Man Alive (Shana James)

How do you stand strong in your power, truth and desire as men fall from the ranks of super stardom? How can you be seen as the great man you are, rather than a creep or a man who harasses?

This episode not only gives you the tools for a new and powerful paradigm of leadership, it is also a lived experience of us exploring surrendered leadership with each other, as we co-facilitated this conversation.

In times of stress and uncertainty our health becomes more important than ever. 

In this incredibly rare conversation you'll hear from a woman who has expansively opened her heart and sensuality, who wants you to feel more powerful and met by women

Tantra is a powerful and ancient practice that brings consciousness to your life as a whole as well as your sex life. Tantric teachings help you become a better person and a better lover. Learn the gateways to a woman's pleasure and expand your own pleasure and intimacy. 

Your relationship with your mom when you were young impacts how you see the world, relate to people, feel loved, ask for what you want, etc. It's easy to overlook the power of this. Today we help you see how understanding your dynamics with your mom allows you more freedom, better relationships and even more success.

If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

Sometimes the cause of suffering or dissatisfaction is rooted in how meaningfully you spend your time. Today's guest talks about how living purposefully is possible for everyone -- whether you get paid for your purpose or not -- and the connection between purpose and your well-being. 

When we unknowingly fall into gender roles, life can be more stressful and less fulfilling. Today's guest talks about how to move beyond cultural norms to create more freedom and understanding across genders.

If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

Men often want freedom, but it can elude them. Today's guest shows you where to look for freedom, and what makes it more likely for you to have it.

If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

Getting consent not only creates a foundation of respect and deeper intimacy, it allows for more and lasting passion!

Talking about sex as a man, whether in the realm of your desires or health, can be embarrassing or even seem to threaten your manhood. But this leaves many men at risk of everything from an unsatisfying sex to risk of early death. Bryan Stacy's sudden diagnosis changed his life and made him an advocate for helping you feel safe to have conversations about sex.

While I’ve seen men feel more powerful and confident as they embrace “masculine” qualities, I’ve also seen many men suffer and struggle, feeling unmanly or not good enough. This episode explores masculine / feminine dynamics, to see whether and how taking them on can be useful for men. 

If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

Men who identify as "Nice Guys" don't have to live with their desires at arm's length. If you're stuck in Nice Guy patterns, there is hope! In fact, Nice Guys are my favorite, because they have an incredible foundation of care and love. When balanced with sensuality and presence, it is the perfect recipe for personal fulfillment and attracting great women. 

If you’re like many men, you hold back or hide your tears. But doing so can make you feel flat, deadened and disconnected. In today’s episode, Shaun Galanos and I discuss why it benefits you to cry and how it can become safe for you to do so.

If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

Today's Man Alive podcast guest, former NFL athlete Anthony Trucks, helps people make SHIFT happen! He sees possibilities where others see limitations. He boldly and humbly walks his talk. Anthony had an incredibly challenging childhood and has created a 7-figure business, helping people achieve their goals, while continuing to prioritize his kids and having a positive impact on the world.

The roots of success are deeper than most people realize. If you're attempting to be more successful by managing your actions, but haven't looked at who you are and why you do what you do, today's episode with Anthony Trucks is for you. He lays out the path to success and achieving your goals. 

In this conversation we talked about:

• Recognizing who you actually are as the door to success, joy and fulfillment
• What it takes to make consistent and sustainable shifts in your life
• How to up-level your identity, rather than settle for its limitations
• The uniqueness of the SHIFT method's everyday doable actions
• Anthony's personal journey walking his talk and applying the SHIFT Method to parenting 

Connect with Anthony
 
Website: https://anthonytrucks.com/

Connect with Shana James
 

Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

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For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

It can seem like love and power are somehow at odds with each other, especially as a man. But the reality is that you can be both powerful AND loving at the same time. Martin Luther King said it best: "POWER without love is reckless and abusive and LOVE without power is sentimental and anemic."

If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

Most men are taught to wear masks from a young age, to prove their worth through a societal construct of "manliness." These days we can see the pain and isolation this has caused men. Today's guest shows you how to break down these constructs to reclaim yourself and your life. 

This episodes guides you to set yourself up to be found, heard and known when you have a message you want people to hear. 

The Man Alive podcast started seven years ago, and has introduced hundreds of experts and their work to men who want to grow and become healthier. Listen to hear where Man Alive is headed, after this 300th episode.

If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

Being driven can feel like a blessing and a curse. Accomplishments are many, relationships are challenging… Dr. Doug Brackmann reveals how to thrive as a Type A personality. 

When you value what others think of you, more than you value what you want and like, life becomes harder and less enjoyable. Many men experience this with women especially! Instead of feeling stuck and hesitant, you could feel free and relaxed, at ease with women. 

Optimal sexual performance becomes less of a "sure thing" as you age. To make sure you remain sexually healthy and powerful, check out Men's Sexual Health Coach Brian Ayer's wisdom and daily practices.

I have found that consent conversations not only create a foundation of respect and deeper intimacy, but allow for more and lasting passion.

Do you find it challenging to ask for what you want? For many men it's vulnerable to put your needs and desires out there. Cultural norms can make it seem weak or unmanly. Today's Man Alive guest, Marcia Baczynski, and I believe there's nothing further from the truth! This week is a candid conversation in support of men asking for and getting what they want!

What would change if you knew you could calm someone down, anytime there was an escalation of conflict or upset? Today's guest has worked with thousands of people, including those in prisons, and has found a revolutionary way to create more peace and connection, fast. 

It's not easy to bring up struggles, disappointments or frustrations in relationships. But have you noticed that when you don't say anything, resentment can build while spark and trust fades? In today's episode Tony Fonderson and I discuss how to communicate in a way that creates connection rather than breaks it.   

In this episode Alison Armstrong and I discuss how to help women understand your need for sex! Alison is the woman to call when you want to get right to the heart of the matter with useful information on how men and women can better understand each other and get their needs met!

When a relationship falls apart, or a loved one passes away, it is hard to open your heart again. This couple is a hopeful example of finding love after loss and they teach others how to open to love again.

Men are dying younger and living sicker than women, and are more likely to suffer from many physical conditions, including heart disease. We don't want this to be you! Today's guest, Phil Catudal, father, author and trainer to celebrities, teaches you to train and eat for your unique body type. 

If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

Historically, male heroes have been the John Wayne type -- stoic, dominant, emotionless. In the modern age, this type of heroism does not work and often causes men to sacrifice their own well-being. Today's guest shows us what a hero looks like in this day and age.

Mike Robbins has spent 20 years honing in on the pillars of high performing teams. His worldwide speaking gigs and work with leaders at companies like Google, Wells Fargo, Microsoft, Gap, eBay, Schwab are the basis of his new book "We Are All in This Together."

You can lead from any position -- as a CEO, manager or employee. Learn surprising ways to be a more effective leader, rather than unknowingly lose power and respect at work.

Recovering from a near-death experience brings wisdom to those of us living comfortably. It helps us remember what is possible and what really matters. Today's guest, Billy Creutz, talks about how to live every minute to the fullest, since you never know how long you have.

Learning to love without a roadmap makes it incredibly challenging to have a satisfying relationship. Katie Hendricks, along with her husband Gay Hendricks, has been teaching people to give and receive love better for 50 years!

Many people struggle to be happy in romantic relationships these days. Why is this and what can you do about it? Jayson Gaddis joins us with powerful tools to navigate conflict and create a fulfilling and exciting relationship.  

Apologizing can be difficult. This episode is here to help!

Whether you are looking to re-ignite passion in a relationship or start a new one, vulnerability is a cornerstone of being wanted and loved for who you really are. It also means less effort, strategizing or trying to get things right!

In this episode we get real about what has been handed down to men and women that makes life and relationships hard. Rob has a solution for men to be happier, more powerful and have more fulfilling relationships.

Relationships endure breaks in trust - big and small. What does it take for a woman to trust you in the first place, or to rebuild trust when it's broken? Our guest, Ashlynn Mitchell shares what helped her trust again after betrayal. 

The New Macho integrates all parts of men, rather than forcing them into an idealized version of manhood that is isolating, exhausting and unfulfilling to try to live up to.

Good men are being demonized and demoralized by a single and limited definition of manhood that leaves out much of what it is to be a man. Dale Thomas Vaughn and I discuss a path to more freedom, power and pleasure for you. 

Women can be confusing and ask you to act in what seem like contradictory ways, at the same time. Tobin Zivon talks about how to “please” a woman without becoming a “pleaser” – a man who lacks his own boundaries or spine!

While there are many strategies for high performance, today's guest reminds us that no strategy trumps the element of Life Force. Learn from an award winning business consultant to use yours to become more effective, respected, connected and happy.  

• What has created success and happiness in Larry's 24-year relationship with his wife
• How to cultivate patience and the ability to be calm and clear, rather than explode with your kids
• What men can do to shift from complaining and frustration to empowerment and clarity
• How to communicate in a way that allows your spouse and kids to open up and trust you with deeply personal stuff
• Common pitfalls dads stumble into on the parenting journey

• The first thing you can do in the morning to make everything else feel easier
• How to have work-life balance without sacrificing business
• How men asking for help is actually a good thing
• Why no one can actually control you
• The difference between excellence and perfection 
• Taylor's sniper platoon test and the important lessons it revealed

One of the worst moments of a man’s life is hearing “I love you but I’m not in love with you.” Today’s podcast gives you what you need for this moment and to navigate the upheaval of a relationship on the rocks or falling apart. 

Many men don't realize the importance of arousal for a woman's body and psyche. Or they may know about arousal but not understand what to do or how to make it happen. Today's guest, Pamela Madsen gives you the keys to kingdom, or should I say queendom?! She clarifies what it takes and how to have more pleasure for both you and your partner!

Today's podcast is a welcome relief for the days and phases during which we feel defeated or taken down by personal challenges. Today's guest, J.R. Martinez, has overcome immense pain and challenges. He shows us how to adapt and turn struggles into opportunities. 

Most of us never received an education about what it takes to make a mature romantic relationship work, especially how to effectively navigate conflict to feel closer rather than erode trust and intimacy. Here's some of the most important education you never received!

As a result of the cultural norm that says men don't cry and should man up, many men are left struggling and alone with stress and trauma. It is common to be afraid to share what you're going through for fear of being seen as weak or unmanly. Today's guest shares how you can reduce stress and trauma while also feeling more confident, empowered and connected.

Many men experience being vulnerable as a huge risk, especially at work. In this episode we discuss the types of vulnerability that make you more respected and create an effective and enjoyable work environment.

In these challenging times, it's common to feel more vulnerable than ever. If you are like many, men having learned it's not ok to be vulnerable, you may find yourself in a painful bind (especially if you're in containment with your partner!). Today's guest, Susan Campbell has spent 55 years teaching people how to be honest AND stay connected. 

Telling the truth can be one of the hardest things to do, especially when you afraid to lose a relationship, job or something that matters to you. Dr Susan Campbell is a master of truth telling in a way that creates MORE connection and ultimately makes sure you don't lose yourself! 

We can now accomplish more than ever, but we're also more distracted and frazzled by the pace of our work than ever. How do you get your work done and stay on top of your tasks? The Perfect Day Method helps you make small commitments to become less overwhelmed and more productive at work. 

What does it look like to be fully responsible for yourself, including your action and inaction? Are you at all responsible for the shadow of men, even if you haven't acted it out? How can you be a powerful, fulfilled man who courageously stands up for what he believes in? 

In this episode we talk about what Gay calls the Fulfillment Cure -- the root issue that causes couples to suffer and is a huge part of why there is a 50-70% divorce rate these days. Gay teaches couples to have deeply satisfying relationships that last a life-time.

​Effective leadership is no longer an individual endeavor or a solo journey.  Today’s podcast explores how connecting is necessary when you want more success. 

Many men carry a lot of shame about their sexual desires and performance. Dr HazelGrace has created a way for men to find a deeper peace with themselves that makes more love and intimacy possible. 

• How psychological and physical pain manifest and can feed into addictions
• Suggestions for more clarity and relief from pain -- physical and emotional 
• The most important thing to do for yourself as a CEO
• Richard's story of paralysis and his diagnosis
• The device Richard created that took away his nerve pain in three months

What if the management structure most companies use causes preventable bottlenecks and breakdowns? Is it possible to challenge power structures that were put in place hundreds, if not thousands of years, ago? Brian Robertson did and his solution is awe-inspiring.

The amount of wealth and financial confidence a man has often plays a major role in both life and relationship satisfaction. Today's guest shares strategies to give you a less worrisome and more successful financial future. 

You likely didn't receive much guidance or support for anger or irritability and these emotions often increases with age, hormone changes and stress. Jed Diamond, PhD has researched and written books on Irritable Male Syndrome. This powerful information could save your life, relationships and family.

Many men struggle with the balance between caring for others without losing themselves – giving up their own needs and desires. Today’s guest talks about creating a life of generosity and creating value for others!

Mike Robbins has spent 20 years honing in on the pillars of high performing teams. His worldwide speaking gigs and work with leaders at companies like Google, Wells Fargo, Microsoft, Gap, eBay, Schwab are the basis of his new book We Are All in This Together.

If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

One of the worst moments of a man’s life is hearing “I love you but I’m not in love with you.” Today’s podcast gives you what you need for this moment and continuing to navigate the upheaval of a relationship on the rocks or falling apart. 

While it may seem cliche, the reality is that you have one life to live! As you get older, it's important to check in with your goals and visions, to see if you've left anything or any parts of you behind. Life is too short to be defeated or drained, or to feel like a zombie in your work or relationships. If that's happening, it's time for a change!  

Today's Man Alive podcast guest is a truly inspiring man. Dr. Tim Reynolds is not only a medical doctor and director, here is also a professor, a pilot, a world traveler, has been in the military and owns a ranch. He has written about his life and how he empowers himself and others to take control of their lives in his book: Living Every Minute. He writes about the seven pillars of creating a spectacular life, rather than settling or tolerating good enough. 

In today's episode, we discussed:

• The 30 second make-out and other tips to keep passion alive with the same woman for decades
• How to not only raise, but be connected with your children 
• What to do now to create an amazing life, even if you don't know your purpose
• Why adventure is necessary in life, especially for men 
• Tools for being the best husband you can be and inspiring your spouse to be the same

Connect with Dr. Tim Reynolds

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Connect with Shana James

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For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

Many men were not taught how to properly use their masculine power, which is detrimental for them and everyone around them.

Criticism is one of the biggest relationship killers. When one or both people in a couple are critical, intimacy is bound to fade. Today's guest shows you how to turn criticism into connected communication and to revive intimacy when it has faded. 

Episode 200 is an exploration of a decade of lessons I’ve gleaned from getting divorced and starting new relationships. I invited my friend Neil Sattin, host of the Relationship Alive podcast, on to chat about his relationship lessons as well. 

In the 100th episode of Man Alive I celebrate men and share a vision for a world where men are supported and understood in their most vulnerable places. I also talk about the Man Alive podcast origins and where it's headed.

This episode will expand your sense of what is possible and help you see more clearly what's most important and meaningful for you! 

Jamie Wheal has worked with the elite in sports, finance, tech and government. He now brings us the integration of flow states and sex!

Tantra is an ancient teaching that, when explored and brought into one's life and relationships, can energize, enliven, and create a depth of intimacy many people don't even know exists.

If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

Fathers are the most important men in their children’s lives. What a man does with the incredible privilege of fatherhood will shape his children’s beliefs about themselves and largely determine the trajectory of their lives. Here's how to be the best father you can be.

The 4 Noble Truths of Buddhist wisdom have not previously been applied to romantic relationships in such a clear and specific way. Susan Piver's book brings us incredible hope for decreasing suffering in long-term relationships! 

Whether you are looking to re-ignite passion in a relationship or start a new one, vulnerability is a cornerstone of being wanted and loved for who you really are. It also means less effort, strategizing or trying to get things right!

This is a pivotal moment of truth for our species. How can you wake up into responsibility rather than sleepwalk into an apocalypse?

Men sometimes think being good, caring and giving is the path to be happy, loved and fulfilled. But this isn't the whole picture. When men find themselves without the success or intimacy they want it's often that they have Nice Guy Syndrome... 

Many companies are starting to recognize that including "soft skills" in a business context boosts productivity, creativity and loyalty amongst staff and employees. Here's how you can bring your whole self to work. 

Fear is one of the main blocks to having more of what you want in life -- love, success, health, money... When you get free from fear, life becomes more exciting, interesting and connected!  Today's podcast guest, Brian Begin of Fearless Coaching, walks you through how to stop getting stuck in hesitation, paralysis and awkwardness, as you become the boss of your fear!

While break-ups can be incredibly painful they also open a door to deeper understanding, more self-love and the possibility for genuine and honest love.

Intimacy can be scary, as it relies on being vulnerable. It can also be confusing if we don't know how to let down our guard or create the safety needed to reveal our tender parts. But without intimacy, relationships fade and spark fizzles. Zoë Kors has created a map to intimacy that any person can follow and everyone benefit from. Whether you are just discovering intimacy or want to go as deep as possible, this episode is for you. 

The inner critic can take you off your game in business and out of intimacy in relationships. Today's guest has a PhD in management and helps leaders solve seemingly unsolvable problems. Interestingly, his work has led him to specialize in helping people find freedom from their inner critic, while simultaneously awakening to a deeper consciousness!

When a man who has spent 40 years working with men's struggles talks about one of the biggest causes of pain for a man, it's time to listen!

The one-size-fits-all relationship model does not work for everyone these days. Today's episode explores another option!

When you integrate your heart into your sex life, not only does it go from what can feel like "fast food sex" to "gourmet sex," it also becomes connected, healing and transformative. Today's Man Alive podcast guest talks about bringing depth into sex and sensuality.

Do you wake up each morning feeling inspired by your life or has life become more of a drag? Today's guest guides you to be a responsible adult without letting go of your dreams and vitality! 

Did you know that whether you are single or married, dating essentials apply to your relationship? Find out how on today’s Man Alive episode with Dr. Robert Glover.

Midlife dating and relationships have their challenges but they are also an opportunity for incredible connection, healing and passion. This Episode gives you five ways to have better love in midlife.

How can you continue to interact with women in the #Metoo era without fear or needing to make up for things you haven't done? 

With three sex-positive, men-loving women in one place, you'd be crazy not to tune into this conversation! Today we talk about expanding your sex life by drawing on the ancient wisdom of Tantric and Taoist principles. We discuss what's possible for you and a partner, and many ways to make sex more exciting and intimate.

How can heterosexual men develop more meaningful sex and conscious relationships, even when they are hardwired for sex? Today's podcast guest, author of Sexed, talks about how to get beyond conditioning from media, porn, and the sexual industrial complex, so sex can not only be more pleasurable, but also more intimate, and even transformational.

Today's guest is the founder of the Dad Edge community, which has a mission to empower men to create legendary marriages, create epic connections with their kids, master personal finances, optimize health (physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual), and become a leader within their family. 

If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

The topic of being an ally in the workplace doesn't have to be a buzzkill. We are all busy and have many demands on our attention, but your allyship in the workplace is important and not only benefits others, but you as well.