Not Your Average Autism Mom (Shannon Urquiola)

In this episode of "Not Your Average Autism Mom" podcast, Shannon digs into the challenging world of self-injurious behaviors in children with autism.

We explored the various forms these behaviors can take, from hand/arm biting to head banging, and discussed why they occur, often as a means of releasing stress chemicals when the nervous system becomes overwhelmed.

Throughout the episode, we provided practical strategies for parents and caregivers to address these behaviors effectively.

Listeners learn the importance of identifying triggers and reducing stressors, as well as the value of teaching alternative communication methods for nonverbal children.

We emphasized the need to understand the function the behavior serves and to replace it with healthier alternatives through consistent practice and reinforcement.

By empowering parents with knowledge and actionable steps, we aimed to provide hope and support for families navigating the complexities of autism-related self-injury. Through understanding and compassionate intervention, we can help our children overcome these challenges and thrive.

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127. Seeing the Forest through the Trees

137. Explaining our Children's Differences

You are not alone! In this episode, I talk about things that you may be dealing with when it comes to getting your little one (or bigger one) to fall asleep or stay asleep.  Things that you may be doing or not doing that could be impacting them getting a good night's sleep.  

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In this episode, I talk in detail about echolalia.  The two different ways echolalia presents itself and when it should become a concern.  

Figuring out the meaning behind echolalia can be tricky but with a little detective work, it is possible.  

Playtime for our kids can look a lot different than it does for their typical peers.  Many of our children have social and communication deficits that are noticeable at an early age, and their ability to learn from their peers is significantly impacted.

While our kids may not always use toys the way others would, you can help them expand what they are focused on if you play with them.  Join in with them exploring the toy, you can talk about sizes, shapes, and which way the wheels spin, think about it, you are actually working on other skills while joining in with them.

Imaginative Play... Tell a Story. You can pick anything, a plane, a train, a toy, just pick something and make up a story and then ask about what the character, you know the thing, the plane or train or whatever it was, ask them what they are doing? Are they happy or sad? Are they moving fast or slow? Does the train have friends?

Physical play facilitates gross motor development, proprioception, and coordination which again, is something our kids often have deficits in and often fall behind their peers in this area.

Just get moving, and have fun!

Don’t forget to have fun yourself. It can be easy to see everything as learning or therapy along this journey – but, play is about fun.

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41. Emotional Ups and Downs of Raising a Child with Autism

60. The Most Important Relationship in your Autism Parenting Journey

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Society has certain expectations regarding social norms, which can be challenging for families like ours raising children on the spectrum. We live in a world that values conformity and often overlooks individual differences.

Certain unwritten rules govern how we interact, communicate, and behave in society. For neurotypical children, these norms are often picked up naturally through observation and imitation. However, for children on the autism spectrum, the social world can be puzzling and overwhelming. Boundaries, as they relate to social norms, refer to the unspoken rules that dictate appropriate behavior in social interactions. In society, there are generally accepted norms for personal space, physical touch, sharing, and conversational topics, among other things.

You don’t stand too close, you don’t pull a chin hair off a woman behind you in line, and you don’t touch people. 

There are specific topics you know when and where to and not to talk about. 

Our children on the autism spectrum usually have difficulties understanding and following these boundaries, which you guessed it, can lead to misunderstandings and sometimes negative perceptions from other people.

Societal expectations for social norms can take a toll on families like ours, affecting us emotionally, mentally, and even physically.

If you find yourself constantly striving to meet societal norms it can leave you feeling overwhelmed and anxious, worried that your child may be excluded or judged for their differences.

You might feel isolated, both from mainstream social circles and even within the autism community, if your child's challenges are different than others.

So while the negative impacts of social expectations can be significant, you can shift your perspective, advocate for awareness and pave the way for a more inclusive and understanding world.

It's essential for us to challenge these societal expectations and advocate for understanding and acceptance.

I believe that together, we can build a more compassionate and inclusive society.

As parents, we have the privilege and responsibility to shape the lives of our children.  When you have an unwavering belief in their abilities, it can be a transformative force that opens doors, breaks barriers, and unlocks their fullest potential. 

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It is a self-paced video course that will help you reduce your stress and overwhelm and show up better every day.

If you want to learn strategies and tools that you can use to improve your life along this autism parenting journey, becoming Not Your Average Autism Mom is your answer.  We are the single best online resource for moms raising autistic children.  

Is the educational journey overwhelming and confusing for you?  Our member portal has an array of training and resources with everything you need to know about Special Education and you can join LIVE ZOOM calls with an Advocate to get any of your specific questions answered.  

Maybe you are feeling alone on your journey or maybe you are looking for other moms to connect with in a PRIVATE community who understand your day-to-day challenges, be sure that you check out ALL THE BENEFITS available for you when you BECOME Not Your Average Autism Mom.

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Episode 96. Our Parenting Journey is Different

Episode 74. You Cannot Fix All the Things All the Time 

Misinformation across social media platforms is becoming increasingly prevalent.  I see countless posts with comments from numerous people who aren't experts in the specific area of the question.  When you look to social media as a source of information it can be harmful because it creates misunderstandings and confusion on important topics that can impact your child's future.  

In this episode, there is a bit of storytelling and sharing with you what I continue to learn as a consumer of social media that may be insightful to you.  I talk about how everything you do along this parenting journey is a learning experience and as soon as you think you have something figured out, another thing comes up.  

In an ideal world when we are presented with new information that contradicts our current beliefs we would evaluate the facts and adapt our views accordingly but that is not how things are in the real world.  

For many people, a challenge to their beliefs feels like an attack on their personal identity, and when someone suggests that their beliefs are wrong, they feel threatened.   This causes unnecessary back-and-forth conversations on the internet.  What a waste of your time and energy.  

Our brains are trained to seek out information that supports our existing belief system.  We search for and tend to remember things that go along with what we already know and understand.  

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PRIVATE SISTERHOOD - Become part of a COMMUNITY that understands this parenting journey because we live it every day, just like you.  

Autism vs Autistic, A Mom's Perspective

Special Education Things That You Should Know

The Evaluation Process of Special Education

The Eligibility Determination Meeting & The Differences of a 504 Plan and an IEP

What is an FBA and Why Your Child Might Need One

The death of a loved one, a tragedy in the world, someone we love getting diagnosed with a terminal illness, none of these our easy conversations.

Our goal as Mom is to protect our children right, we want to shield them from the things that will be difficult for them, of course, that is normal, but you and I both know that it isn’t reality.

Part of what makes it difficult to discuss a tragic situation or event with our children might be because there are often so many unknowns and we ourselves are experiencing our own emotions.

When we are talking about social circumstances or ways of the world, you have to decide whether it is important and appropriate for your child.

Help them understand that there is not a right or wrong way to feel when someone dies.

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In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mom Podcast, your host, Shannon Urquiola is talking about the complex world of repeated questioning in our autistic children.

As parents, we know firsthand the exhaustion and frustration that can come with hearing the same question over and over again. But why do our children engage in this behavior, and how can we lessen its impact on both them and you?

Shannon explores the various reasons behind repeated questioning, from seeking reassurance to managing anticipatory anxiety or simply craving attention. Understanding the underlying motives is crucial in developing effective strategies to address this behavior.

She discusses how repeated questioning impacts your emotional well-being and the importance of validating your child's attempt to communicate.

The heart of this episode lies in practical strategies. I'll guide you through techniques that reduce questioning and build communication. Shannon talks about the power of reciprocal interaction, providing answers that go beyond a simple 'yes' or 'no,' and expanding on topics to redirect your child's attention.

Moreover, we discuss the emotional toll repeated questioning can take on parents and offer self-care strategies to maintain our well-being amidst the challenges. By fostering open communication, setting realistic expectations, and prioritizing our own needs, we can navigate this journey with resilience and compassion.

Tune in as we embark on a journey to transform frustration into connection, one question at a time.

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57. The Benefits of Setting Boundaries

53. Rigid Thinking and the Inability to be Flexible

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In this Best Of Summer Series episode, we tackle the complex topic of societal expectations and social norms, particularly how they affect families raising children on the autism spectrum. Our society often values conformity and can overlook individual differences, which can be challenging for our kids.

Social norms are the unwritten rules that dictate appropriate behavior in interactions. Neurotypical children usually pick up these norms naturally through observation, but for children on the spectrum, these social cues can be confusing and overwhelming. Understanding personal space, appropriate touch, and suitable conversation topics can be particularly difficult, leading to misunderstandings and sometimes negative perceptions from others.

These societal expectations can take a toll on families like ours, causing emotional, mental, and even physical strain. Striving to meet these norms can leave parents feeling anxious, isolated, and worried that their child may be judged or excluded.

But there's hope. By shifting our perspective and advocating for awareness, we can pave the way for a more inclusive and understanding world. Challenging societal expectations and promoting acceptance is crucial. As parents, we have the power to shape the lives of our children and unlock their fullest potential with unwavering belief in their abilities.

If you're looking for strategies and tools to improve your life on this autism parenting journey, consider joining Not Your Average Autism Mom. We offer the best online resources for moms raising autistic children, including training on Special Education, live Zoom calls with advocates, and a private community for connection and support.

If you want to learn strategies and tools that you can use to improve your life along this autism parenting journey, be sure to register for our FREE Webinar, Finding Strength & Resilience; A Mom's Guide to Autism Parenting 

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⁠145. Differently Wired; A Glimpse Into Autism Parenting

⁠109. Why Waiting is So Difficult⁠

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Together, we can build a more compassionate and inclusive society for our children.

First of all, it’s important to know that while it’s evident that the rate of diagnosis has significantly increased in recent years, researchers only began tracking autism rates in the year 2000.  For some perspective on the numbers, my son Jordan who is 25 was diagnosed when he was 5 years old and when he was diagnosed, it was 1 in 158 and now, in 2021 that number is 1 in 44.  

That is obviously a HUGE increase, but experts tell us that this rise in numbers is a direct consequence of the increased awareness of autism as well as the changes to the diagnostic criteria in the DSM-5 edition which was published in May of 2013.

In this episode, I talk about some of the changes in the DSM-5 as well as a recommendation by the American Academy of Pediatrics which both have likely led to more diagnoses of children who might have otherwise gone undetected.  

There are also variations in the differences in diagnosis from State to State.  Some are significantly higher than 1 in 44 and some are lower but experts remain convinced that this is simply due to how autism is diagnosed and documented in different communities.  

Raising a child or children with autism isn't bad, it isn't terrible, it is just a different and unique parenting journey.  

If this is your journey, accepting it and not resisting it will be the best thing that you can do for your child and for you.  

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In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast, Shannon talks about autistic meltdowns and shutdowns—two very different ways that kids on the autism spectrum might react when things get too overwhelming.

She helps listeners spot the signs of each and understand what causes them.

Shannon shares helpful ways to handle these tough situations, giving advice for both right when they happen and for the long run. Whether your child has loud, upset reactions or goes very quiet and withdrawn, this episode gives you practical advice to help them through these times.

Tune in to learn how to support your child with kindness and understanding, making sure they feel safe and supported.

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⁠129. Getting a Grip on Escalating Behaviors⁠

⁠124. What to do When They Say No (Special Education Edition)

A new school year can be very stressful for our children with autism.  There are new people to meet, new routines to learn, and all the while having to navigate school and classes and noisy lunchrooms.

Communicating with your child’s teacher is critical to your child’s success at school and in the classroom.  You can be a tremendous resource that can help ensure your child has a smooth transition into a new classroom with a new teacher.   After all, you know your child better than anyone.

My goal in this episode is to give you strategies that you can use going into the new school year so that it is a successful year for both you and your child.

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In this episode of Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast, we tackle a common misconception: the idea that someone can be "too social" to be autistic.

Autism looks different for everyone, and social interaction isn’t as simple as being shy or outgoing. We’ll explore how many autistic individuals enjoy socializing but might struggle with the unwritten social rules, like picking up on cues or managing group dynamics.

In this episode, your host, Shannon Urquiola shares real-life examples, breaks down why social skills development may require direct teaching, and offers practical tips for parents to help their children navigate social situations with confidence. Whether your child craves social interaction or feels overwhelmed by it, this episode will help you understand how to support them in building meaningful connections.

Tune in to learn why the "too social for autism" myth is outdated, and how you can advocate for your child's unique way of interacting with the world.

Every episode will give you encouragement, insights, and actionable advice to help you keep going, stay strong, and never give up. You’ve got this!

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⁠143. Social Expectations vs Autism Reality⁠

⁠70. What Do You Make Their Behavior Mean

Things can be different for our families during the holidays.  The holidays are a joyous and festive time of year but for our families who live with an autistic child in our home, this isn't always the case.  

From holiday decorations to parties, religious events, and gift exchanges, all of these events can cause increased anxiety for our kids.  

No one knows your child better than you and you get to choose what you participate in or those events you don't attend.  Don't feel guilty for doing what is in the best interest of your child and your family.  

Holidays are a time for the entire family to enjoy and sometimes, you have to make decisions that won't make everyone happy.  That is ok.  

There is no rule or guidebook for how to do the holidays, you get to make them your own.  

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In this episode, I dive into what stimming means, what it is,  why they do it and strategies that you can use to address it.  

Believe it or not, we ALL stim, in one way or another, it is not exclusive to Autistic individuals.  

There are 6 different types of Stimming that I review in detail and I also talk about things that you can try to diminish the stimming depending on which type your son or daughter is presenting.  
It's important to remember that your child has unique and special ways to cope with their environment.  It takes patience and understanding.  

In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mom Podcast, host Shannon Urquiola takes the wheel and guides you through the essential art of staying in control while parenting a child on the autism spectrum.

Drawing on her expertise as a Life and Parent Coach exclusively for moms on this journey, Shannon explores the metaphorical road trip of autism parenting, emphasizing the importance of being the driver and choosing your passengers wisely.

From teachers and professionals to friends and relatives, Shannon discusses the valuable support you'll encounter along the way.

Discover the importance of positive conversations, maintaining a collaborative spirit, and gracefully letting go of those who hinder your progress. Through relatable examples, Shannon illustrates how to navigate challenges, overcome roadblocks, and celebrate the triumphs of this unique journey.

As the podcast unfolds, Shannon shares practical advice on taking breaks, regrouping, and enjoying the scenic moments with your child. The episode closes with a poignant reminder that this is not a race but a long journey, urging listeners to stay positive, collaborate, and revel in the joy of the ride.

Tune in to gain insights, tips, and a renewed sense of empowerment for your autism parenting journey. Whether you're just starting or further along the road, "Driving with Purpose" offers a roadmap for a fulfilling and positive experience. Don't miss this transformative episode - your front-row seat to navigating the autism journey awaits!

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Episode 96. Our Parenting Journey is Different

Episode 74. You Cannot Fix All the Things All the Time 

Being a mom is hard, but being a mom to a child on the autism spectrum? That’s a whole new level of challenging.

In this episode, Shannon dives into the pressure many of us feel as we strive to be “perfect” and why striving for perfection often leads to burnout and frustration.

She shares personal stories from her journey with Jordan, including the early years of isolation and what she’s learned about the importance of community, self-care, and letting go of comparison. From advocating effectively for your child to rediscovering your own identity, this episode is packed with relatable scenarios and actionable tips to help you find balance.

Remember, your child doesn’t need a perfect mom—they need a happy, present one. Tune in to learn how to thrive on this unexpected parenting journey while still taking care of yourself.

Tune in for encouragement, strategies, and the reminder that you’re stronger than you think. 💙

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⁠74. You Cannot Fix All the Things ALL the Time

201. Breaking Barriers; Why Low Expectations Hold Our Kids Back

In this episode of our Best Of Summer Series, your host, Shannon Urquiola discusses processing speed and how it impacts our children on the autism spectrum. Processing speed is the time it takes for someone to take in information, make sense of it, and respond. This can be visual, auditory, or related to motor planning.

For many of our children, processing speed can be a significant challenge. They might struggle with tasks that seem simple to others, like reading, listening, or physical activities such as tying their shoes. It's important to understand that slow processing speed isn't about intelligence. In fact, many very intelligent people process information slowly. It's just the way their brains work.

Unfortunately, slow processing can affect many areas of their lives, including social interactions and school performance. People might mistakenly think that our kids are unmotivated, lazy, or unfocused, but that's usually not the case.

In this episode, we'll explore how to support our kids by slowing down and adopting a less rushed approach to life. Sometimes, the best thing we can do is allow them to be themselves and move at their own pace. This understanding can make a huge difference in their confidence and overall well-being.

Tune in to learn more about how we can create a supportive environment for our children and help them thrive.

If you want to learn strategies and tools that you can use to improve your life along this autism parenting journey, be sure to register for our FREE Webinar, Finding Strength & Resilience; A Mom's Guide to Autism Parenting 

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93. When Your Autistic Child Isn't Your Only Child

⁠139. Summer Survival; Successfully Navigating Summer

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Today I am talking about placement decisions on an IEP, Least Restrictive Environment, and Prior Written Notice.  I also side note on supplementary aids and services as it pertains to the placement in the gen ed setting.  

A child’s placement in a general education classroom is always the first placement that should be considered when the IEP team is determining placement.  The primary goal is that the student has the maximum opportunity to learn with children who do not have disabilities, in academic, nonacademic, and extracurricular activities.  . This is what IDEA calls Least Restrictive Environment, or LRE for short.

A student's placement needs to be considered annually for their IEP and it should always be the last thing the team determines after determining what the student needs to be successful in their educational setting.  The student's needs drive the placement decision so those should always be developed in the IEP prior to determining placement.

What if you don’t agree with the placement decision? What can you do?  As outlined in IDEA procedural safeguards, you can request mediation or file a Due Process case and in many states, you can also file a State Complaint.

During your child’s educational path, there may be times when the school makes decisions about your child’s education that you don’t agree with. When this happens, you have the right to request what is called a Prior Written Notice.

This is a written communication from the school outlining its decisions and the reasons for their decisions.

Prior Written Notice letters are always beneficial for you to have if you end up pursuing mediation, a State Complaint, or Due Process.

Additional Resources:

PRIVATE SISTERHOOD - Become part of a COMMUNITY that understands this parenting journey because we live it every day, just like you.

Autism vs Autistic, A Mom's Perspective

Special Education Things That You Should Know

The Evaluation Process of Special Education

The Eligibility Determination Meeting & The Differences of a 504 Plan and an IEP

What is an FBA and Why Your Child Might Need One

In Episode 179 of the Not Your Average Autism Mom Podcast, host Shannon Urquiola dives into the world of understanding and addressing stressors for children on the autism spectrum.

Shannon breaks down the seven common stressors faced by these children, including sensory challenges, level of interest, uncertainty, degree of control, performance demands, social demands, and length of time. She explores real-life scenarios where these stressors might show up and provides practical examples and strategies to support our children proactively.

Listeners learn how to recognize and lessen sensory overload, navigate uncertainties, provide their children with a sense of control, and ease social and performance-related stressors. Shannon emphasizes the importance of understanding and accommodating these stressors to set our children up for success in various environments.

When you can assess the stressors and plan appropriate accommodations, you can help your children navigate challenges with confidence and resilience.

For Not Your Average Autism Mom members, there is a 7-Stressors Worksheet for you to download in the portal in the Behavior Support section that will help you figure out potential stressors in different situations and plan appropriate accommodations.

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If you want to learn strategies and tools that you can use to improve your life along this autism parenting journey, becoming Not Your Average Autism Mom is your answer.  We are the single best online resource for moms raising autistic children.  

Is the educational journey overwhelming and confusing for you?  Our member portal has an array of training and resources with everything you need to know about Special Education and you can join LIVE ZOOM calls with an Advocate to get any of your specific questions answered.  

Maybe you are feeling alone on your journey or maybe you are looking for other moms to connect with in a PRIVATE community who understand your day-to-day challenges, be sure that you check out ALL THE BENEFITS available for you when you BECOME Not Your Average Autism Mom.

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These are our most downloaded Special Education Editions.

We have these and many others too. It's important you understand what your expectations should and shouldn't be.

⁠Episode 124. What to Do When They Say No [SPECIAL EDUCATION EDITION]⁠

⁠Episode 27. Special Education Things You Should Know [SPECIAL EDUCATION EDITION]

Episode 35. Early Intervention and IFSP Explained [SPECIAL EDUCATION EDITION]

Episode 73. Let's Clear Up the Confusion About Category of Eligibility [SPECIAL EDUCATION EDITION]

ESY services are defined as special education or related services that are provided beyond the normal school year for the purpose of providing FAPE (Free and Appropriate Education). It is a required part of IDEA, Individuals with Disabilities Act and is provided at no cost to you, the family according to the student’s Individual Education Plan.

There are many misconceptions about ESY services and what they are and are not.  In this episode, I explain the differences and why it is important that you are thinking about ESY now, prior to the holiday break.  

I go through the six factors that are considered by the team to determine ESY eligibility and what each of them means.  

If you believe that your child would benefit from ESY services, it is important that you request an IEP meeting right at the beginning of the new year after the holiday break to discuss with the team.

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In this episode, we get into one of the most common challenges faced by parents of children with autism: sleep disruptions.

Join host Shannon Urquiola as she provides a comprehensive guide to understanding the intricate relationship between autism and sleep, along with practical tips and strategies to improve your child's sleep and overall well-being.

She explores the impact of sleep disruptions on behavior, talks about common sleep challenges faced by children on the spectrum, and uncovers potential causes that might be keeping your child awake at night.

If you're a parent seeking to enhance your child's well-being through better sleep, this episode is a must-listen. Join us as we navigate the path to more restful nights and happier days.

Tune in now to discover practical strategies and gain valuable insights on how to improve your child's sleep journey.

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Episode 96. Our Parenting Journey is Different

Episode 74. You Cannot Fix All the Things All the Time 

In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast, host Shannon Urquiola explores the concept of acceptance in the context of parenting children on the autism spectrum.

She discusses how accepting your child's diagnosis changes the trajectory of parenthood and reshapes the plans you once had.

Then she shares the concept of secondary losses - the unforeseen shifts and changes that accompany your journey. From the loss of certain milestones and expectations to the shift in social circles and relationships, she shares the impact of these secondary losses on your life.

Despite the challenges, you will find resilience, strength, and joy in the unexpected twists and turns of this parenting journey you weren't prepared for.

Join us as we navigate the complexities of parenthood, finding joy amidst the highs and lows, and embracing the extraordinary in the not-so-ordinary. 💙

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127. Seeing the Forest through the Trees

137. Explaining Our Children's Differences

This time of year isn't easy for many of us as our children transition from summer to back-to-school.  Just that word transition makes us a little uneasy so just imagine how our kids feel.  

The school environment can present so many challenges for our students with autism and that in itself can create challenges with their learning not to mention that if their classroom environment isn’t set up for their unique needs, it can be a huge disadvantage for them.

It is your child’s IEP Team’s responsibility to make sure that their classroom is equipped to support them in that learning environment and remember, you are a very important part of that team.  

In this episode, I give you specific things to consider that might be beneficial for your child in the school environment.  We have to be willing to think outside of the box and consider things that maybe have never been tried before.  We have to be willing to try to be successful, for our children to be successful.  Much of this journey is learning along the way through trial and error.  

Which learning style best describes your child?  Use their strengths to ensure the way their curriculum is being delivered meets their needs and doesn't hinder their ability to learn but instead enhances it.  

Each of our children’s unique needs provides teachers an opportunity to observe their classroom and figure out which accommodations are beneficial and which aren’t as they navigate the process of providing support for all of their students.

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In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast, we’re tackling an often uncomfortable but incredibly important topic: sexual curiosity in our autistic children. As our kids grow, they naturally become curious about their bodies and the bodies of others. But for children on the spectrum, understanding boundaries and social norms around these behaviors can be especially challenging.

Today, we’re discussing how to handle situations where “show me and I’ll show you” games might come into play, and why it’s critical to address these moments early on. I’ll share practical strategies for having open, positive conversations about sexuality, teaching boundaries, and ensuring our kids understand the difference between what’s appropriate in private versus public spaces. Plus, we’ll talk about when it might be time to seek professional help for more complex situations.

This is not an easy subject, but it’s one we need to be prepared for. Join me as we navigate this together, giving our children the knowledge and guidance they need to explore safely and confidently.

Tune in for encouragement, insights, and actionable advice to help you keep going, stay strong, and never give up. You’ve got this!

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143. Social Expectations vs Autism Reality

70. What Do You Make Their Behavior Mean

In today's episode, I talk about what an Individual Education Plan (IEP) is, who develops it, and what it must include according to special education law.  Additionally, I discuss the importance of what a Present Level Statement is and what it should include so that the IEP is appropriately written to outline the student's special education needs.  

In this episode, I am going to focus specifically on how Positive behavior support (PBS) can be effective for our kids. Whether it is utilizing a Positive Behavior Intervention Support (PBIS) or a Behavior Intervention Plan (BIP) or whatever type of plan your child’s education program or school team puts together.  The point is that it can absolutely improve your child’s behavior across settings when both the family and the school team are working collaboratively together as a team.

When these supports are implemented and over time, they can have lasting benefits both at school and at home.  These plans when developed can include many different components. Here is what we do know, we know that proactive strategies reduce the likelihood of problem behavior and instead they prompt positive behaviors.

The goal of any positive behavior support plan is that it rewards our kids by teaching them how to self-manage their own behavior over time.

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How you see yourself is creating your entire life. Think about it, do you spend any time at all thinking about what you think about yourself?

Most women just think that is who they are but the truth is, you can change your thoughts about yourself and when you change how you think about yourself and what you are capable of, guess what happens, everything outside of you changes.

You have to like yourself first, you have to believe in your own value and take the time to celebrate all of the greatness of who you are.

What do you think about yourself? How do you talk to yourself?

Do this, ask yourself this question… What would you like to believe and think about yourself?

Having a place where you can share your feelings and experiences openly with others who are traveling the same path can help you manage stress and reduce your feelings of frustration and isolation. None of us can make it through this journey without support.

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Most people know or think they know and/or understand Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) but have you ever heard of Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD)?  The differences may just surprise you and there may be a lightbulb moment or two in this episode.

Many behavioral symptoms of autism and OCD actually overlap with each other.  The reality is that the symptoms are similar but the treatment is very different.  

In this episode, I talk about what OCD actually is and what it is not and give you a quick insight into OCPD which if you are like me, you might have never even heard of.

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For many of our children, food-seeking is a constant source of frustration and anxiety.  They may constantly ask for food, even when they have just eaten, or they may fixate on specific foods or textures and exclude all others.  Sometimes, no matter how much they eat, they never seem to feel full, which can lead to weight gain and other health issues.

Many children with autism have a heightened sense of smell, taste, and texture which can make certain foods just unappealing to them.  They may also have difficulty communicating their hunger or fullness, which can lead to overeating and some of our kids might engage in food-seeking behavior as a form of self-stimming which can be calming or soothing for them. 

For many of our kids on the spectrum, their interception can be impaired or disrupted and when it is, it can contribute to food-seeking behaviors, as well as other health issues such as dehydration or poor nutrition.  Interception is an important aspect of overall body awareness and it is critical to many of our basic functions, like regulating hunger and thirst, controlling our breathing and heart rate, and sensing, and responding to pain. 

I know our kids often have a limited range of foods they will eat, but I want to encourage you to continue to offer them a variety of foods to help them expand their palate, don’t give up, and continue to encourage them to try new things and don’t get discouraged. 

Don’t stay stuck in how hard your life is or you won’t be present in the now and that mama is what is most important.  Find the good in every day because I promise, even when you feel like you are in quicksand, there is good there too, and when you look for it, you are training your brain to look for more. 

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Episode 74. You Cannot Fix All the Things All the Time 

In this episode, I talk all about the risks associated with too much screen time for our kids with Autism.  Things that you need to know that I didn't know until what I think was way too late in our journey.  I walk you through the benefits that I personally have experienced in our home from limiting screen time for my son and give you ideas and suggestions on taking those steps in your home.   Ultimately I want you to know how much better things can be when your son or daughter has LESS electronic time.  

I guarantee you, it's definitely not EASY but it is so worth it!  

Emotions are difficult to understand and interpret for all of us, and each of us demonstrates our emotions differently but for our kids on the spectrum, it is so much more challenging.  For most of our kids, these intense emotions are very unpredictable, scary, and overwhelming.

We have to teach them how to appropriately respond to their emotions and this isn’t an easy task and won’t happen overnight. 

We need to validate their feeling while teaching them a different way to REACT to the feeling.

It will take TIME, patience, and practicing it over and over and over again with each incident.

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Whether we like it or not, stigma has a role in predicting how challenging our life raising an autistic child or children will be.  There are so many people who are still naive to autism and what it means and how it is different for all of us.

When your child is having a meltdown in the produce section of the grocery store or is scripting very loudly at a family event, those are the moments when you feel the stigma of autism in your life.

There are people who don't understand and you have to be ok with that.  Your life, your parenting, the way you feel about your child, none of those things should be impacted by that person who is annoyed in the grocery store or your mother-in-law that doesn't believe the diagnosis.  You have to believe in your child and your family and above all, yourself.

You worry as a parent about the judgment, I get it.  That takes work to get to the point where other people's opinions and judgment don't impact the way you feel about yourself or your parenting.

Getting an autism diagnosis opens up doors to therapies and other available resources your child will need to improve their lives and their abilities to navigate the world in their own unique way.

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In this episode I talk about what is vitally important for you to create if your child is at risk for eloping, running or wandering.  I give you some ideas and resources and suggestions around home and school.  I also discuss what I believe is necessary at a Federal level for our children and adults with Autism.  You will hear me talk about my feelings on people judging our parenting when they are not living the experiences we are living in our homes and how that just makes my blood boil!  It's a great episode and I hope you enjoy it!  

Parenthood, often described as a rollercoaster of emotions, takes a unique turn when partners find themselves on opposite ends of the parenting spectrum.

Are your differences in parenting currently a source of negativity and conflict in your relationship?

In this episode, host Shannon Urquiola, Life and Parent Coach explores the intricate dynamics parents face when raising autistic children, particularly when their parenting styles don't align.

Shannon talks about the common scenario where one parent often takes the lead in research and advocacy, while the other parent may have different perspectives on their child's behavior. The episode emphasizes the importance of unity in parenting and understanding the three main parenting styles.

Shannon discusses the significance of recognizing and embracing each partner's parenting style, offering insights into the authoritarian, permissive, and authoritative approaches.

Shannon highlights the power of self-awareness and the willingness to adapt, emphasizing that meaningful change starts with oneself.

The podcast also addresses the impact of childhood experiences on parenting styles, discussing how parents may unconsciously recreate or react against their upbringing.

Listeners gain practical strategies and actionable goals for fostering a healthy relationship between parents, including effective communication, private discussions, and avoiding disagreements in front of children.

The episode serves as a guide for parents raising autistic children, offering a roadmap to navigate challenges, promote unity, and create a supportive environment for their child's unique needs.

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41. Emotional Ups and Downs of Raising a Child with Autism

60. The Most Important Relationship in Your Autism Parenting Journey

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For many of us, maybe even you, speech delay was one of the first things that we were concerned about in our child’s development.

For our children with autism not only are they delayed in their speech, but they are often delayed in other areas of development including initializing communication using eye contact, or gestures like pointing or shaking their head. They also may lack eye contact, not respond to their name, and may use the words that they do have out of context that makes no sense.

CDC’s Developmental Milestone- https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/actearly/milestones/index.html

A child who isn’t developing critical speech or language skills needs help and the sooner the intervention starts, the better.

Children with autism can learn to speak. So, even if your child isn’t talking by age 4 or 5, they can go on to develop speech, they will just need some extra help getting there.  

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In this episode, I am going to be talking about ways to build a foundation for effective communication with your child’s educational team. The key to effective communication is first to have a willingness to be involved in planning their education.

It is important that you are always be prepared for your IEP meetings and what you do or don't do and how involved you are in between those meetings is necessary in order for you to be prepared.

You have to have a partnership with the entire team and always keep the focus on your child and what they need to be successful. What is working and what isn’t working. Be sure that you always understand what is being offered and if you don’t, ask for clarification.

Ask questions, bring up your ideas or concerns, and discuss them.

Before attending any meeting, it is important that you know the purpose of the meeting and who will be attending. You should request a meeting notice which will list both of those things. The purpose of the meeting, meaning what will be discussed as well as who is invited to attend.

Great communication includes listening as well as speaking.  Building an effective IEP team takes trust and respect.  

Perspective is everything and often most of us rarely have the same perspective.

Always be willing to work as a team to find solutions so that your child gets the most appropriate education for them to meet their needs.

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In Episode 166 of the Not Your Average Autism Mom Podcast, host Shannon Urquiola delves into the common challenge of perseveration in children on the autism spectrum.

Perseveration, or getting stuck on a particular behavior, activity, or thought, can be a source of frustration for both parents and children.

Shannon explores the reasons behind this phenomenon, emphasizing the weak executive functions in the frontal cortex of the brain that often contribute to the difficulty in shifting focus.

Drawing from personal experiences and expert advice, the episode provides practical strategies for parents. From using warnings and visual timers to creating concrete endings and incorporating oneself into the child's activity, Shannon shares actionable tips for easing transitions.

The episode highlights the importance of understanding that perseveration is a neurological challenge, requiring gentle assistance rather than demanding an immediate stop.

Furthermore, Shannon addresses the emotional toll perseveration can take on parents and offers self-care strategies.

The episode closes with a message of support, reminding listeners that they are not alone in facing these challenges and encouraging a sense of community strength.

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In this episode, I am talking about how many of our children have sensory challenges with their tactile system.  

Our tactile system is the nerves under our skin surface that send information on touch and how we perceive our environment to our brains.  Tactile defensiveness is a condition in which a person is extremely sensitive to even light touch.  

Their brains may find some types of touch overwhelming and even painful and they can't escape it.  

Another challenge is that their pain signals may not reach their brain which makes them more prone to injury or even worse, to injuries not being identified.  

I also talk about their sensitivity to certain textures of food and our worries about their overall health when they are resistant to certain foods.  

What about certain textures of fabric or their resistance to keep their shoes on?  

All of these things are directly related to their tactile deficits.   

I encourage you to remember that while many of these things don't seem like a big deal to you or me, their challenges are real.  

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Maybe you recently received an autism diagnosis for your child or maybe you’ve been navigating life for however long with your child but you spend a lot of time feeling discouraged and disappointed or maybe even sad, if this is you, this episode is for you.

Do you find yourself wishing, hoping, and dreaming your life was different?

I want you to know that it is completely normal to have a range of emotions, from confusion or grief to fear about the future.

The journey of parenting a child with autism can be both rewarding and demanding.

I dive into an important topic that many parents face: accepting an autism diagnosis for their child.  I’m discussing the significance of acceptance instead of resisting it, the benefits of early intervention, a little bit about the outside world and their inability to understand, and why finding support within a community is crucial for navigating this unique parenting journey successfully.

It's completely natural to have a wide range of emotions when receiving an autism diagnosis for your child. You might feel overwhelmed, confused, or even fearful about what the future holds. The diagnosis simply provides insight into their strengths and challenges. Acceptance, early intervention, allowing yourself to have understanding and grace with others who don’t understand, and being part of a supportive community is the cornerstone of your family thriving along this journey. 

Embrace your child's unique journey and remember that they are the same wonderful child they were before the diagnosis. 

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In this episode, I talk in-depth about the differences in tantrums and meltdowns.  Their behaviors may look similar but it is important for us as parents to be able to identify the differences so that we know how to best help them.  

With a tantrum, the child is generally choosing to engage in the behavior because of their want for something or escaping something that they don’t want. They are usually acting out to get a reaction from someone else.  A key identifier in a tantrum is that it will end abruptly if given what they want or allowed to escape what it is they are resisting.

The first thing that you need to figure out is what is he or she trying to gain from the tantrum? Do they want something that they cannot have? Are they trying to escape something or somewhere that they don’t want to be or something that they don’t want to do?

It’s important to practice replacement behaviors with them and teach them appropriate ways to get their needs met.

Always keep your emotional AND verbal reactions minimal when it comes to a tantrum.

When a meltdown occurs, it is because the child’s brain is overwhelmed, and they are literally in a fight or flight reaction. Their level of stress in their current setting has escalated to a point where they lose control and are unable to cope with their environment.

Here is what I can tell you, the majority of times when a meltdown is happening it is because they are trying to escape something that is overwhelming and they are not seeking to GAIN anything. They might feel unsafe or the social demands of the situation are simply too much for them to navigate.

Typical behavior techniques that we would use for a tantrum will not work during a meltdown. Their sensory system and brain are so overloaded and overwhelmed that they physically cannot respond.  Meltdowns are highly unpredictable and can come on suddenly and sometimes without any notice.

The most effective strategy for reducing meltdowns is to figure out strategies that will lead to avoiding the meltdown, to begin with.

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In this episode, we review the importance of incorporating functional skills and a functional curriculum in our children's daily lives.  

A functional skill is a skill that a person needs to live independently and a functional curriculum focuses on the life skills a student needs for independent living.  Teaching our children how to function in the world is just as important if not more important than teaching academic skills.  These “functional” skills are what they will need to live as independently as possible.

Think about activities of everyday life. These include communication, social skills, appropriate behavior, hygiene, safety, transportation, and self-help skills. Life skills go hand in hand with development and these skills can be incorporated into their daily routines. Functional skills are the skills that are necessary for daily living and if they are not done by an individual, they will have to be done by someone else.

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Just because your child has a medical diagnosis of autism DOES NOT mean that they will qualify for Special Education services under the eligibility category of autism. When your child is being evaluated in the educational setting, they are using the LAW of IDEA, Individuals with Disabilities Educational Act to determine Special Education eligibility.

Special Education services are not solely based on academics and learning.  Your child will receive services and accommodations based on their individual need if they qualify for services.  The US Department of Education actually issued a letter in August 2016 that addressed the school district's requirement to consider and provide behavioral supports through the IEP process.  Click the link below for a pdf of that letter.  

https://www2.ed.gov/policy/gen/guid/school-discipline/files/dcl-on-pbis-in-ieps--08-01-2016.pdf

Many parents don’t realize how much power they hold in their child’s education when they qualify for an IEP. The IEP is a legally binding document that schools must follow what is written in the IEP.

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Every week I talk about topics that directly impact your life along this parenting journey and today, I’m talking about a fascinating topic that many parents and caregivers encounter on their journey: verbal stimming. Verbal Stimming is a behavior that many autistic children will do. 

It's like a window into your child's world, helping them cope with various situations and even express themselves.

Interestingly, these sounds aren't just about auditory pleasure – they provide a comforting vibrating sensation in their inner ears which is soothing and feels good to them. You might even notice them covering their ears when humming, which enhances that internal vibration sensation.

It might be an enjoyable rhythmic pattern, that allows them to create a predictable and controllable sensory experience. It could be a way of calming their nervous system, especially when they're over-stimulated. And on the flip side, it can also help alert and engage them when they're feeling under-stimulated or bored.

Imagine verbal stimming as a tool for our children to manage their sensory experiences and emotions. It's not just a random behavior – it's their way of self-regulating and adapting to the world around them.

Remember, we all engage in forms of self-stimulation to regulate our nervous systems. The key is teaching our children when and where it's appropriate while respecting their individual needs. Let's create an environment where everyone can live comfortably while understanding and accommodating each other.

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54. Understanding Memory in Autism

109. Why Waiting is So Difficult

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As parents raising autistic children we are all likely very familiar with the challenges that come with language development for our children. 

Language is a system of communication that involves words, and grammar, and it allows us to express what we are thinking and feeling, share our thoughts, and connect with others.

However, just because someone has language, it doesn't mean they can use it functionally. For instance, some individuals on the spectrum might have an extensive vocabulary and be able to recite facts, but they may struggle with using language in social situations.

Having language means that a child has learned words and can use them to express themselves. However, being able to use language functionally means that a child can use their language to communicate effectively and appropriately in social situations. It's important to note that these two things are not always the same. Some children may have a large vocabulary but struggle to use their language in a meaningful way in social situations.

Many of our kids might develop language skills at a similar rate to their neurotypical peers but they struggle with the functional use of language in social situations, which is known as pragmatic language.  Pragmatic language refers to the social use of language, including the ability to understand and use nonverbal cues, take turns in conversation, and understand the underlying meaning behind what is being said.

In this episode, I talk about what to look for as well as what you need to have when you are ready to sit down and collaborate with your child's team to discuss interventions.

Having language is not enough. Children with autism need to develop functional language skills, particularly in the area of pragmatic language. Successful use of pragmatic language involves understanding social cues, adjusting language depending on the situation, taking turns in conversations, understanding figurative language, and using language to build relationships.

By focusing on developing our children's pragmatic language skills, we can help them communicate effectively and appropriately in social situations, leading to greater success in all areas of their life.

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Welcome to the 200th episode of Not Your Average Autism Mom! In this special milestone episode, Shannon dives deep into what it means to not just survive, but thrive as a mom raising a child on the autism spectrum.  

Shannon dives deep into a topic that resonates with many moms raising children on the autism spectrum—the longing for the "old" you, the person you were before autism entered your life. With compassion and understanding, Shannon explores the daily choice of acceptance and how to find strength and joy in this unplanned parenting journey.

Life can feel chaotic, overwhelming, and exhausting, but today Shannon shares how you can find balance, peace, and strength amidst the daily challenges. Through relatable scenarios and practical strategies, this episode offers encouragement and insights to help you navigate the overwhelming and isolating moments.

Discover why you might not be destined to return to your old self and how embracing the new you can be empowering and beneficial.

Don't miss this emotional and uplifting episode designed to remind you that you are stronger than you think, and you are exactly who your child needs.

If you found value in today’s episode, please take a moment to leave a review and share it with other moms who need this message. And don’t forget to sign up for our FREE webinar, "Finding Strength and Resilience: A Mom's Guide to Autism Parenting," where she’ll dive deeper into strategies to help you build strength, resilience, and balance in your life.

Thank you for being a part of this incredible journey with us! Together, we are stronger.

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129. Getting a Grip on Escalating Behaviors

158. Navigating Hygiene Struggles; Path to Cleanliness

For most people, context is just a known thing. I mean it's like it is just inherent for us to know that everything is relative and depends on the context, situation, or setting which determines how we act or react or what we say or don’t say, right?

Well, imagine, if you are only able to take in one piece of information at a time. This is a daily struggle for people with autism. There are so many different pieces of information to take in and respond to and put into context.

Context refers to the circumstances or events that form the environment within which something exists or takes place. Context directs our perception and ultimately influences and directs our actions and/or responses.

Autistic brains tend to think in an absolute way and it also seems that they have challenges viewing a situation from different perspectives.

We spend a lot of time teaching them social rules but what happens is that they have difficulty adapting these rules to different situations and making exceptions to the rules even when appropriate.

The more you model to them how you act or react or how you speak to people you know or don’t know and how you show up in different areas of life, the more they will gain an understanding and importance of this.

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How do you handle those unpredictable and sometimes explosive moments without losing your ever-loving mind?

The good news is that there are some strategies that I am going to talk about in this episode, but on the flip side, the bad news is that there will probably be times when absolutely none of these strategies will work, nothing will work, and that mama, that is just autism.

Aggression, unfortunately, is one of the most common challenges that we as parents of a child or adolescent on the spectrum face.  It's important that we learn how to decrease challenging behavior so that it doesn’t become dangerous for you, your child, or other people. 

In this episode, I share strategies and what to do and what not to do in those moments, and what you must do outside of those moments for success.

Validating their feelings is critical. Just like us, it is normal for them to be frustrated or mad when something isn't going their way or the way they expected it to. Feelings and emotions can be confusing sometimes. Here's something to remember:

• Sadness needs comfort
• Anger needs patience and boundaries
• Fear needs safety and reassurance of being safe

It is important that you remain calm and rational.  You cannot control their behavior, but how you respond to their behavior will have a direct effect on whether the situation escalates or deescalates. If your child invokes you to engage in these difficult times, you MUST remove yourself from the situation.

If you want to learn strategies and tools that you can use to improve your life along this autism parenting journey, becoming Not Your Average Autism Mom is your answer.  Is the educational journey overwhelming and confusing for you?  Our member portal has an array of training and resources with everything you need to know about Special Education and you can join LIVE ZOOM calls with an Advocate to get any of your specific questions answered.  Maybe you are feeling alone on your journey or maybe you are looking for other moms to connect with in a PRIVATE community who understand your day-to-day challenges, be sure that you check out ALL THE BENEFITS available for you when you BECOME Not Your Average Autism Mom.

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Episode 96. Our Parenting Journey is Different

Episode 74. You Cannot Fix All the Things All the Time 

One of the biggest concerns of moms like you and me is our child's lack of impulse control.  

In this episode, I talk about what that looks like and how it might be impacting you and your family and strategies to use to practice this skill.  It will be an ongoing process of practice over and over for years to come and the earlier you start the better the outcome will be.  

It isn't going to be easy, but the rewards will be worth it.

Join me as I chat behind the scenes with real moms just like you who are raising children on the spectrum and finding balance and happiness along the way!

These women are MY VILLAGE as much as I am theirs.

Each of their stories is different, yet similar. You might just hear your story in theirs.

They were drowning and felt overwhelmed and since becoming Not Your Average Autism Mom they are becoming who they want to be along this unique parenting journey we are on.

They are learning to stop resisting and instead, they are embracing their life, just as it is. Chaos and all, because well, that's autism, right?

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Episode 96. Our Parenting Journey is Different

Episode 74. You Cannot Fix All the Things All the Time 

Augmentative and alternative communication (AAC) is any type of communication that does not include speech.  The use of AAC for children with autism does not prevent a child from speaking and in fact, the research shows that it may actually increase their speech.  AAC programs and AT devices are not exclusively for non-verbal individuals, they can also be used for individuals with emerging language to help them talk even more.

AAC Apps, there are a variety of iOS apps to meet the needs of AAC communicators.  

Click below to check them out:

https://aacapps.com/

Choose ONE device and USE ONLY that device.  The chosen device is your child's voice and should be with them at all times.  

When a school determines through the IEP process that an AT device is necessary to provide FAPE, the device, and services, including parent and staff training must be provided at no cost to the family and should be included in the IEP.  

Your child’s communication needs will likely change as they grow and there are always different options to meet their needs.

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In this episode, Shannon explores the unique challenges our children on the spectrum face in understanding and navigating the social world.

The episode sheds light on the difficulty some children have in predicting how others think or feel. Shannon provides practical strategies for parents to help their children develop these essential social skills.

The goal is to help our children build the skills necessary to actively engage in social interactions while predicting and adjusting their responses based on an understanding of the social setting.

The episode encourages parents to make the learning process enjoyable, turning it into a game and fostering a mindset of being a "social detective."

Shannon guides parents through things they can do to practice these skills, making the learning process enjoyable for both parents and children.

The episode encourages a fun approach to social learning, emphasizing the role of parents as detectives and social interpreters in their child's journey.

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Join Shannon as she uncovers (3) hidden truths you need along your journey.

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In this episode of Not Your Average Autism Mom, host Shannon Urquiola challenges the common phrase, “They can’t,” and explores how low expectations can hold autistic children—both boys and girls—back more than their diagnosis ever will.

Shannon unpacks the myths surrounding autism and intelligence, sharing real-life examples of individuals who’ve shattered labels and exceeded expectations.

You’ll learn practical strategies for supporting your child’s development, including the power of reframing “They can’t” into “They don’t... yet,” using visual supports, individualized instruction, and incorporating sensory breaks. Shannon highlights the critical role that mindset and high expectations play in helping your child, no matter their gender, reach their full potential.

Join Shannon for an inspiring conversation about raising the bar for your child and believing in their abilities, no matter what others might say. Whether you have a son or daughter on the spectrum, this episode will remind you to stop saying “They can’t” and start believing in “They will.”

Tune in for encouragement, insights, and actionable advice to help you keep going, stay strong, and never give up. You’ve got this!

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70. What Do You Make Their Behavior Mean?

124. What To Do When They Say No (Special Education Edition)

Here is something that most parents don’t know, most parents don’t know that they have an option if the school says no.  Unfortunately, all schools and school districts don’t always do what is in your child’s best interest.

When you have a child who will require additional educational support, learning and understanding special education isn’t optional, it is necessary. So you have to be willing to invest the time to learn and understand it because if you count on the school to always provide your child everything they need, they will likely be missing out on services that could benefit them. Not every school or district is bad and not every one of them is good, but wouldn’t it be nice to feel confident and just know that you know what your expectations should or shouldn’t be without having to count on them?  Wouldn’t you like to be a knowledgeable and informed parent?

Every IEP TEAM should look at the data to determine the student's needs in writing an IEP AND data is used to evaluate the student's progress on the goals as often as necessary. Data MUST be collected for an IEP team to work together for the student the way it was intended under IDEA.

Some of you may have never heard of a PWN (Prior Written Notice) and that is ok.  Some families go through their entire special education journey without ever having a PWN be part of it.

If the district refuses your request they are obligated to give you a Prior Written Notice that outlines exactly what the district either proposes or refuses to do.

If you want to learn strategies and tools that you can use to improve your life along this autism parenting journey, becoming Not Your Average Autism Mom is your answer.  Is the educational journey overwhelming and confusing for you?  Our member portal has an array of training and resources with everything you need to know about Special Education and you can join LIVE ZOOM calls with an Advocate to get any of your specific questions answered.  Maybe you are feeling alone on your journey or maybe you are looking for other moms to connect with in a PRIVATE community who understand your day-to-day challenges, be sure that you check out ALL THE BENEFITS available for you when you BECOME Not Your Average Autism Mom.

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Not Your Average Autism Mom - Become part of a COMMUNITY that understands this parenting journey because we live it every day, just like you.

Autism vs Autistic, A Mom's Perspective

Special Education Things That You Should Know

The Evaluation Process of Special Education

The Eligibility Determination Meeting & The Differences of a 504 Plan and an IEP

What is an FBA and Why Your Child Might Need One

In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast, Shannon gets passionate about building independence and ways you can begin teaching independence through everyday things.

She discussed the importance of teaching life skills from early childhood through the teenage years, highlighting the potential consequences of neglecting this aspect.

Throughout the episode, she shares practical strategies and real-life examples to guide you in supporting your children's journey toward independence.

From establishing routines and incorporating life skills into play to introducing chores and responsibilities, she provides actionable tips for you, regardless of where you are along your journey.

By the end of the episode, you will have gained a deeper understanding of the significance of promoting independence and will leave with concrete strategies to implement at home.

Join us as we navigate the complexities of parenthood, finding joy amidst the highs and lows, and embracing the extraordinary in the not-so-ordinary. 💙

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⁠141. The Lying Paradox; Exploring Truth & Autism ⁠

⁠139. Summer Survival; Successfully Navigate Summer

If you are concerned about your child’s development or suspect that your little one may have a disability, this episode is for you! There is actually so much to know about early intervention.

• HOW your child would qualify for an IFSP?
• Each state has specific guidelines for the IFSP
• What can you expect to be included in an IFSP?
• The differences between an IFSP and an IEP
• What types of services can be provided on an IFSP?

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Resources:

Early Childhood Technical Assistance Center (State by State Contact information)

https://ectacenter.org/contact/ptccoord.asp

Sometimes, in our autism homes, the holidays are as stressful as they are joyful but much of that comes back to you and how willing you are to do things differently.  Most people assume that everyone enjoys receiving gifts, especially children right? But if your child exhibits more stress and difficult behaviors when they receive gifts, maybe it is time to try something new this year.

I spent way too many years, expecting Jordan to show his excitement in a way I believed was typical and how I thought he should and being so disappointed when he didn’t react to his gifts the way I thought he should.  What if instead of following traditions or having unrealistic expectations you explore ways to help your child learn to enjoy this special time?

I think it is important to not leave gift-giving from your family open to random gifts. Take time to communicate with the people in your life who will be buying gifts for your child. Taking the time to do this ahead of time will make gift giving and receiving so much better for not just your child but also for those family members or friends who are giving the gifts.

Each of our children have individual characteristics and while the holidays and gift giving and receiving may not be what you imagined, like so many other things along this unique autism parenting journey we are all on, it is important that you don’t get fixated on how things should be or what normal looks like and instead accepting your child and your family just as they are and most important, being willing to do the holidays different and in a way that works for you and your family without worrying about what anyone else thinks it should or shouldn’t be.

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109. Why Waiting is so Difficult

67. Changing your Script in the New Year

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In this episode, I share a couple personal stories about the different things we have to do in our house that the "typical" non-Autism house would not understand.  I talk about realizing that I was going to have to figure out how to take away his opportunities to stress me out.  This was an ah-ha moment for me.  

There are things that you are going to have to figure out in your journey that will make you sleep easier at night and stress less during the day and that is what this episode is about.  

I also share why I am not interested in finding the cause of the cure for Autism and why... 

The majority of people with autism do use spoken language but few of them use it in the same way as individuals without autism.  The reason that this is so important for you to understand is that often our kids are often communicators rather than conversationalists and teaching conversation skills will likely be something that you will continually have to work on with your child if language is a challenge for them.

Many of the skills that are needed for conversation are the ones that are the core deficits in autism.  Conversation is not one way, it is interactive communication between two or more people and it is often difficult for individuals with autism because it is a dialogue, not a monologue.

Learning to think about others and understand social situations are valuable skills that will help our kids in everyday situations.

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In this episode, Shannon explores all-or-nothing thinking in children with autism—a mindset often labeled as rigid or inflexible but one that also comes with unique strengths. This way of seeing the world can be challenging, leading to meltdowns when things don’t go as planned, but it can also be a source of focus and determination in areas of passion. Shannon shares real-life examples of how black-and-white thinking can impact daily life and provides practical strategies to help parents guide their children through moments of rigidity.

You'll learn tools for preparing for transitions, calming techniques, and ways to encourage flexibility over time gently.

Remember, not everything will go right every time—and that’s okay. This episode is all about embracing the journey, finding strength in the challenges, and continuing to believe in your child and yourself, no matter what.

Tune in and find encouragement, practical advice, and a reminder that you’re not alone on this path.

Listen now and learn how to embrace your child's emotional world!

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P.S. Feeling overwhelmed and ready for a change? When you're ready to take control and see different results, check out our private membership at Not Your Average Autism Mom

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157. Reframing Defeat; Your Child’s Progress is Closer Than You Think

83. Assessing Your Child’s IEP

Self-injury is a very severe form of behavior that has one of the highest risks of medical injury. These episodes can lead to cuts, bruises, broken bones, concussions, and dental problems.

Some forms of self-injury most seen in our kids with autism

Headbanging/Hitting

Biting

Scratching

Arm Banging

Punching

Hair Pulling

Skin Picking

Individuals who are exhibiting these behaviors are doing these things hard enough to HURT themselves.

Learn what the risk factors are to be aware of.  

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Is this how you imagined parenthood to be?  Of course not, it isn’t how any of us imagined parenthood to be.  None of us planned for this journey, yet here we are.  When you constantly remind yourself that this wasn’t how you imagined parenthood to be you are creating your own suffering.

And here’s the thing… the reason for your suffering is that you think you know how life is supposed to go.  Being a parent to a child with autism is not how life was supposed to go, right?  That wasn't the story that you had created.  

When you drop the how it was supposed to go narrative and move into the this is how it is, you will create less resistance for yourself.

I believe the truth is that none of us really know how our life is supposed to go. None of it is certain and we are kidding ourselves when we tell ourselves that it should have gone some way other than the way it went.

Shifting your mindset will make a difference and you won't be resisting reality and that is the secret to finding peace in your story.  

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In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast, Shannon dives into the fascinating and often puzzling world of sensory processing, exploring the touch avoidance/seeking paradox many autistic children experience. Why does your child cringe at the light touch of water from the shower but crave the firm pressure of a tight hug? How can they both avoid touch and seek it out?

Shannon breaks down the science behind these seemingly contradictory behaviors and shares real-life examples to help you understand your child’s unique sensory needs.

From morning dressing struggles to navigating touch sensitivities in public, Shannon provides practical strategies to help you build trust, respect boundaries, and support your child’s sensory processing in a way that works for your family. Whether your child is clingy, cautious, or somewhere in between, this episode is packed with insights and tools to help you better connect with them.

Every episode will give you encouragement, insights, and actionable advice to help you keep going, stay strong, and never give up. You’ve got this!

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⁠79. Uncharted Territory in Special Education⁠

⁠133. Beyond Helicopter Parenting, Fostering Independence

In this episode, I talk about all of the judgments we place on ourselves about being a Mom.  How we never feel like we measure up and other moms are doing so much better than we are.  Why your thoughts of feeling overwhelmed and that you simply just can't do it are not serving you and what you can do to change those thoughts.  

Just imagine what it would feel like if you actually took credit and celebrated how much you actually DO.  Stop worrying about other people's opinion about HOW you parent and just focus on what works for your family.  

In 2021, I want you to be proud of the mom that you are and believe that you truly are doing an AMAZING job!  

In this episode, I address many of the ways that make parenting an Autistic child different than parenting a "typical" child.  I talk about judgment from other moms and things that you should be thinking about and doing differently when parenting your child with Autism.

I also share encouragement to know that what you are doing is enough.  

Many children with autism find the demands of school and the school environment almost unbearable which leads to “school avoidance or refusal”. This is when a child gets very upset about going to school and won’t or can’t go. This isn’t a clinical diagnosis; it is simply a name for an emotional and/or behavioral problem.

As our child’s parent, we have a legal obligation to educate our children, which means they must be enrolled in an educational setting and attending regularly. We all know that in 2021 we have many options to educate our children from homeschooling to private school, online school, or public school. Whichever you choose is completely your decision, but you are obligated to ensure they are getting an education.

Working as a team with your child’s school is the best way to help with school refusal.

Some of the common reasons for increased stress and anxiety at school might be, transition times when it is noisy and the halls are crowded and loud, unstructured times of the day like lunch, conflict with peers, teasing, or bullying.  Often because of their social deficits, they struggle with the social aspect of school the most. They have difficulties understanding and reading social cues like facial expressions or body language, or they don’t get sarcasm.

There may be strategies and accommodations that could be implemented at school.  They may need to have accommodations added to their IEP like extra breaks or being allowed to transition ahead of the other students to avoid the crowds between classes. Remember, ASK for what you think they might need.

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We harbor so many unspoken fears, anxiety, and often hopelessness not to mention wanting to be the perfect parent to our child and then the guilt that comes along for the ride when we feel like we are falling short, right? I know, I’ve been there too.  In this episode, I am going to talk about something that every single one of us comes up against along this autism parenting journey and that is judgment from other people.

Autism can’t be seen and sometimes the things that we have to do for our children who to the unsuspecting public may seem too old for these things.  Even though 1 in 44 children are diagnosed autistic, unfortunately, there are still way more people in the world we live in who don’t know anything about autism.

I think one of the most important things that you can do for yourself is to remind yourself that they aren’t intentionally being rude, they simply don’t understand your child’s behavior or why you are doing what you are doing or why they are doing what they are doing.  It's a lack of understanding.  

What I don’t want you to do is let the public’s perception of you or your child dictate the course of your life.  I want you to know that you have NOTHING to be embarrassed about. Your child has autism and while the outside world may not all understand and may offer too much-unsolicited advice, retreating into your home and avoiding the public won’t be beneficial for you or your child and they will never have the opportunity to learn the skill set they need if you isolate.

As the parent of autistic children, it is important that you hold your head high and realize that despite having one of the most challenging jobs in the world, your consistency and diligence to figure it out day after day, even on the days you think you just can’t and yet you do, you are becoming a better person every day because of what your child or children are teaching you along the way.

All the judgment in the world, the looks, the comments, and the opinions of other people only affect you if you let them. You have a choice.

No one knows your situation. No one will ever fully understand your child’s struggles or the unique dynamics of your family. They don’t understand your situation and therefore cannot ever make an informed judgment.

If you want to learn strategies and tools that you can use to improve your life along this autism parenting journey, becoming Not Your Average Autism Mom is your answer.  Is the educational journey overwhelming and confusing for you?  Our member portal has an array of training and resources with everything you need to know about Special Education and you can join LIVE ZOOM calls with an Advocate to get any of your specific questions answered.  Maybe you are feeling alone on your journey or maybe you are looking for other moms to connect with in a PRIVATE community who understand your day-to-day challenges, be sure that you check out ALL THE BENEFITS available for you when you BECOME Not Your Average Autism Mom.

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Additional Resources:

Episode 96. Our Parenting Journey is Different

Episode 74. You Cannot Fix All the Things All the Time 

In this episode, we talk about the challenges of physical distancing during holidays and share some ideas and suggestions on what to do and not do during these times.  I discuss celebrating successes and knowing that change does happen, having HOPE and things you can do so that you will be celebrating success on the other side of this Covid quarantine.  

Tourette Syndrome is a condition of the nervous system. It is a neurological disorder that involves often sudden and repetitive movements, twitches, or unwanted sounds (tics) that cannot be easily controlled.

Statistics show that around one in five children with Tourette Syndrome also meets the criteria for Autism. All the research that I have done, says that it is unlikely that so many children have both disorders but instead, Tourette’s symptoms often mimic or seem quite similar to those of autism.

No one knows exactly what causes tics to occur and they often change in type and intensity. You will usually notice that they might increase in times of excitement, anxiety, anticipation, stress, AND sleep deprivation.  They can also change over time and appear, disappear and reappear, they are considered chronic.

Screen time on electronic devices increases dopamine and tics are dopamine-related so if your child is using electronics in excess and experiencing tics, whether they are vocal or motor, I really would like to encourage you to evaluate their screen time and consider lessening their daily time.  

If your child’s tics are negatively impacting their education in the educational setting, we recommend that you request a meeting to discuss the possibilities of a 504 plan or an IEP to give them the necessary accommodations or services to help them.

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https://www.notyouraverageautismmom.com/blog/72-ripping-the-band-aid-off-on-electronics

You can contact the Tourette Association at www.tourette.org or by calling 888-4TOURET.

HBO documentary, I Have Tourette’s but Tourette’s Doesn’t Have Me

As women and mothers, we are beating ourselves up way too much and way too often and the reason that is happening is that we create stories and we have these beliefs about how life should be or how you should be doing this or not doing that or how nothing ever goes right and you are failing in so many areas of your life and parenting. Ever felt that way? That is why I did this episode because this week, I realized just how many of us are doing this. Our life experiences and thinking shape the way we see and interact with the world around us. From the moment we are born, we begin to form beliefs and perceptions based on our experiences, interactions, and environment.

Our stories and beliefs can have a powerful impact on our lives. They shape the way we see ourselves and our potential, as well as our attitudes toward others and the world around us. However, just because we think something doesn't mean that it is true.  

Negative thinking is a common problem that many people struggle with and the truth is most people were never taught that they can question their thoughts. It's important to understand that your beliefs and stories are not set in stone and more than likely many of them are simply not true.  

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If you want to learn strategies and tools that you can use to improve your life along this autism parenting journey, becoming Not Your Average Autism Mom is your answer.  We are the single best online resource for moms raising autistic children.  Is the educational journey overwhelming and confusing for you?  Our member portal has an array of training and resources with everything you need to know about Special Education and you can join LIVE ZOOM calls with an Advocate to get any of your specific questions answered.  Maybe you are feeling alone on your journey or maybe you are looking for other moms to connect with in a PRIVATE community who understand your day-to-day challenges, be sure that you check out ALL THE BENEFITS available for you when you BECOME Not Your Average Autism Mom.

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Episode 96. Our Parenting Journey is Different

Episode 74. You Cannot Fix All the Things All the Time 

Join Shannon in this insightful episode of "Not Your Average Autism Mom" as she explores the powerful impact of shifting your focus from negative behaviors to positive ones.

Discover practical strategies that have helped countless families create a more harmonious home environment by celebrating and reinforcing their children's successes.

From documenting daily positives to creating a "Me" book and setting up success moments, Shannon provides real-life examples and expert advice to help you transform your parenting journey.

Tune in to learn how spotlighting the positive can reduce challenging behaviors, boost your child's confidence, and build stronger bonds. Don't miss out on these valuable tips that can make a world of difference for you and your child.

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89. Calming Down BIG Emotions

56. Pushing the Boundaries of Routine

We know is that in autism their repetitive and fixated behaviors are generally their strategies for reducing the chaos and minimalizing their overload by seeking the predictability and routine of sameness. These are all of their attempts to decrease their overwhelm from the stimulation and provide some sort of order to the confusing overwhelming world they are in.

Our children struggle with being flexible because of their need for sameness and being in control and when things have to change or you have to drive a different way home because of a traffic accident their ability to be flexible is nowhere to be found, right?

Our world honestly is way too uncertain and unpredictable for our kids on the spectrum. What applies in one situation doesn’t necessarily apply to the next and that results in increased anxiety and sometimes anger when things don’t go the way they anticipated.

Our goal is never to overwhelm them but we want them to mentally engage and tackle their uncertainty and reduce that rigid thinking. We want them to be able to evaluate options when there is a roadblock or something doesn’t go as they planned. Everyone makes mistakes until they practice and get better. You have to learn what doesn’t work to ultimately learn what does work right? That is what we want to teach them.

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This episode is all about autism and siblings.  I talk about the important needs of siblings and give you some suggestions on how to address them.  You have to talk to them, ask them questions, and be prepared to help them understand how Autism impacts their brother or sister and ultimately your entire family.  

There are many positive skills learned by being a sibling of an individual with Autism and I talk about those too.

The requested evaluations are completed and the school calls you to schedule the meeting.  What Now?    

In this episode, I walk you through the things you need to know about this process.  What your expectations should and should not be.

I review the purpose and explanation of both a 504 Plan and an IEP and tell you things that you may hear and what you should always do. 

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Ever hear that inner voice telling you that you weren't made for this autism parenting journey?  It's too hard and you don't have enough patience to withstand it?  

What about this? Do you ever feel guilty because you just want time away from your kids?  Do you feel guilty for loving your job and going to work and you think that those stay-at-home moms must be much better moms than you?  

Maybe over the holiday break screen time limits have gone out the window or you’ve been through the fast food drive thru’s too many times or maybe you are continuously doubting if you’re doing things right or maybe you think that decisions you are making are going to have long term negative consequences for your child.

The truth is, there are so many reasons that we feel mom guilt. Sometimes it might be coming from your own personal insecurities or maybe it’s from your family members or it might be that you acted out in anger, and lost your cool, and before you knew it, you were yelling which isn’t typical for you, have you been there?

Do you ever feel guilty because you just want time away from your kids? STOP THAT.  It can be so easy to lose yourself along this journey of caring for your child.

When you can share your fears and self-doubt with other moms, you will often find that not only are you not alone but like-minded women can help each other let go of unrealistic comparisons that fuel mom guilt.

Make sure your expectations of yourself are reasonable and attainable and allow space for downtime.  For some of you, your mom guilt may come from past trauma or maybe you are focused on doing it better than your parent or parents did. If that is you, I want to encourage you to journal and give yourself a chance to see your thinking on paper. Once you can identify your triggers, it allows you to move past it and create your own truth as a parent.

If you’ve been ruminating over anything that has you feeling that mom guilt, I want to encourage you to let it go and give yourself grace that you too mama are learning along this journey and it’s bumpy and messy sometimes along the way, and every day is a new adventure.  

If you want to learn strategies and tools that you can use to improve your life along this autism parenting journey, becoming Not Your Average Autism Mom is your answer.  Is the educational journey overwhelming and confusing for you?  Our member portal has an array of training and resources with everything you need to know about Special Education and you can join LIVE ZOOM calls with an Advocate to get any of your specific questions answered.  Maybe you are feeling alone on your journey or maybe you are looking for other moms to connect with in a PRIVATE community who understand your day-to-day challenges, be sure that you check out ALL THE BENEFITS available for you when you BECOME Not Your Average Autism Mom.

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Episode 100. Lessons I have Learned Along our Journey

Raising a child on the autism spectrum presents unique challenges that can be difficult to grasp for those who haven't experienced it firsthand.    I really believe that the difficulties we face out in the world often stem from a lack of understanding about autism.

I hope that by increasing awareness and embracing inclusivity, together we can bridge the gap and create a more supportive and understanding environment for all families, regardless of their experiences with autism.

While some kids on the spectrum may have unique abilities most of our kiddos are not like Rain Man or the Good Doctor.  Autism is not what you see in the movies and on TV. Many kids on the spectrum struggle to learn the very basics like independent toileting, using words to communicate, and avoiding self-injurious behavior.

Society's misconceptions about autism can add to the confusion.

We appreciate your genuine interest in learning about autism. Remember that autism is a spectrum disorder, and each individual is unique. What works for one child may not work for another.

Raising a child on the spectrum often involves navigating unique communication styles and social interactions. Many autistic individuals may struggle with verbal communication, making it challenging to express their needs and emotions. Nonverbal or atypical communication methods can be confusing for those unfamiliar with autism.

Comparing our child's progress with neurotypical children can be disheartening. Each child's journey is their own. For us, even small achievements are significant. Our children and adults on the spectrum have a wide range of abilities and levels of independence. Some might require more support than others.

By understanding, respecting, and supporting parents like us, you can contribute to a more inclusive and compassionate world for all individuals, regardless of their differences.

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Episode 96. Our Parenting Journey is Different

Episode 74. You Cannot Fix All the Things All the Time 

In this episode, I am talking about those moments when you have had it and you are simply at what feels like the end of your rope and why staying calm in those moments will pay off in the end.  

I know that every one of us knows intellectually that in the moments of chaos, staying calm is the answer, but it’s not always easy to execute and at that moment we find it hard to do the right thing. While yelling may seem effective in the moment, it won’t change their behavior long term. Their behaviors are often confusing to us, we don’t understand why they act a certain way or melt down for no apparent reason and that is why it is so important that you continue to try to learn and get a better understanding of your child or your children along this journey. Learning why they react the way they do will ultimately help you to help them.

It is also important to recognize when you are about to lose control so you can remove yourself from the situation. Take a break and breathe.

When you work on being focused on your own emotions and your reactions in difficult situations, when you remember to take a deep breath, to be calm and assertive when dealing with a frustrating situation you will begin to see a difference. You will begin to see that when they are out of control and you remain in control you will be dealing with the situation in a much more positive way and above all, you will feel a lot less stressed out in those moments.

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You should see all the training, resources, coaching, and above all, community inside.

We are an amazing group of women who are all traveling this unique autism parenting journey and we would love you have you join us.

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Many of us find ourselves judging ourselves when our kid's actions or behaviors take us right to the end of our rope, right?  Have you ever been there? I know you have because all kids, whether they are on the spectrum or not seem to find a way to get on our very last nerve sometimes, don’t they?

I want to help you not only get through those times without losing your mind or at least thinking you are going to but I want to explain a little bit about how and why this happens.

I have spent years learning how our brains work and fortunately for me, I am fascinated by this work and always want to learn and understand more.  I am going to share with you some strategies that you can use starting today to lower the emotional temperature in those moments.

There is an easier way and so much of it comes down to your engagement, how you act or react to or with them in these moments which is what I want to talk about today.

Do you ever think they are doing it to you or that they never listen to you or that they are just manipulative? Let me tell you, your thoughts and your words are very powerful and even if you don’t say them out loud, it is likely that your kid feels the negative energy in your body language.

It’s important that we stop assuming why they are doing what they are doing or not doing what we want them to do because when we assume we know, it leads us to feel resentment which ultimately leads us to react in a way that we don’t want to.

Get curious about what you are thinking about their behavior because you are reacting the way you are because of your past experiences, because of your thoughts, because of the story you have created, not because of their behavior.

I promise, if you are willing to do the work on yourself, this entire parenting journey, even in the most chaotic times will be a lot easier for you to navigate.

If you want to learn strategies and tools that you can use to improve your life along this autism parenting journey, becoming Not Your Average Autism Mom is your answer.  We are the single best online resource for moms raising autistic children.  Is the educational journey overwhelming and confusing for you?  Our member portal has an array of training and resources with everything you need to know about Special Education and you can join LIVE ZOOM calls with an Advocate to get any of your specific questions answered.  Maybe you are feeling alone on your journey or maybe you are looking for other moms to connect with in a PRIVATE community who understand your day-to-day challenges, be sure that you check out ALL THE BENEFITS available for you when you BECOME Not Your Average Autism Mom.

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Episode 96. Our Parenting Journey is Different

Episode 74. You Cannot Fix All the Things All the Time 

Most of our children diagnosed with autism, share this commonality of having social awkwardness, right?  Think about this, we use social skills to some extent every single day of our lives which means that our children will need help in learning and developing these skills if our goal is for them to become independent adults.

They need help understanding how to act and engage in different social settings.  It doesn't come naturally to them.

In this episode, I am giving you ideas and suggestions on social skills groups as well as those community opportunities to have them participate in recreational activities.  

I am also discussing the importance of you embracing the teaching opportunities that you have throughout your daily lives.  

There is also the component of you being able to manage your thoughts and emotions and are you willing to be understanding and accept the fact that your child may not be able to do what the other children can?  

No one's involvement in their growth and development is more important than yours.  What are you willing to do to ensure that they continue to build the skills they need that will lead to their independence?  

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Transitions refer to changes that occur in a child's routine or environment, such as moving from one activity to another, changing locations, or starting a new school year. Transitions can be challenging for many children, but they can be especially difficult for autistic children.

There are many reasons for this that I talk about in this episode. -Executive functioning -Difficulty with flexibility -Sensory processing issues -Communication challenges -Anxiety

There are several types of transitions where autistic individuals may struggle. Changes in routine, switching from one task to another, changes in their environment or location, and new social situations.

Social settings have always been challenging for Jordan, particularly if he is expected to interact with unfamiliar people or navigate social rules.

Transitions can be challenging for autistic children due to their difficulty with flexibility, sensory processing, and communication challenges.

So what can you do to help them be more successful?

Come along with me as I share some strategies you can try in this episode.

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Episode 96. Our Parenting Journey is Different

Episode 74. You Cannot Fix All the Things All the Time 

In this episode of Not Your Average Autism Mom, Shannon dives into one of the most challenging aspects of raising a child on the spectrum—managing behaviors. With heartfelt stories from her own journey as Jordan’s mom and insights from moms in the NYAAM community, she explores how to balance understanding and validating your child while setting clear boundaries and expectations.

Shannon shares practical strategies for managing meltdowns, teaching replacement behaviors, and building your resilience muscle along the way. You’ll learn why it’s okay not to have all the answers and how every twist and turn is an opportunity for growth—for both you and your child.

Whether you’re navigating aggression, sensory challenges, or emotional outbursts, this episode reminds you that you’re not alone. Together, you and your child will figure it out, one step at a time.

And as always, YOU, Mama, are doing AMAZING at this MOM thing.

Tune in for encouragement, strategies, and the reminder that you’re stronger than you think. 💙

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⁠110. Have You Ever Secretly Hated Autism?

181. Impulse IQ; The Maze of Impulsivity

In this episode, we dive into the importance of teaching self-awareness to children on the autism spectrum. When children understand their unique strengths and challenges, they are better equipped to navigate a world that often feels confusing or overwhelming.

I’ll explore how early conversations about autism can build confidence and lead to successful self-advocacy as they grow. From practical strategies for breaking down sensory, social, and emotional differences to preparing your child for independence, this episode is packed with insights to help your child thrive.

Join Shannon as we discuss why self-awareness is the key to unlocking your child’s full potential.

If you found value in today’s episode, please take a moment to leave a review and share it with other moms who need this message. And don’t forget to sign up for our FREE webinar, "Finding Strength and Resilience: A Mom's Guide to Autism Parenting," where she’ll dive deeper into strategies to help you build strength, resilience, and balance in your life.

Thank you for being a part of this incredible journey with us! Together, we are stronger.

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196. The Social Side of Autism; Myths, Facts and Reality

161. The Resilient Parent; Reframing the Journey

I have done many episodes on different areas and important things you need to know about special education, today, I am going to specifically talk about some of the misconceptions parents often have about special education.

The school doesn't develop your child's IEP.  An IEP is developed by a TEAM and it has nothing to do with what is or isn’t available at your child’s school but instead, it has everything to do with what YOUR CHILD’S needs are.

Your child does not have to be in a self-contained classroom if they qualify for Special Education.  Many students with IEPs are in general education classrooms with their peers and they don't ride the "short bus".  

You must determine if the existing goals have been met and the only way you can determine that is by the data AND if the student has not mastered the goals, they should not just be just taken off the IEP and different goals written.

This and so much more in this episode...

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In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast, Shannon dives into the often confusing and challenging topic of manic behaviors in children with autism. Manic behaviors, such as impulsivity, repetitive activities, sleep disturbances, and increased stimming, can be overwhelming for both the child and their family.

Shannon breaks down these behaviors, providing specific examples and practical strategies to help manage and support your child. From creating a safe environment for impulsive actions to establishing calming bedtime routines, this episode offers a wealth of insights and actionable tips.

Join Shannon as she navigates the highs and lows of manic episodes, helping you better understand and support your child's unique needs. Whether you're dealing with constant pacing, pressured speech, or intense irritability, this episode is packed with valuable information to make your parenting journey a bit smoother. Tune in and remember, you're not alone on this journey—Shannon is here to support you every step of the way.

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Episode 146. The Myth of “One Day”; Spectrum of Strengths

Episode 149. Parenting Imperfectly; Guilt Free Zone

Individuals on the spectrum have what we can describe as different brain wiring. Their neurological connections between various brain centers are not as strong, which makes it challenging for them to process multiple pieces of information rapidly. This can make navigating our fast-paced world incredibly exhausting and difficult for them.

Neurotypical people like you and me can effortlessly filter out around 80% of information that's not relevant to the task at hand. We focus on what's important.  This filtering mechanism allows us to quickly process information despite this fast-paced world. We immediately and subconsciously filter out all the information irrelevant to that objective.

For some of our kids, this might be only a mild problem, but for others, this is severely disabling, making the world very confusing and overwhelming. It's essential to be patient, give extra time to process and respond, and above all, be proactive to provide them with tools and strategies that work for them.

If you want to learn strategies and tools that you can use to improve your life along this autism parenting journey, be sure to get over and get registered for our FREE Course, Unburdened; Finding Balance Living Alongside Autism 

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It is a self-paced video course that will help you reduce your stress and overwhelm and show up better every day.

If you want to learn strategies and tools that you can use to improve your life along this autism parenting journey, becoming Not Your Average Autism Mom is your answer.  We are the single best online resource for moms raising autistic children.  

Is the educational journey overwhelming and confusing for you?  Our member portal has an array of training and resources with everything you need to know about Special Education and you can join LIVE ZOOM calls with an Advocate to get any of your specific questions answered.  

Maybe you are feeling alone on your journey or maybe you are looking for other moms to connect with in a PRIVATE community who understand your day-to-day challenges, be sure that you check out ALL THE BENEFITS available for you when you BECOME Not Your Average Autism Mom.

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Episode 96. Our Parenting Journey is Different

Episode 74. You Cannot Fix All the Things All the Time 

In this episode of Not Your Average Autism Mom, we’re tackling the whirlwind of fast emotions and intense behaviors that can overwhelm children on the autism spectrum. When your child goes from calm to chaotic in an instant, how do you help them slow down and stay regulated? Today, we’re diving into practical strategies, including the powerful technique of “pacing.”

Learn how matching your child’s intensity with calmness can make a huge difference in both emotional and behavioral regulation. We’ll break down easy-to-apply methods to keep your child grounded and connected while helping them manage those big emotions.

Tune in for encouragement, insights, and actionable advice to help you keep going, stay strong, and never give up. You’ve got this!

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85. Understanding Pragmatic Language

170. The Ripple Effect; Skill-Building Secrets

In this episode of the "Not Your Average Autism Mom Podcast," host Shannon Urquiola goes deep into the intricate world of autism processing, exploring the differences between intellectual and emotional realms.

Listeners gain a deeper understanding of the cognitive differences between these two worlds, as Shannon expertly unpacks scenarios faced by autism moms and offers practical strategies for successful navigation.

From communicating emotional needs to managing sensory overload, each scenario is met with thoughtful guidance aimed at fostering understanding, connection, and empowerment.

Throughout the episode, Shannon emphasizes the importance of bridging the gap between emotional and intellectual processing, advocating for empathy, acceptance, and collaboration within the autism community and beyond.

With engaging anecdotes, expert insights, and actionable advice, "Bridging Emotional and Intellectual Worlds" leaves listeners inspired to embrace the diversity of the autism spectrum and build meaningful connections.

Tune in to this insightful episode to gain a deeper understanding of autism processing and discover practical tips for navigating the unique challenges and opportunities it presents.

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⁠Episode 148: Shifting Perspective; Looking Through A Different Lens⁠

⁠Episode 48. Differentiating a Speech Delay and/or Autism

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In this episode, Life and Parent Coach Shannon Urquiola provides a comprehensive guide for moms raising children on the autism spectrum, offering strategies to navigate the holiday season with less stress, anxiety, and frustration.

She explores the power of preparation, emphasizing the importance of visualizing events and creating detailed plans to anticipate challenges.

She also highlights the significance of managing expectations, encouraging realistic outlooks, and open communication with family members.

Self-care takes center stage, with Shannon urging moms to prioritize their well-being during the holidays. Flexibility becomes a valuable skill, and Shannon shares strategies to adapt to changing plans with ease.

Finally, she highlights the power of gratitude, encouraging moms to find moments of appreciation amidst the challenges.

Overall, this episode provides practical strategies to survive and thrive during the holiday season with your children on the spectrum.

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Episode 94. Not All Autism is the Same

Episode 89. Calming Down BIG Emotions

In this episode of Not Your Average Autism Mom, Shannon dives into the world of vocal stimming, a common yet often misunderstood behavior in autism. Vocal stimming—whether it’s humming, repeating words, or making rhythmic sounds—can serve many purposes, from regulating sensory input to expressing emotions or simply exploring the joy of sound.

Shannon unpacks why vocal stimming happens, what it means for our kids, and how we can manage those moments when it feels overwhelming. She shares practical strategies for creating boundaries, modeling verbal thinking, and finding alternatives, all while respecting the vital role vocal stimming plays in our children’s lives.

Whether your child hums, scripts, or just loves making sounds, this episode will help you understand their world a little better and provide you with tools to navigate those noisy but meaningful moments.

Tune in and remember, you're not alone on this journey—Shannon is here to support you every step of the way.

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In this episode of Not Your Average Autism Mom, Shannon dives into the fascinating world of splinter skills in autism. These unique abilities, often impressive and puzzling, can be both a source of pride and frustration for parents.

Shannon explains what splinter skills are, why they occur, and how they manifest in our children. From hyperlexia to extraordinary memory, she provides real-life examples that many parents will recognize.

Join Shannon as she explores strategies to support your child’s splinter skills, helping them bridge the gap between isolated talents and practical, everyday applications. Learn how to celebrate your child’s unique abilities while fostering a broader understanding and skill set.

Whether your child can recite entire movie scripts or solve complex math problems, this episode offers insights and actionable advice to help you navigate and support their developmental journey.

Tune in to discover how to turn your child’s splinter skills into strengths and create meaningful connections in their learning and growth. Don’t miss this enlightening and supportive discussion, perfect for any parent looking to understand and embrace the unique aspects of autism.

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In this episode, I talk about the things that are the most important for you and your child to focus on when you get the diagnosis.  I provide you tips and ideas and suggestions on sharing it with your family members and loved ones.  You have to process ALL of your emotions and you need to know what you are feeling is 100% ok, it is completely normal.  

Autism is not going away, it isn't a "phase", it is here to stay.  Never underestimate the power of resiliency and trust that you will figure it all out along the way.  You weren't given an extra set of "special" to be MOM to a child with Autism, but there is no one better than you to be MOM to your child! 

There are many similarities between autism and dyspraxia and for that reason, there are sometimes challenges in diagnosing one over the other or both. Both disorders present very similarly and in some instances, they can occur side by side.

Some of the signs of both disorders are seen in early development, those things would include delays in sitting up, crawling, and walking as well as potty training.  Individuals with dyspraxia have difficulty articulating themselves and their brain processes the information that they want to say at a slower rate.

Dyspraxia is known as a developmental coordination disorder and you might have also heard it referred to in the past as the “clumsy child syndrome”.

Dyspraxia like autism will show up differently in each child from more severe challenges to lesser ones and no two people will struggle with the same symptoms.  Diagnoses of both dyspraxia and autism spectrum disorders should be made only by qualified professionals.  

Early intervention is critical and what is important is that your child gets the therapy they need that focuses on the difficulties they are having right now. 

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Special education teachers are often tasked with unparalleled challenges over mainstream teachers because rather than developing one single lesson plan, they are having to develop unique plans for every student that aligns with each of their student’s IEP’s. When you think about special education we are often talking about a vast range of different ages, interests, and abilities.

Teaching our kids whether in the classroom or at home presents challenges without a doubt but providing them support undoubtedly enhances their learning potential.

In this episode, I am talking about some of the struggles that our kids deal with and ways that their school team, classroom teacher, or if you are one of our homeschool moms may find beneficial in working through some of the challenges that working with our children can pose.

Being an effective teacher requires many tools and strategies to help each student individually so you have to be flexible and what works one week, might have to change to work next week. It takes a lot of trial and error sometimes until you see something that clicks.

Computer-based programs tend to hold the interest of students with autism so check out all of the different platforms available and if your child is in school, share these programs with their teacher.

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Having boundaries will help your child navigate their world and give them an understanding of how they can easily meet those expectations. Boundaries are essentially understanding and respecting the needs of others and today, I am talking specifically about your boundaries as their parent.

First, you have to decide what your goal is for setting boundaries. What is the outcome that you are hoping to achieve by setting the boundaries?

You want to make sure that the boundaries have positive outcomes/rewards when they are followed. Positive reinforcement is such a powerful strategy with our kids. Our goal is always to help them begin to understand the cause and effect from the boundaries.

When you are establishing new boundaries and following through with them, it is a process and I promise you, they will struggle.  By following thru and doing what you say and adhering to the boundaries you have set time and time again, they will eventually grasp the concept and it WILL get easier but you have to commit to being consistent AND you have to be prepared and anticipate that it will get harder before it gets easier.

We want them to understand that the boundaries are to help them learn to control their emotional responses in a more appropriate manner, to understand that in life, they won’t always get what they want and that every one of us, as human beings, all have boundaries that we have to follow in life.

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It's remarkable how our journey evolves over time.  Every moment you're navigating, every lesson you're learning, it's all building a foundation of skills and resilience that you'll carry forward as your child grows. With each new challenge, you'll be able to lean on the expertise you're cultivating right now. 

Even though Jordan is older now, I vividly recall those early years that taught me skills that I still use, even now. With each year that passes, you'll grow more confident, tapping into the wisdom you've accumulated. Whether you're facing the uncertainties of age 3 or navigating the complexities of the teenage years, the experience you're gaining today will be your guiding light for what’s to come.

You know, being the parent of a child with autism is a role that requires an immense amount of strength, patience, and understanding. I firmly believe that we, as parents, are the ultimate resources for our children. It's our ability to ride the waves of challenges, to take care of ourselves, and to be resourceful that truly serves both us and our children.

And more importantly, your ability to weather the storm, to prioritize self-care, and to tap into your resilience, it's not just for you. It's the foundation for supporting your child. I truly believe that our collective strength and mutual support are game-changers in shaping our children's lives.

Have you ever noticed how, once you're deeply involved in the world of autism, it can feel like you're seeing autism everywhere?

All of a sudden, you've got these glasses on, you might have heard them referred to as “autism-colored glasses” and it's like the world is illuminated by autism traits.  

It's like a new perspective opens up, and you begin attributing behaviors to autism even in people you've known for years.

You've known people for years, but now, with this new perspective, you're questioning if their quirks might be related to autism.  There isn’t a family member that is exempt from this personal evaluation.  AND Let me say this – autism-colored glasses aren't necessarily a bad thing.

Our autism-colored glasses sometimes can lead to increased anxiety and misguided actions. This happens when we attribute all behaviors, even unrelated ones, to autism, which can inadvertently create unnecessary stress for us and our children.  

When you attribute every behavior to autism, you might miss the bigger picture and end up feeling more stressed and anxious.

Sometimes if you start relating all your child's feelings and behaviors to their autism, that mindset can lead you to believe there's something to fix, that every behavior tied to autism is a problem and that simply isn’t true.

Comparing our child's progress with neurotypical children can be disheartening. Each child's journey is their own. For us, even small achievements are significant. Our children and adults on the spectrum have a wide range of abilities and levels of independence. Some might require more support than others.

By understanding, respecting, and supporting parents like us, you can contribute to a more inclusive and compassionate world for all individuals, regardless of their differences.

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Episode 96. Our Parenting Journey is Different

Episode 74. You Cannot Fix All the Things All the Time 

An autism diagnosis can definitely take a toll on a family and very well could be a contributing factor to divorce and on the other hand, some couples come together and grow stronger every day.

For parents like us, raising autistic children, our life can be pretty crazy and unpredictable. 

Having an autistic child does not mean that your marriage is going to fail.  I have worked with some families who felt like their bond became stronger as a couple because they were on the same page looking for answers to support their child so I believe that depending on the strength of the marriage before autism determines the outcome after the diagnosis.

Here is what we know… we know that living with an autistic person changes the entire family dynamic and it can place a huge strain on the parent's relationship. 

Communication is the key to keeping a relationship strong. You have to be willing to listen. You have to be open to hearing their opinions even when you don’t agree with them. You have to be willing to agree to disagree and then be willing to meet in the middle.  Learning to compromise and find a common ground will help maintain a strong relationship.

Every phase along this journey that your child and your family go through will be a new experience and there are many.  I think the bottom line is that an autism diagnosis doesn’t mean that a marriage or a relationship will fail, but it is important that you take the steps to alleviate the stress to allow for a better chance of succeeding and overcoming the obstacles along the way and most of all, make time for each other.

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In this episode, I talk about making HARD decisions.  Some of you are making decisions on the upcoming school year, those are difficult decisions.  I give suggestions on things to do while you are at home to keep some sort of normalcy and also creating new routines.  We know this time brings new challenges, but I want you to also let it bring new opportunities.  

You will make many HARD decisions throughout your Autism journey, this is just one of those times.  Buckle up Mama, there are more to come but remember, you are stronger than you think and you've got this!

In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mom Podcast, host, Shannon Urquiola goes pretty deep into the complex topic of impulse control in individuals with autism.

Shannon provides valuable insights into understanding impulsivity and its impact on daily life for both children, parents, teachers, and caregivers. Exploring practical strategies, she discussed the importance of consistency, patience, and finding personalized approaches to help manage impulsivity effectively.

Additionally, the episode covered the role of medications in addressing impulsive behaviors, emphasizing the importance of careful consideration and professional guidance. Whether you're seeking practical tips or a deeper understanding of impulsivity, this episode provides valuable guidance and support.

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⁠177. From Anxious to Assured; The Q & A Maze⁠

⁠173. Front Seat Chronicles; Your Passengers Make a Difference

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In this episode, I am talking about one of the behaviors that many parents see in their child diagnosed with autism and that is toe walking.  What is toe walking?  What should you do or not do if you are concerned about your child's toe walking?  

Research tells us that as many as 25% of autistic children engage in some form of toe walking.

Toe walking isn’t specific to autism but it is more common in children with autism than other forms of developmental delays.  

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