
Motherhood in Black & White (Kaanji and Tara)
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20 Mar 2022 | How to Talk to Kids About War | 00:29:41 | |
In this Season 3 premiere, Kaanji and Tara are joined by parenting writer and journalist, Ericka Souter, to discuss how to have age-appropriate conversations with our kids about the war in Ukraine. Ms. Souter shares strategies for engaging kids in challenging discussions and advice for all families on how to cope with uncertainty and anxiety, and discusses her new book, How to Have a Kid and a Life. To learn more about Ericka and her work, visit http://erickasouter.com. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby | |||
27 Mar 2022 | The Power of Perseverance | 00:28:42 | |
Kaanji and Tara take time this week to reflect on why resilience and perseverance are important skills to cultivate and model for their families. Our hosts share their thoughts about the confirmation hearings for Judge Ketanji Brown Jackson and how this moment should be remembered in history. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby | |||
03 Apr 2022 | The ABCs of CRT | 00:31:37 | |
This week, Kaanji and Tara dive into the discussion about critical race theory (CRT) and share their thoughts on the controversy brewing in some school districts about school curriculum and book bans. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby | |||
10 Apr 2022 | Really Bad Parenting Advice | 00:26:35 | |
This week, Kaanji and Tara discuss some really bad parenting advice that they have received during their motherhood journeys. Listen as they share some insights into how their childhoods have informed some of their parenting decisions, and share their insights on some parenting tips that have been passed down through generations. Check out this Buzzfeed article, 13 Times Parenting Advice From the Past Was Hilariously Wrong: https://www.buzzfeed.com/mikespohr/hilariously-bad-parenting-advice-from-the-past-thatll-make Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby
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16 Apr 2022 | On Being Called the N* Word | 00:25:20 | |
How would you handle the situation if your child was called a racial or ethnic slur? In this powerful episode, Kaanji discusses a recent incident where her son is called the N* word and our hosts have a heartfelt conversation about why it is important to teach our children the hateful history behind this term and how to have conversations with kids of all ages about appropriate language. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby | |||
24 Apr 2022 | Finding Joy in Motherhood | 00:29:20 | |
This week our hosts talk about the importance of looking for joy in the motherhood journey. They both discuss where they struggle with fear and expectations as moms and how both can steal the joy from their experiences. This one is full of real talk and laughter as Tara and Kaanji catch up and connect over shared feelings. Oh...and Tara has a new fangirl story. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby Tara: @Tatstar | |||
01 May 2022 | Our Favorite Year(s) | 00:27:35 | |
This week, Kaanji and Tara take time to share their favorite (and least favorite) moments during the phases of motherhood. Find out what our hosts thought of the experience of parenting infants, toddlers, young kids and now, pre-teens and teenagers. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby Tara: @Tatstar | |||
08 May 2022 | As Seen on TV: Our Favorite TV Moms | 00:39:39 | |
In honor of Mother's Day, our hosts are sharing this encore episode from Season One, which is one of Kaanji and Tara's all time favorites! Can you guess who are their Top 5 TV moms of all-time? Listen to this hilarious episode and smile along with our hosts. Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby Tara: @Tatstar | |||
07 Aug 2022 | We're Back (to School)! | 00:26:17 | |
After an unexpected hiatus, our hosts are back! The timing is perfect, too, because Tara is about to start navigating the challenges of her son starting middle school, and Kaanji has plenty of advice, since her son is about to start his last year. Our hosts catch up on what we've missed during their time off, and are very excited to share new sponsored content! Catch a brand new season of The Ms. Pat Show streaming August 11th, only on BET+. To learn more, visit BET dot plus. BET+. Stream Black culture. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby Tara: @tatstar | |||
14 Aug 2022 | (Dis)Connecting on Vacation | 00:25:10 | |
As our hosts caught up on their summer activities, the conversation of vacations and how to be fully present with our families came up. Tara admits that she's never really 100% unplugged from work, and Kaanji admits to frustration feeling responsible for the whole family's itinerary. They both share ideas with each other on how they've found ways to set boundaries in order to enjoy those moments with their families more fully. Catch a brand new season of The Ms. Pat Show streaming August 11 th , only on BET+. To learn more, visit BET dot plus. BET+. Stream Black culture. www.bet.plus Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby Tara: @Tatstar | |||
21 Aug 2022 | Pausing our lives for student loans? | 00:29:40 | |
If you have student loan debt or are considering taking out loans to help your kids pay for college, then this is the episode for you! This week, Kaanji and Tara chat about the pitfalls of student loans, their debt repayment journey, and strategies for college savings for their kids. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby Tara: @Tatstar | |||
28 Aug 2022 | Should Kids Have a Right to Privacy? | 00:25:50 | |
This week, Kaanji and Tara talk about their views on allowing their kids more privacy and how it's changed as their sons have gotten older. This topic has polarizing opinions, so they look to the internet experts for guidance. They discussed closed doors (and why that is helpful for everyone), social media, and what scares them about allowing more space for their sons to explore on their own. This conversation had differing opinions, and our hosts each picked up new tips from each other - you don't want to miss it. Catch a brand new season of The Ms. Pat Show streaming August 11 th , only on BET+. To learn more, visit BET dot plus. BET+. Stream Black culture. www.bet.plus Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby Tara: @Tatstar | |||
04 Sep 2022 | Labors of Love - A Very Special Reshare | 00:47:26 | |
In a special Labor Day episode, Kaanji and Tara are joined by two very special guests, fellow moms Dominique and Dianthe. All four mothers share their wildly different labor and delivery stories that involve orange juice, epidurals, a presidential inauguration and Dominos pizza! The one takeaway from each story is that when it comes to labor and motherhood, no amount of planning can prepare you for real life. Kaanji and Tara are both anti-racism advocates and members of the leadership team for Embrace Action, an anti-racism advocacy and educational nonprofit organization. You can learn more about Embrace Action by visiting www.embraceaction.org
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18 Sep 2022 | Fall Pop Culture PIcks! | 00:28:05 | |
In keeping with tradition, it's that time of year when Kaanji and Tara talk about what they are looking forward to this fall in TV, movies, and music. We get a recap of Tara's consolation vacation, find out what Kaanji's son is getting into these days, and we walk away with plenty of fun picks to put on our must see and listen lists this fall. This is the season transition conversation that you need! Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast | |||
25 Sep 2022 | The Discipline Dilemma | 00:30:40 | |
This week, Kaanji and Tara chat about ways they have chosen to discipline their children. Our hosts discuss different parenting philosophies around punishment. Listen to find out whether they have chosen to discipline their children the way they were raised. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby Tara: @Tatstar | |||
02 Oct 2022 | Time Management | 00:27:22 | |
Kaanji starts this episode out by getting straight to the point - how do we maximize our time so we can accomplish ALL THE THINGS? Our hosts both discuss some of the practical tools they've used to manage their time, and also where they struggle. Kaanji shares how she's learned to delegate, and Tara realizes she has more work to do in therapy - you don't want to miss this one. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast | |||
09 Oct 2022 | Sometimes Quitters Win | 00:30:26 | |
This week our hosts talk about when it's ok to let our kids quit. Kaanji and Tara both talk about the "quitters never win" philosophy they were both raised with and how they've had to unlearn it with their own kids. Kaanji shares a scary experience that ended Roman's short lived football career and Tara reveals mistakes she made when Gage was younger that caused her to reevaluate "quitting", even in her own life. Connect with us: Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast | |||
23 Oct 2022 | Parenting Neurodivergent Kids. | 00:49:38 | |
Kaanji and Tara are joined by Sarah Durham, educator, coach and creative, for this important conversation about neurodiversity, adolescence and academics. Listen as Sarah, a former middle school teacher, shares her insights and advice for all parents and discusses her mission to normalize the variety of ways to empower young people to cultivate lives that work for them. Connect with Sarah: Instagram @kattywhompous Website: www.kattywhompous.com Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast | |||
30 Oct 2022 | All Things Halloween | 00:29:05 | |
In this spook-tacular episode, Kaanji and Tara discuss their kids' favorite Halloween costumes, scary movies, and their trick-or-treating traditions. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast | |||
06 Nov 2022 | Raising Multiracial Kids in 2022 | 00:28:45 | |
This week our hosts discuss Kaanji's experience raising multiracial kids. Kaanji and Tara discuss what it means to be biracial or multiracial and the increasing number of people that identify themselves this way in the US. They dig deep into some of the hard questions around inclusivity, recognizing others' diversity, and helping our kids celebrate all parts of their background. Connect with us: Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast | |||
13 Nov 2022 | Lizzo and Ladies' Night | 00:26:56 | |
Kaanji and Tara share their first ladies' night out at a Lizzo concert and reflect upon why ladies' nights are so important for moms. Listen as the ladies discuss their favorite Lizzo songs and lyrics and their personal struggles with body image. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast | |||
20 Nov 2022 | The Holiday Hustle | 00:25:35 | |
For many of us, Thanksgiving week begins the holiday corridor, 6 weeks of nonstop activity that ends with the New Year celebration. This episode, Kaanji and Tara discuss the holiday hustle, how they avoid it, and each host gives her two tips for maintaining a stress-free season. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast | |||
27 Nov 2022 | The Light We Carry | 00:34:06 | |
Recently, Tara had the opportunity to attend Michelle Obama's book tour for her newest book, The Light We Carry: Overcoming in Uncertain Times. Tara shares some of the highlights and from the event, and our hosts discuss how Mrs. Obama's stories and strategies for staying balanced and surviving stress help them in their motherhood and womanhood journeys. Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast | |||
04 Dec 2022 | Mom Shaming | 00:29:15 | |
Kaanji and Tara share their thoughts on mom shaming, self shame, and how social media contributes to a culture of comparison. Tune in and listen as our hosts discuss their own experiences of shame and how they strive to parent unashamedly. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast | |||
22 Dec 2022 | Upgrading Your Home in 2023 | 00:33:39 | |
Are you ready for a home remodel or refresh in 2023? This week, Kaanji and Tara chat with designer Jo Gifford about Kaanji's recent home renovation. Jo shares tips on how to update your living spaces on a budget and trends for 2023. Instagram: @jogifforddesigns Pinterest: @jogifforddesigns LinkedIn: JO GIFFORD DESIGNS Website: www.jogifforddesigns.com Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast | |||
30 Dec 2022 | Our 2022 Year in Review | 00:31:30 | |
In this final episode of 2022 (and Season 4!), our hosts review big moments from this calendar year. Kaanji and Tara review highs and lows from the last 12 months, both personally and in pop culture. The verdict is in: 2022 was a wild one! One resolution they both agree on - more concerts in 2023! Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby Tara: @tatstar | |||
08 Oct 2023 | Kaanji and Tara's Excellent Adventures (continued) | 00:31:40 | |
In their return from an extended hiatus, Kaanji and Tara are back to discuss the reasons for their podcasting break and their significant life and parenting updates. Listen as they reflect on how their predictions for 2023 have played out thus far. Join the conversation and catch up with our hosts in this must-listen to episode. *Embrace Action is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization. | |||
15 Oct 2023 | The Two-Parent Privilege Debunked | 00:23:00 | |
In another new episode, Kaanji and Tara discuss recent research around the two-parent privilege. Listen as our hosts debate whether a two-parent privilege exists and share their upbringing stories. Join the discussion around why it’s important to be inclusive of all family structures and learn what our hosts think about definitions of success for children. | |||
22 Oct 2023 | The Lessons That We Have Learned | 00:33:55 | |
Our hosts are back again this week and feeling nostalgic. Join Kaanji and Tara as they reflect on the past four seasons and each share five lessons learned from three years of podcasting. As usual, their comments range from honest and heartfelt to hilarious and off-the-wall. Tune in to find out the one lesson they both agree on. | |||
06 Jun 2024 | Kinkeeping: A Woman’s Work? | 00:26:35 | |
There’s a phrase that’s crept up in parenting circles and social media sites during the past few months; it’s not a new term, but it’s having a resurgence. This episode, Kaanji and Tara discuss kinkeeping and ways that women can ease the emotional labor burden. Our hosts also take time to catch up on their lives, updates on their children, and Kaanji’s milestone birthday. | |||
07 Jun 2024 | Surviving Summer | 00:28:06 | |
In this new episode, our hosts jump into summer break plans and how it’s different with older kids. Kaanji and Tara discuss the laziness of teenage summers, what they’re each doing for their own self care, and the best season of all - Gemini Season! | |||
06 Jul 2024 | Managing Middlescence | 00:35:43 | |
In this episode, Kaanji and Tara discuss their experiences in this midlife period, reflect on adolescence, and discuss personal, professional and parenting challenges in their middlescence. Listen as they share stories of their teenage years, ways their teenage sons differ from them at those ages, and what would most surprise their adolescent selves about their lives. | |||
02 Feb 2025 | Episode Rewind: How We Celebrate Black History Month | 00:29:40 | |
Original Air Date: January 31,2021 | Re-release: February 2,2025 As Black History Month kicks off, we’re revisiting an important conversation from 2021 about what this month means to us and how we celebrate it as mothers and lifelong learners. In this episode, Kaanji and Tara reflect on the significance of Black History Month, how we approach it in our families, and the ways we can ensure it’s not just a once-a-year event but an ongoing journey of learning and appreciation. We discuss: Whether you’re a longtime listener or tuning in for the first time, this episode is a great reminder that Black history is American history. Let’s continue the conversation! How do you celebrate Black History Month? Share your thoughts with us on social media. IG: @blackandwhitemomcast 📢 Listen now wherever you get your podcasts! #MotherhoodInBlackAndWhite #BlackHistoryMonth #CelebrateBlackHistory #Parenting | |||
25 Jul 2020 | Flaws and All | 00:05:00 | |
'FAMILY isn't always blood. It's the people in your life who want you in theirs; the ones who accept you for who you are. The ones who would do anything to see you smile & love you no matter what.' Welcome to our family. Tara is a bank executive living in North Dallas with her husband and son. A recovering overachiever that tends to stretch herself a bit thin trying to be all things to all people, she’s learning more and more about how to strive for ordinary. She loves Beyonce, dancing in the kitchen, inappropriate conversations with her girlfriends, laughing with her family, and hyping other people up. She’s currently halfway through an MBA program and aspires to serve in a capacity that empowers women in her community. She is always a work in progress. Kaanji is a coach, anti-racism advocate and practicing attorney. She’s passionate about engaging people in honest and authentic conversations about the Black experience in America. California-born and raised and a recovering New Yorker, proud Georgetown alum Kaanji resides in the Dallas suburb of Frisco, TX with her husband and 11-year old son. A self-professed wine connoisseur and lover of all things Prince, she holds space in the company of amazing friends and a supportive family.
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02 Aug 2020 | We're doin' the best we can, y'all | 00:24:16 | |
In this premiere episode, meet Kaanji and Tara as they discuss the dilemma about face-to-face learning vs. virtual learning for the upcoming school year and their general approach to modern-day motherhood. Tara is a bank executive living in North Dallas with her husband and son. A recovering overachiever that tends to stretch herself a bit thin trying to be all things to all people, she’s learning more and more about how to strive for ordinary. She loves Beyonce, dancing in the kitchen, inappropriate conversations with her girlfriends, laughing with her family, and hyping other people up. She’s currently halfway through an MBA program and aspires to serve in a capacity that empowers women in her community. She is always a work in progress. Kaanji is a coach, anti-racism advocate and practicing attorney. She’s passionate about engaging people in honest and authentic conversations about the Black experience in America. California-born and raised and a recovering New Yorker, proud Georgetown alum Kaanji resides in the Dallas suburb of Frisco, TX with her husband and 11-year old son. A self-professed wine connoisseur and lover of all things Prince, she holds space in the company of amazing friends and a supportive family. https://www.instagram.com/blackandwhitemomcast/ | |||
02 Aug 2020 | Guilty as charged | 00:34:59 | |
Does it seem like motherhood is a life sentence? In this powerful and raw episode, Kaanji and Tara talk through their experiences of 'mom guilt' and how they overcome this overwhelming feeling. Tara is a bank executive living in North Dallas with her husband and son. A recovering overachiever that tends to stretch herself a bit thin trying to be all things to all people, she’s learning more and more about how to strive for ordinary. She loves Beyonce, dancing in the kitchen, inappropriate conversations with her girlfriends, laughing with her family, and hyping other people up. She’s currently halfway through an MBA program and aspires to serve in a capacity that empowers women in her community. She is always a work in progress. Kaanji Bio Kaanji is a coach, anti-racism advocate and practicing attorney. She’s passionate about engaging people in honest and authentic conversations about the Black experience in America. California-born and raised and a recovering New Yorker, proud Georgetown alum Kaanji resides in the Dallas suburb of Frisco, TX with her husband and 11-year old son. A self-professed wine connoisseur and lover of all things Prince, she holds space in the company of amazing friends and a supportive family. https://www.instagram.com/blackandwhitemomcast/ | |||
09 Aug 2020 | Sometimes it's a Goat Rodeo | 00:42:19 | |
Yee-haw, Mamas! On this episode, Kaanji and Tara are joined by fellow mom, Teah Kirk. Teah shares her motherhood journey, the challenges of being a working mom, and the importance of finding and celebrating community every day. Teah shares her bedtime routine with her toddler, and gives some pearls of wisdom on the importance of crafting and cultivating her daughter's positive mindset with empowering, daily affirmations. Kaanji and Tara are both anti-racism advocates and members of the leadership team for Embrace Action, an anti-racism advocacy and educational nonprofit organization. You can learn more about Embrace Action by visiting www.embraceaction.org Follow Tara on Instagram: @ Tatstar Enneagram Institute:
By: Teah Kirk You are powerful You make wise decisions. You are loving and you are loved. And You have peace of mind. | |||
16 Aug 2020 | That's My Type: What's Your Enneagram? | 00:44:28 | |
Get to know Kaanji and Tara a little better this week as they talk personality tests and share their Enneagram test results. Listen in as our hosts discuss why they believe that birth order plays a major role in determining your personality type. Link to Enneagram Institute: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions
Tara Bio Tara is a bank executive living in North Dallas with her husband and son. A recovering overachiever that tends to stretch herself a bit thin trying to be all things to all people, she’s learning more and more about how to strive for ordinary. She loves Beyonce, dancing in the kitchen, inappropriate conversations with her girlfriends, laughing with her family, and hyping other people up. She’s currently halfway through an MBA program and aspires to serve in a capacity that empowers women in her community. She is always a work in progress. Kaanji Bio Kaanji is a coach, anti-racism advocate and practicing attorney. She’s passionate about engaging people in honest and authentic conversations about the Black experience in America. California-born and raised and a recovering New Yorker, proud Georgetown alum Kaanji resides in the Dallas suburb of Frisco, TX with her husband and 11-year old son. A self-professed wine connoisseur and lover of all things Prince, she holds space in the company of amazing friends and a supportive | |||
23 Aug 2020 | The Back to School Struggle is Real | 00:37:08 | |
Can you really be friends with someone you’ve only known online? Well, meet our guest, La Toya who actually homeschools her children. She and Tara have been friends for over a decade. Do you think it might be time to meet up in person yet? La Toya will provide insight and encouragement for all parents dealing with a changed learning environment. The ladies also discuss Black Girl Magic, as we pay tribute to Kamala 'Momala' Harris and discuss why representation matters.
Kaanji and Tara are both volunteer leaders for Embrace Action, an anti-racism advocacy and educational nonprofit organization. You can learn more about Embrace Action by visiting www.embraceaction.org Tara Bio: Tara is a bank executive living in North Dallas with her husband and son. A recovering overachiever that tends to stretch herself a bit thin trying to be all things to all people, she’s learning more and more about how to strive for ordinary. She loves Beyonce, dancing in the kitchen, inappropriate conversations with her girlfriends, laughing with her family, and hyping other people up. She’s currently halfway through an MBA program and aspires to serve in a capacity that empowers women in her community. She is always a work in progress. IG:@tatstar Kaanji Bio Kaanji is a coach, anti-racism advocate and practicing attorney. She’s passionate about engaging people in honest and authentic conversations about the Black experience in America. California-born and raised and a recovering New Yorker, proud Georgetown alum Kaanji resides in the Dallas suburb of Frisco, TX with her husband and 11-year old son. A self-professed wine connoisseur and lover of all things Prince, she holds space in the company of amazing friends and a supportive family. IG@Kaanji_irby | |||
30 Aug 2020 | Our Top 5 Moms: As Seen On TV | 00:39:39 | |
From TV moms that defined their childhood to those that completely altered their views of motherhood, Kaanji and Tara look back on their favorite TV moms. Carol Brady? Marge Simpson? June Cleaver? Did any of these moms make the cut? Listen to this week's episode and find out who made our hosts' Top 5 list. Kaanji and Tara are both anti-racism advocates and members of the leadership team for Embrace Action, an anti-racism advocacy and educational nonprofit organization. You can learn more about Embrace Action by visiting www.embraceaction.org Tara Bio: Tara is a bank executive living in North Dallas with her husband and son. A recovering overachiever that tends to stretch herself a bit thin trying to be all things to all people, she’s learning more and more about how to strive for ordinary. She loves Beyonce, dancing in the kitchen, inappropriate conversations with her girlfriends, laughing with her family, and hyping other people up. She’s currently halfway through an MBA program and aspires to serve in a capacity that empowers women in her community. She is always a work in progress. Kaanji Bio Kaanji is a coach, anti-racism advocate and practicing attorney. She’s passionate about engaging people in honest and authentic conversations about the Black experience in America. California-born and raised and a recovering New Yorker, proud Georgetown alum Kaanji resides in the Dallas suburb of Frisco, TX with her husband and 11-year old son. A self-professed wine connoisseur and lover of all things Prince, she holds space in the company of amazing friends and a supportive family. | |||
06 Sep 2020 | Labors of Love | 00:47:26 | |
In a special Labor Day episode, Kaanji and Tara are joined by two very special guests, fellow moms Dominique and Dianthe. All four mothers share their wildly different labor and delivery stories that involve orange juice, epidurals, a presidential inauguration and Dominos pizza! The one takeaway from each story is that when it comes to labor and motherhood, no amount of planning can prepare you for real life. Later in the episode, Kaanji and Tara discuss the passing of two Black icons this week - actor Chadwick Boseman and legendary Georgetown coach, John Thompson. You can find Dianthe at her blog: http://www.oneofthosemoms.com/
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13 Sep 2020 | Clean, Green Living with The Crunchy Mommy (Aaronica Cole) | 00:41:23 | |
This episode dives into a discussion on eco-friendly living. Guest Aaronica Cole (The Crunchy Mommy) offers insight and information on why it’s important to be a more conscious consumer and tips on how to start right away no matter where you and your family are in your sustainable journey. And as our conversation touches on healthy living and healing our planet, find out which celebrity both Aaronica and Tara have a slightly UNHEALTHY obsession with Zac Efron (Down to Earth with Zac Efron). Welcome to the conversation, Family. If you are enjoying the conversation, please take a moment to rate, review, subscribe and share with your friends. Tara's IG: @tatstar Kaanji's IG: @kaanji_irby Follow our guest, Aaronica Cole: IG: https://www.instagram.com/aaronicabcole/ https://www.thecrunchymommy.com Aaronica's clean beauty products: http://iliabeauty.com Favorite products: http://iliabeauty.com (promo code: Aaronica) | |||
20 Sep 2020 | Carry the Load (with Julia Dennison) | 00:49:24 | |
After a special tribute to Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg, Tara and Kaanji are joined by Julia Dennison, Executive Editor of https://www.parents.com. In this powerful and engaging discussion, we chat about Julia's parenting journey, the mental load of motherhood, raising race-conscious kids, and our shared love for Ally Sheedy. Julia also breaks down some highlights from her podcast with Shaun T, We are Family. IIf you are enjoying the conversation, please take a moment to rate, review, subscribe and share with your friends. Follow the show @blackandwhitemomcast Tara's IG: @tatstar Kaanji's IG: @kaanji_irby Follow our guest, Julia Dennisonon IG @juliadennison | |||
27 Sep 2020 | Achieving Equality w/ Sabrina Parsons | 00:58:54 | |
Sabrina Parsons, CEO of Palo Alto Software, joins the conversation this week. This episode is a mini-reunion for Kaanji and Sabrina, whose friendship goes back to the late-1980s, when they attended the same, all-girls high school in the Bay Area. We discuss the benefits of a single-sex education for girls, the legacy of RBG, and tips on how to live an unapologetic life. Sabrina shares her experiences mentoring female entrepreneurs and advocating for racial and gender equality. If you are enjoying the conversation, please take a moment to rate, review, subscribe and share with your friends. Follow the show @blackandwhitemomcast. Tara IG: @tatstar Kaanji IG: @kaanji_irby Kaanji and Tara are both anti-racism advocates and members of the leadership team for Embrace Action, an anti-racism advocacy and educational nonprofit organization. You can learn more about Embrace Action by visiting www.embraceaction.org
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04 Oct 2020 | What We Wish We Knew Before Becoming Moms | 00:28:04 | |
What do you wish you had known before becoming a mom? This week, Kaanji and Tara each discuss 5 things they wish they had known before having kids. The discussion runs through a wild range of topics, including how hard it is to keep kids in shoes that fit, the complexity of postpartum emotions, and the importance of those pelvic floor muscles. They also talk about The Four Agreements and how they are each striving to pause and be more present with their sons. Wait until you find out the one thing that they both agree they had no clue about before they were moms. Share with us what you wish you had known before having kids! Follow and interact with the show on IG: @blackandwhitemomcast If you are enjoying the conversation, please take a moment to rate, review, subscribe and share with your friends. Tara IG: @tatstar Kaanji IG: @kaanji_irby | |||
11 Oct 2020 | Mommy Wine Culture | 00:38:45 | |
This week Kaanji and Tara discuss Mommy Wine Culture and how each of them views the sometimes hilarious, other times problematic messaging that women receive about the role that alcohol plays in their motherhood journey. They each share some of the funniest memes and marketing taglines they've seen, how many more options people have for drinking today, and how Snoop Dogg is such an incredible renaissance man. The conversation turns vulnerable when Tara shares openly about her own journey with alcohol. We'd love to hear what you think about Mommy Wine Culture and the messaging that women receive about handling stress with alcohol. Follow and interact with the show on IG: @blackandwhitemomcast If you are enjoying the conversation, please take a moment to rate, review, subscribe and share with your friends. Tara IG: @tatstar Kaanji IG: @kaanji_irby | |||
18 Oct 2020 | Talking Politics and Puberty w/ Child Counselor Jenny Gomez | 00:37:27 | |
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25 Oct 2020 | We are Survivors | 00:40:07 | |
One in 8 American women will be diagnosed with breast cancer in her lifetime. This week, runner, mom and coach, Shaluinn Fullove, shares her previvor story and talks about having a Champion mindset. Coach Shal's story of strength and courage teaches us all about navigating sickness and setbacks, and racism and redemption as a parent. We revisit Tara's unhealthy obsession with Zac Efron and learn Kaanji's favorite distance to run.
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01 Nov 2020 | The Mompostor Syndrome | 00:34:46 | |
Do you ever show up at work and feel like a fraud? Like you have to pretend your job is more important than your family? And then, when you come home, like you have to be a supermom? This one is for you. This episode Kaanji and Tara get real about facing imposter syndrome, pay disparity, and role modeling authenticity for their children. Clutch your pearls and join us for this hilarious and heartbreaking analysis of the emerging motherhood category, “the Stuck-at-home mom.” IG: @blackandwhitemomcast | |||
08 Nov 2020 | Raising Kidpreneurs | 00:34:33 | |
This week we break tradition. We welcome our first kids to the show! Be inspired by both kidpreneurs' desires to share their experiences and uplift others. Meet Madison, a 7-year old author with big dreams and a bigger heart, and Milo, a fearless 13-year old coding expert with a coding school for kids. And meet their incredible moms, Fionna and Sojo, who love, support, and encourage these visionaries! Join us for this fun episode that reminds us to encourage our kids to follow their passions (and to follow our own!). As Milo says, “No idea is too big.” Follow us @Blackandwhitemomcast. Sign up for Milo’s coding class here: www.thekexpert.com Follow Madison & Fionna on IG: @100daysinsidebook Kaanji's IG: @Kaanji_irby Tara's IG: @tatstar. | |||
15 Nov 2020 | A Conversation With Gretchen Carlson | 00:36:27 | |
In this episode, we catch up and chat with journalist, author, nonprofit founder, and mother, Gretchen Carlson. You may know Gretchen as a former Miss America and the courageous woman who has been a leading voice in speaking out about workplace harassment. But you may not know what her kids thought about her stance or what she has been up to recently. Listen to this week’s powerful episode to find out more and be inspired by Gretchen’s journey, her resilience, and her courage. Follow us on IG @Blackandwhitemomcast Want to get involved in Gretchen’s work? Donate to Lift Our Voices: https://www.liftourvoices.org/ Read Be Fierce: https://www.gretchencarlson.com/books Listen to Get the News with Gretchen Carlson: https://quakemedia.com/Gretchen/ Most of all, keep supporting women in your life. As Gretchen has shown, 'One woman can make a difference, but together we rock the world.'"
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29 Nov 2020 | Pass the Mic | 00:30:57 | |
It's a Family Affair this episode as Kaanji and Tara take a break and pass the mic to their sons, Roman and Gage, and their college intern Tevah. This episode gives us the chance to see our hosts like never before (and maybe never again, since one son said his mom isn’t funny!) Listen with your kids to this hilarious inside look at how our hosts are REALLY doing at motherhood - straight from the source. Tara's IG: @tatstar Kaanji's IG: @kaanji_irby | |||
22 Nov 2020 | Why We Should Express Gratitude | 00:31:53 | |
Over the Wi-fi and Through the Zoom, Thanksgiving 2020 is Here! Grab a bite to eat and join us for this delicious, sorry, delightful Thanksgiving episode! Kaanji and Tara dish on their favorite Thanksgiving memories and traditions, and share what they're grateful for this year. The episode turns a bit more serious as Kaanji shares some health challenges and reminds us as women and moms to take our health as seriously as we would for our family members. Tara also gives us some best practices for bringing more joy into our lives through gratitude practices! Grab a slice of Patti Labelle's pumpkin pie and join the conversation. What are you grateful for this year and what are your favorite Thanksgiving dishes? Let us know on IG! IG: @ blackandwhitemomcast Tara's IG: @tatstar Kaanji's IG: @kaanji_irby | |||
06 Dec 2020 | The Gift of Giving: Instilling Generosity in Our Kids (with Vanessa M. Sanford) | 00:35:09 | |
This time of year is all about gifts, giving, and generosity. But this week’s guest mom, licensed therapist Vanessa M. Sanford, challenges us to think bigger. How do we nurture generosity in our kids while appreciating and acknowledging the generosity they already have? Vanessa has answers for us as she challenges us to model and pursue a generosity that is collective and authentic. Join us for this week’s episode to hear Kaanji and Tara's reactions to their kids' podcast takeover, what Tara is reading on her Kindle, and which Biggie Smalls song got Kaanji through college. If you’re like us and can’t get enough of Mrs. Sanford’s wisdom, check out her website: sanfordsupportsystem.com to schedule a virtual session! Follow us on IG for show updates: @Blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_Irby Tara: @Tatstar Learn more about Little Loving Hands here: https://www.littlelovinghands.com/ Podcast fam, what are you reading? | |||
12 Dec 2020 | Never Have We Ever... | 00:29:50 | |
Have you ever forgotten your kid's birthdate? Have you ever lied about your kid's age to get that child discount? This week, Kaanji and Tara get to know each other a little better by playing Never Have I Ever - the Mom Edition! Listen to this joy-inducing episode and play along. Even though this version does not include alcohol and is most definitely family friendly, it's still hilarious and very telling about our hosts' parenting choices. Join us to find out who wins the award for Best (Worst?) Mama in this game. After hearing our answers, come over to visit us on IG, comment and let us know what you scored in our version of the game! Follow us on IG for show updates: @blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_Irby Tara: @tatstar | |||
20 Dec 2020 | A Few of Our Favorite Things | 00:38:31 | |
Looking to get in the holiday spirit? Grab your winter drink of choice and tune into Kaanji and Tara’s joyous jingle-jangling chat about their favorite parts of Christmas! Find out their favorite holiday music, movies, memories, and moments, and get some ideas for inclusive gifts that challenge gender and cultural norms. Let us know your favorite holiday traditions and make sure to tune in for next week’s episode where Kaanji will share with us about Kwanzaa … featuring a special celebratory moment with her mom! Don’t forget to make Tara’s Christmas wish come true by subscribing, rating and reviewing on Apple Podcasts! Follow us on social media! IG @blackandwhitemomcast | |||
25 Dec 2020 | Celebrating Kwanzaa | 00:45:50 | |
Join us for our first annual Joyous Kwanzaa Celebration. First, Kaanji and Tara discuss the history, practice and principles of Kwanzaa. And later, we are joined by Kaanji's mom for a special, virtual Kwanzaa candle lighting ceremony. Listen and learn how to explain Kwanzaa to your family and friends, and recognize and honor celebrants as we amplify this African-American celebration of culture and heritage with our final episode of 2020. Habari Gani! Follow Podcast so we can keep you up to date on things to come @blackandwhitemomcast. Follow Tara @Tatstar and Kaanji@kaanji_irby
Tara is a bank executive living in North Dallas with her husband and son. A recovering overachiever that tends to stretch herself a bit thin trying to be all things to all people, she’s learning more and more about how to strive for ordinary. She loves Beyonce, dancing in the kitchen, inappropriate conversations with her girlfriends, laughing with her family, and hyping other people up. She’s currently halfway through an MBA program and aspires to serve in a capacity that empowers women in her community. She is always a work in progress. Kaanji is a coach, anti-racism advocate and practicing attorney. She’s passionate about engaging people in honest and authentic conversations about the Black experience in America. California-born and raised and a recovering New Yorker, proud Georgetown alum Kaanji resides in the Dallas suburb of Frisco, TX with her husband and 11-year old son. A self-professed wine connoisseur and lover of all things Prince, she holds space in the company of amazing friends and a supportive family.
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03 Jan 2021 | Our Year in Review | 00:19:54 | |
A new year is the perfect time for reflection and goal-setting. This week, tune in for a mini-episode as we recap of our favorite moments from 2020 and share some of our goals for 2021. Listen to find out how Tara's New Year's Eve celebration inspired her 2021 Word of the Year. | |||
10 Jan 2021 | It's All About the Benjamins: Kids & Financial Literacy | 00:36:07 | |
This week's episode is all about dollars and sense. Join us as we discuss how to talk with kids about money, budgets and financial responsibility, and how to break a cycle of financial chaos in your family. Tara is a bank executive living in North Dallas with her husband and son. A recovering overachiever that tends to stretch herself a bit thin trying to be all things to all people, she’s learning more and more about how to strive for ordinary. She loves Beyonce, dancing in the kitchen, inappropriate conversations with her girlfriends, laughing with her family, and hyping other people up. She’s currently halfway through an MBA program and aspires to serve in a capacity that empowers women in her community. She is always a work in progress. Kaanji is a coach, anti-racism advocate and practicing attorney. She’s passionate about engaging people in honest and authentic conversations about the Black experience in America. California-born and raised and a recovering New Yorker, proud Georgetown alum Kaanji resides in the Dallas suburb of Frisco, TX with her husband and 11-year old son. A self-professed wine connoisseur and lover of all things Prince, she holds space in the company of amazing friends and a supportive family.
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17 Jan 2021 | Sign of the Times | 00:46:01 | |
Listen in as we talk about the language of love - sign language - with special guest Elise Tate, CEO & author of Sign Me Up for a Happy Home. This week, Kaanji and Tara chat with Elise, as she opens up about her life as an NFL wife, mothering 2 toddlers, and her diverse and inclusive parenting resource about teaching sign language to kids. Welcome to the conversation. Learn more about Elise's book: https://www.shopsignmeup.com Follow us on Spotify, Amazon, Google, or wherever you get your podcasts. Connect with us: Podcast Fam: https://www.instagram.com/blackandwhitemomcast | |||
24 Jan 2021 | What About Your Friends? | 00:42:20 | |
This week, Kaanji and Tara get real about why so few women have friendships across racial lines. We share some life experiences and shine a light on why it is important for moms to expand our friendships across color lines. Listen in as we open up and try to understand how race and fear affect our friendships and how to be intentional in promoting cross-racial friendships in our mom groups and circle of friends. Please subscribe, rate, and review @ Apple Podcasts. Follow us on Spotify, Amazon, Google, or wherever you get your podcasts. Connect with us:
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29 Jan 2021 | Breaking News | 00:06:15 | |
Podcast Family, listen up! Are you ready to listen to bonus episodes and support keeping this podcast ad-free? Well, you can now join our exclusive private, patreon community and support this show! Check out this quick update and a sneak peek at some of the behind-the-scenes content that our patrons will have access to. Check out this quick clip as our hosts showcase their (lack of) rapping skills with a shout-out to one of Tara's favorite 90s rap songs. Mark your calendars for February 1 to sign up and join the community with other moms who are #doingthebestwecan, When you join our private, patron community and for exclusive access to unfiltered, and extra content, access to a private community, and bonus episodes each month. Connect with us: Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/blackandwhitemomcast Please subscribe, rate, and review @ Apple Podcasts. Follow us on Spotify, Amazon, Google, or wherever you get your podcasts. | |||
31 Jan 2021 | How We Celebrate Black History Month | 00:29:40 | |
Kaanji and Tara share how they celebrate and teach Black History to their kids and use February as Black History Month as a starting point for these conversations. Listen to the end of this powerful episode for our special tribute to Black legends, Henry "Hank" Aaron and Cicely Tyson. Please subscribe, rate, and review @ Apple Podcasts. Follow us on Spotify, Amazon, Google, or wherever you get your podcasts. Connect with us: Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/blackandwhitemomcast | |||
07 Feb 2021 | Positive Parenting w / Alexis Maycock | 00:33:50 | |
Do you find yourself repeating negative parenting patterns with your kids and want to break the cycle? This week, Kaanji and Tara sit down with positive parenting expert, Alexis, as she shares the pillars of this parenting style, how to incorporate positive parenting in your life, and how it changed her motherhood journey. Listen to the end for some hilarious outtakes and find out the one thing Kaanji and Alexis, unfortunately, have in common. Please subscribe, rate, and review @ Apple Podcasts. Follow us on Spotify, Amazon, Google, or wherever you get your podcasts. Follow Alexis for more positive parenting tips on IG @motherhoodmenageries. Alexis' recommended parenting books: The Whole Brain Child by Dr. Daniel Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson The Awakened Family by Dr. Shefali Tsabary The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting by Brene Brown Connect with us: Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast | |||
14 Feb 2021 | Mom, Can I Say The N** Word? | 00:28:51 | |
Mom, Can I Say The N** Word? In this deeply raw and honest episode, Kaanji and Tara discuss the N word and how they have addressed the use of this word in their homes and with their families. The discussion turns deeply personal as Kaanji discusses one of her experiences with racism. Stay tuned to the end, as our hosts lighten the mood a bit by showcasing their acting chops. This is a can't miss episode for everyone. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG: @blackandwhitemomcast | |||
21 Feb 2021 | Surviving Snovid | 00:29:07 | |
This episode, Kaanji and Tara share their experiences surviving the Texas winter storm that resulted in record low temps, historic snowfalls, statewide power outages, school closings, and more uncertain times! Our hosts chat about how the experience brought their parenting skills to a new level of anxiety and the lessons that they took away from this week. They talk about the importance of community and connection, and how they and their families survived 4 days of power outages and state-mandated 'rotating blackouts' during Snovid '21. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby Tara: @Tatstar For those looking to help, check out these organizations you can donate to or even volunteer with in Texas. IG:@dfwmutualaid IG: @austinmutualaid IG: @feedingtexas www.redcross.org/local/texas/north-texas/ways-to-donate.html | |||
28 Feb 2021 | Mom, What is A Hate Crime? | 00:26:19 | |
This episode, Kaanji and Tara discuss the rise in violence in Asian-American communities and talk about how we can educate and inform our kids about hate crimes, racism and discrimination. Our hosts talk about how we can work together to ensure safety for all of our kids and offer some strategies for we can work in solidarity to end violence against all marginalized people and build cross-racial and cross-cultural solidarity. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby Tara: @Tatstar | |||
07 Mar 2021 | Get Your Pretty On w/Alison Lumbatis | 00:39:22 | |
Kaanji and Tara sit down with Alison Lumbatis, style guru and founder of Get Your Pretty On, the go-to resource for inclusive fashion inspiration and lifestyle advice. Listen as Alison explains her journey from engineer to blogger to entrepreneurship, helping over 30,000 discover their authentic style as GYPO community members. Check out Get Your Pretty On Freebies at: www.getyourprettyon.com Pre-order Alison's Book, The Ultimate Book of Outfit Formulas: A Stylish Solution to What Should I Wear on Amazon.com. Her book will be released on September 7, 2021. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby Tara: @Tatstar | |||
14 Mar 2021 | Mom, What's For Dinner? With Stacie Billis & Meghan Splawn | 00:38:20 | |
Kaanji and Tara talk to the co-hosts of Didn't I Just Feed You about the struggle with feeding our families and establishing healthy food relationships. What was meant to be a conversation about picky eaters and meal planning turns into an amazing and insightful conversation about our complex relationship to food. Listen as Stacie and Meghan talk about how our economic status, schedules, and the origins of food play a role in how we relate to the primal instinct of feeding our kids. Tara also reveals her love language, and it's a new one. Follow the Didn't I Feed You podcast on on all listening platforms and sign up for their regular newsletter at: https://didntijustfeedyou.com/ You can also follow them on IG: @didntIjustfeedyou @staciebillis @meghan_splawn Order Stacie's Book, Winner! Winner! Chicken Dinner 50 Winnings Ways to Cook it Up! on Amazon.com. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby Tara: @Tatstar | |||
21 Mar 2021 | Body Positivity and Radical Self Love | 00:29:44 | |
Kaanji and Tara have a vulnerable conversation this week about their complicated relationships with food and their bodies. Listen as they each share their stories of when they first internalized the idea that they weren't enough as they were and how having adolescent kids is shining a light on a lifelong struggle. They discuss radical self love, parenting adolescent boys through their own body image challenges, and an unabashed love for all things Lizzo. Book Reference: The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby Tara: @Tatstar | |||
28 Mar 2021 | Building a Fierce Friend Circle w/Emily Siegel | 00:31:49 | |
Kaanji and Tara welcome Connection Coach Emily Siegel to the podcast this week to talk about the importance of friendships and connection. They discuss their difficulties with creating new friendships and why connected relationships are so important to all of us. They discuss how to build a friend circle when you’re new in town and how vulnerability is the key to creating authentic connections.
Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby Tara: @Tatstar | |||
04 Apr 2021 | Talking Athletics and Antiracism w/ Kelly Walker | 00:37:22 | |
This week, we are joined by Kelly Walker, host of the sports-focused podcast, Hustle & Pro. We chat about why involving our kids in youth sports benefits their overall development, how to navigate challenges of a demanding extracurricular schedule, and finding the right activity for your kids. Listen as Kelly bravely shares her personal antiracism journey and how she uses her platform to advance equity. Connect with Kelly Walker on IG @ kelly_walkertexas Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby Tara: @Tatstar | |||
11 Apr 2021 | Raising Muslim Kids in America | 00:33:32 | |
What's it like to raise a Muslim child in American society? This week, we are joined by Dr. Shazia Anwar, a physician, certified life coach and community builder. Listen in as Kaanji and Tara have an enlightening and honest conversation with Shazia about the challenges, opportunities and pressures of raising Muslim children in America, misconceptions about Islam, and how we can all teach our kids about the upcoming holiday of Ramadan in a respectful manner. To contact Shazia, please visit her Facebook page (Shazia R. Anwar Principled Approach) or email her at Anwar.Lifecoach@gmail.com. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby Tara: @Tatstar | |||
18 Apr 2021 | Raising Resilient Kids | 00:26:30 | |
How can we raise our kids to be as strong as possible while shielding them from the harsh realities of a (sometimes) cruel and unequal society? In this episode, Kaanji and Tara discuss how their childhood traumas and experiences impacted their parenting choices and have taught them to be resilient adults. They share how they have learned to teach their sons to handle discouragement, disappointment, and difficulties while being strong emotional support systems, and offer some straightforward tips on how to foster resilience in our kids. To learn more about the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study and to take the ACE Quiz, visit https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2015/03/02/387007941/take-the-ace-quiz-and-learn-what-it-does-and-doesnt-mean Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby Tara: @Tatstar | |||
21 Apr 2021 | And Justice For All: A Conversation about Racial Justice | 00:30:41 | |
On this poignant episode, Kaanji and Tara share their initial reactions and thoughts on George Floyd's murder and the guilty verdict handed down against his killer. Their conversation centers on how their lives have been forever changed by George Floyd's murder in May 2020, and how they have talked to their adolescent sons about the murder, racial reckoning and reconciliation. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby Tara: @Tatstar | |||
02 May 2021 | The Work-Life Balance Myth | 00:28:25 | |
Kaanji and Tara discuss why work life balance doesn't exist and how they handle being working mothers. They share the stress of being pulled in many different directions and how they keep their priorities in check. The conversation takes a vulnerable turn as they uncover a glaring discrepancy between their experiences over the last year, but they find common ground in the obvious: Tupac lyrics. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby Tara: @Tatstar | |||
09 May 2021 | Cancel Mother's Day | 00:22:41 | |
Tara and Kaanji discuss whether Mother's Day should be an official holiday or whether it's time to cancel this century-old celebration. They talk about the contradicting origin tale and reflect on their own experiences, expectations and attitudes around Mother's Day and how - or if - they "celebrate" it in their households. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby Tara: @Tatstar Tags: parenting, antiracism, diversity, inclusion, motherhood, relationships, boymoms, worklifebalance, Mother's Day, Tupac, cancel culture, Anna Jarvis | |||
16 May 2021 | You Are Not Alone: Discussing Mental Health Awareness Month | 00:27:38 | |
As May in Mental Health Awareness Month, Tara and Kaanji discuss the importance of having open conversations about mental health and getting the help you need. They talk about their own mental health struggles and what has helped them, the different messages they received growing up about therapy, and they share ideas for their listeners on how to both ask for help and help others in their own mental health journey. We also find out why Kaanji might be done with Grey’s Anatomy, and, as usual, she finds a way to work in Tupac lyrics. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast IG:@blackandwhitemomcast Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby Tara: @Tatstar | |||
23 May 2021 | The Sandwich Generation | 00:28:06 | |
This week, Kaanji and Tara discuss The Sandwich Generation, a term used to describe women who are both raising young children and taking on the additional responsibilities of caring for their aging parents. They each discuss the additional responsibilities they are taking on with their mothers, and how that affects their own mental health. Kaanji reviews actionable steps we can take to prepare ourselves for the future, and they both realize how having only children makes them want to be more vigilant to lessen the burden on their sons. We also find out our hosts have wildly different opinions on actual sandwiches! | |||
30 May 2021 | The Birthday Bash Episode | 00:31:38 | |
Our Gemini twin co-hosts, Kaanji and Tara, invited you to join their Birthday Extravaganza this week. Join this fun-filled episode as they talk about how they celebrate their birthdays, birthday celebrations from their past and for their kids, and the one gift that Kaanji has outlawed in her house and why. Listen to find out what Kaanji gifted Tara this year that Tara's husband may ban from their house. Stay tuned to the end to hear their birthday wishes for this year.
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06 Jun 2021 | Summer 2021 | 00:29:59 | |
What's the cure for the summertime blues that affected many of us last summer? This week, we talk about plans for summer 2021 - the camps, the vacations, and the workload! We share some of our memories of past summers and discuss how we plan and prepare for summer break. Listen to the end to find out our hosts' dream vacations and why they may do a family swap next summer!
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13 Jun 2021 | Returning to the Workforce | 00:33:05 | |
This week, Kaanji and Tara sit down with Jessica Nazario, who discusses the steps she has taken to transition back into the workforce after taking a sabbatical to stay home with her children. Jessica shares her insights and offers suggestions for any mom who may be looking to re-enter the workforce. Listen to the end to find out the Bday gift Kaanji received from Tara this year that she calls the best present she has ever received.
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20 Jun 2021 | Love, Marriage and Father's Day | 00:24:06 | |
How do you give and receive love to your kids and your loved ones? This week, we talk about all things love - Loving Day and love languages. We begin with an important discussion on Juneteenth and then share how we honor our kids' and partners' love languages and explain why we should all follow the Platinum Rule. 5 Love Languages Test: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/
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27 Jun 2021 | Intentional Parenting | 00:30:15 | |
We love intentionally, we learn intentionally, we live intentionally, but sometimes, we forget about parenting intentionally. This week, Kaanji and Tara create a roadmap for anyone who wants to parent with intentionality. They discuss their experiences and share simple, mindful ways to approach this parenting style. Listen to the end to find out what summer Olympic sport Tara is most looking forward to. | |||
04 Jul 2021 | (In)dependent Kids | 00:26:03 | |
In the spirit of Independence Day, Kaanji and Tara talk about the importance of independence in a context separate from this national holiday—raising children. They share their personal challenges and successes when it comes to raising independent children, and talk to their intern Pip about a path of independence leading up to her college years. | |||
11 Jul 2021 | Life Isn’t Fair | 00:34:25 | |
This week, Kaanji and Tara talk about double standards, unfairness, and injustices. From small daily moments like missing out on a piece of pizza to larger social debates such as Sha’Carri Richardson’s suspension to the Olympics, unfairness is a constant in life, yet difficult for kids to understand. Stay tuned to hear the tough life lessons that Kaanji and Tara share with their kids. | |||
18 Jul 2021 | Identity Crisis: Exploring Our Lives B.C. (Before Children) | 00:32:07 | |
This week, we discuss the transformation that comes along with parenting, and Kaanji and Tara share how their lives and personalities have changed since they have become parents. Listen to learn more about our hosts' teenage personalities and the most positive ways that motherhood has shaped their identities.
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25 Jul 2021 | Our First Anniversary Extravaganza | 00:46:51 | |
It's our podcasting 1 year anniversary and we are celebrating with this hilarious and introspective episode featuring clips and highlights from this year's favorite moments and guests. If you have been listening since day one or this is your first day listening, you will be entertained by this week's episode. | |||
15 Aug 2021 | Practicing Self Care: Making the Time to Fill Your Cup First | 00:29:28 | |
Our hosts are back from a hiatus to kick off Season Two. The discussion centers on self care, how they replenish their spirits in this season, and how they cultivate their children's well being. Kaanji and Tara share their tips for changing your environment, disengaging from screens, and avoiding the overscheduling trap. Listen to the end for Kaanji's alliterative commitment to this season's self-care strategy.
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22 Aug 2021 | Talking Politics, Puberty & the Pandemic (Encore Presentation) | 00:37:27 | |
This week, listen to a throwback episode from October 2020, when our guests sat down and chatted with child counselor Jenny Gomez about how to talk to our kids about anxiety-inducing events like puberty and political unrest. The conversation is as relevant in 2021 as it was when it first aired. Stay tuned for tips on how to navigate challenging conversations with our kiddos.
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29 Aug 2021 | Raising Kids You Like... and That Like You | 00:30:19 | |
This week, Kaanji andTara discuss their changing relationships with their pre-teen sons and share how they are working to keep those bonds strong as their kids grow into adulthood. As usual, our hosts look to pop culture to help, as the conversation views parent/child relationships through the lens of some well-known movies. Listen as Kaanji shares the person she idolizes the most, which surprises Tara and may surprise you as well.
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05 Sep 2021 | Anti-Bias Awareness | 00:31:09 | |
This week, we are joined by Nadine Fonseca, Founder and CEO of Mighty Kind, a publication company dedicated to providing anti-bias resources for parents and kids. Nadine talks about how Mighty Kind focuses on kindness and compassion as the foundation for anti-bias learning, and why discussing these issues with our kids is more important than ever. Learn more about Nadine and the work of Mighty Kind: www.mightykindkids.com IG: @mighytkindkids Take the Implicit AssociationTest sponsored by Project Implicit test here: https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/takeatest.html
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12 Sep 2021 | The Great Tech Debate | 00:36:01 | |
How much time is too much screen time? How old should kids be when they get cell phones? This week, we dive into a discussion on how we can manage our kids' non-educational screen time and the ways that we have been challenged to monitor their usage of devices and computers. Listen for some tips on realistic screen time solutions, and listen as our hosts debate whether Tara's son is old enough to get a cell phone.
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19 Sep 2021 | Doing Good Together | 00:31:22 | |
This week, we are joined by Jessica Jackley, Founder of Alltruists, a company that provides a monthly subscription box that provides resources for families to engage in issues and volunteer in small, but impactful ways. Jessica tells us how this idea was formed from both her aspiration to share her love of giving with her kids and all of those pandemic deliveries. Learn more about Alltruists: https://alltruists.com/ IG: @alltruists
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26 Sep 2021 | Mindfulness, Health and Happiness | 00:30:40 | |
This week, we are joined by Brenna Vivier, a mother of 3 who shares her story of navigating "invisible" illness and how she has found peace in the chaos through a regular mindfulness and meditation practice. Brenna talks to us about being an empty nester, her new book, Water Stops, and we all reminisce about spending our early mornings in a dark room cycling together. Be sure to add Water Stops to your upcoming reading list.
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03 Oct 2021 | Our Fall Pop Culture Picks | 00:25:46 | |
This week, our hosts each review their top 5 pop culture picks of the season. Their lists almost completely diverge and cover a wide spectrum of options - TV, movies, books and even social media picks. Tara has a pick that Kaanji is completely confused by, but there is one pop culture phenomenon they both completely agree on. Connect with us:
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10 Oct 2021 | Reshare: We are Survivors | 00:41:04 | |
October is Breast Cancer Awareness month, an annual campaign to raise awareness about the impact of breast cancer. One in 8 women will be diagnosed with breast cancer in her lifetime. This week we reshare an episode from October 2020, a powerful conversation with mom, runner, and coach, Shaluinn Fullove. Her story of being a previvor reminds us how important it is for us to put our health first. We are still in awe of her strength and resilience, and couldn't think of a better story to reshare in honor of this month. About Coach Shal. Shaluinn Fullove is a mom first. She is a coach, professional runner, Director of People of autonomous technology at Lyft, and a cancer survivor. She currently runs for Oiselle, a women's team based in Seattle. Follow us on IG @blackandwhitemomcast Find out more about Oiselle here: https://www.oiselle.com/ Follow us on IG @blackandwhitemomcast | |||
17 Oct 2021 | The Other F Word | 00:29:48 | |
This week, our hosts talk about a less controversial F word - forgiveness. They each share how important learning to forgive has been in each of their lives and how they are working to foster the practice with their kids. It's also a special celebratory episode as Kaanji and Tara share some big podcast milestones and welcome their new listeners! | |||
24 Oct 2021 | Do you know what your kid is streaming? | 00:29:01 | |
Netflix's most-watched series has many parents asking: should I let my kids watch? This week, Kaanji and Tara discuss this pop culture phenomenon, why it's so popular with kids, and how parents can assess and discuss age-appropriate viewing for our kids. Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce | |||
31 Oct 2021 | Guess Who's (Not) Coming to Dinner? | 00:25:19 | |
We are wrapping up another month and our hosts discuss how fast the holiday season is approaching. As they discuss Thanksgiving and gathering with friends and family, they each share which celebrity moms they would invite to their holiday dinner table - and why. Kaanji begins the episode with a mea culpa, and both hosts agree on one celebrity they would invite to their table anytime. Connect with us: |