Frientimacy: Finding Our Way to More Fulfilling Friendships (Shasta Nelson)
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| 20 May 2024 | Frientimacy: Finding Our Way to More Fulfilling Friendships - A First Look | 00:02:08 | |
Welcome to “Frientimacy: Finding Our Way to More Fulfilling Friendships” —the show that reminds us through shared stories and research-backed teaching that friendships, while they may not always be easy, that doesn’t mean they aren’t worth it. Starting on June 4th, and every Tuesday through the summer, I’m going to release a new episode where we’re going to journey through some of the biggest obstacles to our friendships– busy-ness, jealousy, neglect, hurt feelings, feeling like we don’t have anything in common anymore. But I’m not just going to teach us how to navigate it, I’m going to invite one of my real-life friends to come talk about one of those issues we’ve had to deal with in our own friendship. Yes, we’re going there. We’re bringing up hard conversations and hurt feelings we’ve experienced– first so you know you’re not alone in realizing that friendships are sometimes disappointing or exhausting, but second, so we can learn from each other as I’m going to be asking questions like “What did it feel like to be you in that situation? What was the hardest part of that? What do you wish I had done differently?” No one wants to hear that friendships can be hard work… and yet, much like how physical health is on the other side of physical exertion, so, too is our social health on the other side of some relationship sweat. If you’re ready for deeper, closer, and more supportive relationships in your life, if you want relationships that feel intimate, safe, and fulfilling– Frientimacy is for you. You can listen on Spotify, Apple podcasts or wherever you prefer to find your podcasts. | |||
| 04 Jun 2024 | The Healthy Friendship: The 3 Requirements of Frientimacy | 00:48:15 | |
Friendships can get a little messy, but at the other end of the muck are often more supportive and meaningful relationships. Join Shasta for the debut episode of Frientimacy, as she reveals the 3 requirements for all healthy relationships that helped her and her own friends navigate conflict and disappointment to deepen their connections. Shasta also exposes the real reason we’re lonely (and it’s not because we need to meet more people!) and the shocking impact of relationships on our physical and mental health.
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| 04 Jun 2024 | The Friendship That Survived Hurt Feelings (Valerie) | 00:39:03 | |
Shasta sits down with her friend Valerie to discuss the time a hurtful conversation drove a wedge between them. They spill their regrets and what they wish they could tell their past selves. They reveal how they not only rekindled their friendship but grew to become best friends today. Finally, they consider strategies to ask for what we need in a loving way, to avoid hurting our friends and receive what we really desire—to feel closer to and more valued by them.
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| 04 Jun 2024 | The Friendship That Weathered My Personal Life Crisis (Kim) | 01:00:16 | |
Shasta and Kim were colleagues and couple friends . . . then Shasta called her crying out of the blue. She’d had an affair, a divorce, and had been fired from her job. But while other friends and colleagues pulled away, judged, and disappeared, Kim and Shasta only grew closer. In today’s episode, the two unpack how Shasta’s personal crisis affected her friend and how their friendship survived when many of Shasta’s relationships did not. Kim divulges the confusion she felt at Shasta not telling her sooner, and how others questioned her decision to stay friends with someone who’d had an affair. They talk about shifting from couple friends to developing a one-on-one friendship after Shasta’s divorce. They also reveal how the experience helped them build their friendship now—one in which they can tell each other everything and endure any and every season of life together.
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| 04 Jun 2024 | What We Can Do When Our Friendships Don’t Feel Healthy | 00:38:52 | |
In today’s episode, Shasta reflects on what we can learn from our physical health to develop better social health, and how we can heal from heartbreak and disappointment to create more meaningful friendships. Conflict in a relationship can be uncomfortable, awkward, and—at times—painful. But it’s when we persist through the discomfort that we start building stronger, deeper, and more meaningful relationships.
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| 11 Jun 2024 | The Friendship Wearied by Low Self-Esteem and Fear of Rejection (J’Leen) | 00:56:17 | |
After a girls’ weekend, Shasta returned home feeling drained—her friend J’Leen seemed to often take things personally and question how accepted she was in the group. Again, they’d spent much of their time together reassuring her to no avail. Today, Shasta and J’Leen explore how J’Leen’s fears of rejection and abandonment developed, how her attempts to shield herself from potential rejection led to actual rejection, and what triggered her fears. They also consider how it feels to be on the other side, trying to love someone who cannot see or feel it. Finally, they reveal how J’Leen learned to become her own best friend, and how her journey of personal growth and self-awareness transformed her life and relationships.
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| 18 Jun 2024 | I’m the Friend Who Was Ghosted | 01:03:31 | |
So you got dumped by a friend—no warning, no explanation, not even a text back. What happened? Nearly 80% of us have been ghosted at some point, and while it’s more commonplace in the dating world, it can happen with friends too. In this episode, Shasta interviews three women who were ghosted by close friends. They open up about what they wish their friends had done instead, and how ghosting impacted them and their other relationships (for better or for worse). They also offer insight and advice on getting closure and fighting for the friendship.
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| 25 Jun 2024 | The Friendship That Struggles with Busyness and Neglect (Karen) | 00:56:00 | |
In today’s episode, Shasta and her friend Karen confront a struggle they’re still having—it seems like Karen is always busy, even when they’re together. Karen considers why she always has a full plate, and reveals the key to getting her attention and what she wishes her friends knew. Shasta gets vulnerable about feeling like an obligation and affirms the very common pain of thinking we care more than someone else does. Then, Karen reveals what strategies work well for her to maintain relationships, and finally, Shasta realizes what is really triggering her about Karen’s busyness and how they can strengthen their relationship.
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| 02 Jul 2024 | The Friendship Where I Couldn't Live Up to Her Expectations (Daneen) | 00:48:54 | |
Have you ever felt like you were always disappointing a friend or that you couldn't satisfy them? Or maybe you’re on the other side, feeling like your friends aren’t putting in the same level of effort as you? This was the problem Shasta and Daneen encountered. At the beginning of their friendship, Daneen initiated time with Shasta frequently, and Shasta started to feel like she couldn't give enough back. Then, after Daneen had a baby and asked her to be the godmother, Shasta felt guilty for not being able to live up to Daneen’s expectations of that role. Today, Shasta and Daneen delve into the conversation that set boundaries graciously and allowed Shasta the opportunity to not only meet Daneen’s expectations, but surpass them. They also talk the perks of having non-mom friends after you have kids and how to know if a friendship is worth saving.
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| 09 Jul 2024 | The Friendship that Navigated a Falling-Out with a Mutual Friend | 00:54:24 | |
After going through a friendship breakup, Shasta faced a dilemma: how would she navigate this with their mutual friends, and how much was she going to pull them into the drama? In this episode, she sits down with her friend Kat, who still maintains her own relationship with Shasta’s ex-friend. They shed insight on how they’ve been able to discuss the friendship breakup without being catty or ruining Kat’s own friendship. Shasta opens up about seeing an ex-friend move on, and shares how to deal with jealousy or pain when your mutual friends spend time with them. Finally, they reflect on how to choose the best response and minimize the fallout after a friendship breakup, and if there’s ever a case when you should expect your mutual friends to choose sides.
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| 16 Jul 2024 | I’m the Friend Who Ghosted | 01:00:08 | |
A few weeks ago, Shasta interviewed three women who had been ghosted. Today, she’s shifting the focus to hear from the ghosters. Why did they ghost their friends, rather than taking a different approach? Do they regret it? And was there anything that could have changed their minds? In this panel, three women reveal the commonalities between friends who ghost and the factors that can lead to a silent breakup. Finally, Shasta advises on how to protect and save your relationships before they reach their breaking points.
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| 23 Jul 2024 | The Friendship That Withstood Having “Nothing in Common Anymore" (Sher) | 00:52:45 | |
After years of friendship, Shasta and Sher found themselves in two completely different places: Sher was a stay-at-home mom, whereas Shasta didn’t have kids and was more focused on her career. Sher was married to a pastor, while Shasta was questioning church. Sher was more conservative-leaning, and Shasta was more liberal. The question arose: “If we met today, would we have become friends?” It’s a familiar experience—someone’s no longer single, or has kids, or switches jobs, or you’re just in different life stages. And you wonder, was that the only thing holding your friendship together? In today’s episode, Shasta and Sher discuss how they saved their friendship when they realized they had nothing in common anymore, why it was worth it, and the unlikely key to their survival.
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| 30 Jul 2024 | The Friendship That Faces Comparison and Envy (Christine) | 00:57:05 | |
When Shasta met Christine, a fellow author and speaker, she was everything Shasta wanted to be: she had just published a book, she’d been interviewed on TV, and she had a press kit. Shasta was green with envy. We’ve all been there—a friend has more money, goes on cooler vacations, is happily in love while we just went through a breakup. We wish we had their job, body, house, or relationship. It’s inevitable to feel jealousy and envy sometimes, but how do we make sure our feelings don’t jeopardize our friendships? Today, Shasta and Christine dish on all the icky emotions they’ve experienced and share how they’ve been able to get back to a place of peace. They also reflect on how they’ve been able to be candid about their envy while keeping the friendship feeling positive. Finally, Shasta teaches how to distinguish between the different types of jealousy and envy so that we can choose the wisest response.
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| 06 Aug 2024 | I'm the Friend Who Regrets Giving Up on Us | 01:00:22 | |
Today’s episode features Shasta and three women who share one common, difficult experience: each has deeply regretted losing touch with a close friend. Throughout the episode, they reflect on the impact of these lost relationships, and share the importance these friends once held in their day to day lives. Shasta offers valuable advice on how to reconnect with lost friends, providing guidance for anyone navigating similar feelings of loss towards a once-meaningful friendship. Ask Shasta your questions & connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!
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| 13 Aug 2024 | The Friendship That Had to Evolve After a Lifestyle Change (Krista) | 00:52:06 | |
This heartfelt episode dives deep into the journey of personal growth and sobriety through the lens of Krista, who opens up about her decision to stop drinking. Krista recounts the challenges and growth that came with this process and how it impacted the relationships in her life. Krista and Shasta discuss the importance of mutual support in friendships, especially when someone makes a significant personal change. They explore how friends can navigate these changes together while maintaining understanding through periods of transformation.
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| 20 Aug 2024 | I'm the Friend Who Gave Us a Second Chance (Cori) | 00:53:05 | |
In today's episode of Frientimacy, Shasta invites Cori to share her experiences of feeling profoundly let down by her best friend during a time of personal crisis—the death of a loved one. Despite her friend's past support and their close bond, Cori found herself in a situation where she felt abandoned and unsupported. Throughout the episode, Shasta and Cori explore how friendships can be complex and not always meeting the expectations we hold for them. Shasta offers guidance on how to recognize the value of the everyday support her friend had provided and how Cori can appreciate the strengths her friend brought to the relationship, despite her shortcomings during the crisis.
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| 03 Sep 2024 | The New Friendship: Our Insecurities and Secret Hopes (Priscilla) | 00:58:44 | |
In this week's episode of Frientimacy, Shasta and her friend Priscilla take a transparent look behind the scenes of their budding friendship. They dive into the early days of their relationship and discuss the challenges they faced, such as scheduling conflicts, uncertainties surrounding expectations, and building trust with one another. Shasta and Priscilla share their personal thoughts and feelings from when they first met and explore how they've grown together over the past year. Tune in for an honest and enlightening conversation about the highs and lows of forming a meaningful friendship with someone new! Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!
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| 27 Aug 2024 | I'm the Friend Who Avoids Conflict | 00:59:21 | |
Conflict—nobody enjoys it, but how do we tackle tough conversations with those we care about? In this episode of Frientimacy, Shasta tackles this challenging topic with three insightful guests: Krista, Kerry, and Laura. Each woman shares her struggles with avoiding conflict in friendships—Krista due to a deep-seated need for harmony, Kerry because of her natural empathy, and Laura because of her introverted tendencies. Together, they explore how avoiding tough conversations affects relationships and share advice for balancing honesty with empathy to keep connections strong. Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!
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