Permission for Pleasure (Cindy Scharkey)
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| 23 Feb 2022 | Reclaim Your Arousal Mindset | 00:44:13 | |
Sheila Wray Gregoire and her team conducted a study of 20,000 women to determine what makes sex great for some and less satisfying for others, along with rates of sexual pain. In this episode we discuss what these women had to say and find out how significant cultural narratives are on our desire styles and arousal as women. What started out as a chat about female arousal, quickly turned into a thought-provoking conversation around how our mindset impacts female arousal. Letâs all start asking Sheilaâs question: âWhat wants to be touched right now?â ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 09 Mar 2022 | Letâs Go Girls: Heather from the South Bay | 00:48:30 | |
Join me and my friend Heather for an episode in our âLetâs Go Girlsâ series where members of our community share their stories and we explore what women have learned about sex, their bodies, and pleasure. We discuss the facts, challenges and freedom of midlife and menopause. Listen to learn, laugh, get prepared and feel less alone in whatever stage of womanhood you find yourself. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 23 Mar 2022 | Community Questions: Vibrators, Edging & Anal Sex | 00:28:49 | |
In this episode, I talk with Dr. Shannon Chavez. We explore the importance of curiosity, consent, and communication, and then we unpack a few topics from my community question box about vibrators, edging, and anal sex.
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| 06 Apr 2022 | Supporting Survivors | 00:31:12 | |
Dr. Rossana Sida joins me for a conversation about her work with survivors and those who care for them. We discuss common challenges of recovery, options for those seeking help, language to use with recovering partners, and navigating ongoing consent. You are never alone in the continuing work of healing and recovery. Whether you are a survivor, in a relationship with one, or desire to understand how to best care for someone else, youâll find some tools here for healing and hope. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 20 Apr 2022 | Foreplay 101 | 00:12:20 | |
Foreplay should be all day! I like to think of foreplay as connection building activities rather than just a lead up to sex. Connection certainly doesn't start in the bedroom. Foreplay can be tender, playful, and erotic. In this quickie episode, I offer some specific ideas to intentionally use each of your senses to increase pleasure and get creative with connection. It is said that variety is the spice of life, so let's get curious, have fun, and get spicy!
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| 04 May 2022 | Talking About Sex (When Things Arenât Great) - Part 1 | 00:23:43 | |
PART ONE: When things arenât going so great in the bedroom, communication may be what you need to turn things around. Research shows that talking about sex is one of the strongest predictors of sexual satisfaction. In this episode, Meygan Caston joins us as our first repeat guest on the podcast. This time, she shares the story of how she learned to talk about sex with her partner, and offers us the communication tips and strategies she gathered as they transformed their sex life from really bad - to really good. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 04 May 2022 | Talking About Sex (When Things Arenât Great) - Part 2 | 00:23:17 | |
PART TWO: It can feel uncomfortable asking for what you want in bed. The good news is that talking with a partner about sex is a skill you can learn. In this episode, our conversation with Meygan Caston continues as she shares how communication saved her sex life. In part two, she takes things to the next level by asking for a âpleasure giftâ on her 10-year wedding anniversary. Youâll hear more of her tips and strategies for talking about sex with a partner, and will be encouraged to give yourself permission for pleasure. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 18 May 2022 | Finding Intimacy During Infertility or After Miscarriage | 00:34:04 | |
Miscarriage or infertility is often the first medical crisis young couples face and finding intimacy through these times can pose some unique challenges. Dr. Jacqueline Sherman shares her personal story as well as specific ideas to help couples navigate the journey. You'll learn ways to connect with your feelings, your partner, and tips to reframe your sex life for more intimacy and connection. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 01 Jun 2022 | Stretched-Out Vaginas and other Myths | 00:29:58 | |
Have you heard your vagina stretches out if you have a lot of sex? Or that kegels are the answer to all your pelvic floor issues? How about the one that a vaginal delivery ruins your sex life? Heather Jeffcoat returns to the podcast for a round of true or false about common sexual health myths. We also offer advice for first intercourse; dilator use and period problems. In this episode youâll learn the facts to help you advocate for your sexual health. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 15 Jun 2022 | Community Questions: Arousal, Role Play & Condoms | 00:11:47 | |
Iâm answering your community questions. One woman wants to know why arousal takes so long, if itâs normal and tips to help (0:55). Another listener asks about how to start role play in the bedroom without feeling awkward (3:57). Then I offer some sexy tips for a couple that says putting on a condom is ruining their mood (8:30). ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 29 Jun 2022 | Letâs Go Girls: Jessica from New York | 00:32:13 | |
Jessica Lorion experienced a debilitating autoimmune disease that impacted her body image, intimacy, and relationship. It also detoured her desire to start a family. We talk together about her health and relationship journey, her positive pivot of starting a community, and our shared passion of supporting pregnant women and aspiring moms on their journey into motherhood. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 13 Jul 2022 | Why We Need to Talk About Pornography - Part 1 | 00:23:36 | |
Therapist Sam Tielemans joins me to discuss why we need to talk about pornography, not only in our relationships but also as parents with our kids. Part one of this conversation includes: information about unhealthy usage of pornography and that it usually isnât about sex, what the average age of a childâs exposure is to porn (5:21), and how lies and deception break the attachment bond which may possibly cause betrayal trauma (8:25). We role play how to navigate the discussion with a partner and prompts to get you started (16:20). ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 13 Jul 2022 | Why We Need to Talk About Pornography - Part 2 | 00:25:51 | |
Therapist Sam Tielemans and I continue the conversation about pornography and specifically how it can affect relationships. We discuss the feelings women often experience when they discover their partner uses porn and why dealing with this issue alone is so difficult. Then we offer practical ways for couples to get started communicating as well as ideas for moving toward healing. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 27 Jul 2022 | Want Better Sex? Ask Yourself These Questions | 00:31:24 | |
Have you and your partner experienced conflict over mismatched sexual desire or frequency? Have you ever asked yourself: why sex matters to you? Cyndi Darnell joins me to talk about the healthy questions to ask yourself for better sexual self-understanding - which can lead to better sex! Learn the truth about mismatched sexual desire, the problems that result when couples equate frequency with quality, and ideas for creating a more satisfying sex life. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 10 Aug 2022 | Pleasure Techniques | 00:17:50 | |
Learn four techniques women use to increase pleasure during vaginal penetration. OMGyes, in partnership with Indiana University School of Medicine, conducted a nationally representative study of over 3000 women, and I share their results in this episode. Hear about shallowing, pairing, rocking, and angling - along with practical tips for each one. I also discuss how faking orgasm can undermine your pleasure and give conversation starters to open a discussion about it with a partner. Visit our episode sponsor Uberlube and use code CINDY for 15% off ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 24 Aug 2022 | Learning to Listen to Your Body | 00:33:45 | |
Dr. Hillary McBride joins me for a conversation about embodiment or as she defines it, âOur experience of being a body as itâs shaped by culture.â She provides tools to help us untangle the cultural scripts we have taken in, along with gentle guidance for how we can reframe and choose a healthier way to be in our body. Youâll hear how you can learn to listen to your body, embrace your sensuality and give yourself more permission for pleasure.Â
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| 07 Sep 2022 | Sex and Pregnancy | 00:25:21 | |
My long time colleague and friend Colleen Weeks joins me to talk about all things pregnancy. This episode is your private in-home education class! You'll hear information every person needs to know about hormones, sex in pregnancy, partner concerns, and all the changes a body goes through to grow and birth a whole human. One of the biggest changes Colleen has witnessed over the years, is the increasing lack of trust women have in their bodies and how they function. Our hope is that this conversation will you help you gain confidence to trust your body in pregnancy, and all the seasons of your life. *Donât miss our next episode - Part Two: Sex, Postpartum and Breastfeeding
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| 21 Sep 2022 | Sex, Postpartum, and Breastfeeding | 00:40:48 | |
Colleen Weeks and I continue our conversation and discuss the challenges and changes in the fourth trimester, the 3-month time period after birthing a baby. Topics include hormone changes, the 6-weeks suggested for healing, why you may need lubrication for sex, and how fatigue affects sexual arousal. We also dive into breastfeeding to answer some common questions, such as does breastfeeding work as birth control, and why milk leaks or spurts with sex. Youâll hear thoughts on parenting roles, the mental load and communication strategies between partners to help you navigate this often-overwhelming season of change. For more than 40 years, Colleen Weeks has passionately worked with childbearing women and their families as a Certified Childbirth, Lactation and Sex Educator, Certified Perinatal Bereavement Counselor and Maternal Mental Health Specialist. At Kaiser Permanente Orange Countyâs Anaheim and Irvine Medical Centerâs she is the Perinatal Education manager. Colleen serves on the Family Violence Prevention team where she piloted an (ACEâs) Adverse Childhood Experienceâs project and coordinates the FVPP Ambassador program.
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| 05 Oct 2022 | Less Shame - More Sex Ed | 00:26:00 | |
Alex Liu, a health reporter and director of the documentary; A Sexplanation joins me for a conversation about why we need comprehensive sex ed. We talk about his experience growing up as a young gay man, the sexual silence and shame that almost destroyed him, and how he found freedom and belonging by going on a quest for the sex education he never got. We agree that there are a lot of questions about sex that are âunasked, unspoken and unanswered!â This episode will encourage individuals, partners and parents to ask, speak and answer those questions. Learn more about these topics Why Sex Ed Really Matters with guest Kristen Mark ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 19 Oct 2022 | Sexify Your Space: Tips for a Better Bedroom | 00:09:56 | |
Wouldnât it be wonderful if we could all build ourselves a whole room dedicated to sex and intimacy? For most of us, thatâs not a reality. However we can make changes to sexify the space we do have! In this quickie episode, youâll hear my ten tips to create a more sensual and inviting atmosphere in your bedroom. Research shows that those with the most enjoyable sex life, set up their environment for sex with intention. Choose from - moody lighting, mirrors, props, privacy and more - to level up your bedroom for better sex. Learn more about these topics ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 02 Nov 2022 | Sexy in Survival Mode | 00:49:44 | |
How in the world can a new mom feel sexy in survival mode? Journalist Simone Boyce flips the script to interview me about life and intimacy after childbirth. I answer her questions about the six-week mark, re-examining pleasure, code switching out of "mommy mode," and the reality of feeling touched out. Youâll learn my tips for intimacy without the pressure and ways to embrace outercourse (or as Simone says, âthings you can do on the outside without ever having to go in the house!â). We talk about it all in this episode! Simone Boyce is a nationally recognized journalist, host and speaker whose work has been featured on MSNBC, the Today Show, Access Hollywood and more. Sign up for her newsletter Motherload.
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| 16 Nov 2022 | 'How To Build A Sex Room' - Taylor's journey | 00:40:45 | |
You met the delightful Taylor Stonack if you watched episode one of Netflixâs How to Build a Sex Room. Whether you've seen the show or not, youâll be drawn into her journey which she shares with both laughter and tears. She joins me for a conversation about her experience on the show, how she became interested in kink, and what she learned about herself through the process. She shares a few un-aired moments including a scene that brought back her past experience of sexual trauma. Through the outpouring of care and solid consent language, this resulted in a beautiful healing moment for her during the showâs creation. According to Taylor, âIt started out as a room but it turned into more than that.â Taylor Stonack appeared on the first season of Netflix's How To Build A Sex Room, and her mission is to create a safe space for people to talk about their wants and desires in every aspect of their life. She owns the social media marketing agency Sweet Potato Social.
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| 30 Nov 2022 | Evolving Out Of Purity Culture | 00:41:05 | |
It is always a delight when a member of our community comes on the show to share their story. Brit "Beans" Barron is a teacher, speaker and author of Worth It. She joins me for a conversation about her journey evolving out of purity culture. We discuss her work to unpack shame, unravel the purity narrative and embrace her sexuality as a queer woman. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 14 Dec 2022 | Sexual Communication | 00:16:12 | |
You can learn to talk about sex! It is a skill strengthened through practice. In this quickie episode, Iâm offering some helpful tips and conversation prompts to get you started. Listen solo or with your partner to learn practical ways to boost your sexual communication. Topics include: sexual frequency, reasons you want to have sex, scheduling sexy dates, being honest about what you no longer enjoy, and trying new things. Visit our episode sponsor Sexfirmation Cards and use code CINDY for 15% off
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| 28 Dec 2022 | Exploring Erogenous Zones | 00:06:44 | |
Do you know your erogenous zones? Do you know your partner's? We are wrapping up season two on the podcast by revisiting one of my favorite pleasure practices. This touch exercise is a wonderful way to connect with your body and your partner's. We change, and so do our bodies, which means our erogenous zones can as well. Learn ways to communicate where you enjoy being touched, as well as what kind of touch feels good. Explore each other's bodies with this guided touch exercise. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 11 Jan 2023 | Welcome to Season Three | 00:02:15 | |
Welcome to Season Three! Whether you are a new listener, or have been here since the beginning - thank you for being part of this community. On this podcast we have conversations about sexual health and pleasure. Episodes include everything from interviews with experts to hearing from members of this community. This show is constantly evolving as I prioritize the topics you most want to hear about. My hope is that this community will help you to open healthy conversations and give yourself permission for pleasure. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 25 Jan 2023 | Misconceptions Men Believe About Sex | 00:44:46 | |
I invited Sheila Gregoire back to break down what women actually want from their male partners in bed. Sharing excerpts from her book, The Good Guyâs Guide to Great Sex, we debunk myths about the magic penis, mental load, foreplay, female arousal, and orgasm. Learn some practical ideas for increased pleasure and better sex! Learn more about Sheila's work ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 08 Feb 2023 | The Growing Mental Health Crisis Of Our Girls | 00:44:38 | |
Our girls are struggling more than boys. Why? Did you know that 1 out of every 4 teen girls has symptoms of major depression? This is compared with fewer than 1 in 10 boys. Girls are also twice as likely as boys to suffer from anxiety. We have a crisis on our hands. Award-winning journalist, Donna Jackson Nakazawa, joins me to discuss the topic. We talk about how the toxic stressors of social media and our culture are uniquely affecting girls' mental health. We share action steps from Donnaâs book, Girls on the Brink, that you can use to help the girl in your life thrive - not just survive!
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| 08 Mar 2023 | Shifting The Fertility Narrative From Me To We | 00:37:27 | |
WeNatal caught my attention with their holistic approach to fertility. Instead of the usual focus on me - the woman, they widen it to we - and include the partner. They bring men into the fertility equation. Founders Vida Delrahim and Ronit Menashe join me to talk about the importance of preconception care, healthy practices, gratitude and a more well rounded focus for couples in the fertility season. They share their story of miscarriage, friendship and the community they are building to support families on the fertility journey.
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| 22 Feb 2023 | Positions with Props | 00:09:36 | |
Lifted Missionary, Chair Sex, or Sex in Heels. As Esther Perel says, âCreativity is where eroticism lives.â In this quickie episode I am highlighting three positions that make use of pillows or props. Try something new and get a little creative with these positions for more comfort, fun and erotic pleasure. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 22 Mar 2023 | The Pleasure Crisis and Why Good Sex Matters | 00:35:47 | |
Our society has a love/hate relationship with pleasure. More people than ever are experiencing anhedonia, the reduced ability to experience pleasure. Dr. Nan Wise, neuroscience researcher, certified sex therapist and author of Why Good Sex Matters, joins me to discuss why pleasure is a necessity for a balanced emotional brain. She walks us through the seven core emotional systems that give us feedback about what feels good and what is good for us. Dr. Nan expounds on how our brain is the command center for sex and a generator of pleasure. Learn more about your wired-in pleasure system and why good sex matters. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 05 Apr 2023 | Orgasm Is A Big Brain Event | 00:36:14 | |
Your brain is wired for pleasure! My conversation with Dr. Nan Wise continues as she shares her research about how your brain benefits from orgasm and pleasure and how even thinking about pleasurable stimulation lights up your brain like a Christmas tree! As she emphatically says, âOrgasm is a big brain event!â She also teaches how to lay down pleasure pathways to help those who find it difficult to orgasm. Learn about your brain-body connections and how the more you pay attention to the sensations you feel, the more you can dial them up for more pleasure. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 03 May 2023 | Do You Ever Think Your Sex Life Is Broken? | 00:38:08 | |
Have you ever felt broken when it comes to your sex life? Urologist and sex expert Kelly Casperson, MD joins me to talk about her book Youâre Not Broken: Stop âShould-ingâ All Over Your Sex Life. We discuss what bad sex looks like, why sometimes âgood enoughâ sex is fantastic and how self-cultivation enhances your sexual health. I also asked Dr. Casperson her top tips for preventing UTIs (find them at 27:53). Learn more about Dr. Kelly Casperson
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| 19 Apr 2023 | Why Is It Easier To Orgasm By Myself? | 00:13:57 | |
Answering your orgasm questions in this episode, including: Are all orgasms the same? Is it normal for some orgasms to be more intense than others? My orgasms have changed as Iâve gotten older, am I normal? Why is it so much easier for me to orgasm by myself, than with a partner? Can I orgasm from stimulation to my clitoral hood? What can I do to make orgasm easier? More on this topic: ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 17 May 2023 | How Toxic Masculinity Can Invade Your Sex Life | 00:36:26 | |
Cam Fraser, a therapist and licensed sex coach says the script men learn: âGet it up. Get it in. Get it off.â is ruining sex lives. He shares his story and the ways he learned to reframe his own approach to pleasure. We discuss the sex ed men and their partners need to get out of the box that says sex has to look a certain way and to move toward more fulfilling intimacy. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 31 May 2023 | Can Men Be Multi-Orgasmic? | 00:26:24 | |
Sex coach Cam Fraser returns for part two of our conversation about men and sex. We cover erections, ejaculation, and how men can experience multiple orgasms. Find out Cam's communication tip for women partnered with men, and why men need more permission to explore their bodies for pleasure and fulfilling intimacy. Learn more about Cam's work ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 12 Jul 2023 | Sex Ed For All Abilities | 00:38:09 | |
All people, regardless of abilities, are sexual beings, and deserve access to sexual health education. Mad Hatter Wellness creates comprehensive sex ed and health curriculum primarily for people with intellectual and developmental disabilities. Educator Anna Hayek, their heart of operations, joins me to discuss tools, language and strategies for parents and caregivers. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 14 Jun 2023 | Oral Sex for Women | 00:17:27 | |
Oral sex is a highly reliable path to orgasm for women. This episode talks about creating anticipation, building arousal toward crescendo and specific tongue techniques to stimulate the clitoris and vulva. Also hear tips on positioning, when to add variety, and when to stick with consistency. Learn the signs of approaching orgasm, to help your partner go over the edge with pleasure. Visit our episode sponsor Lovability and use code CINDY for 10% off Learn more about these topics ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 28 Jun 2023 | Get Out Of Your Foreplay Rut | 00:30:47 | |
If you want to become a more attentive lover, start with foreplay and pre-foreplay! Meygan Caston of Marriage365 joins me to bring some sweet and spicy ways to cultivate better intimacy in and out of the bedroom. Use these ideas to create sexual tension and excitement as well as emotional safety with your partner. Learn how get out of your foreplay routine, and level up your sexual connection. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 26 Jul 2023 | Toys, Fantasy and Play in the Bedroom | 00:35:43 | |
Play in the bedroom is highly underrated! Psychologist and sex therapist Carolin Klein joins me to offer tips and answer questions about toys, vibrators, and fantasy. Learn about some common fantasies and less intimidating ways to share what makes your heart race. We talk through a helpful list of dos and donâts for choosing toys and how to introduce the idea with a partner. Create memorable sexual experiences by bringing more play into the bedroom. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 09 Aug 2023 | Sexual Reset for Midlife Women | 00:34:26 | |
Leah Fischer and Cass Redding, founders of Intimate Wellbeing, join me to share their individual journeys of self-discovery and finding sexual pleasure in midlife. Their paths of growth empowered them to team up and create an e-commerce platform for women. They are on a mission to provide tools and resources for enhancing intimacy and pleasure for the midlife woman, all while ending sexual health stigma. Learn more about Intimate Wellbeing
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| 23 Aug 2023 | Temperature Play | 00:06:50 | |
Dabbling with hot and cold sensations can be a tantalizing way to explore erotic sensuality alone or with a partner. Our bodies have so many sensitive erogenous zones that can respond to temperature changes. Play with these simple ideas to create exciting and sexy anticipation for your body and brain as you bring the heat or cool things down. More on these topics: ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 06 Sep 2023 | Coming Home to Yourself: A Conversation With Arielle Estoria | 00:38:41 | |
Do you feel at home in your body? I had the pleasure of talking about our relationship to our bodies with the multitalented Arielle Estoria, an artist, poet, writer, and actor. Her journey of self-discovery and spirituality is beautifully chronicled in her book, 'The Unfolding: An Invitation to Come Home to Yourself. ' Her story is a testament to the transformative impact of embracing one's body for ultimate liberation. Arielle shares the practices that allowed her to release years of self-condemnation and reconnect with her body on her own terms. Tune in and let Arielle inspire you to find home within yourself. More on these topics ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 20 Sep 2023 | Unlearning Body Shame and Understanding Consent | 00:27:33 | |
Join me for a conversation with Abby, a devoted volunteer for our podcast and member of our community. We dive into the challenging waters of unlearning body shame, dismantling beliefs around our bodies and reclaiming sexual health education. Abby shares her experiences of how the pandemic era has shaped new perspectives on bodily autonomy and navigating consent. Learn more about what consent is, what it isn't and how to cultivate discussions around it. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 02 Oct 2023 | Medications and Your Sex Life | 00:11:21 | |
Did you know the medications you take can have an impact on your sex life? Learn about medications known to have sexual health side effects and what those common side effects are. I also offer talking points and my best nurse tip for having a conversation with your healthcare provider about any concerns or inquiries you might have pertaining to your sexual health and the medications you are taking. Get curious and be empowered to ask questions and advocate for your health! ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 18 Oct 2023 | Less Faking - More Pleasure | 00:17:28 | |
This is the second most downloaded episode of all three seasons! Originally called Pleasure Techniques (Episode 41), I cover two important topics. First, I share the four specific techniques women can use with vaginal penetration to experience more pleasure and potential for orgasm. Then, I talk about how faking orgasms can undermine your pleasure and cause sexual miscommunication with a partner. If youâre new to my listening community, missed it the first time around, or want a refresher, give this quickie a listen. More on this topic ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 15 Nov 2023 | Confidence is Sexy | 00:45:12 | |
"Confidence is the sexiest thing a woman can have." Dana B. Myers, self-described as a sensually empowered voice for women, joins me to talk about how to embrace your sensuality and sexuality to boost your confidence. Dana and I get practical with tips for sexy talk, sexy texting, and how to communicate your desires. This episode will help you feel more turned on, assertive and engaged with your sensuality for a sexier YOU! More on these topics: ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 01 Nov 2023 | Living With Chronic Pain: A Conversation With Ruthie Lindsey | 00:51:05 | |
My guest Ruthie Lindsey invites us into the liberating process of unlearning the stories we have been told about our bodies and finding delight in reclaiming pleasure. Having survived a catastrophic accident that left her living in chronic pain, Ruthie shares her journey toward embodied living and the many tools sheâs found to help her along the way. Although the pain still visits her, Ruthie has found healing by learning to love and listen to her body. âLove is always inviting us back home to ourselves, to our bodies, and to healing.â ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 27 Dec 2023 | Untangling Sexual Shame | 00:39:52 | |
My guest Matthias Roberts, psychotherapist, and author of Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms says, âWherever there is sex, there seems to be shame.â Matthias writes and speaks nationwide about the intersections between gender, sexuality, mental health, and theology. He feels one of the first steps in fighting shame is to practice recognizing it. Together we discuss how to identify our shame, acknowledge our worthiness, and allow ourselves pleasure. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 29 Nov 2023 | Perimenopause 101: Hormones and Symptoms | 00:33:49 | |
Education is key to entering the menopause transition knowledgeable and prepared! In this episode, learn what you need to know about perimenopause with Dr. Shyama Mathews, a Board Certified OB/GYN, Minimally Invasive Gynecologic Surgeon, and NAMS Certified Menopause Specialist. We discuss when changes start, the common symptoms experienced, and what your hormones are doing. Donât âgut outâ the menopause transition, instead feel empowered to advocate for your health. Learn more about Dr. Shyama Mathews ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 13 Dec 2023 | Perimenopause 101: Treatment Options | 00:25:37 | |
There are many options available to treat your symptoms during the menopause transition. I continue my conversation with Dr. Shyama Mathews, a Board Certified OB/GYN, and NAMS Certified Menopause Specialist about perimenopause. We discuss non-hormonal prescriptions, systemic hormonal therapy, vaginal estrogen, moisturizers, and lubricants for sex. Dr. Shyama also shares how to find qualified menopause clinicians and why we should all ask for a pelvic floor physical therapy referral. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 10 Jan 2024 | Conversation Starters to Help You Talk About Sex With a Partner | 00:10:05 | |
Most of us didnât get a lot of education around sex, let alone how to talk about sex with a partner. Just like any new language, sexual conversation is a learnable skill that gets more comfortable with practice. Use the questions and prompts in this episode as conversation starters. Designed to be used with a partner, these are great for date night, weekend walks or on your next long drive together. Learn to talk about sex - one chat at a time. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 24 Jan 2024 | Spicy Audio Stories with Gina of Dipsea | 00:31:58 | |
As Gina Gutierrez, the co-founder of Dipsea, says in her Ted Talk, âUsing their memories, fantasies, and some focus - women can turn themselves on with their thoughts.â In this conversation, Gina and I discuss exploration of fantasy, the differences between erotica and porn, ways to figure out what turns you on, and barriers to pleasure. I like the way Gina puts it, "Your desire is not a problem to be solved, but a fire to be stoked." You may discover a new tool to spark the flame in this episode. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 07 Feb 2024 | Erectile Dissatisfaction vs Erectile Dysfunction | 00:13:12 | |
People sometimes assume the source of erectile changes in men as they age is a condition called - erectile dysfunction or ED. This is not always the case. In this episode I am discussing some of the normal sexual changes men may experience in midlife and beyond. Listen to learn about normal changes in erections, sexual functioning, and desire for men. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 21 Feb 2024 | Sexuality With a Philosophical Lens | 00:44:05 | |
My guest found that her college students had very little understanding of their own bodies and how to navigate sex in a healthy way. Professor Gwendolyn Dolske Ph.D. teaches Philosophy at Cal Poly Pomona. One of her classes, Current Debates in Sexuality, gives her a unique perspective on what young adults are asking about when it comes to sex and relationships. We discuss topics such as consent, current dating culture, and the high alert status women must negotiate to feel safe in the world. Learn more about Prof Dolske and Good is in the Details ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 06 Mar 2024 | Doggy Style, Kivin Method and Why Do I Bleed After Sex | 00:10:40 | |
In this quickie episode Iâll introduce you to the Kivin Method or oral for her â sideways. Hear a how-to guide and why you might want to try it. I'll also answer a few community questions including 'How can I make doggy style more intimate?' and 'Why do I bleed after sex?' Ten minutes of good education for good sex! Visit our episode sponsor UBERLUBE use code CINDY for 15% off ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 20 Mar 2024 | Tips From My Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist | 00:37:10 | |
All about the pelvic floor! Alexa Charbonneau, PT, DPT of Sarton Physical Therapy, joins me to offer her top tips and education for all ages and stages. Do you cough, laugh, sneeze and wet your pants? Do you have pain with sex? Do you have chronic prostatitis? While many of these might be common issues, they are not normal! The good news is there is physical therapy specifically for your pelvic floor. It may hold the solution youâve been looking for. Find Alexa Charbonneau and Pelvic Healing ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 03 Apr 2024 | Masturbation - Let's dig in | 00:43:43 | |
People masturbate for all kinds of reasons including pleasure, exploration, sleep and pain relief. For women who have never experienced orgasm, self-pleasure is the most scientifically supported sex therapy technique to learn the stimulation needed to climax. August McLaughlin, a journalist, author and host/producer of Girl Boner Radio, joins me to share her insights, and personal journey with masturbation. We discuss some practices and tips, as well as debunk a few common myths around solo sex. Â Visit our episode sponsor UBERLUBE use code CINDY for 15% off ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 17 Apr 2024 | Turn Up the Volume on Your Sex Life | 00:05:42 | |
Scientists have found that sexual noises go hand in hand with enhanced pleasure. Whether you hum, purr or moan - giving voice to what your body is feeling may make sex better. Bonus- it also serves as non-verbal communication and positive reinforcement to your partner! ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 01 May 2024 | What do you call your genitals? | 00:33:23 | |
The names we do or donât call our genitals are fascinating. Where do these terms come from? What about the silence around our private parts? Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, who specializes in the fields of human sexuality and relationships, joins me to share her research about genitals around the world. From what we call them and how we groom them, to our relationship with them. We discuss practices around pubic hair, beauty standards, penis size and more. At the end of the episode, Sara shares an exercise to help us begin a healthier relationship with our genitals.
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| 15 May 2024 | What Are You Saying With Your Touch? | 00:24:18 | |
Loving behaviors is one of the six ingredients Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh has found necessary to build a lifetime of love. In this second part of our conversation, we talk about the importance of touch and developing a touch lexicon within your relationship. We get specific about all the ways to touch and how to make sure the touch given is received as intended. Sara also shares her distinction between sexual chemistry and sexual harmony, to help couples create desire and arousal as relationships evolve over time.
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| 29 May 2024 | Do women ejaculate? What is squirting? | 00:11:49 | |
Are you curious about female ejaculation and squirting? Tune in as I answer your frequently asked questions. Yes - women ejaculate, and yes women can squirt. However, they are not the same thing. Learn the where, why and how in this - all about the fluids episode. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 12 Jun 2024 | Embracing Your Desire | 00:49:39 | |
Embrace your desire. Own your wanting and gather your sexual agency. Doing this will help you change your relationship with desire. Dr. Juliana Hauser joins me to talk about reframing desire and how to get in touch with your vibrancy. Youâll hear practical ways to figure out what you want sexually and ideas for approaching and trying new things. Learn about the four quadrant exercise, a no thank you bite, and why Dr. Juliana believes safety is the strongest aphrodisiac. More on this topic: ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 26 Jun 2024 | Three Things I Would Tell My Younger Self | 00:13:50 | |
To celebrate my 60th birthday this week, I want to share three key insights that have significantly influenced my journey towards sexual wellness. These discoveries are crucial in helping you find the freedom to express, experience, and enjoy your sexuality. Plus, I have an exciting announcement to share! ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 07 Aug 2024 | The Rise in Rough Sex | 00:39:40 | |
Dr. Debby Herbenick wants us to know that today's trend for rough sex is different than what we might expect. Her research, as detailed in her book Yes, Your Kid: What Parents Need to Know About Todayâs Teens and Sex, shows a rise in aggressive and risky behavior, often lacking the crucial communication necessary between partners. Listen in as we unpack the rise in rough sex - specifically choking. We also discuss nude images, digital safety, and the importance of having conversations around all these topics with our teenagers and young adults. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 10 Jul 2024 | Reconnecting to Yourself and to Your Body | 00:49:53 | |
This week I'm joining Kara Ryska, host of The Special Needs Mom Podcast and sharing our conversation on reconnecting to your body and redefining sensuality. Listen in as we cover some practical ways to build a practice around connecting with yourself, your needs and the sensations in your body. Find out more about Kara Ryska and The Special Needs Mom Podcast ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 21 Aug 2024 | Bedroom Games: Fun and Flirty Ideas | 00:10:04 | |
Get ready to discover some cheeky and charming ways to turn up the fun and connection between you and a partner! Whether you're looking to bring a little fun into your sexy time or just have a laugh, Iâve got a lineup of games that'll make your bedroom into a playground. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 24 Jul 2024 | Permission to grieve | 00:03:44 | |
I have lost my beloved. There are hardly any words for me right now. I have tried to give you the few I could manage in the midst of this deep grief over the sudden death of the love of my life. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 04 Sep 2024 | Practices for Positive Relationships | 00:43:20 | |
Dr. Jenn Gunsuallus joins me to share practical tools for positive relationships. Listen in for her 4 point approach to generous listening and ways to answer bids for connection. Celebrate World Sexual Health Day with these tools that all couples can use to foster healthy connection. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 18 Sep 2024 | Free Up Mental Space and Improve Your Sex Life | 00:36:19 | |
You know that running to do list in your head? It's called the mental load. Although it is often invisible, it has a big impact on our relationships, sexual desire and stress level. Bringing back an impactful episode from the archives with Dr. Morgan Cutlip. Youâll hear communication starters and practical tips to help you âoff-loadâ and free up mental space for a healthier you and strengthened relationships. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 02 Oct 2024 | When the Problematic People Are the Ones We Love with Brit Barron | 00:31:14 | |
Author Brit Barron joins me to discuss her new book, Do You Still Talk to Grandma? When the problematic people in our lives are the ones we love. Listen in as we talk about the role social media plays, our desire for belonging, and the importance of embracing both nuance and boundaries as a way forward. Learn more about Brit Barron ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 16 Oct 2024 | Everything We Get Wrong About Initiation | 00:42:15 | |
Need better ways to initiate sex in your relationship? Vanessa and Xander Marin join me to discuss everything we are getting wrong about initiation and tips to do it better. She's a sex therapist with 20 years of experience, he's a regular dude and together they wrote Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. Tune in and learn to change the communication of initiation in your relationship. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 30 Oct 2024 | Connecting With Our Bodies and Nervous Systems for More Pleasurable Sex | 00:48:29 | |
Our nervous systems play a critical role in connection and the sensory experience of sex. Aurora Allen, a somatic experiencing practitioner and nervous system educator shares practical steps to connect our bodies and nervous systems for more satisfying sex. Learn more about Aurora Allen ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 13 Nov 2024 | Vaginal Estrogen, Moisturizers, and Lube for Sex | 00:08:41 | |
Learn the difference between vaginal estrogen, vaginal moisturizers, and lube for sex. This quickie episode outlines what each one is, when their use is appropriate and a few frequently asked questions about each. Bite size education for everyone, but especially for those in perimenopause and the menopause transition. Visit our episode sponsor Uberlube and use code CINDY for 15% off ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 27 Nov 2024 | How Curiosity Fuels Desire | 00:38:48 | |
Research shows that greater curiosity outside the bedroom leads to higher sexual satisfaction. Sex therapist and author Dr. Emily Jamea joins me to talk about her book Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion. Learn how novelty works as a key component for fueling your desire. More on these topics ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 11 Dec 2024 | *Sneak Peak* Permission for Pleasure the BOOK! | 00:12:20 | |
Great sex is a mind and body experience. To truly enjoy the sex you're having - you have to be paying attention to the sex you are having! In this episode, I read you a short excerpt from my book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden focused on strengthening your mind-body connection. My book is available now for pre-order with a special 20% holiday discount through the month of December. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 25 Dec 2024 | Two Ways Affection Can Deepen Your Connection | 00:10:43 | |
Wrapping up Season 4 with two proven ways affection can deeper your connection. Use the practices of kissing for 6 seconds and hugging for 30 seconds to strengthen your relationships. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 08 Jan 2025 | Season Five: Launching the book I wrote for YOU! | 00:09:25 | |
Welcome to season 5 and my book launch! Join me as I share why I wrote Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden. Since we can't all gather together across the globe I am bringing the party to you. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 22 Jan 2025 | How Anxiety and Perfectionism Show Up in Your Sex Life | 00:42:38 | |
Do you struggle with anxiety or perfectionism? Therapist Caitlin Harrison joins me for a down to earth conversation about how anxiety shows up in our inner thoughts and the bedroom. Youâll hear discussion about purity culture, sexual shame, and how anxiety can disrupt the arousal process. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 05 Feb 2025 | Gifts for Your Valentine, Galentine and Yourself | 00:14:08 | |
Just in time for love month, I'm sharing some gift ideas for lovers, friends and something for yourself. I introduce you to Arya, a sexual wellness subscription for couples, focused on reigniting your passion and bolstering communication. You'll also hear ways to explore your sexuality and how to be a permission giver to your friends. This Valentine's Day, let's prioritize pleasure. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 19 Feb 2025 | Sexual Wellness and Pleasure Wish List | 00:49:33 | |
When I saw Michal Morrison's Sexual Wellness and Pleasure list on Threads, I thought, "Who is this woman and how did she come up with this amazing list?!" Learn about toys, tools, good reads and more to empower you on your wellness and pleasure journey. Visit our episode sponsor UBERLUBE use code CINDY for 15% off Michal Morrison is an Austin-based entrepreneur and the founder of her eponymous brand, Michal Morrisonâa cutting-edge skincare company rooted in science and powered by groundbreaking stem cell technology. With a passion for science-based innovation, Michal has worked in health-focused startups and femtech companies, championing wellbeing in both the health and beauty spaces. Beyond her entrepreneurial pursuits, Michal is committed to social impact, championing causes around women's health, gender equality, and mental health. Mentioned in this episode: ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 01 Mar 2021 | Permission for Pleasure: Pilot | 00:01:18 | |
A podcast to educate and equip women with the information and confidence they need to express, experience and enjoy their sexuality. Cindy Scharkey RN, BSN, brings her 30+ years of experience as a health-care professional to open the doors to healthy conversations about sex. This is a community where you can listen and learn to give yourself permission for pleasure. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 03 Mar 2021 | The Key To Female Pleasure | 00:11:00 | |
Cindy Scharkey RN, BSN walks you through the amazing anatomy of the clitoris. There is so much more than you can see on the surface. Learn about the thousands of nerve endings, all the erectile tissue, and why female arousal takes more than 5 minutes. The truth about the clitoris? It is a whole network... and the key to female pleasure. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 10 Mar 2021 | Cliteracy | 00:27:17 | |
Dr. Laurie Mintz, author of Becoming Cliterate, joins Cindy for a discussion about female pleasure, cliteracy and the orgasm gap. Why are women having fewer orgasms than men? What do women really need to experience more pleasure? This conversation provides the education and tools to get you started on the journey to orgasm equality. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 24 Mar 2021 | Understanding Your Desire Style For Better Sex | 00:09:32 | |
There is more than one way to experience desire. Sexual desire works a lot like curiosity. Think of it like this: What has to happen for you to be motivated to have sex? Learn about the different desire styles, and why itâs normal for you and a partner to experience desire differently. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 07 Apr 2021 | Partner Sexual Desire Discrepancies | 00:35:01 | |
If you experience conflict in your relationship over sexual desire, youâre not alone. According to my guest expert, every couple has a difference in sexual desire! Do men and women experience desire differently? Are we really supposed to just feel sexual desire? How can couples work through this issue in a healthy way? This conversation answers these questions and more. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 21 Apr 2021 | Mother / Daughter Interview: Healthy Conversations About Sex | 00:24:32 | |
This episode gets personal as my oldest daughter interviews me around healthy conversations about sex. We chat about the ways I talked with my own daughters about sexual health, tips for parents, developing your own sexual relationship, and discussion prompts for partners. This intimate interview will offer you some useful tools to start your own healthy conversations. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 05 May 2021 | Communication, Couples and Sex (Part One) | 00:25:18 | |
Talking about sex with a partner can feel awkward and scary. Shame, fearing rejection and hurt feelings - these can be huge roadblocks to honest communication in this area of a relationship. Meygan Caston, co-founder of Marriage365, joins me for a discussion packed with practical communication tips, ways to break down barriers and conversation starters galore. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 05 May 2021 | Communication, Couples and Sex (Part Two) | 00:31:36 | |
My discussion with Meygan Caston, co-founder of Marriage365, continues with more tips and prompts for couples learning to talk about sex. In part two we dive into: how to handle when one partner is not in the mood, introducing something new, when one partner is vanilla and the other is 31 flavors, and foreplay with words! Meygan shares her personal vibrator story and offers connecting questions to help get you started with your own healthy conversations. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 19 May 2021 | Pain and Sex | 00:12:57 | |
Painful sex is not normal, yet according to The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, 3 out of 4 women do experience pain during intercourse at some point during their lives. This quickie episode covers the 3 key things to consider if you are experiencing painful penetration at any point in your life. Essential education for every woman to know today or for the future. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 02 Jun 2021 | What Pelvic Health Has To Do With Painful Sex | 00:41:01 | |
If you experience pain with sex, please listen to this episode! Dr. Heather Jeffcoat joins me for an in depth conversation about all things pelvic health, specifically causes and treatment options for painful sex. You might want to have a pen and paper handy as we cover many topics, including: causes of pain, what pelvic floor physical therapy is and how it can help, dilators, sex & exercise after a baby, and how to do a kegel correctly. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 16 Jun 2021 | Letâs Talk Orgasms | 00:31:46 | |
Dr. Erica Marchand joins me for a conversation about female orgasms and pleasure. Are orgasms a learnable skill? What are the components necessary for orgasm? Do orgasms really look like we see in the media? Dr. Erica and I answer these questions as well as why women fake them, do we need to rank them, and more about the Big O. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 30 Jun 2021 | Letâs Go Girls: Hailey from Pasadena | 00:38:19 | |
This is a Special Episode, where members of our community share their stories and we explore what women hear about sex, their bodies, and pleasure. Hailey from Pasadena is my first guest and we talk about curiosity, consent, and both the silence and common narratives that many women take in who grow up in a conservative community. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 14 Jul 2021 | Myth-Busting: Part One | 00:27:51 | |
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| 14 Jul 2021 | Myth-Busting: Part Two | 00:20:01 | |
Dr. Uchenna Ossai and I continue our conversation about common myths people believe about sexual health. In part two we discuss simultaneous orgasms with a partner, what low libido is and isnât, female sexual dysfunction, and pornography. This myth-busters episode offers facts and alternatives to reframe and nourish your healthy sexuality. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 28 Jul 2021 | Lube Lube Lube | 00:13:46 | |
What have you heard about sex and lube? That lube is just for âold ladies?â That âgetting wetâ is the indicator of arousal and desire? This quickie episode covers the facts about lubrication, female arousal, types of lube and recommendations to try. Learn why couples say adding lube into their sex life is a âGame Changer!â ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 11 Aug 2021 | Sexual Scripts | 00:34:33 | |
What is a sexual script? Simply put, they are guidelines and shoulds that we have taken in, which shape and influence our expectations and behaviors about sex. Aoife Drury, a Dublin psychotherapist, joins me for a conversation about common sexual scripts and how they become woven into our sexuality. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 18 Aug 2021 | Yay for 5K! A Surprise Pleasure Exercise | 00:06:47 | |
I am celebrating our growing community with this surprise episode! Yay for 5K downloads! This pleasure exercise will guide you through focused and intentional touch. I hope itâs nourishing for you. Thank you for listening, following and sharing the podcast. Cheers to giving yourself more permission for pleasure! ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 25 Aug 2021 | Practicing Flow State Sex | 00:32:14 | |
How do we make good sex ⊠great? Dr. Emily Jamea joins me to talk about specific tools for optimal sexual experiences and what the research shows works! We discuss finding your sexual flow for higher sexual satisfaction, sensuality and eroticism in long term relationships and the importance of curiosity and practice for developing and maintaining a vibrant sex life worth wanting! ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||
| 08 Sep 2021 | Letâs Go Girls: Maddie from London | 00:33:04 | |
This is the second episode in our special series where members of our community share their stories and we explore what women have learned about sex, their bodies, and pleasure. Maddie, from London, joins me for a conversation about demisexuality and the importance of not shying away from what makes us different. We also talk about communication, embodiment, and the practice of noticing and valuing your body and how things make you feel physically. This discussion gave me goosebumps, the good kind! ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden | |||