Heal from Infidelity (Andrea Giles)

Regret is an emotion that we all feel, but that we will do almost anything to avoid. The fear of regret can keep us stalled out, not taking the actions that will create the life we want.

In this episode, you’ll learn why you don’t need to be afraid of regret. You’ll understand how regret can be both useful and harmful, and how to leverage it for your good. When we stop fearing emotions, we are willing to take bold actions, knowing that we will be able to handle whatever comes.

If you want to move forward in your life without fear of regret, or want to learn how to let go of past regrets, be sure to listen to this episode.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

A few themes of this podcast are that we always have choices even when we feel we don’t, that the hardships we experience can catapult us towards our greatest growth, and that we can create the future we want. In this episode, Andrea gets personal with her recent experience of welcoming a new baby girl into the world and how it has enforced in her mind that things are always working in our favor.

As difficult as infidelity and betrayal can feel, Andrea reminds her listeners that they have a bright, fulfilling future in front of them. Listen to the 3 points Andrea shares that serve as powerful reminders of what is possible for you.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

In this episode, Andrea is a guest on the “Love Starts Here” podcast with life coach Melissa Snow.

This episode covers the tough topics of how to trust again and whether or not it is a wise decision to do so, and the importance of building up trust in yourself first before deciding to trust someone else.

We also discuss Andrea’s #1 tip for how to decide to stay or leave so you can make that decision without second guessing yourself.

Melissa Snow is a Certified Life Coach who helps women improve their relationships, starting with the one they have with themselves. She is passionate about helping women learn to love and value themselves, so they don’t have to rely on men to show them their worth. She hosts the Love Starts Here podcast, is an international speaker and is the author of “Ten Secrets to Having the Love You Want.”

Find Melissa at:

https://lovestartsherecoach.com/
www.lovestartsherepodcast.com
https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovestartshere
https://www.instagram.com/melissasnow.lovestartshere/

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

After infidelity, it can be really easy to feel like your spouse owes you something. He needs to make it up to you, right? It makes sense that one might feel this way, but in this episode you’ll learn how this attitude can keep you from the very things you want most - peace, calm, and healing.

Entitlement is also what can set some people up to cheat in the first place and keep them stuck after infidelity. This episode will be useful for both the one who strayed and the one who was betrayed.

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© 2022 Andrea Giles

Although many of my clients choose to stay with their spouses after infidelity, many decide to leave their marriages. Over time, some of them decide they want to start dating again. There is much fear, trepidation, and often self-doubt that can surface.

In this episode, I am interviewed by fellow coach and dating after divorce expert, Sade Curry. I share my personal story of dating my current husband and some of the challenges I dealt with.

To be sure, dating can be an opportunity to see what areas need looking at for growth, and to understand yourself more fully.

Even if you have chosen to stay married, I share how I had to navigate trust issues even though I was dating someone who did not break my trust. Wherever you are in your infidelity journey, listen to understand some of the issues that I dealt with and how I overcame them. You may find we have a lot in common!

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

In the aftermath of infidelity, there can be a period where you wait and watch.

Sometimes there is waiting to see how much initiative our partners take, and sometimes we are just waiting to feel calmer before we make big decisions.

Either way, there are things you can do to help settle your mind during this space.

In this episode, you’ll learn four things you can do during this time to help keep your mind focused on why you are waiting and what you are waiting for.

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© 2022 Andrea Giles

In this episode, Andrea delves into the concept she calls "The Boomerang Effect." Inspired by a coaching session with a client, Andrea explores how strong emotional reactions often lead us to make drastic decisions, only to later soften and reconsider our stance. She discusses how this phenomenon manifests in various aspects of life, including relationships, politics, and religion, and emphasizes the importance of finding a middle ground. 

Tune in to learn how to navigate these emotional swings and make more grounded decisions.

In this episode:

• The Origin of the Boomerang Effect
• Examples in Relationships
• The Role of Politics and Religion
• When to Fling Yourself Away
• The Softening Phase
• Personal Reflections and Advice

More from Andrea:

• To work with her, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/
• Join her email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/

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© 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

In the 2nd of this 2 part series, Sara Fisk and Andrea go deeper into people-pleasing.

They go into more detail about how people-pleasing tendencies can put relationships at risk, and how stopping people-pleasing can help relationships heal.

You will learn:

• How we are all deeply wired to people-please
• How it is likely affecting you post-infidelity to people-please
• How taking responsibility for our own growth (and letting go of people-pleasing) is crucial to healing

Sara Bybee Fisk is a Master Certified Coach and Instructor who teaches women how to tame the rampant people-pleasing, perfectionism and codependency that is causing them so much frustration and resentment. She is an anxious optimist and born again feminist who listens to more books than she actually sits down to read. She loves a good hike, good dark chocolate and good conversations. Her big dreams include learning to sail and to sing and dance like JLo and helping thousands of women create the big, juicy lives they want to be living. She is a wife and mom of 5 and she enjoys those roles most of the time.

To learn more from Andrea, be sure to join her email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/

To learn more about working with Andrea, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/

Follow Andrea on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

When life doesn’t go the way we thought it would, it can be easy to blame God. Sometimes in our darkest moments we can wonder if He abandoned us. In this episode, guest David Butler and I will be discussing ways to cope with this painful experience.

David Butler is a best-selling author, co-host of the acclaimed “Don’t Miss This” podcast, and educator. His unique view on God and scripture brings insight to this topic that will help listeners understand that they are not alone.

In this episode, you’ll gain a greater understanding of how transactional relationships can hurt us, how Jesus Christ is the perfect example in all things, and why we are sometimes left seemingly alone. You’ll know how to turn back to God, and heal the trust that has been lost.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Do you ever wonder what is wrong with you? You’ve had your trust broken, yet you are left feeling terrible like it was somehow your fault. You know something has got to give, you build up your courage, but end up turning back into familiar patterns.

I have great news for you… you are normal. You are not broken. Your brain is doing exactly what it’s supposed to do, and in this episode I’ll explain why.

Once you understand why you behave the way you do, I’ll teach you how to take steps forward, away from what is familiar and into what you really want most.

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© 2020 Andrea Giles

When faced with tough decisions, it can be so hard to make a powerful choice because we so want to know how it will turn out. In this episode, I'll share my own experience with letting go of the outcome and how it changed the course of my life.

I'll share 3 examples of how doing what I felt was the best (albeit hard) decision opened the door for even better things in my life.

Listen if you are grappling with two decisions -- one that may feel a little easier because it gives a sense of security, and one that may feel like a free-fall.

You'll learn how stepping into that free-fall has the potential to change everything for you.

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© 2020 Andrea Giles

It makes perfect sense that our brains scan for things we know. But it can be very misleading. All the best things are in front of us. When we look to the past, we miss out on the opportunity to create the life we want. We have so much capacity to grow, to become, to create. But if we don’t know how to envision it and go after it, we fall back into old patterns.

In this episode, I will teach you how to tap into possibility. Every human has unlimited potential that can not be quantified, measured, or capped out. Listen to understand how to tune into yourself and where you are meant to go.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Resentment. This is an emotion I see in almost all of my clients, whether they be the one who was betrayed or the one who did the betraying. While it is a common emotion that many of us struggle with, it can be deadly if left unchecked.

In this episode, I’ll cover where resentment comes from and why it can be so tempting to hold on to it. You will hear real life examples of clients I work with who are grappling with this and seeing how it is keeping them from moving forward.

You will also learn what to do with this powerful emotion. Listen to learn how to cut through resentment and turn it into something much more useful and sustainable.

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© 2022 Andrea Giles

Do you know how to question your own brain? Do you challenge your own thoughts? Some of us are pros at challenging others’ beliefs but struggle to challenge our own.

Learning to ask your own brain good questions is a skill that will serve you for the rest of your life. Rather than taking your thoughts at face value, a good question encourages digging deeper. This is where the truth comes out about what we are making things mean and how we are holding ourselves back.

We can only change the narrative in our brain when we know what is there in the first place. Asking good questions will help you get to know yourself on a deep level, and give such great awareness that you will be able to change your thoughts to create what you want on purpose.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Do you often feel like you “should” try to stay after infidelity? Or maybe you feel pressure from others telling you to leave because, as the saying goes, “Once a cheater, always a cheater?”

In this episode, I shine a light on how to listen for what is actually true for you. Other well-meaning people will always have their opinions, but in the end, you are the one that has to live in your life.

Desire is a strong indicator of the direction your wisest self wants to go. When you learn to listen to it, it will become your compass, and all you need is just a spark of a desire for it to get you moving.

This desire can cut through the noise of your own mind, others’ opinions, and your intense emotions.

Make sure to tune in to better understand the power of desire and how it can get you moving forward.

Schedule a free call to join my new group, “Get Your Life Back After Infidelity.”

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© 2020 - 2023 Andrea Giles

Every relationship has moments in time that make all the difference in which way the relationship goes. We either show up for ourselves or we don’t. We show up for our spouse or we don’t, and the consequences can be monumental.

In this episode, you’ll learn about “Sliding Door Moments” and how these small snippets in time often determine the direction of our lives. Once we can identify what those moments are (the ones where we self-betray and the ones where either we don’t show up the way we want to or our spouse does not show up for us), we can see what we have made those moments mean. Even more importantly, we can clearly see how those moments have shaped where our current relationships stand.

Only then can we course-correct, communicate more clearly and create the lives we want. Listen to this week’s episode to go deep into what your sliding door moments are and how you can heal them.

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© 2022 Andrea Giles

In the aftermath of infidelity, relationships often change. While there are many reasons for this, it can be painful and lonely. We are all wired for connection - we seek and crave it, yet it can seem harder than ever to make solid friendships.

In this episode, I interview guest Jewel Hohman about the importance of friendship and some practical ways of developing new relationships that last.

Jewel Hohman is a friendship expert and a professionally certified coach. She helps people stop overthinking their relationships and feel confident being themselves, so that they can create the deep friendships they have been craving. Jewel is on a mission to end the loneliness epidemic by having people take back their fundamental needs of connection and community.

Links to Jewel's info:

https://www.instagram.com/jewel.hohman/

https://www.jewelhohman.com

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© 2022 Andrea Giles

To show up as our best selves in any relationship, we must know how to calm ourselves down when emotions become overwhelming. Many of us have been taught that it is the responsibility of our partner to help calm us when in reality, it is our own.

In this episode, we’ll go in deep as to why learning how to self-soothe ultimately is the greatest gift you can give yourself as you navigate infidelity or any other challenge. When we don’t give someone else responsibility for how we feel, we get to decide how to feel, know how to take care of ourselves, and how to deal with the discomfort of personal growth.

Listen to understand areas where you can increase your ability to self-soothe and why it matters so much.

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© 2022 Andrea Giles

Do you struggle with people-pleasing? Is it getting in the way of making clear decisions for yourself in the after-math of infidelity?

In this 2-part series, Andrea and Sara Fisk talk all things people-pleasing. You will learn:

• How we are all deeply wired to people-please
• How it is likely affecting you post-infidelity to people-please
• How taking responsibility for our own growth (and letting go of people-pleasing) is crucial to healing

Sara Bybee Fisk is a Master Certified Coach and Instructor who teaches women how to tame the rampant people-pleasing, perfectionism and codependency that is causing them so much frustration and resentment. She is an anxious optimist and born again feminist who listens to more books than she actually sits down to read. She loves a good hike, good dark chocolate and good conversations. Her big dreams include learning to sail and to sing and dance like JLo and helping thousands of women create the big, juicy lives they want to be living. She is a wife and mom of 5 and she enjoys those roles most of the time.

To learn more from Andrea, be sure to join her email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/

To learn more about working with Andrea, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/

Follow Andrea on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

This week I am joined by Jennifer Finlayson-Fife to discuss the intricacies of infidelity. There are many misconceptions surrounding infidelity, and those misconceptions can keep you stuck. In this episode, we take a closer look at how infidelity can be the catalyst for growth in both parties, why people engage in infidelity, and how to recover from it.

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach as well as a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in the state of Illinois. She has a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. Her teaching and coaching focus on helping LDS individuals and couples achieve greater satisfaction and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships.

In addition to consultation with couples and individuals (in-person and online), she teaches online relationship and sexuality courses designed to foster self and sexual development and create happier relationships and individuals. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also offers many live workshops and retreats for couples and individuals.

Jennifer is a frequent guest on LDS-themed podcasts and writes articles for LDS-themed blogs and magazines, on the subjects of sexuality, relationships, mental health, and faith.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Most of us have learned to talk ourselves out of what we want, or have grown so accustomed to paying attention to what everyone wants that we have no idea what we want. In this episode, you'll learn why what you want really, really matters.

Listen to find out why the things you want serve as guideposts along your journey of who you are becoming. You'll learn how your desires were put there on purpose to help guide you to who you are capable of being by leaning into them.

You'll hear examples of women who are on the journey of becoming their truest selves, and how trusting their desires and working towards them is crucial to their healing, growth, and learning to build trust with themselves and others again.

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© 2020 Andrea Giles

For most of us, being wrong feels like a threat. If we are wrong, what does it mean about us, our judgement, and our ability to make wise choices in the future? In this episode, you’ll learn why it’s actually good news that you could be wrong.

When we give ourselves permission to be wrong about our assumptions of ourselves and others, it makes space for other thoughts and emotions. We can get curious about new possibilities. We can challenge thoughts we’ve had about ourselves that feel factual but cause a lot of pain.

In this episode, you’ll hear various examples of how allowing yourself to be wrong can be the tool that helps you move forward. From thoughts about yourself, thoughts about others and what you are capable of achieving, you’ll learn how to talk to yourself in a way that allows for error and helps you change the narrative.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Often times, in an attempt to avoid temporary pain and discomfort, we avoid hard conversations, stuff down our own feelings and hide how we really feel from others. 

In this episode, you’ll learn about how to create long term healing by practicing the concept of sustainability. By looking down the road at what we may have to deal with if we put things off today, it can give us the courage to do the hard things now, knowing we are ultimately creating something lasting. 

Most of all, you will learn how to help create sustainable practices of healing that will help you truly transcend infidelity and use it for your good.

Shelley Swapp’s information:
www.shelleyswapp.com

To learn more from me, be sure to be on my email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/

Apply for my group program, Know in 90, here: https://andreagiles.com/know-in-90/

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© 2020 - 2023 Andrea Giles

Grief. It’s an emotion we all experience as part of life. If we form attachments to anything, we risk feeling grief if we lose the thing we are attached to.

Regardless if you choose to stay married or not following infidelity, grief is something that has to be processed to be able to move forward with life.

In this episode, you’ll learn various stages you may be in with grief, what to look out for, and how to move forward. You’ll learn how grief can pretend to be other emotions, and why we often avoid stepping fully into grief.

You’ll also learn about PTSD surrounding infidelity and how to know if you may need additional help to heal.

Grief is as common as breathing, yet we can be so afraid of it. Learn to drop the fear, step fully into grief, and come out the other side ready for all the good that is in store for you.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Most of my podcast episodes have been geared toward women who have experienced betrayal, but this one is for the men.

First I address men who have been betrayed by their spouse/partner. I cover how betrayal affects men differently than women and why that is.

Second, I address men who have betrayed their spouse. In my many years of coaching, I have learned that there is no black and white, and people are much more complicated than we make them out to be. You will learn some ideas that will help you heal and move forward, as well as how to support your spouse.

To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/

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© 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

On the healing journey following infidelity, it can feel like you are not making any progress at all. It can be discouraging, overwhelming and downright depressing at times. So how do you know if you are progressing?

Unlike other goals we make like losing pounds, earning a certain amount of money, etc. the healing process is less straight-forward to measure. In this episode, you’ll learn 3 ways to check in with yourself and measure your growth. You’ll be able to identify areas where you have grown, and areas where you may want to focus more attention.

When we have a clear path forward, we begin to see that we can have a life we want to participate in again. We can see that we are coming out from the heaviness we have experienced and opening up to new possibilities.

Listen to this week’s episode to gauge where you are, and what your next step forward is.

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© 2022 Andrea Giles

Have you wondered why your spouse strayed and if your marriage can ever be good again? You don’t want to miss this episode.

Show guest Elisa Fucci shares, with transparency and honesty, her experience with infidelity and how her marriage is now better than it ever was before. She shares why she strayed and how she had to go through the difficult work of understanding herself and why she was prone to getting attention outside the marriage.

For those of you who want to stay, but wonder if it’s possible to really feel happy in your marriage, this one is for you. Yes, trust can be re-built. Yes, marriages can thrive after infidelity, even if the marriage was never great to begin with. Listen to this episode to learn what it takes to get there.

More from Elisa:

Email - Elisafucci.coaching@gmail.com
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/elisa_fucci_/

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Who are you? What do you think of yourself? When is the last time you really asked yourself those questions? Where do you go for the answers? Your own thoughts or what you think others believe of you?

Most of us look outside ourselves to determine our self-esteem and self worth. It then becomes a moving target - as long as people tell us what we want to hear we’re ok, but when they stop, then what?

In this episode, you’ll learn some concrete practices and exercises that will help you develop your own sense of self. There is nothing more important to work on than this as what we believe about ourselves sets the stage for everything we allow and don’t allow in our lives. Don’t miss this episode!

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I’ll uncover why it feels safer to avoid wanting, and teach you what avoiding this question is costing you.

You’ll come away with some strategies to use to tap into your own desires and wants, along with a strong reason “why” for pursuing the answer to that question.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Pain is a natural part of life. We all experience loss, grief, and transitions. Suffering, however, is optional. In this episode you’ll learn the difference between the natural pain that comes with life events, and suffering that comes from our thoughts about those events.

A great predictor of the experience of one’s life is how well they learn to manage their mind around their circumstances. The more the mind is kept in check, the more peaceful life will be.

In this episode, you’ll have an understanding of what kinds of suffering we cause ourselves, why we do it, and how to clean up your thinking to have a more peaceful experience with life.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

2022 was one for the books for me personally. I started the year with a new baby, launched a new program, and grew in ways I didn’t know I needed.

In this episode, I share my biggest lesson from the year: one that, when practiced, can bring relief and peace even in the midst of uncertainty and discomfort.

The lesson is around the concept of duality: The ability to hold onto two opposing views at the same time.

Don’t miss this episode if you want help navigating the things that don’t make sense or don’t have an easy answer.

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Get on my waitlist for my signature group coaching program here.

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A question I get asked a lot is, “Will it always hurt?” For most people, infidelity is one of life's experiences that can shake up your very foundation. It can be hard to imagine a time when it doesn't hurt every day.

In this episode, I share not only the good news that you won’t always hurt, but steps to take to make sure you don’t. Your healing does not have to be outsourced to anyone but you -- you can do things right now that will help you feel peace, calm, and start healing your heart.

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© 2022 Andrea Giles

This episode is all about why we excuse bad behavior. Whether it be from our kids, spouse, co-workers, boss, etc., there are reasons we allow people to treat us the way they do.

When you know what to look for and how to deal with the discomfort of teaching people how to treat you, life gets a whole lot easier.

Most of us are conflict-averse and put up with behaviors that aren’t helping anybody. You can learn how to lovingly hold people accountable while growing your own self-respect.

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All of us have days when we may feel anxious anticipation, but sometimes those days can become more frequent after infidelity, divorce, or other life-changing events. This episode will dive into how to prepare for hard days.

Whether it is a custody situation, an anniversary, or being around people who may ask tough questions, it is possible to not let those events de-rail you.

Listen to understand how to best prepare for those days so you can set yourself up for success. You’ll know how to handle your emotions, how to be the best version of yourself, and how you can create the outcome in your mind before the day happens.

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© 2020 Andrea Giles

Can you think of a decision you are putting off? Most of us aren’t very good at making decisions. We get in our own way by second-guessing ourselves, doubting our ability to decide, and worry about getting it wrong.

In this episode we’ll be diving in to why we drag out decision making, and look at how much it is costing you to put it off. There are many seemingly good reasons we put decisions off, but it always comes at a price to ourselves.

You’ll also learn about how to make decisions quickly, and how to support yourself after the decision has been made so you can move forward.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

A question I get asked regularly is about letting go - how to let go of the pain and hurt of infidelity.

In this episode, I will cover things we hold on to, why we hold onto them, and how to let them go. You’ll learn how your brain is trying to protect you from future harm and what to do to quiet it down.

Infidelity can be trauma-inducing, and the more you understand the ways this shows up for you, the easier it will be to heal.

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© 2022 Andrea Giles

Most of us have long, detailed “scripts” of how others should behave, and when they don’t, we get upset. We expect others to follow the script, even if they don’t know it exists. This is not only frustrating for the people in our lives, but very frustrating for ourselves because of what we make it mean that they didn’t do what we wanted them to do.

Listen to this podcast to understand the difference between making requests of others and having your own back whether they agree or not, and turning all of our emotional well-being over to others. You’ll understand the freedom that comes from actually allowing people to be who they are rather than who we want them to be so we can feel better about them and ourselves.

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© 2020 Andrea Giles

When it comes to healing from infidelity, acceptance is key to moving forward. This does not mean agreeing with it, liking it or not being sad about it. Acceptance means acknowledging that it happened instead of arguing with it.

When I first start working with new clients, they generally switch back and forth between making themselves wrong for the infidelity, or making their spouse wrong. Both stories have the potential to bring up strong emotions, and they often use those emotions against themselves instead of processing them.

In this episode, you’ll learn the 3 stages of growth and how acceptance is a key ingredient to moving forward. You’ll learn what acceptance is, and what it isn’t. You’ll understand the freedom that emerges when we let our thoughts be just thoughts, and aren’t threatened by our own feelings. As we allow ourselves to just be, we create a safe place to feel, process, and ultimately create the life we really want.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Most of us have been taught that we should decide what we want and need out of relationships, communicate those things to our partners, and expect them to come through for us. Unfortunately, this sets us up for a whole lot of disappointment.

In this episode, I’ll be going over the difference between wants and needs, and how to get those met. Instead of waiting for someone to take care of us, you’ll learn how to advocate for what you want without handing that responsibility over to someone else (and often feeling let down).

You’ll also learn how to tell the difference between wants that will encourage personal growth, and those that are born of insecurity and scarcity.

Knowing what you want and taking full responsibility encourages individual development, while letting those around you see who you really are.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Do you ever cover up how you feel and what you are thinking? This is called mind masking, and we all do it. In this episode, we’ll dive in to why we all lie, either my commission or omission. But some lies can be more blatant, deliberate and harmful than others.

As deceit is a part of infidelity, understanding it is important. You’ll also learn areas you may not be being completely honest in.

Lastly, you’ll learn how to spot lying and what to do about it.

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© 2022 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I’ll be diving into why it is worth leaning into the “cognitive dissonance,” or the space in between black and white where things feel a little more fuzzy. It is in this space that we grow. We try on new ideas, understand others on a deeper level, and create a safe place for ourselves, even when we don’t have all the answers.

Even more importantly, when we can allow the discomfort of the gray area, healing takes place. If we can believe that someone who hurt us is both good and bad, it becomes possible to heal the relationship, and to give ourselves that same consideration.

Listen to gain a deeper understanding of where you may be stuck in all-or-nothing thinking, and what you can do to broaden your view.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Boundaries are often misunderstood. Many view them as a means to control another person, a way to gain power over someone, or as something that will hurt the relationship. The truth is that a properly set boundary invites intimacy and trust.

In this episode, I will be clearing up exactly what a boundary is, and what it isn’t. You will understand:

• How clear boundaries strengthen relationships
• How to set them from a place of love
• What the most important piece of boundary setting is
• Why boundary-setting is a form of self-respect

You’ll come away from this episode empowered with the ability to more clearly see boundaries that need to be strengthened, and how you can step into a more honest version of yourself by honoring those boundaries.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Do you have moments (or days, or weeks) where you feel small, invisible and not at all like “yourself?” As flawed humans, it can be very easy to lose ourselves when faced with conflict yet learning the art of holding onto ourselves is what will help us move forward the most.

In this episode, you’ll learn what it means to hold on to yourself and why this is a game-changer for healing relationships. Instead of deferring to your spouse to let you know who you are and if you are okay, you’ll learn how to validate and strengthen yourself.

Whether you are single or married, this is a vital skill to learn (and one that takes a lifetime of practice). Taking steps toward holding on to yourself will give you peace, clarity and forward motion now, whether he is coming with you or not.

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© 2022 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I interview special guest Ashlee Boyson.

Ashlee Boyson is the author of the blog and book series titled “The Moments We Stand,” in which she shares her family's journey of healing after the infidelity and murder of her husband Emmett in 2011, just months after giving birth to their fifth baby.

Ashlee has been given the unique experience of sharing Emmett’s story on Dateline, Dr. Phil, American Monster, Investigation Discovery, True Crime Daily, and several other murder mystery investigation documentaries.

After feeling alone for many years and fighting to find her voice through the pain, Ashlee now proudly stands as an advocate for victims and families impacted by loss, grief, widowhood, murder, and infidelity. In an effort to help others not feel alone, she has grown to love sharing her story to help shine light on a path for others still stuck in the dark … a place she knows all too well.

Ashlee is the founder of A Reason to Stand -— a nonprofit focused on healing and empowering survivors. She is preparing to launch a series of online courses in May 2022. With a degree from Utah State University in family, child, and human development, Ashlee loves teaching moms about baby sleep and has a passion for all things parenting. She loves helping parents navigate their role in their children’s own healing journey after trauma and loss.

Ashlee is remarried to Scott Boyson and they have recently added two more kids to their full house, totaling 7 kids ages 17, 17, 15, 13, 11, 3 and 1.

Ashlee believes that each day is a gift and feels grateful for the grace and hope she has found in her story. She speaks out to share truth of the light she knows shines within all of us.

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© 2022 Andrea Giles

In every relationship there will be issues that one of you will care more about than the other. This is normal. Where we get ourselves in trouble is when we get into marital gridlock and stay in it.

In this episode, I will cover various ways high desire/ low desire shows up in marriage and other relationships and why we respond the way we do to our loved ones. When we understand our reactions better, we are better able to decide how we want to show up and stand up for the things that matter to us, even if we are misunderstood.

Showing up in the way shown in this episode will help move things forward- either together or apart. Be sure to listen to see areas you are stalling out in and how you can keep yourself moving and invite those around you to do the same.

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© 2022 Andrea Giles

In the aftermath of infidelity, it can feel like your life has been blown up, and our spouse sometimes does not seem to understand how much their choices impacted us.

This episode discusses the importance of knowing that our spouse “gets it” in order to really move forward and build trust. I also discuss growing our capacity to look at ourselves and how the things we say and do affect others.

Solid relationships are built on both people taking responsibility for how we each impact each other.

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© 2020 - 2023 Andrea Giles

In this episode, you’ll learn how grandiosity can lead to affairs. If we think we are better than others, we tend to excuse our behavior and make exceptions for ourselves.

You’ll learn what grandiosity is and how it can show up for the betrayed partner as well as the one who betrayed.

You’ll have a clear understanding of how the mindset of grandiosity gets in the way of real transparency, connection and healing and what to to about it.

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© 2020 - 2023 Andrea Giles

When you think of yourself, do you identify more with being someone who has been traumatized, or as someone who is incredibly resilient, despite your trauma?

Humans all experience trauma. It is inescapable. But what we forget is that as humans we are built to be resilient, and to rise above our trauma- not get stuck in it.

In this episode, you’ll learn how to create more resiliency as you navigate the choppy waters of infidelity. You will understand how you are getting yourself stuck in the story of your trauma, and leave with a clear path of how to grow stronger, despite your challenges.

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© 2020 - 2023 Andrea Giles

Forgiveness can be a touchy subject. Why should we forgive someone who has caused us so much pain? I get it. In this episode, I’ll shed some light on how forgiveness is not actually for them- it is for you.

I’ll go over what forgiveness is, and what it isn’t. Some of the ideas people believe about forgiveness are faulty and create additional pain. We’ll uncover those and learn what forgiveness really is about and why it’s such a gift to give ourselves.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

In this episode, Andrea welcomes forgiveness expert Dara McKinley to explore the profound and transformative power of forgiveness. Dara shares her personal journey and professional insights into how forgiveness can liberate us from emotional burdens, helping us to heal and move forward. They discuss the misconceptions about forgiveness, the difference between forgiving and pardoning, and the role of unconditional love. Dara also provides practical advice on how to approach forgiveness, even in the most challenging circumstances, and emphasizes that everyone is inherently capable of this healing process.

Tune in for an enlightening conversation that promises to reshape your understanding of forgiveness.

In this episode:

• Dara McKinley's Background
• The True Meaning of Forgiveness
• Dara's Personal Forgiveness Journey
• Practical Steps to Forgiveness
• Emotional Health and Forgiveness
• Addressing Misconceptions
• The Role of Unconditional Love
• Applying Forgiveness in Everyday Life

Dara McKinley has studied and worked in the realm of spirituality and health for over three decades. In 2012, difficult life circumstances pointed her to forgiveness where she realized that many spoke prolifically about why one should forgive but no one spoke of how. Her background enabled her to successfully create and follow a forgiveness path that worked, but in the years that followed, the experience made her see some significant themes. In particular, she saw how mainstream forgiveness understanding (pardoning, ceasing anger, having compassion, and letting go) was obscuring the forgiveness path. She also saw that people who identified as spiritual-but-not-religious required a forgiveness path that was clear, and logical. This inspired Dara to devote her professional life to understanding forgiveness’ infrastructure and to making forgiveness the practical healing modality it was always meant to be.

To learn more from Dara:

• Website: http://howtoforgive.com
• Website: http://daramckinley.com
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DaraMckinley108/
• Twitter: https://x.com/daramckinley
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daramckinley

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• To work with her, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
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© 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

Most of us don't look forward to pain. We often resist it, run away from it, or go into painful experiences with dread and fear. In this episode, I’ll shed some light on how our most painful moments can become the most useful, and even sacred experiences we draw from.

Whether it is emotional or physical pain, we can use the power of our minds to not only help us manage our pain, but to make it a powerful experience for us.

Although pain is a part of the human condition, seeing it through the lens of something useful and resilience-building can make it almost sweet. Listen to understand how you can use your current pain to serve you in your life.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Most of us understand the importance and significance of courage. It is an emotion that can help us to look at hard things in our lives. But if we are unwilling to take action based on our feeling of courage, we end up right where we started.

In this episode, I share some ideas pertaining to infidelity about some of the ways we need to not only have courage, but to turn that courage into action to ultimately have what we want.

I use specific stories and analogies to help my listeners know how this applies to them, and things they can start doing today.

Ways to work with me:

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© 2020 - 2023 Andrea Giles

In this episode I go deep and personal with my journey since the ten year anniversary death of my first husband on July 9th.

Many struggle in the aftermath of infidelity with how to let go. They find themselves un-intentionally sabotaging new relationships because they are still focused on all that went wrong. I did the same thing, and share in this episode how I learned to let things be so I could be present with the life I was creating (and now enjoy!).

If you are stuck in replaying painful stories over and over, this episode is for you.

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© 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I interview a former client, Lauren. Be prepared for an episode you will go back to again and again as there were so many gems and truths in her words.

Lauren not only shares in depth her personal story with her spouse's infidelity, but she shares her journey of coming back to herself after years of feeling like she wasn’t enough.

I guarantee you will relate to many of the things she shares, and feel inspired by how she has taken charge of her own life to make it something beautiful.

To learn more from me, be sure to join email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/

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© 2020 - 2023 Andrea Giles

Frequently called “the green-eyed monster,” jealousy is an emotion we don’t often want to admit experiencing. We judge ourselves for feeling it, as we wonder what is wrong with us, and wind up in all kinds of painful mind drama.

After experiencing infidelity, jealousy can feel like a constant companion. Those pesky intrusive thoughts that creep in? The images you see? The incessant thoughts about “the other woman”? These are all normal to experience after a betrayal, but are rooted in fear and doubt.

In this episode, you’ll learn how envy and jealousy are different emotions, with different fear meanings attached to them. When you understand the root cause of jealousy and envy, you’ll know how to help release yourself from their grip.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I interview Luke Schillings about his personal experience with experiencing and healing from infidelity. He has used his own painful experience to now work with men who are navigating that space. Listen for some amazing wisdom of how to let go, heal, and move on.

Luke is a 40 something father of two who recently escaped the 9-5 to chase his dreams of becoming a relationship and infidelity coach. UK based and Lincolnshire born and bred, he can often be found running in the countryside, volunteering, drinking coffee or engrossed in an Excel spreadsheet. He now takes much of his life experience, combined it with his unique coaching skills to help those who have been through infidelity trust again and move forward with their lives.”

Luke's Info:

• Website: www.lifecoachluke.com
• Facebook: www.facebook.com/mylifecoachluke
• Instagram: www.instagram.com/mylifecoachluke
• LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/mylifecoachluke
• After the Affair Podcast on Apple
• After the Affair Podcast on Podbean

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© 2022 Andrea Giles

Is it love or attachment? Many of my clients want to stay in their relationships because they can’t imagine life without the other. Or their spouse says they want to stay married but my clients don’t feel safe or loved by their spouse. This can lead to a lot of confusion for everyone involved.

If you wonder if you are truly in love with your spouse or just the idea of him, this episode is for you. Or if you wonder if your spouse is attached to the idea of you or of being married, but may not necessarily love you, don’t miss this episode.

You’ll hear real examples of partnerships where both elements are present, and gain some awareness on where your relationship stands, as well as how to proceed.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

A crucial part to healing and moving forward is learning to acknowledge and process your own feelings. In this episode, you'll learn what to avoid, and how to allow yourself to feel your feelings.

Many of us have never learned how to allow our feelings, and have stuffed them down, hidden from them, and punished ourselves for having the feelings we have.

What if feelings are not a problem at all and actually allow you to experience life more fully? Tune in to learn how to allow feelings, and how to create the emotions that will move your life forward.

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© 2020 Andrea Giles

Some questions that come up a lot with clients is, “What about sex after finding out? Is it bad to be intimate? What if I don’t want to? What if I do?” To answer these questions, I interviewed sex coach Amanda Louder.

Amanda Louder is a Certified Life Coach who helps women from conservative Christian backgrounds love their sex life. She helps women embrace their sexuality to help them strengthen their relationship with themselves, their spouse, and God.

In addition to being a coach, Amanda is also a wife to Kevin, and mom and step-mom to 5 kids, ranging in ages from 14-22. In her spare time, she enjoys reading, watching her kids play sports, fishing, and camping.

To hear more from Amanda, you can find her on Instagram @AmandaLouderCoaching, on her podcast “Sex for Saints” where she talks about all things sex and marriage, or on her website AmandaLouder.com.

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The August group is enrolling NOW and begins on August 16th. Want a spot? Come talk to me here.

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© 2022 Andrea Giles

One thing I hear all the time from my clients is that they struggle with comparing themselves to their spouse's affair partner. It can get to the point where they can’t be in public with their spouse because they worry so much about what the spouse may be thinking about other women they see. It can be crippling.

In this episode, you’ll learn why we compare, and how you can help yourself navigate it. Even though comparing is a very natural thing to do, you’ll come away with tips to help yourself when you find your mind wandering.

Comparing is normal. We all do it. But it does not have to be destructive or take over your mind. Don’t miss this episode to learn how to reign in those wandering thoughts that lead nowhere helpful.

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© 2022 Andrea Giles

Most of us have been conditioned our entire lives with the messaging that we should just be happy and filled with pleasure at all times. When we don’t feel happy all the time, we avoid the negative emotion by buffering from what is actually real.

In this episode, you’ll learn the real reasons why you buffer, and what it is costing you. When we buffer, we give ourselves a false sense of safety and security, but we are missing the opportunity to understand why we are buffering in the first place. We miss what the uncomfortable emotion is that we are avoiding, and why it keeps showing up.

Learning to stop buffering is where life becomes really good. You stop needing false pleasure because you know how to create it with your mind. You aren’t afraid to feel any emotion. You stop hiding from yourself and start creating the life you actually want.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Do you know what your values are or why they matter? We often hear of companies having values but skim over the importance of knowing and living by our own.

In this episode, we’re going to dive in to what values are and how they can help guide decisions, know what to say yes and no to, and set parameters around where you will let your mind wander to.

Knowing your values is crucial as you create a future you love. It becomes bigger than you - you are part of a vision. Listen, to understand how to identify what your values are and how they can help you move forward from infidelity.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Are you good at showing compassion to others? How do you feel when someone else is suffering? For many of us, compassion for others comes naturally. But when it comes to self-compassion, it can be much harder. Why is this?

In this episode you’ll gain an understanding about why self-compassion can feel scary and threatening. When we really understand something, it becomes easier to see our own behaviors and learn how to navigate our own painful experiences and emotions.

Self-compassion can be difficult to develop, but is key to creating space within yourself to heal. Just as we would allow others their own feelings and struggles without judgement, when we can do the same for ourselves, true healing begins. We stop judging, expecting perfection, and just allow ourselves to be in the moment we are in.

Don’t miss this episode as you’ll learn three powerful questions to ask yourself when you are stuck in self-judgement. These questions can open you up to compassion, and ultimately to deeper healing.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Perfection is a myth, yet so many of us think that we should be perfect to be acceptable and loveable. We can easily fall into being over-achievers or under-achievers, both as veils to hide our perceived insecurities and flaws.

This kind of thinking stifles our own development, and keeps us from developing real, vulnerable relationships with others where we allow ourselves to be seen. We may also block our own ability to really see others as they are.

In this episode, you’ll learn if you are a perfectionist (you may be surprised by some of the ways perfectionism rears its head!), how it is affecting you and your loved ones, and you'll be provided clear tools that will help you grow in your capacity to love yourself in your imperfections.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

You may have heard that journaling can be a healing process, but there are benefits you may never have thought about.

In addition to being a healing tool to our physical bodies, journaling is proven to be an emotional regulator and healer as well.

In this episode, I will share how impactful journaling has been for me, how to journal, and why I encourage you to make it a part of your daily practice.

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© 2020 Andrea Giles

Join me this week as I share a personal experience of taking on a major project. You’ll hear some of the obstacles that made me want to quit, and the reasons why I kept going.

This episode is less about a renovation and more about what it actually looks like in real time to make your dreams happen. It is hard work that requires more skill of you than what you may currently have.

If you need some motivation to go after what matters most to you, don’t miss this one.

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© 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

One of the biggest struggles in the aftermath of infidelity is not knowing what to do.

• Do I just wait on him to see what he does?
• How can I ever let this go?
• What if it happens again?
• Can I ever trust him again?

All of these questions lead to endless rumination and winding up more confused than ever.

In this episode you’ll learn an effective strategy that will help you know the next step to take. When you learn to scan out into the future and really see what is there, it can help give you the courage to make bold moves that will help ensure the future you want most.

Referenced downloadable worksheet

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© 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

Welcome to the show! In this first episode, I’ll be sharing who I am, why I am here, and how this podcast can help you. I, too, know first-hand the pain of having trust broken, my own little world turned upside-down, and the confusion of not knowing how to make it better. I have been where you are, and know how to help you heal from it.

This episode covers some of the things you can look forward to in this podcast - the exact tools and skills I learned that not only have changed my life, but have changed the lives of my clients as well.

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© 2020 Andrea Giles

When you think of the future, do you feel a sense of foreboding, or hope?

Much of what you anticipate can be traced to past, unresolved experiences with your partner. In this episode, you’ll learn what probably happened and didn’t happen before the infidelity that is creating problems now.

Once you understand what is happening and what you can do about it, you’ll be able to choose how to view the future and be very intentional about what you are creating.

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© 2022 Andrea Giles

What happens when something you believed as true is challenged? Or when you make up your mind about something and immediately doubt it? Does it mean you made the wrong decision, or is something else happening?

In this episode, you’ll learn all about cognitive dissonance and how it is an indication that something is out of alignment for you. It may be that your beliefs need to be reevaluated or expanded. It may be that you are being led into deeper self-trust and wisdom.

While cognitive dissonance can be quite uncomfortable, it can lead you into a place of deep peace, knowing that your internal values match your external actions.

How to work with me: https://calendly.com/andreagilescoaching/get-your-life-back

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© 2020 - 2023 Andrea Giles

Have you ever stayed in a situation you don't love because you're so afraid of what the alternative might be? In this podcast, I'll teach you why planning out Plan B actually sets you free.

If we don't really lean into the fear, pain, and discomfort of a new plan, we aren't fully choosing the one we are in.

Listen to learn how stretching your brain and making alternative plans is what brings peace and security to either choice you make.

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© 2020 Andrea Giles

Do you wonder if you are settling in your relationship? Do you feel shame and guilt when you think about it?

In this episode, I clear up what it means to settle and help you drop any negative feelings around the idea.

In real examples, you’ll be able to recognize if you have some things to shake up or if your job is to just keep going exactly as you are and keep trusting the process.

Rather than looking for outward signs of settling, you’ll learn what it feels like inside of you, and how to fix any inward signs of settling.

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© 2022 Andrea Giles

As children raised by imperfect parents, we all have “core wounds” that inform much of our life. We may have had experiences we did not know how to process, and therefore made up stories of what those things meant that we still carry with us today.

As we get older, we adapt and learn to navigate those painful stories through our various adaptations.

Then as adults, we have an opportunity to look at some of our adaptations, and evaluate if they are still serving us, or if we can let them go.

In this episode, I explore 3 roles children are often “cast” in that can create issues later in life if not evaluated and healed.

You will likely see yourself and those you love most in some of these roles, and gain some insight into your own behavior, as well as the behaviors of your partner/loved ones. You will also leave with some tangible ideas of how to navigate next steps in healing those parts that need gentle love and nurturing.

To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/

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© 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

Growing up, we all take on behaviors that we use when our safety feels threatened.

In this episode, I will be covering five strategies we use to try to get back a sense of safety.

While these behaviors are common and we all participate in some (or all) of them at times, you’ll learn why they will ultimately not get you what you want. There may be a temporary feeling of “winning,” but in the end, we will be less connected with others, and usually less connected with ourselves.

Tune in this week to learn what strategies you buy into, and what it may be costing you.

To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/

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© 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

In this week's episode, Andrea takes us on a heartfelt walk in the country to discuss the importance of recognizing and remembering your value. Learn how to move from needing validation to wanting it, and make powerful, courageous decisions that align with your true worth. Andrea shares personal stories, thought-provoking questions, and inspiring examples that will empower you to step into your full potential. Listen now and take the first step towards embracing your true value.

In this episode:

• Discussing self-worth with teens
• Recognizing our own value
• Reactive vs. proactive actions
• Examples of valuing yourself
• Moving from "need" to "want"
• Questions for self-reflection

To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/

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© 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

You've heard that your thoughts matter, but maybe you don't quite know how your thoughts are affecting you, or how to change them. In this episode, you'll learn the science behind thoughts and how they are directly creating results in your life.

Even when life hands us circumstances that we struggle with, we still have so much more power than we know.

Tune in to learn how it's not the circumstance that is causing all the heartache, it's the way you are thinking about it. This is very good news because it means you don't have to wait around for someone else to do something different to feel better. You can take back your thoughts and create a different result for yourself. I'll show you how.

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© 2020 Andrea Giles

Today, Andrea dives into the complex issue of spiritual bypassing. She discusses how individuals often use spiritual practices as a way to avoid facing the real issues at the heart of infidelity. Through real-life examples and personal anecdotes, Andrea explains why it's crucial to address the root causes of betrayal rather than masking them with temporary solutions. She also highlights the importance of facing uncomfortable emotions and the potential negative impacts of spiritual bypassing, such as emotional confusion and codependency. Tune in to learn how to confront these challenges head-on and grow into a more authentic and confident version of yourself.

In this episode:

• Real-life Examples
• Understanding Spiritual Bypassing
• The Problem with Avoidance
• Personal Anecdotes
• Negative Impacts of Spiritual Bypassing
• Signs of Bypassing

To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/

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© 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

For most people, any kind of infidelity or affair is quite a life-changing blow, but the reality is that not all affairs are the same.

In this episode, I go through several different types of affairs so you can educate yourself on what it is you are dealing with. Knowledge can be painful to hear, but in the end it will empower you to know what action to take.

You will know if it’s time to double down on rebuilding a marriage that was already in trouble, or if he has issues he needs to deal with alone.

Knowing what kind of affair it was can give you direction and courage to know how to proceed, and how to ultimately get some peace back, with the facts in hand.

To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/

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© 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

Romantic infidelity and financial infidelity often go hand in hand. Money is frequently spent on the affair partner, and in high-control relationships, spouses can feel like they have no say about where the money goes.

In this episode, guest Tracy Coenen and I discuss:

• Hidden money
• Financial rights for stay-at-home moms
• Divorce settlements
• Financial options, even if you are staying married

Tracy has been investigating fraud for more than 25 years, but she didn’t always want to be a forensic accountant. With a dream of one day being a prison warden, Tracy went to Marquette University in Milwaukee, WI to get a criminology degree. A class on financial crime investigations reminded her how much she loved Encyclopedia Brown books as a kid. She continued her criminology degree but added accounting and economics courses so she could become a CPA ... and here Tracy is, finding money in cases of corporate fraud, high net worth divorce, and other financial shenanigans.

Learn more from Tracy at: https://www.fraudcoach.com/infidelity

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Join me on this podcast to learn what keeps us from telling the hard truth in conversations, and why it is actually not only hurting you, but the relationship itself. How many times have you avoided a conversation because you know it may get tense and uncomfortable? In this podcast I’ll teach you why that tension is actually not a problem, and how allowing yourself to sit in that tension creates the space to problem solve and get what you actually, truly want.

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© 2020 Andrea Giles

In this follow up to my last episode, “Intrusive Thoughts,” I go into more depth as to how to navigate the thoughts that seem to take over and rob you of your peace.

I share two points that will help you gain some traction and direction the next time an intrusive thought shows up.

Point one is about how intrusive thoughts can keep us stuck in the past rather than seeing what is in front of us. I also talk about how sometimes staying in this space can keep us from our own growth and development.

Point two is about allowing the thoughts that come up to show us what we need to do to close “open loops” in our mind. This part is about leaning into the things we need to be looking at to set down the thoughts that keep showing up.

Don’t miss this episode, as you will leave with even more direction and actionable steps to take that will help you quiet your mind and move forward.

Schedule a free call to join my new group, “Get Your Life Back After Infidelity.”

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© 2020 - 2023 Andrea Giles

Have you ever wondered if what you experienced is infidelity? For some situations, there is no doubt. But for many others, there is a lot of nuance.

In this episode, you’ll learn exactly what infidelity is. When you have the words to define your experience, it is empowering. You are able to see more clearly why your experience felt like a violation, and what to do with that information.

As the saying goes, knowledge is power. The more you know, the more you will be able to confidently advocate for yourself.

To learn more from me, be sure to be on my email list here.

Apply for my group program, Know in 90, here.

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© 2020 - 2023 Andrea Giles

What kind of home did you grow up in? Were you allowed to speak your mind, be your own person and choose how you wanted to spend your time? How you related to your family as a child largely affects what kind of adult relationships you have.

In this episode, I’ll be talking about a concept called differentiation which is all about our ability to keep hold of our own thoughts and feelings around those we care about without getting sucked into their thoughts and feelings and making them our own.

You’ll hear many examples of what high-level and low-level differentiation homes look like, which will help you gain a deeper awareness of your own patterns in relating to others. This will also help you understand your own unique response to infidelity and why certain parts of it are harder or easier for you than for others.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

If you listen to podcasts and read self-help books, you have probably heard the terms “abundance mindset” and “scarcity mindset.” However, in this episode I will be talking about each of those things and how they pertain to you and your life.

There are four areas where we experience abundance and scarcity (time, money, relationships and health). When we learn how to experience abundance in one area, it often trickles to the others. It is a way of being and thinking.

When you understand what kind of mindset you are coming from and what you can do about it, suddenly possibilities open up to you that you thought were just for other people. You learn to create the life you want rather than “taking what you can get.”

Listen to this episode to gauge where your mind is, how to identify if you are in abundance or scarcity, and how to create more abundance into your life.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

To celebrate 100 episodes, tune in to hear snippets from the top 5 episodes thus far. You, my dear listeners, have been a delight to show up for, and I want you to know which episodes have been the most listened to. You may just learn that others are right where you are, and that you are not alone in struggling with the same things.

Thank you for your love, support, shares, and reviews. Here’s to the next 100!

To work with me, schedule a 1-1 call to see if my upcoming Know in 90 group is right for you. We begin in November!

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© 2022 Andrea Giles

When faced with an uncomfortable situation, our natural tendency is to get out as quickly as possible. Sometimes we physically or emotionally check out in an attempt to avoid pain. In today’s episode, you’ll learn why your greatest growth comes from increasing your tolerance to discomfort - not avoiding it altogether.

By paying attention to what we want most in life, our willingness to allow discomfort will grow. When there is an understanding that the discomfort is in service of your ultimate goal, we are more willing to lean into the growth.

The more we grow, the more bold we become in the conversations we are willing to have, and in the things we try. We go after our dreams. We allow ourselves to mess up. We give permission to others to mess up. We become the most honest versions of ourselves.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

What if making mistakes is not a problem? What if the real problem is what we make those mistakes mean, or what others make them mean that we then internalize?

In this episode, I’ll uncover a few of the reasons we are so afraid to make mistakes, and how we can build our own tolerance and resilience to the things we judge ourselves for. When we understand the difference between using mistakes as weapons to punish ourselves with and as tools to help us grow, we can open up to taking risks, speaking up, and letting others judge us without it completely derailing us.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Do you struggle with intrusive thoughts? These are the ones that pop up, seemingly out of nowhere, and can derail your whole day.

In this episode, I cover where these thoughts come from, and how to process them so they no longer have a hold on you.

You will learn a strategy that will:

1. Help you bring more awareness to the thought 
2. Give you direction as to what to do with it (so you are in charge of the thought rather than it being in charge of you). 

If you are like every client I have ever worked with, you have unwanted thoughts, and are tired of the hold they have on you. Don’t miss this episode to learn how to get a hold on the thoughts that can disturb your peace.

Want to work with me? Schedule a free call to join my new group, “Get Your Life Back After Infidelity.”

To learn more from me, be sure to join email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/

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© 2020 - 2023 Andrea Giles

Marriages can survive infidelity. But can the couple really thrive? This is a question I get asked a lot, and in this episode you’ll understand why the answer is a resounding YES!

Rebuilding a marriage after infidelity requires some specific tools and mindset shifts. It requires resiliency, curiosity, and a determination to change the narrative surrounding the infidelity.

In this episode, you’ll learn what these tools and skills are, and how to implement them. You’ll be able to identify what areas you are stuck in and concrete solutions to truly moving forward and building a marriage that is stronger and more intimate than what you had before.

More information at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2021 Andrea Giles

Do you wonder what will actually work for you in moving forward after the infidelity? With so much conflicting information, it can be quite confusing.

In this episode, I go into depth about the 5 milestones that, if practiced, will work for anyone, in any situation. Commitment to the process is what will get you strong results.

These milestones are built on each other, and the end product of mastering each one is a calm mind, vibrant relationships, and high-level practical skills you will use for the rest of your life. You can move forward, you can reclaim your life, and you can be a version of yourself you are so proud of.

To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/

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© 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

You've probably heard that what you think about matters, but the questions is- HOW do you actually change your own thoughts?

Maybe you have tried positive affirmations, read books about changing your thoughts and wondered why nothing has actually changed.

That is because the actual process of how to change the pathways in your brain are not readily explained.

Listen to find out the 3 steps to literally changing your mind. Once you understand how to use the power of your mind, there is nothing you can't have or do!

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© 2020 Andrea Giles

Do you ever wonder what you should be focusing on after infidelity?

This episode details the three areas that couples need to dive into in order to have a chance at building something better than what was there before -- or to go their separate ways as peacefully as possible.

Tune in to check in with where you are, what to lean into and what to let go of.

To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/

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© 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

Do you ever wonder if you can just feel "good"? In this episode, you'll learn why we aren't programmed to feel good all the time, and why it's actually a positive thing.

Most of us spend our life feeling just a few main emotions, and wonder why we keep getting the same results. When you learn that life is best when we allow both the positive and the negative, doors open up that were once closed. There is literally nothing you won't do if you know you can handle any emotion.

Listen to understand how some of your emotions may be holding you back, how even negative emotions can serve you, and how to feel more of what you want.

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© 2020 Andrea Giles

To truly move forward from infidelity, internal changes need to be made. When we change on the inside, it becomes impossible to be the same as we were on the outside. It is very possible that our changes become uncomfortable for others to be around, which can make us second guess ourselves and our growth.

In this episode, you’ll hear about 3 different clients and how I helped them navigate the changes they experienced in their families, whether they chose to stay married or not.

Understanding how our own changes can be uncomfortable for others helps us grow our own tolerance for their discomfort. We stop trying to make others feel better at our own expense. We understand that it is ok for them to be wrong about us, and let go of the painful assumptions we may be carrying about what others think.

Allowing for changes in relationships is part of moving forward. Listen to learn how to navigate those changes with more grace, compassion for self and others, and resolve to let others see you.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Infidelity is one of the few things that can change everything, forever. There is no going back.

How we deal with the “after” in infidelity is crucial. It presents an opportunity to change old patterns, learn new ways of being, and new ways to interact with one another.

In this episode, you’ll learn how changing up the old patterns will serve you, whether you stay with your current spouse or not. You’ll understand why the only way forward is if both partners commit to being vulnerable, clumsy and to putting their best foot forward.

Register for the free class, “How to Get Your Life Back After Infidelity.”

To learn more from me, be sure to join email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/

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© 2020 - 2023 Andrea Giles

It is human nature to see faults in others, and much more difficult to see it in ourselves.

In this episode, I’ll teach you why self-confrontation is an essential ingredient to growth, intimacy and healing. We can ask others to tell us what we want to hear, but it does not promote real growth.

Self-confrontation allows us to see ourselves as we really are rather than what we want to see. Even though it can be painful, it allows us to expand into fuller, more mature versions of ourselves.

Listen to hear real examples of self-confronting. Hint - it is very different than self-punishing and can be kind and loving as you’ll hear in the examples in this episode.

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© 2022 Andrea Giles

Something I often hear from clients is that they just want closure. They want to hear the apology. Know why it happened. Be free from all of it so they can move forward. Sounds good, right?

We all want certainty, and we believe it would feel good to wrap up this messy, difficult time in our lives with a bow and put it behind us forever, whether we stay married or not.

The problem with this is we often give the responsibility of this to someone else, thinking that if they just acknowledge our feelings, or say they are sorry, then we would get to feel better.

But what if that apology never comes? What if what they say doesn’t actually make us feel better?

Listen to this episode to learn how to give yourself closure. It is much more empowering to give yourself closure, to decide for yourself what happened, and determine what you want to take with you and leave behind.

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© 2021 Andrea Giles

Are there things in your life you want to change? Do you want your spouse to change?

In this episode, you will learn the fast-track to how to really, deeply, fundamentally change. Instead of just believing that you can’t change or that you are simply a failure in aspects of your life, you’ll understand why change has not “stuck” in the past, and how to move forward in becoming who you want to be.

You’ll also learn how to see if someone else is just going through the motions, or deeply changing.

Want to work with me? Apply to join my group coaching program at:   https://andreagiles.com/know-in-90/

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© 2020 - 2023 Andrea Giles

Be sure to listen to this announcement as Andrea will be sharing some upcoming changes that will interrupt the show temporarily.

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© 2022 Andrea Giles

In a world that praises extreme independence, many of us don’t know how to help each other calm our nervous systems. We may even think it is co-dependence to try to help each other in this way.

In this week’s episode, we will take a deep dive into what it actually means to co-regulate, and how it can bring deep healing. We will also take a look at how our parents help us to learn how to settle ourselves down by first regulating with us.

You’ll understand what healthy co-regulation means as opposed to co-dysregulation. 

Don’t miss this episode- first to understand your own patterns better, and to learn how to ask for the help you need.

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Get on my waitlist for my signature group coaching program here.

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© 2022 Andrea Giles