Graydancer's Ropecast (Graydancer)

• Rope artist.
• Photographer.
• Teacher.
• Occasional StormTrooper.
• "Sexy Boots on the Ground" for the upcoming Baltimore GRUE.

These are all part of who RiggerJay is...and that's because he's very careful about what he shares on the web about his passion. In this interview we talk with him about why internet privacy is important, what we can do about it, why "the MeatList" was all kinds of sucky but not a hack...in short, if you are kinky and online, you owe it to yourself to listen to this podcast.

At the Columbus ACE Rope Event RiggerOdys & AngelKnight spent some time talking about their rope philosophy, including what it's like to study with Naka Akira and what it means to use rope to "secure emotions."

This episode was brought to you courtesy of Twisted Monk (http://twistedmonk.graydancer.com) and Lee Allure (http://facebook.com/SpiralEyeSoap) as well as listeners like you contributing through http://patreon.com/graydancer .

The founder of the Devil Mask Society, DemonSix (aka Matt) talks about his own personal epiphany with rope. This is a conversation about a path that can change your experience of rope bondage into a deeper and more intimate journey both for yourself and your partner.

This show was brought to you by:

* http://twistedmonk.com

* http://LeeAllure.com

Please visit their sites and thank them for supporting this podcast! You can also support the podcast directly by becoming a patron: http://www.patreon.com/graydancer

Ozma of Oz wrote an essay about preparing yourself for what to do if you or someone you care about gets accused of a consent violation. The essay is nuanced and useful, and Ozma gives some great commentary on her writing.

It can be found in full in the show notes at http://KinkSexCulture.com.

This episode was made possible by the generous patronage of supporters at http://patreon.com/graydancer.

Intro music was "Sexy Time" by the Leather Uppers. Outro was "Balrog Boogie" by Diablo Swing Orchestra. Both are used under Creative Commons License

Further sponsorship was provided by

* http://TwistedMonk.com

* http://LeeAllure.com

Please visit their sites and thank them for their support!

Closing out the year, Gray talks about some hard lessons learned during POC Listening Sessions.

Then he answers a listener question: how do you get out of a slump when you're tying?

This podcast is sponsored by

http://TwistedMonk.com

and

http://LeeAllure.com

Please visit their sites and let them know you appreciate their help!

You can also directly support the ROPECAST at

http://patreon.com/graydancer

or (one-time donation) via

http://squareup.com/store/graydancer

“Mindfulness”, “Awareness”, “Connection” – these are all words that are used a lot in the rope bondage community. This class goes beyond the buzzwords and into practical ways that your rope scenes can be hotter, safer, and taken “next level” (wherever that is for you).

Combining Naiia’s woo with Graydancer’s skepticism the class includes meditation techniques, the value of checklists, leveraging power exchange into your rope bondage, and the dangers of habit. They will also provide demonstrations of rope rituals that have and haven’t worked for them and provide you with the tools to create and adapt your own.

This podcast is sponsored by http://TwistedMonk.com and http://LeeAllure.com .

Please visit their sites and let them know you appreciate their help!

You can also directly support the ROPECAST at http://patreon.com/graydancer or (one-time donation) via http://squareup.com/store/graydancer .

Gray is still recovering from the awesomeness that was ROPECRAFT, and he spends some time sharing both highlights and also some of the things he hopes to improve for the next one.

This show was brought to you by:

* http://twistedmonk.com

* http://LeeAllure.com

Please visit their sites and thank them for supporting this podcast!

You can also support the podcast directly by becoming a patron: http://www.patreon.com/graydancer

Gray takes a twitter discussion into real space with @MissHC, a friend who has some definite opinions about the roles of educators and community leaders in fostering a constructive discussion about consent.

Along with KarmaRope.com, this podcast is made possible by MocoJute.com! Please let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff. Or you can support the podcast directly by signing up to be a patron at http://patreon.com/ropecast .

For a change of pace, this episode features a piece of erotica written by Ropecast fan and patron, Sanger. It's kind of a preview of the class that Naiia and GRay are teaching at Bondage Expo Dallas, called LEATHER and Rope. 

Along with a generous support of our patrons, this episode was brought to you by rope. twistedview.com and MOcoJute.com as well as the generous support of bastardropes.com.

Sophia Sky identifies as a Shenaniganarian and uses she/her pronouns. She is the Executive Director of the Foundation for Sex Positive Culture (FSPC), producer of the internationally renown Seattle Erotic Art Festival. The FSPC is working to change the world’s ideas about sexuality and promote consent through the arts and education. For more information about the FSPC, visit TheFSPC.org.

This show was brought to you by:
* http://twistedmonk.com 
* http://LeeAllure.com 

Please visit their sites and thank them for supporting this podcast! You can also support the podcast directly by becoming a patron: http://www.patreon.com/graydancer 

Gray returns to L.A. and the welcoming arms of the Devils Mask Society to interview Nawashi Kanna and Kogura. They talk about how rope is learned, about the journey away from and back to kinbaku, as well as some very amazing ideas about the importance of making mistakes in rope.

This episode is brought to you by the Ropecast Sponsors:

• Bastard Ropes
• Karma Rope

...as well as Patrons like you!

Please continue to share the Ropecast - we're close to 1000 downloads a day, and it's thanks to your support!

Gray caught up with the original Kimono Boy, Lqqkout, at Winter Wickedness in Ohio. They talk about his rope education, his role in the TNG leadership of Minneapolis, and some thought-provoking issues on consent in the community.

This podcast is made possible by KarmaRope.com and BastardRopes.com! Please let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff. Or you can support the podcast directly by signing up to be a patron at http://patreon.com/ropecast .

My podcast and blog post got some responses, which I share here. I'm especially appreciative of M from Pittsburgh and Satanasov who shared personal experiences about the DKE.

That's the Dunning-Kruger Effect, and it basically means you ain't as good as you think you are. How do other egotistical occupations like airplane pilots and surgeons deal with it? One method is checklists, and that's what Gray talks about in this episode.

Today's episode brought to you by Bastard Ropes, Karma Rope, and the generous donation of sponsors like DrExROPE!

It's another weekly podcast, this time brought to you by the erstwhile M0co, who is working with Gray to come up with some pretty innovative delivery methods for his rope (fuck Amazon drones!). 

Gray kicks back old-school - no guests, just some thoughts about how to avoid the very real danger of being an Overconfident Rigger. Then he makes a strange argument: why experienced bottoms should be the ones first suspended by novice riggers. Is he mad? Why not let him know: graydancer@gmail.com. Or come to one of his upcoming events:

• Sinergy
• RAMBLEGRUE
  
• Beyond Vanilla
• Surrender
• LA GRUE
• ROPECRAFT
  

Also, big thanks go out to his Ropecast Patrons, who have made this possible!

Live from Madison’s own Freyja Project Winter Festival comes TypeAtypical, the Iowa-based rope presenter. He talks about what it’s like to be an asexual rope top and how he defines style - and helps people find their own.

This episode was brought to you courtesy of Twisted Monk (http://twistedmonk.graydancer.com) and Lee Allure (http://facebook.com/SpiralEyeSoap) as well as listeners like you contributing through http://patreon.com/graydancer .

hat tip to @RiggerJay for the subtitle

Johnny Tornado is an Information Security specialist by day, and he shares his views on the current risks involved in being a kinkster with a computer and a cel phone. 

This podcast is made possible by TwistedMonk.com . You should  let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff. 

This is part 2 of the edited version of part one of this podcast. You can find part one and more resources at http://graydancer.com/infosec1, or the full unedited version at https://www.patreon.com/posts/8055083. While you're there, thank the patrons who made this podcast possible - and maybe consider becoming a patron yourself!

You know that "Erotic Awakenings Podcast Network" stuff that you hear at the beginning? That's from a podcaster who has done even more podcasts than Gray (though not for longer!). Dan is half of the duo that puts on PowerExchangeSummit.org every year, and he talks about power exchange in this 'cast.

This podcast is made possible by KarmaRope.com! TwistedView.net also helped sponsor the 'cast, and you should let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff. Or you can support the podcast directly by signing up to be a patron at http://patreon.com/ropecast .

Naiia has serious kink presenter cred: she is

• part of Midori's Rope Dojo cadre,
• a Consent Rocks Crew lead,
• President & founder of Madison Women of Leather,
• Kink Academy instructor, and
• RambleGRUE facilitator
• along with her own classes on bottoming, power exchange, sexuality, and mindfulness.

In this episode she talks about her personal journey dealing with depression and how it affected her sex, kink, and poly relationships. You can read more from Naiia at her website, http://naiiabound.com .

This episode was made possible by the generous patronage of supporters at http://patreon.com/graydancer.

Further sponsorship was provided by

* http://TwistedMonk.com

* http://LeeAllure.com

Please visit their sites and thank them for their support!

Intro music was "Sexy Time" by the Leather Uppers. Outro was "Balrog Boogie" by Diablo Swing Orchestra. Both are used under Creative Commons License

This is an interview with three wonderful people, Rocket, Blissy, and ProfCedar. I was curious to know how their poly relationship intersects with their rope bondage. There are some surprising benefits and challenges, useful whether you're poly, ropey, or not!

This is all made possible by my sponsors, Karma Rope and Bastard Ropes! Please let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff - or at least telling them they're cute! We also keep the Ropecast fires burning through the direct patronage of listeners like you - so sign up to be a patron!

Gray shares his top three favorite tricks for cunnilingus. But first he shares some highlights from the recent LA GRUE and information about Consent Incident Response Training! This podcast is made possible KarmaRope.com and TwistedMonk.com . You should let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff. You can also support the podcast directly by signing up to be a patron at http://patreon.com/ropecast - we're especially trying to get funds so that we can transcribe the consent podcasts and make them more easily accessible!

Fresh from the Pittsburgh GRUE, Gray talks with Honey Bare about her experiences in rope, in power exchange, and in interesting gender issues. 

This podcast is brought to you by the sponsorship of three great groups:

• JapaneseBound.com, with original Japanese bondage videos for entertainment and instruction
• TwistedMonk.com, creator of amazing hand-dyed hemp rope and other bondage gear for your sexy times,
• Patreon.com/graydancer , where people like you simply give to the podcast to help keep us going.

What do you get when you cross a Doctor of Infectious Disease Research with a kinkster? You get (Dr.) Aerabelle, who talks in this podcast about the realities of risk perception and how it applies to sexuality and BDSM. We also talk boots, teaching, and get a preview of his upcoming classes at ROPECRAFT!

Full show notes available on the Wednesday after release at Graydancer's http://patreon.com/graydancer blog . This show was brought to you by:

* http://twistedmonk.com

* http://JapaneseBound.com

Please visit their sites and thank them for supporting this podcast!

How do you make pickup play work well? How is consent created along with really hot kink? Listen as Action Bastard (of BastardRopes.com) narrates a scene from Debauchery 2015 between Roughinamorato and Liongirl, and then hear each of them talk about how they negotiated before and during the scene, as well as how they felt afterwards. 

This podcast was made possible by my sponsors, 

Bastard Ropes

and

Karma Rope

As well as generous Patrons!

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Gray talks to several veterans of the "Ropenspace" concept about their experiences both attending and organizing them. Based on "Open Space" principles, the Ropenspace creates an environment where people learn and share what they are truly passionate about for rope. It's been done in San Francisco, Maryland, Columbus, Pittsburgh, and will be part of Austin's ROPECRAFT event February 21, 2016. 

The crew talk about how it works, why it works, and why you - yes, you - should come to it!

This is all made possible by my sponsors, Karma Rope and Bastard Ropes! Please let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff - or at least telling them they're cute! We also keep the Ropecast fires burning through the direct patronage of listeners like you - so sign up to be a patron!

Special thanks to Bernie for some treats from Japan!

Several listeners on Twitter asked questions, and Gray does his best to answer! He talks about BDSM teaching, online resources, burnout, his favorite non-kink influences, and what he likes to "nerd out" about in regards to Sex Ed!

This podcast is made possible by KarmaRope.com and TwistedMonk.com . You should let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff.

You can also support the podcast directly by signing up to be a patron at http://patreon.com/ropecast - we're especially trying to get funds so that we can transcribe the consent podcasts and make them more easily accessible!

"Glamazon" and "Sexpert", Tyomi is one of the most prolific and well-known sex educators on the interwebs. Her vibrant style and no-nonsense eloquence has helped many people have better orgasms, hotter sex, and deeper connections.

In this podcast, Gray talks with her about what she'd like to see sex educators do better as well as why she believes celibacy has been the key to her better understanding her own sexuality.

You can find out more about her work at: 

• glamerotica101.com
• sexperttyomi.com
• youtube.com/glamerotica101

Full show notes available on the Wednesday after release at Graydancer's http://patreon.com/graydancer blog .

Image courtesy of Solomon Abrams.

This show was brought to you by: http://twistedmonk.com Please visit his site and thank him for supporting this podcast!

In part two of this class, Dr. Eaves and Graydancer talk more about how to manage power exchange and polyamory in the day-to-day and even to the hopefully-not-so-bitter end.

This podcast was sponsored in part by

http://TwistedMonk.com

and

http://SpiralEyeSoap.com

Please let them know you appreciate their help!

You can be a supporter to via http://patreon.com/graydancer  .

Lee Harrington has inspired thousands of rope enthusiasts over the years, and his wit, wisdom, and stories never fail to be both entertaining and thought-provoking. In this podcast he and Gray talk a lot about trans issues, rope culture, leather, traveling, and much more.

Along with Twisted View, this podcast is made possible by Moco Jute! Please let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff. Or you can support the podcast directly by signing up to be a patron at http://patreon.com/ropecast .

Turtle Hill Events is the organization that created Rope Camp and is now moving into a debut kink-and-woo event called "The Crossroads" http://turtlehillevents.org/crossroads/ . Gray talks with owner Catalina about why this event was created, what to expect, and more about events in general in the kink and rope scene. You can get a $75 discount on your registration using code "ropecast"!

This podcast is made possible KarmaRope.com and TwistedMonk.com . You should  let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff.

You can also support the podcast directly by signing up to be a patron at http://patreon.com/ropecast - we're especially trying to get funds so that we can transcribe the consent podcasts and make them more easily accessible!

Fresh from the San Diego GRUE, Gray talks with his friend and play partner Sanger about how the way a community responds to injury can help recovery. They are joined by Grand Master David (producer of the ROPECRAFT event) and the three riff on experiences and attitudes in the kink scene in general.

IMAGE: Ojipan tying Sanger 

This podcast is made possible KarmaRope.com and TwistedMonk.com . You should  let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff.

You can also support the podcast directly by signing up to be a patron at http://patreon.com/ropecast - we're especially trying to get funds so that we can transcribe the consent podcasts and make them more easily accessible!

This podcast starts with some words from Ferrett about how people can react constructively to consent accusations. Then Gray reads from the actual report of a consent incident involving Rashomon at Ropecraft Austin. It illustrates the concept and the ways it both works and can be improved.

This podcast is made possible by KarmaRope.com ! BastardRopes.com also contributed towards this production. You should  let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff - at "Pay What You Can" prices.

You can also support the podcast directly by signing up to be a patron at http://patreon.com/ropecast .

Back in a previous episode with Tifereth the idea of "Consent Incidents Anonymous" was brought up - using the AA model to create places where the consent discussion could be more constructively developed. This interview is with a member of AA, called "Cat", and she and Gray explore where the ideas overlap, diverge, and what the community can learn from the AA methodology.

This podcast is made possible by KarmaRope.com ! You should  let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff - at "Pay What You Can" prices.

You can also support the podcast directly by signing up to be a patron at http://patreon.com/ropecast .

Live at the Philly GRUE, Gray and Mataleao (a rope top, teacher, and performer from N.J.) talk about some of the more complex areas of consent within the rope and kink community, with the goal of modeling some better interactions.

Along with KarmaRope.com, this podcast is made possible by rope.TwistedView.net! Please let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff.

Extra big thanks to the patrons at http://patreon.com/ropecast, who paid for the coffee at the GRUEcakes in Philly!

Live from Bondage Expo Dallas comes Sterling, who presented a thorough lecture and demonstration on current trends in Chinese Bondage. (Incidentally, you can get a high-res look at those sketchnotes (and others) by becoming a patron of the Ropecast).

Then it's off to Debauchery 2015, where during a cigar social Gray interviews the Action Bastard. He's the devious mind behind Bastard Ropes and the rumors of his death are vastly overestimated - both times. By the end of the conversation some deeper subjects come up, and he and Gray reference Midori's podcast where she discussed the mixed emotions vets can feel when they hear "Thank you for your service."

You can share your thoughts on the subject by email or twitter. This episode was brought to you by the support of Karma Rope and their pay-what-you-can payment model!

Parker Ropeboi has been teaching kink for over a decade, and follows up our crypto-kink podcast with a conversation about how other toys like stun guns or batons might be illegal. She also discusses her passion for self-suspension and the classes she's looking forward to producing for ROPECRAFT.

This podcast is made possible by TwistedMonk.com and JapaneseBound.com. You should let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff. Thank the patrons who made this podcast possible - and maybe consider becoming a patron yourself at http://patreon.com/graydancer !

It all started at an L.A. GRUE in 2011, when Gray gave a class on fellatio. Not on how to give it, but rather on how to be a better recipient of it! Here are some of the highlights from that class, along with some added commentary.

This podcast is made possible KarmaRope.com and TwistedMonk.com . You should let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff.

You can also support the podcast directly by signing up to be a patron at http://patreon.com/ropecast - we're especially trying to get funds so that we can transcribe the consent podcasts and make them more easily accessible!

This is part two of an interview done with Jessie and PJ Sage from the Peepshow Podcast about the ways that the SESTA/FOSTA rulings may affect the kink scene, and why we should support sex work decriminalization.

You can find part one at http://peepshowpodcast.com (look for episode 16).

This episode was brought to you courtesy of Twisted Monk (http://twistedmonk.graydancer.com ) and Lee Allure (http://facebook.com/SpiralEyeSoap ) as well as listeners like you contributing through http://patreon.com/graydancer.

Gray has an all-too-brief conversation with leathermen Maestro Stefanos and Daddy Scott while attending FAPCON in Calgary. Then he talks about what makes leather protocols work for him and his serva Naiia, and how you can use these same tools to improve YOUR relationship.

This podcast is made possible by KarmaRope.com and TwistedMonk.com . You should  let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff.

You can also support the podcast directly by signing up to be a patron at http://patreon.com/graydancer - we're especially trying to get funds so that we can transcribe the consent podcasts and make them more easily accessible!

Gray talks about how having a cape (or some other form of The Reveal) can both spice up your scenes and even enrich your relationships. He also talks about the upcoming "Ropewalker's Roundtable", hosted by Diamond Blue, which was just added to the Ropecraft class list.

He also shocks the world by announcing the End of the Ropecast! This podcast will be called "Graydancer's Ropecast" from now on, as we continue to cover subjects beyond (but not excluding!) rope bondage.

This podcast is made possible KarmaRope.com and TwistedMonk.com . You should let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff.

You can also support the podcast directly by signing up to be a patron at http://patreon.com/ropecast - we're especially trying to get funds so that we can transcribe the consent podcasts and make them more easily accessible!

Back in the interview chair, Gray takes you to the Arizona scene for an interview with _Zaphod_, owner and creator of Phoenix42 Creations ( https://www.instagram.com/phoenix42creations/ ).

They talk about “being a rope guy”, Taoist philosophy, creating consent with partners, how to create a more inclusive community, and more.

This episode was brought to you courtesy of Twisted Monk ( http://twistedmonk.graydancer.com ) and Lee Allure ( http://facebook.com/SpiralEyeSoap ) as well as listeners like you contributing through http://patreon.com/graydancer  .

Gray does a rare "livecast" from Sinergy III with the help of Sir Travis & Niki Cupcake, the hosts of SinergyMI.com . They are joined by Iron Temple Dog for some deep talk about leather, rope, events, toxic masculinity, and hot photography.

This podcast is made possible KarmaRope.com and TwistedMonk.com . You should let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff.

You can also support the podcast directly by signing up to be a patron at http://patreon.com/ropecast - we're especially trying to get funds so that we can transcribe the consent podcasts and make them more easily accessible!

We're also trying some "bonus content" with this episode - a pic of the wax from the prototype candle provided for our "suffering in Japanese Bondage" class. Let us know how you like it, and if you want more stuff like this!

Gray starts out by revealing the secret location of the "lost episodes" of the Ropecast: http://ropecastarchive.graydancer.com

Then things get serious when he answers a question put to him at the Philly GRUE: "How would you respond to a false accusation of consent violation?"

He talks about the advantages a kinkster can have using the SUDO app (iPhone only, sorry) to create identities that don't make you vulnerable. You can even tell him what you think at kinksexculture@sudomail.com !

Finally he lightens things up with the song that he sang during the Mythchievous performance at Fusion 2017. You can get the track in MP3 playable version at http://patreon.com/graydancer by pledging $1 or more towards the support of this podcast.

This podcast is also supported by

* http://TwistedMonk.com

* http://LeeAllure.com

...and we are, as always, very grateful for their support.

Both polyamory and power exchange relationships have complexities that can be wonderful, frustrating, or even both at the same time. In this class Dr. Eaves and Graydancer – two people who are enthusiastic about poly, D/s, and each other – will talk about some of the tools to manage these kinds of relationships in nurturing and sexy ways from beginning to end. (Part 1)

This podcast was created with the support of 

TwistedMonk.com

and

LeeAllure.com

So please! Buy their stuff, or at least tell them thanks for support!

You, too, can help out by coming to 

http://patreon.com/graydancer 

and becoming a supporter yourself (plus get nifty behind-the-scenes peeks)

Gray launches the first podcast of the year with three things that tops (and anyone else who cares to) should stop doing in 2019. Then he reads a blog post published on http://TantusInc.com about dominance for the changing body.

This episode was brought to you courtesy of Twisted Monk http://twistedmonk.graydancer.com 

and Lee Allure

 http://facebook.com/SpiralEyeSoap 

as well as listeners like you contributing through http://patreon.com/graydancer  .

Gray talks leather history, style, kink, education, and hot power exchange with Patrick Califia. Patrick is an icon of the gay leather community and pioneer in helping make it possible for BDSM to be enjoyed by all. His books and essays have inspired millions to follow their own leather path, and his wisdom and experience make this an invaluable podcast to listen to.

Full show notes available on the Wednesday after release at Graydancer's http://patreon.com/graydancer blog .

This show was brought to you by:

• http://twistedmonk.com
• http://JapaneseBound.com

Please visit their sites and thank them for supporting this podcast!

Nullmoniker and Sysiphe share all the awesome aspects of their event Debauchery, taking place at the beginning of May 2015. Gray's a sadist, though, so while you get to hear about the awesome, the event itself is sold out! Better luck next year.

Then it's off to Bound in Boston to talk with Sarifka Morgan, a rope enthusiast who has performed with the likes of Gorgone, Sean Grey, and others. She shares her love of bondage from both sides as well as some deep philosophy on what exactly makes a rope partner attractive.

Looking for more good rope podcasts? Graydancer was also recently featured on Rope Addict Radio, and there's a new episode of the Kinbakunomicon you can enjoy as well! 

Our sponsors for this episode have been Bastard Ropes (for fantastic custom-dyed hand-made rope) and Karma Rope (the only "pay-what-you-can" rope vendor!). Please let them know that you appreciate their support of this podcast!

If you'd like to be a cool rock-star supporter of the podcast, you can do it! Just go to http://www.patreon.com/ropecast and sign up for as little as $1/month. Every little bit helps, and you even get bonus content!

This episode starts with some information about a fundraiser for MetroVancouverKink, ( https://ca.gofundme.com/legal-costs-for-mvk ) but then gets really personal:

“Adaptive Rope.” That’s the term Lisa (Tame Lioness) and her partner T call what they do. He is living with cancer, and it has changed how they do rope - but not what it does for them and their relationship. She talks open and raw about how they have survived twenty-eight years, cancer, and still keep it hot.

This episode was brought to you courtesy of Twisted Monk ( http://twistedmonk.graydancer.com )

and Lee Allure ( http://facebook.com/SpiralEyeSoap )

as well as listeners like you contributing through http://patreon.com/graydancer  .

At the Toronto GRUE Gray met SuiSauce, and she agreed to come on the show to talk about one of the ways Meet & Greets might NOT be so welcoming - and how YOU can help fix that. They also talk alot about their shared interest in Leather, Rope, Consent, and POC experiences in the scene! 

This podcast is made possible KarmaRope.com. You should  let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff. 

You can also support the podcast directly by signing up to be a patron at http://patreon.com/ropecast - we're especially trying to get funds so that we can transcribe the consent podcasts and make them more easily accessible!

Traveling to Ohio, Gray talks with photographer, rope maker, rigger, and community leader Russ (aka TwistedView on Fet). You can find him and his rope at http://rope.twistedview.net.

Along with Twisted View is made possible by KarmaRope.com! Please let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff. Or you can support the podcast directly by signing up to be a patron at http://patreon.com/ropecast .

Johnny Tornado is an Information Security specialist by day, and he shares his views on the current risks involved in being a kinkster with a computer and a cel phone.

This podcast is made possible by TwistedMonk.com . You should let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff.

This is the edited version of part one of this podcast. You can find the full version at https://www.patreon.com/posts/8055083 . While you're there, thank the patrons who made this podcast possible - and maybe consider becoming a patron yourself!

Gray gives a kind of "State-of-the-Ropecast" update, explaining why August was such a dry month and where and how his travels will help make September the opposite. He also talks about some of the burnout he's feeling with kink, and the ways he's fighting it by embracing the role of kink historian.

YOU can win a $40 Gift Card for Twisted Monk! Details in the podcast.

This episode was brought to you courtesy of

Twisted Monk (http://twistedmonk.graydancer.com )

and Lee Allure (http://facebook.com/SpiralEyeSoap )

as well as listeners like you contributing through http://patreon.com/graydancer .

Gray returns to the podcast after a hiatus to talk about how he's trying to reconnect to the joy of kink. He talks about his writing on medium ( http://medium.com/@graymiller ) and also reads an excerpt from his work-in-progress, "The Dance of Smoke & Ash".

Finally you get to hear a live recording of his performance at the Flow Erotic Cabaret at the Austin 2019 ROPECRAFT.

Special thanks to Madame Posh for that!

Many thanks to our sponsor Lee Allure ( http://facebook.com/SpiralEyeSoap  ) as well as listeners like you contributing through http://patreon.com/graydancer .

An old friend and lover of Gray's, Emily Bingham, has finished her memoir and is crowd-funding to get it out into the world! In this interview she shares her rope journey, including her battles in the Consent Incidents over the years, her history in the Rope Capital of the World, and what it's like being an unapologetic rope slut.

This podcast brought to you AD-FREE thanks to the generous support of the Ropecast Patrons!

Tifereth, who wrote a controversial essay about consent in the rope community, comes on the Ropecast to talk about the need for safe spaces to have constructive discussions about consent issues. 

"I do advocate for opening up the conversation to include non-judgemental discussion on consent errors so we may learn from our consent mistakes, because chances are you're going to make one. Preferably off the internet, because there be trolls."

This is part of a three-part series on consent.

This is all made possible by my sponsors, Moco Jute, Karma Rope and Bastard Ropes, and especially this month with Twisted View, who has created some special reinforced up-line rope! Please let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff - or at least telling them they're cute! We also keep the Ropecast fires burning through the direct patronage of listeners like you - so sign up to be a patron

Fynch Ers is the organizer of CampingWithRope 1,2 and 3, the partner of Ka, and an excellent rigger and bottom which means she has OPINIONS. And some of those went K&P recently as she talked about how she feels about negotiating with Tops - LINK.

This podcast is made possible by KarmaRope.com ! 

You should  let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff, or applying for one of their rope education grants. 

You can also support the podcast directly by signing up to be a patron at http://patreon.com/ropecast .

Monkey, Pepper Potts, CamDamage, Lochai, and MocoJute all in one podcast! Gray plays segments recorded during the Chicago and South Carolina GRUEs, along with special interviews from Moco Jute Laboratories!

This episode is brought to you by TwistedMonk.com and JapaneseBound.com , the first for the rope you want to tie with and the second for the videos to show you how to tie (or just to enjoy the sexy!). Please visit their sites and let them know you appreciate it.

It's been a while, but there were little things like a big rope event and the fall of Western Civilization happening.

• Gray tells a little bit of the behind-the-scenes experience of equipment at ROPECRAFT.
• Then he addresses the first bit of an ongoing practice of talking about being safer as an alt-sex enthusiast in a potentially dangerous society.
• Finally he talks about the interesting ways other subcultures view the consent practices in Kink.

This podcast is made possible by KarmaRope.com and TwistedMonk.com . You should let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff.

You can also support the podcast directly by signing up to be a patron at http://patreon.com/graydancer - we're especially trying to get funds so that we can transcribe the consent podcasts and make them more easily accessible!

Freshly back from traveling to FAPCON2 and Beyond Vanilla, Gray is surprised to find that his ranting about using ice to treat bondage-related injuries is not as relevant as he thought (thanks, Shay!). 

He also talks about great classes from Tifereth, Frozen Merseaut, Aeolis Est, and Master George and Slave Bren. There is a bit about puppies & monksaks, too.

You'll have to forgive Gray for then talking a bit about the excitement of planning ROPECRAFT, but it really is going to be great. If you haven't got tickets yet, pre-sale prices end on October 31, so get them while you can!

This episode brought to you by Moco Jute and the generous Ropecast patrons!

Fresh from the Boston GRUE, Gray and Lee Allure talk about how hypnosis and rope have great possibilities when used responsibly. This was recorded in Lee's backyard, so apologies for the ambient noise - call it "location enrichment"!

They also talk a little about the upcoming Crossroads event at Ramblewood which will bring lots of woo and kink together in the same place. 

This podcast was sponsored by Karmarope.com and TwistedMonk.com, so you should visit their sites and let them know you appreciate their support! It also has the benefit of several Patrons who get special content like notes and pics via Patreon.com

The long-awaited interview with MattP, whose background in materials science gives him a perspective on rope that you might not have heard before. Among other things: There's a better way to coil your rope!

Brought to you by the good folks at KarmaRope.com and BastardRopes.com!

Gray steps out of the rope world for a bit by talking with Travis and Niki, title-holders of "International Power Exchange 2015" and the founders of the "Sinergy" event in Michigan.

There will be a rope track there, but the event is designed to have lots of kinks and interests available to explore, celebrate, and indulge. Dark age play, cigars, rough body play, and yes, rope will be there, along with classes on mental health and more. They also talk about how they handle things like consent incidents and what they feel is most important about education in the kink community.

Registration for Sinergy is open until August 24th, 2015.

The @BedRaptor herself rejoins the Ropecast to talk about her recent FetLife post about negotiating consent better for fetish performers. It's a complex and controversial subject that has spawned a new fetlife group as well as a search for better resources - including things like The Network/LA Red, who trains people in dealing with the difference between abuse and BDSM. 

Tifereth is out for real change, and her call to arms is inspiring! Give a listen and then give your own feedback in the comments, emailing Gray, or via the Ropecast Hotline at 608-432-ROPE. 

Like most Ropecasts, this one is brought to you by the good ropemakers and distributors at BastardRopes.com and KarmaRope.com. Stop by their sites, buy their rope, or at least thank them for helping to support the Ropecast.

NEWS FLASH: You know how Gray keeps harping on Patreon, wanting to get to the $500 pledge level so he can go to a weekly show? He's tired of waiting, and is just going to go to a weekly production schedule anyway! If you benefit from the podcast, you can let him know with a pledge like BlackWolf did ($20! That's a month of hosting!) or even just $1. Either way, you get the satisfaction of knowing you support the longest-running kinky podcast on the web and that you get the goodies (like sketchnotes & kinky pics) that come with Ropecast Patronage.

An exploration into what makes protocols work in power exchange relationships, and how to make them better, stronger, and sexier.

Full show notes available at Graydancer's http://patreon.com/graydancer blog .

This show was brought to you by:

* http://twistedmonk.com

* http://JapaneseBound.com

Please visit their sites and thank them for supporting this podcast!

Erotic humiliation play. It’s mainstream enough to be in box-office smash hits but taboo enough that some of the kinkiest players hesitate to even talk about it. Enough to Make You Blush  separates the rumors from the facts and explains why some people think being completely awful is absolutely wonderful. - EnoughToMakeYouBlush.com

Princess Kali, creator of powerhouse BDSM education site "Kink Academy" and innovative adult sex ed "PassionateU.com" comes to the Ropecast talking about the topic of erotic humiliation. Gray got a preview of her upcoming book, and he talks with her about the many ways that this kind of play fits perfectly in the rope community - possibly in ways that might surprise you! No topic is too taboo in this discussion, and if you have followup questions send them to Gray for followup interviews!

This episode is an interview where you can get to know Chicago-based kinkster WhiskyTangoFoxy. She talks about self-suspension, photography, collaboration, DIY kink, and why having a Statement of Principles such as the one at https://ropecraft.net/principles/ is a good thing for an event - plus a lot more!

This episode was brought to you courtesy of Twisted Monk (http://twistedmonk.graydancer.com) and Lee Allure (http://facebook.com/SpiralEyeSoap) as well as listeners like you  through http://patreon.com/graydancer .

Reid Mihalko from http://reidaboutsex.com flips the script and interviews Gray about this whole Consent.Rocks thing: how it came about, what it hopes to accomplish, and how to get involved.

You can register for a Consent Rocks training by visiting http://consent.rocks and looking for the nearest one coming to you!

This show was brought to you by:

* http://twistedmonk.com (check out the great new book by Evie Vane!)

* http://LeeAllure.com 

Please visit their sites and thank them for supporting this podcast! You can also support the podcast directly by becoming a patron: http://www.patreon.com/graydancer  

Gray interviews Victoria Blue from her studio ( http://voxbody.com ) talking about how a rope space is created.

Then Naiia joins him as they tackle the difficult subject of consent from "the other end" - combining it with a primer for anal sex play to talk about negotiation, lube, and other important ideas for sexual creatures.

This episode was made possible by the generous patronage of supporters at http://patreon.com/graydancer.

Further sponsorship was provided by

* http://TwistedMonk.com

* http://LeeAllure.com

Please visit their sites and thank them for their support!

Intro music was "Sexy Time" by the Leather Uppers. Outro was "Balrog Boogie" by Diablo Swing Orchestra. Both are used under Creative Commons License

Guest presenter Naiia Bound gives an overview of her popular class on how Kink and Depression intersect. She talks about strategies for coping and even growing stronger in your kink even when dealing with various kinds of depression.

This podcast is made possible KarmaRope.com and TwistedMonk.com . You should  let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff.

You can also support the podcast directly by signing up to be a patron at http://patreon.com/graydancer - we're especially trying to get funds so that we can transcribe the consent podcasts and make them more easily accessible!

Whether it's your first Rope Convention or your fiftieth, this interview combines with articles that GoodMostTimes, Ojipan, and BaconAndrew created full of helpful suggestions for making them GREAT.

Read more at http://ropecraft.net/firstcon or check out the show notes at http://libsyn.com/graydancer to download PDFs .

This episode was brought to you courtesy of Twisted Monk ( http://twistedmonk.graydancer.com  )

and

Lee Allure ( http://facebook.com/SpiralEyeSoap )

as well as listeners like you contributing through

http://patreon.com/graydancer  .

Thanks to @Steel_Magnolia this podcast is coming your way, with two bonus episodes later in the week. Gray presents two interviews with Shay and Sterling where they talk about pre-certification, the perception and reality of self-suspension, Chinese bondage scenes, and much more!

This has been brought to you by my sponsors, Karma Rope and Bastard Ropes! Please let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff - or at least telling them they're cute!

Gray talks about one of his regular sponsors, Karma Rope, and points out how they are breaking new ground in the business of kinky rope while maintaining the high standards set by other rope vendors like Bastard Ropes, Twisted Monk, and M0c0 Jute.

Then things get a bit personal as he talks with Janet Hardy about blame in the scene. They talk about when it's useful, when it's not, and what exactly they mean when they say "...there is no blame." 

Finally, listen to the end for a special announcement about the new ROPECRAFT: It's Knot for Everyone event presented by Graydancer in February of 2016!

You can help support the ropecast like patrons Trillian Astra and Dr. Moniz do! As low as $1/month gets you special access to stories, pics, and even Gray's Sketchnotes. Visit http://patreon.com/ropecast and sign up today.

Kat and Dhyana have been tying and performing together as BadKitty Bondage since early 2012 and are proud to call Chicago home! They added MedullaOblongata into the mix as well as a Bad Kitten and together they've presented locally and nationally on shibari forms, rope bottoming, suspension, and predicament bondage. Find out more at http://www.ropecraft.net/bad-kitty-bondage

This show was brought to you by: http://twistedmonk.com

Please visit his site and thank him for supporting this podcast!

You can find all Graydancer's Kink, Sex, & Culture podcasts at http://KinkSexCulture.com . That URL was purchased thanks to the generous help of my patrons at http://patreon.com/graydancer . If you'd like to help, every dollar makes the podcast better!

On May 26th, 2019 in Chicago Illinois at ROPECRAFT six artists-in-residence ( Marceline VQ, Mr. Beck, The ArtistFromBeyond, Corinne, Stressykitty, and Jazzibel) met for a panel moderated by Graydancer. They explored a lot of topics, and agreed to have them shared here on the podcast!

Comments? Questions? Contact graydancer@gmail.com

By special request from a listener, Gray interviews Lizard, a teacher, performer, and stellar rope-bondage enthusiast. 

From her bio:

"Lizard has been active in the DC/Baltimore area for the last four years. She began tying at a local rope share group known as the Knotting Circle, and has since had the privilege of learning from some of the most influential rope artists around the world.

Lizard aspires to be a lifelong student of rope. She gathers knowledge from teachers, peers, and most notably from the people she ties along her journey. She describes her style of rope as one which favors structural simplicity, adaptability, fluidity, and connection over traditional aesthetics.

As an educator, Lizard has been involved in rope share groups such as DC Rope, The Knotting Circle, and NARIX. This year, she has begun teaching classes at local events such as Rope Mecca."

This is all made possible by my sponsors, Karma Rope and Bastard Ropes! Please let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff - or at least telling them they're cute! We also keep the Ropecast fires burning through the direct patronage of listeners like you - so sign up to be a patron!

Graydancer starts the podcast with some lessons learned at Summer Camp working on the Incident Response Team. He then goes BACK IN TIME to Ropelab where Murphy Blue shares his Five Uncomfortable Truths for Riggers.

Then it's off to Summer Camp on the porch of Oink where Darren Infinity talks about how countering toxic & fragile masculinity can make your rope sexier and fun-ner (that's Canadianese for "more fun").

This podcast is made possible KarmaRope.com and TwistedMonk.com . You should let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff.

You can also support the podcast directly by signing up to be a patron at http://patreon.com/ropecast - we're especially trying to get funds so that we can transcribe the consent podcasts and make them more easily accessible!

Coming from Australia, Eternal Angel talks about finding the "edge" of your play, how pro-domming intersects with kink community, and gives us a taste of her new class "Consent & Navigation", coming soon to a ROPECRAFT near you!

This episode was brought to you courtesy of Twisted Monk http://twistedmonk.graydancer.com  use the code "ROPECRAFT" to get a special gift with your order

and

Lee Allure http://facebook.com/SpiralEyeSoap  as well as listeners like you contributing through http://patreon.com/graydancer .

"Hey, Gray, what happened to our podcast?"

Way back in April 2015 the intrepid folks at the Rochester Kink Society decided to have another GRUE - spearheaded by Ella Knotte with the assistance of Kanin, Kinkasaurus Rex, and others. After the GRUE we sat around, had some cigars, and did a podcast...which promptly got lost on my phone.

Well, I found it, and I'm happy to present some insight into what could possess someone to do an Open Space event like this in the first place. This crew not only did that, though, they are also behind the upcoming RambleGRUE, where we take it out of the safety of buildings and into the woods!

Plus you get to hear old friends making their passions come to life with each other. Many thanks to Bastard Ropes and Karma Rope for sponsoring this episode, and a special shout out to Trillian Astra & Dr. Moniz, our newest Ropecast Patrons!

There's still time to be part of the GRUE season of 2015:

• Madison GRUE July 17-19, 2015
• Baltimore GRUE July 24-26, 2015
• RambleGRUE (Darlington, MD) Sept. 27-29, 2015
• AusGRUE October 4-7, 2015