EmPowered Couples with The Freemans (Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman)

Life is on your side, even if you don’t always feel that way! We wanted to take 10 minutes to share the crazy, unexpected, miraculous story about how we got this book deal. Why? Because it provided a life lesson that we think will inspire you in any season. 

P.S. Did you order your copy of The Argument Hangover yet? It’s shipping in just a few days, and you can claim $200 of bonus resources HERE

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Have you realized that you can be in a relationship, yet not be in a true partnership? It might seem like a simple word change but the experience can be radically different. You can be in a relationship yet still feel like a victim to your circumstances and your partner’s responses day to day. 

A true partnership is made up of two people who are accountable for how they are showing up. More specifically these 5 specific things that we cover in this episode. In this type of partnership you will feel empowered to create and direct your life and relationship, regardless of the circumstances that show up!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge that starts April 26th, 2021. Connect with other couples as we go through daily training of the 5 C's for a strong relationship, get a FREE book, and win challenge giveaways!

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

You’ve likely heard of the now popular Attachment Theory about having a secure, safe, trusting, and connected relationship. If you have, likely what you’ve seen is quite conceptual and you are not sure how to use the information. If you have not heard of this theory it simply describes how you connect and bond with a partner and how that was influenced by your parents (or primary caregiver) as well as other romantic relationships you have been in (primary attachment figures).

For us Attachment Theory has become so popular online, rightfully so, but without the right experts describing how to use this theory to make a difference in your own relationship, or how to actually change your style. In this episode you will hear from Attachment Theory expert, counselor, PhD, author, and founder of Personal Development School, Thais Gibson! You will hear her cover:

• The 4 Attachment Styles (quickly)

• The 5 Pillars and traits of each style

• How to reprogram your conscious mind (where attachment needs and behaviors come from) with tools like autosuggestion to change your style

Relationship Resources

Take the FREE Quiz to determine your Attachment Style: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/quiz

Learn more from the Personal Development School: 

https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ 

Join our 30-Day Couples Challenges (level 1 or 2) starting July 1st, 2024

https://www.meetthefreemans.com/challenges

Is feeling emotion within yourself something you welcome or try to avoid? What about when emotion is expressed by your partner, do you experience that as a sign of something bad starting up or as an invitation to listen? Emotion is at the root of relationships, it is what makes it satisfying and fulfilling as well as the starting point of conflicts. 

So what is the role of emotion and does it have a real place in a relationship? In this episode you will hear the answer to this question as well as the common barriers and challenges to “holding space for” your partner’s emotions? This is not a simple task so you will know what this “holding space for emotions” term really means and get practical tips for being better at this type of listening with each other. This can lead to more connection and emotional closeness, which is a fundamental aspect of a satisfying relationship over the long term. 

Relationship Resources

If you haven’t done our Level 2 “Rebuilding Us” Couples Challenge, we highly recommend doing that before the end of the year. We dive deeper into 10 foundation builders in a marriage, like emotional intelligence, the art of apologies, the needle-movers for each of you in the marriage, and more! You can look at both our Level 1 and Level 2 Couple’s Challenges at MeetTheFreemans.com/links

The one thing that the beginning of a year allows you to do is draw a clear line in the sand. It’s a psychological distinction to review your last 12 months and see how well you executed on your game plan. Some do this for work, for individual achievements, as sports teams, and it is very powerful to do for your marriage. 

In this episode you will hear how to go through a Yearly Check-in to start off your new year. This will allow you to reestablish your core values, set your vision and goals, and remove any old distractions and barriers that didn’t serve you from the previous year.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join the  "Prioritize Us" Couples Challenge starting Jan 1st, 2024 - the 30 day challenge for couples to simplify how to make positive changes in their marriage and prioritize loving actions and respectful communication. PLUS you get the Family Meeting Guide as a Bonus

FAMILY MEETING GUIDE: The  step-by-step guide to having your family meeting, with templates for weekly, quarterly, and the yearly meetings. This is the Family Meeting Guide from the episode and it’s only $19.

How is it that a couple would make it on the UK list of top 10 most empowered couple? In this episode you will find out that is exactly what Johnathan and Dulcie have done, as they brought together their lives and business, to run the thriving Fen Dairy Farm in Bungay, U.K.

All of their business & relationship success, happiness and connection came from combining their individual and unique talents together to serve a bigger purpose. This is the mark of a power couple. Listen in to discover how you can leverage your different skills to work, play and live together effectively and successfully. 

Questions asked in this interview

1. How did you combine your goals and decide to work together?
2. Are you able to balance business and romance or do they blend together?
3. How did you two become one of the top 10 Power Couples in the U.K.?
4. How do you keep fun and play alive in your relationship while also building the business?

In this episode you will learn:

1. How to leverage your different skills and talents in work but still work well together
2. How to reconnect to the reason you’re together after times of being disconnected
3. Why making family travel time a priority is so important
4. The power of having a vision as a couple, that is separate from your business vision.
5. The importance of having a diverse group of couples friends.
6. The power of emotional awareness and a hug during tough times.
7. How to make your partner a priority and making sure you have their back.

Quotes:

“It’s not just about sharing the good times. It’s also about sharing the work and having their back.”

Bio of guest:

Meet Jonathan & Dulcie Crickmore, living in Bungay, in the U.K. and they work and live on a farm that’s been in the family for 80 years. They have been named one of the U.K.’s top 10 empowered couples, and grown the business through leveraging their different skill-sets: Jonathan working more with his hands and with the animals, and Dulie focuses on marketing and branding for the farm. They are parents of two kids and have a passion for travel, and they make sure to travel for weeks out of every year.

Resources:

Guest resources: Connect more with this incredible guest here:http://fenfarmdairy.co.uk/

Connect more with The Freemans at www.MeetTheFreemans.com and follow them on instagram: @meet_thefreemans

Do you want to be a GREAT partner? It can be easy to show up less than our best as the months and years pass, so today’s episode is a great reminder that will motivate you to be the best partner you can be! We dive into 3 traits that are underrated and truly make such a difference for your partnership. 

Resources For Your Relationship:

If you’re in or near Arizona, attend The Couples Workshop on September 26th, 2021. 

If you’ve haven’t read it yet, grab your copy of The Argument Hangover.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

It is on our hearts to speak on this topic about "What if my partner and I want different things?" as we have heard this from a number of the couples that we have mentored in the last few months. 

This may seem like a depressing question to have come up, as it gives the feeling of "SHOOT" are we not on the same page? This can even lead to the thought of: "is this not the right relationship for me?" 

Have no fear or dismay, at some point we think most couples will ask this question, as its just a natural function of life... expansion and growth. We are not the same people form year to year so why would your relationship stay the same? This question just points to that its time to revisit and clarify what you both desire and how that fits into your vision together. 

Questions asked in this interview:

1) What is your Partnership Vision Statement?

2) What would you like more of in your relationship?

In this episode you will learn:

1) Its about asking better questions

2) The importance of clarity around your vision together

3) If something doesn't seem to be working, go more general

4) Its all about growth, so find out what area in life your partner is interested in growing themselves. This can be anything! 

Quotes:

 "Trade expectation for appreciation."

Resources:

Connect more with The Freemans at www.MeetTheFreemans.com and follow them on instagram: @meet_thefreemans

Which of these 7 stages of marriage are you two in right now? Knowing this not only gives you perspective about navigating your current season, but also what’s ahead of you in the bigger picture of being married for many years. 

It is unrealistic to think that every season of marriage should be the same, or will be in the same order as another couple’s. But also, we should be able to navigate some of the harder stages more quickly so they don’t last too long or rob us of joy and fulfillment in living life together. 

RELATIONSHIP RESOURCES:

1. Meet us in-person at The Couples Workshop in Arizona at the end of May.

2. Start the Prioritize Us 30-Day Couples Challenge and see why over 25,000 couples have loved these prompts! 

If you plan to be married for a long time, you need to work through hard seasons, course-correct, and commit to make changes. These are the times that you need to take steps to rebuild the marriage and start a chapter. This is PART 2 of the “Steps to Rebuild a Marriage” episode #312 as we got so many messages about this topic. 

In this episode we will briefly remind you of the steps to rebuild, which we have shortened from 8 to 6. Then we will dive further into 4 ways that you can easily get off track in these difficult conversations for rebuilding. These conversations are inherently going to be more vulnerable and potentially charged, so you will need to quickly adjust when you feel them getting off track. 

Relationship Resources From This Episode:

The brand NEW Steps to Rebuild a Marriage Guide so you can end a hard season and create a new chapter together.

The Danish people have ranked as the “happiest people on earth” for 40 years in a row starting in the 70’s, only to be rivaled by Norwegian and Finish people over the last several years. And their happiness isn’t dependent on things like: the weather or low taxes (it’s actually pretty cold and dark there, and they have relatively higher taxes)....so they must be doing something else right to be so happy.

So in today’s episode we cover 3 of the traits that they focus on to be the happiest people. Many of the traits we KNOW are critical to having a happy marriage. Of course just being a happier individual will lead to a happier relationship, but you will be able to know exactly what traits to improve in your relationship, so that your own happiness is intentional and not just based on better life circumstances.

Episode Resources & Links:

1. If you’re a parent, attend the WebClass taught by parenting expert, Amy McCready, on November 10th. Details and registration HERE.
2. Read the book we referred to in the podcast, The Danish Way of Parenting HERE
3. Read our book, The Argument Hangover and claim $200 worth of bonuses HERE.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Join Aaron in this episode to hear about what it means to "Be a Man" in relationships today. Being the man in a relationship used to mean that men were expected to act a certain way in a relationship. Well there is a shift happening as that old paradigm is not working anymore. Maybe it never really has.

Guys, here are 4 values and keys to the new way of "being a man" in a relationship, one that leaves you with more peace, satisfaction and to create an extraordinary relationship. 

Women, its time men showed up differently, not only so that you can fly and discover your purpose but that relationships can truly be thriving! 

Join us on this unique episode, where we were interviewed on an internet show by Raj and Gaby Sundra. They are the founders of “Relationship Fun and Games” and are on their 12th season of their “Fights Clean & Sex Dirty” show, that provides couples the resources to have better communication skills when they get into fights as well as spicing up their intimacy in new and fun ways! 

This business of theirs was born out of the necessity to become better partners themselves early on in their marriage when Raj was busy in business development consulting and their were starting their life in a new place. Now they are passionate to give the resources for others to ongoingly grow and strengthen their own relationship. For them relationships are at the heart of living your best life! 

In this episode you will:

Know that getting into fights and arguments is not a problem in your relationship when you are able to “fight clean”. You will have 4 tips on just what to do in the heat of a fight so you can feel you are always on the same page and confident that challenges lead you to being even more connected. 

Quotes: 

“Don’t just compromise, create!” 

“An awesome relationship is your access to an awesome life”

Connect More With The Guests:

Access all of their “Fights Clean & Sex Dirty” show episodes here. Choose either category for how to fight clean with better communication or how to spice up your intimacy! https://relationshipfunandgames.com/

Other resources:

Follow us on Instagram 

Attend the FREE “Communication Gap Masterclass” mentioned in this episode 

In this podcast episode, the fifth step in rebuilding a marriage takes center stage – expressing and agreeing to non-negotiables. Overall this is a crucial step for building trust and granting forgiveness. You will hear 4 non-negotiables that we feel are paramount to a strong and lasting marriage. Those steps are individual responsibility, emotional intelligence, open communication, and developing the traits of flexibility and resilience. You will discover how these keys lead to a stronger, more connected partnership, where both partners actively participate in nurturing a resilient and fulfilling relationship that will last.

Resources: 

1) Join the FREE Marriage Webclass on communication, conflict repair, and deescalation on Oct 19th, 2023. Register at: https://onlinecouplesworkshops.com/ 

2) After that date, find the resource guides here: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links 

If you have listened to the podcast at all you probably have thought “Yes, I get the importance of validating my partner but HOW exactly do I do that?” Even if this is your first time listening you likely have the same question about how to have your partner feel validated in their experience especially when you do not agree with their feelings or details of an event! 

Validating a partner is a difficult thing to do because you will not always see (or experience) events the same way. You also might feel as if they are blaming you for how they feel, which makes it more difficult to validate because it seems you have to take the blame. In this episode you will hear 7 easy actions to take to have your partner feel validated but also understand the real importance of validation on positive influence!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join the  "Prioritize Us" Couples Challenge starting Jan 1st, 2024 - the 30 day challenge for couples to simplify how to make positive changes in their marriage and prioritize loving actions and respectful communication.

STEPS TO REBUILD A MARRIAGE GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to the process of rebuilding a marriage after a hard and prolonged season of disconnect or hurt. It’s the Rebuild a Marriage Guide and it’s only $19.

When you bring up a challenging/hard conversation, does it tend to trigger defensiveness and lead to an unintended argument?

You could have every intention of just trying to share how you feel and get to a positive solution, and STILL have it lead to a massive misunderstanding.

You're not alone if this tends to happen in your relationship.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Ways to initiate the challenging topic so that it doesn't spark into an argument
• How to handle times your partner gets defensive
• 5 simple things you can do so that challenging topics end up strengthening your relationship, instead of creating unnecessary tension

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 2nd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved

The obvious statement is that men and women differ in how they emotionally connect. But the actions one can take to close the gap between how men and women connect is not as practical. Couples get stuck in the trap of “I just don’t connect the same way as my partner”. 

In this episode you are going to hear 3 different ways that men feel emotionally connected and 3 different ways for women. No matter how different you think you and your partner are in this area of connection, you can use one of these ways to better connect and be in harmony with your partner.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join the "Prioritize Us" Couples Challenge - the 30 day challenge for busy couples to re-prioritize each other and be more connected. 

You are likely aware that conflicts are going to happen, they shouldn’t be avoided, but accepted that they will happen. But how you handle the conflict determines whether it can be connecting and clarifying or it escalates and causes hurt. What really causes it to escalate is when you each are triggered and you let that trigger cause you to just react. 

In this episode today you will hear how you can better recognize emotional triggers, which has to be the first step, and then how you can de-escalate before a bigger conflict arises. A key takeaway is that you need to recognize your own triggered events and reaction patterns, but as a partner, how to recognize these in your partner as well.

You will then hear the 2 responsibilities you each have, followed by practical steps to de-escalate as you practice these things. This is the true work to be done in marriage, your marital satisfaction depends on your ability to recognize triggers and keep yourself from reacting in more hurtful ways.

Relationship Resources:

DO NOT MISS the once per year LIVE Marriage Webclass with The Freemans. The date is set for Feb 19th, 2025. This will be a virtual, 1 hour weblcass to communicate more effectively, de-escalate conflicts, and repair from conflicts fully. The class is FREE, but will be limited to 1000 attendees live. There will be a recoding as well, but you will need to register to have it sent to you. We will see you there! Register here: https://onlinecouplesworkshops.com/

After the date passes, you will be able to find the recording and all the other guides and challenges with this link: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links

Follow us on Instagram @meet_thefreemans

Every one of us humans has needs that need to be fulfilled to have a good life. Part of this search to fulfill these needs is what leads you to get into a relationship in the first place. You might think about survival type needs to begin with like food and shelter, but these are emotional needs that all of us seek to have fulfilled. 

Since these 6 needs are emotionally based it can be easy to not pay attention to them which leads to it being easy to let them decline. Though it isn’t immediately obvious, the lack of these needs is what leads us to all our actions. When they are low in a relationship, it can lead to taking small innocent actions that lead to bigger issues of trust and disconnection. 

In this episode you will hear the 6 human needs that were made famous by a Tony Robbins TED talk, but you will hear examples of how this places out in your relationship. We give you two actions to take to figure out your top two needs and the way to make sure you are always on top of where your partner’s level of fulfillment is at.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Get 50% OFF The On-The-Go Communication Course to enhance your communication skills, even during your busy life, by using the code: PODCAST

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

After going through the most challenging month of my life, which of course had a major impact on Jocelyn as we went through it together, this is one of the major lessons I learned. Though you experience different challenges and varying degrees of emotional stress around them, the fact remains that challenges themselves are temporary. This realization was a major turning point during this time. 

In this solo episode you will hear about two distinct aspects of circumstantial challenges, you will feel some relief and optimism for any challenge you are currently facing, but also you will understand the decision point that you can make to turn it all around in your favor.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Battle For Fairness Marriage WebClass September 15th —> OnlineCouplesWorkshops.com Let’s end “The Battle for Fairness” in relationship roles, overcoming resentment, and reducing overwhelm in your partnership.
2. If that date is passed then you can sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

What do you do to ‘turn off’ the business relationship and turn on the the partner side?” This is a question we received on Instagram from @jessgoeseverywhere in our new style of episode “Ask The Freemans Anything” where we answer ANY relationship question. This is a way to connect us all as the tribe of high achieving empowered couples to continue to grow into the best partners we can be! 

In this episode...

You will know: That a lot of disconnection and feeling of routine in your relationship come from not transitioning out of your work mode back into home life. You will have 3 specific ways to effectively transition back into connect through eliminating distractions, having meaningful questions to ask, and creating a transition activity to circulate energy. You will leave feeling confident that you can be even more connected and present with your partner and consistently learning new things about them each day!

Other resources:

Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

Tour the Empowered Couples University: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/empowered-couples-university

Have you never had that feeling of being perplexed and thrown off guard when you tried to bring something up to your partner? You might have had a recent upset, an event that you were frustrated by, or another emotion that you needed to express to your partner. Within a few seconds your partner dumps all their own upsets and frustrations at you; even going as far as to compare how their pain is worse than yours! 

This is an “emotional hijack” that makes the conversation all about them and leaves you feeling stunned, caught off guard, that it’s unfair, and even selfish of them. What makes matters worse is that you had a positive intention to communicate openly and often vulnerably with them. After this, why would you even want to bring up anything in the future? 

In this episode you will hear about the reasons this dynamic happens and what is really going on for them to take over your conversation. Then you will hear 2 things that can be done differently so that you do not lose faith and trust in each other to be able to express yourselves without you feeling hijacked!

Resources For Your Relationship:

As a listener get $50 off The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you to be better at both the speaker and listener role, as to not hijack important conversations with your partner! At checkout use the code: 50bundle

Raising one’s emotional intelligence (EQ) is a critical factor in the long term satisfaction and maturity within a marriage. Without this, the depth of a couple’s connection will be limited and small emotional disruptions will turn into bigger conflicts (and likely never address the root cause). This is a term you have likely heard of before in terms of marriage and other important relationships in your life. But it can often be too abstract and conceptual to be put into practice. 

In today’s episode you will hear 5 skills that build EQ. You will get a clear definition of each of these skills as well as the practical action to take to strengthen that muscle. These 5 skills do build on themselves and can be seen as sequential. So as you work on each of these, be sure you are completing each step before moving to the next. By listening to this episode you will have a clear understanding of how to raise your EQ and the benefit it will be for your relationship.

Relationship Resources:

➡️ As you listen, make sure you register for our Live + Free Marriage WebClass coming up February 19th, 2025. We only host this ONCE a year, so don’t miss it!

➡️ Find the links to all the guides and 30-day challenges with our resources page here. https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links

You desire to be a GREAT partner, not just an okay partner! But in the modern world, there are a lot of pressures and stressors that can distract you from the most essential ingredients to being a great spouse. That’s why this episode includes just THREE that you can focus on mastering for the coming months….so that you can step UP your game as a partner!

Today you will hear how to be an even better partner through developing these essential traits:

1. Follow-through (doing what you say you will)
2. Emotional Intelligence (taking responsibility for your emotions)
3. Listening for the positive intent (set aside your filter)

Other resources:

Get a FREE hard copy of the book The New Power Couple (just cover shipping) and join the Power Couple Book Club! 

Follow us on Instagram

We are just off hosting the Couples Workshop in Arizona yesterday, and this was one of the biggest takeaways from the ½ day in person event. Communication seems easy when you only think of it as “verbalizing what you are thinking”. But this often leads to the biggest communication mistake that turns simple conversations into an argument. 

In this episode we will give you the inside look at the most effective communication tool that we teach at the Couples Workshop and in our coaching. By changing your very first sentence to your partner you can stay on the same team together and support each other in fulfilling your relationship needs and wants!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

First of all, would you like to attend an online workshop to “Spice Up Your Sex Life”? Attend a 2 hour life changing one in May 2022 by purchasing The Communication Mastery Bundle and you’ll get this as a a free bonus HERE.

Now pause for a minute to think about this... What level of desire and wanting to be intimate with your partner are you currently experiencing?

If you notice, desire itself is not always and immediately available in your relationship. In different seasons of life it can feel less or more. So where does it go if it’s not as present for each other right now?

This podcast interview is with intimacy coach Ashley Jones, the one we did the intimacy workshop with in Hawaii! This episode will give you a whole new perspective on desire, how to create more of it, and remove what blocks it! We promise that you will be excited about exploring intimacy even more together. 

After the episode you can learn and connect more with Ashley here:

Web: https://www.uplevellove.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/uplevellove/?hl=en

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

The 30-Day Couples Challenge starts THIS week, so sign up here: https://mycoupleschallenge.com/

In this episode, we dive into the subtle ways that effort can dwindle once we've achieved our goals. Think about athletes reaching their peak or accomplishing a major milestone in your personal life—there's a loss of that initial hunger and drive. The same can happen in your marriage, but it's trickier because there isn't a clear finish line or “scoreboard” to tell us how well we’re doing. 

By listening you will get the signs of declining effort, like depleted love accounts, quick and thoughtless communication, fading passion, and that feeling of coasting or routine. But don't worry, we've got you covered with five powerful ways to rekindle that effort. From small love deposits and appreciating conscious choices to thoughtful greetings and setting the right mood, we share practical strategies to feel more prioritized, loved, and connected.

Getting to know one's spiritual beliefs usually happens pretty early on in a relationship. Its one of those foundations of a relationship where most feel their beliefs must match a potential partner.

There are times in established relationships, where an individuals spiritual beliefs change and now may be different from their partners. This can seem difficult to navigate as it seems to people as something that must be "overcome". 

In this episode the Freemans dive into how to have a relationship continue and to thrive even when spiritual beliefs may not be the same. 

Questions asked in this interview

1) Can you, as a finite human being, truly and fully understand the infinite?

2) Do you fully understand how even a blade of grass works in its entirety? If not is it possible that even your own beliefs of spirituality are not completely understood or necessarily right or wrong? 

In this episode you will learn:

None of us completely know or experience God, Source or the infinite, so its not about having to have the same exact view as your partner. 

Its more about seeing your spiritual differences as a way to more deeply know each other and have an even more complete experience of spirituality through conversations with your partner.

Quotes:

"Do you fully understand how even a blade of grass works in its entirety?"

Resources:

Connect more with The Freemans at www.MeetTheFreemans.com and follow them on instagram: @meet_thefreemans

Is it at all surprising to you that Bill & Melinda Gates would choose to divorce? It might not be surprising that it happens to very prominent and wealthy couples, because it has been happening often (Jeff & MacKenzie Bezos, Kim & Kanye West, J-Lo & ARod). It would seem that when areas like finances, significance, and contribution are at such a high level, that relationships would work even better! 

But that is just not the case because there is a fundamental principle of relationships that is required to continuously have connection, understanding, and love be present in a relationship. This principle is completely independent of money, fame, and significance; which is clearly what is being shown in society today. 

In this episode Aaron will dive into just what this principle is so that you can raise your level of connection and love in your own relationship. On top of that, you will know that love and connection is not something that just happens or doesn’t happen based on circumstances. By knowing this principle, you will be able to consciously bring more love and connection into your relationship with your partner, no matter what season you are in or the challenge that you face!

Resources For Your Relationship:

You don’t want to miss these 2 FREE Webclasses on May 18th & May 20th. Register for both of them here.

1. The first is “3 Communication Skills to Overcome Any Relationship Challenge”.
2. The second one is “End Argument Hangovers: How to Fully Repair & Reconnect After a Fight”.

Marriage is about bringing out the best in each other. Are you in a season of marriage where you can say that you are bringing out the best in each other? This doesn’t always happen as it does take more intention the longer you are together. Sometimes your conflict patterns of reactions can make it seem as if you are bringing out the worst in each other. Other times you feel constrained and limited in your self expression and individual pursuits because your partner doesn’t accept those parts of you. 

In this episode you will hear 6 different actions you can take to actually bring out the best in each other for this year ahead. These actions will be steps to take each day that demonstrate your acceptance, understanding, and support of each other and the person you are each becoming in the marriage. Marriage is itself an evolution and taking these 6 steps will allow for the required individual evolution to happen to become the best versions of yourselves.

Relationship Resources:

To go along with this epiosde, you can be securly on the path to brining out the best in each other by sign-up for the SPECIAL EDITION 30-day couples challenge “The Best of Us” which is now open (but for January ONLY!) This challenge is designed to reignite the spark in your marriage with Intimacy Activities, Connection Prompts, and Appreciation Gestures. 

Ever feel like you start to take steps forward as a couple, but then start to take 2 steps backwards?

For example, you start to communicate well, and then something happens and you start to regress in your communication. Or the two of you start making more money and suddenly you get stalled financially or even lose money.

This is a common pattern for so many couples and this episode will help you interrupt this pattern and keep your positive momentum in the direction you want to go.

Join in as Jocelyn Freeman interviews special guest Aaron Freeman so that

In this episode you will:

KNOW: Why you feel like you make progress, and then regress

HAVE: The 5 steps to keep momentum in a forward direction as a couple, and ultimately ‘manifest’ what you want in your relationship

FEEL: relieved and inspired by both the ‘wins’ and the ‘challenges’ in your relationship

Other resources:

Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

NEW MASTERCLASS (FREE) this week: HERE

Topic---> The 3 Biggest Mistakes Even High-Achieving Couples Make That Hurt Connection & Intimacy

Trust is the feeling of: “you have my back”. When trust is high in any relationship you can feel that you can fly, fail, and yet still be accepted and loved by your partner. This is so foundational for a healthy, happy relationship that wants to be able to grow. When trust has been broken, whether from a big or small event, it harbors doubt, resentment, and suspicion in the relationship. 

Today’s topic came from several DM’s and IG poll votes, plus a financial trust question from Teresa: “After repeat offenses running the gamut of petty to severe in nature on occasion; how do you rebuild trust in a real way? I am between being codependent in needing to trust deeply and frustrated because I feel like I never can 100% trust because of the continued offenses and boundary crossing.” 

One other question was: “It was about a promise of not doing something, then doing it and lying about it to my face….multiple times. So broken promises/outright lies/secrets. How to make amends and be consistent with everything?” Thank you everyone for the questions and even Alicia from the book club, being honest about wanting to rebuild trust. 

Today from this episode you’ll takeaway:

• What trust really means within your relationship
• The major effects a lack of trust can have
• Why you or your partner would break a promise or even lie
• 4 ways to rebuild trust in your partner and the relationship.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Get 50% OFF The Couples Workshop (Home Edition) to enhance your communication skills together
2. Subscribe and watch The Empowered Couples Show Live on YouTube
3. Follow us on Instagram

Facing any time of challenge let alone a global down economy can have you wondering and doubting if you can pursue your passion. You may be wondering is this really the time to start or even grow a business (especially as a couple)? 

You are about to find the answer to that and much more as Chris and Lori Harder share how they went from humiliation in the 2008 crash to building the foundation of the multiple million dollar companies they run TOGETHER. 

You will hear how the requirements to be successful especially when you back is against a wall, you pivot, and reinvent yourself individually and as a couple! Learn how even having a good economy is the enemy to a great business! Plus how being business partners will take your romantic relationship to levels other couples won’t ever reach. 

Questions Ask In The Interview:

1. You two started a business together in the 2008 crash when you were laid off from what many would say is a steady job. How did you get resourceful rather than victims?
2. Can you really pursue what you are passionate about or do you have to do the thing that pays the bills? 
3. Do you think now is a good time to start or grow a business as a couple? Or at least be thinking about additional income streams?
4. What challenge did you two encounter in your relationship because you also become business partners?
5. How do you make financial decisions when you don’t necessarily agree with each other, and what about if that turns into a fight?
6. How do you start to repair any broken trust that comes up whether in your romantic or business relationship? 

Quotes:

“Good is the enemy of great!” - Chris Harder

“You are ever only one conversation away from your desired  outcome” - Lori Harder

Resources From The Freemans:

1. Apply to Become a Certified Relationship Coach & start a coaching business
2. Get a FREE hard copy of the book 📚 The New Power Couple (just pay for shipping)
3. Follow us on Instagram

About The Guests: 

Lori & Chris Harder aren’t your average couple, they are truly a power couple for their strengths as individuals and as a couple. Lori Harder is a best selling author, Forbes Top Rated podcast host, founder of ‘Lite Pink’ and ‘The Bliss Project’.

Chris Harder is an entrepreneur, investor, avid philanthropist, and podcaster. After an 11-year career as an executive and partner in the banking industry, he retired from banking in 2011 and partnered with his wife, Lori, to start and scale four different multi-million dollar businesses, along with investing in several other successful startups.

Connect More With The Guests:

1. Apply for their grant for entrepreneurs
2. Chris Harder’s Instagram 
3. Lori Harder’s Instagram

Egbert and Joy live in Tucson AZ and have been married for 17 years with two children, ages 9 and 6 years old. Eggbert is a top retina surgeon and investor while Joy is a miraculous mom, angel investor and has a network marketing business. They love to travel with our family and experience other cultures. It is important to them that their children grow up having compassion, love and empathy for others.

This is reflected in the way they interact and communicate with people and shows their mentality around how they raise their children. They feel that a key component to the success of our marriage is open communication. They give us all keys to Mastering Marriage and Parenting. 

Now you might not realize the subtle lifestyle choices that could be impacting your hormones, therefore impacting your sex life. Wait a second... are you saying my desire for my partner could be impacted by my hormones? ... YES!

No matter what age range you fall into, you could be experiencing hormonal imbalances but write it off as being “tired” or “not as motivated as before” or “too stressed to want sex.” But you’ll hear Dr Sabrina Solt address the common hormonal imbalances that could also be impacting you. You’ll walk away with specific new lifestyle changes you can make to positively boost your sex life!

After the episode if you know you want more wisdom or specific help from Sabrina, you can learn more and connect with her here:

Web: https://drsabrinasolt.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/drsolt/?hl=en

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

What is the bare minimum to expect in a marriage? You likely read that question and think about your expectations about your partner… However this is actually about what to expect from yourself! 

There are a lot of social media comments on relationship posts that judge the portrayal of a partner. That shows that most people think about what changes a partner needs to make in order to better meet one’s own needs. But that is quite backward. In this episode you will hear 6 traits that are the bare minimum to expect within yourself if you want to be a good partner.

Join the  "Prioritize Us" Couples Challenge starting Feb 14th, 2024 for Valentines Day - the 30 day challenge for couples to simplify how to make positive changes in their marriage and prioritize loving actions and respectful communication.

Find all our other guides and resources here on our website resources page

Real talk for a minute, did you know that stress is linked to the top 5 causes of death? Obviously stress has an impact on your quality of life, and on how long you may even be around. The worst part about that is much of that stress is coming right from your relationship! Something that was originally meant to give support, love and compassion, vitality and LIFE! 

On a lighter and more daily note, what if you could handle stress effective and feel ease, peace, play and creativity.

It’s time to no longer let money, work, outside circumstances become more powerful than the two of you as a team.

In this episode you will:

Know: the root source of stress and what keeps you stuck in it longer

Have: 3 ways to handle stress together and keep momentum going

Feel: Calm & Unstoppable (like superheros) no matter what shows up in your relationship

Other resources:

Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

Join the next Couples Goals Accelerator, the Online Live Group Program for Couples: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/couples-goals-accelerator-online-group-program

Welcome to the next Mini Chat with the Freemans! This episode is all about MONEY and the 5 most impactful habits that truly Empowered Couples implement to not only earn more money but experience more freedom, security, and unlimited options for their life together as a couple! 

In this episode:

You will know how to breakthrough financial barriers you run into through establishing the right habits, those by other power couples. You will have the 5 Money Habits of Empowered Couples that you can utilize in your own relationship today. Leaving you feeling more peace and feel there are more options for you as a couple

The 5 habits that are covered:

1. Knowing your “Top Driver” for money.
2. Only talk about money in pre-scheduled, calm times. (not in passing conversations)
3. Invest In Yourselves.
4. Diversify (don’t just rely on your paychecks, don’t spend it all on expenses, take a portion and invest outside of your 401k)
5. Change to “We make” this much rather than “I make this much”.

Quotes:

“Once you invest in and grow your money mindset, story, and belief, that is when you change your actions and your results with money”    - Jocelyn

Other resources:

Join the mentioned Relationship Course from the episode ----> Couples Goals Accelerator

Follow us on Instagram

Love is kind of the point of a relationship right? We know that you felt a lot of love for your partner early in your relationship and now that love probably feels different or maybe less. As you progress through your relationship your feeling of love will be different as you have more trust and comfort with each other. Maybe some of the challenges in your relationship have led you to a place of currently not feeling as much love. So how do you keep love not only alive but growing?

You should notice that in either case above, love is often based on outside conditions and how happy you currently feel. Whether it's about financial security, how your partner has been talking to you, or feeling too routine in your day to day life all of these are conditional feelings of love. In this podcast you will learn the 4 elements of love that allow for a truly unconditional love to be alive in your relationship. Then knowing these 4 elements, when you do feel less love between you and your partner, you will know the exact way to generate it. 

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 2nd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved

Parenting definitely shifts priorities, but that shouldn’t mean we de-prioritize our marriage, right? This week was our daughter’s 2nd birthday and we were reflecting on our own parenting journey up until this point.

We know from many couples that parenting really does shift many things in a marriage, even studies have shown that satisfaction goes down in the first 5 years of becoming parents. Though there are so many great positives that also come with being a parent, in this episode you will hear about the challenges that we have faced in the first 2 years, the common challenges other parents face, and the steps to take to better handle these challenges. All so that they do not negatively impact your marriage and you can focus more on all the benefits of being a parent and a great partner.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join the  "Prioritize Us" Couples Challenge starting Jan 1st, 2024 - the 30 day challenge for couples to simplify how to make positive changes in their marriage and prioritize loving actions and respectful communication.

STEPS TO REBUILD A MARRIAGE GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to the process of rebuilding a marriage after a hard and prolonged season of disconnect or hurt. It’s the Rebuild a Marriage Guide and it’s only $19.

This episode is one of the most vulnerable episodes from Jocelyn, as Aaron interviews her about her upbringing and her path to finally loving and appreciating herself.

You’ll hear the critical ways you can either strengthen or hurt the connection in your partnership from the quality of your relationship to yourself.

You’ll also hear practical ways you can develop a healthier relationship to yourself no matter how busy life gets.

Quotes:

“Building relationship with yourself brings more presence. Having the ability to be more present with your partner is what allows for more romance.” - Jocelyn Freeman

Questions asked in this interview:

1. Why did you want to bring up the subject (the importance) of the relationship to yourself?
2. What unhealthy things can show up in a relationship if someone isn’t looking inside themselves?
3. What was your personal story of starting to work on your relationship to yourself?
4. How does deepening relationship to oneself deepen the relationship to their partners?
5. What are some ways to build a stronger relationship to yourself?

Actions to build a stronger relationship with yourself:

1. Block personal (quiet) time each day (set intentions/meditate)
2. Ask meaningful questions: how have I been showing up in life? How am I feeling? Is there anything I’m thinking that isn’t serving me?
3. Start to question your beliefs
4. Taking care of your health
5. Focus on the amazing things about yourself (what are you focused on now?)

Other resources:

1)Grab one of the 5 Free Couples Vision Calls with The Freemans and create your Couples Vision Statement

2)Follow us on Instagram

You have heard about the "7 Year Itch" in a marriage. Though that was the name of a Marilyn Monroe movie in 1955, studies have shown that a couples satisfaction in marriage hits a low around 10 years into a marriage. Whether you’ve been together 2 years, 10 years, or 30+ years, you’ll get a lot out of this episode by understanding what couples lose sight of and causes an increase of dissatisfaction. 

We dive into:

• What the studies say about the “peak of dissatisfaction” being around year 10 together

• The actions that lead a couple to these rough patches

• What to do about it so you two can stay satisfied or boost it up, no matter how long you’ve been together. 

As you listen, make sure you join our upcoming 30-Day Couples Challenge here.

In this episode you will know that expectations are the cause of any and all disappointments that have come up, or will come up in your relationship. But this is not a problem at all once you know that it’s from the unexpressed or unknown expectations. You will always have expectations whether from the past that you are becoming aware of, or if you are growing and evolving as people and as a couple, there will always be new ones you discover. 

From this interview with Patrick and Carrie Antrim, you will have the way to uncover as well as express any and all disappointments (whether from the past or ones still to come as you grow together) with your partner. So that you will both feel understood, on the same page, connected, and ready to become the best partners you can be no matter what challenges arise! 

Questions asked in this interview:

1. What are expectations you each now realize you had in the beginning of the relationship?
2. Looking back, what was the impact of any of these unknown or unexpressed expectations? 
3. What are some basic needs and wants you have for the relationship?
4. What are some aspirational needs and wants you have?
5. Did you two talk about your needs and wants proactively or did you discover them over time from challenges coming up?
6. What is the best way for you to share new expectations of your needs and wants with your partner that you are bound to have as you grow as an individual, a couple, and business partners?

Quotes:

“Being with someone that is ok with designing a life, verses living a life they are just reacting to.” - Patrick Antrim 

Connect More With Us:

1. Follow us on Instagram ✅
2. Attend the LIVE Online Couples Workshop (right to your home) 🖥
3. Get a FREE hardcopy of The New Power Couple book (just pay for shipping)📚

Connect More With The Guests: 

Patrick and Carrie Antrim are media entrepreneurs that help brands tell great stories and scale their business with video. They are Knowledge Business Coaches that produce high level events and masterminds. Including their own Multi Family business and yearly summit and women's event. They do all of this while being a blended family with 4 kids! 

1. Connect with the Multi Family Leadership brand 
2. Attend the Multi Family Summit event live or online

When your partner seems off somehow, do you ask them, “what’s wrong?” I know your desire is that they express themselves, but asking this question can only make them shut down more. Odd, right? So in today’s quick episode, I’ll chat with you about:

• Why asking “what’s wrong” has the opposite effect on your partner
• What to ask them instead if they seem “off”
• And what to do if they keep saying “I’m fine,”  but you feel like they’re really not

Also, make sure to CLAIM YOUR BONUSES for pre-ordering The Argument Hangover. It’s coming March 16th 2021 and you don’t want to miss out on $200 worth of bonus courses and the Debrief After an Argument Workbook.

Hey friends, a special episode to give you straight-talk to get into action around your patterns, challenges, or pain points in your relationship. (Especially if you have already tried to have important conversations with you partner, and it doesn't go anywhere.)

The Couples Workshop event is coming up LIVE on October 10th, but can be watched from your own home! 

Here is the website to read more and save your seats

The promise of this workshop is that You Will Communicate Better & Resolve Conflicts Faster, in 5 Hours Instead of 5 Months!

We’re coming to you live from a super high tech studio that literally will feel like you’re in person with us, yet you’re in the privacy of your own home. This is NOT going to be full of cliches like “communication is the key to a relationship.” Everyone knows that!

It will provide you with step-by-step exercises to FINALLY feel understood, and resolve those same 2 or 3 disagreements that keep coming up over and over.

Save your seats here!

Surprise! A $40 off coupon code that’s only good for 48 hours (till midnight on Sept 25th). Enter code: workshop40

End the year by having this meaningful conversation together as a couple about your life and relationship goals. Life goes by pretty quickly, so it’s important to pause each year and make sure you’re on track with what’s important to you both. 

Plus, you will feel a new sense of partnership and inspiration when you have one or more goals that you’re pursuing together.

Tune in to this episode to hear:

• How it benefits your partnership to have goals you pursue together
• Step-by-step how to have this conversation about your goals and priorities
• 3 meaningful questions to ask each other

Resources Mentioned:

1. Watch our NEW FREE WebClass on--> The 5 Steps to Repair After An Argument So You Reconnect in Just Minutes, Instead of Hours, Days, or Weeks
2. Book called Limitless by Jim Qwik

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

As authors and leaders of an international community, this Power Couple will open your eyes to another level of being partners in business and in life together. 

Roxana & Arnaud dive right into their spiritual growth as individuals and in their relationship. Find out how "heartfulness" can elevate your mental, emotional, and spiritual freedom. You might have heard the term "mindfulness," now learn the power of moving from your head and into your heart.

Tune in and hear what's possible when two extraordinary people come together with a common vision.

“Inner-Work”: looking within to see where you can grow and evolve (ie. what needs to be healed from your past, which patterns need to be unlearned, and realizing that you recreate experiences when you didn’t get the lesson).

Doing this “inner work” is absolutely imperative to cultivate your desired partnership. Most importantly you, and ideally your partner, must be willing to do this inner-work in some shape or form. Why? Because otherwise you will recreate patterns that do not serve your current relationship. 

This inner-work doesn’t have to be overwhelming and we promise it can be an empowering experience! It is actually how you can become the very best version of yourself and express your inherent gifts as a human being. That’s why you’ll love this episode! You will hear:

• What happens if you don’t embrace the “inner work” needed for your relationship
• 5 areas within yourself to do the inner-work
• 3 helpful tools to consider as part of your journey individually and as a couple

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Schedule an introductory Couple’s Session with us to overcome any challenge and become the best team you can be HERE.
2. Order The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

This is the second half of that age old question “what do men want” in a marriage? If having a successful marriage is directly related to meeting each other’s needs then it’s quite important to know what those needs are. This episode is the followup from last week about women's needs right now. 

With the amount of coaching sessions we do, we have a great insight into the common needs that are going unmet for couples. There are themes that seem to show up in general, so even the specific needs we hear from men in one season, will not be the same in another (though admittedly more consistent than women’s it seems)! 

In this episode you will hear the top 3 needs we are hearing from men right now. A little different from the start of the women’s needs episode, you will also hear 3 key traits that also need to be present in the marriage for there to be willingness and receptivity to these needs. Get ready for a great episode for insight into men’s needs (and the critical element of integrity)!

Relationship Resources:

1) As mentioned, get the Family Meeting Guide as a free bonus when you start the Priotitize Us 30 Day Couples Challenge for $1/day. 

2) You can also get the Family Meeting Guide by itself for $19. 

We all know that relationships can be challenging, especially when it comes to expressing our needs. Ever found yourself in a situation where you're feeling frustrated but can't quite put your finger on why? You're not alone. In this episode, we dive into the importance of identifying and expressing your needs within a romantic partnership. We'll explore why simply venting your frustrations isn't enough and how it can lead to misunderstandings and communication breakdowns. 

By learning to articulate your needs, you'll unlock a whole new level of understanding and connection. We'll discuss fundamental human needs, drawing inspiration from Maslow's Hierarchy and the 6 Human Needs model, and provide practical examples of physical, emotional, and spiritual needs. Join us as we share relatable insights and actionable tips that will empower you to create a stronger and more fulfilling relationship.

Join The 30-Day Couples Challenge called “Prioritizing Us” as it starts July 1st HERE

I’m an assertive woman and Aaron tends to be more reserved. This used to lead to him feeling dominated or overpowered when communicating, even about seemingly simple matters. In this episode, I share simple but massively helpful shifts I made to still be myself (assertive), but to better work with his Communication Personality Type….a framework we breakdown in our new book, The Argument Hangover.

Did you claim your $200 of pre-order bonuses, including 2 communication and conflict trainings and a “debrief after an argument” workbook? You get them by entering your receipt # here: The Argument Hangover

Do you start your morning connected, peaceful and inspired?

Or do you start in a rush...hurrying to your phone, to get to a meeting, and barely have a chance to ask your partner what they are doing that day?

A common question we receive from couples is about how to start the morning, how to set daily intentions TOGETHER and how to do this in a short period of time, even 10 minutes.

Tune in to this mini podcast episode here on iTunes: 3 Morning Habits to do with Your Partner to Have a Powerful Day

Whether you have an hour, 10 mins or 30 mins...in this episode you will:

Know: the key difference between reacting or responding to life as a couple.

Have: 3 ways to proactively start your morning as a couple to be effective, productive and high vibe.

Feel: Peaceful and empowered to start your day together.

Other resources:

Follow us on Instagram:

Join the next Couples Goals Accelerator:

See you on the next episode!

Have you ever had thoughts that: “The sex we had in the beginning of our relationship was the best we will have”, or even “I can’t talk about what I want more in our sex life because my partner will be uncomfortable or unwilling to talk”? 

Well if you fall into that category, you are like many other couples out there. But just because you have a lot of company, this is not a place you want to continue to stay in. Imagine that no matter how busy you are, no matter how long you have been married, and no matter how open you or your partner have been to talking about your sex life… You can raise your sexual satisfaction starting right here in this episode! 

In this episode you will know that no matter the season of marriage you are in now, your sexual future doesn’t have to be predictable but can be extraordinary. You will have ways to initiate sex more frequently and have it be balanced between you both, the challenges that face both men and women, and ways to communicate your most current needs. So you will feel more at ease and confident to explore your sexual intimacy with your partner and have your satisfaction be higher than it has in years!

Questions asked in this interview:

1. Do you ever have times you’re dissatisfied with your intimacy and how do you bring it up to your partner?
2. What are the biggest challenges that partners (even men specifically) are dealing with that keep them from bringing up the conversations about sex? 
3. In the beginning of a relationship, intimacy seems to be more about passion and physical excitement. Does intimacy change to mean something different the longer you are in a relationship? 
4. What is it that actually makes your sex life “better” over time, rather than fading? 
5. What are the 5 types of intimacy? 
6. Is there a real stereotype on men and women for what sexual intimacy means to each of them? (ex. Frequency vs being romanced) 
7. In a season where a couple is upset and disconnected from each other, they wait to feel like having sex. Does a couple need to wait to “feel like it” to have sex or can having sex first be what brings that feeling back? 
8. What is a practical way couples can practice initiating sex to have it be balanced? 

Other resources:

Follow us on Instagram

Book your Relationship Breakthrough Session with us for $97, with 100% guarantee you have a breakthrough in your relationship. (Scroll 3/4 down the page)

Connect with guests Tony & Alisa here:

As founders of ONE Extraordinary Marriage podcast and ONE Marriage Conference as well as being married 25 years; Tony & Alisa believe that a healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it’s the glue that will keep a marriage together.

It is through this lens that they help time-crunched couples become intentional about their lives and create the marriage that they desire. They are experienced marriage coaches, podcasters, and the co-authors of the Amazon best seller, 7 Days of Sex Challenge.

Website: One Extraordinary Marriage

Podcast: “One Extraordinary Marriage Show” 

FREE Resource from the show: 19 Questions to Amazing Sex

Though you, and every other couple, face different challenges in your life and marriage; why do some struggle and some thrive? Struggling doesn’t mean that you are just facing a challenge, because everyone will. Struggle then is the experience you have while facing a challenge. 

Of all the couples we talk to and coach, we have seen patterns between those that experience disconnection, anxiety, and tension and those that maintain connection, togetherness and being a team during challenging times.

In this episode you will hear 4 differences that we have seen between couples that “struggle versus those that thrive”. By knowing these differences, you will be able to implement a few simple things to move out of a state of struggling to one of progress and growth.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join our LIVE FREE WebClass on Nov. 3rd, 2022 - Fight Smarter: Prevent Unnecessary Arguments, Deescalate Emotional Triggers, and Repiar Faster as a Couple. 

If that date has already passed then watch the replay WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

We posted this question on IG and got a TON of interesting comments. A bit of a range in answers from “NOPE, definitely not” to “Shouldn’t we focus on sacrificial love and put others before ourselves”? So we’re going to address some of the nuances of the comments and some specific points to really answer this question.

We admit that like a few comments, it’s not just a yes or no answer. So in this episode we will cover what needs to be in place and how can needs/wants get communicated to not run into having to sacrifice but find what is best for the relationship.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Sign-up for the 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

There is one big thing in your life that disconnects you and keeps you from fully enjoying your life and relationship, and that is 'suffering'!

Though ‘suffering’ sounds like a very strong word, this experience happens whenever something is happening that you do not want to be happening. This leads to moments of discouragement and discontentment, and over time will lead to a feeling of “things not being good”. 

In this solo episode today with Aaron, you will hear the one main thing that causes you suffering, and the way to totally be free from it.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Do you and your partner feel perfectly aligned and on the same page? Do you ever feel caught off guard by a comment your partner makes about being dissatisfied somewhere in your relationship? If so, it's time for a Family Meeting Check-in! 

We define a"Family Meeting" as: a designated time to have an intentional, judgment-free conversation together as you discuss your relationship + life. You each get to share your satisfaction in the 9 core areas of your relationship/life, and openly listen to each other.

A few critical benefits of these "Family Meetings":

• it eliminates that frustrating moments where you blindside each other throughout the week to discuss things when it's not the best time
• you can address challenges or areas of lower satisfaction before it BUILDS up into resentment
• you ensure you're on the same page as a couple and feel like a team
• it creates emotional safety and intimacy

But here's what a weekly Family Meeting is NOT: a time to defend yourselves, point fingers, complain, or start a fight.

In this episode you will hear us go through our own family meeting, so that you have the tools to communicate with each other to be even more on the same page. 

Resources For Your Relationship:

1) To get your Family Meeting Worksheet either:

DM us on IG @Meet_TheFreemans or

Email: connect@newpowercouples.com

2) Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

You know those moments when you're sharing your emotion, and your partner responds with logic? They might say “that’s not how that happened, that doesn’t make sense, or that wasn’t my intention.” 

It can make you feel invalidated and  misunderstood, which hurts because your partner is the one you should feel most understood by, right? You might feel that they don’t listen to you and certainly that they don’t understand you. Or even to the point where you feel that you just aren’t on the same page. 

Logic and emotion are both important in relationships and communication....but often at different times! It's important that you two discover how to balance both of them, and know when logic is needed vs emotional understanding.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here
2. Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

For those of you that are parents, did that make your marriage more difficult or bring you both together? This could be asked about any challenge that you face as a couple, but parenting is definitely unique, at least it has been for us! We polled parents and found that it often changed their marriage in some common ways: they felt they became roommates, it was hard to make time for each other, more conflicts around different parenting styles, feeling of losing their identity, and the division of labor seemed unequal.

This episode is about us completing our first year as parents since Skye was born on Dec 21st, 2021. This has been the hardest year of our marriage, even though there were other outside forces at work beyond being parents. So in the end of the year fashion where lots of reflection happens; we are sharing about how this first year our parents have changed us, felt difficult, and keeps us united.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Get The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter! As a listener get $50 off with the code: 50off

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

You can love your spouse and still feel overwhelmed by the unspoken responsibilities constantly running through your mind. The mental load is the invisible to-do list in your head—and when roles and responsibilities feel imbalanced, it can quietly erode connection, create resentment, and impact intimacy.

In this episode, we’re joined by Dr. Morgan Cutlip— author of the upcoming book A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load—for one of the most important conversations couples need to have.

Together we explore:
• How to bring up the mental load in a way that unites you, not divides you
• A simple but powerful question your spouse can ask instead of getting defensive
• What unspoken resentment actually sounds like in day-to-day marriage
• The surprising link between mental overload and decreased intimacy
• And how to reset your roles and reconnect as a team

Whether you’re the one carrying the weight or you’re not even sure what the “mental load” really is—this episode will open your eyes and strengthen your marriage.

📚And make sure you order her amazing book right here! 

Here’s Dr Morgan’s IG, too!

Tune in to hear this couple, Mr & Mrs Unstoppable.

These two radiate the term, "Never settle" because they truly believe that everyone can really partner with someone who brings out their greatness.

Hear this couple share about their experience with ending previous marriages and the lessons that changed their perspective on relationships in a beautiful way.

They share one of the most empowering views on divorce we have ever heard.Also hear from them about becoming best selling authors on Amazon & their mission with their book, The Poetry of Relationships.

These two are making a massive difference and we can see why they are called, Mr & Mrs Unstoppable.

Learn more about this couple on their website: www.MrAndMrsUnstoppable. And to connect more with The Freemans, you can find them on Instagram & FB @Meet_TheFreemans and www.newpowercouples.com

Coming off of last night’s webclass on “Communication Mastery”, many people were intent to bring more empathy into their relationship. The very next feeling however was “being empathetic is not easy when I don’t agree with my partner.” 

This most likely is the case for you as well. Though being empathetic to our partner’s experience is a true expression of love, it isn’t easy especially when you haven’t practiced it. 

In this one-on-one episode with Jocelyn, you will hear how to bring more empathy to your partner so that you can be that true expression of love and be that example of a truly empowered couple!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Yes we know that when you see the word Gratitude or Appreciation you think “I’ve heard that a thousand times”! Yet giving and showing your partner appreciation is one of the secret ingredients to a truly happy and connected relationship, one that barely gets it’s deserved air time. The reason being it’s never taken far enough. Appreciation is actually an art to be given so that it has a real impact and it’s just as important that you allow yourself to receive appreciation from your partner! 

In today’s episode you will learn:

• Why appreciation is so important and why it’s so easily forgotten about.
• The art to delivering appreciation in a way that will be more meaningful to your partner (which is not just appreciating what they DO)
• That you might actually be blocking appreciation and the feeling or connection because you are unable to receive it (either from your past, or from a belief you have about yourself)

Best Quote: 

“You cannot receive what you do not believe about yourself” - The Freemans 

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. 

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!
2. Get access to The Couples Workshop - studio recording from the Oct 10th live event!

Imagine a scenario where you and your partner are having a conversation. In the middle you begin to feel as if what you are saying is clear, but your partner doesn’t seem to be getting it. You start to get frustrated, your tone or volume changes, so then they get annoyed or irritated and the conversation begins to escalate. 

This episode is all about how the meaning of conversations can easily get misunderstood and misinterpreted. The longer you are in a relationship the higher chance there is of this happening. Now you do have two choices, you can keep trying to get your partner to understand in that moment, which leads to tension.

Or you both can take these 3 actions from this episode to better understand where these misunderstandings come from. It’s a common and natural thing to happen, but it takes awareness and execution to keep it from persisting in your relationship.

Relationship Resources

The 30-day challenge and all of the guides that were mentioned can be found with our resources link here: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links

• Be sure to take advantage of the Family Meeting Guide as you begin to refelct on your year and start to set your goals and intentions togther for the next year. 
• You can get this guide as a FREE bonus for starting the Prioritize Us 30-Day Couples Challenge

The fall season has historically been a time of growing stronger or more strained as a couple. As a followup from last week, we want to cover 3 of the challenges that men are expressing in marriage right now. Does it address “everything” that every single couple is saying to us right now? Of course not. But these are 3 big ones that many are experiencing, so we thought it’d be helpful for you to know.

As mentioned in the episdoe, this all leads to a battle for fairness and balnace in a marriage and leads to additonal tension or conflict. So to better resolve this challenge in your marriage, join the FREE Webclass "End the Battle for Fairness" that is live on Sept 15th. 

If the date has already passed, you can book a Relationship Breakthrough Session with us. This is a private 2-on-2 session to overcome any challenge you’re facing as a couple. Read more and pick your slot here.

You have heard it said that your past is in the past, or some version of don't cry over spilled milk. So of course that means there is nothing you can do about it right? 

What if we told you that your past is not fixed? What if you could actually change your past?

In relationships, it is the things that happen in the past (what your partner said or did) that we find hard to let go of. These keep you  feeling disconnected, angry, or disappointed. This of course does not lead to more love, connection, and happiness within your relationship. 

In this episode you will learn how to change your own past so that you do not stay stuck in a place of disconnection or even mediocrity in your life with your partner. 

DISCLAIMER: this is an advanced skill! 

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge, that starts February 15th, 2021. Connect with other couples as we go through daily trainings of the 5 C's for a strong relationship, get a FREE book, and win challenge giveaways! 

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

We all want some degree of change in our lives, and our relationships. So long as they are the changes we want! Change can be difficult if it brings about a lot of unknown, or if the change you desire requires your partner to change some of their behavior. 

But what is it that creates change and how do you get the results that you really want? In this episode we outline the drives and motivations behind creating change and the one foundational element that you must be able to identify if any real change is going to happen, let alone last!

Relationship Resources

- May 26th, 2024 is The Couples Workshop in Arizona. If you have been wanting to join us in person for this 1/2 day event to create positive change in your communiation and conflict resolution, save your seat today! Make this a little vacation/reset for both of you. 

- If the May workshop is past, make sure to check out which online resource is best for the change you are looking to make: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links 

A part of a thriving relationship depends on the work done by each partner to grow individually. You have heard common phrases like your “wealth grows at the extent you grow” and this could be said about your relationship as well. As much as it takes using the right skills and tools as a couple, it all starts with your own willingness to progress on your own individual path of growth. 

In this episode you will hear 3 things that women need to work on in marriage right now. This is coming from the most common things we are hearing from couples in our own private coaching every day. Men and women do ‘deal with’ different challenges and even general patterns within a marriage; so get ready to help advance the growth for all women in their respective relationships! Let’s go…

Resources For Your Relationship:

Start your relationship growth now with The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter! 

You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here if that is the next right step for you! 

The end of a year is a time to reflect. For our purposes here, it’s a time to reflect on your marriage challenges and identify what you need to alter for the next year, or where you can celebrate the wins that you took from those challenges. Why this is so critical comes down to one of the fundamental aspects of successful marriage… the ability to adapt and evolve! 

In this episode we will share our own challenges and wins from 2024 and then intentions and commitments we have going into 2025 in terms of our marriage getting better and better. We hope you can take away the principles and lessons learned from our own challenges and keep yourselves from experiencing the same challenges as we did!

THEN, Sign-up for the SPECIAL EDITION 30-day couples challenge “The Best of Us” which starts January 1st (and will be closed the rest of the year!) This challenge is designed to reignite the spark in your marriage with Intimacy Activities, Connection Prompts, and Appreciation Gestures.

You got into your relationship for one big reason… LOVE. More specifically to have the experience of being loved unconditionally by your partner. Yet this doesn’t always happen right? Especially when a woman's needs are not being met.

Now does this mean something is wrong? No not at all. BUT it is a sign that one of 3 major needs of women are not being met. This is not to put pressure on you as a partner, because at times these needs are not clearly understood and can be shared in a way that causes defensiveness. So what to do?

Well, listen to this podcast episode where you will hear what the 3 needs are of women that are misunderstood. Then once you know these needs, you can have the conversations needed for your partner to truly feel loved. 

Resources For Your Relationship:

Make sure to save your seats for The Couples Workshop on April 11th.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

There has always been a focus on the future that we each want to create. As a couple this can be in the form of setting goals or establishing your vision statement. This is a great thing because you can’t get anywhere if you don’t know where you want to go. But sometimes this can leave you feeling disappointed that you are “not there yet” or be discouraged when you feel you are not making as much progress as you would like. 

In this solo episode with Aaron you will hear how there is a gap that gets created from this thinking, which can cause you to feel more disappointed about the relationship, when really you just need to change a particular focus. You will hear how you can close the gap between where you want to be and where you are now, so that you are not left feeling discouraged about your current relationship or your partner. You will easily gain appreciation and gratitude by making this one small shift.

Episode Resources & Links:

1. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)
2. The Gap and The Gain book by Ben Hardy HERE
   

We wanted to give you an update on our pregnancy journey and how we’re preparing for parenthood...intentionally. For us, it’s important to prepare together for a natural birth AND to get our marriage prepared for parenthood.

Because we talk to couples all day every day (with many being parents), we get to see the behind the scenes challenges that come up with marriage and parenthood. So we’ve been taking those insights into our conversations and we wanted to share what’s been coming up for us in case it inspires you!

Also, make sure you’re registered for the Communication Mastery WebClass on July 20th. Almost 300 of ya’ll are registered already and we can’t wait!

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Women, there is something you don’t understand about your male partners… Being completely honest here, this is something most men don’t even understand about themselves!

When men don’t understand this about themselves then they cannot even communicate or request what it is they need and default to shutting down, being silent, or even leaving the physical space without so much as a word about what is happening. 

Women, without understanding this need that men have, you will take it personally and do the opposite actions that are needed to help; pushing your male partner further away or shutting down even more.

In this episode you will (both) understand this need that men have and be able to communicate about it in a healthy way that brings you into more harmony individually and as a couple.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

2. For those that live in and around Arizona, this is your last opportunity for the in person Couples Workshop event on Sunday Oct 9th. Seats for this live event are limited so check the details and register here! 

This episode might make you laugh out loud, but will also get you fired up to get rid of OLD energy in your life.  It’s critical that you clear out energetic clutter in your environment, in your relationship, and in your habits. If you want to invite in anything NEW (more intimacy, more fun, more connection), you need to make space for it.

Tune in to this episode where Jocelyn dives into specific ways you can clear out old energy. And that includes old underwear (I just threw out a bunch and ordered more)

Also, make sure to save your seats for The Couples Workshop on April 11th. We might not host another one online, so now is your chance!

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Have you ever thought to yourself, "I have such a big dream for my life and I just don't know how to make it happen"? We have that exact answer for you in this vision driven interview with Rob and Debbie. 

This powerful duo will provide you with powerful and and actionable "nuggets" of inspiration that will give you and your partner CLARITY & peace of mind about your future. You'll want to hear from this #NewPowerCouple

Debbie is the former deputy press secretary for U.S. Senator John Glenn and founder of “Women on Fire”, a top woman's community for inspiration, strategies and support to live the life of your dreams. She uses her gift to see and nurture other's strengths and talents.

Rob is one of the highest ranking Master Certified Coaches with the ICF and has helped thousands of entrepreneurs, executives, couples and corporate teams articulate their mission and strategic direction. He has been described as a cross between Yoda, Gandhi and Perry Mason for the touch of “The Force” he brings to his work.

You don’t often “think about your own psychology”, life is just happening and you are responding. So when it comes to interactions with your partner, it's easy to defend yourself when your perspective is brought into question. The cycle continues when you go back and forth about who remembers events more accurately.

Your perception and memory are all a part of your psychology. These are actually very complex cognitive functions that can  easily make errors and include bias you are not even aware of. In this episode we intend to share some of these errors and biases with the intent that you loosen the grip you have on being right and be willing to be more flexible with your own perception to bring more understanding into your marriage.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Join the  "Prioritize Us" Couples Challenge starting April 1st, 2024 - the 30 day challenge for couples to simplify how to make positive changes in their marriage and prioritize loving actions and respectful communication.

2. STEPS TO REBUILD A MARRIAGE GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to the process of rebuilding a marriage after a hard and prolonged season of disconnect or hurt. It’s the Rebuild a Marriage Guide and it’s only $19.

So you have had a fight in your relationship, now what…? Right after you might feel angry or sad, certainty disconnected, or even that you do not want to be around them. This is a tough place to be in for your relationship; HOWEVER this is not the part you need to be worried about initially. It's about how long are you going to be in this period of being disconnected! This episode is all about how to reconnect after you have had a fight or disagreement. 

Today’s topic came from a question on a DM from Isha on saying: “Can you include in your podcast about how to talk after a fight? How to listen and accept each other’s perspectives regarding a situation that has led to a fight?” Thank you for the question Isha as this is a topic we have gotten many questions about too. 

Today from this episode you’ll takeaway:

• The 3 “Don’ts” for after a big fight 
• For example the action that has you sweep things under the rug
• Then the 3 things to “Do” after a fight to reconnect together. 
• For example how to get to the real root cause (and not what you “think” the argument is really about)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. 
2. Get 50% OFF The Couples Workshop (Home Edition) to enhance your communication skills together
3. Subscribe and watch The Empowered Couples Show Live on YouTube
4. Follow us on Instagram

Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge that starts Feb 7th, 2022. Connect with other couples as we go through daily training of the 5 C's for a strong relationship and even get a FREE book!

Ever wonder WHY your partner does things the way they do? Or maybe why they WON’T do something a certain way (like the way you asked them to)? The latter is more likely to happen which is then what leads to saying something like “I would like you to stop _____ “ or “why can’t you just _____”. In either case you are looking for a change in behavior. When it doesn’t happen, you just get more frustrated. 

Todays’ episode will reveal the deeper way to understand their psychology and what drives their choices and actions. Plus, it’ll help you understand yourself more as well and why you even do the things you do (or don’t do)! Think of todays’ episode as the only way you can ever really change a pattern you feel stuck with.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Things in life happen don't they? All of a sudden one day you feel that all you are doing is fighting fires, trying to stay on top of the task list to complete, stressing out about how to run your business and take care of the family at the same time. 

With of of your attention on "life happening", what happened to your connection and passion with your partner? It's non-existent! Now it was't intention but it is essential for your fulfillment in your life... to prioritize your connection with your partner no matter what shows up in your life. 

In this episode you will:

Know that you can prioritize the connection with your partner, with no excuses and no sacrifices. Have new ways to connect with your partner when you have young kids, when you are starting and growing a business and family at the same time, and a new shift to the way you see stress and “busyness” in your life and your family. Leaving you feeling secure and confident that no matter what is going on in your life, prioritizing your connection with your partner is always the best solution! 

Guest Bio:

Meet Manasi & Poorak! They are Certified Empowered Couples Coaches, Speakers and Entrepreneurs.

They have trained and coached couples to feel peaceful and abundant in their relationships and businesses for over 10 years. Manasi is a contributor to the Lake Country Mom Blog where she writes about creating thriving relationships.

Their passion is to help multicultural couples and parents prioritize their connection regardless of what challenges life throws at them through their “Connected Couples” Coaching Business.

Questions asked in this interview:

1. Did you have a particular season in your relationship where you felt the “busyness or stress”, take priority over your connection?
2. 1. Did it just happen unconsciously?
   2. What caused you to realize you had sacrificed your connection?
   3. How did you shift back and what difference did that make?
3. What is your mindset around starting a family and a business at the same time? How do you not keep yourself from thinking you can only do one or the other?
4. How do you both get creative with time so you both can fill your own cups?
5. Have the opinions of other family members ever gotten in between you two? Especially coming from a culture that has some specific traditions around marriage?
6. What is your philosophy about masculine and feminine roles in a co-leading household?
7. What do you mean by a “Connected Couple”
8. Tell us your experience of being a part of the Empowered Couples Community? And how does it feel to be certified coaches now ready to help other couples?

Quotes:

"The best thing you can do for your kids, is show them how you face challenges that come up and that you are striving for creating bigger things in your own life"

"You can't be afraid to ask for help, even to create a support network"

Connect More With The Guests:

Schedule your Vision Call to be an even more connected couple: https://www.themodys.com/

Follow Connected Couples on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/connected_couples/

Other resources:

Follow The Freemans on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

Tour the Empowered Couples University: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/empowered-couples-university

What’s the main difference between being just “roommates” with someone vs romantic partners? The answer: the depth of emotional intimacy.

Of course you’ve heard us say that a relationship requires all the functional things (the to-do list, things around the house, errands, etc)...but that can easily consume your attention and diminish your emotional intimacy. 

In fact, we received a private message yesterday saying, “how do I create more emotional intimacy with my wife?” Which shows that many people don’t know what actually builds emotional intimacy. So we’re answering that question in today’s podcast episode.

Tune in to hear 4 Keys to Unlock Emotional Intimacy...that can be implemented no matter how busy you two are in life (or the current level of relationship you are at)!

Resources For Your Relationship:

The 5 discounted spots to take the Relationship Assessment and do the call with us went SO fast last episode, that we decided to offer 5 more. Why? Because this assessment (paired with the call with us) is literally the most impactful thing you can do for your relationship and it’s discounted from $1000 to just $147. To snag one of those 5 spots, either text or email us:

Text: 602-321-5652

Email: connect@newpowercouples.com

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

We’re sure you've had moments that you are not communicating well with your partner. All of us have then thought to ourselves, "why can't you communicate like I do"!

But communication is not one-size-fits-all and you might have a different "Communication Personality Type" than your partner.

[Side note- if you haven’t taken the Quiz to find out your partner’s “Communication Personality Type,” take that FREE QUIZ HERE]

By knowing your partner's type, you will better understand how they communicate and how you can better interact with them….so you can prevent unnecessary tension and disagreements.

In this episode you will get:

• The traits of the Reserved/Flexible partner
• Mistakes they can unconsciously and unintentionally make in their communication
• Mistakes you can make in trying to communicate with them
• What you can do differently
• How to communicate better in just 5 hours, instead of 5 months

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Take the Couples Quiz to find out your partner’s “Communication Personality Type”
2. Use the coupon code [podcast25] to get $25 off your seats for the next Couples Workshop here

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

It’s shocking and contradictory from what you’ve heard (or even believe), but LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH. You might ask: enough for what exactly? It’s not enough for love to last or deepen within your relationship. 

Ok, be at ease, love is certainly a requirement for a great relationship and marriage, but what you need for it to last and for you to be a truly empowered couple is learning and implementing relationship skills! 

In this 100th episode we explore this topic that we love and give you 3 reasons why love is not enough and then the 3 skills every couple must have to keep love alive. By implementing these skills you will be able to bring love back in any moment that is not feeling as connected or loved by your partner. You will learn that love is not conditional but an experience you always have control over. That’s a truly unconditional, empowered relationship!

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. 

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Register for The Couples Workshop- LIVE on October 10th. Last chance to register! 
2. Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!

These college sweethearts are a happily married couple sustained by faith as the foundation for their love and business. With Brandi being the Creative and Brandon being the Analytic, their celebrated differences are exactly what make this partnership extraordinary.

Together Brandon & Brandi Carson have formed and run the wedding planning business Posh & Private. Their unique love story provides both the synergy and inspiration their clients rely on, when seeking wedding planning expertise. You too will gain so much wisdom from them today on how through effective communication you can to turn what you love into a living!

From this episode you will learn:

1. The unexpected way to balance business & romance
2. How to discover the best roles for you to each play in your relationship
3. The essentials to communicating authentically as a couple
4. The must-knows when planning your wedding

Questions asked in this interview:

1. Rapid fire: Where is home for you? How long have you been married? How did you first meet? Was it love at first sight?
2. How long were you married before starting a business together?
3. What inspired you to start Posh & Private?
4. What do you believe is essential for couples to know when starting to plan their wedding?
5. What’s in the way of couples communicating honestly with each other?
6. What do you believe is essential for couples to know when starting to plan their life after the wedding?
7. How has Faith played a role in your relationship?
8. How do you “balance” business and romance? Or do you believe that balance is more of a myth as its about integration?
9. What’s a challenge you have run into being in business together that you didn’t expect?
10. How do you celebrate in life after focused periods/phases in your business?

Connect with The Carsons:

http://www.poshandprivate.com

As budding innovators in the Wedding & Event Industry, their company, Posh & Private, is a collaboration of their love, passions and professional experiences.

Other resources from The Freemans:

Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

Join the next Couples Goals Accelerator, the Online Live Group Program for Couples: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/couples-goals-accelerator-online-group-program

See you on the next episode!

Scotty King & Leslie Medley see everyday life in a whole new way! 

Adventure is their fuel for their life and partnership. Scotty & Leslie are an inspiring couple who are truly designing their dream life: travel and contribution.
This EmPowered Couple travelled all over the world for six months this year and shared their adventures in a beautiful and thought proving BLOG/VLOG called American Wanderlove.

You can see that they are not open to living a life inside any boundaries--they create a freedom lifestyle.

In this podcast you will hear:

-How they stayed connected while dating long distance (in really creative ways)

-How timing in life was a major factor for their relationship being successful. They don’t think they would have worked if they started dating years before they did.

-Some of their favorite personal development books

-How they were able to travel in Asia for 6 months this last year and come right back to jobs

AND MORE.

Of course you ‘love’ your partner, but what level of love and connection do you feel right now? You might “know that you love them,” but right now, you can feel disconnected and experience a mediocre or even low level of love. 

You do not want to assume that love will automatically be there in a long-term relationship.  Sure, you can say “I love you” to each other all day long, yet still not FEEL an overwhelming sense of love in the partnership. 

For many of us, we have mostly experienced love that is conditional or based on fleeting feelings. So how do you keep the experience of LOVE alive, even during challenging seasons?

In this episode you will hear:

• What love should not be based on
• The real foundation from where your love comes from
• How you can keep that experience of love alive, no matter the challenge or season that you are in.

Resources For Your Relationship:

You can sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

First things first, listen into this episode to gain even more clarity on how to design an abundant life and relationship and what that authentically means for you and your partner!

Second, this is actually an interview of us from the "Be That 1% Podcast" that reaches 75 countries! Listen into our answers to the powerful questions from host Amanda Silvas, that are noted below.

It dives into their story of how we turned the almost break-up into a truly powerful partnership, changed career paths, created a successful business where we now empower couples to fulfill life, business, and relationship goals together! 

Topics Discussed:

-Moving past fear in relationships

-Definition of the new power couple

-Co-Creation is the purpose of life

-Turning desires into something physical

-Vision vs Goals

-Relationship vs partnership

-Make personal development a priority

-Top Book recommendations

-Power of the proximity principle

-Building money habits and a healthy money mindset

-Meaningful questions to bolster relationships

Books Discussed:

- Happy Pocket Full of Money

- Power of Intention

- Secrets of a Millionaire Mind

Other resources:

Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

Tour the Empowered Couples University: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/empowered-couples-university

From the thousands of coaching sessions, DMs, and emails that we receive, we tend to see themes come up in marriage. You would be surprised to learn how common certain topics are for couples, that all seem to come up in the same weeks and months. We are not here to hypothesize about why that is, but just make these themes known.

This is the highly anticipated followup episode from last week’s on mistakes men are making. Lately we have been noticing themes around Women and mistakes they are making in marriage. These are not character flaws but just patterns of behavior that we see adding to the dynamics in marriage. Today you will hear from Jocelyn on this solo episode about the 3 mistakes women are making: Criticisms, Conclusions, Consistency

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Join the  "Prioritize Us" Couples Challenge starting March 1st, 2024 - the 30 day challenge for couples to simplify how to make positive changes in their marriage and prioritize loving actions and respectful communication.

2. If the challenge start already passed, you can find all of our resoruces from guides, to courses, to coaching sessions with this link: Best Resources

When you first enter into a relationship, isnt one for the first obstacles how to create your combined friends together? Each individual has their friendships coming into a relationship and sometimes deciding how to merge the two, or which ones to spend time with becomes a significant question for the growth of a relationship. 

In this episode the Freemans cover the Social aspect of a relationship and how to create a group of friends that support the grow of your relationship vision and have a community that supports both of you! 

Questions asked in this interview

1) Do we try and merge our individual groups of friends together into one group?

2) What if I do not like some of the friends my partner has? 

In this episode you will learn:

How to create a balanced social life together as you form your relationship.

How to assess and determine the types of friendships that will best support the growth of your relationship and not be a hindrance. 

Quotes:

"Your friendships are like your fourth grade teacher. There are times when you have learned what there is to learn, and you graduate to your next teacher."

Resources:

Connect more with The Freemans at www.MeetTheFreemans.com and follow them on instagram: @meet_thefreemans

Emotional intimacy is a key part of your having high satisfaction in your marriage. The challenge becomes maintaining this the longer you are together with your partner. There are a number of reasons for this that you will hear in this episode, one of the obvious ones being that each partner feels connection in different ways. 

In this episode you will hear a breakdown of the differences in emotional intimacy for men and women. You will hear 3 different ways that both men and women feel emotionally close so that you can begin to bring more emotional intimacy into your relationship that meet your current needs and preferences. Over time even your partner begins to seem like “just another part of your day” which reduces the potential for connection. You also might think you know what makes your partner feel emotionally close… but you will be surprised to find that idea outdated for what they need in this current season.

Relationship Resources: 

1) The LIMITED EDITION Best of Us 30-Day Couples Challenge, is starting again April 1st, 2025. Over 4000 couples completed this challenge to start this year, many of which felt a real shift even after the first 5 days. We got so many requests for the challenge again, that we are bringing it back for April. But won't be available for another 5-6 months. So do not miss this opportunity to bring back that SPARK 💥

2) After this challenge window closes, take a look at the next available challenges of Prioritize Us or Rebuilding Us. ❣️

Most everyone gets into a marriage for the positive feelings of love, compatibility, passion, and creating a future together. It’s these great feelings and potential outcomes that can happen that make marriage a desirable thing. What most people miss is what it requires to be married and maintain the feelings of togetherness and high satisfaction through all the unforeseen challenges and obstacles. It is funny how we all think our relationship will be different from all those who went before us… but the fact is you need to be ready to evolve in ways you can’t see right now.

In this solo episode you will hear from Aaron as he walks through 3 areas of evolution that you need to accept and be ready for if you want to be successful in marriage. Continuing a thread from the previous episode about the acronym COMMITTED, you will dive further into the area of Evolution and Adaptation and these three areas you need to be willing to adapt in, first as an individual, and then as a couple, to have your marriage stand the test of time! 

Relationship Resources:

1) This is the last week to participate in the Best of Us 30-Day Couples Challenge. Over 3000 couples have started the challenge to start this new year, many of which felt a real shift even after the first 5 days. This challenge is for JANUARY ONLY, but you can register now and start on Day #1 immediately while getting the 30 consecutive challenge activities right to your inbox. 

2) After this challenge window closes, take a look at the next available challenges of Prioritize Us or Rebuilding Us.

The "American Dream" has always been to live in America as the land of opportunity. It was about the ability to have a family you love, move into a great house, drive a nice car, be friends with you neighbor and raise a family. 

Is this still your American Dream or is this an "inherited dream" passed along to you by someone else? In this episode the Freemans explore what it really means to live the American Dream and to create a future for you and your relationship that is created by you and not just given to you. 

Questions asked in this interview

1) What is your version of the American Dream? 

2) Do you have a vision for your life and your relationship that is much bigger than material possessions and even yourself? 

In this episode you will learn:

We are all meant to be creators of our own unique experience of life.

We do not just react to life's circumstances but we use the events in life to create our own vision when we have clarity on our relationship purpose. 

Quotes:

"It is not about the creation, but about the creating in life."

Resources:

Connect more with The Freemans at www.MeetTheFreemans.com and follow them on instagram: @meet_thefreemans

FREE Course Giveaway - Order our book, The Argument Hangover, then write a review on Amazon to be entered into a drawing for a course of your choice! 

Men and women can experience different types of challenges within the same relationship. The difficult thing about that is when it gets expressed to your partner, it can be easily dismissed as being irrational. This is only because the other partner doesn't see things the same way. But this doesn't make it any less impactful. 

So the goal of this episode is to bring awareness to the specific challenges that women feel, so that it can be more easily expressed and understood by their partners. In this episode you will hear 3 challenges that women are experiencing in mariages right now! 

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Meet Mike & Cari Skrdla from right here in Gilbert AZ. Both of them started the company “LifeBack” which is about helping you make the necessary changes to live a life you love living. Any challenges with career, relationships, and happiness are not supposed to be a constant state. So LifeBack aids as a lifeline of professional support, providing methods and empowerment to assist you with creating a life of your choosing. This is through coaching and live events like the Genius Bootcamp. Along with that mission, Mike runs 2 other business investing into real estate and CBD. 

Aside from what they do, they are both very close friends of ours that have always been there for us in our own spiritual journey, starting our own relationship, and listening & providing advice whenever we have needed it in our personal and professional life.

In this episode you will learn the habits they implement to function as a true team and to support each others dreams while fulfilling on the vision for your own relationship. 

Questions asked in this interview:

1. How do you create your partner newly each day?
2. What does being a team really mean to you?
3. How does having an agreement of time to allow yourself ‘to be down’, actually change your state faster?
4. What habits bring you together when you feel you’re going in different directions?
5. How are you able to ‘listen’ to your partner with such curiosity and support when they are sharing things they fear, are afraid of, and have concerns about? 
6. How do you keep past relationship habits from affecting your current marriage?
7. With everything that you are both up to, how do you keep from being overwhelmed or too busy for each other?

Quotes:

“Im not here to get in the way, but to support my husband in anything he wants to pursue.”

“The world you live in with your spouse is all your doing and all your creation”

Connect More With The Guests:

Learn more about the transformational work with LifeBack

Other resources:

Follow us on Instagram

Access the Empowered Couples University communication audio course, and get your second one free from listening to the episode

What does it mean to be a truly great communicator in your relationship? There is the idea that this means you will dramatically reduce the amount of tensions or challenges that you face. Relatively speaking that might be true but that is not the ONE thing that couples have in common who are great at communicating! 

In this episode you will hear what this one thing is. The fact is that you will have tension and face challenges in your marriage, that is not going away all together. After this episode you will have a better idea of what your goal is for communication and conflict resolution so that you can grow into truly masterful communicators and better stay on the same side with your partner when challenges arise!

Resources For Your Relationship:

NEW CONFLICT GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it’s resolved for good and get back to the good times. It’s called Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it’s only $19. It is not available to the public yet, you can be the first to get it right now!

Be honest: have you and/or your partner been nit-picking, critiquing or questioning each other more lately? Being real, we have noticed this in our own relationship over the last couple of weeks and it’s something we’re bringing awareness to shifting between us. 

We noticed that these additional (and mostly unnecessary) remarks to each other were leaving us feeling unaccepted by each other. Not only that, but also a bit depleted and more on edge around each other at home. Maybe you’ve felt this too?

In this episode we cover:

• The bigger “danger” of the build up of nit-picking and questioning each other
• 2 critical mindset shifts to make within yourself so you’re not doing this to your partner too much
• 3 simple, but powerful questions to ask yourself in the moment before you make the remark

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)
2. We talked about knowing what is important in the moment, and our communication audio course has the best skill for you to determine the real level of importance. Check out the Communication Course for yourself! 

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

All great teams “huddle” often, whether a sports team or a professional team. But how often do you guys check-in? Today’s episode covers how to have a weekly, quarterly, and yearly check-in. This is a major update to our process we shared in 2021, which was a SUPER popular episode. You’ll hear the 5 questions to ask each other every week, what to discuss about your relationship every quarter of the year, and big picture topics to stay on track on a yearly basis. 

We promise, these can be accomplished in just a few minutes and will help you prevent miscommunications, tackle issues proactively, and experience more harmony in the relationship!

To go with the episode, get our BRAND NEW Family Meeting Guide & Templates here:

https://thecouplesexperience.com/family

Also from the episode, you can get the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide if you need more guidance on how to repair things that were unresolved.

Meeting each other’s needs is the basis for a great relationship. This can get complex especially when it comes to the need of intimacy in a marriage, a fundamental need that often takes different forms for men and women. While some men seek physical intimacy to feel connected, their female partners emphasize the need for emotional intimacy. 

In this episode you will hear the significance of first establishing emotional safety (in its various forms) before either type of intimacy can be created. Then how each person’s need can be accepted as valid and a  roadmap for building emotional intimacy through 4 key elements: attunement, honesty, vulnerability, and initiation. 

As for physical intimacy, you will hear the keys of emphasizing love deposits, injecting fun, and introducing intentional variety into the experience. You will understand that you can in fact meet both of your needs as they are independent of each other first. The meeting of those needs further raise both the emotional and physical aspects of your marriage.

Relationship Resources (mentioned in the episode):

1) Register for the next "Prioritize Us" 30 Day Couples Challenge and get the Family Meeting Guide as a part of it. 

2) Get the Family Meeting Guide on it's own now. 

As you now know from listening to this podcast, repairing conflicts is a critical skill to have a great relationship. BUT there is actually a key aspect of “conflict repair” that allows you to repair faster and more effectively. The opposite is actually just as true if not even more so. If you do not get this initial step correct, then it will lead to drawn out argument hangovers, leaving the conflict unresolved, and even resentment building up. 

In this episode you will hear about this one critical (initial) step that you must get better at to have a long term healthy, successful, trusting, and loving relationship! Also do not forget to grab your copy of the NEW REPAIR GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it’s resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It’s the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it’s only $19.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.
2. If you want an immeidate resource to help you repair from a conflict RIGHT NOW, make sure you get the Making Up & Moving Forward guide for just $19! Save yourself hurt and disconnect by repairing fully and quickly. 

Giveaway Details:

We also mentioned that we would giveaway our course for free in a drawning. To participcate just email us your 1-2 sentance 'testimony' of how you used the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide. We will do the drawning by the end of Feb 2023. Email the testimony to: connect@newpowercouples.com

Meet this powerful couple, Jaiya and Ian Ferguson. You won’t hear this conversation at your average dinner party.

Would you like even BETTER intimacy & sex with your partner? Would you like to know more about your partners preferences and your own with physical pleasure? What if you had a common language to express your sexual needs and desires openly, without feeling embarrassed, with your partner. What if you really could magnify your love life and experience more pleasure and ecstasy with your partner? Are you in?

If so, you’ll love today’s episode:

Known as Miss Jaiya, she is the Internationally recognized, award-winning sexologist and best selling author of (Red Hot Touch), she is also the creator of the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough™ and the Erotic Blueprint™ Quiz. Over more than two decades of client observation and clinical research she discovered a map of arousal that reveals your specific erotic language of arousal. She has been so effective at creating this breakthrough for people, that she personally works with Tony Robbins and his platinum partners at his own events.

Ian Ferguson had his own business in custom cabinetry serving hollywood actors and producers in creating luxury lifestyles, for 15 years. He is now fully involved with developing the Erotic Blueprints with Jaiya and expanding the message to allow people to become sexually satisfied and erotically free in their relationship.

What You Will Hear:

You will now hear about this revolutionary framework to create deeper connection and sexual satisfaction with you and your partner!

1. Why you both need to know each other’s “erotic blueprint” to bring even more pleasure into your relationship.
2. How intimacy actually impacts your ability to create and manifest.
3. Why sex and intimacy is a topic that couples are often embarrassed to talk about and how to make it more comfortable.
4. Are there any ‘erotic blueprint types’ that are incompatible? Or can a couple be compatible sexually with different types?
5. And so much more about how to bring more pleasure and intimacy into your relationship.

Take Your Erotic Blueprint Quiz Here:

https://www.eroticbreakthrough.com/freemans

Other resources:

Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

It’s OPEN! The Empowered Couples University has launched and you can now enroll in courses: http://meetthefreemans.com/ecu

How many times have you thought to yourself “should I bring this up to my partner now, or should I just keep it to myself?” It’s almost a certainty that you have even more than once because all partners will ask themselves this question at one time or another.

The biggest issue here is that if you bring it up it can cause an argument in which you both end up getting upset and can get into an Argument Hangover. On the other side if you don’t say anything it can feel like you have to suppress yourself and ultimately end up feeling resentful. So what is the real answer here when it can feel like a lose-lose situation? 

In this episode we will give you 5 steps to take to be able to answer this question as well as empower both of you to become even better partners to each other. 

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Make sure to register for the ONE-TIME Couples Event/Training we’re hosting December 9th. You get a copy of our newest book, The Argument Hangover + access to the 90 min training with content that’s never been publicly taught before. Save your seats here
2. After Dec 9th you can pre-order the book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.