How Not to Screw Up Your Kids (Dr Maryhan)

Here's a thought for you - every interaction you have with your child will leave a trace - in the wiring of their brain. Repeated interactions of the same type will build permanent connections - so we want these to be helpful ones which build resilience rather than reliance.

In this episode I'll share the five core skills we should be teaching our under five year olds to give them the best possible start whilst reminding you it's never too late to start.

Here are the highlights: 

(01:02) Our children are the house, and we provide the scaffolding 

(03:41) Positive early development is critical 

(06:26) Every interaction with your child affects the wiring in their brain 

(10:13) Managing big emotions with good communication skills 

(14:10) Activities to aid your child’s emotional literacy 

(17:23) Help your children to problem solve 

(20:50) Understanding emotions 

(25:32) Building natural curiosity 

(28:03) The freedom to ask questions 

(30:43) I can’t do that... yet 

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This episode is about how you can achieve sibling harmony.

Now let me start by being totally honest and upfront – sibling rivalry, disagreements and fall outs are normal. Your children will want to kill each other at times and really dislike each other most of the rest of the time – and that’s normal, you aren’t a bad parent, we don’t all get along with everyone!

However, there are things we do as parents which can make the situation worse, which we need to stop doing, and there are strategies we can employ to help give our children the tools to manage difference.

Here are the highlights: 

{3:25} Sibling arguments are normal

{5:25} Comparisons

{8:25} Siblings won’t necessarily like each other

{12:10} Don’t referee what you don’t see

{19:27} Children are entitled to get annoyed or jealous 

{21:50} Children measure time differently and may feel marginalised

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This episodes responds to a listener question highlighting something so many parents worry about. How do we know if our children or teens are struggling making / keeping friends and if they are - when and how do we help??

In this episode I'll share how best to uncover any potential issues and then how to support them to make the very best of friendships for them.

Here are the highlights: 

(00:30) Leslie’s question 

(02:27) Building a tribe 

(06:45) Figure out your starting point 

(12:26) The fear of initiating 

(15:24) Our children value different things from friendships 

(18:52) Green friends and red friends 

(22:20) Finding friendship through common interests 

(26:06) Connecting with their own judgment 

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Parenting is harder now than it has ever been. We are busier than ever, juggling more, and we don’t always share the same views as our partner about how to best parent. It’s then a whole different minefield to navigate if you and your partner have split and are now co-parenting; not always amicably. 

This podcast episode is for you if….. 

You want to be more consistent with your parenting 

You are prepared to take a really honest look at how you parent - warts and all 

You want practical ways to co-parent without the battles

Here are the highlights: 

{0:39} The 5 bedtime parenting styles 

{2:45} Children thrive on consistent parenting 

{8:34} Children's behaviour tells us how they're feeling 

{10:13} Children learn how to self-regulate through observation 

(13:41} Answering back is disrespectful 

{18:50} Children should be grateful for all we do 

{21:17} The Sunday family meeting template

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Is it our responsibility to push our children so they achieve what they are capable of? Goodness knows where they'd end up if we didn't?!! I'll share why I think this approach is flawed and might actually back-fire. I'll also share what we should be doing instead.

Here are the highlights:

(2:20) Mistakes and failure 

(4:45) Two types of motivation

(7:15) Three parental choices

(9:50) Setting standards and expectations

(14:00) Remember growth mindset

(17:45) Mastery goals matter, not performance goals

(20:35) Give children a sense of autonomy

(23:15) Challenge them just enough

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A must listen if you are struggling with sibling arguments and friction which is making life at home feel quite unbearable. The solution isn’t just in how you deal with it in the moment it’s in how your child sees themselves in your family.

Here are the highlights:

(1:25) Sibling rivalry is a natural part of family dynamics

(3:39) How does your child feel about themselves?

(5:31) What role does your child have within the family?

(8:59) Birth order matters

(10:50) Do you find one child easier to parent?

(15:10) Don’t referee what you don’t see

(19:25) Don’t tell you children they must love each other

(22:21) Allocate time based on need, not equality

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In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode I answer a question from a listener who is expecting her first child and is worried she won't be a good mum.

Firstly, thank you! I've had some amazing questions from listeners recently and your answers help every parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle and educator that listens in. Your openness helps others.

Back to the episode, listen in as I share my 3 top tips for anyone feeling like an imposter, not just expectant mothers.

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More discussion with Catherine around managing screen time, how social platforms affect emotional wellbeing and finding a balance.

Here are the highlights:

(2:15) Understanding how your child uses their devices

(9:45) Why do you need your phone close by?

(13:55) Tracking screen/device time?

(16:55) Which rules do you still follow?

(18:45) Catherine’s 3 top tips for parents

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Alright, so this episode is all about New Year's resolutions and its only November!!! Please just go with it as it could quite literally change your life and inspire your children too. 

It all starts with this simple question “If you could design your life for 2023; how it makes you feel, who you want to spend it with, and what experiences you want to have, how would you design it?”. 

In this episode I will share the answers I gave in 2020 for my 21 for 2021 and how I’m doing it differently in 2023. Are you ready to join me?? 

Here are the highlights: 

(22:22) The most wonderful time of the year 

(06:45) Ask yourself one simple question 

(12:19) A love-hate relationship with meditation 

(16:10) Be more intentional 

(19:48) 70% of our behaviour is driven by subconscious habit 

(23:46) The start of my 23 for 2023 

(26:47) Are you doing what you really want to do? 

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Children’s Mental Health Week takes place from 5-11 February 2024 in the UK and this year's theme is ‘My Voice Matters’. It was set up by children’s mental health charity Place2Be and shines a spotlight on the importance of children and young people’s mental health. My Voice Matters is about empowering children and young people by providing them with the tools they need to express themselves.

Today I'm revisiting an episode I released in May 2022, as I thought it would be helpful for parents, grandparents, teachers and anyone wanting to understand how to support children's mental health.

I'll discuss what mental health is, why we keep hearing about rising numbers, what are the common factors, and if some children are more likely to have issues with it. I'll then share my top 5 tips on how we can best equip our children to safeguard their mental health. 

This episode is an overview of mental health, if you’d like specific tips on how to spot mental health issues and how you can help your child, please listen to:

Ep 3: Anxiety Part 1 and Ep 10: Anxiety Part 2

If you’d like to understand the link between wellbeing and nutrition, please listen to:

Ep 9: The link between children's emotional wellbeing and nutrition with Lucinda Miller  

And finally if you’d like to understand the importance of play for children, listen to:

Ep 34: Play, a child's work

Here are the highlights: 

(1:20) What do we mean by mental health? 

(07:30) Common factors affecting mental health 

(16:40) Encourage problem solving

(19:45) Teach your child about self-care 

(24:15) Promote regular reflective practice 

(28:00) Maintain connections 

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This week’s Bucket Emptying podcast episode addresses a question from a concerned parent - how to support a child who is self-deprecating after making poor choices. 

Your child might say things like "I'm a bad person", "I'm a naughty person", or "I'm awful” after snatching a toy from a friend, getting angry when they’re frustrated or squabbling with a sibling.

Listen in as I explain how to help your child understand that their behaviour is separate from their identity and doesn’t define them!

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In this episode Stephanie shares her strategies as an educational consultant and coach for supporting children and teens as they navigate tests and exams. 

Whether your children are taking tests which measure their progress, exams to get into their next schools, or exams at 16 and 18 which are likely to determine University or career pathways you’ll want to listen to this. In fact I found so many great tips for talking to our children about life and challenges - beyond tests - so you’re in for a real treat. 

BUY STEPHANIE’S BOOK ‘COLLEGE IS NOT MANDATORY’ HERE 

Here are the highlights: 

(03:11) A test grade does not define our children 

(08:37) We live in a comparison culture 

(13:48) Teachers and parents need to use the same language 

(20:27) Separating our identity from what we do 

(22:01) The football analogy 

(27:37) Taking the anxiety out of tests 

Also mentioned in this episode: 

Ep 051: Helping Children Feel Confident About Their Future with Stephanie Haynes 

Connect with Stephanie: 

Visit the Website 

Follow on Instagram 

Connect on LinkedIn 

Subscribe on YouTube 

Follow on Facebook 

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Have we given our children an opt-out clause, allowing them to avoid difficult things, because we're so worried about their emotional being??? I think so. How do we course correct? I'll share in this two-part episode.

Here are the highlights:

(1:14) Has the pendulum swung too far?

(4:00) Children are a building under construction

(5:55) Are you preparing them for their future?

(11:16) Hold your children to high expectations

(14:17) Create a sense of agency for your child

(17:45) The importance of boundaries 

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As parents we often find ourselves in patterns and cycles which have become habitual, and which don’t serve us, or our family. Maybe we tolerate behaviour because we’re too exhausted to make the change, or we know we are likely to encounter challenges, so we maintain the status quo to keep everyone happy?

A good morning routine helps us step out of auto-pilot and more into conscious parenting.

I challenge you to try my SHINE Daily Practice for one week! Let me know the difference you notice at contact@drmaryhan.com

You can purchase your own SHINE planner at https://drmaryhan.com/books/

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This week's Bucket Emptying episode is a must-watch for all parents out there! 

Join me as I share my advice on how to stop comparing yourself to other parents and empty your own bucket. 

Let's break the habit and start focusing on our own journey. 

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Sleep is so important for children and yet we often have so many issues getting our children to bed. This episode responds to a listener question asking to how to help their child with sleep struggles.

If you need more support with this topic please also listen to Episode 5: Bedroom Routines and Sleep

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A very candid and honest conversation with my daughter about her neurodiversity. She opens up about feeling different to her friends from an early age - they seemed to play very differently. She shares why a diagnosis helped her know herself, her experience of medication, and how she's navigating life day to day. There are also come parenting do's and don'ts.

Here are the highlights:

(2:30) Catherine shares her experiences pre-diagnosis

(10:01) Let’s talk about the diagnosis

(14:30) Helping parents understand how they may trigger anxiety

(28:00) Social anxiety

(33:20) Help your child celebrate their strengths and skills

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Why do parents need a village to raise resilient adults in the 21st century? 

Listen to this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode as I discuss the premise behind the "it takes a village" proverb and its relevance in our modern world. 

I'll explore the 3 key reasons we all need a village to thrive and succeed. 

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Friendships can be one of the biggest challenges our girls have to navigate. It can cause so much upset and make life miserable. So, Amy and Jess wrote a book to help their daughters so they never had to struggle with friendships as they did. They hope the hard lessons they learned help smooth the road for young girls and help them walk with their heads held high, never doubting who they are, or wondering if they are enough.  Whilst the book was written for girls, the lessons and techniques are just as usual for boys. 

CLICK HERE TO BUY I'll Be There (And Let's Make Friendship Bracelets): A Girl's Guide to Making and Keeping Real-Life Friendships NOW 

Here are the highlights: 

(02:41) How the book came to be 

(05:59) The difference between boys and girls 

(10:52) Normalising vulnerability with our children 

(17:12) Mom has issues too 

(23:59) Someone is either with you or against you 

(31:45) Standing on the outside of the circle 

(37:15) Friendship shouldn’t be earned 

(42:03) Be humble 

Connect with Sister I Am With You: 

VISIT THE WEBSITE 

JOIN THE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY 

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In today's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, the focus is on parental guilt. It's a feeling many of us experience almost as soon as our child is handed to us, impacting various aspects of our lives. 

To address this challenge, it's crucial to recognise when the guilt arises from a misalignment between our actions as parents and our perceived responsibilities. The first step is to identify and understand this disconnect. 

Join me as I explore strategies for managing your parental guilt. 

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Enjoy my conversation with the amazing Anna Mathur, a psychotherapist, mother of three and best selling author of Mind Over Mother.  Anna’s passion for taking therapy out of the therapy room has culminated in her wonderful new book The Little Book of Clam for New Mums, which I feel is a must read for any mother regardless of the age of your children. We talk rage & irritability, fears of judgements, self-care, and missing our pre-children life. A must listen for every mum.   

Click here to buy THE LITTLE BOOK OF CALM FOR NEW MUMS by Anna Mathur 

Here are the highlights: 

(03:17) The Little Book of Calm for New Mums 

(05:51) Dealing with overwhelm as a new mum 

(09:08) Losing your voice of intuition 

(15:44) We don’t always like our children... and that’s ok! 

(21:57) Validate your emotions 

(24:23) The importance of self-care 

(28:24) The shame of missing our old lives 

(35:42) It’s harder to reflect when you’re full of feeling 

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It is estimated 1.25 million people have an eating disorder in the U.K. and the data is pretty similar worldwide. Eating disorders are a mental health condition where you use the control of food to cope with feelings and other situations.

Unhealthy eating behaviours may include eating too much or too little or worrying about your weight or body shape.

The key, in my view, is being able to pick up on the early warning signs, so support and intervention can be put in place before it becomes an established disorder. In this episode I talk through the top 7 patterns of behaviour to look out for.

If you’ve been affected by the content in this episode, you can access further information and support via BEAT EATING DISORDERS - THE UK'S EATING DISORDER CHARITY

Here are the highlights: 

(01:44) From anorexia to bulimia - what is an eating disorder? 

(05:16) The warning signs of eating disorders 

(07:08) Brene Brown and guilt vs shame 

(11:50) Mechanisms of control 

(16:47) Body confidence and self-criticism 

(22:42) Role modelling positive relationships with food

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It’s not easy being a boy. Social expectations of masculinity are everywhere - don’t cry, be strong, keep your emotions in check! I’ll share the five conversations we should be having with our sons, nephews, godsons and male friends.

Here are the highlights:

(1:03) Birth-rate for boys is higher than girls

(3:00) Challenge male stereotypes

(6:55) Mental health is as important as physical health 

(13:15) Be conscious of confidence comparisons

(18:30) Risk-taking

(22:18) Communication is crucial

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This episode is all about how to manage sibling conflict.  

Now let me start by being totally honest and upfront - sibling rivalry, disagreements and fall outs are normal. Your children will want to kill each other at times and really dislike each other most of the rest of the time - and that’s normal, you aren’t a bad parent, you haven’t failed and they are certainly not going to turn into a psyho killer!! 

However, there are things we do as parents which makes things worse, which we need to stop doing, and there are some new strategies we can employ to help give our children the tools to manage conflict. 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:10} You aren't a bad parent 

{3:08} If you don't see it, you can't referee it 

{6:00} Be calm and keep separate 

{9:52} Don't be tempted to get sucked in 

{12:53} Our children have a right to feel annoyed 

{15:25} Look at things objectively 

{19:06} Children measure time differently to us 

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This episode is personal as I discuss the guilt and judgement we experience as parents, and specifically mothers. In fact it means so much to me that we had to split the recording into 2 episodes. This is Part 1 discussing guilt.

I wanted to record an episode about the guilt and judgement we feel as parents, especially mothers.

In fact it's a topic I feel so strongly about that we had to split the recording into 2 episodes as I share some of my personal experiences. I think that guilt comes with parenting in one package when we become parents.

So, here's Part 1 where I talk about guilt.

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This is episode takes a slightly different tack to parenting - looking at it from the perspective of “If only I knew!”   

It takes the approach if I knew then what I knew now - how would I parent differently? I believe quite strongly that it’s never too late to start afresh, we genuinely cannot screw up our kids, if we approach parenting consciously - constantly reflecting back on choices we’ve made and why we made them - and then making changes when we need to.   

So if you’re an expectant parent with your first child and you’re listening to this, or you’re expecting your second, third, fourth child or maybe you’re a parent looking at making a fresh start with your parenting. This episode is for you. 

Here are the highlights: 

(00:32) It’s never too late 

(04:35) Listening to our Inner Child 

(07:33) What kind of adult do you want to raise? 

(12:50) Children do what they see, not what we say 

(15:22) Parenting is a work in progress 

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In this episode I am joined by Clare Ford as we talk about how we can create a positive learning environment for our children to succeed academically. I know this is a topic I get asked about all the time! 

We talk through the common challenges we face as parents - how do we encourage our children to learn without nagging!!  

Clare is an award winning education expert with over 20 years’ teaching experience, an international best-selling author and Founder of SwitchedON!, the cutting-edge global education platform offering inspirational education and parenting solutions.   

Here are the highlights: 

(03:24) Let’s think about what we don’t want 

(07:31) Create a space to talk and identify the triggers 

(16:19) Trust your child’s better judgment 

(20:59) Respect your child’s unique skills and attributes 

(28:25) Every child is different 

(32:31) The benefits of being fully present 

(37:03) The higher self is where the magic happens 

Click here to find out more about SwitchedON! 

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This episode is all about the secrets to a Happy Family. Now I am going to be upfront here - there is no such thing as a perfectly happy family - that’s just not reality. What I am going to talk about are the key components we need to master to make family life as harmonious as we can possibly make it. And the biggest secret is about managing our own expectations.  

The three core components I will cover are:

• Siblings relationships
• Roles within the family
• Communication 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:23} Myth-busting sibling relationships 

{4:15} Our interference causes the most problems 

{9:14} Never referee your children's arguments 

{12:03} Step in when you hear raised voices 

{17:32} "I've noticed that..." 

{19:51} Roles within the family 

{22:36} Perception of self and others 

{25:20} Family meetings 

{29:38} Be on the same parenting page 

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I want to talk about all things related to uncertainty. You might instinctively think about the global pandemic, yet there are so many other types of uncertainty our children, teens, and young adults will need to learn to navigate – changing school, applying to university, moving house, forming new friendships. 

Some people have a high tolerance to uncertainty, whilst others worry excessively and become paralysed with fear. I will share my top five strategies to help navigate uncertainty more successfully. 

Here are the highlights:

(02:27) Does your child have a low tolerance to uncertainty?

(07:49) Top 5 strategies to manage your child’s tolerance 

(09:17) No. 1 – Be fully present 

(14:19) No. 2 – Focus on the things you CAN control 

(17:16) No. 3 – Practice being contrary  

(21:53) No. 4 – Manage your internal chatter 

(28:14) No. 5 – Practicing gratitude  

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This episode is for you if you are finding tech and its use has become totally out of control in your family. Whether that's teens permanently in bedrooms or constantly on games consoles. I'll share what you can do practically to move away from constant battles to a little more calm.

Here are the highlights:

(4:23) Accept you’re now on a journey

(6:00) You set the framework in your home

(7:58) Audit your own tech use 

(8:50) Understand your child/teen’s use of tech

(12.33) Start with the big rocks

(16:40) Shift parenting from monitoring to mentoring

(19:55) Help find new interests to run alongside tech

(22:18) Remember to work as a family

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This episode is all about the importance of a morning routine and how it helps us to become more effective parents. In fact, I’m going to be even more specific than that’s and talk to all you mothers out there. Now it’s not that this episode won’t be relevant to dads, it absolutely will, I have just found in my experience mum’s gain the most from the shift in emphasis - as will become evident as we go through the process. 

As parents we often find ourselves in patterns and cycles which have become habitual, and which don’t serve us, or our family. Maybe we tolerate behaviour because we’re too exhausted to make the change, or we know we are likely to encounter challenges so we maintain the status quo to keep everyone happy?  

A good morning routine helps us step out of auto-pilot and more into conscious parenting 

Here are the highlights: 

{00:47} Getting stuck in habits 

{03:50} When we take care of ourselves, we can better take care of others 

{07:56} A good morning routine starts with bedtime 

{11:43} S is for Silence 

{15:01} H is for Hydration 

{18:22} I is for Intention & N is for Notetaking 

{23:10} E is for Exercise

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These three heartbreaking words elicits one of two responses from us - deep hurt, or anger at their ungrateful rudeness!!! I'll explain why our children and teens throw this at us and how best to respond - not only in the moment, but in longer term.

Here are the highlights: 

(2:00) We’re not meant to be their best friend

(4.50) Try to stay compassionate and balanced 

(8:45} Please don’t panic

(10:18} Take a moment if you can

(15:35) Acknowledge they’re experiencing a big feeling

(17:30) Deal with it in a way that is appropriate to their development stage (not biological age)

(23:00) What’s at the root of the big feeling?

Previous episodes mentioned in episode 110:

Ep 1: Managing Emotions

Ep 89: Social & Emotional Development

Ep 90: Mum Guilt

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Battles with our children at mealtimes can create stressful family situations. It’s helpful to identify why your child won’t eat, is it texture, specific food types or a phobia?

Please trust your gut instinct as a parent and if you are concerned, please consult your GP for medical advice.

If your child struggles with eating you might find these additional episodes helpful:

Ep 9: The Link Between Children’s Emotional Wellbeing and Nutrition with Lucinda Miller

Ep 96: Nutrition for ADHD with Lucinda Miller

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All we see if the huge emotional explosion when we ask our child to put their toys away, but their bucket is already full from their day's experiences. What is the bucket and how can we empty it?

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Being shy and being introverted aren't the same thing, although they may look the same. I'll help you understand which your child is, and how to best help them flourish more in social situations.

Here are the highlights:

(1:55) Difference between introvert and shy person

(3:00) A shy child

(6:02) An introverted child

(10:26) Get super clear on whether it’s shyness or introversion

(11:25) Do not label 

(14:37) Set up scaffolded social situations 

(18:31) Rehearse and role play

(20:45) Set small goals

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I want to talk about children’s mental health. What is it, why do we keep hearing about rising numbers in it, what are the common factors which affect it, and are some children more likely to have issues with it???? I will then share my top 5 tips on how we can best equip our children to safeguard their mental health.   

Here are the highlights: 

(00:52) What do we mean by mental health? 

(04:19) Our experiences leave a chemical signature 

(07:20) Common factors affecting mental health 

(13:19) It’s ok to be a parent with mental health issues 

(17:03) Children must learn how to problem solve 

(19:52) Teach our children about self-care 

(24:42) Promote regular reflective practice 

(28:15) Maintain connections 

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Are you a parent who recently discovered that your teen is vaping? You're not alone. In a recent listener question, a parent expressed concern over their teen's vaping habits. 

As a parent, it's crucial to have an open and honest conversation with your teen about the dangers of vaping and why they are choosing to do it. 

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Doesn’t every parent want an independent, self motivated, resilient child or teen who takes ownership of their learning (and revising), their bedroom, their behaviour and their choices??  

Sound too good to be true?  It’s really not but the secret is starting early and please don’t worry if you’ve already got a teen - all is not lost!!  

Independence breeds confidence and confidence leads to resilience. What distinguishes those who are the most successful in life is their ability to pick themselves up, dust themselves down, and start all over again!! I’ll share my top seven tips.   

Here are the highlights: 

(02:42) Are we too risk averse with our children? 

(06:36) Our role is to raise independent children 

(11:12) Set growth-appropriate expectations 

(13:58) Reflect on your own attitides towards risk 

(17:31) Your children should contribute around the house 

(21:29) Encourage children to do tasks in their own way 

(24:26) Help them to problem solve independently 

(26:04) Teach responsibility through an allowance 

Also Mentioned in this Episode: 

Old Enough – Watch Now on Netflix 

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Is the pursuit of happiness for our children an illusion? Are we doing them a disservice making happiness our focus because it just isn't possible to feel that way all the time! Maybe we should be focusing on something else??

Here are the highlights:

(1:44) Why do we focus so much on happiness?

(4:08) We should be accepting of every emotion

(5:15) Don’t rush in to fix

(10:05) We need to regulate our own emotions in that moment

(15:06) How need to be emotional role models

(19:17) We need to empathise

(23:10) Don’t create a habit of trading feelings

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What can we do when we find our parenting varies so drastically from our partners that’s it’s causing real issues at home – impacting our children, our relationship and making family life feel like a battleground??

Here are the highlights:

(2:30) Not minor disagreements, but core values

(5:00) Parenting is a reflection of what is happening in your entire life, not just your role as a parent

(11:22) Is your relationship sound?

(15:25) Never undermine your partner’s parenting in the moment, unless…

(19:30) Don’t avoid the difficult conversations

(23:12) Have faith in your ability to work it out

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I published this first episode about Anxiety in June 2021, and it has been hugely popular. I've recently had lots of requests for help around anxiety, so thought it was a great time to republish it. As they say 'repetition is the mother of learning, the father of action, which makes it the architect of accomplishment!'

Even if you listened back in 2021, I think you'll find it useful to listen again, especially if your child is currently struggling with anxiety.

In the episode I talk about what anxiety is, how you might know your child is struggling with anxiety, and what can you start doing now to help.

Here are the highlights: 

(1:29) The scale of mental health issues

(3:52) Imagine a seesaw

(7:05) Think about it from your child’s perspective

(9:00) The physical effects of anxiety

(12:53) Managing the internal dialogue

(14:57) The common signs of anxiety

Listen to Ep 10: Anxiety (Part 2)

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As the saying goes, ‘we all juggle multiple hats’ as parents and finding balance seems to be illusive to most of us. Some days we feel we’re acing it, yet I think I speak for most of us when I say we more often than not feel like we are constantly teetering on the edge of exhaustion. 

Helen Hopkins is a Wellness Coach and approaches balance from the perspective of habits and how we can find opportunities for balance in those habitual ‘dead times’. You will quite literally be blown away by her simple techniques – a must listen! 

Here are the highlights: 

(03:05) Helping people find their unique balance 

(08:57) Our definition of balance is subjective 

(13:13) 32,000 decisions every day 

(19:03) Changing habitual habits for quick wins 

(25:17) Looking after someone else starts with looking after yourself 

(30:00) Give yourself permission 

(34:11) It’s ok to not be ok 

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At some point our children will grow up and they will need to navigate adult challenges. They'll need to get a job, or start a business, manage their finances, cook, clean, learn to manage conflict, plan, prioritise, and so on and so on.

What are the skills they will need, and how can we better prepare them in childhood so we’re not leaving all the learning until adulthood?

Here are the highlights: 

(02:34) Striking up conversations with strangers 

(04:49) Building confidence in small steps 

(09:56) Making beds, laying tables and cooking meals 

(17:19) The lost art of the handwritten letter 

(20:17) How to answer a landline phone 

(25:36) The importance of life skills for children 

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Social and emotional development is made up of skills which help children develop their resilience and manage their thoughts, feelings and behaviour.

For me, they are the crucial components to safeguarding our children's long term wellbeing.

It’s no guarantee they won’t struggle with their mental health later in life - but it does mean they’ll be better equipped to navigate any future crisis.

Here are the highlights: 

(02:41) The biggest factors to our child’s development 

(04:38) Helping our children manage healthy relationships 

(08:31) Building resilience, self-esteem and confidence 

(17:06) Identify and label emotions 

(20:05) The concept of “I am” 

(23:06) Make it fun! 

(28:42) The importance of active listening 

(31:16) Grab a spoon 

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Doing what you are told and taking responsibility are two very different things. We all want children who take ownership for their decisions - it's a life skill they will forever use. How we instil it in them can seem very elusive but it actually lies in the little day to day things. I'll share my top 7 tips which work regardless of your child's age.

Here are the highlights:

(3:30) Make your bed – a simple, but profound responsibility

(6:22) Encourage independence

(9:50) Provide bigger choices 

(13:30) Teach consequences and follow through

(16:24) Don’t rush to fix your children’s problems or emotions

(19:40) Set expectations

(23:00) Except they will fail

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This might be something you are right in the middle of, something you think might be coming, or you are simply listening because you want to be there for a friend or someone in your family. Either way I am glad you’re here and I hope you find it useful.  

Let’s start by taking away any guilt or judgement you might be harbouring. No one embarks on the process of separating from a partner lightly. It comes with a great deal of considered thought and guilt too. Quite often the relationship has not been right for a long time. 

Staying in an unhappy relationship for the sake of the children IS more damaging to their wellbeing than separating. Full stop. 

This episode is not about persuading people to leave an unhappy relationship but it is an episode which encourages us all to be more compassionate to those who find themselves in this heart wrenching situation. Please let’s park judgment and truly seek to understand and for those in the midst of this - please know you are not alone and things will get better in time - they just feel pretty rubbish right now. 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:02} Nobody takes a separation lightly 

{3:08} Children see and know more than we think 

{9:41} Sometimes we don’t have all the answers 

{16:27} Children thrive on boundaries 

{22:03} It’s not a popularity contest 

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Have you heard of the "power of yet"? 

This tiny word holds an enormous amount of potential, and in this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, you'll learn how to harness its power. 

Discover how adding 'yet' to a statement can unlock a world of possibilities for both you and your children.

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Sleep and routines are probably the two biggest challenges we want answers to as parents regardless of how old our children are! Cat and Sarah's approach is refreshingly honest and super practical so you're in for a treat.

Listen to The Sleep Mums podcast

Buy the book 'Sleep Better Baby'

Here are the highlights: 

(02:45) Do you have a routine or not? 

(08:37) Every child has different needs 

(10:46) The difference between babies and children 

(15:11) Routine is like a crib sheet 

(17:44) Don’t get sucked into comparison 

(23:26) How to help older children settle 

(26:23) How to make sure you get enough sleep 

(32:11) Is there a difference between men and women’s sleep? 

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This is the first of my new bitesize Bucket Emptying episodes. You’ll find shorter 5-10 minute episodes released each Monday sharing my top tips and answers to your questions, all focusing on emptying your bucket!

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A conservative estimate states 3-5% of the worldwide population has ADHD. With numbers of children being diagnosed increasing, what can we do as parents if we suspect our child has ADD or ADHD? I am joined by the incredible Lucinda Miller who shares her 20 plus years experience supporting neurodiverse children using nutrition.

Here are the highlights: 

(02:23) A neurodivergent family 

(09:38) Genetics are the gun and your environment is the trigger 

(15:59) It’s all about the protein 

(18:35) The role of food in an ADHD diagnosis 

(21:13) Growth spurts, periods and puberty 

(27:05) Join Lucinda’s course 

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“The most valuable lesson we can teach our children is how to be happy and confident with who they are. Everything else falls into place when they truly believe in themselves.”

That is my absolute honest belief and it’s not because I don’t value education and what qualifications give our children - it’s just without confidence children can never ever really reach their full potential - and who wants a child growing into an unfulfilled adult???

Join me as I blow the lid off what Confidence isn’t and share my three Confidence Codes to help your child take those first steps to becoming their best selves.

Here are the highlights:

{2:08} 2 misconceptions about confidence

{3:20} Understanding the internal dialogue

{6:31} Helping your children communicate their inner feelings

{8:53} Helping our children problem solve

{9:55} Don't be a super fixer

{11:22} It's all about timing

{12:57} Encourage your children to set goals

{14:48} Appreciate the journey

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I get asked about back-chat a lot as I know it’s something we can really struggle with as parents.  

We usually associate this type of behaviour with the teenagers being rebellious and pushing every boundary, but it’s about what’s happening in our children’s internal world than something which is specifically related to a given age or stage of development. 

I’ll share my thoughts on why we are seeing this behaviour and I’ll share my top strategies to help and support. 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:18} Why are you seeing this behaviour?

{4:45} Give your child choices where you can

{9:11} Switch out of power dynamics

{14:10} Remember the 3 C’s 

{20:00} Daily connection with each child 

{24:00} Regularly check-in with yourself & your partner 

Listen to previous episodes mentioned during this episode:

Ep 6: Parenting & Co-parenting

Ep 13: Why punishments don’t work

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Welcome to the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids podcast; I am Dr Maryhan and I will be your host. Join me to find out more about what to expect in upcoming episodes from me and my guest experts.

I will also share an analogy, which for me best describes our role as parents, and I would invite you to consider it each time your children present you with a challenge, decision or a dilemma.

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In this episode I am talking about the secrets to school success and it has nothing to do with academics!  

As parents we must always keep in mind the end goal, which is to raise children who become confident, resilient adults equipped to live life happily and successfully - whatever success looks like for them NOT US!!!  

I will share with you my top three tips and how you can implement these in your family today. 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:16} There's not much time to reflect as parents 

{3:59} We must prepare our children for long-term success 

{10:51} Long-term success teaches skills 

{13:34} Demonstrating the growth mindset 

{17:22} Praise the process, not the outcome 

{20:37} 'Yet' is a powerful word 

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Whilst the release of this episode is immediately after the death Queen Elizabeth II, the approach I suggest is intended to cover any situation where a child comes into contact with the death of someone - whether that’s a direct relative, a friend, neighbour, public figure etc. 

For some the current world event may mean you are talking about death for the very first time and your child might be really still quite young, for others the Queen’s death might be bringing up old sadness for a loved one who has already died, others might have people in their lives who are currently unwell, or your children are asking questions about your own longevity. 

I’ll talk you through the eight principles to be mindful of when starting, and maintaining those conversations about death.    

Here are the highlights: 

(00:33) The Queen’s death may prompt difficult questions 

(03:02) Be honest, clear and direct 

(05:54) Children’s biggest fear is abandonment 

(10:34) Crying make us human 

(14:12) Communication is key 

(17:22) We don’t always have the perfect answer 

(20:27) There’s no one size fits all 

(23:22) We want our children to know the facts 

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Today's bucket emptying episode is all an amazing breathing technique; Take 10.

You can use this an adult, as well as also teaching it to your kids. I've tried all sorts of breathing techniques, and young people often really struggle with this notion of focusing in on the breath, anchoring themselves in the breath.

Instead of asking them to focus on the breath itself and changing the breath, this strategy asks them to focus on counting their breath which is so much easier in the moment.

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My next interview was so good I’ve split it into two parts! So for the next two I am joined by the excellent Nadim Saad. 

Nadim is a parenting and relationship coach and author of seven books including the highly acclaimed Kids Don’t Come With a Manual, Happy Confident Me Journal series and Raising Happy Confident Kids. Father of three and founder of The Happy Confident Company – focused on helping children become the best version of themselves. We talk parenting, how our childhood affects our parenting and the ten life skills all children needs to learn. Our conversation was so good, we had to break it up into two episodes! You are in for a huge treat.   

Here are the highlights: 

(01:27) The power of resilience 

(04:16) Teaching the importance of creativity 

(07:43) Kindness has a ripple effect 

(11:27) How to become a better human 

(14:41) Being present is about quality over quantity 

(18:37) What are you going to do about it? 

(22:48) The parents’ inner critic 

(26:34) The power of optimism 

(31:05) Learning to address feelings, not shut them down 

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A survey by the NHS found that 29% of six to 10-year-olds had trouble sleeping on three or more nights in the previous week. Problems getting to sleep, waking in the night or waking early were even more common among older children, affecting 38% of 11- to 16-year-olds and the majority – 57% – of young people aged 17 to 23.

To me, it’s no wonder we have rising numbers of mental health challenges with sleep data like this!!!

I want this episode to be super practical and informative so you can help your child, or teen, if they are one of these children struggling.

Here are the highlights: 

(1:03) The 3 different functions of sleep

(5:36) Keeping the worries out of the bedroom

(10:52) With privilege comes responsibility

(13:25) Dressing the bedroom

(18:34) Help them find their own strategies

(22:52) The small things that shift the emphasis of the day

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How can we help our children change their constant self-critical talk? Whether it's "I can't" all the way to "I am not enough" - they become the sum of what they hear and it's time to change!

Here are the highlights:

(2:35) Why is this important?

(6:06) A bit of science…

(7:58) Self-audit

(13:41) The brain mechanisms at play

(15:20) Where do your child’s self-critical thoughts show up most?

(19:00) Focus on the direction they want to travel

(23:15) Get your child on board - don’t lecture!

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As parents, we all want to give our children the tools to navigate the world with confidence. But what about when they're away from home? I was recently asked to write a blog post with guidance for parents managing their child’s first residential school trip, and I'm excited to share this advice with you in this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode.

If you're looking for ways to help your child do difficult things, tune in to hear my valuable insights.

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1 in 5 children aged between 10-18 years is self-harming and the numbers being admitted into hospital is rising - particularly in younger children. As parents what do we need to know about self-harm? What causes it and how we can help our children and teens if they self-harm?

Here are the highlights:

(1:15) What is self-harm?

(3:30) What are the signs to look out for?

(6:30) 1 in 5 children is initially self-harming

(7:55) Why do children and teens self-harm?

(13:20) What to do in the immediate and short-term

(21:00) Medium-term action points

(24:20) Look at the fundamental roots of why they have self-harmed

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Are chores causing arguments in your home? In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, I'll explain the importance of shifting the language we use to encourage family members to work together in maintaining the home. 

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This episode was originally released in 2022, but friendships are still one of the biggest challenges our girls have to navigate. It can cause so much upset and make life miserable. So, Amy and Jess wrote a book to help their daughters so they never had to struggle with friendships as they did.

They hope the hard lessons they learned help smooth the road for young girls and help them walk with their heads held high, never doubting who they are, or wondering if they are enough.  Whilst the book was written for girls, the lessons and techniques are just as usual for boys.

Here are the highlights:

(02:41) How the book came to be

(05:59) The difference between boys and girls

(10:52) Normalising vulnerability with our children

(17:12) Mom has issues too

(23:59) Someone is either with you or against you

(31:45) Standing on the outside of the circle

(37:15) Friendship shouldn’t be earned

(42:03) Be humble

CLICK HERE TO BUY I'll Be There (And Let's Make Friendship Bracelets): A Girl's Guide to Making and Keeping Real-Life Friendships NOW 

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Resilience is all about our children’s ability to bounce back from setbacks and it is very closely related to confidence and self-esteem. Resilience isn’t innate, it’s learnt and as their greatest teachers you can use my simple strategies to start developing your child’s resilience as well as asking yourself this simple question - “how am I modelling resilience??” 

Here are the highlights: 

(01:36) Our children are like computer programs 

(04:12) Framing the situation 

(10:45) The importance of modelling good goal-setting 

(15:34) Promote problem solving 

(19:32) Encourage risk-taking 

(22:54) Practicing daily gratitude 

(26:42) Developing good friendships 

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Everyone's got an opinion about parenting. The most irritating ones are the naive comments made by people who aren't parents themselves! At the least they are an irritant at their worst they are damaging to our wellbeing. Join me as I rant a little - then offer you some (hopefully) wise words to navigate more peacefully through them.

Here are the highlights: 

(2:00) Parenting is one of the hardest things we’ll do

(3:40) Naïve conversations about parenting

(5:30) Gender stereotypes are harmful

(9:43) We have more than 18 summers with our children!

(15:14) Stay connected to what you know is true

(17:55) Give yourself permission to feel emotions

(22:07) Connect with your tribe

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When we have a child who seems hellbent on arguing with everything we ask of them, making up their own rules, and struggling to manage their emotions – it can leave its mark on all of us.   

We often feel like we’re parenting in a war zone and then feel guilty and sad with how we’ve handled things. There isn’t a magic wand approach which will change everything, yet my seven strategies could just save your sanity and relationship with your child, without breaking their spirit. 

Here are the highlights: 

(00:41) There’s no quick fix 

(05:45) Reframing the situation 

(10:51) Give your children control within set parameters 

(17:36) Experiential learning 

(22:54) You cannot over-communicate with a headstrong child 

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This episode is all about school holidays and how we can not only survive them – we can thrive as a family. Cliché I know but go with it.

I will share with you the tools I used when my children were younger, which worked so well – my children asked for them each holiday! 

The holidays are long but they don’t have to be a huge juggling act, battleground, or source of untold stress. 

I also have a bumper set of free resources to help you. 

Here are the highlights: 

(01:00) Suddenly everyone is home 

(06:37) Get children involved in planning your holidays 

(09:17) Set realistic expectations 

(13:14) It’s ok to ask for help 

(15:49) Cheerful Treats & Grumble Chores 

(21:35) GEARS 

(25:10) Setting challenges for ourselves 

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We’ve all been there right? Whether it’s because we’ve said ‘no’ to something, asked them to do something they don’t want to do, or called ‘time for dinner, bed, bath, school, homework etc ……. and they’ve totally lost the plot.

Their reaction seems so disproportionate, you’d think we’d cut off a limb, and yet to them it’s the end of their world and to us we’re struggling to know what to say and how to keep our own emotions in check.

Join me as I share the three main reasons why children struggle to manage their emotions, and what we can do to help support them.

Here are the highlights:

(2:15) The 3 main reasons your child is having a meltdown

(4:19) Chronological and developmental age

(7:00) Don’t meet their fire with your own 

(13:34) Discussion after a period of calm

(16:30) Using a glitter jar to explain emotions

(22:00) Hand breathing strategy – use in times of calm first!

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How can we help our children and teens when they are taking tests and exams? Whether they are lacking motivation and doing absolutely no work, or they are overworking and getting themselves super stressed. Understanding some basic principles is crucial. We can then step up to be the support they need, and they can step up and be their best.

Here are the highlights: 

(01:40) Revision should be a time our children refresh something they already understand 

(03:00) Our role as parents

(4:00) Practical support

(10:00) Reasons your child may lack motivation

(19:20) Self-care, especially for highly driven children

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Course correcting 101. How can we help children from 2 - 18 years operate outside their zone of comfort without compromising their emotional-wellbeing?? This is a super practical episode with lots of how toos. You won't want to miss it!!

Here are the highlights:

(2:30) Reminder of importance of high expectations, agency and boundaries

(4:20) Why have I chosen a toddler, 8 year old and 15 year old ages/stages of development? 

(8:26) Examples of how to hold your child to high expectations for each age/stage of development

(14:55) Examples of how to develop a sense of agency for each age/stage of development

(22:22) Examples of how to set boundaries for each age/stage of development

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As parents, it's not uncommon to feel overwhelmed by our own emotions, which can make it challenging to help our children manage theirs. But don't worry, I'm here to help! 

In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, I share some practical tips to help you regulate your own emotions, so you can in turn help your children manage theirs. 

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We’ve all been there right? Whether it’s because we’ve said ‘no’ to something, asked them to do something they don’t want to do, or called ‘time for dinner, bed, bath, school, homework etc ……. and they’ve totally lost the plot.

Their reaction seems so disproportionate, you’d think we’d cut off a limb, and yet to them it’s the end of their world and to us we’re struggling to know what to say and how to keep our own emotions in check.

Join me as I share the three main reasons why children struggle to manage their emotions, and what we can do to help support them.

Here are the highlights:

(1:53) The 3 main reasons why your child is having a meltdown

(4:29) Chronological vs developmental age

(7:12) Why not to meet fire with fire

(11:03) Managing emotions after a confrontation

(13:17) Be the role model for your child

(16:49) Glitter jars

(24:36) Create opportunities for children to practice

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Learning to say no can be a game-changer. 

Do you often find yourself saying yes to everything and everyone, only to regret it later? Setting boundaries takes practice and can be challenging, but it's worth it. In this week's Bucket Emptying episode I share my tips on how to learn to say no and prioritise what matters most. 

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This episode responds to a listener question highlighting something so many parents worry about.

"How can I make separations easier for my child, for instance when being dropped at school, friends etc?"

In this episode I’ll explain separation anxiety and share strategies to support you, and your child understand why it is happening and to manage the situation.

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Is it really possible for us to help our children unplug on a regular basis?? Absolutely! We just need to know how. I will help you recognise when your child or teen needs to unplug, and ways we can create balance for our children and family.

Here are the highlights: 

(1:15) Is it possible to unplug children completely? 

(4:00) Patterns of behaviour that show your child needs to unplug

(6:21) Why is unplugging important?

(11:16) Tech has no place at mealtimes

(14:06) Tech has no place in bedrooms whilst sleeping

(17:10) No magic bullet

(19:53) Not a one hit wonder; have regular conversations

(21:19) It's about balance

(23:00) Role model

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It’s a month of anniversaries, and this week we celebrate 1 year of the Bucket Emptying episode. So, I’m re-releasing the episode explaining the importance of yours, and your child’s bucket!

We don't notice our bucket filling until that last drop of water goes into the bucket and the water overflows, and we get explosions, big emotions, and often tears as a consequence.

But do you or your child know what fills your bucket? 

Listen as I share my top tips on how to empty your bucket and stop the inevitable overflow.

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In this week’s episode I’ll unpick practical ways we can support a child who might be struggling making friendships, as well as helping a child transitioning to a new school and starting afresh. 

A quick reminder - this is Part 2 in a 3 part series on Friendships. Part 1 is Episode 158

Here are the highlights:

(1:25) Characteristics required to make friends

(6:38) Conversational skills

(11:27) Practice

(14:31) Encourage openmindness 

(18:03) Importance of a diverse cycle of friends

(20:25) Be patient

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Today's Bucket Emptying episode is about navigating the challenges of decision-making as parents. We often find ourselves searching for the ‘right’ choice, aiming to minimise the chances of making mistakes for our children.

But is there a ‘right’ decision???

Join me for a 10-minute conversation where I explore the concept of decision-making in parenting.

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Helping children navigate friendships issues is all about observing the do's and don'ts I'll share. When we follow these our children feel better equipped to handle anything.

A quick reminder that this is Part 3 in a 3 part series on Friendships. 

Listen to Part 1

Listen to Part 2

Here are the highlights:

(2:30) Listen

(5:42) Ask questions to clarify

(7:04) Empathise with the lens they have seen the situation

(9:24) How can I help?

(10:47) Brainstorm together

(14:45) Ask about friendships regularly

(16:50) Don’t race in to fix

(17:50) Don’t push friendships

(20:25) Don’t assume your child is guilt free!

(22:40) Don’t ignore commentary

(23:50) Don’t ignore potential bullying

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Today's Bucket Emptying podcast episode is a must-listen for parents who are considering giving a mobile device to their child or teen. 

In 2023, 30% of eight-year-olds had their own smartphone. Yes, you read that right - a third of eight-year-olds own their own digital device. This data is quite eye-opening as it highlights the prevalence of smartphones among young children. 

It's crucial to carefully consider this decision within your family and determine what is best for your child. Tune in to the episode as I share my insights and advice on navigating this modern parenting dilemma.

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Struggling with children or teens who can’t be bothered, spend hours on sofas/beds glued to televisions or devices, never seem to want to do anything, and could happily while away the whole day in-doors?? I’ve got you covered in this two-part episode.

Here are the highlights:

(1:00) Warning - it’s going to be a slow journey

(3:30) Let’s look at the context behind the behaviour for your child

(10:35) The culture in your home around entertainment and boredom

(16:42) Is your child struggling with confidence?

(20:10) Overwhelm

(21:00) Sleep struggles

(16:50) Don’t race in to fix

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Today's Bucket Emptying podcast episode delves into the powerful practice of gratitude. Research shows that our brain cannot differentiate between reality and imagination, so by focusing on what we're grateful for, we immerse ourselves in positivity and joy. This mindset not only brings small wins and happiness but also sets the right tone before bedtime.

Similar to how we must secure our oxygen masks first on a plane, prioritising our own gratitude practice is crucial before guiding our children to do the same. 

What are you grateful for today? 

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Bed-rot and apathy are learnt behaviours, which can be unlearnt! I'll give you 5 things you can do today to break these bad habits.

Here are the highlights:

(2:05) Brace yourself

(2:49) Choose your start date carefully

(5:00) Consistency is key

(7:36) Your expectations

(10:35) Understand the root cause

(12:41) Agree proportionate amount of time

(16:11) Do not tell them how to use the time

(18:29) Ground rules

Listen to bed-rot and apathy Part 1

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This episode features a unique bucket-emptying resource created on the spot during a chaotic school holiday moment when my children were young. 

As a control enthusiast, I always have a notebook handy, which led to the creation of this resource. It’s always been a hit with my kids, who used to request it frequently, and still talk fondly of it as adults.

If you're in need of a helpful resource to stop the grumbling during the school holidays, you need to listen to this episode! Please do share with anyone in your village that could do with some support during the school holidays.

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Is parenting a constant battle? Are struggling to maintain boundaries, reasonable expectations aren’t being met, or if your child is shouting and/or using their physical self to exert their emotions? This is a must listen episode!

Here are the highlights:

(2:00) Let’s get some realistic context

(6:19) Focus on what is out of control for you?

(10:35) Choose one area for 30 days

(14:57) Make a plan

(20:15) Communicate the skills you’re improving for your child/teen

(23:01) Coaching not lecturing

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The purpose of my latest bucket-emptying session is to provide valuable insights to help alleviate your stress and enhance productivity, to stop your bucket overflowing. 

During the school holidays you have a wonderful opportunity to start Sunday planning meetings, which can be a game changer in preventing your bucket from filling up unnecessarily.

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This week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode is a must-listen for everyone, not just parents! 

Have you ever stopped to think how many roles you juggle each week? It's easy to feel overwhelmed and out of control, especially when you’re trying to keep everyone happy with a limited resource - time.

Listen in as I share my 3 practical tips. 

Oh, and don’t forget to share with friends and family who could use a little relief from their overwhelm.

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Work-life balance does not exist, and the mum-guilt needs to stop!!! Instead let’s focus on counterbalance using these top five strategies.

Here are the highlights:

(2:00) A heartfelt gift from me to you

(4:00) Sorry, you can’t have it all!

(5:35) Build your tribe

(9:08) Motherhood is just one role of many

(12:23) Manage your expectations

(15:29) Expect wobbly days

(19:06) It’s ok to say no to your children

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I was recently asked to share 5 valuable tips to help parents prepare their children for their first residential trip and I thought this would be a great bucket emptying topic.

These tips are not only beneficial for overnight stays or sleepovers, but can also be applied to any situation that challenges our children and pushes them out of their comfort zone. 

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We all know how crucial communication is for raising resilient children – but how do we build them in the first place - or repair broken channels??

Here are the highlights:

(03:15) Practice good communication skills yourself - 6 steps

(15:25) Avoid lecturing

(17:18) Invest time to learn about what’s important to your child

(20:05) Be fully present

(22:00) Create opportunities 

(22:45) It may take time

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In this week’s Bucket Emptying episode, I’m answering the question - how do we as parents regulate our own emotions? 

If you’re a regular listener you know that I've covered some really big bumper episodes around ‘how do we help our children manage their big emotions’. 

One of the things I've talked about quite a lot in those episodes is about how we need to make sure that we're self-regulated so that when we meet our child's big emotions, when those emotions hit and meet ours, that we're self-regulated so that we're better able to manage their emotions. 

So that raises a big bucket emptying question of how do we actually regulate our own emotions? Join me as I share my top tips.

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In a world where children are bombarded with information, it’s crucial to help them question the ‘facts’. Whether it’s friendship drama or social media hype.

Here are the highlights:

(03:02) We see things through our own lens

(8:04) Question the motives of the information provider

(13:44) Cognitive confirmation biais

(17:20) Have discussions around the table

(22:05) Encourage a scientific approach

Watch the video mentioned in the episode

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Today's Bucket Emptying podcast episode is relevant for parents, grandparents, and anyone involved with children navigating disappointing results, whether academically or in relationships. 

The episode sheds light on the importance of not overemphasising academic benchmarks and highlighting that success takes various forms beyond traditional academics. 

Listen as I share my top tips to get you through this challenging time.

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Today I'm focusing on all things Back to School! 

Join me as I share tips to prepare your child's mindset, cultivate curiosity, managing back-to-school anxieties, and establishing good habits to help make the return to school easier when it happens.

Here are the highlights:

(1:45) Our role is to prepare them for a life beyond the immediate

(6:10) Reel in bedtimes

(9:20) Create some structure

(14:40) Work through back-to-school anxiety

(20:35) Reconnect your child to school

(23:45) Practice any significant changes 

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Mealtime management is a crucial skill that can greatly impact the lives of all family members. 

Listen to this weeks Bucket Emptying podcast episode, as I explain how mealtime can provide an opportunity for children to fuel their bodies and connect with each other, fostering the development of essential life skills. 

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We read about it everywhere. What’s all the fuss about validating children’s emotions and how does it actually help diffuse those big emotions??

Here are the highlights:

(2:30) A typical scenario


(7:10) Let’s banish some myths

(9:30) Name it to tame it

(12:35) I see you and hear you


(14:03) Builds confidence 

(15:30) Builds emotional literacy

(18:40) It allows you to set boundaries

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This episode responds to a listener question highlighting something so many parents worry about. "How can I make separations easier for my child, for instance when being dropped at school, friends etc?"

 In this week’s Bucket Emptying podcast episode I’ll explain separation anxiety and share strategies to support you, and your child understand why it is happening and to manage the situation.

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In this episode, I delve into the secrets to school success, revealing that it's not just about academics! 

As parents, our ultimate aim is to raise children who grow into confident, resilient adults capable of leading fulfilling lives on their terms, not ours. I outline my top three tips for achieving this goal and offer practical advice on how you can introduce these strategies into your family life starting today. 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:16} There's not much time to reflect as parents 

{3:59} We must prepare our children for long-term success 

{10:51} Long-term success teaches skills 

{13:34} Demonstrating the growth mindset 

{17:22} Praise the process, not the outcome 

{20:37} 'Yet' is a powerful word 

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This week's Bucket Emptying episode tackles a common parenting dilemma: how to prevent your child from interrupting all the time??

Several listeners have asked for advice on to manage their young child who continues to interrupt despite knowing it's inappropriate behaviour. Listen as I share my top tips.

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Children develop resilience when we afford them opportunities to take risks. Could we be doing our children a disservice by over-protecting them??

Here are the highlights:

(5:30) Kirstie Allsopp’s 15-year-old interrailing

(6:25) Risk taking has positives 

(11:38) There is no right decisions

(15:20) No hard and fast age or stage

(17:58) Is it a me no or a them no?

(20:38) Practice together

(23:20) Reflect on your own choices

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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025

DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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