Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery (Barb Nangle)
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| 22 Jun 2020 | GET to vs HAVE to | Episode 62 | 00:07:21 | |
The recovery process, just as any process of personal growth, is in large part one of changing perspective. In this episode I cover the perspective shift where we move from "I HAVE to _" to "I GET to _." In other words, we shift to thinking about these new behavior changes from being burdens to being privileges. | |||
| 25 Jan 2021 | Two Kinds of Discomfort | Episode 92 | 00:10:50 | |
In this episode I make the distinction between things that are uncomfortable that we've learned to put up with, especially if we grew up in chaos - and things that are uncomfortable because they're new. I called this "bad" discomfort and "good" discomfort. The way to know which is which is to ask yourself - if you were to prolong the discomfort, what would happen? Would the result be more discomfort? Or would it lead to freedom or other things we get when we engage in healthy behaviors. I use a couple of real-life examples to illustrate these concept. And - I recognize it may be hard to change your behaviors, but you can do hard! "Hard" is not an excuse for not doing something! (esp. something that benefits you!). If you have suggestions for how to mark the 100-episode milestone coming up in a few weeks. If you have ideas, email me Barb@HigherPowerCC.com. Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching. Be sure to leave a rating on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen (it helps other people who need this info to find me!). Visit me on my website: www.HigherPowerCC.com. | |||
| 16 Nov 2020 | Flawesome! | Episode 83 | 00:07:00 | |
In this episode I talk about moving away from the black-and-white thinking that if we're flawed, that means we're not awesome. It's perfectly normal to be flawed, and it's ok to let others see your flaws. When you accept your own flaws, you'll become more accepting of other people's flaws too! If you want monthly inspiration in your inbox, sign up for my newsletter "Happy, Joyous and Free" at HigherPowerCC.com. Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching, and check out my podcast website fragmentedtowhole.com. Be sure to leave a rating of my podcast on your favorite podcast app (it helps other people who need this info to find me!). | |||
| 22 Feb 2021 | How to Get Over the Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) by Keeping the Focus on Yourself | Episode 96 | 00:12:22 | |
When we're in fear of missing out, we're focused on others, not on ourselves. It's impossible to have a well-lived life when we're not focused on ourselves. Yet we abandon ourselves by indulging in FOMO and comparing ourselves to others. This episode makes the case that keeping the focus on yourself is imperative if you want to be happy, joyous and free. If you have difficulty keeping the focus on yourself, you might want to listen to episode #10, "Focus on Me." Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching. Be sure to leave a rating on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen (it helps other people who need this info to find me!). Visit me on my website: www.HigherPowerCC.com. | |||
| 07 Dec 2020 | The Serenity Prayer, Reimagined | Episode 86 | 00:08:40 | |
The Serenity Prayer is one of the most popular prayers in the world, but I think the opening is backwards. I learned acceptance and THEN got serenity. I give an example of what I mean by that using traffic. I also talk about how the Serenity Prayer is essentially about learning where our boundaries should be. Pilot group coaching program, "6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb" info and registration is linked here: Free webinar on Mon 12/14 at 7 pm EST "Myths and Misconceptions about Boudnaries" info and registration is linked here: Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching, and check out my podcast website fragmentedtowhole.com. Be sure to leave a rating of my podcast on your favorite podcast app (it helps other people who need this info to find me!) | |||
| 26 Jul 2021 | How to Untie the Bundle of Negativity and Self-judgment So You Can Have Peace and Ease | Episode 118 | 00:14:56 | |
If you're sick and tired of the endless string of negative thoughts and self-judgment in your head, that can end! I'm living proof! It starts with awareness - awareness of what you're saying to yourself. You then need to analyze what those messages are and what they're doing to do you. They're crippling you, AND they're not making you into a better person. So stop! Stop that shit! Once you stop the negativity, you'll stop judging yourself. Ironically, that will lead to stopping your judgments of others as well. As your self-judgment diminishes, you'll feel more at ease and at peace in your life. Here are the links I promised: Podcast episodes to help you untie the bundle: If you’re a fan of this podcast and want to support it, please check me out Patreon.com/HigherPowerCoaching. You can choose the level of support that feels right for you. Be sure to leave a rating on Apple Podcasts (it helps others to find this podcast!). And be sure to check out all the stories shared under the Baobab Tree at BaobabTreeStories.com | |||
| 09 Mar 2020 | Be Prepared to Lose People | Episode 47 | 00:11:15 | |
Before recovery, I subconsciously assumed that losing people somehow took something away from me. Now that I'm in recovery and recognize my wholeness, I realize it's just part of life to lose people. Perhaps my sharing will help you deal with losing people from your life. That is my hope. | |||
| 12 Apr 2021 | How to Go from Black-and-White Thinking to Seeing the Gray | Episode 103 | 00:09:50 | |
Most people in recovery have or have had lives filled with chaos on dysfunction. When we're surrounded by chaos, we're frequently "activated" as if on alert, which means it's hard to think clearly. One of the ways our thinking gets distorted is that we see things only in stark contrast - like the stark contrast between the colors black and white. In order to be able to see and experiences the nuances of life (the gray area) we have to slow down, stop dissociating and become calm. Reaching out to others to get feedback on our perspective is also helpful. Learn more in this episode. You might also find these episodes helpful: Please contact me at barb@higherpowercc.com or DM on Instagram or Facebook @HigherPowerCoaching | |||
| 04 May 2020 | Stop Hiding | Episode 55 | 00:09:00 | |
We hide by isolating and telling lies. We're afraid to show our flaws. But being flawed is just part of being human. Once you can accept this in yourself, it's easier to accept it in others as well. This episode will help you realize that you're not just flawed, you're flawsome!! | |||
| 15 Feb 2021 | How to Understand the Relationship Between Honesty and Trust | Episode 95 | 00:08:10 | |
If you're anything like I was before recovery, you were (or maybe still are) unable to be honest much of time. Some of that dishonesty has to do with not trusting others. If you grew up in a chaotic or unsafe environment, that makes sense. Lying was self protective. However, now that we're adults and can choose who we surround ourselves with, it's easier to be around safe and caring others. The thing that's news to me is that honesty requires trusting *myself* too! It's not just about trusting other people. Now that I can trust myself to take care of myself, to set boundaries and enforce them, I don't feel the need to lie like I used to. That includes trusting myself not to put myself in harm's way and to now surround myself with safe, caring and respectful others. Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching. | |||
| 30 Dec 2019 | Fail Till You Succeed | Episode 37 | 00:12:41 | |
This episode will be particularly helpful to those who have beaten themselves up for years, and who think they will never succeed at anything. Many of us suffer from the belief that those who are successful never fail, but the opposite is true - they fail often. They've just gotten good at overcoming their failures, consistently and often. They understand that failure is a necessary part of the process of success. You can learn that too. | |||
| 18 Aug 2019 | One Day at a Time | Episode 18 | 00:07:25 | |
This slogan helps remind us to keep the focus on the present, rather than living into "the wreckage of the future." In this episode, you will learn how to keep the focus on yourself in the here and now so as to not live into the wreckage of the future. Doing this will result in much less worry and anxiety. | |||
| 24 Mar 2020 | Soothe Your Mind and Heart During COVID-19 | Episode 49 | 00:12:36 | |
If you're stuck in negative thought loops, catastrophizing about the future, or burned out and overwhelmed from rescuing others I can help! Rather than creating a new episode this week, I make suggestions for previous episodes that help people deal with the issues they're facing with the COVID-19 pandemic. | |||
| 28 Jun 2021 | Here's What Recovery Looks Like in Real Life - My Day at the Beach | Episode 114 | 00:13:30 | |
Here's a story of a variety of ways that recovery has shown up in my everyday life. It features a story from a day at the beach where I sat next to two people who were bitching and complaining. In the past, I would sat there and stewed and fumed and blamed them for my miserable day. Instead, I got up and moved. I was rewarded by my Higher Power with some incredible lessons in healthy parenting and boundary-setting by the family I sat next to in my new spot. If you'd like one of the three spots I have left for private coaching clients, sign up for a free 30-min call with me at barbchat.net. If you’re a fan of this podcast and want to support it, please check me out Patreon.com/HigherPowerCoaching. You can choose the level of support that feels right for you. Be sure to leave a rating on Apple Podcasts (it helps others to find this podcast!). Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching and visit me on my website: www.HigherPowerCC.com. And check out all the other podcasts under the Baobab Tree at https://www.baobabtreestories.com | |||
| 10 Feb 2020 | Amends, Apologies, Harms and Hurts | Episode 43 | 00:08:15 | |
The amends process required by the 12 steps includes changed behavior, not just an apology. This episode helps clarify what kinds of things require amends vs. an apology by also distinguishing between things that harm people vs. hurt people. You'll get clarity about the difference between "harms" and "hurts" from this episode. You can be harmed by something that doesn't hurt you, and hurt by something that doesn't harm you so that distinction is important. | |||
| 21 Jul 2019 | Discovery Is Not Recovery | Episode 14 | 00:14:30 | |
In this episode the differences between discovery and recovery are laid out, as are the differences between relief and recovery. Many people come into the rooms of 12 step recovery and "discover" what is wrong with them, thinking that is enough. Others come into the rooms and find some measure of relief and leave thinking they're done. Neither of these result in the deep, lasting changes that are the promise of 12 step recovery. Listen here to learn the distinctions. | |||
| 18 Nov 2019 | Overcoming Unrealistic Expectations | Episode 31 | 00:10:30 | |
I talk about how unrealistic expectations made my life unmanageable and was one of my worst defects of character, and how I learned to let them go. This not only helped me let go of resents from the past, but prevented resentments in the future. | |||
| 11 Aug 2019 | Guilt and Shame | Episode 17 | 00:18:20 | |
People who grow up in dysfunctional families are often riddled with guilt and shame, often in profound and debilitating ways. This episode will help you understand where it comes from and shows the method I used of profoundly decreasing the effects of such shame and guilt. I give examples of my experience with deep shame and how I've handled it, and how it's effects have been reduced greatly in my life. | |||
| 13 Oct 2019 | My Part in Things | Episode 26 | 00:18:40 | |
I describe some examples of coming to understand my part in things in an effort to help you understand your part in the chaos and drama of your life so you can stop doing those things! Learning my part in things has been the most important gift (by far) of my recovery because it enabled me to stop doing those things and reduced the chaos by about 85%! | |||
| 17 Jun 2019 | My Tools of Recovery Part II: Reaching Out | Episode 9 | 00:15:40 | |
If you feel isolated and alone and are sick of feeling that way, this episode is for you! I talk about the power of reaching out to others, including my higher power, and how it's made me feel connected and like I'm not alone any more. It's become an incredibly important tool in my tool shed of recovery tools. | |||
| 21 Sep 2020 | Becoming Entirely Ready to Change Your Life | Episode 75 | 00:15:00 | |
If you are truly committed to changing your ways, this episode is for you! The process of changing our lives is what 12 step recovery is all about. In this episode, you'll learn a way of becoming "entirely ready" (not just "somewhat ready") to change your life. I'll walk you through a process to think through what you've been doing that's been creating drama in your life. We'll go through what these things have been doing FOR you and TO you, then what changed behavior would look like. This will help us overcome the obstacle thoughts our brain generates to block us from changing. Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching, and check out my podcast website fragmentedtowhole.com. | |||
| 29 Jun 2020 | Reading People's Minds Doesn't Work! | Episode 63 | 00:09:25 | |
I realized early in recovery that I'd been expecting other people to read my mind. I came to understand, with the help of some of my fellows in recovery, that this was because that's how I thought it worked. I'd been trying to read other people's minds my whole life, so why weren't they reading my mind?? (forget about the fact that I was not actually reading their minds!). It turns out that instead of trying to read people's minds, the healthy thing to do is to communicate directly with people. Learn more about that on this episode. | |||
| 02 Aug 2021 | Getting Rid of Black & White Thinking and No Longer Tolerating Dysfunction | Episode 119 | 00:16:23 | |
Two stories about garbage cans are profiled to show how our thinking becomes much less rigid as we continue our journey of recovery. These stories also illustrate how recovery shows us how frequently we put up with things that annoy the f**k out of us when we don't have to. We GET TO have choices in our lives as a result of recovery - choices about the kinds of garbage cans we have, what kind of socks we wear, and everything else. We don't have to think rigidly, and we don't have to put up with stuff that annoys us day in and day out. If you’re a fan of this podcast and want to support it, please check me out Patreon.com/HigherPowerCoaching. You can choose the level of support that feels right for you. Be sure to leave a rating on Apple Podcasts (it helps others to find this podcast!). Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching and visit me on my website: www.HigherPowerCC.com. And check out all the shows under the Baobab Tree at www.baobabtreestories.com | |||
| 07 Jul 2019 | Stop Gossiping | Episode 12 | 00:18:01 | |
In this episode I discuss one of my most insidious defects of character - gossip. I share my journey to stop gossiping and what I learned along the way. This includes why I did it, why it felt so damned good and was so hard to stop, and what I did to stop it. | |||
| 23 Nov 2020 | Don't Carpet the World | Episode 84 | 00:12:48 | |
"It's easier to put slippers on your feet than to carpet the world" is a Chinese proverb. The carpet metaphor is used in this episode to illustrate the issue of control. I talk about how we can learn to stop trying to control others (carpet the world) and work on controlling ourselves (put slippers on our feet). This an example of what the Serenity Prayer refers to as "the wisdom to know the difference." The link to the group coaching pilot on boundaries is https://higherpowercc.com/betterboundaries/ Be sure to leave a rating of my podcast on your favorite podcast app (it helps other people who need this info to find me!). | |||
| 09 Dec 2019 | Anything Mentionable Is Manageable | Episode 34 | 00:09:22 | |
If your life is unmanageable, this episode gives examples of getting to a life that's manageable. Inspired by the new Mr. Rogers movie, this episode also talks about how things we may have been taught were "unmentionable" actually are mentionable. It also suggests asking for mercy instead of cursing things that frustrate us. | |||
| 09 Nov 2020 | You Don't Have to Believe Your Thoughts! | Episode 82 | 00:15:30 | |
You don't have to believe the thoughts running through your head! This pertains to thoughts about yourself (like "I'm not enough") as well as thoughts about others and the world. If you're not choosing your thoughts *on purpose,* especially if they're negative - think again! You don't have to believe a thought just because it's in your head (even though it sounds like your voice!). Here are the links mentioned in the podcast: * FREE boundaries webinar, "How to Be Grateful on Thanksgiving by Setting Healthy Boundaries" https://www.eventbrite.com/e/how-to-be-grateful-on-thanksgiving-by-setting-healthy-boundaries-tickets-127263692129 * Pilot group coaching program starting in January, "6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb" https://higherpowercc.com/betterboundaries/ * Medium article, "How to Upgrade Your Life by Improving Your Thought Life" https://barb-nangle.medium.com/how-to-upgrade-your-life-by-improving-your-thought-life-9b0872dba776?source=friends_link&sk=2d7776ac711f33b742531362267574f1 Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching, and check out my podcast website fragmentedtowhole.com. Be sure to leave a rating of my podcast on your favorite podcast app (it helps other people who need this info to find me!). | |||
| 18 May 2021 | How to Increase Your Integrity by Getting Clear on Your Intentions | Episode 108 | 00:10:08 | |
Your integrity is impacted by your motives because our motives guide our behavior. We may THINK we're doing something to be nice, when in fact we're doing it to manipulate. This shatters our integrity because our intentions are not pure - we're not living up to the spiritual principles we may think we are (like being kind and good). It's also important to consider that others don't care what your intentions are, they only care about the impact of your behavior. I give several suggestions for how to get clear on your intentions and bring your behavior in line with good intentions. Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching. Check out ALL the shows under the Baobab Tree at https://www.baobabtreestories.com | |||
| 02 Nov 2020 | Something Came Up vs. Something Happened | Episode 81 | 00:09:00 | |
When someone doesn't show up when expected, we might be tempted to think, "something happened!" This usually has a negative connotation, like they were in an accident. However, when we think, "something came up" it's neutral and not likely to send is into a tailspin of negativity and anxiety. You can purposely choose this "thought work" to bring you more peace and serenity. The article I mention at the end of the podcast can be found here: https://medium.com/curious/how-to-upgrade-your-life-by-improving-your-thought-life-9b0872dba776 Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching, and check out my podcast website fragmentedtowhole.com. Be sure to leave a rating of my podcast on your favorite podcast app (it helps other people who need this info to find me!). | |||
| 07 Sep 2020 | Understanding Natural Consequences | Episode 73 | 00:08:40 | |
The natural consequences of negative behavior are typically negative. However, many people buffer, block or filter the consequences of other's behavior by enabling them. Enabling is when we fix, solve, or make the consequences for someone's behavior go away. This episode will give you an understanding what natural consequences are, how they work and how to allow them. You might find these programs helpful: Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching, and check out my podcast website fragmentedtowhole.com. | |||
| 04 Aug 2019 | D-E-N-I-A-L | Episode 16 | 00:12:00 | |
If you grew up in a dysfunctional family, chances are you're in denial about a lot of things, like perhaps you think of abusive and dysfunctional behaviors as normal. Or you don't remember large chunks of your childhood. Or you've never seen things as connected that are related to each other. In this episode I share my journey from denial to clarity through the 12 steps of recovery. | |||
| 05 Apr 2021 | Why Keeping the Focus on Yourself is the Antidote to Codependence | Episode 102 | 00:16:54 | |
Codependence is a focus outside the self. This happens because when we're in fight or flight mode, we're not able to access the "human" part of our brain. That part of our brain is where our "self" is formed. Setting healthy boundaries is the best way to keep the focus on yourself to get over your codependence. You'll also hear the top two myths about setting boundaries as well as my top five rules for setting boundaries. Here's a link to my calendar for a 30-minute Better Boundaries call: https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call If you'd like to learn more about my 12-week Group Coaching Program, "Better Boundaries with Barb" you can check it out here: https://higherpowercc.com/betterboundaries/ Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching. Be sure to leave a rating on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen (it helps other people who need this info to find me!). Visit me on my website: www.HigherPowerCC.com. | |||
| 21 Jun 2021 | Boundaries without Consequences Aren't Really Boundaries - They're Hopes and Wishes | Episode 113 | 00:17:25 | |
If you set a boundary with someone and they don't honor, you have to do something about them not honoring it. "Doing something" is called a consequence. If you don't do anything when someone doesn't honor your boundary, then it wasn't really a boundary, it was just a wish. Learn how to set different levels of consequences using the three strikes method in this episode. The link I mentioned in the episode for signing up for a free 30-min Better Boundaries call is barbchat.net If you’re a fan of this podcast and want to support it, please check me out Patreon.com/HigherPowerCoaching. You can choose the level of support that feels right for you. Be sure to leave a rating on Apple Podcasts (it helps others to find this podcast!). And don't forget to check out all of the stories shared under the Baobab Tree at http://www.baobabtreestories.com | |||
| 25 Aug 2019 | Control | Episode 19 | 00:08:08 | |
Control is an issue for just about everyone in recovery, and this episode addresses how to back away from being so controlling. Using a Chinese proverb, Barb shares a new perspective on what it means to try to control others and how to let go of that. "It's better to put slippers on your feet than to carpet the world." | |||
| 15 Sep 2019 | TMI | Episode 22 | 00:08:00 | |
Learn to stop giving too much information to others, especially when you're setting a boundary or negotiating. This reduces the chances that others can dispute what you're saying and makes it easier to act. | |||
| 01 Sep 2019 | Humility | Episode 20 | 00:12:45 | |
In this episode I discuss humility as meaning you're no better and no worse than anyone else. That goes for people who think they're better than other people AND people who think they're worse than other people. The key to getting past this is to listen to others in the rooms of recovery so that you know that you're not "uniquely flawed," and to stop comparing your insides to other people's outsides. | |||
| 03 Jun 2019 | Intensity, Intimacy and Trust | Episode 7 | 00:11:45 | |
If you've always wanted intimacy and have no idea how to get it, this episode is for you! I talk about learning to trust people, be vulnerable with them, and become intimate with them. I also make the distinction between being in an "intense" relationship and an intimate relationship. | |||
| 19 Oct 2021 | **Video Episode** Guest Episode: Robin from Workit Health | Episode 130 | 00:39:41 | |
Subscribe to our Patreon channel to get the video of this episode!!! Instructions below. Today's guest is Robin McIntosh, Co-CEO & Co-Founder of Workit Health which provides online drug and alcohol treatment with medication. Robin shares of her idyllic childhood that was ruptured with tragedy. She learned of the generational abuse of alcohol in her family at that time, then later because a polysubstance user who relapsed repeatedly. When she finally got clean, sober and abstinent, she realized that treatment wasn't working for many of her peers who were dying. This led to the creation of Workit Health, which provides online drug and alcohol treatment, Workit Health provides xpert care for substance use, mental health, and co-occurring disorders and can be found at https://www.workithealth.com/ or @workithealth on Instagram. If you’re a fan of this podcast and want to support it, please check me out Patreon.com/HigherPowerCoaching. You can choose the level of support that feels right for you. Be sure to leave a rating on Apple Podcasts (it helps others to find this podcast!). Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching and visit me on my website: www.HigherPowerCC.com. | |||
| 25 Nov 2019 | Freedom of Choice | Episode 32 | 00:16:07 | |
One of the greatest gifts of recovery is freedom of choice - the freedom choose what we do and do not want to think, believe and do. Before recovery, I didn't even know I WASN'T making choices! I talk about that here, and about how recovery and my Higher Power have given me the gift of choice. | |||
| 17 Feb 2020 | Comfortable vs Comforting | Episode 44 | 00:08:15 | |
Have you been repeating the same dysfunctional behaviors over and over and want to stop? This episode will help you by making the distinction between behaviors that are familiar and "comfortable" like a well-worn groove, and those that are comfortable. Comfortable behaviors bring comfort and lead to well-being. | |||
| 13 Jul 2020 | How to Go from Anger and Frustration to Loving the World | Episode 65 | 00:08:45 | |
In this episode you'll learn just how the 12 steps allow us to clean up the wreckage of the past, heal lifelong wounds, and transform. We become happy, joyous and free and are no longer seeking to take from the world, but to give. | |||
| 16 Dec 2019 | Boundaries During the Holidays | Episode 35 | 00:09:30 | |
Boundaries help us enjoy our loved ones and our time, and they reduce stress and overwhelm. To have boundaries means to live intentionally. This episode will help you set boundaries to more authentically connect with others so you're not drained. Specific scripts are provided. Happy holidays! | |||
| 08 Mar 2021 | My Two Most Important Questions for Guiding My Behavior | Episode 98 | 00:08:57 | |
When I'm trying to decide if something is the right thing to do or whether something is healthy for me, I ask myself,
These two question help me ensure that I'm living my life by my spiritual principles, and that I'm not manipulating others and my motives are pure. If you want details, listen to hear me unpack these questions. I'd love to hear what answering these questions does for you. Either email me at Barb@HigherPowerCC.com or DM at my Instagram account (listed below). Be sure to follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching. Please leave a rating on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen (it helps other people who need this info to find me!). Visit me on my website: www.HigherPowerCC.com. | |||
| 05 Oct 2020 | Getting Rid of Expectations After the Fact | Episode 77 | 00:12:00 | |
Sometimes we don't realize we even had an expectation until it wasn't met. Whether that's true for you, or you KNOW you had an expectation about something, you'll learn how to "unhook" from those expectations even after the situation is over! This will melt your resentment about not having your expectation met. Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching, and check out my podcast website fragmentedtowhole.com. | |||
| 14 Dec 2020 | How to Attract Emotionally Available People | Episode 87 | 00:15:36 | |
If you've been hiding behind various facades or masks and acting as if you like things you don't, or that you're comfortable with things you're not - that's not integrity. Being emotionally available requires vulnerability, which is not possible if you don't have integrity (i.e., if your foundation is cracked). Emotionally available people are attracted by other emotionally available people. So if you're continually attracting emotionally UNavailable people, the problem might be that you have a "cracked foundation" and aren't living in your integrity. Listen in for how to strengthen your integrity which will allow you to become vulnerable and therefore attract emotionally available people. For info on my group coaching pilot "6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb" mentioned in this episode, Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching, and check out my podcast website fragmentedtowhole.com. Be sure to leave a rating of my podcast on your favorite podcast app (it helps other people who need this info to find me!).key words: integrity, emotional availability, emotionally available, emotionally unavailable, boundary, boundaries, vulnerable, vulnerability. | |||
| 19 Apr 2021 | How Fear and Telling the Truth Can Lead You to Wholeness | Episode 104 | 00:14:00 | |
Hear my story of uncovering a fear that I could feel bubbling up like a pressure cooker. I managed that fear by telling the truth - and I didn't die! (not kidding!). My pattern of dishonesty over the years reared it's ugly head. Not giving into that fear and being honest about it reinforced my integrity, which means it reinforced my wholeness. The same is true for you - tell the truth, it will lead to your wholeness. The podcast episode I mentioned today is #67 and you can find it here: https://higherpowercc.com/2020/11/05/fragmented-to-whole-podcast-67-why-we-say-the-truth-shall-set-you-free/ Please follow me on Instagram and Facebook @HigherPowerCoaching. | |||
| 20 Jan 2020 | Feeling Trapped? There Is a Way Out! | Episode 40 | 00:17:30 | |
I describe a couple of situations in my life where I felt trapped and how I got out of them. I'm living proof that it's possible to not only get out of feeling trapped, but to live a life of freedom. You can too! | |||
| 04 Aug 2020 | How to Stop Enabling Other People's Dysfunctional Behavior | Episode 68 | 00:14:50 | |
When we enable other people's addiction and dysfunction, we're allowing them to NOT face the consequences of their behavior. We serve as a buffer for their difficult behavior so they don't have to feel those effects. We're not helping them! To stop we have to learn to keep the focus on ourselves and allow them to feel the consequences of their behavior. | |||
| 14 Jul 2019 | Forgiveness | Episode 13 | 00:15:00 | |
After years of trying to forgive and reading all kinds of books about WHY, I finally learned HOW to forgive. I share how I learned to forgive, as well as the many reasons why we need to do it (it for US, not them!). | |||
| 06 Apr 2020 | Life on Life's Terms | Episode 51 | 00:10:00 | |
Living life on life's terms means being able to accept and face life as it comes, not as you wish it would come. You'll hear about how I made the shift from being pissed off all the time that life, the world and others weren't going the way I wanted, to being able to accept life on LIFE'S terms. | |||
| 15 Sep 2020 | Privacy vs Secrecy | Episode 74 | 00:12:00 | |
In this episode, I clear up the distinction between what's private and what's secret. Private matters have to do with setting healthy boundaries. Secrets have to do with hiding our shame. I use the example of personal finances to illustrate the difference between privacy and secrecy. This distinction is hard for people with unhealthy boundaries to understand. So if the distinction is difficult for you, you might need to work on your boundaries (and I can help!). Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching, and check out my podcast website www.fragmentedtowhole.com. Be sure to leave a rating of my podcast on your favorite podcast app (it helps other people who need this info to find me!). | |||
| 14 Jun 2021 | How and Why to Go from an External Focus to an Internal Focus | Episode 112 | 00:09:47 | |
Some people think that "it's all about me" is the same as "keep the focus on yourself." It's not. They're very different. Opposites, in fact. When we're focused on the external world ("it's all about me"), we're more likely to be exasperated, resentful and unfulfilled. That's because we can't do much about the external world. But when we learn to keep the focus on ourselves, we're much more likely to be proactive and to live our lives on purpose. We're responsible, contributing citizens who feel some control over their lives. If you’re a fan of this podcast and want to support it, please check me out Patreon.com/HigherPowerCoaching. You can choose the level of support that feels right for you. Be sure to leave a rating on Apple Podcasts (it helps others to find this podcast!). Check out ALL the stories shared under the Baobab Tree at BaobabTreeStories.com | |||
| 10 Aug 2020 | Top Apps to Keep You Happy, Joyous and Free - Part I of 2 | Episode 69 | 00:15:40 | |
Most people who come to recovery have chaotic lives and need all the help we can get to manage our lives. Using smart phone apps can be incredibly helpful in staying in touch with others in recovery, listening to recovery meetings, managing time and finances, etc. I talk about the top apps I use and how I use them to stay happy, joyous and free. | |||
| 15 Jun 2020 | Willingness to Change vs Wanting to Change | Episode 61 | 00:10:00 | |
For anyone who is trying to grow and change, including those in recovery, willingness is key. If you're willing to make changes, even if you'd don't really want to, that can be enough. Learn how to leverage the power of your willingness into action in this episode. | |||
| 10 May 2021 | The Importance of Boundaries in 12-Step Recovery: Learning from the Outside In | Episode 107 | 00:18:55 | |
There are several means by which 12-step recovery programs impose boundaries on us. These include the Serenity Prayer, program slogans, several common meeting practices, as well as seven of the 12 Traditions. By having these healthy boundaries imposed from the outside first, we learn to form healthy boundaries of our from inside. The episode I referred to on boundaries of self-containment and boundaries of self-protection is episode 48 (I mistakenly said 43 on the podcast!). It's available here: https://higherpowercc.com/2020/11/05/fragmented-to-whole-podcast-48-boundaries-of-self-containment-and-self-protection/ Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching. | |||
| 07 Oct 2019 | Act As If | Episode 25 | 00:19:20 | |
Recovery programs are programs of action, not of thinking or believing. This episode addresses why that is the case, and gives methods for how to behave your way into new thinking. You'll understand that what you DO is much more important than what you THINK. | |||
| 11 Nov 2019 | Fight, Flight or Freeze | Episode 30 | 00:13:20 | |
The body's natural response to threats, whether perceived or real, is to fight, flee or freeze. I share how recovery has helped me reprogram my internal response to threat, as well as some tools for how to manage stressful situations while they're happening. The more we reduce the number of stressful episodes we have, the easier it becomes to stay in peace and serenity. | |||
| 02 Dec 2019 | Restored to Clarity | Episode 33 | 00:14:45 | |
If your thinking is clouded and chaotic, your boundaries are a mess, you want everyone else and the world around you to change, perhaps you need some clarity. This episode will help you understand how the 12 steps can bring clarity so you can life a live that is happy, joyous and free. | |||
| 09 Feb 2021 | How to Strengthen Your Boundaries by Letting Go | Episode 94 | 00:11:37 | |
It's a paradox that the more we let go, the stronger our boundaries become. This is because controlling others is impossible, but controlling ourselves is not. When we are focused on others and situations out of our control, we become fixated on our desired outcome and have no choices. When we let go, we focus on ourselves (which is what we CAN control) and a whole universe of possibilities opens up to us! Confusing?? Listen in for an example that will give clarity. Do you have ideas for how I can make the milestone of my 100th episode? Email me at Barb@HigherPowerCC.com or DM on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching. Be sure to leave a rating on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen (it helps other people who need this info to find me!). Visit me on my website: www.HigherPowerCC.com. | |||
| 11 Jan 2021 | Becoming Whole | Episode 90 | 00:11:50 | |
Being whole means I'm no longer afraid to share the real me with others, I'm not hiding behind any facades any longer. In this episode I talk about all the various things that have contributed to my wholeness, including loving myself and setting boundaries. I also talk about how wholeness doesn't mean bad things never happen, they do. It's just that they no longer shatter me the way they used to. Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching. | |||
| 12 Jul 2021 | How to Change Other People's Behavior So You Can Have Better Relationships | Episode 116 | 00:14:03 | |
The only way to change the way others interact with you is to change the way YOU interact with THEM! You can't change other people, but you *can* change your ways! When you start being honest with people about what you really want, need, think and feel, when you lower your expectations of others, and when you learn to set healthy boundaries, you'll be living your life the way YOU want to. And THAT will lead you to having better relationships with others. The page I mentioned on my website with the free downloads about boundaries is here: https://higherpowercc.com/start-setting-boundaries/ If you’re a fan of this podcast and want to support it, please check me out Patreon.com/HigherPowerCoaching. You can choose the level of support that feels right for you. Be sure to leave a rating on Apple Podcasts (it helps others to find this podcast!). Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching and visit me on my website: www.HigherPowerCC.com. And check out all the other podcasts under the Baobab Tree at https://www.baobabtreestories.com | |||
| 03 Feb 2020 | Why Take a Daily Inventory | Episode 42 | 00:10:40 | |
The practice of taking a daily inventory is recommended in 12 step recovery, but many people don't do it. I talk about how much it's benefited me - it keeps me from acting out of my defects of character and keeps my ego in check. It also keeps me in the good graces of those around me because I apologize quickly instead of letting things fester. The metaphor I like to use is that it's like sweeping out my formerly nasty, disgusting basement to keep it clean. | |||
| 11 May 2020 | How I Got Over People-pleasing and You Can Too | Episode 56 | 00:08:50 | |
I didn't even know I was a people-pleaser, I thought I was nice. It turns out people-pleasing isn't nice, it's dishonest and manipulative. Ugh! But there's hope! I talk about how I got over my people-pleasing ways and you can too. You can learn to be honest about what you really think and feel, and to communicate directly about those things without manipulating. | |||
| 26 Oct 2020 | How to Enjoy the Holidays by Setting Boundaries Now | Episode 80 | 00:11:45 | |
You don't have to do things you don't want to over the holidays! This includes attending events, exchanging gifts, spending money or having uncomfortable conversations. You'll learn a variety of tips for setting boundaries for the holidays, including some specific scripts so use and scenarios in which to use them. I also recommend checking out this website for the CDC's considerations for the holidays. It gives ideas about holiday travel, as well as for those hosting and attending events. CDC considerations for the winter holidays. Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching, and check out my podcast website fragmentedtowhole.com. Be sure to leave a rating of my podcast on your favorite podcast app (it helps other people who need this info to find me!). | |||
| 06 Jan 2020 | The Promises of Recovery | Episode 38 | 00:19:00 | |
The promises of recovery tell us what our lives might look like once we've got some recovery under our belts. In this episode I'll share how the promises of recovery - and more - have come true for me in my life. They can come true for you too! (You are not uniquely flawed). I share how to handle difficult situations, and how to recognize and discard rigid, distorted thinking, even if it's a long-standing pattern. | |||
| 22 Mar 2021 | Episode 100 | Voices, Music and Readings of Recovery | 01:18:32 | |
In celebration of the 100th episode of my podcast, I've invited a variety of people to share their voices, music and poetry. I also shared 3 of my most important (brief) recovery readings, and a story about how the desire to record a podcast was planted in me decades before podcasts even existed! Join us for the this panel of 4 people in recovery, 2 of whom are BIPOC individuals. You'll hear 3 recovery songs and an incredible recovery poem, along with 4 recovery shares. Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching. My guests websites are here: | |||
| 24 May 2021 | How to Stop Abandoning Yourself So You Can Get Over Your Fear of Abandonment | Episode 109 | 00:13:25 | |
Most of us in recovery fear abandonment, yet ironically, most of us abandon ourselves. We do this because of the chaos and dysfunction with which we grew up. The key is to stop abandoning yourself, which essentially means to learn how to take good care of yourself. This is the essence of what recovery is - learning to take good care of ourselves. I go into a couple of examples of how to stop abandoning ourselves and why it's so important. I also go into the astonishing impact it has on our relationships when we stop abandoning ourselves. Here's the link if you're interested in having a free 30-minute Better Boundaries call with me: www.BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com Check out all the shows produced under the Baobab Tree at www.baobabtreestories.com | |||
| 10 Jun 2019 | My tools of recovery series Part I: Pausing | Episode 8 | 00:12:00 | |
If you're reactive and want to stop, or if you've been told "count to 10 before responding" and don't know how to even begin doing that, this episode can help! I introduce my top 3 tools of recovery and then discuss, in detail, how I overcame the monumental task of learning to pause before responding. This one tool help me to get rid of my sense of urgency, eased my lifelong tension, and got me to peace and serenity. | |||
| 21 Jul 2020 | How to Stop Comparing Your Insides to Other People's Outsides | Episode 66 | 00:12:40 | |
If you suffer from feeling that you're not enough or don't have enough, this episode may help. Comparing yourself to others is potentially endless - you can always find someone who has it better than you. That means it's almost always a losing battle. This is especially so when we compare our inner life to someone else's outer life. We simply don't know what kind of demons other people are wrestling with! When we do this, it reinforces our sense of inadequacy. Learning to keep the focus on yourself, and comparing yourself to your former self is much more fruitful. | |||
| 23 Aug 2021 | Stop Fixing, Rescuing and Protecting Others and Keep That Energy for Yourself! | Episode 122 | 00:19:58 | |
When we attempt to fix, rescue, protect and buffer others from the negative consequences of their own lives, we're not helping. In fact, we may very well be making things worse. We're definitely making things worse for *ourselves* by draining our energy supply so we don't have anything left for ourselves. I talk through a couple of examples from my own life - one where I was being helpful to be controlling, and the other where I was able to see how NOT stepping in to rescue made the situation much better rather than worse. Here's the link to my membership community, Secure, Loved & Brave that I mentioned in the episode: https://higherpowercc.com/membership/ If you’re a fan of this podcast and want to support it, please check me out Patreon.com/HigherPowerCoaching. You can choose the level of support that feels right for you. Be sure to leave a rating on Apple Podcasts (it helps others to find this podcast!). And make sure you check out all the stories under the Baobab Tree at https://www.baobabtreestories.com | |||
| 24 Jul 2021 | How to Stop Creating the Opposite of What You Want to Get the Life You DO Want | Episode 117 | 00:13:50 | |
When we're focused more on what others think of us, and things we DON'T want, we're more likely to get it. However, when we start to focus on ourselves and what we actually DO want, we're more likely to get it. I give some examples of what this looks like in real life, then talk about how to make the shift. It's about figuring out who your authentic self is, then living your life in accordance with that. If you’re a fan of this podcast and want to support it, please check me out Patreon.com/HigherPowerCoaching. You can choose the level of support that feels right for you. Be sure to leave a rating on Apple Podcasts (it helps others to find this podcast!). And check out all the other podcasts under the Baobab Tree at https://www.baobabtreestories.com | |||
| 19 May 2020 | Turn Off the Spigot of Negativity and Purify the Well of Your Mind |Episode 57 | 00:14:00 | |
When negative thoughts continually run through our minds it's like poison in a well. It's impossible to love yourself when the well of your mind is full of poison. Stopping the negative thoughts helps to purify the well, but there's something else you can do that will speed up the process to purify that well. Learn how to do that on this episode. | |||
| 14 Apr 2020 | Trauma Response Prevention During COVID-19 | Episode 52 | 00:12:10 | |
There are a number of predictable conditions that lead to trauma. These include unpredictability, immobility, loss of connection, loss of a sense of safety and others. These can be addressed so as to prevent, or reduce the likelihood of a trauma response. I share several strategies here. | |||
| 04 Jan 2021 | Anonymity | Episode 89 | 00:15:20 | |
I thought anonymity was about avoiding the stigma of being in 12 step recovery. It's really about humility, which is what allows us to be teachable. When we are humble, we understand we're no better and no worse than anyone else. It's also about ensuring that each one of us has only one voice, and no one speaks for any particular fellowship (whether inside the rooms of recovery or publicly). Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching, Be sure to leave a rating of my podcast on your favorite podcast app (it helps other people who need this info to find me!). | |||
| 04 Nov 2019 | Don't Live into the Wreckage of the Future! | Episode 29 | 00:14:00 | |
This episode will show you that there is another way to live inside your head besides assuming the worst is always going to happen. Living like that keeps us from experiencing our lives in the present moment of reality, in addition to making us anxious and upset. We do this because we (oddly) think it's going to make our lives better, but in fact, it makes our lives worse! You get to decide what to do with your mind, and this podcast will help you do that by sharing tips for how to stop living into the wreckage of the future. | |||
| 04 Oct 2021 | Are You a Peach or a Pear? Not Everyone Is Going to Like You | Episode 128 | 00:11:35 | |
Coming to understand that we are flawesome (flawed + awesome) and that not everyone is going to like us is a GAME CHANGER for many of us in recovery! When we realize that we're fine just as we are, and some people are just never gonna like us, life gets easier. I give a metaphor for thinking about this which is that - maybe you're a peach, and not everyone likes peaches. No one blames the peach, and no one blames the person for not liking peaches. That's just the way it is. Not everyone likes peaches. My other episodes mentioned today were:#31 Overcoming Unrealistic Expectationshttps://higherpowercc.com/2020/11/05/fragmented-to-whole-podcast-31-overcoming-unrealistic-expectations/ #83 Flawesome!https://higherpowercc.com/2021/03/12/83-flawesome/ And I also mentioned Brooke Castillo from The Life Coach School, you can find her podcast here:https://thelifecoachschool.com/podcast/ If you’re a fan of this podcast and want to support it, please check me out Patreon.com/HigherPowerCoaching. You can choose the level of support that feels right for you.Be sure to leave a rating on Apple Podcasts (it helps others to find this podcast!). Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching and visit me on my website: www.HigherPowerCC.com. | |||
| 24 Feb 2020 | Actions That Lead to Freedom | Episode 45 | 00:11:01 | |
12 Step Recovery programs are programs of action. You must take action - whether you believe it will work or not - if you're going to recovery. In this episode I lay out a whole bunch of actions that I've learned in recovery that have led to freedom from addiction, dysfunction, compulsion and obsession. | |||
| 07 Feb 2022 | Stop F-ing Blaming Other People and Keep the Focus on Yourself | Episode 146 | 00:13:03 | |
I titled this episode as if it’s a command, but it’s really an option. You get to choose to stop putting the blame on others. If everyone else really is to blame for everything wrong in your life; you may as well crawl under a rock because you have no options. I don’t believe this at all. That’s why episode 146 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is keeping the focus on yourself instead of blaming other people! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of focusing on yourself and your life and actionable steps you can take right now to allow options to come to you. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
Focusing on yourself is paramount to change and growth, which is why I talk about it a lot with my clients and on the podcast. So be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: EPISODES MENTIONED: Ep 3 Victim mentality Ep 106. How to overcome victim mentality even if you’ve been victimized Ep 53. Focus on what you CAN control | |||
| 14 Feb 2022 | You Are Not Alone - There Are Others Just Like You | Episode 147 | 00:13:14 | |
One of the most powerful lessons you can learn in recovery is that you are not alone. It was recently reinforced after receiving a Postsecret email. Frank’s story of how he created Postsecret and why is incredibly moving. That’s why episode 147 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about understanding that you are not alone! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of community for healing and actionable steps you can take right now to feel less isolated. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
There are entire communities of people just like you - even when you feel like it, you’re not alone. So be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to Post Secret https://postsecret.tumblr.com/ (the largest advertisement-free blog in the world). Post Secret on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/PostSecret | |||
| 21 Feb 2022 | How to Stop Being Attached to Outcomes - You Don't Get to Have your Curiosity Satisfied | Episode 148 | 00:13:23 | |
I used to believe that if I was curious about something, I deserved to have it satisfied, or I needed to have my curiosity satisfied. Something I learned through recovery is that I don’t have to or need to have it satisfied; I’m able to NOT get closure on things. I think my strong desire to know things comes from my confusing upbringing, but now I don’t NEED to understand things like I used to. That’s why episode 148 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about releasing the need to get closure and not be attached to outcomes! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of letting go of the need to understand why or how something exists the way it does, and allow things to remain open without closure. I also chat about actionable steps you can take right now to learn to be okay with not satisfying your curiosity. I used to act like I could make things turn out the way I wanted to if I just knew more - which isn’t the case at all. You cannot control the uncontrollable. When I learned this in recovery, I also learned the power in minding my own business. When you spend all your energy on what you cannot change, you aren’t spending enough energy on what you can control - yourself and your actions. So be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Links mentioned: Ep #2. Acceptance Ep 53. Focus on what you CAN control Ep 86. The serenity prayer- reimagined Quotes mentioned: “When you understand, things are as they are. When you do not understand, things are as they are.” - Zen Proverb “There could be something, the know of which, changes everything.” | |||
| 28 Feb 2022 | How Surrender Leads to Victory Not Loss | 00:10:49 | |
I heard someone talking about their journey to starting recovery and how they didn’t ever want to surrender anything because that would mean that they would lose. I don’t believe that surrender in recovery means you lose, so I wanted to bring it to you this week. That’s why episode 149 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how surrender leads to victory! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of surrendering in recovery and actionable steps you can take right now to feel better about surrendering and lean into it to lead to victory. It never even occurred to me when I started my own journey that the surrendering you did in recovery was the same in battle or that people felt that way. You don’t lose in surrendering in recovery; in fact the surrendering you do in recovery leads to victory. I surrendered so many battles, and surrendered to the perfect rhythm and flow of life for me. That feels like victory to me. So be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: | |||
| 07 Mar 2022 | Addicted to Comfort with Alex Pierpaoli | Episode 150 | 00:33:22 | |
Alex and I met back in 2018, and the way he articulates his story is so inspiring that I knew he had to be on the podcast. Alex is in two different 12-step programs, one for behavior and one for substance, in his case, food. That’s why episode 150 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how Alex was addicted to comfort, and his story through that recognition during recovery. Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of understanding the difference between comfort and familiarity, as well as actionable steps you can take right now to start to understand your own behaviors around comfort. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
Alex’s story of his own recognition of addiction and recovery are truly inspiring and encouraging. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Episodes mentioned: Episode 44. Comfortable vs Comforting Other episodes about perspective changes from recovery: Ep. #15 Helping vs. Rescuing Ep. #21 Isolation vs. Healthy Alone Time Ep. #24 Stinkin' Thinkin' Ep. #28 Healthy vs. Unhealthy: What’s Your Motivation? Ep. #41 Discipline = Freedom Ep. #44 Comfortable vs. ComfortING Ep. #46 Choice vs. Control | |||
| 14 Mar 2022 | Why Your Motives Matter for You But Not For Other People | Episode 151 | 00:11:16 | |
One of the most important questions I have learned to ask myself when trying to decide what is the right thing for me to do is “What are my motives?”. Your motives really matter when it comes to your own next steps, but other people don’t care about your motives. They care about your actions. That’s why episode 151 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about why your motives matter for you, but not for other people! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of understanding your own motives and actionable steps you can take right now to live on purpose. When it comes to the question of motives, you have to remember that what your motives are matter to you because why you’re doing something has everything to do with the energy you bring to it. Being clear on your purpose and your values, will allow you to more deeply understand your motives and live on purpose. It doesn’t matter to the other person why you did something; what matters is how other people receive your intentions, or your actions.If you want to be a good, decent person, and live life on purpose, then your motives are so important to your actions. So be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave | |||
| 21 Mar 2022 | How to Stop Taking Things Personally and Come Out of Victim Mentality | Episode 152 | 00:14:31 | |
Probably the most important paradigm shift of my entire recovery journey was coming out of victim mentality. I had no idea I had this mentality but I could spot a victim a mile away; I thought I could save them all. When I finally discovered that I had victim mentality, it was a huge awakening; what else did I not know about myself? That’s why episode 152 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about getting out of victim mentality! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of not taking things personally and actionable steps you can take right now to take responsibility for the part you have in every relationship you’re in. I really figured this out myself while reflecting on my past relationships. I acted as if I wasn’t responsible for any part of them; the person I was in a relationship with was responsible for everything wrong, and I was just there (well, actually, I thought I was responsible for all the good things in those relationships!). This was true of all relationships: family, friends, colleagues, and romantic partners. This mental shift allows me to set boundaries, be more openly honest to those in my life, and recognize that it’s not always about me. It’s a completely different way of thinking. So be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave Links: Ep #3 Victim mentality Ep 126 How Understanding Your Part in Things Brings You Out of Victim Mentality Ep 106 How to overcome victim mentality even if you’ve been victimized | |||
| 28 Mar 2022 | Learning to Have Realistic Expectations and Becoming Able to Let Things Go | Episode 153 | 00:14:29 | |
When I did the 12 steps in my second program, after I determined my defects of character in steps 4 & 5, I was tasked with picking 4 of my top defects and do some really deep work on each of those for steps 6 & 7. I had to define very specifically what it would look like if God removed these defects. That process came in very handy this week, even years later. That’s why episode 153 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast relates a story about how ordering a product from someone showed me the importance of learning to let thing go and set more realistic expectations, which were two of my worst defects of character. Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of letting shit go and actionable steps you can take right now to be accepting of things as they are. I used to hold onto things forever, especially my unrealistic expectations of others, then later punish them for not meeting those unrealistic expectations. I still sometimes have trouble letting things go, but I am better at recognizing it when I start to lean into that defect of mine, and better control my own actions and thoughts through that recognition. So be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave | |||
| 04 Apr 2022 | How I Lead My Life on Purpose {Rebroadcast of Reinvention Rebels} | Episode 154 | 00:58:16 | |
I am doing something new in this episode that I've never done before; I am resharing a conversation from a year and a half ago on the podcast Reinvention Rebels. This is the first time I was ever on a podcast and you’ll hear how fresh and new I was to my message and my own voice. I relistened recently, and there’s a lot of good information in it! That’s why episode 154 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is a rebroadcast of my discussion with Wendy Battles on the Reinvention Rebels podcast! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of reflection in my life for self-love and actionable steps you can take right now to be brave and rediscover yourself. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
This is a fantastic conversation about a lot of the changes I have been through and many ways I’ve learned to love myself, judge less, embrace my flaws, and more that I know you’ll find helpful too. So be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave Podcast link: | |||
| 11 Apr 2022 | How to Stop Lying to Yourself and Make Real Change - You Can Do Hard | Episode 155 | 00:10:32 | |
One comment I hear all the time from people in recovery or who are trying to make big changes in their lives is, “It’s so hard!”. The hard that you’re currently living if you’re still using is actually making things more difficult unless something changes. This week’s episode 155 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to stop lying to yourself about it being “too hard” and get on the path to healing and thus, less hard! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of going through the hard and actionable steps you can take right now to stop telling yourself it’s too hard to accomplish, and just do it. You can do hard because you’ve been doing “hard” your whole life! It is hard to do the change, but once you do it the rest gets easier. Something being hard is not a good excuse to not do the thing; so stop saying, “It’s so hard” and remember you can do hard. If you do the hard work of whatever decisions or changes you’re trying to make, that type of hard is temporary. Doing this hard work will lead to healing. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave Winston Churchill quote: “If you’re going through Hell, keep on going,” | |||
| 18 Apr 2022 | Info, Not Ammo | Episode 156 | 00:12:03 | |
I can’t believe I have never done a podcast on the concept of info, not ammo. When you learn something negative about yourself, instead of using it as *ammunition* for you to beat yourself up, use it as *information* to integrate about yourself. This is so important especially in the 4th step inventory of 12-step recovery. This week’s episode 156 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about learning to use negative information about yourself as info to learn and grow from instead of ammunition to beat yourself up! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of understanding the difference between taking information as information only, versus using it as ammunition to attack yourself. I also cover actionable steps you can take right now to be honest with others and yourself and stop manipulating information. I give the example of how I used this “info not ammo” principle when I learned that I was a people-pleaser, and that people-pleasers were dishonest and manipulative. I immediately wanted to use it to beat myself up over it - I couldn’t believe it! When I first started changing my ways to telling the truth and communicating directly with others, I felt like it was going to kill me! But I got used to it and now I feel so much better about myself and about who I am as a person. This concept of “info not ammo” can be a gamechanger for you too. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave | |||
| 25 Apr 2022 | Tips on How to Find the Right Sponsor in 12-Step Recovery | Episode 157 | 00:23:09 | |
I’ve been asked how to find the right sponsor for you in recovery, and as a sponsor myself I thought I would also share how my process for sponsoring. Just like everything in recovery, take what you want and leave the rest. This episode covers information for those new to recovery looking for their first sponsor, as well as those deeper into their journey too. It also helps those looking for a sponsor, as well as sponsors themselves,. This week’s episode 157 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about Tips on How to Find the Right Sponsor in 12-Step Recovery! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of doing what works best for you as both the sponsor and the sponsee and actionable steps you can take right now to pick the best sponsor relationship for you. Some of the tips I go over in this episode include:
I would be happy to help answer questions about sponsors, however, I’m not able to be your sponsor or help you find one. I hope this episode helps you make the right decision for a sponsor for yourself. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave | |||
| 02 May 2022 | How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others and Make the Most Out of Your Recovery | Episode 158 | 00:10:33 | |
Stop comparing yourself to others! It’s typically going to either lead you to feeling like shit about yourself, or it’ll make you feel like you’re better than others. Either way - not good. Instead, the power is in keeping the focus and the comparison on former you and where you are now. Most of us have gotten better throughout our lives, but it’s not always linear. This week’s episode 158 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about making the most out of your recovery by not comparing yourself to others! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of keeping the focus on yourself and your own recovery and actionable steps you can take right now to compare yourself to former you, and not focus on others. What *you* think of yourself should matter more than what others’ think of you. What really matters is how you feel about yourself. If you’re comparing yourself to your former self, and don’t like what you see, then use that desire to make the comparison to be better. However, if you are comparing yourself to shit on yourself, that’s not the point either. What you learn when making the comparison is info, not ammo. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave Podcast Episodes Mentioned: Ep 66. Stop comparing your insides to other people’s outsides Ep 135 Go from Envy to Inspiration with One Simple Mind Shift Ep. 156. Info, Not Ammo | |||
| 09 May 2022 | Boundaries in the Bedroom | Episode 159 | 00:23:48 | |
I’m kind of surprised that boundaries in the bedroom is just now touching the podcast; and even more surprised that I just now realized that what I am talking about in this episode is even boundaries at all. Setting healthy boundaries in all aspects of a relationship, including in the bedroom, is so important! This week’s episode 159 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about trusting yourself and setting boundaries for the bedroom! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of trusting yourself and your boundaries and actionable steps you can take right now to build and set healthy boundaries around sexuality. I learned how to set boundaries in my 12 step recovery journey. Boundaries are one of the most important gifts I got from recovery, and they’re one of my most important tools of recovery. I was really attracted to my partner in the beginning because of his healthy boundaries. It was through his expression of healthy boundaries, as well as my own recovery journey, that I was able to set my own in the relationship. I also talk about the value in setting healthy boundaries in your own life and in your relationships with others. It’s one thing to be told to set healthy boundaries, and it’s another thing to hear the building blocks someone’s journey to build a healthy relationship for the very first time. That’s what you’ll hear on this episode! Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave Links mentioned: Ep 107. The importance of boundaries in recovery - learning from the outside in Ep 125. Top 12 Lessons on Dating and Relationships from 12 Step Recovery | |||
| 16 May 2022 | Recovering Shit Show Andrea Ashley | Episode 160 | 00:35:55 | |
I’m super excited today to have Andrea Ashley as my guest, she’s the host of the Adult Child podcast. I was in a step study group and somebody messaged me about her podcast. I listened to the trailer and after listening to two episodes, I knew she had to be on the podcast. She shares raw stories of recovery like you rarely hear outside of a meeting and she’s also able to pull concepts together in a way that are really understandable. She's also incredibly vulnerable and authentic with her own personal stories. Plus she uses the f-word more than I do! This week’s episode 160 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about Andrea Ashley’s story as a recovering shit show! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m with Andrea Ashley sharing the importance of therapy and 12-step recovery in her journey to unearth her true self, and the healing modalities she’s used to address the trauma of her past. She also shares actionable steps you can take right now to start living for yourself, as well as identify triggers and symptoms of childhood trauma through her story. She shares how her life is now, after finally finding a therapist who’s a good fit four years ago, and ways she’s recognized her true self. Andrea identifies as a recovering shit show and says the word “fuck” more than I do! So I know you’ll find her story compelling and her honesty refreshing. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH ANDREA ASHLEY: CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave Links Mentioned: Book - The Abandonment Recovery Workbook | |||
| 23 May 2022 | How to Care More What You Think Of Yourself Than What Others Do | Episode 161 | 00:14:44 | |
Caring more about what I think of myself than what others do is by far the biggest thing that has enabled me to go from having no boundaries to having really healthy boundaries. Keep in mind, this doesn’t mean I don’t care at all what others think of me, but it has become lower on my list of priorities. Experimentation is required when developing healthy boundaries, and I want to show you what that looks like. It will help you shore up your integrity. This week’s episode 161 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to care more about what you think of you than what others think of you! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of standing up for yourself and giving a shit about yourself and actionable steps you can take right now to care more about what you think of you. I was willing to throw my integrity out the window for the chance that people would like me. I would lie to get others’ approval, which ended up with me not liking myself, or my life. I was trying to live a bunch of other people’s lives instead of my own. I started to live in alignment with my values and, now, I like me and my life, since I’m no longer lying. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave Links: Link to a free 30-minute coaching session | |||
| 30 May 2022 | The Progressive Nature of My Illness | Episode 162 | 00:21:03 | |
One of the things that we’re told about recovery is that the disease is progressive; meaning, if left untreated, the disease gets worse and worse and worse. My experience is that this progressive nature is also true about codependency. I recently started thinking about how my life would be different if I was never in recovery, given how progressive things got with both my addiction and my codependence at the end there. This week’s episode 162 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the progressive nature of our illnesses! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of reflecting on where you’d be if you didn’t get into recovery and actionable steps you can take right now to recognize the pressive nature when it rears it’s ugly head. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
Even if I wasn’t just generally grateful for recovery, which I am, I look for that gratitude every day. This is an emotional episode of my own journey through recovery and how I was before recovery. This shit is fucking real. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave LINKS MENTIONED: Ep 23. Denial 2.0 | |||
| 06 Jun 2022 | Feelings Aren't Facts But They're Still Real and They Matter | Episode 163 | 00:16:36 | |
There’s a thing that people in recovery like to say, and it really used to piss me off. The saying is, “Feelings aren’t facts,”. While it may be true, I know my feelings are real, and I just didn’t get it when people said this. Usually it was in an accusatory manner, like, “How dare you have those feelings!” I now have a better handle on my feelings, both in recognition and understanding them. This week’s episode 163 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to validate and understand your feelings and create emotional sobriety! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of understanding your feelings and actionable steps you can take right now to validate your feelings without overreacting and letting emotions take the driver’s seat. A lot of the times our emotions and our reactions to those feelings are directly related to the things we’ve experienced in our past. In my case, that’s trauma. Without recognizing this in the present, you could have something trigger a fault-line in your soul that causes a different reaction than the situation actually warrants. This is not to say that your feelings don’t matter; they do and we should feel them. Where we get into trouble is when we mistakenly believe the emotion we’re feeling now actually relates to the current situation, and not from our past, and then act on that feeling. We instead need to focus on what we want, not what we don’t want. We want to live our lives on purpose. This means identifying not what we don’t want, but what we DO want, in order to get to peace. Focusing on other people and what they’re doing is not going to get me peace. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave | |||
| 13 Jun 2022 | Why People Pleasing is Dishonest and Manipulative and How to Stop | Episode 164 | 00:15:07 | |
When I first got into recovery, I remember saying that I was confused on where the line was between being helpful and being rescuing. I was asked what my intentions were behind my actions, and that’s how I realized that I was doing things because I was anxious about how people perceived me. Turns out, I was doing it because I was hoping others would think good things about me, and not because I was necessarily trying to be helpful without it being about me. I didn’t want to look bad. This week’s episode 164 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about understanding your own motives to stop being manipulative and a people pleaser! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of stopping your people pleasing behaviors and actionable steps you can take right now to stop the manipulation. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
What’s clear is that people pleasing is a sure sign of codependency; you’re putting the weight of the world on what others think of you more than what you think of you. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave LINKS MENTIONED: Ep 98. My two most important questions for guiding my behavior | |||
| 20 Jun 2022 | What Most People Don't Know About Physical Addiction vs Process Addiction | Episode 165 | 00:18:07 | |
I was listening to another recovery podcast the other day and this other person was talking about how they had no idea where to find resources. It occurred to me that it would be beneficial to discuss the 12 step recovery process for those of you who aren’t familiar with it so you can see if it’s right for you or not. I really didn’t “get” addiction until I was in my second recovery program. This week’s episode 165 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about understanding the difference between a physical addiction and a process addiction! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of understanding the two-fold nature of the addiction illness and actionable steps you can take right now to better understand if a 12 step recovery program is for you. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
We find healthy calmness in recovery, and it can take time to get used to that peacefulness. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave Links to recovery resources: Alcoholics Anonymous: https://www.aa.org/ Narcotics Anonymous: https://www.nar-anon.org/ Cocaine Anonymous: https://ca.org/ Al Anon: https://al-anon.org/ Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families: https://adultchildren.org/ Co-Dependents Anonymous: https://coda.org/ Overeaters Anonymous: https://oa.org/ Debtors Anonymous: https://debtorsanonymous.org/ Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous: https://slaafws.org/ We The Village: https://wethevillage.co/ Faces & Voices of Recovery: https://facesandvoicesofrecovery.org/ | |||
| 27 Jun 2022 | Here's What it Looks Like... | Episode 166 | 00:18:48 | |
I heard someone ask the other day, “Are you spiritually fit, or are things just going your way?” and this past week things just didn’t go my way. This proved to me that I am far more spiritually fit than I used to be. I’ve learned to live life on life’s terms. This week’s episode 166 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about living life on life’s terms, instead of on Barb’s terms! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of letting shit go and actionable steps you can take right now to get spiritually fit through re-defining how you react to things when shit happens. I had a bad week. Things that may not be a big deal to you that were a big deal to me, happened. In this episode, I share my personal story from trying to see the new Top Gun Maverick movie, and why I am so proud of myself for how I handled the whole situation. I didn’t know it was an option to be serene when shit happened before recovery. That was victim mentality. When we have the perspective of a victim, we see that things are just plain happening as happening TO us, instead of things just happening. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave | |||
| 04 Jul 2022 | Don't Go To The Hardware Store for Milk | Episode 167 | 00:09:29 | |
I was having lunch with a friend recently and she was really agonizing over whether or not she should leave her job. She’s torn because the circumstances she’s under aren’t great but she loves the work. In recovery we have a saying that applied to this situation: “Don’t go to the hardware store for milk.” That is, stop expecting someone or something to give you something they’re not capable of giving! This week’s episode 167 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about accepting things as they are. Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of accepting things as they are - like that the hardware store doesn’t sell milk; it sells hardware. So don’t go there expecting milk! I also talk about how to focus on one day at a time, and one situation at a time. I share actionable steps you can take right now to allow things to be as they are, and be present because the present is the moment of power. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave Links Mentioned: Ep. 18 One Day at a Time | |||
| 11 Jul 2022 | Why Consistency Is So Hard and How To Get Over The Hurdle | Episode 168 | 00:13:26 | |
I’ve been thinking a lot about consistency lately. One of the things I’m able to do now that I have been in recovery, and now that I have healthy boundaries, is I’m able to be consistent in my self-care, and I trust myself now. I was incapable of doing things consistently before recovery. This week’s episode 168 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about why consistency is so hard and how to get over the hurdle! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of consistency and actionable steps you can take right now to get over the hurdle of becoming consistent. If you are trying to accomplish a big task, like getting through to school or being healthy, consistency in small things, like homework and healthy meals, is far more important and more achievable than doing grand gestures. The beginning step is always harder, because it takes a lot of mental energy to get over the inertia of going from nothing to something, and this is why developing good habits is really important. They help you get past that inertia by developing momentum. Consistency over time gives you momentum of the habit, and it *does* become easier over time. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave | |||