Mary’s Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women (Mary Jelkovsky)

I went to Cuba knowing it wouldn’t be a typical vacation, but I wasn’t prepared for just how profoundly it would move me.

To every question I asked my tour guide, the answer was almost always, “It’s complicated.” They say you will leave Cuba with less answers and more questions— here are some of mine:

How can something be equal parts heartbreaking and heartwarming? Where is the boundary between suffering and resilience? How does history encapsulate both truth and fabrications? Why do we cling to binary thinking when life is a spectrum of endless complexities? How can humans be simultaneously broken and whole, like mosaics made of shattered multitudes?

Cuba was a lesson in coexistence—where beauty and struggle, joy and pain live side by side. It reminded me that we, too, are complex and layered, yet capable of holding contradictions within us. I hope you get to experience this beautiful island one day too.

Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 126: Travel That Makes You a Better Person with Chelsea Glass, Founder of Heart of Travel

Chen Lizra’s TEDx talk: “The power of seduction in our everyday lives”

Check out Heart of Travel, an ethical travel company that does tours all over Latin America and use code MARY150 for $150 off your next trip.

If making friends feels hard, then this episode is for you. You will learn... - why making friends as an adult feels hard - exactly WHERE you’ll find your people - how to make friends who live close to you - actionable tips to help you find, keep, and strengthen your friendships Our guest, Kat Vellos, is a trusted expert on the power of cultivating meaningful friendships. She’s a speaker and author of the book, We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships. She’s also the creator of the Better than Small Talk conversation cards and the Better Conversations Calendar. Her work helps people transform disconnection and platonic longing into authentic connection and belonging. In her former career as a user experience designer at Slack and Pandora, she helped millions of people find music they love and enjoy work a lot more. While working full-time at both of those iconic companies, Kat spent her free time researching and writing her debut book We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships. She couldn’t stop herself from writing this book because the thirty-something friendship desert is real and she refused to take “how about we meet up in six weeks?” for an answer. So she used her UX research-n-design superpowers to explore the question “how might we design a better experience of adult friendship and simultaneously put a sizable dent in the loneliness epidemic?” Thousands of readers use her book to improve their friendships every day and her writing is read in over 100 countries. She’s been interviewed by The New York Times, NPR, Communication Arts, The Good Life Project, and many more. Sign up for Kat’s newsletter here and check out her course, Platonic Action Lab. And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast Mentioned In This Episode... How Long Til’ Black Future Month? by N.K. JemisinEp. 195 on Mary’s Cup of Tea: The Most Underrated EmotionWhat if friendship is easier than you think?

For her 27th birthday episode, Mary shares 7 lessons she’s taking into her late-20s. Tune in for learnings on self-acceptance, self-awareness, confidence, joy and self-love as a whole. Hopefully these lessons will change your perspective on what it means to love yourself.

You will learn about...

• the dual nature of self-love
• the surprising secret to discovering your strengths
• a powerful mindset shift that will help you embrace joy—even in the midst of struggle

Remember: Self-love comes not from overcoming our insecurities, but rather from embracing them. We must be-friend our demons and invite all parts of ourselves to sit at the table.

If you want to make Mary’s birthday extra special, please consider leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or a rating on Spotify. Your positive feedback is the best gift ever!

Get Mary’s self-love books:

1. The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
2. 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...

• Ep. 150 of Mary’s Cup of Tea: Hidden Meanings in Disordered Eating with Dr. Anita Johnston
• No Bad Parts by Dr. Richard Schwartz

(Trigger Warning: Talk of EDs & Fatphobia)

Dear Mary,

How do I navigate friendship with a very fatphobic and generally-judgmental friend?

She is someone I met when I had anorexia. A lot of what we bonded over was the understanding of restrictive eating, because she had struggled with that as well. She is former military and has a lot of military influences to the way she views health and fitness, as well as having parents who engrained fatphobia into her. They would literally sit in the car outside grocery stores and make fun of fat people leaving(not to their faces). Her views and the vocalization of them hurt my soul, they are not an outlook on other people I have ever had, nor would want to have. She talks about these things pretty frequently. A lot of the things she says I would never want my younger sister hearing because I don't want those hurtful views in her head.

I know you wonder, this person sounds awful, why do you have this friend? She is in many ways a wonderful person and a good friend. She is thoughtful, she and I just click in many ways, she is giving and loving to the people close to her, I could go on about qualities I love. But lately my feelings toward her are not good. I don't want to be around her because inevitably she will end up saying some things that really bum me out. I want her to be a lifelong friend, I want to be there for her for anything, I want to babysit her kids...but I would never want her views to be shared with mine.

How do I talk to her about this? Though we challenge each other's views pretty often and are used to confrontation, she is not looking to change her mind on this. For months now I have been avoiding spending as much time around her. Neither of us have many other friends...she is a treasured person for me. What's your advice on keeping or losing a friend because of this?

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Get Mary’s self-love books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Self-criticism is NOT a good long-term motivation strategy. Let’s talk about how to motivate yourself with self-compassion instead.

Tune in to learn...

• Why you might be feeling de-motivated
• A technique called “10 WHYs” to find intrinsic motivators
• How to employ self-discipline (but not in the way that you think…)
• Tools to find and create motivation through a lens of SELF-LOVE

Remember: You don’t need to wait until you’re perfectly motivated to start taking action. Imperfect, messy, reluctant action will often be enough to prove to yourself that you CAN do it, that you DO have it in you which creates a positive feedback loop. Micro steps matter.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's book, The Gift of Self-Love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

Mentioned In This Episode... 

Self-Compassion Researcher Dr. Kristin Neff on Mary's Cup of Tea  

The Mere Presence of One’s Own Smartphone Reduces Available Cognitive Capacity Research Study

“My new years resolution is to get louder, more annoying, bitchier, and overall a bigger problem that previously thought.” ~@julesandthevibe on TikTok

This is not a soft self-love episode. This is an audacious one.

Because 2025 is the year of audacity.

It’s time to stop apologizing for taking up space, to say the weird thing, and to bet on yourself—even when it feels clunky, messy, or downright scary. From trying new things to dressing a little less “perfect” and a lot more “you,” this episode is all about stepping into bold, unapologetic self-expression.

You’ll feel inspired to:

• Take risks, no matter how small or unconventional.
• Lean into tension and embrace your own contradictions.
• Make moves that make you squeal with delight (even if no one else gets it).

Let’s kick off 2025 with more audacity, more weirdness, and a whole lot more FAFO energy. You in?

Grab my Feeling Lost Guide to turn uncertainty into SELFISH SELF-DISCOVERY.

If you enjoyed this episode, share and tag @maryspodcast on social media!

Buy Mary’s books:

1. The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
2. 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...

“My New Years resolution is to get louder” Viral TikTok video

Ep. 231 with my bestie DahliArchitectural Digest video with David Netto:

Ep. 201: Tips for Thrifting and Vintage Shopping with Virginia Chamlee

A special in-person recording where Mary has a heart-to-heart with her best friend Dahli! You can watch the video version on Spotify or YouTube.

Tune in to hear…

• retreat reflections from Sedona to Portugal
• Dahli’s mental health journey exploring ADHD and autism
• our goals for 2025

Remember: live, laugh, love!!!

Connect with Dahli on IG: @imdahlidurley Hire Dahli as a photographer or web designer: dahlidurley.com

If you enjoyed this episode, share and tag @maryscupofteaa and @imdahlidurley on social media!

Get Mary’s self-love books:

1. The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
2. 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

This is the birthday episode!! Mary shares with you life lessons she had to learn the hard way in her past 22 years on this earth. She talks about everything from sex, hair removal, and yeast infections, to divorce and relationships, to self love and body image.   Here are a few of her favorite lessons… You’re not everyone’s cup of tea, nor should you strive to be. There’ll always be people who won’t like you no matter what you do. Hating yourself will not make you happy. Criticizing your body will not make you look better. Shame will not make you feel worthy. Self-love is the way. Hair removal is overrated. Your body’s only purpose is to keep you alive. Be kind to it.   This episode is very personal so please let Mary know how you like it by screenshotting and tagging her in your Instagram stories!

In this episode Mary interviews the co-author of the origina Intuitive Eating book!! She is so beyond honored to be able to speak with Elyse about how Intuitive Eating (IE), the concept and book, came to be starting in the early 1990s. This episode is for anyone who's (re)learning how to eat intuitively and wants deeper insight into the practice. You will learn about... - How IE has evolved over the past 26 years and why it's gained popularity in recent years - The 10 Principles of Intuitive Eating (and which one is the most challenging) - The biggest criticisms of IE (and why they're plain WRONG) - How to instill IE into teenagers using adolescent psychology Remember: your body has an innate wisdom that goes far beyond diet culture and beauty standards. Intuitive eating is about tapping into that wisdom, and learning to trust your body again. Elyse Resch, MS, RDN, CEDRD-S, Fiaedp, FADA, FAND, is a nutrition therapist in private practice in Beverly Hills, California, with thirty-nine years of experience, specializing in eating disorders, Intuitive Eating, and Health at Every Size. She is the co-author of Intuitive Eating, now in its 4th edition, the Intuitive Eating Workbook, and The Intuitive Eating Card Deck—50 Bite-Sized Ways to Make Peace with Food (upcoming, 2021). Elyse is also the author of The Intuitive Eating Workbook for Teens and The Intuitive Eating Journal—Your Guided Journey for Nourishing a Healthy Relationship with Food (upcoming, 2021), and a chapter contributor to The Handbook of Positive Body Image and Embodiment. She has published journal articles, print articles, and blog posts. Elyse does regular speaking engagements, podcasts, and extensive media interviews. Her work has been profiled on NPR, CNN, KABC, NBC, KTTV, Los Angeles Times, AP Press, KFI Radio, The New York Times, USA Today, and the Huffington Post, among others. Elyse is nationally known for her work in helping patients break free from diet culture through the Intuitive Eating process. She supervises and trains health professionals, is a Certified Eating Disorder Registered Dietitian and Supervisor, a Fellow of the International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals, and a Fellow of the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics. Her philosophy embraces the goal of developing body liberation, with the belief that all bodies deserve dignity, and reconnecting with one’s internal wisdom about eating. Mentioned in This Episode... [Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch](https://www.amazon.com/Intuitive-Eating-4th-Anti-Diet-Revolutionary/dp/1250255198/ref=sr_1_3?crid=1VRWGGMS5R975&dchild=1&keywords=intuitive+eating+4th+edition&qid=1626919034&sprefix=Intuitive+Eating%2Caps%2C265&sr=8-3) [The Intuitive Eating Workbook for Teens by Elyse Resch](https://www.amazon.com/Intuitive-Eating-Workbook-Teens-Relationship/dp/1684031443/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3J3L4OKVQ3P97&dchild=1&keywords=intuitive+eating+workbook+for+teens&qid=1626919218&sprefix=intuitive+eating+workbook%2Caps%2C215&sr=8-1) [The Intuitive Eating Journal by Elyse Resch](https://www.amazon.com/Intuitive-Eating-Journal-Nourishing-Relationship/dp/1684037085/ref=sr_1_2_sspa?dchild=1&keywords=intuitive+eating+workbook&qid=1627012734&sr=8-2-spons&psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUEzSVZDMUZUSFhRMDNKJmVuY3J5cHRlZElkPUEwNjgxOTUxMU4wQU1NNzQ2S0czSiZlbmNyeXB0ZWRBZElkPUEwNTQ4OTc4M1NVSDk1RU8yMldWSSZ3aWRnZXROYW1lPXNwX2F0ZiZhY3Rpb249Y2xpY2tSZWRpcmVjdCZkb05vdExvZ0NsaWNrPXRydWU=) [The Intuitive Eating Card Deck by Elyse Resch and Evelyn Tribole](https://www.amazon.com/Intuitive-Eating-Card-Deck-Bite-Sized/dp/1684038286/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3FIL0F4UF61IB&dchild=1&keywords=intuitive+eating+card+deck&qid=1627012825&sprefix=intuitive+eating+card%2Caps%2C209&sr=8-1) [The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor](https://www.amazon.com/Body-Not-Apology-Second-Self-Love/dp/1523090995/ref=sr_1_1?crid=J3EM4C6CXHID&dchild=1&keywords=the+body+is+not+an+apology&qid=1626919294&sprefix=the+body+is+

Hyper-independence could be holding you back. Speaking for myself, I am reluctant to ask for and subsequently RECEIVE help which leads to stress, resentment, and basically me running myself in circles. You will learn how to... - ask for help in small and big ways - convince your brain that you’re not being a burden - harness this healthy receiving energy to feel more at peace Remember: self-worth is directly proportional to your willingness to receive. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: - The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

We are celebrating the 1-year birthday of The Gift of Self-Love! Today I thought I’d talk about how to become a writer because pursuing this craft has not only forwarded my career, but also helped me grow as a person. You will learn... - the 5 steps for becoming a writer - different ways to make money as a writer - how Mary got this book deal and stuff to think about if you’re an aspiring author too! Remember: there are no prerequisites for being a writer. To be a writer, all you have to do is... write! (But I promise I share more than that in this episode ;) If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... Join Mary’s online retreat on April 13th: [maryscupoftea.com/onlineretreat](http://maryscupoftea.com/onlineretreat) Mary’s TEDx Talk about body-image: https://youtu.be/DoDzwM0gybg

Our first ever male guest on the show (aside from Boyfriend, of course!) is Jake Sasseville!! Jake is a dear friend of Mary’s who vulnerably shares his life story including struggles with weight/ body-image, career successes and failures, and what he’s learned along the way. This is a conversation about… - surrendering to life’s highs and lows - overcoming codependent and addictive behaviors - creating true, unimaginable success in your life - how your weight does not have to hold you back Remember: NEXT. RIGHT. ACTION. Jake Sasseville is a serial entrepreneur, author, podcaster and TV producer. He is the CEO of Imiloa Institute in Costa Rica, he was the youngest host in late-night TV history on ABC, and the White House, and Kauffman Foundation named him one of the most “innovative entrepreneurs.” He has built a wide-ranging and impactful career at the intersection of culture and consciousness. At 17, he learned early on about life’s private struggles: his thirteen-year brother died of leukemia and his father was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease in the same year. As a result, Sasseville has been known to be a sensitive, steadfast and resilient leader, often choosing pioneering paths instead of roads frequently traveled. Follow Jake on Instagram: @jakesasseville Learn more about retreats at Imiloa Institute here: https://imiloainstitute.com/retreats/ (and use code TEA to get $250 off an Imiloa Signature Retreat!) And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @jakesasseville

If you’re human, then you’ve probably received criticism. Though it can be quite unpleasant, your ability to encounter criticism and not let it affect you is directly proportionate to both your self-esteem and self-worth. In this episode, you will learn... - the 2 different types of criticisms - what makes certain criticism hurt so badly (and how to not let it affect you) - 3 questions to ask yourself before listening to other people’s opinions Remember: don’t choose a stranger’s criticism over your intuition, your values, and your heart. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: - The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Mary’s Body-Image TEDx talk: https://youtu.be/DoDzwM0gybg?si=P3kfRMBBdFgTMOAI Mary’s IG reel that went viral and got criticized: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C5l6-_fvZCS/?igsh=ZDJrYjA0aXpzM2ww The 4 Agreements book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1878424319/ref=cm_sw_r_as_gl_api_gl_i_AJC459ZTT9B1T36FX5ZR?linkCode=ml2&tag=maryscupoft0b-20

In this episode Mary is joined by Beth Ruffin. Beth is an author, speaker and coach that works with organizational consulting and one on one coaching focusing on inclusion in the workspace.   In this episode you will learn how to... - explore your own biases - be more inclusive in your day to day life - use language that embodies inclusivity - build a brand/business that is focuses on diversity, equity, and inclusion and so much more!   Beth spent 20 years in Corporate America before realizing her dream of entrepreneurship, opening her own boutique consulting firm, The Everyday Inclusionist. Beth is committed to making our world more inclusive through consulting, coaching and speaking.  She is also the host of “At the Table,” a weekly podcast about elevating the voices of the underrepresented.  Beth’s first book, Get Up, details her journey to self-acceptance.  Her second book, You Belong Here, explores the topic of Self Inclusion.  Beth believes that everyone has a purpose and has the power within them to impact lives.  She is mom to one daughter and in her spare time blogs and travels.     Links mentioned: Beth's 10 Tips for Building an Inclusive Business   You can find Beth on Instagram as @thebethruffin and on her website bethruffin.com   If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow!

A short episode about how manifestation can be used in a practical way, since a lot of rhetoric on manifesting and the Law of Attraction can be a bit tone deaf… Tune in for Mary’s 3 simple steps for manifesting opportunities into your life. Remember: the Law of Attraction is essentially a cognitive bias! You can use this brain hack to seek out positivity and goodness in your life, and thus, invite more of that in. Where your attention goes, energy flows and what you focus on grows. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: - The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

An interview with Erica Smith (@ericasmith.sex.ed), a sexuality educator who talk to us about abortion, purity culture, and how to talk to people about sex. You will learn... - why sexual education is so important and how to talk to young people about sex - how to talk to people in your life who might not understand the severity of the abortion issue, specifically your partner - what purity culture is and how deeply it affects us Erica Smith (she/her) is an award winning sexuality educator and consultant with over 20 years of experience. She has provided comprehensive sex education and advocacy to young women and LGBTQ+ youth in Philadelphia’s juvenile justice system, worked in abortion care, and supported HIV+ and transgender adolescents and their families. She received her Master of Education from Widener University’s Center for Human Sexuality Studies. In 2019, she developed the Purity Culture Dropout™️ Program to help people learn all of the sex education that they missed growing up in purity culture- sex ed that is accurate, queer inclusive, trauma informed, compassionate, and comprehensive. Erica lives in Philadelphia with her partner and house full of rescue animals and you can find her on Instagram at @ericasmith.sex.ed Follow Erica on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericasmith.sex.ed/ Learn more about the Purity Culture Dropout Program here: https://www.ericasmitheac.com/the-purity-culture-dropout-program And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @ericasmith.sex.ed Mentioned In This Episode... Sex Education- show on Netflix

Mary is joined by Melody Godfred to talk about how self-love shows up in our lives, especially post pandemic. You will learn... - how self-love shows up in motherhood and parenting - why achievements don’t always bring joy - the intrinsic power women hold and how to embrace it Remember: the goal is not to check the boxes for the sake of “success”; it’s to get closer to YOUR aligned center and be able to live authentically. Melody Godfred is the Self Love Philosopher. As a poet, author and speaker, she is devoted to empowering people to love themselves and transform their lives. Her poetry has been featured by *Oprah Magazine* and *T*o*day with Hoda and Jenna*, among others, for its wisdom and ability to deeply resonate and uplift. Her bestselling debut poetry collection, *Self Love Poetry: for Thinkers & Feelers*, was recognized as one of the best poetry books of 2021 by *Woman’s Day*, and her self love guided journal, *The ABCs of Self Love*, was recently featured by Hudson Booksellers at over 300 airports across the United States. Melody’s new poetry collection, *The Shift: Poetry for a New Perspective*, is set to be published on September 27, 2022 by Andrews McMeel Publishing and is designed to reframe how we see and move through this brave new, post-pandemic world. Follow Melody on Instagram: @fredandfar Learn more about Melody’s self-love poetry books here: [https://www.melodygodfred.com](https://www.melodygodfred.com/) And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @fredandfar

The most wide-ranging conversation on this podcast! Activist and educator Blair Imani talks to us about topics spanning racism, religion, mental health, marriage, and so much more. You will learn... - how subtle racism can show up and what to do about it - why Blair chose to convert to Islam - how to feel your feelings AND move forward - ways to intentionally approach marriage with feminism at the forefront If you made an anti-racist promise in 2020, this is your reminder that there is still tons of work to be done in 2023 and beyond. Blair Imani (she/her) is the creator of the viral web series Smarter in Seconds. She is the LA Times Bestselling author of Read This to Get Smarter and Head of Education at Feminist for All. She is also the author of Making Our Way Home and Modern HERstory. Her scholarship spans intersectionality, gender studies, race and racism, sociology, and United States history. As a public speaker, Blair Imani has presented at universities including Oxford and Harvard. She serves on the Board of Directors for the Tegan and Sara Foundation. The New York Times praises Blair Imani’s unique ability to create “progressive lessons with vibrant visuals and a perky, quirky delivery.” Her work centers women and girls, global Black communities, and the LGBTQ+ community. As an educator, influencer, and semi-retired organizer, Blair Imani is dedicated to making the world less terrible and amplifying the voices and work of those fighting the good fight. Learn more about Blair Imani by visiting blairimani.com. Follow Blair on Instagram: @blairimani Get Blair’s book, Read This to Get Smarter: https://blairimani.com/read-this-to-get-smarter And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @blairimani Mentioned In This Episode... Reclaiming Our Space by Feminista Jones: http://reclaimingourspace.com

In this episode, Mary explains how confidence comes from CLARITY and how you can gain more clarity in your life. You will learn... - A trick to help you stop comparing yourself to others - 3 questions to ask yourself to gain more clarity (and therefore, more confidence) - How to figure out what you really, really want in life Remember: you don't need certainty in your life; you need clarity. Clarity is the root of self-confidence. If you found this episode inspiring, make sure to take a screenshot and share it on your Instagram stories so we can see! And make sure to get Mary's book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!

Mary shares 2 green flags of a good relationship or 2 things you can practice with your partner. She also talks about her own relationship, lessons learned from couples therapy, and ways to foster a healthy dynamic with those around you. Remember: there are ways to communicate with each other beyond using words… If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love workbook: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love and 100 Days of Self-Love journal: https://maryscupoftea.com/100-days-of-self-love This episode is sponsored by Beducated, a platform with educational courses by real sex educators about anything sex/ relationship related. From dating to desire, Beducated has helped thousands of people enjoy better and more frequent sex, including moi! And what’s nice about the platform is that the videos are explicit for educational purposes, but not pornographic. Plus they’re inclusive of all races, genders, and orientations!. There’s so much I could share about Beducated, but you just have to take a peep you＜a href=”https://beducate.me/pd2302-maryscupoftea”＞Go to this Beducated link＜/a＞ and use code MARYSCUPOFTEA to get 40% off the yearly pass where you will get access to 100+ online courses on sexual health & intimacy, led by the world’s top experts. Let’s step into sexual health and happiness with ＜a href=”https://beducate.me/pd2302-maryscupoftea”＞Beducated＜/a＞.

Arielle Estoria is back on the show to talk to us being a multi-passionate creator. Arielle Estoria is a Spoken Word Poet, a Writer and Author, as well as an Emcee, Speaker and Actor. You will learn about... - how yoga can be incredibly healing to your relationship with your body - what it means to be multi-passionate and how to embrace it as a GIFT - how Arielle practices rest and boundaries as a soulfilled creator Remember: the real work is rest. Follow Arielle on Instagram: @arielleestoria Arielle’s new book The Unfolding is coming spring 2023. Pre-order it here: https://amzn.to/3S7ne6m And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @arielleestoria Mentioned In This Episode... Listen to Mary’s previous conversation with Arielle (Episode #21) Why Some of Us Don’t Have One True Calling TEDx Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/emilie_wapnick_why_some_of_us_don_t_have_one_true_calling?language=en

In this solo episode, I talk about the impacts of trying to lose weight and how dieting affects our bodies. You will learn... - What is the "rebound effect" that happens when you diet - The impact of our intention to lose weight - How your body responds to restriction Remember: :No matter what, no matter how I feel today, I will not starve myself." Get my new book, The Gift of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/book. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. It’s now available in stores and online, worldwide! Lastly, if you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow!

Psychotherapist Seerut Chawla (@seerutkchawla) joins us for a hot take on the dangers of Insta-therapy. Warning: this conversation will challenge you to keep an open mind, think critically, and evaluate what you’ve been taught. You will learn... - what ideas about mental health that have been popularized on social media are actually unethical and harmful - how cultural differences impact our view of mental health - what trauma actually is and what it is NOT Remember: take what resonates with you and leave the rest. This conversation is meant to challenge us to maybe see things a little differently... Seerut Chawla is a psychotherapist and cultural commentator based in London. Follow Seerut on Instagram: @seerutkchawla Sign up for Seerut’s Substack here: https://seerutkchawla.substack.com/ And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @seerutkchawla

Mary is joined by her dear friend Jessi Jean, Food Freedom Coach who helps women overcome binge eating. They talk about best friend breakups, breast implants, beauty standards, cosmetic procedures, and the link between binge eating and sexuality. You will learn... - how to create and nurture meaningful adult friendships - why Jessi got her breast implants taken out and her thoughts on other cosmetic procedures - how connecting to your sexuality can help heal binge eating - tips for exploring sexual pleasure both solo and with a partner - advice for building a healthy romantic relationship Remember: where attention goes, energy flows, and what you focus on grows. Follow Jessi on Instagram and TikTok: @jessijeannn Learn more about Jessi’s Food Freedom Online Program here: https://www.foodfreedomonlineprogram.com/ffm And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @jessijeannn Mentioned In This Episode... Mariana van Zeller’s documentary series, Trafficked: https://www.nationalgeographic.com/tv/shows/trafficked-with-mariana-van-zeller

In this episode, Mary talks about the difference between self-worth and self-confidence. She also gives you 3 ways to strengthen your sense of self-worth in a way that's helpful and long-lasting in your self-love journey. Beyond Body Online Retreat Waitlist: https://maryscupoftea.com/beyond-body-waitlist

Being lost is not just necessary. It’s inevitable. Everyone feels lost at times, most of us feel slightly lost all of the time. Whether you’re going through a transition in your career, questioning your purpose or feeling confused about your next steps, this episode will give you glimmers of hope amidst uncertainty. You will learn... - the 2 manifestations of feeling lost and where they stem from - how to feel less agitated and more excited - mindset shifts and ways to deal with your un-lived potentials - how to surrender and trust that you are exactly where you need to be Remember: You can look for yourself in people, places, careers, hobbies, experiences, and things, but the core of who you are is already within you. Clarity will come when you try new things and put yourself in positions to meet new opportunities. This episode is supported by Big Heart Tea, my favorite certified-organic tea, wrapped in sustainable packaging made from plants (not plastics), and produced with the utmost regard for the farmers who grow it. I love Big Heart Tea because their company is female-founded and mission-driven. Their Farmers Collection is a growing line of intentionally-sourced, direct trade teas, which you can really taste with every sip. I’m currently drinking their signature Cup of Sunshine herbal blend which is great for the afternoon when you don’t want caffeine. Stock up on your own tea by going to [bighearttea.com](http://bighearttea.com/) and use code MARY20 for a discount! If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: - *The Gift of Self-Love*: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - *100 Days of Self-Love:* [maryscupoftea.com/journal](http://maryscupoftea.com/journal). This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Cheryl Strayed’s book, Tiny Beautiful Things: https://amzn.to/43ebyUt Oliver Burkeman’s book, Four Thousand Weeks: https://amzn.to/439aT6F

Today we are joined by Kirsten Mellott, a registered dietitian who specializes in Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) and eating disorders. She herself has overcome Binge Eating Disorder and has learned to manage PCOS through intuitive eating and gentle nutrition. You will learn... - what PCOS is (the signs and symptoms to look for) - how to manage PCOS without dieting - tips for advocating for yourself at the doctor‘s office Follow Kirsten on Instagram: @pcos.positivity Work with Kirsten: https://www.pcospositivity.com And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @pcos.positivity

Today Mary is talking about the difference between thoughts, feelings, and emotions. Once you know the distinctions, it becomes easier to manage your mind because you know exactly what you‘re thinking, feeling, or experiencing. You will learn how to... - redirect your thoughts using positive self-talk - interrupt negative thought spirals and stop feeling like shit all the time - address emotions that stemmed from childhood in a self-compassionate way P.S. If you are ready to talk to a licensed counselor or therapist, check out BetterHelp, an online therapy platform I‘ve been using for years. I have an affiliate link that will get you a 2-week free trial: [BetterHelp.com/mcot](http://BetterHelp.com/mcot) If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast And make sure to get Mary‘s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!

Introducing Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast 2.0! We are relaunching the podcast which means it’ll be better than ever! We’ll be introducing more diverse guests, a fresh look and feel of the show, and our new Instagram account @maryspodcast. In this episode, Mary talks about her vision for the podcast moving forward and what we’re doing to make this show the most supportive place for your self-love journey. If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow! This episode is brought to you by my favorite books! I would not be the person I am today without the books I’ve read. These are books every woman MUST read so check them out at maryscupoftea.com/books. FOLLOW MARY ON INSTAGRAM: @maryscupofteaa @maryspodcast @retreatsbymary COME TO A SELF LOVE RETREAT: maryscupoftea.com/self-love-retreats/ JOIN MARY’S ONLINE RETREAT: maryscupoftea.com/beyond-body/

No matter how long you've been on this self-love journey, bad body-image days happen to all of us. But it's how we deal with those tough days that make a huge difference in our overall confidence. In this episode, Mary shares her best tips for those negative body-image days. Whether you woke up feeling bloated or not feeling super confident in your skin, there are ways that you can shift your mindset and not let those negative thoughts affect you. This episode is a mix of mindset advice and practical tips, so we hope they help heal body-image struggles and love yourself unconditionally. Remember, you are so much more than a body. Your body is the least interesting thing about you. And you don't deserve to spend your life obsessing over your body. You deserve so much more self-love. Links mentioned: BEYOND BODY ONLINE RETREAT WAITLIST: https://maryscupoftea.com/beyond-body-waitlist If you liked this episode, please leave us a review on Apple podcasts! It really helps the show grow!

The episode we've all been waiting for! The one where Mary interviews her boyfriend! Mary and her boyfriend talk about their relationship by answering some of YOUR questions! Here are the questions Mary and her boyfriend answer in this episode:   1. How have you grown since being in a relationship with Mary? 2. Why do you think your relationship worked out so well even though it seemed to move very quickly? 3. What's your favorite thing about each other? 4. What was the moment you both "knew" you were each other's person? 5. What's different about this relationship than past relationships? 6. How does your boyfriend cope with your posts with minimal or no clothing? 7. Is it hard living together? What are the challenging parts and what are the best parts? 8. Did he deal with body confidence issues as well? 9. How do you plan to teach your kids body confidence?   Tag Mary @maryscupofteaa in your Instagram stories to let her know how you liked this very personal episode!

My husband and I are celebrating 5 years together and 1 year married! To commemorate, we thought we’d answer your burning relationship-related questions while reflecting on the half decade we’ve spent together. We talk about… - how being married feels different - adult friendships and how they’ve changed since our wedding - our age gap - advice for dating and finding “the one” - tips for repairing after a fight - how to decorate your home together, even if you have different styles - new things we’ve learned about each other post-marriage Tune in for hot takes, relationship advice, and just a sweet conversation about couplehood. And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @maryscupofteaa Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 157 about Our Wedding Reflections: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0UGsNzalIhBmXyVogGFKFp?si=ylcqFLbIRgGIVZElssJDCQ 101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged: https://amzn.to/3ISBSew

The fear of failure is closely related to the fear of success. Even though it seems like they’re opposite, both are a self-worth struggle. In this episode you will learn how to... - self-talk your way through the fear of failure - believe in yourself - take small risks that lead to big results Remember: Believing in yourself is harder to do than *not* believing in yourself. It takes courage. It takes willpower. It takes support. It takes stamina and stubbornness and it’s really uncomfortable but boy is it worth it. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!

In this episode, Mary will share with you a journaling exercise that is great for setting New Years intentions! This is actually a repost from last year because it’s a practice that is good to revisit so we hope you enjoy it going into 2022! You will learn... - how to find your Word of the Year - a visualization/ meditation exercise to help you feel more aligned to your purpose - how to create a new belief system for yourself going into the new year If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!

After burning out on exercise during my ED days, 7 years later, I’ve been able to find a much better balance with movement. So let’s talk about HOW I’ve been able to maintain this healthy relationship with exercise– what might help you, what might hurt you, and mindset shifts to make. You will learn... - how to stay active in a way that’s sustainable, enjoyable, and free of toxic thoughts. - what toxic thoughts or behaviors around exercise can look like (and how to spot them in yourself) - the 3 phases of healing your relationship with movement - mindset shifts to make if you want to stay active without slipping back Remember: Your mental well-being is as important as your physical, and if your priorities were convoluted for so long during those eating disorder days, it’ll take time to come back to a sense of balance. You have time. Take it. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: - *The Gift of Self-Love*: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - *100 Days of Self-Love:* [maryscupoftea.com/journal](http://maryscupoftea.com/journal). This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

What would you pursue regardless of the result? Let’s reflect on how being results-oriented removes the joy of the process. Though sometimes results do come, maybe we’d be happier if we were more immersed in the process itself. You will learn how to... - Trust your unique process and let go of the need for immediate results - Embrace activities that bring joy without a focus on outcome - Shift your mindset to find peace in the present moment Remember: ”Trust your process, release the result.” If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! Sign up for Mary’s monthly newsletter: https://maryscupoftea.myflodesk.com/emails Learn more about upcoming retreats: https://maryscupoftea.com/retreats Get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://amzn.to/3yJKYII

“We often think of self love as a noun…” a thing we want more of. “In reality, love is a verb…” something inside of us and something that we do; not something we possess. In this episode, Mary talks about the paradox of thinking that if we only have more things to do what we want to do then we can achieve self love. “If you want to have self love, start with the be.” We also hear more about Mary’s personal journey with body image and take a look at how it has affected her relationships in the past, from judging others to how it affected her sex life. Mary also discusses the importance of romanticizing your own life and what that could possibly look like for you. Take a moment to brew a warm cup of tea and enjoy the show!

In this solo episode, Mary shares how to reframe how you think, see, and feel about weight gain. Most of us gain some weight during the holidays, whether that's due to a decrease in activity levels or an increase in food- and that's all fine and dandy! But we shouldn't be so worried about our weight that it ruins our mood. In this episode, you will learn... - a journal activity that will help you reframe how you feel about weight gain - tips that will help you approach weight gain with self-compassion - how to improve your body-image with mindset exercises Let Mary know how you liked this episode by taking a screenshot and posting it on your Instagram stories! FOLLOW MARY ON INSTAGRAM: @maryscupofteaa @maryspodcast @retreatsbymary If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow!

Have you ever said “yes” when you really meant “no”? If so, then you might be a PEOPLE-PLEASER. For those of us who were raised as girls and women, people-pleasing is an all too familiar way of relating to those around us. Today we are joined by Somatic Life Coach María-Victoria Albina who will help us break through these people-pleasing thought patterns and reclaim our authenticity. This conversation is equal parts entertaining and educational, thanks to María-Victoria’s joyful spirit. You will learn about... - what really happens in your nervous-system when you prioritize other people’s needs above your own - non-obvious signs of people-pleasing and codependency - ways to stop yourself from people-pleasing and start being more truthful, direct, and authentic Remember: sourcing your feelings from the outside world is a sign of codependency. Contrary to what you might’ve been taught, your value does not depend on what others think of you. María-Victoria Albina (she/her) is a Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women realize that they are their own best healers by reconnecting with their bodies and minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people-pleasing and reclaim their joy. She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Victoria has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives on occupied Munsee Lenape territory in New York’s Hudson Valley. She’s also the creator of Anchored, a 6-month coaching program and a loving, supportive community for women and afab non-binary folks, where you’ll learn new ways to respond to stress and trauma, ditch codependent, perfectionist and people pleasing habits as you learn to relate to your body, mind and emotions in healthier ways. Follow María-Victoria on Instagram: @victoriaalbinawellness Learn more about María-Victoria’s 6-month coaching program here: https://victoriaalbina.com/anchored And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @victoriaalbinawellness

This is probably the most influencer-ish episode Mary’s ever released! She shares 10 items that were inexpensive, but made a huge difference in her health, happiness, and overall well-being. Visit the show notes for all the links! Here’s a sneak peek of what she shares: - a movie that’s changed her perspective on consciousness - a book that Mary’s read 5 times (and assigns at her retreats) - a lightbulb that Boyfriend got for the bedroom ;) - more! Remember: small investments can make a big difference! If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... 1. Tongue scraper: https://amzn.to/3r2B0uJ 2. Arrival movie: https://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/arrival_2016 3. Plant watering can: https://amzn.to/3FaTOwG 4. Hydro flask cup holder: https://amzn.to/3r2Bjpn 5. My bonnet 6. Bio Oil Gel Cream: https://amzn.to/3zAeJbk 7. The Four Agreements: https://amzn.to/3zAeJbk 8. My ear plugs (not fully sound proof): https://amzn.to/33dg9MO 9. Ear plugs recommended to me: https://amzn.to/33fg3UN 10. Silk sleep mask: https://amzn.to/3q6mAKP 11. Gel pens: https://amzn.to/3t48MlT 12. Fire place lightbulb: https://amzn.to/3GcA5xZ

Diet culture is a vicious enemy that makes you believe that something is wrong with YOU if you don’t successfully lose weight. Being stuck in the diet cycle makes you spend every second of every day thinking about food and your body, which is no way to live your one precious life. Mary explains how dieting, restricting, and binge eating are all different sides of the same coin, so once you stop dieting and restricting, you will stop binge eating too.    In this episode, Mary shares how to end the diet-restrict-binge by reframing your mindset around food and your body. Mary also talks about the metaphysics of food (a term that’ll change your relationship with food forever) as well as the #1 mindset tool that helped her stop binge eating, forever. Our bodies are wise, so let’s learn to stop fighting them and trust that your body got your back.   Get ready to walk away feeling empowered, inspired, and ready to say f*ck you to diet culture.

Okay, this episode is a MUST-LISTEN and we're not just saying that! Today's guest is Kenzie Brenna, fellow self-love advocate, mental health educator, speaker, and podcaster who is AMAZING at talking about taboo topics with the sensitivity and care they deserve. You will learn how to... - deal with people who disagree with you - embrace the paradoxes in life - be okay with not knowing everything - approach political topics with the nuance, knowledge, and due dilligence they deserve (instead of believing every infographic you see on Instagram) Kenzie also shares controversial perspectives about things like... - trigger warnings (and why they're not always helpful) - liberal and left-leaning politics - the body positivity community Warning: you may disagree with a lot of what we say and that's okay! We are all here to listen to each other, invite in different perspectives, and see what we can learn along the way. Thank you for being open to unpopular opinions and uncomfortable (yet important!) conversations. 🙏 Follow Kenzie on social media: [@kenziebrenna](https://www.instagram.com/kenziebrenna/) Listen to her podcast: [Conversations with Kenzie](

In this episode, Mary talks with Whitney Goodman, a licensed psychotherapist, about the harmful effects of toxic positivity. We’ve all heard it, seen it, and experienced it! You know, when someone totally invalidates your feelings and tells you to “just think positive!” It’s so not helpful! Whitney shares with us about... - what toxic positivity is and the different areas it shows up in (specifically how it appears in religion, workplace, health, grief, etc) - the antidote to toxic positivity - how to talk to your loved ones when they are experiencing pain Remember: “Happiness and positivity have become both a goal and an obligation.” But you don’t have to feed into that... Follow Whitney on Instagram: @sitwithwhit Get Whitney’s book, Toxic Positivity here: https://amzn.to/3zMbptG And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @sitwithwhit

This episode is a turning of the tables where Mary gets interviewed by Gabby Male (@gabbymale on IG). Gabby asks Mary questions like… How do you have a healthy mindset with exercise? What is health at every size? How to deal with friends/ family who don’t understand your self-love journey? What are some tips for recreating your identity during recovery?   Gabby is a non-diet health coach who helps women find balance and feel more empowered in their bodies. She has her own show called the Evolve Your Life Podcast where she talks about everything from fitness to food freedom to personal growth.   Follow Gabby on IG here: https://www.instagram.com/gabbymale/  Listen to her podcast here: https://www.gabbymale.com/evolveyourlifepodcast

A lack of self-confidence shows up in small and big ways. Here are 5 not-so-obvious signs that you’re struggling with self-confidence, things that Mary is personally working on as well. You will learn how to... - stop trying to fill inner voids with external things - start trusting yourself more - get out of a victim mindset Remember: No shiny new thing is going to give you the confidence, happiness, and positive feelings you’re looking for. You’re the only one who can change your mindset and it has to come from within. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: - *The Gift of Self-Love*: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - *100 Days of Self-Love:* [maryscupoftea.com/journal](http://maryscupoftea.com/journal). This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Whether you’re single or in a relationship, you’ll want to listen to this episode for advice on conquering body shame in the bedroom. You will learn how to... be more confident in your body sexually vet people and be protective of your space foster more intimacy and trust in your relationships Remember: Be protective of the people you allow inside, whether that’s inside your emotional space or inside of you. Click here https://bit.ly/CHEEX-maryscupoftea to get a 14-day free trial on CHEEX with code CUPOFTEA. Promo valid for new customers when selecting the yearly subscription option. Cancel anytime during the trial period. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor: https://amzn.to/3jIUZeB The Orgasm Gap: How Body Shaming Affects Women’s Sexual Experiences: https://feminisminindia.com/2020/11/12/orgasm-gap-body-shaming/ Episode #38 with Emily Nagoski: https://maryscupoftea.com/sex-orgasms-masturbation-with-emily-nagoski/ Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski: https://amzn.to/3vj2Rca

In this solo episode, Mary shares her advice for connecting with others, specifically your younger siblings. If you‘re getting together for the holidays or simply craving a little deeper connection with those around you, listen to this episode to learn... 3 tips for connecting more deeply with others what Mary‘s therapist said that helped her create a healthier relationship with her little sister how vulnerability, in the simplest of ways, will inevitably foster connection. Remember: vulnerability breeds connection. If you want someone to open up to you, you have to open your heart to them, too. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast And make sure to get Mary‘s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... Brene Brown‘s book, The Gifts of Imperfection: https://amzn.to/3EZjInP

Today Mary is interviewing her business coach Melyssa Griffin! The past 6 months, Mary was in Melyssa’s business mastermind called the Aligned Abundance Mastermind which you can learn more about at alignedabundancemastermind.com.   Melyssa Griffin is a former school teacher turned entrepreneur who believes that the best way to grow a thriving business is to heal the leader behind the scenes. She coaches entrepreneurs back to their inner truth so that they can create abundance without self-abandonment. Together, we’ll reprogram the limiting beliefs and patterns that are keeping you stuck so that you can create unapologetic success and abundance.   In this episode you will learn…   How Melyssa went from being a school teacher to being a 7-figure online business owner The mindset you need to adopt to make more money What alignment means and how it will help you in all areas of your life     If you’re interested in joining Melyssa’s mastermind, you can learn more about it and apply here: alignedabundancemastermind.com.     And you can connect with Melyssa on IG as @melyssa_griffin and learn more at melyssagriffin.com.    

In this episode, Mary speaks to Rha Goddess about standing in your values and being in alignment with your soul’s calling. Her name says it all: this woman is a GODDESS. From the way she speaks to the wisdom she so generously gives, Rha will change the way you think about yourself and relate to the world around you. You will learn... - a practice for reflecting on 2021 and stepping into the new year with more intention - Rha’s message and predictions for what 2022 has in store for us - what things distract us from living in alignment with our soul’s calling - how to make mental peace with capitalism, money, and success Remember: the Universe is constantly winking at you. Are you paying attention? 😉 Rha Goddess is the entrepreneurial soul coach behind hundreds of breakthrough changemakers, cultural visionaries and social entrepreneurs. From multiple NY Times Bestsellers to multi-million dollar social enterprises, Rha’s unique methodology has empowered a new generation of conscious entrepreneurs to stay true, get paid, and do good. From the onset of her more than 30-year career as a cultural innovator, social impact strategist and creative change agent, Rha has drawn on the power of creativity, culture and community to move hearts, minds and policy. Rha’s book, The Calling (St. Martin’s Press) leverages her unique methodology into a step by step blueprint for finding your purpose and making your most profitable contribution. Follow Rha on Instagram: @rhagoddess Get Rha’s book, The Calling: https://courses.movethecrowd.me/the-calling And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @rhagoddess

It’s common for wedding vows to mention how one’s partner is their “best friend.” But what does that say about our best friends who we’re not married to? And does this put too much pressure on one person to be everything for you? Back in 2020, journalist Rhaina Cohen wrote an article for the Atlantic titled “What If Friendship, Not Marriage, Was at the Center of Life?” Not only did this piece go viral, it also paved the way Rhaina Cohen’s book, the Other Significant Others about reimagining the role of friendships in our lives. Today Rhaina joins us to discuss… - how/ why prioritizing platonic friendships actually makes your romantic relationship better - the historical role that friends and marriages used to play and how that’s changed over time - tips for taking your friendships from surface-level to depth Relationships come in many different forms. Some are platonic, some are romantic, some blur the lines of both. As we grapple with what’s been declared as a loneliness epidemic, we must revere all types of relationships and give them the attention they deserve. Follow Rhaina on Instagram: @rhainacohen Get Rhaina’s book, The Other Significant Others: Rhaina Cohen is a long-form journalist, author of the bestselling book The Other Significant Others, and producer and editor for NPR’s Embedded. Outside of NPR, she’s written for various publications, including The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, and The New Republic. Rhaina Cohen has a B.A. in American Studies from Northwestern University and an MPhil in Comparative Social Policy from Oxford, where she was a Marshall Scholar and did research in Denmark and Iceland on paternity leave policies. She has given talks at NASA and at universities in the U.S., U.K., and Ireland and lucky for you, on the Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast! If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @rhainacohen JOIN THE PORTUGAL SELF-LOVE RETREAT: https://maryscupoftea.com/portugal-retreat Mentioned In This Episode... The Moth conversation cards: Atlantic article “What If Friendship, Not Marriage, Was at the Center of Life?”

Have you ever thought to yourself, “I feel like a failure”? As a Type A, self-motivated, achievement-driven kind of person, failure is something you might feel often… even when you haven’t actually failed. The worst kind of failure is when you don’t meet your OWN expectation of success (which is more often than not) and find yourself stuck in a never-ending cycle of “feeling like a failure.” In this episode, you will learn... - why feeling like a failure is a THOUGHT, not an emotion (and how to talk yourself out of that BS) - how to deal with common feelings of failure like when your body changes, a relationship ends, or a job opportunity doesn’t work out quite the way you expected - 3 mindset shifts to help you feel better about potential failures Remember: Anything that feels like failure right now is pushing you, preparing you, and pointing you toward the path you’re actually meant to be on. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: - The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. This episode is sponsored by Ritual — made for skeptical people like us that care about our health in a non-diet-culture-y kind of way. I researched a ton of multivitamins and thankfully landed on Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ multivitamin. Let me tell you, this vitamin is an ✨experience✨. It has a minty-essence that makes taking your multis actually enjoyable. The bottle is transparent as are the capsules which have 9 key nutrients in 2, relatively small, capsules per day. And thanks to their commitment to traceable ingredients, you can trust what you’re putting in your body. Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ is a multivitamin you can actually trust. Ritual is offering my listeners 20% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/MARY20 to start Ritual or add Essential for Women 18+ to your subscription today.

Our culture is OBSESSED with female bodies and their appearance making us all “beauty sick.” From constricting clothes to anti-aging skincare products, beauty culture eats up our precious time, money, and energy. This is an eye-opening and deeply-relatable discussion with Dr. Renee Engeln about “beauty sickness,” the disease that plagues so many women (to no fault of their own). You will learn about... - what the research shows about beauty culture and objectification of women - the performative aspects of femininity - the psychological effects of aging in a beauty-obsessed society - how we can fight off beauty sickness both individually and collectively Renee Engeln, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at Northwestern University, is the author of Beauty Sick: How the Cultural Obsession with Appearance Hurts Girls and Women. Her lab (The Body and Media Lab, a.k.a. “BAM”) conducts research exploring issues surrounding women’s body images, with a particular emphasis on cultural practices that create or enforce the frequently contentious relationship women have with their bodies. The research, which has appeared in numerous academic journals, focuses on Objectification Theory, Fat Talk, and Idealized Media Images. She is regularly interviewed by the New York Times, the Chicago Tribune, BBC, the Huffington Post, and other national media. Her TEDx talk has over 800,000 views on YouTube. Remember: Though we won’t heal from beauty sickness overnight, we have the power to minimize how much we participate in it. Get Dr. Renee’s book, Beauty Sick: https://amzn.to/4c67da9 Learn more about Dr. Renee’s Body and Media Lab: http://bodyandmedia.com Watch Dr. Renee’s TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=63XsokRPV_Y And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @beauty_sick Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 18, Mary’s first interview with Dr. Renee: https://open.spotify.com/episode/155JFBTBxSGCCA2UMK12qk?si=gWFYNVAjQxu2S2J8j69Z-w

Mary shares her 3-step process for setting intentions for the New Year + tips/ tools for organizing your 2023 goals. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media so we can see your New Years intentions! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: - *The Gift of Self-Love*: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - *100 Days of Self-Love:* [maryscupoftea.com/journal](http://maryscupoftea.com/journal). This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... My Vision Board in Notion: https://www.notion.so/maryscupoftea/Intentions-f4a527b20f844b219f91cbdfb709a41b

Mary is practicing compassionate self-talk- here’s how. You will learn how to... - be more conscious of the stories you’re telling yourself - separate your struggles from your identity - use word choice that’s more supportive and self-compassionate Remember: your thoughts create your (internal) reality. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: - *The Gift of Self-Love*: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - *100 Days of Self-Love:* [maryscupoftea.com/journal](http://maryscupoftea.com/journal). This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

WOW!!! This episode is a must-listen, especially for those in eating disorder recovery or dealing with any kind of disordered eating. In just one hour, Dr. Anita will enlighten you with her wisdom, humor, and helpful tools for healing your relationship with food. You will learn... - how disordered eating can be healed through spiritual stories and metaphors - why an eating disorder is a unique type of addiction - the role of “power” in one’s struggle with food - how to uncover symbolic meanings in food - why recovery is FUN! - how to find your hunger and fullness cues - and so. much. more. Remember: full recovery is possible (this is coming from a renowned psychologist who runs a residential treatment center and has helped thousands of people recover for good). Follow Dr. Anita on Instagram: @dranitajohnston Learn more about Dr. Anita’s Feminine Psyche course here: https://lightofthemooncafe.com/the-four-faces-of-the-feminine-psyche/ FREE Food & Metaphor Guide: [www.lightofthemooncafe.com/cot](http://www.lightofthemooncafe.com/cot) Anita Johnston, Ph.D., is a Depth Psychologist, Certified Eating Disorder Specialist, and author of Eating in the Light of the Moon: How Women Can Transform Their Relationships with Food Through Myth, Metaphor, and Storytelling, which has been published in seven languages. A pioneer in the field, Dr. Johnston has been treating eating difficulties and body image distress for over 35 years. She has developed eating disorder programs nationally and internationally and currently serves as Founder & Executive Director of [‘Ai Pono Hawaii Eating Disorders Programs](https://www.aipono.com/) which has a Residential Program in Maui. She is the co-creator of the [Light of the Moon Café](https://lightofthemooncafe.com/), an online resource with interactive and self- study courses for women around the world. As a recognized international workshop presenter, Dr. Johnston lectures globally to professional organizations, conferences, universities, medical institutions, and the community at large and provides virtual consultations. She is best known for integrating metaphor and storytelling into her training as a clinical psychologist to explain the complex issues that underlie disordered eating behavior and other struggles with eating and body image. You can find Dr. Anita at https://dranitajohnston.com/ This episode is sponsored by Big Heart Tea! My favorite certified organic tea with direct-trade ingredients, wrapped in packaging made from plants (not plastics), and produced with the utmost regard for the farmers who grow it. I love Big Heart Tea because their company is female-founded, intentionally-sourced, and mission-driven which you can really taste with every sip. I’m currently drinking their Cup of Love tea and I also love their herbal blends for the afternoons. Stock up on your own tea by going to [bighearttea.com](http://bighearttea.com/) and use code MARY20 for a discount! If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @dranitajohnston

Mary’s HUSBAND is joining us for a special podcast episode sharing aaalllll the details of their wedding + how it feels to be married! You’ll hear about… - a fight they had during the early stages of wedding planning - feelings before, during, and after the big day - their favorite and funniest moments of the wedding - how they approached friends, family, and finances - what their backyard wedding looked like - advice to couples considering having a wedding - thoughts on pre-nups and what it means to be married Remember: most people want to have a wedding, but aren’t clear on what marriage looks like. Make sure you and your partner are on the same page before going into a life-long commitment. And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast Mentioned In This Episode... The Art of Gathering (Book): https://amzn.to/3MCKHfE 101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged (Book): https://amzn.to/3mn2IUG Mary’s Wedding Planning Notion Template: https://www.notion.so/maryscupoftea/Wedding-Planning-Template-f5c3e7b8d4d746ccabac42babc334669?pvs=4

Have you ever felt like making friends as an adult nearly impossible?! Like WHERE do you find like-minded people and HOW do you go from strangers to besties? In this episode, Mary shares her advice for making new friendships and strengthening your existing ones. You will learn... - the mindset and energy you MUST embody to make new friends - WHERE to find potential friends (the answer might surprise you!) - how to talk to people without being awkward Remember: people can and will surprise you once you open your heart to genuine connection. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s two books on self-love: 1. *The Gift of Self-Love*: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 2. *100 Days of Self-Love:* [maryscupoftea.com/journal](http://maryscupoftea.com/journal). This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

A lot of people (wrongly) believe that asking for help means that you‘ve somehow failed... Like if you can‘t do everything on your own then you‘re somehow not good enough. But the truth is, you don‘t have to do everything yourself. It is strong and brave and worthwhile to ask people to support you. In this episode, will Mary talks about... - how asking for help creates opportunities for both you and others - why asking for help strengthens relationships - mindset shifts to make that will help you feel more empowered Remember: A strong independent woman is not someone who never asks for help. Strong people are those who are brave enough to know that just because they *can* do it themselves doesn‘t mean they should. If you enjoyed this episode, please send it to a friend! And we would greatly appreciate it if you could take 60 seconds to review the show on Apple Podcasts. My way of asking you for help. :-) And make sure to get Mary‘s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!

CONTENT WARNING: this is an episode about pregnancy loss, chronic pain, and the grief that comes with feeling like your body has betrayed you. Ashley Lemieux joins us to share her personal experience with pregnancy loss, a near death health emergency, and crawling her way through grief. This episode is a giant permission slip to let yourself feel your pain, to acknowledge your grief for what it is: maybe the worst thing that’s ever happened to you. You will also receive encouragement and tools for finding your light in the dark. You will learn... - how men and women grieve differently and the toll it can take on a marriage - why so many of us feel GUILT in the grieving process - how to begin to heal after a tragic loss - ways to feel safe in your body after chronic pain Ashley Lemieux is a best-selling author, speaker, and content creator whose mission is to help you triumph through challenging times. She holds a Masters in Mental Wellness and Grief, has written 2 books including Born to Shine and I Am Here, and hosts a podcast called Healing Her. Everything Ashley shares will help you feel less alone and more empowered, especially during life’s inevitable lows. Remember: your pain is as bad as it feels. Follow Ashley on Instagram: @ashleyklemeiux Get Ashley’s book, I Am Here: And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @ashleyklemieux

Mary shares a 3-part journaling prompt that can help you gain deeper self-awareness regarding your true needs and desires. Use this simple, practical prompt anytime to connect with different aspects of yourself. You will learn how to... Tap into a reliable source of personal insight Clear your mental chatter to understand what you really want Access your heartfelt, soul-centered intuitive guidance Remember: ”To hear your heart, you need time, stillness, silence, play, and surrender.” Make sure to get Mary’s books 2 on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 150 with Dr. Anita Johnston: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marys-cup-of-tea-the-self-love-podcast-for-women/id1495128359?i=1000597710471

Confidence is about owning who you are, whether you like how you look or not. Being pretty is not a prerequisite for confidence. Being accomplished is not a prerequisite for confidence. Being perfect is not a prerequisite for confidence. Confidence is a mindset. In this episode Mary explains what a mindset of self-confidence is and 6 traits that can build, strengthen, and display confidence. Here's a sneak peek into the 6 signs of self-confidence: 1. You do not let your _____ ruin your _____ experience. 2. You approach any struggle with ______. 3. You ______ yourself and others. 4. Other people's success ______ you. 5. You don't take things _______. 6. You use your ______. Can you fill in these blanks?? Let us know!! And make sure to get a copy of The Gift of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/book. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. It’s available in stores and online, worldwide!

The reason you feel behind in life is because you’re comparing yourself to others who seem to be ahead of you. When you compare yourself to people who graduated, got jobs, got married, reproduced, bought cars and houses and vacations, not only are you doing a disservice to yourself, but you’re also contributing to the narrative that “success” is measured by external achievements rather than inner fulfillment. Here’s how to stop comparing yourself to others and start accepting that you are exactly where you need to be. Let this episode be a refreshing, encouraging reminder that feeling lost, directionless, or behind in life just means that you are taking the necessary time to pave your own way. Mentioned In This Episode... Get Your Self-Love TEA: https://maryscupoftea.com/tea Ep. #163: Feeling Lost? Listen to this: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6yFlPHOd6psTmAu1iJh97L?si=eUtcRPv3S-CwNULANGmiEw Ep. #180 on Detaching Self-Worth from Productivity: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4tXIGoj9RLZMjob3xbjqsN?si=LwWaB-3STWCe7tl18fPoUQ If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: - The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Cheers to self-love!

Perfectionism shows up in many areas of our lives, but especially when it comes to food and our bodies (i.e. trying to control what we eat and/or what we look like). In this solo episode Mary talks about ways to let go of control and perfectionism and embody surrender and flow instead. In this episode you will learn... - Where perfectionism really comes from, how it operates, and why it leaves us feeling bad - 4 practical ways to practice letting go of control - Self-talk to practice when you feel perfectionism creeping in Remember: anything you can't control is teaching you how to let go.   If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, could you leave a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow!   This episode is brought to you by my favorite books! I would not be the person I am today without the books I’ve read. These are books every woman MUST read so check them out at maryscupoftea.com/books.   FOLLOW MARY ON INSTAGRAM: @maryscupofteaa @maryspodcast @retreatsbymary

Have you ever Googled "self-love affirmations" hoping that they'll help you with self-love, but almost feeling like they... didn't work? Affirmations sounds nice as an Instagram caption or on a Pinterest quote, but they can often leave us feeling like we're soooo far away from our goal. In this episode, Mary explains the psychology behind why affirmations don't work and what you can do instead that will really help you in your self-love journey. Note: if affirmations work for you, then that's great! Do what's best for you. But try this other practice too and see how you feel. :) Episodes Mentioned: Episode #36 with Kara Loewentheil Pre-order The Gift of Self-Love by Mary Jelkovsky here: maryscupoftea.com/book If you enjoy the Mary's Cup of Tea Podcast, could you please leave a review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It helps support the show so much!

The common misconception is that feeling your feelings means sitting, sulking, and staying where you are until you feel good enough to move forward. But there’s a much more effective way to process your feelings. Tune in to learn how + hear how Mary is applying this technique to her own life. Remember: emotions need motion! If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: - *The Gift of Self-Love*: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - *100 Days of Self-Love:* [maryscupoftea.com/journal](http://maryscupoftea.com/journal). This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... [*When God Was a Woman*](https://a.co/d/c9bVe54) by Merlin Stone

In this solo episode Mary addresses 3 common fears (or myths) surrounding weight gain inlcuding: "Gaining weight is unhealthy, and losing weight will make you healthier." "If I gain weight, then I won't be attractive (and no one will like me and I'll die alone)." "Gaining weight means you've 'given up on yourself,' 'let yourself go,' or 'gotten lazy.'" These are not true and in this episode, Mary explains why. Note: in this episode, Mary reads to you directly from her book, The Gift of Self-Love. If you want more tools for body-image healing and confidence building, you can get this self-love workbook on her website or anywhere books are sold.

In this episode Mary is joined by Jasmin Steiner (@marriedmomandmantras) to talk about everything from ego death to marriage and motherhood. Jasmin shares with us how she's dealt with severe PPD, a failing and now healing marriage, a loss of identity and self through motherhood and having had to redefine herself on social media platforms from a body-building fitness girl with low self esteem to the mother of twins that shameless showcases her perfectly imperfect mom-bod. Some takeaways from Jasmin include... - how to experience an ego death and find self-love - how to heal a marriage even when you feel like it's not making you happy - how to be in a good mindset during pregnancy and birth This is a well-ranging conversation that you don't want to miss! Follow Jasmin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriedmomandmantras/

In order to go after our goals and make our dreams come true, we must prioritize stuff that’s important over tasks that feel urgent. Mary will teach you how to use self-love to decipher between urgency and importance. You will learn... - why it’s so hard to motivate yourself - the difference between urgency and importance, and why you must prioritize the latter) - how to replace FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) with JOMO (Joy of Missing Out) Remember: accepting that we are finite creatures with infinite possibilities liberates us to do what we really want to. Love yourself enough to choose the important over the urgent. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... How to Master Your Priorities Medium Article: https://medium.com/swlh/how-to-master-your-priorities-with-the-urgent-important-matrix-a7904de55266 Productivity for Mortals on the Making Sense Podcast: https://www.samharris.org/podcasts/making-sense-episodes/289-time-management-for-mortals

In this personal episode, Mary shares some things she's learned in therapy and how it's helped her overcome childhood traumas. Part of why she started therapy in the first place was to conquer her fear of commitment, especially when it comes to marriage. Mary talks about... - why marriage used to terrify her - how her therapist helped her overcome those fears - other lessons learned in therapy including self-talk, self-trust, and self-empowerment If you want an accessible and affordable way to see a therapist, check out BetterHelp! Full disclosure: I'm an affiliate because I LOVE their platform and have had an incredible experience with my therapist. I wouldn't have been able to do therapy without BetterHelp (especially during the pandemic)! Here's a link to a 2-week free therapy trial: [betterhelp.com/mcot](

If you’re stressed about food during the holiday season, this episode is for you. Mary is joined by Sarah Simpson to talk about how to embody food freedom and self-trust during a time of year when it’s easy to fall back into old habits. You will learn about... - what life is actually like after recovery - the 4 types of hunger - how to trust your body and yourself around food Remember: healing isn’t linear, sometimes it’s a cha-cha: a couple steps back is part of the dance! The holidays can help you learn, grow, and heal in a new way. Sarah is a body image and food freedom coach whose passion for self love and whole-body wellness emerged from her own experiences in the hamster wheel of dieting and weight loss culture. After recovering from her eating disorder and finding her inner confidence, she became a coach. She understands that our relationships with our bodies and food impact every area of our lives, and not enough is done to help us through that. Follow Sarah on Instagram: @sarahinyellow Learn more about Sarah’s holiday masterclass here: https://fabulous-leader-1123.ck.page/8b805bff35 Get Sarah’s Food Mindset e-course: https://sarah-simpson-s-school.teachable.com/p/freedom-university And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @sarahinyellow

In this solo encore episode, Mary shares 5 habits that are good for mental health and personal development AKA habits that might make you a better person! Remember: take what you need and leave what you don‘t! If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: - The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

There’s often a disparity between how men and women make sacrifices for their relationship. In a long-term partnership, it’s normal and necessary to compromise, but how do we ensure that said compromises don’t make us lose important parts of ourselves in the process? Dr. Alexandra Solomon joins us to talk about how to identify, communicate, and retain independent parts of ourselves as we embark on a life journey with someone we love. We talk about… - how to keep the “me” within the “we” - is dating objectively harder now than it was in the past? why or why not? - should we go through our partner’s phones as a way to ensure honesty? Remember: when two individuals form a unit, there are parts of their individuality that may be pushed aside. It’s not always a bad thing as long as we acknowledge each other’s individualities within. Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, phD, is internationally-recognized as one of today’s most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational Self-Awarness has resonated with millions. A couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tool people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and is a licensed clinical pscychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, features high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture. She is the award-winning author of now 3 books: Taking Sexy Back, Loving Bravely, and Love Every Day. Follow Dr. Alexandra on Instagram: @dr.alexandra.solomon Get Dr. Alexandra’s new book, Love Every Day here: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/book/ And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @dr.alexandra.solomon Mentioned In This Episode... Lizzo’s NPR Tiny Desk Concert: https://youtu.be/DFiLdByWIDY?si=KAXcDxpW1aVmA9v2

In this episode, Mary is joined by Rachel Spencer to talk about how building your own business and investing in yourself can help you build confidence and realize how incredibly powerful you are, BEYOND your struggles.   Rachel Spencer is a Business Coach and self-love influencer living in New York City. Her passion is helping boss babes all over the world to master their message, stand out, and become an authority in their niche so that they can stop feeling invisible and sell with ease!   Rachel struggled with self-confidence and self-esteem issues spurned by unrealistic images in the media during her teenage years, and in her 20s, her issues began to affect every area of her life.  In this episode, Rachel talks about how having a business helped her not only heal from her eating disorder, but also build her own confidence and self worth. She shares her tips for starting your own business and how to stop feeling guilty when it comes to money, whether that’s making money or spending money.

As the weather gets warmer, body-image can get harder. You might be thinking, “I’m nervous to be in a swimsuit around all of my friends, showing so much skin makes me feel insecure…” That’s why Mary is sharing 3 reminders for conquering summer body-image struggles: so that you can wear that bikini with less shame and more confidence. Remember: do not let your body-IMAGE influence your life EXPERIENCE, especially this summer. This episode is supported by Big Heart Tea, my favorite certified-organic tea, wrapped in sustainable packaging made from plants (not plastics), and produced with the utmost regard for the farmers who grow it. I love Big Heart Tea because their company is female-founded and mission-driven. Their Farmers Collection is a growing line of intentionally-sourced, direct trade teas, which you can really taste with every sip. I’m currently drinking their signature Cup of Sunshine herbal blend which is great for the afternoon when you don’t want caffeine. Stock up on your own tea by going to [bighearttea.com](http://bighearttea.com/) and use code MARY20 for a discount! If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: - *The Gift of Self-Love*: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - *100 Days of Self-Love:* [maryscupoftea.com/journal](http://maryscupoftea.com/journal). This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Last week, Mary almost applied for a job at Trader Joe’s because she was feeling nervous about her purpose. If you’ve ever questioned your path in life, then this episode is for you. You will learn... - the 2 scenarios that lead to questioning everything - how to create your purpose in a sea of possibilities - 3 questions to ask yourself to gain clarity around your purpose Perhaps it’s unwise to think about the future when there is so much for us to learn in the present… If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... Blog post on Japanese concept of “ikigai”: https://www.brightspacecoaching.com/blog/find-your-purpose

In some ways, women are known as being the connectors, the party hosts, the drivers of relationships. A byproduct of spending centuries constrained to child-rearing and home-making is that many of us have this bio-cultural skill of building community. Why is it then that many of us feel intimidated by other women, lacking in our female friendships, and worrying if our friends truly like us? And as soon as we get over that, finally let someone close to us, they sometimes end up breaking our heart and with it, the friendship. Best friend break-ups involve as much grief as romantic break-ups and yet, we don’t have as many tools to deal with them. Luckily, Danielle Bayard Jackson is here to help us build strong friendships, especially those with fellow women. Danielle Bayard Jackson is a female friendship coach and educator who speaks nationally about the science of women’s platonic connections. She is also the author of the book Fighting for Our Friendships (May 2024). Danielle’s coaching business, Friend Forward, is dedicated to teaching women how to create and maintain better female friendships, and her expertise has been featured in The New York Times, NBC News, Psychology Today, Wall Street Journal, Oprah Magazine, Good Morning America, and a host of other media outlets. A former high school teacher, Danielle now uses her teaching skills and leverages her background to study what the latest research has to say about women’s cooperation, communication, and conflict. You will learn about... - the role jealousy plays in our female friendships - what we should/ should not expect from people in our social circle - the 3 key components to good friendships - how to cope with friendship break-ups Remember: self-love begs us to have a balance between independence and dependence. Follow Danielle on Instagram Learn more about Danielle’s book, podcast, and workshops here: https://www.betterfemalefriendships.com Danielle shares her insight weekly on The Friend Forward Podcast And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @daniellebayardjackson

In this episode, Mary shares with you 5 mantras that have helped to support her through hard times. She also shares some tips to apply these mantras into your own life! You will learn... - What are mantras? And where do they come from - How to work with your mindset to reframe your circumstances - How to manage your energy through choice Remember: Everything is happening for you, not to you. I‘m curious, which one of these affirmations resonated with you the most? Or do you have your own mantra that you love? Let me know by tagging @maryspodcast in your IG stories! And make sure to get Mary‘s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... David and Goliath by Malcolm Gladwell: https://amzn.to/3n3luya

Negative self-talk is a form of lying to yourself. Let’s explore the power of honesty as a gateway to self-love. You will learn how to... - embody a mindset of radical honesty - conquer fears by being truthful - stop absorbing other people’s opinions as facts Remember: You must be real with how you feel so that you can heal. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: - *The Gift of Self-Love*: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - *100 Days of Self-Love:* [maryscupoftea.com/journal](http://maryscupoftea.com/journal). This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

If you Google this topic, you'll find plenty of articles telling you how to check more things off your to-do list or organizing your planner for more productivity, and all types of advice which sure, could be helpful. BUT, they don't address the mindset behind overwhelm and the fact that your long to-do list is not necessarily the source of your overwhelm. Overwhelm is a MINDSET. And if you're stuck in that mindset for too long, then it can be detrimental to your mental health and well-being. In this episode, Mary shares self-talk tools for getting through overwhelm. These are things you can say to yourself when you catch yourself getting overwhelmed. You will learn... - What a mindset of overwhelm is - The difference between thoughts and feelings (and how to use your thoughts to manage your feelings) - Ways to deal with overwhelm from a mindset perspective Remember: a long to-do list can trigger a mindset of overwhelm, but ultimately, you have the power to get out of that mindset by practicing better self-talk. Let us know how you liked this episode by screenshotting and tagging @maryspodcast in your IG stories! If it was helpful to you, maybe it'll be helpful to someone else too! Thank you in advance for listening, sharing, and supporting the show! And make sure to get Mary's book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!

Boyfriend has officially upgraded to fiancé! Mary shares the behind-the-scenes of how he proposed and what her thoughts are on engagements, weddings, and marriages. She also talks about how she’s approaching everything with a feminist mindset. Remember: The most empowering thing you can do for yourself as a feminist is to clearly communicate what is/ isn’t important to you. And as feminists, I don’t think we have any right to judge another woman for her personal choices. Do you agree? Let me know what you think by screenshotting this episode and tagging @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get my book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... Episode #77: Therapy Update + Thoughts on Marriage: https://maryscupoftea.com/77-therapy-update-thoughts-on-marriage/

This week Mary interviews her dear friend Meg Rosko (@nutmegandhoneybee). Over the past two years, Meg has dedicated her life to cultivating purpose and joy through the healing nature of art and community. Meg vulnerably shares how she started tapping into her creativity by baking cookies after her the death of her older brother. That pivotal moment in her life became a catalyst for expressing her grief through art, and more specifically, learning how to transform pain into sweetness. A few years later, Meg realized that she does not need to define herself as just one thing. Meg hopes to inspire YOU to find the comfort in the unknown of your life, the beauty in all of your experiences, and the courage to create a life rooted in love.    Mary and Meg also bond over their struggles with overthinking, perfectionism and people-pleasing and share some tools on how to work through them. This interviews goes many different directions so grab a cup of tea and enjoy the ride!   Books mentioned: The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

Celebrating 200 episodes with sips of tea and a heart full of gratitude. Thank you, my self-lover, for listening to this podcast and giving yourself the gift of self-love. Get my list of 200 Reasons to Choose Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.myflodesk.com/200 From my heart to yours, Mary Mentioned in this episode: - The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. - Hibiscus Heart Tea: maryscupoftea.com/tea

In this episode, Mary interviews the pioneer of self-compassion research: Dr. Kristin Neff. Although our society puts much focus on building self-esteem, Dr. Kristin explains why self-compassion is a much more useful and impactful place to focus on. From soothing symptoms of depression and anxiety to helping us be kinder to others, self-compassion is key to greater well-being, especially for women. Dr. Kristin generously shares tips and tools that will help you be kinder to yourself during difficult times. In addition to writing numerous academic articles and book chapters on self-compassion, Dr. Kristin is author of the book Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. She received her doctorate from UC Berkeley, studying moral development and then did 2 years of postdoctoral study at the University of Denver studying self-concept development. During Kristin’s last year of graduate school she became interested in Buddhism and has been practicing meditation ever since. While doing her post-doctoral work she decided to conduct research on self-compassion – a central construct in Buddhist psychology and one that had not yet been examined empirically until Dr. Kristin created a scale to measure the concept. Dr. Kristin is currently an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. In conjunction with her colleague Dr. Chris Germer, she has developed a training program called Mindful Self-Compassion, which is taught by thousands of teachers worldwide. They co-authored The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook as well as Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program: A Guide for Professionals. If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping bring on more amazing guests like Dr. Kristin to the show! This episode is brought to you by my favorite books! I would not be the person I am today without the books I’ve read. These are books every woman MUST read so check them out at maryscupoftea.com/books.   FOLLOW MARY ON INSTAGRAM: @maryscupofteaa @maryspodcast @retreatsbymary   COME TO A SELF LOVE RETREAT: maryscupoftea.com/self-love-retreats/   JOIN MARY’S ONLINE RETREAT: maryscupoftea.com/beyond-body/

ED recovery and body acceptance influencer Brittani Lancaster joins us for an honest conversation about online dating, working a 9-5 AND being a TikTok influencer, and what life is like as a content creator. Remember: it’s okay to keep your personal passion separate from your intellectual passion. You are a multi-faceted human being. Follow Britt on IG/ TikTok: @brittanilancaster And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @brittanilancaster *On that note, I’m going to take a dramatic sip of tea... Big Heart Tea, that is! My favorite certified organic tea, wrapped in sustainable packaging made from plants (not plastics), and produced with the utmost regard for the farmers who grow it. I love Big Heart Tea because their company is female-founded and mission-driven. Their Farmers Collection is a growing line of intentionally-sourced, direct trade teas, which you can really taste with every sip. I’m currently drinking their signature Cup of Sunshine herbal blend which is great for the afternoon when you don’t want caffeine. Stock up on your own tea by going to [bighearttea.com](http://bighearttea.com/) and use code MARY20 for a discount!*

This was a HARD topic to talk about… no one likes feeling rejected because it threatens our #1 desire as human beings: the need to be accepted for who we are. Here is how to deal with rejection in a self-aware and self-loving way so that hopefully, other people’s opinions don’t stop you from living YOUR life. You will learn about... how to cope with feeling rejected what to do if you’re the one rejecting YOURSELF why people might not like you Remember: REJECTION IS REDIRECTION. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media and feel free to send us a DM!

This one if for those who are going through a breakup or healing from heartbreak of any sort. You will hear from Mary and a few of her friends on what’s helped them heal their hearts after a break-up. Tune in for heartfelt advice, words of encouragement, and a dose of poetry. You will hear from… - Mary (@maryscupofteaa) on leaving someone after experiencing trauma together and heavily relying on each other - Kelly (@_kellyu) on finding your own identity after leaving a toxic relationship - Julia (@fitfatandallthat) on letting yourself grieve the loss of a future - Whitney (@whitneyhansonpoetry) who shares a spoken poem for those who are afraid to love again… Remember: breakups suck, but they’re something to celebrate, too. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Pre-order Mary’s NEW BOOK: 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Pre-order it today to get the audiobook for free by visiting [maryscupoftea.com/journal](http://maryscupoftea.com/journal). Mentioned In This Episode... Excerpt from pg. 94 of [100 Days of Self-Love](https://maryscupoftea.com/100-days-of-self-love) titled “Celebrate Breakups” Excerpt from pg. 170 of [100 Days of Self-Love](https://maryscupoftea.com/100-days-of-self-love) titled “Breakups Are Mirrors” ”home” poetry book by Whitney Hanson: https://amzn.to/3UfIAif

At our previous retreat, there was 1 retreat sister who couldn‘t figure out what she wanted when it came to her relationship. Without sharing details, she was at a crossroad in her life. Usually in this situation, everyone says ”follow your heart! do what makes you happy!” But nobody tells you exactly HOW to do that. Like what is the difference between a gut instinct and irrational fear? How do you know when you‘re listening to your own heart when you‘ve been listening to your parents, your partner, your friends for so long? How is it that some people are so in touch with their heart and soul and higher selves and others are so disconnected and struggle to make decisions, let alone be confident in them? You will learn... Exactly what‘s getting in the way of you following your heart 3 questions to ask yourself when you‘re at a crossroad in life The # 1 thing you MUST do if you want to reconnect to yourself Remember: Following your heart is not equivalent to making perfect decisions all the time. It‘s about what opportunities and adventures and lessons can come from your heart-centered decisions. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast And make sure to get Mary‘s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... Episode #64: Struggling to Make Decisions? Listen to this. Episode #67: Advice for Finding Your Passion + Book Recommendations The Artist‘s Way by Julia Cameron: https://amzn.to/3DpHpoP

I’m out of town for 2 weeks hosting another self-love retreat; this time in southern Portugal with 20 women coming from all over. So in attempts to preserve my energy while still keeping the pod going, I thought it’d be fun to revisit an older episode called “Learning the Difference.” This episode is about DISCERNMENT: the ability to perceive, judge, and understand things in an empathetic, rational, conscientious way. I believe that many things in life lie on a spectrum with nothing being inherently good or inherently bad in all contexts. That’s why it’s important that we have discernment not to judge others, but rather to know the difference for OURSELVES. Discernment is the act of choosing what’s serving you and releasing what’s not, and doing so with self-compassion. Tune in to learn how to discern! You will learn… - how to find balance with food, exercise, work, and other things in your life - an important question to ask yourself to determine if something is serving you or not - advice to help you feel more at peace and content Remember: life is about learning YOUR difference. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: - The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

May is mental health month and MOMS need more mental health support. Today we’re joined by Cameron Rogers, a content creator who openly shares about the ins and outs of motherhood. In this episode, Cameron shares… - why she doesn’t share her kids names and faces online - what postpartum anxiety feels like - how motherhood gave her a new level of self-confidence - advice for new moms Remember: if you’re anxious about becoming a mom, you’re definitely not alone. But just like everything in life, each phase of motherhood is temporary. Founder and Host of the Freckled Foodie & Friends podcast, Cameron Rogers (@cameronoaksrogers) utilizes her unfiltered voice and humor to carve out a safe space on the internet for mothers. Her podcast, produced by Dear Media, has amassed over 2 Million downloads and features genuine sit-down conversations discussing wellness, mental health, motherhood, and pop culture. She passionately sheds light on her experiences with pregnancy, postpartum depression, and the often unspoken or overlooked trials and tribulations of navigating the journey of motherhood. Recently, Cameron has extended her community to a Substack titled Fill Your Cup about how she’s keeping her cup full amidst motherhood. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @cameronoaksrogers

In this week’s episode, Mary discusses the importance of self-trust and how it plays a role in developing a deeper, more authentic relationship with yourself. She shares how trusting yourself means letting go of control over outcomes and embracing the process, especially when things don’t go as planned. Remember: Trust the process, release the result. If you enjoyed this episode, share and tag @maryspodcast on social media! Get Mary’s self-love books: 1. [The Gift of Self-Love](https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love)*,* an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 2. [100 Days of Self-Love](https://maryscupoftea.com/100-days-of-self-love)*,* a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... [Ep. 221: How to Trust Yourself](https://open.spotify.com/episode/2ZV7Smsa4khbP572qbfiX0) [Ep. 212: How to Be Honest with Yourself](https://open.spotify.com/episode/4348mDRgl2GG1aRT43tZUy) [Ep. 81: How to Follow Your Heart](https://open.spotify.com/episode/5OiJtFCJ1obmWsJzpR1bMk)

A short solo episode where Mary shares her #1 tip for feeling confident in yourself while dating. Whether you’re seeing someone or just casually dating, this is the mindset you must adopt to attract good, healthy people in your life. Remember: you are worthy of stable, healthy love. Get Beyond Body for 75% off: https://maryscupoftea.com/bb

In this episode we talk to Victoria Myers (@victoriamyers) about ORTHOREXIA, the unhealthy obsession with healthy eating. You will learn... - what orthorexia is and why it's arguably the most common eating disorder - a simple tip for making sure your healthy habits aren't becoming disordered - how to approach health challenges using gentle nutrition - ways to practice wellness without obsession with kids Victoria Myers is the dietitian and owner of the virtual private practice and online education center Nourishing Minds Nutrition. Victoria and her staff specialize in empowering women to ditch diets, regulate hormones, heal digestion and learn to practice wellness without obsession. She is also the host of the popular intuitive eating and wellness podcast, the Nourishing Women Podcast. Her mission for her community is to help women let go of the unhealthy obsession with eating healthy, make peace with their body and live their lives to the fullest. Find Victoria and her practice online: [Nourishing Minds Nutrition](https://www.nourishingmindsnutrition.com/) [Nourishing Women Podcast](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/nourishing-women-podcast/id1273444999?mt=2) [Victoria Myers Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/victoriamyers_/) [Nourishing Minds Nutrition Instagram](

In this episode, Mary talks about her struggles with... struggle. You will learn about... - finding or having more meaning in our lives - enjoying life without trying to fix everything that is ”wrong with you” - lack of connection making us want to fill a void Remember: You are enough, your life is enough and who you are at your core is totally okay. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! Mary is so excited to announce that her NEW BOOK, 100 Days of Self-Love, is now available for you to pre-order at [maryscupoftea.com/journal](http://maryscupoftea.com/journal) Make sure you pre-order the journal by November 1st so that you can get the audiobook for freeeee! Mentioned In This Episode... Episode #61: Stop Trying to Be Happy (and Do This Instead)

If you are a creative person, this conversation with Katie Dalebout will make you feel seen, heard, and understood. You will learn about... - how Katie’s orthorexia led her to create an extremely popular wellness podcast - the mindset (and fears) of a creative person - helpful tools and resources for writers and artists Remember: creativity comes a lot easier when your nervous system is regulated. Follow Katie on Instagram: @katiedalebout Learn more about Katie’s Creative Clinic here: https://www.katiedalebout.com/creative-clinic Katie Dalebout is a writer who produces and hosts podcasts. Her weekly interview show Let It Out began in 2013 and now has over 400 episodes with nearly 9 million downloads. In 2019 she started producing Spiraling, a mental health show she co-hosts with Serena Wolf. In 2016, she published her first book Let It Out, an interactive book about using writing for emotional wellness. She now teaches writing workshops, consults with individuals and brands on creative strategy, and writes a weekly newsletter. She lives in Los Angeles where she walks like she still lives in New York. And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @katiedalebout Get Mary’s self-love playlist: https://maryscupoftea.com/playlist

A solo episode where Mary talks about an emotion that’s underrated yet magnetic in other people + how you can channel this emotion to lead a more fulfilling life. Mary talks about... - what’s different about this emotion vs. other positive feelings - how experiencing this feeling is also an act of feminism - ways to get out of a funk - how the show Love on the Spectrum is inspiring her If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: - The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Love on the Spectrum: https://www.netflix.com/title/81338328 The Emotion’s Thesaurus: https://amzn.to/3SQfnvA

In this episode Mary is joined by Sierra Schultzzie who asks the question where do you draw your value — your power, your confidence and your worth? Sierra and Mary dive deep into what it means to full embrace who you are and what it means to be authentic. In this episode, Sierra explains how to:   Look at the influences in your life Understand how valuable you are in spite of how you look Understand the influence diet culture has on growing up See what a gift pregnancy is from the body Find balance with productivity and so much more!    Sierra Schultzzie is a social media influencer creating fashion and lifestyle content across multiple digital platforms, with a focus on Youtube and Instagram. She has YouTube Channel with over 1.3 million followers called Sierra Schultzzie and she also has a vlog channel with her husband called “Sierra & Stephen IRL” all of which focus on body positivity, midsize and plus size fashion, try on hauls, brutally honest reviews, recreating celebrity photos, style swaps, relationships, and more!   You can find Sierraon Instragram: @schultzzieand on Tik Tok: @schultzzie   Things Mentioned:   Sierra's video on Styling a Curvy Body: https://youtu.be/C1Rdl30fjOg   Sierra Schultzzie, Carrie Dayton, & Skylar's video on body-image: https://youtu.be/6k9sEglV010   Tiffany Ferg's video on Hustle Culture, Workaholicism, and Toxic Productivity: https://youtu.be/UAwCJAU2tjk   Body Positive Pregnant People to follow: @thebirdspapaya @gracefvictory   How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy by Jenny Odell   If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow!

Women are put into all sorts of boxes i.e. sexist roles and expectations on who we “should” be. Life coach Kara Loewentheil is back to talk some sense into us and teach us how to break these internalized thought patterns. You will learn... - what “thought work” is and how it can help your mindset - how to break out of the “virgin/whore” + “maiden/mother/crone” paradigms - why “positive thinking” usually doesn’t work long-term (and what helps instead) - how our sexist socializations project onto the women around us Toward the end, Kara coaches Mary on some of the conflicting thoughts she’s having about her career. Remember: the only way to stop caring about what other people think about you is to start caring more about what YOU think about you. Kara Loewentheil, J.D. is a Master Certified Life Coach, founder of [The School of New Feminist Thought](https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/), and host of the internationally top-ranked podcast [UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unf-ck-your-brain/id1229434818) (50 million downloads and counting!). Her first book, [*Take Back Your Brain: How A Sexist Society Gets in Your Head – and How to Get It Out*](https://www.takebackyourbrainbook.com/) (Penguin Life May 2024) has been called a “galvanizing debut” by Publisher’s Weekly, chosen as a “must-read” by the Next Big Ideas Book Club for May 2024, and praised by NYT-bestselling authors including Mel Robbins, Elise Loehnen, Dr. Marisa Franco, and Tori Dunlap. A graduate of Yale College and Harvard Law School, Kara did what every Ivy League lawyer should do: Quit a prestigious academic career to become a life coach! Eight years after she stepped down as director of a think tank at Columbia Law School, she has created a multiple-7-figure business, taught millions of women how to identify the ways that sexist socialization impacts their brains, and helped women all over the world rewire their thought patterns to liberate themselves from the inside out. Follow Kara on Instagram: [@karaloewentheil](https://www.instagram.com/karaloewentheil) Get Kara’s book, *Take Back Your Brain* here: https://amzn.to/3Wo3W1g And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @karaloewentheil Mentioned in this episode… Ep. 36: Feminism, Body-Image, and Unfcking Your Brain with Kara Loewentheil: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0mi1O4iimYDJ2oT6PlY0nG?si=6a093c1379304c30

This short solo episode is a message to my fellow perfectionists. If you‘ve ever felt like perfectionism is holding you back, listen to this to break free from that. You will learn a language trick that will help reframe your mindset about being ”perfect” so that you can finally let go of all those toxic pressures and expectations. Remember: perfect doesn‘t exist, so don‘t strive to be perfect. Instead, allow others to be INSPIRED by the way you embrace your imperfections. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast And make sure to get Mary‘s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!

In this episode Mary shares a new way to think about intuitive eating that will hopefully help you find a sense of freedom and peace with food. The words we use MATTER and if you start using this one word, your mindset around food will definitely change for the better. Remember: your relationship with food and your body is a reflection of how you lead your life. Do you want everything to be structured, rigid, and obsessive OR would you prefer a little more freedom, flow, and inner peace? If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!

In this episode, Mary is joined by Imogen Barnes, an Eating Disorder Recovery Advocate. Imogen shares an honest recount of her journey with her own eating disorder and what has helped her in the recovery process. In this episode, you will learn: - How living with an eating disorder creates anxiety around food and other areas of your life. - Imogen's journey with OCD and how it contributed to her eating disorder. - Tips to help with recovery. Things Mentioned: Imogen's IG post: [What if I miss my eating disorder?](https://www.instagram.com/p/CJiWASkJ3-s/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link) Follow Imogen on Instagram: @im_powering If you enjoy the Mary's Cup of Tea Podcast, could you please leave a review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It helps support the show so much!