How to Get Over Your Ex (Breakup Coach Dorothy)

Happy February and EARLY Valentine's Day Bravehearts! 

This year, I'm celebrating YOU with the Braveheart Festival, an all day event dedicated to celebrating the love you have for yourself. 

You'll leave feeling proud, powerful, and fully yourself prepped and ready to handle Valentine's Day like a champ! 

Learn all the details inside today's episode.

Here's the link to register: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/braveheartfestival

Feeling stuck in your breakup? In this episode, I’m sharing five unconventional habits that my most successful students are using to accelerate their healing and build a life bigger and better than before. These aren't your typical self-help tips; they’re bold strategies like embracing “delusional” optimism, believing in your transformation before you see it, and focusing on growth instead of gaps. If you’re ready to break free from the stagnation and move forward with purpose, this episode is for you. Listen in to discover the habits that will fast-forward your journey.

Seeing your ex with someone new can feel like a punch to the gut—especially if you believe their new partner is somehow "better" than you. In this episode, I break down exactly why that feeling of jealousy takes over and how to take your power back. I'll walk you through three key steps to stop obsessing over your ex's new relationship and start feeling motivated to build the life you actually want. If you’re tired of comparing yourself, stuck in self-doubt, or feeling like you’ll never measure up, this episode will give you the mindset shifts and tools to move forward with confidence—regardless of what your ex is doing. Click play to get started!

5 months of healing in 5 days! Our LIVE event is February 10-14 2025! Come join us. It’s for heartbroken humans who didn’t want the breakup in the first place, those of you who felt forced to leave, and anyone working on building a life that is bigger and better than the one they had with their ex.

Save your spot today: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/5daylivetraining/

What if your ex really was meant to be? Believe it or not, as a breakup coach, I’ve had clients that got back together with their exes. In this episode, I bring in these Bravehearts to tell you how exactly they got their second chance. Sometimes all it takes is working on ourselves to create a new, better relationship with the same person. Tune in if you’ve believe there’s still something left with your ex—you won’t want to miss their stories!

Join us as we delve into the complexities of secondary grief, exploring the myriad losses that accompany breakups and divorces. Beyond the initial heartache lies a landscape of secondary losses—shattered dreams, financial instability, and fractured social networks. But amidst the pain, there is resilience, as we uncover the concept of secondary gains: the hidden opportunities and newfound freedoms that emerge from loss. Through heartfelt stories and insightful coaching, we navigate the delicate balance of acknowledging our losses while embracing the potential for growth and transformation. So, grab your journal and prepare to journey with us through the depths of grief to the heights of healing.

And remember, Braveheart, your path to a brighter future begins with a single step—join us for our upcoming 5-day How to Get Over Your Ex training during Valentine's Day week and discover the power of reclaiming your joy and vitality. 

Save your spot here: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/5daylivetraining/

When you’re going through a breakup, you’re focused on just making it through the day. You so badly either want your ex back OR to just stop thinking about it already.

The beauty of learning how to truly get over an ex and become the person who’s totally in love with themself and their life is the limitless opportunities that come along with being that version of yourself. 

In today’s episode, Braveheart Samantha shares her journey of getting over her ex, building self confidence, and becoming a woman she’s proud to be. Her healing and results have compounded through continuous coaching and it all started from a breakup. 

What to expect:

• Learn what happens when you go all in on yourself
• Understand how learning to get over your ex compounds the results you have in all areas of your life
• Become the version of you who’s committed to creating a life bigger and better than the one you had with your ex

https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/

Are you over your ex and ready to start the dating process but don’t have a real step by step guide to follow? Join me today as I share the entire dating to engaged process that not only worked for me but many of my clients.

In today’s episode:

• Learn what the dating process is
• Understand where you can improve your dating experience
• Be the person who actually enjoys dating (or become the person who gets engaged - if that’s what you’re looking for)

Links:

- wants episode (117) found here

- falling madly in love while practicing non attachment (128) found here

The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less experience is almost open. Here's everything you need to know to be prepared to save your spot! 

No matter how long you were together and have beent trying to heal, you can Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less. I want you to feel fully secure in yourself and confident in your choices -- so much so, you're no longer pining over someone who left you, but you're rapidly calling in all the things that are FOR you.

Let's do this!

https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

Cheating is a touchy and intense topic for those who have gone through it. In this special episode, I bring on my clients who have been on both sides of the situation. This conversation unravels the topics of dealing with anger, the true meaning of forgiveness and how to let go of something even if you don’t believe what happened was right.

We often hear that the journey should be better than the destination. You should love the process as much as you love the outcome you’re creating. Well… my 26 year old self (I’m not 31) would be saying “you made it!” “you’ve arrived” - but my current self feels like that’s not really true. 

What if there were multiple fairytale “endings” within our life? And what if we allowed ourselves to experience them while they were happening instead of looking towards our past or our future? 

In today’s episode:

• Learn how to identify and acknowledge your fairytale
• Understand why we tend to downplay our fairytale
• Become the main character in your fairytale ending (even if you’re fresh from heartbreak)

Do you feel like you need answers from your ex? Many of my clients suffer because they are “confused” about how their breakup went and wish for clarity. The truth is, trying to figure out every detail of your breakup is why you haven’t moved on. Let me show you how to reach peace without making things more complicated.

What to expect:

• Understand what is causing your confusion
• Why confusion worsens heartbreak & how to move on
• A fast & simple way to heal without relying on external validation

As an expert at breakups, I see two forms of regret after a breakup occurs. The first kind is regret about how you behaved during the relationship, especially after you’ve learned everything I’ve taught you in the podcast. The second kind is regret about your decision to leave the relationship (if you’re the one who left). In today’s episode, I talk about how regret can be useful and how it can also (and more oftentimes) be used as punishment. I of course will finish up the episode giving you tangible next steps towards letting go of regret and using it as a tool in your future!

In this episode:

• The types of regret
• How regret can be useful
• How regret can be used as a punishment
• What to do with your regret 

In today’s episode we explore the intricate layers of shame before, during, and after a breakup. Drawing from a recent coaching session, Breakup Coach Dorothy navigates the often-overlooked aspects of shame. This episode serves as a beacon for those wrestling with breakup-induced shame, offering actionable steps towards self-affirmation, self-love, and personal empowerment in the journey towards healing and self-discovery. Tune in for a heartfelt discussion on overcoming shame and embracing resilience in the aftermath of a breakup.

The quality of my life is a direct reflection of the quality of my thoughts. If my life feels like a hot mess, it’s a direct reflection that my mind/brain/thoughts are a hot mess. No matter where you are in the breakup process, no matter how much you know about thought work, no matter how good you are at coaching - you will never be omitted from needing to be reminded that your circumstances do not cause your suffering. 

In today’s episode: 

• Learn one simple technique that will change everything
• Understand the problem that’s holding you back no matter where you are in your breakup or dating journey
• Become the one who’s in control of your experience

Welcome! To the 10 things you need to know after a breakup. I will be sharing with you 10 core messages I hopes all Bravehearts know after having gone through a heartbreaking and devastating breakup or divorce. I hope you not only hear these lessons but I hope you embody them, live them, and take them on as your truths. You are special, you are worthy, you are enough, and you are so taken care of. I love you.

Sending all the love,

Breakup Coach Dorothy

https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/

After a breakup it’s easy to feel like you’ve lost yourself. Maybe you spent all your time morphing yourself into the ideal person for your partner. Maybe your partner questioned you so much that you’ve lost a sense of direction. Regardless of why you’re feeling like you’ve lost yourself, there’s a solution. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn how to get direction to your life again
• Understand what’s been keeping you stuck in feeling lost, confused and purposeless
• Become the you that has drive, focus, and intention in their daily life

In this episode, we dive into the journey of self-love, worth, and the struggle of wanting a relationship while also feeling the pressure to be content alone. Join us as we explore a refreshing perspective that challenges the conventional belief that you "should" be happy on your own before pursuing a relationship.

Self Love Week (free event): https://www.thebraveheartacademy.com/offers/BPS6ivcp/checkout

The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program is now open! https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/

Are you struggling with the question of whether to reach out to your ex? In this episode, we dive into a practical 5-step process that helps you gain clarity and confidence in making the right decision for YOU. Instead of relying on advice from others, this episode guides you through a series of questions and scenarios to uncover what’s truly aligned with your needs and desires. You'll learn how to navigate your emotions, explore the best case scenarios, and connect with your inner voice, so you can move forward with confidence and peace of mind. Don’t let confusion hold you back—discover the clarity you need to make the best choice for your unique situation.

I often hear people talking about others as “toxic” or a relationship was “toxic” when in reality there are no toxic people, only toxic thoughts. And when we choose to think of someone as toxic, we are only doing ourselves a disservice. 

In this episode:

• Learn how there are no toxic humans just toxic thoughts
• How it hurts us to think about other humans in that way
• How to deal with “toxic” humans and relationships

We dive deep today into the distinction between experiencing grief and truly being over your ex. Discover 5 different forms of grief that you have never heard of before and how experiencing these forms of grief cannot define your progress towards being over him/her. Listen today to transform your relationship with grief and take the next step toward a life that’s bigger and better than the one you had with your ex.

LIVE 5 day How to Get Over Your Ex training! Happening June 3rd - 7th. Come join Breakup Coach Dorothy and other bravehearts taking the work from the podcast and implementing these tools over five days completely free! 

Accomplish 5 months of healing in just 5 days! https://dorothyabjohnson.com/5daylivetraining/

What if you guaranteed yourself that after this breakup you were a brand new version of yourself? Many people do this during the new year #newyearnewyou. But what if that didn’t require a new year. What if simply required you to heal your heart in the most powerful, transformative way?

What to expect:

• Learn what a new you will create in your life
• Understand how to guarantee yourself a new you
• Become the new you, you always knew you could be

In today’s episode, Breakup Coach Dorothy and guests Natalie and Kyra talk about the struggles of co-parenting with an ex, expectations about their roles as mothers, detaching from “what should be”, being comfortable with duality, and finding a support system. 

Join them as they discuss changing their narratives as parents co-parenting with an ex. 

Want individualized support, help, and coaching on your specific breakup? Join us in the Get Over Your Ex program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

After a traumatic heartbreak, many of us want to make sure that we pick the right person next time, that we don’t get hurt like we did and that we don’t avoid the red flags like we did that time. In today’s episode I’m going to help you pick the right person next time and provide you with the confidence you need to move forward in your healing journey.

In this episode:

• Learn how to pick the right person next time
• Understand what it means to pick the right person 
• Become someone who’s confident in their decision making around dating

Today, we're debunking myths about getting over your ex. We are going to cover 5 things you might THINK you need to get over your ex that in fact you don’t actually need. Join us as we uncover the truth and empower you to move forward into a bigger, better life. You’ll leave this episode feeling free to move on in a way that is way more simple than you ever thought possible.

https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexcelebrate/

Today we are talking about breakup lies that I’m seeing so many of us mistake for truth. They are common and oh so sneaky. Many of us think them, believe them, and mistake them as facts when in reality there is so much evidence for how false the lie actually is.

In this episode:

• What is a breakup lie
• How do I identify it and change it
• The steps to crack the lie so you can move on

Welcome! To the 10 things you need to know after a breakup. I will be sharing with you 10 core messages I hopes all Bravehearts know after having gone through a heartbreaking and devastating breakup or divorce. I hope you not only hear these lessons but I hope you embody them, live them, and take them on as your truths. You are special, you are worthy, you are enough, and you are so taken care of. I love you.

Sending all the love,

Breakup Coach Dorothy

https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/

Thought work alone isn’t the same as thought work with other humans. Hence why braveheart alumni continue to work with me even after they get over their ex. Today we are going to explore how I’ve seen old breakup trauma show up in new relationships. You’ll learn how to make sure you’re not letting old breakup trauma with your ex infiltrate new relationships with potential love interests. 

What to expect:

• Learn how and why breakup trauma from your past affects new relationships
• Understand what you can do to avoid letting your ex ruin your new love interest
• Become someone who doesn’t drag old baggage into new partnerships

Free 1 Hour Training: https://www.dorothyabjohnson.com/3secretswebinar

In today’s episode we discuss the broader issue of feeling behind in life due to attachments. Exploring the concept of time constraints and the freedom of choice, we realize life can be fulfilling both with and without specific outcomes. This philosophy extends beyond relationships, encompassing career aspirations and personal goals. Learn one question that will completely shift your perspective of being behind and running out of time after your breakup so that you can feel at peace without giving up on what you want.

Learn 3 mind blowing moments that will forever change your breakup journey with our free on demand video training! 

How to Fast Forward Getting Over Your Ex – without wasting months (or years) feeling angry, jealous or unlovable: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overyourexpodcast

“Wanting” to get over your ex is the first step to actually getting over your ex. For some of us this step is more difficult than others. You may be someone who knows they shouldn’t want to be with this person but they feel addicted to them.. Or maybe you’re the person who truly thinks your ex is the most amazing human on the planet and that keeps you from committing to truly getting over your ex. Regardless, learning to decide to get over your ex because you want to is important.

In today’s episode:

• Learn the secret mind hack I’ve used with myself and many clients to get yourself to a place of “wanting” to get over your ex
• Understand what’s been holding you back from “wanting” to get over your ex
• Become the version of yourself that commits to truly getting over their ex and building the life that’s bigger and better than the one they had with their ex

In this episode, we dive into the challenges of trusting yourself to choose a new partner after a breakup. We'll address common fears like repeating past mistakes and struggling with low self-worth, and explore how to overcome these obstacles. Discover six powerful mindset shifts that will help you regain confidence in your decision-making and attract a partner who truly aligns with your values and desires. Tune in to learn how to build trust in yourself, set clear intentions, and embrace your journey toward a better, more fulfilling relationship. Click to listen and empower yourself with the tools to choose wisely and confidently!

Running into your ex happens. Or better yet, running into your ex’s family or NEW PARTNER. Join Breakup Coach Dorothy and fellow Braveheart Alumni Julia as they discuss how to become an expert at handling situations like these. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn what happens naturally when you run into your ex/their family or new partner
• Understand how to handle those kinds of situations differently
• Become the kind of person who feels calm, comfortable, and PROUD of the way you show up when running into your ex or ex’s new partner

https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/

In today's episode, we're tackling a tough yet crucial aspect of healing post-breakup: sharing your story with friends and family. It's a daunting prospect, especially when loved ones were invested in your relationship. But fear not! We've got you covered with five key points to navigate this conversation with grace and empowerment. From avoiding the victim-villain narrative to setting boundaries on support, we'll guide you through each step. Tune in now for invaluable insights and practical advice. 

Do you ever wish that life was like the movies, where everything always works out in the end? Well, I’m here to tell you you’re one step away from  a life that feels like your favorite movie: you have to identify as the “main character.”

Breakups (and hard times in general) make us feel so down about ourselves that we feel like we’re on the sidelines. This episode will teach you how to romanticize the life you have as a single person.

What to expect:

• How to prevent being a “side character” in life
• Why identifying as the “main character” is empowering
• How to live a life where everything works out for you

Have you ever been hesitant to move forward after a breakup or divorce. In today’s episode learn what it’s like to cancel the contract and catapult your heart healing experience. 

Topics covered: 

• The bigger and better life - when it’s not working
• High attachment to your ex and the real why
• Why it can be hard to cancel the contract and what to do about it

The Braveheart Festival is taking place THIS WEEK! Join us for a free live 2 day heart healing experience and leave with your biggest comeback yet!

Get your tickets here: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/2023braveheartfestival

Today is the first interview I’m launching on the How to Get Over Your Ex podcast! So excited! Alexander James and I talk through the book Conscious Uncoupling by Katherine Woodward Thomas and his personal experiencing using this book to breakup with his partner.

In this episode:

• What is conscious uncoupling?
• How can I use this in my breakup? What are the biggest takeaways from the book?
• What if it’s just me and my partner doesn’t want to read it?
• What is the best way to breakup with someone?

Alexander James Information:

www.alexanderjames.space

Facebook - Alexander James (Cupid)

Instagram @ThereAlexanderJames

Podcast: Dear Gay Men

We’ve all heard rejection is god’s way to redirect you. I’ll be giving you the real explanation of this along with, of course, the HOW do we implement this into our life though. By the end of this episode, you can and will be able to turn your rejection into curiosity and compassion for yourself and others. Which will leave you responding to rejection in a whole new way.

In this episode:

• What is rejection and how we typically respond to being rejected
• How to respond to rejection in a whole new way
• Transforming your rejection into curiosity and compassion

She thought buying a home after her divorce was impossible. The data was stacked against her odds. Money, time, what her ex had done - there was no way. But in 3 short months of healing, getting over her ex, and believing in the not yet seen - she did it! In today’s episode join fellow Braveheart Sara as we show you how to create the impossible when all the odds are stacked against you.

In today’s episode: 

• Learn how to believe in what feels impossible to you when getting over your ex
• Understand what’s been keeping you from what you REALLY want
• Become the person who creates the impossible when all the odds are stacked against you

Did you and your ex truly want the same things in life? If you’re anything like me you probably found yourself over compromising who you were and not even realizing it until the end of your relationship you realized that you morphed into someone unrecognizable to yourself.

I’ve also experienced the other end of the spectrum where I didn’t compromise at all and therefore felt more alone inside the relationship than just being single. How do you find the balance? How do you create an amazing life on your own and begin dating? How do you know when to do thought work around someone or change the person? Today, I will answer it all.

What to expect:

• Learn how to stand in your most authentic self while also dating and/or being in a relationship
• Understand how to stop compromising yourself and find someone who wants the same epic life as you
• Become confident in your ability to know when it’s time to do thought work vs move on

If you’re looking for something BIGGER than a breakup boost you must join us for the LIVE 5 day How to Get Over Your Ex training. Completely free! Let’s spend 5 days together to accomplish 5 months of healing.

This will completely change the entire trajectory of your breakup!

• tangible breakup tools
• actionable next steps
• advice and coaching on your specific situations FROM Breakup Coach Dorothy
• giveaways
• And most importantly a complete energetic upgrade in your breakup experience…

Let’s go build a bigger and better life than the one you had with your ex instead of wallowing Valentine’s Day week.

Sign up for FREE here: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/5daylivetraining/

Whether you’ve been cheated on or cheated on your partner, this episode dissects what it is about cheating that keeps you from getting over your ex. Resentment and guilt are emotions that can eat you alive—but it doesn’t have to be like this.

What to expect:

• The root cause behind why people cheat
• How not healing from cheating can affect future relationships
• Clear steps on how to let go of you or your partner’s infidelity so you can finally move on

Getting over your ex doesn’t have to just take time. Time has nothing to do with it. In this three week series, I walk you through the three phases to getting over your ex in 90 days. This 3 phased approach is the process I take my clients through and today we take a deep dive into phase #1.

3 Phases:

1. Taking back control of your emotions
2. Rebuilding your confidence to rewrite your breakup story
3. Getting excited about life again

In today’s episode, I cover the first phase with you and give you next steps to go and implement this first phase into your life so you can start the process of getting over your ex.

In this episode:

• What is the 3 phased approach to getting over your ex in 90 days
• What is emotional maturity/responsibility and why is it important
• How do we take back control of our emotions?

Join me today with expert Karilyn Ivers as we discuss what it’s like to get over an ex who is struggling with addiction. We will answer all your burning questions about guilt/shame in leaving someone who relies on you for stability, whether or not to get back together with someone once they are clean, and how to move on after those overdose moments. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn how to move on from someone who is struggling with addiction
• Understand the ins and outs to overcoming shame and guilt associated to getting over someone who is struggling with addiction
• Become the person who gets over their ex even when their ex is struggling with addiction

Karilyn Ivers: https://www.instagram.com/karilynivers/

Today’s episode is inspired by multiple DMs I’ve received regarding feeling like you’re over your ex and on to building a bigger and better life but don’t feel over the moon about everything IN your life. Are you seeing your limitations and do you have a concrete action plan for the limits that are keeping you from your “epic sundae”?

What to expect:

• Learn how to identify the real limitations that are keeping you from a life bigger and better than the one you had with your ex - they aren’t what you think they are
• Understand how to create your concrete action plan on how to overcome those limits in a way that aligns with who you want to be
• Become the kind of person who is over the moon about all areas of their life

Emotions can feel overwhelming at times. But if we learn how to feel them instead of trying to “fix” them, we come out the other side as a healed person. If you’re tired of hearing that you need to “feel your feelings” without further explanation, this episode is for you.

What to expect:

• Four ways to feel your feelings so you can heal
• How to release emotions in 30 seconds or less
• Tips on being present + letting go of pain long-term

Everything you’ve been told about how to get over your ex is wrong. If you had the right tips, you’d have the right results. But I have good news: the real answers aren’t even complicated.

In today’s episode, I’m going to outline the three steps that have left 100% of my clients over their ex. You don’t have to wait for time to heal you; it’s all in your hands.

What to expect:

• Learn the 3 steps that have always succeeded in healing heartbreak
• Tips on how to apply them practically to your life—no matter how hurt you are
• Leave empowered knowing what next step you have to take toward your better future

Free 5 Day Training: www.lifecoachdorothy.com/5daychallenge

Get Over Your Ex in 3 Months or Less: www.lifecoachdorothy.com/getoveryourex

My former client, Purvaja, is like you: she thought an ideal life meant having a partner. However, this need to find someone to be happy kept her from creating the life she really wanted.

In this interview, you’re going to learn how Purvaja threw away this belief and became the Braveheart she is.

What to expect:

• Be in love with your life w/o a partner
• Let go of the pressure to find someone and trust a higher power to figure it out
• Create calm confidence within & attract the people meant for you

www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

Breakups don’t have to be a drag. It can be the time where you find the best, most liberated part of yourself—and become a “Badass Braveheart.”

A “Badass Braveheart” is someone who has been heartbroken and manages to stand up taller than before. They are their own #1, self-loving and confident. Today, I’m teaching you how to be a BB.

What to expect:
Why being a badass = being over your ex
Learn how to show up like a BB in your everyday life
Leave knowing your next step towards your best self

Free 5 Day Training: www.lifecoachdorothy.com/5daychallenge

Get Over Your Ex in 3 Months or Less: www.lifecoachdorothy.com/getoveryourex

Today we address the common anxiety of envisioning your ex-partner attaining perfection with someone new. We navigate through two scenarios, challenging you to confront the uncertainties of speculating about their ex's future. With empathy and wisdom, you’ll learn to refocus on your own worth, reminding you that your ex's actions do not define your value. Tune in to reclaim agency over your narrative and have exact next steps for when you find yourself consumed with how your ex will treat their new partner. 

Sometimes it feels easier to hate your ex. Hating that person might seem easier than loving someone who no longer wants to be with you. But how’s the one left experiencing negative emotion when you hate on your ex? You. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn how hating your ex is more hindering than you realize 
• Understand what it looks like to redirect hate towards your ex to something else (not loving your ex - don’t worry)
• Become the version of yourself who turns that pain into purpose

If you’re feeling defeated in love, today’s episode with Garrett, author of Dare to Move is a must listen! Her breakup stories and dating experiences are not only interesting but inspiring. Learn all about the love story that inspired me to move into my own fairytale. Leave the episode feeling alive and full of fresh air around your love story.

In today’s episode:

• Learn what kind of dating experience is right for you
• Understand how heartbreak can fuel your love story
• Become reinvigorated around love within 30 minutes

Learn more about Garrett:

Website: https://www.garrettnicolewood.com/

Instagram: 

Dare to Move Book: https://www.garrettnicolewood.com/dare-to-move-book/

In today’s episode we talk about the intricate process of dealing with the common and often overwhelming feeling of missing your ex. With a warm and relatable approach, we explore the specific steps to regain control over your emotions and find acceptance and peace within minutes.

Say goodbye to the elusive grip of missing your ex and learn how to move forward with clarity and confidence. Share this episode with someone who needs this wisdom and don't forget to subscribe for more valuable insights on turning heartbreak into happiness.

Another episode about “I miss everything about my ex”: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/2021/05/31/i-miss-everything-about-my-ex/

Grab your free on demand training here: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overyourexpodcast/

Today, we're diving into a powerful concept: 'what you focus on grows.' It's a game-changer, especially after a breakup. Instead of getting stuck on what's broken, let's pivot towards what's working and celebrate our progress. We'll tackle how to redirect our focus for a smoother journey towards our goals. Let's choose progress over pessimism, celebration over stagnation. Tune in now for practical tips and inspiring insights. It's time to seize the day and create the life you deserve, not just the one you think you can get.

Many of my bravehearts struggle with the idea that they didn’t want this divorce or breakup. If you’re someone who finds themselves saying “This isn’t what I wanted” or “I didn’t want this divorce”, I highly recommend listening to today’s episode.

Getting over an ex doesn’t “just happen”. Specific steps are taken consciously or unconsciously that get us over an ex. The interesting thing is that getting over a breakup or divorce is not seen by society as “important” like grieving a death but there are so many components that are the same. 

In today’s episode:

• Understand what’s keeping the world from prioritizing heartbreak

• Learn how to prioritize your breakup/divorce in a world that doesn’t

• Become fearless in your heartbreak journey through clarity about why it’s important

The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program is NOW OPEN FOR ENROLLMENT - doors close Friday, April 14th: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

Let’s tackle one of the most common questions after a breakup: how long does it take to get over it?

We'll explore why it's not about the length of the relationship or how long it's been since the breakup. People heal at different rates, and the process can vary depending on factors such as the level of attachment, what you’re making the breakup mean about you, and individual coping mechanisms. We'll talk about why relying solely on time as a metric for healing can be misleading and frustrating. Instead, we'll offer practical tips and insights on what really helps in the healing process.

After this episode you’ll know exactly what to do to get over your breakup without it “taking time”. 

Want to have tangible tools to apply today's episode to YOUR breakup? Check out our resources here.

Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

5 months of healing in 5 days: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/5-day-training-course/

Other episodes on time:

Ep. 20 - Time has nothing to do with getting over your ex

Ep. 121 - I’ve been wasting your time

Bonus - More on time and heartbreak with Vikki Louise

In today’s episode learn what you can do to feel better when you feel like your ex was everything you ever wanted. Through practical exercises and insightful anecdotes, discover the importance of separating fact from fiction post-breakup, and learn how relying on data over drama can empower you to reclaim your agency and uncover the truth about your past relationships. You’ll leave today’s episode knowing exactly what steps to take to go from panic and devastation to calm and hopeful. 

How to Fast Forward Getting Over Your Ex – Without wasting months (or years) feeling angry, jealous or unlovable: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overyourexpodcast

Welcome! To the 10 things you need to know after a breakup. I will be sharing with you 10 core messages I hopes all Bravehearts know after having gone through a heartbreaking and devastating breakup or divorce. I hope you not only hear these lessons but I hope you embody them, live them, and take them on as your truths. You are special, you are worthy, you are enough, and you are so taken care of. I love you.

Sending all the love,

Breakup Coach Dorothy

https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/

Here's a love letter to Bravehearts from Bravehearts! 

The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less closes Friday 2/17. To save your spot enroll here: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

Today we talk about how having fun during your breakup journey is 1) possible and 2) super transformational. We explore a specific client example of this and how having fun helped her let go and move on from her suffering and feeling sorry for herself. 

In this episode:

• How can we have fun during a breakup
• Why it’s so important to have fun during healing
• How having fun will speed up getting over your ex

Happy New Year Bravehearts! Here’s a simple and profound message for your new year OR your new chapter (regardless of what time of year it is) that will change the dynamic you have with moving forward. 

Sending you all the love!

Time has nothing to do with getting over your ex. It doesn’t take time to build a life bigger and better than the one you had with your ex. Everything you desire appears within a moment. That doesn’t mean we “rush” our healing. It doesn’t mean we are in a “hurry” to get over our exes. It means we are not at the effect of the man-made concept of time. We trust in divine timing but we don’t sit around “waiting” for something different to happen. We become the active force within the passive concept of time. 

In today’s episode, meet Elsie (Lauren Cash), time queen who happens to be one of my best friends. We talk all about heartbreak, time and explore healing in a way that doesn’t follow society’s go to “it just takes time to heal your heart”. 

What to expect:

• “We bring the same thinking that we currently have to solve current problems, but it doesn’t work that way.” - Elsie (Lauren Cash)
• “We think a lot of things are a time issue that aren’t a time thing.” - Elsie (Lauren Cash)
• Understand how to overcome time within your heartbreak and when it comes to building a life bigger and better than the one you had with your ex.
• Become the person who can find the balance of trusting divine timing while taking ownership of what you have control over

Early enrollment is open (holiday bundle): https://www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

Lauren Cash: @thelaurencash
https://vivere.co/

Worried about being single during NYE? Whether you’re over your ex or you’ve recently gone through a breakup/divorce let me teach you how to thrive on NYE. No constant obsessing over your ex and what he’s doing, no worrying about who he’s with or being sad about being single. Let’s have an epic Braveheart New Years - learn how in today’s bonus episode! 

Today’s Links:

One free 1:1 session when you sign up for the GOYE program before the end of the year: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

The 1:1 Next Chapter Mentorship (1 spot left): https://www.thebraveheartacademy.com/offers/P2sAs7ZM

Time has nothing to do with getting over your ex. Most people will say, “it’s just going to take some time for your heart to heal” but I’m here to tell you that’s ALL WRONG. After going through my own experience and spending years of helping women through breakups and divorce I know without a doubt time has nothing to do with it, but I know what does. Join me today as I explain this concept and what you can do about it.

In this episode:

• Why time has nothing to do with heartbreak
• What actually does have to do with heartbreak
• What to do instead of focusing on time

I think all of us can agree that going through a breakup tends to be a lot of high highs and low lows. We have a lot of emotions. This goes for people who are broken up with AS WELL as those who did the breaking up. What if I told you, that YOU had control over these? What if you weren’t at the effect of him calling or texting? What if you weren’t at the effect of him being or not being with another girl? What if you weren’t at the effect of hearing his name or seeing him in public? 

In this episode:

• Why do we have an emotional rollercoaster during a breakup?
• How to not be at the effect of what other people do or don’t do
• The exact steps to get comfortable in the emotional rollercoaster and learn how to steer it in the direction you actually want to go in

Grief is a natural part of life. During heartbreak it feels heavy sometimes almost debilitating. Join us in today’s episode with expert grief coach Krista St. Germain. She coaches widowed moms and will talk to us today about post traumatic growth and a new way of handling grief during heartbreak. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn the basics about grief in a way you’ve never heard before
• Understand what it would look like to use post traumatic growth in your heartbreak
• Become the kind of person who moves through grief differently

Find Krista St. Germain here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/

Self abandonment is something many people in the self help industry are saying and using. What if instead we focused on how we are self partnering during your breakup/divorce instead of how we self abandoned? 

In today’s episode:

• Understand why focusing on self abandonment might be hurting you 

• Learn what self partnering is and how to use this tool

• Become someone who self partners to amplify your magnetic self during your glow up

The How to Get Over Your Ex 5 Day Training: http://dorothyabjohnson.com/live5dt

The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

Getting over your ex is a decision AND a process. Many times my bravehearts think that just because they made the decision to get over their ex that means they will never experience emotion around their ex ever again. Then when they do experience emotions around their ex (from certain triggers like when their ex starts to see someone new or when they see a text from their ex) they think they are “failing” at being over their ex, when in reality it’s quite the opposite. 

Today, learn how false failure is holding you back from celebrating your ability to get over your ex, move on, and create a life better than the one you had with your ex.

What to expect:

• Learn what false failure is in regards to your breakup
• Understand how your false failure is holding you back from creating a life better than the one you had with your ex
• Become someone who’s over their ex for good

Free 5 Day Training: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/5daychallenge

Save Your Spot Today: https://breakupcoachdorothy.com/morethanmoveon

I’m ready to help you do more than move on - I want you to build a life your ex regrets leaving!! To build a life you deserve regardless of what your ex is doing. Come join me in a live 2 day immersive event FOR FREE where I’m going to give you tangible steps/”how tos” to actually creating the life that’s better than the one you had with your ex.

You do not want to miss this. Seats are limited, do not wait to sign up: https://breakupcoachdorothy.com/morethanmoveon

Why are we focused on him not giving you what you want? This isn’t about him, it’s about YOU. Out of all the things we could be wanting and creating in our life why are we focused on changing other people? Why is this a problem and what can we do to overcome our “wants”?

In this episode:

• What does wasting our wants mean?
• 3 biggest problems about “wanting”
• How to overcome wanting

*TRIGGER WARNING: contains talk of depression, hopelessness and suicidal thoughts.” In this podcast episode, Breakup Coach Dorothy addresses the heavy topic of overcoming the belief of "I don't matter" after a breakup or divorce. She shares her personal journey and how this belief manifested for her after a miscarriage. Dorothy talks about the main issues with this belief pattern, such as a lack of awareness and the actions it can lead to, like hopelessness and suicidal ideation. She encourages listeners to wake up to the fact that they may have this belief and discusses how it can affect their lives, while providing actionable next steps to heal from this belief.  Although it's a tough topic, Dorothy believes it's essential to have a discussion about it to help anyone who may be struggling with this same belief.

Suicide and Crisis Lifeline (available 24/7): 988

You matter. You are important. You are not alone.

Hear from 5 of my clients who have worked with me from 9 months to a year and a half! We talk about what led them to coaching, who they are in comparison to who they used to be. The results they have created in their life BECAUSE of their heartbreak and their most important words of wisdom. 

In this episode:

• Inspiration from fellow bravehearts
• How to believe you’ll get through this on purpose
• Making this the most transformational time of your life
• Words of wisdom from those who have gone through the thick of heartbreak

Info from speakers:

• Jessica - www.jessicaharkins.com
• Katie - @betweenourroots
• Michele - www.heartbreakcoachmichele.com @heartbreakcoachmichele
• Chelsey 
• Tela - @tela_hill102

In this episode, our host dives into the concept of "the real reasons" and its impact on decision making. She shares personal experiences from her coaching career and reveals how fluff reasons often mask deeper motivations. Using examples related to getting over an ex and building a better life, she emphasizes the importance of understanding the real reasons behind our choices. By uncovering these underlying motivations, we can find genuine solutions to our challenges.

The host also provides a simple question to help listeners explore their own real reasons and shares powerful insights from a recent survey she conducted. Tune in to discover how identifying your real reasons can lead to powerful transformations and empower you to make decisions aligned with your true desires. 

For a limited time only the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program has a new 6 month payment plan. To enroll, click here: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

Free mini money mindset course: https://www.thebraveheartacademy.com/offers/wBxoijxA

After 28 years of marriage, Keisha was scared to be alone. She had always had her husband there to make joint decisions, to fall back on, and confide in. She was absolutely devastated when he had chosen to leave right as they were about to become empty nesters. Fast forward to today, she’s embraced her independence. She books flights and vacations on her own, figured out her finances and is living her bigger and better life! Join us in today’s episode as Keisha shares the tools that helped her most in her healing journey and how you can apply it to your life!

Yay, you Bravehearts ask and I’m here to ANSWER. Today we are talking about frequently asked questions aka a question and answer session. I am here to serve you so therefore I wanted to answer some of your most burning breakup questions!

In this episode:

• I can’t break away from wanting him back, I’ve tried to change my thinking but I just can’t
• Revenge
• Closure
• Getting back together with your ex
• Reaching out during isolation
• Guilt of leaving
• He moves on quickly
• Forgiving myself

Divorce after 24 years of marriage can be difficult. You took your vows seriously and your ex didn’t. How do you recover from that? Not only recover but can you even thrive after something like that? Listen in today as Lisa shares her story. She was committed to her ex, she took those vows seriously but after an affair while your mother was dying from cancer, she said enough was enough. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn how you can let go of anger no matter your breakup situation
• Understand why celebrating along the way is so important to your healing
• Become the version of yourself your kids can be inspired by

www.breakupcoachdorothy.com/morethanmoveon

In this episode, we dive into three distinct phases: those in urgent emotional turmoil, those seeking transformation while functioning, and those feeling stuck despite believing they've moved on. The central question we tackle is, "How do we know we are over our exes?" 

Discover a powerful method to measure your emotional progress, set tangible goals, and identify signs that you've truly moved on and are over your ex. Whether you're fully healed, nearly there, or seeking guidance, this episode offers valuable tools to navigate the path from heartbreak to healed.

Want individualized support, help, and coaching on your specific breakup? Join us in the Get Over Your Ex program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

After a traumatic breakup experience it’s easy to feel like what you wanted with your ex is no longer available to you. Or at least it feels like it’s on pause until you find another partner. Listen in on today’s episode where Janet talks about her heart healing journey going from feeling like her future was gone at age 32 to feeling empowered to take the next step regardless of her relationship status. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn the key to creating the life you want regardless of what your ex is doing
• Understand what the biggest obstacles is to creating the future you wanted with your ex
• Become someone who is no longer attached to their ex for their future

www.breakupcoachdorothy.com/morethanmoveon

In today’s episode Breakup Coach Dorothy answers questions asked by Bravehearts covering a variety of breakup topics. From how to move on when your family loves your ex to how to handle your ex treating their new partner better than they treated you to how to stop comparing your new love interests to your ex and so much more. Join Breakup Coach Dorothy for a casual chit chat about all things breakups, healing, and moving forward.

Waking up post breakup when you didn’t want the breakup in the first place is like waking up to a nightmare every morning. You dream about your ex, the only peace you get is when you’re sleeping and all of a sudden you’re thrusted back into a reality you didn’t want or ask for. 

How you start your day post breakup significantly influences how and when you will gain a sense of normalcy after experiencing heartbreak. In today’s episode, Breakup Coach Dorothy will be outlining some of the best practices you can have post breakup when it comes to getting up and getting ready for your day. This podcast episode ends with a sneak peak into the pep talk library with a 3 minute pep talk from Breakup Coach Dorothy for days you wake up sad, heartbroken, hopeless, and disappointed.

LIVE 5 day how to get over your ex training (June 19th - June 23): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/5-day-live-training/

Next Cohort for the GOYE program begins Monday, June 26th! Are you coming?!

https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

One of the most common questions I love answering is how to stop comparing myself to my ex’s new partner. So far I’ve talked a lot on the podcast about how to stop comparing yourself to your ex but let’s talk about what happens when they begin to date someone new and what to do when you find yourself constantly comparing yourself to that new person. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn why you compare to your ex’s new partner
• Understand what to do when you find yourself constantly comparing yourself to your ex’s new partner
• Become someone who is no longer consumed by this person

Breakup Coach Dorothy interviews her client Caitlyn, about her journey from struggling to take up space in her relationship, dealing with anxious attachment and breakup regrets, thinking they’re meant to be, to being over her ex. Listen in to learn more about her journey. 

Caitlyn’s blog: https://journeytodpt.com/

Want individualized support, help, and coaching on your specific breakup? Join us in the Get Over Your Ex program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

After a devastating heartbreak, Cara has ZERO answers about why or what happened. Crying all the time, missing him, knowing deep down that she had a good life but at the same time she had a really strong desire for her ex. At 46 years old, she wanted to find someone who was committed to her but felt so lost when it came to this area of her life.

In today’s episode:

• Learn how to commit to getting over your ex no matter what your breakup situation is
• Understand what’s kept you from the bigger and better life 
• Become certain about your ability to do more than move on but to live a life your ex regrets leaving

www.breakupcoachdorothy.com/morethanmoveon

Knowing you deserve better is one thing, but showing up like you deserve better doesn’t come as naturally as we would hope. I hear it all the time “I know I deserve better but I secretly just want my ex to BE better.” 

In today’s episode:

• Learn why we can conceptually understand that we deserve better but don’t show up differently

• Understand what next steps you can take to receive the kind of relationship you know you deserve

• Become someone who has a partnership they know they deserve

The How to Get Over Your Ex 5 Day Training: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/live5dt/

The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

When getting over an ex there are a lot of commonalities I see between my clients. There are themed thought patterns which lead to a lot of the same feelings and behaviors. I’ve seen and experienced a number of events that were planned and unplanned like running into an ex at the store or at a party. Seeing an ex with a new girl for the first time. Seeing something triggering on social media. The ex coming back. The ex reaching out. 

You name it, I’ve seen it. 

This is why I’ve created breakup protocols. PLANNING. Being able to plan for these events sets your mind at ease. You’ll know exactly how and what to do in moments others are normally totally caught off guard by. Today, I’m teaching you the ins and outs of this iconic tool in the Get Over Your ex program.

What to expect:

• Learn what a breakup protocol is
• Understand how to create your own breakup protocol
• Become the person who handles herself with grace and poise in all breakup experiences

Dreaming about your ex is bound to happen. The interesting part is what you do when you wake up from the dream. Too many of my Bravehearts spend countless hours ruminating about what the dream meant or wallowing in how they feel after waking from the dream. But here’s the simple solution when you’re feeling alarmed by the dreams you have about your ex.

In today’s episode:

• Learn why you’re dreaming about your ex 
• Understand what to do with the dreams you have about your ex
• Become someone who doesn’t spiral into negative emotions after dreaming about your ex

Join us in today's episode of 'The Breakup Police' as we dive into a world where justice for heartbreaks is served. Ever wished there were actual officers to ticket those who leave us feeling shattered? We get it. From unfair moves to blatant disregard, navigating post-breakup turmoil can feel like a solo journey. Explore with us as we unravel the power of perspective. Imagine feeling seen, validated, and liberated from the weight of proving your pain. What if you could reclaim your peace without waiting for external validation? Tune in to discover how to find solace, and embrace a future where your worth isn't defined by past hurts. 

The Braveheart Experience: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/heartbreakhotel/

Heartbreak Hotel: https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/1065229723668566919?guests=1&adults=1&s=67&unique_share_id=c27d4632-f2ea-453e-ac1a-f070e36ceea0

The day is here! I’m sharing my breakup story with all of you which includes a third person. Learn what I was making the new girl mean about me and how in reality our ex dating someone new has EVERYTHING to do with them and nothing to do with us.

Our brain’s default is to 1) compare and despair or 2) make it mean something about us or 3) both. How is this playing out in your life and what can we do about it?

Finding compassion for the human he is, experiencing the 50% negative and 50% positive was my way of doing this and what I teach my clients. Learn more about this process in today’s episode!

In this episode:

• What it really means when he/she is with someone else
• What we make it mean
• The compare and despair affect
• How to find compassion in the moment to feel better

Are you having a difficult time co parenting with your ex? Perhaps you're triggered by the good things your kids say about your ex and maybe even the new partner. OR triggered by the bad things that your kids are exposed to when they are forced to be with a parent you don't align with. Join us in today's episode while we have expert parenting coach Crystal on as she discusses parenting and provides us with tangible tools to help us co parent during heartbreak.

In today's episode:
Understand what you can do to parent your children when you have no control over your ex Learn how to overcome triggers (good or bad) that appear while co parenting
* Become a parent who can positively influence their child no matter what the ex is doing (or not doing)

IG: www.instagram.com/the.parenting.coach
Website: www.coachcrystal.ca
Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/group
The Parenting Coach Podcast with Crystal: www.coachcrystal.ca/blog (on all platforms)

As a society we have gotten used to using the word “failed” when speaking about a completed marriage or relationship. This has led many of my Bravehearts to believe that the ending of their relationship means “they are a failure”. No matter how many completed relationships you’ve had, telling yourself you’re a failure won’t get you closer to the kind of relationship you actually want.

In today’s episode:

• Learn why your divorce/breakup doesn’t mean you’re a failure
• Understand what a divorce/breakup actually means about you
• Become someone who changes the narrative around divorce/breakups 

Cool article about the history of marriage sited in the episode: https://www.livescience.com/37777-history-of-marriage.html

The reason this is so important is because we MUST show up as future you. Future you who is over her ex, who is THRIVING not just surviving, the woman who knows her worth, attracts what she wants in life, and makes decisions that benefit her long term not short term. The woman who isn’t constantly obsessing over her ex, stalking his and her social media. You are NOT That person.

Being committed and determined and dedicated to your growth will be the difference between incremental growth vs entire life transformation. It’ll be the difference between merely surviving this vs THRIVING.

In this episode:

• Why commitment and determination is so important during a breakup
• Why we don’t just automatically feeling that way
• How to do feel committed and determined ahead of time

Here's a love letter to Bravehearts from Bravehearts! 

The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less closes Friday 2/17. To save your spot enroll here: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

I’m obsessed and totally in love with the braveheart community and the wonders I’ve seen through my group coaching that I include with my one on one clients. Healing while also watching others heal gives you connection, stability, security, and certainty. In today’s episode, I’ve outlined the problems we have that are keeping us from that kind of healing and what to do about it.

In this episode:

• The main problems that keep us from healing our heartbreak with others
• The transformation you can have when you heal with the group
• The steps to create your own break UP transformational experience

Notes: www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex ask any questions you might have at dorothy@dorothyabjohnson.com 

Building everything on your own doesn’t mean you’re alone forever. I talk about the concept of building a bigger and better life than you had with your ex. Learning to build that on your own so that no one can take it away like your ex did. People get this confused and think I’m saying … let’s get good on your own so you can be good in a relationship. Close, but not that’s not exactly what I’m saying. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn what it looks like to build the life you always wanted regardless of what your ex is doing
• Understand how to build that life on your own while also finding “the one”
• Become the person who has everything they ever wanted with or without a partner

In today's episode, Braveheart Alumni Kara will share her breakup journey which included her strong faith. Which had her constantly hoping and holding out for her ex. We hope you enjoy!

Kara's Info
Website: www.thewanderingsongstress.com 
Youtube: @karalockwood8306
Instagram @the.wandering.songstress

Many Bravehearts think that their ex was the best they could do, that there’s no one else out there for them. But Braveheart Robyn realized that in reality, she could now get married. That she now could have a step dad for her children that would actually BE and SHOW up as the dad she always wanted her children to have. This realization changed the game for her getting over your ex journey. What would that be like for you?

In today’s episode:

• Learn how to overcome the constant thought that your ex was the best you could do
• Understand what’s holding you back from feeling content, calm and proud when it comes to life after your ex
• Become the version of you that knows their ex wasn’t the best they could do - it was just the beginning

Grief isn’t based on time—but practice. My client, Chelsea, is giving you insider info on her first four weeks of working with me, and why she felt the need for coaching just days after her breakup happened.

• What to expect:
  Understand what grieving is in the context of a breakup
• Learn to distinguish what kind of grief gets you better vs worse
• Develop the skill to let go of the negative emotions that run through you

www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

Find Chelsea at: @clham_ on Instagram

Getting negative feedback is difficult, especially when it’s from your closest friends/family/loved ones. If your ex said negative things about you during or after the relationship ended take a listen to today’s episode where we get clear about what negative feedback is and what to do about it. Sometimes we want to work on the things we got feedback on and other times it’s simply mind drama that we can become aware of and address. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn the difference between the simple fix or mind drama when it comes to negative feedback from your ex
• Understand how to use negative feedback to fuel a life your ex regrets leaving
• Become the person who doesn’t let negative feedback from her ex get to her

Decision making is so important when it comes to rebuilding your self-confidence. In today’s episode, I share a sneak peek of the decision making content I provide in module 6 of the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or LESS program. We talk about 3 main areas when it comes to learning the skill of decision making that will help you not only rebuild confidence in yourself but also show up and make NEW decisions and feel AMAZING about them.

In this episode:

• 3 important tips about making decisions
• How to create new results in your life by making new decisions
• How to feel good no matter what decision you make

The tools section of this had to remain in the program because without the context of the modules 1-5 the exercises wouldn’t make sense.

If you’d like to use the tools, I’d highly recommend getting signed up for the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or LESS program at www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex