Girls Gone Deep (Elle and Vee)
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| Pub. Date | Title | Duration | |
|---|---|---|---|
| 18 Jan 2023 | 001: Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) Part 1: Self-Love, Jealousy, and Communication | 00:38:48 | |
Elle and Vee have their weekly catchup on all things lifestyle and self-love, including: -The importance of checking in with themselves and honoring what they feel in any given moment or relationship. -What is ethical non-monogamy (aka consensual non-monogamy) and how they define it. (5:07) -How Elle and Vee discovered ENM, how they practice ENM in their partnerships, and their early experiences with it. (6:18) -What fears and uncomfortable feelings that can come up with the prospect of their partner being with other partners, how they work through the jealousy or anxiety, and the tools that they've developed in their relationships that make it work smoothly. (17:15) -How they communicate about their lifestyle with their vanilla friends, and how their friendships evolve over the years with like-minded people. (27:10) -How being in an open relationship has changed their relationships with themselves, self love, and honoring themselves and their own wants and desires. (30:28) -The importance of communication in the lifestyle, going at the pace of the slowest partner, and getting curious about pushing yourself beyond your normal instincts. (34:20) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 18 Jan 2023 | 002: Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) Part 2: Authenticity, Boundaries and Honesty | 00:45:37 | |
Elle and Vee take another dive into non-monogamous relationships (consensual non-monogamy) and share nuggets they have learned, including answering the questions: Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 19 Jan 2023 | 003: New Years Intentions: Sexual, Personal, Professional, and Fuckit Lists | 00:42:25 | |
Elle and Vee catch up in the beginning of a new year to fill each other in on their holidays and set some personal, professional, and sexual intentions for 2023. They cover everything including: Multiple orgasms: Elle reaches a new personal record, how the intensity of their orgasms change depending on substances, number of orgasms, and mental state. (00:44) New Years Intentions: the difference between resolutions and intentions. (12:22) Elle’s professional intentions to say yes to everything. (14:15) Personal Intentions: when to say no versus when to say yes; setting energetic boundaries; how to divide your week healthily between yourself, your friends, your partner, your family, etc. (17:10) Sexual intentions: “get out of your head and into your body with someone else”; prioritizing sex over substances; experiencing DP (double penetration); anal exploration, from anal training to DP to pegging. (26:35) Vee’s sex party recap; compersion and how watching your partner doing their thing can be such a turn on; the differences between Elle and Vee and their “norms” with their partnersat sex parties. (34:22) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 25 Jan 2023 | 004: Lifestyle Vacations: Lifestyle vs. Vanilla Resorts, and Playing with Couples who are on the Same Page | 00:43:17 | |
Vee tells Elle about her vacation with a lifestyle events company. They talk about resorts, takeovers, and what they’re like, including Temptations in Mexico and Hedonism in Jamaica. (00:38) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 01 Feb 2023 | 005: Guys Gone Deep: M on Compersion, Staying Hard and DP | 01:05:02 | |
Guys Gone Deep is a regular series of Girls Gone Deep, in which Elle and Vee pick the brains of men in the lifestyle to get the male perspective. In this episode, the girls go deep with Elle’s husband, M, and nothing is off limits! Their conversation covers: How they got into ethical non-monogamy, learning from roadblocks, forgiving yourself, and how exploring new things with your partner builds a foundation of trust. (00:47) How the lifestyle has affected his relationship with himself and how it has increased his confidence. (13:24) Getting hard: what he’s learned about getting and staying hard in sexual situations. (15:30) The girls revisit the advice they would give themselves when starting consensual non monogamy, and M talks about why he wouldn’t give himself any advice at all. (27:05) DP (Double Penetration): Is it considered DP if it’s not two human dicks? Elle shares her New Years intentions progress with anal and double penetration, and M shares his insights and what’s so hot about being one of the men involved in DP. (32:58) Compersion: what it is, when M and Elle first experienced it together, how trust is achieved, and how compersion and jealousy can exist simultaneously. (39:29) Deep throating: to gag or not to gag? Gag reflexes, power play, and whether it’s necessary to deep throat to give a good blow job. (54:49) M’s deepest takeaways of his experience of being a man in the lifestyle. (1:02:10) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 08 Feb 2023 | 006: Freaksgiving: Hosting a Sex Party, Impact Play and Cultivating Joy | 00:36:57 | |
Every November, around Thanksgiving, Elle and Vee's group of lifestyle friends (aka Joy Family) throw an annual Freaksgiving sex party weekend. After the 2022 edition, the girls debriefed their weekend, including: The girls share their intentions, and what they learned from implementing them, including communicating your desires in the moment, and acting on your sexual feelings. (8:33 ) Elle shares a fun, sexy moment and the girls talk about the benefits of private versus public play. (10:20 ) Vee shares a story about a foursome, and how that experience helped her exercise her intention of acting on it when you feel sexual, and how “breaking the seal” of sexuality gets you in the mood for more sex. (14:45 ) BDSM and Spanking: Elle gives the play by play of a BDSM impact play scene, Vee talks about what she gets out of being the sub in an impact scene (spanking), and how BDSM can help you go deeper. (19:10 ) Observing the difference in your energy when you’re at a party solo versus with your partner. (27:45 ) Prioritizing time with your partner at parties. (29:19 ) How to break the ice and force yourself to socialize with everyone at a party! (32:55 ) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 16 Feb 2023 | 007: Sex and Weed: Powerful Orgasms, Anxiety, Surveys and Science | 00:43:42 | |
The girls explore how weed affects their sex lives, inspired by a Vice article connecting marijuana use with more powerful orgasms. Including: Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 22 Feb 2023 | 008: Rejection: How to Turn Someone Down at a Sex Party and Ethical Rejections | 00:51:19 | |
The girls chat with Bibi, Vee's friend in the lifestyle, about all things rejection, including: The do's and don'ts of rejection. Rejecting over text, ghosting, and being clear and respectful. (13:54) Vee gets rejected over text, and how to deal with being rejected. (20:15) Couples and rejection: just because your partner plays with someone does not mean you will play with them or their partner. (22:28) How to reject someone during group sex when you’re not into one of the people. (25:13) Being approached vs approaching: The gender norms in pursuing, and how we subconsciously consider feelings differently between men and women. (32:11) Turning down couples with different boundaries. (35:19) Common Excuses: “I have my period.” (39:38) Common Excuses: “I’m polysaturated.” What is polysaturated, using it as a way to turn someone down, and how to deal with polysaturation. (42:05) The concept of “veto”. (46:29) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 01 Mar 2023 | 009: Threesomes: Finding a Third, Being a Third, and What to Discuss Beforehand | 00:49:33 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee record in the same room for the very first time! And they've saved a topic very close to their hearts: threesomes. For many, this is a first step into sexual exploration or opening up a relationship, so the girls reminisce about some fun threesomes, as well as compiled some of their tips and tricks for having a successful threesome, including: What are the different types of threesomes? Defining FMF, FFM, MFM... (2:05) MMF: is it GAY to have a threesome with another dude (MFM)? The stigma of men being in sexual environments together. (11:56)
How to find a third (aka "unicorn")? (20:24)
Being a third for another couple, being able to be selfish, and being a good third by reading/navigating a couple’s energy. (24:08)
Communication: What should you discuss beforehand? With your partner? With your third? Boundaries, aftercare, and "Fears, Desires and Boundaries" conversation. (26:51)
Negative threesome experiences: when not to have a threesome, and how to deal with being triggered. (42:31)
BONUS: Fun FFM threesome positions! What Elle and Vee love about threesomes. (45:44) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 08 Mar 2023 | 010: Love Languages Gone Sexy: Taking the Five Love Languages into the Bedroom | 00:38:30 | |
This week Elle and Vee talk about how to apply the Five Love Languages to your sex life, including: Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 15 Mar 2023 | 011: Vagina Health: How to Prevent and Treat Yeast Infections, BV, and UTIs | 00:52:56 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee have one of their most important conversations to date: all things vaginal health. Elle is a medical professional - a nutritional therapist and wellness coach with a Doctor of Pharmacy degree, so Vee uses this opportunity to pick her brain about how to prevent the most common of vaginal issues, including: Yeast infections: how do antibiotics affect our vaginas? Medications vs boric acid. How do condoms, lubes and sperm affect our PH levels? (11:41) Online medical solutions: WISP (@hellowisp), and finding the right resources online. (17:01) Can our body be trying to tell us something? Irregular PAP smears, precancerous cells and LEEP procedures. (20:42) How does our diet affect our vaginas? Sugar, antibiotics, muscle testing and getting yeast infections in foreign countries, plus coconut oil has anti fungal benefits! (24:42) UTIs: peeing protocol, the right cranberry supplements, the right things to wash with, and why Elle doesn’t recommend douching. (31:57) Vagina upkeep: how to keep your vagina healthy on lifestyle vacations, at sex parties etc. What do Elle and Vee have on hand during, and what to use beforehand and afterwards. (40:42) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 22 Mar 2023 | 012: Guys Gone Deep: The Builder and M on Double Penetration, Short Men, and Friendships in the Lifestyle | 01:08:54 | |
This week, Elle and Vee chat with M and their friend The Builder, who are known as the "DP Duo" in their friend group. The girls ask them all the dirty details about double penetration, as well as go deep on The Builder's journey with his wife in the lifestyle. How did The Builder get into the lifestyle, how has an open relationship affected his relationship to himself and to his wife? (5:32) Sex with strangers vs. friends: the connections and friendships in consensual non-monogamy. (10:20) Setting intentions, and prioritizing reconnecting with your partner at play parties. (17:06) Should you check in with both partners before playing with someone? (22:36) Back to double penetration: the difference between anal and vagina, logistics, anal prep, and positions. (28:26) Connections between men in ENM (ethical non-monogamy). (38:30) Short men: what it’s like to be a short man in the lifestyle, what gives them confidence, and how the lifestyle inspires us to stay in shape. (40:41) Talking to your vanilla friends about your lifestyle, and how openness is not for everyone. (52:37) Growing with your partner: differing sex drives, developing feelings for a unicorn, communication and acceptance. (57:39) How to find new play partners: online, apps, and in person energy. (1:01:45) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 30 Mar 2023 | 013: What Does "Vanilla" Mean to Swingers? | 00:40:35 | |
After some thought-provoking conversations with monogamous (non-lifestyle) friends, Vee and Elle discuss what the word "vanilla" actually means to them, and pose the same question to a few of their CNM (consensually non-monogamous) friends at Hedonism II in Jamaica. What is “spicy vanilla”? (7:24) Are we meant to be monogamous? (11:49) Using "vanilla" to describe career choices. (13:58) Offending monogamous friends with the use of "vanilla". (16:56) Polling ENM (ethically non-monogamous) friends at Hedonism on what "vanilla" means to them:
The final verdict: what does "vanilla" mean to people in the lifestyle? (38:40) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 06 Apr 2023 | 014: Hedonism Swing Breakers: Being Naked in Public, Prioritizing Your Partner, and Orgy Highlights | 01:17:06 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee record both during and after their week at Hedonism II Resort in Negril, Jamaica for the theme week Hedonism Swing Breakers. First, they set intentions and afterwards, they reflect on their experience - all the highlights, learning moments and dirty details, including: Hedonism: What is it like being nude in public, and how does it affect your interactions? How do you know what a couple’s boundaries and interests are? Theme nights and entertainment. (00:24) Setting non-sexual intentions for the week. (9:44) Sexual intentions and “Fuckit List” items: double penetration (DP) and gang bangs. (14:31) Prioritizing time with your partner at swinger resorts, and how to deal with FOMO on group trips. (17:51) Sexual mantras, sexual female connections and impact play sessions. (20:26) Overall assessments of Hedo: does being nude in public get easier throughout the week? Comparing past Hedonism experiences and HSB 2023. Tip for newbies: get off the resort and go to Lobster Island! (24:16) Using a banana as a sex toy: crazy silly memories with friends AKA the “Barnarnar” story. (34:46) Major takeaway: friends in the lifestyle, the sense of community at HSB, and picking up where you left off the year before. (37:30) What is Nuru, and why is it a highlight for Elle? (38:48) Did Vee fulfill her DP intention? (43:10) Vee’s first MFM: what’s the secret ingredient to enjoying and thriving in an MFM? (47:12) What it’s like to have the party room. (51:15) Triggers: How Elle worked through a triggering moment, and how she grew from it, the importance of speaking up and doing fears desires boundaries, and making everything about us. (53:44) What is the Fetish Night show at Hedonism like? (1:02:57) Re-learning the same lessons with your partner until they sink in: how do you deal when two partners have different libidos and aren’t on the same page at a lifestyle event? How women lead a lot of the interactions in the lifestyle, and the challenges for men when their partner isn’t in the mood. (1:04:27) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 10 Apr 2023 | 015: Going Deep with Julia Lange, the Woman Behind Hedonism Swing Breakers | 01:10:13 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Julia Lange, the brains behind Hedonism Swing Breakers, and the daughter of Harry Lange, the owner of Hedonism II in Jamaica! Then, they answer all your questions submitted on social media about Hedo. How can ethical non-monogamy (ENM) enrich your relationship? (8:52) All about HSB (Hedonism Swing Breakers) - How many guests are there? What's the difference between typical weeks and HSB? Are throuples allowed? (11:40) What are the rules at Hedo? What does Hedo do to keep it safe for guests? (17:26)
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| 20 Apr 2023 | 016: Guys Gone Deep: Chet on Leaving Mormonism, Navigating ENM, and Approaching Women with Authenticity | 00:46:35 | |
This week, Elle and Vee talk with Chet, whose journey into the non-monogamous lifestyle is unique in that he was raised in the Church of Latter Day Saints (aka he was Mormon). He talks about everything from his upbringing to the challenges of approaching women. From Mormonism to non-monogamy: How Chet and his wife found the lifestyle after being raised in the Mormon church. How he overcame the guilt and shame he was taught around sexuality. What did his early sexual experiences look like? (1:40) Transitioning to CNM (consensual non monogamy): mono-normative thinking, and overcoming the traditional thoughts taught in childhood. (9:20) Your relationship with yourself: what has being the lifestyle taught you about yourself? Learning to be okay being alone, and gaining confidence. (13:32) Navigating the lifestyle: What were your resources in the beginning of opening up your relationship? (20:20) How to approach women in the lifestyle: how women in the lifestyle are different, and what makes men hesitant to be too forward when transitioning into the sexual space? (22:39) Where do you start the conversation when hitting on a woman? What are some good pickup lines to get someone’s attention? (32:34) Communication: dividing your time between partners, and the importance of communicating clearly to get what you want. (39:28) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 27 Apr 2023 | 017: Guys Gone Deep on Approaching Women: Body Language, Turn Offs, and Panty Droppers | 01:01:46 | |
Elle and Vee continue their conversation with Chet about how to approach women in the lifetsyle, including: Body Language: how can you figure out if someone is into you based on nonverbal signals? The importance of verbal communication. Should you ask for consent before touching someone (even non-sexually)? (1:46) Organic Connections: Chemistry, and how does an initial “no” turn into a “yes”? (12:02) Single vs partnered men: as a man, is it easier to play when a women is involved in the interaction? The dynamics of playing with partners. Aggressive men. (19:20) Making Assumptions: The boundaries when playing with couples. Taking liberties based on signals. (29:16) Panty Droppers! (33:32) Turn-offs: how substances affect your ability to make connections, men taking liberties, asking for consent every time, aggresive dominance, and being creepy. (41:27) How to hit on a woman in the lifestyle: using your partner as a wing woman or wing man, using activities as a way to break the ice, and being vulnerable. (53:30) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 04 May 2023 | 018: Female Friendships in ENM: Support, Finding Your People and “Zhuzhing” | 01:06:19 | |
This week, Elle and Vee chat with their friend “Mommy” about the importance of female friendships in CNM (consensual non-monogamy), including:
What can we as women do to support each other better in non-monogamous environments (sex parties, social mixers, lifestyle resorts, etc.)? (45:52) Dealing with intimidation and self-comparison when meeting new women at mixers, sex parties and lifestyle resorts. (50:38) Compersion when your partner is playing with your female friends. (59:19) How has being non-monogamous affected mommy’s relationship with herself? (1:02:41) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 11 May 2023 | 019: Arousal Styles, FOMO, and Running Into Ex Lovers | 00:53:59 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee discuss what turns them on based on Dr. Emily Morse’s (@sexwithemily) article, “These Are the 5 Arousal Styles, Which One Are You?” The girls also go super deep and share the tools they use to work through FOMO (fear of missing out) when they miss out on activities with friends, plus they share some listener responses! Dr. Emily: Arousal Styles. What’s the difference between desire and arousal? What’s your sexual arousal type? How to get aroused when you’re stressed out from work. (2:00) FOMO: how do you deal with FOMO? How does having the choice to miss the experience or not affect your FOMO? How does social media affect your FOMO? (5:13) What is the core of FOMO: what is behind the “fear of missing out”? (18:56) JOMO: “The Joy of Missing Out”. (24:39) Do you experience more FOMO with your lifestyle friends than your traditional friends? Does longevity in a relationship affect FOMO levels? (28:12) FOMO when you miss out on an event you weren’t invited to. Vee applies the tools for working through the stories her mind tells her when she experiences FOMO. (32:11) Listener responses: Vanilla is derogatory, and book club ideas! (36:49) Listener response: Hedonism Swing Breakers - what’s the best flow for the week? (40:27) Does the word “lifestyle” imply hetero-swinger? (44:25) What to do when you run into a past lover: should you approach an ex for “closure” or to “clear the air”? Who should approach who: the dumper or the dumpee? (47:11) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 18 May 2023 | 020: Weddings from an ENM Perspective, Divorce, and the Meaning of Being "Settled" | 00:47:36 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee catch up on Elle’s trip to Florida with the Joy Fam, while Vee was at a monogamous friend’s wedding… which prompts the girls to go deep on weddings, divorce, and what it means to be settled. Elle’s sexual mishap with The Builder in Tampa, and how she moved forward from her Hedonism trigger. (1:51) Integrating lessons from podcast episodes: was Elle able to enjoy herself on marijuana? How was Vee able to work through her FOMO (fear of missing out)? How important it is to have friends you can be your authentic self with. (6:30) Gravitating towards curious, open-minded people at “vanilla” events, and setting boundaries with monogamous friends at weddings who might be interested in playing while drunk. (14:48) Avoiding being the “talk of the town”: What to do and what not to do at a monogamous wedding when you’re ENM (ethically non monogamous). (16:22) ENM Weddings: What could a non-monogamous commitment ceremony look like? Elle describes a BDSM/lifestyle wedding that she attended, including a master/slave ceremony, shibari, and primal play. (21:01) Marriage and Divorce: How important is a wedding or marriage? Why do people stay in unhappy marriages? (33:40) How do you know when it’s time to leave a marriage? How Vee knew it was time to get divorced. (36:40) What does it mean to be “settled”? (41:36) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 25 May 2023 | 021: Alternative Dating Apps for ENM and Kink: Exploring Desires, Finding Events Near You and Defining “Heteroflexible” | 00:51:11 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee were inspired to chat about the alternative dating apps and websites that have worked for them in the lifestyle, including: Feeld: what’s so special about this dating app? Is it harder for men on dating apps? (2:08) Exploring desires: What kinds of people do you find on Feeld? Can you find a third, other couples, or a dom on Feeld? (8:10) How quickly should you move from the app to real life? (12:15) Safety and dating: what does Vee do to keep herself safe when dating solo? (14:05) Sexual orientation: how do Elle and Vee identify themselves on Feeld? Changing your sexual orientation with more experience. What’s the difference between heteroflexible and bicurious, and is heteroflexible an offensive term? Defining heteroflexible, pansexual, asexual, and skoliosexual. (15:22) Gender options on Feeld. (27:40) Labels: the American versus European mentality around the need to label ourselves. (28:31) Work and Swinger Apps: what happens if your boss finds your profile? (30:45) Fetlife: BDSM website, meeting up and finding events. (36:55) Kasidie: lifestyle events website, backstage passes and connecting with couples before an event. (41:24) Traditional vs swinger apps. (45:07) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 01 Jun 2023 | 022: Setting (and Pushing) Boundaries in ENM Relationships | 00:56:46 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee discuss all things boundaries and agreements in open relationships, from the early rules they had when they entered the lifestyle, to how they evolved them. They get into all the dirty details, including: Typical Boundaries: What are some common boundaries to discuss when entering the lifestyle? What limits have Vee and Elle pushed throughout their relationships? Sleepovers, showering after sex, emotional intimacy, and other boundaries between couples. (12:43) Breaking Agreements: What happens when you violate your partner’s boundaries? Vee talks about not prioritiing J at Hedonism Swing Breakers. AFOG (Another Fucking Opportunity for Growth). Elle shares her learning moments. (30:48) Solo kinkster dating story: how to be safe when a date doesn’t respect your boundaries. (40:04) Challenges and Communication: What are the challenges in setting boundaries? Getting curious about emotions. “Emotional Dumping.” What are some good ways to communicate with your partner about boundaries? (45:33) Fighting: Setting boundaries when having an argument. (51:00) The Ethical Slut: Slut skills - setting limits. (54:10) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 08 Jun 2023 | 023: Solo ENM with Holly: Being a Unicorn, Group Sex Dynamics, and What is Comphet? | 01:07:41 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Holly, who gives the perspective of a single twenty-something in the ethically non-monogamous dating scene in NYC, juxtaposing the girls’ married and partnered perspectives. Their conversation includes: First experiences in CNM (consensual non-monogamy): Holly’s first threesome; common types of group play and the girls’ preferences; being discreet with “incognito mode”on Feeld. (1:05) Group sex: Even vs odd numbers; dynamics. (7:12) Sexual Labels: “lifestyle”, “queer”, “fluid”, playing with women who don’t identify as gay, the different dynamic of having a penis in the room. (15:48) Best Threesomes: Being dommed by a women vs a man; what makes a successful unicorn? (36:12) Boundaries: the case against taking sexy nudes. (41:05) Coming out as open to friends and family. (43:13) Growth through sexual experiences: being celebrated for who you are; taking back the word SLUT. (46:40) Main Nuggets: Guarding your heart, finding the right people, misconceptions of people in the lifestyle. (52:49) Listener Question: How to go to a mixer solo. (57:49) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 15 Jun 2023 | 024: Going Deep with Safe.Slut Tricia Wise: Genital Herpes, OnlyFans, and Energy Healing | 01:14:04 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee sit down with Tricia Wise, aka Safe.Slut, who is a sex activist (Instagram @safe.slut), an OnlyFans content creator (safeslvt), and sex toy business owner (safeslut.shop). The girls go DEEP on these subjects and more, including: Destigmatizing Herpes: What is the Safe Slut mission? What are HSV-1 and HSV-2? How is it transmitted? What is prodrome? What triggers an outbreak? What are the symptoms? (2:08) Herpes Testing: What kinds of tests are there, and how do you get tested for herpes? What do you do afterwards? (14:02) Disclosing Your Status: How do you tell past or current partners that you tested positive? (16:49) Safe.Slut: What is her mission? What does it mean to be a slut? Overcoming slut shaming from high school. Confirmation bias. (20:23) OnlyFans: What’s a day in the life of an OnlyFans content creator like? Herpes in porn. Embracing your imperfections, waxing vs shaving your pussy, and ingrown hairs on your vulva. (25:57) Talking to your friends and family (or not) about OnlyFans, your herpes status, and your sex life as a sex positive activist or sex educator. (31:24) Trauma: Flipping negative situations on their head and taking your power back, from herpes to bullying. (36:24) Creating Content: Asking dates to film on OnlyFans. Chaturbate. Exhibitionists and BDSMtest.org. Dating a porn content creator. (39:31) Disclosing: How do you bring up your STI status with a new partner? (44:49) Support Tips: Natural remedies to help herpes outbreaks. (48:50) Vibrators: Clit sucking, multi-use, and heated vibrators. Butt plugs or dicks? (51:18) Unconventional Science and Spirituality: Astrology and other “woo-woo” magic. What is reiki and energy healing? What is quantum entanglement? (54:38) Whoreible Life: Sex on the beach. Slapping across the face while fucking. Impact play. (1:02:33) Takeaways for polyamorous people: Testing regularly, what to ask for when getting an STI test, and gonorrhea and chlamydia in the throat. (1:07:37) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 22 Jun 2023 | 025: Baconfest 2023: Merging Swinger and Traditional Friends, Threesome Takeaways, and BDSM Tests | 00:46:24 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee recap their weekend at Baconfest 2023 at their friends' house at the Jersey Shore. It was a mixture of ENM and vanilla couples, which lead to some interesting dynamics. The girls talk about their learning moments and more, including: Going to bed early: Vee overcomes her FOMO! (14:00) Going down on women: Elle and Vee debrief their threesome with J, including squirting, do all women have a more sensitive spot on their clit?, and morning sex. (16:33) BDSM test: the girls analyze their results and compare them to their past results. How and why do our sexual tastes change? Exhibitionism, voyeurism, riggers and rope bunnies. (28:19) Listener response: Boundaries follow up. (38:36) Listener response meme follow up: gender wage gaps and income imbalances in relationships. (40:02) Take the BDSM Test: www.Bdsmtest.org Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 29 Jun 2023 | 026: Going Deep with Spicy Vanillas: Emotional Intimacy, Sexual Satisfaction, and Questioning Societal Norms | 00:58:11 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee and their monogamous friends answer each others’ questions, including: What does the word vanilla mean to you, and is it offensive? (2:40) What do you think of when you think ethical non monogamy or open relationship? What words or concepts come to mind? (4:38) What changes have you observed in your friends since they started exploring the nonmonogamous lifestyle? (9:55) What questions do you have for people in the lifestyle?
“Serial monogamist and flirt with a high sex drive and little inhibition” poses some thought-provoking ideas and questions about polyamory and religion, and questioning your own choices further. (55:02) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 06 Jul 2023 | 027: The Joy of Porn: Connecting with your Partner, Formative Sexual Experiences, and VR Porn | 00:47:39 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee discuss all things pornography, from their use of it to their first exposure to it, including: Masturbation and porn. (7:04) Using porn as a tool to connect with you partner. (9:30) Favorite porn sites. (11:01) How does porn affect teens’ ideas of sex? (11:49) How can porn contribute to and affect sexual confusion and sexual identity in teens? (16:46) Do we watch what we want in real life? Erotic blueprints, porn rabbit holes. (22:48) Negative effects of porn, and training yourself to like certain things. BDSM hack for associating pain with pleasure. (25:46) Is watching porn cheating? (31:04) What would we sound like in the bedroom if we had never watched porn? Personal porn. (37:19) Virtual Reality porn and AI porn. (40:53) Links: Female-created porn: Bellesa.co Erotic Blueprint: missjaiya.com Real Sex Porn: makelovenotporn.tv Soft Porn: stasyq.com Crowd-sourced porn: xconfessions.com Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 13 Jul 2023 | 028: Navigating Emotional Triggers in Group Sex, and The Beauty of Day Orgies | 01:01:29 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee cover a range of topics, from dealing with the emotions of multiple partners in threesomes and foursomes, questioning how to be an ethical porn consumer, and recapping Vee's weekend at a lifestyle party, including: How to deal with it as the unicorn in a threesome when there is an issue with the couple. (1:27) Paying for porn: how do you find what’s worth paying for? (27:30) How do you know you’re watching porn that’s being ethically made? (30:30) Gemini Party Recap (34:32) - Connecting with and prioritizing your partner at the beginning of a lifestyle weekend. (35:37) - The difference between pool parties in the ENM lifestyle and vanilla pool parties. Friendships with the opposite sex. (39:34) - Day orgies, why having repeat partners makes for better sex, and compersion. (45:00) - Sitting on faces. (50:07) - The “comedown” from a big weekend: Strap ons, “pegging” vs “strapping”, how to have an awesome seven-person orgy, and how can you feel sexy in a big group? (53:33) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 20 Jul 2023 | 029: Cum: Ejaculating vs Squirting, Spitting vs Swallowing, and Tasting Yourself | 00:55:49 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee talk all things CUM, including Ejaculating vs Squirting: and is there pee in squirt juice? (2:54) Taste: modifying your own taste, and what affects it. (10:36) Male ejaculation: the focus on male orgasm. (21:06) Orgasming: the hottest place for a guy to finish, “shooters” vs “dribblers”, spitting vs swallowing, and creampie fantasies. (28:35) Female taste: tasting yourself, and what to do when you encounter a stinky pussy. (43:08) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 27 Jul 2023 | 030: How to Transition to Sexy Vibes in Group Sex (Especially with Longterm ENM Friends) | 00:44:37 | |
What happens when you’ve had the same group of ENM friends for years? In this episode, Vee and Elle sit down with M to chat about the catch-22 of having sex with your friends: how sometimes you sacrifice the quantity of sex for quality when you develop stronger friendships with your ENM partners. Strategy to turn the vibe sexy in big groups: “orgy boards”, taking a group vote with eyes closed, changing locations/spaces. (4:22) Why is it so much more challenging when trying to transition into sexy time with a larger group? (9:34) “Open door policy”: communicating intentions to the group when going off with one person. (12:19) “Emotionally weak people”: not taking answers personally as the asker of the question, and taking responsibility for your own triggers. (19:00) Strategy to avoid the challenge of transitioning into sex altogether: day orgies, new energy, and what creates desire according to Esther Perel. (23:41) Building sexual things up in your mind when you know there will be more opportunities. (32:53) How to disentangle from someone in an orgy when you want to move on to a different person or position. (36:45) M’s responses to past episodes: grinding while eating out and face-sitting. (40:04) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 03 Aug 2023 | 031: Opening Your Marriage, Throuples, and Falling In Love With Someone Besides Your Husband | 00:45:29 | |
In this episode, the girls sit down with Slutlana, who is Elle and her husband M's best friend and girlfriend. They cover a range of topics, including: The benefits of being a third and not having a primary partner. (8:44) Opening a marriage with the help of a sex therapist. (10:49) Transitioning from swingers to open, and falling in love with someone outside of your marriage. (18:07) Personal growth through dating, retreats, psychedelics, and meditation. Shamanism. ( 28:51) Double penetration (DP) with a strap-on. (37:16) Butt plugs, and taking anal virginity. (38:45) Theme nights. (41:15) Slutlana’s major “aha” moments, and the birth of fears, desires and boundaries. (42:03) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 10 Aug 2023 | 032: Sexual Shame: Unlearning Religious Messages, The Stories We Tell Ourselves, and Healing Through ENM | 00:57:44 | |
Elle and Vee chat with their friend Kit, who grew up in a strict religious home. The girls chat about their formative sexual experiences and messages they received about sex early on in their lives, and how finding the ENM lifestyle helped to heal them. How did you work through/unlearn all the shameful messages around sex and adultery that you had grown up with? (11:55) Common shameful messages we receive, and ACCEPTANCE as the antidote to shame. (20:12) How do you work through the stories you tell yourself? (30:11) How has working on shame translated outside of the lifestyle? (36:20) Early shame messages we recive in high school and the effects of repression. (44:25) Finding your tribe, showing up for our monogamous friends, and using fears, desires, boundaries in all aspects of life. (48:19) Processing and healing trauma through EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) therapy, and BDSM. (50:29) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 17 Aug 2023 | 033: Intimacy Inventory: Questions for Introspection, What You Bring to Your Relationship, and Taking vs Being Taken (including CNC) | 01:01:16 | |
What is an Intimacy Inventory, and why is it important for our relationships? (1:52) Get Access here… What strengths do you bring to your relationships? What is a dilemma that you carry with you? (5:32) Stubbornness and fighting with your partner; how to put a sexy, fun spin on it. (9:44) When do you feel most free in your relationship? (14:28) When you’re out at a bar with friends, do you have a hall pass? What agreement do you have with your partner about what is allowed? (17:04) Independence as a turn on. Separateness and mystery and their impact on relationships. (21:36)
What do you like to experience in sex? (27:40) Being taken, thoughts on CNC (consensual non consent aka rape fantasies), extreme desire, safe words, and using BDSM as a healing experience. (29:59) Seeking a release, freedom from responsibility and timelessness during sex. (35:35)
How the dominant messages around gender norms shape your sexual beliefs. (42:10) To ask, to take, to give, to receive and to refuse: which are you most comfortable with? Which would you like to stretch? (48:44) Rapid Fire final questions of the intimacy inventory questionnaire. (54:21) What is a difficult conversation for you to have around sexuality? Uncomfortableness with not feeling attracted to someone who is interested in you and turning them down. (56:38) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 24 Aug 2023 | 034: How to Squirt: Tips and Tricks, the Peeing Sensation and Social Stigmas of Squirting | 00:47:03 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with M, the squirt master. He shares his tips and tricks on how to make a girl squirt and the girls share their perspectives and experiences. Vee shares her fears with squirting. (2:12) What makes squirting different from orgasm? (7:17) M shares how he discovered his squirting skills. (8:36) Why squirting is hot: a male perspective.(15:00) How to make a girl squirt: finger placement, feeling, movement and more. (16:36) The challenges for the squirter and working through the ‘I have to pee’ sensation. (24:29) The scientific difference between a clit orgasm and the G-spot orgasm. (26:41) Do women have a prostate? What is squirt juice made of? (27:49) Squirting as a party trick, the importance of hydration, and something every squirter needs. (30:21) A different position to try if you have a hard time squirting. (35:32) Squirting expectations and stigmas. (37:04) Orgasming and squirting at the same time.(41:30)
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| 31 Aug 2023 | 035: JOYsey Shore: Partying Sober, DVP Tips, and Sybian vs F*ck Machine | 00:47:05 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee debrief on the highlights, challenges and takeaways from their most recent weekend away with their ENM friends. “A glimpse into a lifestyle party,” and one of the challenges of bringing a third to a party. (1:46) What’s the point of having themes? (5:35) Sobriety: the challenges and benefits of staying sober for an entire lifestyle weekend. (9:10) Sobriety and sexuality. (18:02) Highlight: FFF threesome and goal-oriented fucking. (21:57) Face-sitting: the benefits of being distracted/focused when you’re getting action both up top and down bottom. (26:46) Highlight: Fivesome and creampie. (29:41) Fuckit List item: DVP, and Elle’s tips for success. (32:06) Breakthrough: Getting out of your head, and cumming in front of a group. (38:28) Sybian vs Fuck Machine. (41:37) Highlight: Using a speculum to see inside the vagina. (43:55) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 07 Sep 2023 | 036: Triggered: Bringing a Third to a Sex Party, The Stories We Tell Ourselves, and Perception Vs Reality | 00:51:48 | |
Elle and Vee share their experiences and challenges of bringing a third to a weekend getaway and how they worked through being triggered. Vee shares her fears, desires and boundaries for this episode. (2:26) A challenge of having a third partner: balance. (3:57) Codependency, projection, and the stories we tell ourselves. (6:41) Elle discusses another potential challenge of having a third: feeling left out. (13:32) Elle's example of "the stories we tell ourselves" and the lessons learned. (18:16) Avoidance as a coping strategy. (26:36) Confirmation bias to support our stories. (28:47) Elle's plan/tools to deal with triggers in the future. (30:15) What Vee would do differently the next time she brings a third. (31:49) The Four Agreements. (45:08) How instagram impacts our mental health. (48:56) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 14 Sep 2023 | 037: Edging: The Advantages of Withholding Orgasm, Electro Play and Spanking | 01:07:04 | |
Elle and Vee have two special guests in today's episode, Ace and Jess who share their lifestyle practices with edging and other kinky experiences 2:32 Why edge an orgasm? What does edging do for Ace? 3:44 Aces edging discovery and how he uses it his advantage in the lifestyle 5:57 Elle Vee and Jess explain the differences of their personal orgasms 8:05 Multiple orgasm for female, but what about men? 10:50 Who is charge of finally cumming, edging to cum together and a women perspective when her partner doesn’t finish often 15:49 Quantity, taste, consistency from the edging load 17:12 Edging for spiritual reasons and transferring that sexual energy into day to day life 20:00 The evolution of stopping an orgasm, self awareness and being a better lover in bed 28:27 Cum fetish, shooters vs dribblers 36:41 The countdown to an orgasm vs the pressure of being told to have an orgasm 39:32 Being in tune with your body and knowing what you like through sexual curiosity 42:37 The violet wand discussed, eletro play and how to use it 46:00 A male perspective on spanking 49:13 Spanking lesson by Jess and impact play discussion, 57:39 A first fisting experience 59:59 the recipe for successful new sexual experiences and the surprise pleasure from a double sided dildo Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 21 Sep 2023 | 038: How to Keep it Sexy in a Long Term Relationship: Esther Perel’s 4 Things to Foster Erotic Desire | 00:42:18 | |
Elle and Vee dive into the work of Esther Perel, a relationship expert, on relationship dynamics, how to keep things sexy and how to foster erotic desire:
Who is Esther Perel and what is she about? (0:38) When you ‘have’ something it takes away the wanting, and how the lifestyle helps with this. (2:47) When do you feel most drawn to your partner? (6:46) Desire requires focusing on your own pleasure. (9:15) The balance of neediness in a relationship. (10:24) In relationships, certain behaviors bring out contrasting behaviors in the other. (11:51) Two types of people in a relationship: one with the fear of losing the other and one with the fear of losing themselves. (13:50)
Relationship dynamics develop around security and freedom and also self reliance and interdependence. (16:19) How the lifestyle supports admiration and surprise. (20:30) When you see your partner through the eyes of someone else. (23:54) How absence and longing helps with desire yet sometimes has a paradoxical effect in the lifestyle group of friends. (25:15) Sameness kills desire: Elle and Vee share how they keep it spicy. (29:05) Forget 1-on-1 First Dates: Try this alternative first date scenario and learn why! (33:32) PSA: We’re taking a break next week! See you in October! Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 05 Oct 2023 | 039: Stretching Fetish: Fisting, DVP and Vagina Spreaders; Shaved vs Hairy Pussies; and Introducing a Partner to ENM | 00:55:02 | |
This week, Elle and Vee chat with T Money about what he's learned in his twenty years in the lifestyle, including: Stretching Fetish: DVP, vegetables, and the elasticity of vaginas. (17:24) Fisting: how to fist, the “goose” technique, and slow exits. (27:27) DVP: double vaginal penetration tips, and the benefits of being the "top" or "bottom" giver. (32:33) Speculums and Vagina Spreaders. (37:21) Daddy Doms: What is a Daddy Dom? Dominant personas, and how to make chores sexy. (40:21) Shaved vs hairy genitals. (43:46) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 12 Oct 2023 | 040: Sex with Pregnant Women, The Pussy Pump + Other Sex Toy Reviews, and Period Sex | 01:07:48 | |
Elle and Vee catch up and chat about sex with pregnant women and talk about new sex toys, offering their reviews and opinions. Being pregnant in the ENM lifestyle. (3:47) Elle’s hormonal and body changes during pregnancy. Horniness, sexual desires, nipple changes, deep throating updates. (5:58) How pregnancy changes relationships, and the feeling of being left behind. (15:02) Sex with pregnant women and fulfilling fantasies: Cream pies, lubricated vaginas, and conception fantasies. (22:41) Sex Toy Review: Mini Wand (33:40) How the menstrual cycle affects libido. (36:14) Elle and Vee share how and when they like to use vibrators. (39:33) Sex Toy Review: Strap-on-me dildo (a vibrating strapless “strap-on”; competitor to the Feeldoe). (41:11) Sex Toy Review: pussy pump. (45:58) Sex Toy Review: Cock Ring/Ball Stretcher. (49:48) Sex Toy Review: vagina spreader 5-pronged speculum. (51:37) Period Sex. (58:16) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 19 Oct 2023 | 041: Transformational Experiences of ENM: Sexual Healing, Self Love, and the Benefits of Dating Couples | 00:48:13 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with their friend Leia (@vibrantbyleia), who gets deep about being a single bisexual female in the lifestyle, dating couples (versus prioritizing finding her own primary), and sexual healing. What have you learned about yourself through polyamory? (24:03) How have these experiences changed your sexuality? Using the label “bisexual”, strapping, doing anything 3 times, pegging, shibari and BDSM. (29:30) BDSM as a form of therapy and healing, and the similarities between impact play and yoga. (34:32) Sexual somatic training. (39:34) How breast augmentation changes your relationship with your body. Accepting compliments. (40:25) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 26 Oct 2023 | 042: Sexual Somatic Healing, Erotic Embodiment, and Embracing Spirituality through Sexuality | 01:00:36 | |
Elle and Vee bring Leia back for a part 2 to discuss Sexual Somatic Healing and so much more! What is somatic healing? How does it differ from typical talk therapy? (0:43)
The impact of current events and shared tips on how to get out of your head and into your body. (11:49) Leia leads us through a 3 part breathing exercise for Erotic Emobodied Healing. (20:47) Elle and Vee share their feedback after that exercise. (26:29) Leia shares her experience being the demo student with her instructor. (29:39) Putting your hands on your crotch to help you sleep and for comfort? (31:00) Who is an ideal client for sexual somatic healing? What challenges are people looking to overcome? Deshamifying sex, and differentiating shame vs. guilt. (33:29) Do you have to relive the trauma in order to heal it? (40:59) Our thoughts on healing trauma through psychedelics: psyllicibin, ketamine, MDMA. (44:04) Sex and godlike experiences? The connection of this lifestyle and how it impacts spirituality. (48:06) What to look forward to on how to learn to live your most vibrant life with Leia. (54:02) Work with Leia! Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 02 Nov 2023 | 043: Hoes in Hoboken Sex Party: The Role of Substances in Enthusiastic Consent, Exercising Your "No", and Getting Out of Your Head to Squirt | 01:03:08 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee catch up about Vee’s latest sex party that she hosted with J, including squirting, enthusiastic consent, substance use, six-handed massages, listening to your body, and so much more…. Our top five episodes according to the numbers! (1:44) The benefits of having new people at a small sex party. (12:16) Squirting: how to overcome the threshold and let go. Waterproof blankets, sensory deprivation, hydration, trust and muscle memory. (15:16) Setting expectations for a sex party: what to include in a pre-party email or text; “Fears, Desires, Boundaries”(personal and as a group). (22:45) Enthusiastic consent and substance use. How substances can inhibit connection. (29:15) New toys: what’s a thruster? (37:35) Deciding which events to go to, FOMO and exercising your “no”. (39:01) Listening to your body, going to sleep when you need to, and Vee’s six-handed massage. (48:28) Ask Doctor Elle: What should I do when I get a yeast infection because of antibiotics? (50:20) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 09 Nov 2023 | 044: Halloween Sexcapades: Sex Swing Sex, BDSM with Strangers, & Sensory Deprivation | 01:03:20 | |
Elle and Vee catch up on their weekend sexcapades. Vee attended a private sex party event with 40+ people and the City of Gods Halloween party in NYC while Elle spent a sexy weekend with M at home.
Storing sex toys, the Liberator, and traveling with toys. (6:44) City of Gods Halloween Party in NYC: impact play, electro play and understanding establishing consent and boundaries with new BDSM partners. (11:12) Sex Swing and why Elle loves it so much. (20:22) Halloween Sex party experience with 40+ people: takeaways. How to stay sex-oriented at a play party, how to reject someone without any weirdness, (23:18) Open door etiquette: If the door is cracked or open during an orgy, can others invite themselves in? (35:21) Spanking experience with sensory deprivation. (39:49) Do women with a strap on fuck differently than men? (44:48) Ask Dr. Elle: how can you boost your immune system and prevent sickness in preparation for a debaucherous weekend? (55:02) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 16 Nov 2023 | 045: Yoni Massage vs Squirting, Manifesting Through Sex Magic, and the Importance of Prostate Play | 00:59:02 | |
In this episode, Vee and Elle chat with Physics (@physics_shibari) about the ins and outs of founding a sex group, what a yoni massage involves, and what sex magic is, including: Shibari porn: Physics’s kinky awakening. (3:16) What is The Temple? Returning sacred sexuality to spirituality. (5:22) Sex workshops: What kinds of workshops can be found at The Temple? (10:06) Yoni Massage: -From being “the guy who can make any girl squirt” to being a yoni massage practitioner. (11:34) -Differentiating squirting from yoni massage. (17:14) -What does YONI mean? (20:28) -How-to: Breaking down a yoni massage step by step, and what to expect. (21:53) -Set and Setting: preparing for a yoni massage similarly to preparing for a psychedelic trip. (29:45) -Aftercare and processing. (30:46) -Do you orgasm and squirt every time during yoni massage? (32:11) -Advice for women who have reservations around squirting. The emotional intensity, releasing blockages and uncovering trauma. (37:00) Sex Magic: manifesting through sexual energy. (42:10) Female vs. male orgasm: can men orgasm the same way women can? (45:11) Lingam massage and the importance of prostate play for men. (48:57) The Temple: http://flowartcenter.org/ Physics Instagram: @physics_shibari Find Physics and Temple on Fetlife. Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 23 Nov 2023 | 046: BDSM: Safety, Communication, and Intention, Daddy Dom Little Girl (DDLG), and “Demystifying Rope” aka Shibari | 00:51:48 | |
In this episode, join Elle and Vee with return guest Physics to get an inside view of what goes on in a top’s brain and the intricate communication required for different BDSM relationships and experiences. Who Is Physics? (0:53) The magic of intention in BDSM experiences. (2:05) What is DD/lg? (6:59) DD/lg VS age play? (11:41) How to have a healthy appropriate Ds relationship? (15:35) Communicating desires and boundaries: What questions to ask before a scene. (21:21) What is Shibari, and what are some necessary safety fundamentals to keep in mind? (28:53) Experiencing the variety of BDSM on websites like kink.com (43:51)
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| 30 Nov 2023 | 047: Fulfilling Fantasies: Exploring Kinks and BDSM, the DC Fetish Ball, Sex Therapy and Hiring a Pro Dominatrix | 01:10:24 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Brandi about her ten years' worth of experience in the lifestyle, throughout which she's been able to explore all types of fantasies, from orgies to sub/dom power dynamics to pet play, and the joy and empowerment they can bring. How can you make it work when you’re both submissive? (9:25) Being dommed with your partner. (14:19) Hiring a pro dominatrix. (17:45) Female dommes vs male doms: trust, comfort, and safety. (24:48) DC Fetish Ball: what is it like? (28:55) What do you get out of exploring fetish and kink? (36:00) Sex therapy: working to be more assertive, going for what you want in the moment, and growing your self-confidence to overcome the fear of rejection. (38:53) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 07 Dec 2023 | 048: Freaksgiving Revisit: Sex Party Hosting Checklist, Sub/Dom and Impact Play, and Prioritizing Your Partner | 00:36:57 | |
Every November, around Thanksgiving, Elle and Vee's group of lifestyle friends (aka Joy Family) throw an annual Freaksgiving sex party weekend. After the 2022 edition, the girls debriefed their weekend, including: The girls share their intentions, and what they learned from implementing them, including communicating your desires in the moment, and acting on your sexual feelings. (8:33 ) Elle shares a fun, sexy moment and the girls talk about the benefits of private versus public play. (10:20 ) Vee shares a story about a foursome, and how that experience helped her exercise her intention of acting on it when you feel sexual, and how “breaking the seal” of sexuality gets you in the mood for more sex. (14:45 ) BDSM and Spanking: Elle gives the play by play of a BDSM impact play scene, Vee talks about what she gets out of being the sub in an impact scene (spanking), and how BDSM can help you go deeper. (19:10 ) Observing the difference in your energy when you’re at a party solo versus with your partner. (27:45 ) Prioritizing time with your partner at parties. (29:19 ) How to break the ice and force yourself to socialize with everyone at a party! (32:55 ) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 14 Dec 2023 | 049: Vagina Health: How to stay DTF, Tips to Prevent and Treat Yeast Infections, BV, and UTIs | 00:54:33 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee have one of their most important conversations to date: all things vaginal health. Elle is a medical professional - a nutritional therapist and holistic medical professional with a Doctor of Pharmacy degree, so Vee uses this opportunity to pick her brain about how to prevent the most common of vaginal issues, including: Yeast infections: how do antibiotics affect our vaginas? Medications vs boric acid. How do condoms, lubes and sperm affect our PH levels? (13:20) Online medical solutions: WISP (@hellowisp), and finding the right resources online. (20:21) Can our body be trying to tell us something? Irregular PAP smears, precancerous cells and LEEP procedures. (22:21) How does our diet affect our vaginas? Sugar, antibiotics, muscle testing and getting yeast infections in foreign countries, plus coconut oil has anti fungal benefits! (26:21) UTIs: peeing protocol, the right cranberry supplements, the right things to wash with, and why Elle doesn’t recommend douching. (33:36) Vagina upkeep: how to keep your vagina healthy on lifestyle vacations, at sex parties etc. What do Elle and Vee have on hand during, and what to use beforehand and afterwards. (42:21) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 21 Dec 2023 | 050: Handling Rejection: How To Turn Someone Down, Polysaturation and Getting Out of a Group Sex Situation | 00:53:49 | |
The girls chat with Bibi, Vee's friend in the lifestyle, about all things rejection, including: The do's and don'ts of rejection. Rejecting over text, ghosting, and being clear and respectful. (16:24) Vee gets rejected over text, and how to deal with being rejected. (22:45) Couples and rejection: just because your partner plays with someone does not mean you will play with them or their partner. (24:58) How to reject someone during group sex when you’re not into one of the people. (27:43) Being approached vs approaching: The gender norms in pursuing, and how we subconsciously consider feelings differently between men and women. (34:41) Turning down couples with different boundaries. (37:49) Common Excuses: “I have my period.” (39:38 42:08) Common Excuses: “I’m polysaturated.” What is polysaturated, using it as a way to turn someone down, and how to deal with polysaturation. (44:35) The concept of “veto”. (46:59) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 28 Dec 2023 | 051: Interviewing Julia Lange, the Woman Who Runs Hedonism Swing Breakers (HSB): What To Expect, Tips for Newbies, and What to Bring | 01:18:10 | |
Wrapping up 2023! Podcast stats revealed! THANK YOU to our listeners! We appreciate you spending time with us each week and for sharing this podcast with others! How can ethical non-monogamy (ENM) enrich your relationship? (17:41) All about HSB (Hedonism Swing Breakers) - How many guests are there? What's the difference between typical weeks and HSB? Are throuples allowed? (19:37) What are the rules at Hedo? What does Hedo do to keep it safe for guests? (25:23)
To here Elle's and Vee's recap of the 2023 event experience, Check out EPISODE 14 To check out Hedonism Swing Breakers March 16 – 23, 2024 Event, click here Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 04 Jan 2024 | 052: Enthusiastic Consent, Slut Hacks, Airtight Sex Dolls and DVAP (DVP + Anal) | 00:56:25 | |
Happy New Year! Elle and Vee usher in 2024 by reflecting on some of the never-before-released clips from some of the most popular episodes of 2023. Blow up sex dolls and bunkbed sex: Elle shares dirty details from her trip to Tulum, including getting a sex doll airtight and the challenges of having sex on bunkbeds. (23:34)
Healing Trauma Through Yoni Massage: how energy is stored in the body and how we can heal it through somatic sexual practices. (37:24) FRIES: an acronym for all the aspects that need to be present to create true enthusiastic consent. Revoking consent, and feeling pressured to play. (42:49) (Hear the full conversation in Episode 045) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 11 Jan 2024 | 053: Butt Stuff: Anal Sex, Pegging, DP, Butt Plugs, Rimjobs, Douching, and Everything In Between! | 01:08:29 | |
In the episode you've all been waiting for ;), Elle and Vee dive deep into all things BUTT STUFF, including (drumroll please)... Vee's play by play of her first DP! Butt plugs: tails and inflatable butt plugs - the pros and cons and what to watch out for! Douching, and butt plugs falling out. (12:45) Lubes: types of lube (silicone vs water based), coconut oil and lube shooters. What Elle learned from the Reddit thread Ask Gay Bros. (26:01) Rimjobs aka rimming. (30:41) Nail hygiene and the snag test. (32:12) First Experiences: how bad ones scar us; experimenting and opening our minds to butt stuff. (34:00) Anal training. (36:01) Diet: psyllium husk, fiber, acacia, water! (38:18) First time receiving anal vs first time enjoying it; synesthesia and seeing visions during orgasms and anal. (42:40) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 18 Jan 2024 | 054: From Cam Girl to Dominatrix with Sasha Silver: Financial Domination, Small Penis Humiliation, Giantess Fantasy and Healing Through Kink | 01:19:44 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Femdom Sasha Silver. The girls talk about her journey from webcamming to dominatrix to self discovery to the psychology behind many kinks and fetishes. This conversation has so many good nuggets! We're excited for you take a deep dive with us! Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 25 Jan 2024 | 055: The Beauty of Sex as Play: Deep Throating, “Caving”, Double-ended Dildos, and “Who’s in My Mouth?” | 01:00:25 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee catch up after their separate slutty adventures. Elle gives all the naughty details of her trip to Nicaragua with a group of ENM friends, and Vee shares her sexy stories and takeaways from the Naughty Snowball, an annual sexy party thrown by Brandi and the DJ. Deep throating: to do it or not to do it? (10:09) Pregnancy sexuality updates. (16:15) Being drawn to your partner at parties. (18:47) Vee recaps the Naughty Snowball party. (22:52) Getting day orgies started: Who’s in my mouth? (23:24) Masturbating to get sex started. (29:23) Choking and consent. (31:16) Nicaragua: caving. (38:55) Sex is the way we play as adults. The beauty of play. (47:35) Sensory deprivation cave game: who’s going down on me? (50:49) Double sided dildo, and the need to play with new toys in a more intimate setting. (53:21) What makes a sexy weekend successful: starting with group play, and doing fear/desires/boundaries. (57:05) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 01 Feb 2024 | 056: 2024 Sexual Intentions and Fuckit List Items: Sex Dolls, MFMs, and Overcoming Codependency | 00:56:46 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee reflect on their sexual highlights from 2023, and look forward to what they want to focus on in 2024, sexually and personally. But first, they recap and share takeaways from their 16-person NYC weekend. Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 08 Feb 2024 | 057: Bisexuality with Boyslut Author Zachary Zane: Shameless Sexuality, The Importance of Visibility, and Living Your Best Slutty Life! | 01:06:26 | |
In this episode, Vee and Elle go deep with Zachary Zane on everything from coming out as bisexual to overcoming shame, the importance of community and the nerdiness of polyamorous people. Bisexual visibility/audibility. (18:46) Untangling anal stigmas - can you be seen as masculine AND enjoy anal play? (23:44) Common myths or misrepresentations of bisexuals. (27:28) Overcoming sexual shame and coming out as bi. (34:05) How to come into your own and overcome shame: finding your people, and identifying who or what is trying to shame you. (38:54) Polyamory. (45:05) The challenges of being biexual. (46:55) Trans party Inferno. (49:43) Sexy threesome story, MMF vs MFM, and having sex with people who are on the same page as you. (51:24) How to channel your inner Boyslut! (1:01:54) Links: Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 15 Feb 2024 | 058: “Help! My Ass Swallowed my Butt Plug!”, Golden Shower Pee Play, Fisting, and Staying Focused in Group Play | 00:49:53 | |
In today’s episode, Elle and Vee bring back guest Jess from Episode 37: Edging, to play the game WHOREible Life together! This conversation perfectly displays how WHOREible Life the game facilitates a little bit of the naughty chat with a little bit of the DEEP!
1 Done it —with story sharing 2 Fantasy —-with desire share 3 No thank you --and why not Ass swallowing butt plug experience. (1:00) Toy Review: Amovibe Pro+G Spot Flapping Vibrator with Kissing Function & Vibrating Tongue. (6:15) NEW with GGD: New Episode series launch: Why WHOREible Life? (12:55) First WL card: “Take a sip for every person you have peed on.” Thoughts are shared around the psychology of what brings on the kink of pee play. (15:19) Second WL Card: “Been Fisted” and overcoming the idea of, “yeah right, a hand won’t fit in there” (24:34) How to stay focused on your current partner(s) without getting distracted in a group play situation. (28:42) No pressure to perform leading to organic sexual play. (33:53) How Jess and Ace evolved into separate play. (36:12) Vee shares her first fisting experience. (37:15) Looser pussy with DVP and solving the triple penetration logistical problem. (42:50) EXCITING NEW UPDATES WITH GGD: A website, merch shop, & Slutstakes. (45:54) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 21 Feb 2024 | 059: Sensual Shibari Practitioner Jaqueline Michelle on Embodiment after Disassociation, Healing Trauma, Solo Kink and Conscious Sex Work | 01:06:05 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with sensuality mentor and sensual shibari practitioner Jaqueline Michelle about ways to heal trauma and connect with yourself. They touch on everything from solo kink to conscious sex work and strip clubs, the stigma around stripping and finding what makes you feel sexy, relearning to tune into your body when you disassociate to healing trauma through movement and self love practices, and surrendering to your inner domme or sub. Body awareness and healing. (8:53) What is sensuality? (11:49) Masculine vs feminine, embodiment tools and processing emotions, and shadow alchemy. (20:35) Ways to move trauma through the body and out through sensual movement, writing, rope bondage, sensory play, and self pleasure practices. (25:19) What does intuitive sensual movement or ecstatic dance do for someone? How does it benefit a practitioner? How can you be in your body and feel into your feelings? (27:18) Finding your own version of sexy, and bringing tantric work into the strip club. (32:26) Conscious stripping and femme-powered strip club Rosewood Theater in NYC. (37:35) Overcoming the stigmas around being a stripper. (42:03) Solo kink and channeling your inner domme and inner sub; self bondage and self pleasure practices. (43:28) Overcoming disassociating: What advice do you have for women who struggle with sensual embodiment? Feeling your feelings deeply and sitting with discomfort to heal trauma. (47:05) How can solo embodiment practices support your non monogamy journey? (51:12) Sex and energy transfer: protecting yourself from absorbing your partners' energy. (55:37) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 29 Feb 2024 | 060: NSFW Sex Club Founder Daniel Saynt on Creating a Sex Positive Community, Bi Male Acceptance, and Cannabis and Herbal Sexual Enhancements | 01:17:12 | |
In this episode Vee and Elle had special guest Daniel Saynt on the show: founder and Chief Conspirator of NSFW, AKA New Society for Wellness, which is an NYC-based sex club and community. Bisexuality: Daniel shares his journey as a bi male, and the difference between bi men and women. (2:37) Daniel shares what lead to the creation of NSFW, a sex positive community that is inclusive for all, especially bisexual and gay men with a focus on sex positivity education.(7:43)
Rejection: Daniel shares tips on using your no’s, how to set your own boundaries, and how to deliver and receive rejection. (13:40) The vibes when you arrive at NSFW. (17:32) What makes an inviting sexual play space for a sex club and the evolution of NSFW spaces and events. (19:57) Daniel descibes the new East Village location that is set to open March/April 2024. (24:24) Does Daniel get to enjoy himself when he is at the club? (28:30) Why does NSFW have an all black dress code? (31:44) Cannabis: Daniel discusses cannabis strains he has created that are paired with various medicinal herbs to enhance sexual experience. (34:06) Why the new East Village location will not serve alcohol; rather, it will have elixirs, tinctures and potions. (38:33) Vee dives into the sexual awakening that occurs when around likeminded people with various levels of experiences and we dive into some Daniel fantasies, dom/sub, producing fantasies for other people (41:58) The flow of the night at an NSFW party. (46:23) NSFW memberships. (48:52) NSFW’s own LOVER cryptocurrency, why it’s beneficial for them to use crypto for their sex community and simplifying purchasing and its use. (52:11) NSFW legal and funding questions answered. (56:09)
What’s happening with NSFW? ______________ Learn more about NSFW and apply here Purchase NSFW’s Eden Direct Cannabis Find Daniel @DanielSaynt on all social platforms Contact danielsaynt@gmail.com Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 07 Mar 2024 | 061: New High-End Sex Party Noetic: Fantasies, Strap-ons, Consent Double Standards and Hot Girl Privilege | 01:04:19 | |
Listen in as Elle and Vee chat with Amy and Byron about Noetic, an exclusive elite VIP sex party which hosts unique, kinky, themed events in NYC, Miami, and Dubai. They cover everything from strap-ons to consent double standards and hot girls privilege. What is the orientation of the attendees of these events? (4:04) How does allowing women to have complimentary membership impact the dynamic and ambiance of the parties? (5:46) What can one expect at Noetic event? (13:01) What types of performances are there at Noetic? (21:32) What is the importance of having a space to explore sexual desires? (24:02) Fantasies: worship fantasy, massage fantasy, heteroflexible gang bang, pregnancy fantasy. (26:54) What are the membership requirements and process? (33:17) Consent: the double standard between men and women, and the different weight it holds in ENM vs monogamous dating. (37:51) The difference between membership types: Basic, VIP and Prestige VIP. (44:21) How does Noetic enforce and protect anonymity and discretion of its elite members? (46:27) What is required of guests to attend an event or try Noetic before committing to a membership? (50:32) How do Burning Man and ENM overlap? (57:57) Using ENM and communication to grow. (59:14) Learn more about Noetic Here. Follow Noetic's Instagram. Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 14 Mar 2024 | 062: Sugar Daddy Fantasies, Orgasm Control, Foot Worship and Sex Dungeon Experiences | 00:59:07 | |
In today’s episode, Elle and Vee bring back two sexy friends to play WHOREible Life the game! With Leia, the way we played the game was by answering “Done It, Fantasy, No Thank you” and with Sasha, we had to guess if the person who drew the card had done it or not. Plan B use in college and IUDs. (2:28) Have you ever had a sugar daddy or sugar mommy and seeking.com discussed. (07:29) Orgasm control, edging, cumming on demand. (12:50) Impact play with a crop. (20:37) Dominatrix Masterclass details shared. (22:13) Been choked during sex, passing out, fingerprint marks, where pressure is applied and hand placement on the neck/chest. (28:06) Using WHOREibe Life the game for tips on chaturbate. (36:05) Massage with a happy ending and surprise rub and tug experience. (37:13) Received foot worship and toe sucking and double dom experience shared. (43:23) Sex dungeon experiences shared. (49:34) Not being a voyeur creep in the sex cub and double standard of women watching others. (55:32) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 21 Mar 2024 | 063: “Daytime Playtime” Sober Play Party: Penis Sound, Sensation Play, Cumming On Top, Apple Vision Pro Home Porn | 01:04:31 | |
Horny for Knowledge: Daytime Playtime Sober Play Party with Mini Workshops. (00:54) What is a daytime sober play party like? Analyzing the space and vibe: lighting, highlighting hit me up, attire, number of people. (4:54) What sobriety brings to a sex party. (7:21) Lola Jean: Spicing up the typical consent speech, including an interactive exercise. (9:31) Making eye contact at a sex party: it;s not necesssarily an invitation! (11:02) Embodiment, setting intentions, and setting boundaries workshop: giving permission to others with your actions, and how to have initial conversations with new people about boundaries and STI status. (13:47) Sarah Eve: sensation (sensory) play workshop, including tools, blindfolds, temperature play, breath and intensity. (20:28) Does kink always have to be sexual? (26:22) Penis sounding: Vee performs her first urethral sound! What is it, how do you do it, and what does it feel like? (33:10) All the dirty details: Sensation play on the hitachi wand chair, blocking out voyeurs to get out of your head to orgasm. (44:15) Cumming on top vs cumming on bottom. (49:54) Sex club etiquette: is it ok to cum on chests at a public play party? (53:39) Sex and technology: Apple vision pro’s capabilities for personal porn, and its limitations. (57:52) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 28 Mar 2024 | 064: SNCTM with Daniel D’Ottavio: Erotic Performance Art, Exploration Through Anonymity, and the Deeper Meaning Behind Impact Play | 00:49:42 | |
In this week's episode, Elle and Vee chat about all things SNCTM, the private members club that the girls have always wanted a peek inside. They cover the club, but also go super deep with their guest on the deeper meaning behind impact play, his love and adoration of his burlesque champion wife, and their artistic partnership. Monogamy and SNCTM: The choice to stay monogamous while working for a sex club, what your first sex club experience feels like, and learning about the consent culture. (5:27) Erotic storytelling: How telling stories through erotic arts lead Daniel and his wife to SNCTM, and how her creative direction helped create a femme-empowered, luscious environment. (9:41) What to expect at a SNCTM party: ambiance, service, clientele, privacy (including masks and NDA’s). (13:54) Accountability and communication: How have these experiences affected Daniel’s personal growth, and his relationship growth? (18:15) Types of performances at SNCTM: aerial, kink, and theatrical erotic artistry. (20:52) Kink workshops: Discovering kink and impact play, and evolving into an educator. (23:05) Catharsis and therapeutic benefits of impact play: The deeper meaning behind kinks and fetishes. (25:01) The importance of having spaces to explore sex, kink, fetish and fantasy. (31:36) How has SNCTM evolved since ownership changed in 2019? Consent rules, NDA’s, masks, one-strike policy, single women. (33:30) SNCTM: fever dreams and sexual fantasies, and the emphasis on having a female-empowered environment. (42:21) Nuggets from being part of the lifestyle community. (45:30) Websites: Instagram: Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 04 Apr 2024 | 065: Hedonism Swing Breakers 2024: Intentions and Takeaways, featuring Squirting, Day Orgies, Speculum "Caving" and Slut Scouts | 01:04:52 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee chat before and after Vee goes to Hedonism Swing Breakers: an under-45 swinger event at Hedonism II in Negril, Jamaica. It's a weeklong takeover of the resort, full of nudity, orgies, theme parties and debauchery! For more on Hedonism including FAQs and tips and tricks, check out: 014: HSB: Being Naked in Public, Prioritizing Your Partner, and Orgy Highlights 015: Going Deep with Julia Lange: the Woman Behind Hedonism Swing Breakers Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 11 Apr 2024 | 066: Guys Gone Deep on Prostate Play, Squirt Juice Facials, Spit Play and Latex Fetish feat. Zachary Zane and The Builder | 01:10:23 | |
In today’s episode, Elle and Vee bring back two male guest for a GUYS GONE DEEP edition to play WHOREible Life the game. First up, Zachary Zane @zacharyzane_ : Then, The Builder: from Episode 012: Guys Gone Deep: The Builder and M on Double Penetration, Short Men, and Friendships in the Lifestyle and mentioned in multiple other episodes! Fucking yourself in the ass as a way to warm yourself up and clean yourself out before a play night. (3:20) Squirt juice facials with a side of hot sweaty squirty sex. (9:24) Spitting on your partner and into their mouth. (16:01) For men, the balance of being forward yet also needing to read the room correctly. (19:45) Enthusiastic consent in straight play spaces versus opt-out consent in gay spaces. (22:42) Prostate play and how to have a prostate orgasm. (25:10) Leaking prostate juices and toys for prostate play: nJoy and anal hook discussed. (29:14) Airtight: the benefits of each position. (38:26) "Running a train". (44:19)
Experiences meeting people on ENM or swinger apps. (50:15) Working through catfishing and making real connections on dating apps. (54:48) Where do you meet dates, and what do you do dates with a unicorn or another couple? (59:59) Full head mask during sex and latex fetish experience. (1:03:03) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 18 Apr 2024 | 067: Overcoming Challenges and Exploring Dynamics in Ethical Non-Monogamy: Stag and Vixen, Playing Separately vs Together, and Alcohol's Effects | 00:47:18 | |
In this episode, Vee chats with two couples at Hedonism Swing Breakers about their tools and takeaways for making a vacation at an all-inclusive lifestyle resort a success. Superslut and The Turk chat about how therapy helped set them up for success, while Josie and Evan share how Evan cutting out alcohol changed their relationship for the better. Additionally, they cover: What are some communication techniques to mitigate the effects of the free-flowing alcohol? Why keep doing it if it's so much work? ...And what are some hot experiences they've had along the way? Spicy story: being a couple's first ENM experience. Enthusiastic consent. (20:01) Stag and Vixen: what is it? Why a woman might not enjoy watching her partner with someone else. Finding your dynamic through trial and error. Why Hedonism is not the ideal place to figure out what works for you. (22:50) Why swing? Dressing sexy for your partner. Vaginal hook harnesses. (35:49)
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| 25 Apr 2024 | 068: Sensation Play with Sarah Eve: TENS and Electroplay, “Pervertables”, and Getting Out of Your Head and Into Your Body | 00:54:11 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Sarah Eve about sensation play, including everything from the tools to use, to what questions to ask before a session, to safety considerations (especially when using electroplay), and so much more. What’s in your bag of tools for sensation play? (12:58) Things to consider: intensity, pressure, speed, direction and location. (18:10) Setting and negotiating the scene to deliver a great experience: the right questions to ask before engaging in a sensory play scene. (20:50) TENS unit play and electro play - what to ask beforehand, insertables, using condoms and safety. (23:47) What can you do when you don’t have tools at your disposal? Using your mouth: breath, spit, temperature, teeth. (30:17) Thoughts on numbing or intensifying creams? (39:00) How long is a good amount of time for a sensation play session? (44:09) Pain play and floggers. (47:52) What does sensation play do for couples? De-centering penetrative sex. (49:40) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 02 May 2024 | 069: Oral Part 1: Our Favorite Techniques for Giving Head and Eating Out, Uncircumcised Blow Jobs and Power Dynamics | 00:53:10 | |
It's the oral extravaganza! Vee and Elle chat about all things oral: blow jobs, eating out and all the good and bad along with it. Enthusiasm - our number one tip! The importance of moaning to show enthusiasm when receiving. (6:37) Techniques for giving head: the corkscrew method; communication; ball sucking and licking. (9:49) Getting comfortable! The best positions to give head and go down on someone. (15:08) Techniques for licking pussy (cunnilingus, going down on someone, etc): make out with the clit; build gradual pressure. (19:10) Eating out: flicking vs sucking the clit; fingering in conjunction with clit play; in and out vs come hither. (22:34) Tongue fucking. (25:44) How do you stop someone if you don’t like what they’re doing? How to be comfortable sitting on someone’s face, and why you might not want really good head in a play situation. (27:21) Eye contact during oral: yay or nay? (36:03) What should we stop doing? What makes oral bad? Teeth, smell and bad hygiene, and the importance of tasting your own cum. (40:24) How to give head (fellatio, blow jobs) to uncircumcised dicks. What do you do with the foreskin? (45:09) Power dynamics of oral sex: who’s in charge? Face fucking. (47:38) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 09 May 2024 | 070: Oral Part 2: Gag Reflex Tips, Orgy Oral Positions, Spitting vs Swallowing, and the Importance of Grooming | 00:57:33 | |
This week, the girls continue their chat about all things ORAL. Tips for helping with gag reflex. (4:56) Imbalance of giving head vs eating pussy. (10:14) Challenges and hangups with oral. (12:45) Best oral positions in group sex. (17:03) Grooming and hygiene. (21:03) Cum: spit or swallow? (27:17) Cum: where to finish, and how to communicate about it. (29:42) Ask Dr. Elle:
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| 16 May 2024 | 071: Sexologist Alexa Andre on The Secret to Relaxing While Receiving Oral, “One Penis Policy”, Biphobia and How to Navigate When One Partner is Less Experienced in Ethical Non Monogamy | 00:48:41 | |
This week, Vee and Elle discuss a range of topics with sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa), a sex therapist and host of the podcast In Bed with Alexa. They cover everything from new couples exploring ethical non-monogamy, to being able to relax into receiving oral (especially as a vulva owner), to navigating bisexuality, and so much more, including: Vulva owners reciving oral: tasting yourself so you’re not worried about how you taste or smell, and the benefit of having a partner who loves natural body odors. (17:07) Alexa’s secret to relaxing when receiving oral: setting time boundaries! How long do you think it actually takes you to orgasm? Getting over guilt for taking “too long” to orgasm while receiving. (22:49) Bisexuality and biphobia. How does biphobia show up in non-monogamous spaces? What is “one penis policy”, and how a male partner dictating that their female partner can be with other women but not other men is problematic. The stigma of male-on-male play in swinger spaces and sex parties. (30:11) The stigma of male-on-male play in swinger spaces and sex parties. Normalizing speaking about bisexuality, especially in men. Watching your male partner give head and deep throating. (34:29)
Alexa’s specialties, and the full range of volume in sex - letting go vocally when coming vs holding your breath and being totally silent. (39:20)
Is it weird to announce it when you orgasm? (41:44)
“Challenge your beliefs and question everything.” What do YOU actually want? The path to a greater sex life. (43:42) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 23 May 2024 | 072: Guys Gone Deep on Age Play, Spreader Bars, Collaring, Prince Albert Piercings and Glory Holes with Daniel D'Ottavio and M | 00:44:29 | |
In today’s episode, Elle and Vee bring back repeat guest M (from Episode 5: Compersion, Episode 12: DP, Episode 34: How to Squirt) and Daniel D'Ottavio (@dottavio77) from Episode 64: SNCTM to play the game WHOREible Life together! This conversation perfectly displays how WHOREible Life the game facilitates a little bit of the naughty chat with a little bit of the DEEP!
1 Done it — share the story! 2 Fantasy — share your fantasy of this card! 3 No thank you - and why you're not interested in this act. Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 30 May 2024 | 073: Owning and Loving What You Do with Kate Maxx featuring Humiliatrix Work, Stripping, and OnlyFans Content Creation | 00:56:07 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Kate Maxx, who is a "Jill of all trades": a former Naked News anchor, model, Young Swingers Week emcee (among other events), stripper, Only Fans content creator, and dominatrix specializing in humiliation. They go deep on all these topics. Additionally, they cover the importance of separating your work and personal life as a sex worker, and the shifts in perspective when you're a young widow. Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 06 Jun 2024 | 074: Sex Educator and Pro Domme Lola Jean on Fetish Wrestling, Choking Methods and Squirting Misconceptions (aka Why Squirting Sucks) | 00:49:50 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Lola Jean (@lolajeandotcom) about her work as a sex educator. She's known for holding the World Record for Highest Volume Squirted, but this conversation steers away from that (after first touching on why squirting can be annoying) and dives into her work as a fetish wrestler (aka "play fighting" using jiu jitsu moves). How did Lola Jean get to where she is as a sex educator, squirting icon and fetish wrestler? (6:58) Squirting: how does it feel to be known as a squirter? Fetishizing and red flags. What should we know about squirting? When trying to do it, figure out WHY you’re trying to do it. Who is it for? (17:30) Broad vs specific response squirting. (22:04) Fetish Wrestling: Different types of choking (Fantasy Choke, Blood Choke, Air Choke). (29:51)
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| 13 Jun 2024 | Episode 075: Sexologist Bridget Scholes on Connected Pleasure, Mismatched Libidos, Spontaneous vs Responsive Desire, and Piss Play | 01:11:20 | |
Elle and Vee chat with Bridget Scholes (@bridgetscholessexology) who is a sexologist in Australia. She also owns her on dildo sex company, Madame Dahlia (@madame.dahlia). Being sexually attracted to others while married. (2:03) Healthy sex life in marriage and now divorced. (8:14) Using the lifestyle app Feeld to meet partners and always saying yes. (11:43) Sex club tips and lessons learned. (14:31) Going to sex clubs alone vs with a partner. (18:28) ENM nuggets: fostering communication, honesty and self reflection. (23:35) If a previously discussed boundary feels right in the moment, should you push it? (26:40) Common issues brought up in couples relationship therapy: reigniting desire in a longterm relationship, and the misconception of mismatched libidos. (28:13) How do partners with mismatched libidos navigate a conversation to get on the same page? (31:29) Pleasure languages, spontaneous vs responsive desire... or in other words, an Ellle vs a Vee. (34:07) Books that have helped on a personal sexual level and journey into non monogamy: Polysecure, Come As You Are, Mating in Captivity and other self help books. (36:46) Seducing yourself: Madame Dahlia dildo company, connected pleasure vs vibrator play. (40:45) Ebbs and flows of sex and how to get out of your head. (45:04) How to foster desire: sensual and simple pleasures. (48:58) Using social media to look at erotic art. (53:50) How male orgasms differ physiologically from female orgasms. (57:12) Kink: turned on by pee play / piss play. (59:49) Letting go of the messiness of sex, and dissociation from masturbation. (1:02:18) Website: bridgetscholessexology.com.au Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 20 Jun 2024 | 076: Rape Fantasies (Consensual Non-Consent aka CNC), Parenting Sex Positivity and "The Sex Talk", Double Ended Dildos, and Masturbation feat. Slutlana and Alexa Andre | 00:57:58 | |
In today’s episode, Elle and Vee bring back repeat guest Slutlana (from Episode 31: Opening Your Marriage, Throuples, and Falling In Love With Someone Besides Your Husband) and Alexa Andre (from Episode 71: Relaxing While Receiving Oral, One Penis Policy, and Biphobia) to play the game Whoreible Life. This conversation perfectly displays how WHOREible Life the game facilitates a little bit of the naughty chat with a little bit of the DEEP!
1 Done it — share the story! 2 Fantasy — share your fantasy of this card! 3 No thank you - and why you're not interested in this act. Have you ever had sex in your parents’ bed? How “the talk” and your parents’ approach to sex can affect your early relationship with sexuality. (3:13) Have you ever role played in a rape fantasy or “Consensual Non Consent” (CNC) scene? Describing examples of CNC scenes, role playing, safe words and what needs to be discussed and agreed beforehand. (13:30) Would you rather use a double ended dildo or make a girl squirt? Being surprised by a squirter. Glass vs silicone double ended dildos, and the first time orgasming with a double ended dildo - what position works best. (38:27) Would you rather practice tantric sex or role play as submissive? Masturbating and focusing on the breath; breath orgasms without physical touch. (45:40) Would you rather watch VR porn or be dominated to lose the right to orgasm? Orgasm denial, being a brat, and Reddit porn communities. (50:45) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 27 Jun 2024 | 077: Pro Domme and Professional Cuddler Bee on Therapeutic Kink, Daddy Dom Little Girl (DDLG) Dynamics, Yoni Gazing and Squirting Upside Down feat. Physics | 01:01:16 | |
In this episode, Vee and Elle chat with professional cuddler and dominatrix Bee, who is also the co-founder of Temple in Chicago, a shibari and aerial performer, and the partner of previous repeat guest Physics (Episode 45: Yoni Massage vs Squirting, Episode 46: BDSM, DDLG and Shibari). In this wide-ranging conversation, the four of them touch on everything from DDLG dynamics to overcoming vulva shame through yoni gazing.
Professional cuddling: platonic touch therapy. The importance of touch. What does a cuddling session entail? How can a professional cuddler maintain safety? (21:08) Therapeutic Kink as a mode of healing and helping others work through trauma through professional domming. Do all clients have something to work through? (31:08) DDLG (Daddy Dom Little Girl) Dynamics: how being a “little” allows Bee to be in her dominant energy during the day. (39:11) Switchy Domme: Power dynamics and differentiating between personal pleasure practices and experiences vs. work experiences. (43:16) Shibari: what does it do for the people practicing it? Showmanship with suspension combined with aerial skills and squirting. How to prep for squirting: regular hydration! (46:09)
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| 04 Jul 2024 | 078: BABY JOY IS HERE! Elle's Birth Story feat. Postpartum Sex, Sex to Induce Labor, and Breast Milk Play | 00:48:36 | |
Elle had her baby! In this episode, she shares all the intimate details about how she and her husband, M, used natural sexual tactics to induce labor, and how they got back to being sexual after six weeks of healing. What is labor pain like? Comparing contractions to DVP, speculum spreading, fisting, anal discomfort: breathing through discomfort, and thinking of words as spells. (11:04) Post-baby vagina: "the husband stitch", and does it look different? Is it loose? (17:31) Postpartum sex: how long does it take to get back to sex after having a baby? Getting over the fear of having an orgasm. How to get comfortable with penetration again. The first orgasm after six weeks of vaginal healing. (20:43) Scheduling sex when you have a newborn. (28:09) Breast milk play: Breastfeeding and nipple play. Tasting breast milk and squirting it during blow jobs. (28:41) Being in the open lifestyle and parenthood: confidence issues with postpartum body. Diving back into sex parties and ENM (ethical non-monogamy) after having a child. (35:40) Maintaining your sex life with a baby around. How having a short timeline can be hot! (38:34) Major takeaways from giving birth and getting back to sex: Prioritizing sex to reignite sexuality in your relationship postpartum. Falling in love with your partner again. (42:01) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 11 Jul 2024 | 079: Working Through Personal Challenges in ENM: Ebbs and Flows in Libido, Breakups and Changing Dynamics in Your Polycule, and Oversaturation | 01:00:26 | |
In this episode, Elle catches up with Vee on everything she's been up to over the past few months while she's been gone on maternity leave. Vee shares her takeaways from various sex parties and the personal challenges she's been working through that have made getting sexual more challenging than usual. Overthinking and using labels as a crutch: demisexuality. (1:57) Trying to get sexy when you have a lot of stress in your life. (10:39) Sex party takeaways: Squirting in public. Balancing and communicating with your partner, and using orgasms as stress relief. (13:16) Don’t take anything personally: you never know what’s going on for someone in their own head and life. (20:19) Likening sex parties to restaurants. If you’re not in the mood to participate, how can you leave the night feeling fulfilled and successful? (23:45) Thinking for two at a sex party: how can you meet in the middle as a couple so that you’re both satisfied? Being a wingwoman/wingman for your partner so that you’re both fulfilled by the experience. (28:46) Turning the conversation sexual: Getting turned on by talking about fantasies. (32:06) Rooftop sex story: being attracted to androgyny. Getting out of your head and acting on instincts. (36:00) Oversaturation with sex parties leading to numbness. (41:41) How to work through the feelings when the dynamics change in your polycule. When solo female unicorns leave the lifestyle when they find a monogamous partner. (45:31) Setting intentions for upcoming events. (57:20) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 18 Jul 2024 | 080: Face Riding, Face Slapping, Glass Dildo Tips, Giving Handjobs and Spicy Food Mishaps feat. Kate Maxx and Bridget Scholes | 00:45:01 | |
In today’s episode, Elle and Vee bring back two guests to play WHOREible Life (@wlthegame), the game of have you ever all things sex and kink! The first guest is Kate Maxx from (from Episode 73: Owning and Loving What You Do with Kate Maxx featuring Humiliatrix Work, Stripping, and OnlyFans Content Creation Our second guest is Bridget Scholes (@bridgetscholessexology) from Episode 75: Sexologist Bridget Scholes on Connected Pleasure, Mismatched Libidos, Spontaneous vs Responsive Desire, and Piss Play Bridget is a sexologist in Australia. She also owns her on dildo sex company, Madame Dahlia (@madame.dahlia) and host of Sexploration with Bridget Scholes Podcast. With both guests, we play the game WHOREible Life by choosing two cards and asking which Would you rather…. This conversation perfectly displays how WHOREible Life the game facilitates a little bit of the naughty chat with a little bit of the DEEP! WL cards: Would you rather orgasm from spanking or other impact play or make someone squirt (1:11) WL cards: Would you rather roleplay as puppy or cat OR be bound and restricted as a rope bunny (5:11) Underwater shibari with Markus Leather (5:55) WL cards: Wear a spreader bar OR have someone ride your face (11:06) Ways to insert yourself into an orgy (14:32) All girl orgy, how female play changes when men are not watching, the skirt club a space for bi-curious and bisexual women (16:38) WL cards: Practice tantric sex OR receive foot worship, foot licking or toe sucking (21:50) Tantric sex and how to do energetic breathing alone or with your partner to increase sexual energy (23:05) WL cards: be fucked by someone else with a strap on OR slap someone in the face with an open hand (27:41) Using glass dildos from temperature to the pressure and hardness to massaging to penetration (32:20) WL cards: Have sex on a beach or post a personal porn video for public viewing (35:21) Giving handjobs (37:10) Sex on a beach (39:56) Chili, pepper spray and jalapeños sex mishaps (42:12) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 25 Jul 2024 | 081: Maintaining a Long-Distance Relationship, Creating a Sexy Environment in Temporary Spaces, and How to Pick Up a Vanilla Feat. Lolo and B | 01:11:25 | |
In this conversation, Elle and Vee chat with couple B and Lolo to discuss their long-distance relationship and how they practice non monogamy. They share how they navigate being apart and how they keep their relationship hot and exciting. The conversation touches on topics such as playing separately, sharing sexy content, phone and video sex, the importance of creating the right atmosphere for sexual experiences, and their successful approach to meeting new people and introducing 'vanillas' into the lifestyle. _________________________ Maintaining a Long-Distance Relationship requires effort and communication, and the story of how Lolo and B met. (01:27) How they explored the non monogamous lifestyle together, B had no experience and Lolo tried with her ex-husband. (7:19) How they practice non monogamy in their long distance relationship. (15:17) How to keep it hot while being long distance: sexy content and FaceTime sex. (18:20) Orgasms: Frustration losing an orgasm, breathing through the orgasms or holding your breath. (22:10) Creating a sexy environment in temporary spaces like hotels or airbnbs: the role of low lighting and color temperature with amber-hued incandescent light bulbs, led light strips. (28:40) Preventing messes with waterproof fitted sheets, furniture placement and other essentials. (34:49) Music recommendations: Create a party-like atmosphere without being distracting is ideal for setting the mood. (38:53) Hedonism Jamaica Story Share: Naked, covered in squirt juice and room temperature to get naked plus how B and LoLo met Elle. (41:50) Enthusiastic consent and how it's importance in meeting new people, the power of open and honest communication. (46:48) Successful Sport Fishing: How they pick up 'Vanillas’ (non monogamous people) for threesomes or foursomes, while out at a bar. Creating a safe space for exploration. (51:56)
Their foundation for a successful journey their relationship, through ENM, and being long distance: No Secrets, No Lies: Everything Else is a Conversation. (1:02:18) Navigating jealousy and conflict requires self-reflection, non reactivity in the moment and effective communication. (1:04:22) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 01 Aug 2024 | 082: Sex Party Etiquette and Tips from Experienced Sluts: Avoiding Common Assumptions, Establishing Connections, and Being Sexually Forward feat. Jess | 00:58:50 | |
There are plenty of podcasts that talk about do’s and dont’s at a sex parties. This episode goes deeper. Joining Elle and Vee chat in this discussion is returning guest Jess from Episode 58: “Help! My Ass Swallowed my Butt Plug!”, Golden Shower Pee Play, Fisting, and Staying Focused in Group Play and Episode 37: Edging: The Advantages of Withholding Orgasm, Electro Play and Spanking Episode Breakdown Intro and The Need for this Discussion from the More Experienced Perspective on Sex Parties. (00:35) DON’T yuck someone else's yum. Be open minded for to other’s desires and kinks. "What about that turns you on?" (04:51) Tips for Making More Connections at Parties. (09:33) DO Attend Sex Parties with other friends: How many is too many? What’s the right amount of people to ensure fun while still branching away to meet new people? (11:01) DON’T Set Expectations, rather, DO Set Personal Goals. (13:44) DO Create an Immersive Environment by Putting in Effort in Dressing Up for the Theme. (16:31) DO Be Sexually Forward with Clear Communication and Honesty (20:08) DON’T Take Anything Personally, and how not to lead People On. (26:45) DO Ask “What Are Your Intentions For The Night?” To Uncover Compatibility. (30:43) DON’T Assume It’s Free for All: Interactions Between Other People Does Not Mean It Also Applies To You. (32:24) DO Use Your Words and Tell Others When You Feel Uncomfortable, otherwise, you’re a part of the problem. (37:52) DO Pack Your Slutbag, Organization Tips, Bringing Your Own Sex Toys, Toy Condoms. (46:42) DON’T get too fucked up: Substances and Moderation. (48:54) DON’T STINK! Preparation and Hygiene. (52:45) DO Flirt Early, Arrive Early. (55:59) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 08 Aug 2024 | 083: Dildos and Fleshlights, Pregnant Sex Positions, First Times, and Formative Sexual Experiences feat. Brandi | 00:40:59 | |
In this episode, the girls bring back Brandi from Episode 047: Fulfilling Fantasies: Exploring Kinks and BDSM, the DC Fetish Ball, Sex Therapy and Hiring a Pro Dominatrix. Sex Positions While Pregnant: which positions create a boy and which create a girl, and why laying on your back doesn’t work while pregnant. (2:15) Card 1: Had sex before the age of 15? First time stories. (9:41) What is considered “full on sex” or “fourth base” with a female? (15:29) Formative sexual oral experiences as precursors to the lifestyle. (18:07) Card 2: Used a fleshlight. What is a fleshlight? Other toy options for penis owners. (23:01) Card 3: Own 3 or more dildos. Sex toy closets and favorite sex toys. (30:41) Dildos vs. vibrators, and when and why would you use each? Frozen glass dildo to relieve pussy pain. (33:57) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 15 Aug 2024 | 084: Solo Travel and Vacation Horniness: Hot Hookups, Nipple and Anal Play, and “Selling Someone” on Open Relationships and Sex Toys … PLUS Listener Questions: Sex Party Newbies and Men’s Body Hair | 00:53:43 | |
In this episode, Vee and Elle catch up on Vee’s solo trip to Thailand and Vietnam. Vee has some major sexual takeaways and "aha moments" going on vacation with no sex in sight... until the last day of her trip when she met Mr. Bangkok. Hear her play by play and so much more, including: Solo Travel: not knowing when you’re going to have sex next, and where are all the sex clubs in Thailand?! (1:57) Hot Hookup: Vee has a sexy one night stand in Bangkok after 8 hours of foreplay in the back of a bus! The sexiness of meeting in a non-sexual environment. (6:54) NIPPLE PLAY: Vee almost has a nipple orgasm. Techniques of nipple play. The beauty of having an experience with someone who can’t get enough of you no matter what you look or smell like. (15:35) ANAL PLAY: enthusiasm and ravenousness. (23:38) Hooking up with Monogamous, Macho Men: how to approach the “open relationship” conversation with a vanilla hookup. Unlearning ingrained societal norms. Toys in the bedroom. (26:01) Relaxation plus vacation equals maximum horniness! (30:49) Listener Questions, Answered! How to Find Your Lifestyle Community (especially when you live in less progressive areas): Kasidie, Feeld, SDC, SLS, Fetlife, hotel takeovers, Luxx Parties, etc. and the benefits of each option. (33:44) Dipping Your Toes Into Sex Parties and Kink for the First Time: go to meetups and mixers rather than the full blown sex parties. Go early to sex parties for the ice breaker games and making connections while it’s less crowded! (42:12) Men’s Body Hair: what’s popular these days, and what’s appropriate? If you take nothing else away from this: Shave your balls and asshole. (48:58) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 22 Aug 2024 | 085: Getting Weird with Your Slutty Friends: “Baptism by Pee”, Putting Objects in Your Vagina, Sexual Alter Egos, All-Girl Play (FFF Threesomes and more), and Comparing The Best Strap-ons | 00:40:19 | |
In this episode, the girls chat with Mommy (Episode 018: Female Friendships in ENM) and play WHOREible Life, their favorite game to break down barriers and get naughty AND deep! They touch on everything from being called Mommy during sex, to stretching fetishes and putting food in vaginas, to bisexuality and all-female orgies! Growth: seizing the moment rather than getting in your head and not taking advantage of sexy opportunities. (1:59) -Would you rather role play as a teacher or be called mommy during sex? (7:52) -Would you rather have peanut butter licked off your genitals or be peed on? (12:35) Whats Up Down There? The weird things people put in their vaginas, and what’s the weirdest thing you’ve had in your vagina or put into a vagina? (14:51) Pee Play: Peeing on people, first Tinder dates with pee fetishists, Baptism by pee. When you’re new to the lifestyle and go on a date with someone who’s super kinky. (19:15) Watersports and Vee pushing her boundaries by sitting in pee in bathtubs and in resort pools. (22:50) -Would you rather have a same sex threesome or give another bruises from impact play? (26:08) All girl play and bisexuality on a spectrum. Sometimes you crave female energy, and sometimes you crave a dick! (30:00) Comparing Elle and Mommy’s favorite strap ons: Oxyd Creations and Strap-On-Me. (34:09) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 29 Aug 2024 | 086: “House Of Love” Sex Party Takeaways: Tips to Get Horny and Hard, Cream Pies, and How To Feel Confident in Your Post-Baby Body ... PLUS the Best Books for Dealing with Jealousy! | 00:50:00 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee catch up and discuss their takeaways from two sex party events their friend group (the Joy Fam) threw, including recapping sexy stories, "a-ha" moments and reflections. House of Love club night takeaways: Vee’s birthday celebration, and Elle’s first big night out since having a baby! Getting over new mom nervousness with costumes: How themes get you into the sexy mood - especially animal theme :) (3:56) How to feel confident while carrying baby weight: MILK PLAY! Break the touch barrier by using breast milk play as an ice breaker? (5:56) Sexy Story with The Greek: what makes a good single male in the lifestyle? Wolf energy. (11:11) Feeling overwhelmed at a sex party when you’re the guest of honor, taking a backseat but staying involved. (18:27) Joyunion: sex friends getting together with babies - it’s different but the same! (20:46) TIP: how to get sexual if you’re not sure if you’re horny. Getting turned on by hearing another woman orgasming. (23:27) Sexy story: Pushing past your own limits. Elle orgasms twice when she thinks she can only do it once. (27:13) CREAM PIE STORY: Trying to do TVP (triple vaginal penetration), DVP (double vaginal penetration) and cream pies. (29:33) TIP: take 5 minutes away from the overstimulation of the party to let your body relax and your dick to get hard. (31:46) TAKEAWAY: The problem with peeing in the middle of the orgy. (34:26) TAKEAWAY: The best orgy snack, and issues with dry mouth. (37:00) Being a mom in an orgy and getting distracted during play. How to re-center yourself and focus on your body and sensations. (39:36) Listener question: Our book recommendations for jealousy! (43:34) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 05 Sep 2024 | 087: Orgasmic States: Full Body Orgasms, Becoming Orgasmic, and Energetic Release through Tantra with Intimacy Coach Magda Kay | 01:10:56 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee dive deep with School of Intimacy founder, intimacy coach, and author of No More Faking It, Magda Kay. This episode is FULL of "nuggets", touching on everything from tantra to energy centers to how to up the intimacy in your relationship to why it might be better to practice tantra with someone other than your primary partner. You don't want to miss this one! Why tantra and intimacy coaching? Becoming orgasmic: orgasming with yourself and unlocking the ability to orgasm with others. The pussy as an energy hub: taking on sexual partners’ trauma. What is a full body orgasm, and how do we know if we’ve had one? Orgasmic states and self mastery through tantra. Releasing through tantric sex, and who should you practice with? Crying during sex, and holding space for your partner’s release. How to find the right practitioner for a yoni or lingum massage. Listener Question: “How can I get my wife’s spark back in the bedroom?” Listener Question: “What’s a quick guide on tantric breathing?” Intimacy Block: The ability to let go with people you don’t know or care about as much. Looking at sex as something more than just the physical experience. School of Intimacy: providing the foundation for better sex, relationship and tantric education. Can you practice tantra with the same sex, when traditionally it's all about the yin and yang of the masculine and feminine energies? Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 12 Sep 2024 | 088: Inside the Mind of a Submissive: A Deep Dive into Dom/Sub Dynamics, Intimate Breakdown of BDSM Scenes and Punishments Feat. Summer | 00:56:01 | |
In this conversation, Elle and Vee chat with Summer (FetLife: DaddysPrettyToy ) about her journey through a BDSM Dom/Sub relationship. She shares her experiences as a trained submissive, highlighting the positive aspects of her BDSM journey and the transformative power of a healthy Dom/Sub dynamic. Listen in for a detailed play-by-play of her scenes, insights into her daily tasks, and the reasons and methods behind her punishments.
A Day in the Life of a D/s Relationship: Sessions and Communication: Details of a typical day in her Dom/Sub relationship, including the dynamics of their sessions and the importance of clear communication. (11:43) A Day in the Life of a Trained Sub: 8-10 Hour Sessions and Rules (13:12) A Sexy Wax Play Scene: Building Trust, Aftercare, and Debriefing: Summer describes a wax play scene, the questions that were asked to build trust, why the scene was suddenly stopped, and the aftercare and debriefing discussion. (15:52) Characteristics of a Good Dom and How It Can Be a Gift to a Sub. (19:09) The Misuse of the Term 'Dom'. (20:17) Shibari Rope Scene Play by Play: Summer compares the differences between her two Doms, the sexual skills she learned, and details a scene involving being frog-tied with shibari rope and using a TENS unit. (22:49) Being a Good Dom Means being a Good Sub: Summer explains where her two dominants learned their skills. Exploring how BDSM practices push personal limits and how these experiences can translate into real-world scenarios. (31:00)
Punishments as a Sub: What Happens When You’re a Brat; A look at the various types of punishments a submissive might encounter, whether they enjoy them or not, and what happened when Summer was a "brat." (35:53) People-Pleasing, Struggling to Say No, and Asking for Permission to See Other Men (40:21) Ending a Sub/Dom Relationship for a Vanilla Relationship (44:20) Finding the Right Dom for You: A play-by-play of how Summer met her Dom on FetLife, along with tips and questions you can use to find the right Dom for yourself. (46:20) Insights into how her Dom helped with her personal wellness and growth. (49:15)
Be intentional with your desires and sexual awakening. Tips to Be Safe when exploring BDSM. (54:00) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 19 Sep 2024 | 089: Unicorning in ENM: Navigating Couples’ Dynamics, Self Awareness, Communication and Safety feat. Summer | 01:06:39 | |
Elle and Vee have Summer back for an encore episode after she shared her experiences as a trained submissive under two doms in Episode 088: Inside the Mind of a Sub. This time, she discusses her experiences and the lessons she's learned from being a unicorn for an array of couples with lots of different dynamics, and the girls put in their two cents from their own experiences. Navigating couples’ dynamics as a unicorn and establishing your boundaries. Why you should keep texting in the group chat. (9:12) Deferring to the wife/girlfriend, and holding their feelings in high regard. Feeling thankful for being invited in. (16:07) As a husband/wife or girlfriend/boyfriend: the benefits of playing separately as a unicorn. (22:20) Playing with a couple when you’re more attracted to one person than the other. (27:01) BDSM vs ENM: rough sex vs vanilla sex. (32:30) Questions to ask as the couple, and as the unicorn, before playing. (34:23) Best threesome positions. (42:50) Meeting couples on apps. Overcoming past experiences and being a couples’ first. (46:42) Listener question: tips to stay safe when meeting new people as a single unicorn. (49:59) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 26 Sep 2024 | 090: How to Have Good Strap On Sex, Pubic Hair Do’s and Don’ts, Primal Play and What is Possessive Touch? feat. Lola Jean and Lolo and B | 00:50:24 | |
This week, Elle and Vee bring back Lolo and B from Episode 081: Long Distance ENM and Creating Sexy Spaces, and Lola Jean from Episode 074: Fetish Wrestling, Choking and Squirting Misconceptions to play WHOREible Life, a card game all about breaking down barriers and getting naughty AND deep! Have You Ever: Paid for sex? What is the appeal behind role playing as an escort? (15:18) Would you Rather: Use a ball gag or receive a rim job? (21:30) Pubic Hair do’s and don’ts! (22:59) Would you Rather: Be the focus of a gang bang with 4 or more or be in an orgy with 8 or more people? (29:44) Different types of gang bangs? (32:14)
Would you rather: Give impact play with a flogger, or give or receive bite marks? (36:54) What is possessive touch? How to feel desired without messing with labels and power sub/dom dynamics. (38:33) Would you Rather: Go to a daytime orgy aka ‘dorgy’ or masturbate together next to your partner? (43:32) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 03 Oct 2024 | 091: Jealousy in Non-Monogamy: Diving Deeper, Understanding It, How to Manage It and Co-Creating With Your Partner with Kathy Labriola | 01:18:42 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with author Kathy Labriola, who has written 4 books on polyamory, including a life-changer for Vee: The Jealousy Workbook. What inspired The Jealousy Workbook? (3:18) Doing the internal work to overcome jealousy: understanding your attachment style and how it affects your level of jealousy in different relationships. (49:06) Find Kathy: Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 10 Oct 2024 | 092: Redefining Paid Companionship and Intimacy, The Future of Sex Work, Breaking the Stigma and Revolutionizing Connection with Choice CEO Arik Bruckner | 01:17:41 | |
In this conversation, Elle, Vee, and Arik Bruckner discuss the concept of paid companionship and its implications in society when approached in a serious, professional, safe, consensual and ethical way. Arik is the co-founder and CEO of Choice, a pioneering global online booking platform for paid companionship and intimacy. This online booking platform is revolutionizing the paid companionship industry, extending beyond sex by offering a solution to loneliness and prioritizing safety. In this chat, Arik shares insights into the origins of the Choice platform, the importance of destigmatizing paid companionship, and the various services offered. The conversation highlights the legal concerns, potential for education and understanding in reshaping perceptions around sex, intimacy and companionship. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Paid Companionship and Escort Sex Work 02:51 The Concept of Choice and Its Origins. Breaking the preconceived notions of paid companionship from sex work to non sexual activities. 07:28 Understanding the Market and Destigmatization and interview result Revealed from 700 sex workers across Europe, Canada, Australia and the US. 09:35 Safety and Legal Aspects 12:39 The Spectrum of Companionship Across Different Demographics. 18:00 The 250+ options services offered and growing and how it depends on the jurisdiction of where the services are offered. 20:08 What is a male wing person experience? It is requested often by women or groups of women or having a date to corporate event 23:31 How Choice verifies users, survey responses revealed from female customers to male customers and the feedback process to access user experience 26:40 The behavioral guidelines and required questionnaire for both parties after each event 25:26 A walk through of the user experience of Choice and why Choice doesn’t use user ratings 30:00 How Choice prioritizes safety through their verification process and using escrow account 32:34 The Legal concerns, Challenges and Misconceptions in the Industry 36:00 Stigmas and stereotypes to overcome, consent, authenticity and how paid companionship can compliment lifestyles 44:26 Sex Work Union Opinions, Policy issues around Legalized Sex Work and HowPaid Companionship differ in Various countries New Zealand, Amsterdam, Switzerland, Nordic areas 56:33 Sexual Surrogacy and Using Choice as a way to get real life education sexually as opposed to the current model of learning from prom aka sexual entertainment 01:03:21 Providers profiles have levels which indicate verification steps 01:07:45 Misconceptions Arik had about this industry, privacy concerns, and how he adjusted the platform based on surveys and feedback Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 17 Oct 2024 | 093: Evolving Agreements and Self Growth in Open Relationships: Falling in Love with Your Best Friend’s Partner, Knowing When To Move On and “Decoupling” feat. CJ and Lana | 01:05:45 | |
In this episode, Vee and Elle chat with Slutlana (031: Opening Your Marriage, Throuples, and Falling In Love With Someone Besides Your Husband) and CJ about what might stereotypically be one of the biggest fears in the non-monogamous community: falling in love with secondary partners and decoupling with your primary. How can this happen? How do you move on? How do you evolve for your next relationship? They touch on all of these topics and more in this juicy, deep episode! Fear of Loss: Falling in love with your best friend’s partner. (1:42) When do you know if it’s not working anymore, and that it’s time to move on? (11:06) Healthy reasons and ways to be ethically non monogamous. (14:49) Self growth and how it shows up in relationships. (19:31) Approaching a new relationship differently. Asking for what you want and using your own self knowledge to communicate better with your partner. (30:26) Human Design and Attachment Styles: how knowing yours can benefit communication in a relationship. (45:35) Evolving Agreements in Non Monogamy: adapting to needs throughout your relationships, from exclusive to soft swapping to same room to open etc. (51:38) Learning Moments: don’t assume. Talk about it and move on, don’t hold resentments. (52:56) Last (sexual) Nuggets: Role playing spiciness! (59:50) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 24 Oct 2024 | 094: Intrinsic Courage vs Liquid Courage: How Much Do We Depend on Booze in Sex and Dating? Sexual Liberation Without Alcohol feat. Tawny Lara | 01:01:59 | |
In this episode, Vee and Elle chat all things sober sex with Tawny Lara! She is the author of Dry Humping: A Guide to Dating, Relating, and Hooking Up Without the Booze and co-author of The Sobriety Deck, co-host of the Recovery Rocks podcast, and co-founder of the NA botanical spirit, (parentheses). Sober Curious: Does less alcohol lead to more creativity? Get curious about your relationship with alcohol. (4:49) Dating Yourself: The importance of working on the self in any relationship. (11:05) The Physiology Behind Alcohol in the Body: you can’t selectively numb. If you’re numbing anxiety, you’re also numbing the pleasure centers! (20:00) Sober-Friendly Date Ideas: DO something! Experiential dates over sit-and-talk-over-a-drink dates. (30:28) Parentheses: all about Tawny's slow-sipping, small batch spirits with a vinegar base, and the health benefits of vinegar! (34:51) Rituals to Get Sexy: figure out what your goal is in different circumstances which you drink - is it to loosen up? To feel sexy? etc. …and what can we do instead? (42:48) Sexuality Post-Sobriety: Getting honest about what you really want when you’re not numbing. Living in evolution. (49:23) “Coming Out” as Sober: What are the best ways to disclose that you don’t drink or at least aren't drinking tonight? Should you put it on your dating profile? Should you tell them at the date? Before? (52:25) The Sobriety Deck: an easy, digestible self-help tool to use when you need support in not using liquid courage. (56:31) Final Nuggets of Wisdom! (58:26) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 01 Nov 2024 | 095: 11 Types of Orgasms and How to Have Them Part 1 feat. Magda Kay | 01:19:43 | |
In this first of two episodes, Elle and Vee dive deep into seven of the eleven different types of orgasms with School of Intimacy founder, intimacy coach, and author of No More Faking It, Magda Kay. Noticing and Asking for What You Need in your sex life. (1:28) What gets you in the right headspace for orgasm? Safety. Physical environment. (7:56) Circadian Rhythms, chronotypes menstrual cycles and how it affects our sex drive. (12:32) Sleep Types/Chronotypes. (19:01) Genital Cupping and the Benefits of NOT Having Goal Oriented Sex. (21:01) How to have more Fulfilling, Satisfying Orgasms! (25:48) 11 Types of Orgasms: according to whom? (29:58) Clitoral Orgasm: using breath to deepen the climax; giving disclaimers or “heads up” when you bring breathwork into the bedroom. (36:58) Inside the Vagina: G Spot, A Spot, K Spot, P Spot. (49:08) Female Ejaculation: from G and A Spots; how to let go and let yourself ejaculate. (53:36) Ejaculation vs. Orgasm. (58:52) Cervical Orgasms. (1:03:35) How do you know what type of orgasm you’ve had? What’s the best position to acheive cervical orgasm? Woman on Top! (1:07:32) V Spot/Entry to Vagina Orgasms. (1:13:51) What is an orgasm? (1:16:15) Find Magda: Website: www.magdakay.com Instagram: @magdakayofficial Youtube: @magdakay Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 14 Nov 2024 | 097: Redefining Tantra, Creating Safe Spaces, and The Sacred Slut Experience feat. Sexual Freedom Coach Justin Gottlieb | 01:11:25 | |
Guys Gone Deep! In this thought provoking conversation, Justin Gottlieb, a sexual freedom coach, discusses his evolution from the corporate world to the world of tantra. He emphasizes how Tantra is often misunderstood and the need to redefine Tantra beyond stereotypes. His take on unlocking sexual freedom is refreshing and he encourages everyone to live fully by embracing and accepting all aspects of life, the good, the bad and the ugly. So, how can we achieve this? Take a listen… ________ From Corporate Suit To Tantra World, Beyond The Typical Tantra Spiritual Stereotypes. (00:00) Justin’s Definition Of Tantra: Different From Sanskrit, Accepting Our Sexuality and Embracing Our Human Experience. (06:14) Personal Journey into Discovering Tantra: Tantra Massages And Spiritual Awakening. (09:24) More Than Tantra: What is a Sexual Freedom Coach? (14:04) Story Share: A Tantra Massage Detailed, Withholding Orgasm and Male Orgasm Without Ejaculation. (16:50) Why Justin Doesn't Subscribe To Semen Retention As A Must For Tantric Men. (20:46) The Distinction Between Self Pleasure And Masturbation. (24:01) Justin Coaches Vee On Resisting Edging. (27:02) Story Share: Justin Details being a demo for a tantra massage in front of a 40 person training. The Power of Vulnerability and Emotional Release. (28:27) What is a Men’s Group or Men’s Circle? (33:28) How can you create Safe Spaces in groups and in Relationships to be vulnerable? (38:10) What is it like at a Tantra Love Retreat? (44:13) What is The Sacred Slut Experience? Exploring Boundaries and Desires in a Supportive Environment. (49:24) The Evolution of Miami Velvet, Justin’s Swinger Sex Club Rescue Detailed, Incorporating Tantric Principles, Community Education, Expansive Experiences. (55:25) Fantasy Vs. Desire. (01:06:37) The Intersection of BDSM and Tantra: is there a difference between Subspace and Surrender? (01:09:15) ________ For Couples and Singles: Tantra Love Retreats Next: Feb 27 - March 2nd, 2025 — Virtual Coaching — Private Retreats — Tantra Massage — Sexual Concierge — Fantasy Fulfillment Experiences Schedule Your Free 15 Minute call with Justin here ________ Tantra, Sexual Freedom, Spirituality, Authenticity, Personal Growth, Sexuality, Coaching, Relationships, Self-Acceptance, Empowerment, vulnerability, emotional release, men's groups, safe spaces, tantra retreats, pleasure, intimacy, healing, boundaries, swinger clubs, community education, personal development, fantasies, healing, BDSM Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 07 Nov 2024 | 096: 11 Types of Orgasms and How to Have Them Part 2 feat. Magda Kay | 00:36:36 | |
In this second of two episodes, Elle and Vee dive deep into the remaining four of the eleven different types of orgasms with School of Intimacy founder, intimacy coach, and author of No More Faking It, Magda Kay. Anal Orgasm: a brief mention! (2:35) Website: www.magdakay.com Instagram: @magdakayofficial Youtube: @magdakay Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 21 Nov 2024 | 098: Paid Companionship as a Therapeutic Modality with Adele Bardot | 00:51:41 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with paid companion Adele Bardot in a conversation which went somewhere they didn't necessarily expect it to go. And that's what this theme of going deep is all about: relinquishing control and sometimes talking about really intense stuff like the authentic self. What does paid companionship entail? (4:56) Sugaring: finding a sugar daddy on Seeking.com, and discovering the pros and cons. (7:50) How our childhood informs where we end up. (11:19) Authentic self: asking yourself who you are, not just in the roles you play but your core self. (15:31) 2024: a year of change. Discussing impermanence and grace through turmoil. (21:42) Seeking joy and developing your hobbies lead to being able to hold a conversation with anyone and fit in anywhere. (25:37) Greater connections with your partners once you have a greater connection to yourself. (27:55) Applying self work to paid companionship. (31:12) Memorable experiences with clients! (37:11) What types of bookings might an escort receive? (40:18) Vetting or questions for new clients? (45:22) What do you wish you knew before getting into sex work? (47:12) Ikigai: the Japanese concept of living your life's purpose. (48:57) Links: Website: theadelebardot.com HBO sex show Vee referenced: This Is Life With Lisa Ling Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 05 Dec 2024 | 099: Deep Chats with a Sex Therapist: Spontaneous Vs. Responsive Desire, Kink and Internalized Shame, and Ketamine Assisted Therapy | 00:56:50 | |
In this episode, Elle and Vee dive deep with a psychotherapist who they refer to as Wonder Woman on this episode for the sake of anonymity. With specializations in sex therapy and ketamine-assisted psychotherapy, the girls pick her brain on everything from desire discrepancy to the most common issues within couples, from what a ketamine-assisted psychotherapy session actually looks like to neuroplasticity. Psychotherapy vs. Psychoanalysis: what is the difference? (1:58) Top reasons couples seek sex therapy counseling: both gay and cis-het couples, and individuals. (5:15) Spontaneous desire vs responsive desire: a dive into libido differences and desire discrepancy. (6:25) Is there a way to get spontaneous desire back? Esther Perel’s Mating in Captivity. (13:33) The Dual Control Model (Sexual Brakes and Accelerators): a concept from Emily Nagoski’s book Come As You Are and her 2nd book Come Together. (20:57) Kink and shame: how to bring you kinky desires up to your partner and working through internalized shame. (26:12) Kink as shadows: how roleplaying can help one work through shame with reframing and control. (30:02) Kink isn’t always about processing something. Heteroflexible male-male play as a “taboo kink”. (31:27) Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy: how to use it properly, and how it’s being done irresponsibly. (35:17) How neuroplasticity works in the brain using the snow track analogy by Michael Pollan, author of the book How to Change Your Mind. (47:24) Ketamine Assisted Couples Psychotherapy. (53:02) Final Nugget: Keeping the idea of play and pleasure at the forefront. (53:57) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||
| 12 Dec 2024 | 100: Putting Words into Action for Good, Juicy Sex! How To Let Go During Oral, First Date Orgasms, Hotel Room Anal, and Toys for Ball Play | 00:48:59 | |
Elle and Vee catch up just the two of them for their 100th episode! They reflect on how much they've changed since beginning the podcast, and fill each other in on their latest sexcapades, learning moments and takeaways. Putting Talk Into Action: Vee doing the work, Elle’s intentions to be a better student, gratitude for the guests. (1:10) Elle’s tight pussy post-birth: how Vee and Elle have changed since the beginning of the podcast. (6:04) The importance of taking care of yourself to have good sex! Desire level post-birth: how lack of sleep for new parents affects sex drive. (11:48) Alcohol: letting go of alcohol allowed Vee to listen to her body’s signals. (16:33) How to Be the Love You Seek check ins: Elle uses tools from Dr. Nicole LaPera’s book. (18:27) Vee gets embodied: checking in with yourself - inside and outside of the bedroom. (20:03) First date orgasms! Getting eaten out by a guy with a beard, and learning to let go with a new partner. (21:55) Oral with a timer; giving your partner NRE (new relationship energy) no matter how long youve been together. (28:03) Elle’s vacation sex: cock ring + connection + tipsiness + weed = anal sex! (34:51) Balls hitting the ass during sex: yay or nay? (37:09) Putting mens’ toys and condoms on for them. (42:15) Setting intentions: cock cage, yoni massage, and tantra retreat. (44:10) Where to find us, and how you can support us: Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com | |||