Dam Parenting (Dam Parenting Podcast)

For all of us who have experienced it, for those lucky not to have, but may know someone, this episode is a heartfelt discussion about the process it can take, the impact it can have and also the support that we can provide - to those who may be experiencing it - or may have already.

This topic is rarely discussed, but the Maternal Mental Health series felt like a great space to be able to open up this conversation and, with thanks to Ilena Standring, who supports mothers in all aspects of pregnancy, birthing and beyond, we hope listeners might want us to come back to discuss this topic further from certain angles that are rarely spoken about.

Ilena spoke about the article she wrote previously for Amsterdam Mamas which you can find here

In this episode, we tackle the sometimes anxiety-inducing subject of announcing a pregnancy at the  workplace.

We are delighted to host Iram, an accomplished HR manager who is passionate about fostering a positive atmosphere around pregnancy within the workplace. Iram shares invaluable insights on how HR can play a pivotal role in celebrating this significant life event, ensuring that employees feel supported rather than apprehensive. We also delve into the management of upcoming maternity leave, with a focus on creating an environment where HR teams and colleagues are supportive of  this exciting chapter in your life.

It can be lonely

No- it IS lonely.

No matter how much help you can have, friends, family even around you. The truth is - you are the one at night, doing the feeds, the day time, parks, walks, sitting room floor, holding baby and who is holding you?

On this episode, we really wanted to call it out - highlight this awful experience many mothers will go through. The loneliness of it all - when you feel you should be enjoying it, grateful, creating magical memories, being social, and well - a hanging out with your new mom friends.

The truth is, it's dam lonely. Days we can't shower, get off the floor as we have been up all night, no energy to do anything. It's raining - don't want to get wet - It's sunny - don't want to show my face to crowds of happy vivacious youngsters enjoying their freedom.

Maren and Eva sit down with Naomi to discuss this, and hope that, well know that, this will resonate with most listeners.

If you want to read more about some research that Naomi had mentioned, please click on the links below

As long as you are self- compassionate, you will never walk alone

Self-compassion and loneliness

We are already 17 episodes into the Dam Parenting podcast, and we are so thankful to the experts who have contributed, adding their knowledge and wisdom to share with our international community.

This episode answers the question - Why are both Maren and Eva doing this podcast? And what are the next steps?

It's that time! Both Eva and Maren's little girls will be turning 4 in the coming months - and of course it's in their mind of what to get them.

So, they wrote out some ideas separately and now sit together to go through their list of ideas they are considering. Maybe this might be helpful to listeners, maybe you might have some other ideas!? Be sure to head over to Instagram to give your suggestions too!

It's a long title!

This DamGoode Book club Elizabeth opens up the pages once more to a book she previously read in pregnancy and now again once her daughter is one. Many things have taken place in such a short period of time - including her perception of the book. When women are pregnant and have time to read, imagine and plan for a certain way to parent - the truth is, exhaustion, sleepless nights and strong willed babies really challenge us to sometimes just survive - the evening, day, week, month...

Parenting isn't easy - and these DamGoode bookclubs are here to help you get the low down from these parenting books.

All curated by Elizabeth herself, an award winning librarian and writer, Eva and Maren are along for the ride to read some of the most popular books and give their take on these from their different cultural backgrounds and experiences.

Interested in learning more? Head over to our instagram account and get in on the conversation on our reel for the episode! Let us know what you think? Your favourite book you read? Agree with us? Disagree with us? Let us know!

We all waited with baited breath waiting to find out if we got our first choice of school.... and we both did. Phew

So what next?

Maren and Eva both received an email from the schools and compared what was asked - and thought it might be an idea to share this with the listeners.

So you are prepared, give you an idea of what to expect when your time comes - or simply - interesting to hear what different schools do.

We here at Dam Parenting want to celebrate the wonderful doula's out there making a difference in the lives of many families.

We are celebrating World Doula week by showcasing some of the wonderful doula's found all around the Netherlands. They will share where they are originally from, how long their are practising - or if a student doula, the languages they speak and specialisations they may have.

This is a great opportunity for any pregnant families out there to take a listen and maybe find someone who ticks all the boxes and can be there for them in their birthing journey.

Instagram links:

@laviehypnobirthing

@oase_doula

@suto.karina

@doula.madi

@intuitief_bevallen

@siri_empowering_birth

Eva and Maren are back with another heart-to-heart session on DAMChats, and this time, they're delving into a topic that resonates with every mom out there: Mom Guilt, and sharing their personal experiences with it.

From feeling guilty about taking time for yourself to questioning parenting decisions, mom guilt is an uninvited companion for many. Explore why it creeps in, how it manifests differently for everyone, and why it's okay to acknowledge and address it.

Eva and Maren wonder if there are any practical strategies and share anecdotes on how they try to manage and, at times, even overcome mom guilt.

You are not alone in this journey. Mom guilt is universal, and DAMChats is here to create a safe space for moms to share, connect, and realise that imperfections are a part of the beautiful chaos of parenting.

In this insightful episode, Maren and Eva are joined again by Ilena Standring, a passionate doula, advocate and expert on Matrescence—the journey of becoming a mother.

Dana Raphael created the term Matrescence in 1973.

Matrescence is a profound transformation that encompasses physical, emotional, and psychological changes as women transition into motherhood - where in the last episode with Dr Naomi, together they spoke about the identity shift. Ilena will discuss the intricacies of this transformative process, shedding light on the joys, challenges, and complexities that come with it.

From the shifting dynamics of relationships to the evolution of self-identity and the balancing act of motherhood, we explore the multifaceted aspects of matrescence. Ilena shares valuable perspectives, practical tips, and empowering insights to help navigate this transformative journey with grace and resilience.

Whether you're a new mom, expecting mother, or someone interested in understanding the transformative power of motherhood, this episode offers a wealth of knowledge and understanding. Join Eva, Maren and Ilena as they break down Matrescence and celebrate the incredible strength and beauty of the motherhood journey.

You can find out more on Ilena on her instagram:

Ilena_j_standring

Be sure to share this within your community, mothers to be and mothers alike - we are all in this together. Being a parent is hard enough, doing it in another country without the support from our family and close friends is a tough journey many of us are trying to figure out. Let's do it together.

Ilena's reflection questions:

[ ] In the 12-24 months before I became pregnant, I was preoccupied with...

[ ] If I reflect back to my pregnancy, these are the ideas, the ideals and the topics, that I was preoccupied with

[ ] As I look back now, on those 12-24 months before pregnancy, and that period in pregnancy, I wish I had spent more time exploring...

[ ] As I glance back into my matrescence journey thus far, these are the things that spring to mind as the most surprisingly fullfilling aspects of my inner and outter transformation.

[ ] These are the realisations about the way I was parented and how matrescence was modelled to me as I have been on the journey through matrescence

[ ] As I look forward to the next 12 months of my identity expansion, beyond the every day parenting, I would like to explore these aspects of my identity and of my experience of matrescence

Labels are for clothes - not for our kids.

Rounding up the Neurodiversity Celebration week -which wrapped up on Saturday at A Different Story, where Claudia from Ludica Workshops hosted an open house for all to come and get familiar with a community of supportive parents - and the author of JellyPie FireFly would read her wonderful story.

Anne Graham has gone about with her supportive team - including Dam Parenting's own resident psychologist Dr Naomi Gibson, to write up a book - JellyPie Firefly. A book which goes about explaining how 4 letters put together means something for a child to understand.

Awesome - Dynamic - Happy - Different

"I wrote Jellypie to connect with my own daughter about a lifelong reality that she will need to cope with ......... to develop a character that she could identify with, make reference points easier and scenarios more relatable." - Anne Graham.

A reminder of what Anne herself mentions - if you want a copy of the book - you can purchase it through their website - or read out if you want a copy for your own school, community, or groups.

Check out their website here

You can read more (and see the images Anne spoke about) about this amazing book from their kickstarter here

Follow their instagram

The age old questions: How can I brush my toddlers teeth? How do you brush a toddlers teeth when they refuse? When should I start brushing my babies teeth? What age should a toddler brush their own teeth?

Most parents have goggled some form of question related to dental care and their little ones - so this episode will have all the answers you need. From when to start, what changes there are between baby and toddler teeth brushing, how to help manage oral health, to finding out WHEN do we parents actually stop having to brush our children's teeth.

This isn't a bite sized episode, but it's packed full of expert knowledge and some great tips.

This is our second part of our introduction into the school process of out little ones starting in September.

In the first part we spoke about trying to find the schools, how we went about it and operating in the lottery system and how we found out our acceptance.

In today's episode we will be chatting about all things after the acceptance letter. Eva and Maren had very different experiences - for one- two meetings exploring the school with their daughter to the other having one meeting and a trial day for the other.

Be sure to listen and gain insight into Eva and Maren's own experience so you are prepped with the knowledge to ask the questions they forgot to ask!

On this episode, we have the pleasure of hosting two esteemed prenatal wellness instructors:  Kasia from Seventh Series and Mamamoon and Rianne from She Coaching.

Our conversation delves into the realm of exercise in the first trimester of pregnancy. We explore the continuum of maintaining an active lifestyle now that you’re pregnant, contemplate the prospects of commencing an exercise regimen, and examine the optimal choices to ensure a healthy and balanced approach to fitness during this crucial phase. 

You can find out more about Kasia on her instagram @kasia_pokrop,  at seventhseries.com as well as about her retreats on mamamoon.me, and Rianne on Instagram @riannevalentine and on her website shecoaching.nl

Ilena Standring returns and shares her decade long experience of birthing options in Amsterdam, navigating us through the unique aspects and considerations of giving birth here. Ilena takes us through the three-tiered approach to birthing in Amsterdam, shedding light on the choices and experiences available to expectant parents. Whether you're a local or an expatriate, first birth or second - this episode promises to be an invaluable resource for anyone navigating the exciting journey of childbirth in Amsterdam. Below find all her helpful links to the places and items she speaks about in this episode! Birth Pool Hire

BevallliingsBaden

BevalBad

Birthpool (& breast pump) for hospitals

TENS Machine:

To buy - llena has this one in her doula bag. You can pass it on to a friend afterwards and they can just buy new pads!)

Rent TENS Machine

Information about pharmaceutical pain relief / birthing positions & possibilities in English, French, Turkish, Polish & Arabic

Birth positions (in Dutch but very visual!)

Hospitals in Amsterdam:

Boven ‘Ij

Ziekenhuis Amstelland (Amstelveen) OLVG Oost / West

AMC

Birth Centres

Beval Centrum West ( OLVG West) Beval Centrum Zuid (Buitenveldert) Verloskundigen Hygiea

Parent Mental Health day approaches (January 27th) - which is to raise awareness of the importance of supporting the mental health of parents and carers. Dam Parenting wanted to sit down with Naomi to discuss this crucial topic - one which we feel can be ignored, unseen, avoided, and can cause underlying issues in relationships.

Our lives are all busy, but when we take a moment to realise we are with our partner, whom we love, and have a child(ren) with - its essential to nurture the relationship - check in with each other and make sure we are both getting the rest, space, fun, alone time that each may need.

We are stepping into the delicate world of postpartum care in our latest episode of Dam Parenting. In his episode, meet Laura, the dynamic director of a Kraamzorg agency in the heart of Amsterdam. The growth of kraamzorg care, from the 1900's where experienced older women cared for new mothers based on traditions and knowledge, through to 2012 when the Dutch formalised the registration for these caregiving professions. Curious about what these dedicated Kraamzorg professionals are trained to do? Wondering about the qualifications that define the levels of care they provide? Look no further - we've got all the answers to satisfy and prepare you for the incredible journey ahead. Join us as we explore the nuances of postpartum care, arming you with the knowledge, empowerment, and confidence needed for that extraordinary and intimate week following childbirth. The Dutch Kraamzorg registry can be found at: www.kckz.nl

On this second episode of the DAM Chat series, we chat about the age-old parenting dilemma of spoiling versus nurturing.

Here we look at definitions of spoiling, explore the delicate balance with nurturing, and share our honest experiences as mothers.

Navigating the thin line between spoiling and nurturing is our focus, but the reality is trying to grasp the mind of our little ones and how we as parents can change our perception of a moment.

Most parents don't think they spoil their child - but the reality is - it's what other people see as they look in. It's not the whole picture of your day - it's just a moment, and we shouldn't beat ourselves up over.

It happens to all of us. We aren't corporals raising an army. It's finding our flexibility at that moment.

On today's episode of DAMChats Eva's voice is back and together with Maren, they discuss the latest episode with Elizabeth Goode from Goode Writes and Reads, and the insights they garnished from the episode.

In this episode of DAMChats, Eva and Maren are chatting about playdates- which aren't just for the kids, but for us mamas too. And playdates can be seen as a blessing and a curse.

With lots of new places opening up in Amsterdam recently (thank you!) , and winter feels to be passing - parents are now trying to figure out ways to make playdates happen.

But we need to check our expectations of these 'lifesaving' 'crucial' 'must have' 'potential new best friends' events.

Eva and Maren chat about their own experience, thoughts and hopefully give you, the listener, a different thought when considering playdates.

Matrescence is brings on a full range of thoughts, emotions and questions. In this episode, Maren, Eva and Naomi sit down to discuss this passionate topic for them - where Naomi breaks down what Matrescence is on a psychological level.

Sharing our experiences, some you may recognise, some you may not - and hopefully will shed some light and empower you to move through your own Matrescence knowing more than many have ever known.

Naomi's journal exercise:

Writing in a journal can be useful when we are experiencing times of transition. Journalling helps to make sense of and navigate challenges, and cultivate a deeper sense of self- awareness, mindfulness, and creativity. By expressing thoughts and feelings in a journal, we can gain clarity, insight, and perspective on our lives. (You don’t need a fancy journal to do this, a simple notebook or your phone notes app work just as well)

Try answering one or all of these questions, letting your pen do all the work and you might be surprised what comes up for you!

1. Reflect on a moment of joy from today, as a mum

2. Recall a challenge you overcame recently. What strengths did you use to get through it?

3. Think back to a moment where you have felt proud of your parenting

4. What’s surprised you most about becoming a mother?

5. How has your life changed since becoming a mother? What are the most significant lessons you’ve learned along the way?

Stay in touch on Instagram, let us know how you get on!

@damparentingpodcast @drnaomipsychologist

Welcome to a special announcements episode!

Dam Parenting launched just 6 months ago - and today marks 55th episode being released and there are lots to celebrate for our niche audience!

ALSO

Eva and Maren are thrilled to launch the DamParenting Maternal Mental Health Series for the entire month of May. With over 15 episodes crafted in collaboration with our local community, Dam Parenting aims to be a vital resource for our international family community living in the Netherlands.

Navigating pregnancy, birthing, and parenthood can be a daunting journey filled with uncertainties, especially when language and cultural barriers come into play. Our special series is designed to provide the knowledge and support you deserve, eliminating the need for endless research, translation, and struggles alone.

Join Maren and Eva as they kick off this transformative series on Wednesday 1st of May. Whether you're an expectant parent, a new mom or dad, or simply curious about the world of parenting, these episodes are tailored to resonate with you.

Don't forget to subscribe to Dam Parenting on your favourite podcast platforms, follow us on Instagram, and share this invaluable resource with your community.

Above all, we hope this series enlightens, empowers, and inspires you, shining a light on the dedicated community of service providers ready to support you on your parenting journey. Together, let's embrace the beauty and challenges of parenthood with confidence and grace!

In this inaugural episode of Dam Parenting podcast join us as we introduce your hosts, Eva & Maren, and embark on an exciting journey into the world of pregnancy, birthing, postpartum and parenthood in the Netherlands. Whether you're pregnant first time, first time in the Netherlands, nervous about this new phase in your life, in the trenches of newborn times, seeking a community, wanting to hear from local professionals, hear stories from those of us who have gone through it and are surviving, this podcast is for you.

What to Expect:

The Dam Parenting podcast is your compass through the uncharted waters of pregnancy, birthing, postpartum, and parenthood here in the Netherlands. Each episode will feature heartfelt discussions and expert advice on various aspects of this transformative journey, including:

• Navigating pregnancy: From managing those early symptoms to preparing for labour, we've got you covered.
• The birthing experience: We'll explore different birthing options, pain management techniques, and the emotional rollercoaster that often accompanies childbirth.
• Postpartum support: Learn about self-care, managing the postpartum period, and adjusting to life with a newborn.
• Parenthood stories and advice: We'll feature real parents sharing their experiences and the lessons they've learned on their parenting journey.
• Tips for building strong, loving families: Discover ways to create a nurturing and supportive environment for your children as well as yourself.

The Dam Parenting podcast aims to be your trusted companion, offering insights, encouragement, and a sense of community as you navigate the profound journey of parenthood. We believe that every parent's story is unique and worth sharing, and we're here to celebrate the triumphs and provide guidance during the challenges.

Whether you're preparing for parenthood, seeking reassurance in the midst of sleepless nights, or looking to connect with a community of like-minded parents, Dam Parenting is your one-stop podcast for all things related to pregnancy, birthing, postpartum, and the adventure of raising children. Subscribe today and let's embark on this extraordinary journey together!

In this episode, Elizabeth- an award winning librarian, author and mother - joins Eva and Maren as they review the book - The Happiest Kids in the World, bringing up children the Dutch way.

This book is only available in OBA in Dutch! So listen in to this episode and get the insights from three different mothers as they break it down and give their own take aways.

In this episode, hosts Eva and Maren dive into a journaling exercise using the Brief Parental Self-Efficacy Scale, a tool designed to help parents evaluate their current strengths and areas for improvement.

By engaging with this exercise, parents can reflect on their challenges, recognise where they might need support, and gain clarity on how to become more effective and confident caregivers.

Join them for an episode of self-discovery and growth as they explore what it truly means to be a capable and resilient parent.

Link:

I Know What to Do; I Can Do It; It Will Work

Let's talk about ADHD this month.

On this episode Maren and Eva sit down to get tot grips with the stigma attached to ADHD label - backed by science -as well as a personal journey on diagnosis and treatment here in the Netherlands.

Efforts were placed into getting key personnel involved in this journey to join us on the episode, but due to the sensitive nature of medical care in the Netherlands, this episode does not contain a key professional on the diagnosis route. Instead, a personal journey provides one example of the many that are out there.

Guest: Marlies Visser VU PhD student

ADHD related stigma

Sage publisher

It's holiday time so Eva and Maren are taking a few weeks off so we will be revisiting some of the most popular episodes - either downloaded, shared, or listeners have reached out to share their camaraderie, having felt seen or having finally some words to put to their own feelings.

It's hard going into the parenthood - and we are all going through our own struggles. Sometimes at the same time as you, sometimes a little ahead, and some far off that you can listen to the episodes when you need it in the future.

This episode, we revisit the self identity episode with Dr Naomi - which seemed to resonate with so many listeners - and everyone involved too. Entering motherhood - Matresence is really an unchartered period of our lives which contains so many different moving parts -and we can feel we are trying to do this jigsaw piece on our own.

In September we are going to be celebrating Matresence by speaking with different persons from our community who can add value to this Everest of a topic.

Join us as we welcome Eowny back to delve into the exciting journey of navigating bilingualism as our children embark on their school years.

Discover invaluable insights on how to seamlessly integrate multiple languages into their educational experience.

Eowny sheds light on strategies for maintaining fluency in home languages while embracing the linguistic diversity of the school environment.

Prepare to be enlightened as we explore approaches to fostering linguistic growth and cultural awareness in this captivating episode with Eowny from On Raising Bilingual Children.

Top blog posts from Eowyn on her website:

Top 5 Tips for parents with children starting school in a new language

Is Your Child Starting School in a New Language? 5 Strategies for Caregivers to Support the Transition

Supporting multilingualism in schools: Spotlight on best practice

We can all get caught up in the rushes of getting ready for work, daycare, school, gym, dinners, cleaning up. When we are on this wheel of continually chasing ourselves, day after day, week after week and year and year - we can end up in a burnout. Katia joins Eva and Maren to discuss our mental health hygiene. Much like brushing our teeth, washing our hair, which we know to do as we can physically can see or feel t needs cleaning - Katia discusses simple techniques to take into our daily routine also - some just taking minutes. A few minutes in our whole day, can recalibrate our body - nervous system, emotions, and raise awareness to our somatic self. At the end of the episode, join in on a body scan to check how you are feeling.

The holidays are nearing us. The packing can be a whole 'thing' but what about the travelling? How are we getting to our destination? What are the options? What works best for us? And how will we be managing it with a kid ( or two or more) ?!?

Gabrielle - from JetSetGabrielle - is joining us today to discuss how she managed to become that kind of family who can travel easily with the kids. What works for them, how they manage it and how they got there.

She breaks down the instagram 4th wall, sharing her experiences, insights and tips which might benefit many listening!

On this episode we are delighted to introduce our resident Psychologist - Dr Naomi Gibson, as we embark on the exhilarating yet apprehensive journey of discovering you are pregnant.

Dr Naomi will guide us through the process of embracing, enjoying and establishing a new self-care routine that will accompany you not only throughout pregnancy but also into the transformative phase of parenthood.

You can follow Dr. Naomi on Instagram @thegoodenoughpsychologist

Back towards the start of the podcast in late 2023, on episode 15 we spoke with Harriet, a postpartum doula in Amsterdam to give us her insights for mothers to be. We had discussed preparing for birth, insights she had learned through her clients, but also we learned Harriet herself would be welcoming her first child in early 2024.

On this episode, we speak with Harriet at the crucial 3 month mark, when hormones drop, when reality has well and truly set in, after the initial joys and well wishes and family travelling over to meet the newborn.

Harriet unveils her experience, her truths and we believe many mothers will feel seen listening to this.

You can follow Harriet on her instagram here

Celebrating Cesarean Awareness Month we delve into the world of cesarean births with an experienced obstetrician-gynecologist (OBGYN) Dr Deurloo - working in Dialonessenhuis in Utrecht- the oldest hospital in the Netherlands. We uncover the unique approach to cesarean sections (C-sections) in this country, where maternal choice and involvement are central to the birthing experience.

Dr Deurloo sheds light on C-section births in the Netherlands and discusses the processes involved in choices, in the operation theatre and the after care. He delves into how his mother-assisted cesareans came about, how mothers play an active role in the birth process, and how this approach empowers women and promotes a sense of agency in childbirth.

You can find him on Instagram as kldloo

He is also found as an expert for Ouders van nu and How About Mom

Ilena is back, and we are continuing our previous conversation (episode 34) when were were trying to discuss all things Matrescence. When the topic of body image came up - we realised this really should be a whole episode on its own.

And here we are.

Want some further reading?

Sociocultural pressures and body related experiences during pregnancy and the postpartum period: A qualitative study

Mumbod? A comparison of body image and dietary restraint among women with younger, older, and no children

Pregnancy makes many women feel negative about their body image, new Mental Health Foundation survey reveals

In our inaugural podcast episode following our Dam Parenting launch on Halloween at Kanteen 25 here in Amsterdam, we feature Gemma, the visionary behind Mamasocial. We delve into her inspiring journey in establishing a community that brings moms together, united by a common pursuit. At the end of the day, we are all seeking connection, and Gemma is facilitating this at each MamaSocial.

Be sure to sign up to the MamaSocial newsletter to hear about upcoming events before anyone else - and sells out - (like the cocktail evening!), and of course follow her on Instagram at mamasocialamsterdam

It's holiday time so Eva and Maren are taking a few weeks off so we will be revisiting some of the most popular episodes - either downloaded, shared, or listeners have reached out to share their camaraderie, having felt seen or having finally some words to put to their own feelings.

It's hard going into the parenthood - and we are all going through our own struggles. Sometimes at the same time as you, sometimes a little ahead, and some far off that you can listen to the episodes when you need it in the future.

Overwhelm is an expected feeling in motherhood- but what about if we needed more than just understanding. what if we need more. It's well documented that girls are diagnosed later than boys, and lately there is a surge in numbers of women in their 30's and 40's being diagnosed.

Today, Emma, the ADHD Potential coach, joins us to discuss ADHD in motherhood, and provides us some tips on how to manage ourselves. Routine is core, but setting realistic expectations is also crucial for our mindset.

It feels like we can all diagnosed ourselves with ADHD or ADD or another neurodiverse label - but today's episode will benefit every listener with some great insights from a professional.

Pacifiers - Lovey - Binky - Chupi - Dummy -NouNou - Chusni - Suce - Speen there is a lot of names for this one little thing that can help our babies be soothed, help them go to sleep, help digest their food, help regulate themselves. But - like most things in life - there has to be an end - so how can we take away these beloved items from our babies?

Maren and Eva today dive into this area - with some facts, their own experiences, and insights into this little helper many of us thought we would never use, but end up taking on - and dreading removing it.

How did you manage?

It's holiday time so Eva and Maren are taking a few weeks off so we will be revisiting some of the most popular episodes - either downloaded, shared, or listeners have reached out to share their camaraderie, having felt seen or having finally some words to put to their own feelings.

It's hard going into the parenthood - and we are all going through our own struggles. Sometimes at the same time as you, sometimes a little ahead, and some far off that you can listen to the episodes when you need it in the future.

This episode, Harriet, a well known postpartum doula joins Eva and Maren to shed light on the years of experience she has gained. A great insight for any first time pregnant parent to gain some insights to what to expect.

When this was recorded , Harriet herself was in her last trimester carrying her first child - be sure to check out her 3 month check up on episode 50 released back in May.

On this episode we venture into the heart of the Verloskundige - aka a Dutch midwife with Chandelle, a seasoned practitioner. Explore the intensive training they undergo, discover what to expect throughout pregnancy, and unravel the diverse roles these experts play. Gain fresh insights into the unique blend of medical expertise and empathy that defines Dutch midwifery, leaving you with a newfound appreciation for the profound impact they have on the journey to parenthood. Chandelle mentions the Verloskundige association which you can check out here: www.deverloskundige.nl

In this episode, hosts Eva and Maren are joined by resident psychologist Dr. Naomi Gibson to discuss the whirlwind of emotions parents experience when their children start school. Together, they explore how our own memories and feelings about school can unconsciously be transferred onto our kids, impacting their transition into this new phase. Dr. Gibson offers insights on how parents can navigate these complex emotions, ensuring they provide the support and encouragement their children need.

Through candid conversations, the trio delves into strategies for managing this pivotal moment in parenting, helping parents create a positive and empowering start to their child’s educational journey.

In this captivating episode, join Eva and Maren as they engage in an enlightening conversation with Eowyn Crisfield, a multifaceted individual who wears many hats: linguist, senior lecturer, researcher, author, and visionary founder of On Raising Bilingual Children.

Prepare to delve into the intricate world of language acquisition and cultural preservation as Eowyn shares invaluable insights on nurturing bilingual and multilingual capabilities within the family dynamic. Discover the pivotal role of the home language, unravel effective strategies for empowering children in their linguistic journey, and gain practical advice on crafting a comprehensive plan for fostering bilingualism.

Tune in to explore the enriching landscape of raising bilingual children, where every word spoken opens doors to endless opportunities and profound connections.

Be sure to share with your international families

Links:

Bilingual Families: A practical language planning guide

Raising Bilingual Children Blog

'Tis the season to journey back, to our roots, our old homes, and our cherished roles in the family fold.

Yet, this time, we return not just as individuals, but as the architects of our own families. We've grown, gained new identities, and now bear the responsibility of caring for our own.

Amidst the festive family frolics, we dance with grace, balancing the nostalgia of the past with the joy of creating new traditions for our own growing families.

Our resident psychologist, Dr. Naomi Gibson, steps in to help us see the situation, and provides us with a mental map of things we can do.

Let's talk about postpartum and how to help yourself in advance - not just the tangible items we are excited to go shopping for - but the support teams we can rely on.

No matter how prepared you will be - you can never be fully prepared. So plan to be unprepared.

Heather Berry, a postpartum support service provider in Amsterdam, highlights the reality of what you will go through, physically and emotionally - in the hopes that you will give yourself grace during this precious time and just to be present with your baby and also yourself.

This is your motherhood.

Let's take a moment to reflect on your support network - and start figuring out who can I add?

We wanted to celebrate De Nationale Voorleesdagen which is celebrated across the Netherlands yearly, to stimulate reading to children aged 0 to 6 years of age.

And what better than to speak to a qualified (and awarded!) librarian Elizabeth Goode from Goode Writes and Reads , who breaks down the age groups and whats best for our little literature babes, and why. It's not as simple as you might think.

Did you know of the One Million Word Gap: Kids who have been read 5 books a day before they reach school age have been exposed to one million more words than kids who did not get exposed to books on a frequent level before school age.

Enjoy this episode, take notes, and be sure to check out our Instagram where we will be showcasing some recommendations Elizabeth provides us from newborn right up to starting school!

'Reading is reading is reading'

Some of the suggestions Elizabeth spoke about are below:

Sandra Boynton

MacBarnett

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In this episode, hosts Eva and Maren welcome Erin ( Instagram) , a relocation counsellor, consultant, and coach who specialises in providing emotional support and practical advice to those who have recently moved.

Erin shares her expertise on navigating the challenges of relocation, from adjusting to a new environment to building a sense of community and belonging. She offers valuable tips on how to manage the emotional rollercoaster that often accompanies such transitions and emphasizes the importance of establishing connections in a new place.

Join the conversation to discover strategies for making relocation a smoother and more fulfilling experience.

We here at Dam Parenting want to celebrate the wonderful doula's out there making a difference in the lives of many families.

We are celebrating World Doula week by showcasing some of the wonderful doula's found all around the Netherlands. They will share where they are originally from, how long their are practising - or if a student doula, the languages they speak and specialisations they may have.

This is a great opportunity for any pregnant families out there to take a listen and maybe find someone who ticks all the boxes and can be there for them in their birthing journey.

Instagram links:

@birthmatters.nl

@natidala

@yogamama_doula_hypnobirthing

@douladorene

@birthwish.nl

@annacatharinheil

Its nearly the summer holidays which means one thing:

Parents are taking the show on the road - so who really gets a holiday?

Dr Naomi is back and together with Eva and Maren, they are gong to figure out the best way to manage their holiday expectations, their emotions and to make the most out of these very limited family holidays!

This week, Claudia Carter from Ludica workshop, joins us ahead of Neurodiversity Week. As an autism educator and family counsellor who created Ludica as a way for our international community to be able to access a support group of peers who are raising neurodiverse children.

With 1 in 5 people in this world estimated to be neurodiverse, and an overwhelming amount of information online - sometimes parents just need to be in an environment surrounded by their peers. You are not alone.

At Dam Parenting - we want to highlight those spaces created by our community - for our community.

Neurodiversity

Support group for Parents of Children with Special Needs 

Neurodiversity Week Celebration

Social media

Instagram
Website Ludica Workshops

The importance of food is well known - and today Amélie joins Maren and Eva to discuss the importance of nutrition for our mental health.

As we become mothers, our self care can be sidelined which can include food - resulting in lax and easy choices which are not always beneficial for what our motherly bodies need.

Episode 2 - and this time today's guest is Professor Birit Broekman from the POP Polis clinic in OLVG (Amsterdam).

It's estimated that two in ten pregnancy women and postpartum mothers has a psychiatric condition such as major depressive disorder, a panic disorder, postpartum psychosis or postpartum depression. OLVG has the POP outpatient clinic where experts from the fields of Psychiatry, Obstetrics and Paediatrics collaborate to provide a holisitic all rounded approach to help mothers and mothers to be.

The teams involved

• Psychologist. Do you suffer from psychological complaints or do you have a mental illness? The psychologist will then guide you through this with the help of conversations and/or therapy.
• Psychiatrist. Are you taking medication during your pregnancy? A psychiatrist is then involved in the guidance. This can inform you about medication use during your pregnancy and possibly help you (temporarily) reduce it.
• Gynaecologist. A gynaecologist checks your physical health. They can also assess if there are any risks associated with your pregnancy.
• Paediatrician. The paediatrician can tell you what care your baby needs. Did you take antidepressants or anti-anxiety medications during pregnancy? They will then check whether this has had an influence on your baby's health.

In this episode, Maren and Eva ask Prof Broekmans about the services available from the POP Polis to mothers in her own clinic. From prior to conception, through pregnancy and into postpartum - the clinic is providing essential support that everyone should be aware of should they feel they need more support on their journey into motherhood.

Links:

You can find a list of all POP Polis clinics in the Netherlands here

We here at Dam Parenting want to celebrate the wonderful doula's out there making a difference in the lives of many families.

We are celebrating World Doula week by showcasing some of the wonderful doula's found all around the Netherlands. They will share where they are originally from, how long their are practising - or if a student doula, the languages they speak and specialisations they may have.

This is a great opportunity for any pregnant families out there to take a listen and maybe find someone who ticks all the boxes and can be there for them in their birthing journey.

Anyone else going through the buying and or selling? We have and boy it’s tough!

It's holiday time so Eva and Maren are taking a few weeks off so we will be revisiting some of the most popular episodes - either downloaded, shared, or listeners have reached out to share their camaraderie, having felt seen or having finally some words to put to their own feelings.

It's hard going into the parenthood - and we are all going through our own struggles. Sometimes at the same time as you, sometimes a little ahead, and some far off that you can listen to the episodes when you need it in the future.

This episode, is only a recent episode but housing is a huge issue which can cause stress, frustration, exhaustion, confusion and heartbreak when we don't get the bid accepted. How is or has your been experience:?

Eva and Maren welcome Zyanya from Adapting to Love, to chat about an Instagram story she shared showing how she and her husband bring their children to bed. Bed time is exhausting for many parents, we can wish our boundless bundle of energy would just shut down and go to sleep. Everyone else's child does it - or do they? The ladies have a real chat, about their real experience and breaking down this unrealistic expectations that our children can go to bed themselves, and how they all made it an enjoyable moment of connection with their children to end the day.

Raising a child is an incredible and awe-inspiring responsibility. For us mothers, nurturing a little girl means empowering her to believe that she can achieve anything she sets her mind to. We have the power to ignite her imagination, fuel her ambitions, and instill the confidence that her dreams are limitless.

As mothers of little girls, Maren and Eva today are joined by Sara from Project Fearless - a Stichting which empowers girls from 9-14years of age, in Amsterdam and Rotterdam - to get hands on, breaks stereotypes, find their voice and create a lasting impact.

With girls who are not even in school, Eva and Maren are already excited for their daughters to be able to join the future Project Fearless and some of the amazing courses and projects they will be running in the future!

Research paper:

Leisure time physical activity is associated with better mental health among adolescents

Uk research: girls loose interest in sport as teenagers

In episode 15- we have the privilege of conversing with Harriet, a postpartum doula whose insights are an essential compass for every expectant parent.

Harriet skillfully navigates through crucial conversation topics that couples should earnestly consider, especially during the pivotal 6-week period post-birth. Emphasising the significance of this unique timeframe, she encourages new parents to view it as a precious moment for bonding with their child and settling comfortably into the transformative role of parenthood.

Join us for an episode that goes beyond the surface, delving into the heart of thoughtful preparation for this extraordinary chapter of life.

Chandelle is back - our midwife based in Amsterdam who was first on on episode 11 where she explained all about the midwife training and expectations.

In this episode - Chandelle explains what is to be expected from our midwifes in the 6 weeks after giving birth and what women should take into consideration for their own mental health.

Midwife's are paramount in our pregnancy, birthing and fourth trimester period - so having a good relationship with them is paramount. They are the individuals who will bear witness to our journey into matrescence. So ensuring we are taking care of ourselves, not just the physical, and nourishing way but also mental support - our midwifes can help us along our path into motherhood and beyond, feeling strong, capable and cared for.

Discovering your pregnancy initiates a profound journey into an entirely new realm. The experience of pregnancy is universally remarkable, yet embarking on this path within the Netherlands presents unique considerations worth acknowledging.

Join us as we explore the essential aspects to consider when embarking on the transformative journey of parenthood in this Dutch context.

Step into the vibrant world of Montessori as Maren and Eva commemorate Montessori Week alongside the illustrious Simone Davies, the visionary behind Jacaranda Tree Montessori and acclaimed author of The Montessori Toddler, The Montessori Baby, and the eagerly anticipated release, The Montessori Child. Maren and Eva, enraptured by the enriching ambiance of Simone's Jacaranda Montessori classes in Amsterdam, reminisce fondly about their unforgettable experiences. Now, with Simone's forthcoming book, The Montessori Child, poised for release on March 5th, 2024, parents are invited on a journey beyond the toddler years, exploring strategies to nurture their children's development. In this captivating episode, Simone uncovers the essence of Montessori philosophy, delving into the mindset that underpins it all. Offering invaluable insights, she recommends essential Montessori items for every stage from infancy to childhood, transforming homes into nurturing environments that foster growth and independence. Join us as together they unlock the secrets to empowering our children through the timeless wisdom of Montessori. Links: Jacaranda Tree Montessori Montessori Note Book Upcoming book - The Montessori Child Sign up for free monthly newsletter filled with Montessori inspiration

Check out Simone's list on her top ikea picks for montessori children

It's holiday time so Eva and Maren are taking a few weeks off so we will be revisiting some of the most popular episodes - either downloaded, shared, or listeners have reached out to share their camaraderie, having felt seen or having finally some words to put to their own feelings.

It's hard going into the parenthood - and we are all going through our own struggles. Sometimes at the same time as you, sometimes a little ahead, and some far off that you can listen to the episodes when you need it in the future.

This episode, Zyanya from Adapting to love joined the conversation to share her own experience with bedtime routines with her own little- and not so little - ones. This really is about letting everyone know that some of us are really sitting with our kids, humbled by their little hands, embracing these fleeting moments that soon can never be again.

Ever heard of Matrescence before our monthly series? Many haven't.

And what's worse, is there is little information out there for us - except for books like Lucy Jones Matrescence which we reviewed in our BookClub. We welcomed back members of our community who many of you are familiar with - or introducing you to your village. With our resident psychologist Dr Naomi Gibson, a well known postpartum doula herself on her 6 month's check in - Harriet - from nourish and nest, and also one of the most versed women in Matrescence in our intimate village here in Amsterdam - Ilena Standring.

We searched high and low, reached out to the four corners of the globe to provide a closing episode of research and facts- but the reality is - there isn't much out there. So this episode- is just Eva and Maren, discussing their final thoughts on this month's series.

If any of these episodes resonated with you, or if you feel more need to find out more - share it with your community. We owe it to ourselves, our friends and our village.

You are not alone.

Raising our multilingual children is hard work. There is no doubt. Old myths of multilingual children developing language slower, or assimilating into the country of residence made some families raise their children in the most simple way they knew how- with just one or two languages.

Eowyn is back on the case, showcasing why it's a great for children to understand their parents background, customs, history - never mind communicating with family back in the homelands. She also gives simple strategies to help implement learning a language - and yes, its going to be hard work. Everything worth while takes effort and dedication.

This is a great reminder episode as a follow up from the previous episodes (25 and 30) as a subtle supportive voice to keep going. The research and evidence is there.

This is to all the international families out there, struggling - and trying to figure out ways to keep home language strong. We see you! We are you! You are not alone.

In this episode, Elizabeth sits down with Maren and Eva, after reading their next book: Matrescence - by Lucy Jones.

Ever heard of this word? Maybe only heard of it in 2024?

Jones's experience exposes a profound cultural failure: the glaring silence around the realities of childbirth and motherhood. This silence leaves countless women unprepared for the physical and emotional upheavals they will face.

Society mainly presents a sanitized, romanticized view of pregnancy and motherhood—emphasizing joy and bonding while obscuring the pain, trauma, and identity crises that are just as real. In mainstream media and public discourse, the raw, unvarnished truths of motherhood are often glossed over or ignored altogether. This absence of honest depictions left Jones feeling blindsided, unprepared for the brutal realities of labour, postpartum recovery, and the deep personal transformation that motherhood demands.

Without access to real stories that convey the full spectrum of maternal experiences, women are left with dangerously unrealistic expectations. When the harsh realities of motherhood inevitably clash with these expectations, it can lead to profound feelings of disillusionment and betrayal.

And we at Dam Parenting have always wanted to put topics like this into focus and have a conversation to find the words, learn ways to help ourselves and be open to listen to others experiences.

If you enjoyed this episode, if you learned something new - if you found the words you have been trying to use to express yourself - be sure to share this episode, grab the book, and step foot on your newfound path.

We are all waiting to welcome you.

As a follow on from episode 65 Body Image with Ilena Standring, we bring you a loving journalling exercise where you will need to find somewhere quiet, and some uninterrupted time to be able to do it.

Sit comfy, and allow your hand to write all about what your body does when it comes to self care, and your communication and your body's relationship with other people.

If you want to find out more about this journalling exercise, please check out ExpandYourHorizon.org

Research from Enhancing body image in motherhood: A randomised controlled trial of Expand Your Horizon among mothers of young children

The last month saw the flu here in the Netherlands be labelled 'epdemic'.

First Eva's household was down for 10 days straight and are still trying to get back to a normal, and last week Maren's household went down... It's everywhere, and its hitting everyone, so be prepared.

Eva and Maren discuss how it progressed, how they managed, and just wanting to chat about how rough it's been.

Maren spoke about:

A compress she got in Germany.

This episode Maren and Eva wanted o touch back on the last episode with Dr Naomi, on the good enough perfectionist (episode 27). All parents strive to be the best parents they can be, but sometimes they might go a lot harder on themselves, striving for perfect - when its unattainable. Today, Maren and Eva share just some points of their reality - how they are trying their best, and embracing the Good Enough title. How about you?

Going back to work is already a major leap, and change for us mothers - but what about those of us still breastfeeding/pumping. How can we manage continuing our journey with this?

Mama Ruth is here to discuss the return to work side of feeding our babies, and to know what to prepare for, and what to expect.

Today's episode is a workshop on a podcast! Isabel Cruz, DEI advocate and teacher, provides workshops and she graciously joins us to provide an insightful, supportive and much needed workshop as a conversation.

Living in the Netherlands, a melting pot of nearly 200 nationalities is incredible, and so we wanted to touch on this, to showcase how we can raise our children to grow up with a better comprehension of other cultures.

This is an episode you can listen to now or again when a topic may come up with our kids - like through books, events, or just walking to the store when our wonderfully honest children come up with a question about someone standing in front of us and we feel uncomfortable to figure out a way to express an explanation to our child -honestly and supportively.

Books:

Antiracist Baby
Global Babies

All Are Welcome
Our Skin: A First Conversation About Race

I Walk with Vanessa

Saturday

Under My Hijab

My Family Your Family

Anything by Dutch author and illustrator Mylo Freeman https://www.instagram.com/mylofreeman/

Some of these books are available at Monti's World - located in De Pijp, Amsterdam.

Links:

This is a good article to share about why Mylo Freeman created the Princess Arabella series

Colourful Goodies in Noord specializes in books and dolls that offer a wide range of representation

Bijlmer Bookstore
Indo Shop
Kies Kleurig 

Keti Koti info for Amsterdam: https://ketikotiamsterdam.nl/

Harriet is back with a 6 month check in and a discussion on her own Matrescence journey.

As a post partum doula for several years, she has always been there to support families, but now as she enters into this new phase of life herself - what has she experienced? What learnings has she taken? And how is this changing her perception for her own work?

Looking for a post partum doula? And want to reach out to Harriet? You can find her at Nourish and Nest or follow her on Instagram

Dr Naomi is back to discuss perfectionism in parenthood. In the tumultuous landscape of modern parenthood, the relentless demand to excel in every aspect of nurturing one's children casts a shadow over countless households. From the battleground of online parental disputes to the scrutinizing gazes of extended family members, and the subtle rivalry among friends underscored by social media shaming, the pressure to attain parental perfection looms large. Yet, striving for perfection subjects parents to unparalleled stress. And studies have shown that women seem to be more likely to show perfectionism than men - so for any new mothers - this can have a massive impact on our mental health. Together, Eva, Maren and Dr Naomi will be discussing who this can affect, the signs, and how to go easy on yourself.

Dam Parenting podcast was created to bring our parenthood journey in the Netherlands to our community - and as the only English speaking parenting podcast!

Every Wednesday, Eva and Maren spoke with a professional to discuss ways to help support, engage or shed light on matters relevant to us here in the Netherlands.

This episode Eva and Maren are going into their messages to respond to some of the topics which have hit their instagram feed lately.

Dr. Naomi is back and together with Eva and Maren they discuss the inevitable topic of reparenting ourselves as we become parents. Reparenting - in essence- is the process of healing from previous emotional wounds by making small, intentional choices to act in a way that helps you to achieve your goals. It happens when we no longer look to others for love and approval by filling the gaps ourselves. It's not an easy topic, it's a new way of living - loving yourself, and as a parent that can be very stressful when we have someone who depends on us 24/7. But as the saying goes - we cannot pour from an empty cup. Let's fill some of your cup up with this episode.

It's European Baby Wearing week !

Baby wearing has become so popular in the last decade - and with baby wearing not just frees up your hands -but also keeps your baby comforted being near a care giver. Feeling close, hearing heartbeat, or just at peace and relaxed.

Zyanya, is well versed in baby carriers, and she joins Eva and Maren to discuss the benefits of baby wearing, for both baby and mother.

One aspect of the podcast was to also hear the voices of our own community. This can be a struggle for some - as many don't get exactly the birth plan we had in our mind -so these stories are to highlight what other moms have gone through, have pulled themselves through and are able to look back on years later.

This is our fourth Birth story from our community, and today we welcome Helen.

Helen, from England, is a mom of two and had two home births. But what comes with the planning of a second, the management of whats going to happen to her first child during labour, and trying to be present in such a previous time of birth...

Helen speaks from her heart and shares her story, as many out there may have something similar going through their minds as they go through their second pregnancy.

Would you like to share your own birth story? Drop us a message, we would be delighted to have you on!

One aspect of the podcast was to also hear the voices of our own community. At the start of the year, Maren shared her own birth story. This can be a struggle for some - as many don't get exactly the birth plan we had in our mind -so these stories are to highlight what other moms have gone through, have pulled themselves through and are able to look back on years later.

Today, we welcome Emma - a coach specialised in ADHD and advocate for women.

Emma's story might not sound familiar to many, as some of us in Amsterdam believe we should be having the home birth - as that's whats been promoted (including our insurance sending us those kraampackets -incase it happens). After all it's not a medical procedure - right?

Well, for some of us, past experiences, culture or otherwise, we may feel more comforted in a sterilised clinical setting. And today, Emma is going to share her birth story, and her reflections of the experiences.

Would you like to share your own birth story? Drop us a message, we would be delighted to have you on!

In this enlightening episode, Maren and Eva sit down with Dr. Naomi to delve into the world of parental identity shifts. Parenthood is a transformative journey that reshapes one's sense of self in profound ways. Dr. Naomi unpacks the complexities of this transition, exploring the emotional, psychological, and relational changes that parents experience. From navigating new roles and responsibilities to confronting unexpected challenges, we explore the multifaceted nature of identity transformation in the context of parenthood. Tune in to gain insights into understanding and embracing these changes, fostering growth, resilience, and deeper connections within the family dynamic. Be sure to share with your community, as these episodes are created especially for our international community. It's hard going through Matrescence - without knowing whats involved, and also in a new country, city, without the comforts of home. You can find out more about Dr Naomi on her website: DrNaomiGibson.com Instagram: thegoodenoughpsychologist Be sure to follow us on Instagram DamParentingPodcast

In this episode, we're delving into the enigmatic concept of "the Village" that we often hear about but find elusive. Join us as we engage in a candid conversation with Dr. Naomi Gibson, exploring the essence of a village. What defines a village is a unique journey for each of us, and even between your hosts, Eva and Maren, their perspectives on who belongs in a village differ - maybe yours might too - but the essence is - don;t close yourself off - there are lots of people out there who together will join your village in their own unique way. Tune in for a honest discussion!

TW: NICU Story

Everyone plans for their perfect birth - but the reality is, most of us will never get it. It's an ideal - thats all. The trutth is - we just want our babies to be healthy, that's all it comes down to.

On today's episode, Toni, a well known doula in Amsterdam, shares her own birth story where she gives birth very early, how she and her partner coped, and how her daughter was a campion of the NICU ward.

We are grateful for Toni sharing her story. If you or anyone you know might have gone through it, or are going through it - know that there are others out there just like you. We can support each other through our experiences, and knowledge.

Links:

If you would like to find out more about volunteering at the Ronald McDonald house - click here!

It's holiday time so Eva and Maren are taking a few weeks off so we will be revisiting some of the most popular episodes - either downloaded, shared, or listeners have reached out to share their camaraderie, having felt seen or having finally some words to put to their own feelings.

It's hard going into the parenthood - and we are all going through our own struggles. Sometimes at the same time as you, sometimes a little ahead, and some far off that you can listen to the episodes when you need it in the future.

This episode, Eowyn from On Raising Bilingual Children joins Maren and Eva to discuss strategies to help our International community on raising our little ones in the Netherlands when Dutch isn't our first language. Be sure to check out further episodes with Eowyn regarding starting school years with our kids, and also how it's never too late to bring a language into the family.

In this episode we engage in a discussion on the subject of pregnancy apps, which have become increasingly popular tools for expectant mothers. These apps are invaluable for tracking the growth and development of your baby, providing real time updates on each development stage, and often offering opportunities to connect with supportive communities of fellow parents. As each app is uniquely designed, there is a wide array of options available to cater to every personality and individual need.  Please note:  these apps should not provide any medical advice - through app or communities. As we live in the Netherlands, please seek advice from your verloskunidge with any query. Listed in alphabetical order: Baby Center Expectful Glow (Nurture Pregnancy)  Ovia Pregnancy Tracker Pregnancy+ Pregnancy App (by Amila) Pregnancy and Baby Tracker: What to Expect Sprout The Bump The bracelet Maren was referring to in the episode can be found here: avawomen.com

On this episode, we speak with prenatal nutritionist Améile about the paramount significance of nutrition during the first trimester of pregnancy. We explore the importance of preparing both physically and mentally for the impending changes in your body and the journey ahead. Our conversation underscores the significance of commencing a nutrition-conscious approach as early as possible in the pregnancy journey.

You can find out more from Améile on www.goodnesst.com and on instagram @the_prenatal_nutritionist

Dive into the chaos and charm of toddlerhood with hosts Maren and Eva on this episode of DAM Chats! In this candid conversation, they share the nitty-gritty of their experiences dealing with Toddler Tantrums – the highs, the lows, and the messy in-betweens. From tried-and-tested strategies to the moments that left them questioning everything, join Maren and Eva for a heartfelt discussion about the wild ride of parenting toddlers. Grab your favourite brew, settle in, and let their stories resonate with yours. Whether you're a parent navigating tantrums or just curious about the chaotic world of toddlers, this episode is for you. But it doesn't end here! DAM Chats is all about community-driven content. Drop us a message and share the topics you want to hear about next. Your voices shape the conversation.

In this episode, we delve into the crucial topic of children's mental health, exploring how parents can effectively support their children through life's constant companion—change. Our special guest, Kate Berger from Expat Kids Club, provides valuable insights and practical examples on navigating delicate periods of change, whether it's moving to a new country, starting a new school, or facing other significant life shifts. As adults, regulating ourselves during change is challenging, and Kate guides us through scenarios, examples, and suggestions to empower families to navigate life as a cohesive unit. Some websites and book Kate mentioned in the episode are listed below: Families in Global Transition Tilt Parenting Book: "Third culture kids" You can reach out to Kate at www.expatkidsclub.com

We are revisiting this important episode with Eowny from On Raising Bilingual Children about the exciting journey of navigating bilingualism as our children embark on their school years.

Discover invaluable insights on how to seamlessly integrate multiple languages into their educational experience.

Eowny sheds light on strategies for maintaining fluency in home languages while embracing the linguistic diversity of the school environment.

Prepare to be enlightened as we explore approaches to fostering linguistic growth and cultural awareness in this captivating episode with Eowny from ⁠On Raising Bilingual Children. ⁠

Top blog posts from Eowyn on her website:

⁠Top 5 Tips for parents with children starting school in a new language⁠

⁠Is Your Child Starting School in a New Language? 5 Strategies for Caregivers to Support the Transition⁠

⁠Supporting multilingualism in schools: Spotlight on best practice

Join us in this vital episode as we dive into a crucial aspect of parenting – introducing allergenic foods to our babies. This episode we speak with Jozien from Vini Mini. With more than 20 million people in Europe suffering from food allergies, and a significant number of school-age children living with this allergic disease, this episode raises awareness about the growing burden of food allergies in the region. The Consultative Bureau suggests the introduction of solids around 4-6 months, marking a crucial phase in a baby's development. Understand how early exposure can play a crucial role in maintaining tolerance and reducing the risk of developing allergies. In the Netherlands, egg and peanuts take the spotlight as the initial allergenic foods. They explore the potential benefits of early exposure to reduce the risk of allergies. #DamParenting #FoodAllergyAwareness #ParentingInsights

It's a short one today, but it's one Maren and Eva felt was needed to be done to address the same question which keeps coming up. New moms wanting those adorable cute little outfits they see online at an unbelievable price - and it's because it is.

This episode is more of a sharing knowledge episode, but one which needed to be said.

To read more:

Experts warn of high levels of chemicals in clothes by some fast-fashion retailers

The world is paying a high price for cheap clothes

Lead In Shein Clothes: Is It True?

Trigger warning episode.

On this episode, we are honoured to have Ilena Standring, as we address a profoundly sensitive and significant subject - the experience of expectant mothers who have previously encountered challenging births or miscarriages. Ilena shares her insights on this delicate matter that deserves our attention and understanding, and keeping an open dialogue.

During the conversation Ilena brings up a youtube video about the nervous system: you can find this here on YouTube

You can find out more from Ilena on her Instagram here

Summer is coming and as the sun will shine down in the Netherlands, and summer holiday vibes will be in the air

Together with Elizabeth Goode from Goode Writes and Reads, where, Eva and Maren are happy to announce the DamGoode Bookclub - will be reading three parenting books over the summer.

You will be able to listen in to our synopsis on these books, on the first Monday of each month over the summer.

The books chosen are:

June: The Happiest Kids in the World: Bringing up Children the Dutch Way by Rina Mae Acosta and Michele Hutchison 

July: The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read And Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did by Philippa Perry

August: The Whole-Brain Child : 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind by Daniel J Siegel

Be sure to join us on Instagram for each DamGoode Bookclub and join in on the chats - give your own perspective if you read the books - or even suggestions if there are other books you want to hear about.

In this episode we look at the world of doula training with our expert guest, Joyce, a seasoned doula and trainer. We'll be uncovering the intricate details of what training process that aspiring doulas undergo, we find out about the Dutch national registry system in the Netherlands, and discuss crucial questions to consider when seeking a doula for your pregnancy, birth and postpartum journey.

Whether you're considering having a doula for your birth or postpartum, or even if you are thinking of training to become one, this episode equips you with the knowledge to navigate this transformative journey with confidence.

Links:

The doula registry website: www.nbvd.nl

On this episode, we are joined by Karoll Ramamonjisoa the founder of Parentally, a platform created to empowering future and new parents by facilitating access to the essential care and support they deserve throughout the journey from pregnancy to early parenthood.

Gathered around, Eva, Maren, and Karoll discuss the conundrum of being bestowed with the questionable title of "momtrepreneur."

Mom + launching her own business = concocting a term that can feel like a playful jab, leaving us scratching our heads and asking, "Where's the dad version of this cute title? If we're titling parents, why leave dads out of the fun?"

In this episode, Angela from Every Mother Knows joins Eva and Maren to discuss a pivotal moment for many new mothers. Returning to work with your new title as mother can play a major impact on your confidence and identity. So let’s listen to hear more about our rights, how to manage this period of returning to work and hopefully give you an ounce of confidence back.

Sleep when the baby sleeps - is just not a reality.

Research shows that new parents lose significant sleep each night, with disruptions lasting until the oldest child is 6 years old.

Sleep deprivation is a form of torture - and yet this is what all parents will go through with a child. Some feel their only option is to sleep train a baby, as thats what everyone else is doing. It's on socials, its on group chats, so it must be the way. I AM SO TIRED...

On this episode, Dr. Naomi and Camille from 'Little baby go to sleep' join Maren and Eva to discuss the impact of sleep on the parents. Together, they start the conversation of parents taking a holistic look at the situation, understanding the reality of the situation and things to consider as new parents.

Not everyone chooses to sleep train, many of us still hold our toddlers hands when they fall asleep. There is no right or wrong way to do things. This conversation is to highlight, like in DAMChats episode 10 The Bedtime Bond how everyone has their own approach and not to feel like you should be doing something you may feel is mainstream if you are not comfortable with it.

In this 14th episode, we're wrapping up our pregnancy professional series with the incredible Dr. Leonie van Rheenen, a distinguished gynaecologist hailing from OLVG in Amsterdam. Join us as we delve into the unique landscape of the Dutch medical system catering to those of us navigating pregnancy over 35. Dr. Leonie unveils the intricacies, offering a fascinating exploration of the differences we might encounter compared to our younger counterparts embarking on their motherhood journey.

Discover the secrets behind the Dutch medical system and unravel the reasons guiding their practices. Dr. Leonie not only sheds light on the evidence-based research underpinning these choices but also provides a comforting reassurance – amidst the structured medical approach, your birth remains ultimately your choice.

Tune in for an enlightening episode that empowers you with knowledge and the confidence to navigate your personalised pregnancy journey.

A website Dr. Leonie mentioned about testing for hereditary disease testing can be found here:

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On this episode, we delve into the realm of pregnancy literature. After meticulous reviews and thorough exploration of available resources, we curated a concise selection of books. This collection offers a diverse array of options, recognising that each pregnancy journey is unique, and consequently, our choices in literature must resonate with  our individual experiences. Below we present an extensive list of the books that we have found favour among our vibrant community of expecting readers. In alphabetical order: A mindful pregnancy by Andy Puddicombe And Now We Have Everything: On Motherhood Before I Was Ready by Meaghan O'Connell Breastfeeding and the fourth trimester by Lucy Webber Expecting better by Emily Oster Giving birth like a feminist by Milli Hill Hypnobirthing Hunt Gather Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff Happy birthing days by Jutta Wohlrab Ina May’s guide to Pregnancy Like a mother: A feminist journey through the science and culture of pregnancy by Angela Garbes Pregnancy, birth & beyond by Marie Louise The Girlfriends’ Guide to pregnancy: or everything your doctor wont tell you by by Vicki Iovine The positive birth book by Milli Hill What to expect by Heidi Murkoff We’re Pregnant by Adrian Kulp

Welcome to first episode of Village Vibes: Birth stories from our community, where the magic and strength of the birthing experience come to life through the power of storytelling. In this heartfelt series, Eva & Maren delve into the unique and profound journey of bringing new life into the world - with Maren launching this series with her own birthing story.

Join us as we celebrate the raw, real, and reflective narratives of mothers who generously share their birth stories. We believe that these stories, filled with joy, challenges, and resilience, are crucial for creating a supportive and empathetic community. Each episode is a testament to the diversity of experiences that make up the tapestry of motherhood.

In a world where birth is often shrouded in mystery and idealised narratives, our podcast embraces the authenticity of the birthing process. We explore the emotional highs and lows, the unexpected twists, and the incredible strength displayed by mothers during this transformative period.

Listening to these stories is not just an exploration of birth; it's an invitation to connect, empathise, and learn from the shared wisdom of our community.

Let's create a virtual village where the beauty of birth is celebrated, and the strength of our collective experiences binds us together. Together, let's embrace the power of storytelling and build a supportive community that honours the unique journey of bringing life into the world.

As parents, we navigate a sea of decisions throughout our children's journey. Yet, as our toddlers reach the ripe age of two, the decision on schooling emerges as a pivotal one, particularly here in the Netherlands. Unlike many other corners of the globe we hail from, this country offers a plethora of educational styles to explore.

Enter Isabel Cruz of Kaleidoscope Consulting, poised to unravel the intricacies of this crucial milestone for us parents. From the optimal timing for contemplation to the diverse educational approaches available, Isabel guides us through the process, even shedding light on how to immerse ourselves in the atmosphere of prospective schools.

Get ready to embark on this enlightening journey, where each choice shapes the kaleidoscope of our children's futures.

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We are all on the socials checking out the latest tips and tricks - well Maren and Eva are now sharing and asking to hear from the listeners - what are your Sanity Savers?

Coming from two very different mindsets, Maren and Eva share three things they do themselves, and call out to hear from you also - what are your tips and tricks we can learn from?

Be sure to head on over to Instagram to leave us a note on what you do to help you get through each day.

The third session of the DamGoode Bookclub with Elizabeth Goode - an award winning librarian from the US, writer, and sharing aficionado for our young little ones.

This time Maren, Eva and Elizabeth are speaking about the very popular parenting book: The Whole Brain Child by Dr Daniel Siegel and Dr Tina Payne.

Published in 2012, with over 46,000 GoodReads ratings averaging 4.27 - this book has been enjoyed by many families around the world and today all three cohosts are going to share their takings from this highly informative book based on research.

This episode stems from an email we received from Erin, a relocation counsellor, coach and consultant who had been listening to episode 30: School and Languages.

Erin wanted to take up where Eva had mentioned about the anxiety of her daughter starting school and all that it entails, and discuss the impact that these moments we care so deeply for our little ones about - really we also need to think about it for ourselves also.

We too, need to be self compassionate, giving ourself time and grace to experience what is going on and not just keep the hamster wheel spinning.

Let's talk about it.