-opinion, your desires, and your decisions.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://frenchkisslife.com/135

In this episode, I’m talking all about how to make yourself available for what you do want and unavailable for those things you’re done tolerating. I’ll share some of my experiences with this idea, including the points when I was done tolerating mean self-talk, friendships that didn’t fit, and scarcity.

You get what you tolerate. So what are you no longer going to be available for in 2020?

Get full show notes and more information here: https://frenchkisslife.com/159

Unveiling Your Inner Queen: The Power of Self-Respect and Self-Care

If you want to show up differently in your relationships, change how you make decisions around money and how you navigate your career or business, tune in this week because starting this work of being selective will change all of it. I’m sharing how to decide what you want your life to look like, and then where you need to start being more selective in order to make that vision your reality.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/273

Mastering Productivity: Signature Work Habits with My Executive Assistant

Beginning and concluding your day effectively are essential practices that can significantly influence your productivity and overall mindset throughout the workday. Tonya Leigh and her executive assistant, Abigail Schroeder, explore the importance of these two bookends of the day and how they contribute to a more effective and fulfilling work experience.

Tonya opens the conversation by addressing a common question she receives: how she manages to get so much done. Tonya shares the story of how she found Abigail amidst over 500 applicants and highlights the importance of having a supportive team. Together, they explore effective work strategies, insights on collaboration, and the value of intuition in hiring. 

Tune in to discover how to enhance your productivity and learn from Abigail's expertise in managing tasks and supporting a busy, thriving  executive by creating a positive, effective work environment.

Talking Points:

01:53 - Role of an Executive Assistant

02:27 - Abigail's Responsibilities

07:04 - The Four Ds Framework

09:16 - Abigail's Signature Work Habits 

10:51 - Starting Your Day Well

13:26 - Self-Awareness and Acceptance

16:01 - Knowing Your Strengths and Weaknesses

20:10 - Writing Everything Down

25:08 - Prioritize with Focus and Rest

31:14 - Diffuse Mode of Thinking

37:58 - Most Impactful Work Habit

39:33 - Company Culture 

Quotes:

 "My two main goals in my role is to optimize your time and to support the overall vision you have for the company."

"If you're going to do it, don't do something and then be struggling and arguing with it."

 "At any moment, you can do a U-turn and recommit, do whatever you need to do to get yourself back on track."

 "It's just part of the human experience. We're not supposed to be great at everything."

"You wouldn't expect yourself to be able to run a marathon without training for it, you know? And so we have to treat our brain the same way."

"Ending your day well can look like, I don't know, cooking, hanging out with friends, going on a walk, playing a game."

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Join me on the podcast this week as I present my word of the year that I plan on embodying over the next 12 months. I’m also sharing how you can discover your own self-image word of the year, and how to apply it in every single thing you do, creating a life you truly love along the way.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://frenchkisslife.com/213

It is my firm belief that the world orchestrates to fulfill that which you think about yourself, so we need to start thinking of ourselves in the best way imaginable. 

On the podcast this week, I’ll be sharing my own story of transformation, how I worked to change my self-image and began creating the life that I always dreamed of but never dreamed was possible, and how you can start doing the same in your life.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://frenchkisslife.com/214

Join me on the podcast this week to discover how to live from your future. I’m sharing what you can do to notice where your past thinking is keeping you stuck, and how you can start to deeply question yourself and become the version of you who attracts all of the brilliance that life has to offer.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://frenchkisslife.com/185

The Power of Self-Appreciation: 5 Steps to Delight in You

Inspired by a quote from Anais Nin, Tonya Leigh reflects on the concept she has adopted that is centered on delighting in oneself.  Tonya shares her experience of a delightful day spent alone and discusses the importance of analyzing and journaling about such days to create more moments of joy. She offers five ways to delight in oneself, encouraging listeners to take pleasure and satisfaction in who they are.

By prioritizing self-care, nurturing self-relationship, and appreciating one's own value, individuals can cultivate a deeper sense of joy, fulfillment, and self-love. These practices not only benefit personal well-being but also have a positive impact on external relationships, work, and overall quality of life. Embracing these aspects can lead to a more fulfilling and delightful existence, where individuals can truly thrive and experience the fullness of life.

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Episode Details:

00:49 Delighting in yourself

06:52 Prioritize self-care

09:35 Making time for joyful activities

15:31 Being your own best friend

20:14 Quality alone time

21:51 Cultivating a deeper relationship with yourself

Quotes:

 "My mission, should I choose to accept it, is to find peace."

“A joyful woman is a magnet for her desires. Energy is always looking for its equal match. Delighting is an energy. It is a vibration that you put out into the world.”

"You are the longest commitment you will ever have in your life. Make the choice to lovingly commit to yourself."

 "What if you just decided you're never going to beat yourself up again? Instead, you're going to be your own best friend, your greatest cheerleader."

"You are worth that time. You are valuable enough to delight in yourself."

"There's nothing wrong with you. You are not broken. But your approach probably is."

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Success has a billion definitions in the world. Time to start yours today!

Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.

When you search for the word ‘success’ in Google, you’ll end up seeing a million of content such as posts, stories, blogs, videos, and the like. Success is one of the most-used and powerful words across the globe. That’s how success is to people. People aim to achieve it by all means.

For me, it took a while to realize the true definition of success in my life. I was in awe of those shiny objects around me, of people telling me what should I be, and trying to fit myself in society. But here am I, sharing my story as I hope you can start to create your own.

So today, I’m inviting you to listen to this episode as I explore more about success. I’ll share tips on how you can start defining success, winning more in life, and just living who you really are and would want to be!

What I Cover In This Episode:

0:38 - I’m still on a SOSI high!

3:07 - Reasons why you should have your own definition of success

4:12 - How to have that ‘successful mindset’

5:49 - Figuring out success for yourself

8:34 - Best definitions of success

10:12 - How to live your life to the fullest

12:26 - Tips for staying focused on your desired outcomes

17:05 - A step-by-step guide to defining your own success

20:52 - The importance of having the courage

23:47 - How to pursue success with your strengths

29:22 - How to find your gift

31:34 - The benefits of incorporating fun with success

34:30 - How success can help you grow

Quotes:

“ Success is a degree or measure of succeeding, a favorable or desired outcome, and the accomplishment of an aim or a purpose. So just in that definition, it ties with an end outcome.”

“... if you set that goal and you went all in. You grew. You expanded. And you learned to me you are a huge success.”

“Success is having the courage to go for it and having the courage to go for what you want.”

“...success is having fun on the way to your goals.” 

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Enclosed cognition is the idea that the clothes we wear can influence our thoughts, emotions, and behavior by triggering certain associations and expectations that we have with those clothes. By using clothing to create associations and shape our self-image, we can influence how we see ourselves, think, feel, and behave. This can also impact how others perceive us and the narrative that is built around us. Changing our style can lead to significant changes in our lives, as it is all interconnected. Therefore, it is important to ask ourselves what emotions and beliefs we want to cultivate about ourselves and choose our clothes accordingly. This concept is a core pillar within the school of self-image.

In this podcast episode, Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh, discusses how we can control the narrative of how we want to be perceived through our clothing and style choices. 

Enclosed cognition suggests that our clothes can trigger certain associations and expectations. By choosing clothes that align with our desired self-image, we can cultivate beliefs about ourselves and behave accordingly. Tonya emphasizes the importance of making associations between ourselves and our clothes first, before considering how others may perceive us. She also shares personal experiences of how her style choices have led people to associate her with certain places or qualities. This episode highlights the power of using clothing to transform our self-image and behavior.

Timestamps:

[00:01:40] Enclosed cognition and clothing. 

[00:05:11] Personal style. 

[00:07:18] Clothing shapes self-image and perception.

[00:10:55] Power of clothing associations.

Quotes:

• "This concept suggests that the clothes we wear affect our thoughts, our emotions and behavior by triggering certain associations and expectations that we have with those clothes."

• "It's about an emotional journey."

• "You can shape how the world sees you."

• "When a woman changes her style, she changes her life because it's all connected."

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The five parts of yourself that you need to break up with to create your most abundant, fulfilled self. I’ll tell you about some of the pieces of myself that I’ve broken up with, why each one had to happen, and how I handled these transitions with gentleness and kindness for myself. I’ll also share some of the wonderful things that are on the other side of these breakups, because I promise you have so much to look forward to.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://frenchkisslife.com/142

In this episode, I talk about why you need a Celebration Circle in your life and how to build one. I’ll share how celebration will help you take responsibility for your own energy and approach to life, and why celebration is such a sacred act. And I’ll share some of my favorite Celebration Circle practices so you can schedule one of your own.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://frenchkisslife.com/127

Tune in this week to discover why increasing your capacity will bring more of whatever it is you want for your life. I’m sharing how we self-sabotage when our capacity isn’t big enough for our goals, and what you can do to embrace the discomfort of increasing your capacity right now.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://frenchkisslife.com/192

Don’t let your doubts stop you!

Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast by Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.

With all the happenings in our lives, the focus is a challenge. We tend to live in a world where people are so much into overthinking and what-ifs. To some extent, our doubts are pulling us away from doing what should be done. Doubts strike our confidence and control our thoughts too. Don’t be like this!

Today, I’ll define what doubts and confidence are, give some situations based on my personal experience, and explore ways to turn your doubts into confidence.

So, let’s cut the strings attached to your doubts and join me in my upcoming 5-Day Challenge: Worthy Woman Workshop where you will truly understand the power of your mind and how it can impact your life!

But for now, learn some ways on how you can transition your doubts to become the most confident version of yourself!

What I Cover In This Episode:

0:21 - Why I believe doubt is normal

1:04 - That feeling of ‘doubt’

1:34 - Doubt VS Confidence

4:01 - The importance of having good thoughts

5:44 - What is the right mindset

8:08 - How to become confident

9:19 - Reasons why you should do the opposite

10:03 - ‘I love to doubt my doubt!’

12:42 - Defining your future self-act

17:12 - The positive impact of workout

17:50 - How to dress with confidence

20:44 - Worthy Woman Workshop

Quotes:

“You don't become confident by avoiding the hard things and avoiding the doubt. You become confident by doing the things that the doubt tells you not to do.”

“I had a lot of doubt, but I kept going. I kept doing the things that doubt told me I shouldn't do.”

“ I want you all to know that when you see me, it's not that I don't ever have doubt. I want you to know that probably a lot of what you're feeling, I feel too. It's part of growing, it's part of evolving, and it's part of changing our identities. That's all normal. The difference is I don't let it stop me. I continue to grow and overcome my doubt instead of letting doubt control me.”

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• The School of Self-Image

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Gratitude is easy when things are going the way you think they’re supposed to go. You’ve hit your goals, everybody’s behaving the way you want them to behave, the weather is great, life is good.  But what about having gratitude when things get challenging?

Tune in this week to discover the impact of choosing gratitude and living your life from that space.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://frenchkisslife.com/208

This week, I'm talking about the concept of acting out your script and I want to offer you permission for it to be awkward, for it to feel weird, for it to not feel like who you really are, at least just for now as you’re learning how to play a new role.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/242

In this episode, Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of shaping our surroundings to change our thoughts and self-image. She believes that merely thinking our way to a better life is not enough because there are too many factors involved, such as triggers and trauma. Therefore, she encourages her listeners to change their surroundings to give themselves a fighting chance. This includes changing what we see in the mirror every day, as the reflection tells us a story about ourselves. 

Tonya discusses the five signs that it's time for a closet cleanse. The first sign is that you have a closet full of clothes, but nothing to wear. This means that you have a lot of items in your closet, but you don't feel confident or comfortable in any of them. The second sign is that you're holding onto clothes that are outdated or no longer fit your current style. The third sign is that your clothes don't fit properly, either because they're too small or too big. The fourth sign is that you have evolved as a person, but your closet hasn't kept up with your changes. This means that you may have different style preferences or body shape than you did in the past. The fifth and final sign is that you feel overwhelmed or stressed when you look in your closet. This could be because you have too many options or because you don't have a clear sense of what you want your style to be. Overall, the host emphasizes the importance of regularly cleansing your closet to ensure that you have a wardrobe that reflects your current style and makes you feel confident and comfortable.

Furthermore, the host discusses the dangers of going unconscious and overstuffing our closets. She compares it to overeating to soothe ourselves and buy more to solve our problems. When we don't stop and assess our habits and behaviors, we can accumulate so many things that our closets become too full, and we can't find anything. Tonya believes that cleaning out our closets is a symbolic gesture to the universe that we're ready for change and that it's essential to stop and assess our habits and behaviors to avoid overstuffing our closets and our lives.

[00:00:00] Closet Cleanse Signs.

[00:08:45] What Your Closet Says About You.

[00:13:23] Personal style and wardrobe.

[00:18:05] Embracing empty spaces.

[00:25:30] Style for reinventing identity.

[00:27:40] Transforming your self-image.

Quotes:

• Because there's nothing healthy about being caught up in a cycle of self-loathing and frustration with your body and really being at war with yourself.

• I got rid of 50% of my clothes. And there it was, there she was, just like half full, lots of space, which to me represented space for introspection, space for reinvention, space for a future.

• But the question becomes, have you taken time to really get to know yourself? Know yourself on the inside and the outside. I am worthy. I deserve beautiful things. I love taking care of the body I have right now.

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If you’re wondering where to find the fun in your life, today’s episode is going to blow your mind because I’m taking you behind the scenes of a class that I taught within the School of Self-Image membership all around how to be a fun person and bring out the fun that currently lives inside of you but hasn’t seen the light of day in a while.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/292

"Dress to Attract: Using Style to Influence Your Life Trajectory"

SUMMARY 

In this episode of the School of Self Image, host Tonya Lee reports good news for those who have been following her moving drama. Her things arrived and she is grateful. She shares how her mind can work in funny ways, as she was worried she was scammed after reading forums about people who had been scammed by movers. She encourages her community to focus on what they want and not take on other people's stories to avoid being a mess. In the end, her things arrived, in their completeness.

Tonya Leigg recently took on a six-month no shopping challenge and it was inspired by her realization that often when people make more money, they spin out of control and fill their lives with more and more things. She found that what people are really after is a feeling and that buying things does not necessarily create those feelings. She created a Style Experience program to help women get clear on what they want and how they want to show up in the world. In the program, they will engage in virtual style days, coaching calls, and the Style Lounge where the speaker will provide feedback and inspiration.

Tonya discusses the importance of clothing and the effect that it can have on how one views themselves and how others see them. Everything is energy, and one's clothes are no different. According to the Law of Attraction, people will be attracted to those with similar dress styles. The speaker used to dress in scrubs and sweatpants to hide her body, but she changed when she discovered the Style Experience, which is a luxurious experience that helps people discover their unique style and how to express it. 

What we cover in the episode: 

0:00:00   Exploring the Power of Self-Image and Style

0:02:45   Reflection on Moving Day: A Conversation with Fonz and My Mom

0:04:15   The Role of Shopping and Clothes in Our Lives

0:09:28   The Impact of Your Clothes on Your Energy and Attraction

0:11:53   Dressing on Purpose: How Clothing Can Impact Your Mental and Emotional Processes"

0:18:11   The Power of Professional Style: How Dressing for Success Can Impact Your Life

0:19:58   Attracting People and Opportunities Through Your Style

HIGHLIGHTS 

I was recently on a podcast with my friend Stacey Bayman. She has a great podcast called Make Money as a Life Coach, and she brought me on to talk about the effective style in our lives. And she was sharing about when she needs to write copy for a sales page or for her programs. She will get dressed up to the nines, because the energy that she feels can be felt, in her words, because everything's energy, you all it's all connected.

There's a term called enclosed cognition, and basically it's a psychological phenomenon that looks at the effects of clothing on your mental and emotional processes. And they've done studies, one being that they put students in a lab coat and compared their grades with students who weren't in a lab coat. And the students in the lab coat scored higher on the test. And it's because the association of a lab coat symbolizes intelligence, power, confidence, and how that impacts how you think.

And the same goes for clothes. Your clothes have an energy that impacts how you see yourself. And so on one level, those clothes are calling forth an action from you. And at the same time, it's attracting opportunities and people that are attracted to that energy. So at the end of the day, the clothes impact your energy. They impact how you see yourself, but also it's impacting how other people see you.

So come and join us at the Style Experience. You can go to schoolofselfimage.com/styleexperience and check out all of the details. So today I have a question for you. What are your clothes attracting? And I want you to sit with that question for a moment and really think about it. Because everything is energy. Everything is attracting certain things to it. It's why certain people gather in certain places. There is an energy there that calls like energy towards it.

We're going to be having virtual style days along with coaching calls. We're going to have the Style Lounge, where I'm giving feedback around style and sharing stylish inspiration. And so if you have not checked this out, it's going to be a very high end, luxurious experience where you are going to elevate how you show up in the world. And you are going to discover your unique style and how to express that, not only in how you dress, but in how you carry yourself and what you choose.

Useful Resources:

• FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto

• Style Experience: schoolofselfimage.com/styleexperience
  
  

• Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:

• Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/
  
  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/?hl=en
  
  

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial/
  
  

• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachschool
  
  

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1RNNnPWpxvq7y7jK5rlOmQ

For over 10 years, I have been writing love notes to this community. I’ve shared some of them in emails. Others I’ve posted on social media. But today is just a very small collection of these love notes that I have written in hopes to inspire you to live a most extraordinary life.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://frenchkisslife.com/209

Discover how to start living your life like an editor. I’m sharing the three Es of being an editor that will help you get clear on what you want for your life, be willing to try everything to make it happen, and then create the habits that are required to make those decisions become just part of the fabric of who you are.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/251

"Overcome the Fear of Being Seen: A Guide to Embodying Your Queen Energy".

SUMMARY 

Tonya Leigh is a master life coach and the host of the School of Self-Image podcast. In this episode, she is discussing the importance of having the courage to be seen. 

Courage is an important quality to cultivate in order to be successful in life. This is why self-image work is so important. It involves seeing yourself as worthy, capable and deserving, and then having the courage to back this up with action. This is why the School of Self-Image is offering a five day workshop, where participants will learn valuable things and will be taught in a new way. It's a great opportunity to bring friends, family and confidants along. During the episode, Ambrose Red Moon's quote about courage is discussed, which states that courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear. This is a useful reminder when it comes to overcoming the fear of being seen, which is a common fear for many people.

In this conversation, Tonya discusses the fear of being seen and the reasons why people may be afraid of this. The fear of judgement, rejection, and failure, as well as cultural norms and trauma that may have been experienced when being seen. Tonya also talks about how the majority of the world is actually rooting for people to be seen, and encourages them to take up space and express themselves. The key takeaway from this conversation is that although it may be scary to be seen, it is worth it to live a full, authentic and bold life.

What We Cover in This Episode:

0:00:00   Stepping Into Your Queen Energy 

0:01:50   Overcoming the Fear of Being Seen

0:04:27   Self-Discovery and Awareness

0:06:12   Overcoming Fear and Embracing Your Authentic Self

0:13:23   Reflections on Courage and Self-Judgment

0:15:48   Fear of Being Judged: How to Embrace Courage and Reach Extraordinary Goals"

0:17:39   A Challenge for the Week

Quotes:

Would you rather be like the person who's on stage giving it their all or the person up in the stands criticizing?

Because, let's face it, if you've been fearing being seen for years, maybe even decades, it's not going to go away overnight. 

A big life requires that you feel big emotions. So this means that the courage to be seen is not about not fearing it.

To me, the other reason why you may be afraid of being seen is because of cultural norms.

It's a lot of self discovery and awareness and overcoming fear. And one of the common fears that I see when women start to dress differently is that they're so afraid of getting attention because their entire lives, they've dressed to avoid that attention, because attention is scary. 

I'm talking about being seen for who you are. Have you ever had that person in your life who just sees you? You know that they see who you really are, and there's so much love and celebration and acceptance of that. It's a beautiful thing.

Useful Resources:

   FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto

   Give yourself the Royal Treatment! Enroll now here: http://schoolofselfimage.com/royal/

   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:

   Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/  

   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/...  

   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOf...  

   TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachschool  

   YouTube:    / @tonyaleighofficial 

In this episode, Tonya Leigh explores the topic of self-forgiveness and how it can lead to a beautiful life. She shares a powerful quote by Doreen Virtue that encourages listeners to forgive themselves for past actions or decisions.

Tonya discusses the importance of extending grace, love, and compassion to oneself and offers guidance on how to forgive. If you're struggling with self-forgiveness, this episode is for you.

Don't miss out on the opportunity to let go of shame, guilt, and regret and embrace a more positive and self-loving mindset.

The takeaways:

[00:03:47] Withholding forgiveness from ourselves.

[00:07:00] Self-forgiveness and personal growth.

[00:11:14] Acceptance and taking responsibility.

[00:13:36] Forgiveness and self-growth.

[00:19:36] Unconditional love for ourselves. [

00:24:12] The renewal stage.

[00:27:18] Sign up for The Weekly Edit.

Quotes:

"I came across this quote by Doreen Virtue that caused me to consider that self-forgiveness is the answer to a beautiful life."

"But it's also hard to just go to, I forgive myself."

"I love what Byron Katie says, to argue with reality is to argue with God and you only lose 100% of the time."

"Forgiveness is saying, I forgive you for being a human."

"The people who have a hard time forgiving you are the same people that have a hard time forgiving themselves."

"No one wins by you withholding forgiveness for yourself and for other people."

Useful Resources:

   Join Now!  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join

    FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/

    Join us at SOSI South!:  http://schoolofselfimage.com/south

    Sign up for the  Weekly  Edit!  http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit

Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:

    Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com

    Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh  

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial

    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh  

     YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

In this episode, I’m talking about why I love choosing a word of the year and why it’s such a great exercise. Then I’m sharing my exact process for picking out a word of the year (and sharing my 2020 word with you!). This practice should be done from a place of relaxation, openness, and with plenty of time – not a place of scarcity or reaction.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://frenchkisslife.com/162

Discover why some time alone in an unfamiliar environment is just what you need to kickstart your productivity. I’m sharing my own experience of having a work retreat and giving you some ideas on how to prepare your brain, environment, and schedule to have an experience that truly gets you moving.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/290

Overcoming Appearance Obstacles: Transforming Your Self-Image

In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, host Tonya Leigh discusses how to overcome appearance obstacles. She emphasizes that appearance obstacles are actually thinking obstacles and shares insights on how our thoughts about our appearance can hold us back from feeling confident and achieving our goals. Tune in to learn how to shift your mindset and embrace the beauty within yourself.

In this episode, Tonya discusses: 

[00:01:38] Overcoming appearance obstacles.

[00:06:14] Aging online is a real thing.

[00:09:20] Happiness.

[00:16:28] Changing physical appearance.

[00:19:11] Embracing aging and societal expectations.

[00:23:34] Valuing inner beauty over appearance.

[00:29:19] Appreciating natural beauty with age.

[00:31:31] Struggles with appearance in today's world.

Quotes:

"The true key to happiness is changing your inner world."

"The way I approach this is I think about what can I change and what can't I change?"

"What is for myself and what am I doing to meet societal and external expectations?"

"It's the whole package. And yet we spend so much of our lives just focusing on the shell versus what the shell houses."

"I was looking at my face in the mirror and I could hear that little voice saying, oh, my God, look at the neck. Look at those extra lines around your eyes. Like I could hear that. But there was this other voice of like, oh, my goodness, look at you."

"Because if you don't change what's going on inside, what's outside will never matter."

Useful Resources:

   Join Now!  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join

    FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/

    Join us at SOSI South!:  http://schoolofselfimage.com/south

    Sign up for the  Weekly  Edit!  http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit

Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:

    Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com

    Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh  

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial

    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh  

     YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Interior Design for the Soul: 5 Life Lessons to Elevate Your Self-Image

One crucial aspect of embracing contrast in life is recognizing and integrating all facets of oneself, including the shadow side. Tonya Leigh explores the significance of embracing contrast in interior design and how it can be applied to life. Just as in design, where contrasting elements can add depth and richness, embracing the diverse aspects of our personalities enables us to explore neglected or denied facets of ourselves, fostering personal growth and self-acceptance.

Tonya stresses the concept of the shadow side, a term introduced by psychologist Carl Jung, which refers to the darker, less desirable aspects of our personalities that we often try to conceal or suppress. She underscores the importance of not only showcasing our positive traits but also acknowledging and accepting the parts of ourselves that may not always be bright and cheerful.

Tune in to explore the parallels between interior design choices and self-image transformation.

Talking Points:

00:52 - Chaotic House and Podcast Recording

01:45 - Interior Design Lessons for Life

02:06 - First Impressions and Self-Image

03:09 - Designing Your Environment for Self-Image

04:40 - Creative Brief and Future Vision

06:10 - Curating Elements of Life

07:04 - Intentional Curation Beyond Physical Spaces

08:19 - Five Key Interior Design Principles

09:12 - Lesson 1: Embrace Contrast

13:20 - Lesson 2: Create Focal Points

19:15 - Lesson 3: Functionality is Essential

25:00 - Lesson 4: Embrace White Space

31:07 - Lesson 5: Don't Be Afraid of Making Mistakes

37:02 - Ongoing Process of Life Design

38:40 - Conclusion and Application

38:50 - Invitation to Soul Style Quiz

Quotes:

 "Just as we thoughtfully curate our living spaces, we can intentionally design our lives to reflect our truest selves and support our personal growth."

"The key is to recognize that these contrasts aren't contradictions. They are complementary aspects of your whole self."

 "We try to be good at so many different things versus really focusing and harnessing on the things that we're naturally good at."

"Remember, just as white space and design allows important elements to stand out, creating space in your life allows priorities to shine through very clearly."

Useful  Resources:

Soul Style Quiz:  http://schoolofselfimage.com/stylequiz

Join Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join

 FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/

 Sign up for the Weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit

 Follow School of Self-Image on IG: @schoolofselfimage

Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:

Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh  

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

There’s a wise woman out there who wants the best for you, so tune in this week to discover how to start having conversations with her. I’m showing you how to start bringing your future self into every decision you make today, why these conversations are so transformational, and why, if it doesn’t feel like love, it’s not your future self doing the talking.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/297

Today, I want to share seven tips with you that will help you communicate like a queen. It’s an incredibly empowering approach, and you’ll be amazed how much better it feels to communicate like this than it does to be timid, indirect, and unsure.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://frenchkisslife.com/152

Are you at a place where you’re finding it hard to create lasting results in your life? When it comes to losing weight, maybe you’re great at losing 10 pounds, but before too long, you’ve put it back on. Maybe you are making progress in a business and find yourself thinking it’s too good to be true, and you start making decisions that don’t serve you. If this sounds familiar, this episode is for you.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://frenchkisslife.com/204

The School of Self-Image's annual membership is currently open for a limited time, and the episode delves into its benefits. Members gain access to various courses, including the newly created SLIM Self-Image program. This program focuses on creating a lasting self-image that supports healthy habits by letting go of what's holding you back. The host and a coach who has successfully used the self-image method to lose weight will teach the program live over eight weeks. Interested individuals can join the annual membership and access the SLIM Self-Image program by visiting schoolofselfimage.com/slim.

The episode's main focus is on using style as a tool to transform one's self-image and ultimately change their identity. Tonya explains that changing how you look at yourself can significantly impact your mindset and overall outlook on life. She encourages listeners to envision how they want to see themselves and how that version of themselves would show up in the world, not just through their style, but also their speech and body language. She shares her own experience of using style to change her identity from a full-time nurse to a successful business owner. She emphasizes that expanding one's self-image can create new possibilities and achieve extraordinary goals. Overall, the episode suggests that transforming one's self-image through mindset, style, and surroundings can be a powerful tool for personal growth and success.

Tonya emphasizes that the word "slim" does not necessarily mean skinny or a certain size, but rather a healthy and confident version of oneself. She also discusses the importance of finding joy and pleasure in life, rather than constantly focusing on dieting and weight loss. Additionally, Tonya mentions that changing one's style and wardrobe can be a helpful tool in reinventing oneself and creating a new identity.

[00:03:51] Becoming a slim woman.

[00:07:57] Using style to reinvent yourself.

[00:09:03] Reinventing Yourself Through Style.

[00:13:07] Changing identity through style.

[00:17:03] Cultivating personal style.

[00:21:17] Creating your ideal identity.

Quotes:

"Our goal is to help you change your identity so that then the results just become effortless."

 "I put on something that said, I matter."

"I cannot believe how focusing on this one thing is helping me to skyrocket my self-image."

 "Just by upping my athleisure wear, it motivates me."

Links:

SLIM Self-Image program: http://schoolofselfimage.com/slim

Join Now!  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join

FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/

Join us at SOSI South!:  http://schoolofselfimage.com/south

Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:

Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com

Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh  

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh  

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

"Unlock Your Potential With A Pain Push - Your Guide To Personal Development Through Style & Self-Image"

SUMMARY 

In this episode of The School of Self-Image, the host Tonya Leigh talks about the concept of a pain push, which is a way of motivating yourself to take action and achieve your goals, even when you feel like you're sabotaging your own efforts. She explains that it's important to recognize what your pain points are, and use them as your motivators. 

In this conversation, Tonya reflects on a moment in her life when she hit rock bottom and was fed up with her own behavior. She calls it a pain push and views it as a blessing in disguise that was the catalyst to make big changes in her life. 

TIMESTAMPS 

0:00:01   Episode #1: Harnessing the Power of a Pain Push to Take Action and Achieve Your Goals

0:02:15   "The Power of Being Fed Up: How Pain Can Be a Catalyst for Change"

0:06:03   Reflection on Rock Bottom Moment: A Catalyst for Change

0:08:26   Heading: Exploring the Concept of Pain Pushes Before the Pain

0:10:38   Using Pain as a Motivator: How to Get Moving Towards Your Goals

0:15:17   Exploring the Use of Pain as a Motivator for Change

0:17:05   "Using Pain to Push Yourself Towards Your Goals"

Quotes:

So maybe you want to visualize the pain. If you continue to do what you're currently doing, that's causing you to create results that are painful, that's causing you not to live the life that you know you're here to live and allow yourself to sit in that for a moment.

You have a brilliance within you and I'm simply here to help you figure out what that is. 

You can think about something and the brain's like, oh, we're in trouble just from visualizing it and thinking about it. And so knowing this, how can you visualize pain in a way to inspire you to take action?

Sometimes, my friends, it takes a good old pain push to get you going. 

Useful Resources:

• FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto

• Style Experience: schoolofselfimage.com/styleexperience
  
  

• Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:

• Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/
  
  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/?hl=en
  
  

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial/
  
  

• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachschool
  
  

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1RNNnPWpxvq7y7jK5rlOmQ

In this episode we’re talking about core values and how to decide what yours are. We’ll cover why you should determine your values if you want to build the life you’re dreaming of and some important questions you should be asking yourself. I share some of the values that have shaped my life and my business thus far and how I use them to make decisions. And I’ll tell you about the core values we embody here at French Kiss Life and how they impact everything that we do and build for you.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://frenchkisslife.com/139

We all have moments where we feel like giving up. We set goals, and in that process, we have a vision in our mind of how our life will look once we’ve achieved them. However, the reality of the journey is never that simple. But if you can just hold onto that vision that you have for your future self no matter what, the wisdom of coming from that place will always guide you in the right direction.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://frenchkisslife.com/206

There is a place called the Attitude Store. It’s open 24/7, everyone is welcome, and they’ll take the attitude you picked out this morning by mistake and exchange it for a new one. And in this episode, I’m showing you where to find it.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/239

Conscious Consumption: How Your Choices Impact Your Life

In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, host Tonya Leigh discusses the importance of conscious consumption. She prompts listeners to reflect on what they have consumed throughout the day and its impact on their lives. Tonya also introduces the upcoming "Week of Calm" workshop and shares her experience of finding calm amidst the chaos of the COVID-19 pandemic. Tune in to learn more about the power of conscious consumption and how it can positively shape your life.

What Tonya covers in this episode: 

01:04 Week of Calm. 

07:05 Conscious consumption.

09:22 Self-image and reference group.

15:11 Consuming sexy foods.

18:38 Letting go of consumption.

Quotes:

What have you consumed today? From the books you've read to the people you've hung out with to the music you've listened to, and even to the food that you've ingested.  I want you to think about the impact that those consumptions are having on your life. Are you consuming consciously?

If it's meant to be it's up to me.

If you want to change your life one of the quickest and fastest ways to do it is to start consciously consuming what you want to become.

I put myself in certain environments that instantly shook me up to potential new perspectives and new ways of thinking and therefore fast-tracked my growth and my experience in those areas.

Do you want to become that thing that you're consuming? Because if you don't, you need to stop consuming it.

A beautiful life has more to do with what you subtract than what you add.

Useful Resources:

   Join Now!  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join

   Week of Calm: https://schoolofselfimage.com/calm

    FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/

    Join us at SOSI South!:  http://schoolofselfimage.com/south

    Sign up for the  Weekly  Edit!  http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit

Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:

    Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com

    Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh  

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial

    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh  

     YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

There’s a big difference between wanting and committing. And that’s what we’re going to discuss today.

In this episode, I tell you all about that gap between wanting and committing and what it takes to close it. I also share the reasons why I love commitment and the special joy that comes as a result of truly making up your mind to make something happen.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://frenchkisslife.com/130

Discover how to speak from your future, so you can create the kind of self-image that allows you to create truly extraordinary results. How you see yourself matters, so I’m sharing how to live from a future that you know is going to be amazing, instead of being stuck in a past that is still weighing you down and holding you back.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/288

Discover the secret to cultivating a winning attitude. I’m sharing why it’s so easy to get stuck in a loser’s mentality, and how to help yourself come around by uncovering what you want to work toward, embodying the belief that you are a capable, amazing human, and you’re here to win.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/277

What do I mean by living in the question? Well, the best way for me to explain it is to share with you my approach to living in the question. So, join me on the podcast this week to discover what you can do to start asking the right questions, and find the answers you’ve been looking for your entire life.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/227

Why so many people find decision making to be difficult and scary and how to shift your mindset around this. I also share how you can limit the number of decisions you need to make during the day, why it’s so important to trust what your body is telling you about your choices, and how to let your values guide your decisions.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://frenchkisslife.com/140

How to Overcome a Scarcity Mindset and Embrace Abundance

In this episode of the School of Self-Image, host Tonya Leigh explores the concept of scarcity and how it affects our mindset and beliefs about money. She shares a story about a woman who had millions of dollars but still lived in fear of running out of money. Tonya also recalls her own experience in Costa Rica, where she encountered a village that taught her the true meaning of abundance. She emphasizes that abundance is not determined by external factors like wealth or possessions, but rather by our belief in enoughness. Tonya encourages listeners to flip the script on scarcity and embrace the feeling of abundance by believing in themselves and recognizing that there is enough for everyone.

Episode Details:

01:21 Abundance in a Costa Rican village.

06:24 Money scripts and subconscious beliefs.

10:23 Rewriting the money script.

14:21 Abundance and spending habits.

18:14 Creating a wealthy self-image.

22:32 Challenge your own thoughts.

26:36 The ingredients of a charmed life.

Quotes:

"I can earn money and it's safe to be generous."

"There are many, many, many different forms of wealth, and what good is a bunch of money if your relationships are terrible?"

"But what I know to be true, the more I do this work, the wealthier I become."

"The moment you say things like, I can't afford it, you are perpetuating a scarcity mindset."

"One, that your nine-year-old self will raise a flute to one day and say, well done, darling."

Useful Resources:

   Join Now!  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join

    FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/

    Join us at SOSI South!:  http://schoolofselfimage.com/south

    Sign up for the  Weekly  Edit!  http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit

Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:

    Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com

    Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh  

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial

    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh  

     YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/287

Thinking on Your Life: The Importance of Planning Your Future

In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, host Tonya Leigh talks about the importance of setting aside time to think about your life. She emphasizes that planning your life on purpose is necessary in order to bear the fruits of a well-planned life. Tonya encourages listeners to take time to think about their life direction and make plans to change it if necessary. She reflects on the impact of COVID on the world's pace and how it forced people to slow down and be with their own thoughts, which can be scary at times. The episode ends with an invitation for listeners to take time to reflect on their life and make it a priority.

[00:02:05] Time to think during COVID.

[00:07:11] Deep thinking for a better life.

[00:11:00] Creativity and fulfillment.

[00:14:01] Creating thinking time.

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From Overwhelm to Calm: Redefining Your Holiday Season

The holiday season often brings a whirlwind of activities, expectations, and societal pressures that can lead to feelings of overwhelm and stress. However, by embracing the concept of holiday essentialism, you can transform your experience into one that is joyful and fulfilling. This approach encourages you to focus on what truly brings you joy while letting go of obligations that do not serve you.

Inspired by Greg McCowan's book "Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less," which encourages focusing on fewer but more meaningful activities, Tonya challenges listeners to ask themselves three key questions:

1. What truly brings them joy during the holidays?
2. What activities they do out of obligation?
3. What memories they want to create?

She discusses the societal expectations that can turn what should be a joyful time into a marathon of obligations. Tune in to discover how to shift your mindset and focus on what truly matters this holiday season, embracing the simple joys and calm instead of the chaos.

Talking Points:

01:09 - Holiday Overwhelm and Societal Pressures
02:13 - Fear of Disappointing Others 
04:36 - What is Essentialism?
05:39 - Question 1: What Truly Brings Me Joy?
06:34 - Question 2: What Am I Doing Just Because I Think I Have To?
07:50 - Question 3: What Memories Do I Want to Create?
08:33 - Shifting from Excess to Intention
09:55 - Editing Ruthlessly
14:06 - Mindfulness and Being Present
17:02 - Secret Santa and Charitable Giving
18:04 - Simplifying the Holidays
23:10 - Setting Boundaries for Social Commitments
24:03 - Prioritizing Connection Over Perfection
24:13 - Setting Intentions for the Holiday Season

Quotes:

"If holidays are not your thing, especially around this time of year, I challenge you to skip it altogether."

"The shift in mindset with holiday essentialism is to move from access to intention and from pleasing others to cherishing moments."

"Just because you've done something for years doesn't mean you have to continue doing it."

"The holidays are not a performance and you don't have to be performative."

"Shed the souffle. Seriously, let her go. You don't need to do it."

"What people remember is how you made them feel."

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Join me this week to discover the impact that being easily offended might be having on your life, and what’s going on in your brain when you’re in this space. I’m sharing both sides of the story; how to start the work of not being so easily offended, and how to deal with the people in your life who, it can seem, take offense at anything and everything.

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Creating Extraordinary Years: The Power of Planning

In this episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the power of planning for extraordinary years. She emphasizes the importance of moving from wishing to taking action and shares her personal experience of making extraordinary decisions and plans. Tonya acknowledges the mix of excitement and fear that comes with stepping into the unknown and encourages listeners to embrace the opportunity for growth and change. As the year comes to an end, she reminds us that there is still time to make a powerful impact and create an extraordinary finish to the year, and shares how she believes the last month of the year can be the most impactful. Join her as she encourages listeners to embrace the scary and exciting aspects of pursuing what they desire.

Episode Details:

01:11 Extraordinary decisions

04:13 Creating an extraordinary year

10:29 Wishing versus planning

13:21 Obstacles to planning

18:04 The power of planning

23:58 Wishing for 2024

26:15 Turning dreams into reality

Quotes:

“Over the last couple of weeks, I have made some extraordinary decisions."

"She makes bold decisions and she's navigating to extraordinary."

 "Planning is sexy."

 "But not having a plan is a guarantee that you won't get there."

"If everything's important, then nothing really is."

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The Art of Becoming: Navigating Life's Transformations

You only live once!

Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.

Living in the now could be easy for some, but for others is not. So, let me ask you a question ~ When was the last time you try something new? There can be a lot of different ways to answer this. One thing that stands out is if you’ll answer it based on what you think or what you feel. 

I know, sometimes life could be good or not-so-good. This can either drive you to stop or keep moving forward. But this can also affect how you are living today. Life is simply life itself for you, for us to live.

As 2022 is nearly bidding goodbye, I’d like to share some of my favorite firsts of the year. I thought of sharing this topic because it might help you get inspired to do further beyond your own limits (or probably what your mind thinks so.) 

So, let me challenge you to do more things for the first time in 2023. If you’re up for this challenge, time to listen to today’s episode! And don’t forget to connect with me on Instagram so we can talk more about this!

What I Cover In This Episode:

1:38 - How life is built with your first

3:27 - Why you should NOT stop having first

5:10 - Understanding the fear of the unknown

7:22 - Is it normal to be scared the first time?

9:44 - Never good as the first time

13:02 - How death will be your last first

13:29 - 2023 challenge to have more first

19:19 - How the universe works

31:37 - Defining the future with first

35:26 - The power of first

Quotes:

“Our firsts are what make life so incredible and amazing. It's what grows our character. It's how we learn about the world, it's how we learn about ourselves.” 

“Everything ~ your first breath, your first steps, or your first day at school are a collection of your first.”

“You have to be willing to be bitten by life to enjoy the delights of life.”

“... you are never too old for a first.”

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Have you ever tried so hard to achieve something that you made yourself completely miserable in the process? Perhaps so miserable that the entire journey didn’t even feel worth it by the end?

In this episode, I’m sharing five steps you can take to retrain your brain and take a new approach to weight loss. Retraining your mind and thinking new thoughts isn’t an easy undertaking, but it’s one of the most worthwhile things you’ll ever do in your life.

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I share my personal experience of success, what it has cost me, and some of the things that it can cost you. Discover what happens when you start to create success for yourself and the importance of being willing to feel discomfort so you can become unstoppable in your success.

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Discover why there’s nothing wrong with you if keeping it up is a struggle for you. I’m sharing where I used to struggle in this area and the daily practices that will help you in building the consistency required to achieve your goals and dreams.

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Don’t settle for less. It will always be You VS You!

Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.

Most of you can resonate that we compare ourselves to others without even knowing it ~ I wish I can achieve so much at an early young age as her. I wish I have a successful career just like her. I wish I can look more radiant as she is. I wish I didn’t settle for less than I deserved. Stop wishing and start doing it for yourself.

I strongly believe that when you set high standards, you can raise your expectation of what’s possible. You begin expecting more from yourself, more from your actions, and more from the people around you.

Setting standards is the topic I want to highlight today. Let me share the importance of having standards in your life, how setting standards high can help boost your self-image, and how to be your ideal woman. This works for me and will definitely work for you too!

So, make sure to grab a pen and paper and start upgrading these five standards immediately. All that and more when you listen to this episode!

What I Cover In This Episode:

0:48 - The importance of having standards in life

2:14 - The definition of a standard of what is considered to be normal or average

5:13 - How to change your self-image

6:56 - #1: Set high self-opinion standards

10:34 - #2: Set your style minimums

14:03 - #3: Set how you should do self-care

16:39 - #4: Set what you feed your mind

19:57 - #5: Set your people standards

Quotes:

“...life does not give you what you want. It gives you what you expect and what you expect is a reflection of your standards.”

“One of the stories that it reinforced for myself is that I shouldn't want for too much.”

“The things around you are affecting you. The things outside of you if you ingest them, become you.” 

“As you raise your standards, as you raise what you expect and what's normal for you, the universe will begin to mirror that back to you.” 

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In this episode, host Tonya Leigh discusses the concept of embracing the slow life and the tendency to rush toward our goals. She explores the idea that many of us believe that the future is better than the present, leading us to constantly strive for something more. Tonya also delves into the idea that we often try to outrun our own stories and seek validation and worthiness through accomplishments. Tune in to gain insights on how to slow down and find fulfillment in the present moment.

Episode details:

00:01:10 Embracing the slow life

Cultivating Everyday Magic: Simple Practices for More Beauty, Joy, and Wonder

In this episode, Tonya Leigh shares her beliefs around creating everyday magic. She discusses the upcoming event, SOSI South, which aims to help participants live a charmed life. Tonya believes that this kind of life is available to everyone with certain skills and shifts in mindset. She encourages listeners to attend the event and spend two and a half days focusing on their charmed life and learning how to create and experience it.

Show Details:

02:24 Creating everyday magic.

17:15 Creating a charmed life.

37:11 Fearless creativity..

43:39 The soirees.

46:26 Slowing down for a charmed life.

50:01 Deciding your intentio

53:15 You are the magic.

Quotes:

03:04 - "And the other is as though everything is a miracle."

34:06 - "I am the magic."

34:38 - "My life is way more magical when I put this away and I get into life and I experience it."

39:30 - "You're going to fascinate the world when you start fascinating yourself."

41:37 - "And I've never seen such energy and support and celebration of one another as I do within the School of Self-Image community."

44:25 - "And remember, a charmed life requires that you stop waiting and you step into the magic of new experiences."

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I share a very recent example of a time when I experienced serious doubt about something and decided to do it anyway. I’m showing you how entertaining your doubt only serves to keep you spinning, and how to start arguing for your success, instead of worrying about your possible failures.

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In this episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the importance of slowing down and savoring the slow life. She shares her morning routine and emphasizes the need to create space and not rush through life. Tonya reflects on the desire to slow down and the sense of slowness often missing in our everyday lives. She explores the question of how to combine ambition with ease. Tune in to discover Tonya's insights on embracing a slower pace and finding balance in life.

Episode Details:

00:01:18 Savor the slow life

00:06:55 Embrace the present moment

00:17:32 Slow down, focus, schedule

00:20:59 Savor the slow life

00:28:30 Embrace and savor the slow life

Quotes:

"It's that feeling of being in flow."

"It's that feeling of being so present that time becomes irrelevant."

"And I have just witnessed personally, so many people struggle with this, fight it, and when they finally embrace it, that's when things take off for them."

"I am, two most important words you will ever speak, because you're claiming it as your identity, and you will always work to prove your identity true."

"Through weekly classes and coaching, you'll learn powerful techniques on how to elevate the quality of your mindset, style, and surroundings to change how you see yourself and create extraordinary results in your life."

"At what point are we all going to wake up as women and realize that we must take care of ourselves in order to better serve, to take care of other people?"

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Join me on the podcast this week to discover how to create a sense of calm when it seems like the world around you is going crazy, and instead of indulging in it, make time for the things you truly love. I’m sharing the mindset shift that it takes to see solutions instead of problems, and what’s possible when you prioritize feeling good and experiencing pleasure in front of everything else.

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Join me on the podcast this week to discover how to identify the habits and behavior patterns that are no longer serving you and the 5 ways elegant women create new ones. I’m sharing why we get stuck in these loops, where I have seen myself going wrong in making unsustainable changes to my life and routines, and how to create habits you can actually stick to in the long-term.

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In this episode of the "School of Self-Image" podcast, host Tonya Leigh talks about how to get out of a life rut. She shares common signs that you may be in a rut, such as lacking energy and feeling stuck. Tonya also advises listeners to seek professional help if they suspect they may be dealing with depression. The episode aims to provide guidance and inspiration for listeners who feel like they are stuck in a repetitive cycle and want to break free to live a more fulfilling life.

[00:02:57] Comfort zone and fear.

[00:04:32] Being in a rut.

[00:09:16] Life Ruts and Getting Unstuck.

[00:13:48] Life Ruts and Introspection.

[00:19:44] Making Bold Moves.

[00:27:59] Shaking up your mind.

[00:32:07] Choosing an extraordinary goal.

Quotes:

"There is no comfort in a comfortable life. How ironic is that?"

"Acceptance is the first step to change."

"You are a human being having a human moment when you are in a life rut."

"Do not underestimate the power of style and changing your self-image and helping you get out of a life rut."

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Discover where you need to work from the outside-in alongside your usual thought work. I’m sharing how everything you wear, the places you go, and how you take care of your environments are all influencing your thoughts about yourself, and why it might be time to start changing them.

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Join me on the podcast this week to discover the difference it makes when you stop playing small and start setting yourself extraordinary goals. I’m sharing why it’s okay that your extraordinary goal feels impossible, and what you can do right now to stop getting caught up in the how, and start living a life that challenges you to grow and evolve every single day.​

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Tune in this week to discover the truth about thinking highly of yourself. I’m showing you why dismissing this practice as egotistical or narcissistic is not helping anyone, and instead how to start thinking highly of yourself in a way that also embraces your human imperfection.

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