Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman (Cultivating H.E.R. Space)

Pandemic, death, divorce, natural disaster, addiction...grief and loss is something we have all experienced. How we define and experience the loss varies. In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom help us understand ambiguous grief. Lady, if you have experienced the physical loss of someone or something while still experiencing them psychologically or the inverse then this episode may give you the language you need to define your experience. Hopefully, this complex conversation between Dr. Dom and Terri will help cultivate the healing you need.
Quote of the Day:
"I wanted a perfect ending. Now that I've learned the hard way, some poems don't rhyme and stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, or end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it without knowing what's going to happen next."
-Gilda Radner
Tips for Navigating Ambiguous Loss:

Utilize “both, and” thinking (ie., opposite of black/white, either/or)

Set aside time to not think about the loss

Reassign family roles

Family therapy/interactions

Community/group therapy/interactions


TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
H.E.R Space Sanctuary
Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
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Lady, were there things you were taught as a child that now as an adult you wonder why you believed it? Yep. Us too. Oh, wait. That’s not you? What about as an adult? There was nothing you have questioned? Still not you? So, no pyramid schemes? Certain religious beliefs? “Old wives tales”? Virginity/Hymen Testing? Today we invite you to listen with an open heart and mind as Terri and Dom provide us with an opportunity to reflect on what we have learned and question the messaging we have held to be true. What do I believe? Why do I believe it? In this episode, Dom and Terri explore why some of these myths or “lessons” came into being and how the messaging may have harmful lasting psychological effects.   “As life continues to evolve how we address situations need to evolve as well.” -Dr. Dom   Quote of the Day: “Unlearn.” -John Singleton Takeaways: Do your own research Ask questions Previous episodes that address healing from some of the myths and messaging: S2E1: Let's Talk About Sex with Eliza Boquin S3E12: Healing Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis S3E13: Who Taught Us to Deny Our Sensuality? with Free the Cheeks Founders Breezy and Bobbi S4E3: The Burden of Fibroids for Black Women with Dr. Joy Cooper Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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Lady, we know you are reading the title of today’s episode and probably took a pause. What are the thoughts and feelings that come up for you? Fear? Unease? Are you ready to click out of this episode? Remember, when Dom tells us to trust the process? This is one of those times. TRUST. THE. PROCESS. We acknowledge this is a heavy topic and invite you to dive into this with us. Stop what you are doing and be present for this discussion. The first lesson: Live in the moment. Death is a fact of life for all of us. What can we do to honor ourselves and others while we are living? Listen all the way to the end to learn about the very special way Terri contributes to the legacy of herself and her family on a regular basis. But wait... There’s more! At the end, Terri reveals the details for a special giveaway.   Quote of the Day: “Living in the moment means letting go of the past and not waiting for the future. It means living your life consciously, aware that each moment you breathe is a gift.” – Oprah Winfrey   Takeaways: https://mochagirlspitstop.com/when_a_blogger_dies/   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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Hope in the midst of turmoil. Lady, no matter what your current circumstances let’s take some time to assess what wholeness means to you. Over the last few weeks, most of us have shifted to “staying at home to stay safe.” In the adaptation to your new (and hopefully temporary) normal, the pull to be perfect and/or busy are real. Well, Terri and Dom are here to tell us that working on being whole may mean letting go of perfection and busyness. Listen in as the ladies share their perspectives on how to utilize this time to pour into ourselves.  ***If you are or someone you know is in need of assistance regarding partner violence please use the resources below: The National Domestic Violence Hotline RAINN National Network to End Domestic Violence Suicide Prevention Lifeline   Quote of the Day: “The challenge is not to be perfect...it’s to be whole.” -Jane Fonda   Takeaways: Self Care Be Still When is the last you did something for yourself? Describe what your 15-year-old self thought life would look like at this moment? How different is your current state? What do you want to change? What should stay the same? What are the things you are grateful for and why? Goal Setting Brain dump What am I optimizing for? Goal mapping workbook: https://terrilomax.lpages.co/the-goal-mapping-workbook/ Free podcasting masterclass: https://event.webinarjam.com/channel/terrilomaxpodcasting Purple pens https://amzn.to/2MtqEAA Sticky notes https://amzn.to/2ti7eb6 Journal https://amzn.to/35YcXB7 Sign up for our IG live on April 10th at 5PM PST: bit.ly/herspacenewsletter   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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Lady, have you ever had your chakras line up with your partner’s? Would you know what it feels like if they did? No worries. Mother Earth provides us with everything we need so we got you today! Joining Dr. Dom and Terri this week is Eliza Boquin to educate us on the connection between chakras, energy healing, and sex. Eliza describes each of the seven chakras with examples and how to heal based on each of their functions. Of course, we get an answer to that question of what sex looks like when partners have their chakras aligned. This is such an informative conversation that we know will resonate.

Quote of the Day:
"Yeah, stamina during sex is cool but have you ever had your chakras line up with your partner's and have them vibrate together?”
— Eliza Boquin

The 7 chakras:
root
sacral
solar plexus
heart
throat
brow (third eye)
crown

Where to Find Eliza:
The Chakras + Sex + Relationships Podcast
The Flow & Ease Healing Center
Melanin and Mental Health
IG: FlowAndEaseWithE
Twitter: Eliza Boquin
Facebook: FlowAndEaseWithE

TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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“Where you started is not where you have to finish.” Lady, how willing are you to shift and pivot into something different? In today’s episode, the ladies are joined by the dynamic Jenn Hammock. She appears to do it all...mommy, wife, first lady of the church, writer, coach, solopreneur, etc. How does Jenn manage it all? Listen in as she shares what it takes to prevent over-functioning and experiencing “mommy guilt.” Terri and Dom ask her some of the questions we all have that may be barriers to us answering our why.    Quote of the Day: “Step out of the history that is holding you back. Step into the new story you are willing to create.” -Oprah   Takeaways: Support group for female entrepreneurs IG @Jenn_hammock Dream ChaseHer podcast Jenniferhammock.com   Book: The Emotionally Healthy Woman Wigs: https://bit.ly/terrisfavwigs   TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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How does one become a CEO when everything seems to be stacked against them? How does one carry on when life continues to send “obstacles” your way?  Arion Long knows exactly how. In today’s episode, Arion joins Terri and Dr. Dom to share her journey about the process of launching a much-needed business. Using your “anger to shake some tables” is only one way Arion is turning her pain into purpose. The KNOWLEDGE she casually drops through this episode is something you do not want to miss.

Quote of the Day:
"We don't 'get over' or 'move on' from trauma. We are forced to make space for it. We carry it. We learn to live with it. And, sometimes, we thrive in spite of it."
-unknown

Three tips to get your business funded:

Find your tribe
Know your industry and market
Be ready so you don’t have to get ready


Where to find Arion:
IG: @arionklong
Femly
IG: @femly
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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GOAT. Goals are attained after trials. Based on that definition, Four-Time Olympian Chaunté Lowe is a GOAT. In this episode, she reminds us: 1) we are our first advocate; 2) the importance of not missing our appointments; and 3) what tests/screenings we should be requesting from our doctors. Chaunté’s story is one that is inspiring and empowering. The gems she drops are beneficial to us no matter our journey. Terri and Dr. Dom even have some with her during “Oh You Blatchet?”. Be sure to share this story with all of the female-bodied people in your life.
Quote of the Day:
"I'm a survivor. Keep on surviving"
-Destiny's Child

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Where to find Chaunté Lowe:
CancerScreenWeek.org
IG: @chauntélowe
LinkedIn: Chaunté Lowe

Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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In today’s episode Terri and Dom discuss time management and procrastination. They ask some tough questions like, “How do we allocate our time? Do we know the difference between urgent and important or reactive vs. proactive?” Dom shared with us how she managed her time when she was working a 9-5 and trying to complete her dissertation to graduate on time. Terri gives us a game changer in her time management.  Then they pull out their top 7 tips from a Business Insider Article that outlines how successful women manage their time. As they are sharing these tips they also give us real life examples that work for women like us.   Quote of the Day: "Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent, and not enough time on what is important." - Steven Covey   Takeaways: Make time for exercise Toughest tasks for early in the morning Take real breaks Take advantage of unexpected moments Plan ahead Don’t watch too much tv Multitask the right way Resources Mentioned: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Goal mapping workbook Self reflection journal Article Pomodoro technique     Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com
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Realistic expectations and radical acceptance. For who? Your parents. Yes. Them. Those people who hurt you that you have been spending all of your adult life trying to understand. Those people who will never see you no matter how many hoops you jump through trying to please them and earn their love. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Dr. Ramani Durvasula. The ladies dive into how to identify the traits; the impact it has on you; and how to heal. This is sure to be a conversation you want to give your undivided attention. There are so many quotable gems and “Ah-ha!” moments that will cause you to pause and reflect.    Quote of the Day: “The narcissist is like a bucket with a hole in the bottom: No matter how much you put in, you can never fill it up.”- Dr. Ramani    Takeaways: 5 Tips to Recover from Being Raised by the Narcissistic Parents: Realistic expectations Radical acceptance Minimize your engagement Stop personalizing Therapy   Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist "Don't You Know Who I Am?": How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility  TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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Are you a sports fan? Tune in. Not so much into sports but have opinions about things happening in sports? Tune in. In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by the dynamic Joy Taylor. In a field where women are often underestimated, misjudged, and mistreated, Joy, is one of the women who is thriving in the sports media industry. This conversation is one you do not want to miss as Joy offers her solutions on multiple issues in sports.
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Quote of the Day:
"There's joy in hard work."
-Brian Flores (football coach)

Where to connect with Joy Taylor:
IG: @JoyTaylorTalks
Twitter: @JoyTaylorTalks
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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On the first day of Black History Month, Dom asks us to examine what it's like to be Black in America. Terri and Dom dive into a discussion about colorism, good hair vs. bad hair, representation, how we talk, and lots of other factors that could tear down one’s self-esteem depending on how we perceive it. Dr. Dom drops some knowledge about the Clark doll study, the original experiment that illustrates how we've been conditioned to view ourselves as bad. Terri shouts out her husband’s books that showcase Black boys in a positive light. Initially, it seems as if they’re complaining or focusing on the negative things but just keep listening...They want all Black women to embrace #BlackGirlMagic, celebrate their uniqueness, and live out our ancestors wildest dreams!   Quote of the Day: “I am my ancestors wildest dreams” -BMike   Takeaways: In honor of Black History Month, Terri and Dom encourage you to learn about Black history, art and culture in a way you haven’t done before (books, museums, documentaries, etc) and then share it on H.E.R Space social media pages. Resources Mentioned: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today StudioBe "When I Grow Up I Want to Be” trilogy http://www.royallymelanated.com/product/super-series-3-in-one-book-pre-order/ Why Isn’t There a White History Month? http://mochagirlspitstop.com/white-history-month/ 29 Quotes About Black Women That’ll Make You Proud of Your Melanin http://mochagirlspitstop.com/proud-of-your-melanin/   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com
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Lady, have you seen Black is King? Whether or not you are a Beyonce fan, this visual album is a work of art and art is meant to generate conversation. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom provide an overview of the commentary and controversy. While we acknowledge there are many themes that can be explored, Dom and Terri pride themselves on staying in their lane and will leave certain topics to the experts and your own research. But fear not, if you have been listening to H.E.R Space you know the ladies emphasize lifting up Black women. This episode will focus on highlighting some of the amazing Black women creatives involved in the project to make sure we know their names. 


Quote of the Day:
"We have always been wonderful. I see us in the world's most heavenly things. Black is King. We were beauty before they knew what beauty was."
-Yrsa Daley-Ward (Yersa)
co-writer of Black is King and author of "bone" and "the Terrible"




Takeaways:
Creatives to follow:
Zerina Akers
Tiwa Savage
Jenn Nkiru
Yrsa Daley-Ward
Warsan Shire
 




TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
H.E.R Space Sanctuary


Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC


Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: herspacepodcast.com
Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com
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“No one should feel so insecure they cover up who they are.”  Jennifer Vassel is committed to making sure we learn to rise above our insecurities and recognize we are enough. The author of I Am Unique joins Terri and Dr. Dom to talk about nurturing our inner child and the importance of representation. Jennifer drops some infuriating statistics and provides us with tips that give us hope. This is an inspiring conversation that will definitely have you reflecting on how you are caring for your inner child and tapping into your gifts.

Quote of the Day:
"You are never given a dream without the power to make it come true."
Jennifer Vassel

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Where to find Jennifer Vassel:
Jennifer Vassel
IG: @jenniferdvassel
I Am Unique

Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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Ever wonder how your therapist became a therapist? Or perhaps, you are considering becoming a therapist. Imagine being able to peek “behind the scenes” or “get the inside scoop” to learn about your therapist’s career journey or how your therapist approaches working with clients. You know, the information beyond what is on their website. Why did they become a therapist? What are their thoughts about certain client experiences? In today’s episode, Terri interviews Dr. Dom about her personal journey into becoming a licensed psychologist and some of the personal and professional experiences of being a mental health provider. Tune in for Dr. Dom’s pro tips.

Quote of the Day:
"Ideally, therapy is a sacred space where all of your worries and wishes are laid bare."
-Dr. Dom

Where to Find Dr. Dom
Dr. Dom
IG: @the.doctor.dom
Twitter: @TheDoctorDom

Occupational Outlook Handbook

TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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Welcome! Start here to learn more about your hosts Terri and Dom, get more insight into why they created H.E.R Space, what scared them about the process, and why they pushed forward to release this podcast in the midst of fear and uncertainty. 
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This week in H.E.R Space, Dom and Terri are joined by Milah and Erica, the hosts of Good Moms Bad Choices podcast, for a juicy conversation around the impact of the father-daughter relationship. What is/was your relationship with your dad? What role does that relationship play in your life now? In this episode, we hear four different father-daughter experiences and the resulting effect on the daughter. It is a complex relationship that is important to unpack and understand to have healthy romantic relationships. This is a reflective episode sprinkled with fun and laughter.
Quote of the Day:
"They're Called Daddy Issues Because Your Dad Had Issues."
- Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT

Tips for Addressing “Daddy Issues”:

Forgiveness and Compassion

Writing

Grieve

Therapy


Individual

Family

Couples




IG: @goodmoms_badchoices
Facebook: @goodmomsbadchoices
Patreon: goodmomsbadchoices
Good Moms Bad Choices
TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
H.E.R Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: herspacepodcast.com
Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com
H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/

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Life is good...like REALLY good. In fact, it’s LIT. You’re “blessed and highly favored.” To the casual observer, everything on the outside appears to be wonderful. But on the inside...you feel empty. Lady, is this you? If so, you may be experiencing depression. What we know for sure is that ALL of us will experience symptoms of depression related to many normal life events like a relationship breakup, grief over a loss, or other stressors. For most of us, the feelings of sadness last for a few days at most. For others, if the symptoms last more than a two weeks we may be experiencing a major depressive episode. Today Terri and Dom discuss what depression looks like; what are some causes; and why we need to reduce the stigma so that we can take care of ourselves. Terri shares with us pieces of her journey with depression and Dom addresses the uncomfortable topic of suicide.   Some Common Signs and Symptoms of Depression: Sadness Anger Loss of interest or pleasure Changes in sleep, weight, appetite   Quote of the Day: “I don’t think people understand how stressful it is to explain what’s going on in your head when you don’t even understand it yourself”- Anonymous   Takeaways: Take 5 minutes a day to pour into yourself (meditation, walking, talking with your support system) Check on your friends- especially the strong ones Mood Tracker app If you or someone you know ever has thoughts of suicide please contact National Suicide Prevention Hotline   Resources: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com
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Black don’t crack...or does it? What is your relationship with aging? What aspects of the aging process are within our control? In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom examine the science, the common stereotypes, and our perceptions of the aging process for Black women. While this episode only scratches the surface, make sure you are consulting your spiritual, physical, mental, and financial health providers to ensure your aging process is moving in alignment with your values.

Quote of the Day:
Black don't crack... "This conventional wisdom opens up the door for ageism and discrimination based on looks under the guise of black empowerment."
- Kimberly Foster

TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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Lady, are you or someone you know experiencing arthritis, fibromyalgia, long covid, migraines, or gynecological issues? Then you know what it is to experience chronic pain. For those who live with various forms of pain for periods longer than three months, sometimes it can seem as if no one can understand or relate. Or maybe you ignore it because you are prioritizing everything else- oh that’s just us? Cool. Cool. In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom discuss chronic pain and ways to manage it.

Quote of the Day:
“People believe that they ‘understand chronic pain’ because they have also felt pain but it’s a completely different thing when it’s day in and day out for years,”
-Monica C., Phoenix, Arizona, has fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue syndrome.
source: https://creakyjoints.org/support/things-you-only-understand-if-have-chronic-pain/

Tips for managing chronic pain:

Weighing all options available
Talking about what you are going through
Reduce stress
Eating a healthy diet
Find ways to relax and fill your time to distract from the pain
Be kind to yourself
Seek professional help


Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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Bitcoin! Web 3.0! Cryptocurrency! Oh MY! Lady, while these terms may sound foreign, they need to become a part of your daily vocabulary. The evolution of the internet is leading us to all become our own experts in this new technology. Things are moving fast and we don’t want you to miss the train! In today’s episode, Daniel DiPiazza joins Terri and Dr. Dom to define the terms, give us the history, and put us up on game for the future. This is definitely an episode to share with your friends so we can all win!
Quote of the Day:
"Take advantage of the changing guard to even the playing field and collect your coins. This is most likely the biggest opportunity of our lifetime for you to start from absolute zero and create generational wealth through sheer self-education and timing."
-Daniel DiPiazza

Where to find Daniel DiPiazza
The New Wave Entrepreneur

Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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Lady, we know that Black History IS American History 365 (well, 366 if it’s a leap year, lol). Today Terri and Dom are joined in conversation with historian, Dr. Candice Harrison. The ladies discuss what fuels Candice’s passion for history; the work she is doing at the University of San Francisco; where we can find accurate information about our history; how she processes all the trauma and beauty of history; and who are the unsung heroes we should acknowledge. Grab a glass of your favorite beverage (Hello sweet tea! We see you wine!) and join the ladies on the couch for this laughter-filled informative conversation.   Quote of the Day: "You can tell a great deal about a country and a people by what they deem important enough to remember, to create moments for — what they put in their museum and what they celebrate." - Lonnie Bunch, Founding Director, The National Museum of African American History and Culture    Takeaways: Ancestry DNA kit  https://amzn.to/380niN3 23 and Me DNA kit: : https://amzn.to/2T52iR3 Dr. Candice Harrison: clharrison2@usfca.edu Ancestry.com Genealogybank   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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How do you define family? Is it based on your relatives, people you have chosen as family, or some amalgamation of the two? Today Dr. Dom and Terri are discussing the complexities of navigating familial relationships and what happens when we decide those relationships are abusive or not in alignment with who we are. The ladies also provide us with tips on how to cultivate community family or community when we are not physically and/or emotionally close to our family of origin.

Quote of the Day:
“Family is where you're meant to be most free. Don't let blood chain you down.”
-Unknown
How to Cultivate Community When You're Not Close to Your Family

Get clarity

Identify your why

Identify your ideal family

Heal and forgive

Work on your communication skills

Meditate and manifest your chosen family



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Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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Black women can have an eating disorder. Black women can also have disordered eating habits. The reality is many of us have eating habits that could be problematic. Emotional eating. Mindless eating. Inconsistent eating. Most of this is brought on by the unfortunate inherent stress of being a Black woman. Know that you are not alone. For this important conversation, Dr. Dom and Terri are joined by eating disorder expert, Dr. Tiffany Loggins. No matter your current eating habits, this conversation is for you.

Quote of the Day:
"I thought it was a white, rich, female, adolescent disorder."
-Karla Mosley

Register here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop!

Where to find Dr. Tiffany Loggins:
Private Practice
Essential Tools for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
LinkedIN: Tiffany Loggins
Recovery Record App

Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary
Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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Lady, when was the last time you gave yourself the same energy and love you give everyone else in your life? If you find yourself constantly giving everyone your all and carrying the weight of the world without breaking, then you may be experiencing Black Superwoman Syndrome. Not sure how to be anything other than Black Superwoman? Well, today, Terri and Dr. Dom help us identify Black Superwoman Syndrome, invite us to put down the cape, and reflect on how we can show up for ourselves first.

Quote of the Day:
"I'm not your superwoman
I'm not the kind of girl
That you can let down
And think that everything is okay"
-Karen White from the song Superwoman

Tips for Black Women Putting Down Their Capes:

Set boundaries

Delegate responsibilities

Show yourself love and compassion

End Toxic Relationships

Ask for support


Tips to Support the Black Woman in Your Life:

Offer support and resources

Speak up when there is injustice, bias, etc.

Solicit and genuinely listen to her feedback


TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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2019, where have you gone? We are halfway through the year which means we're at the end of season two. This season brought us guest co-hosts who are experts in sex, sexuality, sexual orientation and queer identity. It also showed us to trust the process as the order of the episodes, while most were not intentional, all built upon one another. In this week’s episode Terri and Dom recap all of the previous episodes of this season, share some of the behind the scenes conversations and how Dom and Terri may be personally influenced by the topics. Lady, thank you so much for rocking with us and be sure to join us in the H.E.R Space Sanctuary on Facebook.  Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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Friendships are a necessity for our survival. The longer the relationship the more likely the friendship will have experienced a variety of life transitions- weddings, children, death, etc. In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom explore friendship changes for new moms. Whether you are a new mom or the supportive friend, this is a conversation each of us can benefit from as we navigate the dynamics of our friendships.
P.S. Listen carefully for an appearance by Baby Z :)

Quote of the Day:
“The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.”
— Elisabeth Foley

Tips for Navigating the Change in Friendships for New Moms

Flexibility.

Make Mom Friends.

Know Your Limits.



TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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Our relationship with money has an impact on our quality of life. Having a million dollars in the bank does not automatically make us happy nor does being “poor” equal unhappiness. This week we have a special guest that will help us all think about what changes we need to make in our lives to not only get our finances in order but shift our family dynamics to what best serves us. Constance Carter, the CEO of Catalyst Real Estate Professionals joins Terri and Dr. Dom to share with us her journey to healthy financial wellbeing. This is not your ordinary interview about finances. Lady, we guarantee there is some aspect of Constance’s story in which you can relate. Quote of the Day: "When you say things like, “I’m broke” you're telling the universe to keep you in the state of lack and you’re programming your mind to keep you there. Your words are powerful and prophetic, and what you say becomes real. If you want to have more, you have to speak it into existence." - Constance Carter   Takeaways: Constance’s tips on changing your mindset: GTS: Google That Sh*t Just Do It Laugh  Lavish in the journey Find the good in everything “Balance is a myth but harmony is a must.” -Lisa Nichols Relevant episodes: S3E3: 5 Tips to Help You Get Back On Track and Find Your Passion S2E12: Oh You Bougie, Huh? Resources: Constance Carter’s books recommendations: 1. The Secret to  Breaking the BROKE  Code: 5 Steps to Growth, Abundance & Overflow https://amzn.to/2Sn0XW0 2. Keeping Score: What You Need to Know to Make Your Credit Score Grow https://amzn.to/2Zt3n6N  3. Secrets of a Millionaire Mind https://amzn.to/36pIsV0   Where to Find Constance: Website: Constance Carter Weekend of Wealth Retreat Facebook: Nobodyworksharderthanconstancecarter Instagram: AskConstanceC Twitter: AskConstanceC   Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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Have you been considering seeing a mental health professional? Well, then today’s episode is just for you. Dom acknowledges that as a mental health professional she is biased so she turns to Terri to share her experience with therapy. Through Terri’s sharing of her varied experiences with therapy Dom asks her questions to help listeners determine things to look for; questions to ask; and how to advocate for you may need. The ladies also provide us with information on ways to get access to therapy outside of the traditional face to face therapy. Never been to therapy and are curious about what happens?  Dom walks us through what happens in the first session and explains some of the things that we can address with a therapist. Know that it requires working through the ugly to get to the beauty, but remember...trust the process.
 
Quote of the Day:
"When we talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary." - Mr. Rogers
 
Resources:
Mood tracker app
Talkspace
Headspace
Pacifica
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
 
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This episode is a special day in Cultivating H.E.R. Space. In this episode, Terri’s current therapist joins Terri and Dr. Dom for a conversation about navigating life and finding peace when someone in your family is diagnosed with a psychological disorder. With so many of us knowing someone (maybe ourselves) who has anxiety and/or depression, we don’t often talk about those with severe mental illness. This is an episode you didn't know you had been waiting for. Lady, get ready to take notes as Eve Marie, drops some healing gems and “Words of Wisdom.”

Quote of the Day:
“ As humans, we tend to hold onto people and things we have a deep love for. Holding on, in general, is about us trying to have control. We hold on mostly because we don’t want to feel the pain and sadness that come along with letting go, so we do whatever we can to avoid those feelings, but pain and sadness are a part of our human experience.”
-Eve Marie

Where you can find Eve Marie:
Eve’s Place of Peace
TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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Lady, what is your relationship with money? How did that relationship form? In today’s episode, the Debt Demolisher, Sophia Melone, joins Terri and Dom to share with us how she transformed her “dysfunctional” relationship with her finances. If you listened to Season 5 Episode 2 with Constance Carter at the beginning of the year, and you have not made any changes...then this episode may be the inspiration you need. Sophia goes even deeper into examining our relationship with money, identifying the various barriers and how to get additional support to make changes. No matter your income level there are strategies (i.e, HABITS) that will help you make the changes you desire. Remember, this is a journey that is not about how much money you make but what you do with it. 


Quote of the Day:
" the real measure of your wealth is how much you'd be worth if you lost all your money"
-author unknown




Takeaways:
Sophia’s Tips:
Cut
Ask
Acquire
Produce
 
1. Face the reality of the situation
2. Establish a budget
3. Pay yourself first
 
Sophiamelone.com
Smashdebt.com
IG: Iamsophiamelone
Twitter: Iamsophiamelone
Facebook: Iamsophiamelone
 


TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
H.E.R Space Sanctuary


Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC


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Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
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Does your partner often think that people are out to get them or take advantage of them? On one hand this a valid experience of being Black but when combined with certain other traits this could be a sign of narcissism. In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom take a look at some of the questions from Dr. Ramani’s quiz in her book, Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist. Listen in to see if you or someone you know fits this description and tune in next week to hear from Dr. Ramani on strategies to end the narcissistic relationship.

Quote of the Day:
We live in a world of romance and rescue, where many believe love will conquer all, and that the more we endure unacceptable behavior, the more likely that we can “fix” our relationships. It doesn’t always work that way—despite what the fairy tales tell us.
-Dr. Ramani Durvasula

Is Your Partner a Narcissist?
This quiz from the Dr. Ramani Durvasula of Should I Stay or Should I Go? can help you determine the answer.

TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
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“Surviving is not the same thing as living.” Lady, how many times have people commented on how strong you are? How many times have you felt like you were falling apart on the inside but you refused to let others see it so you would not be perceived as weak? Take a moment and think about where you learned that pattern. Chances are you are living out a narrative that is not your own. You may be operating in a space conditioned to protect your wounds...shield you from your trauma. Trauma that was caused by someone behaving in reaction to their own wounds.  In today’s episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis, a licensed psychologist, ordained minister, and sacred artist. She encourages us to think about our pain in ways that many of us have never considered but will definitely bring us closer to healing. Gift yourself the time to sit and do nothing else but listen to this episode as Dr. Thema drops so many quotable statements. Your wounds will be so glad you did.   Connect with Dr. Thema: Website- https://www.drthema.com/ The Homecoming Podcast with Dr. Thema I Dance with God: A Cojourney in Prayer   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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It’s the day after Valentine’s Day. How did you spend the day? Were you focused on others or did you take time to care for yourself? Or was it just another day for you? Hopefully, you did something that made you feel good. In this week’s episode, Dom and Terri dive into the importance of self-care...doing the things (whatever they are) that make you feel good. While self-care is a phrase that seems to be tossed around a lot lately, do we know what it really means? How can we engage in it when we have been socialized to believe that doing so is selfish? Per usual, the ladies provide us with real-life examples from their lives and give us practical ways we can apply it to our own. Self-care is not going to look the same for everyone and shout out to all the ladies finding creative ways to pour into themselves! Remember...equate self-care with what they teach us on the plane- put your own oxygen mask on before you assist others.   Quote of the Day: “Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.” - Audre Lorde   Takeaways: “Taking care of yourself = keeping your cup full. If you don’t do things to keep your cup full, you have nothing left to give or share with others.” – Paige Burkes Self-care is not selfish. Just because everyone else is consuming a certain type of content doesn't mean you have to do it. Self-care is unique to each person. It's your decision to figure out and communicate to those around you. Let's not judge others on the self-care tactics they choose.   If you need ideas on how to establish a Self-care plan, take a look at this link here.   Resources: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Rainn.org   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com
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Lady, if you have been listening to the podcast for a bit, you know in our introduction we mention we discuss topics ranging “from fibroids to fake friends." Today Dr. Joy Cooper joins us in the H.E.R Space Sanctuary to drop her "TED Talk" on fibroids and its impact specifically on women of the diaspora. In this episode, Dom and Dr. Joy share their personal experiences with fibroids that many of us could either relate to ourselves or know someone who can. In this candid conversation with Terri and Dom, Dr. Joy dispels some of the myths about our gynecological health and encourages us to make informed decisions about our fertility. This is definitely an episode you will want to listen to and share with others.    Quote of the Day: “I think the number one thing Black women and all Black people should be paying attention to is our health.” -bell hooks   Takeaways: Advocate and seek a second opinion Do no harm  Know your normal  Your network determines your net worth    Instagram: @thedrjoy Daughters of the Diaspora  Culture Care   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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We all know what it feels like when someone violates our boundaries but how do we know when we are the boundary violator? Have you ever... offered unsolicited advice? Gossiped? Said what you would do if you were in someone’s situation? Asked personal questions? Interrupted someone in the middle of a conversation? Touched someone’s hair? Touched someone on the shoulder? Asked a coworker where they lived? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you, like most of us, have been a boundary violator. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom take us through multiple situations (including current events from pop culture and a subscriber question) in which we may be unintentionally invading someone’s personal space and offer us tips on how to navigate those situations.   Quote of the Day: "R-E-S-P-E-C-T...find out what it means to me!” - The Queen, Aretha Franklin   Takeaways: What to do if we violate the boundaries of others Apologize Be willing to listen Don’t take offense Ask for permission   Resources: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com
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Terri shares with us a reader question about leaving a toxic relationship. We’ve all been there or know someone who’s been there. Terri talks about her healing from a toxic relationship- the ups and downs of it all, including having “friends”. What are your options? While there are many, Dom wants us to use the time to focus on healing ourselves- our in the meantime. What does time with ourselves really look like and is it even possible? Dom and Terri share with us some pretty cool ways to spend time with ourselves. They also gives us some important things to consider as we’re healing- with no deadline for completion. Our quote queen shares multiple nuggets that you’ll definitely want to share with your girls.   Quote of the Day: ‘...I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started and those that bring you back. But the  most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous.’ - Carrie Bradshaw from Sex and the City   Takeaways: Ways to dive into yourself: Journal your thoughts and feelings Invest time in your hobbies Let yourself feel the feelings- but don’t act on them Spend time with friends and family Seek the support of a mental health professional   Resources Mentioned: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com
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Lady, can you believe 2019 is almost over? You have made 365 trips around the sun! Have you made any changes? Have you achieved the goals you set at the beginning of this year? No worries if you are feeling stagnant. This episode is an opportunity to engage in self-reflection. Listen in as Dom and Terri guide us through a series of questions to help us reflect on the past year. Be prepared to stop and start many times along this journey as you dive into answering the questions authentically. Not sure how to answer the questions? No worries, Terri and Dom answer the questions on air so you can see the range of emotions that may come up and the themes that emerge. Trust the process. ***Subscribe to the new H.E.R Space YouTube channel. Once we get 100 subscribers, we'll post a video we recorded for you!***   Quote of the Day: “The journey into self-love and self-acceptance must begin with self-examination… until you take the journey of self-reflection, it is almost impossible to grow or learn in life.” – Iyanla Vanzant Takeaways: 13 Questions to Ask If you had to describe the past year in 3 words, what would they be? What was a high point? What is the scariest/challenging thing you’ve done this year? Which of your personal qualities turned out to be most helpful this year? What was your most common mental state this year (i.e. stressed, at peace, excited)? Who hindered you? Who can you thank for their love, light, support or encouragement this past year? Did you make a mistake that you haven’t forgiven yourself for? What do you need in order to forgive yourself? How did your overall outlook on life evolve? What do you deserve a pat on the back for? What was the most important lesson you learned this year? What was the most surprising thing you experienced this year? What is your number one goal for next year?   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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“I can live with failure but I can’t live with regret.” Lady, are you living with regret, or have you taken charge of your journey? The blueprint of your life is yours to create- not your parents, partners, or friends- it is yours. In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri are joined by the extraordinary Michelle Blue as she shares with us how to “go for it” in carving out your own path. While some may only show us the glamorous IG fabulous side of their life, there is beauty to be found in the transparency of the whole picture. Tune in to catch all of Michelle’s gems.
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Quote of the Day:
“There is so much power and growth in the 'Journey'. It's definitely not perfect and sometimes not pretty but that’s what makes us level up and become better versions of ourselves...You got this.”
-Michelle Blue

Where to connect with Michelle Blue:
Website: Journey with Blue
IG: @themichelleblue

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Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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In this week’s episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Linda Leu, the Executive Director of IMPACT Bay Area. In Spring 2019 Dom and Terri participated in IMPACT’s first self-defense class specifically for women of color. Linda led that course. In this conversation, the ladies reflect on that experience but more importantly, Linda shares information about self-defense techniques beyond the physical skills. She also explains what happens to many of us who experience the freeze response and how we can work our way through it. This is definitely an episode you want to listen through to the end.    Quote of the Day: “If you don’t respect her, you obviously don’t deserve her.”   Takeaways: “The best fight is no fight” 5 Best Practices for Self Defense Listen to your intuition  Use your voice  Practice using tools before having to use them Practice setting boundaries in small ways Do what you have to do to be comfortable    Resources: Website: Impactbayarea.org Instagram: @impactbayarea Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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Lady, more than likely you will be at home for the next few weeks. Before you begin catching up on all of the missed episodes of the podcast, take a trip down memory lane with us. For those of you who were coming of age around the 99 year 2000, this is an episode for you. Join Terri and Dom as they dive into some of their fun memories from the 80s, 90s, and 2000s. From music to food to TV shows and so much more! Shout out to our New Orleans families and Philly natives! Be sure to join us on Instagram to share your memories, @HERspacepodcast.   Quote of the Day: "Recalling days of sadness, memories haunt me.  Recalling days of happiness, I haunt my memories." - Unknown Takeaways: Fresh Prince of Bel-Air Seasons 1-3 https://amzn.to/3cGDw1L   Gullah Gullah Island: Season 1 (3 Discs) https://amzn.to/2Izp9ys   Relevant Episodes: S2E2: Play-Deprivation: What to Do When Fun Is Not Your Ministry   S4E7: Myths and Beliefs We Need to Unlearn Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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Giving birth is one of the most memorable experiences in someone’s life. Yet we know implicit bias and medical racism cause detrimental effects for Black women that can lead to many painful birthing memories. Therefore, who we have on our birthing teams are so important. On today’s episode Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by the doula team, Bare With Me Duo, to dispel myths, share wisdom, and affirm why having a doula or midwife is our ancestral birthright ;)

Quote of the Day:
“If the dreams you have don’t scare you a little bit,
then they’re probably not big enough.”
-Stephanie Dixon

Register here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop!

Where to find Bare with Me Doula Duo:
Bare with Me Duo
IG: @barewithmeduo
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Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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Lady, whether you are tuning in for the first time or have been rocking with us since day one...THANK YOU!!! The mission of H.E.R Space has been to create a space for Black women and it has blossomed because all of you are tuning in and sharing. The support has been humbling and encouraging. In this episode Terri and Dom reflect on the last six seasons- the growth, the feedback, and some of the lessons learned. Dom and Terri also share new beginnings for the new season including new questions for the fun “Oh, You Clatchet?” segment. 


Quote of the Day:
Season 7 Mantra: I am not limited by any past thinking...I choose my thoughts with care.




Takeaways:
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!
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Lady, you are ENOUGH. Let that sink in. Say it out loud. “I AM ENOUGH.” Now take a deep breath in, slowly let it out and get ready to dive into today’s episode. This week Dom and Terri discuss the narratives that reverberate in our brains that influence our confidence and self-esteem. Our confidence is situational and subjective. It's also different from self-esteem and both may fluctuate with the various phases of our lives. Terri and Dom share their self-esteem and confidence journeys with Terri taking us back to turbulent adolescent middle school years while Dom goes allllllll the way back to kindergarten. Dom then offers us some tips on how to improve our self-esteem and confidence and Terri testifies to the effectiveness. What has been your journey towards your glow-up? Or are you (like most of us) still in progress? Be sure to step into H.E.R Space and share your story.   Quote of the Day: “I need to see my own beauty and to continue to be reminded that I am enough, that I am worthy of love without effort, that I am beautiful, that the texture of my hair and that the shape of my curves, the size of my lips, the color of my skin, and the feelings that I have are all worthy and okay.” - Tracee Ellis Ross   Takeaways: Identify your strengths Feed yourself a positive narrative Get a win and celebrate it Be compassionate with yourself    What Is Confidence? And How YOU Can Get More!- http://mochagirlspitstop.com/what-is-confidence-and-how-you-can-get-more/   3 confidence boosters for that time of the month- http://mochagirlspitstop.com/3-confidence-boosters-for-that-time-of-the-month/   2 Things Every Woman Should Start Doing to Boost Confidence & Self-Esteem- http://mochagirlspitstop.com/2-things-every-woman-start-boost-confidence-self-esteem/   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com
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What does relaxation look like for you? We know there are levels to this but we are talking about the relaxation that involves letting go and not thinking or stressing.  Have you ever actually had this experience? Maybe? No? Don’t worry. For all our Type A people this episode is for you. Know that relaxation is not sitting down watching a documentary or using your day off to organize your closet. Relaxation means that you are truly taking the time to bring your energy fuel tank from E(mpty) to F(ull). What does that look like? Listen in as Terri and Dom walk us through how to take notice when we are carrying stress or tension and strategies we can implement to engage in authentic relaxation.    Quote of the Day: "The most productive thing you can do is relax." -Unknown   Takeaways: Be intentional about what you take in (e.g., comedies) Laughter Bubble baths Meditation Focus on whatever it is that will help you decompress   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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Lady, what were you taught about sexuality and sensuality? Are you ready to relearn what you thought you knew? This week Terri and Dom are joined by dynamic sister duo Breezy and Bobbi (the founders of Free the Cheeks) and they take us to Twerk Church. This discussion dives into what’s really up with what women are taught about sex and sensuality. A lot of us were taught about respectability politics and socialized into participating in the patriarchy based on the traumas of our ancestors. Today the ladies name the ways that we can subvert the patriarchy. We will hold space and celebrate our wombs. Breezy and Bobbi share with us how they teach women about discovering the freedoms of their body and where they learned to respect and appreciate feminine bodies. Feel the joy. Feel the community. Get back to yourself. Regain your power. Create that vibration...free your cheeks!   Quote of the Day: "If any female feels she needs anything beyond herself to legitimate and validate her existence, she is already giving away her power to be self-defining, her agency" -bell hooks   Takeaways: From Niggas to Gods The Heart of Trauma   Freethecheeks.com @wehealdifferent   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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Quote of the Day: “To anyone out there who’s hurting—it’s not a sign of weakness to ask for help. It’s a sign of strength.” - Barack Obama National Suicide Prevention Lifeline  1800273TALK Lady, have you ever felt like whenever you try to take two steps forward you get sent three steps back? At times it can feel really hopeless. Did you reach out for help? Was there someone or something that gave you hope? In today’s episode, Terri shares with us when she contemplated suicide and the obstacles she’s faced this year. On this journey in life, it’s okay to pull over on the side to pause, call for help, and keep your eye on your vision. Today the ladies help us build up our resilience muscle.  “You don’t know how strong you are until being strong is your only option." “If you can look up you can get up.” - Les Brown    Takeaways: Ask for help  Take mental health days  Keep your eyes on your vision    Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  
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“We are all sex workers.” Let that one marinate.  “If you can’t do for you then you can’t do for others.” How does that question apply to sex? In this week’s episode Dr. Dom and Terri dive into that first statement and answer the previous question. Plus, so much more! Today on Cultivating H.E.R.Space, Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by the dynamic Nenna Joiner. From sexual trauma to elder sexual pleasure to selling sex toys to sex workers to porn. The complexities of this conversation are representative of the depths in which our relationship with sex can exist. Nenna drops lots of gems so get ready for the lessons.

Quote of the Day:
“There's a form of sex or intimacy that you must have with yourself to bring your visions to life.”
— Nenna Joiner

Priorities for Healthy Sexual Expression

Good mental health

Positive body image

Disconnecting from the world



Where to Find Nenna:
Feelmore510
Feelmore Adults
IG: Feelmore
Twitter: Feelmore
Facebook: Feelmore
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Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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Mean Girls. We all know them. Perhaps, the mean girl is you. Not sure if it’s you? In this episode, Dr. Dom and Terri provide us with real-life examples of mean girls. Listening to their authentic conversation we learn to distinguish between awkward situations, normal conflict, and mean girl energy. Terri and Dr. Dom also give us strategies for navigating the mean girl situations and addressing our own mean girl behavior.

Quote of the Day:
"With any kind of mean girl or anyone who bullies anyone, there's always a reason for it. There is that sadness in them or insecurity that makes them feel like they need to act out or hurt other people."
- Maiara Walsh

7 Signs That You are a Mean Girl

Struggle With Envy

Status-Focused

Trouble With Friendship

Issues With Control

Speak Unkindly To and About Others

Leaves Others Out

Don’t Respect Boundaries


TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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Bodies. Black bodies. Black women’s bodies. In a world that is constantly telling us that we are not enough...how did you view yourself during adolescence? How has your body image changed over the years? What are the beauty standards you strive to fulfill? How have those standards evolved with societal trends? In today’s episode Terri and Dom dive into body image for Black women. The ladies discuss their personal journeys of developing a healthy body image. Listen in for tips on ways to love your body. Remember...You.Are.Enough.   Quote of the Day: "I was built this way for a reason, so I’m going to use it." - Simone Biles    Takeaways: Ways to Love on Your Body Have private parties with yourself (cue India Arie) Keep things in perspective Give yourself the same compassion and admiration that you give that cute cuddly baby or pet Affirmations Being healthy- whatever that means for you... Compare yourself to you and no one else   TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  
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This was week was a rough one for Dom and Terri. Terri found out that her grandmother passed away and had to abruptly leave San Francisco to head home to Philadelphia. It was still very important for them to produce an episode but they ran into quite a few challenges.   Despite the technological struggle, they had a quick conversation about stress, anxiety, and setting boundaries when life comes at you fast. Stay tuned because they'll have more in-depth conversation about these topics in the future.     Quotes of the day: "It's not stress that kills us, it's our reaction to it." -Hans Selye   "In times of stress the best thing we can do for each other is to listen with our ears and our hearts and to be assured that our questions are just as important as our answers." -Mr. Rogers     Hans Selye's General Adaptation Syndrome: Step 1: Alarm Step 2: Resistance Step 3: Exhaustion   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today General Adaptation Syndrome    Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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In today’s episode we’re diving into a topic that’s taboo for many but oh so necessary to a fulfilling and joyful existence...S-E-X. Joining Terri and Dom is the first of many expert guests in H.E.R Space.  Eliza Boquin, is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Relationship Therapist, and Sexuality Expert. She’s the owner, founder, and primary psychotherapist of The Flow and Ease Healing Center and specializes in working with relationship & sexuality challenges. But wait, there’s more... she’s also the Co-founder of Melanin and Mental Health and co-host on the podcast, Between Sessions. In her work Eliza helps people heal from shame & trauma so they can have healthier, pleasure-filled, mutually-satisfying relationships…. Tune in for all the “wow” moments and a few other special surprises!   Quote of the Day: “Let’s talk about sex baby. Let’s talk about all the good things and the bad things that may be. Let’s talk about sex.”- Salt N Pepa   Takeaways: For more information on how to heal from trauma, where to find Eliza and more information on sex, please check out the videos, books, and websites below: Dr. Peter Levine explains trauma, sexual trauma, and somatic experiencing (extended video) (short video) Courage to Heal Book and Workbook Come As You Are Flow and Ease Healing   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com
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If you have been watching the news then you know 2021 is already trying to test us. Well, no worries. Lady, here at Cultivating H.E.R. Space...we got you! At the time of our recording we did not know how important and timely this conversation would be for our community. In today’s episode we are going to build up our armor. Dr. Dom is going to guide us through a visualization to help us cultivate resilience. This is a time when you want to make sure you are in a comfortable distraction-free environment where you can freely pause, reflect, and make space to Cultivate Healing. Empowerment. Resilience.

Quote of the Day:
“Resilience allows us to tap into deeper resources in ourselves we didn’t even know we had, not just to overcome the obstacles but to be transformed by them.”
-Arianna Huffington

TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
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Lady, today is a special day in H.E.R. Space. We have opened the doors to invite our first male guest. Listen in as Terri and Dom engage Zo Williams in conversation about relationships. This dialogue is much more than men vs. women. Get ready to hear some insightful ways to reconceptualize your understanding of heterosexual relationships; the roles each of us play; how we got to a certain place in our relationships; and how we can change if we desire to do so. Be sure to have your favorite note-taking device handy as Zo drops some gems on us.    Quote of the Day: "As long as people in stepping-stone relationships are committed to serving each other instead of misusing each other, there is no inherent harm in stepping-stone relationships." - Zo Williams   Takeaways: Zo’s books: Holographic Relationship Relationship Dismount Iamzowilliams.com Voice of Reason Radio  DashTalk X   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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Lady, how do you navigate the world of work? Are you focused on a career or job? Is your purpose aligned with what you are currently doing? In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by Dr. Dom’s friend and mentor, Dr. Kimberly James to discuss navigating careers. From learning how to strategically manage your career...to distinguishing between a mentor and a sponsor and why both are important...to identifying what to focus on when you have been laid off or trying to change careers. The gems that are dropped in this episode are truly priceless.


Quote of the Day:
"Rent your title, own your character."
-Thasunda Duckett


Takeaways:
Tips for Strategically Managing Your Career
1. Goal Setting
2. Managing Tasks
3. Securing a Mentor AND a Sponsor
 
Tips for Playing the Game
1. Doing Your Job Well
2. Having Allies
3. Improving Your Skillset
4. Network
5. Self-care
6. Don’t Shutdown When Faced with Obstacles
 
 
 Dr. James




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H.E.R Space Sanctuary


Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC


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Have you considered leaving your life to pursue a different quality of life in another country? In today’s episode Terri and Dom are joined by Nikhol Rei. She takes us on her incredible journey of self exploration growing up on the East Coast of the United States to deciding to leave the US and learning how to live like a local in Honduras and Costa Rica. Along the way she dispels some of the misconceptions about moving to the tropics and shares info on how to make the move as an unprivileged person living off the land. If that were not enlightening enough, Nikhol Rei gives us an informative introduction into the power of shadow work.
Quote of the Day:
"Only in a severely unnatural environment would you have to keep constant tabs on your evolution and be punished for merely EXISTING."
- Nikhol Rei
Where to find Nikhol Rei:
YouTube
IG
Website

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Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
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You're listening to a live mini-episode that aired on Spotify Greenroom. Join us live by downloading Greenroom (spotify.com/greenroom), follow us @TerriLomax & @TheDoctorDom, and meet us every Friday at 1:30 PM PT / 4:30 PM ET. Be sure to also catch our weekly standard podcast episodes every Friday morning.

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S.A.D. The Standard American Diet. Lady, what do you eat? Is it actually food? Well, if we are what we eat then how does your diet correlate with your health? If we want to address our health we have to address what we are taking into our bodies. There is a science to the who what when where why and how of eating and the impact on our health. In today’s episode, we open up H.E.R Space to master herbalist Djehuty Ma’atra to share with us his path to healthy eating and healing his body. In our westernized socialization, some of today’s conversation may be hard to figuratively digest. We invite you to join Dr. Dom and Terri, in this judgment free zone, as they lean into curiosity to gain a different perspective on the impact of our diets on our paths to healing.

Quote of the Day:
"Disease did not come out of a bottle so the healing for the disease will not come out of a bottle."
-Djehuty Ma'atra

Top 5 Vitamins for Black Women:

Red Raspberry Leaf

Sarsaparilla

Wild yam root

Red Clover

Squaw Vine


Djehuty Ma’atra Herbs

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Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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Is your last relationship in the rearview mirror and you’re ready to start dating again? Are you getting over one person by getting under another? Perhaps you’re unsure and the whole thing seems overwhelming and exhausting. Have you taken time to learn the lessons and get to know yourself?  No matter where you are in the process, in today’s episode Terri and Dr. Dom drop some gems and share stories in which we can all relate.

Quote of the Day:
“I’m thankful for my struggle because without it I wouldn’t have stumbled across my strength.”
— Alex Elle

Tips for Getting Back Into the Dating Game After a Toxic Relationship:

Know your goal

Have clear communication about each person's wants/needs

Listen to your body and instincts

Get to know the person



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Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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What are you most afraid of? Have you shared that with anyone? What have you done to address the fear(s)?  No worries, if you have not taken any steps. Hopefully, listening to this episode will motivate you to take action. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Guryan Tighe. Guryan is Founder and CEO of, Fourage, that's courage with an F. As an Executive Coach who specializes in helping people address their fears, Guryan joins Dom and Terri to discuss fear and communication. Each of the ladies opens up about something they are afraid of and Guryan utilizes her expert coaching skills to facilitate the discussion and offer best practices. Then Guryan provides tips on how to engage in healthy communication with partners and parents. Some of her tips may surprise you and you will definitely want to take notes. Let’s make fear our greatest teacher.    Quote of the Day: "FOURAGE is courage spelled with an F. We believe your fear is the gateway to your courage." - Guryan Tighe Takeaways: Guryan’s general best practices: On having a conversation with your partner about setting boundaries with in-laws Get curious What do you want more of? What do you appreciate? What does an ideal scenario look like with the in-laws for you and your partner? Establish a safe environment where both people feel supported  Listen to listen/understand to create a shared agenda   Communicating about something annoying or unfulfilling your partner does Note that it may be more indicative of something happening internally Bring curiosity inward What are you feeling?   Toxic parents and having conversations about their bad behavior What do you feel lost around? What are you missing? Apply compassion to self and parent(s) Get your needs met in other places Connect with Guryan:  Fourage.io Guryan@fourage.io Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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Tension, pain, frustration, sadness, heart racing, butterflies in your stomach, sweaty palms, stress. Any of those things sound familiar? Those are some of the feelings that come up when we experience conflict. Lady, you’re going to want to grab something to take notes because Teacher T steps into H.E.R Space and helps us to explore what is conflict resolution and why is it important. In today’s episode, Dom and Terri use real-life scenarios to show us how to disagree with someone effectively. With the use of these tips, we can all become better communicators and see improvements in our relationships with friends, families, and coworkers.   ***Please note that Terri and Dom are not actresses and the role plays in today’s episode are just that. Role plays. The content of the role plays do not reflect their actual views, thoughts and may not reflect actual facts.***   Don’t forget to join the H.E.R Space Sanctuary: www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/   Quote of the Day: “People will forget what you said, they will forget what you did, but they will never forget how you made them feel.”  - Maya Angelou   Takeaways: Here are a few nuggets to keep in mind when you’re faced with a conflict or tense situation... Focus on Facts Don't Get Personal Recognize the Good Remember to Listen Use "I" Statements Know When to Move On Establish Ground Rules Before an Intimate Discussion   Resources: Dale Carnegie book Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Exclusive Facebook community: H.E.R Space Sanctuary Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com
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Did you know, “your passion can be your paycheck?” Are you doing what makes you happy? In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri are joined by the energetic Starr Dawkins, owner of Cookie Wash. Her inspirational story is one that affirms the power of manifestation and pursuing your passion. Starr’s wisdom and the role changes in the movie of her life are incredibly powerful. Get your phone ready to share all of the quotable gems Starr is dropping.

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Quote of the Day:
"Always ask yourself: Is this person worth disrupting my vaginal pH for?"
-Starr Dawkins

Where to connect with Starr:
Starr’s IG: @starrdawkinz
Cookie Wash IG: @SweetCookieWash

Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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Facebook: @herspacepodcast
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“From fibroids to fake friends…” The ladies have discussed fibroids so listen in today as they address fake friends. Lady, how many people in your life can you truly call friends? How long have you known them? Are they acquaintances or “ride or dies”? Many of us call the majority of the people in our life friends but all friendships are not equal. In this episode, Terri and Dom help us understand the different types of friendships and give us real-life examples of their highest level of friends and how to let go of the people whose friendship is no longer healthy.  Quote of the Day: "An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind.” – Buddha   Takeaways: 4 levels of friendship: Level 1. Acquaintanceship Level 2. Casual friendship Level 3. Close friendship Level 4. Intimate friendship   How to spot a fake friend in your life: Fake Friends Are Selfish Fake Friends Thrive on Gossip and Drama They mock you and compliment you at the same time because…passive-aggressive. They gossip endlessly about others. They only see you as a means to an end. Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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Lady, what are you planning? Are you aligned with the process?  How are you keeping hope alive during the process? If you started listening to H.E.R Space from the first episode then you know the work Dr. Dom and Terri have invested into the podcast. What you may not know is some of the behind the scenes struggles. In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom share with us the milestones for the podcast but they also share some of their personal accomplishments and what it took to achieve them. The testimonies in this episode will hopefully motivate and inspire you. Thank you for riding along with us on this journey!
Quote of the Day:
"Whatever you’re thinking about is literally like planning a future event. When you’re worrying, you are planning. When you’re appreciating, you are planning… What are you planning?”
- Abraham Hicks

Tips and lessons for manifestation:

Let go of control

Act as if

Practice patience

Be optimistically realistic

Be intentional about your support team


TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
H.E.R Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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In today’s episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Dr. Myla Bennett, a board-certified plastic surgeon in Georgia. She is not your typical plastic surgeon. Dr. Myla is “pro doing things to make you feel good but anti ignoring what is going on inside that is affecting what you want to do on the outside.” Your mental health is an important factor in your decision to have plastic surgery. Dr. Myla shares with us the “dark and dangerous” side of plastic surgery, the surgeries people regret and the impact it has on the individual and their romantic relationships. What are the red flags you need to avoid in a plastic surgeon? What do you need to consider in your life before having surgery? Listen in to Dr. Myla’s answers to those questions and more.    Quote of the Day: "Anytime an opportunity comes along and it violates unleashing a woman's inner and outer beauty, I'm not going to do it." - Dr. Myla Bennett   Takeaways: Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem https://amzn.to/31iRLV2 A Book of Daily Positive Affirmations https://amzn.to/32l11bS   DrMyla EderraBella Prettyskinrx   Relevant episodes S2E3: Why You Might Be Struggling to Gain Confidence S1E8: How to Find Your Own Self-Care Routine   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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Historically Black Colleges and Universities (HBCUs). Grown out of the need to provide higher education to Black students when white institutions would not let us in. Today, these institutions are the center of Black academic culture. Some of our favorite celebrities attended HBCUs (hey Meg Thee Stallion!). In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri are joined by Grambling University alum, current Texas Southern University professor, and friend of the podcast, Dr. Jannis Moody to discuss life on a Black college campus.

Quote of the Day:
“HBCUs: where the whole campus is for you and not just that one building and that one event.”

PBS Documentary: Tell Them We Are Rising

Where you can find Dr. Moody:
Dr. Jannis Moody

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Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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Lady, when was the last time you took a long hard look in the mirror to examine the negativity you may bring to your relationships? We know that doing so requires hard work and often a level of vulnerability that some of us will readily avoid. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom offer us ways to identify when and why we are the toxic ones in our relationships. They also share some of their toxic ways. Within that sharing, the ladies also provide us with concrete steps to take if we are ready for making a change in our behavior patterns. Be sure to tune in and also scroll below for more information on tips and resources mentioned in this episode.    Quote of the Day: "Your toxicity in your relationships with other people is actually an extension of the toxicity in your relationship to yourself. What you have is not an issue with how you relate to others, but a fundamental trauma that is preventing you from being at ease within yourself. That is what you must address." - Brianna Wiest   Takeaways: Signs it's you: All of your problems are someone else's fault You take more than you give There's so much drama You have a major superiority complex You’re a Debbie Downer You only express love or admiration when you need something. How to make the change Watch how people interact around you Monitor your own thoughts and actions Apologize more and seek understanding Identify the root of the toxicity and what must be done to heal Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers  The Self Compassion Deck   Relevant Past Episodes: S5E3: A Fresh Perspective on Receiving Feedback and Managing Defensiveness S5E4: How Your Words Are Creating Your Current Reality (Put Some Respect on Your Name) S3E12: Healing Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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QUOTE OF THE DAY: “When we face pain in relationships our first response is often to sever bonds rather than to maintain commitment.” “For me, forgiveness and compassion are always linked: how do we hold people accountable for wrongdoing and yet at the same time remain in touch with their humanity enough to believe in their capacity to be transformed?” - bell hooks   In Season 2 Episode 5 Dom and Terri had a chance to interview a special guest, Dr. Ja'Nina Garrett-Walker and engage in conversation about being black and queer and how we can build a bridge between Black heterosexual women and Black queer women. The interview went well until the last 13 minutes. Terri and Dom were made aware of a few statements that were deemed problematic. In today’s episode, Dom and Terri invited Ja'Nina back on the show to model a healthy dialogue that will hopefully empower you to have your own healing conversations despite how uncomfortable or passionate they might be. Stay tuned to learn tips on what to do when you or someone you know fucks up...because it happens to the best of us.   TIPS FOR WHEN YOU MAKE A MISTAKE: Notice it Slow down Don't make a big deal about it Acknowledge it Take responsibility Understand intent vs impact Listen with a different lens Reflection and introspection Humility Put ego aside Apologize   Resources: Gender: Ideas, Interactions, Institutions Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast   Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com
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How have your relationships been with white women? Tense? Apprehensive? Complicated? All of those terms are accurate. Or maybe you have not thought too deeply about your relationship with the white women in your lives. In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri dive into the history and complexities of Black women’s interactions with white women. The ladies also provide tips on navigating those relationships. The ultimate goal: PROTECTING BLACK WOMEN!
P.S. This is one aftershow you definitely do not want to miss!
Quote of the Day:
"Their internalized misogyny and (often subconscious) racism teaches them to use the backs of Black women as stairs they need to use to climb closer to the top of the white-male-made hierarchy."
-Savannah Worley

Tips for navigating complex relationships:

Have a level of conscious awareness
Engage in boundary-setting
Identify your support system


Resources mentioned in the episode:
Savannah Worley
Rachel Cargle
Tamla Horsford


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Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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Lady, today is a powerful episode. It may bring up strong emotions and some of you may be able to relate to Terri’s story. As you are listening, know there are resources available to help. Scroll to the bottom of this page for more information. If you are in the process of healing recognize the importance of your internal dialogue. Words have power. In today’s episode, we learn how to use words to heal, empower and build resilience.   ***If you or someone you know is being abused please see the resources below to get help.***   Quote of the Day: "If someone overheard your internal dialogue, what would they think? How you talk to yourself and how you talk about yourself is impacting the way you show up in the world. Put some respect on your name." - Terri Lomax   Takeaways: Be accurate and factual Allow your support system to support you “No one is 100% one hundred percent of the time.” -Queen Latifah Create positive affirmations Keep a thought record Write in a journal   National Domestic Violence Hotline Child Welfare Information Gateway   Resources: 1. Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem- https://amzn.to/2ZmoYxI 2. Break Up With Procrastination https://terrilomax.lpages.co/break-up-with-procrastination/ 3. Sticky notes for affirmations https://amzn.to/2ti7eb6 4. Journal to keep track of thoughts https://amzn.to/35YcXB7 Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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Lady, what are you holding onto that no longer serves you? Are you living the life you want to live? No? Perhaps it is time to take inventory and make some changes. Today, King Ashley Ann shares with Terri and Dom the valley she was in and the measures she took to achieve the level of success she currently embodies. She drops specific tips on calculating her business worth so be sure to take notes. If you are not trying to start a business, this episode still has something for you. King Ashley Ann paints a clear picture and drops fun facts about our spending power. What are our demands of major corporations who depend on our dollars? This is an episode you want to pay attention to and share with other Black women. 


Quote of the Day:
"The past can hurt. But the way I see it, you can either run from it or learn from it."
-Rafiki in The Lion King


Takeaways:
- Know your worth
- You cannot be everything to everyone 
- Free99 leads to Paid99


Blackdollarblacklives.com
IG: KingAshleyAnn


 
TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
H.E.R Space Sanctuary


Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC


Where to find us:
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Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: herspacepodcast.com
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What is microeconomics and what is its role in our daily lives? It is not always directly about money. If you think about the access you have and cost of your healthcare, food, employment, and housing, then you are familiar with microeconomics. From family leave policy to double work day to maternal health to childcare to wealth gap we learn how the pandemic is really having a devastating economic effect on the Black community. This conversation is a start in connecting the dots and learning the language of microeconomics. Join Terri and Dr. Dom as they lean into curiosity to learn about this topic from microeconomist, Britni Wilcher.
Quote of the Day:
" A race that is solely dependent upon another for economic existence sooner or later dies. As we have in the past been living upon the mercies shown by others, and by the chances obtainable, and have suffered there from, so we will in the future suffer if an effort is not made now to adjust our own affairs."
-Marcus Garvey
Tips for Changing Our Economic Outlook:

Advocacy in healthcare

Retooling ourselves for jobs in the future

Hold policy makers accountable for what we need


Twitter: @britniwilcher
TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
H.E.R Space Sanctuary
Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
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Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
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What does it mean to be a Black woman in America today? America has never been a safe place for Black women yet somehow we are truly the backbone of this country. We are the givers and doers.  #SayHerName and the current buzzword, Intersectionality, were both brought to our attention by Dr. Kimberle Cresnhaw- a Black woman. How many other contributions have Black women made that many do not know about? We will no longer be invisible. In today’s episode, we say the names of Black women who were killed by the police. We also say the names of a few of the many Black women who have contributed to the advancements of this nation. Lady, we want you to know showing up and being your authentic self is possible. Make note of the tips provided and let’s all use this time to uplift one another.  Quote of the Day: “Black women's lives have never been shown any value in America." - Patrisse Cullors, co-founder of Black Lives Matters   Takeaways: As Black women what are ways we can show up for one another: Support Black women-owned businesses Hold each other accountable with public shaming Random acts of kindness Compliment Black women you don't know   Invisible No More Little Leaders: Bold Women in Black History    TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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Lady, we are not okay. You. Me. We. Us. How do you address your mental health? How does your family address it? How is it addressed in your community? Is it working? Why are we still doing what we have always done? In today’s episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Dr. Rheeda Walker to discuss how we can develop psychological fortitude. Dr. Walker provides us with actionable steps that will allow us to function at our highest capacity. Not just individually but on a nationwide Black community level. This is a real conversation our community needs to have so we can all do the work to heal ourselves. We all we got!  Quote of the Day: “You will have to continually evaluate whether what you are doing is working for you in life or you will find yourself in a rut that is hard to escape.” -Dr. Rheeda Walker    Takeaways: Ways to Cope During This Time: Document this time What is it about this situation that is stressing me out the most What can I do about this situation? Identify what is within your control Give ourselves some slack Listen to our bodies and do what makes sense Identify a small project in the house to achieve a sense of purpose    Register for Terri's free podcasting masterclass here. The Unapologetic Guide to Black Mental Health: Navigating an Unequal System, Learn Tools for Emotional Wellness, and Get the Help You Deserve (Paperback) (Kindle)   Website: Dr. Rheeda Walker Twitter: @RheedaWalker TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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In today’s episode, Dom and Terri discuss hair. Now, this is not just a discussion on “Good vs. Bad Hair”, though the ladies briefly touch on it. This is a conversation that begins with a quick history lesson on the Tignon Laws of New Orleans and then moves into modern ways in which our hair is policed, judged, politicized, and criticized. The words we use to describe someone’s hair or the assumptions we make about one another based on how we choose to wear our hair can be hurtful and offensive. Terri and Dom share with us their hair journeys and how they have been impacted by the words of others.  Terri’s journey is one you particularly want to pay attention to as many of us can relate to her life-changing story. By the way, what is your hair journey? What are your favorite products? Who’s your stylist? Share it in the H.E.R Space Sanctuary.   Quote of the Day: "I am not my hair."-  India.Arie   "In case you somehow don't already know: It's never okay to reach out your hand and touch a Black woman's hair without permission — I mean, how was that ever even a thing?" - refinery29.com   Hair Documentaries: https://backtonaturaldoc.com/ https://shadowandact.com/2017/03/02/kickstart-this-natural-hair-the-movie-aims-to-pick-up-where-chris-rock-ended-with-good-hair/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lvw_PUbt1Fc https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WG3ej4R6TKc   Terri's 3 Episode Hair Transplant Journey: http://bit.ly/terrihairtransplantjourney   Resources mentioned in today’s episode: https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-merseyside-31438273 https://bglh-marketplace.com/2014/07/shocking-history-why-women-of-color-in-the-1800s-were-banned-from-wearing-their-hair-in-public/ https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/j5abvx/black-womens-hair-illegal-tignon-laws-new-orleans-louisiana https://scholars.org/brief/whats-hair-got-do-it-black-womens-bodies-and-traditional-look-success-american-politics https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/black-women-hairstyles-at-work https://www.naaf.org/alopecia-areata http://skinofcolorsociety.org/dermatology-education/traction-alopecia/ https://blavity.com/california-s-crown-act-officially-bans-race-based-hair-discrimination-in-schools-and-workplaces   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram:

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Lady, before you make plans with your boo for the weekend, you may want to listen to this episode. This week Terri and Dom welcome Dr. Joy Cooper back into H.E.R Space for a much-needed conversation. In this week's episode, the ladies dive into a different topic related to our gynecological health...STDs and STIs. If you remember what you learned in the sex-ed class in high school and the pamphlet in your doctor’s office... get ready because Dr. Joy is providing us with all of the updated terminology and statistics. Be sure to scroll down to check out the additional resources mentioned in the episode and links to contact Dr. Joy with your personal questions. Quote of the Day: "I called my best friend to tell her. We made a nickname up for it so we wouldn't have to use the words. We called it clouds." - Anonymous Takeaways: Dental Dams Female Condom Relevant Episode:  S4E3: The Burden of Fibroids for Black Women with Dr. Joy Cooper thedrjoy Our Culture Care California residents: send a DM to Dr. Joy on IG… keyword “ourculturecare” Toast by Kofee Anybody by Burna Boy   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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“It’s no fun if the homies can’t have some.” At Cultivating H.E.R. Space, this phrase means that life is not fun if our tribe is not winning with us. Terri and Dr. Dom’s business bestie, Attorney Ruky Tijani embodies this in everything she does. In today’s episode, Attorney Tijani shares with us the necessary resources all entrepreneurs need in their toolbox. Lady, get ready to take notes and listen closely because Attorney Tijani drops gems on top of gems that you have to really pay attention to catch them all.

Quote of the Day:
"It's time to own the change you make in the world"
-Ruky Tijani

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Where to find Attorney Ruky Tijani:
Firm for the Culture
IG: @firmfortheculture
LinkedIn: Rukayatu T.

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Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
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“Something just ain’t right” and “I got a funny feeling” are more than lyrics in a song. It’s that feeling we get when there has been a shift in our relationship. How do you respond? Will it be your petty, passive, or vulnerable self showing up to the situation? In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom share common scenarios to help us determine how to address the funny acting people in our lives. For the actual tips be sure to check out the aftershow by becoming either an Anchor or Patreon subscriber.

Quote of the Day:
"One of the saddest things to realize is that certain people are just not who they used to be, that people you once considered best friends are now, at best, strangers."
-Ashley Fern

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Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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You're listening to a live mini-episode that aired on Spotify Greenroom. Join us live by downloading Greenroom (spotify.com/greenroom), follow us @TerriLomax & @TheDoctorDom, and meet us every Friday at 1:30 PM PT / 4:30 PM ET. Be sure to also catch our weekly standard podcast episodes every Friday morning.

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Can Black people be racist? NO! However, Black people can be agents of white supremacy and anti-Black. Due to how we have been socialized chances are there are times when we may experience internalized racism. Throughout our socialization there have been systems in place to move us closer to whiteness and as a result, shunning people who do not align with white supremacist heterosexist classist patriarchal ideologies. While some of us have found ways to break free from some of these ideologies, others have doubled down in fully aligning with whiteness. Today, Dr. Dom and Terri discuss those who may look like us but are not for us.
Quote of the Day:
"Souls that inhabit white bodies can be allies and accomplices in the fight against oppression, in the same way that black folks can be agents and accomplices in promoting, promulgating and protecting white supremacy. As my grandmother once said, conjuring Zora Neale Hurston, “All your skin folk ain’t your kinfolk.” Meaning that you can inhabit a black body and be an agent of white supremacy."
- Professor Lawrence Ware
Questions that need answers:

What do we do about skinfolk that ain’t our kinfolk?

How do the real Black people unite?

What does it mean to be Black?

How do we hold Black celebrities and officials accountable?


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Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
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If you follow her on social media, then you have been inspired, empowered and enlightened by the daily quotes from our guest today,  Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis. Perhaps you remember when she was a guest on Season 3 Episode 12 in a discussion about healing intergenerational trauma. Or maybe you have listened to her Homecoming podcast. Well, today Dr. Thema returns for a much-needed conversation about mother-daughter relationships. Our mothers are individual adult beings and sometimes no matter the status of our relationship, it may be difficult to acknowledge mom’s identity outside of motherhood. In this powerful interview, Dr. Thema provides us with insight on navigating a healthy mother-daughter dynamic and how to have a difficult conversation. Get ready for the beautiful gems and ah-ha moments.
Quote of the Day:
"As your clarity grows, you recognize sometimes it's not about releasing but instead acknowledging what's already gone or what was never there"
-Dr. Thema

How to have a healing conversation with mom:

Identify what you want

Role Play and Practice

Seek consent to engage in the conversation

Naming the hurtful actions/events

Share how they made you feel

Ask for what you want

Be open to feedback


Where to Find Dr. Thema:
IG:  @dr.thema
Twitter: DrThema
DrThema.com

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In last week’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom explored the quiz from Dr. Ramani Durvasula about narcissistic partners. Today, Dr. Ramani joins the ladies for a more in-depth conversation to understand the key characteristics of a narcissistic partner like gaslighting, breadcrumbing, manipulating, and hoovering. If you wonder if you are in a narcissistic relationship, listen to the stages and traits to see if they resonate. Dr. Ramani will also share her strategies for ending and healing from the narcissistic relationship.

Quote of the Day:
“Narcissists will destroy your life, erode your self-esteem, and do it with such stealth as to make you feel that you are the one that's letting them down.”
-Unknown

Is Your Partner a Narcissist?
This quiz from Dr. Ramani Durvasula of Should I Stay or Should I Go? can help you determine the answer.

Where to Find Dr. Ramani
Doctor-Ramani.com
Dr. Ramani
IG: @DoctorRamani

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Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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The mother-daughter relationship is a complex one. Some of us have beautiful relationships with our mothers in which they are one of the most trusted people in our inner circle. However, what happens if you have a complicated, distant, or estranged relationship with your mother? What are the feelings that come up for you? How can you support a friend who does not have a close relationship with their mother? In this episode, Dr. Dom and Terri discuss Terri’s relationship with her mother and the steps she took to heal from the estrangement. “You can’t heal what you don’t reveal.”-Terri

Quote of the Day:
“In troubled families, abuse and neglect are permitted; it's the talking about them that is forbidden.”
-Unknown

How to Be Happy and Whole When You are Estranged From Your Mom

Be real about your feelings

Establish boundaries

Ritualistic clearing

Grieving the vision you had for the relationship

Filling your life with the mother energy your mom is unable to provide

Remember that hurt people hurt people; your mom is human



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The “behind the scenes” is everything. Part of what happens behind the scenes is defining your personal style. In answering that you have to ask several questions. What is your lifestyle? What are you attracted to? How do you want to show up in this world? In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by FABULOUS stylist, Germanee G to discuss personal style. Her story and her work can teach us about so much more in addition to fashion. This is such a fun and informative episode that even Baby Zara had to make a guest appearance.
Be sure to become a Patreon subscriber to watch the unedited version of this episode.

Quote of the Day:
"Even on the hardest days, show up for yourself."
-Germanee G

Where to connect with Germanee G:
Website: GGandCoStyling
IG: @germanee_g

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Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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Lady, this is more than a “New Year, New You” episode. We cannot get to the next level or see a “New You” when we are stuck in the same patterns. What is no longer serving you? How do we make room for growth? Today Terri and Dr. Dom guide us through multiple steps we can take to releasing baggage, setting intentions, and manifesting the life we desire. Remember that a “New Year” can occur at any point in the calendar year so be sure to bookmark this episode for any time you are needing a recharge, restart, or refresh.

Quote of the Day:
"Growth requires letting go of the parts of yourself that get in the way of who you want to be."
-Nedra Tawwab

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Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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Ayyyyeee!!! Today is a special day...It’s our anniversary! One year ago today Terri and Dom met for dinner and decided H.E.R Space podcast needed to happen. Check out this bonus episode with clips that got left on the editing room floor.    Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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Today’s episode is one that all of us experience but few of us actually talk about...jealousy and envy. Homegirl at the office stays winning. Your bestie in another city is getting closer to someone else. Which one is envy? Which one is jealousy? What other feelings come up? Often times they are used interchangeably and incorrect. Terri and Dom help us clarify what each term means. Then they walk us through multiple real-life examples to help us parse out what each word looks like when played out. What are the questions we need to ask to navigate each situation? Scroll down for some helpful tips. By the way, shout out to Meg Thee Stallion for those bomb-ass knees :)   Quote of the Day: “True confidence has no room for jealousy or envy; when you know you are great there is no reason to hate.” -unknown   Takeaways: Acknowledge the feelings Evaluate the situation with an open mind Identify the roadblocks (internal and/or external) What can you control? Remember to practice self-compassion Kill it with kindness Get support from community and/or therapy   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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Lady, if you have any young people in your life this episode is definitely for you! Today Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by the incomparable Dr. Alfiee to talk about the mental health issues of BIPOC youth, young adults, and young at heart. This is a conversation full of honesty and realness to not only understand the toxic systems mental health providers navigate to how these same providers prioritize being a safe space for youth and young adults. The powerful gems Dr. Alfiee shares with us are a small portion of the wisdom she provides through her various projects.
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Quote of the Day:
"If we stopped saying 'we know what works' (because we actually don't from the way we traditionally 'science') and started asking, 'what works for you?' THEN build TOGETHER from that shared understanding, then we'd see some real positive changes."
-Dr. Alfiee

Where to Find Dr. Alfiee:
@dralfiee and @aakomaproject  – on Twitter, IG and Facebook
@couchedincolor – on Twitter and Facebook
@couchedincolorpod – on Instagram
Alfiee (Dr. Alfiee) Breland-Noble and AAKOMAProject - on LinkedIn
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Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
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What have you done to achieve your goals? Are you willing to make sacrifices, shifts, and changes to get what you want? Having a visceral reaction to the word sacrifice? No, well maybe we’re projecting, lol. Is it possible to be happy while you are sacrificing? How do you know if it is worth it? In today’s episode, join Terri and Dr. Dom as they reflect on their perceptions of sacrifice and their journeys to achieving great things.

Quote of the Day:
"Conviction and Convenience Don't Live on the Same Block."
-Lisa Nichols
Questions we can ask ourselves in the pursuit of our goals:

What am I willing to sacrifice to achieve my goals?

What am I sacrificing and who is it for?

How do I know when my sacrifice is in vain?

How do you know when a sacrifice is bad?



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Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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We are the dreams and the hopes of our ancestors. On this day let us take time to reflect on one of the biggest lessons our ancestors could have ever imparted: finding joy. For centuries Black folx have experienced cruelties that are beyond what any human should ever have to endure. However, we have always found ways to celebrate us. In this episode, Terri and Dom explore the meaning of Juneteenth and ways in which we can continue uplift ourselves.   Quote of the Day: "Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave, I am the dream and the hope of the slave. I rise. I rise. I rise."  -Maya Angelou   Takeaways: Links to resources mentioned in today’s episode: https://www.apartmenttherapy.com/shop-black-owned-businesses-36759922 https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/black-owned-beauty-companies-to-shop https://www.juneteenth.com/history.htm https://thehoneypot.co/ https://aalbc.com/bookstores/list.php   TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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Lady, we made it! It is the last Friday of 2020! Let’s celebrate! What do you and your girls do when you gather? Drink? Smoke? Eat? Laugh? Cry? All of those are on the table for this Girls Night In. Join Terri and Dom with your beverage and snack of choice where we are playing a game of What Would You Do?. As with most Girls Night In conversations, any topic is up for discussion and we approach each topic with love, positive vibes, and pure intentions.
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Quote of the Day:
"Not all girls are made of sugar and spice and everything nice. Some girls are made of sarcasm, wine, and everything fine.”
-Unknown

TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
H.E.R Space Sanctuary
Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
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Anxiety is the number one mental health diagnosis in America and Black women experience it in ways that we often ignore...  In this week's episode, Terri shares that she has been in a reflective space and unapologetically experiencing ALL of her feelings. One of the things she noticed was anxiety. Terri notes that she wasn't able to acknowledge the experience until she knew what it meant. Dom provides us with descriptions on how anxiety may show up in our lives from the physical, mental and behavioral manifestations. Terri and Dom identify the instances in our everyday lives that cause anxiety for Black women. The ladies also know that they are not immune to anxiety and share examples of when they have experienced anxiety and what they did to address it. Then they provide us with tips on how we can all manage our anxiety. Tune in to find out if Terri and Dom list the way(s) in which anxiety may be showing up in your life.    Quote of the Day: “Anxiety’s like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you very far.” -Jodi Picoult   Takeaways: Ways to Address Your Anxiety- Therapy Exercise Meditation Mindfulness Grounding/breathing exercises Healthy diet Ask yourself- "What can I control?"   Resources: Sharing Hope: An African American Guide to Mental Health provides mental health information in a sensitive manner through personal stories. Recovery is possible, and this booklet tells you where to find more information, seek help and be supportive.- NAMI   When The News is Triggering: Coping with Trauma in the News  Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  
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“You should never not be the leader of your birth and in control of what happens to your body and your baby.” We have all seen the stories and some of us have experienced this first hand- knowing what we need from our doctors, asking for it, and either being ignored or dismissed. Lady, you know your body more than anyone else so let’s talk about the options and dispel the myths. In this episode, Dr. Dom and Terri are joined by The Equipped Mama, Courtney Stallworth, to discuss how parents-to-be can be fully prepared for the birth and care of their new baby.

Quote of the Day:
" At some point, you have to stop prioritizing your busy day and start prioritizing your health."
The Equipped Mama

Where to Find The Equipped Mama:
IG: @theequippedmama
Website:  The Equipped Mama

Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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***Sensitive Content Warning***
Lady, today we are having a much-needed and incredibly sensitive conversation about sexual abuse. If this is a conversation you are not ready for do not hesitate to skip this one. Please prioritize taking care of yourself. As discussed in this episode with Katherine Barner, we recognize that your healing is the top priority. When you listen, you will hear Katherine carefully and intentionally process with Dr. Dom and Terri the statistics around abuse and the most effective strategies for healing.

Quote of the Day:
"I don’t know who needs to hear this but the adults were supposed to protect you. You weren’t supposed to protect yourself. It’s not child’s job to take care of themselves emotionally, physically, or otherwise"
--Nedra Tawwab

Where to connect with Katherine Barner:
Website: katherinebarner.org
IG: @mrskatspeaks
Twitter: @mrskatspeaks
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
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Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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For this first installment of our 2021 Sexy Self-Love Series, we discuss qualities of a good partner. My love, what qualities are you bringing to the relationship table? Would you date you? What are you doing to make sure you are a healthy happy person? In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri explore some of the complexities around discovering the impact of our presence in relationships. While the tips mentioned are not an exhaustive list, they are a great start to a self assessment. As you tune in to the episode, be sure to scroll down to keep up with the tips.
Quote of the Day:
"In order to maintain a positive and secure relationship and to become a better partner, one should focus on becoming a better person."
-Shamyra Howard-Blackburn, sex and relationship therapist

7 Ways to be a Better Partner:

Have a solid sense of self

Heal from any trauma or past experiences

Learn to communicate honestly, openly, and clearly

Listen

Show, don't tell

Be considerate

Accept your partner for who they are


TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary
Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
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Instagram: @herspacepodcast
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Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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Romantic relationships can be complicated. Or maybe not. Are you a single woman hoping to find the love of your life or currently dating and not sure if they are the one? Perhaps, you are involved with someone and the relationship is lacking compatibility. Well, today’s guest will provide you the insight you may be seeking. Relationship coach, Alison Wellington joins Dr. Dom and Terri to discuss healthy romantic relationships. From identifying non-negotiables to lessons learned from previous relationships to being honest about who you are and what you bring to the table. Have your pen and paper ready to take notes. Also, share this with a girlfriend you know could benefit from hearing all these gems.
Quote of the Day:
"Stop shrinking yourself to fit within places you have outgrown!"
-Alison Wellington

Tips for Moving On:

Accept that the relationship is over

Not allowing them back in

Get rid of their things

Get off of their social media

Take care of yourself


Where to find Alison:
Move on Sis!
Align with Alison
IG
Facebook
YouTube


TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
H.E.R Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
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This is the start of a new year and decade. What comes up for you? Where were you 10 years ago? What has/has not happened? How do you feel about where your life is now? As we embark on this next year and decade, what are the things you want to focus on? In this episode, Dr. Dom and Terri share some of the goals they have had over the last decade reflecting on how some of those things have unfolded...or did not unfold. Listen in as Terri and Dom share with us how to establish our vision with the important questions to ask yourself and the tools to visually map it out. Be sure to scroll all the way down to check out ALL the resources available to you.   Terri’s Mantra for the Year: Flow Dr. Dom’s Mantra for the Year: Slow Down   Quotes of the Day: "As you become more clear about who you really are, you'll be better able to decide what is best for you - the first time around." - Oprah Winfrey   “If it’s truly meant for you, it will happen when you are ready.”- Dr. Dom   “When you find the why and you’re committed, everything else will fall into place.”- Terri   Relevant episodes Season 1- Episode 3:  How to Overcome Procrastination and Make Progress Fast S1E11: How to Create a Dream Team For Your Life and Business S3E3: 5 Tips to Help You Get Back On Track and Find Your Passion Takeaways: Goal setting/Vision board planning questions If you fast forward life to December 2020, how would your life be different? What is one word or phrase that will be your mantra for the year? Identify 5 people who can help you reach your goals Identify 10 people you can build up    Goal mapping workbook https://terrilomax.lpages.co/the-goal-mapping-workbook/ Whiteboard with markers https://amzn.to/2PoSHCX   https://amzn.to/2LZW7dn   Purple pens https://amzn.to/2MtqEAA   Cardi B song- Get Up 10 https://amzn.to/2QkwQgz   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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