Lessons in Attachment (Carly Ann)
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| 13 Mar 2022 | Lessons in Healing Attachment Wounds with Carly Ann | 00:31:47 | |
Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)
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| 20 Mar 2022 | Lessons in Polyvagal Theory , Becoming Unstuck, & Regulating Your Emotions with Justin Sunseri | 00:49:54 | |
Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)
In this episode we discuss
> Polyvagal theory, what it is, & what how it benefits us to understand this framework > Understanding the biology behind our behaviours and our human experience of feeling stuck in certain states > Justin normalises our experiences of feeling "too much", insecure, and "needy". > We discuss our ability to get stuck in defensive ways of living and how this can impact our ability to choose a safe relationship > We discuss the idea of finding a secure relationship "boring" or "too nice". > Why we can shut down, numb, and detach + what it takes to move back to a state of connection > How to manage difficult feelings in your body such as rejection, loneliness, and sadness
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| 27 Mar 2022 | Lessons in Self-Love & How to Rebuild a Relationship with YOU Sabi Kerr | 00:49:14 | |
Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_) > How to re-build a relationship with your body & sense of self > Self-Love; how to love yourself so deeply and create a life you love > The importance of building a life you love > Top tips if you do not know your passion and/or purpose right now > How to clear blocks, shame, & fears so you can return home to yourself > Practical tools you can use today to stop resisting difficult emotions & start living fully > How to choose vulnerability in life & love
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| 03 Apr 2022 | Lessons in THE Anxious Attachment & Avoidant Attachment Trap/Dance | 00:35:55 | |
Are you currently stuck in an anxious-avoidant dance?
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| 17 Apr 2022 | Lessons in Anxious Attachment & Saving Your Relationship with Natalie Carranceja | 00:45:03 | |
Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)
> Navigating anxiety in a relationship > Tips for communicating when activated > How to handle space & time apart > General shared experience
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| 10 Apr 2022 | Lessons in Divine Love, Healing Trauma bonds, & a Higher Power with Silvana Isaza | 00:50:09 | |
Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)
> Why we prioritse romantic love over self-love > Healing your heart after heartbreak + our views on "healing" > The fear of dating and putting yourself out there (especially when you are happy & single) > Managing the moments when you are triggered and losing yourself in the moment or an argument > What we mean when we say "Trauma Bond" > The role of the Universe and believing in something bigger
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| 24 Apr 2022 | Lessons in Self-Soothing/Regulating Anxious Attachment | 00:25:11 | |
Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)
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| 01 May 2022 | Lessons in Communication, Negative Self-Talk, & the Power of Reflection with the Communication Expert | 00:55:32 | |
Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_) Amira’s also coached young people from a variety of backgrounds that have had some of the hardest introductions to life. She’s provided them with practical tools to set them up for university, motherhood and life’s challenges who have gone on to achieve great things. She now runs her own business working with businesses and clients on a 121 basis to help them communicate with themselves and others to get the best out of their relationships. This in turn enables them to get the promotion they want, the career they dream of, be the business leader they want, the partner they’ve visualised and enhance their relationship with family and friends.
In this episode we discuss: > The fears that are behind our struggles to communicate such as "being too much" or losing this person + how to overcome this and discover your authentic voice. > The impact of our negative internal dialogue on how we talk and communicate > How an insecure attachment style can influence your thoughts, words, and choices when engaging with others > The power of reflection and repair when communication doesn't go to plan > Why it is important to be open about who your partner is/might be
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| 22 May 2022 | Lessons in Why you Attract Emotionally Unavailable & Avoidant Partners | 00:15:25 | |
Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)
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| 30 Oct 2022 | Lessons in Social Pressures, Comparison, & Breaking Up in your 30s with Emma Wilson | 00:53:58 | |
Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_) FREE CURIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered
Emma is the first and only life coach dedicated to helping those who are turning 30 to feel better at this transitional time. After experiencing her own personal turning 30 struggles five years ago, Emma began her mission to help others struggling with the 'thirty pressures', helping her clients to feel more confident and get unstuck in all areas of life from careers, dating, friendships, finances, lifestyle and more.
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| 06 Nov 2022 | Lessons in Dating Each Attachment style (Dependent on your own attachment style). | 00:25:36 | |
Ever wondered what it's like to date someone anxious when the other person is avoidant? Or what it's like to date an avoidant when the other is secure? What about avoidant and avoidant? FREE CURIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered
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| 13 Nov 2022 | Lessons in Attachment Healing & How to Self-Soothe with Elizabeth Gillette | 00:56:17 | |
In conversation with TWO attachment experts. If you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style, this episode is definitely what you are looking for. In this episode of Lessons in Love, we dive deep into Attachment and I ask some of the most asked questions on this topic. FREE CURIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered
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| 20 Nov 2022 | Lessons in When Anxious Attachment System is Activated (Three Reminders You Need) | 00:10:11 | |
Do you have an anxious attachment? If so it's possible when you are triggered, it is hard to remember everything you have been learning. It is a common theme that all your self-soothing tools & knowledge flee your mind. In this episode, Carly Ann offers three KEY reminders that you need to write down for next time you are activated & losing yourself.
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? You can work with my on a 1:1 basis (on zoom) or you can join the Attachment Recovery Gym (an online membership for people doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming secure).
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| 27 Nov 2022 | Lessons in Regulating Intense Emotions & How to Choose which Tools to Use | 00:58:32 | |
Do you ever feel so overwhelmed and highjacked by your feelings? Despite this you are still over giving, burning out, and just trying to keep up.
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? You can work with my on a 1:1 basis (on zoom) or you can join the Attachment Recovery Gym (an online membership for people doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming secure).
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| 05 Dec 2022 | Lessons in Honest Ways We Can Trigger People with Avoidant Attachment | 00:11:43 | |
In this episode, Carly Ann shares four common triggers for avoidant attachment. These are 4 honest ways we might trigger someone with a primarily dismissive avoidant attachment style.
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? You can work with my on a 1:1 basis (on zoom) or you can join the Attachment Recovery Gym (an online membership for people doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming secure).
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| 11 Dec 2022 | Lessons in Living with Purpose, & Cultivating Your Own Happiness Beyond Relationships with Fiona Moss | 00:50:08 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Do you ever lose yourself in love? When you are so focused on relationships or other people's needs, it often means you neglect your own Self - your dreams, your purpose, your passion. This episode fully supports the idea that being yourself will have a positive influence on your relationship and who you attract into your life (not sure you agree? Have a listen)
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? You can work with my on a 1:1 basis (on zoom) or you can join the Attachment Recovery Gym (an online membership for people doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming secure).
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| 25 Dec 2022 | Free Meditation + Somatic Practice + Intuitive Movement to Boost & Shift your Energy | 00:10:47 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style?
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? You can work with my on a 1:1 basis (on zoom) or you can join the Attachment Recovery Gym (an online membership for people doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming secure).
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| 01 Jan 2023 | Lessons in Why You Lose Yourself in Love (+ Top Tip on How to Stop) | 00:14:59 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style?
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? You can work with my on a 1:1 basis (on zoom) or you can join the Attachment Recovery Gym (an online membership for people doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming secure).
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| 08 Jan 2023 | Lessons in Abandonment Wounds | 8 Signs | 00:18:02 | |
Are you wondering about abandonment wounds? Perhaps you are aware of anxious and/or avoidant attachment tendencies and need more clarity around your own fear of abandonment, rejection, and being left. In this episode, Carly Ann (Somatic Attachment Coach) shares 8 signs you may have abandonment wounds, plus there is a special commitment to help you begin a process of breaking free from your abandonment wounds.
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? You can work with my on a 1:1 basis (on zoom) or you can join the Attachment Recovery Gym (an online membership for people doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming secure).
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| 15 Jan 2023 | 49. Lessons in Attachment Styles & Actionable Steps for Healing Insecure Attachment Wounds with Jessica Da Silva | 00:50:21 | |
Are you wondering about Attachment Styles? Perhaps you are aware of anxious and/or avoidant attachment tendencies and need more clarity around your own patterns.
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? You can work with my on a 1:1 basis (on zoom) or you can join the Attachment Recovery Gym (an online membership for people doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming secure).
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| 22 Jan 2023 | Lessons in Why You Can't Heal Attachment Wounds | 00:10:55 | |
Do you have any anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Lessons in Love brings you Carly Ann's and other people's inspiring stories to support you on your own journey of healing and change. If you are doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming more secure, you are in the right place.
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| 05 Feb 2023 | Lessons in Letting Go of When you are obsessing and overthinking what could/shoula/woulda happened (6 Steps to moving on) | 00:15:03 | |
Do you have an anxious preoccupied or fearful avoidant attachment style? If so, it's likely you know what it feels like to obsess over the past, wish you could change how things went, change someone's mind, or fix things.
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? You can work with my on a 1:1 basis (on zoom) or you can join the Attachment Recovery Gym (an online membership for people doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming secure).
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| 12 Feb 2023 | Healing Attachment Wounds? Stop Making THIS Mistake (plus more support from Carly Ann) | 00:09:20 | |
Do you have an insecure anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If so it is possible you are dedicated to healing the past and becoming more secure. In this episode, Carly Ann (Somatic Attachment Coach) is sharing a habit that could be holding you back on your healing journey. Plus, in this video you will receive some ideas about where you can learn more to help you break free.
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? You can work with my on a 1:1 basis (on zoom) or you can join the Attachment Recovery Gym (an online membership for people doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming secure).
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| 19 Feb 2023 | Lessons in How To STOP Comparing New People to Your Ex | 00:12:22 | |
Are you trying to date again but keep comparing everyone to that ONE person from the past? I see this happen especially if you have an insecure attachment style (anxious and/or avoidant attachment). It can really frustrating because you want to move on but each new date feels like a waste of time when you keep comparing to the other person.
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? You can work with my on a 1:1 basis (on zoom) or you can join the Attachment Recovery Gym (an online membership for people doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming secure).
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| 26 Feb 2023 | Lessons in Coming Back to Love when you Feel Your Insecure Attachment is Activated | 00:58:46 | |
In this episode of Lessons in Love, Carly Ann is joined by special guest Rick William. Listen in as we discuss:
Rick William is an EQ mastery coach, entrepreneur and business strategist. Rick supports high performing business owners, artists, investors, coaches and personal brands. After exiting his start up at age 25 that served over 200,000 members, Rick travelled the globe meeting and supporting some of the world’s most influential thought leaders and spiritual teachers who were featured on his hit Youtube Series “Stories That Matter™”. Today Rick has spent over a decade exploring his personal development and spiritual growth and has run online businesses around his passions for nearly two decades (he created his first business when he was 14 years old teaching other teens to play video games at a professional level). Rick always had a passion for transformation. He kept learning and pivoting, and finally realised that his deep love and passion was in service of helping others grow and transform their personal and professional lives. Today Rick helps support many conscious high performers master their internal state so that they can create real freedom in life, relationships and business. Rick is a certified coach and somatic therapist. He uses a multi-modality approach combining the latest in human behavioural psychology, spiritual wisdom and innovative life and business strategies to help his clients get life changing results. He now lives in Costa Rica with his dog Mayu and shares his work worldwide.
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| 05 Mar 2023 | Lessons in: Three Anxious Attachment Thought Traps (you might be falling into!) | 00:11:14 | |
Do you have an anxious attachment style? If yes, it's possible you know all negative and unhelpful thinking patterns. You might find you spiral and worry a lot, but did you know there is a patten to your thoughts? In this video, Carly Ann explain three common thinking patterns experienced by people with an anxious preoccupied attachment style.
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| 12 Mar 2023 | Lessons in: 3 Habits for Developing a Secure Attachment (Overcoming Insecure Attachment) | 00:10:00 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Are you working on healing and becoming more secure? To develop a secure attachment there are certain skills you need to practice. I believe in daily habits. In this episode, Carly Ann shares three habits you need to introduce to your life so that you can become secure. Introducing these habits naturally help you manage insecure attachment.
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| 19 Mar 2023 | Lessons in Anxiously Jumping to Conclusions & How to Stop | 00:08:30 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If yes, it's possible you know all about jumping to conclusions and making assumptions about your date, lover, partner. In this video, Carly Ann gives three tips to help you stop jumping to conclusions Links:
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| 26 Mar 2023 | 58. Lessons in Healing, Attracting, & Committing with Persia Lawson | 01:05:04 | |
In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, Carly Ann is joined by special guest, Persia Lawson. Listen in as they discuss:
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Lessons in Love is the Podcast that helps you break through relationship struggles so many of us face. Using personal experiences and inspiring lessons to show you that you can change and break free from anxious and/or avoidant patterns of Love. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_) Persia Lawson is a dating and relationship coach, 3 x author and speaker, and has been named one of the UK’s most successful love coaches by ‘The Times.’ She hosts a top 5 podcast and her work is regularly featured in Vogue, Cosmopolitan and the BBC. She specialises in getting female leaders true Power Couple relationships that positively impact not only the couple themselves but their loved ones and communities. Her aim is for people to get healthy, exciting, meaningful relationships that are a force for good, not drama. You can purchase her latest book ‘Love is Coming: How to Find Real Love in a Superficial World” at all good bookstores, or at the below Amazon link: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Love-Coming-Find-Superficial-World/dp/1913284255 Music by Atch Other useful links:
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| 02 Apr 2023 | 59: Lessons in: 6 Skills Needed to Overcome Insecure Attachment & Become Secure | 01:13:05 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? In this special episode Carly Ann shares a recent training delivered on how these 6 skills can help you heal attachment wounds and go from insecure to secure in life and love. This can help with dating, relationships, obsessing & overthinking. Other useful links:
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| 09 Apr 2023 | 60: Stop Making THIS Mistake When Healing Attachment Wounds | 00:11:53 | |
So your healing attachment wounds? Are you on a journey of doing the inner work to heal the past and become more secure? In this video, Carly Ann shares a pattern that could be holding you back. Make sure you are not doing this whilst you are healing attachment wounds because it will likely slow you down. Other useful links:
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| 19 Apr 2023 | 61: Lessons in Self Reflection, Overcoming Insecure Attachment (Becoming Secure Part 1) | 00:17:21 | |
Do you have an anxious preoccupied or dismissive avoidant attachment styles? Carly Ann is teaches six skills to help people like you move from insecure attachment to secure. Inside this video, Carly Ann shares the first skill needed to help you develop a secure attachment so that you can have enhance the quality of your relationships with Self & Others. Other useful links:
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| 20 Apr 2023 | 62. Lessons in Emotion Regulation & Attachment (Becoming Secure Part 2) | 00:21:16 | |
Do you have an anxious preoccupied or dismissive avoidant attachment styles? If yes, it's possible you struggle to manage your emotions and struggle with anxiety, depression, jealousy, and even anger. Other useful links:
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| 23 Apr 2023 | 64: GUEST: Lessons in Anxious Attachment (from Understanding to Healing) with Chris Rackliffe | 01:10:05 | |
In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, Carly Ann is joined by Chris Rackcliffe. Listen in as they discuss:
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Lessons in Attachment is the Podcast that helps you break through relationship struggles so many of us face. Using personal experiences and inspiring lessons to show you that you can change and break free from anxious and/or avoidant patterns of Love. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_) Chris Rackliffe is an anxious attachment style coach, mental health advocate and author. His experiences of his parents divorcing, sexual abuse and family addition issues led to his own issues surrounding attachment which set him on a path of self-healing. Now, through his books, talks, and TikTok community of nearly 100,000 people he spreads messages of acceptance, healing and growth, with his sole purpose being to bring people peace, perspective and power through their struggles. His work has been published on Medium, Thrive Global, TIME and beyond. You can purchase his book “It’s Good to See Me Again: How to Find Your Way When You Feel Lost” at all good bookstores, or at the below Amazon link: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Its-Good-See-Me-Again/dp/B08DC69BTN Music by Atch SoundCloud: bit.ly/AtchSoundCloud Spotify: bit.ly/AtchSpotify Other useful links:
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| 21 Apr 2023 | 63: Lessons in Insecure Thoughts Vs Secure Thoughts (Becoming Secure Part 3) | 00:13:47 | |
Do you have an anxious preoccupied or dismissive avoidant attachment styles? If yes, it's possible you think negatively about yourself, relationships, and others. Other useful links:
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| 24 Apr 2023 | 65. Lessons in Parts Work & Healing Attachment (Becoming Secure Part 4) | 00:15:07 | |
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| 26 Apr 2023 | 66. Lessons in why you need this skill if you want to change your attachment style (Becoming Secure: Part 5) | 00:10:50 | |
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| 28 Apr 2023 | 67: Lessons in Losing Yourself in Love: Expanding Your Potential (Becoming Secure: Part 6) | 00:15:55 | |
You want to change your attachment style to feel more secure? This is the 6th skill in the series to help you overcome anxious and/or avoidant attachment. Do you have an anxious preoccupied or dismissive avoidant attachment styles? If yes, it's possible you play small, and now it's time to step into your power! Other useful links:
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| 07 May 2023 | 68. Lessons in should they post you on social media / Are you worried about them not posting you on Instagram? | 00:07:45 | |
Are you wondering if your partner should post you on social media? Is it a red flag if they won't share you to their followers? If you are worried about whether your partner should post you on their instagram, watch this video. You will also see Carly Ann mention it to her partner.
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| 11 May 2023 | 69. Lessons in Why We Need A Community When Healing Attachment Wounds | 00:16:16 | |
Are you actively healing your attachment wounds and looking for ideas on how to enhance your journey and experience more ease/possibility? Carly Ann believes (the right) community is one of the key ingredients needed to reach our goals and heal our past. In this episode Carly Ann shares why this is so important and ideas of how to find your community.
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| 14 May 2023 | 70. Lessons in How To Stop Waiting For Good Things to go Wrong | 00:08:28 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If yes, it's possible you know all about expecting the worst, worrying, and feeling like good things never last. In this episode, Carly Ann gives two tips to help you start enjoying the present moment.
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| 21 May 2023 | 71. Lessons in Feeling Left Behind When Your Friends are in Relationships and You Have an Insecure Attachment | 00:12:53 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If yes, it's possible you know the feeling of being left behind. Perhaps your friends are in relationships, you struggle meet someone, or you can't seem to sustain a relationship. Whatever your pattern, in this episode Carly Ann talks about why this might be and how important it is to heal attachment wounds.
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| 24 May 2023 | 72. 10 Things I Learned Healing Insecure Attachment Wounds | 00:30:58 | |
Your Lessons in Attachment host Carly Ann shares 10 Lessons she has learned in the last 5-6 years of healing insecure attachment wounds. If you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style, this is an episode not to be missed. Carly Ann has been on her own journey to overcome anxious and avoidant attachment patterns & in this episode she is letting you know 10 of the core tips she believes can help on your own journey to becoming secure.
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| 28 May 2023 | 73. GUEST - Lessons in Discovering and Becoming Your Most Authentic Self with Becky Rodrigues | 00:50:13 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If yes, it's possible you might question who you are and find yourself falling into patterns like people pleasing and self-abandonment. In this episode of Lessons in Attachment I am joined by Becky Rodrigues.
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| 11 Jun 2023 | 74. Lessons in Why You Find Affection Irritating and Icky | 00:13:18 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Perhaps you sometimes become annoyed or irritable by affection. Or maybe you even get the ick? In this video, Carly Ann explain what could be happening from an attachment lens Other useful links:
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| 18 Jun 2023 | 75: Lessons in 5 Ideas that Will Support You to Move From Insecure Attachment to Secure | 00:13:08 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Carly Ann teaches six core skills that can help you overcome insecure attachment and move towards a secure attachment. In this episode Carly Ann shares 5 ideas that will help you develop these skills. It just so happens these ideas can also help your well-being and happiness too. Other useful links:
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| 25 Jun 2023 | 77. Lessons in Accidentally Pushing Them Away | 00:13:24 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If yes, it's possible you see your behave in ways that feel self-sabotaging. In this video, Carly Ann shares 3 ways you might be accidentally pushing someone away. Towards the end she offers some support to help you. If you want to move from insecure attachment towards secure attachment, you are in the right place. Other useful links:
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| 21 Jun 2023 | 76. Lessons in The "Good Enough" Relationship (Weekly Mind-Stretch) | 00:06:12 | |
Welcome to your weekly Mind-Strecth! Carly Ann is bringing you new information to stretch your mind and support healthy relationships (with yourself included). This week Carly Ann is discussing an idea called "The Good Enough Relationship". Listen to this if you struggle with expectations and standards. Other useful links:
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| 28 Jun 2023 | 78. Lessons in Using Dating Apps & Goodbye to Situationships? (Weekly Mind-stretch) | 00:05:01 | |
In this week's mind-stretch I'm bringing you updated information on the power of dating apps and how it could be the end of situationships. Carly Ann is reading from an article that shares the top dating trends of 2023 from top relationship experts. Other useful links:
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| 02 Jul 2023 | 79. GUEST: Lessons in Somatic Attachment Therapy and Feeling More Secure in Dating & Relationships (with Keely Antonio) | 00:30:35 | |
Do you have an Insecure Attachment Style? Perhaps you struggle to self-soothe or trust in relationships. In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, I am joined by Keely Antontio.
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| 05 Jul 2023 | 80. This is NECESSARY for Healing Trauma (Weekly Mind-Stretch) | 00:05:40 | |
When you are healing trauma and attachment trauma, there are certain guidelines to follow for self-help & coaching/therapy to make work. This week Carly Ann shares valuable information that will support your attachment healing journey. Without this, you are likely feeling big emotion and re-living the past, without changing your present & future. Listen to this if you are actively healing relationship wounds. Other useful links:
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| 09 Jul 2023 | 81. Lessons in How to Stop Obsessing and Overthinking Part 2 (Four Tips) | 00:12:07 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoid attachment style? If so it is possible you find yourself overthinking and ruminating (especially over a crush or ex). In today’s episode of Lessons in Attachment, I am talking you through that agonising experience of mentally obsessing over a crush, an ex, or a love interest! Other useful links:
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| 13 Jul 2023 | 82. Lessons In Finding the Joy in Being Single (Weekly Mind-Stretch) | 00:07:19 | |
Are you wanting to find more joy in being single? Perhaps you feels sad and find yourself longing for "the one"? Or perhaps feeling left behind and in comparison? Whatever the deal... you KNOW you want to experience joy. This week's mind-stretch is bringing you a top tip from Catherine Gray in her book "The Unexpected Joy of Being Single" Other useful links:
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| 16 Jul 2023 | 83. Lessons in "Going Inwards" for Healing Attachment (What does it Mean & Some Tips) | 00:10:56 | |
Do you have an anxious/and or avoidant attachment style? If yes, it is possible you have heard the term "going inwards". It is often a tip we are given yet it is a skill we lack. That's why in this week's episode Carly Ann begins to describe what it means to go inwards when you are on a healing journey. Other useful links:
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| 19 Jul 2023 | 84. Triggered? Add this Self-Soothing Technique to Your Toolbox (Weekly Mind-Stretch) | 00:09:31 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If so, it's likely you are on a journey to teach yourself how to regulate and soothe your emotions. In this week's episode, Carly Ann brings you a technique to support you to activate your soothing system. You can add this to your tool-box and share with us what you choose :) Other useful links:
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| 23 Jul 2023 | 85. Lessons in: 5 Tips for Anxious Attachment (including when you're anxiously waiting for texts) | 00:07:58 | |
Do you have an anxious attachment style? In this video, Carly Ann is giving five tips to support you with your anxious attachment. These tips have the potential to help you self-soothe and reduce the anxiety overall. Other useful links:
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| 30 Jul 2023 | 86. Lessons in When it Feels Like You're Back at Square One & Healing isn't Working | 00:09:44 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style that you are active working on to heal? It is possible you repeat patterns/habits and feel like you are back at square one. When it feels like you have taken steps back it can be so disheartening on your healing journey. In this episode, Carly Ann discusses how you can navigate the times when it feels like healing is not working. If you are currently worried about being stuck, list to this today. Episode that I said I will link- It's episode 60, Listen HERE or wherever you get your podcasts Other useful links:
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| 06 Aug 2023 | 87. GUEST: Finding Joy, Becoming Unstuck, and Expanding Your Potential (with Alexandria Maria) | 00:48:32 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If yes, it's possible you might find yourself feeling like you lose yourself. Alexandria is a Business Amplifier, Manifestation Queen + International Speaker. Alexandria supports you as a high level leader + trailblazer to step into your limitless potential, maximising your wealth, freedom, happiness and success, by doing things your own way.
Find Alexandria: https://alexandriamaria.co.uk/ Other useful links:
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| 13 Aug 2023 | 88. Lessons in "Unmerging" When Your Anxious Attachment is Triggered | 00:11:36 | |
Do you have an anxious attachment style? If yes, it is likely that you "merge" with your feelings and thoughts when your anxious attachment becomes triggered. In this context, "unmerging" means to come home to yourself and not identify so much with the anxiety. During this episode, Carly Ann shares tips on how you can aim to unmerge when you become triggered. Other useful links:
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| 16 Aug 2023 | 89. Lessons in New Habits & Creating Change in Your Life (Weekly Mind-Stretch) | 00:04:48 | |
Are you determined to break old attachment habits and adopt new healthy habits? Other useful links:
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| 23 Aug 2023 | 91. Lessons in When They Are Not Planning Dates Quick Enough (Weekly Mind-Stretch) | 00:06:38 | |
Do you worry that the next date is not planned? Does your anxious attachment trigger you into believing the plans are EVERYTHING. Perhaps modern dating tells you not to be too available. In this episode of Lessons in Attachment Carly Ann discusses something that might be more important than how quickly the plans are made and the date is in the diary. What do you think? Other useful links:
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| 30 Aug 2023 | 93. How to Create Transformation & Change in Your Life and Relationships (Weekly Mind-Stretch) | 00:06:40 | |
Are you on a mission to change your life? In this case, your attachment habits? Many people talk about knowing information but struggling to create lasting change in their life. In this episode Carly Ann shares some valuable information from one of her inspirations. Other useful links:
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| 06 Sep 2023 | 95. Lessons in a VERY Important Tool for Healing Attachment Trauma & Finding Security Attractive (Weekly Mind-Stretch) | 00:05:03 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? In this episode Carly Ann is sharing an important tool to support healing and secure attachment. If you are always in a state of stress, worry, or shut down please listen to this one. This tool will also help you in your attraction to secure people too! Other useful links:
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| 27 Aug 2023 | 92. Lessons in Navigating Self-Soothing Challenges: When it feels like nothing is working | 00:10:52 | |
Do you haver an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Other useful links:
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| 03 Sep 2023 | 94. Lessons in The Stages of Healing Attachment Wounds | 00:29:40 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment? Join Carly Ann as we navigate through the stages of healing, unraveling the intricate layers of growth and self-discovery. From the initial spark of self-awareness to the triumphant emergence of your secure attachment, we'll guide you through each phase. But that's not all - We'll also shed light on the main challenges that often arise during this journey, whether it's confronting past traumas, battling self-doubt, or breaking free from limiting beliefs, Other useful links:
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| 10 Sep 2023 | 96. Lessons in Unlocking Your Potential: Breaking Free from Limiting Attachment Styles | 00:33:48 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Do you ever wonder why certain patterns of behavior seem to repeat in your relationships or why you might feel anxious or avoidant in certain situations? In this episode, we're facing off attachment styles and discussing how they might be the hidden force holding you back from reaching your full potential. Other useful links:
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| 13 Sep 2023 | 97. Lessons in Positive Psychology & Healing Insecure Attachment | 00:09:39 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? In this episode we are looking into the power of Positive Psychology and how it can serve as a potent tool in your journey towards healing insecure attachment and becoming more resilient. We will touch on how the science of Positive Psychology, with its emphasis on strengths, well-being, and personal flourishing, can guide you on a path to healing and secure attachments. Other useful links:
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| 17 Sep 2023 | 98. Lessons in Healing Your Heart after Heartbreak (with Insecure Attachment) | 00:23:50 | |
Heartbreak can impact you different when you have an insecure attachment style. In this episode Carly Ann is speaking directly to those of you that are experiencing heartbreak, especially if you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style.
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| 20 Sep 2023 | 99. Lessons in Getting Stuck in Moods (3 Nervous System States) | 00:17:58 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If you have an insecure attachment style, it is possible you get stuck in certain states (e.g. panic, low mood). In this episode, Carly Ann discusses the 3 nervous system states. This is the start of a conversation and took place live on instagram. Other useful links:
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| 24 Sep 2023 | 100. Lessons in a Model on Mastering Your Attachment Skills | 00:25:04 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If so, you might find you struggle to make change and see yourself repeating habits. In this episode, Carly Ann shares a psychological model that can explain how we move through change and learn new skills such as self-soothing and becoming more secure. Other useful links:
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| 27 Sep 2023 | 101. Healing Attachment Meditation | Self-Soothing | 00:08:33 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? For the first time ever, Carly Ann is sharing a meditation on the podcast. If you have an insecure attachment styles, this is great for self-soothing, building trust, and healing (over time). If you would like more meditations, please review and let us know! Other useful links:
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| 01 Oct 2023 | 102. Lessons in Challenging & Overcoming Your Assumptions | 00:27:29 | |
Do you have an insecure attachment style? Do you ever make assumptions about your date, partner, or yourself? In this episode Carly Ann discusses the role of assumptions and their impact on people with insecure attachments. Join us as we explore the unexamined beliefs that often drive these assumptions, leading to emotional turmoil and strained relationships. Through a compassionate lens, we include the complexities of attachment insecurity and offer three tips to help you break free from making too many assumptions. Other useful links:
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| 08 Oct 2023 | 103. Lessons in How Avoidant Attachment Respond to Breakups & Heartbreak | 00:16:38 | |
In this episode, Carly Ann discusses how people with avoidant attachment may respond to break-ups and heartbreak. Other useful links:
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| 15 Oct 2023 | 104. Lessons in No Goodbyes - How to Move on Without Closure | 00:26:56 | |
Are you wondering how to let go and move on without closure? In a world where endings often leave us seeking closure, this episode with Carly Ann invites you to consider moving forward without closure.
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| 22 Oct 2023 | 105. Lessons in Self-Soothing: Evidence Based Interventions for When You're Triggered | 00:25:24 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? IIf so, it's possible you struggle to regulate and soothe your emotions when triggered. In this episode we deep dice into self-soothing, looking at our attachment styles and our emotional reactions. If you've ever struggled with self-soothing and find yourself becoming overly reactive when your attachment is triggered, this episode is a must-listen.
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| 25 Oct 2023 | 106. The Self-Soothing Series: Have you Heard? | 00:14:56 | |
"What should I do if self-soothing techniques don't seem to work for me, or if I find them difficult to use in the moment?" This series offers a structured self-soothing plan that is designed to help you heal old patterns and triggers. INCLUDES:
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| 29 Oct 2023 | 107. Lessons in Jealousy: Listen if You Struggle with Jealousy | 00:19:11 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment and struggle with jealousy? Are you looking for tips?
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| 12 Nov 2023 | 108. Lessons in Dating with Low Self-Esteem & Anxious Attachment | 00:26:58 | |
Do you have an anxious attachment? If so, you may have realised it is impacting your experience of dating. Dating anxiety is a real thing, and it is even more when you have an anxious attachment style. In this episode, Carly Ann discusses the impact of dating with anxious attachment, plus give you several tips on how to manage the anxiety so that you can have a better experience with dating. Other useful links:
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| 19 Nov 2023 | 109. Lessons in Comparing Yourself | "The Comparison Trap" | 00:17:52 | |
Do you compare your relationship? Your relationship status? Yourself? We all compare ourselves and for some it creates a lot of inner pain and upset. In this episode, Carly Ann discusses the different ways we fall into this negative thinking patterns. Which trap is sabotaging you the most? Other useful links:
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| 03 Dec 2023 | 110. Lessons in What Keeps Anxiety Going | 00:16:35 | |
Do you have an insecure attachment style? There is a specific pattern that keeps anxiety on a loop, once you retrain yourself in this area, you are much more likely to feel secure (and in control). In this episode Carly Ann discussed an unhelpful habit many of us fall into, it has the potential to increase our anxiety, fears, and upset. Other useful links:
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| 10 Dec 2023 | 111. Lessons in 6 Consequences of Attachment Wounds (Part 1) | 00:27:42 | |
If you relate to having an insecure attachment, you will know already that there are certain consequences and impacts on our adult life. In this episode, Carly Ann is determined to let you know about what is coming up inside The Attachment Recovery Gym. Join Carly Ann as she discussed 6 key ways we struggle with love & life when we are living with attachment trauma. Other useful links:
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| 13 Dec 2023 | 112. Lessons in 6 More Consequences of Attachment Wounds (Part 2) | 00:18:41 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If you are living as an adult with attachment trauma, there are certain signs and consequences you might be experiencing. Impacts on self-esteem, attachments, and mental health. In this episode, Carly Ann is determined to let you know about what is coming up inside The Attachment Recovery Gym. Join Carly Ann as she discussed 6 key ways we struggle with love & life when we are living with attachment trauma. Other useful links:
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| 17 Dec 2023 | 113. Lessons in Overthinking: Obsessing/Limerence, Worry, & Ruminating | 00:19:39 | |
Do you have an insecure attachment style? In this episode Carly Ann discusses four common styles of overthinking people fall into:
Whether you fall into one or all four, you are bound to find this episode useful! Other useful links:
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| 31 Dec 2023 | 115. Lessons in Mr Unavailable with our guest Natalie Lue | 01:14:28 | |
Do you have any anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Lessons in Love brings you Carly Ann's and other people's inspiring stories to support you on your own journey of healing and change. If you are doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming more secure, you are in the right place.
Audio production by Bethany Donkin. Music by Atch Subscribe now and join our thriving community of listeners who are on a journey to better relationships, improved self-esteem, and a more fulfilling life. Other useful links:
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| 24 Dec 2023 | 114. Loveability & Self-Love Meditation | 00:09:17 | |
In this special Xmas Eve epiosde Carly Ann shares a meditation for that is taken from our Healing & Abundance Challenge that took place inside The Attachment Recovery Gym in 2023. If you have an insecure attachment style; grounding, loveability, and mindfulness is SO powerful for our healing journey! Other useful links:
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| 07 Jan 2024 | 116. Lessons in Developing a Secure Attachment | 00:56:46 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment? If yes, it likely means you have had certain experiences when it comes to relationships, love, and having your needs met. Other useful links:
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| 14 Jan 2024 | 117. Lessons in Sulking, Getting Stuck in Moods & Taking Things Personally (Especially if your partner is fed up with it!) | 00:22:39 | |
Do you have any anxious and/or avaoidant attachment style? If you're the type to sulk for hours, take things a bit too personally, or worry that your partner might get fed up with your moods, this episode is a must-listen Other useful links:
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| 17 Jan 2024 | 118. Hot & Cold Treatment, Truth for Anxious Attachers, & Wanting Your Ex Back (Mind Stretch) | 00:10:04 | |
do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Other useful links:
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| 21 Jan 2024 | 119. Lessons in Going No Contact Even When it Feels Impossible | 00:20:55 | |
Keen to chat about the no contact rule? If you have an anxious or fearful attachment style and you are trying to go no contact with someone that you still like, it can feel impossible at times. Other useful links:
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| 28 Jan 2024 | 120. Lessons in Navigating Life & Relationships with an Anxious Attachment (With Dominy Roe) | 01:10:08 | |
Listen to this if you have an anxious attachment and are trying to or want to navigate a healthy, long term relationship. Both Carly Ann and today's guest, Dominy Roe have moved on from the toxic, unavailable guys, but does that mean we are fully healed? Listen in as we talk about navigating our relationships.
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| 31 Jan 2024 | 121. Tips for Anxious Attachment & Abandonment Wounds (Weekly Mind-Stretch) | 00:08:43 | |
Do you have activated abandonment wounds? In this week's episode of Lessons in Attachment, Carly Ann shares 3 posts to inspire change and healing. Other useful links:
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| 04 Feb 2024 | 122. Lessons in Becoming Attracted to The Nice, Available Ones | 00:20:34 | |
Do you have an insecure attachment style? If so (especially anxious attachment) it's possible you struggle to attract or sustain relationships with secure, available people. It's one of the biggest complaints/struggles I witness. You want a long-term relationship, but you're usually attracted to the unavailable type. In this episode, Carly Ann shares 8 Tips to help you become more attracted to available relationships. Other useful links:
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| 11 Feb 2024 | 123. Lessons in why Anxious Attachers are Not Attracted to Available/Secure People | 00:16:18 | |
One of the most frustrating patterns for anxious attachers can be the fact they feel more attracted to unavailable folk than the available ones. This goes against your desire for a long term relationship! In this episode, Carly Ann discusses why you are less attracted to the nice ones! Other useful links:
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| 14 Feb 2024 | 124. Lessons in Relationship Blueprints: 4 Inner Templates Shaping Your Love Life | 00:14:09 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Whatever your attachment style, we all have certain blueprints/templates that shape how we experience life (and love!). In this epiosde, Carly Ann outlines four innee templates you need to be aware of and gives you specific self-reflective prompts for each template. Other useful links:
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| 18 Feb 2024 | 125. Lessons in The Cycle of Change (from an Attachment Perspective) | 00:16:34 | |
This is your last chance to join my 7 week course Becomong Secure: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/becoming-secure-course Other useful links:
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| 25 Feb 2024 | 126. Lessons in Neuroplasticity: Healing the Nervous System & Attachment (with Jessica Maguire) | 01:00:03 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Carly Ann is interviewing different guests to help you learn, heal, and move towards a secure attachment style. In this epsiode Carly Ann meets Jessica Maguire (repairing_the_nervous_system) Other useful links:
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| 03 Mar 2024 | 127. Lessons in Anxious Attachment: "PROTEST BEHAVIOURS" When You're Triggered | 00:23:57 | |
Do you have an anxious attachment and find yourself falling into toxic habits? In this episode Carly Ann discusses the unhelpful reactions that are seen in anxious attachers when they are triggered. Whether you are someone that sulks or excessively contacts the person you like - you'll want to listen to this one! Other useful links:
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| 10 Mar 2024 | 128. Lessons in 6 Subtle Signs of Low Self-Esteem | 00:30:12 | |
Insecure Attachment and Low Self-Esteem can go hand in hand! In celebration of our brand new Porgramme GLOW, this episode is dedicated to sharing 6 subtle signs that you need to pay more attention to self-esteem work. If you fall into these patterns, you don't have to stay there, there is a way out! Other useful links:
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| 17 Mar 2024 | 129. Lessons in Two Models for Understanding Core Beliefs & How You Think | 00:17:16 | |
Guys the next theme inside The Attachment Recovery Gym is learning all about the Anxious-Avoidant Trap which I know SO many of you are curious about. Don't miss your chance to join us HERE. You can ask me questions, join LIVE calls, and have access to a one-off workshop. Other useful links:
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| 25 Mar 2024 | 130. Lessons in Anxious Attachment & Self Worth: Listen to this if You Get Stuck in States of Low Self-Esteem | 00:23:57 | |
Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style and get stuck in moods or states of low self esteem. This isn't for those of you that sometimes have a moment of insecurity, it's for those of you that get stuck in that state and feel like you wind up ruminating, self criticising, and worrying. Other useful links:
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