Hey Babe, Can We Talk? with Drea Renee (W!ZARD Studios)

In this episode of 'Hey Babe, Can We Talk?' Drea Renee engages in a conversation with Drew Yacu, a speaker and coach specializing in healing, dating, and relationships. Drew breaks down complex neuroscience into simple concepts to create lasting change. They delve into the keys to healthy relationships from a healing perspective, exploring how feminine and masculine energies are evolving and influencing the partners we attract. In this episode of Hey Babe, Can We Talk?: Emotional Availability Your Inner Child in your Relationships The Matchmaker is the Universe Connect With Drea: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heybabecanwetalk/ https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeyBabeCanWeTalk Follow Us on Podcast Platforms: https://heybabecanwetalk.lnk.to/listen Connect With Drew: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drewyacu/ Relationship and Dating Programs: https://smartlink.metricool.com/public/smartlink/healthy-relationships 30:05 Our women these days are the most masculine they have been, and our men are the most feminine they have been. Men suppressed their emotionality for basically a lot of human history and then women suppressed their masculinity, they had to be submissive. Now those energies are coming up in both genders, men are becoming more soft and women are becoming more rational. - Drew Yacu 32:30 I like to call myself a Modtional Woman, Modern and Traditional. - Drea Renee                                          39:11 If you look at what happens during childhood, there are parts of us that literally get frozen in time. -Drew Yacu 40:21 We date who we are. The matchmaker is the universe. You are not ever orchestrating the events, the events are being orchestrated by the very energy that you are putting out there.                -Drew Yacu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of 'Hey Babe, Can We Talk?', Drea delves into the modern dating phenomenon of situationships and explore why more people are shying away from traditional commitments. Join Drea to dissect the nuances of these ambiguous relationships and the factors driving their popularity. In this episode of Hey Babe, Can We Talk?: The Appeal of Ambiguity Social Media Influence The Emotional Impact of Situationships Connect With Drea: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heybabecanwetalk/ https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeyBabeCanWeTalk Follow Us on Podcast Platforms: https://heybabecanwetalk.lnk.to/listen 4:04 Sometimes is not going to feel good in a relationship. Our maturity levels of what it takes to actually show up for another person is just getting lower and lower. - Drea Renee 9:30 This climate now makes you feel like you are a weirdo for wanting to be in a relationship. - Drea Renee 12:58 The Relationship is in the difficult conversations. You can find anyone to have a good day with but you have to find someone you can have a bad day with. - Drea Renee Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Hey Babe, Can We Talk? Drea delves into the intriguing phenomenon of the last few years of why people are drawn to red flags in relationships and explores the allure behind them. Through insightful discussions and personal experiences, Drea uncovers valuable lessons on self-awareness, setting boundaries, and fostering healthy connections in the dating world. In this episode of Hey Babe, Can We Talk?: Recognizing and addressing red flags in relationships. Trauma bonding and its impact on relationships. Importance of self-worth and values in dating. Connect With Drea: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heybabecanwetalk/ https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeyBabeCanWeTalk Follow Us on Podcast Platforms: https://heybabecanwetalk.lnk.to/listen 1:25 Stop continuously dating the wrong person. - Drea Renee 2:02 I still see a red flag every now and then, and I go right towards that thing. It used to take me a lot of time to get back to center but not anymore! From 5 to 6 years to a couple of days. - Drea Renee 6:10 We have to have more values for ourselves that we are really committed to finding in our lives. - Drea Renee 12:27 I used to go on dates as my 7-year-old self. - Drea Renee 20:09 What is this person telling me about myself? - Drea Renee Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of 'Hey Babe, Can We Talk?' Drea explores how to navigate romantic relationships as an overthinker. She emphasizes the importance of being true to oneself, mastering the timing and manner of communication, and building trust and mutual consideration in relationships. In this episode of Hey Babe, Can We Talk?: Over - Communication Is Sexy The Woes of Overthinking When and How you Say Things Matter Connect With Drea: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heybabecanwetalk/ https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeyBabeCanWeTalk Follow Us on Podcast Platforms: https://heybabecanwetalk.lnk.to/listen 13:05 But I want you to take a look and ask yourself, you know, what is going on with me? Because that is one thing that I will say in my experience with overthinking. And I had to learn this over time because I would just blame it on my partner, or I would put it all on them. And what I learned is that I got to look at myself. - Drea Renee 13:20 I got to take accountability for Drea, right? And I think that is something that you really need to take a moment, take a pause and ask yourself, what is going on with me? What is happening in my history? What am I bringing from my past to this new relationship? - Drea Renee 15:15 I've learned that timing is so important. I used to say, you know, just say whatever to whoever, but now I've learned, you guys, that there is a time and a place and there's a way to say things to people. - Drea Renee 22:37 I am an over-communicator. I love to over-communicate. Communicate with me. Tell me everything. Okay, don't tell me everything, but I will wanna know everything. You wanna turn your location on, I'm down. But if you don't, whatevs. -Drea Renee Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Hey Babe, Can We Talk?, Drea is joined by her close friend Melissa Chataigne, a TV host, style expert, and Curator. Together, they share valuable insights on relationships, touching on the complexities of love and why it isn't always enough to make things work. They discuss the hidden challenges people face in relationships, the effects of divorce on social circles, and the importance of setting clear boundaries in dating. In this episode of Hey Babe, Can We Talk?: Love is Not Enough Sometimes Impact of Divorce on Social Circles Setting Boundaries in Dating Mentioned in this Episode: The Body Keeps the Score Book: https://a.co/d/6AsTYSD Revolve Link Connect with Melissa: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissachataigne/ Connect With Drea: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heybabecanwetalk/ https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeyBabeCanWeTalk Follow Us on Podcast Platforms: https://heybabecanwetalk.lnk.to/listen 11:49 For many years, there was a lot of trauma and a lot of shame. People in my ear telling me, you don't sound black, you are not this way, why are you listening to this music, you are the whitest black girl. - Drea Renee 27:01 I feel like women put too much of a chokehold and that is where the desperation comes in, that they should be having roasters, they should have rotations, they should be dating like men and they should not be waiting by the phone for the man to call. - Melissa Chataigne 32:27 You set the tone and know your worth. - Melissa Chataigne Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of the Open Late Podcast, Drea Renee, your new host, shares her journey with love codependency and the process of rediscovering self-love. Returning to the studio, Drea delves into her personal history, tracing the origins of her love codependency to a childhood fascination with love and the challenges arising from her parents' divorce. Drea recounts experiences of navigating unhealthy relationships, grappling with boundary-setting issues, and neglecting self-care. She also thoroughly explores the signs of love codependency, including obsession, persistent validation seeking, and a fear of solitude. On the other hand, Drea highlights the emotional roller coaster of extreme highs and lows, the compromise of personal values, and the neglect of friendships and family. Throughout the episode, Drea encourages listeners to recognize these signs as the first step in a challenging yet crucial journey toward overcoming love codependency and fostering personal growth. In this Episode of Open Late: Introduction to Love Codependency Journey Childhood Impact on Love Views Unhealthy Relationship Patterns Recognizing Signs of Love Codependency Encouragement for Personal Growth Connect with Drea: • Instagram: @thedrearenee | @openlatethepodcast • Website: openlatepodcast.com  • YouTube: Open Late Podcast • Open Late Dictionary 8:10 It isn't easy to walk away, somebody can come up to you, huge red flag and this guy said to me “Drea, I don't want to be in a relationship” all I hear is a challenge, okay lets get it. - Drea Renee 10:08 My moment for me, my AHA moment was when I was driving late at night, I was crying hysterically. I had to be at work the next day. I had no sleep. I hadn't spoken to my friends or my family. All I wanted to do is get this guy to do what I wanted him to do, which was call me back, come see me, you know, whatever the thing is, text me back, whatever. And I thought to myself, I was like, wow, this is really taking over my life. - Drea Renee 11:04 When I'm in that space, I call her Agnes. And when Agnes comes out, it's just like, forget it. I mean, there really isn't anything that anyone can do. And that is how codependency works. It doesn't matter who's in your way. It doesn't matter what anybody says. You're gonna go do whatever you need to do to get that text, to get that person to see you, to get them to respond. - Drea Renee 12:53 That love codependency journey really started for me again when I was young and also me wanting to create this relationship that I didn't see with my parents. I just fell in love with this idea of love. And I still am in love with that idea of love, but it's more healthy now. - Drea Renee 16:11 Now I definitely have stayed in some relationships longer than I should have because I did not want to be alone I didn't want to get off work and come home to an empty house I didn't want the weekends to come and go to the farmers market by myself But at the end of the day and I used to hate hearing this. - Drea Renee 23:58 Do not take for granted getting entangled with someone. If you know you have a hard time letting people go, really stay vigilant and conscious of who are you attaching yourself to. - Drea Renee 27:48 I think being aware of your patterns when they become harmful, and they are interfering with your well-being and ability to live a balance life, that's where we can start from - Drea Renee Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Open Late, Drea discusses the struggle of wanting to reach out to someone you know you shouldn't be contacting. She shares personal experiences and provides advice on how to manage the anxiety and feelings associated with love dependency. The importance of giving yourself grace and understanding that feelings are not facts is crucial on this process. Also, there is a key component of finding support through podcasts, support groups, and therapy. Drea also encourages asking yourself important questions about the person and the relationship, and recognizing the patterns and triggers that contribute to the love dependency cycle. She concludes by reminding listeners that it's okay to have setbacks and to be on their own journey. In this Episode of Open Late: How feelings are not facts Finding support to resist contacting an ex Recognizing codependency patterns and triggers Embracing setbacks in personal growth Mentioned in This Episode: Books about Love Codependency and Addiction https://a.co/d/hzrU91V  https://a.co/d/9Vr3YIc  Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (S.L.A.A.) https://slaafws.org/  Connect with Drea: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/openlatethepodcast/  https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/  • Website: https://www.openlatepodcast.com/ • YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@openlatepodcast/videos 02:12 Don't send that text. Don't send that meme, because I know we do that, too. We've seen the meme, and the meme feels safe because it's not a phone call. It's not a text. It's just a meme. Right? What's the harm? No, don't do it. 02:57 They all change. I think that was one of the biggest lessons I've learned in my life. Feelings are not facts, unfortunately. I wish the good ones could just stay right, but they don't. And that's okay. So even if you're waking up today, and you're feeling so bad about yourself, or you're feeling bad about the situation, you're feeling bad about that person that you really want to call, just know this is not the end at all. 05:10 When you don't get something, or you don't know when you're going to get it, it creates that excitement. And that's how those toxic relationships start.  07:14 Start paying attention to what's happening in your body and start asking yourself, those big questions of who is this person? How are they making me feel? How are they showing up in my life? 09:14 So once you've gotten clear on some of these things that you can sort of intellectualize you kind of know what is a healthy relationship, what does that look like? 09:28 Sometimes it can feel boring. It just can. And that's just the truth, right? And when you're used to being triggered and the adrenaline and all the ups and the downs, and then you find somebody who's showing up for you consistently, you will not know what to do with that energy. 11:46 The energy that you have for them is just ready to go, which is that's a telltale sign as well. When you can override what your body and your mind is trying to tell you for that person, that's a telltale sign of like, okay, I'm maybe going into some interesting territory or I'm crossing my boundaries because my body's clearly trying to tell me something. 14:28 This is mine, this is theirs and this is ours. There are times when things show up for me, where I'm thinking to myself, okay, this is not our problem. This is a past projection. This is something I need to work on that I'm putting on my partner. 16:25 Drea, you wasted four years. I don't, I don't view it that way. I can't do it that way. I got four years of interesting lessons, that's for sure. And if it wasn't him, that taught me that somebody else would, that is how I see it.  18:18 Motion does change emotion.  19:53 Agnes, Not today. We're going to go on a walk and then you could come back. You can tell Agnes that they can come back later. Because that's the thing, you guys. It's all about managing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Episode of Open Late, Drea interviews Brian and Audrey, a couple who met on TikTok and quickly moved in together. They discuss their journey, the reactions from friends and family, and how they keep their relationship fresh. They also talk about their communication styles, avoiding toxic behaviors, and the importance of privacy in the age of social media. Likewise, they share their thoughts on ethical non-monogamy and discuss their love languages and how they express affection. In this conversation, Brian and Audrey discuss their relationship and offer insights into navigating personal challenges, balancing individuality and togetherness, working together and their favorite things about each other.  In this Episode of Open Late: Moving in Within the First Months of Knowing Each Other Keeping the Relationship Fresh  Maintaining Privacy in the Age of Social Media Navigating Gender Roles and Expectations Advice for Relationships in Today's Society Connect with Brian and Audrey: https://www.instagram.com/brianathey2/ https://www.instagram.com/audreymittel/ https://www.tiktok.com/@brian_athey2?lang=es https://www.tiktok.com/@audreymittel?lang=es Connect with Drea: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/openlatethepodcast/  https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/  • Website:  https://www.openlatepodcast.com/  • YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@openlatepodcast/videos 09:47 I'm like grunting huffs every now and then, like I might get a little pissed off, but like, we're human. We don't get disrespectful. Stop disrespecting your partner. - Brian Athey 13:27 Find new things to do together and stop being so terrified of everything or people are lazy. That's where the boring comes in. Like that's where people get bored because they just expect something exciting -Audrey Mittel 22:00 I can do it all by myself, you know, and not realizing that when you are in a relationship with someone, it is important to feel needed by your partner, right? Like you want to feel like you're useful, and then you are both doing things for each other. And so those little moments of like just greeting each other when you see each other, like if you start dropping that, then that's when the relationship starts to fall apart. -Drea Renee 22:32 No matter how long you've been with your partner, you should still continue to date your partner.-Audrey Mittel  42:22 Stop trying to race each other to a finish line. There is no finish line whatsoever. And the only finish line is when you're six feet under. Like, that's it. Like so I don't know why you're racing to that. So it's like when you stop competing and you start completing each other and like, just complete the circuit. -Brian Athey 43:27 Find your friend in your person, you know? Don't just find your person like find your friend. -Audrey Mittel 19:01 Whatever our roles are that we can still even if we can double up on a role, then we'll fill it. Like if you can do something better than I can, that's cool. I'll find something else that I could do better than you, got somebody rowing a boat now, I guess my steering it. -Brian Athey 19:17 Now we got this boat actually moving. We're not fighting each other for who's going to do this, Who's going to do that.-Brian Athey 30:51 If you're listening, that means you're having to learn. So you're learning how to make it happen all the time.-Brian Athey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Episode of Open Late, Drea interviews Cassandra House, a transformational coach that helps people Monetize Your Genius, about balancing a career and a marriage. They discuss the challenges they faced in past relationships, and the importance of conflict resolution in a marriage. Cassandra shares her personal journey of self-discovery and the role of childhood wounds in relationships, and the significance of maintaining self-care and boundaries in order to have a healthy and fulfilling marriage. They also talk about Cassandra's upcoming projects, including turning her show into a TV show and helping people monetize their genius. Cassandra shares her passion for helping others turn their ideas into fully functioning businesses and finding funding for inventions and entrepreneurial ventures. In this Episode of Open Late: Balancing Career and Marriage The Worthiness Wound and Relationships Self-Care and Boundaries Helping Others Monetize Their Genius: Finding Funding  Connect with Cassandra: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cassandrahouse_/ https://www.instagram.com/iamcassandrahouse/ • Website: https://monetizeyourgenius.com/  Connect with Drea: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/openlatethepodcast/  https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/  • Website:  https://www.openlatepodcast.com/  • YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@openlatepodcast/videos 2:56 You don't just marry into like the neighborhood and your family's all around and it's all happy days. If there's a lot of distance has a lot of, you know, different things you've got to navigate together. - Cassandra House 5:23 Yes, I think Josh is the husband because he was the first one that didn't want to keep me small and he let me fly. - Cassandra House 14:57 I think my one of my biggest things is like an abandonment a fear of abandonment Which is probably why I dated so many people that weren't great because I didn't want to be alone, right? - Cassandra House 16:05 I think when you aren't emotionally evolved and you're walking around the world and you're unaware of how you're showing up to people, because I would go on dates with my seven-year-old self. I didn't go on my adult self. My seven-year-old was going on dates and she's like, hi, can you see me? - Drea Renne 16:58 I say like people are waiting for the wound to be away or gone or healed to move towards their dreams, but really anyone that's really successful it means that they've been able to operate and move towards their goals and dreams and love and all of that in spite of the wound. - Cassandra House 17: 05 Act in spite of the worthiness wound, not because of it. - Cassandra House  18: 58 I feel like when you're dating, you really are meeting at the worthiness wound level. Like it's that person's wounds are out, your wounds are out and you're sort of dancing with the wound in the middle. When you're married, you've got each other's wounds to deal with as well. So I'm always like, be really careful of the wound you want to take on because it becomes a part of what you deal with all the time. - Cassandra House 20: 57 I can be married and strive in my career. - Cassandra House 21:36 In business even tough you love it and you are all in, it will never fulfill you like marriage and love will. - Cassandra House  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Episode of Open Late, Drea connects with Michelle Murad to break down the perceptions surrounding the glamour and perfection often portrayed in the creative industry. With a deep-dive into mental health and the less visible realities behind the filtered lens of social media, the discussion turns to the ongoing struggle for those battling to maintain their personal brand in the authentic and vulnerable landscape of mental battles. They also shed light on the complexities of self-identity within social contexts, as individuals grapple with the balance between staying true to their core identity and adapting to fit in with societal and professional expectations. In this Episode of Open Late: Michelle's New Movement: “Behind the Smile” Reflections on Relationship Growth  Personal Growth - Speaking Mind to Everyone Our Subconscious Influences Social Media and Mental Health Mentioned in the Episode: Book “The Power of Your Subconscious Mind” https://www.amazon.com/Power-Your-Subconscious-Mind/dp/1614270198 Connect with Drea: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/openlatethepodcast/  https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/  • Website:  https://www.openlatepodcast.com/  • YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@openlatepodcast/videos Connect with Michelle Murad: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelleamurad/  • YouTube “The Charlotte Chronicles”:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHku9ZdBEE47wU6GgUpEnxA 3: 34 And so I remember just looking at all these posts of people doing what I wanted to do, and I remember telling myself, when I get to that point in life, I will be honest that it's not perfect. - Michelle Murad 5: 56 I was looking, trying to show that, hey, even when you see a picture of someone or you see them doing whatever it is that you aspire to do, life is not exactly.That's their life. That's not your life. And I just want to make sure people know that we're all putting up a front on social media. - Michelle Murad 9: 46 Especially when we're in the process of growing and dealing with all of these things where we are hiding behind the smile and trying to show up for people as what they need and listening to what their feedback is about us and forgetting that when you are going to these relationships, you really have to have your own foundation. -Drea Renee  11:49 learning in relationships doesn't always have to be painful, it can be powerful, it can have a beautiful ending, it was sad, but it wasn't something toxic.- Drea Renee 13:11 You have the relationship, and then if things aren't working, caring about that person enough to be like, hey, we can part, but I don't hate you. We just don't vibe. I think that is, honestly, like you said, the true definition of love, where you're like, I love you enough to still want to see you thrive, still want to see you do great things. -Drea Renee  24:58 I attract people based of my authenticity and repel people that are not based of my authenticity because that's not my tribe . We are so afraid to not be liked, to not be invited its rooted in us that we are trying to rewire and reprogram - Michelle Murad 26: 35 I think what's important is to take up space and be yourself. And if that relationship doesn't allow it, that relationship is not for you. - Michelle Murad 29:56 I think such a good question to ask yourself. Anyone listening is like, if something is bringing you closer to your joy or your misery, like, everything we do, is it bringing you closer? Every single thing you do, is this bringing you closer to your goals and your joy? - Michelle Murad  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Episode of Open Late, Drea answers questions from listeners about love and relationship codependency. She shares her personal journey of becoming aware of codependency and the impact it had on her relationships. Drea also discusses the turning point and breakthrough moment she had with codependency, as well as how it affected her professional environment. She provides advice on establishing healthy boundaries, reclaiming independence in a relationship, addressing the fear of abandonment, and expressing needs without creating tension. There is hope for change, prioritize self-care and self-love always! In this Episode of Open Late: Becoming Aware of Codependency Impact on Professional Environment Establishing Healthy Boundaries and Reclaiming Independence  Expressing Needs Without Creating Tension Hope for Change Connect with Drea: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/openlatethepodcast/  https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/  • Website:  https://www.openlatepodcast.com/  • YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@openlatepodcast/videos 3:28 This shows up in work, relationships, this shows up in friendships, this shows up in even simply something as simple as the groceries .I don't want them to have to wait too long. If I'm looking for something in my purse, I'm always thinking about other people, always thinking about other people and putting myself on the back burner.  7:38 That was a big turning point for me because there was really a time and space where I felt really crazy in my behavior in that I was the only person in the world that was experiencing that. So that was a major turning point for me to go to those meetings and think to myself, my God, there are other people who are experiencing this exact same thing. 10:07 Just calling in and changing my schedule, asking people to pick up my shifts, all the things now take out the love and relationship part and just talk about codependency. my gosh, It absolutely affected me at work because when you are a people pleaser and you struggle to say, No, I can't work that shift, or no, I can't do that. 11:35 You do not want to give a person a laundry list of things to do when you're working on shifting your behavior that can be very overwhelming and you go into shock mode and then you just end up not doing anything. That's usually how that lands where you think there's, okay, I'm not, I can't do all that. 13:55 There is a space in a relationship to have some healthy independence and it really helps you get back to yourself if you are lost in a relationship. And sometimes when it's two people that are just full on that way, you don't even know that you're lost until something happens and you look up and you haven't spoken to your family, you haven't spoken to your friends because you're completely enmeshed. 17:07 The tighter you hold on to something, the more it's going to want to just get away from you and people are not attracted to that energy. People are not attracted to that energy. Having self-respect, having boundaries, creating your space. That is what's attractive, that is what is attractive. And if you are feeling those feelings of being abandoned, you have to do your own self work. 23:28 You can't love your way into their hearts if they don't want you there. You cannot love your way into someone's heart if they don't want you there. It's there for it's not there. And it's the most painful realization, but it's a true realization.  23:43 Time does heal. It. Does things change. I mean, thank God I'm not still crying about the guy I was upset about. It was 17. And I remember that cry very vividly as well. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Episode of Open Late, Drea focuses on the pain of loving the wrong person and the struggle of letting go. She discusses the science and chemical aspects of attachment and trauma bonding. Also, she emphasizes the importance of recognizing unhealed wounds and taking responsibility for one's part in unhealthy relationships. The roller coaster of unhealthy relationships and the attraction to chaos are explored. The episode also offers advice on seeking support, practicing self-care, expressing oneself, and journaling. The journey of healing and self-worth is highlighted, along with the importance of planting seeds for change and treating oneself well. In this Episode of Open Late: The Pain of Loving the Wrong Person Unhealed Wounds and Trauma Bonding The Roller Coaster of Unhealthy Relationships Support and Self-Care Support Group: Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (S.L.A.A.) https://slaafws.org/ Books: Love is a Choice https://a.co/d/50Y9mUG When You Love Too Much https://a.co/d/atg9Zci Connect with Drea: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/openlatethepodcast/  https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/  • Website:  https://www.openlatepodcast.com/  • YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@openlatepodcast/videos 5:58 If it's reinforcing the beliefs that you have about yourself, then you know, we're going to go towards it. And I can tell you, in my experience when I've had these moments in my life, I always knew in the beginning and I think there was a part of me, like I said before, that wanted to just run for myself and said, person gave me something to do, and I want to give grace to everyone that's in the beginning of this, or just kind of starting the awareness of these patterns in your life because this isn't a conscious thing. 10:12 That's the true LARC, love and relationship codependency aspect. That is it right there. It consumes everything. It's the first thing you think about. You know, you can't eat, you can't move, can't go to work, you can't do the things it's taking over your life. And I know what that's like. As I was on that journey, I definitely realized those moments where it was getting better, but I'm still in the throes of it. 11:22 I remember waking up and you just feel like and elephant is on your chest. Like taking a shower and just having the hardest cry of all time. And it seemed like that pain was just never, ever going to go away and your brain is just on loop, constantly trying to figure out how you got there, what happened, what you could have done differently 12:08 The rollercoaster can be exciting sometimes, right? You're up now down. They're telling you it's over. You're telling them it's over. You're back together. Nobody knows. But then it's like, Is that it? Is that your life? And I'm sure some of us have asked ourselves, are we ever going to be in a healthy place? 19:30 When you start engaging in those self esteem acts, that's when that stuff starts to change and it's organic. It's like when these things start to happen, you almost don't even know. What ends up happening Is those actions no longer feel in alignment in your self, which is growing. You want to find your power within yourself.  22:30 If you are experiencing that immense pain of letting someone go, you are not alone. And there are things that you can do to get yourself through this space in your life and just remember like it does not have to be perfect motion changes emotion 100%. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Drea discusses the importance of leaving closed doors closed and not obsessing over why they were closed. She emphasizes the need for closure and the desire to know why things happen. Drea explores the concept of running from ourselves and the various ways we try to fill the void within us. She also talks about the difficulty of focusing on ourselves and the tendency to focus on others instead. It's time to love and accept ourselves. In this Episode of Open Late: The Need for Closure The Answer is in the “No” Answer Acceptance, Self-Control and Respecting Ourselves Connect with Drea: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/openlatethepodcast/  https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/  • Website:  https://www.openlatepodcast.com/  • YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@openlatepodcast/videos 02:00 Running from ourselves. You want to run from yourself. Why would you want to deal with yourself? Right? Because that would be really confronting, and that's really scary for us. Right? It's easier just like in romantic relationships, just like in friendships, just like in family relationships, all the relationships, it's a lot easier to focus on others instead of focusing on yourself. -Drea Renee 2:07 Anything to keep us from ourselves so bringing that energy that we so freely give to others to ourselves is What we actually need to get to that next level of growth that next level of validation that we're seeking from everybody else and The core of it all is to give that love to yourself give that love to yourself. - Drea Renee 4:24 But I think there is this run towards this chasing, if you will, towards figuring out why they said it, how they said it, why are they not calling, and all the things. And it can be really easy to get caught up in that. And at the end of the day, this all comes down to control. We cannot control other people. - Dtea Renee 4:34 See this episode this open like quickie It's all about coming back to yourself and when those doors are closing for you. The universe wants to open other doors. It's hard as that is to believe. -Drea Renee 4:43 When you're looking for those answers, the answer is in the no answer. The answer, my friends, is in the no response in the text. The answer is the no invitation. Those are the answers. But a lot of times we get caught up in the why, why. And when you're focused on all of those things, you're just taking away energy from yourself, energy from yourself. - Drea Renee 09:17 I make a point to wake up and say, acceptance is the answer to all of my problems today. Because it is, it is, especially when I cannot control things. - Drea Renee Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Episode of Open Late, Drea discusses the importance of believing people when they tell you who they are. She emphasizes the need to pay attention to red flags and not make excuses for someone's behavior. This principle applies not only to romantic relationships but also to friendships and family dynamics. Drea encourages listeners to cut toxic people out of their lives and surround themselves with supportive friends. By choosing their circle wisely, individuals can create healthier and more fulfilling relationships. In this Episode of Open Late: The Temptation to Change Someone Recognizing Red Flags in Relationships Choosing Your Circle Wisely Believing People When They Show You Who They Are Connect with Drea: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/openlatethepodcast/  https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/  • Website:  https://www.openlatepodcast.com/  • YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@openlatepodcast/videos 3:12 We all have to ask ourselves, how are people showing up for others? What information open did they give us in the beginning? Friendships to my friends and even with our family members. If we can take a look at patterns of how they've been showing up in their lives. 6:11 So when you were on your journey of dating someone, think about what are they saying to me? How are they talking about their past relationships? How are they speaking about their families? How are they speaking about their friends? These are things that we need to take note of when we are deciding if someone should be our partners 14:21 When you do meet somebody, that's your match. That is sometimes, especially for people that are coming from this long history of toxic relationships. It can be scary. It can be scary. But there is beauty and joy in having a healthy relationship. Someone who's communicating with you, someone who cares about your day, calling you back, texting you back, all those beautiful things communicating with you, showing you that you can be seen, that you can be seen. 15:21 So if you have low self-esteem, you believe you're not worth it, you're not worth being seen. Nine times out of ten, you are going to attract and entertain a person that's going to reinforce that belief system about yourself. So we have to get right within our own worthiness, our own value. 19:48 Believe them. Don't try to figure it out. Don't try to ask them why. Don't try to make excuses for their trauma. Don't say, it's because his mom did this or it's her dad left and then all the things. No, no, no. Believe them. And if they are not interested in healing these parts of themselves, it's going to come out and their relationship with you. 20:49 This is the place of love and acceptance. The Hot mess expresses the black sheets of love. You are welcome here.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Episode of Open Late, Drea introduce you to Quené Forée: a remarkable personality with a wealth of professions. As an author, content creator and spiritual healer, Quené embodies the essence of living authentically and passionately. Join her today, as they unravel the concept of "staying wild at heart," which she lives by, signifying the power and significance of expressing oneself and extending our spirit to the world. Quené's journey is not an outward show; it's the profound journey of self-discovery that she embodies. Her infectious spirit of positivity and joy have dominated every space she steps in, which is evidenced in her work. Today, they dive deep into this journey, which is not just a journey of transformation but a message she lives and breathes, inspiring many to follow their hearts. In this Episode of Open Late: The importance of self-trust and instincts The concept of “marrying oneself” Boundaries for personal energy preservation Struggles with codependency in relationships: The “Broken Bird Syndrome”  Introduction to Quené's book "Spiritually LIT” Connect with Drea: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/openlatethepodcast/  https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/  • Website:  https://www.openlatepodcast.com/  • YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@openlatepodcast/videos Connect with Quené Forée: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queneforee?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== • P's and Q's Podcast:  https://psandqspodcast.buzzsprout.com/share • YouTube:  https://youtube.com/@PsandQs?si=Z6pztcAP7_BSSXvA •Book “Spiritually LIT”: https://amzn.to/3ROXDQt 3:27 But I have found that the more I practice that practice of saying no with love, of prioritizing my mental health, prioritizing my self-care, the more the people around me respect those boundaries. Because if you don't set the boundary, no one knows what your boundary is. - Quené Forée  4:29 The people who really care about you, they want you to be happy, they want you to be whole. They want you to feel good. And if you don't trust them with your truth, then you never give them the opportunity to support you in your truth. - Quené Forée  6:55 We'd be surprised how many things we're doing, thinking if we don't, the other person is going to be extraordinarily upset when that's not necessarily the case. We create a lot of stories on our own. We create a lot of outcomes in our mind that don't exist. - Quené Forée  16:13 And I think the beauty of relationships is that they offer you a mirror and an opportunity for your personal growth. They will shine light on your imperfections, on your insecurities, on your opportunities as well. And if we choose to take them, they can be a great place for exponential growth. - Quené Forée  19:00 But have we taken the time to make those promises to ourselves? And I think that's something that. You're your best friend. - Quené Forée  19:41 And that is how you build that self-esteem and that worth and that value system for yourself by keeping those promises to yourself, even if it's something as simple as I'm going to make my bed every single day this week. And what's so interesting about something so small like that is that you may think in your mind initially, oh, that's not that big of a deal. 19:58 But when you actually take the action to do it and you see how you feel, just like you took the steps to take those vows to Quené, and that was probably really transformative. - Drea Renee 37:14 You can say no, you can take care of yourself. Because the codependency isn't just stopping at romantic relationships. This goes over into friendships, too. - Drea Renee Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Open Late Quickie, Drea discusses the importance of taking responsibility for one's part in various situations. She emphasizes the need to look at how we show up and what we do in situations that cause discomfort or conflict. Drea explores the role of choices and communication in relationships and highlights the significance of recognizing mistakes and not giving too many chances. She also discusses the accountability in confusing situationships and the importance of stepping away from unfavorable situations. Take ownership, compartmentalize responsibility, and surround yourself with a supportive network. In this Episode of Open Late: The Importance of Choices and Communication in Relationships Overcomplicating Situations and Seeing the Good in People Taking Ownership and Separating Responsibility Self-Growth and Admitting Fault Connect with Drea: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/openlatethepodcast/  https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/  • Website:  https://www.openlatepodcast.com/  • YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@openlatepodcast/videos 2:18 When we are putting this towards the view of relationships, our choices that we make in the beginning are so important. The conversations that we're having are so important. Listening to what our partners are saying is so important, especially when things go sour and they don't work out and you look back and you think, hmm, what did they tell me? What did I ignore? How did I continue showing up? How is this person showing up for me? And this goes for all relationships - Drea Renee 3:02 I know it begins with understanding and realizing that we play a part in every situation or experience and have some degree of responsibility over the outcomes and consequences. - Drea Renee 7:05 But you got to take responsibility for looking at what part of your trauma, what part of your history, what part of your own self-worth, your self-esteem is allowing you to show up into situations that aren't serving you. - Drea Renee 11: 44 It will always go back to taking ownership for your part and also forgiving yourself - Drea Renee Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of "Hey Babe, Can We Talk?", Drea dives headfirst into the rollercoaster that is modern dating, unpacking the unexpected perks of being ghosted. With humor and honesty, she shares her ghosting horror stories, shedding light on how something so painful is often brushed off.  In this episode of Hey Babe, Can We Talk?: Emotional Impact of Ghosting Dealing with Mixed Signals Building Resilience After Ghosting Connect With Drea: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heybabecanwetalk/ https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeyBabeCanWeTalk Follow Us on Podcast Platforms: https://heybabecanwetalk.lnk.to/listen 6:31 It not only breaks your heart when someone ghosts you, it breaks your soul. People take this so lightly like it's not a thing - Drea Renee 23:20 I am all here for love, hope, and the joy that you’d meet somebody who genuinely wants to connect with you but what is so scary is that someone can show up in your face, bright eyes and bushy tail and say “I'm ready for a relationship” and then all of a sudden say “I don't like talking on the phone” - Drea Renee 23:59 I want to ask the next person I’m dating, what are you like regularly? What are your regular habits like? - Drea Renee Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Hey Babe, Can We Talk?, Drea is joined by the amazing love addict Coach Geena Lovato to dive deep into the complexities of attachment styles and how they impact dating and marriage. Together, they explore what it takes to build healthy relationships, from understanding your own attachment tendencies to nurturing a partnership that thrives on mutual respect and emotional security. In this episode of Hey Babe, Can We Talk?: Understanding Anxious Attachment Building Emotional Security in Relationships The Role of Self-Awareness Connect With Geena: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theloveaddictofficial/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theloveaddict TikTok: @Theloveaddictofficial Connect With Drea: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heybabecanwetalk/ https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeyBabeCanWeTalk Follow Us on Podcast Platforms: https://heybabecanwetalk.lnk.to/listen 7:05 Picking a person that can be reassuring it just makes it so much easier because if I bring up my insecurities and my fear and then someone is like “Well that's you I am not dealing with that” it just escalates the whole thing. I would say consistency calms my nervous system.           - Geena Lovato 17:03 But having someone that understands that, and it's like at her core at their core, this is a great relationship, and I am going to love them through whatever this moment is, it's a beautiful thing. - Drea Reene 18:09 Seeking out a relationship was like a life strategy. - Geena Lovato  26:32 I'm going to tell you how I feel, and if you take that as “Drea is coming off too strong”, I'm just not the person for you. - Drea Reene Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Episode of Open Late, Drea reconnects with Jessica, the creator of the podcast! Jessica talks about her journey as a mother and the challenges and joys she has experienced. They also discuss the need for self-care and finding time for oneself amidst the demands of parenthood. The conversation touches on the dynamics of Jessica's relationship with her partner and the importance of keeping the spark alive. They also explore the topic of open relationships and the potential for sexual exploration. Jess also reveals that she is considering taking courses to stimulate her brain and potentially writing a book. She also announces that she will not be returning to host the podcast for the time being, but may consider coming back in the future. She shares her concerns about raising children in a poly household and the potential for outsiders to treat them differently. In the end, Jessica expresses her gratitude and love for the listeners and her excitement for what the future holds. In this Episode of Open Late: Becoming a Mother and the First Night with Twins Self-Care and Finding Time for Oneself Jess Open Relationship and Sexual Exploration Raising Children in a Poly Household Mentioned in This Episode: “Untrue” By Dr. Wednesday Martin: https://a.co/d/fTuD0j4 Connect With Jess: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/journey.with.jessica/?hl=es Connect With Drea: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/openlatethepodcast/  https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/  • Website:  https://www.openlatepodcast.com/  • YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@openlatepodcast/videos 5:46 We set it up in a way that made us feel cozy, confident, like we had everything we needed. And that did nothing for the fact that you are so terrified when you bring your kids home for the first time. -Jessica Esfandiary 9:59 My interactions with anyone outside sort of my very inner circle have been very limited. Like I will go days, sometimes like weeks or maybe never texting somebody back. And I like feel bad a little bit, but I also don't have the capacity to think about that interaction or those feelings or that person because my life is so full on 24 seven. - Jessica Esfandiary 11:25 I think my perspective on the world has changed a lot too, being a parent, like I feel deeper for the problems of the world, like the children that are like, you know, traumatized or hurt or misplaced because of like all the war that's going on and happening in like so many different countries. - Jessica Esfandiary 22:28 And If you are having good sex, you probably are not on antidepressants. - Jessica Esfandiary 24:23 The interesting thing that I have found over the years when people are in disbelief about being open, it is mostly because in their experience on any long term relationship that they have ever been in, the spice dies, and the happiness generally fades, unless a couple find ways to become mutually excited about things. - Jessica Esfandiary 30:27 Some people will use a situation to sort of get unhealthy needs met, like people can come into non monogamy, in a way, because they have all these needs, and they're trying to meet them with like lots of different partners, you know, that's like a big intersection of love dependency or sex addiction and non monogamy. - Jessica Esfandiary 39:34 People get so stuck in their boxes, and I've done this too. And I think just being in our community has helped me so much, especially coming from Texas of all that you should, you're supposed to, you have to, and you really don't have to do anything. You can make your life how you want to make it. -Drea Renee 42:56 Do I have any concerns? I am kind of concerned that outsiders or society or teachers, other kids, might be awful to my children. - Jessica Esfandiary Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Episode of Open Late, Drea discusses the importance of focusing on oneself and provides tips on how to do so. She emphasizes that self-focus is necessary for personal growth and improving relationships. Drea also encourages listeners to spend time alone, get to know themselves, and set boundaries. She also highlights the significance of taking an energy budget of relationships, engaging in activities one enjoys, and taking breaks from social media. The Episode ends with Drea talking about A BIG ANNOUNCEMENT regarding her podcast journey! In this Episode of Open Late: Spending Time Alone and Getting to Know Yourself Taking an Energy Budget of Your Relationships Setting Boundaries and Prioritizing Self-Care Connect With Drea: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/openlatethepodcast/  https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/  • Website:  https://www.openlatepodcast.com/  • YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@openlatepodcast/videos 1:40 Sometimes we kind of mold into what the other person wants to do. And that's okay in a relationship at times when you're compromising things just because you know your partner wants to do them. -Drea Reene 2:09 But when you start compromising your core values and compromising things that aren't really fulfilling you inside, and you continue to do that for your partner, you're going to build resentment, not even just for your partner, for your friends, your family, all the important people in your life. -Drea Reene 4:35 So we have to spend some time alone. That's the number one thing. Spend some time alone and get to know what you like, what you don't like. Get to understand those things about yourself. What is it that you like to do? -Drea Reene 4:58 So when you start to get to know yourself you gain agency, you gain ownership of yourself, and you build your self-esteem, then you're going to be able to show up better in those other relationships. -Drea Reene 6:43 if your Top five friends are all depleting you, you need to take a step back and focus on yourself if you get in the car after hanging out with some people in your family if hanging out with your partner and You feel completely depleted you are giving too much you are doing too much These people are draining you and you need to reevaluate Who is around you again? -Drea Reene 6:54 I am doing some self -focus right now. And let me tell you, my friends, I want to peel my skin off. -Drea Reene *All the videos, animations and graphics used in the video belong to their respective owners and I or this channel does not claim any right over them* Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of 'Hey Babe, Can We Talk?,' Drea invites Jesse Janedy, host of the Nextmoodswing podcast, to explore the intersections of narcissism, gaslighting, and social media. Together, they share insights on how to spot red flags, set boundaries, and prioritize mental health while navigating relationships in with the importance that social media has these days. In this episode of Hey Babe, Can We Talk?: Narcissism and its impact on Emotional Resilience The impact of gaslighting on personal perception and reality. How social media platforms can facilitate toxic behaviors. Connect With Jesse: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/djjessej/ https://www.instagram.com/nextmoodswing/ Connect With Drea: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heybabecanwetalk/ https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeyBabeCanWeTalk Follow Us on Podcast Platforms: https://heybabecanwetalk.lnk.to/listen 21:14 We all have narcissistic tendencies but when you make it your lifestyle that's the problem.  -Jesse Janedy 26:51 And when you are trying to work on your emotional intelligence and that other person is constantly bringing you down you start to feel crazy, especially if you don't know who you are with. - Drea Renee 28:01 If I go back and wish that never happened, then who would I be? I wouldn't have learned those lessons or understood what narcissism was to be able to help other people. - Jesse Janedy 28:26 A narcissist is somebody whether they note it or not, because I think there are different versions of it, there is like a grandioso narcissist who is somebody who is going to be aggressive and they are literally looking for prey and there is also the victim mindset narcissist. -Jesse Janedy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Hey Babe, Can We Talk?, Drea is joined by the gorgeous content creator and all-things-giving, Kristina Kane! Together, they dive deep into why self-work and self-love should come before romance, and why it's crucial to focus on yourself before catching feelings, especially in today's world of dating apps. In this episode of Hey Babe, Can We Talk?: Challenges of online dating and Social Media The desire to embrace femininity  Prioritizing Self-Growth Connect With Kristina: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/itskristinakane/ Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/dirtydaytini/ Connect With Drea: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heybabecanwetalk/ https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeyBabeCanWeTalk Follow Us on Podcast Platforms: https://heybabecanwetalk.lnk.to/listen 5:38 I am not going to be the one to message a guy, which it's not like an ego thing, it's because I'm already such an Alpha, outspoken personality. I want a man who can be like “Hey, what are you doing Friday at 8 pm?” - Kristina Kane 13:03 If they can't communicate in 2 months, what makes you think that they will be able to communicate in the long run in the relationship? - Kristina Kane 13:45 Once things start to settle, you start to see who someone is, but that moment of keeping your head straight in those beginning months is really difficult. Especially if you are on dating apps and it is taking you so long to finally get here -Drea Renee 22:15 It Is not fun wearing the pants all the day every day and being masculine and alpha, I want to be feminine and feel like a princess. - Kristina Kane Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Hey Babe, Can We Talk? Drea connects with Actor and Model Quinn Knox. They explore the relationship dynamics of today's society, discussing everything from expressing emotions to navigating attraction and delving into the question of how to balance sensuality. The conversation also highlights the importance of self-love in fostering healthy relationships. In this episode of Hey Babe, Can We Talk?: Gender Dynamics The Value of Being Authentic In Your Relationships Overcoming Personal Barriers to Self-Love Connect With Quinn: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/equinnknox/ Connect With Drea: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heybabecanwetalk/ https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeyBabeCanWeTalk Follow Us on Podcast Platforms: https://heybabecanwetalk.lnk.to/listen 11:22 I’ve always been a person who just wear the heart on their sleeves I've never been able to play games. All of my friends now, they are constantly “Drea you can't say that” and I am like, why not? I am just saying the truth, I love them! - Drea Renee 13:22 I think, in general as men, if you are leading with too much sexuality, I think that can turn a lot of women off. It's too aggressive and intimidating, but showing attraction, maybe a little bit of hand holding a little brushing here and there that can be good because it's a good indicator of “Hey, I am attracted to you”. - Quinn Knox 14:20 In a lot of ways, men are dogs, and women are a lot more like cats. Usually talking about intimacy, physicality and sexuality, men are more ready to play,” You want to play fetch?!” And for women is very rare to be like “I am ready, let's go right now”. - Quinn Knox 33:00 This sounds so like Miss America, but doing the work, looking deep down inside, figuring out what's going on, what's blocking you from relationships and the ability to love yourself which is inhibiting your ability to love others. So I think that investment in you should come first. - Quinn Knox Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of 'Hey Babe, Can We Talk?', Drea Renee invites special guests Lauren and Johnny to share their remarkable journey from friends to romantic partners. They candidly discuss the challenges they faced along the way and how they overcame them, offering valuable insights and tips for fostering a genuinely healthy relationship. In this episode of Hey Babe, Can We Talk?: From Friendship to Romantic Partners How to Connect on a Deeper Level Embracing Femininity to Empower Masculinity: Connect With Drea: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heybabecanwetalk/ https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeyBabeCanWeTalk Follow Us on Podcast Platforms: https://heybabecanwetalk.lnk.to/listen Connect With Lauren and Johnny: https://www.instagram.com/lolo_urbiztondo/ https://www.instagram.com/SENSANIKMUSIK/ 22:33 I feel people today treat s*x, and not intent to offend anyone, but they treat it like a handshake, just something you do and you move on. But when you get that time to really get to know someone, I think it takes the connection to a whole other level. -Drea Renee 23:03 If you are looking for a long-time partner, it's not all the time those fiery times, that isn't the majority of your day and how you are spending it, it's all the things in between. -Johnny  25:33 If we give all of our energy to this relationship, it could be something extraordinary. -Johnny   34:06 As women is up to us to communicate and be vulnerable to our men so that they can step into their greatness and show up for us. -Lauren  35: 57 Self-care is so important in relationships. For me, I feel I can be in my feminine for him when I am taking care of myself. - Lauren  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to "Hey Babe, Can We Talk?" the go-to podcast for the Hot Mess Expresses, the Black Sheep's of Love, and those navigating the ups and downs in matters of the heart. I'm your bestie Drea Renee, the Queen of Romantic Disasters, and just like you she has ignored the red flags and done everything sideways! Whether you're happily coupled, single as a Pringle, or caught in a situationship... let's embark on real and candid conversations about the rollercoaster of relationships. It's time to get honest with ourselves and our partners. I’ve done everything wrong, so as a relationship survivor, let me help you do it right. Go grab your headphones and lets get into it! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of 'Hey Babe, Can We Talk?,' Drea is joined by the fabulous Andria Bush, an amazing Celebrity Stylist and Costume Designer who lives life on her terms. In this candid conversation, Andria opens up about Breaking al the rules in love and life. She shares her experiences and insights on dating younger men, navigating the complexities of interracial relationships, and embracing the unconventional with confidence. In this episode of Hey Babe, Can We Talk?: Interracial Relationships Dating Younger Men Breaking Societal Expectations Connect With Andria: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andriamichellebush/  Connect With Drea: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heybabecanwetalk/ https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeyBabeCanWeTalk Follow Us on Podcast Platforms: https://heybabecanwetalk.lnk.to/listen 16:54 You can be respectful within a casual situation, it doesn't mean that if you are casual you should treat a person any kind of way, you can have boundaries, you can be adults and you can communicate. -Drea Renee 22:05 I think that words matter, especially when it comes to race relations and interracial dating we have to be very cognitive of what we are saying because you love who you love. - Andria Bush 32:26 Be open with yourself, don't be like "I have a type" because you might not. You might think that your type is XYZ, but there are so many people you are going to miss because you are so set on. - Andria Bush Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of "Hey Babe, Can We Talk?", Drea invites her close friend Kye Kinder, a realtor making her first appearance on the podcast. Together, they have a raw and relatable discussion about self-reflection, asking the hard question: "Am I the red flag?" This episode is all about taking accountability, understanding your patterns, and working towards being the best version of yourself in relationships and life. In this episode of Hey Babe, Can We Talk?: Balancing Career and Dating Life Am I the Red Flag? Breaking Toxic Patterns Connect with Kye: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kyekinder/ https://www.instagram.com/kyekinderhomes/ Connect With Drea: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heybabecanwetalk/ https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeyBabeCanWeTalk Follow Us on Podcast Platforms: https://heybabecanwetalk.lnk.to/listen 9:36 I think it's so easy to have all these ideas, and then when you meet someone that sparks you and bring you all of these butterflies and you have this chemistry, the idea of compatibility, not for everyone, if you have done the work you can slow it down but if you haven't done the work you get caught up in limerence, the butterflies and you don't think about: is this person going to bring me partnership? - Drea Renee 16:02  Maybe boring is fine, maybe I need someone not like me. - Kye Kinder 17:44 I think when we click too fast is a red flag. I am a person who responds to the stimuli of that going on… People a lot of times think if you are outgoing or friendly, they think they know you, but they don't really. - Kye Kinder     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of "Hey Babe, Can We Talk?" Drea Renee discusses the keys to healthy relationships. She emphasizes the importance of being true to oneself, maintaining respect, resolving conflicts, and valuing trust and mutual consideration in relationships. In this episode of Hey Babe, Can We Talk?: Authenticity in Relationships Importance of Respect Trust and Decisions Connect With Drea: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heybabecanwetalk/ https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeyBabeCanWeTalk Follow Us on Podcast Platforms: https://heybabecanwetalk.lnk.to/listen 3:19 If you were with your person, and they can only be themselves when you are away, that is not your person. You should be able to have real conversations and show up as who you are. -Drea Renee 3:35 There is a space and a consequence if you keep the facade for so long, you might lose who you are, and you don't want to do that, you are precious, and you deserve you be seen -Drea Renee 6:20 My mom is right, respect is more important than love because you are not gonna feel like strong feelings for your partner all the time. Respect is the most important thing, can you hear what they´re saying are they hearing what you are saying? - Drea Renee 6:51 Conflict resolution is one of the most important things in a relationship. How do you communicate when there's discord when you guys are not getting along when you don't necessarily like each other, so important - Drea Renee 11:11 Do you trust them? Do they operate from an “I” or a “We”? Are all the decisions based on you guys? Or them? - Drea Renee 15:48 You are worth it, you are worth being valued and being seen. Do not let someone think you are too much, too loud, you're asking for too much or you have many feelings. I'm here to let you know I get you and I understand you - Drea Renee Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of 'Hey Babe, Can We Talk?', Drea Renee has an enlightening conversation with Arielle Reitsma, co-host of the podcast Girls Gone Bible, a space dedicated to discussing all things Jesus. They explore how faith and traditional values can still thrive in today's liberal society. Arielle shares how finding faith transformed her life, leading her to live her best life. She reflects on how every heartbreak, failure, and fear shaped her into the amazing woman she is today, and she aims to share her journey with the world through her podcast. In this episode of Hey Babe, Can We Talk?: Feminine Men and Masculine Women Heartbreaks and Toxic Cycles Modern Relationships and Faith Connect With Drea: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heybabecanwetalk/ https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeyBabeCanWeTalk Follow Us on Podcast Platforms: https://heybabecanwetalk.lnk.to/listen Connect With Arielle: https://www.instagram.com/ariellereitsma/  https://www.instagram.com/girlsgonebible/ 19:31 And that peace that I have been searching for my whole life was in that moment, in that church. - Arielle Reitsma 22:43 The only time i felt peace, was when I was in the presence of God. - Arielle Reitsma 28:24 When you no longer have your identity into anything alone, thats a powerful  place to be. - Arielle Reitsma 37:18 I feel empowered, but I also respect the dynamics more of a relationship between a Man and a Woman, whereas before I would just bulldoze, its Drea Time! -Drea Renee Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of 'Hey Babe, Can We Talk?,' Drea invites one of her best friends, Sharice Tareva, a Rebirthinitiator ® and self-love advocate, to explore the power of personal boundaries and maintaining self-worth. They delve into the importance of setting healthy limits in relationships, and how these boundaries can lead to a more fulfilling and balanced life. In this episode of Hey Babe, Can We Talk?: Setting Healthy Limits Overcoming Social Pressures Self-Love as a Foundation Connect With Sharice: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharicetareva/ https://www.sharicetareva.com/ Connect With Drea: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heybabecanwetalk/ https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeyBabeCanWeTalk Follow Us on Podcast Platforms: https://heybabecanwetalk.lnk.to/listen 12:34 Boundaries are so important. I had people tell me “Oh your mom was mean” No, my mom wasn't mean, she set a boundary and you didn't like that she set a boundary. She didn't play she was no-nonsense. - Sharice Tareva  13:01 If I set a boundary is for not to be hurt, to let you know where my safe space is and if you are going to step over that and disrespect that I am going to have to check you with love.-Sharice Tareva 13:46 Within our culture, those boundaries can feel like you are attacking someone. Even when people started setting boundaries with me I used to think to myself “What? They are upset or mad at me” - Drea Renee 24:38 Healing is not one way or the other. Just like some people are mean so that I can grow and sometimes there are situations that I have gone through that I am like “Why is this person so nasty to me?” I wouldn't be who I am hadn't I gone through all these dark moments in my life. -Sharice Tareva  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Hey Babe, Can We Talk?, Drea is joined by Wrenn Woods, writer, actor, content creator, and host of Afternoon Partea podcast. Together, they dive into the complexities of being "too chill" in relationships and how this mindset can inadvertently create distance, block true intimacy, and prevent personal needs from being met. Wrenn unpacks why setting boundaries and expressing needs isn't "high maintenance" but a form of self-respect, challenging the notion that being laid-back is always the ideal approach. In this episode of Hey Babe, Can We Talk?: Stop Being the Chill Girl Independence in Relationships Rich Man vs. Generous Man Connect with Wrenn: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wrennwoods/?hl=es Afternoon Partea Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClGv3VeTuUv8MRDC_H1kEmQ Connect With Drea: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heybabecanwetalk/ https://www.instagram.com/thedrearenee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeyBabeCanWeTalk Follow Us on Podcast Platforms: https://heybabecanwetalk.lnk.to/listen 11:00 For me, I am a go-getter, I’m a hustler, and for me, it's very important to have something on your own and not just fully immerse yourself with another person and lose yourself.  - Drea Renee 12:44 Keeping the peace, while that's fine and dandy, you are just shoving sh*t under the rug, and it's going to blow up in your face whether that is a year from now or ten years from now. -Wrenn Woods 23: 17 If he has a bad relationship with his mother, run so far the other way. You will never be able to fill the void of a man who had a terrible relationship with his mother and his childhood. - Wrenn Woods Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices