Polycurious (Fernanda )
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| 03 Dec 2021 | Bonus Episode - Bushwick Daily Feature | 00:23:22 | |
This bonus episode is an edited version of our interview for a feature article in Bushwick Daily. Allie Ferrera interviewed both Mariah and I about the podcast. We talked about the inspiration behind Polycurious, the difference and similarities between monogamous and non-monogamous relationships, and what boundaries mean for us. We also have a special announcement: we will be releasing a second season next year! In this episode you will learn what to expect from it. To read the article click here. Follow Polycurious on: Visit our website polycurious.com Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here. Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check here. | |||
| 22 Mar 2023 | 30. Being Solo Poly in a Long Term Relationship with Taylor and Alan | 01:01:35 | |
In the first episode of our third season Mariah and I spoke to Taylor and Alan, who identify as solo poly and nonhierarchical. Both of them started their non-monogamous journey in high school and have since been immersed in the poly and sex-positive community. Today we talk about their experiences of seeing each other fall in love with other people and experiencing jealousy. They also share how polyamory has enriched their lives, allowing them to explore and learn from other people while maintaining their independence. You can follow Taylor on IG @velvetsuccubus You can follow Hacienda on IG @haciendacommunity Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min Join my Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Follow Polycurious on: | |||
| 28 Jun 2022 | 25. Best Friends Open to Play and An Update on Our Relationships with Mariah & Fer (Season 2 Finale) | 01:10:04 | |
In our season finale, I speak to Mariah (the occasional co-host of the podcast) about the story of how we grew to be best friends who occasionally play. We also give you an update on where we are in our relationships and exploration of non-monogamy. I talk about how a deeper level of engagement with someone I am dating is teaching me to prioritize my primary partner and making me reflect on the boundary between non-monogamy and polyamory. Mariah talks about her relationship with her primary partner and about how their exploration of non-monogamy has been difficult for them. Episodes mentioned: E 12 - Fer & Seth: Monogamy in a Non-monogamous Relationship E13 - Mariah: Coming out as Polyamorous and Changing Partners (Season Finale) E16 - Queer Dating Coach Ariella Serur: Dating as a Newly Queer Person and New Relationship Energy Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min Join my Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Follow Polycurious on: Instagram Tik Tok | |||
| 18 May 2022 | 22. Intimacy, Mental Health and Communicating Desires with Valentin (Awake and Sexy) | 00:58:06 | |
In this episode I chat with Valentin (Awake and Sexy on Instagram,) an Internal Family Systems-trained Intimacy Coach & Guide. In this conversation we talk about Valentin’s own struggles with anxiety and intimacy and how they led him to delve into several mindfulness techniques and to leave his corporate job to start Awake and Sexy. We talk about Neo-tantra, MDMA therapy, and briefly touch on Internal Family Systems. Valentin also gives us great advice on how to communicate desires. Lastly, we discuss ‘don’t ask don’t tell’ dynamics. Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min Join my Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Follow Polycurious on: Connect with Valentin: Book: No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model Sex with Emily Yes, No, Maybe List: Find New Ways to Play Book: Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy | |||
| 04 Feb 2025 | 49. When You're Non-Monogamous and Your Partner Isn't | 01:09:02 | |
In this episode, I sit down with Cassie and Schuyler, a couple navigating a mono-poly dynamic—Cassie is open to dating others, while Schuyler has remained monogamous (so far!). We dive into their journey of embracing this relationship style, from Cassie overcoming feelings of guilt to how their dynamic has deepened their connection. Resources mentioned in this episode: Ep.2 Finding the Type of Relationship That Works for You Ep.12 She's Open He's Not with Fer & Seth Book a free exploratory call with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min?month=2025-01 Join our Mono-Poly Whatsapp community here. https://chat.whatsapp.com/Ka6FnsUEPaJ2gpFBcphhQJ Join our Patreon here https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Follow Polycurious on Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com | |||
| 14 Apr 2021 | 5. Non-monogamous in Different Ways with S & J | 00:49:20 | |
In this conversation I speak to S & J, a married couple from Brooklyn. They tell us how they decided to open up their marriage and navigated their different ideas of what that meant. J was initially more interested in having experiences as a couple and S wanted to see people independently. Through trial and error, they eventually reached a point in which they both feel comfortable in the relationship, despite the fact that they are open in different ways. If you think anyone could benefit from listening to this episode, please share it! If you like the show subscribe and leave us a rating and/or review. Thank you for your support. Write to us at polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here. Join our Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Follow Polycurious on: Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check here. | |||
| 09 Apr 2024 | 45. Poly and Pregnant with Sarah Stroh from Monogamish | 00:49:09 | |
Today, I talk to writer and coach Sarah Stroh (Monogamish_me on Instagram), a week before giving birth. We speak of how becoming pregnant changed the dating game for her and put her identity as a flirty and adventurous person into question. She also tells us about what led her to decide to co-parent with a friend and how that influenced her partner. Connect with Sarah: Follow Polycurious on Join our WhatsApp community here! Visit our website polycurious.com Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check here | |||
| 30 Oct 2024 | 47. How to Deal with NRE (New Relationship Energy) | 00:18:41 | |
Today I'm giving you a little sample of a Patreon episode. Feeling NRE (New Relationship Energy) in non-monogamy for the first time? If you're connecting with someone outside your primary relationship, you might freak out a bit (I sure did!). Here’s what I wish I knew:
Resources: Join my Patreon at patreon.com/c/Polycurious Book an exploratory call here: https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min | |||
| 15 Jun 2022 | 24. Growing From Polyamory with Ari & Jeshua | 01:07:31 | |
In this episode, I speak to Ari and Jeshua, a polyamorous couple that has been together for 2.5 years. In our conversation, we talk about their experiences dating people together and separately, their growth from secondary relationships, and their polyamorous community. We also have an interesting conversation about expressing your feelings for other people to your primary partner. Lastly, Jeshua shares how being polyamorous has enabled him to explore his bisexuality. Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min Join my Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Follow Polycurious on: | |||
| 12 Apr 2023 | 34. Managing Two Partners and Building Community with Jenny & Kris (Part 2) | 00:34:13 | |
In the second part of our conversation with Jenny and Kris we chat about a time when Jenny fell in love with a secondary partner and had a hard time managing both relationships. Jenny also tells us about the parties she organizes and how it all began as a way to connect the non-monogamous community. Follow Space Invader Social Club on Instagram Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min Join my Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Follow Polycurious on: | |||
| 03 Sep 2024 | Announcement! | 00:02:50 | |
| 18 Jan 2023 | Monocurious E1 - Sue & Jon "A Floating Island of Monogamy in a Sea of Fluidity" | 01:04:01 | |
Sue & Jon became exclusive not long after their first date and married exactly one year after they met. When we joined them late last year, they were just six weeks away from having a baby. Despite going down what might seem a very conventional path (getting married, buying a house, having a baby), they are welcoming and understanding of the alternative paths many of their friends have taken. In their own words, they are “a floating island of monogamy in a sea of fluidity." And although they remain monogamous, being in an open community inspired them to allow space for their independence and focus on building trust and communication. The Monocurious miniseries explores the question: What does monogamy look like in the 21st century? Our relationship dynamics are shifting. Even for people choosing to remain exclusive, monogamy doesn’t look like it used to. Subscribe to the podcast to listen to 3 episodes where you’ll hear from people who are consciously choosing monogamy instead of blindly following convention. | |||
| 05 May 2021 | 8. Relationship Anarchy, Being a Poly Parent and Alternative Relationship Therapy with Tarynn | 00:51:50 | |
Tarynn is a New York-based Psychotherapist who focuses on alternative sexualities & lifestyles – including non-monogamy. In this episode we talk about how she opened up her relationship with her husband of 8 years. She speaks of relationship anarchy and reveals how she achieved a comfortable "kitchen table" dynamic between her husband and secondary partner. We also talk about how she plans to communicate with her daughter about non-monogamy and about therapy for alternative relationships. If you like the show we'd love it if you shared it with a friend, lover or even family member. Click here to connect with Tarynn Resources mentioned: Book Come as You Are (The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life) by Emily Nagoski Follow Polycurious on: Visit our website polycurious.com Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here. Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check here. | |||
| 02 Jun 2022 | 23. Forming a Triad and Decoupling with Marcela the Hypnoqueen | 01:15:17 | |
In this episode, I chat with Marcela, also known as thehypnoqueen. Marcela tells us about her shared sexual and romantic experiences with her former partner Brad, including forming a beautiful triad with another woman. Marcela also tells us how Brad and she decided to separate after over 4 years of being together and how they are approaching this new phase of their relationship. Follow Marcela on Instagram @thehypnoqueen Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min Join my Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Follow Polycurious on: Instagram | |||
| 12 May 2021 | 9. Being in a Triad and Dealing with Jealousy with Anna & Chetan | 00:35:10 | |
Anna and Chetan have been together for 4 years, but they each have been exploring non-monogamy for almost 15 years. In this conversation they share what they have learned during that time. They also share their experience forming a triad and how that dissolved before moving in together. Lastly, they give lots of great advice for polycurious people, especially when it comes to jealousy. Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min Join my Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Follow Polycurious on: | |||
| 24 May 2023 | 41. Getting Comfortable with MMF Threesomes with Chamberlin & Michael | 01:02:00 | |
Chamberlin and Michael struggled a lot in their relationship, having periods of opening and closing, cheating and hurting each other and ultimately breaking up. About a month after they broke up, Chamberlin found out that she was pregnant. And for reasons we discuss in the podcast, this pregnancy completely shifted their relationship, for the best. Today we also talk about Michael’s process getting comfortable with having threesomes with other men. So if you are in a heterosexual partnership where you might want to bring a second man in, you might find some useful insights in here. Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min Join my Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Follow Polycurious on: | |||
| 19 May 2021 | 10. Doubting Polyamory with Mr. K | 00:57:54 | |
Mariah and I talk to Mr. K, someone who tried polyamory and realized that it's not be for him. In this conversation we talk about his non-monogamous inclinations and his kitchen table poly aspirations. He tells us how he realized his ideal didn't match up to reality after being in the poly scene for five years. We also talk about how despite that, he considers himself as someone with a lot of poly characteristics such as barely experiencing jealousy and wanting to connect with metamours. Follow Polycurious on: Visit our website polycurious.com Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here. Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check here. | |||
| 03 May 2023 | 37. How to Have a Good Threesome with All The Feels (Part 2) | 00:34:13 | |
Today I bring to you the second part of my conversation with Natasha + Jeremy, sex coaches and educators behind All The Feels. They give amazing tips around communication in and outside of the bedroom. Jeremy talks about ways that are sexy and respectful to approach women and they both share how to have a threesome that is fun and sexy and where everyone feels safe. We also talk about what one can do if you have a sexual desire or preference your partner doesn’t like. Resources discussed in the episode: Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power - Carolyn Elliott Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead Pussy: A Reclamation - Regena Thomashuer Dr. Eva Cadell Certified Sex Coach Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min Join my Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Follow Polycurious on: Instagram Tik Tok Facebook YouTube Twitter | |||
| 15 Mar 2021 | 1. The Stigma of Non-monogamy with Mariah | 00:50:29 | |
In our inaguaral episode, we introduce Polycurious, and our host, Fernanda, interviews our occasional co-host, Mariah. We delve into the intriguing details of her journey into non-monogamy, the stigma she encountered from her family, her first play party, her relationship with her primary partner, and her experiences with jealousy. Follow us on: Visit our website polycurious.com Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here. Get $10 off STD Check here. | |||
| 05 Apr 2023 | 32. Letting Go of Shame with Philip from Dear Poly | 00:52:43 | |
Today I chat with Philip, the host of the podcast Dear Poly where I was a guest last year. We go deep into Philip’s coming out story and how he had to break so much stigma in his religious community to be his true self. If you have ever had a hard time letting go of shame, as a queer person, non-monogamous person or simply someone with a high sex drive, I think you will resonate with this episode. Dear Poly website Follow Dear Poly on Instagram Listen to Fer's episode on Dear Poly on Spotify or Apple Podcasts Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min Join my Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Follow Polycurious on: Instagram Tik Tok Facebook | |||
| 06 Apr 2022 | 19. Gaslighting & Manipulation in Non-Monogamy with Rachel Krantz | 01:13:16 | |
In this episode I speak with Rachel Krantz, former editor at Bustle and Author of the book Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation and Non-Monogamy. Her book is both a cautionary tale about gaslighting and manipulation and a story about the lessons and fun experiences that being open can bring. We talk about the red flags that might indicate you are being manipulated and discuss why often times partners are not even aware that they are being abusive. We get into the topics of jealousy, swingers, and submissive dominant dynamics. Lastly, Rachel tells us why she chooses to still be non-monogamous after what she went through. Resources discussed: Rachel's Book: Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation and Non-Monogamy - Love In Abundance by Kathy Labriola Follow Polycurious on: Visit our website polycurious.com Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check here | |||
| 19 Apr 2023 | 35. Opening to Polyamory with Jessica Esfandiary from Open Late | 00:53:41 | |
Today I speak to Jessica Esfandiary, the host of the Open Late podcast. She tells us how she opened up her now 9 year relationship only a few months in, after an ‘accidental’ threesome. We talk about how she went from hiding her open lifestyle even from her closest friends to having a podcast about non-monogamy. She also tells us the reasons why she likes being polyamorous, including seeing a side of herself she doesn’t always express with her partner. Resources discussed in the episode: The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures (book) Listen to Open Late Spotify: Are You Polycurious with Fernanda from the Polycurious Podcast Apple Podcast: Are You Polycurious with Fernanda from the Polycurious Podcast Connect with Open Late on Instagram Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min Join my Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Follow Polycurious on: | |||
| 20 Mar 2024 | 42. Can Non-Monogamy Make You a Better Parent? with Evolving Love Project | 01:17:34 | |
Abbey and Liam are the voices behind Evolving Love Project, a platform that explores non-monogamy and conscious relationships through Abbey’s writing, their podcast, and conversation evenings and retreats in Australia. In our conversation they tell us how being non-monogamous has helped them reconnect with their independence and return to their family life feeling refreshed. They also reveal how their sexual relationship changed after having their son and what they did to bring back the spice and reconnect. Lastly, we speak of their experience coming out as non-monogamous parents in Australian television. Connect with them: Evolving Love Project Substack Resources mentioned in this episode: Book: Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel Follow Polycurious on Visit our website polycurious.com Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check here | |||
| 08 Mar 2022 | 16. Dating as a Newly Queer Person and NRE with Queer Dating Coach Ariella Serur | 01:02:31 | |
Queer Dating Coach, Ariella Serur, works with queer people navigating the dating world, so it becomes an enjoyable process and part of their personal growth journey. In this conversation, Mariah and I chat about Ariella’s own queer and non-monogamous journey. We talk about how to date as a newly queer person and how to deal with feelings of infatuation and new relationship energy. We also discuss how to read if someone is into you, as well as how you might (respectfully) get non-verbal consent from your date. ---- Ariella's Ebook “How To Tell If Someone’s Queer (And How To Connect Regardless)” Shameless Sex Episode #5 Casual Sex With Reid Mihalko on Spotify or Apple Podcasts Awake and Sexy's reel on how to make a request that is both hot and consent savvy Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min Join my Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Follow Polycurious on: | |||
| 16 Mar 2022 | 17. Flirting as a Team with Jasmine & Felipe | 01:23:28 | |
In this episode I chat with my friends Jasmine and Felipe, who have been together for about a year and a half. With the exception of a short period at the beginning where they dated independently, they have only had experiences as a couple and mostly with women. They tell us why dating separately sounds both intriguing and threatening to them. We also talk about the complexity of making moves on friends and about the sexy experiences they have had meeting new people after the pandemic. Fernanda's Interview with the M.G.C Podcast Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min Join my Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Follow Polycurious on: | |||
| 11 Feb 2025 | 50. Mono-Poly and Non-hierarchical | 01:02:57 | |
In this final episode of the Mono-poly mini-series, my assumptions about these relationships get seriously challenged! Shy is solo poly, non-hierarchical, and a relationship anarchist, while Gabrielle, who’s monogamous, has a surprisingly open (some might even say poly) mindset. We dive into what non-hierarchy actually looks like in practice and how even monogamous partners can benefit from polyamory. Book a free exploratory call with mehere https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min?month=2025-01 Join our Mono-Poly Whatsapp communityhere. https://chat.whatsapp.com/Ka6FnsUEPaJ2gpFBcphhQJ Join our Patreonhere https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Follow Polycurious on Instagram | |||
| 10 May 2023 | 39. Intimacy and Psychedelics with Sarah Tilley | 00:52:32 | |
Today I speak to Sarah Tilley, Founder and CEO of Beautiful Space. Sarah is a psychedelic guide, integration specialist and couple therapist. Today she tells us about her work leveraging the power of psychedelics in relationships. We also talk about what couples might do to increase intimacy even without the use of these substances. Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min Join my Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Follow Polycurious on: | |||
| 20 Apr 2022 | 20. Unlearning Monogamy with Carol & David | 01:04:14 | |
Carol and David have been in a polyamorous relationship for about eight years. In this conversation, we chat about their boundaries evolving from a three page document to simply having to check in with one another. They share some of the difficulties that they experienced as they navigated having more than one serious romantic partner. We talk about an accidental breach of trust and about how that experience taught them to communicate better. Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min Join my Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Follow Polycurious on: | |||
| 12 Apr 2023 | 33. Open From the Get Go with Jenny & Kris (Part 1) | 00:44:08 | |
In today’s episode Mariah and I chat with Jenny and Kris, who have been together for almost a decade and navigated non-monogamy from the beginning. They tell us everything about their introduction to the non-monogamous world and what they learned in this process. Follow Space Invader Social Club on Instagram Get tickets to their event Purple Haze on 420 Follow Polycurious on: Visit our website polycurious.com Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check here | |||
| 11 Mar 2025 | 52. How to Find Safety with Luna & Leo | 01:30:51 | |
Today, I’m sitting down with my dear friends Luna and Leo for what might be the longest and most insightful conversation I’ve ever recorded. Luna shares her journey of leaving a toxic non-monogamous relationship and finding something healthier and more fulfilling with Leo. We dive into their personal triggers, how their past experiences shaped them, and the self-awareness they’ve gained through opening up. Plus, we talk about the baby steps they’re taking to build a relationship that honors both freedom and emotional security. Book a free exploratory call with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min?month=2025-01 Join our Whatsapp community here https://chat.whatsapp.com/CIo9i8FTioT0ebfU3QmNqV Join our Patreon here https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Follow Polycurious on Instagram Tik Tok Facebook | |||
| 28 Apr 2022 | 21. When your Type of Non-Monogamy is Different from your Partner's | 00:32:44 | |
A common challenge couples who start opening up face is realizing that they have different ideas of what that actually means. In this special episode we listen back to some guests from the first season who had different desires or faced an imbalance in the way they approached non-monogamy. Guests from Season 1 included in this episode: Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min Join my Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Follow Polycurious on: Instagram Tik Tok Facebook | |||
| 10 Jun 2021 | 13. Falling in Love with Your Secondary with Mariah (Season Finale) | 00:51:38 | |
For our last episode of the season I chat with my co-host and best friend Mariah. If you haven’t listened to the first episode of the season where I interview her for the first time, go back and listen now. In our conversation, Mariah updates us about coming out to her family as polyamorous. We talk about her experience falling in love with her secondary partner and eventually breaking up with her primary. We then talk about her new partner and the difficulties of transitioning from a polyamorous relationship to a (mostly) monogamous one. Find out where Mariah is today by subscribing to my Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/posts/where-is-mariah-120495213 Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here. Resources mentioned in this episode: E8 - Relationship Anarchy, Being a Poly Parent and Alternative Relationship Therapy with Tarynn E 10 - Doubting Polyamory with Mr. K Follow Polycurious on: Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check here. | |||
| 02 Apr 2024 | 44. Opening Up After Two Decades Together | 00:42:46 | |
In the second part of my conversation with this couple, we discuss their transition from being open to polyamory, partially due to their three kids leaving for college. They each share their unique methods of dealing with jealousy and other challenging emotions, as well as how they've adapted to these feelings. Finally, they talk about their experience of revealing their non-monogamous relationship to their children, and the unexpected outcomes that followed. Resources mentioned in this episode: Carol & David's Episode: Unlearning Monogamy Esther Perel's Questions to Build Adaptability Join our WhatsApp community here! Follow Polycurious on Visit our website polycurious.com Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check here | |||
| 01 Apr 2021 | 3. Being Queer, Polyamorous and POC with Bear & Fifi (Part 1) | 00:53:20 | |
This is part 1 of our conversation with Bear & Fifi, (Safi & Fifi at the time of the interview), a queer polyamorous couple that hosts a YouTube channel where they share their experience and provide tips for other polyamorous couples. In our conversation they talk through their journey coming to terms with their sexuality, gender and non-monogamous identity. Fifi as a second generation Latina from the Bronx and Safi as an African American from Brooklyn. Stay tuned for next episode where they share how they met, how their relationship works and the struggles they have encountered. Check out their YouTube channel Follow them on Instagram at bear.n.fifi Resources mentioned: Book The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy Follow Polycurious on: Visit our website polycurious.com Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here. Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check here. | |||
| 29 Mar 2023 | 31. Healing Sexual Trauma with Jess & Zach from Sacred Ships | 01:00:43 | |
Jess is a trauma centered relationship coach and plant medicine guide. Zach is a breath work facilitator and men’s intimacy coach. Together they have the Sacred Ships podcast, where I had the pleasure to be a guest last year. Today we talk about how they healed their sexual trauma, partly through their relationship. Zach opens up about using porn in a way affected his sexual performance, and reveals what he did to get to a comfortable place with his sexuality. Having casual sex with other women and opening up their relationship was actually an important part of this process. Connect to Sacred Ships through their website Follow Sacred Ships on Instagram Listen to Fer's episode on the Sacred Ships Podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts Resources mentioned in the episode: Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy (book) The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know (book) Follow Polycurious on: Visit our website polycurious.com Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check here | |||
| 26 Mar 2024 | 43. Opening Up After Two Decades Together | 00:43:11 | |
This couple decided to open up their marriage after two decades together. Today, they share some of the challenges they faced during that transition, such as learning how much to share about their outside relationships with one another. They also tell us how they used Craiglist (believe it or not) to find a match for their first non-monogamous date. Lastly, they give great tips around finding community. Follow Polycurious on Join our WhatsApp community here! Visit our website polycurious.com Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check here | |||
| 09 May 2023 | 38. Twelve Lessons in my Polycurious Journey | 00:37:02 | |
In this episode I talk about the 12 lessons I have learned in my Polycurious journey.
Resources discussed in this episode: Follow Polycurious on: Visit our website polycurious.com Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check here | |||
| 24 Feb 2022 | 14. Broken Up But Still Together with Cookie & Jerry | 01:09:29 | |
On our season premiere Cookie and Jerry open up about their journey and their breakup. We talk about how their current separation has benefited their relationship. This conversation highlights how communication has to be a continuous effort. No matter how long you have been together, things change all the time. You have to do what is right for you even if it is different from what worked in the past or what works for your partner. — Tarynn is a New York-based Psychotherapist that focuses on alternative sexualities & lifestyles – including non-monogamy. She is giving Polycurious listeners a 30 percent discount for sessions booked in March. You can write to her at tarynndier@gmail.com or visit her website https://www.tarynndier.com/ Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min Join my Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Follow Polycurious on: | |||
| 25 Jan 2023 | Monocurious E2 - Tory & Ava: Looking for Partnership in the Dating App Era | 00:52:12 | |
In today's episode, we discuss dating culture, the various contrasts in experience men and women have, as well as some hot tips on communicating expectations after a first date. Tory recently moved to NYC from San Francisco, for work and to find partnership with a Jewish woman. Ava, our Monocurious co-host, has lived & dated in NYC for 8+ years. Tory and Ava share how their family, culture, and their own experiences with open dynamics influenced their desire to be monogamous at this stage of their life. The Monocurious miniseries explores the question: What does monogamy look like in the 21st century? Our relationship dynamics are shifting. Even for people choosing to remain exclusive, monogamy doesn’t look like it used to. Subscribe to the podcast to listen to 3 episodes where you’ll hear from people who are consciously choosing monogamy instead of blindly following convention. | |||
| 03 Jun 2021 | 12. She is Open, He is Not with Fer & Seth | 01:03:55 | |
In this episode I interview Seth, my partner of almost 3 years. So far he hasn’t sought out to be non-monogamous, despite having a partner who is. In our conversation Seth tells us about his upbringing as a homeschooler and the son of a pastor in a small midwestern town. We talk about how we met and his reasons for not pursuing non-monogamy. We tell you what our boundaries are and how they have evolved. Lastly, we talk about the secret to our relationship: letting each other be ourselves and maintaining our independence. Follow Polycurious on: Visit our website polycurious.com Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here. Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check here. | |||
| 26 May 2021 | 11. Overcoming Insecurities with Ruth & Alejandro | 01:10:36 | |
In today’s episode I speak to my wonderful friends Ruth and Alejandro, who have been together for eight years. In this conversation they tell us how everything went wrong when they first met and how they ended up together anyway. They share their missteps as they began to open up their relationship, including a disastrous first threesome. We talk about their boundaries, how they have evolved, and Alejandro shares a story of how he overcame an insecurity that he had. Resources mentioned: Podcast where they have previously appeared: Follow Polycurious on: Visit our website polycurious.com Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here. Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check here. | |||
| 16 Apr 2024 | 46. More Than A Mother with Molly Roden Winter | 01:05:46 | |
In the last episode of the Poly Parents mini-series I spoke to Molly Roden Winter, author of the New York Times Bestseller More: A Memoir of Open Marriage. We spoke about her experience overcoming shame as a non-monogamous mother and how opening up her marriage helped her grow and learn about herself. Get Molly's book here! Follow Polycurious on Join our WhatsApp community here! Visit our website polycurious.com Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check here | |||
| 23 Mar 2022 | 18. Being Solo Poly and Dating a Couple with London | 01:14:45 | |
In this episode, London shares her reasons for being solo poly and not seeking a primary partner. She tells us ho she is working on getting validation from herself and letting go of expectations when it comes to relationships. We talk about the importance of communicating intentions and feelings, even with people one is casually dating. Last but not least, we go in-depth about London’s experience dating a couple for over a year and all of the reasons why being a 'unicorn' was so special. Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min Join my Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Follow Polycurious on: | |||
| 25 Mar 2021 | 2. Finding the Type of Relationship that Works for YOU with Dr.Zhana | 01:06:57 | |
In this episode I speak with Dr.Zhana, a professor of sexuality at New York University. She is also the creator of the Open Smarter Course, a science-based course designed to figure out what type of relationship works for YOU based on your personality. In this conversation we talk about Dr.Zhana's own non-monogamous journey, her research on casual sex and some of the important traits to consider when deciding what type of relationship works for you. Book Come as You Are (The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life) by Emily Nagoski Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min Join my Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Follow Polycurious on: | |||
| 25 Feb 2025 | 51. Hotwife, Mono-Poly or Something Else? | 01:07:25 | |
Ellie and Cole went from both being non-monogamous to just Ellie playing with others. But that doesn’t mean Cole doesn’t benefit! Ellie shares videos and pictures of her encounters and brings the sexual energy into their relationship when she gets home. We dive into how this (some might say hotwifing) arrangement works, the conversations that made it possible, and their journey from playing together to settling into a mono-poly dynamic. Listen to Ellie's podcast 'Kink with Alex + Ellie Substack: https://talkingkinkpodcast.com Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6tg4geRbYCJWl2SmwweVod Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/talking-kink-with-alex-ellie/id1727462400 To My Stag, My Hubby full audio: https://soundgasm.net/u/ParcaeNona/To-my-Stag-my-Hubby Book a free exploratory call with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min?month=2025-01 Join our Whatsapp community here https://chat.whatsapp.com/CIo9i8FTioT0ebfU3QmNqV Join our Patreon here https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Follow Polycurious on Instagram Tik Tok Facebook | |||
| 17 May 2023 | 40. Metamours Who Are Friends with Aviva, Lorena & JD | 01:05:15 | |
Today I chat with metamours JD and Lorena, as well as their common partner Aviva (a metamour is a partner’s partner.) Even though Aviva and Lorena were dating first, JD has become Aviva’s nesting partner. And today we chat about how even though that transition was a little difficult, Lorena was also very happy for Aviva and JD, someone she knew and really liked. I was left feeling warm from this conversation as I could really tell there is so much love and respect between the three of them. I hope that regardless of whether you are close with your metamours or not you can take them as an inspiration in your journey. Resources discussed in this episode: Follow Aviva on Instagram at avivalaviv Check out her website avivalaviv.com Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min Join my Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Follow Polycurious on: | |||
| 08 Apr 2021 | 4. Learning Compersion and Navigating Polyamory with Bear & Fifi (Part 2) | 00:39:27 | |
In Part 2 of our conversation with Bear (formerly Safi) and Fifi we go deeper by talking about their relationship. They narrate their love story and share with us inner layers that help them navigate polyamory together. We talk about how Safi developed compersion, which is a feeling of joy when a loved one takes pleasure from another romantic or sexual relationship. Check out their YouTube channel Follow them on Instagram at bear.n.fifi Resources mentioned: Book The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy Follow Polycurious on: Visit our website polycurious.com Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here. Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check here. | |||
| 26 Apr 2023 | 36. Turning Jelousy into Kink with All The Feels (Part 1) | 00:49:47 | |
Today I had a wonderful discussion with Natasha and Jeremy, the couple behind All The Feels. They are certified sex coaches, working on empowering people to have better sex lives. Besides coaching, they also educate through their instagram and their porn videos. Today we chat about their journeys taking charge of their sexuality and navigating non-mongamy. Natasha also tells us how she went from feeling jealousy to getting turned on when seeing Jeremy having sex with other women. Resources discussed in the episode: Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power - Carolyn Elliott Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead Pussy: A Reclamation - Regena Thomashuer Dr. Eva Cadell Certified Sex Coach Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min Join my Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Follow Polycurious on: Instagram Tik Tok | |||
| 01 Feb 2023 | Monocurious E3 - Tory & Jackson: The Power of Non-sexual Intimacy | 01:03:41 | |
In the last episode of Monocurious we interview Tory and Jackson, a couple living in at Lightning Society, a co-living residence and event space in Brooklyn. Today Tory and Jackson give us a crash course on non-sexual intimacy. Tory tells us why she decided to remain single for most of her twenties, focusing on her independence and building intimate friendships. Jackson, on the other hand, fell into one monogamous relationship after the other, and often felt he lost himself in them. But meeting Tory helped him realize that they could maintain their independence by having their non-sexual needs met by a community of friends. Today’s conversation shows how solid and special their relationship is because they don’t rely completely on each other for all of their needs. The Monocurious miniseries explores the question: What does monogamy look like in the 21st century? Our relationship dynamics are shifting. Even for people choosing to remain exclusive, monogamy doesn’t look like it used to. Subscribe to the podcast to listen to 3 episodes where you’ll hear from people who are consciously choosing monogamy instead of blindly following convention. | |||
| 29 Apr 2021 | 7. Gender Roles in Non-monogamy with Ana & Dustin | 01:01:29 | |
Ana and Dustin are a married polyamorous couple who have a very loving relationship. In this conversation we talk about gender roles in non-monogamy: how they influence Dustin’s jealousy and affect the way they each relate to other potential partners. We also talk about the importance of establishing a solid base on one’s relationship before opening up. Watch their dating show Quarantine Crush Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min Join my Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Follow Polycurious on: | |||
| 28 Jan 2025 | 48. Don't Ask Don't Tell But Different with Fer & Seth | 00:52:50 | |
In this episode Seth and I talk about why he’s never lost his confidence as a monogamous man in a non-monogamous relationship. We unpack how we approach "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" (spoiler: it’s not what you think!) and share what we’ve learned about making a mono-open dynamic work. Resources mentioned in this episode: Ep.12 She's Open He's Not with Fer & Seth Book a free exploratory call with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min?month=2025-01 Join our Mono-Poly Whatsapp community here. https://chat.whatsapp.com/Ka6FnsUEPaJ2gpFBcphhQJ Join our Patreon here https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Follow Polycurious on Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Polycurious is one of the 25 top non-monogamy podcasts: https://podcast.feedspot.com/non_monogamy_podcasts/ | |||
| 22 Apr 2021 | 6. Facing Insecurities Head On with Frankie | 00:53:04 | |
Frankie is an incredibly inspiring person when it comes to dealing with non-monogamy. In this conversation, she shared with us a particular experience of jealousy we can all learn from. When faced with her uncomfortable feelings, she decided to approach the person she felt triggered by. Listen to find out how that turned out! If you think anyone could benefit from listening to this episode, please share it! If you like the show subscribe and leave us a rating and/or review. Thank you for your support. Listen to Frankie's Patreon Episode here https://www.patreon.com/posts/where-is-frankie-120772218 Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here. Follow Polycurious on: Visit our website polycurious.com Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check here. | |||