Marriage and Martinis (Danielle & Adam)

The founders of Grown and Flown took time out of their book tour to talk to Danielle all about raising kids and young adults between the ages of 14 and 25. Danielle asks them how we can gauge when we are giving them too much independence or not enough, how to deal with teens who no longer want to spend time with the family during events and activities, if we should really be driving their forgotten homework and gym clothes to school, how to handle conversations with kids who are unsure about attending college, and so much more. This episode is filled with great strategies to use in order to keep open communication with our kids no matter how old they're getting, and ways to ensure our home is a safe space where they feel they want to be. 

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We're delving deeper into this idea of "the mental load." Darcy Lockman is a psychologist who researched the myth of 50/50 partnerships between moms and dads, and why it's taking so long for us to finally find an equal ground concerning parenting and household responsibilities. What were Darcy's findings? What did the hundreds of couples she interviewed reveal about their situations? How can we bridge this gap so everyone feels some relief concerning responsibilities? Also, Adam weighs in as a husband and a dad who says that while it's tough to sit there and listen to all of this, he understands where it's all coming from, but he has a bunch to say on behalf of men, too.

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Danielle and Adam could have kept talking to Bryde and twelve hours. They had so much to ask them, and the conversation just kept evolving and branching off into so many different directions. They discuss being a poly couple who is very curious, adventurous, and open-minded. What was their journey from monogamy to polyamory? How have they kept their jealousy in check? How has Jeremie's chronic illness affected decisions about their relationship? Why they live in separate houses and what is that like? How did upbringing affect their sexual identities? This conversation is as interesting as it is important, and it will answer a lot of questions many people have concerning some more "unconventional" lifestyles. Check out Bryde and Jeremie on their podcast, "Turn Me On."

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What do Adam and Danielle think each other would want for the holidays? How well do they know one another concerning their wish lists? What are the best gifts they have given one another, and when did they feel unappreciated for a present they worked really hard to acquire and give one another? Plus, what do husbands and wives really want from their spouse for the holidays?

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Gary John Bishop, bestselling author of "Unf*ck Yourself," talks all about his unique philosophy and why we are the only ones standing in the way of us and what we want. What does it mean to be "wise as f*ck?" How did he learn to REALLY love the people in his life unconditionally? What can we do to really start living as our authentic selves?

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Adam and Danielle continue their discussion of effective communication (or lack thereof) in their relationship. Danielle focuses on Adam's lack of communication in the bedroom and how learning from the BDSM (Bondage Dominance Sadism and Masochism) community might benefit all couples in more open and honest dialogue concerning sex. Plus, more tips from Esther Perel, and a look towards the future with Adam drinking less and trying to be more involved in family dynamics. 

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Danielle had the incredible pleasure of sitting down with her 15-year-old daughter, Mia, and Mia's hero, Autism advocate and wildly popular influencer, Chloe Hayden. Chloe and Mia talk about their own journeys with getting evaluated for Autism, what a diagnosis means to them, how the neurodivergent community wants to and deserves to be treated, why Autism is actually beautiful and powerful, and so much more. Not only is this conversation completely empowering, but it's informative and will make so many people feel seen and heard. They discuss terms like stimming, masking special interests, and how much information is lacking concerning how Autism affects girls. Share this episode with anyone whom you think would love to hear these young women (and one mom) discuss this topic in a way that is totally empowering.

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It's Adam's turn to choose two movies for Danielle to watch which she would never otherwise see. Of course we all know he chooses at least one sci-fi film (Interstellar) and one war film (Braveheart). Will Danielle understand what's going on in either of them? Find out what she thinks and how she reacts. Spoiler alert: this was recorded after movie swap #1 so Danielle is already a few cocktails deep, and we all know what that means.

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Last weekend Danielle went to see Glennon Doyle live in NYC, and during the show, writer and activist, Glennon, said something that was a gut punch to Danielle. She was talking about how one day when she was in her former marriage, she looked around and said, "Isn't it all supposed to be more beautiful than this." It was this phrase that initiated Danielle's idea for her and Adam to check in with each other about needs they might still have within their relationship. What are they not getting enough of which they still desire? What are they currently kicking butt at in their relationship? How has everything been between them these past few months? John Gottman says that the number one questions spouses need to be asking each more is, "how are you doing?" and that is exactly what Danielle hopes this episode will lead to in more relationships.

In this episode, Danielle discusses why aging makes it even more important for partners to show love to one another.

Adam discusses how he snapped out of being in a bad mood every night after work.

The two debate how important romance is in a relationship even if everything else between the partners is completely fine.

Danielle describes what she and Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman have in common.

Adam talks about needing to take baby steps when getting back to a place they were before.

Danielle reads an excerpt from one of her favorite books, "Love Warrior."

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It's incredible how the roles and careers we choose to partake in as adults turn out to be nothing like we expected, and how little we were warned what is truly involved in life at work and at home. In this episode, Danielle discusses how shocking it is that being a stay-at-home-mom is not at all how she pictured it, and she's constantly feeling like a failure because she's terrible at the aspects of being a "homemaker" that she never thought about. She also discusses how she spent years being a high school teacher, and that job too came with so many unexpected responsibilities that they don't warn you about when getting your degree. Adam discusses the physical aspects of being an adult that are beginning to wear him down, and the shocks of parenting that are still thrown at him all the time. On the other hand, Danielle and Adam talk all about the awesome things involved in being "grown-ups" and how cool it is to have the freedom that comes with getting older. No matter your role or career, if you ever feel like you had no freaking clue what was coming your way, you'll definitely want to listen to this episode.

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Paige and Catherine are founders and directors of the incredible Motherhood Center in New York City. They are ensuring that pregnant women, new moms, and their partners have plenty of support, therapy and guidance while facing difficult times with anxiety and all mood disorders. Together with Danielle and Adam, they discuss why moms should not feel guilty about not feeling a "motherly instinct," how much more common anxiety is in new dads than is oftentimes discussed, Danielle's story with PPD and how everything might have been different if The Motherhood Center had existed back when she was a new mom. Right now, so many of us are feeling anxious, and just hearing Paige and Catherine's voices and gentle, knowledgable stories will make anyone feel better and more understood. If you are pregnant, a new mom, went through postpartum, or are the partner of anyone going through any of those stages, this is definitely an episode to which you should listen. Send it to friends who might be going through a rough time with anxiety, are new parents, or just want to hear more about what is being done to help women get the attention and professional help they all deserve without shame or embarrassment. 

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Adam & Danielle discuss personal finances with Joel from the How To Money Podcast in this 2nd part episode.

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Danielle and Adam are so excited to bring you this special episode (the first of two parts), with Danielle's parents, who have been married almost 55 years. Starting at the very beginning, they discuss dating in the late 1950s and how much different it was (do they wish Tinder had been around then?). Going steady, "pinning" ceremonies, and getting married while still in college are all things so many couples of today know so little about. Were they worried about Ron possibly getting drafted for Vietnam? Did Linda feel like she put her own life on hold so her husband could become a doctor? How hard was it to have a long distance relationship without cell phones and texting? Plus, did people really wait til marriage to have sex? This conversation covers so much about the 50s, 60s and 70s. Don't forget to check back next Monday when they release Part Two of this fun and insightful discussion, which will cover parenting and growing older together. 

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These days it can be overwhelming to figure out exactly what terms like "self-care" and "wellness" actually mean. Do self-care and health have to align? Has the wellness industry gotten completely out of hand? What are Adam and Danielle's thoughts about incorporating self-care into their everyday lives? What "wellness" products has Danielle bought over the years that Adam has thought were completely ridiculous? This is definitely not your average conversation on these topics, and their opinions probably would not parallel those of most doctors and therapists who discuss forms of self-care and wellness, but it is definitely an honest take on the subject. As confusing as these subjects are, Adam and Danielle are just trying to make sense of it all as regular people who want to live their best life without getting sucked in to the trends and fads that oftentimes sway people into believing there's a "magical" solution to so many of our problems.

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Adam and Danielle discuss the differences and similarities with men and women concerning issues such as weight, height, aging, and plastic surgery. What are men really thinking about women's bodies during sex? What are men self-conscious about? What would Adam and Danielle love to have someone say about them? They explore all of this and more in this completely honest and revealing episode.

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In this follow-up episode with FlirtyGirl, we discuss everything from how to introduce new sexual ideas to a partner who's less adventurous, to what to do if one spouse has a lower libido, to well, just about everything you were too embarrassed to ask but always wanted to know. It's so much fun when Danielle and Adam get together with Brooke and this conversation is no exception. Plus, what do women really want for Valentine's Day?

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Rachel Sobel of the blog Whine and Cheez Its is talking all things co-parenting, blended families, and finding happiness after divorce. What was it like dating again while having a young daughter? What have been the challenges of remarrying and how has she dealt with those hurdles? What advice does she have for others going through a similar situation? How did she know when it was time to end her first marriage and move on? We discuss all this and more in this heartfelt but fun and at times humorous conversation.

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After years of begging Adam to watch certain movies that she loves, Danielle finally convinces him to view two of her choosing. How did he like them? What did he learn about the making of the films? How long can he spend giving a summary of each movie before Danielle totally loses it completely? So many fascinating topics to be discussed, and we even manage to throw in a bit of a discussion about labiaplasty, because we always like to keep things nice and random around here.

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Kids, pets, work, friends, devices, exhaustion: all these distractions make it tough to find time for sex. Danielle and Adam discuss the importance of making sex a priority.

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Amber Leventry identifies as non-binary and uses their platform as a writer and advocate to educate people about the LGBTQ community. They explain why they prefer to be referred to using "they, them" pronouns, how they are adjusting and learning while raising a transgender daughter, and how getting sober helped launch a whole new perspective on life and advocacy. Marriage and Martinis is so grateful that Amber was willing to share with us and our community. Join us in this incredibly important information session concerning all things non-heteronormative.

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It's no secret that Danielle and Adam share a great love of good food, and on this episode they're discussing everything from foods that remind them of their childhoods, to the greatest meals they've shared together, their great love of Anthony Bourdain, foods that are aphrodisiacs, fast food as a form of self-care, and so much more. Also, they discuss what happened one night while dining at one of the best restaurants in the world, that led Danielle to have the idea to start the Marriage and Martinis podcast.

Get ready for more moaning, drooling, and passion than maybe any previous episode topic. Plus, Adam and Danielle answer some audience questions, and respond to someone who asked why the couple hasn't "just gotten divorced already." 

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Danielle and Adam further discuss some issues that arose during the Guilt and Communication episodes, and dive more deeply into the occurrences of the past few years concerning drinking, gambling, and other problematic struggles in their marriage. Plus they discuss and debate what, if any, secrets are acceptable to keep in a marriage and what happens when a spouse finds out about them. How does Adam plan on dealing with honesty going forward, and what will happen if anymore secrets arise in their relationship? 

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*TRIGGER WARNING: Talk of addiction and being the spouse of an addict.

Adam and Danielle have experienced both sides of gambling: the fun, exciting side, when winning is an adrenaline rush and getting caught up in the moment feels incredibly fun and exhilarating. But they've also experienced the much more negative aspects of gambling and what can happen when that feeling becomes an escape that starts to get all too familiar and frequent.

This episode is really two parts: the first part has a lighter, more nostalgic tone, looking back on how growing up an hour from Atlantic City was a big part of their childhood, and how a portion of the beginning of their relationship was rooted in the more glamorous side of casinos and spending money. The second part delves more deeply into the serious side of when gambling becomes an addiction rather than a once-in-a-while activity. The financial ramifications, mistrust, and spiraling out of control are just a few of the harsh realities they were forced to ultimately face and deal with. How did they deal with it? What were the next steps? Listen to the episode to find out how this regular couple dealt with critical circumstances.

If you or someone you know is struggling with addiction, there is absolutely no shame in getting help. 

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Back to school can be such a stressful time for parents and kids when motivation is a struggle and there's enormous pressure in school and extracurriculars. Homework, catching the bus on time, study skills and organization are all things we discuss in this helpful and insightful episode. Fortunately, humans continue developing executive function skills far into their twenties, so there's hope and time for us to keep teaching and building on helpful techniques. This episode is a must listen for anyone who wants to ease the weight of expectations from schools, coaches, and most of all, ourselves.

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Adam and Danielle have certainly dealt with their struggles when it comes to "keeping up with the Joneses," and they have some pretty unique stories to tell about the topic. One situation almost led to Danielle calling it quits in the marriage. Plus, find out something that happened to Adam that he never told anyone other than good friends about before. 

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We are taught from a young age that doing for others is what makes us good, generous people. We are conditioned to say "yes" even when we're faced with something we really don't want to do. Obhave overtaken so many of our lives, that we have run out of time to do the things that truly matter to us. Our dreams and goals have been put on hold. But HOW do we say no? What's holding us back and how can we overcome it? "Recovering People Pleaser," Natalie Lue talks us through why we need to stop associating "saying yes" with "goodness" and "generosity." She also walks us through her famous practice of "unsent letters" and why this is a tool that can cleanse us all from so much of our baggage. If you are looking to lighten your load and reclaim your time and value, then you definitely want to listen to this episode.

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Birth control isn't something often discussed in conversation in adulthood. But it is a topic which so many of us have had so many different, as well as similar experiences: from the first time we saw or bought condoms, to how the pill affects our or our partner's physical and mental well being, to the decision of what birth control to use once in a longterm relationship. In this episode, Danielle and Adam are extremely open (and quite explicit) concerning stories involving birth control (or lack thereof). While this episode is not about the medical and "expert" information concerning different types of contraceptives, it definitely contains a lot of extremely identifiable and real moments which will have many listeners laughing at times, and also nodding at how relatable these stories are. 

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What are the top pet peeves for couples? If you could list your top annoyances about your spouse what would they be? What do you think they would say their greatest frustrations with you are? Danielle and Adam fess up about what drives each of them insane about the other person. (Spoiler alert: they both come out alive).

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When Danielle decided she wanted to surprise Adam by finally attempting to organize their house, she reached out to Neat Method to help her. but she had some stipulations: the people who came to help had to be fun, non-judgmental, and not ask her to hug her clothing to see if she still loves it or wants to donate the item instead. She wound up having such a great time, that she asked the ladies to come back and answer some listener questions all about some simple ways to make our routines easier, stop drowning in laundry, and what really is the right way to store a fitted sheet. What ensued was a really fun conversation with some helpful information for parents everywhere who want to make their lives a little easier each day, and so we can stop drowning in clutter and start being able to breathe in our own homes again.

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Note: This is episode is just two people sitting down to try to get acquainted with kinks and fetishes. This episode will be followed up by several others with experts as well as couples who are already immersed in the kink culture. Adam and Danielle are open about the fact that they sometimes participate in kink-adjacent activities. However, there is a whole world out there about which they know very little and would like to become more comfortable with so that it can be spoken about and experienced without share, guilt, or embarrassment.

• A brief history of kinks
• The differences in the two terms, kinks and fetishes
• What are some things couples can do just to spice things up a bit if they don't want to get too risque
• some kinks or fetishes they would be interested in
• "Hard no's" for both of them
• Why is there so much shame surrounding the topics
• How do we make our partners become confident enough to try new, exciting acts in the bedroom

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Sure, we don't really understand anything about one another, but let's get married and spend the rest of our lives together. Sounds perfectly logical, right? Adam and Danielle discuss everything from a woman's "ugly cry" to men's fascination with big screen televisions in this fun episode. Why are men in the bathroom so long? What's the hardest part about being a man or a woman? Join us and laugh along while we discuss, argue, and keep it real and inappropriate throughout this entire episode. Plus, it's our longest yet, so you know Adam is telling at least two or three of his interesting stories in it.

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Are our expectations for ourselves, our partners, and those around us too high? Are we setting ourselves up for failure? Is social media causing us all to feel we pale by comparison? Adam and Danielle discuss all of this, how their own upbringings has influenced their set of expectations, and what our expectations for our own kids are. Maybe if we can start figuring out a way to appreciate for what we already have and instead of concentrating on what hasn’t happened or gotten done, we would all walk around feeling even a little more satisfied and content. 

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Danielle, Erica, and Jamilah were so happy to be reunited in NYC at the end of March. Even though this convo took place pre-pandemic, this is the type of "girl talk" we all need in our lives right now. These moms talk about EVERYTHING, from growing up with traditional values, to what they each hope their kids look for in a partner, religion, good vs. mediocre sex, and so much more. They don't hold anything back, and what ensues is an incredibly authentic, often hilarious talk about the aspects of life so many of us think about, but hardly ever are given the opportunity to really discuss. If you're missing your best friends right now, this episode is one you will be so happy you downloaded.

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Now, more than ever, our communication skills are critical to helping the people around us who need to be heard and understood. We may not be able to be there physically for one another, but we can still be a huge source of comfort, support, and consistency for those in our life who rely on us. Our kids are used to having several adult influences throughout the day, and now they are basically reliant on us for all their learning and communication needs. Our partners usually leave and have other connections and shoulders on which to lean. We are taking on a new huge role with them, as well (and they are with us). In this episode, "deep listening" expert Oscar Trimboli discusses several useful, simple strategies we can all use on a daily basis to become more effective listeners, and show up for our people in ways we may not have been before. Only about 2% of the population is skilled in listening, and the rest of us think we know what it means to be active listeners, but really, we have very little understanding about its true meaning. Oscar's goal is to turn 100 million people into better listeners. Danielle and Adam were so excited that he agreed to help them and their audience become some of those people. Some topics in this episode include:

How Oscar became so obsessed with listening, and why he thinks it's the key to success in business, at home, and in society.

What are some ways we can better listen to young children?

What are some ways we can work on keeping calm and not jumping in when having a discussion with our spouse?

What is the 125/400 rule and why is it so crucial?

What are the different levels of deep listening?

How do we show up for the people in our lives who are struggling and truly need someone to be there for them as a listening ear?

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In one of their most vulnerable episodes yet, Danielle and Adam discuss a time when Danielle’s OCD was so debilitating that she could not leave the house, make phone calls or hold a job. Unable to understand that was happening, Adam couldn’t give her the help she so desperately needed. The two of them also discuss medication, the complications of being a spouse or being married to a spouse with mental illness, the petrifying aspects of “intrusive thoughts,” and so much more. If you or someone you love suffers from anxiety, you do not want to miss this painstakingly honest episode.

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Adam and Danielle continue their game series as they try to stump one another with facts and lies about science, celebrities, movies, and their own childhoods. Laugh with them throughout this bonus episode as they reveal personal information about their youth, and as Adam cheats his way through the game.

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In theory, the holidays are an amazing time of year and should feel completely magical. In reality, there are a thousand tasks to get done, anxiety levels are heightened, family time can be overwhelming, and it's all expensive AF. Life coach Amy sits down with Adam and Danielle to discuss ways that we can ensure that this year will be more enjoyable for everyone. Being more intentional with our time, remembering acts of self-care, communication with our partner, and seeing the bigger picture are just some of the ways that help lessen the intensity of it all and allow us to focus on the more memorable details. This episode is fun and light, but also definitely covers a lot of topics and gives a ton of useful strategies and ideas. 

Amy, Adam and Danielle each discuss memories of the holidays from childhood.

What are Adam and Danielle doing differently with their kids this year concerning gift giving?

How bad at math is Danielle, really? (It's really bad)

What can spouses do to make each other feel more comfortable while at one another's family's houses for the holidays?

What are some ways we can make parties and gatherings easier for introverts?

How do we figure out how we want to look back on this season and feel about it all?

What steps do we take to get wind up with successful results?

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One of the greatest gifts we can embrace in times like this is the power of humor and how it can physically and mentally calm and soothe us. Laughter has always been a huge part of Danielle and Adam's lives, and while everyone is navigating these unchartered times, the connection we can all still make through comedy and relatability is invaluable. 

In this episode, Danielle and Adam also talk about how the current situation has impacted them personally. What has changed in the past week even since their last episode, and what they are attempting to keep consistent even with this storm swirling all around. 

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The highly anticipated episode in which Adam and Danielle discuss the role of a SAHM and why it's complicated and misunderstood. Danielle attempts to show Adam that he does not completely realize the extent of her role. They discuss everything from maternity/paternity leave to the benefits and complications of having one parent who "doesn't work." Also, the beginning of the episode follows up the Flirty Girl interview in which Adam and Danielle review a product given to them by the sex expert. More episodes about being a SAHM and working mom soon to follow. 

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So many of us are feeling like we have hit the "pandemic wall." We're exhausted, emotionally drained, and we're surrounded by our kids 24/7. Living in sweatpants and never getting a proper date night can definitely take its toll on romance, and at the end of the day, we just want to fall into bed and not be bothered. Sex and intimacy coach Leah Carey helps Danielle and Adam understand what baby steps we can take to bring that connection back, and try to keep the frustration and distance we feel with our partners down to a minimum until life resumes as we once knew it (or as close to that as possible). We discuss how medication, alcohol, job loss, and monetary worries are all affecting people's sex drive. It's definitely normal, and it's happening to more couples than you think. This is definitely one of those very relatable episodes, and as always, Danielle and Adam are completely honest about the state of things and how they might be willing to take steps to change them.

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Adam and Danielle get drunk and don't remember what they talked about...

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What happens when Adam and Danielle explore their different fighting styles and openly discuss how they feel when they argue? Because they both allow themselves to be completely vulnerable and open in this episode, a lot of unexpected turns of events take place, causing for some pure emotional rawness. As always, they keep it authentic and don't pretend that anything in marriage is sugar coated and easy. There's definitely something something very intimate and deep about this episode (while still being humorous) that we really think listeners will appreciate. Buckle up....it's gonna be a bumpy ride.

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 Leah Carey is back by popular demand answering listener questions about dry spells, incompatible sexual preferences between partners, and how to achieve a bit more body confidence in the bedroom. Also, we follow up the “when I’m done I’m done” statement Adam so infamously made in the first sexual communications episode (April 5th). Join us in this fun, important conversation concerning how we can all feel a little more comfortable discussing all things sex related

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What makes a person sexy? How has Danielle and Adam's ideas of sexiness changed over the years? Turn offs? How does body image affect their sexual identity and confidence? This episode covers so many different aspects of sexiness, lust, compliments, and all the things we try to keep going throughout the years of our relationship. Plus, what's the sexiest place Danielle and Adam have ever been, sexiest movie they've ever watched, etc.

Mentions in the episode:

Erika Lust's TED Talk

Marta Meana study of female desire

50 Shades of Grey

Outlander

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The first of many bonus episodes to come in Marriage and Martinis "Game Nights" edition, in which Danielle and Adam take a popular game and personalize it to fit the show. Play along in the car or at home as they hilariously answer questions made up by each other. As always, the banter, language, and humor is off-color, and truths and realness of marriage come through again and again.

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This might be Danielle and Adam's most vulnerable episode yet. What do they both feel guilt about on a daily basis, and what are the more serious issues that they struggle with concerning feelings of shame? Plus, Adam relives a night when he made one of the most horrible and humiliating mistakes in the history of their relationship. If you're a Marriage and Martinis fan, this is an episode you won't want to miss.

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Laura Tremaine is an avid podcaster, writer, and reader, who has spent several years sharing all aspects of herself with her audience. Danielle wanted to sit down with Laura to discuss her new book, "Share Your Stuff, I'll Go First," because they both have similar feelings about putting it all out there in the name of others feeling less alone. This episode is truly "girl talk" at its best. The whole basis of the book is prompts for conversations with friends or other people in your life, and the two of them go deep discussing their childhoods, how they deal with other people judging them for revealing too much information, checking up on past boyfriends on Facebook, and so much more. Grab a cup of coffee and sit down with these two women and get ready to feel like you're talking with two good friends.

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After reading the book, The Polyamorists Next Door, Danielle was so interested in the topic that she asked the author and polyamory expert, Dr. Elisabeth Sheff, to come on the podcast to teach them about a lifestyle which they knew very little. Not to be confused with Polygamy, Polyamory is the act of being open to having more than one consenting relationship, and any gender can partake in having multiple partners. As the book title suggests, Polyamorists truly are living around us, but they are often too frightened to reveal their preferences because of all the stigmas attached to that identity. Dr. Sheff answers Danielle and Adam’s questions concerning how jealousy is dealt with in these relationships, how does one find poly partners, and how Dr. Sheff herself became so fascinated with the community.

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When kids are involved, it's a trip, not a vacation. Find out what Adam and Danielle learned after almost two weeks overseas with their family. Spoiler alert: there's some extra bickering in this episode due to jet lag, exhaustion, and just being really sick of one another after 12 days straight of being together.

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A recent study shows that 86% of us are feeling exhausted and overwhelmed by a this ongoing burden that is now finally being labeled as, "The Mental Load." In honor of Mother's Day, which is quickly approaching, Adam and Danielle sat down with resident Life Coach Amy Alpert to discuss how moms, especially, seem to constantly be weighed down by balancing the schedules, chores, appointments, household duties and emotional burdens that saturate everyday familial life. By opening up a dialogue, breaking down all the moving parts, and "making the invisible visible," we can finally realize what steps we need to be taking to ease some of this burden and share this issue of "the mental load." If you and/or your spouse are suffering from this oftentimes ignored issue, this is definitely an episode you won't want to miss, and hopefully, you will listen to it, together, to get the conversation started.

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This episode is by far one of the most personal and vulnerable of the Marriage and Martinis podcast yet. In this special episode, Adam and Danielle's oldest child, 15-year-old Mia Silverstein comes on to discuss her experience grappling with sexual identity, and what she wants kids and parents everywhere to know about self, family, and social acceptance as someone in the LGBTQ community. What was "coming out" like for her? How has social media both helped and hindered her experience with self-confidence and establishing her identity? Why have movies, TV, and books been such a source of solace and connection for her, and which have had the most impact on her experience? Mia's hope in doing this episode is that people will feel more comfortable and less alone in whatever they are going through concerning sexual identity, and also to help parents everywhere with some tips and advice from the perspective of a teenager who is truly in the thick of growing up. Send this episode to family, friends, or anyone you know who might benefit from some open and honest conversation with someone from the next generation, who also happens to be the generation who just might save the world.

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Adam and Danielle sit down to talk about “goals” with Life Coach Amy Alpert, who also happens to be Danielle’s sister. Is it possible to help the hosts of Marriage and Martinis figure out how to get organized and buckle down to commit to some resolutions for the New Year? It’s definitely not an easy task to give anyone, but Amy is up for the challenge and extremely patient with these two slackers. And if nothing else, they definitely had a lot of fun chatting together.

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Ahhhhh, quarantine. What can Adam and Danielle say about it that hasn't already been said? A lot, actually. The two discuss polls from their instagram community, including questions about sex during quarantine, people's crazy dreams, who is thriving and who is definitely not, and so much more. Where do Danielle and Adam fit in all of these scenarios? Plus, what is Danielle's new Quarantine nickname for Adam, and how are the two getting along being together 24/7? Leave the news and stress of everything going on behind for an hour and listen to a lighter conversation about the world's problems. Just make sure you wash your hands (and probably your soul) afterwards.

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People in Danielle and Adam's life know them to be....how shall we say...."serial movers." They're currently getting ready to move into their sixth home together, and especially during a pandemic, to say this has been stressful is an understatement. People are asking, why the move again? What mistakes have they made that has led to so many relocations? How do they deal with big change and uncertainty? What advice to they have for people going through big readjustments in life? How do they deal with the speculation and judgment from acquaintances who can't wait to find out why they've made this decision. If you're thinking about making hard changes sometime in the near future, this is definitely an episode to which you'll want to listen.

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Danielle and Adam have been co-habitating for almost 20 years. It's no surprise then that there are a bunch of habits they each have that really annoy each other to no end. For the second time on the podcast (the first time was way back on their second episode!) they duke it out about messiness, forgetfulness, dishes, mail, and so many other habits. Do they both come out of the episode alive? Listen to find out.

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What happens when two of the most inappropriate, honest, vulnerable, funny marriage podcasts sit down (virtually) together to talk about literally everything, from getting pregnant as a teenager, to infidelity, to sex (and lack thereof)? One hilarious episode that no one wants to miss. Danielle and Adam had a blast chatting with Sara and Sterling of the podcast and Instagram account Not The Worst Marriage. It helped pass the time during quarantine and provided many much needed belly laughs. Definitely take the time to listen to this raw, so-wrong-it's-almost-right, discussion among good friends as they reveal way more than they probably should.

• What happened with Sara became pregnant while still in high school?
• How did they manage being young parents while going to school and trying to support their new family?
• What led them both to cheat, and how did they come back from it?
• Why is sex such a critical part of their relationship?
• What advice would they give their own kids about choosing a partner?
• What is the greatest hurdle of their marriage?

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How do men and women's ideas of romance differ? Adam and Danielle discuss everything from their romantic fantasies to which movie couples they think represent the ideals of romance, plus so much more. As always they reveal way more than they originally intended, and keep it completely real in a way that is totally relatable. Get ready to laugh your way through another meaningful but hilarious episode.

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Adam and Danielle have had some week, between Adam working 24/7 and the kids being off from school and trapped in the house due to snow. Let's just say there wasn't a ton of prep time for this episode, but sometimes being unprepared can lead to some serious laughs and unplanned hilarity. That is exactly what happens in this episode. Adam and Danielle start off with some innocent conversation about a few recent episodes and some listener's messages and questions. Things go south really fast though when Danielle and Adam have to give each other compliments they've never told one another in the spirit of Valentine's Day. Why did Danielle apologize to Adam? For what sexual act does Danielle say Adam is impressively focused, despite usually having a very short attention span? What compliment is Adam hesitant to give Danielle? Buckle up, because this episode takes all kinds of unforeseen turns and is definitely sprinkled with some unplanned inappropriate commentary.

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TRIGGER WARNINGS: discussions of porn, rough sex, and other sexual acts that might be uncomfortable and/or upsetting for some people.

Sara Rosen, AKA "The Kink Therapist," has made it her mission to create shame-free spaces in which people can openly discuss their kinks, fetishes and fantasies no matter how "taboo" society tells us they are. Danielle and Adam ask Sara all about her journey to becoming a kink therapist, what it is about the topic excites her so much, and why it's so important to discuss kinks and fetishes more frequently and honestly. They also ask her some popular questions from listeners, and reveal their own past experiences in the bedroom when shame played a role. The Kink Therapist reveals the benefits of "Fantasy Disclosure" with your partner, and some kinks and fetishes that are far more common than people might realize.

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If you could go back in time and give your younger self advice, what would you say? Danielle and Adam explore this and how turning 40 and being married for 15 years has affected them.

Movie clips: This Is 40

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After the overwhelming response to their first episode with Jodie Utter from last February, Danielle and Adam finally had the chance to continue their conversation with her. Where is she now in her journey of healing and forgiveness after her husband's infidelity? Is she able to trust again? How does she deal with the inevitable feelings of pain that come flooding back at any given moment? Is self-forgiveness harder than forgiving someone else? What advice does she have for others going through a similar situation? This is a must-listen for anyone who has dealt with any form of betrayal, not just infidelity. Jodie provides us all with a feeling of hope, understanding, acceptance, and peace. She is gentle, incredibly vulnerable, honest, and reveals all in her quest for no one to feel alone during their healing process. It is important to note that listeners definitely should listen to her episode from February, 2019 in order to hear the first part of her story.

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"Women get better with age," is something about which Tova Leigh and Danielle definitely agree. The two sat down in New York City to discuss literally everything, from growing up under the impression that we need to be "good girls," to gaining success in the unlikeliest of ways, to sexual bucket lists. The two mesh so well, as they are both completely open and honest about their struggles and experiences. F*cked at 40 is a book all about empowerment, support, truth, and grow as a woman, and the episode definitely touches on all of those points. Check out Tova Leigh at tovaleigh.com and buy her book, "F*cked at 40" wherever you get your books.

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After going through a reoccurring pattern of Adam becoming distant and seeming aloof, Danielle put an Instagram story out asking if other couples struggle with this, too, and the response was overwhelming. Obviously this is a huge issue for a lot of couples. After 18 years, Danielle finally confronts the issue, and gets an unexpected response concerning why Adam falls into this behavior. They also discuss how much alone time is necessary for spouses to feel a sense of independence, and what activities they wish they could pursue alone if they had more time. As far as parenting is concerned, Danielle expresses her overwhelming sense of feeling bombarded by her younger kids and the need to just not be touched sometimes. Then, Adam and Danielle discuss the issue of how much privacy is appropriate for two of their kids now that they are teens and preteens.

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Danielle and Dr. Traci Baxley have a candid conversation about everything from interracial marriage, to privilege, to how to handle it when people say, "agree to disagree," about social issues and race. Danielle asks how parents can implement teachings and actions to help their kids become better allies and more conscientious human beings. Have we come as far as we think concerning progress, and what do we still need to do? Follow Dr. Baxley on instagram at @socialjusticeparenting and check out her website Social Justice Parenting.

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Although Danielle and Stephanie sat down to discuss their love of teachers back in January, the details they bring up are still very relevant right now.

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Danielle sat down with friend and fellow content creator Linda Fruits to hear all about her recent journey to discovering her true sexual identity. Linda discusses how her Tik Tok "for you" page made her question herself and her sexuality. Finally, should could no longer hide from the reality that she was attracted to women. The next steps? Coming out to her husband, family, friends, and huge social media following. In this episode, she details all of these events, as well as how she and her husband are dealing with everything that has happened in the past few months. She and Danielle discuss, as friends, things they wish they had been told about experimentation and sexuality when they were younger, and what they're hoping to teach their own kids. This episode is filled with so much honesty, and Linda and Danielle both hope that it will help other women live their own truth.

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Vanessa Marin is a sex therapist who is on a mission to help as many women as possible achieve their first orgasm. She also wants it to feel more natural to talk about sex with your partner. Her husband, Xander, is just a "regular dude" who decided to quit his corporate job to join Vanessa in her practice. Together they have helped normalize the conversation about intimacy and help couples feel more comfortable in the bedroom. The two couples chat about everything from why women fake orgasm to dirty talk in the bedroom, to their openness about most likely not wanting to have children, and why it is such an important conversation to keep having.

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Andy Hill was just a regular husband and dad when he started to get really interested in finances and made a commitment to live debt and mortgage free. Fast forward to a few years, when he quit his corporate job and has done what most people think is impossible; made a living as a full time blogger and podcaster helping other people achieve financial freedom just like he and his wife did. Danielle, Adam, and Andy get real about the financial struggles and how insanely expensive it is just to live and raise kids. Danielle and Adam open up about some of their financial missteps and ask Andy what is REALLY involved in being debt and mortgage free: the sacrifices a person has to make, how long it takes, and what small changes we can start making right now that will have a big impact on our future. Adam also asks Andy about cryptocurrency, a topic with which Adam is currently pretty obsessed. Even if you don't consider yourself a financial guru, this episode is well worth listening to and is extremely relatable no matter your level of knowledge about money.

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Original airdate: 07/30/2020. What makes a person sexy? How has Danielle and Adam's ideas of sexiness changed over the years? Turn offs? How does body image affect their sexual identity and confidence? This episode covers so many different aspects of sexiness, lust, compliments, and all the things we try to keep going throughout the years of our relationship. Plus, what's the sexiest place Danielle and Adam have ever been, sexiest movie they've ever watched, etc.

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In this episode ("proud," "congrats," and "family or friends who are like family"), Adam and Danielle discuss the big milestone of their son becoming a Bar Mitzvah, and all the components that go into planning a big celebration like this. The two go into detail all about how religion impacted their upbringing, and which traditions and practices they hope to continue, and which they have decided don't hold much meaning for them. How being a part of the "sandwich generation" is tricky due to the pressure of older generations to uphold parts of religion that might not be as relevant for today's world. Plus, have these parties and celebrations gotten out of hand concerning the cost, time, and effort that go into planning? No matter what religion (or lack thereof) you practice(d), this episode is definitely extremely relatable and offers a lot of insight into how partners can come together to figure out how to blend two different experiences into one successful lifestyle.

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Popular divorce coach Michelle Dempsey-Multack not only survived her own divorce, but figured out how to move on with her life, just like you will, too. Now happily remarried with a blended family, she’s living proof that no matter which “firsts” you might be experiencing as you end your marriage, and no matter how long you stayed with someone who didn’t meet your needs, your best days are ahead. In this episode, Danielle and Michelle discuss everything from, what really stops most women from leaving toxic relationships, what a person needs to do to prepare to leave, co-parenting, and the myths of divorce that need to be cleared up once and for all. Danielle talks about her own near-divorce and why she felt like leaving wasn't an option. Michelle discusses the details of her own divorce and how growing up with a single mother greatly affected her decision to leave and "move on." Even if you're not someone who has ever contemplated starting again, this episode is so filled with perspectives that will help each of us better support someone else we love who may have chosen to leave a relationship.

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Trigger Warning: some discussion of eating and body image issues, porn, and other sexual conversation.

Following the Bar Mitzvah of their middle child, and in the midst of receiving results from their 16-year-old's neuropsychological examination, Adam and Danielle are feeling like they are fully immersed in the world of teenagers and figuring out how to best support and guide them through this uncertain time. The two of them recall their own past as teenagers, and the ways in which they were rebellious, promiscuous, and "tough" in certain ways. What nickname, looking back, would Danielle give herself, what recurring dream did Adam have as a teenager? Who were their role models? What did their parents do really well? What do they wish they had been told/taught that they weren't? Stay tuned for episode two in a few weeks when the two discuss more about parenting teenagers.

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Trigger Warning: some mentions of suicidal thoughts and suicide.

Danielle and Adam continue their conversation about all things teenager related. Danielle gives an update about their daughter Mia and her journey since her ADHD and Autism spectrum diagnosis this past June. Plus, the two discuss how they have worked together to get through this tough time, and what advice they have for other couples going through similar uncharted territory. What do they want their teenagers to understand about the world before they leave the house? What did they not expect about raising teenagers, plus so much more.

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What does intimacy actually mean? Danielle and Adam have a raw conversation about this, concentrating on the times they've felt most intimate in their relationship, and the aspects of life that have made their intimacy feel like it was lacking. Danielle gets real about how her weight gain has affected their intimacy in the past few years, and Adam reveals which body part of his about which he's most insecure. The conversation gets intense, and the two wind up focusing on a topic that they really need to discuss, and which will most likely be very relatable to most couples.

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Liz Earnshaw is the type of relationship expert that concentrates on all of the different, important relationships in our lives, not just the romantic. She has been "obsessed with the idea and inner workings of relationships" since she was a kid. Danielle asks all about the need women have for strong bonds with people other than their romantic partner, and whether or not men innately have that same need. Why do men and women react so differently to emotions, what do we do if we're feeling burdened by fulfilling "all the roles" for our partner, and also, why do our kids need more role models than just their parents? Plus, Liz tells us how she got her husband to do a whole lot more domestic tasks, and how we can, too.

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Danielle and Adam cover everything 2021 related during this episode. How did they feel about the year overall? Why was this Danielle's most difficult year in parenting? What were their favorite moments? TV shows? Movies? Books? And what 2021 trend did Adam and Danielle shockingly both pick as really overrated and needing to end?

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Resolutions are out, intentions are in in 2022. In this fun, first episode in the new year, Adam and Danielle cover a lot, including: a tribute to Betty White, what they definitely want to do better as parents in the coming months, how each of them is making it more difficult to achieve a true sense of peace, who their dream podcast guests would be this year, and so much more. Danielle discusses how she is beginning to embrace the winter more the older she gets, and Adam talks about life goals. This episode truly is a mish mosh of great Adam and Danielle banter. Anyone who loves the "chit chat" will definitely enjoy this episode.

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Danielle has been waiting three years to record an episode all about dogs. Finally, what is the first of what will most likely be a series of three or four episodes, is here. Adam and Danielle discuss their personal experiences with dogs (and other pets) over the years. Danielle discusses her first memory at three years old rescuing her first dog, Adam talks about his parakeet, and the two talk all about getting their first dog together at the age of 23 before they were even engaged. Twenty years later, they have two other dogs, both with unique stories. Hear one of the most incredible aspects of their life so far....the story of Auggie running away and coming back three days later.

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Danielle and Adam have long struggled with the idea of, "The Mental Load," (the division of household and domestic responsibilities) in their marriage, so much so that they thought about separating after an enormous blowout following the recording of episode #56, The Mental Load. Danielle then turned to Eve Rodsky, THE Harvard trained expert of all things "mental load" related, and after following her advice (episode #137), things definitely improved, although there is still much work to be done. Now, Eve Rodsky is taking the next step in her mission, ensuring that women everywhere are finding themselves in a manner that has nothing to do with domestic life OR work, but rather, is rooted in creativity and "flow." How does a busy woman find time for such a passion? Eve is here to tell us, and help us understand why our identity and sense of self is dependent upon us doing so.

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Danielle and Adam are officially well into their forties. Do you think they have reached "Middle Age?" How do they feel about getting older? What are their concerns? What do they love about it? The two have an honest conversation about everything from Menopause, to physical changes, to how they would have thought life would have been different by this age.

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In this comforting and informative episode. the tone and cadence are slower than usual. But that makes sense because it is all about sinking into the powers of rest and retreat, both during the season of Winter, and during the periods of our life when we are forced to "winter," or go into a state of disconnection, shame, and isolation from the world around us. These periods could include a struggle with mental health, the loss of a loved one or job or friendship, infertility or pregnancy loss, a diagnosis, and so much more. Danielle and Amy share their own thoughts about times when they have "wintered," how these periods help us become more compassionate humans, and how cultures around the world celebrate the cold and darkness rather than wish it away. An individual does not have to have read the book Wintering to appreciate this episode. However, it is a fabulous work and we highly recommend it.

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Danielle and Adam have recently had a fight that was bigger than any fight they've had in years. The two discuss what led to this, how they finally dealt with it, and what they hope to do from now on to prevent it from happening again.

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While Danielle and Adam are always open and vulnerable, this episode takes certain things to a new level. What will Danielle not do because she's worried that at 41 years old she'll still disappoint her dad? What sexual position does she despise? What are Adam's serial killer tendencies? Why is he embarrassed about his bathroom habits? They both reveal insecurities that are not easy to admit. If you are easily offended or uncomfortable, this will definitely NOT be the episode for you.

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Danielle sat down with Margaret and Amy from the comedy podcast, "What Fresh Hell." The three moms (who have a combined nine kids), talked about whether or not they are worried that their kids are seeing enough healthy relationships, between the world of social media, at home, and from the people who surround them. They talk about everyone from Taylor Swift, to Harry and Megan, to their own personal marriages and friendships. Plus, what are some of the new euphemisms the kids are using to describe dating? How do we handle fighting in front of our kids? Sometimes you just need to hear moms commiserate about everything from romance to platonic relationships, and this is exactly that conversation. Check out Margaret and Amy on the What Fresh Hell podcast and on instagram.

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In this extremely fun, funny episode, Danielle and Adam sit down with their 16-year-old daughter, Mia, and 13-year-old son, Ean, for the opportunity to ask each other all about what it's like to grow up in Gen Z vs. what it was like to grow up in Gen X. Plus, it's the teens against their "cringeworthy" parents in a "Battle of the Generations." This a great episode to listen to with a teen or tween (warning: there are a few curse words) to ignite your own conversation about generational differences and similarities.

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With the world feeling really heavy right now, Adam and Danielle figured they would do a lighter episode. In honor of awards' season, they talk about their best (and some worst) choices for all kinds of random categories, from movies to vacations to their favorite indulgence. If you're in need of a break from the seriousness of the world right now, this episode is a good place to start.

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One of the most common messages Danielle and Adam receive from listeners is that they and their partner mismatched libidos. Truthfully, 80% of couples experience one partner having a higher libido than the other. We all think that we're the only ones struggling with this, and we tend to take it personally when our partner isn't in the mood as often (or ever). But there are so many misconceptions and myths surrounding sex drives and compatibility. This episode breaks down some of those misconceptions, and sheds light on the issues in Danielle and Adam's own marriage that have led to little or no sex over extended periods of time.

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One of the most popular questions Danielle and Adam get is about how they started couples' counseling, and how and why Adam finally agreed to go to therapy himself. It was a long road before they sought therapy together, something they now wish they had done sooner. In this episode, the two talk about their own history with therapy from childhood until now. Danielle breaks down her OCD treatment, and discusses a time when red flags told her she was not seeing a therapist who really understood what she was going through. Adam talks about why he thinks men are so reluctant to seek therapy. The two also discuss medication, what they've told their kids about therapy, and why their current therapist is such a good fit for them.

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Ty Tashiro is a social scientist and relationship expert whose research and data has been shared all over for its valuable insight about how to find lasting true love. Using his philosophy of "the three wishes," Ty explains why the most commonly sought after traits in a partner often have a very low "return rate" in life. Which traits are undervalued when it comes to dating? How are Disney movies and teen romance series hindering people's perceptions about real, thriving relationships? How come we tend to falter when it comes to sensing whether someone will be a good mate in life? Plus, how can we apply all of these incredible strategies to existing relationships to ensure couples who have been together a long time can also have a "happily ever after."

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It all started with The Hulk and Freddy Krueger, and only escalated from there. In this episode, Danielle and Adam talk all about fears: rational fears, irrational fears, and how their parents' fears impacted them growing up. What fears do they have as parents, for their marriage, and for the future? What does Adam fear most about the Zombie Apocalypse, and what were some of the worst fears Danielle had during her struggle with OCD? Plus, what fears have they gotten over and how did they do it?

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Danielle and Adam loved researching and recording this episode, which feels refreshingly different from most other episodes. The two talk all about their memories of such campaigns as "stranger danger," "D.A.R.E," "Fire Prevention," assemblies, After School Specials, and so much more! If you were a child of the 1970s and 1980s you aren't going to want to miss this fun, interesting and nostalgic discussion!

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Danielle was thrilled to have the chance to talk with esteemed teacher and teaching advocate, Nicholas Ferroni, to ask all the questions so many of us are wondering about the state of education and teaching nowadays. The two discuss:

• Why are so many teachers leaving the profession?
• How can we fix the issues with education and support our teachers and staff more?
• Why he couldn't keep quiet anymore concerning the struggles he and so many others face?
• What would he tell young people who want to have a career in teaching?
• Is he optimistic about the future of education?

And so much more!

After listening, go follow Nicholas Ferroni on Instagram, twitter, and tik tok. Then, go and thank as many teachers as possible and ask how we can best support them.

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Note: This is episode is just two people sitting down to try to get acquainted with kinks and fetishes. This episode will be followed up by several others with experts as well as couples who are already immersed in the kink culture. Adam and Danielle are open about the fact that they sometimes participate in kink-adjacent activities. However, there is a whole world out there about which they know very little and would like to become more comfortable with so that it can be spoken about and experienced without share, guilt, or embarrassment.A brief history of kinks

• The differences in the two terms, kinks and fetishes
• What are some things couples can do just to spice things up a bit if they don't want to get too risque
• some kinks or fetishes they would be interested in
• "Hard no's" for both of them
• Why is there so much shame surrounding the topics
• How do we make our partners become confident enough to try new, exciting acts in the bedroom

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Danielle and Adam discuss the misconceptions about "happiness," why it's a multi-layered emotion. The two contemplate the connection between money and happiness, and if they felt "happier" after winning the jackpot in Las Vegas. When do they feel the greatest sense of happiness, and why is there so much pressure for happiness to be the ultimate goal in life?

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Danielle and her sixteen-year-old daughter, Mia, sit down to talk all about the journey they've been on together for the last couple of years for Mia to get some answers about why she's always felt "different." What made her start wondering about how her brain functions? Why was she worried to tell her mom that she wanted to get evaluated? What was it like to be evaluated and ultimately, diagnosed? Listen to this heartfelt episode to hear all about the this teenager's experience with Autism Spectrum Disorder, ADHD, and an unspecified learning disability.

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In this episode, Danielle sat down with author, journalist, and podcaster Jo Piazza, to talk all about the importance of hard conversations in relationships (romantic and platonic) and why we need to stop avoiding them. The two of them discuss Jo's new book, We Are Not Like Them, which Jo co-wrote with her friend, Christine Pride. The story follows tan interracial friendship which is tested in many ways when one of their husbands (a police officer), shoots a black teenage boy. Danielle asks Jo all about the writing process and how nerve-wracking it must have been to tackle such an intensely polarizing topic. They also discuss why this was such a topic to explore head on no matter how uncomfortable, and how the timing played a huge role. Danielle and Jo also talk about Jo's podcast, Under The Influence, and how Jo is now delving into the complexities of social media and how it affects women especially, and why these platforms are such a mixture of positives and negatives. According to Jo, we need to talk about all of these truths in society, no matter how much it makes us nervous and uncomfortable. You do not need to have read Jo Piazza's books or listened to her podcasts to enjoy this episode. However, after listening, we're pretty sure you'll want to.

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In what has quickly and unexpectedly become one of Adam and Danielle's favorite episodes, the two get to the bottom of why most conversations surrounding death are so serious, and why we should be able celebrate a person's life in the unique, personality-centered ways they deserve. This episode explores the role of Disney movies as a child's first impressions of death, how the couple wants to talk to their own children about the topic, and how Danielle and Adam each feel about "the afterlife." Plus, what characters' deaths have each of them never gotten over, and what do they want done at their own funeral?

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In this episode, Danielle and Adam spend some time catching everyone up on their crazy recent adventures, including new kittens being born in their backyard, and how Danielle had to learn to trap the feral mama cat in order to get her spayed. Plus, what's on their summer bucket list, considering all three kids will be out of the house at the same time for almost three weeks. As always, life is nuts in the Silverstein household, but luckily it also makes for some hilarious conversation.

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