Guide From The Perplexed (Mordecai Rosenberg & JD Stettin)
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| 02 Mar 2022 | Episode 1: The Journey Begins... | 00:58:13 | |
JD Stettin and Mordecai Rosenberg record a conversation around the theme of Letting Go. 0:30-9:00 What is Letting Go, Enlightenment, Happiness 9:00-15:00 Basic Human Desires 15:00-19:00 Voice of God 19:00-26:00 Why are we recording this podcast? 26:00-32:00 Lonely vs. Doing Things Together 32:00-39:00 Moving Forward / Getting Somewhere 39:00-51:00 Human Experience 51:00-54:00 Holding On is Letting Go | |||
| 10 Mar 2022 | Episode 2: What is the Process of Letting Go? | 00:59:40 | |
JD and Mordecai discuss the Letting Go method, intellectualism, awareness, and the pressure of time. 00:00 - 03:06 Letting Go: The Guide From the Perplexed 03:06 - 09:27 The Letting Go Method: Getting Comfortable with Uncomfortable Emotions 09:27 - 19:50 Locate the Feelings: Addressing Feelings Before They Become Thoughts 19:50 - 27:17 Intellectualism: The Mind is the Shield of the Heart 27:17 - 35:08 Who Am I? The Different Components and Paths 35:08 - 49:07 Awareness: Learn to Sit With the Pain, Feel the Conflict 49:07 - 52:53 The Distraction of Beliefs - The Pressure of Time 52:53 - 59:37 Next Episode: Guilt Impedes Awareness / Positive Emotions - A Good Entry Point to Awareness | |||
| 16 Mar 2022 | Episode 3: How to Become a Connoisseur of Your Emotions | 01:00:23 | |
JD and Mordecai dive deeper into the realm of emotion, moods, and climbing out of that negative emotion rabbit hole. | |||
| 23 Mar 2022 | Episode 4: You Can’t Feel Guilty and Happy at the Same Time | 00:56:22 | |
Mordecai and JD specifically discuss guilt in this discussion on how we process, recognize, and control our emotions. 02:37 - 09:00 Recognizing Emotions 09:00 - 12:28 Locate the Feelings in Our Body 12:37 - 21:50 Guilt on Emotion Scale 24:34 - 36:36 Guilt and Shame 37:54 - 43:43 Controlling the Emotion 43:43- 55:36 Letting Go of the Idea That We Have To Do Anything | |||
| 30 Mar 2022 | Episode 5: Religion vs Spirituality | 01:04:28 | |
Mordecai and JD discuss the perplexing relationship between God, religion, and spirituality. | |||
| 11 Apr 2022 | Episode 6: Are You Feeling Fear … or Is It Exhilaration? How to Use Reframing on the Path to Enlightenment. | 01:03:05 | |
JD and Mordecai examine the depths of our emotions, the way in which we perceive and react to them, as well as how reframing these emotions can help us let go of the past. 9:50 - Dealing with Emotions in the Order of Which They are Received. 21:32 - Fear of Losing Positive Emotion Creates a Negative Outcome 24:22 - Is it Just Part of the Cycle? 29:54 - Being in Touch with Reality 35:18 - Letting Go of the Past 55:51 - Being in the Reality of Oneself | |||
| 18 Apr 2022 | Episode 7: Apathy and Depression | 00:52:33 | |
JD and Mordecai continue on their path of perplexity, examining how apathy is "buying into our smallness." 00:42 - 19:04 What is Apathy? 19:04 - 30:07 Scale of Emotions 30:07- 32:04 Ladder of Emotions 32:04 - 37:59 Apathy and Depression 37:59 - 43:13 Spiritual and Philosophical Traditions 43:13 - 51:04 Acting Out Emotion | |||
| 25 Apr 2022 | Episode 8: Blame | 00:57:50 | |
Books/Writers Referenced: 15:06 - 18:52 Blaming Others 21:41- 24:16 Blame and Guilt 25:30 - 33:52 Good and Bad of Blame 34:57 - 38:04 Where Do We Learn Blame? 41:34 - 47:07 Accountability 50:16- 55:25 Gratitude | |||
| 09 May 2022 | Episode 9: Using Frustration as a Spiritual Workout | 00:52:59 | |
Mordecai and JD dig into why we react the way we do when things don't go as planned. 01:51-03:12 When Things Don't Go as Planned 06:11-06:51 Beating Yourself Up 07:48-11:49 Stuck on the Emotional Rung of Your Plan 18:22-25:19 This is the Work 20:45-27:29 How Far Are You From the Breakthrough? 29:54-31:30 Does Mindset Affect Outcome? 31:31-39:14 Apathy to Courage 39:15-46:25 Are We Powerless? | |||
| 16 May 2022 | Episode 10: Grief | 00:50:56 | |
JD and Mordecai discuss the perplexing depths of grief, how we are affected by loss, and how accepting that loss as reality is a major step in resolving grief.
15:50- 26:36 Fear of Loss 27:48-32:49 Selfish Attachment 33:25-36:33 Letting Go of Attachment 37:50-39:39 Resolving the Feeling 43:16-49:51 Reality of Grief | |||
| 30 May 2022 | Episode 11: Fear | 00:50:11 | |
Books/Writers Referenced: 0:24 - 3:28: What is Fear? 3:29 - 8:46: Is Fear Future Oriented? 8:47 - 13:19: What Are We Actually Feeling? 13:20 - 17:57: Giving Up The Fear 17:58 - 21:09: Desire for Control 21:10 - 25:38: Learning to See the Fears and Learning to Let Them Go 25:38 - 31:47: Being Alone with the Fear 31:48 - 38:26: Fear is Healed by Love 38:27 - 41:33: People Are Not Just Their Beliefs 41:34 - 44:47: Loving in Just Your Existence 44:48 - End: Fear and Love: Reactive vs Proactive | |||
| 09 Jun 2022 | Episode 12: The Dark Side | 00:54:37 | |
JD and Mordecai have a fascinating discussion about the dark side of spirituality, the battle of good and evil in our minds and in our actions.
11:21 - Being Good, Being Bad 18:59 - Online Assessments 19:53 - Acknowledge the Shadow Side 23:12 - Being Invisible 27:17 - If It Doesn't Feel Good, Don't Do It 30:50 - Opinions of Others 38:55 - Acting Despite Fear 41:49 - Choosing Wisely 49:29 -- Building our Own Fear | |||
| 20 Jun 2022 | Episode 13: Guilt | 01:02:18 | |
Perhaps their self-proclaimed most qualified emotion, Mordecai and JD discuss the ramifications of growing up with guilt, its ties to fear, love, and anger, and how it relates to God and faith. 03:49- 12:06 Is Guilt Tied To Fear? 12:09- 18:08 Feeling Guilty 19:08-23:15 Growing Up With Guilt 26:47-29:00 God & Faith 31:36-33:22 Anger 33:24 -58:44 Guilt and Love | |||
| 05 Jul 2022 | Episode 14: Desire | 00:58:01 | |
Are desire and choices intrinsically interlinked? How does what we want drive our behavior? JD and Mordecai discuss desire, happiness, and choices in this episode. 5:29 Desire Drives Your Behavior 12:15 The Thought of Achieving Your Desire by Following That Desire? 24:01 Never Ending Stream of Desires 25:38 Can You Choose to be Happy? 31:47 What Matters in the End 36:00 Do We Deserve It? 53:24 Want What You Want | |||
| 11 Jul 2022 | Episode 15: Anger | 00:53:06 | |
What's more relatable than being angry? JD and Mordecai discuss the causes, the issues, the motives behind anger and their own experiences in processing and learning through that anger. 3:16 - What Causes Anger? 13:42 - Anger About Anger 19:32 - When Is Anger Wrong? 23:37 - Anger Doesn't Need Fixing 29:24 - Injustice Collectors 34:45 - The Importance of Being Right! 41:00 - You're Either on the Winning Team or the Learning Team 47:00 - I Felt Angry and That's Ok | |||
| 25 Jul 2022 | Episode 16: Pride | 00:44:02 | |
There are many aspects to pride, how it develops, how it affects and impacts our behaviors and beliefs. JD and Mordecai examine the effects of pride on their own lives and perspectives. | |||
| 08 Aug 2022 | Episode 17: Pride, It's Everywhere | 00:50:46 | |
JD and Mordecai continue their discussion on pride, focusing on the ego, identity, and unique ability. 0:21 - Pride, It's Everywhere 2:45 - Unique Ability 11:54 - Being Attached to Opinions 16:33 - This is the Right Way 18:47 - The "I" In Everything 22:08 - Very Small Way to See Yourself 25:04 - $500 Flip Flops 31:17 - The Need to Identify 39:36 - We Can't Just Reboot the Software 44:32 - Just Being | |||
| 15 Aug 2022 | Episode 18: Courage | 00:57:19 | |
Mordecai and JD discuss the many facets of courage, procrastination, and delegation. 4:02 - 8:08 The Inverse of Courage 8:09 - 14:13 Resumes, Eulogies, and Rescuing Bugs 14:27 - 28:11 Acting on Courage 28:13 - 34:30 The Other Side of the Coin 34:31 - 52:09 Procrastination and the Pandora's Box 52:17 - 57:07 The Power of Delegation Writers Referenced:
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| 29 Aug 2022 | Episode 19: Acceptance | 01:01:06 | |
JD and Mordecai run through how we accept and maybe struggle to accept the many emotions we struggle with. 07:32- 12:55 Acceptance & Courage 12:55-19:15 Acceptance & Judgment 19:15-25:39 Acceptance & Discipline 25:39-29:27 Acceptance & Desire 29:27-35:03 Acceptance & Anger 35:03 -42:07 Acceptance & Human Nature 42:07- 47:04 Perspective 47:04- 53:27 Metaverse/Matrix 53:27-55:13 Accepting Fate 55:13-57:59 Acceptance & Uncertainty 57:59-1:01 Free Diving | |||
| 21 Sep 2022 | Episode 21: Noticing | 00:47:23 | |
In this perplexing episode, Mordecai and JD examine their journey from the perplexed to really noticing what they find perplexing, how to let go, and how to love themselves. 06:36 - 10:27 The Antidote 10:27 -15:05 Pursuit/Spirituality 15:05 - 18:11 Movement 18:11 - 25:48 Letting Go & Love 25:48 - 28:19 Breath & Heart 28:19 - 35:38 Self-Love 35:38 - 47:00 Noticing | |||
| 28 Sep 2022 | Episode 22: Top of the Mountain | 00:56:52 | |
JD and Mordecai have reached the top of the mountain, they are committing to peace, analyzing their emotions, simply breathing, and enjoying the chaos of the human experience. 12:24 - Managing Your Internal Experience With External Anger 15:11 - Everyone Has Experienced Some Sort of Peace 22:47 - Call to Action - Just Breathe 32:11 - Commitment to Finding the Peace 36:13 - Defining Success by Massive Accomplishments 42:25 - When, With Whom and What Do I Do? 53:36 - Enjoy the Chaos | |||
| 13 Sep 2022 | Episode 20: From the Ashram to Jerusalem - An Interview with Sara Yoheved Rigler: The Purpose of Life, the Importance of Connection, How to Feel Loved by God | 01:11:15 | |
Mordecai and JD speak with the fascinating Sara Yoheved Rigler. We learn about her spiritual journey from conservative Judaism to living in an ashram and being introduced to the life of the soul. She explains how the Hindu goddess of death brough her back to the Jewish God, and how she is currently fulfilling her purpose in life. | |||
| 03 Oct 2022 | Episode 23: Psychography | 00:26:50 | |
In this shorter yet jam-packed episode, Mordecai and JD speculate on the mind and the body and how that contributes with letting go. Michael A. Singer - The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself David R. Hawkins - Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender (Not sure if this is the correct book) Barry Magid - Ordinary Mind: Exploring the Common Ground of Zen and Psychotherapy (Not sure if this is the correct book) Podcast: The Tim Ferriss Show #485: Jerry Seinfeld — A Comedy Legend’s Systems, Routines, and Methods for Success Resources: Misophonia Institute: https://misophoniainstitute.org/ Yeiush as mentioned by JD Stettin: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yeiush
4:41 - 8:00 When Physical Response Becomes Emotional 8:01 - 12:37 Where's the Line? 12:38 - 16:04 Learning Responses and Letting Go 16:05 - 18:26 Coaching or Psychotherapy? 18:27 - 22:56 Playing Whack-A-Mole 22:57 - 26:51 Embracing Yeiush | |||
| 06 Oct 2022 | Episode 24: Emotions Towards Others | 00:21:32 | |
Throughout all of their discussions regarding their own emotions, JD and Mordecai turn the tables a bit and examine their emotions toward others. 0:08-02:10 Emotions/Feelings Toward Others 02:10-5:15 Desire to Elicit Reaction Through Emotions 05:15-09:08 Guilt: A Self-Fulfilling Prophecy? 09:20-14:16 Fear and Jealousy 14:17- 15:56 Programmed Fear 16:41-18:50 Manifested vs Actual Threat 19:19-21:12- Nature vs Nurture, Programmed vs DNA/Genetics Books Referenced: | |||
| 17 Oct 2022 | Episode 25: Problem Solving | 00:29:23 | |
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| 19 Oct 2022 | Episode 26: Relationships | 00:29:23 | |
Mordecai and JD discuss the depths of relationships, the give and take, and effect of our emotions on those we are in relationship with. 0:51 - Positive Inward Feelings and How It Affects Others 8:19 - Giving vs Wanting 15:22 - Taking the Long Way 18:49 - We Create the Relationship by How We Hold the Other Person 21:50 - Seeing Your Value Through Someone Else's Eyes 27:22 - When You're Heart is Full, You Have More for Others | |||
| 25 Oct 2022 | Episode 27: Being Vulnerable | 00:51:58 | |
JD and Mordecai discuss being vulnerable, connecting and sharing with others. 5:01 - We are meant to spend a lot of our time in connection with others. 14:03 - Why we listen to podcasts. 19:56 - Letting go via connection and sharing. 28:01 - Taking an inventory of mental patterns and habits. 32:52 - What’s going on in our heads. 38:55 - Lead with what you want to share. 46:00 - Being vulnerable in the presence of others. | |||
| 02 Nov 2022 | Episode 28: Goals with Guest Traverse Fournier | 00:50:29 | |
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| 08 Nov 2022 | Episode 29 - Intro to a Course in Miracles — Why You Should NOT Believe What You See | 00:47:10 | |
SUMMARY: 8:06 - What does “nothing means anything” mean? 12:38 - When you’re in problem solving mode, everything is a way to help or get in our way 19:07 - When you’re communicating with someone who is upset, you don’t have to solve it 25:15 - The importance of label making in the natural world 30:14 - Changing the meaning of our thoughts and feelings 36:42 - We are the meaning makers in our lives 40:34 - Dancing to make life a dance | |||
| 16 Nov 2022 | Episode 30: We Are Not Upset for the Reason We Think | 00:35:38 | |
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| 18 Nov 2022 | Episode 31: Where Do our Thoughts Come From (Course in Miracles) | 00:27:02 | |
| 07 Dec 2022 | Episode 32: Our Brains Are Context Making Machines | 00:14:59 | |
SUMMARY: 0:00 - The meaninglessness of meaninglessness 0:50 - What’s it like when you wake up and you’re on vacation in your dream? 1:09 - Much of the work our brains are doing is kind of backfilling and trying to make sense of what it is 2:20 - What do you think about the idea of our brains as “brains?” 2:40 - What’s it like when you’re tired? 4:33 - When you’re in a hotel, it’s like you have to run a show 7:28 - "It's like being in a movie where there's always something else." 9:30 - How long does it take to get to the point where you’re saying “everything is meaningless?”? 11:23 - What does it mean to be “effective?” | |||
| 21 Dec 2022 | Episode 33: The Spiritual Journey: Navigating the Cycle of Growth and Radical Acceptance | 00:27:18 | |
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| 28 Dec 2022 | Episode 34: With Special Guest Dr. Joseph Hirsch: The Sci-Fi Path to Spirituality … and How to Find Your Spiritual Fuel. | 00:54:59 | |
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| 31 Jan 2023 | Episode 35: The Meditation Ultra Marathon: Exploring Vipassana with Special Guest Jessie Stettin | 00:46:44 | |
JD's younger brother Jesse is a guest on the show and shares about his experience from a 10-day Vipassana meditation retreat, where the focus was on building sensory awareness of physical sensations in the body. The retreat can be physically and mentally challenging, but can lead to feelings of gratitude, realization, and accomplishment. Jesse personally found that the retreat had a profound impact on them, leading to a fundamental shift in behavior. | |||
| 15 Feb 2023 | Episode 36: Upbringing and Mission Orientation: How Our Roots Shape Our Purpose | 00:50:17 | |
In this podcast episode, JD and Mordecai are joined by guest, Emily Shaughnessy. Emily was raised in an evangelical Presbyterian family. Her education was individualized as she was homeschooled until high school. Her parents instilled in her the importance of giving back to others. Although Emily moved away from a traditional religious structure, her path brought her to deeper levels of spirituality and connection to God. Emily's dad was a role model for her in terms of constantly giving to the community and giving of himself, which has influenced Emily's worldview and sparked her mission orientation. Her childhood experiences helped shape her views of humanity and the world and allowed her to follow her passions in making the world around her a better place. Emily is active in building “asset-based communities,” which is a grassroots approach that focuses on individuals and what they bring to the table, rather than an outside perspective of what needs to be fixed. Influences in her life include Alan Watts, Buddhist thinkers, Pema Chödrön, Marshall Rosenberg and his work on nonviolent communication, and the Internal Family Systems framework. These influences have helped her move away from a good-bad duality and toward a more compassionate understanding of herself and others.
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| 05 Apr 2023 | Episode 37: "Grief, Aging, and the Transformative Power of Pain: A Conversation with Simon Brief, Mordecai Rosenberg, and JD Stettin | 00:40:30 | |
In this podcast, Mordecai Rosenberg, Simon Brief, and JD Stettin discuss the transformative power of grief and pain, the importance of staying present in the moment, and the concept of gratitude. Brief shares his experience with meditation, and they also share anecdotes and memories of their father-in-law. Join them as they discuss topics of spiritual development and personal growth. | |||
| 24 May 2023 | Episode 38: Can You Fail a Personality Assessment? And, Who Wants to Be a Hufflepuff? - with Special Guest Dr. Joseph Hirsh | 00:57:57 | |
Check out this thought-provoking podcast discussing personality assessments and self-perception. Join Mordecai, JD Stettin, and Joey Hirsh as they share their experiences with various personality assessments, like Kolbe and Enneagram, and explore why idealize certain personality types. Dive into the conversation on self-acceptance, individuality, and the influence of cultural narratives on our perception of heroes. | |||
| 01 Jun 2023 | Episode 39: Daniel Mate, Co-Author of NYT Bestseller The Myth of Normal, on How to Find Mental Alignment in a Misaligned World | 01:05:20 | |
This podcast episode features an interview with Daniel Mate, co-author of New York Times Bestseller -- The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture. Daniel is a composer, lyricist, and accomplished playwright known for his work in musical theater. Daniel is also the creator of the Mental Chiropractic method. Daniel discusses his musical journey, his unique approach to addressing challenges through mental chiropractic, and his insights into parent-child relationships. The episode offers valuable insights for listeners interested in mental health, music composition, and understanding parent-adult child relationship dynamics. Daniel Mate shares his experiences and insights into his mental chiropractic process, a unique approach that helps individuals overcome their stuckness. He explains that mental chiropractic involves setting intentions, identifying and challenging perspectives that block those intentions, and gaining new perspectives and choices. Through several examples, Daniel demonstrates the transformative power of mental chiropractic in helping individuals align with their intentions and break free from limitations. Daniel discusses his recent project, "Hello Again," which explores parent/adult-child relationships. The conversation delves into the complexities of adult parent-child relationships – an area that has been ignored in parenting literature, emphasizing the formative influence parents have on their children and the impact it has on individuals. Daniel explores the inherent structural imbalances in these relationships and highlights the need to examine one's childhood and past experiences to understand how they shape the present. Overall, this podcast episode provides a wide-ranging conversation with Daniel Mate, covering his musical career, his unique approach to addressing challenges through mental chiropractic, and his exploration of parent-child relationships. The episode offers valuable insights for listeners interested in creative music composition, mental health, and understanding the complexities of family dynamics. | |||